WEBVTT - Ep. 112 — Tiffany preps for surgery; Mandi uncovers her Nigerian roots; We talk low down payment mortgages 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:21.680 Hey, hey, hey, well back, we're black and brown. 0:00:23.079 --> 0:00:25.480 Last time I checked. Oh you know what I found out? 0:00:26.079 --> 0:00:29.040 My brother texted me, so this Hi, I'm Mandy. This 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:34.199 is brown ambition. You're here. You made it? Yes, that's Tiffany. 0:00:35.120 --> 0:00:37.760 So my little brother had got my dad a DNA 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:42.160 test for Christmas. You know, it's ancestry dot com DNA test. 0:00:42.200 --> 0:00:46.040 And actually my husband got me one from the other 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:52.280 DNA test. It's called the Google one twenty three and me, okay, anyway, 0:00:52.400 --> 0:00:55.200 I was like, okay, great, I'll see if these are accurate. 0:00:55.240 --> 0:00:56.840 I'll see what my dad says and then compare it 0:00:56.880 --> 0:00:59.160 to mine. I don't have mine yet. But my my 0:00:59.160 --> 0:01:01.960 brother texted me and he's meanwhile, we all know my 0:01:02.000 --> 0:01:05.400 father's black, right, Yeah. He's like, so dad is African. 0:01:05.840 --> 0:01:12.800 I'm like, yeah, not surprising. And he's like, he's West African. Yeah, 0:01:12.880 --> 0:01:18.319 so is like anybody who descended from slaves, right, So 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:21.360 it's pretty funny he actually has he's like nineteen percent 0:01:21.400 --> 0:01:26.520 and Nigerian. Yeah, okay, what does that make me? Like 0:01:26.560 --> 0:01:30.120 twenty five I don't know, fifteen no, ten percent Nigerian. 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:32.679 I don't know how that works out like that. And 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:36.880 then he's twenty percent Senegalese okay, and the rest of 0:01:36.920 --> 0:01:43.800 them ben In, Thanks beanin fourteen percent, Cameroon, ten percent, 0:01:43.880 --> 0:01:48.240 Ivory Coast, Ghana, and then ten percent it says Africa 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:51.400 Southeastern Bantu. What is that. I think it's like maybe 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:54.920 a region that might I don't know, I might cover 0:01:55.000 --> 0:01:58.680 part of South Africa. Anyhow, what I found hilarious, well 0:01:58.680 --> 0:02:02.360 not hilarious, kind of sad, was so obviously my dad's 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:06.880 people defense descended from slaves and when they got to America, 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:09.160 because it shows like how far his lineage just has 0:02:09.320 --> 0:02:12.600 his lineage has moved. We haven't gotten further than like Louisiana. 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:16.760 It's like Georgia, the Carolina's, it's very much like in 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:22.160 the southeastern part of the US. So that's my that's 0:02:22.200 --> 0:02:22.680 my people. 0:02:23.480 --> 0:02:27.040 Wow, that's awesome. I can't wait to hear your results. 0:02:27.040 --> 0:02:28.640 I'm actually really curious. I kind of want to do 0:02:28.720 --> 0:02:33.120 mine just to see like is it true, you know, 0:02:33.320 --> 0:02:37.880 because I mean according to my people, like you know, 0:02:38.160 --> 0:02:42.240 like we're Nigerian and but I do know like for example, 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:44.400 Lovey did I think she did twenty three and me 0:02:44.760 --> 0:02:49.399 and she found out actually that she was more. Oh, 0:02:49.480 --> 0:02:53.160 what's the neighboring country. I don't know if it was Cameroonian, 0:02:53.600 --> 0:02:56.680 but she was more of the more of the neighboring country. 0:02:56.720 --> 0:02:59.320 I can't remember what country she said. Then she was 0:02:59.360 --> 0:03:02.440 actually Nigeria and she was trying to figure out, oh why. 