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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is a John your og

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Speaker 1: okay Storytime podcast host, and we got some great stories

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Speaker 1: coming up. Before that, we have a quick two minute

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Speaker 1: break from the sponsors that keep the show a lot.

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Speaker 2: My ex wife opened credit cards in my name. She

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Speaker 2: said I'd never see my son again if I called

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Speaker 2: the police.

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Speaker 3: And that's when you call the police.

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Speaker 2: This is a sad situation. But after my divorce, I

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Speaker 2: ended up moving about thirty miles away where I bought

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Speaker 2: a house and got a job transfer. The divorce was

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Speaker 2: finalized about four years ago. She got primary custody as

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Speaker 2: she lives in the school district, though I got most

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Speaker 2: weekends and holidays. By the way, this comes from credit

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Speaker 2: throwaway too. And if you want to sumit your own stories,

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Speaker 2: go to our sas shokey Storytime suburt it. Oh, we've

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Speaker 2: been fairly cordial about it and it's been working for

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Speaker 2: a while. Eventually, i'd like to get to a fifty

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Speaker 2: to fifty as she'll be moving to a different school

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Speaker 2: district once he hits high school shortly and I just

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Speaker 2: move into that district. My problem is that my access

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Speaker 2: opened up a couple of credit cards in my name.

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Speaker 2: That's a big stinking problem.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I wonder what the people in charge of of

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Speaker 4: dictating custody would have to say about that.

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Speaker 2: I had no idea this was happening until I received

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Speaker 2: a letter from a collection agency. It was pretty obvious

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Speaker 2: she was the one who opened the accounts, as the

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Speaker 2: addresses on the accounts are hers and it looks like

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Speaker 2: the statements are mainly from where she shops. When I

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Speaker 2: dropped our son off on Monday, I told her I

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Speaker 2: found the accounts and I'd have to go to the

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Speaker 2: police unless she pay them off completely right away. She

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Speaker 2: denied it at first, then said if I went to

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Speaker 2: the police, she'd disallow visitation for safety reasons. Unfortunately, she'd

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Speaker 2: be able to do this and has done so in

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Speaker 2: the past, requiring me to go back to court with

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Speaker 2: my lawyer to force her to follow the parenting agreement.

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Speaker 2: That's how I gained all holidays shortly after the divorce,

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Speaker 2: basically as a punishment for failing to comply with the

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Speaker 2: parenting order, but still allowing her to be the custodial parent.

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Speaker 2: So potentially, if you went back to court, you'd probably

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Speaker 2: get more custody.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, if she did this, if anything, I would let

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Speaker 4: her dig her own sort of grave here, like also

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Speaker 4: any of get all of this on record, record this.

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Speaker 2: I don't want my son to have to go through this,

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Speaker 2: but I am certainly not taking the hit to my

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Speaker 2: credit for what she's doing. I'm probably going to make

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Speaker 2: the report. But is there anything else I'd be missing here?

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Speaker 2: Top comment says commoner one says, copying this for every

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Speaker 2: identity theft situation I see on here, since it seems

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Speaker 2: to have it a lot where you know who the

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Speaker 2: person is, who's still your identity? This is all information

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Speaker 2: you can find in the subs and other One. Call

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Speaker 2: the police. You're the victim of identity theft, plain and simple.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't matter who did it or what your relationship

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Speaker 2: is to them. They broke the law. Now they have

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Speaker 2: to face the consequences of their actions.

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Speaker 1: Two.

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Speaker 2: Freeze your credit. You want to make sure it doesn't

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Speaker 2: happen again. Take the proactive route of freezing your credit.

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Speaker 2: Three Monitor and track your credit. You need to be

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Speaker 2: alerted if anyone tries opening a line of credit in

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Speaker 2: your name. This gives you a way to do it,

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Speaker 2: and it shows your credit score. Four war than anyone

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Speaker 2: else who might be a victim five, take the police

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Speaker 2: report to the credit bureaus and uh they continue for.

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Speaker 3: A long time time.

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Speaker 2: Blah blah blah blah blah. Common Er two, turn her

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Speaker 2: in and use that to get full custody. Family courts

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Speaker 2: tend to frown upron crime. It would also be good

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Speaker 2: to try to get her threats of parental alienation on video.

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Speaker 2: Talk to your lawyer and start gathering evidence.

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Speaker 3: Hey, guess who else said that? That's what I said,

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Speaker 3: So do that.

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Speaker 2: Commoner, force this dude stop being a doormat and turn

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Speaker 2: if she's in jail. I don't know why you think

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Speaker 3: Lol.

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Speaker 2: And there is an update update jail. I hope, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I hope it's that she went to jail for freaking

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Speaker 4: Yeah, or at the very least, like actually paid that

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Speaker 2: Yeah, those are the only options here.

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Speaker 4: I hope it's jail so that you can get full

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Speaker 2: I'm like, why would they ever give it to this lady?

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Speaker 3: Oh, why would the court ever? I'm not even gonna

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Speaker 2: Well, we know why, but you know why?

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Speaker 3: Why?

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Speaker 4: Why are the courts so bad at figuring out who's good?

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Speaker 2: Update, there's some good and some bad. Unfortunately, since this

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Speaker 2: started several months ago, she has been horrible. I went

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Speaker 2: report was painless, and they said it happens a lot.

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Speaker 2: Both that the credit cards have dropped off my credit report,

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Speaker 2: a credit monitor and to make sure it doesn't happen again.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't look like she's going to be prosecuted for

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Speaker 2: opening the cards in my name. I was told when

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Speaker 2: credit card companies to cooperate with the prosecutors if they

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Speaker 2: wanted to go through with fraud charges. What Apparently they

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Speaker 2: don't cooperate most of the time. But I can still

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Speaker 2: ask the county to prosecute on behalf of myself, which

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Speaker 4: That's the most insane thing I've heard all day.

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Speaker 2: I mean, they probably don't want, like, you know, they

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Speaker 2: no clue. In November, I got a formal letter saying

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Speaker 2: they wouldn't be prosecuting my case. I asked a criminal

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Speaker 3: People so really quick.

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Speaker 4: Unfortunately, it's like in the age of the Internet. Sometimes

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Speaker 4: it's like if this credit bureau, whatever your creditor is,

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Speaker 4: now you have to start blasting them on social media.

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Speaker 4: You have to create a negative steamroll, a negative snowball somehow,

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Speaker 4: them to take action. You go, hey, hey, everybody, don't

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Speaker 3: That's all you can do now.

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Speaker 2: He said his job is basically just working out deals

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Speaker 2: another thing I don't like about family courts, and she

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Speaker 2: the week after I made the report. The judge basically

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Speaker 3: What the.

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Speaker 2: Chances does she get She's already done this before.

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Speaker 3: Who is this judge?

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Speaker 2: She's literally already taken his son away from him before.

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Speaker 4: This is just this absolutely just hmm yeah, Okay, So

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Speaker 4: she stole's identity, she racked up a bunch of debt

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Speaker 3: So we'll give you one more chance.

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Speaker 2: More chance, But we're gonna give you one more chance

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Speaker 2: into it. Let's go the first child exchange. After hearing

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'd be like, why don't she already have that?

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Speaker 4: Why don't you go ahead and open another credit card

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Speaker 4: in my name and rack that one up because you

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Speaker 2: I actually already gave that to you, and you stole

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Speaker 4: I guess you're allowed to get away with identity lately anything,

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Speaker 4: So Dwight Shrewt was wrong.

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Speaker 3: Identity theft is a joke.

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Speaker 4: It's a joke, and apparently it doesn't get prosecuted wherever

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Speaker 2: I told her, absolutely not. Last week I went to

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna gonna riot, go out in.

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Speaker 3: The streets and riot.

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Speaker 2: I know eventually things are going to work out, but

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Speaker 2: she's really testing my nerves. Commoner one says, this is

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Speaker 2: exactly why CC fraud is so rampant. Nothing has ever

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Speaker 2: common to three, persistence will pay off in the long run.

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Speaker 2: If she is like this with you, there is no

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Speaker 2: telling how she will start treating your child when they

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Speaker 2: get to their less agreeable stages of life. Hang in there,

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Speaker 2: common Er four, Dang, she's not very bright. This is

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Speaker 2: all going to end up biting her in the butt,

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Speaker 2: and I pray it does. I think it's going to

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Speaker 2: end up working out in your favor eventually, OPI, So

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Speaker 2: what did she learn by not getting any consequences? She

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Speaker 2: learned she can get away with it and figured it's

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Speaker 2: okay to attempt to steal from you and f up

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Speaker 2: your credit yet again. I think that judge is going

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Speaker 2: custody agreements whatsoever. Again, don't know if the prosecutors will

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Speaker 2: sounds like she didn't even get to max it out

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Speaker 3: I wonder if there's an update.

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Speaker 4: I bet there's not, because it's a pretty fresh story.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think.

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Speaker 4: My ex boyfriend's wife isolated him from his family and friends.

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Speaker 4: Let's get some more info here, A little background. Sorry,

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Speaker 4: I'm so ready. We broke up very amicably with zero

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Speaker 3: We'd know and want to find acid. None of their

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Speaker 4: Bill's older brother, Fred had a baby recently, and Fiona

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Speaker 4: She's also telling me very personal details about their relationship

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Speaker 3: Dude, that sounds like a crazy control thing. Crazy control thing.

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Speaker 4: You're like, I want my husband to feel like I

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Speaker 2: No, this is all very, very bad, and also I

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Speaker 3: What can I do to help him? Read it?

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Speaker 4: There's definitely something wrong with her, and I want to

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Speaker 4: You need to be concerned with your bucket, not Bill's

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Speaker 3: Hey, just you know comments number one.

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Speaker 4: Next, I would ford them to Bill's email, saying you

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Speaker 4: They're in a different country. You don't have any means

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Speaker 3: Ultimately, he's an adult.

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Speaker 4: So unless there's proof that she's abusing him or holding

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Speaker 4: And here's the update, and I think right there, if

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Speaker 2: So no, it's really I mean, it's really hard because

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Speaker 4: Even though my original post didn't get a lot of attention,

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Speaker 3: Clever, cheeky little guy.

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Speaker 4: They scheduled the call a day later and my husband

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Speaker 2: Ah.

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Speaker 4: He felt so hopeless and thought that no one cared

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Speaker 2: Ah wait, okay, he you know what, take I'll take

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Speaker 4: I mean, there's not much you can do other than

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Speaker 4: express it. Yeah, which you've said it. That's really as

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Speaker 2: But like, well, I think just the fact that he

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Speaker 4: Turns out she was reading all his emails and deleted

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Speaker 4: with his mother and, father And fred has been helping

443
00:18:42,480 --> 00:18:44,280
Speaker 4: him get back on his feet and handle the legal.

