1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:01,800 Speaker 1: Okay, guys, here are my dates for the High and 2 00:00:01,840 --> 00:00:02,400 Speaker 1: Mighty Tour. 3 00:00:02,800 --> 00:00:05,760 Speaker 2: In June, I will be in Hyannas, Massachusetts, and then 4 00:00:05,840 --> 00:00:11,280 Speaker 2: two shows in Nantucket. In August, you can find me 5 00:00:11,320 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 2: in Red Bank, New Jersey, Montclair, New Jersey, and Calgary. 6 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:15,560 Speaker 1: That's Canada. 7 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:18,800 Speaker 2: And September I will be in Santa Barbara, San Diego, 8 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:29,120 Speaker 2: New York City, Philly, and New Haven, Connecticut. October is Atlanta, Baltimore, Saginaw, Michigan, Pittsburgh, Toronto, Boise, Idaho, 9 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:30,240 Speaker 2: and Spokane. 10 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:32,880 Speaker 1: And then in November I'll be in San Francisco. 11 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:36,479 Speaker 2: I'm coming to Salt Lake City, Austin, Houston, Dallas Babies, 12 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:39,440 Speaker 2: I'll be there. And then in December I am closing 13 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:42,879 Speaker 2: out my tour in Denver and Vancouver. So get your 14 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:46,200 Speaker 2: tickets at Chelseahandler dot com for the High and Mighty Tour. 15 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:51,440 Speaker 3: Hello Catherine, Hi, Chelsea, you're about to be traveling. 16 00:00:51,479 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 4: You are traveling. 17 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:52,800 Speaker 5: I am traveling. 18 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 1: I have just left in Nantucket. 19 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 2: Oh yes, Yaminika and I were in Nantucket. We had 20 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 2: two shows here here, we had a show at the 21 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:05,080 Speaker 2: Comedy Melody Tent, and now I'm off to Wimbledon. 22 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:07,160 Speaker 4: That's very exciting, but I will. 23 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:08,320 Speaker 1: Be performing tennis. 24 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:11,080 Speaker 3: Oh, I'm gonna do the first serve. 25 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:14,320 Speaker 2: Sabena Williams is returning to the singles tennis and I 26 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 2: am too amazing returning. I'm debuting at fifty one. I 27 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:19,680 Speaker 2: figured why. 28 00:01:19,400 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 4: Not listen challenge yourself. 29 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:24,240 Speaker 2: But I'm bringing Megan Gaily, who's a comedian whopes for me. 30 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:27,039 Speaker 2: It's her dream to go to go to Wimbledon, so 31 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:30,200 Speaker 2: I'm bringing her. She's coming for like two days and 32 00:01:30,240 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 2: then I'm going on it. Yeah, I'm going to be 33 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 2: in London for a few days and then I'm going 34 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 2: to go on a nice boat and then I'm going 35 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:37,679 Speaker 2: to go to Spanish immersion school. 36 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 4: Oh oh in Spain. 37 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:42,560 Speaker 1: I'm guessing Madrid. Yes, Spanish school. 38 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 4: I love it. 39 00:01:43,440 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 3: I think that's going to like catapult your Spanish. 40 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:47,119 Speaker 2: I know that's what I'm hoping. I think I might 41 00:01:47,280 --> 00:01:49,120 Speaker 2: do it for like two weeks straight. I mean, we'll 42 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 2: see if I can last that long. Yeah, but it's 43 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 2: like six. 44 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:52,080 Speaker 1: Hours a day. 45 00:01:52,200 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 3: Well, you speak enough too that if someone like, if 46 00:01:54,640 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 3: it's totally immersive and they're just speaking Spanish, you like, you'll. 47 00:01:57,720 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 1: Be totally immersive. I'm staying at a nice hotel. 48 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:02,200 Speaker 5: I love to listen. 49 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 2: I looked into the possibility and I was like, this 50 00:02:06,440 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 2: is better. If I have my own bar and restaurant 51 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:12,240 Speaker 2: every night, that's okay, I want to hook up or 52 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:15,920 Speaker 2: you know, bounce around town. It's Madrid in the summertime, 53 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:18,960 Speaker 2: so it's to be popping. So I'm excited about it. 54 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:21,880 Speaker 2: It's going to be a Chelsea classic Chelsea adventure. 55 00:02:22,840 --> 00:02:23,920 Speaker 4: But I agree with that. 56 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:25,560 Speaker 3: It's like you can work your brain during the day 57 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 3: and then at night you can party and have fun. 58 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:28,799 Speaker 4: Any blush if you need. 59 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:31,959 Speaker 2: Yes exactly, or we'll practice my Spanish, my procace listen. 60 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 2: I've always been looking for a man with a language 61 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:36,680 Speaker 2: barrier so perfect. Yeah, I think that this might be 62 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:38,320 Speaker 2: an opportunity for multiple things. 63 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:39,000 Speaker 5: Well. 64 00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:42,200 Speaker 3: Our guest today is a legendary comic and actress. Her 65 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:45,359 Speaker 3: new special, Wanda Sykes Legacy is on Netflix now. 66 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:47,080 Speaker 1: Okay, I love it, love it, love it. 67 00:02:47,440 --> 00:02:50,040 Speaker 2: The woman who has her new stand up special out 68 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:54,400 Speaker 2: on Netflix called Legacy, which is a plus plus, is 69 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:58,120 Speaker 2: joining us here today. Wanda Sykes is here. Hi, Wanda, Hi, 70 00:02:58,639 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 2: how you doing This? Is our producer Catherine Hey, Catherine, Hi, 71 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:03,120 Speaker 2: how are you? 72 00:03:03,240 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 1: Where are we where are you zooming in from? 73 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 2: Are you at the opening of the Obama Library today 74 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:08,400 Speaker 2: in Chicago? 75 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 5: Wanda, I wish, I wish I could have been there, 76 00:03:11,520 --> 00:03:14,360 Speaker 5: But actually I was in Costco while that was going on. 77 00:03:14,520 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 5: I was in the middle of Costco, like just sobbing. 78 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:20,800 Speaker 1: Why oh because because of the speeches. 79 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:25,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, oh yeah, Actually the Eddie veteran the kids took 80 00:03:25,960 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 5: me out. 81 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 2: Oh, I haven't had I've been recording all day, so 82 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:30,760 Speaker 2: we haven't seen I haven't seen that part, ye, but 83 00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 2: I saw the show Obama's speech talking to him about 84 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 2: how great he is, because you know, throughout all of 85 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 2: our time with the Obamas, she's always kind of like, 86 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 2: this is a regular guy, you know, like I want 87 00:03:42,960 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 2: to make sure he keeps his feet on the ground. 88 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:47,040 Speaker 2: Like she always kind of gives that kind of energy, 89 00:03:47,440 --> 00:03:49,720 Speaker 2: you know, like I'm pissed about being in the White House. 90 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:53,160 Speaker 1: You maybe do this, and now you know, now I 91 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:54,240 Speaker 1: gotta deal with all the shit. 92 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:58,600 Speaker 2: So it was so and of course you loves this man, obviously, 93 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 2: but to hear obviously, I mean, we all love him too, 94 00:04:02,320 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 2: but to hear her talk about him in that way 95 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 2: was so beautiful and honestly right on fucking time. 96 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:13,119 Speaker 5: Hm. Absolutely, absolutely, it was great. Wait do you see 97 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 5: Eddy veteran? These kids? 98 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 1: Oh man, really, what happens? Give us a preview? Tell 99 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:18,640 Speaker 1: me yeah. 100 00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 5: They composed a song, an original song, just for the 101 00:04:22,560 --> 00:04:27,800 Speaker 5: occasion and along with these these local kids, and it 102 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:29,120 Speaker 5: was just incredible. 103 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 2: Oh, I can't wait to see that. I can't wait 104 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 2: to see that, Wanda. I love your news special. You 105 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:37,760 Speaker 2: better get an Emmy nomination for it. It's so great. 106 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:40,360 Speaker 2: One of the things I admire the most about you, 107 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:42,679 Speaker 2: I realized, I know, I found out a lot about 108 00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:45,440 Speaker 2: you doing the research for this, but that I didn't 109 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:47,599 Speaker 2: realize I knew because I've known you for so many years, 110 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:50,640 Speaker 2: but I don't really know you well. But one of 111 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 2: the things that I've admired about you for as long 112 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:56,880 Speaker 2: as I have known you is just how political you 113 00:04:56,920 --> 00:04:59,520 Speaker 2: are and how you talk about politics and your specials. 114 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 2: So many comedians really try to steer clear of that 115 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:04,920 Speaker 2: and instead just show up at the White House for 116 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 2: a UFC fight and act like they don't know anything 117 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:08,080 Speaker 2: about politics. 118 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:09,840 Speaker 1: So it's really what what? 119 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:14,600 Speaker 5: Oh this is the White House? The president lives here. 120 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 5: Oh wow, I didn't know? Oh who knew? 121 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:21,680 Speaker 1: And I love what you said. I was watching your 122 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 1: Vulture interview. 123 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:25,240 Speaker 2: I love that interviewer, the guy that interviewed you for Vulture, 124 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:28,440 Speaker 2: He interviewed heat He asks the best fucking questions, don't you. 125 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:30,520 Speaker 5: Think he does? He's great. 126 00:05:30,600 --> 00:05:31,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, he really does his research. 127 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:34,680 Speaker 2: But I watch your Vulture interview and he was asking you, 128 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:37,279 Speaker 2: you know, about your political stance and do you feel 129 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 2: how you feel about being political? Do you ever get scared? 130 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:42,800 Speaker 2: And I thought that was a really interesting question and 131 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 2: and what you said about it. So I would love 132 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:48,240 Speaker 2: to just talk a little bit about that, like how 133 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:51,480 Speaker 2: you frame that and how you view being political, because 134 00:05:51,839 --> 00:05:54,360 Speaker 2: I'm sure you know that I feel very strongly about, 135 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:56,880 Speaker 2: you know, the stuff that you're talking about too, And 136 00:05:56,960 --> 00:05:59,480 Speaker 2: I feel like it's a responsibility, not an option. 137 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:02,920 Speaker 5: Absolutely. I mean I think that's that's our you know, 138 00:06:02,960 --> 00:06:05,480 Speaker 5: what we're supposed to do. And and honestly, and those 139 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:08,599 Speaker 5: are the comedians that resonate with me. I feel like 140 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:11,880 Speaker 5: we're like the Daredevil's kind of like we're the ones 141 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 5: who are supposed to go out and give a voice 142 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:19,599 Speaker 5: to the people who are marginalized. And I happen to 143 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 5: check a lot of boxes in those margins. You know, 144 00:06:24,240 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 5: being a woman, being you know, African American, being queer. 145 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 5: So it's just it's just to me, that's that's what 146 00:06:32,360 --> 00:06:35,200 Speaker 5: I'm meant to, you know, I would feel weird if 147 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:38,160 Speaker 5: I went out there and just talked about I don't know, 148 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 5: just everyday stuff and not about what's really affecting me 149 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:44,479 Speaker 5: in my life and everyone else. 150 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:47,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel the same way. 151 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:49,400 Speaker 2: I feel like it's such a and I've learned a 152 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:52,039 Speaker 2: lot over the years of when it's important to say 153 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:55,280 Speaker 2: something and when it's just kind of noise, you know, 154 00:06:55,640 --> 00:06:57,719 Speaker 2: and when to pitch in and to be a little 155 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:01,800 Speaker 2: bit more I guess, discerning out, you know, saying things 156 00:07:01,839 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 2: so it's not like you're just banging the same drum 157 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:07,480 Speaker 2: all the time. To have an artfulness about it, which 158 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:10,760 Speaker 2: I've really started to grown to appreciate and understand more 159 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 2: as I've gotten older. So that's been helpful because obviously 160 00:07:14,360 --> 00:07:16,600 Speaker 2: we're all living through this. But I feel the same 161 00:07:16,640 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 2: way about comics who don't address it, who don't want 162 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 2: to talk about politics. 