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:09.040 But because here's the thing, Like Lovey is Uraba. And 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:12.360 we have to remember that during the Council of Whatever 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:16.440 like or the at some point European countries sliced and 0:03:16.480 --> 0:03:22.399 diced up Africa and they created these countries. But if 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:25.240 you look at Lovey and you know like what she is, 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:29.000 which is African and Yorba, what you will find is 0:03:29.040 --> 0:03:34.440 that there is Yorba. The real country or land of 0:03:34.560 --> 0:03:40.000 Yurba overlaps those two countries. So it's not that it's like, oh, 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:42.520 you know, you're not Nigerian. No, she's truly Yourba. Like 0:03:42.880 --> 0:03:46.160 it it like so if these two countries are neighboring, 0:03:46.560 --> 0:03:49.320 Yorba land is on both sides of the country, and 0:03:49.440 --> 0:03:51.160 just the line was drawn and all of a sudden, 0:03:51.200 --> 0:03:53.840 you're Nigerian. But it's like no, I'm just so. And 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:57.800 what they found too is that she's very very Urba, 0:03:57.920 --> 0:04:00.840 meaning like they were really excited to get her DNA 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:03.960 into the system because her DNA is now a marker 0:04:04.400 --> 0:04:07.600 to set for other people to see how you're about 0:04:07.640 --> 0:04:10.440 or how Nigerian or how Cameronian and whatever they are. 0:04:11.320 --> 0:04:13.800 Because it's like your mom is, you're about your dad is, 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:15.880 you're about your grandparents and your grandparents and your grandparents 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:17.000 and your grand you know what I mean, Like you 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:20.320 don't get too many people. Yeah, so I'm really curious 0:04:20.360 --> 0:04:23.320 to see with my people, like I know that like 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:25.240 on at least on my dad's side, I know, like 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:27.880 my dad can go back up at four generations, like 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:30.160 when Aliche, which is my last thing, well not so 0:04:30.279 --> 0:04:34.880 much anymore, but Aliche was like like was just one name, 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:37.400 like when my great great great great grandfather his name 0:04:37.440 --> 0:04:40.760 was Alich, and then when our village was founded by 0:04:40.760 --> 0:04:44.279 four brothers, and so it's just like he could go 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:46.719 back that far because we have like African telling oral 0:04:46.760 --> 0:04:48.440 history and so every kid in the village can go 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:50.960 back that far. But so it would be interesting to 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:54.400 see if there's like any deviation or are we just 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:55.720 super Ebo you. 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:59.680 Know, yeah, I mean it's also every country I listen 0:04:59.720 --> 0:05:02.440 to my that is from, they're all basically neighboring countries 0:05:02.480 --> 0:05:05.600 on the West coast. You know, one of the origins 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:08.520 of the slave trade. And you know, if you ever 0:05:08.520 --> 0:05:11.560 read the book Homegoing, I had talked about it before 0:05:11.720 --> 0:05:15.080 on the show. It's by yag Yasi. I learned more 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:17.960 about the slave trade and the history of West Africa 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:20.040 from that book than I ever learned in school. And 0:05:20.080 --> 0:05:23.719 it is. It is a fantastic book. It tells it 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:26.360 starts at the beginning. It starts I think in Ghana. 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:28.960 The author is Ghandian, and it starts with the tribe 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:31.840 in Ghana, the very first tribe who selled their people 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:36.560 to the Europeans as slaves. And it tells one story, 0:05:36.600 --> 0:05:40.039 one person's story, from every descendant of that family through 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:41.640 the books all the way up until I think the 0:05:41.720 --> 0:05:46.560 nineteen eighties. Is just like phenomenal that I highly recommend it. 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:48.520 It's awesome. I have a little bit of read it too. 