444
00:18:44,280 --> 00:18:47,240
Speaker 4: Stuff needless to, say they are extremely grateful to my

445
00:18:47,359 --> 00:18:49,600
Speaker 4: husband and his boss and have paid back the cost

446
00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:51,320
Speaker 4: of the, ticket as well as Buying dan and his

447
00:18:51,400 --> 00:18:55,600
Speaker 4: boss several bottles of very expensive, bobbon which they insisted.

448
00:18:55,640 --> 00:18:57,680
Speaker 3: On we were happy to cover the, ticket but weren't

449
00:18:57,760 --> 00:18:58,520
Speaker 3: going to argue with.

450
00:18:58,560 --> 00:19:00,920
Speaker 4: Them dan AND i told them that now that he's,

451
00:19:00,960 --> 00:19:02,719
Speaker 4: home we were going to take a step. Back his

452
00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:04,840
Speaker 4: family is looking after him now and they don't need

453
00:19:04,880 --> 00:19:06,840
Speaker 4: our help. Anymore we'll still keep in, touch, though AND

454
00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:08,760
Speaker 4: i think we'll always be close To bill and his

455
00:19:08,760 --> 00:19:09,520
Speaker 4: family from now.

456
00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:13,080
Speaker 3: On fred did tell me that the horrendous.

457
00:19:12,359 --> 00:19:14,159
Speaker 4: Ex wives doesn't want to come back, home so we

458
00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:15,919
Speaker 4: don't have to worry about her turning up on our.

459
00:19:15,920 --> 00:19:18,679
Speaker 4: Doorstep and by the, WAY i will always be worried

460
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Speaker 4: that you're not turning up on our, doorstep and that

461
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Speaker 4: doorstep being the full episodes with stories like this one

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464
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Speaker 4: seven days worth of. Content now we do have a

465
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Speaker 4: little bit. LEFT i, mean do we have anything finishing remarks?

466
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Speaker 2: Here finishing. REMARK i just think it's VERY i think

467
00:19:39,080 --> 00:19:42,520
Speaker 2: looking at this story, originally, yeah it seemed like there

468
00:19:42,600 --> 00:19:44,119
Speaker 2: was you could tell the family and that was kind of.

469
00:19:44,119 --> 00:19:46,439
Speaker 2: It BUT OPI i think went the extra mile to

470
00:19:46,480 --> 00:19:48,480
Speaker 2: help someone that she cared, about AND i think that

471
00:19:48,640 --> 00:19:49,040
Speaker 2: really is.

472
00:19:49,119 --> 00:19:50,480
Speaker 3: Wonderful they're lucky to hear that.

473
00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:52,959
Speaker 4: Connection, Yeah it's funny how stuff works out like that,

474
00:19:53,000 --> 00:19:55,960
Speaker 4: sometimes you, know it's like these obscure. Connects it's, like,

475
00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:56,920
Speaker 4: oh my husband's in.

476
00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:59,520
Speaker 3: It, yeah It and it really is a Sweet you

477
00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:00,600
Speaker 3: had no what's the.

478
00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:04,960
Speaker 4: Word you in no way were responsible for helping this guy,

479
00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:06,240
Speaker 4: whatsoever but you.

480
00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:08,760
Speaker 3: Did so let me angel baby. Move.

481
00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:10,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah you are the angel in the.

482
00:20:10,720 --> 00:20:13,480
Speaker 4: Story, yes and now let's finish this. STORY i don't

483
00:20:13,520 --> 00:20:16,440
Speaker 4: know How fiona. Reacted she hasn't sent me any, emails

484
00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:18,560
Speaker 4: SO i don't think she KNOWS i was involved or

485
00:20:18,720 --> 00:20:21,280
Speaker 4: what's going to happen, legally BECAUSE i don't want to

486
00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:24,080
Speaker 4: be so involved. Anymore it's time we focused on our

487
00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:25,639
Speaker 4: family for a, bit Because i'm.

488
00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:30,840
Speaker 3: Pregnant couldn't have picked a better man to breed.

489
00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:34,600
Speaker 4: With, Also dan's boss Let Dan bill the hours Of

490
00:20:34,600 --> 00:20:38,159
Speaker 4: bill's rescue as personal development because there are still decent

491
00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:38,719
Speaker 4: people in this.

492
00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:41,320
Speaker 3: World, wow, hey the boss Is.

493
00:20:42,600 --> 00:20:44,960
Speaker 2: Bill the hours that they were helping this.

494
00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:47,320
Speaker 3: Guy, yeah the boss was, like, hey this is LIKE i.

495
00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:48,200
Speaker 2: Liked when DID i?

496
00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:49,240
Speaker 3: Prove that was.

497
00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:52,199
Speaker 2: Pretty stellar work helping you're a team player and you

498
00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:52,880
Speaker 2: care about the.

499
00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:56,639
Speaker 4: UNDERDOG i mean technically the other guy was in it

500
00:20:57,040 --> 00:20:59,960
Speaker 4: work for they were both in. It, Yeah so, anyway

501
00:21:00,080 --> 00:21:02,720
Speaker 4: we have some comments, Here actually we have one comment

502
00:21:02,760 --> 00:21:05,600
Speaker 4: to finish it. OFF i am enormously impressed at how

503
00:21:05,640 --> 00:21:08,360
Speaker 4: this was. Handled that takes some serious maturity on everyone's,

504
00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:09,360
Speaker 4: part especially your.

505
00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:13,879
Speaker 3: Husband what an absolutely fantastic. Man, Hey, annette is the internet?

506
00:21:13,920 --> 00:21:15,119
Speaker 2: STORTALLY i love this.

507
00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:17,080
Speaker 3: STORY i think it was a fantastic. STORY i.

508
00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:21,679
Speaker 2: Agree my ex boyfriend's new girlfriend wants to learn the

509
00:21:21,720 --> 00:21:24,480
Speaker 2: truth about our, breakup SO i told.

510
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:26,280
Speaker 3: Her you can handle the.

511
00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:29,280
Speaker 2: Truth my ex AND i started dating my freshman year

512
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:32,240
Speaker 2: and we were together for three. Years. Wowe he was

513
00:21:32,280 --> 00:21:35,960
Speaker 2: a complete jerk and borderline abusive pretty much the entire.

514
00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:38,600
Speaker 2: Time the final straw was WHEN i found out he

515
00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:41,399
Speaker 2: had been physically and emotionally cheating on me with one

516
00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:44,919
Speaker 2: of my casual friends for. Months by the, way this

517
00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:48,000
Speaker 2: comes From jellyfish three through through three and if you

518
00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:49,600
Speaker 2: want to spit your own, stories go to our slash

519
00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:52,399
Speaker 2: okay storytime. Separated so WHEN i confronted him about, it

520
00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:55,119
Speaker 2: he tried to lie and squirm his way out of,

521
00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:57,399
Speaker 2: it and WHEN i eventually dragged the truth out of,

522
00:21:57,480 --> 00:22:00,119
Speaker 2: him he ended up blaming me for a variety of.

523
00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:02,200
Speaker 2: Reasons he was one of those people who was very

524
00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:06,119
Speaker 2: charming and manipulative and can't fathom himself doing anything. Wrong

525
00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:08,159
Speaker 2: the worst part is THAT i was still buying his

526
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,600
Speaker 2: bs at this, point AND i even broke up with

527
00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:13,560
Speaker 2: him reluctantly telling HIM i loved him and tried to

528
00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:16,439
Speaker 2: spare his. Feelings this was almost a year. Ago after the,

529
00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:18,760
Speaker 2: breakup he moved a couple tens over for, work AND

530
00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:22,320
Speaker 2: i went completely no. Contact as time, PASSED i finally

531
00:22:22,359 --> 00:22:25,200
Speaker 2: came to my. SENSES i REALIZED i only loved him

532
00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:28,280
Speaker 2: because of the reality he was gaslighting onto, me and

533
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:30,400
Speaker 2: all those little times he hurt me THAT i just

534
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:34,119
Speaker 2: let slide seemed much more. Malicious my friends told me

535
00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:35,800
Speaker 2: that some of the things he was telling me towards

536
00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:38,919
Speaker 2: the end the truth were lies as. Well it was

537
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:41,000
Speaker 2: so much worse THAN i had been led to. BELIEVE

538
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 2: i didn't see how contacting him would help, anything SO

539
00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:46,680
Speaker 2: i just kept my feelings bottled. UP i grew bitter

540
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:49,600
Speaker 2: and resentful of, him and very angry THAT i had

541
00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:52,520
Speaker 2: spent so much of my college life with this. Jerk

542
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:55,280
Speaker 2: so flash forward To fourth Of july. WEEKEND i was

543
00:22:55,320 --> 00:22:57,600
Speaker 2: out with some of my friends and we were drinking

544
00:22:57,600 --> 00:22:59,760
Speaker 2: and having a great. Time at one, point my friend

545
00:22:59,760 --> 00:23:02,000
Speaker 2: poke me with a concerned look on her, face and

546
00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:04,840
Speaker 2: AS i turned, AROUND i see my ex with his

547
00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:08,080
Speaker 2: arm around a, girl confidently heading towards.

548
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:11,760
Speaker 4: Me it's like the theme From jaws starts to.

549
00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 2: PLAY i was kind of in, shock AND i backed

550
00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:21,040
Speaker 2: away as he went for a. Hug he seemed, flustered

551
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:23,320
Speaker 2: but introduced the girl he was with and asked How

552
00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:26,919
Speaker 2: i'd been. Doing i'm usually calm and, collected BUT i

553
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:30,520
Speaker 2: was wasted and completely lost my. COOL i called him

554
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,879
Speaker 2: an effing a hole and asked how he had the

555
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:35,760
Speaker 2: audacity to walk right up to me after what he

556
00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:38,720
Speaker 2: did to. Me they both stood there and just stared at. Me,

557
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:40,920
Speaker 2: thankfully my friends grabbed me and let me out of

558
00:23:40,960 --> 00:23:43,919
Speaker 2: the bar BEFORE i said slash did something. Worse they

559
00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:46,359
Speaker 2: took me, home calmed me, down and one of my

560
00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:48,159
Speaker 2: friends stayed the night with me to make SURE i

561
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 2: was all. Right that's a NICE i WISH i handled

562
00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:53,359
Speaker 2: the situation. Better while we were, together he told me

563
00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:57,080
Speaker 2: about how all his exes ended up being. Crazy sure

564
00:23:57,160 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 2: it had nothing to do with him being an insufferable.