163 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:21,560 Speaker 1: Or can't say anything. 164 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 2: I'd rather you be emphatically against what we're saying and 165 00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 2: be honest about that than trying to pretend you don't 166 00:07:28,480 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 2: know what's going on. I find that to be in 167 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:33,160 Speaker 2: affront to all beat like to humanity. 168 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:34,840 Speaker 1: But while I was doing this. 169 00:07:34,880 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 2: Reading about you, I had no idea you were married 170 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:38,960 Speaker 2: to a man at some point. 171 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 1: What were you thinking? I can't believe I didn't know 172 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 1: this about you. 173 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 5: I'm just trying to fit in for years. I was 174 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 5: trying to fit in, you know. I heard that was 175 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:53,440 Speaker 5: the way to go. I heard that was the way 176 00:07:53,480 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 5: to go. 177 00:07:53,760 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 1: Oh my god, how long did that last? Wanda? 178 00:07:56,840 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 5: I chose that lifestyle to I really did. 179 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:04,680 Speaker 2: I would love to see some photographs from that era 180 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:05,480 Speaker 2: of your life. 181 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:09,640 Speaker 1: No, what how long did that last? 182 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:14,239 Speaker 5: Oh? Wow, that that lasted? What I good? Lord? Maybe 183 00:08:14,880 --> 00:08:16,560 Speaker 5: six seven years? 184 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:16,920 Speaker 1: Yeah? 185 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:19,400 Speaker 2: And when you did you when you left that marriage, 186 00:08:19,680 --> 00:08:22,280 Speaker 2: did you tell him that you're not in a men 187 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:24,120 Speaker 2: or was it just him personal? 188 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:28,600 Speaker 5: And you know what, that wasn't even why it ended. 189 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 5: I think it just was. It just was a bad situation, 190 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 5: bad relationship. Yeah. 191 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 2: And that you grew up on an army with an 192 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:39,440 Speaker 2: army father. I had no idea about that either. That's crazy. 193 00:08:39,920 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 5: Yeah. My dad's a retired colonel. 194 00:08:41,800 --> 00:08:43,840 Speaker 2: So that must have been a really kind of very 195 00:08:44,200 --> 00:08:46,720 Speaker 2: specific strict upbringing, do. 196 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 5: You know what? Not really the way my dad approached 197 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 5: it is. I mean, you know, he took his job seriously, 198 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:56,439 Speaker 5: but when you know, he came home, he took off 199 00:08:56,480 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 5: the uniform and you know, read the paper chilled and 200 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 5: he was just he was just dad. You know. It 201 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 5: wasn't make your bed and tighten the corners and all 202 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:10,520 Speaker 5: that stuff like that. No, we but just but just 203 00:09:10,600 --> 00:09:14,800 Speaker 5: being and you know, growing up in Virginia with you know, 204 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:18,959 Speaker 5: black parents, it's it's strict already. It really the army. 205 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:23,960 Speaker 5: It was nothing else that the army could do. Really honestly, 206 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:26,120 Speaker 5: I really don't know what else the army could have done. 207 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:27,960 Speaker 1: Like what kind of rules did they have for you 208 00:09:28,080 --> 00:09:28,679 Speaker 1: growing up? 209 00:09:29,080 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 5: It was mainly like respect and u you know was 210 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 5: it was yes sir, no ma'am and you know you 211 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 5: cleaned up and you had we had chores and everything. 212 00:09:42,480 --> 00:09:44,960 Speaker 5: But it was mainly just like just a lot of 213 00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:48,480 Speaker 5: behavior and you know, you don't you don't act up 214 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:52,160 Speaker 5: in school. You know, you get good grades and do 215 00:09:52,240 --> 00:09:56,000 Speaker 5: your homework, say your grace before you eat, and you 216 00:09:56,000 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 5: know church on Sundays. 217 00:09:58,480 --> 00:10:00,560 Speaker 1: Did you like going to church? I did? 218 00:10:00,920 --> 00:10:08,120 Speaker 5: I did? Do you go still I go online covid. 219 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:11,599 Speaker 5: Covid was great man with the online church. I was 220 00:10:12,080 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 5: going to church all over the country, you know, here, 221 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:19,000 Speaker 5: popping there, you see what they're doing over here, you know. 222 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:24,000 Speaker 5: But I finally joined the church and it's it's in Alexandria, Virginia. 223 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 5: So I you know, when I'm in town, I go, 224 00:10:26,679 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 5: I pop in. 225 00:10:27,640 --> 00:10:30,600 Speaker 1: That's nice. And does Alex go with you? 226 00:10:30,640 --> 00:10:32,040 Speaker 5: No, No, she's. 227 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:37,160 Speaker 2: She's French, she's she's friends. The whole special is like, 228 00:10:37,280 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 2: I love that you have her smoking cigarettes only to 229 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 2: reveal that she doesn't smoke cigarettes at the end. 230 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:46,000 Speaker 5: Not at all. But it's just how I've always seen her. 231 00:10:46,360 --> 00:10:47,720 Speaker 5: I've always seen her just. 232 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 2: So she's French, so she's not interested in church. But 233 00:10:52,040 --> 00:10:54,400 Speaker 2: you so that's interesting that you still go to church 234 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:55,559 Speaker 2: and that you're back in Virginia. 235 00:10:55,640 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 5: I'm all French people don't go, well, most of them don't. 236 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:01,200 Speaker 5: It's not that you're don't talk about it. But you 237 00:11:01,240 --> 00:11:05,480 Speaker 5: know what, there's so many churches in Europe, especially like 238 00:11:05,559 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 5: in France, there's tons of churches. I mean, look they 239 00:11:09,559 --> 00:11:11,439 Speaker 5: have not they got you know. 240 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:12,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, but their churches. 241 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:16,560 Speaker 2: The churches want to seem like historical but their churches 242 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:19,360 Speaker 2: seem like a relic from the past because half of 243 00:11:19,360 --> 00:11:22,520 Speaker 2: those churches you go into, it's like it's tourists, right, 244 00:11:22,640 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 2: you know, like Lasagrada and Barcelona. You're like, oh my God, 245 00:11:25,960 --> 00:11:27,880 Speaker 2: and then you're like, wait, you forget that you're actually 246 00:11:27,880 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 2: in a place of worship. 247 00:11:29,440 --> 00:11:32,079 Speaker 5: Right, It's more like a museum, I guess. 248 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:34,120 Speaker 1: But it's interesting that what about the kids. Do the 249 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:35,280 Speaker 1: kids ever go to church with you? 250 00:11:35,840 --> 00:11:39,120 Speaker 5: They've been a couple of times with me, yeah, but 251 00:11:39,120 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 5: but not really. 252 00:11:40,080 --> 00:11:42,600 Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I think it's interesting when people return to 253 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:43,880 Speaker 2: their roots. 254 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:47,440 Speaker 5: Like I've failed at that. That's that's one thing I go, Oh, man, 255 00:11:47,840 --> 00:11:49,200 Speaker 5: I didn't make my kids go to church. 256 00:11:49,320 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 2: I think in these modern times we're living in, it 257 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 2: would be a pretty big feat to get two kids 258 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 2: to go to church. 259 00:11:54,240 --> 00:11:54,520 Speaker 5: I know. 260 00:11:54,960 --> 00:11:57,720 Speaker 2: But I do think this like returned to like you 261 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:00,840 Speaker 2: return to the church. Like, it's very interesting at the 262 00:12:00,880 --> 00:12:04,160 Speaker 2: phase of life that you're in that these things are 263 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:06,400 Speaker 2: still in your life, or that you've returned to them. 264 00:12:06,480 --> 00:12:07,840 Speaker 1: Don't you do you ever think about that? 265 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:11,800 Speaker 5: Well? I think it's what keeps me grounded. I guess 266 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:15,040 Speaker 5: I'm not not necessarily grounded. It's just my it's my base, 267 00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:19,040 Speaker 5: It's where I'm comfortable. It's not really grant, it's my 268 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:25,079 Speaker 5: support really, yeah, it's my foundation. So it was pretty easy, 269 00:12:25,160 --> 00:12:27,000 Speaker 5: I guess to ease back into it. 270 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:30,280 Speaker 1: And does Alex like Virginia as a French woman. 271 00:12:30,720 --> 00:12:35,559 Speaker 5: I don't think she has an opinion. You don't she 272 00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:40,960 Speaker 5: would would she preferred to South of France? Absolutely? 273 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:46,880 Speaker 1: What about La? 274 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:49,200 Speaker 2: What do you think about La and living in La? 275 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:50,600 Speaker 2: Because don't you go back and forth? 276 00:12:50,960 --> 00:12:53,520 Speaker 5: Yeah, I still have my place in La. Yeah, I 277 00:12:53,679 --> 00:12:56,480 Speaker 5: like it out there. I like it out in LA. 278 00:12:56,559 --> 00:12:59,480 Speaker 5: I have great friends out there. It's funny. When I'm there, 279 00:12:59,760 --> 00:13:02,400 Speaker 5: it's like I'm working and I feel like I'm in 280 00:13:02,440 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 5: show business. And when I'm in Philadelphia, I go, oh, 281 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:07,760 Speaker 5: you know, I'm in Philly. 282 00:13:08,120 --> 00:13:08,320 Speaker 2: You know. 283 00:13:09,920 --> 00:13:12,960 Speaker 5: Sometimes I've been out you know, like gardening or whatever, 284 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:15,440 Speaker 5: and I just go, I wonder how much money I'm 285 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 5: losing right now just out here not doing show business stuff. 286 00:13:21,600 --> 00:13:21,840 Speaker 6: You know. 287 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:26,320 Speaker 5: But but it's good because that's that's where I get creative. 288 00:13:26,320 --> 00:13:29,480 Speaker 5: That's where you know, I'm I have my boots on 289 00:13:29,520 --> 00:13:31,560 Speaker 5: the ground as far as what's actually happening. 290 00:13:32,000 --> 00:13:35,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, I find LA. Don't you feel like everyone in 291 00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:37,120 Speaker 1: LA has gotten sober. 292 00:13:37,640 --> 00:13:40,000 Speaker 5: Oh wow, you gotta hang out with my friends. 293 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:43,520 Speaker 2: There's a lot of sober people in LA. Now, there's 294 00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:44,000 Speaker 2: a lot. 295 00:13:44,280 --> 00:13:46,760 Speaker 5: You're right, You're right, and you know it's I think 296 00:13:46,760 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 5: it's our peers and we're all worried about our livers now, right. 297 00:13:50,120 --> 00:13:51,920 Speaker 1: I know, But I don't. I'm never going to give 298 00:13:52,000 --> 00:13:53,280 Speaker 1: up drinking, do you know what I mean? 299 00:13:53,440 --> 00:13:55,440 Speaker 5: Like, it's so No, I'm not doing that. 300 00:13:55,600 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, I know you're on the same team. 301 00:13:57,080 --> 00:14:01,120 Speaker 5: I'm on with you drinking. I'm I'm still ting buck. 302 00:14:01,440 --> 00:14:01,640 Speaker 3: Yeah. 303 00:14:01,640 --> 00:14:03,679 Speaker 2: And if that takes me down, then so be it. 304 00:14:03,760 --> 00:14:05,520 Speaker 2: Like then that's the way it's going to go down. 305 00:14:05,720 --> 00:14:08,880 Speaker 2: But I went to three dinners last week and a 306 00:14:08,920 --> 00:14:12,480 Speaker 2: total of eleven people were at three of these dinners 307 00:14:12,520 --> 00:14:15,240 Speaker 2: and I was the only person drinking at. 308 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:17,960 Speaker 1: All three dinners. Oh wow, yes. 309 00:14:18,600 --> 00:14:20,760 Speaker 2: And I was like, wow, look what's become of us? 310 00:14:21,120 --> 00:14:23,800 Speaker 2: I said, look at everyone. Everyone's sober and not not 311 00:14:23,880 --> 00:14:28,120 Speaker 2: that people. Only one of the women was sober. The 312 00:14:28,160 --> 00:14:32,120 Speaker 2: others just had no interest in alcohol. And I was baffled. 313 00:14:32,160 --> 00:14:32,640 Speaker 7: What were they? 314 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:33,880 Speaker 5: What were the old weed? 315 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:37,200 Speaker 1: No? No, but I was on weed and alcohol. 316 00:14:38,880 --> 00:14:39,880 Speaker 4: Somebody's got to bring the party. 317 00:14:39,960 --> 00:14:41,560 Speaker 1: Yes, somebody's got to bring the party. 