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:49.600 What is it. 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:53.680 It's called Homegoing by yah Kyasi. Let me look it up. 0:05:55.440 --> 0:05:57.320 That sounds interesting, Yeah. 0:05:57.160 --> 0:06:02.360 Yah Yasi, it's y Aa g y A s I 0:06:02.360 --> 0:06:05.320 I'll post a Lincoln and the show notes too, because 0:06:06.200 --> 0:06:08.960 me by the have me by it was like squeezing 0:06:08.960 --> 0:06:10.640 my heart the entire time reading that book. 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:18.800 That's like the book by uh Chimamanda. Oh yeah, she 0:06:18.880 --> 0:06:23.280 wrote this book called Half a Yellow Sun, and you know, 0:06:23.400 --> 0:06:25.360 for most people of the context, it's like, oh okay, 0:06:25.400 --> 0:06:29.200 but it was crazy because it's that book talks about 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:34.120 the Nigerian Civil War, which put Ebos, who live in 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:36.760 the south and kind of west against the rest of 0:06:36.800 --> 0:06:40.880 the country. And my parents lived through that and to read, 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:42.240 I mean because my dad used to tell the stories 0:06:42.240 --> 0:06:45.520 when we were younger, but to read it and like 0:06:45.640 --> 0:06:47.919 knowing and like putting things together, Like I remember, they 0:06:47.960 --> 0:06:50.440 didn't go to school for a few years. Like my mom, 0:06:50.520 --> 0:06:53.039 who grew up as a city girl. All these Ebos 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:55.800 had to leave major cities because they're being literally killed 0:06:56.040 --> 0:06:58.240 and had to go back to their ancestral lands, which 0:06:58.279 --> 0:06:59.960 is the village. And that's where my mom and dad 0:07:00.440 --> 0:07:03.039 met because my mom was you know, although they had 0:07:03.120 --> 0:07:05.240 land in the village, she wasn't a village girl, but 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:07.880 my dad was a village guy. So it's almost like 0:07:08.760 --> 0:07:11.320 if a civil war were to hit and like you 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:13.120 had to go back down south to like you know, 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:16.480 where your people are from, you know, to not be 0:07:16.640 --> 0:07:18.640 killed because right now in the big city, if they 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:21.280 find out that you're evil, Like there were stories of 0:07:21.680 --> 0:07:24.280 a plane being about to take off people like evils 0:07:24.280 --> 0:07:27.160 were trying to leave and them stopping the plane and 0:07:27.240 --> 0:07:30.840 having people say certain words in Urbi and other languages 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:32.600 to see if you said it with an evil accent 0:07:32.600 --> 0:07:36.160 and killing you right there. It was crazy times and starving, 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:40.480 like starving like the South, and to try to make 0:07:40.480 --> 0:07:42.960 them to submit. It was just to read it though 0:07:43.240 --> 0:07:45.760 and know like asking my parents like that happened, and 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:48.640 like seeing like my aunts and my uncles and asking 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:51.280 them because you know, my dad is in his seventies, 0:07:51.320 --> 0:07:53.240 my mom is in her sixties and so it's not 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:57.040 that long ago, and just being able to kind of say, Daddy, 0:07:57.080 --> 0:07:59.240 did you know did this happen? Did you live through this? 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:01.760 And so it was really now that had me like 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:04.240 in tears, like I can't believe you live through that? 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:07.520 How did you even live? You know? Yeah, that's such 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:10.120 a great book, but I think even more so it 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:14.080 just touched me just being ebo and reading like, you know, 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:17.240 this history of my people and just just you know, 0:08:17.360 --> 0:08:22.720 how what a devastating time that was. Yes, some books 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:25.040 have you like on your back, like lot. 