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Speaker 3: My aunt called the authorities on me after trying to

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Speaker 3: steal my late uncle's estate officer.

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Speaker 2: He won't let me take this from him.

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Speaker 3: Trigger warning for child. My family has been toxic since

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Speaker 3: long before I, fifty two female was ever born. I

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Speaker 3: was the first of my generation and my mother was

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Speaker 3: the golden child. When she had me, my mother went

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Speaker 3: full pearl clutching thing of the children and demanded everything,

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Speaker 3: and the family changed to be family friendly since she

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Speaker 3: was grandma's sweet baby, golden child of perfection who always

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Speaker 3: got everything she wanted. She got away with everything. By

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Speaker 3: the way, this comes from venting Machine Time and if

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Speaker 3: r slash Okay Storytime suppered it.

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Speaker 2: I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota.

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Speaker 4: I'm Carly, and we're here to give good advice goofully,

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Speaker 4: but we don't have all the answers. Rely know what

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Speaker 4: we'd do, so let us know what you would do

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Speaker 4: in the comments, and Opie says nobody ever came for

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Speaker 4: her because Grandma ruled with an iron fist and that

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Speaker 4: was her perfect, sweet baby, golden child, so they hated

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Speaker 4: and resented me the baby.

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Speaker 3: Instead. You're like, well, I can't do anything about oh

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Speaker 3: Pee's mom, but oh p Hee's just a little baby.

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Speaker 5: But I can do something about this stupid little baby dude.

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Speaker 3: That's literally the plot of Hercules.

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Speaker 5: Who put the glad Gladiator h To say this was

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Speaker 5: deeply confusing and hurtful.

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Speaker 3: As I grew up would be mild. You might ask

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Speaker 3: why my mother, who had power in the family, didn't

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Speaker 3: stand up for me. She never wanted me. Oh I

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Speaker 3: was a baby trap gone wrong that left her with

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Speaker 3: a kid who had needs and no rich husband of

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Speaker 3: her dreams. He bailed. She was stuck with a kid

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Speaker 3: she never wanted, who served only to remind her of

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Speaker 3: her failures and suck up resources she didn't want to

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Speaker 3: spend on a barfing brat. One of her fis favorite

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Speaker 3: things to call me. Even though I have a cast

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Speaker 3: iron stomach and almost never throw up, I never throw up,

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Speaker 5: My stomachs may out of the same stuff they put

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Speaker 3: So he goes, mmmm, No, I don't throw.

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Speaker 2: I could swallow an entire live cannon ball.

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Speaker 3: At least that's what she told me whenever I wanted

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Speaker 3: anything like attention, food, clothes, or basic human respect. You

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Speaker 3: get the idea. I had two irresponsible parents and was

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Speaker 3: stuck living with one of them, my uncle Tommy, not

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Speaker 3: his real name, was the other, hated scapegoat to the family.

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Speaker 3: Why he was my sweet baby, golden child, perfect mother's

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Speaker 3: bad seed twin. He was attracted the same gender. He

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Speaker 3: didn't go to college, became a heavy equipment mechanic. He

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Speaker 3: him back in the fifties when he was an altar boy.

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Speaker 3: He ruined the family. He brought disgrace on them. He's

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Speaker 3: going to heck blah blah. You can connect all these

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Speaker 3: be saintly while using religion as a weapon. Uncle Tommy

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Speaker 3: passed away in July. We were close. He's really the

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Speaker 3: only one in the family I was close with because

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Speaker 3: he's the only one who didn't hate me for existing

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Speaker 3: and ruining everything. He's the one who took me to

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Speaker 3: college orientation, showed up to my debate tournaments and school plays,

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Speaker 3: and I was devastated at his loss. He also left

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Speaker 3: me everything. I've spent the last couple of months dealing

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Speaker 3: with all the estate stuff. It's been endless paperwork, logistics,

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Speaker 3: and all that. He didn't have a lot in the

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Speaker 3: way of assets, but he had a house, some retirement accounts,

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Speaker 3: the family came to his funeral. He passed away right

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Speaker 3: before a cousin's kid's wedding. Everybody was going to that

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Speaker 3: Tommy's funeral because they couldn't pass. They traveled two weekends

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Speaker 3: in a row, miss more work or care about. The

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Speaker 3: out of good standing with their beloved church. We had

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Speaker 3: a good turnout of his friends, former coworkers, and local community.

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Speaker 3: I was the only family there. I did make sure

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Speaker 3: I hadn't talked to in a solid decade or more.

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Speaker 3: Cut to this morning, the biggest busybody of an aunt

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Speaker 3: gave me a call using a number I'd never seen before.

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Speaker 3: We'll call her Aunt Sally. Aunt Sally is the kind

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Speaker 3: of lady who will tell you to your face that

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Speaker 3: you're going a heck, and that she's saying it for

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Speaker 3: your own good, so you have time to repent for

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Speaker 3: whatever imagined sins she thinks you've committed. She hasn't contacted

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Speaker 3: me in over a decade since my mother passed away.

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Speaker 3: She decided she should inherit my mother's estate and be

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Speaker 3: in charge of everything because her younger sister passing away

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Speaker 3: was harder for her than for me, since she'd known

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Speaker 3: her longer. She said, my mother never liked or wanted

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Speaker 3: me anyway, so how could I be all that upset? Yes,

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Speaker 3: she said all of this to my face, including the

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Speaker 3: immortal line, You are just a mistake that got out

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Speaker 3: of hand. Anyway. You were never family. You don't even

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Speaker 3: have a father. How religious of you, how saintly?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's always the most pious who can spit the

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's so kind of you to say, Aunt Wow,

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Speaker 3: I'm sure love that in heaven.

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Speaker 6: She's a woman of Christ, but she sports the fans

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Speaker 6: of a viper.

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Speaker 3: You can connect the dots as to why I blocked

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Speaker 3: her on everything and why we went a decade without contact.

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Speaker 5: I should have said serpent, Yeah, that was the thematically

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Speaker 5: correct snake reference.

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Speaker 2: You were grace it.

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Speaker 3: No, Aunt Sally didn't rest control of my mother's estate,

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Speaker 3: although she did try to get the body moved to

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Speaker 3: a different funeral home so she could take control. She's like,

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Speaker 3: I want control of the body. I want the body.

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Speaker 7: The body is mine.

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Speaker 3: The body is mine.

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Speaker 2: What are you gonna do?

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Speaker 5: The body is She hit a large depositive gold within him.

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Speaker 3: If you find where the body is buried on cover

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Speaker 3: of my treasure, I.

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Speaker 6: Kept my gold behind his liver.

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Speaker 3: Police got involved. I have the report in a box

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Speaker 3: in the garage somewhere. She also filed a few requests

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Speaker 3: for payment from my mother's estate involving cocktail napkins that

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Speaker 3: supposedly were debt markers. One involved a restaurant that hadn't

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Speaker 3: was expensive to handle but went nowhere. Now Aunt Sally

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Speaker 3: is demanding Uncle Tommy's estate. She's like, well, if you

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Speaker 3: won't give your mother's, I want the other one, and

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Speaker 3: then we'll.

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Speaker 2: Call it even and we'll call that a day, say.

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Speaker 3: Good night, specifically demanding several family heirlooms he'd been in

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Speaker 3: possession of at the time of his passing that my

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Speaker 3: grandfather left him back in nineteen ninety six. She's insisting,

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Speaker 3: I'm not family, have no right to inherit anything, especially

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Speaker 3: not the heirlooms, and actually said something but DNA testing

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Speaker 3: me in spite of there being actual film of my birth, I.

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Speaker 5: Think even if say all of that is true, you're

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Speaker 3: She even if she could somehow prove that you weren't

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Speaker 3: related to any of these people, it doesn't matter. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: because you're in the will.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I guess unless you could prove that, like you

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Speaker 5: made like a concerted effort to conspire and fool your

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Speaker 2: You're on the paperwork. What does she expect to gain

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Speaker 3: Like and I would have gotten your uncle Tommy's estate,

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Speaker 3: but weren't for you meddling kids. She accused me of

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Speaker 3: embezzlement and theft of elder abuse, of forging documents. She

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Speaker 3: admitted she knows it's nonsense, but she doesn't care. She's

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Speaker 3: insisting she will get everything she wants via a settlement

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Speaker 3: or nobody well, because she can drag this out in

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Speaker 3: court forever, even without a lawyer, just by filing endless

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Speaker 3: crazy stuff, not how she phrased it.

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Speaker 5: Did you get evidence of her saying that, yeah, do

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Speaker 5: you have that in right? Great if you could have

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Speaker 5: a recording of that, But if.

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Speaker 3: I condense the frothing into words that make marginal sense

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Speaker 3: together in a sentence. About an hour after I hung

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Speaker 3: a wellness check. They were very nice about it, but

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Speaker 3: wouldn't tell me anything about who called it in. I

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Speaker 3: asked for a report as I was having an estate

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Speaker 3: related family conflict. The police then got even nicer and apologized,

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Speaker 3: saying this sort of thing happens around passing in families

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Speaker 3: more than most people realize grief makes normal people do

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Speaker 3: wild things, and unhinged people even wilder ones. I've called

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Speaker 3: the estate lawyer who says she has zero grounds for anything.

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Speaker 3: The will was updated right after my mother passed a

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Speaker 3: decade ago. It's ironclad. All his siblings were left nominal

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Speaker 3: amounts and random chochkeys to prevent them from being able

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Speaker 3: to contest anything. One of the random chochkeys is a

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Speaker 3: little figurine of a cat flipping the bird. Uncle Tommy

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Speaker 3: was a lot of fun.

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Speaker 2: It would a baller way to just like leave.

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Speaker 3: He's like someone and to my sister, this cat flipping

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Speaker 3: you off.

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Speaker 5: This cat to whom's visit always reminded me of your

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Speaker 2: Something like that.

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Speaker 3: You look at this every morning and think of me

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Speaker 3: flipping you off. Yes, from wherever I am.

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Speaker 2: And here's three hundred and twenty four dollars.

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Speaker 3: The problem is any person can file anything they want.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to have to reply to it professionally, pay

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Speaker 3: the lawyer for every bit of nonsense, take days off

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Speaker 3: work to go to court, and feel like Aunt Sally

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Speaker 3: has once again had her claws on me, and there's

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Speaker 3: nothing I can do but wait for her to let go. Well,

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Speaker 3: I feel like she's going to run out of money

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Speaker 3: sooner than you are, seeing how she really wants those estates.

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Speaker 3: But there is a little bit left to this story.

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Speaker 3: Any final thoughts.

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Speaker 2: I just think it's funny that she's like, and I

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Speaker 2: could do.

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Speaker 6: This forever, even without a lawyer, because I'll just come

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Speaker 6: up with even more fanciful.

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Speaker 2: Lies about you. Yeah, it's like she just goes to

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Speaker 2: court and she's trying to.

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Speaker 3: Like does it every weekend.

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Speaker 6: She's like, actually, oh, Pie's a space alien here to

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Speaker 6: invade and steal our brains.

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Speaker 3: I'll Pie one time trip me with a banana. She

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Speaker 3: put a banana and I s like, comically yes.

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Speaker 6: And also I was playing Mariocott and saw that that's

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Speaker 6: also in there, so she stole that. She plagiarized Mariocott on.

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Speaker 5: Me in real life. And then the clerk is just like, Tammy,

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Speaker 5: we told you you can't come.

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Speaker 3: Back, Jimmy. You really can't keep doing.

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Speaker 2: This, Cammy.

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Speaker 3: The goal isn't justice, it's peace. They already stole enough

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Speaker 5: My aunt bricked my phone just to teach me a lesson,

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Speaker 3: Sit she did what to your phone?