318 00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:44,920 Speaker 4: I mean, god, yeah. 319 00:14:44,280 --> 00:14:45,640 Speaker 1: Where do you do stage time? 320 00:14:45,840 --> 00:14:47,840 Speaker 2: Because when I saw you at Jane Fonda's thing, we 321 00:14:47,880 --> 00:14:49,840 Speaker 2: both saw each other at a Jane Fonda event for 322 00:14:49,840 --> 00:14:51,200 Speaker 2: a Climate Her Climate Pack. 323 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:52,080 Speaker 1: Jane is. 324 00:14:52,520 --> 00:14:54,280 Speaker 2: I know, Jane is a really good friend of yours, 325 00:14:54,360 --> 00:14:56,680 Speaker 2: and she's a really great friend of mine as well. 326 00:14:56,800 --> 00:14:59,920 Speaker 2: And this woman is tireless in her efforts I have. 327 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:02,120 Speaker 2: I've never seen anything like it in my entire life. 328 00:15:02,160 --> 00:15:03,840 Speaker 2: I've never seen anybody work as hard. 329 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:04,880 Speaker 1: As Jane fonder works. 330 00:15:05,160 --> 00:15:08,360 Speaker 5: Can't name a person, can't name one. She's I mean incredible. 331 00:15:09,160 --> 00:15:11,240 Speaker 5: I really think she was put on this earth to 332 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:13,440 Speaker 5: make us all feel bad about ourselves. Really. 333 00:15:13,600 --> 00:15:16,400 Speaker 2: She told me that she makes a hundred calls before 334 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:19,720 Speaker 2: noon every single day to raise money for Climate her 335 00:15:19,720 --> 00:15:20,320 Speaker 2: Climate Pack. 336 00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:23,120 Speaker 1: One hundred, one hundred calls per day. 337 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:25,760 Speaker 4: That's wild by noon. 338 00:15:26,360 --> 00:15:28,760 Speaker 2: I mean, can you imagine being that annoying and having 339 00:15:28,800 --> 00:15:31,040 Speaker 2: to call people and ask them for money one hundred 340 00:15:31,120 --> 00:15:34,880 Speaker 2: times a day. I would be like, forget it, forget 341 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:36,640 Speaker 2: about the climate. I don't have it in me. 342 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:41,040 Speaker 5: I can't see myself doing that, especially at Jane's age. 343 00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:45,240 Speaker 5: I'm like, let the sun Win, what do I care? 344 00:15:45,800 --> 00:15:50,280 Speaker 1: You know, how did you guys first meet on Monster 345 00:15:50,360 --> 00:15:50,640 Speaker 1: in Law? 346 00:15:50,800 --> 00:15:51,040 Speaker 8: Was it? 347 00:15:51,280 --> 00:15:52,280 Speaker 5: Yeah? Monster in Law? 348 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:54,200 Speaker 1: So what was your first interaction? 349 00:15:54,440 --> 00:15:58,600 Speaker 5: Like incredible. I was so nervous because you know, it's 350 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:04,600 Speaker 5: Jane Fonda and this was her first project since she 351 00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:08,160 Speaker 5: kind of like semi retired. So I'm like, oh my god, 352 00:16:08,240 --> 00:16:10,200 Speaker 5: you know, all my scenes are with her, what is 353 00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:15,200 Speaker 5: this gonna be like? And she walked in and she 354 00:16:15,400 --> 00:16:18,200 Speaker 5: just was like Wanda and just gave me a big 355 00:16:18,320 --> 00:16:22,240 Speaker 5: hug and was like, I'm Jane Fonda. And I'm like, like, 356 00:16:22,320 --> 00:16:25,600 Speaker 5: we didn't know that, but okay, and she's like I am, 357 00:16:25,680 --> 00:16:27,520 Speaker 5: you know, just so excited to work with you. And 358 00:16:27,960 --> 00:16:32,080 Speaker 5: she was just so gracious and just you know, she's like, 359 00:16:32,120 --> 00:16:33,520 Speaker 5: you're gonna have to help me out a lot because 360 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:35,480 Speaker 5: it's been a while since I've you know, done this. 361 00:16:35,600 --> 00:16:39,320 Speaker 5: I'm like, okay, now it's a little patronizing, but all right, Okay, 362 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:45,560 Speaker 5: I appreciate it. I appreciate like this is a sweet 363 00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:49,680 Speaker 5: she's just a sweetheart, really just genuine good just a good, 364 00:16:49,880 --> 00:16:50,440 Speaker 5: good woman. 365 00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:52,640 Speaker 2: I mean, you've done a lot of acting work and 366 00:16:52,680 --> 00:16:54,360 Speaker 2: you're in a lot of so I love you and 367 00:16:54,400 --> 00:16:56,680 Speaker 2: the other two. I mean, that is so fucking funny 368 00:16:56,720 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 2: that show. Uh, how do you decide when you're gonna 369 00:16:59,280 --> 00:17:01,320 Speaker 2: do stuff and you're going to do a special when 370 00:17:01,360 --> 00:17:03,960 Speaker 2: you're gonna take on a TV show? Or do you 371 00:17:04,000 --> 00:17:06,320 Speaker 2: just wait for opportunities to present themselves. 372 00:17:06,720 --> 00:17:11,320 Speaker 5: That's usually how it happens. Opportunities present themselves. Or I 373 00:17:11,359 --> 00:17:13,160 Speaker 5: come up with an ida and I go, oh, I think, 374 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:15,800 Speaker 5: I'm yeah, let me try this. I want to let 375 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:17,240 Speaker 5: me see if I can get this one. You know, 376 00:17:17,440 --> 00:17:20,520 Speaker 5: get this up and go on. Far as the specials, 377 00:17:21,119 --> 00:17:24,080 Speaker 5: you kind of know, right, I mean, you you get 378 00:17:24,080 --> 00:17:26,919 Speaker 5: the material going and and then you get to the 379 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:29,280 Speaker 5: points like I think I got something, and then it's 380 00:17:29,320 --> 00:17:33,080 Speaker 5: like I need when I feel like I'm like six 381 00:17:33,240 --> 00:17:37,200 Speaker 5: months away, then I'll then I'll tell my agent, hey, 382 00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:39,960 Speaker 5: let's you know, let's do a special, because then that'll 383 00:17:39,960 --> 00:17:43,840 Speaker 5: at least give me another year to work on it. 384 00:17:44,320 --> 00:17:44,800 Speaker 1: Yeah. 385 00:17:44,880 --> 00:17:47,760 Speaker 2: I think specials are really specific to each comedian, Like 386 00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:50,440 Speaker 2: how many times you have to run a set? How 387 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 2: many times you have to do it. Some people feel 388 00:17:52,600 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 2: like they have to do it two hundred times. There 389 00:17:54,600 --> 00:17:57,760 Speaker 2: are comedians who can do it fifty times and then 390 00:17:57,800 --> 00:18:00,000 Speaker 2: be ready for a special. But I loved the open 391 00:18:00,320 --> 00:18:03,159 Speaker 2: sequence because she went back to Hampton. Uh is it 392 00:18:03,200 --> 00:18:05,280 Speaker 2: Hampton College or Hampton University. 393 00:18:04,880 --> 00:18:07,680 Speaker 5: Hampton University, Hampton University. 394 00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:10,159 Speaker 2: Which and there's the opening sequence is so beautifully shot. 395 00:18:10,240 --> 00:18:12,239 Speaker 2: And who's like, was that your director's idea? Was that 396 00:18:12,240 --> 00:18:12,800 Speaker 2: your idea? 397 00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:16,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, Julie dashed. Yeah, I wanted something saying I'm coming 398 00:18:16,960 --> 00:18:19,960 Speaker 5: back home. And you know, she did that amazing movie 399 00:18:20,040 --> 00:18:22,600 Speaker 5: Daughters of the Dust, so she was like, I'm you know, 400 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,399 Speaker 5: she put together the storyboard and I was like, this 401 00:18:25,560 --> 00:18:27,760 Speaker 5: is it. This is exactly what I wanted. You know, 402 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:31,359 Speaker 5: I wanted the band, I wanted the choir. Uh so yeah, 403 00:18:31,400 --> 00:18:33,679 Speaker 5: she she nailed it, and it's just yeah, I think 404 00:18:33,720 --> 00:18:34,360 Speaker 5: it's beautiful. 405 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:35,560 Speaker 1: It'stif Yeah, it's beautiful. 406 00:18:35,600 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 2: And you could tell how impactful it was because you're 407 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:39,560 Speaker 2: pretty emotional, as you should be. 408 00:18:39,800 --> 00:18:42,480 Speaker 1: Bringing that home is really profound. What number special is 409 00:18:42,560 --> 00:18:42,960 Speaker 1: this for you? 410 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:46,879 Speaker 5: I think seven? Wow? I think it's seven. Yeah. 411 00:18:46,920 --> 00:18:47,280 Speaker 1: Seven? 412 00:18:47,440 --> 00:18:49,640 Speaker 2: And you haven't won an Emmy yet for a stand 413 00:18:49,720 --> 00:18:51,679 Speaker 2: up special or have you? 414 00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:54,200 Speaker 5: No A lot of nominations but no win. 415 00:18:54,680 --> 00:18:57,160 Speaker 1: Okay, well, let's hope that this fucking brings it home. 416 00:18:58,640 --> 00:18:59,840 Speaker 1: How do you feel I want to. 417 00:18:59,760 --> 00:19:03,440 Speaker 2: Ask you a question about like being a female in comedy, 418 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:06,600 Speaker 2: coming from another female rather than a man asking this question, 419 00:19:06,720 --> 00:19:09,840 Speaker 2: because we get asked the same questions all the time 420 00:19:09,960 --> 00:19:12,840 Speaker 2: from men. But I want to ask you about like 421 00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:17,840 Speaker 2: your competitive spirit or your competitive nature and how you 422 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:20,960 Speaker 2: see that, how that's changed over the years for you, 423 00:19:21,560 --> 00:19:24,239 Speaker 2: and do you view that as a good thing or 424 00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:25,640 Speaker 2: do you view it as a negative thing. 425 00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:29,760 Speaker 5: I don't look at it as a competitive thing. I 426 00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:31,280 Speaker 5: I compete with myself. 427 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:31,720 Speaker 6: You know. 428 00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:34,960 Speaker 5: It's like, so my next special it has to be better, 429 00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:39,000 Speaker 5: better than Legacy, And I'm already going I don't know 430 00:19:39,040 --> 00:19:42,639 Speaker 5: how I'm gonna do that because this one was so meaningful, 431 00:19:43,280 --> 00:19:46,440 Speaker 5: So like, what's what is the next one going to be? 432 00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:52,080 Speaker 5: But I think like whatever whatever happens, like whatever happens 433 00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:57,200 Speaker 5: in November, whatever happens in two years from now, will 434 00:19:57,520 --> 00:20:01,959 Speaker 5: you know, maybe that'll be something that will inspire the 435 00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:04,639 Speaker 5: next one. Or maybe I'll be like, hey, fuck it, 436 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:06,919 Speaker 5: that's it, and I did Legacy. I'm done. You know 437 00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:10,359 Speaker 5: who knows? But yeah, I don't. I don't look at 438 00:20:10,359 --> 00:20:12,480 Speaker 5: it as as competing because if you do that, I 439 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:15,520 Speaker 5: think you're gonna get out of who you are, you know, 440 00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:19,800 Speaker 5: as far as your voice. I don't want to look 441 00:20:19,840 --> 00:20:23,639 Speaker 5: at somebody else's special and go oh I can do 442 00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:29,439 Speaker 5: that and then start taking on these elements that that 443 00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:32,920 Speaker 5: aren't really authentic to me. But I could pull it off, 444 00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:35,800 Speaker 5: but I don't, you know, so I don't. Yeah, I 445 00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 5: try not to. I try not to do that. However, 446 00:20:39,720 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 5: I will say that there's you know, like for me, 447 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:45,679 Speaker 5: the one who did it was Chris Rock when he 448 00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:51,080 Speaker 5: did Bring the Pain to me, that elevated comedy, where 449 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:54,480 Speaker 5: it challenged me, where I said, I got to do 450 00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:58,520 Speaker 5: better and so if so, if I look at that 451 00:20:58,640 --> 00:21:00,600 Speaker 5: as a competition, yeah, but to me, it was more 452 00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:05,439 Speaker 5: like a challenge, not you know, I gotta do you know, 453 00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:07,720 Speaker 5: be better whatever than what he was doing. 454 00:21:07,600 --> 00:21:10,760 Speaker 2: Like it inspired you to want to like create something 455 00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:14,520 Speaker 2: like what about what about Bring the Pain specifically? Was 456 00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:17,200 Speaker 2: it the like the sentiment of it or was there 457 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:20,760 Speaker 2: something more specific? I mean, obviously that was an incredible 458 00:21:20,800 --> 00:21:24,680 Speaker 2: special I think he wanted to be made for that, right right. 459 00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:27,400 Speaker 5: Yeah, No, I mean no one was doing that. We 460 00:21:27,400 --> 00:21:31,959 Speaker 5: were all not really talking about anything. It was, you know, 461 00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:35,800 Speaker 5: just a lot of sex jokes and black people do this, 462 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:38,600 Speaker 5: White people do that, and I don't know, it was 463 00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:40,720 Speaker 5: just kind of like comedy was just kind of it 464 00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:43,920 Speaker 5: just like deaf Jam was hot. Deaf Jam was hot, 465 00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:46,440 Speaker 5: which was good because we got a lot of great 466 00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:49,440 Speaker 5: voices from that, great you know, funny comics from that. 467 00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:53,520 Speaker 5: But Chris, I think he brought it back. He brought 468 00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:58,840 Speaker 5: it back to for me, like you know, prior and 469 00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:02,280 Speaker 5: Carlin and back in net Line. 470 00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:06,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think there's definitely an evolution that happens. And 471 00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:09,400 Speaker 2: we're living during a time where we're seeing it a lot. 472 00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:12,159 Speaker 2: And I love the time we're living in for the 473 00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:15,920 Speaker 2: reason because there are so many female comics that are 474 00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:19,320 Speaker 2: killing it and crushing it. It's like so nice to 475 00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:23,080 Speaker 2: finally have so many people to reference. And point two 476 00:22:23,119 --> 00:22:25,400 Speaker 2: when people ask you what is it like to be 477 00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:27,280 Speaker 2: you know, what was it like to be one of 478 00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:29,119 Speaker 2: the only women? And it's like we were never. 479 00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:31,080 Speaker 1: I was never in a situation where I was the 480 00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:31,760 Speaker 1: only woman. 