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:28.320 You know the best. Those are two great recommendations. I've 0:08:28.320 --> 0:08:30.200 had Half a Yellow Son on my bookshelf for a 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:33.559 while and I haven't read it yet. I've read Americana 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:37.079 and then we should all be feminists. By I think 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:40.200 I butchered her last name. It's Ngozi and g Ozi 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:43.800 Jim in London and Gozi Adichi excellent. 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:49.800 Yes, okay, So for those of you who know my surgeries, 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:53.000 in a couple of days, I'm both nervous and relieved. 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:55.480 I'm like, I'm so I'm ready, but I'm so glad 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:57.199 they're gonna be knocking me out because I was worried. 0:08:57.360 --> 0:09:00.280 I mean, I guess I figured, but they it's imilar 0:09:00.360 --> 0:09:03.400 to like fibroid surgery. From what I understand, the one 0:09:03.400 --> 0:09:06.080 I'm getting is like similar to like a C section, 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:08.679 so I know during a C section, they don't knock 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:10.040 you out. So I was like, wait, you're gonna knock 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:11.880 me out right because I don't want to be like awake, 0:09:11.960 --> 0:09:14.199 and they're like, yes, Tiffany, you will not be awake. 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:19.120 So I'm like, eh, so I'm curious. Part of me 0:09:19.160 --> 0:09:21.320 wants to be like so I want to see what 0:09:21.320 --> 0:09:26.760 it looks like when you take them out. No, because 0:09:26.760 --> 0:09:29.240 a friend of mine just posted on Facebook she actually 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:32.280 has two days worth of fiveboards, so she has seventeen. 0:09:32.480 --> 0:09:34.440 Oh my god, I didn't realize. 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:37.280 You know, it's not until like you share that you're 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:39.600 going through something that you realize how many people are 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:42.840 going through. I would I could honestly say, if I've 0:09:42.840 --> 0:09:46.839 told ten women that I'm getting fibroid surgery, at least 0:09:46.920 --> 0:09:49.959 I would say four have said, oh I have five 0:09:50.000 --> 0:09:52.000 words too, or I had the surgery, or you know, 0:09:52.360 --> 0:09:55.640 like it's so just the amount of women that and 0:09:55.679 --> 0:09:57.520 have just listened to the podcast. So many of you 0:09:57.559 --> 0:09:59.120 have reached out to me, thank you so much. 0:10:00.400 --> 0:10:02.560 Who are like, yeah, me too, don't google it. Who 0:10:02.600 --> 0:10:08.319 that was a mistake, you know, like a fleshy grapefruit. 0:10:08.800 --> 0:10:10.440 Yeah, that's basically what it looks like. It's like just 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:12.959 this fleshy ball and they cannot figure out why they grow, 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:16.000 and they're really prevalent, and women in their like thirties 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:21.559 and forties, and so yeah, it's just I mean, and 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:23.640 it's pretty common surgery. You don't really you know, so 0:10:23.679 --> 0:10:26.600 I'm you know, I can honestly say I'm not nervous 0:10:26.640 --> 0:10:29.120 just because it's not I'm like my husband had and 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:32.440 yours in brain surgery. Now that's you know, like, ah, 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:34.720 super risky because you know, one false move. But I 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:37.600 feel like the surgery is common enough, but still it's surgery, 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:39.720 and when they put you under, there's always a risk 0:10:39.760 --> 0:10:42.760 of not coming back. And you know, they were like 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:45.600 they're asking all these questions with beforehand, like