565
00:23:59,359 --> 00:24:01,919
Speaker 2: Ale it was pretty likely THAT i was added to that,

566
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:05,240
Speaker 2: list especially after the. Incident as far as he was,

567
00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:07,200
Speaker 2: concerned we had ended it on good.

568
00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 4: Terms isn't it funny how that works when like the

569
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:11,720
Speaker 4: people who were just the, worst the.

570
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:14,080
Speaker 2: People who missed, you and they're, like, oh, no, no we're. Chill.

571
00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:16,920
Speaker 3: YEAH I, oh why aren't we hanging out? Anymore? Hey

572
00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:17,880
Speaker 3: what what's going?

573
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:19,159
Speaker 2: On i've never seen her?

574
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:21,359
Speaker 3: Anymore, oh it's because we broke, up you freaking.

575
00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:24,480
Speaker 2: Idiot YESTERDAY i got A facebook message from the girl

576
00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 2: he was. With she said she was his girlfriend and

577
00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:29,399
Speaker 2: then they met during A thanksgiving party and have been dating.

578
00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:31,840
Speaker 2: Since she told me he had mentioned me THAT i

579
00:24:31,960 --> 00:24:34,560
Speaker 2: was his longest, relationship THAT i was really, chill and

580
00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:37,040
Speaker 2: that our breakup was civil and mutual because he was

581
00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:39,440
Speaker 2: leaving town and we didn't want to go long. Distance

582
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,200
Speaker 2: she said she questioned everything he told her after seeing

583
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:45,440
Speaker 2: how UPSET i. Was she seemed genuine and actually really.

584
00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:48,399
Speaker 2: NICE i haven't replied yet BECAUSE i honestly don't know

585
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:50,720
Speaker 2: what to. Say my first instinct was to tell her

586
00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:53,040
Speaker 2: to talk to him about, it BUT i know he's

587
00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 2: already lying to. Her our breakup was, civil but only

588
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 2: BECAUSE i was a spineless jellyfish and didn't stand up for.

589
00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:01,880
Speaker 2: MYSELF i had no no idea he was moving until

590
00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:03,159
Speaker 2: a couple of weeks after the.

591
00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 3: Breakup oh, okay, wait Just i'm.

592
00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:08,080
Speaker 4: SORRY i shouldn't have interrupted, There but that makes NOW

593
00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:09,200
Speaker 4: i understand why.

594
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 3: He's LIKE i thought we were. Cool, yeah but it's,

595
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 3: Like i'm sure he also was a complete piece of,

596
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:13,960
Speaker 3: work you.

597
00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 2: Know, Yeah, WELL i mean it probably was like he was, like,

598
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:19,680
Speaker 2: oh like we got a breakup and was probably nice

599
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:22,679
Speaker 2: during the breakup or or something along those. Lines but

600
00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:25,359
Speaker 2: still it doesn't excuse all of the stuff that probably

601
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:25,920
Speaker 2: happened during.

602
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 3: The, no of course.

603
00:25:26,640 --> 00:25:29,880
Speaker 4: NOT i think it was more he's being informed off

604
00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:32,640
Speaker 4: Of op's. Reaction, yes, OH p, SAID i.

605
00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 3: Didn't, really do you? KNOW i didn't let him have

606
00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:35,040
Speaker 3: it or.

607
00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 4: ANYTHING i was, Amicable so he's why wouldn't you think

608
00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:37,680
Speaker 4: it was?

609
00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 3: Okay m?

610
00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 2: M because he doesn't use his, brain and if she

611
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:44,200
Speaker 2: probes him about, it he'll probably lie more to cover it. Up,

612
00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:47,199
Speaker 2: honestly leaving him was the best thing that ever happened to.

613
00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 2: Me LIKE i, said he was very charming and, manipulative

614
00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:52,280
Speaker 2: and a lot of people couldn't believe that he'd be

615
00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 2: so horrible to, someone including. MYSELF i was so blinded

616
00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 2: and convinced THAT i was worthless and should be grateful

617
00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:00,960
Speaker 2: this perfect human wanted to be with. Me then, again

618
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 2: she has no reason to believe. Me maybe he's changed

619
00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:06,760
Speaker 2: and is treating her better than he treated. Me i'd

620
00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 2: be potentially ruining a good relationship for no. Reason so

621
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:12,640
Speaker 2: what do you guys? Think DO i reply and tell

622
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 2: her the. Truth DO i reply to her and tell

623
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 2: her to talk to, him or DO i just completely

624
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 2: ignore the. Message and there are some. COMMENTS i, mean,

625
00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:22,919
Speaker 2: honestly you. Can if you want to just ignore, it

626
00:26:23,040 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 2: that's totally within your. Right BUT i think that the

627
00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:29,440
Speaker 2: fact that she is, ASKING i feel like means there

628
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:30,640
Speaker 2: might be something already.

629
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,400
Speaker 3: Happening, yeah that is a good.

630
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:34,879
Speaker 4: Point it's like it's one thing to just do it

631
00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:37,920
Speaker 4: out of the, blue but if you're being directly, Asked,

632
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:38,960
Speaker 4: yeah that's a different.

633
00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 3: Vibe.

634
00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 2: YEAH i THINK i think she WANTS i think something

635
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:43,760
Speaker 2: she knows something's up. Already, yeah SO i think you.

636
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:44,920
Speaker 2: COULD i think you could tell her the.

637
00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:47,159
Speaker 4: Truth, yeah if it does blow up the, relationship it's not.

638
00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 4: LIKE i don't think you have to put the guilt

639
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:50,919
Speaker 4: or the blame on you for.

640
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 2: That there are some. Comments comment one, SAYS i would

641
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:55,920
Speaker 2: tell her the. Truth try not to be too emotional

642
00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 2: about it in the. Response but matter of, factly you

643
00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:00,679
Speaker 2: don't know him anything and don't need to be covering for.

644
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:02,760
Speaker 2: Him if you don't care and don't want to deal

645
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:04,840
Speaker 2: with any, drama just tell her to ask him and

646
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:08,360
Speaker 2: then block. Her opie says this is. True i'm inclined

647
00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:10,160
Speaker 2: to tell, her But i'm just worried That i'll tell

648
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:12,159
Speaker 2: her my version of. Things she'll bring it up with

649
00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 2: him and he'll Say i'm jealous and, lying which you

650
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 2: know that, again that's, like that's her decision to make

651
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,160
Speaker 2: who she. Believes common Or two SAYS i would want

652
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,919
Speaker 2: to know as the new girlfriend she's asking you to protect.

653
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:24,800
Speaker 2: Herself wouldn't you have wanted a? Warning obie, SAYS i

654
00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 2: definitely would have appreciated a heads, up especially since it's

655
00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:30,760
Speaker 2: still early enough in the relationship that she can leave

656
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 2: without much sun and.

657
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 3: Cost.

658
00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:35,199
Speaker 2: Update, hi, GUYS i just wanted to thank everyone for

659
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 2: the support and insight on this whole. THING i really appreciate. It,

660
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:40,720
Speaker 2: ALSO i decided to give people, names So i'll call

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00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 2: my Ex nate and his new Girlfriend. Liz for a

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Speaker 2: crap load of, REASONS i decided to reply To liz's

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00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:49,640
Speaker 2: MESSAGE i plagiarized from some of the comments on my last.

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Speaker 2: Post love you, guys SO i apologize for losing my

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00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:55,160
Speaker 2: crap the other day and said that despite what he told,

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Speaker 2: her we broke up because he had lied to me

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00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:00,440
Speaker 2: for months about in an affair that he he had been.

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00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 2: HAVING i wished her the, best AND i was pretty

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00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 2: nervous AFTER i sent, it SO i logged out Of,

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Speaker 2: facebook turned off the, notifications and went to Work that.

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00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:10,400
Speaker 2: EVENING i got back on and saw That liz had

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00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 2: replied within an hour of it being. Sent she thanked

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00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 2: me for, answering and she'd reached out because she started

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Speaker 2: off weird feeling About nate after he swore he had

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00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 2: no idea what my outburst was. About she also asked

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00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,439
Speaker 2: me why he talked so fondly of our relationship slash,

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00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:28,200
Speaker 2: breakup if this was really what, happened and IF i

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00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:33,480
Speaker 2: knew anything About. Sarah oh Who? Sarah Who's?

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Speaker 6: Sarah sarah was the Girl nate cheated on me, With

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Speaker 6: that's say That's. SARAH i still have a lot of

681
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 6: anger towards. HER i was always super, nice and she

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00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:47,120
Speaker 6: Knew nate AND i had been together for almost two

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00:28:47,240 --> 00:28:50,040
Speaker 6: years and THAT i was embarrassingly in love with them

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00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 6: when they started essentially. Dating it's kind of irrational and

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Speaker 6: misplaced BECAUSE i know she doesn't owe me, anything but,

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00:28:55,840 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 6: yeah Apparently sarah is still very much in the.

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Speaker 2: Picture. Yikes liz says she And nate have had multiple

688
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 2: discussions about the appropriateness of their, relationship but she can't

689
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 2: ask about it anymore because he just shuts it. DOWN

690
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 2: i could just picture him doing his little relationship can't

691
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 2: exist without trust. Spiel after thinking it, OVER i said

692
00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:17,120
Speaker 2: THAT i couldn't explain why he told her THAT i

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00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 2: can only speak from my own, experience BUT i found

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00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:22,800
Speaker 2: Both nate And sarah to be. Untrustworthy AND i also

695
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 2: told her that WHILE i hope for her sake that

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00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:27,400
Speaker 2: the relationship is now platonic And i'm still questioning this

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00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 2: decision that she was the Girl nate cheated on me.

698
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:33,240
Speaker 2: WITH i told her to trust her instincts and apologize

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Speaker 2: for being the bearer of worrying. News BUT i am

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Speaker 2: the bearer of good news because you guys can listen

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Speaker 2: to full episodes with stories just like this On, Spotify Apple,

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Speaker 2: time great News and there's a little bit left of this.

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Speaker 2: Story BUT i think that you did the right. Thing,

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00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:53,240
Speaker 2: YES i think that you did the right thing, Correct

706
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,880
Speaker 2: and Now liz is fully important and we know That

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Speaker 2: sarah's still in the, picture and that's no.

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Speaker 3: Bueno, yeah crazy to me that he's like the RELATIONSHIP i.

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Speaker 3: Built don't trust like you can you can trust me

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Speaker 3: cheat on you With. SARAH i.

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Speaker 2: Did he's a Little.

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Speaker 3: Lias he's a little cheeky, kya.