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Speaker 5: Trigger warning emotional and verbal abuse for starters. I'm twenty

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Speaker 2: Ago in a galaxy far far away.

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Speaker 5: My parents passed away when I was younger, and I

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Speaker 2: We shall call her, No, we won't. We're gonna call

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Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from user aquatic Kickcat, and

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Speaker 2: I'm Subrendit, I'm Dakota.

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Speaker 3: I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, and we're here.

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Speaker 2: To give you good advice. Goofily, but we don't have

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Speaker 5: She got mad at me, asking why I didn't do

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Speaker 3: Also, she's stupid because you could just reset the computer.

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Speaker 5: and said, I'm buying into nothing I can do here.

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Speaker 5: Junior Year, twenty fifteen sixteen. I wanted to go home

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Speaker 3: Like, is your aunt Superman?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Is your aunt spider Man before he learns how to

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Speaker 5: She broke them like wires, ripped apart, broken. After the visit,

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, now we're at Aunt two, whose name is Brock.

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Speaker 5: Aunt two, who will henceforth be known as Brock, told

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Speaker 5: The only reason I even got a phone was because

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Speaker 5: I didn't get a smartphone until three years ago after

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Speaker 5: I lost my flip phone again, like it was right

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Speaker 2: They actually have these.

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Speaker 3: Pretty handy things where you called a find my iPhone.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, they have you can track them, so Opie continues, Lady,

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Speaker 5: it's a smartphone. I had an iPod Touch at the time,

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Speaker 3: That was probably an accident. She probably forgot the past words.

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Speaker 5: She probably just forgot the password for that, and then

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Speaker 5: I knew my ride wasn't going to arrive for like another.

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Speaker 5: Patricia flipped out when I asked if I could make pasta,

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Speaker 2: An a whole move on my part, probably what I

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Speaker 3: I thought she was gonna break the bag of the

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Speaker 2: She's gonna throw the pasta on the ground. It's gonna

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Speaker 3: And then she's covered in sauce. Who is this lady?

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Speaker 3: I think I think your aunt is the Hulk.

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Speaker 2: She's walking out. Ah, that's my secret cap taking. I'm

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Speaker 5: And now the current events and the reason I'm making

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Speaker 5: strap in for current events. So I'm staying with her

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Speaker 5: like I'm still a teenager and not a twenty six

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Speaker 5: I plan to just stay home because I go out

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Speaker 2: She got mad.

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Speaker 5: We got into an argument, and then she told me,

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Speaker 5: Brock pays for my phone bill with my inheritance money.

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Speaker 2: I called her bluff. She was not bluffing.

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Speaker 2: It was bricked. I was fuorious.

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Speaker 5: I vented about it nearly all day in the program.

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Speaker 5: My case manager there and the program director called and

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Speaker 5: tried explaining to her that I can't have my phone bricked.

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Speaker 5: I came home before her, and she was on the

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Speaker 5: being immature and said, this is your consequence. This is

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Speaker 5: Like make up your mind? Like she has an in

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Speaker 2: So yeah, pick one.

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Speaker 3: It's confusing, like because they keep demanding this independence but

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is terrible.

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Speaker 3: It's like incredibly controlling.

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Speaker 5: I tried to stay calm, I really did, but I

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Speaker 2: Shoes at the wall.

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Speaker 5: I was crying hard. I already had a crappy day,

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Speaker 5: and they just made it worse. My fault for thinking

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Speaker 5: I called nine eight eight immediately and spilled everything there.

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Speaker 5: But now I'm second guessing whether I overreacted to my

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Speaker 2: So Reddit, am I the a hole? No?

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Speaker 3: I mean you're in a really, really hard situation in

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Speaker 3: there everything, So like the fact that they are pushing

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Speaker 5: willing to answer them. Are they taking care of you

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Speaker 5: because they have a legal obligation to do so? Are

443
00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:11,080
Speaker 5: they getting paid to do so? Why are they letting

444
00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:14,480
Speaker 5: you stay with them? They Aunt Patricia doesn't seem to

445
00:20:14,600 --> 00:20:17,760
Speaker 5: care for you or your issues. Do you have means

446
00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:20,520
Speaker 5: of taking care of yourself, like a job, income, et cetera.

447
00:20:20,720 --> 00:20:23,320
Speaker 5: Or do you rely on Patricia to provide for your

448
00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:25,600
Speaker 5: needs at least while you stay with them. Are the

449
00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:29,560
Speaker 5: home care providers you're referring to, Aunt Brock or someone

450
00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:33,199
Speaker 5: else that might hold conservatorship? Opie replies, I have no

451
00:20:33,320 --> 00:20:35,400
Speaker 5: idea if they're getting paid to do this. Since both

452
00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:38,959
Speaker 5: my aunts can serve me, Patricia is the closest to

453
00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:43,480
Speaker 5: my therapy program as it's in the same county, while

454
00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:46,080
Speaker 5: Brock lives more inland and takes a lot longer to

455
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Speaker 5: get to my therapy program.

456
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Speaker 2: I actually barely know the.

457
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Speaker 5: Terms of my conservatorship other than finances and estate. I'm

458
00:20:53,119 --> 00:20:56,639
Speaker 5: currently unemployed, but I have inheritance my parents left me.

459
00:20:57,000 --> 00:20:58,879
Speaker 5: None of us know how much is left, though I

460
00:20:58,920 --> 00:21:00,879
Speaker 5: believe both my aunts are lying.

461
00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:04,960
Speaker 2: Yeah they are. I know they know she is left.

462
00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:07,960
Speaker 3: Absolutely, they know. There's no way that they couldn't know.

463
00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:10,840
Speaker 3: In the fact that you don't know how much inheritance

464
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Speaker 3: you have, they are so manipulative and I'm sorry the

465
00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:17,359
Speaker 3: amount of things that your aunt has broken just to

466
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Speaker 3: waste your freaking inheritance.

467
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Speaker 5: Yeah, they stealing all your money. Yeah, they're stealing your money.

468
00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:24,119
Speaker 5: Anyone who's supposed to be in charge of all of

469
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Speaker 5: your money and then tells you, I don't know how

470
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Speaker 5: much is left.

471
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Speaker 2: They're stealing your money.

472
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

473
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Speaker 2: They keep calling it.

474
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Speaker 5: My parents' money, but they left it for me, and

475
00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:35,120
Speaker 5: you're using it to pay for my stuff, So you're

476
00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:37,560
Speaker 5: using my money to pay for whatever bills I have.

477
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Speaker 5: The home care providers are through a different program called

478
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Speaker 5: Community Support Solutions. Supposedly it's supposed to help me be independent,

479
00:21:44,600 --> 00:21:47,240
Speaker 5: but from what I've seen, it doesn't work. I regularly

480
00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:49,320
Speaker 5: get told that I'll never be independent since I can't

481
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Speaker 5: keep my room clean and I overreact and all of

482
00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:54,399
Speaker 5: my depression, anxiety, sensory issues and stress are all in

483
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Speaker 5: my head.

484
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Speaker 3: Well, yes, it does. It make them not mean technically

485
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Speaker 3: they are all that's exactly your head, Yes, just like

486
00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:04,960
Speaker 3: your brain. Sorry, my blood's all my body. What does

487
00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:05,320
Speaker 3: that mean?

488
00:22:06,680 --> 00:22:09,640
Speaker 2: Your blood's all in your body? You could get blood disease.

489
00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:11,160
Speaker 3: Doesn't make any sense.

490
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Speaker 5: I know there's another program that lets me live independently

491
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Speaker 5: while helping me find a job and provides me with

492
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Speaker 5: a life coach to help with that if I ever need,

493
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Speaker 5: and to check up on me to make sure I'm

494
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Speaker 5: safe and folks, that's the end of that story.

495
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Speaker 2: John.

496
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Speaker 1: Here, we're gonna get back to this juicy story, but

497
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Speaker 1: a quick three minute break of ads from our sponsors.

498
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Speaker 7: My girlfriend is buying a crazy amount of lingerie. Now

499
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Speaker 7: I'm getting suspicious.

500
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Speaker 5: Uh, maybe she just really likes photos.

501
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Speaker 6: Shoot, yeah, she's.

502
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Speaker 2: Starting a new side hustle.

503
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Speaker 7: Over the last two and a half weeks, my twenty

504
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Speaker 7: four male girlfriend twenty four female has bought close to

505
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Speaker 7: nine new pairs of lingerie. This is unusual because she

506
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Speaker 7: bought seven new pairs somewhere.

507
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Speaker 3: At the beginning of April.

508
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Speaker 7: Now, I don't mind a girl buying new lingerie, but

509
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 7: this is unusual. She had close to forty new pairs

510
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Speaker 7: of lingerie account that keeps decreasing.

511
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Speaker 3: Every other day.

512
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Speaker 7: By the way, this comes from Throwaway for May fifteen.

513
00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:23,480
Speaker 7: And if you want to submit your own stories, go

514
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Speaker 7: to the r slash Okay storytime subreddit. I'm Carly, I'm Dakota,

515
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Speaker 7: I'm Keon, and we're here to give good advice Goofily,

516
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Speaker 7: but we don't have all the answers. We only know

517
00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:35,000
Speaker 7: what we would do, So let us know what you

518
00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:38,600
Speaker 7: would do in the comments. And Opie says, I take

519
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Speaker 7: out the trash every day, and I've noticed that she

520
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Speaker 7: hasn't thrown her old lingree in the trash for the

521
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Speaker 7: past week, while there's no trace of it anywhere in

522
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Speaker 7: our apartment, and yet she's missing four to five pairs

523
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Speaker 7: from our shared closet. She has been acting pretty normal,

524
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Speaker 7: with no change in her daily routine. But it boggles

525
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Speaker 7: me why she is on this lingerie shopping spree. It's

526
00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 7: not like she's amassing a stockpile of lingerie. Her total

527
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:09,680
Speaker 7: count is roughly the same as before all this started.

528
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:13,399
Speaker 7: I couldn't find any trace of her old lingerie. Am

529
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:17,840
Speaker 7: I being paranoid? Am I missing something feminine that's otherwise normal?

530
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:22,080
Speaker 7: Should I ask her about it? Editors note Karen is

531
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:25,880
Speaker 7: girlfriend's older sister. We have an update. I guess I'll

532
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:26,640
Speaker 7: just dive into this.

533
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Speaker 5: Yeah, dive into this economic report because it's gonna be

534
00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:32,600
Speaker 5: telling us how much money she's making selling them.

535
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Speaker 7: I might ask her while we drive down to the

536
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Speaker 7: train station in the next thirty minutes. I'll keep you

537
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Speaker 7: guys posted. Update two. All right, I chatted with her

538
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Speaker 7: while driving. I started off by asking her directly, as

539
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Speaker 7: fight max Master suggested. She said something like she hasn't

540
00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:53,720
Speaker 7: been feeling good about her underwear fitting old and new

541
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Speaker 7: while at work, so she's taken a new vow if

542
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Speaker 7: she finds any underwear incredibly uncomforta she'll throw it away immediately.

543
00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:04,800
Speaker 7: I asked her about not seeing any in our trash,

544
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 7: keeping a casual tone, and she said, since we spend

545
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:11,880
Speaker 7: most of our daytime at work, she disposes of them

546
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:15,679
Speaker 7: in her workplace bin and carries a spare pair of

547
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Speaker 7: underwear like most women do.

548
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Speaker 8: Uh.