a week 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:48.560 before you have to kind of go through prep where 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:51.200 they tell you like they'll eat for a certain time 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:54.440 and what not to take, and don't worry, you know, 0:10:54.440 --> 0:10:56.040 don't worry the jewelry when you come in, just like 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:58.120 all these different things. And she was like, is there 0:10:58.120 --> 0:11:01.199 anything that would prevent you from like you know, religious 0:11:01.240 --> 0:11:03.360 for religious reasons whatever, for you not to get like 0:11:03.360 --> 0:11:06.520 a blood transfusion. I'm like, wait, what just in case, 0:11:06.720 --> 0:11:08.800 like you know that they're doing surgery and you start 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:12.520 bleeding uncontrollably, I'm like, yikes. I was like, give me 0:11:12.559 --> 0:11:17.199 blaed I'm fine. Girls. Just stuff like that. But I'm 0:11:17.200 --> 0:11:21.120 also really excited to finally move past this part and 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:25.520 just be like who we sigh and oh and good 0:11:25.559 --> 0:11:27.920 news about the house, I finally can share we are 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:33.640 ready to close, but I decided we're actually gonna push 0:11:33.679 --> 0:11:36.400 to closing because I'm like, well, I don't so two things. 0:11:37.000 --> 0:11:39.800 The bank has been just like h just a mess. 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:42.959 But we finally have to deed and my realtors that 0:11:43.000 --> 0:11:44.960 we can close anytime. But I told her, you know, 0:11:44.960 --> 0:11:46.480 I'm having a surgery, and she's like, well, how long 0:11:46.480 --> 0:11:47.679 would you have to be in the house. I said 0:11:47.920 --> 0:11:49.720 for about the month of February for the bolt part. 0:11:49.920 --> 0:11:51.600 So she was like, well, how about this. It doesn't 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:53.760 make sense to close now because I was going to 0:11:53.800 --> 0:11:55.880 close before, she said, because you won't be able to 0:11:55.880 --> 0:11:58.120 get to the house for a month. If you close 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:02.240 first thing in March one, it gives them time to 0:12:02.520 --> 0:12:04.400 because of the trouble that they've put us through of 0:12:04.400 --> 0:12:08.640 getting the house. She requested what's called the seller's concession, 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:11.880 where the seller can sde something to you. So we 0:12:11.960 --> 0:12:14.040 asked for money off. They said no because they had 0:12:14.080 --> 0:12:16.040 already given us five thousand dollars off when we put 0:12:16.040 --> 0:12:17.640 the initial bid in. We got the house for one 0:12:17.720 --> 0:12:20.000 eighty instead of one eighty five. So she said, well, 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:22.880 at least will you deliver the house broom swept because 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:25.040 the house is a foreclosure. So there's still a ton 0:12:25.080 --> 0:12:27.360 of furniture and stuff in there, which we would have 0:12:27.400 --> 0:12:29.880 to get a dumpster for and a permit, and we 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:33.080 have to pay to have the garbage remove whatever. And 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:35.920 they said, yeah, so they will pay for someone to 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:39.160 clean the house and bring it to us empty, which 0:12:39.160 --> 0:12:41.240 is a you know, that could be a few thousand dollars. 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:43.640 It costs depending on how much stuff it is, because 0:12:43.679 --> 0:12:46.400 sometimes make you pay for trash by the pound if 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:48.319 you're taking a dumbster away. So she said, if I 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:49.800 are you, I will go in there, rip up any 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:53.000 carpet you don't want, and just like get all anything 0:12:53.000 --> 0:12:54.400 that you don't want in the house let them take 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:56.120 it out. So I said okay, And then she said 0:12:56.120 --> 0:13:00.800 two February quarter one taxes are due, and I think 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:03.719 our taxes are like six hundred something bucks a month 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:06.040 or whatever. So she was like, let them pay Q 0:13:06.240 --> 0:13:08.720 on taxes. That's your concession right there that way, because 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:10.520 you don't own the house yet, since you know, you 0:13:10.520 --> 0:13:13.080 can decide you're closing later. So I was like, woo woo. 