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Speaker 1: got it for you here. It is a Strawberry letter

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Speaker 1: subject something ain't right with my fiance and his bff.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I reconnected with an old high school

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Speaker 1: flame in January, and we got engaged a couple of

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Speaker 1: he told me about his female best friend. He told

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Speaker 1: but they didn't have any romantic feelings whatsoever for each other. Now,

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Speaker 1: of course, I was very uncomfortable with their friendship, but

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Speaker 1: I didn't stress about it because I overheard him telling

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Speaker 1: her how much he loves me and that I'm the one.

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Speaker 1: This past weekend, my fiance invited his best friend to

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Speaker 1: lunch so I could meet her. Lunch was going great.

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Speaker 1: We were talking and laughing, but then the best friend

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Speaker 1: just got quiet. I looked over at this half and

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Speaker 1: she was sitting there crying. My fiance asked her what

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Speaker 1: was wrong, and she said, she feels like he is

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Speaker 1: going to forget about her when he marries me. My

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Speaker 1: fiance has a nerve to tell her that that would

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Speaker 1: never happen. She stood up and told him that their

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Speaker 1: friendship was over, and she stormed out of the restaurant.

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Speaker 1: My fiance and I sat in silence for the rest

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Speaker 1: of the meal. He hasn't talked to this woman for

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Speaker 1: a couple of days now, and I can tell it's

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Speaker 1: bothering him something. I'm right here. Why is my fiance

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Speaker 1: stressing about another woman? Can men really have female best

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Speaker 1: friends they're not attracted to? Wow? I mean, I guess

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Speaker 1: you know, in in some parts of the world that

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Speaker 1: can be the case. But um, you know I have

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Speaker 1: if I'm honest with you, every male male friend, quote

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Speaker 1: unquote friend that I've had in my life, there has

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Speaker 1: been some sort of something going on. You know. You

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Speaker 1: could tell, Yeah, I mean you could. You could tell

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Speaker 1: Yeah that that doesn't mean that we acted on it,

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Speaker 1: but you know, male female that dynamic, Yeah, you could

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Speaker 1: tell that. Stupid, such a harassing case. Stupid because you

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Speaker 1: might say something ill ignorant, right, But far be it

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Speaker 1: from me to argue with your intuition. If you're already

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Speaker 1: feeling something isn't right, then it probably isn't. I mean, yes,

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Speaker 1: they've been intimate in the past, but as your friend

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Speaker 1: told you, he no longer has romantic feelings for his

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Speaker 1: best friend. But, um, this is I think where your

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Speaker 1: intuition is really on point. I think the best friend

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Speaker 1: has some unresolved issues, as she displayed at lunch. I mean,

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Speaker 1: if she didn't wasn't emotionally connected or tied to him still,

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Speaker 1: why would she storm out? Why would she be crying?

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Speaker 1: There's something going on with her. And I think that

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Speaker 1: she's jealous of your relationship and she probably wishes that

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Speaker 1: it were her, and she does feel left out and

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Speaker 1: she does want him so um, and he may feel

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Speaker 1: some kind of way too, because it's bothering him. So

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Speaker 1: before you decide to walk down the aisle with him

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Speaker 1: and set a date and do all of those things,

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Speaker 1: you guys need to get this together. And I don't

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Speaker 1: know if it's going to be that easy because his

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Speaker 1: bothered by it, Uh, he may have some unresolved feelings

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Speaker 1: that he's not acknowledging or telling you about. Steve. Well, well,

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Speaker 1: thank you Shirley for that warm, fuzzy rendition. Of a letter.

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Speaker 1: You're so welcome now here, come to the ignorance. Let's

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Speaker 1: just go and get it. What really hell going on here?

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Speaker 1: So may write by my fiance and his bf L.

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Speaker 1: We have renamed b f FL to big Fat Freak.

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Speaker 1: Oh right here, Thank you, Colin. Something right with my

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Speaker 1: feel big free? That's just BFL any day, I just

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Speaker 1: Oh that's quick. January, Mabel, yea, bam, all the crack January, February, March.

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Speaker 1: That night the day went out the window. Okay, cool.

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Speaker 1: now on in this letter as BFF the Big Fat Free.

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Speaker 1: He told me he had sex with his best friend

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Speaker 1: they're young. I was saying, of course, I was very

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Speaker 1: nobody on the other end, mhmm. You heard him on

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Speaker 1: I love her and she is the one. She had

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Speaker 1: been a hume. You got fair to line. Later when

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Speaker 1: all right, Come on, Steve, let's go with parties the letter,

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Shirley. Somebody right with my fiance and his

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Speaker 1: b f L which has referred to her as the

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Speaker 1: big fat free all right now. They told me they

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Speaker 1: I'm new one. She had already hung up. The only

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Speaker 1: See I know how this go right. This past weekend,

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Speaker 1: What happened the only laughing? Don't want to what? You

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Speaker 1: don't remember that time we do that? Girl? You play

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Speaker 1: why because she won't mo the bff the big fat

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Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. We ain't just friends. This was supposed to

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Speaker 1: When a man sitting in silence, his brain ain't solid.

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Speaker 1: and he was only black against the wall at the Chriskys.

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Speaker 1: ain't right here. Why is my fiance stressing about another

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Speaker 1: This the other woman. Can men really have female best

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Speaker 1: this question and answer for you kids. Can men really

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Speaker 1: they're not attractive? Now, was to be f F really

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Speaker 1: why he said in silace, because he watched her walk

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Speaker 1: just trying to show y'all high work. She started crying

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Speaker 1: the more that I had before. Ye huh, that's all

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Speaker 1: this was playing. Well, it's not gonna happen now, is it. Yep,

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Speaker 1: it's still gonna happen. Now, nobody getting up their friends

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Speaker 1: tell her she don't really mean that much to me.

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Speaker 1: She just get another But I got to marry her

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Speaker 1: because she's sick. Just let me marry her, right, coming

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Speaker 1: up in ten minutes six. You got a terminal illness

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Speaker 1: and I'm gonna marry her so she can have it.

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Speaker 1: That's her wish. Oh my god. Now I'll tell you

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Speaker 1: what to do. All right, Steve, we gotta get out

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Speaker 1: of here. You're going to get out of here. Email us, sick,

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Speaker 1: your Instagram. That's your thoughts at my girl, Shirley. Okay,

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