549
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Speaker 7: I even joked, Oh, I was worried you were selling

550
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Speaker 7: your undies on eBay or something, just to get some

551
00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:29,200
Speaker 7: kind of reaction, and she ewde my remark. Do women

552
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 7: really do that at work? Get rid of their old

553
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 7: underwear when they find it uncomfortable? I could really use

554
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 7: some insight on this, to be honest. We moved in

555
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:40,679
Speaker 7: together at the beginning of this year, and this is

556
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,760
Speaker 7: my first time living with a girl in a relationship.

557
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Speaker 7: I don't know what else I could do since she's

558
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:49,679
Speaker 7: made it clear she tosses them at work and hasn't

559
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Speaker 7: shown any signs of doing something spicy related or selling

560
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Speaker 7: them online. I tried to make this conversation as casual

561
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Speaker 7: and curious as possible. Update three, This is way too overwhelming.

562
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Speaker 7: I'm heading back home and taking a day off. I

563
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:08,439
Speaker 7: know I might be overreacting, but somehow the conversation we

564
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 7: had an hour ago just doesn't sound right. I might

565
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:15,959
Speaker 7: talk to her again during her lunch break have another update. Seriously, guys,

566
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 7: thank you. I've been glued to my phone all morning,

567
00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:22,120
Speaker 7: except while driving back home. It took me a lot

568
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Speaker 7: of convincing to piece together clues that my girlfriend might

569
00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 7: actually be selling her underwear online. Back home, we have

570
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:32,240
Speaker 7: a place to store open mail, receipts, bills, and other

571
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Speaker 7: important documents except for our social and personal stuff. There

572
00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 7: were six receipts in total, two from a fancy under

573
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Speaker 7: a brand, three from a casual chain store, and one

574
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Speaker 7: from a department store chain. Based on my account, she's

575
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Speaker 7: bought around twenty eight to thirty pairs of new Lingerie,

576
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Speaker 7: including the ones from early April. Two receipts had Karen's

577
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Speaker 7: name on them. Found Karen, Guys, we found Karen, my

578
00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:03,040
Speaker 7: girlfriend's older sister.

579
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Speaker 3: You put it in the middle.

580
00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:06,480
Speaker 2: Though, why we need the other note we found her.

581
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Speaker 7: I believe Karen has some kind of rewards card from

582
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Speaker 7: the first place, which accounts for about forty percent of

583
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Speaker 7: these purchases. Until now, I thought she'd only bought around

584
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:20,000
Speaker 7: fifteen pairs. I don't want to invade her privacy by

585
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:23,480
Speaker 7: checking her bank statements, because that feels like crossing a line.

586
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:27,080
Speaker 7: But I can't believe she's spent over eleven hundred on

587
00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:29,719
Speaker 7: lingerie in the past forty five days.

588
00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:32,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, but how much is the return on investment?

589
00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:35,480
Speaker 7: That's what I'm confused, Like, are we do you not

590
00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 7: like that she might be selling it online?

591
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:39,359
Speaker 2: Or do you just really.

592
00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:41,800
Speaker 7: Want to know that she is, Like is it just

593
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:44,720
Speaker 7: the unknown or is it like I really don't like

594
00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 7: that she sells.

595
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Speaker 5: Appreciate knowing that about Well, I think it's totally fair

596
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:49,240
Speaker 5: to know that.

597
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Speaker 7: I'm just wondering if it's because he's like I don't

598
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:54,760
Speaker 7: want her doing that, or if it's just like I

599
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 7: just want to know.

600
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Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean if you kept buying lingerie, Like if

601
00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:03,639
Speaker 8: you bought twenty to thirty pairs of lingerie within a

602
00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:06,359
Speaker 8: span of two months, I too would be kind of concerned.

603
00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:08,160
Speaker 7: And like track my drawers.

604
00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:09,920
Speaker 8: No, I wouldn't do that, be like, so like, what's

605
00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 8: going on? I don't know. That's Very's the same thing

606
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Speaker 8: with me, Like if I bought if you bought thirty

607
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:16,159
Speaker 8: pairs thirty pairs of lingerie.

608
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:18,480
Speaker 7: I wonder what you and Dakota were doing.

609
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:20,800
Speaker 5: I think my gut is telling me though, that this

610
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:26,040
Speaker 5: guy's gonna be like and it's disgusting what she's doing.

611
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:26,479
Speaker 2: Like.

612
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:28,960
Speaker 7: That's the reaction that I'm afraid of is that I

613
00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 7: think when she admits it, he's not gonna be on board.

614
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Speaker 2: Just showing the paycheck, yeah, I hope. I hope the

615
00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 2: paycheck is good.

616
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Speaker 5: Imagine you're just like, yeah, I've made one hundred and

617
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Speaker 5: fifty dollars.

618
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Speaker 7: I have a storytime that's about my for one of

619
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Speaker 7: my first roommates that I ever had for.

620
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Speaker 2: When this is done, I wonder what they did.

621
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 7: I wonder that's incredibly unusual. It's also odd that she

622
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:59,000
Speaker 7: hasn't paid using our shared card, even though we both

623
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 7: have the app on our phones. I'm calling my brother

624
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,560
Speaker 7: over to get some clarity. I don't know if it's

625
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 7: right to check her laptop or browsing history to confirm

626
00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:12,200
Speaker 7: if she's selling her underwear online. I'm just numb right now.

627
00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:15,800
Speaker 7: Update five. I spoke to my brother and saw some

628
00:29:15,840 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 7: of your comments. I've decided to confront her in person

629
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 7: when she's back home. I don't want to risk miscommunication

630
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 7: or assumptions that could make things worse for her or me.

631
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 7: Update six.

632
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Speaker 2: You know those days.

633
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:30,280
Speaker 7: When everything falls apart.

634
00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 3: This was one of them.

635
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 7: I skipped calling her during lunch, hoping we could talk

636
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 7: when she got home. In the meantime, I spoke to

637
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:41,040
Speaker 7: Karen and her mom to make sure my girlfriend wasn't

638
00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 7: in financial trouble or anything serious. But it only took

639
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 7: one truth to destroy everything. You guys, My girlfriend saw

640
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 7: this post at work and immediately knew it was me.

641
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 7: She ended up leaving early that day. Around four hours ago,

642
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 7: she confessed that she's been sleeping with a guy she

643
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 7: met at her work gym since the beginning of the life.

644
00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:08,600
Speaker 2: Ooh, and that's worse than what I thought it was.

645
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 7: That's where I was going with it at the beginning,

646
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:16,800
Speaker 7: and then I was very quickly convinced otherwise. That's the

647
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 7: worst outcome.

648
00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 2: She's not making any money from those.

649
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 7: It's not missing handaloon's, it's at his house.

650
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:27,160
Speaker 2: She's just leaving them at someone else's house.

651
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 7: She met this guy about eight months ago. He doesn't

652
00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 7: work with her, but at another startup in the same

653
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:34,000
Speaker 7: corporate park.

654
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Speaker 3: She said.

655
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Speaker 7: Things escalated in late February after one afternoon. I honestly

656
00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:42,200
Speaker 7: thought she stopped going to the gym after her promotion

657
00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:46,200
Speaker 7: in November, but no, she'd been going all along. When

658
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 7: she started sleeping with him, she told her coworkers she

659
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 7: had switched to another gym across the street. I didn't

660
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:55,480
Speaker 7: even ask where they did it. The missing underwear, this

661
00:30:55,640 --> 00:30:58,239
Speaker 7: is so messed up, she said. She started buying new

662
00:30:58,320 --> 00:31:01,840
Speaker 7: lingerie and throwing the old ones as some kind of

663
00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 7: guilt ritual.

664
00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:03,760
Speaker 2: Dang.

665
00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 5: She's like, as long as I throw these the way,

666
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 5: I never had to think about it again.

667
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 2: It's like I threw the whole night away.

668
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 7: She told me she couldn't handle the guilt of wearing

669
00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:17,680
Speaker 7: the same underwear with me that she'd woren hours earlier

670
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 7: with him.

671
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 8: That logic is crazy. She's like, yeah, this underwear's dirty.

672
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 8: Throws it away. I'm clean now, I can go to

673
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 8: I can go home to Ope. I'm a good person.

674
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:27,480
Speaker 5: Yes.

675
00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:31,440
Speaker 2: The mental gymnastics for that make me afraid.

676
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 7: Do you know how disgusting that feels? Who does that?

677
00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 7: Throw away underwear just to cleanse the guilt from cheating?

678
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 7: I was frozen, trying to keep myself together.

679
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 3: She said.

680
00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 7: She realized it was wrong and has stopped seeing him

681
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 7: for about a week now. I don't believe her, not

682
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:53,160
Speaker 7: even a bit. And the throwing underwear at work story

683
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 7: That was a lie she made up because she didn't

684
00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:58,480
Speaker 7: know what to say while I was driving. I later

685
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 7: called Karen because both so us were emotionally wrecked. She

686
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:05,320
Speaker 7: came over right away, but I couldn't stay even She

687
00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 7: was shocked when I told her everything. She called me

688
00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:10,720
Speaker 7: later after I'd left the apartment. It took me some

689
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:13,360
Speaker 7: time to think straight and call my brother. I'll be

690
00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:16,640
Speaker 7: crashing at his place for now. Honestly, I don't even

691
00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 7: want to see her face ever again. How can someone

692
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 7: lie so perfectly? How can someone be so cold, showing

693
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:27,480
Speaker 7: no emotion while sleeping with two people. She slept with

694
00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:31,240
Speaker 7: me hours after sleeping with that guy and throwing away

695
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 7: the underwear was her way to feel cleansed. I don't

696
00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:37,800
Speaker 7: understand her anymore. When she said it was all just physical,

697
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:40,560
Speaker 7: I couldn't even process it. She said she still loves

698
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 7: me and that sleeping with him just made her feel good.

699
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 7: I don't even know what that means. My thoughts are

700
00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:50,240
Speaker 7: all over the place, but thank you. Honestly, I don't

701
00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:52,680
Speaker 7: think i'd have known the truth if not for this post.

702
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 7: It blew up after dinner, and that's when she realized

703
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 7: it was trending. That's why she took the early train home.

704
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:02,160
Speaker 7: I've so many questions. Part of me wants to see

705
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:05,080
Speaker 7: her again to make sure she's okay. The other part

706
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 7: never wants to see her again. I just walked out

707
00:33:08,040 --> 00:33:10,480
Speaker 7: when she came home. I asked my brother and his

708
00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 7: wife to pick up some of my stuff. This whole

709
00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:16,160
Speaker 7: thing is a mess, and we have an update twenty

710
00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:20,040
Speaker 7: seven hours later. I have taken sick leave today. I

711
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 7: just wanted to say huge thanks to the people who

712
00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:25,240
Speaker 7: commented on my post from yesterday. I wanted to let

713
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:28,120
Speaker 7: you guys know that I've read each and every comment

714
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 7: up until late last night. If it wasn't for your

715
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:34,320
Speaker 7: awesome responses, I would have never even dared to ask

716
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:37,160
Speaker 7: her about her behavior in the first place, or she

717
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 7: would have never come back home early to confront me

718
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:42,480
Speaker 7: about this. After viewing that post on Reddit, I was

719
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 7: able to get some sleep. Yes, I'm at my brother's

720
00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 7: place while she is staying with Karen, who was her sister.

721
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 7: By the way, Karen reached out to me late last

722
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 7: night and asked if we could meet early morning at

723
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:55,920
Speaker 7: a coffee shop and chat. So I did. We talked

724
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:59,720
Speaker 7: a lot about what happened yesterday. Since she partly confided

725
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:02,960
Speaker 7: Karen about why she did what she did, here are

726
00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 7: some key takeaways. She doesn't know why she began sleeping

727
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:08,239
Speaker 7: with this guy in the first place. It just happened.