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Speaker 2: But there's a little bit. LEFT i was thinking of

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Speaker 2: waiting for her to reply so i'd have more for this,

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Speaker 2: update but it's been a couple of days AND i

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Speaker 2: don't really know what she'd have to say to.

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Speaker 3: Me.

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Speaker 2: Anyway i'm just super anxious and find myself thinking about

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Speaker 2: her a. Lot it's almost like going back in time

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Speaker 2: and telling little eighteen year Old ope That nate would

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Speaker 2: probably make the next few years of my life miserable

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Speaker 2: IF i stayed with. Him knowing, ME i would have been.

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Speaker 2: Heartbroken SO i just really hope That liz is. Okay

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Speaker 2: and comments say Common one, Says liz already had her

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Speaker 2: doubts about her In nate's, relationship or she wouldn't have

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Speaker 3: Place, exactly you.

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Speaker 2: Did the right thing without coming across as petty or.

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Speaker 2: Jealous good for. You Hopefully liz is, okay but you

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Speaker 2: did the right. Thing in common or, two you may

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Speaker 2: not ever get closure From liz about what happened with Her,

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Speaker 2: nate but rest assured that you've done the right thing

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Speaker 2: by answering honestly and. Respectfully If liz does break up with,

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Speaker 2: HIM i wouldn't be surprised If nate blames the whole

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Speaker 2: thing on you being a crazy ex who tries to

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Speaker 2: sabotage his future relationships because you're still in love with.

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Speaker 2: Him have a game plan for if you run into

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Speaker 2: You you have done nothing wrong, here but being prepared never.

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Speaker 2: Hurts gearst to living life free from, cheating lying f.

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Speaker 5: Twenty twenty, one close To, halloween our son had been.

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Speaker 5: Whoa she said she had been feeling guilty for a,

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Speaker 5: she admitted she had been unfaithful and that our trust was. Broken,

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Speaker 5: STILL i wanted to stay together and rebuild our relationship

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Speaker 5: BECAUSE i loved her and wanted my son to grow

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Speaker 5: CONVERSATION whoa he gave her an, ultimatum him or?

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Speaker 5: Again so, eventually, yes she chose, me but only in.

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Speaker 5: Silence he demanded she say it out, loud and she finally.

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875
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:31,040
Speaker 3: Dude i'm not sure. Why i'm not sure. Why we're

876
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:31,480
Speaker 3: not sure.

877
00:37:31,520 --> 00:37:34,319
Speaker 5: Why maybe some sob conscious apology for how he had

878
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 5: to come into our lives and turn everything upside. Down

879
00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:39,759
Speaker 5: despite my wife saying she was done with him, romantically

880
00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 5: the remained.

881
00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 3: Friends no, no, no, no, no but not for.

882
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:47,400
Speaker 5: Long she continued to feel guilty because she would occasionally

883
00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:49,239
Speaker 5: slip up and kiss.

884
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 3: Him this is what are you? Doing like an?

885
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:55,280
Speaker 5: IDIOT i excuse these mistakes for the sake of keeping

886
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:55,800
Speaker 5: our family.

887
00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:58,040
Speaker 3: TOGETHER i think you're bad at communicating my.

888
00:37:58,120 --> 00:38:00,480
Speaker 5: GUY a few months, later she brought up idea of

889
00:38:00,480 --> 00:38:03,480
Speaker 5: an open, relationship a way for her to have everything.

890
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:04,280
Speaker 3: She Wanted god.

891
00:38:05,760 --> 00:38:08,480
Speaker 5: Without guilt or. CONSEQUENCE i am tired of, THIS i

892
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 5: could see she was. Struggling we were both exhausted from

893
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:12,719
Speaker 5: taking care of a, baby and she had suffered from

894
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:15,920
Speaker 5: severe post natal. Depression she had also struggled with depression

895
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:18,600
Speaker 5: at the start of our relationship and BEFORE i wonder.

896
00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:20,880
Speaker 5: Why by the time we got engaged and, married she

897
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:23,719
Speaker 5: had improved significantly and was off her. Medication but the,

898
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,920
Speaker 5: pregnancy combined with this whole love, triangle had brought her

899
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,640
Speaker 5: right back. Down, so being the IDIOT i, WAS i

900
00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 5: agreed to an open relationship to make Her who's a

901
00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:34,719
Speaker 5: bigger a hole. Here it's not that he's an a,

902
00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:35,880
Speaker 5: Whole he's just an ahole to.

903
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 3: Yourself he just does it into your.

904
00:38:38,040 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 5: Relationship he doesn't know how to respect himself and that

905
00:38:41,400 --> 00:38:44,040
Speaker 5: makes me deeply. Sad, so being the IDIOT i, WAS

906
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:46,440
Speaker 5: i agreed to an open relationship to make her. Happy

907
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:49,560
Speaker 5: this open relationship lasted until Around april of this. Year

908
00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 5: she was happy having her family life with husband and

909
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 5: child with, me and then her outgoing fun part of

910
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 5: life with the best. FRIEND i did not see another

911
00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:58,839
Speaker 5: woman during this AS i was committed to my, wife

912
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 5: even if she wasn't fully commit it to. Me my

913
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:03,360
Speaker 5: main reason for sticking this out was mostly for the

914
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:05,800
Speaker 5: sake of my. SON i wanted him to have a proper,

915
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:07,760
Speaker 5: family AND i just wanted a simple family.

916
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 3: Life the other part was fear or.

917
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:11,919
Speaker 5: Shame how do you not understand that IF i, left

918
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:14,000
Speaker 5: it would all come out and everyone would. KNOW i

919
00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:15,840
Speaker 5: have a good relationship with my in laws and my

920
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:18,279
Speaker 5: family is currently planning move down to where we are

921
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:20,000
Speaker 5: because they want to spend more time with my. Son

922
00:39:20,120 --> 00:39:22,360
Speaker 5: IF i, leave it will ruin so many, relationships AND

923
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:24,160
Speaker 5: i fear the blame will be on me for not

924
00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 5: stopping it. Sooner SO i soldiered, on even THOUGH i

925
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 5: was miserable most of the. TIME i did it from

926
00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:31,160
Speaker 5: my son and my family so they might be, happy

927
00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 5: and seeing them happy would help me forget or at

928
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 5: least block it. Out, so during this whole open, relationship

929
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:38,560
Speaker 5: while our side was, fine we had family trips and,

930
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 5: holidays and my wife AND i were still able to

931
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:43,000
Speaker 5: be intimate with each, other and the very rare times

932
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 5: that our child allowed us to be to wasted no

933
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 5: time having spicy sleep with the best. Friend they would

934
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 5: go out in the evening few times a, week and

935
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:51,560
Speaker 5: sometimes away for weekends.

936
00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:52,960
Speaker 3: Together this is insane to.

937
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:55,439
Speaker 5: Me he did not like hearing my name even being,

938
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:57,720
Speaker 5: mentioned so when they were, Together i'm sure they pretended

939
00:39:57,760 --> 00:39:59,920
Speaker 5: LIKE i didn't. Exist they had even taken our son

940
00:40:01,080 --> 00:40:04,000
Speaker 5: for day trips to farms and soft play WHEN i was,

941
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:05,640
Speaker 5: working and that was one of the few TIMES i

942
00:40:05,680 --> 00:40:07,480
Speaker 5: had the guts to say something and say that he

943
00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:09,960
Speaker 5: was my son and then the family stuff to remain

944
00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:13,759
Speaker 5: with the actual. Family myself hearing his name was quite the.

945
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:17,000
Speaker 5: Opposite whenever they fought or had some kind of, disagreement shut.

946
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:20,520
Speaker 5: UP i was the shoulder to cry on and the

947
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 5: empathetic listener as any suggestions fell on deaf. Ears WHENEVER

948
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:27,880
Speaker 5: i felt close to caving and leaving my son would

949
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:30,000
Speaker 5: flow into my mind and it would stop me every.

950
00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:31,880
Speaker 3: Time In, april this all came to a.

951
00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:33,959
Speaker 5: Head she had said they'd been fighting more and, more

952
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:36,879
Speaker 5: we're spending more time on his phone when he was with,

953
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:39,480
Speaker 5: her and this result in her half heartedly breaking up

954
00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:41,600
Speaker 5: with him to try and rouse something out of, him

955
00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:42,759
Speaker 5: but he took her at her.

956
00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:43,560
Speaker 3: Word and broke up with.

957
00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 5: Her she backpedaled and tried getting him, back but he

958
00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:49,880
Speaker 5: ended up going no contact with. Her she was inconsolable for,

959
00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:51,759
Speaker 5: weeks AND i was there as always to.

960
00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:53,920
Speaker 3: Pick up The he you're the best, friend SO.

961
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 5: I was always there to pick up the pieces while

962
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:58,080
Speaker 5: she was physically ill and, cried AND i and her

963
00:40:58,120 --> 00:41:01,000
Speaker 5: parents looked after my. Son you'd attempted a few more

964
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:02,880
Speaker 5: times to reach out to, him and each time this

965
00:41:03,040 --> 00:41:05,600
Speaker 5: relapsed her progress and getting over in. Him she had

966
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:07,759
Speaker 5: even tried to go back to being just, friends but

967
00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:09,920
Speaker 5: either he couldn't do that or didn't want. To they

968
00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:11,520
Speaker 5: had met a few times with my son as some

969
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 5: kind of intermediary to force them To.

970
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 3: This is this is insane to. ME i am. Dumbfounded

971
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:18,839
Speaker 3: this is one of the most dumbfounding Stories i've ever,

972
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:20,840
Speaker 3: read so to not be intimate if such a feeling.

973
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 5: Arose but after that he said he couldn't be just,

974
00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 5: friends and they finally could it off again and she

975
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:26,200
Speaker 5: blocks him on.

976
00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 3: EVERYTHING i finally felt some sense of.

977
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:32,000
Speaker 5: Relief i'm sure like my efforts had been rewarded somehow,

978
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:34,320
Speaker 5: then and by STAYING i now finally have my wife

979
00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:36,279
Speaker 5: back and we could all move on and my life

980
00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 5: would finally be normal. Again how do you move on

981
00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:40,960
Speaker 5: from this and be, like, yeah that was greatly my

982
00:41:41,040 --> 00:41:41,759
Speaker 5: relationship is.

983
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:45,120
Speaker 3: Wonderful my family's, Wonderful my life is. WONDERFUL i am again.

984
00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 3: Dumbfounded now it is Almost.

985
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:48,400
Speaker 5: September to take her mind off of, whom she has

986
00:41:48,440 --> 00:41:51,320
Speaker 5: gotten into writing spiritual journals and it started her own. Business,

987
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:53,680
Speaker 5: wow that's actually good.