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:15.160 My realtor is the bomb dot com. So we're gonna 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:17.840 let them pay taxes, let them clean it out and 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:21.400 we'll close the first thing in March and to a 0:13:21.480 --> 0:13:23.520 clean house and we can do whatever we want with 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:24.080 it from there. 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:31.200 That makes sense. Oh yeah, I'm excited springtime a new house, I. 0:13:31.240 --> 0:13:33.640 Know, and like the weather, like hopefully it'll break because 0:13:33.640 --> 0:13:35.240 that was my concern. I'm like, oh, no one wants 0:13:35.240 --> 0:13:38.240 to do any like work, construction stuff whatever and when 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:41.400 it's cold. And she told us, she was like, she 0:13:41.520 --> 0:13:43.960 just texted me a little while ago. She said, just 0:13:44.040 --> 0:13:47.640 so you know, I got the updated comp for your 0:13:47.640 --> 0:13:49.599 house about like what your house is currently worth in 0:13:49.640 --> 0:13:52.880 its current state, and it's currently worth about three hundred 0:13:52.880 --> 0:13:55.920 and sixty six thousand dollars. She was like, give her take, 0:13:56.200 --> 0:13:57.839 and I was like wow. She was like, but I 0:13:57.880 --> 0:14:00.800 think with the with whatever audition, in whatever you know, 0:14:00.840 --> 0:14:02.360 you fix it up to. She's like, I really can 0:14:02.440 --> 0:14:04.520 see your house being worth more than four hundred thousand. 0:14:04.640 --> 0:14:07.760 And meanwhile, we bought it for one eighty and we 0:14:07.760 --> 0:14:11.760 were really fortunate because doing foreclosures, you just never know 0:14:11.880 --> 0:14:14.400 like when when the house was being foreclosed upon, I 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:16.560 don't know what the original people bought it for, but 0:14:16.840 --> 0:14:19.640 they owed three seventy on the house when they bought it, 0:14:19.840 --> 0:14:21.760 and the bank really wanted two twenty. They wanted to 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:24.040 recoup at least through twenty, but we got it for, 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:26.760 like I said, one eighty. So they're going that's why 0:14:26.760 --> 0:14:28.840 they were like Salad's concession of five thousand, and we're 0:14:28.880 --> 0:14:33.200 already losing body, you know. So yeah, so they wanted 0:14:33.200 --> 0:14:34.680 to two twenty. We got it for one eighty and 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:37.520 they were old three seventy, which just goes to show 0:14:37.560 --> 0:14:40.160 you like, yeah, there's deals out there. It's I mean, 0:14:40.160 --> 0:14:41.800 they're not you know, people will make you think like, oh, 0:14:41.800 --> 0:14:44.880 there's foreclosures everywhere that aren't like are great. But with 0:14:44.960 --> 0:14:47.320 the little patients, you can find a deal out there 0:14:47.000 --> 0:14:50.080 if you're willing. When you're looking for a home. 0:14:50.360 --> 0:14:52.520 Yeah, a lot of patients. You guys started this process 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:54.040 back in what like. 0:14:54.840 --> 0:14:57.200 A year ago? Yeah, no, well further than that, like 0:14:57.240 --> 0:14:59.800 it's been more than a year. Like we started this 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:02.920 particular house process back in September, but before that, we 0:15:02.920 --> 0:15:06.000 were looking for a house for almost a year. Before that, 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:09.360 we were trying everything like maybe a multi family regular mortgage. 0:15:09.400 --> 0:15:12.280 Remember we were talking about that then. But you know, 0:15:12.440 --> 0:15:12.960 with do you. 