728
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:09,840
Speaker 2: Okay, so useless.

729
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:12,719
Speaker 5: I'll I'll just give it a tagline at the end

730
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:13,440
Speaker 5: of each reason here.

731
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 2: First one, you sliss? What kind of information is this?

732
00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:17,800
Speaker 2: You sliss?

733
00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:21,640
Speaker 7: Second one, she feels terribly sorry for what she did

734
00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:24,320
Speaker 7: to me and hopes we can work things out. Empty

735
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,439
Speaker 7: she has already broken up with that guy a week ago.

736
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:30,239
Speaker 7: She felt it was wrong and there's no excuse for it.

737
00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:33,560
Speaker 5: Oh, you broke up with the guy you were cheating

738
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:34,040
Speaker 5: on me with.

739
00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 2: I didn't know you had to do that.

740
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 7: She asked Karen to buy stuff from the underwear store

741
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:44,040
Speaker 7: using Karen's credit card because she felt it would be

742
00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:46,000
Speaker 7: awkward to explain it to me if we were to

743
00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:49,000
Speaker 7: review her finances. We used to do that together to

744
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:52,840
Speaker 7: cut her expenses and pay aggressively towards her student loans.

745
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 2: Okay, so you're just a sneaky little snake.

746
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:58,360
Speaker 7: Next, she claimed that spicy sleep with this guy was

747
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:02,480
Speaker 7: completely carnal and that there were no feelings or affections involved.

748
00:35:02,840 --> 00:35:05,560
Speaker 7: She said she got lured by this because her new

749
00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:09,840
Speaker 7: responsibilities were way too overwhelming for her. But again, she

750
00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:12,239
Speaker 7: maintained that she didn't know why she started sleeping with

751
00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:14,279
Speaker 7: this guy in the first place. I don't think I

752
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 7: want to know who this guy is or whether it

753
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,800
Speaker 7: was him or her who made the first move. Thinking

754
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 7: about it is so effing depressive. I should have noticed

755
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:26,360
Speaker 7: how she was able to maintain her body despite quitting

756
00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:27,560
Speaker 7: the gym late last year.

757
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 5: Uh oow ah ah, stop talking.

758
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:37,640
Speaker 7: That. Being said, I still don't understand what must have

759
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:40,759
Speaker 7: made her impulsively sleep with that guy and jeopardize our

760
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:44,279
Speaker 7: relationship in the first place. I think I'm gonna eventually

761
00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:47,240
Speaker 7: weigh in those reasons before I decide what to do next.

762
00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:49,759
Speaker 7: I have been trying to assess if I could have

763
00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:52,680
Speaker 7: picked up any clues that are otherwise typical of a cheater,

764
00:35:53,360 --> 00:35:56,000
Speaker 7: and it's so strange that she hadn't had any of

765
00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:59,560
Speaker 7: those characteristics. I mean, the fact that she confessed she

766
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:02,200
Speaker 7: was able to convince her coworkers that she goes to

767
00:36:02,239 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 7: the gym across the street instead of using the free

768
00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:09,799
Speaker 7: gym at her workplace, by itself is so infuriating. I

769
00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:12,200
Speaker 7: don't think I would have ever doubted her cheating on me,

770
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 7: because you don't see those cliche staying late after work

771
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:19,720
Speaker 7: or texting someone constantly's symptoms when she was around at home.

772
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 7: I think if I try to understand what made her

773
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 7: get in bed with this guy, I'll just get myself

774
00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:27,680
Speaker 7: deeper down the rabbit hole. Karen also said that even

775
00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:30,279
Speaker 7: she couldn't truly understand what was going on in her

776
00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:32,719
Speaker 7: head when she decided to have this fling with a

777
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:37,359
Speaker 7: completely unknown guy and put our relationship at stake. Though

778
00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:40,239
Speaker 7: Karen did make a full disclosure that my girlfriend once

779
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 7: cheated on a guy as a teenager back in high

780
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:46,040
Speaker 7: school and things turned out ugly back then. I was

781
00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:49,160
Speaker 7: a bit surprised since I didn't know this before. We

782
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 7: both knew our relationship and or dating history midway through

783
00:36:53,200 --> 00:36:57,279
Speaker 7: her relationship, but not this. That was quite a long

784
00:36:57,320 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 7: time ago. And by the way, Karen a sweet lady.

785
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:03,759
Speaker 7: She even wrote each of us a letter before we

786
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:07,279
Speaker 7: moved in together. This is so ironic. I lurk on

787
00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 7: Reddit via my main account to get updates on Apple

788
00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:15,520
Speaker 7: and makos, while my girlfriend used to thoroughly read two

789
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:18,839
Speaker 7: X chromosomes. She would sometimes read out a post here

790
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:21,480
Speaker 7: and there, asking me what I thought about some posts

791
00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:24,360
Speaker 7: on Reddit from a guy's perspective, leading to one of

792
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 7: those small talks. Little did I know that our life

793
00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:30,000
Speaker 7: would be one of those relationship questions to be a

794
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:33,200
Speaker 7: topic for a small talk among other redditors or couples

795
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:37,759
Speaker 7: here online. Nonetheless, I truly appreciated your responses. I would

796
00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 7: have dragged this thing for days or even weeks, getting

797
00:37:41,120 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 7: more and more worried and obsessed about my girlfriend's behavior. See,

798
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 7: when you move in together, no one ever tells you

799
00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 7: what boundaries to set and what things to avoid. Were

800
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 7: the boundaries not cheating with someone.

801
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:58,839
Speaker 5: I specifically asked you, But you did it anyway?

802
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:00,480
Speaker 2: No, actually, no, it's the opposite.

803
00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 5: It's yeah, No, I mean you never told me not

804
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:06,239
Speaker 5: to cheat on you for eight months, you didn't say that.

805
00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 7: I think I made a mistake there. Maybe I should

806
00:38:09,080 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 7: have checked on her from time to time to see

807
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:13,560
Speaker 7: if something had been bothering her at work when she

808
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:16,840
Speaker 7: was drained from work after her promotion before we moved in,

809
00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:19,560
Speaker 7: I seriously thought it would be better if I gave

810
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:22,000
Speaker 7: her her own time and not bring up work talk

811
00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:24,920
Speaker 7: during dinners or when we hung out together. Little did

812
00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:27,080
Speaker 7: I realize that this could have made her look for

813
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:30,080
Speaker 7: comfort elsewhere. I can also affirm that I have been

814
00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:32,840
Speaker 7: around her as long as she needed me. But I

815
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:35,400
Speaker 7: guess we were both busy complimenting each other in our

816
00:38:35,440 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 7: apartment by who gets to do what for the upkeep

817
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:43,439
Speaker 7: of our surroundings, groceries, social responsibilities, instead of just being

818
00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:45,280
Speaker 7: in the moment and listening to one another.

819
00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:49,279
Speaker 2: Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, starting to blame.

820
00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:50,920
Speaker 7: Yourself, dude, this is perfect.

821
00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:53,160
Speaker 2: I'm starting to get the sense that we're like, what

822
00:38:53,280 --> 00:38:57,279
Speaker 2: did I do an? Nah? Nothing, She cheated on you.

823
00:38:58,040 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 5: She made a conscience decision to bang that dude because

824
00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:03,920
Speaker 5: she liked it.

825
00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:05,319
Speaker 2: That's why, you know why?

826
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 5: She doesn't know because the real answer would make her

827
00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:10,439
Speaker 5: the bad guy.

828
00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:12,560
Speaker 2: So she gets to go, I don't know why I

829
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:15,239
Speaker 2: did it. I don't know why, which is.

830
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:17,320
Speaker 7: What every cheater ever always said.

831
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:20,040
Speaker 5: And the real answers I wanted to Yeah, I did

832
00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 5: it and I liked it. I did it and I

833
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,000
Speaker 5: kept doing it because I liked it.

834
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 7: I just picked up my car and got off from

835
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 7: my meeting with Karen at the coffee shop. I have

836
00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:33,319
Speaker 7: the remainder of this weekend all to myself. While my

837
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:36,600
Speaker 7: brother and his wife have been incredibly supportive, I thought

838
00:39:36,640 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 7: of getting myself checked into the first available counselor even

839
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:43,360
Speaker 7: if that's just one time. I haven't told any of

840
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:46,400
Speaker 7: my friends or coworkers about it, so I'm going to

841
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:49,960
Speaker 7: be social life as usual unless I come to a

842
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:53,200
Speaker 7: decision as to what to do next. So now our

843
00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:56,520
Speaker 7: apartment stays deserted while I figure out what to do next.

844
00:39:56,640 --> 00:40:00,799
Speaker 7: We've got a little bit left. Any last thoughts.

845
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't blame yourself. It's not your fault that

846
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:04,279
Speaker 2: this person is.

847
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 6: Who she is.

848
00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:10,080
Speaker 5: You didn't make her this way, you didn't neglect her,

849
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:13,759
Speaker 5: and even if you did, doesn't justify doing this. It

850
00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:17,279
Speaker 5: justifies a conversation where you go, hebab, you're neglecting me.

851
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:20,920
Speaker 5: I feel maybe a little neglected. Hey beb hebb, I

852
00:40:20,920 --> 00:40:23,080
Speaker 5: feel neglected. I'm gonna cheat on you, okay.

853
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:26,480
Speaker 7: Okay, bebe edit. By no means do I feel exactly

854
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:28,919
Speaker 7: the same for her as I did yesterday or while

855
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:31,839
Speaker 7: typing this post. I thought I still cared for her

856
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:35,879
Speaker 7: last night, but that gradually got replaced with rage and nausea.

857
00:40:35,920 --> 00:40:38,560
Speaker 7: Even when I think about her. Don't worry. I'll be

858
00:40:38,640 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 7: fine as time goes by. I have just confirmed an

859
00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 7: appointment with a counselor and my PCP to get myself

860
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:48,720
Speaker 7: checked for anything fishy. Uh and my counselor had already

861
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 7: read my previous post before I had even checked into

862
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:55,360
Speaker 7: her office late afternoon yesterday. She referred to me, as

863
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:58,160
Speaker 7: you were the guy who posted about his girlfriend's lingerie

864
00:40:58,239 --> 00:41:02,120
Speaker 7: behavior right a few minutes into our session. Man, it

865
00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 7: seems everyone on Reddit likes to lurk on this sub.

866
00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:09,120
Speaker 7: I'm okay, though, feeling better, just a bit insomniac. Some

867
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:13,040
Speaker 7: replies from op what happened after the confrontation. She was

868
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 7: crying really hard. At one point in time, she fell down.

869
00:41:16,480 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 7: I was angry as heck. I was constantly trying to

870
00:41:19,600 --> 00:41:23,000
Speaker 7: keep myself in control and not do anything stupid. Back then,

871
00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 7: when I was leaving, she was still crying, but Karen

872
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:27,920
Speaker 7: was there around her. I didn't look her in the

873
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:31,000
Speaker 7: eyes while I was leaving because I was just pretty

874
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 7: confused and angry. That's the end of the pastur.

875
00:41:34,520 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 5: I finally snapped at my fiance's ex, and now she's

876
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 5: being investigated.

877
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:42,839
Speaker 7: Snapped like a rubber band.

878
00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:47,759
Speaker 5: To preface before reading I was nice for months, then

879
00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:50,839
Speaker 5: I turned to ignoring her and blocking her. But this

880
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:54,800
Speaker 5: woman is the air pay of drama. She just keeps

881
00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:57,759
Speaker 5: coming back and I finally snapped. By the way, this

882
00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 5: comes from lots of flat He's uh thirty nine to

883
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 5: ten And if you want to submit your own stories,

884
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:04,880
Speaker 5: go to the r slash Okay storytime.