988
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:54,520
Speaker 3: NEWS i don't know how to.

989
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:58,160
Speaker 5: Feel she was in childcare before becoming a full stay

990
00:41:58,160 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 5: at home, mom but she's now using her QUALIFIC ca

991
00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 5: for her business and has been doing very.

992
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:03,400
Speaker 3: Well no, way what's your?

993
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:06,560
Speaker 5: Business i've been very, supportive even helping with purchasing a,

994
00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:09,840
Speaker 5: domain setting up, emails and creating a. Website my issue

995
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:11,640
Speaker 5: now is THAT i don't think she loves me the same.

996
00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:14,560
Speaker 5: Anymore the last time she and the best friend were

997
00:42:14,600 --> 00:42:17,480
Speaker 5: intimate was when she was very emotionally. Vulnerable from what she,

998
00:42:17,520 --> 00:42:20,040
Speaker 5: Said he took advantage of that and we had spicy

999
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:22,680
Speaker 5: sleep before we then dumped. Her this contributed to her

1000
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 5: becoming physically. Ill at one. Point she wanted to be

1001
00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:27,640
Speaker 5: intimate with me, again so the last time she had

1002
00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 5: spicy sleep wouldn't it be tied to that traumatic. Experience

1003
00:42:30,960 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 5: she took the time she, needed and eventually we were intimate.

1004
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 5: Again after a few more. Times she told me she

1005
00:42:35,719 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 5: didn't want to have spicy sleep. Anymore she cited one

1006
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:42,279
Speaker 5: of her mom's friends and, examples SAYING x and why

1007
00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:44,920
Speaker 5: don't have spicy? Sleep it wasn't like we had the

1008
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 5: chance to be intimate very, often BUT i always try

1009
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:48,520
Speaker 5: to initiate WHEN i thought the time was.

1010
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:51,000
Speaker 3: Right, however no became the answer going.

1011
00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:53,359
Speaker 5: FORWARD i was told that spicy sleep isn't the whole,

1012
00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 5: relationship AND i understood, that BUT i also communicated that

1013
00:42:56,440 --> 00:42:58,799
Speaker 5: intimacy is part of HOW i show. Love since, then

1014
00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:01,080
Speaker 5: we hadn't had spicy sleep AND i can't get anything

1015
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 5: more from her than cuddling and a quick peck on the.

1016
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:06,560
Speaker 5: Lips SO i started feeling insecure because of this and

1017
00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:08,839
Speaker 5: tried to discuss my feelings with. HER i told HER

1018
00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 5: i felt unhappy and unsure about where we stood in

1019
00:43:11,680 --> 00:43:15,640
Speaker 5: the relationship. Now she insisted that things were fine and

1020
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 5: that we were staying together for our.

1021
00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 3: Son this is insane to.

1022
00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:19,920
Speaker 5: ME i told her it was more than that for

1023
00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:22,120
Speaker 5: me BECAUSE i still loved her the. Same she then

1024
00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:23,839
Speaker 5: asked IF i wanted to split, up AND i asked

1025
00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:27,600
Speaker 5: her if she loved. Me she said she, did but

1026
00:43:27,719 --> 00:43:30,240
Speaker 5: as usual my heart wasn't in, it AND i couldn't

1027
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 5: bring myself to commit to the harder decision of, leaving

1028
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:35,360
Speaker 5: SO i. STAYED i fear she's staying because it's the easy,

1029
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 5: option or because she has no other choice since her

1030
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 5: other option left. Her maybe she's still hoping that the

1031
00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:42,399
Speaker 5: best friend will, return and if he, does she will leave.

1032
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:44,319
Speaker 5: ME i asked her if she would leave me for

1033
00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:46,520
Speaker 5: him if he came, back and she said she didn't.

1034
00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:49,880
Speaker 5: Know it would depend on the situation of the. TIME

1035
00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:52,399
Speaker 5: i made my stance. Clear if he came back in any,

1036
00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:54,200
Speaker 5: FORM i was done AND i would just.

1037
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:56,520
Speaker 3: Leave NOW i feel just as stuck or trapped AS

1038
00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 3: i did during the open.

1039
00:43:57,560 --> 00:44:01,359
Speaker 5: Relationship i'm a good, husband AND i stuck with her

1040
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:04,960
Speaker 5: through her difficult, pregnancy attended all the scans and, appointments

1041
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 5: and have been actively involved in raising our. SUN i

1042
00:44:07,239 --> 00:44:09,600
Speaker 5: Work monday To, friday BUT i take over in the

1043
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:12,120
Speaker 5: evenings before. BEDTIME i cook most of the, time and

1044
00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 5: when she does, cook it's usually just freeze her meal

1045
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:15,759
Speaker 5: WHILE i make meals from scratch with fresh.

1046
00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:19,200
Speaker 3: Ingredients sorry you say you were a good, Husband you're

1047
00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:19,480
Speaker 3: a good.

1048
00:44:19,480 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 5: Friend her main, complaint which initially drove her to the

1049
00:44:22,560 --> 00:44:25,560
Speaker 5: best friend was that we never went on dates outside the. House,

1050
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:28,239
Speaker 5: however she never expressed this to, me so how WOULD

1051
00:44:28,239 --> 00:44:30,200
Speaker 5: i have. Known so instead she went and had an,

1052
00:44:30,239 --> 00:44:34,040
Speaker 5: affair creating this whole messy love. Triangle i've been actively

1053
00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:36,840
Speaker 5: trying to put more effort into. Dates, again not the.

1054
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:39,320
Speaker 5: Problem there's a lot going, on so we don't always

1055
00:44:39,320 --> 00:44:41,880
Speaker 5: have time for spontaneous date nights since we need to organize.

1056
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:44,320
Speaker 5: CHILDCARE i know that wasn't the case before we had a,

1057
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:46,719
Speaker 5: child but, again she never communicated that issue back. Then

1058
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:49,520
Speaker 5: we're both, introverted SO i thought we were perfectly. Happy

1059
00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 5: staying IN covid lockdowns probably didn't, help BUT i attempted

1060
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:55,279
Speaker 5: to plan dates once things. Reopened NOW i feel like

1061
00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:57,000
Speaker 5: ANYTHING i do is just going to be compared to

1062
00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:59,160
Speaker 5: what she and the best friend did, together Like i'm

1063
00:44:59,160 --> 00:45:01,880
Speaker 5: only doing it because of. Them even after, EVERYTHING i

1064
00:45:01,960 --> 00:45:04,439
Speaker 5: still love my, wife BUT i don't know if it's

1065
00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:07,399
Speaker 5: the same in the same way. Anymore i'm actively trying

1066
00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:08,960
Speaker 5: to put an, effort BUT i don't think it's being.

1067
00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:11,920
Speaker 5: Reciprocated WHENEVER i try to express, this we don't get.

1068
00:45:11,960 --> 00:45:14,080
Speaker 5: Anywhere we just keep going in. Circles she has never

1069
00:45:14,120 --> 00:45:15,759
Speaker 5: wanted to be the one to make, decisions and this

1070
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:18,560
Speaker 5: whole situation has played out because she led. It it

1071
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 5: took the best friend making the decision himself for the

1072
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:24,359
Speaker 5: relationship to. End does it have to be me who

1073
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:25,120
Speaker 5: makes the decision?

1074
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:25,719
Speaker 3: Here IF i?

1075
00:45:25,800 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 5: Leave where do either of us? Go where does my son?

1076
00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:31,480
Speaker 5: Go how much more will will change or be ruined

1077
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:33,640
Speaker 5: because of my? Choice i've had no one to turn

1078
00:45:33,680 --> 00:45:35,360
Speaker 5: to WHEN i tossed this around in my mind for,

1079
00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:39,520
Speaker 5: years wondering why the responsibility falls on. Me SO i

1080
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:43,040
Speaker 5: allowed the open relationship to happen to avoid consequences and

1081
00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:45,719
Speaker 5: keep everyone but myself. Happy And i'm still doing it.

1082
00:45:45,800 --> 00:45:48,120
Speaker 5: Now CAN i ever truly be happy with my family?

1083
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 5: Again IF i continue putting in the? Effort will my

1084
00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:52,719
Speaker 5: wife see me and love me as she used? To

1085
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:54,800
Speaker 5: or she's still too hung up on the best, friend

1086
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 5: just waiting for him to come back so she could

1087
00:45:56,800 --> 00:45:59,160
Speaker 5: leave me or force me to. Leave my priority is my.

1088
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:00,960
Speaker 5: SON i want what's for, him And i've been in

1089
00:46:01,080 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 5: content and misery because it allows me to see him

1090
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:05,600
Speaker 5: as much AS i. Do IF i, LEAVE i might

1091
00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 5: not get to see him as. Often right, NOW i

1092
00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:09,919
Speaker 5: only see him after work and on. WEEKENDS i love

1093
00:46:09,960 --> 00:46:11,440
Speaker 5: my wife AND i want her to be. Happy but

1094
00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:13,879
Speaker 5: HAVE i sacrificed my own feelings for others too?

1095
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:16,960
Speaker 3: Much? Yes is this the one TIME i need to

1096
00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:18,120
Speaker 3: put myself first and? Leave?

1097
00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:21,160
Speaker 5: Yes if you made this, far thank. YOU i hope

1098
00:46:21,160 --> 00:46:23,319
Speaker 5: it makes. Sense i'm very stuck and lost and many

1099
00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 5: other things and need some. Help AND i put off

1100
00:46:25,640 --> 00:46:27,760
Speaker 5: asking for it for so, long either to save myself

1101
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:29,800
Speaker 5: from a TRUTH i don't want to, hear to spare

1102
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:31,120
Speaker 5: my family and friends from all of.

1103
00:46:31,120 --> 00:46:33,440
Speaker 3: This now there's an, Update just get to.

1104
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:37,399
Speaker 5: It it seems like we've, expressed we've expressed too many

1105
00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:39,520
Speaker 5: emotions and feelings that we it's gonna be the same.

1106
00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:41,319
Speaker 5: THING i don't Think i've been so grilled in my,

1107
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:42,719
Speaker 5: life but boy DID i need?

1108
00:46:42,760 --> 00:46:42,840
Speaker 4: It?

1109
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:45,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, Wow, OKAY i THINK i needed to be beaten

1110
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:47,200
Speaker 5: down from a place outside of my own head for

1111
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 5: it to really get. Through without any excuses or justifications

1112
00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:50,920
Speaker 5: being made up in my.

1113
00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:52,359
Speaker 3: Mind this is very.

