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Speaker 1: Anyway to the story, My first job was a small

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Speaker 1: and I was hired by a big company Oh, you know,

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Speaker 3: Oh, we love big company. I like niche industry.

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Speaker 1: I like working at big company. The employees are amazing

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Speaker 1: While working. The first six months, I felt no pain

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Speaker 3: I'm glad that you felt no pain in your back.

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Speaker 1: The thing is, though, you keep emphasizing that you felt

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Speaker 1: Oh maybe not that.

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Speaker 3: I feel like that's what we're saying.

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Speaker 1: Through the next hour of lifting and pulling, my back

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Speaker 1: The next morning, I wake up and ask my mom

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Speaker 1: I don't think so. I think it's something. I think

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Speaker 3: Op, that's what you need. A giant robot try to

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Speaker 3: did you really get that fixed?

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Speaker 1: It's not a freaking competition what it is. I just

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Speaker 1: I just need to know if I'm in the wrong here.

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Speaker 1: Your pain is valid. I also endure chronic pain and

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Speaker 3: No, not the a whole at all. Yeah, it sucks

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Speaker 1: I think it's kind of ridiculous that you're supporting your

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Speaker 1: I would I would hope that you could bomb. I mean,

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Speaker 1: Mine? Mindful worm Peasant says, I have chronic fleur pain.

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Speaker 1: And they were like, oh, you're fine, and I was like, no.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's the bare minimum of simple.

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Speaker 1: Bibe Mean says, that's horrible. Opi is turning to her mom.

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Speaker 3: You think I'll spend time with my little sister, you idiot.

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Speaker 3: Did you play Pokemon Go ever? Yeah? I played?

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Speaker 4: Right, Okay, oh wow, okay, Okay, I'm gonna make a decision.

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Speaker 3: Well, he politely declined. Op politely declined and didn't get

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Speaker 4: Why are you throwing a wrench in my decisions over here?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, bro, I'm just I'm just wrenching up. Call me

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Speaker 4: I guess they didn't want to bring the sister because

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Speaker 4: Of that didn't make Why would you leave him on

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's a kind of bullshit. But please

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Speaker 3: quick you know, oh god, you know five dollars, ten

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Speaker 4: So tell us what color thong you won in the

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Speaker 3: I got it.

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Speaker 2: This ex girlfriend broke up with me after she caused

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Speaker 3: Okay, OPI, this is okayo B I'm sayingle donner. No,

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Speaker 1: And and and and and and.

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Speaker 3: And and and and and and and and and and

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Speaker 4: Ready because here we go.

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Speaker 3: All right, we got a story that we're gonna be cruising,

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Speaker 3: And I got a story for you, John, I am ready.

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Speaker 2: Ex girlfriend broke up with me after she caused me

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Speaker 4: You know, just just two reasonable people doing reasonable things.

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Speaker 3: Yes, isn't that redditch? Just reasonable people interacting.

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Speaker 4: Like picking up an apple at the grocery store. You know,

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Speaker 3: It's clear she wants to connect, but I don't think

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Speaker 3: this is what I want. Should I talk to her?

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Speaker 3: What do you think? John? No, don't talk to her.

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Speaker 3: She broke up with you about your leg, dude.

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Speaker 4: She's clear like something is wrong with her, and for

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Speaker 4: god knows what reason. Now that he's back with a leg,

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Speaker 4: she's like wanting to run back there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, if you can't take me with one leg,

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Speaker 3: you don't deserve me at two mm. Yeah take that,

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