885
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:05,360
Speaker 2: So about it.

886
00:42:05,400 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 5: I'm Dakota, I'm Carly, I'm Keon, and we're here to

887
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:10,520
Speaker 5: give you good advice, googly, But we don't have all

888
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 5: the answers. We only know what we would do, So

889
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:15,920
Speaker 5: if you would do something different, let us.

890
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:17,280
Speaker 2: Know in the comments.

891
00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 5: As Op says, my fiance is baby Mama is the

892
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:25,720
Speaker 5: most emotionally unstable person I have ever met. She can't

893
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:28,600
Speaker 5: help but start drama at least once a day. She

894
00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:32,799
Speaker 5: repeatedly texts my fiance daily and complains about everything and

895
00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 5: then tells him everything is his fault, that he's a

896
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:38,400
Speaker 5: bad dad and a bad man. Mind you, he is

897
00:42:38,480 --> 00:42:42,440
Speaker 5: probably the best father I have ever met, and everyone

898
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:45,280
Speaker 5: we know says the same thing about him. She'll spam

899
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 5: text him articles from social media, claiming he needs to

900
00:42:47,840 --> 00:42:50,680
Speaker 5: figure out his inner trauma and that he has childhood drama,

901
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:54,080
Speaker 5: which is completely untrue, and that he's pushing his issues

902
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 5: onto his three sons. His parents are still happily married

903
00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:01,200
Speaker 5: and are amazing. She comes from broken home and is

904
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:03,839
Speaker 5: on her third marriage as she has cheated on every

905
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:07,920
Speaker 5: single x well. Her current relationship is a fake marriage

906
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 5: as it was done out of the country without a

907
00:43:10,239 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 5: marriage license, but she wears a fake ring and posted

908
00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:17,080
Speaker 5: pictures on social media telling everyone she was married. Recently,

909
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 5: my fiance told her he was going to file to

910
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:23,000
Speaker 5: amend their child's agreement to set some major boundaries. Their

911
00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:26,280
Speaker 5: current agreement is the most gray and fluid thing ever,

912
00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:30,760
Speaker 5: not setting any schedules or policies. She had free legal

913
00:43:30,800 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 5: aid and he had a crap attorney. She flipped out

914
00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 5: after parent teacher comferences at their son's school. She blocked

915
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:39,920
Speaker 5: him in the parking lot with her three sons in

916
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:43,440
Speaker 5: her car and stood there sobbing about why would he

917
00:43:43,560 --> 00:43:47,680
Speaker 5: do this to her? Remember, he only wants to update

918
00:43:47,719 --> 00:43:50,400
Speaker 5: the schedule and add some rules, as she drops the

919
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:54,400
Speaker 5: kids off whenever she pleases and follows zero schedules. She

920
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:57,399
Speaker 5: wouldn't let him leave and kept crying louder, all in

921
00:43:57,400 --> 00:44:00,480
Speaker 5: front of the kids. She then proceeded to tell their

922
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:03,840
Speaker 5: sons that he's a bad man, that he's a bad dad,

923
00:44:03,920 --> 00:44:06,000
Speaker 5: and he's gonna try and take the boys away from

924
00:44:06,080 --> 00:44:08,319
Speaker 5: her and never let her see them again. She then

925
00:44:08,400 --> 00:44:12,400
Speaker 5: had her six year old FaceTime my fiance, bawling his

926
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 5: eyes out, asking his dad why he was trying to

927
00:44:14,800 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 5: take him away from his mom and why he was

928
00:44:17,200 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 5: being a bad man. If that doesn't scream alienation, I

929
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:23,720
Speaker 5: don't know what does. That was just one of hundreds

930
00:44:23,719 --> 00:44:26,120
Speaker 5: of things similar to that that she has done. However,

931
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:29,400
Speaker 5: this week she decided to take some serious jabs at me.

932
00:44:29,840 --> 00:44:32,480
Speaker 5: As he shows me everything and tells me everything, I

933
00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 5: became fully aware of the drama she was starting again.

934
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 2: She had the audacity to.

935
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:39,040
Speaker 5: Say we don't even know each other and aren't in

936
00:44:39,080 --> 00:44:42,399
Speaker 5: a real relationship because we don't live together. I have

937
00:44:42,520 --> 00:44:45,920
Speaker 5: three kids as well, and out of respect for our children,

938
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 5: we chose not to move in with one another until

939
00:44:48,719 --> 00:44:52,720
Speaker 5: after we're married. She said, our relationship is unstable and bad.

940
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:55,680
Speaker 5: She called me a bad mom. She refused to speak

941
00:44:55,719 --> 00:44:57,960
Speaker 5: to my children when she met them and said something

942
00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:01,120
Speaker 5: is off with me and that maybe he's whipped because

943
00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:03,880
Speaker 5: of Spicy's sleep, because why would he ever want to

944
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:06,480
Speaker 5: be with me. We have been together for over two

945
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:09,360
Speaker 5: years and have never had a fight. We've even done

946
00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:12,319
Speaker 5: family vacations with all six kids and have had the

947
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:15,920
Speaker 5: best time. This is the most stable and amazing relationship

948
00:45:15,960 --> 00:45:18,960
Speaker 5: I've ever been in. Regardless, she went on to say

949
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:21,920
Speaker 5: that she doesn't trust me, that I have issues, and

950
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:24,520
Speaker 5: that he shouldn't trust me and he needs to really

951
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:27,040
Speaker 5: ask himself if he's in the best situation. This is

952
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:30,000
Speaker 5: after she told him last week that sometimes she regrets

953
00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:32,160
Speaker 5: ending things with him. It was also the same day

954
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:35,680
Speaker 5: that her faux husband caught her on Tinder. I asked

955
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 5: my fiance if I could text her, Oh, why would

956
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:40,680
Speaker 5: you do that? I sent him a draft and he said,

957
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:43,120
Speaker 5: at this point, go ahead, She's not gonna listen anyways.

958
00:45:43,440 --> 00:45:47,040
Speaker 5: So I texted her the following message, Anna, this is Lindsey.

959
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:50,160
Speaker 5: This can go one of two ways. Way number one,

960
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:53,360
Speaker 5: we either get along and you drop the drama, or

961
00:45:53,400 --> 00:45:54,799
Speaker 5: way number two, I.

962
00:45:54,880 --> 00:45:58,480
Speaker 6: Will become your worst nightmare.

963
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:03,160
Speaker 8: That was my worst nightmare.

964
00:46:03,400 --> 00:46:05,600
Speaker 2: Here's the difference between me and you.

965
00:46:05,600 --> 00:46:09,239
Speaker 5: You are unhappy, miserable in a relationship depressed because you

966
00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 5: barely work and have no social life. You're stuck because

967
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:14,799
Speaker 5: you have everything paid for, and if you didn't have Peter,

968
00:46:14,960 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 5: you'd be on food stamps. You manipulate Charlie's children, lie

969
00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:21,560
Speaker 5: to them, and try to cause alienation towards the best

970
00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:25,440
Speaker 5: dad ever. All it takes is one call to DCFS

971
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:29,000
Speaker 5: and you're screwed. I understand that you're jealous of Charlie

972
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:31,960
Speaker 5: and I. He's in an extremely happy relationship. His parents

973
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 5: love me, My parents love him, Your boys love me,

974
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:36,359
Speaker 5: my kids love him.

975
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:37,759
Speaker 2: We have never had a fight.

976
00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 5: There is nothing he wouldn't do for me and my kids,

977
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:43,760
Speaker 5: and the same goes from me towards him and his kids.

978
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:46,919
Speaker 5: You cheat on everyone you're with, can't figure out how

979
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:49,799
Speaker 5: to be happy, but then gaslight every guy in your

980
00:46:49,840 --> 00:46:51,400
Speaker 5: life to say you have trauma.

981
00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 2: Give me a break. Your trauma is people calling you

982
00:46:54,760 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 2: out on your BS.

983
00:46:56,480 --> 00:46:58,759
Speaker 5: You put out this persona that you have it all

984
00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:02,560
Speaker 5: together and everyone else has problems. Stop diagnosing people from

985
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:06,439
Speaker 5: the dumb crap you read on Instagram. You sound so uneducated.

986
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 5: You already know how sad your life is and wish

987
00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:11,879
Speaker 5: you hadn't pushed Charlie out because he was the best

988
00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 5: thing that ever happened to you. You Google me see

989
00:47:14,520 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 5: that I'm in a legal case with my landlord, But

990
00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:19,239
Speaker 5: what you don't know is that it was filed over

991
00:47:19,400 --> 00:47:22,400
Speaker 5: inhabitable issues that he refused to pay on.

992
00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:23,799
Speaker 2: I'm winning my.

993
00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 5: Lawsuit because he will pay me fifty thousand dollars because

994
00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 5: I have some of the best lawyers in the state.

995
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:33,120
Speaker 5: I don't live off my parents or my fiance. You

996
00:47:33,160 --> 00:47:35,919
Speaker 5: think you're an Internet sleuth, but in reality, you are.

997
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:36,960
Speaker 2: A pathetic joke.

998
00:47:37,440 --> 00:47:39,840
Speaker 5: I have a very successful business in ninety five percent

999
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 5: custody of my children. I know my worth, I know

1000
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 5: my status, and if I like you, I'll go to

1001
00:47:45,160 --> 00:47:48,160
Speaker 5: war for you. We are not the same. My attorney

1002
00:47:48,239 --> 00:47:50,880
Speaker 5: drafted an entire custody order for Charlie to drop on you,

1003
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:54,760
Speaker 5: twenty pages long that will royally screw you over because

1004
00:47:54,800 --> 00:47:58,040
Speaker 5: you're living illegally out of state. But he is too

1005
00:47:58,160 --> 00:48:00,120
Speaker 5: nice of a guy to slap you with it. It

1006
00:48:00,160 --> 00:48:02,759
Speaker 5: were me, you would have lost custody months ago. The

1007
00:48:02,800 --> 00:48:05,600
Speaker 5: alienation you try and cause having your six year old

1008
00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:09,160
Speaker 5: FaceTime Charlie sobbing because you're an emotional head case. That

1009
00:48:09,280 --> 00:48:12,759
Speaker 5: alone is valid for you to lose custody. We're documenting

1010
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 5: everything you do. You're a hot mess of a train wreck,

1011
00:48:16,840 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 5: pushing your emotional mess onto Charlie's children. If your oldest

1012
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:23,400
Speaker 5: tells you soon he only wants to live with Charlie,

1013
00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:26,920
Speaker 5: don't be surprised. They see how psychologically damaged you are,

1014
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:29,960
Speaker 5: and they see how hard Charlie tries, and they see

1015
00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:32,440
Speaker 5: a great mother in me, which sadly they don't get

1016
00:48:32,480 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 5: from you. Your emotionally damaging antics only prove you need

1017
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:39,080
Speaker 5: medication and a lot of therapy. I feel bad for Peter.

1018
00:48:39,480 --> 00:48:42,840
Speaker 5: He deserves so much better, just like Charlie did. Karma's

1019
00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:45,480
Speaker 5: a witch, and you have the most negative energy of

1020
00:48:45,560 --> 00:48:48,880
Speaker 5: anyone I've ever met. No crystals will save you. You

1021
00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:52,720
Speaker 5: need an exorcism. Keep my name out of your mouth.

1022
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:56,200
Speaker 5: Don't text Charlie about me again, don't disgust me with

1023
00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:59,200
Speaker 5: your children, and please, for the love of God, get help.