1114
00:46:52,400 --> 00:46:54,920
Speaker 5: Real, unfortunately it is very, sad, empathetic AND i am

1115
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:57,600
Speaker 5: very broken and need. Fixing everyone who has said get

1116
00:46:57,600 --> 00:46:58,840
Speaker 5: a paternity, test he is.

1117
00:46:58,920 --> 00:47:01,360
Speaker 3: Mine he couldn't look more like me if he.

1118
00:47:01,440 --> 00:47:04,279
Speaker 5: Tried but the soon to be ex wife, whoa and

1119
00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:06,360
Speaker 5: the other one didn't have spicy sleep until he was

1120
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:08,680
Speaker 5: already born that you know. Of there's a history of

1121
00:47:08,719 --> 00:47:11,439
Speaker 5: them lying new they were court courteous enough to wait

1122
00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:14,359
Speaker 5: for mister dormat to lay down and open the. Relationship

1123
00:47:14,760 --> 00:47:15,959
Speaker 5: it seems like he's become self.

1124
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:19,600
Speaker 3: Aware he took the internet to get it over his.

1125
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:21,960
Speaker 5: Head of course he could be, lying BUT i, think

1126
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:23,799
Speaker 5: given she wants to be with him more than, me

1127
00:47:24,000 --> 00:47:25,839
Speaker 5: the child being his would be a good way.

1128
00:47:25,880 --> 00:47:27,520
Speaker 3: Out thank you for the truth and the harsh.

1129
00:47:27,520 --> 00:47:30,560
Speaker 5: Squords if anyone needs a new, Doormat i'm clearly apprised to.

1130
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:33,520
Speaker 5: BELIEVE i apologize for the length of the original. POST

1131
00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:35,239
Speaker 5: i had so much stored and wanted to air it.

1132
00:47:35,239 --> 00:47:37,880
Speaker 5: Out but for those who read, it read, halfway or

1133
00:47:37,920 --> 00:47:40,080
Speaker 5: didn't read it at, all but still give the clear

1134
00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:43,120
Speaker 5: advice of, leave thank. YOU i do need therapy AND

1135
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:44,680
Speaker 5: i need to be alone for a while BEFORE i

1136
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:46,399
Speaker 5: could love. Again and it is coming up to nine

1137
00:47:46,480 --> 00:47:48,239
Speaker 5: years and that's a long. Time and you could say

1138
00:47:48,239 --> 00:47:50,080
Speaker 5: a lot of the time wasted with false hope that

1139
00:47:50,120 --> 00:47:50,640
Speaker 5: things would.

1140
00:47:50,680 --> 00:47:51,920
Speaker 3: Improve BUT i see now it's.

1141
00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:53,960
Speaker 5: Over the one good thing to come of it is my,

1142
00:47:54,040 --> 00:47:56,680
Speaker 5: son AND i see now staying will do him no

1143
00:47:56,760 --> 00:47:59,440
Speaker 5: good in the long. Term i'd finished, work picked up

1144
00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:01,480
Speaker 5: my son from in laws after having dinner as she

1145
00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:03,279
Speaker 5: was out for the day of their. SIBLING i got

1146
00:48:03,360 --> 00:48:05,000
Speaker 5: him ready for bed and read him stories and he

1147
00:48:05,040 --> 00:48:05,279
Speaker 5: went to.

1148
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:06,360
Speaker 3: SLEEP i could.

1149
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:09,480
Speaker 5: NOT i kept reopening the original, post looking through the,

1150
00:48:09,480 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 5: comments all unanimously saying to. Leave, recently as thirty minutes,

1151
00:48:13,719 --> 00:48:16,279
Speaker 5: ago she came home AND i had a brief conversation with.

1152
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:18,800
Speaker 3: HER i said we should split, up and she. Agreed.

1153
00:48:18,960 --> 00:48:21,799
Speaker 5: SHOCKING i said THAT i hadn't felt respected in a long,

1154
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:24,080
Speaker 5: time and this felt more like a friendship or roommates

1155
00:48:24,080 --> 00:48:27,320
Speaker 5: than it was a marriage. Anymore, yes it felt LIKE

1156
00:48:27,360 --> 00:48:29,759
Speaker 5: i was a safe option to hold on, to not

1157
00:48:29,880 --> 00:48:31,879
Speaker 5: out of, love but for safety and.

1158
00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:34,919
Speaker 3: Ease, Yes but if you want, safety ease and. Love,

1159
00:48:35,160 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 3: oh you can listen to full episodes with stories just like.

1160
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:41,240
Speaker 5: This just go To, Spotify Apple, podcasts or your favorite

1161
00:48:41,239 --> 00:48:44,319
Speaker 5: podcast app and. Search, okay story time. Easy so there's

1162
00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:46,520
Speaker 5: another relevant. Update let's go into.

1163
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 3: It let's go to.

1164
00:48:47,080 --> 00:48:49,160
Speaker 5: IT i thought about all the comments about the effects

1165
00:48:49,200 --> 00:48:52,040
Speaker 5: that continuation would have on my son and expressed as

1166
00:48:52,120 --> 00:48:55,160
Speaker 5: Much i'd felt walked over and, disrespecting AND i couldn't

1167
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:57,160
Speaker 5: raise my son that. WAY i could can't be the

1168
00:48:57,200 --> 00:48:58,960
Speaker 5: father he needs IF i am not the MAN i

1169
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:01,719
Speaker 5: should be left and started to get tiary before she,

1170
00:49:01,880 --> 00:49:04,239
Speaker 5: left WHICH i didn't. Expect that she had rarely shown

1171
00:49:04,280 --> 00:49:06,040
Speaker 5: much of a care the last TIME i half attempted

1172
00:49:06,080 --> 00:49:09,040
Speaker 5: to convey my feelings of a. Relationship so maybe she

1173
00:49:09,160 --> 00:49:11,360
Speaker 5: does care more THAN i, thought but not enough to

1174
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:12,399
Speaker 5: undo everything that's.

1175
00:49:12,440 --> 00:49:14,120
Speaker 3: Happened she has gone to sleep at her.

1176
00:49:14,160 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 5: PARENTS i am now alone in my house with my.

1177
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:17,920
Speaker 5: Son now everything will change is what it will be

1178
00:49:17,960 --> 00:49:20,000
Speaker 5: for the, better however long it. Takes i'm gonna try

1179
00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:20,360
Speaker 5: and get some.

1180
00:49:20,440 --> 00:49:23,439
Speaker 3: Sleep here's johni og. Host.

1181
00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:24,879
Speaker 1: Here we're gonna get back to the, stories but here's

1182
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:26,359
Speaker 1: a quick three minute break OF asthm form more.

1183
00:49:26,360 --> 00:49:30,280
Speaker 7: SPONSORS i finally. Left my husband is a fair. Partner

1184
00:49:30,480 --> 00:49:33,799
Speaker 7: exposed to, HIM i twenty six female have been with

1185
00:49:33,840 --> 00:49:37,239
Speaker 7: my husband twenty. Nine mel let's call Him kyle for seven,

1186
00:49:37,320 --> 00:49:38,640
Speaker 7: years Oh mary for.

1187
00:49:38,719 --> 00:49:39,839
Speaker 3: Four it's a long.

1188
00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:43,160
Speaker 7: One our relationship began as something too good to be.

1189
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:46,479
Speaker 7: True he was. Amazing it made my life so much.

1190
00:49:46,520 --> 00:49:49,640
Speaker 7: Brighter we were truly best friends from the. Start by the,

1191
00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:51,920
Speaker 7: way this comes From Casey June, july and if you

1192
00:49:51,920 --> 00:49:53,799
Speaker 7: want to spit your own, stories go to our slash

1193
00:49:53,800 --> 00:49:56,680
Speaker 7: showcase story Time. Subred so we moved in together after

1194
00:49:56,719 --> 00:49:59,600
Speaker 7: only three weeks of knowing each, other and we're in.

1195
00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:00,919
Speaker 3: Separate you move.

1196
00:50:01,080 --> 00:50:04,239
Speaker 7: Fast we were the couple people would, SAY i just

1197
00:50:04,280 --> 00:50:07,560
Speaker 7: want something like you And kyle YouTube were so perfect

1198
00:50:07,600 --> 00:50:07,879
Speaker 7: for each.

1199
00:50:07,920 --> 00:50:11,279
Speaker 8: Other sorry, sorry three Weeks, wow three weeks on that

1200
00:50:11,640 --> 00:50:15,239
Speaker 8: AND i agreed we weren't each other's typical, time and

1201
00:50:15,480 --> 00:50:18,400
Speaker 8: it felt like the universe brought us. TOGETHER a year

1202
00:50:18,440 --> 00:50:22,319
Speaker 8: and a half, later he planned an elaborate proposal and

1203
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:25,600
Speaker 8: we got engaged a year and a half. Later wow

1204
00:50:25,600 --> 00:50:26,719
Speaker 8: and just a year and a.

1205
00:50:26,800 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 3: Half, oh it was.

1206
00:50:29,120 --> 00:50:33,160
Speaker 7: MAGICAL i couldn't have planned anything more special and. Romantic

1207
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:35,600
Speaker 7: we set our wedding for a year and a half.

1208
00:50:35,680 --> 00:50:39,000
Speaker 7: Later after a, year we went on our bachelor slash

1209
00:50:39,080 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 7: bachelorette trips and we had our first fight after being

1210
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:44,760
Speaker 7: together for two and a half. Years to, me that's

1211
00:50:44,760 --> 00:50:47,960
Speaker 7: a red. Flag since my bachelorette party was a month before.

1212
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:52,080
Speaker 7: His he set some ground rules call every night when

1213
00:50:52,120 --> 00:50:54,120
Speaker 7: you get back to the, house and no hanging out

1214
00:50:54,160 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 7: at houses with men for me or women for. Him

1215
00:50:57,440 --> 00:51:01,600
Speaker 7: my bachelorette party went. Perfectly notions just a weekend at

1216
00:51:01,640 --> 00:51:04,800
Speaker 7: the beach with my, girls skipped to his bachelor, party

1217
00:51:05,360 --> 00:51:10,040
Speaker 7: and he disappears for six, hours no, calls no, texts

1218
00:51:10,719 --> 00:51:14,000
Speaker 7: and THEN i see one of his friend's social media

1219
00:51:14,040 --> 00:51:16,400
Speaker 7: posts that they were hanging out with a group of.

1220
00:51:16,520 --> 00:51:20,920
Speaker 7: Girls in the, Video kyle is standing really close to

1221
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:24,839
Speaker 7: a girl in a red. Bikini they were talking and

1222
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:26,160
Speaker 7: she is holding his.