481 00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:34,119 Speaker 2: I'd be on a lineup where I was the only woman, 482 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:36,600 Speaker 2: but I was not the only woman, you know, Like 483 00:22:37,040 --> 00:22:39,480 Speaker 2: and to see it now where there's so many people 484 00:22:39,520 --> 00:22:42,320 Speaker 2: that you can refer to and and speak to, and 485 00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:45,000 Speaker 2: you when somebody asks you who should we be looking 486 00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:47,320 Speaker 2: at You're like, oh, this is so fucking nice. It 487 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:51,080 Speaker 2: actually has changed since we've been on the scene, you know, 488 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:55,480 Speaker 2: to see that evolution. And then also I think personally 489 00:22:55,520 --> 00:22:59,160 Speaker 2: for each comic, like as women, I feel that even 490 00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:02,119 Speaker 2: more that you have such a you know, you have 491 00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:05,280 Speaker 2: different periods of your life. I'm fifty one, I think 492 00:23:05,280 --> 00:23:09,639 Speaker 2: you're sixty two now, right, yes, And like you're speaking 493 00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:11,480 Speaker 2: of that, like you're talking a lot about the twins 494 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:15,159 Speaker 2: in this special. You're talking about them and they you know, 495 00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:17,679 Speaker 2: you talk about spanking, you talk about what, you know, 496 00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:20,119 Speaker 2: the impact that they've had on your life. But the 497 00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:21,640 Speaker 2: fact that they're going to be out of the house soon. 498 00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:23,880 Speaker 2: Probably they're going to go to college in a year 499 00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:26,800 Speaker 2: or two years and a year, yeah, and a year. 500 00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:28,680 Speaker 1: Are you looking forward to that period of time? 501 00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:33,280 Speaker 5: You know what I am? And Alex got upset with 502 00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:35,239 Speaker 5: me because I said that. I think I was on 503 00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:39,399 Speaker 5: Jimmy Kevil or what are these shows? And I said, 504 00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:43,719 Speaker 5: I'm excited about I'm looking forward to and she and 505 00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:46,919 Speaker 5: that upset her because she I guess she took it 506 00:23:46,960 --> 00:23:50,399 Speaker 5: as like I want the kids gone, But to me, 507 00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:53,560 Speaker 5: it's like, yeah, I did you know we did it. 508 00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:56,119 Speaker 5: We you know, we raised these kids and now they're 509 00:23:56,640 --> 00:24:02,240 Speaker 5: equipped and they're ready to go to the next stage. 510 00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:06,000 Speaker 5: And I love that idea, and also like the idea 511 00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:11,560 Speaker 5: of the two of us back to just us. You know, 512 00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:15,359 Speaker 5: where every night is date night. You know, it doesn't 513 00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:17,919 Speaker 5: have to be all this. Okay, I gotta go do 514 00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:20,480 Speaker 5: this and you got to drop this one off and whatever. 515 00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:22,159 Speaker 5: I look forward to that. 516 00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:25,320 Speaker 1: What if when both of the kids went off to school. 517 00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:28,520 Speaker 2: What if in order to have the freedom that you desire, 518 00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:31,200 Speaker 2: you had to spend one month, you and Alex had 519 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:32,399 Speaker 2: to spend one month. 520 00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:33,760 Speaker 1: Living at your house. 521 00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:35,480 Speaker 2: And you can choose one of these three people that 522 00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:38,239 Speaker 2: would move in with you for just one month, and 523 00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:40,160 Speaker 2: then you would be free of them for the rest 524 00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:42,040 Speaker 2: of your life and the kid and then you could 525 00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:42,920 Speaker 2: have your private time. 526 00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:44,400 Speaker 1: I'll give you three options. 527 00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:54,280 Speaker 2: Sarah Huckabee Sanders, Megan Kelly or Ivanka Trump. One of 528 00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:56,840 Speaker 2: those three people has to live with you in order 529 00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:58,719 Speaker 2: for your kids to have successful lives. 530 00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:00,320 Speaker 1: That's the price you have to pay. 531 00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:02,280 Speaker 2: They're going to go to college, they're gonna get jobs, 532 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,960 Speaker 2: and they're gonna be happy, high functioning adults. 533 00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:09,359 Speaker 1: Who do you choose. Think about it, nightmare, blunt rotation, 534 00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:12,480 Speaker 1: nightmare blood. 535 00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:16,600 Speaker 5: How bad would their lives be if I didn't do this? 536 00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:20,280 Speaker 1: Bad bad. You don't know, and you can't risk it. 537 00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:22,480 Speaker 1: You can't risk it. You have to choose one of 538 00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:22,960 Speaker 1: these women. 539 00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:29,719 Speaker 5: Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna go. I'm going to Vanka Trump. 540 00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:34,200 Speaker 1: It's an interesting choice. Okay, and tell us why I think. 541 00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:38,479 Speaker 5: I could break her in like two weeks, give me 542 00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:42,479 Speaker 5: two weeks. I break her, and she's gonna tell me something. 543 00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:44,200 Speaker 5: She's gonna give up something. 544 00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:46,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, she's what I'm saying. 545 00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:49,359 Speaker 5: I'm gonna get something out of her. I really, I'm going. 546 00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:52,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. But you're not allowed to 547 00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:54,960 Speaker 1: be physically violent with any of these people. 548 00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:57,360 Speaker 5: Oh, spiritual conversation. 549 00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,119 Speaker 1: You can be spiritually violation. 550 00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:02,800 Speaker 5: No, no, no, I won't. I won't put my hands 551 00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:07,160 Speaker 5: on it. Just conversation. Okay, I'll get something out of her, 552 00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:07,640 Speaker 5: all right. 553 00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:09,880 Speaker 1: I like the choice of Ivanka Trovoice. 554 00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:12,040 Speaker 5: I'm a fine. I'm a fine. Out will all the 555 00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:12,879 Speaker 5: bodies are buried. 556 00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:15,240 Speaker 2: Do you think she even knows where all the bodies 557 00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:16,960 Speaker 2: are buried? I mean, I don't even think she knows 558 00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:20,159 Speaker 2: what the fuck is going on. I mean with this 559 00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 2: whole Albania thing, it's like. 560 00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:25,639 Speaker 5: Oh my god, she did that island. She did discovered 561 00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:28,439 Speaker 5: she Christopher Columbus. 562 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:31,680 Speaker 1: There was a cartoon. 563 00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:34,000 Speaker 2: I don't know if you saw this on Instagram, but 564 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,800 Speaker 2: there was a cartoon of her swimming like that. You know, 565 00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:39,920 Speaker 2: she tells the story like Albania wouldn't even have known 566 00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:42,280 Speaker 2: that she bought that island if she hadn't done that interview. 567 00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:43,000 Speaker 1: That's like some shit. 568 00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:45,800 Speaker 2: I would both like I out myself before I get caught, 569 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:48,800 Speaker 2: you know. And and they did this cartoon of her 570 00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:51,000 Speaker 2: swimming and then she swims to the island and they 571 00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:52,680 Speaker 2: climbed to the top and they're like, I think we'll 572 00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:55,760 Speaker 2: buy it. But what the Albanian people have done has 573 00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:57,000 Speaker 2: been inspirational. 574 00:26:57,359 --> 00:27:00,640 Speaker 5: Oh beautiful, beautiful, Oh give yeah. 575 00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:03,639 Speaker 2: And they're beautiful with the because people are going to Albedia, 576 00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:06,160 Speaker 2: like you know, that's becoming a hotspot for travel. 577 00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:07,840 Speaker 1: So I'm pretty proud of them. 578 00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:10,320 Speaker 2: And they've inspired Americans because it seems like we're all 579 00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:13,119 Speaker 2: sitting around with our thumbs up, our asses, looking around, 580 00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:15,760 Speaker 2: going who's gonna tell us what to do next? And 581 00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:18,439 Speaker 2: nobody seems to have any good ideas. Are you hopeful 582 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:20,679 Speaker 2: about the midterms, Wanda. 583 00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:25,639 Speaker 5: I am, yeah, I am, I'm very hopeful. Yeah, especially now, 584 00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:28,840 Speaker 5: and you know, people are finally speaking up. I mean, 585 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:32,760 Speaker 5: some Republicans are finally speaking up about this Iranian deal. 586 00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:35,639 Speaker 5: So but I am, I am, I am hopeful. I 587 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:39,760 Speaker 5: think people are just that've been hit so hard by everything, 588 00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:42,240 Speaker 5: so they got they gotta vote, they gotta they got 589 00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:43,840 Speaker 5: to step up. Yeah. 590 00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:47,320 Speaker 2: And also I think that you know, all this jerrymandering stuff, 591 00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:50,240 Speaker 2: like I really do think that's gonna kick back. There 592 00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:52,639 Speaker 2: was a state today that voted against it, a Republican 593 00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:56,480 Speaker 2: state legislature that said absolutely no to the jerrymandering. So like, 594 00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:59,159 Speaker 2: I think that also is going to have some unintended, 595 00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:02,320 Speaker 2: not positive consequences for the Republicans. 596 00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:04,360 Speaker 1: And I think the people. 597 00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:06,679 Speaker 2: That are real maga heads, like those people we just 598 00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:10,320 Speaker 2: have to consider is mentally ill. They are exactly well, 599 00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:13,359 Speaker 2: it's like racism, you're mentally Like when someone just described 600 00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 2: racism to me is mental illness, I was like that 601 00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:19,160 Speaker 2: clicked in, and that applies to magas too. It's mental illness. 602 00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:22,320 Speaker 2: So there's no cure. We can't help them. It's just 603 00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:24,080 Speaker 2: that's the way it's going to be for them. And 604 00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:27,600 Speaker 2: forget about those people and trying to flip them. That's pointless. 605 00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:30,119 Speaker 2: And yeah, so are you in Philly? 606 00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:33,359 Speaker 5: Oh, I'm Philly. When I met Alex she was living here. 607 00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:35,840 Speaker 2: So Philly's a fun city. I mean, those people are 608 00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:38,840 Speaker 2: fucking scared. I love sports games, Jesus. 609 00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:39,640 Speaker 1: Yeah. 610 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:41,520 Speaker 2: We tried to go to something there once and I 611 00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:43,800 Speaker 2: was like, oh my god, this is a violent this 612 00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:44,800 Speaker 2: is violence. 613 00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:46,920 Speaker 4: Get off the streets after the game. 614 00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:49,480 Speaker 5: Yeah, we don't play about us sports. 615 00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:51,480 Speaker 1: I know, I know which teams? Do you support? 616 00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:54,640 Speaker 5: Sixers and Eagles? Yeah? 617 00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:56,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, the Eagles are so fun. That is a great 618 00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:57,800 Speaker 1: team to support. 619 00:28:58,080 --> 00:28:58,280 Speaker 5: Yeah. 620 00:28:58,320 --> 00:28:59,840 Speaker 1: And do you guys go to games and stuff? 621 00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:02,680 Speaker 5: Yeah, we go to games and we're work. We worked 622 00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:07,800 Speaker 5: on bringing a WNBA team to Philadelphia and that's going 623 00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:09,080 Speaker 5: to happen in twenty thirty. 624 00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:11,960 Speaker 2: Oh congratulations, that's fucking awesome. 