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:15.360 Think the fact that you paid cash all cash, that 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:17.240 that helped you as well get a better deal than 0:15:17.280 --> 0:15:18.680 someone who may be with financing. 0:15:19.560 --> 0:15:22.760 Oh yeah, for sure, because the we got this house 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:26.240 on a it's called like realty bid or something like that. 0:15:26.240 --> 0:15:28.600 That was the website. And so when you go on 0:15:28.640 --> 0:15:32.600 some of these auction websites, sometimes the people selling it 0:15:32.640 --> 0:15:35.680 will stipulate will only sell. Sometimes they'll say, you know, 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:37.840 we'll take all kinds of financing, and sometimes like if 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:40.560 it's like lots of times, banks are like, we're selling 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:43.040 it so cheap, we'll only take cash. So that definitely, 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:47.200 that definitely helped. But you can find or foreclosure that 0:15:47.560 --> 0:15:50.440 is that you can finance. That's definitely out there. It's 0:15:50.520 --> 0:15:53.640 just about it. With foreclosures, there's so many things that 0:15:53.640 --> 0:15:56.040 can go wrong because there has to be a shift 0:15:56.080 --> 0:15:58.640 in ownership. So if at any time the ball was dropped, 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:00.880 it's like who actually owns a house And when the 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:03.000 bank put it on the website, they didn't even own 0:16:03.040 --> 0:16:05.200 the house yet because they didn't have the deed. Yes, 0:16:05.240 --> 0:16:07.520 they might have taken the house back, but if the 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:10.080 deed is still in the previous owner's name, they still 0:16:10.120 --> 0:16:13.000 had ownership. So that process of switching the deep over 0:16:13.520 --> 0:16:15.560 can take months and then they have to switched the 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:17.600 deed over now to us, you know. So it was 0:16:17.800 --> 0:16:20.400 for a lot of realtors won't do foreclosures because of 0:16:20.400 --> 0:16:24.080 this this long drawn out pop process. And I have 0:16:24.160 --> 0:16:27.480 to say, like, my for what she's getting paid, you know, 0:16:27.560 --> 0:16:30.440 because she gets her three percent or whatever commission it's 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:32.640 for and for the work that she did, it's not 0:16:32.760 --> 0:16:36.200 net net even. But my realtor, Ameana, is smart because 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:38.520 my parents are now selling their house and it's worth 0:16:39.240 --> 0:16:41.040 I don't know, seven hundred eight hundred thousand dollars and 0:16:41.080 --> 0:16:44.240 they want to buy a small like a condo. So 0:16:44.440 --> 0:16:46.560 guess who I said, mommy, daddy, this is who you 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:48.440 need to use. So she's not making a whole lot 0:16:48.440 --> 0:16:50.240 of commission off of me, but now you have a 0:16:50.280 --> 0:16:52.920 commission off of seven hundred thousand plus whatever three or 0:16:52.920 --> 0:16:55.760 four hundred thousand dollars condo they get in exchange. Plus 0:16:55.760 --> 0:16:57.960 they're you know, their friends who are wanting to down 0:16:58.240 --> 0:17:02.080 that are wanting to downgrade. So you know, she's just 0:17:02.160 --> 0:17:05.439 really smart because it's you learn sometimes in business that 0:17:05.440 --> 0:17:07.080 you don't make your money with the first thing, but 0:17:07.119 --> 0:17:08.000 the second thing you do. 0:17:08.119 --> 0:17:11.119 You know, definitely, I mean That's the biggest lesson I 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:13.440 think I've learned in my career is I mean, I 0:17:13.480 --> 0:17:15.280 can trace the first two jobs I had back to 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:18.120 a thank you note. You never know, you never know 0:17:18.400 --> 0:17:21.080 who you're handings are, like, who you're interacting with, now 0:17:21.119 --> 0:17:22.800 what kind of power they'll have in your life later. 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:26.000 Didn't mean to get deeper on your real estate. 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:27.840 Story, but no, I think you're right though. 