1223
00:51:26,520 --> 00:51:28,400
Speaker 3: Phone oh in her. Hands.

1224
00:51:28,440 --> 00:51:33,440
Speaker 7: OH i tried calling and texting him and his friends

1225
00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:35,240
Speaker 7: for a few hours without.

1226
00:51:35,360 --> 00:51:38,480
Speaker 5: Response he said the ground rules included himself and then

1227
00:51:38,560 --> 00:51:39,279
Speaker 5: was the one who broke.

1228
00:51:39,360 --> 00:51:41,920
Speaker 7: Them WHEN i finally got in contact with, him he

1229
00:51:41,960 --> 00:51:46,319
Speaker 7: said his phone was inside charging and that he was

1230
00:51:46,320 --> 00:51:48,719
Speaker 7: wasted and didn't think hanging out with the girls would

1231
00:51:48,760 --> 00:51:50,840
Speaker 7: be an. Issue, yeah he he was just, wasted.

1232
00:51:50,920 --> 00:51:52,440
Speaker 3: Dude oh, okay my, Bet i'm not.

1233
00:51:52,600 --> 00:51:56,120
Speaker 7: STUPID i know he most likely cheated on, me BUT

1234
00:51:56,400 --> 00:51:57,920
Speaker 7: i chose to move.

1235
00:51:57,719 --> 00:51:59,640
Speaker 3: Forward with the was it cheating if you're? Wasted?

1236
00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:04,200
Speaker 7: Wow, yeah which was now only three months, away partly

1237
00:52:04,239 --> 00:52:07,320
Speaker 7: BECAUSE i loved him and knew i'd forgive him, eventually

1238
00:52:07,640 --> 00:52:10,280
Speaker 7: and partly because my parents had already spent a lot

1239
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:13,920
Speaker 7: of money on our. Wedding oh, okay our wedding was,

1240
00:52:13,960 --> 00:52:18,840
Speaker 7: beautiful a perfect. Day shortly after THE vid hit and

1241
00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:21,400
Speaker 7: we were stuck at, home unable to live our normal

1242
00:52:21,440 --> 00:52:24,719
Speaker 7: life of going and. Traveling nine months into, MARRIAGE i

1243
00:52:24,840 --> 00:52:29,000
Speaker 7: found out that he had created a fake social media.

1244
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:31,920
Speaker 7: ACCOUNT i say fake because it wasn't his main, profile

1245
00:52:32,320 --> 00:52:33,359
Speaker 7: but he used his real.

1246
00:52:33,440 --> 00:52:33,640
Speaker 3: Name.

1247
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:40,560
Speaker 7: Stupid he was following several, women including HIS. AX i

1248
00:52:40,640 --> 00:52:42,560
Speaker 7: made him pack his things and move out of our.

1249
00:52:42,560 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 3: House that's the thing that's your.

1250
00:52:46,239 --> 00:52:49,760
Speaker 5: Line not even you thinking he, cheated just him following

1251
00:52:49,760 --> 00:52:52,759
Speaker 5: his ax on a Fake instagram is your no to the.

1252
00:52:52,840 --> 00:52:57,440
Speaker 7: Relationship after being separated for three, WEEKS i found no

1253
00:52:57,520 --> 00:53:00,680
Speaker 7: evidence that he was actually contacting any of these. Women

1254
00:53:01,000 --> 00:53:03,319
Speaker 7: he promised he'd never do something like that, again AND

1255
00:53:03,360 --> 00:53:06,080
Speaker 7: i forgave. Him he moved back, in encouraged by my.

1256
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:10,120
Speaker 7: Family our relationship had never been. Better it felt, stronger

1257
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:13,200
Speaker 7: and we were more. Connected we bought our first house

1258
00:53:13,239 --> 00:53:15,759
Speaker 7: together after a year and a half, later and four

1259
00:53:15,800 --> 00:53:19,880
Speaker 7: months after moving, IN i found OUT i was. Pregnant

1260
00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:25,160
Speaker 7: this is where everything began to. Crumble. Now we did

1261
00:53:25,239 --> 00:53:28,759
Speaker 7: talk about me going off birth control and decided it

1262
00:53:28,800 --> 00:53:30,759
Speaker 7: was the right time to start trying for a. Baby

1263
00:53:30,800 --> 00:53:33,400
Speaker 7: but WHEN i told HIM i was, pregnant he didn't

1264
00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:37,120
Speaker 7: have the REACTION i thought he. Would, huh big. REASON

1265
00:53:37,160 --> 00:53:39,360
Speaker 7: i fell in love with this man BECAUSE i knew

1266
00:53:39,600 --> 00:53:42,560
Speaker 7: he'd be a great. Father he was amazing with other

1267
00:53:42,680 --> 00:53:44,920
Speaker 7: kids and always talked about wanting a family of his.

1268
00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:48,880
Speaker 7: Own he's a big kid at. Heart, dude this scares

1269
00:53:48,920 --> 00:53:51,000
Speaker 7: me BECAUSE i think of myself this. Way the way

1270
00:53:51,080 --> 00:53:52,879
Speaker 7: she just described to her, Partner i'm, like, dude that's.

1271
00:53:52,920 --> 00:53:54,439
Speaker 7: Me and Now i'm, like, oh he's about to do something.

1272
00:53:54,480 --> 00:53:56,920
Speaker 3: Horrible, well as long as you're not, HORRIBLE i think you're,

1273
00:53:57,000 --> 00:53:57,880
Speaker 3: unclear all.

1274
00:53:58,000 --> 00:54:02,399
Speaker 7: Right when it came to my, pregnancy he didn't want

1275
00:54:02,480 --> 00:54:05,960
Speaker 7: to talk about anything baby. Related he seemed to pretend

1276
00:54:05,960 --> 00:54:10,160
Speaker 7: the baby didn't. Exist he started going out more without

1277
00:54:10,200 --> 00:54:14,560
Speaker 7: me and planning more guy. TRIPS i didn't. Mind i'm

1278
00:54:14,560 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 7: more of a homebody and loved being at home nesting

1279
00:54:17,719 --> 00:54:20,120
Speaker 7: and preparing for the baby's. ARRIVAL i thought he was

1280
00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:23,200
Speaker 7: feeling overwhelmed by the life change and just needed time

1281
00:54:23,560 --> 00:54:26,320
Speaker 7: to let his hair. Down i'm not a jealous. PERSON

1282
00:54:26,680 --> 00:54:29,480
Speaker 7: i was very confident he wouldn't cheat on me because

1283
00:54:29,520 --> 00:54:30,480
Speaker 7: he's my best.

1284
00:54:30,520 --> 00:54:33,640
Speaker 3: Friend but you already assumed he cheated on. You but

1285
00:54:33,800 --> 00:54:36,480
Speaker 3: she found no, evidence but she still assumed. It but

1286
00:54:36,520 --> 00:54:38,280
Speaker 3: now she's LIKE i would never assume, that.

1287
00:54:38,280 --> 00:54:40,799
Speaker 7: And his friends would often talk about how lucky he

1288
00:54:40,960 --> 00:54:43,359
Speaker 7: was to have me as his. PARTNER i also Think

1289
00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:47,960
Speaker 7: i'm quite beautiful, brack but he'd. Be but he began

1290
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:49,880
Speaker 7: treating me more like a. Roommate.

1291
00:54:50,080 --> 00:54:51,560
Speaker 3: Oh we had a few.

1292
00:54:51,320 --> 00:54:54,279
Speaker 7: Small arguments in the past about him taking advantage of

1293
00:54:54,320 --> 00:54:58,600
Speaker 7: me cooking and cleaning for him without showing. Appreciation now

1294
00:54:59,120 --> 00:55:02,719
Speaker 7: he stopped taking me on dates and didn't ask IF

1295
00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:04,879
Speaker 7: i wanted to go with him and his friends when

1296
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:07,879
Speaker 7: they hung. Out this was shocking because we had been

1297
00:55:07,920 --> 00:55:12,759
Speaker 7: inseparable for the last five. Years three weeks, AGO i

1298
00:55:12,960 --> 00:55:16,560
Speaker 7: found out he cheated on me while on one of

1299
00:55:16,600 --> 00:55:17,759
Speaker 7: his boy trips last.

1300
00:55:17,760 --> 00:55:22,720
Speaker 3: Summer, oh do you think that's the first time he.

1301
00:55:22,800 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 7: Met a girl at a, bar bought her, drinks danced with,

1302
00:55:25,719 --> 00:55:28,480
Speaker 7: her and made. Out they even took a picture. Together

1303
00:55:29,000 --> 00:55:32,080
Speaker 7: they exchanged, numbers and the next, day when she found

1304
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:35,520
Speaker 7: out he was, married he blocked her on all of

1305
00:55:35,560 --> 00:55:38,680
Speaker 7: his social media's and her phone. Number this is HOW

1306
00:55:38,680 --> 00:55:41,400
Speaker 7: i found. Her two weeks BEFORE i discovered, THIS i

1307
00:55:41,440 --> 00:55:44,759
Speaker 7: had found his anonymous online profile and saw that he

1308
00:55:44,800 --> 00:55:49,520
Speaker 7: had been sending explicit. PHOTOS i confronted him and he,

1309
00:55:49,560 --> 00:55:50,759
Speaker 7: apologized saying he was.

1310
00:55:50,800 --> 00:55:53,480
Speaker 3: DEPRESSED i, heard that's actually what cures. Depression.

1311
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:57,319
Speaker 7: Really, YEAH i had already planned to leave and move

1312
00:55:57,360 --> 00:55:59,440
Speaker 7: in with my mom for a, while BUT i couldn't

1313
00:55:59,440 --> 00:56:03,000
Speaker 7: shake the field OR i was missing something like you.

1314
00:56:03,040 --> 00:56:06,759
Speaker 7: Said SO i checked his blocked account on social. MEDIA

1315
00:56:06,840 --> 00:56:08,520
Speaker 7: i thought it was. Strange there was a GIRL i

1316
00:56:08,560 --> 00:56:13,480
Speaker 7: didn't know on the, list SO i messaged. Her she spilled,

1317
00:56:13,760 --> 00:56:17,880
Speaker 7: everything even telling me that his friends had been lying for,

1318
00:56:18,000 --> 00:56:19,680
Speaker 7: him claiming he was.

1319
00:56:19,800 --> 00:56:24,120
Speaker 3: Single the friends are in on, it friends are in on.

1320
00:56:24,160 --> 00:56:26,600
Speaker 3: It you guys are just perfect. TOGETHER i love you guys.