625 00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:13,120 Speaker 8: Yeah. 626 00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:14,520 Speaker 1: What's the name of the team, do you know? 627 00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:17,600 Speaker 5: We don't know yet. We don't know yet. It's with 628 00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:20,520 Speaker 5: the Sixers, in conjunction with you know, the Sixers are 629 00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:22,760 Speaker 5: the ones who actually put the bid in. But we're 630 00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:26,560 Speaker 5: with our group, the Philadelphia Sisters. We lobbied and we've 631 00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:29,920 Speaker 5: been working on this thing for like years, like seven, 632 00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:33,000 Speaker 5: it was before COVID, and we was working on this 633 00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:37,080 Speaker 5: for a long time to get them to get a team. 634 00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:37,960 Speaker 5: And we got a team. 635 00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:38,360 Speaker 3: Why. 636 00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:39,800 Speaker 1: I fucking love that. 637 00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:47,120 Speaker 2: Good for you, congrats, Thank you. We take a couple 638 00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:48,360 Speaker 2: of callers and we give advice. 639 00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:50,320 Speaker 1: Wanda, are you ready to do that? 640 00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:51,000 Speaker 2: Yeah? 641 00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:52,480 Speaker 5: Oh sure, I'm great at this. 642 00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:53,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sure you are. 643 00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:56,200 Speaker 2: You have enough life experience and wisdom to shed some 644 00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:57,600 Speaker 2: light on some situations. 645 00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:01,640 Speaker 4: Yes, you know what. We're gonna start with Kelly. 646 00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:06,360 Speaker 3: Kelly, Uh, she's just writing in, but she says, Dear Chelsea, 647 00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:09,360 Speaker 3: I a twenty nine year old black female, have been 648 00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:12,120 Speaker 3: dating a guy thirty one and notably white. 649 00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:14,440 Speaker 4: For about two years, and it's twenty two. 650 00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:18,040 Speaker 3: That's come to light that his parents are social and 651 00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:21,080 Speaker 3: political idiots who are incapable of critical thinking. 652 00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:24,040 Speaker 4: That's right, you guessed it. They're mega vegetables. 653 00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:26,920 Speaker 3: It seems as if they think I'm some sort of 654 00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:30,320 Speaker 3: Candice Owen's aberration to their racist philosophies. Yet they're never 655 00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:33,800 Speaker 3: comfortable overtly discussing politics when he and I are around. 656 00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:36,600 Speaker 3: My boyfriend also seems to have gotten the short end 657 00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:39,560 Speaker 3: of the evolutionary stick, because he finds it's imperative to 658 00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:42,320 Speaker 3: still spend holidays with them, as if it's no big deal. 659 00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:45,320 Speaker 3: Two to five times a year, I'm talking spending the 660 00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:47,800 Speaker 3: night at their home when we visit, having hour long, 661 00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:51,720 Speaker 3: forced topical conversations about shit like beer. I'm unable to 662 00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:54,200 Speaker 3: continue faking the funk. And he seems to think that 663 00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:57,480 Speaker 3: spending time with his folks is an unsavory yet umbilical 664 00:30:57,520 --> 00:31:01,560 Speaker 3: facet of the relationship. Otherwise we're extremely compatible. But also, 665 00:31:01,720 --> 00:31:03,640 Speaker 3: I'm young and hot. I need to get out. 666 00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:05,720 Speaker 4: Of here if there's going to be no return on 667 00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:06,880 Speaker 4: investment of my youth. 668 00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:11,760 Speaker 1: Help Kelly get out, Kelly, get out of there. Anyone. 669 00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:14,920 Speaker 2: I like the way she termed that biblical, I don't 670 00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:18,080 Speaker 2: know that good use of of of a word in 671 00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:21,640 Speaker 2: that sense. I would say to get out of that situation, 672 00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:23,960 Speaker 2: because anyone who I don't. 673 00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:24,920 Speaker 1: I mean, you've. 674 00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:26,520 Speaker 2: Dealt with your in laws, but your in laws are 675 00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:30,800 Speaker 2: probably cool because they're French, right, Yeah, that's that's that's 676 00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:33,840 Speaker 2: not the same thing. But I don't think when somebody 677 00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:38,240 Speaker 2: has that kind of relationship that that obligatory relationship where 678 00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:40,480 Speaker 2: they want to spend three to five holidays. I mean, 679 00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:43,479 Speaker 2: as as soon as we're adults, that's enough with that stuff, 680 00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:46,080 Speaker 2: like you don't have to spend Christmas, Thanksgiving and all. 681 00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:48,680 Speaker 2: How many I didn't even know there are five spending 682 00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:51,120 Speaker 2: flag dating world age life. 683 00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:51,960 Speaker 1: That's too much. 684 00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:52,200 Speaker 6: Ye? 685 00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:55,600 Speaker 5: Well, she said three to she said what two to 686 00:31:55,680 --> 00:32:01,200 Speaker 5: five times? Yeah a year, five times a year. All right, 687 00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:04,720 Speaker 5: let's let's let's work with it, because because we can 688 00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:09,120 Speaker 5: save this man. You know, that's a she's gonna get 689 00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:12,400 Speaker 5: a good white man on our side, you know what 690 00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:17,120 Speaker 5: I'm saying. Okay, okay, if she dumps them, he might 691 00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:17,920 Speaker 5: go back. 692 00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:18,600 Speaker 1: Right right, right right. 693 00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:21,600 Speaker 2: That's a good angle. That's why you're here, Wanda. Thank 694 00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:22,600 Speaker 2: you for that insight. 695 00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:26,560 Speaker 5: You know. But to me, if she is really into him, 696 00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:29,720 Speaker 5: why don't she just negotiate. Look, I'm gonna make one 697 00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:34,440 Speaker 5: trip a year to spend with your dumb parents, and 698 00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:37,280 Speaker 5: the other times you you know, you go on your own. 699 00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:39,800 Speaker 5: And I mean, I'm sure she has family that she 700 00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:44,000 Speaker 5: wants to go see, right yeah, yeah, so yeah, so 701 00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:48,040 Speaker 5: let him go see his family. She goes see her family, 702 00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:51,040 Speaker 5: she can talk shit about his parents to her family. 703 00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:53,800 Speaker 1: That's right. That's a good solution. It's to compromise. 704 00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:56,520 Speaker 2: And even if and if for some reason she doesn't 705 00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:59,480 Speaker 2: have family, then you can go celebrate those holidays with 706 00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:02,600 Speaker 2: your friend or take some mushrooms and celebrate them alone 707 00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:05,680 Speaker 2: like I do every fucking Christmas without my family. So 708 00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:08,360 Speaker 2: that's that's those are several options are on the table. 709 00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:11,200 Speaker 3: And I think when whenever she does go, he has 710 00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:13,920 Speaker 3: to make a donation to like some liberal cause like 711 00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:15,720 Speaker 3: an abortion fund or something. 712 00:33:16,080 --> 00:33:16,760 Speaker 5: Absolutely. 713 00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:20,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, speaking of which, Wanda, I heard you talking about 714 00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:22,720 Speaker 2: the roast and that you were so glad you didn't 715 00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:23,080 Speaker 2: do it. 716 00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:24,720 Speaker 1: I mean, I just want. 717 00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:29,040 Speaker 2: To reiterate how glad you must be that you didn't 718 00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:30,400 Speaker 2: do it. 719 00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:33,480 Speaker 1: Oh my god, were you tempted at all to do it? 720 00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:36,960 Speaker 5: I was because I thought I was going to be 721 00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:40,640 Speaker 5: able to go in and then just get out, and 722 00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:42,920 Speaker 5: they were like, no, you have to stay for the 723 00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:45,720 Speaker 5: whole thing and and be on it on the dais 724 00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:48,280 Speaker 5: And I was like, I can't do that, man, I 725 00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:49,000 Speaker 5: can't do it. 726 00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:51,960 Speaker 1: But you did great, you really did, oh, thank you? 727 00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:55,160 Speaker 5: Yeah? Yeah you and Cheryl I thought he had the 728 00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:55,600 Speaker 5: best set. 729 00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:56,520 Speaker 1: Thank you. 730 00:33:56,720 --> 00:34:01,280 Speaker 5: I mean, yeah, shot into it and it wasn't just lazy, 731 00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:06,520 Speaker 5: you know, just whatever you're short. It was really good. Bravo, 732 00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:07,200 Speaker 5: thank you. 733 00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:09,759 Speaker 2: What was the reason you did? You couldn't you because 734 00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:11,600 Speaker 2: you just couldn't sit there on the dais with those 735 00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:13,600 Speaker 2: guys for three hours? Or is there a different Yeah? 736 00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:16,720 Speaker 5: Because I knew. I knew what it was going to be, yes, 737 00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:18,800 Speaker 5: you know, and I knew where it was going. I 738 00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:19,920 Speaker 5: knew it was going to be. And I was like, 739 00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:24,520 Speaker 5: somebody's gonna say something real dumb and real ugly, and 740 00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:27,600 Speaker 5: either I'm going to get up and walk out and 741 00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:31,920 Speaker 5: knock shit over, or you know, I'm gonna, you know, 742 00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:36,880 Speaker 5: beat Kevin, you know. Uh, but no I love Kevin. 743 00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:38,880 Speaker 5: I got no I got no beef with Kevin at all. 744 00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:40,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, Kevin's pretty easy to love. 745 00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:41,640 Speaker 5: Yeah. 746 00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:47,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, our first caller today is Tea and he 747 00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:50,480 Speaker 3: says the subject line is black and buy. 748 00:34:50,719 --> 00:34:52,360 Speaker 4: I guess, Dear Chelsea. 749 00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:55,200 Speaker 3: I'm a twenty eight year old guy living in Southeast Texas, 750 00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:57,160 Speaker 3: born and raised to cut to the chase. I'm a 751 00:34:57,200 --> 00:35:00,640 Speaker 3: queer identifying black man who's never actually dated or sexually 752 00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:01,520 Speaker 3: been involved with men. 753 00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:05,359 Speaker 4: I know, weird, but I'm sure I don't date much. 754 00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:07,040 Speaker 3: But There's been a couple of girls here and there, 755 00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:08,839 Speaker 3: some of which were in high school, which I don't 756 00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:10,399 Speaker 3: really count as real relationships. 757 00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:12,320 Speaker 4: When people hear me speak or see. 758 00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:15,040 Speaker 3: How I socialize with others, especially women, the question of 759 00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:17,719 Speaker 3: is he gay always comes up, maybe because I'm not 760 00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:20,480 Speaker 3: a fucking creep. I've noticed since I was fourteen that 761 00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:23,560 Speaker 3: I wasn't completely hetero, but who is? But labels feel 762 00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:26,360 Speaker 3: restrictive not to mention being a black man raised in 763 00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:28,400 Speaker 3: the South and how that plays a part in existing 764 00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:30,319 Speaker 3: as a man. But I do a pretty good job 765 00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:33,560 Speaker 3: of not succumbing to the woes of toxic masculinity. I 766 00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:35,960 Speaker 3: don't hide my sexuality, but I'm also not screaming it 767 00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:39,479 Speaker 3: from the rooftop. Now I want to actually explore dating guys, 768 00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:41,680 Speaker 3: since I've never dipped my foot into that pool. But 769 00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:44,960 Speaker 3: like I've mentioned, I don't date much. I'm almost hyper independent. 