1024
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:02,640
Speaker 5: Sad and pathetic life will never interrupt our relationship and

1025
00:49:02,680 --> 00:49:06,960
Speaker 5: the awesome family we have built. Stop hating, stop inserting yourself,

1026
00:49:07,040 --> 00:49:10,719
Speaker 5: and get help. Please, for the sake of Charlie's kids.

1027
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 6: She she ain't reading all that, or maybe she is I'm.

1028
00:49:16,760 --> 00:49:19,920
Speaker 7: I'm gonna be real, Opie. Was a lot.

1029
00:49:20,280 --> 00:49:22,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was only that was only for you to

1030
00:49:22,719 --> 00:49:23,120
Speaker 2: be clear.

1031
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:26,160
Speaker 7: I think that was more than we needed to say,

1032
00:49:26,600 --> 00:49:30,640
Speaker 7: and I think that some of those threats were not

1033
00:49:31,400 --> 00:49:32,879
Speaker 7: nice things to say.

1034
00:49:33,280 --> 00:49:34,360
Speaker 3: That was a lot.

1035
00:49:34,680 --> 00:49:37,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, that was probably a lot of that could have

1036
00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:38,160
Speaker 5: been first draft.

1037
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:40,520
Speaker 2: Ye write that as a letter that you burn.

1038
00:49:41,880 --> 00:49:45,760
Speaker 7: Your emotions out, this is everything I feel in my heart,

1039
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:49,200
Speaker 7: and then we're gonna go and edit it, which we

1040
00:49:49,239 --> 00:49:50,240
Speaker 7: skipped that step.

1041
00:49:50,520 --> 00:49:53,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, could have boiled that one down to a couple

1042
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:53,919
Speaker 5: of paragraphs.

1043
00:49:54,120 --> 00:49:56,840
Speaker 7: Yeah. I'm wondering too when I see some people in

1044
00:49:56,960 --> 00:49:59,799
Speaker 7: chat saying and also like if that could have any

1045
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:03,680
Speaker 7: negative issues for Charlie and his kids when he's like

1046
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:08,960
Speaker 7: going about custody stuff like yeah, go, you really told her,

1047
00:50:09,239 --> 00:50:11,279
Speaker 7: but that could come back and bite you.

1048
00:50:11,680 --> 00:50:13,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know, but I don't know how it

1049
00:50:13,560 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 5: would affect because she's not a parent.

1050
00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 2: I mean she she's not.

1051
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:19,640
Speaker 7: But if Charlie knows about that and there's like confirmation

1052
00:50:19,719 --> 00:50:22,120
Speaker 7: that he agreed to her sending it and everything.

1053
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:25,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean there's probably that I would.

1054
00:50:25,360 --> 00:50:27,200
Speaker 7: Get where she was coming from, and I like, for

1055
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:30,280
Speaker 7: sure she's a terrible person. Could have been a first draft,

1056
00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:31,400
Speaker 7: but sure you sent it.

1057
00:50:31,719 --> 00:50:35,880
Speaker 5: This morning, she called Child Protective Services and falsely claimed

1058
00:50:35,880 --> 00:50:39,920
Speaker 5: that my fiance his sons, he has never laid a

1059
00:50:39,960 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 5: hand on them, to be clear, and that he's a

1060
00:50:43,280 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 5: heavy drinker and uses substances. The last time I saw

1061
00:50:47,040 --> 00:50:49,000
Speaker 5: him drink was three months ago at a baseball game

1062
00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:51,880
Speaker 5: where he had one drink and he was and he

1063
00:50:51,960 --> 00:50:55,759
Speaker 5: has never done any drogas my super.

1064
00:50:55,440 --> 00:50:56,719
Speaker 2: Sweet vanilla man.

1065
00:50:57,320 --> 00:51:00,560
Speaker 5: Now he's under investigation for the lies she could and

1066
00:51:00,600 --> 00:51:02,800
Speaker 5: the boys were pulled out of class to be interviewed.

1067
00:51:02,960 --> 00:51:06,000
Speaker 5: My fiance was devastated. I've never seen him cry, and

1068
00:51:06,080 --> 00:51:08,919
Speaker 5: he was near tears today. So I battled for him.

1069
00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:12,279
Speaker 5: As a teacher in Illinois and a mandated reporter. I

1070
00:51:12,360 --> 00:51:16,960
Speaker 5: filed a claim against her for emotional alienation in Illinois

1071
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:19,880
Speaker 5: and in Wisconsin, where she has been illegally living with

1072
00:51:19,920 --> 00:51:22,799
Speaker 5: her faue husband for over three years. She moved her

1073
00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:25,239
Speaker 5: and the boys in there four months into their relationship,

1074
00:51:25,480 --> 00:51:27,479
Speaker 5: so the boys now live fifty percent of the time

1075
00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:29,640
Speaker 5: over an hour away from their dad out of state.

1076
00:51:29,840 --> 00:51:32,839
Speaker 5: I then filed fraud reports with Illinois DHS because she's

1077
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:36,399
Speaker 5: using medicaid EBT and free legal aid from Illinois using

1078
00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:39,600
Speaker 5: her mother's address, but she's been a resident of Wisconsin.

1079
00:51:39,120 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 2: For over three years.

1080
00:51:40,239 --> 00:51:44,000
Speaker 5: I also informed DCFS of this in Illinois and CPS

1081
00:51:44,040 --> 00:51:48,320
Speaker 5: of this in Wisconsin. I think this needed to probably happen.

1082
00:51:48,719 --> 00:51:50,480
Speaker 5: This probably did need to happen.

1083
00:51:50,640 --> 00:51:52,800
Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm not saying it's a bad thing that happened.

1084
00:51:52,920 --> 00:51:56,520
Speaker 7: I'm just saying you went wild with that text. But

1085
00:51:57,520 --> 00:51:59,399
Speaker 7: it's the way you need to go.

1086
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:02,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Yeah.

1087
00:52:02,719 --> 00:52:04,799
Speaker 5: It's just hard because I hope this doesn't become like

1088
00:52:04,840 --> 00:52:07,040
Speaker 5: a well if you do get majority custody and she

1089
00:52:07,120 --> 00:52:10,040
Speaker 5: loses like a lot of her custody, and then the kids

1090
00:52:10,080 --> 00:52:11,400
Speaker 5: are gonna be like, did.

1091
00:52:11,239 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 2: You take us away from Mom?

1092
00:52:12,840 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 5: And then you have to be like, Okay, I have

1093
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:16,719
Speaker 5: to explain to you how the world works, because no,

1094
00:52:16,840 --> 00:52:20,680
Speaker 5: I didn't. Mom actually wasn't allowed to have you because

1095
00:52:20,760 --> 00:52:24,759
Speaker 5: she's going through a lot and she has problems she

1096
00:52:24,800 --> 00:52:27,759
Speaker 5: needs help with and because of that, she can't take

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Speaker 5: care of you guys the.

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Speaker 2: Way she needs to.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, And so I'm going to take care of you

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Speaker 5: guys while she gets better. And then when she does,

1101
00:52:35,120 --> 00:52:37,279
Speaker 5: you know, you'll you'll be seeing her more and she

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Speaker 5: still loves you and blah blah'd say all the right things,

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Speaker 5: but it's like.

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Speaker 7: I think there's also like the beginning of that text

1105
00:52:43,960 --> 00:52:46,240
Speaker 7: was very much like do you want to just drop

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00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:47,799
Speaker 7: it and move on? Or do you want me to

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00:52:47,840 --> 00:52:52,839
Speaker 7: be like your worst nightmare proceeds to be your worst

1108
00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:55,360
Speaker 7: nightmare without even giving you the chance to drop it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm still not like she still sucks and like

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00:52:59,600 --> 00:53:02,800
Speaker 7: Dakota that it was necessary, but I'm in shock.

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Speaker 5: I'm also having my attorney file in order of protection

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Speaker 5: against her for pestering my fiance and emotionally children, and

1114
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Speaker 5: I'm listing his boys on the order of protection. In

1115
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Speaker 5: the meantime, my attorney's helping my fiance redraft the parenting

1116
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:19,400
Speaker 5: agreement to take away child support and give him seventy

1117
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Speaker 5: percent custody. She is now under investigation in both states

1118
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Speaker 5: and will likely be charged with defrauding the State of Illinois,

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Speaker 5: amongst other things. My fiance is super worried that she's

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Speaker 5: going to do something crazy, but I say, let the

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Speaker 5: judge handle her. Now.

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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole? Or did she bring this

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00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:36,919
Speaker 2: all on herself? Oh?

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Speaker 5: And ps, she swears by crystals and says she's trying

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Speaker 5: to live life with positive energy.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I laughed too, and that is the end of

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00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:45,960
Speaker 2: that story.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, because she is anything but a little bundle of

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00:53:49,080 --> 00:53:50,600
Speaker 5: positive energy, that's for sure.

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Speaker 5: My mother in law believes every lie her grandson tells

1134
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:02,840
Speaker 5: and it's made me the villain.

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00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:05,320
Speaker 8: Ah, we love a villain origin story.

1136
00:54:05,440 --> 00:54:07,719
Speaker 2: I'm not sure what her problem really is.

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00:54:08,160 --> 00:54:10,560
Speaker 5: Me and my boyfriend moved in with her about a

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00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:14,000
Speaker 5: year ago and things were okay in the beginning until

1139
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:17,440
Speaker 5: my boyfriend's nephew, which would be my mother in law's grandson,

1140
00:54:17,640 --> 00:54:20,360
Speaker 5: moved in with us too, But for some reason she

1141
00:54:20,400 --> 00:54:23,600
Speaker 5: started treating me differently. The nephew and my mother in

1142
00:54:23,680 --> 00:54:25,920
Speaker 5: law talk bad about me behind my back, and I

1143
00:54:26,000 --> 00:54:28,120
Speaker 5: really have done nothing.

1144
00:54:27,840 --> 00:54:29,239
Speaker 2: But be nice to both of them.

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00:54:29,840 --> 00:54:32,719
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Speaker 2: I'm Dakota, I'm Keon.

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Speaker 5: And we're here to give you some good advice. GOOFIY,

1150
00:54:40,880 --> 00:54:42,560
Speaker 5: But we don't have all the answers. We really know

1151
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:44,680
Speaker 5: what we would do, So if you would do something different,

1152
00:54:44,719 --> 00:54:48,399
Speaker 5: let us know in the comments. As Op says, he's

1153
00:54:48,400 --> 00:54:51,680
Speaker 5: gotten into her head big time about me. I think

1154
00:54:52,120 --> 00:54:54,640
Speaker 5: he talks awful about us to her. Some of the

1155
00:54:54,640 --> 00:54:58,680
Speaker 5: things she does, for example, always and I mean always

1156
00:54:58,760 --> 00:55:02,560
Speaker 5: giving us snooty tor he looks. She makes smart comments

1157
00:55:02,560 --> 00:55:05,640
Speaker 5: to me all the time, complaining about literally every single

1158
00:55:05,680 --> 00:55:09,080
Speaker 5: thing I do, even the way I wash dishes. She

1159
00:55:09,120 --> 00:55:12,120
Speaker 5: says I need to do it her way. My boyfriend

1160
00:55:12,160 --> 00:55:15,280
Speaker 5: got into a wreck. We were sideswiped by another vehicle

1161
00:55:15,320 --> 00:55:18,799
Speaker 5: and unfortunately it totalled out her truck, which she never

1162
00:55:18,840 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 5: even used, by the way, But for some reason, the

1163
00:55:21,600 --> 00:55:24,160
Speaker 5: nephew and my mother in law thought I was driving

1164
00:55:24,320 --> 00:55:27,520
Speaker 5: and totaled her truck. It's like, why do they think

1165
00:55:27,560 --> 00:55:31,160
Speaker 5: it was me when it was my boyfriend. She just

1166
00:55:31,160 --> 00:55:33,800
Speaker 5: thinks awful about me, and if I use something of hers,

1167
00:55:34,040 --> 00:55:38,040
Speaker 5: for example the vacuum, She's instantly at our door, knocking

1168
00:55:38,080 --> 00:55:39,040
Speaker 5: and asking.