1321
00:56:26,640 --> 00:56:29,360
Speaker 3: Together blah blah blah blah. Blah, Anyways yeah he's, single

1322
00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:32,960
Speaker 3: like he was a great. Guy oh, snakes.

1323
00:56:33,280 --> 00:56:38,120
Speaker 7: YEP i confronted, him and of course he said she was.

1324
00:56:38,239 --> 00:56:41,440
Speaker 7: LYING i left. Him, mom she's, lying so it's.

1325
00:56:41,480 --> 00:56:44,360
Speaker 3: Fine yeah, yeah, yeah, YEAH i was. Wasted she was.

1326
00:56:44,400 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 3: LYING i was. Depressed, yeah these all check? Out yeah, yeah, no.

1327
00:56:49,320 --> 00:56:53,000
Speaker 7: Excuses these are non, Excuses these are just real. Reason since,

1328
00:56:53,040 --> 00:56:54,719
Speaker 7: Then i've found out.

1329
00:56:54,760 --> 00:56:56,120
Speaker 3: More oh, no.

1330
00:56:56,080 --> 00:56:59,480
Speaker 7: Not as, danging but still. BEHAVIOR i wouldn't want my

1331
00:56:59,560 --> 00:57:03,200
Speaker 7: husband engaging in behind my. BACK i feel sick and

1332
00:57:03,239 --> 00:57:05,880
Speaker 7: devastated that he could do this to me and our.

1333
00:57:06,000 --> 00:57:10,160
Speaker 7: CHILD i did MENTION i was home alone for eight

1334
00:57:10,239 --> 00:57:13,200
Speaker 7: days with our five month old baby while he was

1335
00:57:13,239 --> 00:57:15,520
Speaker 7: on a trip making out with another. GIRL i feel

1336
00:57:15,560 --> 00:57:17,640
Speaker 7: LIKE i sacrificed so much of my happiness for this,

1337
00:57:17,720 --> 00:57:19,840
Speaker 7: man trying to make his life as happy as, possible

1338
00:57:20,120 --> 00:57:22,720
Speaker 7: and he gave it all up for. What LIKE i,

1339
00:57:22,760 --> 00:57:26,200
Speaker 7: Said i'm not. STUPID i know there are probably more

1340
00:57:26,240 --> 00:57:28,600
Speaker 7: instances of him, cheating BUT i don't want to. Know

1341
00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:31,080
Speaker 7: i'm already, done and we got a freaking.

1342
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:33,320
Speaker 5: Update well imagine the update is just maybe finding out

1343
00:57:33,320 --> 00:57:34,080
Speaker 5: more crap Than.

1344
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:35,960
Speaker 7: He's not sure if anyone will. Care BUT i found

1345
00:57:36,040 --> 00:57:38,440
Speaker 7: myself thinking about this post a lot and wanted to

1346
00:57:38,480 --> 00:57:41,720
Speaker 7: give an update posted here nine months ago about me

1347
00:57:41,840 --> 00:57:44,520
Speaker 7: leaving my. Husband the few first months were. HARD i

1348
00:57:44,560 --> 00:57:46,479
Speaker 7: tried to maintain a friendship with him for the sake

1349
00:57:46,520 --> 00:57:49,400
Speaker 7: of our, son but just found myself getting hurt over

1350
00:57:49,600 --> 00:57:53,280
Speaker 7: and over. Again SO i d insticed, myself and after a,

1351
00:57:53,360 --> 00:57:56,920
Speaker 7: WHILE i decided to get on a dating, app mostly

1352
00:57:57,320 --> 00:58:00,680
Speaker 7: to keep my mind off of. Him, INTERESTING i met

1353
00:58:00,720 --> 00:58:04,800
Speaker 7: someone and we connected. Instantly i'll call Him. Matt we

1354
00:58:04,880 --> 00:58:07,520
Speaker 7: texted and talked for a week before meeting in. PERSON

1355
00:58:07,920 --> 00:58:10,280
Speaker 7: i didn't think it would be. SERIOUS i just wanted

1356
00:58:10,280 --> 00:58:12,880
Speaker 7: to get out of the house and have some. Fun turns,

1357
00:58:12,920 --> 00:58:16,200
Speaker 7: out he's an amazing. Man, okay s GOT i. MET

1358
00:58:17,200 --> 00:58:18,640
Speaker 7: i didn't even know people like him.

1359
00:58:18,760 --> 00:58:19,200
Speaker 2: Existed.

1360
00:58:19,360 --> 00:58:22,280
Speaker 7: Aw he's sweet and, thoughtful makes me laugh UNTIL i can't.

1361
00:58:22,280 --> 00:58:27,120
Speaker 7: Breathe he's, understanding, supportive and actually listens to me WHEN i.

1362
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:30,480
Speaker 7: Talk he's a parent, too and he loves kids more than.

1363
00:58:30,520 --> 00:58:34,480
Speaker 7: ANYTHING i have been Dating matt for six, months AND

1364
00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:36,840
Speaker 7: i don't Think i've ever been this happy in my.

1365
00:58:36,920 --> 00:58:39,560
Speaker 7: LIFE i look back at my marriage With kyle in.

1366
00:58:39,680 --> 00:58:43,400
Speaker 7: Disbelief how DID i not notice how terrible he was

1367
00:58:43,840 --> 00:58:48,360
Speaker 7: for so. Long matt brings me flowers and surprises me

1368
00:58:48,640 --> 00:58:51,480
Speaker 7: with date nights and little, gifts just to show he

1369
00:58:51,600 --> 00:58:54,960
Speaker 7: was thinking about me when we aren't, together despite living

1370
00:58:55,000 --> 00:58:57,680
Speaker 7: an hour. Away he brings food to me and my

1371
00:58:57,760 --> 00:59:00,520
Speaker 7: son when we are. Sick If i'm having a, day

1372
00:59:00,760 --> 00:59:03,160
Speaker 7: he lets me talk his ear off and drops off

1373
00:59:03,200 --> 00:59:06,560
Speaker 7: my favorite sweets at my. House matten's this amazing cook

1374
00:59:06,640 --> 00:59:09,640
Speaker 7: and we trade off nights in the kitchen when it's

1375
00:59:09,680 --> 00:59:12,240
Speaker 7: my turn to. Cook he spends quality time with. Kids

1376
00:59:12,560 --> 00:59:15,920
Speaker 7: the laughter in the house is almost. Constant this is

1377
00:59:16,080 --> 00:59:18,800
Speaker 7: so far off from what my life was With. Kyle

1378
00:59:19,520 --> 00:59:22,120
Speaker 7: my ex only sees our son about four days a

1379
00:59:22,200 --> 00:59:25,560
Speaker 7: month and is constantly finding excuses to leave him with

1380
00:59:25,680 --> 00:59:28,040
Speaker 7: me or drop him off with his grandparents for the.

1381
00:59:28,040 --> 00:59:31,360
Speaker 7: Weekend being a man who loves his kids and mine

1382
00:59:31,440 --> 00:59:33,360
Speaker 7: has really opened my eyes to what kind of a

1383
00:59:33,400 --> 00:59:36,360
Speaker 7: Father kyle. Is matt AND i don't live, together he

1384
00:59:36,440 --> 00:59:38,680
Speaker 7: spends a lot of time at my house because my

1385
00:59:38,760 --> 00:59:41,720
Speaker 7: home is, bigger it accommodates all of us better than his,

1386
00:59:41,800 --> 00:59:45,520
Speaker 7: house AND i have my son almost every day despite

1387
00:59:45,560 --> 00:59:49,040
Speaker 7: not living with. Me he helps, clean does, laundry helps

1388
00:59:49,040 --> 00:59:51,840
Speaker 7: fix things around the. House he always comments THAT i

1389
00:59:51,960 --> 00:59:55,400
Speaker 7: don't let him do, enough but he's more for me

1390
00:59:55,640 --> 00:59:58,800
Speaker 7: than anyone has been in my. Life he picks me

1391
00:59:58,920 --> 01:00:01,880
Speaker 7: up and takes on so so much that he doesn't have,

1392
01:00:01,960 --> 01:00:04,200
Speaker 7: to but he does it with a smile on his.

1393
01:00:04,280 --> 01:00:07,200
Speaker 7: Face he never lets a day pass without telling me how.

1394
01:00:07,280 --> 01:00:10,080
Speaker 7: Much he loves me and appreciates, me and we would

1395
01:00:10,120 --> 01:00:11,880
Speaker 7: love and appreciate you if you go to your favorite

1396
01:00:11,920 --> 01:00:16,480
Speaker 7: podcast platform and search up What alex search? Up, okay

1397
01:00:16,720 --> 01:00:18,640
Speaker 7: story time and what platforms could they go?

1398
01:00:18,720 --> 01:00:18,800
Speaker 4: To?

1399
01:00:19,040 --> 01:00:23,440
Speaker 3: Apple spotify your favorite podcast? Platform and how many stories

1400
01:00:23,480 --> 01:00:25,560
Speaker 3: like this do we? Have like a crap ton.

1401
01:00:25,840 --> 01:00:28,440
Speaker 7: EXACTLY i have learned from my past and won't be

1402
01:00:28,560 --> 01:00:29,920
Speaker 7: moving in with anyone anytime.

1403
01:00:29,960 --> 01:00:34,800
Speaker 5: Soon, Okay, okay she's learning right. Learning, okay we can trust.

1404
01:00:34,600 --> 01:00:35,040
Speaker 3: Her a little.

1405
01:00:35,040 --> 01:00:38,800
Speaker 7: MORE i was fooled, once but that won't happen. Again

1406
01:00:39,240 --> 01:00:41,720
Speaker 7: Neither matt OR i want any more. Kids we are

1407
01:00:41,760 --> 01:00:44,120
Speaker 7: so happy with the way our life is. Now no,

1408
01:00:44,240 --> 01:00:48,880
Speaker 7: pressure just living our lives happily alongside each other with our. Kids,

1409
01:00:49,040 --> 01:00:50,480
Speaker 7: okay no, pressure no.

1410
01:00:50,560 --> 01:00:51,400
Speaker 3: Pressure we're looking.

1411
01:00:51,400 --> 01:00:54,400
Speaker 7: Good to everyone out there who hopes your partner will

1412
01:00:54,480 --> 01:00:58,000
Speaker 7: change or grow, up they won't and most likely never

1413
01:00:58,040 --> 01:01:01,080
Speaker 7: will find someone who makes you hap because they want,

1414
01:01:01,120 --> 01:01:04,480
Speaker 7: to not because you're begging Into there were good people out,

1415
01:01:04,480 --> 01:01:05,600
Speaker 7: there and that is the.

1416
01:01:05,680 --> 01:01:05,840
Speaker 4: End