770 00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:47,239 Speaker 3: I enjoy my piece too much to let anyone ruin that. 771 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:49,640 Speaker 3: But I know if I found the right person or people, 772 00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:51,920 Speaker 3: I could have something really nice and better than what 773 00:35:51,960 --> 00:35:54,880 Speaker 3: I enjoy now. The apps are terribly exhausting, and I 774 00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:56,880 Speaker 3: think one reason I've not dated men is because the 775 00:35:56,880 --> 00:36:01,040 Speaker 3: ones around here are absolutely unbearably terrible, whether they're Republican, 776 00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:04,879 Speaker 3: DL synonymous, or just plain boring. I tend to lose 777 00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:07,120 Speaker 3: interest pretty fast, but I don't know if this is 778 00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:11,359 Speaker 3: genuine disinterest or some latent self inflicted homophobia. What's your 779 00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:13,959 Speaker 3: advice for a bye guy living in Texas that wants 780 00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:15,839 Speaker 3: to enter the world of gay dating for the first 781 00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:18,120 Speaker 3: time at twenty eight? And what advice do you have 782 00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,600 Speaker 3: for me when the inevitable you're twenty eight and have 783 00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:22,239 Speaker 3: never dated a guy comes up? 784 00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:25,719 Speaker 5: T Hi ta hi, Hi. 785 00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:30,440 Speaker 2: Ladies, this is Wanda Psychs our special guest today. 786 00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:31,560 Speaker 5: How you doing. 787 00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:35,600 Speaker 8: It's so nice to meet all of you. I can't 788 00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:38,439 Speaker 8: even say how starstruck I am right now. 789 00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:43,120 Speaker 5: See what part of Texas are you in. 790 00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:47,000 Speaker 7: I'm about an hour outside of Houston. 791 00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:50,480 Speaker 8: Okay, it's not like really big, but it's not like 792 00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:51,479 Speaker 8: super small either. 793 00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:55,719 Speaker 5: Dallas is pretty, you know, popping as far as in 794 00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:59,840 Speaker 5: the queer community. But I think you know, good Atlanta 795 00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:05,040 Speaker 5: for a weekend. I think I think you'll find out 796 00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:09,720 Speaker 5: real quickly which you know what floatshi you're into? 797 00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:13,400 Speaker 2: I think, right, I think that's a great idea of 798 00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:14,280 Speaker 2: solid idea. 799 00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:16,440 Speaker 1: Yes, have you been to Atlanta, tea. 800 00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:18,480 Speaker 7: I have not been to it. 801 00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:23,360 Speaker 5: Oh boy, no, I've definitely it is gay overload. 802 00:37:25,080 --> 00:37:28,879 Speaker 8: Yeah, I've been to Dallas a couple of times. I 803 00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:31,320 Speaker 8: actually went with a couple of friends maybe two or 804 00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:34,240 Speaker 8: three years ago, and I was actually super surprised about 805 00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:38,200 Speaker 8: how how queer the place is. But yeah, you don't 806 00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:40,359 Speaker 8: have to tell me how gay Atlanta is. You hear 807 00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:41,680 Speaker 8: about it all the time. 808 00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:44,520 Speaker 1: Absolutely, But I definitely think it's worth a trip. 809 00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:48,440 Speaker 2: I think that's a serious, good piece of advice because 810 00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:50,880 Speaker 2: it is good to go, especially like get outside of 811 00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:54,120 Speaker 2: your community and check out what you're into and find, 812 00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:55,719 Speaker 2: you know, spend a long weekend there. 813 00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:57,160 Speaker 1: I'm going to Dallas for a show. 814 00:37:57,840 --> 00:38:00,920 Speaker 2: You would come. My niece goes to Emory Universe in Atlanta. 815 00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:03,440 Speaker 2: Will take you out. She'll know where the gay bars 816 00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:05,960 Speaker 2: are and where to go if you want to do that. 817 00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:08,719 Speaker 2: I'm serious, we would take you out and do that 818 00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:12,160 Speaker 2: because there's no thing I love more than shepherding somebody 819 00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:15,080 Speaker 2: into their gayness. But also, I don't want you to 820 00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:18,279 Speaker 2: think of twenty eight years old as like like that's 821 00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:19,120 Speaker 2: an embarrassment. 822 00:38:19,200 --> 00:38:20,560 Speaker 1: I think you should flip the script. 823 00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:22,680 Speaker 2: I think you should flip the script on that, Like, 824 00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:26,000 Speaker 2: you should look at that as I've been waiting until 825 00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:30,600 Speaker 2: I've whole adult man, and waiting until I'm mature enough 826 00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:34,319 Speaker 2: to be in a relationship and a romantic relationship and 827 00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:36,560 Speaker 2: to be sure of what it is I'm looking for. 828 00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:40,239 Speaker 2: So there's an advantage for you not having to have 829 00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:43,080 Speaker 2: been through all the drama and all the noise and 830 00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:45,719 Speaker 2: ugliness that relationships can bring when you're kind of too 831 00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:48,640 Speaker 2: young and immature to really. 832 00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:49,240 Speaker 1: Know what you're doing. 833 00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:53,279 Speaker 2: So first I would start with that, you know what 834 00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:55,279 Speaker 2: I mean, like, flip the script on that. 835 00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:58,040 Speaker 7: Yeah, I and I completely agree. 836 00:38:58,080 --> 00:39:01,560 Speaker 8: It's more it is more along the lines of, you know, 837 00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:05,839 Speaker 8: I needed to, like I guess, find myself you know 838 00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:09,440 Speaker 8: before uh, you know, just throwing myself into something just 839 00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:11,600 Speaker 8: because you know, some people don't like to be alone 840 00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:12,799 Speaker 8: or you know, some people have to be in a 841 00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:14,239 Speaker 8: relationship or anything like that. 842 00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:17,839 Speaker 7: But yeah, like I just I really like. 843 00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:21,160 Speaker 8: The you know, the peace and the the lack of 844 00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:24,399 Speaker 8: drama that comes with being single. But you know, not 845 00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:27,239 Speaker 8: that it gets old, but you know, there are some 846 00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:29,160 Speaker 8: things that you know you'd like to share with people, 847 00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:33,919 Speaker 8: and you know, being in a relationship kind of gives 848 00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:35,920 Speaker 8: you that like built in person I guess to do 849 00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:39,040 Speaker 8: those things with. But yeah, no, I completely agree with 850 00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:42,160 Speaker 8: you guys with with that. And I have been doing 851 00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:46,960 Speaker 8: like a bit more traveling this like past like a 852 00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:50,040 Speaker 8: year or so. I was talking to Catherine a couple 853 00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:53,240 Speaker 8: of days ago. I'll be actually going on a cruise. 854 00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:56,880 Speaker 7: I think we leave Saturday. 855 00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:57,520 Speaker 1: There you go. 856 00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:00,720 Speaker 7: Right, yeah exactly. 857 00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:03,520 Speaker 8: So yeah, I mean, yeah, I'm excited and I think 858 00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:08,360 Speaker 8: doing some traveling, especially to cities as you know queer's 859 00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:12,440 Speaker 8: Atlanta and Dallas are is definitely like pretty pretty solid 860 00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:13,160 Speaker 8: and good advice. 861 00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:16,759 Speaker 4: Do you have like very many queer friendships where you 862 00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:17,279 Speaker 4: live now? 863 00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:21,080 Speaker 7: Yeah, like I have a couple of queer friends. 864 00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:24,279 Speaker 8: I'm honestly most of my friends are probably like by 865 00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:29,040 Speaker 8: but yeah, like it's pretty good, and we're all kind 866 00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:31,640 Speaker 8: of in the same boat of like we're pretty much 867 00:40:31,719 --> 00:40:34,480 Speaker 8: like around my same age. But like the dating scene 868 00:40:34,520 --> 00:40:37,320 Speaker 8: around here is just you know, it's not Dallas or 869 00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:40,400 Speaker 8: or something like that, so it's more of just like, 870 00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:43,880 Speaker 8: you know, if you can find that that diamond in 871 00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:45,600 Speaker 8: the rough, I guess, like you know, you're a really 872 00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:48,080 Speaker 8: lucky one. But not to say that there's like none 873 00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:49,880 Speaker 8: around here. It's just like, you know, you have to 874 00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:54,440 Speaker 8: find someone or someone's you know that kind of fits 875 00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:55,479 Speaker 8: what you're looking for. 876 00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:58,800 Speaker 1: Well, you're super adorable, Yeah. 877 00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:02,040 Speaker 5: Yes, thank you. Have any problems look at that smile? 878 00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:04,439 Speaker 7: Yeah, thank you so much. 879 00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:06,680 Speaker 2: Yeah. And I think just even getting to a place 880 00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:09,040 Speaker 2: in your life where you're just saying it out loud 881 00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:12,239 Speaker 2: and you know, calling into a podcast about it and 882 00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:15,800 Speaker 2: expressing like the desires and what you actually want in life, 883 00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:18,880 Speaker 2: those are really important things to actually say out loud 884 00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:21,480 Speaker 2: and go after and be proactive about. 885 00:41:21,760 --> 00:41:24,839 Speaker 1: So like, you know, take these trips, keep talking. 886 00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:26,680 Speaker 2: About it, and then you know, go on, have you 887 00:41:26,760 --> 00:41:29,319 Speaker 2: been on these apps and stuff? Because I think one 888 00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:31,480 Speaker 2: of the good things about these apps is that you 889 00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:34,480 Speaker 2: can be so specific about what you are looking for 890 00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:37,160 Speaker 2: where you can kind of cut the trash out, you know, 891 00:41:37,400 --> 00:41:40,239 Speaker 2: like if you tell somebody like this is exactly what 892 00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:41,719 Speaker 2: you know, this is what I want. I don't want 893 00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:44,600 Speaker 2: anyone with kids, or I want somebody who's also by. 894 00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:47,240 Speaker 2: I want somebody who's never been with you know, whatever 895 00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:50,800 Speaker 2: your specifications are, you can say that on an app. 896 00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:54,080 Speaker 2: And that's a nice thing that while apps have their 897 00:41:54,120 --> 00:41:57,480 Speaker 2: own set of problems, that's one of the advantages that 898 00:41:57,520 --> 00:41:59,560 Speaker 2: you can kind of cut out all the noise with 899 00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:01,960 Speaker 2: your spell sifications. 900 00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:05,320 Speaker 7: Yeah, I've definitely been on the apps. 901 00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:09,200 Speaker 8: I probably I delete them on and off every now 902 00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:12,439 Speaker 8: and then. I don't currently have them my phone now, 903 00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:15,000 Speaker 8: but I have been, you know, kind of getting that 904 00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:15,480 Speaker 8: itch of. 905 00:42:15,480 --> 00:42:17,480 Speaker 7: Like maybe should I download it again to see what's 906 00:42:17,480 --> 00:42:20,120 Speaker 7: going on? So yeah, maybe I'll hop back in. 907 00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:24,200 Speaker 8: It's and it's not really I guess, you know, not 908 00:42:24,280 --> 00:42:26,120 Speaker 8: to like give myself a big hit or anything, but 909 00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:28,719 Speaker 8: it's not really hard to like find people to match with. 910 00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:32,600 Speaker 8: It's just you know, the I guess keeping it going 911 00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:35,640 Speaker 8: is kind of hard, like I'm not like a ghoster, 912 00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:40,080 Speaker 8: but you know, maybe a little like phantom move about 913 00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:44,359 Speaker 8: if things aren't really like you know, picking up or 914 00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:46,480 Speaker 8: like you can't really see them, you know, going anywhere. 915 00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:48,640 Speaker 7: But yeah, no, I'll probably have to give the apps 916 00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:49,600 Speaker 7: another try again. 917 00:42:49,760 --> 00:42:52,080 Speaker 3: I like Chelsea's original idea, which is get out to 918 00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:55,520 Speaker 3: a gay bar. Like gay bars are closing across the country, like. 919 00:42:57,000 --> 00:42:59,040 Speaker 7: Within like a hundred mile radius of me. 920 00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:02,680 Speaker 8: I'm pretty sure you share in Houston, but like maybe 921 00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:04,960 Speaker 8: in Houston is like the only place I can think of. 922 00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:06,560 Speaker 1: There's going to be a gay bar in Houston. 