1169
00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:39,600
Speaker 2: If I'm done with it.

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00:55:40,040 --> 00:55:42,240
Speaker 5: She's got mad at us one time and went around

1171
00:55:42,239 --> 00:55:45,160
Speaker 5: the house to put notes on all of mine and

1172
00:55:45,200 --> 00:55:48,960
Speaker 5: my boyfriend's belongings that said Bob and Taylor stings do

1173
00:55:49,239 --> 00:55:52,440
Speaker 5: not touch all. Because my boyfriend asked why there was

1174
00:55:52,480 --> 00:55:55,680
Speaker 5: a note on the milk his nephew bought that said

1175
00:55:55,800 --> 00:55:57,680
Speaker 5: no one can have this but me and grandma.

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Speaker 8: That's weird.

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Speaker 2: What is going on? What is going on here?

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00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:05,200
Speaker 5: She got mad because she wanted to know why he

1179
00:56:05,320 --> 00:56:07,520
Speaker 5: was being selfish like that, so she went around the

1180
00:56:07,560 --> 00:56:10,440
Speaker 5: house and put our names on all of our stuff

1181
00:56:10,560 --> 00:56:13,920
Speaker 5: just to be smart, basically because she was upset and

1182
00:56:13,960 --> 00:56:17,719
Speaker 5: thought that we were causing problems talking bad about her grandson.

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00:56:18,239 --> 00:56:20,640
Speaker 2: It's so immature and childlike.

1184
00:56:21,120 --> 00:56:24,520
Speaker 5: I also can't have any friends over because the looks

1185
00:56:24,640 --> 00:56:27,439
Speaker 5: and smart comments I get are literally insane.

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00:56:27,960 --> 00:56:29,840
Speaker 2: My friend Haley came over to hang out with me

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00:56:29,920 --> 00:56:31,960
Speaker 2: the other day, and I could start to feel the

1188
00:56:32,040 --> 00:56:36,240
Speaker 2: tension right away. She started giving me dirty stares and looks,

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00:56:36,360 --> 00:56:39,200
Speaker 2: but I ignored it like always and decided to get

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Speaker 2: some water out of the kitchen. Of course, here comes

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Speaker 2: my mother in law.

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Speaker 5: She looks at me so hatefully and says, when is

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00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:52,520
Speaker 5: your friend leaving? And well, you know your friend cannot

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00:56:52,920 --> 00:56:54,200
Speaker 5: move into my house?

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Speaker 8: What yeah visiting?

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00:56:58,680 --> 00:57:02,160
Speaker 5: I was like, Uh, who said anything about my friend

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00:57:02,239 --> 00:57:04,880
Speaker 5: moving in. She said it in the rudest way possible,

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Speaker 5: but she doesn't ever say anything to the nephew's friends

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Speaker 5: being over for hours and hours. My friend was only

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Speaker 5: over for a couple hours, and my boyfriend literally told

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Speaker 5: her before she made that comment to me that Haley

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00:57:17,040 --> 00:57:20,640
Speaker 5: was locked out of her house when her grandmother got home.

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00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:22,520
Speaker 2: I was going to be taking her home.

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00:57:23,000 --> 00:57:26,120
Speaker 5: But she still came to me with the smart comments

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00:57:26,240 --> 00:57:28,880
Speaker 5: every time I have someone come over, which is super

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00:57:28,960 --> 00:57:31,240
Speaker 5: rare to begin with, because all my friends tell me

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Speaker 5: that they feel very unwelcome and very.

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00:57:33,080 --> 00:57:34,360
Speaker 2: Unwanted whenever they come over.

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Speaker 5: Her and the nephew talks so much crap on me

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00:57:37,920 --> 00:57:40,960
Speaker 5: and my girlfriends, And when I say we don't bother anyone,

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Speaker 5: I truly mean that. I was washing my car yesterday

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00:57:45,400 --> 00:57:47,400
Speaker 5: and she asked me if the car soap I was

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00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:51,480
Speaker 5: using was her grandson's. I said, no, this is my soap.

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00:57:51,920 --> 00:57:54,240
Speaker 5: It's like, why in the world doesn't matter whose soap

1215
00:57:54,280 --> 00:57:54,640
Speaker 5: it is?

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Speaker 8: You should be like, there's a sticky note on it.

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00:57:56,560 --> 00:57:58,600
Speaker 8: See it said our stuff.

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Speaker 2: When are we moving out out right?

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00:58:01,280 --> 00:58:03,200
Speaker 5: Mother in law was hoping I would say yeah so

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Speaker 5: she could tell me to put it back because apparently

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00:58:05,360 --> 00:58:07,560
Speaker 5: I'm not allowed to touch anything that belongs to my

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00:58:07,560 --> 00:58:10,960
Speaker 5: boyfriend's nephew. And We've been nothing but polite and shared

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00:58:11,080 --> 00:58:14,400
Speaker 5: anything that anyone wanted. No one even has to ask

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00:58:14,520 --> 00:58:17,640
Speaker 5: me to use my things. I just wasn't raised that way,

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Speaker 5: and I don't care if anybody uses my car, soap,

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00:58:20,240 --> 00:58:22,720
Speaker 5: or anything of mine that's in the garage. If anyone

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Speaker 5: needs it, they're more than welcome to use it. We

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00:58:25,520 --> 00:58:28,280
Speaker 5: all had a very big talk about three months ago

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00:58:28,360 --> 00:58:31,000
Speaker 5: because I kept wanting to know why I kept getting

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Speaker 5: horrible attitude from the nephew about every little thing that

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Speaker 5: I said or did. So we all sat down and talked,

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Speaker 5: and he told me that he thinks that I take

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Speaker 5: advantage of his grandma, which would be my mother in law.

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00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:46,200
Speaker 5: I asked him how is that. He said, well, for example,

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Speaker 5: you wrecked her truck and I said, I absolutely did

1236
00:58:50,040 --> 00:58:54,160
Speaker 5: not wreck her truck. He said, well, that's what grandmaad.

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00:58:54,720 --> 00:58:56,760
Speaker 5: I looked at her and I said, you know that

1238
00:58:56,800 --> 00:58:58,760
Speaker 5: I wasn't the one who wrecked the truck. She looks

1239
00:58:58,840 --> 00:59:01,280
Speaker 5: up at both me and my boyfriend and says, well,

1240
00:59:01,400 --> 00:59:04,160
Speaker 5: I wasn't for sure who it was. I just maybe

1241
00:59:04,200 --> 00:59:06,840
Speaker 5: thought it was you that actually did it, so you kept.

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Speaker 8: You so you just kept banking on that even though

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00:59:09,240 --> 00:59:12,840
Speaker 8: we've told you numerous times that I didn't wreck the truck. Yeah,

1244
00:59:13,240 --> 00:59:15,880
Speaker 8: but you're still gonna play I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Card here, we're at the direct confrontation stage and she can't.

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00:59:20,040 --> 00:59:20,480
Speaker 8: Yeah.

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00:59:20,560 --> 00:59:26,880
Speaker 5: She's like, yeah, my boyfriend looks at her and says, no, Mom,

1248
00:59:27,360 --> 00:59:29,400
Speaker 5: I told you I was the one who was driving,

1249
00:59:29,800 --> 00:59:33,160
Speaker 5: not Taylor, so you did know it was me. But

1250
00:59:33,280 --> 00:59:36,440
Speaker 5: yet she's still telling Christopher she thinks it was me

1251
00:59:36,520 --> 00:59:39,440
Speaker 5: who wrecked her truck. And it's just that they both

1252
00:59:39,520 --> 00:59:41,680
Speaker 5: have this hate towards me. I really don't know why,

1253
00:59:42,160 --> 00:59:44,360
Speaker 5: because I'm literally one of the nicest people anyone could

1254
00:59:44,360 --> 00:59:44,720
Speaker 5: ever meet.

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Speaker 2: I haven't done anything to either of them.

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Speaker 8: Also, does she think you guys wrecked on purpose?

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00:59:51,480 --> 00:59:53,000
Speaker 2: Yeah? Take it on a side swipe.

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00:59:53,000 --> 00:59:55,160
Speaker 8: It was a side swipe. You're like, hey, you know

1259
00:59:55,200 --> 00:59:57,240
Speaker 8: what we're gonna do. We're gonna take my mom's truck

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Speaker 8: that she never uses, and we're gonna go just like

1261
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Speaker 8: Monster struck him. We're gonna go in the hills and

1262
01:00:03,280 --> 01:00:05,480
Speaker 8: just go yeha, let's do.

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Speaker 2: This would have been a better way to total it

1264
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Speaker 2: for sure.

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Speaker 8: I the fact that she's holding that against you, and like,

1266
01:00:10,600 --> 01:00:13,680
Speaker 8: how are you feeling? Are you okay? That must have sucked?

1267
01:00:13,760 --> 01:00:14,480
Speaker 8: Are you hurt?

1268
01:00:15,520 --> 01:00:21,000
Speaker 5: Like come on, I just want to know and need

1269
01:00:21,080 --> 01:00:21,720
Speaker 5: some advice.

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01:00:21,800 --> 01:00:23,840
Speaker 2: Do you really think this is jealousy?

1271
01:00:24,400 --> 01:00:27,080
Speaker 5: Why am I being treated like this? I'm not really

1272
01:00:27,120 --> 01:00:31,080
Speaker 5: sure exactly what to do. But today Bobby finally confronted her,

1273
01:00:31,120 --> 01:00:34,080
Speaker 5: which is my boyfriend, and asked her why she asked

1274
01:00:34,080 --> 01:00:36,440
Speaker 5: me if it was Christopher's car soap that I was using,

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01:00:36,560 --> 01:00:39,080
Speaker 5: which is the nephew. She told him that she was

1276
01:00:39,160 --> 01:00:41,640
Speaker 5: just asking just to ask because she was just curious.

1277
01:00:41,960 --> 01:00:44,680
Speaker 5: Bobby's like, I don't think you just asked if that's

1278
01:00:44,760 --> 01:00:45,640
Speaker 5: Christopher's soap.

1279
01:00:45,440 --> 01:00:48,080
Speaker 2: For no reason or to just start conversation.

1280
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Speaker 5: And she got so mad that we asked her or

1281
01:00:50,600 --> 01:00:52,560
Speaker 5: confronted her and slammed her door like a child.

1282
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Speaker 2: That's right, because they.

1283
01:00:53,480 --> 01:00:55,320
Speaker 5: Don't know how to act once they get put on

1284
01:00:55,320 --> 01:00:56,480
Speaker 5: the spot, and all they have to say is, well,

1285
01:00:56,480 --> 01:00:59,040
Speaker 5: I was looking for problems. No, I was just trying

1286
01:00:59,080 --> 01:01:04,480
Speaker 5: to start conversation by accusing and being aggressive asking her

1287
01:01:04,600 --> 01:01:05,840
Speaker 5: if that's really her soap?

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01:01:06,320 --> 01:01:09,080
Speaker 8: Yeah, not even how is your day or how is

1289
01:01:09,160 --> 01:01:12,320
Speaker 8: your day. It's just is that my grandson soap that

1290
01:01:12,360 --> 01:01:14,160
Speaker 8: you stole from him.

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Speaker 2: Here we go.