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:33.600 Yeah, well I had a women I had a girl 0:17:33.640 --> 0:17:36.200 power moment this weekend. I went to the Women's March, 0:17:36.320 --> 0:17:38.120 which I was finally. I wasn't able to go last 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:40.600 year because I was sick of a dog, but this 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:44.280 year I went and it was awesome. Really, Yeah, I 0:17:44.320 --> 0:17:47.960 went to the obviously the one in Manhattan. Yeah, it was. 0:17:48.080 --> 0:17:50.240 It was. It took place right outside of Central Park, 0:17:50.240 --> 0:17:53.240 and I went with a couple of girlfriends. I made 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:56.359 some signs and just kept it really simple. Yeah. It 0:17:56.440 --> 0:17:58.080 was just I don't know, it just it was really 0:17:58.119 --> 0:18:01.119 good vibes, and you know, I was a little bit like, 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:03.000 I mean, I wanted to go and I wanted to 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:05.720 feel the crowd and it was whatever. We had to 0:18:05.760 --> 0:18:08.480 wait for about an hour before we could actually march 0:18:08.520 --> 0:18:11.200 because it was that crowded, so and it was actually 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:13.720 really well organized. They were letting people go in in 0:18:13.800 --> 0:18:19.240 spurts instead of just like you know, mobbing sixth Avenue. 0:18:20.200 --> 0:18:22.960 But aren't when we when we finally, because you know, 0:18:23.000 --> 0:18:25.520 you go, you start at like seventy second in Central Park. 0:18:25.560 --> 0:18:27.480 And for those of you who aren't familiar with New 0:18:27.600 --> 0:18:30.760 York City, once you get to fifty ninth Street and 0:18:30.920 --> 0:18:34.159 Central Park, you're right in front of the Trump International Hotel. 0:18:34.640 --> 0:18:37.200 It's a giant building. It's one of Trump's many sized 0:18:37.240 --> 0:18:40.400 skycraper skyscrapers in the city, but it has his name 0:18:40.480 --> 0:18:42.720 on it. And when you get to when you get 0:18:42.720 --> 0:18:45.359 to that building, people will stop and they had music 0:18:45.400 --> 0:18:48.520 and drums and you know, people would stop there and 0:18:48.920 --> 0:18:53.159 chant and sing, and it really like you felt it. 0:18:53.280 --> 0:18:56.679 You felt people's energy and you felt like, I don't know, 0:18:56.800 --> 0:18:58.560 it was weird. I felt like I was really sending 0:18:58.560 --> 0:19:01.800 the president a message in a weird way. I'm like, 0:19:01.840 --> 0:19:04.720 he's going to hear this, Like I don't know, it 0:19:04.760 --> 0:19:07.320 felt like I was doing something. It felt like so 0:19:07.440 --> 0:19:09.800 much better because you know, I feel like the past year, 0:19:09.880 --> 0:19:12.439 especially you know, I'm a journalist, I don't like to 0:19:12.680 --> 0:19:15.600 air my political beliefs on Twitter. Not that I I mean, 0:19:15.800 --> 0:19:18.000 I'm not a political journalist. It doesn't really matter. You know, 0:19:18.040 --> 0:19:21.080 I don't have the same standards as other political journalists. 0:19:21.080 --> 0:19:23.639 But I really hold back. I mean, I represent a company, 0:19:23.640 --> 0:19:26.840 a YadA YadA, so I don't I'm not so public 0:19:26.880 --> 0:19:29.920 with my feelings about politics on Twitter and other social media. 0:19:30.400 --> 0:19:32.600 So I felt like, I know, I hold it in 0:19:33.000 --> 0:19:35.280 except for in my social circles, hold it in throughout 0:19:35.280 --> 0:19:37.240 the year. I also have a lot of family who 0:19:37.240 --> 0:19:40.960 supports him, so you know, it really felt like for me, 0:19:40.960 --> 0:19:42.600 I've been holding this in for the past year, and 0:19:42.640 --> 0:19:45.400 it felt good to really just be in that moment 0:19:45.440 --> 0:19:47.920 and say no, I don't accept this president and here's why, 0:19:48.040 --> 0:19:49.919 and you know, just to be with a couple of 0:19:49.920 --> 0:19:53.120 my close girlfriends and do that. It was. It felt good, 0:19:53.840 --> 0:19:55.560 not a bad way to spend a couple hours on 0:19:55.600 --> 0:19:56.120 a Saturday. 0:19:56.560 --> 0:19:58.280 And the weather was great, wasn't it. 0:19:58.480 --> 0:20:00.720 Weather was perfect. Yeah, I was like it was in 0:20:00.760 --> 0:20:03.359 the fifties, I want to say, in the sun. And 0:20:03.960 --> 0:20:05.600 I made I made a few signs. One of my 0:20:05.680 --> 0:20:09.480