923 00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:11,120 Speaker 2: There has I mean, I wouldn't be performing in a 924 00:43:11,160 --> 00:43:13,680 Speaker 2: city that didn't have gay bars, so that's just like 925 00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:14,360 Speaker 2: not even. 926 00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:16,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, so you got to go to I mean that's important. 927 00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:19,400 Speaker 2: Also, it's also important to meet people like you know, 928 00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:21,640 Speaker 2: whether it's romantic or not. You want to meet people 929 00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:25,040 Speaker 2: in your community and build a community, absolutely yeah, So 930 00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:26,480 Speaker 2: be proactive about it that way. 931 00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:28,960 Speaker 1: And also are you on Instagram? 932 00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:32,320 Speaker 2: Absolutely yeah, yeah, so that you can geo target people 933 00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:34,960 Speaker 2: and like look for people in your area, you know, 934 00:43:35,320 --> 00:43:37,200 Speaker 2: and then you can hit people up on dms. 935 00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:40,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a nice way to meet people, especially. 936 00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:42,440 Speaker 2: If you're not like you know, for anonymous people who 937 00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:44,600 Speaker 2: are like living you get slide into someone's DMS and 938 00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:46,600 Speaker 2: be like, oh, I love your profile, do you you 939 00:43:46,640 --> 00:43:48,279 Speaker 2: know if do you ever want to do something like 940 00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:50,000 Speaker 2: you see you know, you look at the vibe of 941 00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:52,320 Speaker 2: what they are. But you know, there's all different ways 942 00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:55,440 Speaker 2: to do it, but I love being basically in person 943 00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:57,480 Speaker 2: is a lost art and people need to you know, 944 00:43:57,560 --> 00:44:00,279 Speaker 2: double down on that a because big gay bar are 945 00:44:00,280 --> 00:44:02,319 Speaker 2: closing down all the time, and we need to keep 946 00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:04,600 Speaker 2: them open and we need to give them business, so 947 00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:07,760 Speaker 2: keep that in mind also when you're doing this, and yeah, 948 00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:08,920 Speaker 2: just to build your community. 949 00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:09,720 Speaker 1: You just want to build. 950 00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:11,080 Speaker 2: I love that you have friends that are in the 951 00:44:11,120 --> 00:44:13,680 Speaker 2: same kind of situation as you, and that you guys 952 00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:16,600 Speaker 2: are like figuring it out together. That's great that you 953 00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:20,279 Speaker 2: have like a support system, so to speak. So just 954 00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:23,240 Speaker 2: keep doing that, but be very proactive about putting yourself 955 00:44:23,280 --> 00:44:23,640 Speaker 2: out there. 956 00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:25,759 Speaker 7: Yeah, thank you so much. 957 00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:28,839 Speaker 8: I got to get my biposter, even got to rate 958 00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:29,640 Speaker 8: a couple of gay bars. 959 00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:34,680 Speaker 2: I guess, yes, the next step and seriously look at 960 00:44:34,680 --> 00:44:38,440 Speaker 2: my tour schedule on my Instagram when I'm Atlanta. In Atlanta, 961 00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:41,480 Speaker 2: if you want to come that weekend, they are always 962 00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:45,840 Speaker 2: gay men at my shows. There are and hit Catherine 963 00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:48,000 Speaker 2: up and we'll coordinate tickets for you and everything. 964 00:44:48,560 --> 00:44:51,359 Speaker 7: I will definitely do that. Okay, thank you so much. 965 00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:55,680 Speaker 1: Y Spiculadies with Pleasure guy. Yeah, thanks t go get 966 00:44:55,719 --> 00:44:57,719 Speaker 1: it to you. You're so cute. 967 00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:01,880 Speaker 7: Thank you so much. Guys. Yeah, I'm a good one. 968 00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:05,520 Speaker 1: Okay, bye bye bye. 969 00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:06,439 Speaker 5: Yeah. 970 00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:08,080 Speaker 4: I love him. He's just so sweet. 971 00:45:08,120 --> 00:45:09,799 Speaker 1: It's cute, so cute. 972 00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:17,080 Speaker 3: He's gonna do great, He's gonna do just fine. What 973 00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:21,439 Speaker 3: our next caller is Meg, and she says, happily laid off. 974 00:45:21,440 --> 00:45:24,080 Speaker 4: But now what, dear Chelsea, I'm Meg. 975 00:45:24,160 --> 00:45:26,680 Speaker 3: I'm fifty one, a pice. He's born in nineteen seventy five, 976 00:45:26,840 --> 00:45:31,239 Speaker 3: just like you. I live outside Philadelphia, and I was 977 00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:33,400 Speaker 3: just laid off from an amazing company that I truly 978 00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:35,359 Speaker 3: felt like I would spend the rest of my career with. 979 00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:37,840 Speaker 3: It was an amazing place to work until it wasn't 980 00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:39,520 Speaker 3: new leadership and it all went south. 981 00:45:39,800 --> 00:45:40,399 Speaker 4: Here's the thing. 982 00:45:40,600 --> 00:45:43,959 Speaker 3: I'm not devastated. I'm relieved I can finally breathe again. 983 00:45:44,040 --> 00:45:45,799 Speaker 3: And that's the part that's keeping me up at night. 984 00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:48,640 Speaker 3: I've had a good career, and what has genuinely brought 985 00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:51,320 Speaker 3: me joy. The part I do for free is leading people, 986 00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:55,040 Speaker 3: mentoring women early in their careers, watching someone who didn't 987 00:45:55,080 --> 00:45:58,280 Speaker 3: believe in herself figure out that she's actually brilliant, teaching 988 00:45:58,280 --> 00:46:01,520 Speaker 3: women to be bold and wrong and have their voices heard. 989 00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:03,640 Speaker 3: That has always been the best part of the job, 990 00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:05,640 Speaker 3: and I've quietly wondered if there's a version of my 991 00:46:05,719 --> 00:46:08,360 Speaker 3: life where that's not just a sidebar. I have a 992 00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:11,200 Speaker 3: teenage daughter watching every move. I make a list of 993 00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:13,800 Speaker 3: life projects. I keep deferring and a bit of runway 994 00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:15,680 Speaker 3: thanks to savings and a supportive spouse. 995 00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:17,360 Speaker 4: I want to show my daughter. 996 00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:18,640 Speaker 3: That you don't have to stay on a path just 997 00:46:18,640 --> 00:46:21,759 Speaker 3: because you've already walked most of it, that reinvention isn't 998 00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:24,040 Speaker 3: just for your twenties, that it's actually braver to start 999 00:46:24,080 --> 00:46:26,520 Speaker 3: over at fifty one than it ever was at twenty five. 1000 00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:28,960 Speaker 3: I don't want to just find another job. I want 1001 00:46:29,000 --> 00:46:32,440 Speaker 3: to find the right next chapter. So Chelsea, you're fifty one, 1002 00:46:32,560 --> 00:46:34,799 Speaker 3: You've done this and you don't sugarcoat anything, which is 1003 00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:36,320 Speaker 3: why I need your help. 1004 00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:36,879 Speaker 5: Meg. 1005 00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:42,840 Speaker 1: Hi, Meg, Hi, Hi. This is Wanda Sykes, our special guests. 1006 00:46:42,960 --> 00:46:44,319 Speaker 5: Hi, Wanda, I'm met. 1007 00:46:45,239 --> 00:46:46,200 Speaker 1: I loved your letter. 1008 00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:49,600 Speaker 2: I think that is really empowering, and you could tell 1009 00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:52,360 Speaker 2: that you're a woman who empowers other women by everything 1010 00:46:52,400 --> 00:46:55,720 Speaker 2: you wrote and wanting to demonstrate that for your daughter. 1011 00:46:55,880 --> 00:46:58,440 Speaker 2: So I don't know what's the problem, Like, yes, you should, 1012 00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:01,040 Speaker 2: you should reinvent yours and do something. 1013 00:47:01,080 --> 00:47:02,400 Speaker 1: Do you know what you want to do? Is that 1014 00:47:02,480 --> 00:47:03,240 Speaker 1: what you're asking? 1015 00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:05,319 Speaker 2: You? 1016 00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:05,440 Speaker 8: Know? 1017 00:47:05,520 --> 00:47:08,160 Speaker 6: I've thought a lot about it. I wrote the letter 1018 00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:11,160 Speaker 6: like six weeks ago, so I've had more time to 1019 00:47:11,239 --> 00:47:12,400 Speaker 6: think about it, and. 1020 00:47:12,719 --> 00:47:14,080 Speaker 9: I mean the more time that's gone by. 1021 00:47:14,160 --> 00:47:17,399 Speaker 6: The more, I'm like, I definitely don't feel like going 1022 00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:18,600 Speaker 6: back to what I was doing. 1023 00:47:18,880 --> 00:47:20,840 Speaker 9: It was it was great. 1024 00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:24,160 Speaker 6: It was a career, but it's not like passion in 1025 00:47:24,280 --> 00:47:26,600 Speaker 6: terms of like the industry and stuff like that. 1026 00:47:26,680 --> 00:47:28,240 Speaker 9: But what I really love. 1027 00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:31,040 Speaker 6: Is just being a role model and like being a 1028 00:47:31,080 --> 00:47:34,480 Speaker 6: person that like I had a lot of earlier career 1029 00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:36,080 Speaker 6: women that were on my team. 1030 00:47:36,400 --> 00:47:39,560 Speaker 9: And they just they always just like. 1031 00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:42,120 Speaker 6: Came to me for every every kind of problem, every 1032 00:47:42,200 --> 00:47:44,439 Speaker 6: kind of challenge, and I always, you know, just. 1033 00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:47,680 Speaker 9: Really felt like I could, I could figure out the 1034 00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:50,799 Speaker 9: right words to help them and to lead them. 1035 00:47:50,880 --> 00:47:53,359 Speaker 6: So I just I think about that, and that's like 1036 00:47:53,400 --> 00:47:55,400 Speaker 6: I haven't been doing that too much, and that's what 1037 00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:57,600 Speaker 6: I missed the most, my girls. 1038 00:47:57,880 --> 00:47:59,479 Speaker 9: And yeah, I. 1039 00:47:59,400 --> 00:48:01,520 Speaker 6: Just I I kind of am trying to figure out, 1040 00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:05,880 Speaker 6: like what can I do that's maybe leadership focused. But 1041 00:48:05,880 --> 00:48:08,280 Speaker 6: then I also like have a lot of different passions 1042 00:48:08,320 --> 00:48:10,359 Speaker 6: in life. I love to travel, I love to ski, 1043 00:48:10,560 --> 00:48:13,040 Speaker 6: I love to you know, be with my family. So 1044 00:48:13,040 --> 00:48:15,560 Speaker 6: I'm like, how can I like do all that and 1045 00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:16,400 Speaker 6: make money? 1046 00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:17,320 Speaker 5: I don't know, easily. 1047 00:48:17,440 --> 00:48:20,000 Speaker 2: So easily, first of all, you have the whole world 1048 00:48:20,080 --> 00:48:22,400 Speaker 2: at your fingertips, like you have such a luxury that 1049 00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:25,560 Speaker 2: you're talking about right now, you financially able to do that. 1050 00:48:25,800 --> 00:48:26,600 Speaker 1: Most people are not. 1051 00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:29,359 Speaker 2: You have a daughter that like this is a very 1052 00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:32,640 Speaker 2: exciting time, so like that you should be really excited. 1053 00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:35,000 Speaker 2: Definitely if you can get rid of that job that 1054 00:48:35,040 --> 00:48:37,520 Speaker 2: you're not passionate about, get rid of it. The most 1055 00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:39,960 Speaker 2: exciting thing I felt when I turned fifty was like 1056 00:48:40,719 --> 00:48:43,400 Speaker 2: I was so scared of turning fifty, thinking it was like, 1057 00:48:43,640 --> 00:48:45,920 Speaker 2: not so scared, but I kind of was like I 1058 00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:48,880 Speaker 2: wasn't excited. And then I turned fifty, and it was 1059 00:48:48,920 --> 00:48:51,719 Speaker 2: like this brand new excitement, Like. 1060 00:48:51,880 --> 00:48:53,279 Speaker 1: It was like a whole reset. 1061 00:48:53,480 --> 00:48:55,279 Speaker 2: I don't know if you felt that way Wanda at 1062 00:48:55,280 --> 00:48:58,000 Speaker 2: fifty or sixty, but I feel like every decade gives 1063 00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:02,239 Speaker 2: us like we're still here, We've got all of our 1064 00:49:02,280 --> 00:49:05,560 Speaker 2: shit together, Like we're the reason we got ourselves to 1065 00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:08,919 Speaker 2: the position we're in, so we've got receipts to show 1066 00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:10,759 Speaker 2: how competent and capable we are. 1067 00:49:11,400 --> 00:49:13,080 Speaker 1: And then like you have a. 1068 00:49:13,040 --> 00:49:17,200 Speaker 2: Whole new like chapter, it's very exciting, and you kind 1069 00:49:17,200 --> 00:49:19,640 Speaker 2: of you're smarter than you've ever been. You have more 1070 00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:21,680 Speaker 2: wisdom than you've ever had, and you have more life 1071 00:49:21,680 --> 00:49:24,440 Speaker 2: experience than you ever had. The world is your oyster. 1072 00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:27,240 Speaker 2: You can figure out a way to mentor young girls 1073 00:49:27,360 --> 00:49:30,600 Speaker 2: or business women or however you want to do it easily. 1074 00:49:30,960 --> 00:49:32,600 Speaker 2: That's not going to be hard for you to figure out. 1075 00:49:32,640 --> 00:49:35,640 Speaker 2: You've done it before, and there's everybody. I mean, that's 1076 00:49:35,719 --> 00:49:37,880 Speaker 2: pretty much the most worthwhile thing I can think of 1077 00:49:37,960 --> 00:49:41,799 Speaker 2: doing would be helping other people succeed, you know, so 1078 00:49:42,120 --> 00:49:45,600 Speaker 2: I think you should totally like get running in that direction. 1079 00:49:45,680 --> 00:49:49,200 Speaker 2: You seem completely competent in knowing what you're good at, 1080 00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:52,360 Speaker 2: and that's kind of like, you know, the thing that 1081 00:49:52,400 --> 00:49:54,760 Speaker 2: people call in hear the most about is not knowing 1082 00:49:55,120 --> 00:49:57,279 Speaker 2: which direction to go in and not knowing what they 1083 00:49:57,320 --> 00:49:58,760 Speaker 2: even feel passionate about. 1084 00:49:59,000 --> 00:50:00,719 Speaker 1: And you have all of the answers. 