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01:01:15,120 --> 01:01:18,200
Speaker 5: About five minutes later, here she comes knocking on our

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01:01:18,240 --> 01:01:20,600
Speaker 5: door telling us that we needed to move out because

1294
01:01:20,600 --> 01:01:23,320
Speaker 5: it just wasn't working out here anymore, all because we

1295
01:01:23,400 --> 01:01:24,200
Speaker 5: asked her why.

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01:01:24,040 --> 01:01:26,760
Speaker 2: She was asking if it was nephew's soap I was using.

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01:01:27,320 --> 01:01:29,760
Speaker 5: And another thing is we borrowed eighty dollars from her

1298
01:01:29,760 --> 01:01:32,240
Speaker 5: the other day and she has been hounding and hounding

1299
01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:35,200
Speaker 5: us about paying it back to her, which we did. However,

1300
01:01:35,320 --> 01:01:38,360
Speaker 5: his nephew has gotten four dwi's in the last year,

1301
01:01:38,440 --> 01:01:41,800
Speaker 5: and OS's attorney somewhere around two thousand dollars, which she

1302
01:01:41,920 --> 01:01:44,440
Speaker 5: paid twenty five hundred dollars to get him out.

1303
01:01:44,280 --> 01:01:45,200
Speaker 2: Of jail as well.

1304
01:01:45,480 --> 01:01:48,040
Speaker 5: And she just keeps throwing money towards the nephew's attorney

1305
01:01:48,040 --> 01:01:49,840
Speaker 5: and trying to get him out of this trouble when

1306
01:01:49,840 --> 01:01:52,600
Speaker 5: we hardly ever borrow any money from her. We put

1307
01:01:52,640 --> 01:01:55,480
Speaker 5: all the groceries in the house, which everyone eats, and

1308
01:01:55,560 --> 01:01:58,800
Speaker 5: I have no problem with that until his nephew starts

1309
01:01:58,840 --> 01:02:01,480
Speaker 5: putting notes on his stuff that he's bought, telling us

1310
01:02:01,480 --> 01:02:04,280
Speaker 5: basically not to touch his stuff. We give her cash

1311
01:02:04,320 --> 01:02:05,800
Speaker 5: every now and then to help her out. But the

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Speaker 5: nephew doesn't give her anything whatsoever, not even a penny.

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Speaker 5: He doesn't know buy groceries in the house. He just

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01:02:11,200 --> 01:02:15,120
Speaker 5: sits around and is lazy and smokes all day. But

1315
01:02:15,160 --> 01:02:18,120
Speaker 5: he told her he thinks I'm the one taking substances,

1316
01:02:18,480 --> 01:02:23,080
Speaker 5: so now they think that I'm this big tweaker. He

1317
01:02:23,120 --> 01:02:25,520
Speaker 5: gets all up in her head about me and my boyfriend.

1318
01:02:25,880 --> 01:02:27,760
Speaker 5: He even told her that he thought we were going

1319
01:02:27,800 --> 01:02:30,919
Speaker 5: to try and hurt him, which we have never been

1320
01:02:31,000 --> 01:02:35,000
Speaker 5: any type of threatening or anything towards him. It's we've

1321
01:02:35,000 --> 01:02:36,960
Speaker 5: got a little bit more story left, but it's you got.

1322
01:02:36,760 --> 01:02:38,080
Speaker 8: To move out to get out of here. I want.

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01:02:38,200 --> 01:02:40,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, just find anywhere else to go and don't reach

1324
01:02:40,480 --> 01:02:42,320
Speaker 2: back out to her. Just be like, you kicked this

1325
01:02:42,440 --> 01:02:43,240
Speaker 2: out of your house.

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01:02:43,360 --> 01:02:46,320
Speaker 8: Yeah, you know, for just confronting you about your behavior

1327
01:02:46,880 --> 01:02:48,600
Speaker 8: and you don't want to deal with this, get out

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01:02:48,640 --> 01:02:52,479
Speaker 8: of the house. You're dealing with two children. Really, it's

1329
01:02:52,600 --> 01:02:56,280
Speaker 8: just ugh, it's ooh, and it's gonna be so funny

1330
01:02:56,480 --> 01:03:00,360
Speaker 8: when that by the time you leave, I guarantee you one.

1331
01:03:00,600 --> 01:03:04,520
Speaker 8: Since grandson is so lazy, he doesn't do anything, She's

1332
01:03:04,520 --> 01:03:06,680
Speaker 8: gonna start asking him, Okay, could you help her ound

1333
01:03:06,680 --> 01:03:09,720
Speaker 8: the house? But no, She's like, oh wow, that was

1334
01:03:09,800 --> 01:03:15,440
Speaker 8: Op and uh what would be not? Oh son? Sorry,

1335
01:03:15,440 --> 01:03:17,520
Speaker 8: mother in law if that was Op and my son

1336
01:03:17,640 --> 01:03:21,720
Speaker 8: helping out so much, they were doing everything. Yep, Oh wait,

1337
01:03:21,720 --> 01:03:23,440
Speaker 8: can you he lend me some money for you know,

1338
01:03:23,520 --> 01:03:26,840
Speaker 8: like rent and like helping you out? Now, Grandma, I

1339
01:03:26,960 --> 01:03:27,800
Speaker 8: just go getting out of here.

1340
01:03:27,840 --> 01:03:31,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, who's to say, like exactly why or what? You know?

1341
01:03:31,320 --> 01:03:32,800
Speaker 5: I know there's a lot of questions in the post,

1342
01:03:32,840 --> 01:03:35,320
Speaker 5: but like what's going on? Is this jealousy? Who's to

1343
01:03:35,360 --> 01:03:37,880
Speaker 5: say what it is? But like it's not really important.

1344
01:03:37,960 --> 01:03:41,360
Speaker 5: What's important is that her behavior is like super toxic

1345
01:03:41,400 --> 01:03:43,280
Speaker 5: and negative and you should just remove.

1346
01:03:43,120 --> 01:03:46,840
Speaker 8: Guess what from it? You asked and you got technically

1347
01:03:46,920 --> 01:03:50,360
Speaker 8: your answer, so you know what. It's not the answer

1348
01:03:50,400 --> 01:03:52,440
Speaker 8: you wanted, nor is it a real answer, but you

1349
01:03:52,520 --> 01:03:54,880
Speaker 8: know what, no point in dealing with it, no point

1350
01:03:54,880 --> 01:03:56,600
Speaker 8: of searching for it. Don't have to go in a

1351
01:03:56,600 --> 01:04:00,240
Speaker 8: safari for this answer. Just get out of there, live

1352
01:04:00,240 --> 01:04:01,600
Speaker 8: a comfortable, quiet life.

1353
01:04:01,760 --> 01:04:05,360
Speaker 2: The time to now leave has arrived. Yep.

1354
01:04:06,200 --> 01:04:09,000
Speaker 5: I literally just sit in my room, especially when my

1355
01:04:09,000 --> 01:04:11,800
Speaker 5: boyfriend's at work. I just stay in my room, keep

1356
01:04:11,840 --> 01:04:13,840
Speaker 5: to myself and don't know what the problem is.

1357
01:04:14,240 --> 01:04:15,040
Speaker 2: Could someone help me.

1358
01:04:15,000 --> 01:04:18,080
Speaker 5: Understand why this is happening or what her problem is?

1359
01:04:18,080 --> 01:04:21,240
Speaker 5: Is it even jealousy or is it intimidation? By the way,

1360
01:04:21,520 --> 01:04:24,720
Speaker 5: she's not married, she's had two divorces because she couldn't

1361
01:04:24,720 --> 01:04:26,320
Speaker 5: get along with either of her husbands.

1362
01:04:26,720 --> 01:04:28,680
Speaker 2: She has to have full control over everything.

1363
01:04:28,800 --> 01:04:30,560
Speaker 5: It seems like I don't know what to do and

1364
01:04:30,600 --> 01:04:32,320
Speaker 5: I don't know how to end this kind of thing

1365
01:04:32,400 --> 01:04:35,160
Speaker 5: unless we really do move out, which apparently she wants

1366
01:04:35,200 --> 01:04:37,760
Speaker 5: us to do. Any advice on why she's like this

1367
01:04:37,960 --> 01:04:39,960
Speaker 5: or what the cause of this would be. There's so

1368
01:04:40,120 --> 01:04:42,840
Speaker 5: much more. I could go on for hours, but it

1369
01:04:42,840 --> 01:04:45,440
Speaker 5: would take me forever to write. That's just the basic

1370
01:04:45,520 --> 01:04:47,640
Speaker 5: things that go on in my daily life, and I

1371
01:04:47,680 --> 01:04:48,760
Speaker 5: don't know how to handle it.

1372
01:04:49,040 --> 01:04:51,200
Speaker 2: Why is she like this? Is this jealousy or what?

1373
01:04:51,920 --> 01:04:55,040
Speaker 5: And that's the end of that story again, so not really, that's.

1374
01:04:54,880 --> 01:04:57,720
Speaker 2: Not really the question. The question is where are we going?

1375
01:04:57,800 --> 01:04:58,680
Speaker 8: When do we move out?

1376
01:04:58,880 --> 01:05:03,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, make a plan, let's find our next spot and

1377
01:05:03,120 --> 01:05:05,680
Speaker 5: then just honestly leave this person in the past.

1378
01:05:06,080 --> 01:05:10,840
Speaker 2: No, you are not obligated to maintain a relationship with

1379
01:05:10,880 --> 01:05:11,320
Speaker 2: this person.

1380
01:05:11,440 --> 01:05:14,280
Speaker 8: It's not your it's not your mom, and I know

1381
01:05:14,360 --> 01:05:15,840
Speaker 8: it's your mother in law, but it's also not your

1382
01:05:15,840 --> 01:05:18,200
Speaker 8: place to be like why is she acting like this?

1383
01:05:18,880 --> 01:05:21,160
Speaker 8: You could ask your partner this and like why is

1384
01:05:21,160 --> 01:05:22,920
Speaker 8: she acting like this? And he could be like, I

1385
01:05:22,960 --> 01:05:26,360
Speaker 8: don't know, she sucks or you know, dude, like can

1386
01:05:26,400 --> 01:05:29,760
Speaker 8: we go ask her ex husbands why is she acting

1387
01:05:29,800 --> 01:05:31,560
Speaker 8: like this? And I guarantee they'll have the same answer.

1388
01:05:31,840 --> 01:05:32,320
Speaker 8: We don't know.

1389
01:05:32,400 --> 01:05:32,760
Speaker 2: Who knows.

1390
01:05:32,920 --> 01:05:34,880
Speaker 5: She might not approve of you as a partner. She

1391
01:05:34,960 --> 01:05:37,200
Speaker 5: might just not approve of any partner. She might be

1392
01:05:37,320 --> 01:05:40,480
Speaker 5: jealous because she doesn't have a partner. She might just

1393
01:05:40,680 --> 01:05:42,720
Speaker 5: favor her other child.

1394
01:05:42,960 --> 01:05:43,760
Speaker 2: It's the family.

1395
01:05:44,200 --> 01:05:46,520
Speaker 8: It doesn't it does, but it does not matter. It's

1396
01:05:46,520 --> 01:05:48,480
Speaker 8: the open question of why did the chicken cross the road?

1397
01:05:48,560 --> 01:05:50,080
Speaker 8: Like people will say to get the other side, but

1398
01:05:50,160 --> 01:05:52,680
Speaker 8: like other people like say something else, why is she

1399
01:05:52,800 --> 01:05:55,400
Speaker 8: like this? At this point, who cares?

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01:05:55,560 --> 01:05:57,680
Speaker 2: It's just the way it is.