1085 00:50:01,280 --> 00:50:05,000 Speaker 2: So it's just about taking steps in that direction, don't 1086 00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:05,760 Speaker 2: you think, Wanda? 1087 00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:10,200 Speaker 5: Absolutely absolutely. You know, I had a real job before 1088 00:50:10,239 --> 00:50:14,040 Speaker 5: I got into comedy. I worked at NSA, but I 1089 00:50:14,120 --> 00:50:16,560 Speaker 5: just knew it was something else that I was supposed 1090 00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:20,640 Speaker 5: to be doing. But I you know, left the job 1091 00:50:20,920 --> 00:50:24,920 Speaker 5: to pursue comedy because that's what I'm passionate about. I 1092 00:50:24,960 --> 00:50:28,360 Speaker 5: think you you know, you know what you the parts 1093 00:50:28,360 --> 00:50:30,920 Speaker 5: of your job which gave you gave you joy. You 1094 00:50:30,960 --> 00:50:34,280 Speaker 5: said that was helping other women. There's so many nonprofits 1095 00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:39,320 Speaker 5: out here with who could absolutely you know, use someone 1096 00:50:39,480 --> 00:50:43,480 Speaker 5: like you need someone like you. There's like women I 1097 00:50:43,560 --> 00:50:46,000 Speaker 5: actually I met this woman last night. She runs a 1098 00:50:46,040 --> 00:50:49,600 Speaker 5: program for women who are just coming out of jail, 1099 00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:52,919 Speaker 5: out of out of prison. Yeah, I mean if that's 1100 00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:55,200 Speaker 5: not you know, that makes you uncomfortable whatever, But still 1101 00:50:55,239 --> 00:50:59,719 Speaker 5: there's there's so many programs of like nonprofits who need that. 1102 00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:04,400 Speaker 5: Who can you know, give young women a path just 1103 00:51:04,440 --> 00:51:06,879 Speaker 5: to just to point them in the right direction as 1104 00:51:06,880 --> 00:51:09,920 Speaker 5: far as you know, how they can get their you know, 1105 00:51:09,960 --> 00:51:13,239 Speaker 5: life together, help them with the resumes or whatever to 1106 00:51:13,280 --> 00:51:17,760 Speaker 5: get them you know, back up and into society. So yeah, 1107 00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:21,360 Speaker 5: or you know, it's like you said, just career advice. 1108 00:51:21,440 --> 00:51:24,120 Speaker 5: I'm sure, especially when you come out of college, you 1109 00:51:24,120 --> 00:51:26,880 Speaker 5: don't know what you really want to do unless you're 1110 00:51:27,400 --> 00:51:30,640 Speaker 5: you know, going for that hard science you know, doctor 1111 00:51:30,600 --> 00:51:34,480 Speaker 5: or lawyer whatever. But it's yeah, I mean it's for 1112 00:51:34,560 --> 00:51:36,680 Speaker 5: someone just to sit down and talk with young women 1113 00:51:37,200 --> 00:51:40,400 Speaker 5: about what they want to do and and also to 1114 00:51:40,440 --> 00:51:44,600 Speaker 5: help them find what they're passionate about. You know, it 1115 00:51:44,640 --> 00:51:48,280 Speaker 5: can save a lot of people a lot of headaches 1116 00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:51,120 Speaker 5: get going down a path and getting stuck in the job. 1117 00:51:51,120 --> 00:51:54,160 Speaker 5: But they're like, oh God, where this is. This can't 1118 00:51:54,200 --> 00:51:55,400 Speaker 5: be the rest of my life, you know. 1119 00:51:55,520 --> 00:51:57,040 Speaker 9: Yeah, Yeah, I loved my career. 1120 00:51:57,080 --> 00:51:59,400 Speaker 6: I loved what I did, and you know, I learned 1121 00:51:59,440 --> 00:52:01,920 Speaker 6: so much had I not had all that life experience. 1122 00:52:01,960 --> 00:52:04,320 Speaker 6: And I kind of was like definitely always a person 1123 00:52:04,360 --> 00:52:06,640 Speaker 6: that just like jumped in, rolled at my sleeves, got 1124 00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:08,560 Speaker 6: the job done, whatever needed to be done. And I've 1125 00:52:08,560 --> 00:52:11,439 Speaker 6: always kind of taken that attitude. But you know, now 1126 00:52:11,520 --> 00:52:15,560 Speaker 6: I'm like, how can I how can I really put 1127 00:52:15,600 --> 00:52:18,640 Speaker 6: like pen to paper and say, like where where do 1128 00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:19,280 Speaker 6: I start? 1129 00:52:19,480 --> 00:52:21,520 Speaker 9: Like I guess that's where I'm kind of struggling. 1130 00:52:21,560 --> 00:52:23,719 Speaker 6: Like I know in my in my heart like what 1131 00:52:24,360 --> 00:52:26,520 Speaker 6: brings me joy and what makes me happy? 1132 00:52:26,920 --> 00:52:29,239 Speaker 9: But I'm kind of like, all right, how do I 1133 00:52:29,360 --> 00:52:31,440 Speaker 9: how do I find that? And I guess that's that's 1134 00:52:31,520 --> 00:52:33,080 Speaker 9: kind of where I where I am right now. 1135 00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:36,319 Speaker 3: I feel like you, your vibe is high, and I 1136 00:52:36,320 --> 00:52:39,000 Speaker 3: think if you can continue to maintain that high vibe 1137 00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:42,400 Speaker 3: and keep like looking and searching, the right thing is 1138 00:52:42,440 --> 00:52:44,440 Speaker 3: going to come to you, whether that's looking online at 1139 00:52:44,440 --> 00:52:48,640 Speaker 3: different jobs, networking with women's groups, women entrepreneur groups or 1140 00:52:48,680 --> 00:52:50,040 Speaker 3: women's business groups. 1141 00:52:49,760 --> 00:52:51,080 Speaker 1: And mentoring opportunities. 1142 00:52:51,160 --> 00:52:54,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, just go online and look up mentoring opportunities because 1143 00:52:54,600 --> 00:52:55,880 Speaker 2: I'm sure you're going to run into a bunch of 1144 00:52:55,960 --> 00:52:58,600 Speaker 2: things you didn't even know existed. There's so many career 1145 00:52:58,680 --> 00:53:01,279 Speaker 2: coaching I mean, all my friends that are CEOs have 1146 00:53:01,440 --> 00:53:04,960 Speaker 2: like career coaches, and that might not sound appealing to you, 1147 00:53:05,000 --> 00:53:07,200 Speaker 2: but like there's a coach for everything, And if you're 1148 00:53:07,239 --> 00:53:10,080 Speaker 2: a motivational type of person, there's people that are gonna 1149 00:53:10,080 --> 00:53:13,239 Speaker 2: need help with, you know, whatever you're willing to do 1150 00:53:13,520 --> 00:53:15,920 Speaker 2: in terms of like whether it is for a nonprofit 1151 00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:18,120 Speaker 2: or if it's or if it is something where you 1152 00:53:18,200 --> 00:53:20,520 Speaker 2: need to get paid, Like you just have to start 1153 00:53:20,560 --> 00:53:22,640 Speaker 2: putting your foot forward in that direction. 1154 00:53:23,000 --> 00:53:25,200 Speaker 1: And when you get off this call, like really sit. 1155 00:53:25,080 --> 00:53:28,279 Speaker 2: Down and write down what it would look like for 1156 00:53:28,400 --> 00:53:31,279 Speaker 2: you in to mentor like what are you looking to do? 1157 00:53:31,280 --> 00:53:34,920 Speaker 2: Do you want to mentor people personally professionally like a 1158 00:53:34,960 --> 00:53:37,359 Speaker 2: life coach? Like what it is you are, like write 1159 00:53:37,400 --> 00:53:39,640 Speaker 2: it all down so that you can really kind of 1160 00:53:39,680 --> 00:53:42,399 Speaker 2: like have time to think about what is the most 1161 00:53:42,480 --> 00:53:45,279 Speaker 2: appealing part about that job for you and what you 1162 00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:48,720 Speaker 2: excel at and I think that you'll get a clearer 1163 00:53:48,800 --> 00:53:51,680 Speaker 2: idea the more you keep kind of being introspective and 1164 00:53:51,760 --> 00:53:53,520 Speaker 2: like really sitting with all of that. 1165 00:53:54,160 --> 00:53:54,880 Speaker 4: Yeah, I agree. 1166 00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:58,799 Speaker 3: There's something magical when you write stuff down, almost as 1167 00:53:59,360 --> 00:54:02,920 Speaker 3: if it's already happened, Like this is what my dream 1168 00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:05,560 Speaker 3: job looks like, these are the elements that it has, 1169 00:54:05,800 --> 00:54:08,840 Speaker 3: this is where it's located, and get really specific about 1170 00:54:08,880 --> 00:54:12,000 Speaker 3: what you want that it just like helps that crystallize 1171 00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:12,839 Speaker 3: and materialize. 1172 00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:15,160 Speaker 4: I know it seems woo woo, but it really does work. 1173 00:54:15,560 --> 00:54:17,880 Speaker 6: No, And you always talk about journaling and right, and 1174 00:54:17,920 --> 00:54:20,279 Speaker 6: I'm you know, I always feel like I open a 1175 00:54:20,320 --> 00:54:22,000 Speaker 6: book and I'm like, Okay, I have it. 1176 00:54:21,960 --> 00:54:23,759 Speaker 9: All in my head, but where do I start? 1177 00:54:23,760 --> 00:54:25,160 Speaker 6: So I just need to, like like I said, they 1178 00:54:25,200 --> 00:54:26,799 Speaker 6: put pen to paper and just try to get some 1179 00:54:26,840 --> 00:54:29,400 Speaker 6: words out. And you know, I've done a lot of 1180 00:54:29,400 --> 00:54:31,840 Speaker 6: writing in my in my career, so I should be 1181 00:54:31,880 --> 00:54:32,400 Speaker 6: able to do that. 1182 00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:36,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, but you're gonna be great. Everything's gonna be great 1183 00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:38,239 Speaker 2: for you. I can already tell good. 1184 00:54:38,640 --> 00:54:41,560 Speaker 5: Yeah. Even that you like to ski, put together some 1185 00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:44,000 Speaker 5: ski victor. Yeah. 1186 00:54:44,400 --> 00:54:44,720 Speaker 1: Whatever. 1187 00:54:44,920 --> 00:54:47,680 Speaker 5: You bring a bunch of women together and you know, 1188 00:54:47,840 --> 00:54:50,439 Speaker 5: you all go skiing. And talk about shit. 1189 00:54:51,719 --> 00:54:53,840 Speaker 9: I have my friends that I do that with already. 1190 00:54:53,880 --> 00:54:57,439 Speaker 4: But you know, there's a business idea in there though, 1191 00:54:57,520 --> 00:54:59,319 Speaker 4: I think one of the Yeah, no, I like it. 1192 00:54:59,360 --> 00:54:59,959 Speaker 5: I like it. 1193 00:55:00,200 --> 00:55:02,000 Speaker 1: Building a team building ski trip. 1194 00:55:02,320 --> 00:55:04,080 Speaker 5: There you go, yeah, there you go. 1195 00:55:04,200 --> 00:55:06,600 Speaker 3: Yeahs, I mean that's great. 1196 00:55:07,160 --> 00:55:07,880 Speaker 9: Yeah. Yeah. 1197 00:55:08,080 --> 00:55:11,280 Speaker 6: I've done events. I've done just probably about everything in marketing. 1198 00:55:11,320 --> 00:55:13,600 Speaker 6: So there's just like there's so many things, so many directions. 1199 00:55:13,680 --> 00:55:16,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, just get it, gets quiet, and get with yourself 1200 00:55:16,360 --> 00:55:18,279 Speaker 2: and just like write down all the things that are 1201 00:55:18,320 --> 00:55:20,840 Speaker 2: appealing to you and you're and everything will start to 1202 00:55:20,880 --> 00:55:23,360 Speaker 2: come into focus. You know, if you just allow the 1203 00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:26,239 Speaker 2: time and allow yourself the freedom to walk away from 1204 00:55:26,239 --> 00:55:28,880 Speaker 2: your job and know you're doing that and take a 1205 00:55:28,960 --> 00:55:32,600 Speaker 2: leap of faith in your own competency and see what 1206 00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:33,960 Speaker 2: what that shapes out to be. 1207 00:55:34,239 --> 00:55:36,799 Speaker 9: Yeah, that's great, that's great. I appreciate it so much. 1208 00:55:36,960 --> 00:55:39,760 Speaker 5: Yeah, and it's the reason why that job ended, because 1209 00:55:39,760 --> 00:55:42,440 Speaker 5: you're supposed to be doing something else. So you're right, life, 1210 00:55:42,880 --> 00:55:44,520 Speaker 5: life had to usher you out of it. 1211 00:55:44,640 --> 00:55:48,560 Speaker 6: You know, those are never like great experiences to go through, 1212 00:55:48,560 --> 00:55:50,839 Speaker 6: but sometimes it's that you need it. 1213 00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:54,239 Speaker 5: Yeah, absolutely not, but yeah, need to need to push. 1214 00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:56,160 Speaker 9: Yeah, and it's summer, so I get to enjoy that 1215 00:55:56,160 --> 00:55:56,719 Speaker 9: with kids. 1216 00:55:58,440 --> 00:56:01,080 Speaker 4: I'll take it, all right, me, will you follow up 1217 00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:01,520 Speaker 4: with us? 1218 00:56:01,840 --> 00:56:04,120 Speaker 9: I will, I will. I will keep you posted. Thank 1219 00:56:04,160 --> 00:56:06,080 Speaker 9: you so much for having me. It was so nice 1220 00:56:06,080 --> 00:56:06,680 Speaker 9: to meet you all. 1221 00:56:06,800 --> 00:56:08,520 Speaker 1: Thanks Beg, thanks for calling in. 1222 00:56:09,040 --> 00:56:10,919 Speaker 9: All right, thank you, bye. 1223 00:56:11,080 --> 00:56:12,960 Speaker 1: Bye bye, Okay, Wanda. 1224 00:56:13,040 --> 00:56:15,759 Speaker 2: Before we go, I just want to ask you, what 1225 00:56:15,840 --> 00:56:18,239 Speaker 2: is the worst piece of advice that anyone's given you. 1226 00:56:18,840 --> 00:56:26,239 Speaker 5: They are to wear more like dresses. When I said 1227 00:56:26,280 --> 00:56:29,400 Speaker 5: what they said more, I was like, what are you 1228 00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:36,040 Speaker 5: talking about? What are you talking about? Can you see that? 1229 00:56:36,200 --> 00:56:38,360 Speaker 5: Can you see me come out in some nice long, 1230 00:56:38,680 --> 00:56:40,760 Speaker 5: like floral flowy? 1231 00:56:41,040 --> 00:56:41,279 Speaker 1: Yeah? 1232 00:56:41,320 --> 00:56:41,600 Speaker 5: I know. 1233 00:56:41,760 --> 00:56:43,879 Speaker 2: People have told me that so many times too. It's 1234 00:56:43,880 --> 00:56:45,840 Speaker 2: like they have one. They have the same advice for 1235 00:56:45,960 --> 00:56:49,719 Speaker 2: all women, were more dresses. I had the guy at 1236 00:56:49,760 --> 00:56:51,759 Speaker 2: the laugh factory tell me to put a bird on 1237 00:56:51,760 --> 00:56:53,440 Speaker 2: my shoulder. He said, I should put a bird on 1238 00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:57,200 Speaker 2: my shoulder, Jamie Masada. But uh, you know that was 1239 00:56:57,239 --> 00:56:59,600 Speaker 2: another thing in your special when you were when you 1240 00:56:59,719 --> 00:57:03,480 Speaker 2: were dancing around and showing you when you were demonstrating 1241 00:57:04,080 --> 00:57:06,680 Speaker 2: you were like losing. I was like, when she stops 1242 00:57:06,760 --> 00:57:08,920 Speaker 2: moving like that, Like what was that? What was that 1243 00:57:08,960 --> 00:57:10,040 Speaker 2: shuffle you were doing. 1244 00:57:10,440 --> 00:57:15,439 Speaker 1: You were acting out edition. Oh yeah, yeah, the new edition. Yeah, 1245 00:57:15,440 --> 00:57:17,000 Speaker 1: when you were done. When you were doing that, I 1246 00:57:17,000 --> 00:57:18,440 Speaker 1: was like, that's. 1247 00:57:18,360 --> 00:57:21,200 Speaker 2: Too much exercise while you're on such I'm like, when 1248 00:57:21,240 --> 00:57:25,080 Speaker 2: she stops that, let's see how she's breathing. 1249 00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:29,160 Speaker 1: That was really worth it though. That was good stuff. 1250 00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:31,240 Speaker 2: Well, Wanda, thank you so much for being with us today. 1251 00:57:31,280 --> 00:57:32,520 Speaker 2: Everyone are special. 1252 00:57:32,480 --> 00:57:33,160 Speaker 5: And that was fun. 1253 00:57:33,240 --> 00:57:37,000 Speaker 2: It's out now on Netflix. It's streaming and it's called Legacy. 1254 00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:38,280 Speaker 2: Make sure you watch it. 1255 00:57:38,680 --> 00:57:40,160 Speaker 5: Thank you, thank you so much. 1256 00:57:40,160 --> 00:57:42,040 Speaker 1: Say hello to Alex for me, will you please? 1257 00:57:42,720 --> 00:57:43,120 Speaker 5: I will? 1258 00:57:43,200 --> 00:57:45,520 Speaker 1: Okay? Thanks, take care bye. 1259 00:57:46,040 --> 00:57:48,800 Speaker 3: If you want advice from Chelsea, right into Dear Chelsea 1260 00:57:48,840 --> 00:57:50,600 Speaker 3: podcast at gmail dot com. 1261 00:57:50,880 --> 00:57:53,400 Speaker 4: Dear Chelsea is a production of iHeartMedia. 1262 00:57:53,680 --> 00:57:56,680 Speaker 3: Follow Chelsea on All socials at Chelsea Handler, and find 1263 00:57:56,720 --> 00:58:00,520 Speaker 3: Catherine on TikTok at flash Cadabra. Dear Chelsea is edited 1264 00:58:00,560 --> 00:58:04,720 Speaker 3: and engineered by Brandon Dickert executive producer Katherine Law. 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