Speaker 1: Hey, welcome to the Second Day Podcast. It's Brick and Jeffrey.
Speaker 1: We've got a new episode. Textual healing is just when
Speaker 1: a listener writes us and has an issue where they
Speaker 1: just don't know how to respond. You know, they're kind
Speaker 1: of at a dead end, and so this person needed
Speaker 1: our help and it is a doozy. We're gonna get
Speaker 1: to that in just a second. But comments, yeah, Gil
Speaker 1: Ferguson said in all caps, OMG, I'm out of episode.
Speaker 2: I've been binging for eight months and I'm finally caught up.
Speaker 2: What am I supposed to do?
Speaker 3: It?
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Speaker 1: If yes, if you're that type of glutton for punishment,
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Speaker 2: Keep scrolling. We got you, Gil, We got you all right.
Speaker 2: Your brand new episode for Gil starts now.
Speaker 4: We all know the answer for how to handle a
Speaker 4: really bad breakup?
Speaker 1: Oh girls, nus, how you do it?
Speaker 4: One evening out with strong, poor drinks and weak minded men,
Speaker 4: and you will be forgetting all of your problems. But
Speaker 4: what do you do if the person who's dumping you
Speaker 4: is way more important than any dumb boyfriend ever could be.
Speaker 4: Oh No, one of our listeners says, that's exactly the
Speaker 4: position that she's in after she got one text from
Speaker 4: somebody she thought was a really close friend, and now
Speaker 4: she's wondering, how do I even respond to it? Was
Speaker 4: how you doing Brook? No, Remember, it's not that kind
Speaker 4: of breakup, but it may still help. I don't think so.
Speaker 4: You're gonna hear it in a brand new textual healing
Speaker 4: coming up next, Textual Healing Textual Welcome to Textual Healing,
Speaker 4: the segment where we take your so called complicated life
Speaker 4: problems and instantly fix them for you with one simple
Speaker 4: text message. Yes, it is that easy, because we help
Speaker 4: you craft the perfect message to make all of your
Speaker 4: issues and problems melt away like a tasty handful of
Speaker 4: off brand xanax. That's what we do for you.
Speaker 1: It feels too good to be true, Jeff, like you've
Speaker 1: forgotten all the other textual healings that we've done.
Speaker 4: But maybe it's the handful of xanax that I just took.
Speaker 4: But we do have a woman on the phone right now.
Speaker 4: I don't know anything about her, not even her name.
Speaker 4: I just have a note here saying this is a
Speaker 4: last second, emergency, desperate situation that she's in and she
Speaker 4: would really like our help with it. So hello listener,
Speaker 4: welcome to the show. Who are you hi?
Speaker 5: This is Janelle and I would really appreciate some help.
Speaker 5: I got a really upsetting text and it sort of
Speaker 5: feels like I've lost my best friends. Not twice, but
Speaker 5: it feels that way to me.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, o Brook. First of all, you need
Speaker 4: to calm down a little bit, because she said it's
Speaker 4: like her best friend, not her actual best I have.
Speaker 2: Like twelve best friends. Okay, they are all equally important.
Speaker 4: Okay, there's no time to brag about that stuff.
Speaker 1: What's best friends are integral to a happy life.
Speaker 4: But she said, is this an actual friend of yours
Speaker 4: or it's just friend adjacent? What is going on?
Speaker 5: It is a friend, but it's a professional relationship as well.
Speaker 5: So basically I got fired by my hair stylist.
Speaker 2: Is that the text?
Speaker 5: Wait?
Speaker 2: Can I ask? Is that the text that you just got?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 5: I got a last night and she basically told me
Speaker 5: she doesn't want me as a client anymore.
Speaker 4: No, Oh my god, that's my dream.
Speaker 5: Air.
Speaker 2: Yes, she told me I can't come back.
Speaker 4: What did you do with Janelle?
Speaker 6: I did nothing, and I don't understand because I always
Speaker 6: kip her really well, I'm sweet to her.
Speaker 3: We get along. I've been seeing her for about six years.
Speaker 1: Okay, wait wait wait, did you bad mouth or behind
Speaker 1: were back somewhere? Because I'm sorrying hairstylists or the queen
Speaker 1: of gossip, they know everything that's happening all time.
Speaker 3: This was out of nowhere.
Speaker 6: Well, we didn't even have an appointment.
Speaker 5: Scheduled or anything, but said it said. Let me read
Speaker 5: it to you verbatim. Hi, I've really enjoyed our time together,
Speaker 5: but I don't think i'd like to take you on
Speaker 5: as a client any longer period.
Speaker 4: Did you put an emoji like a tear eye emoji
Speaker 4: at least?
Speaker 2: No, not like Smiley and the girl hair flipping.
Speaker 5: Hey, this sounds no hair emoji, nothing.
Speaker 6: So I have not responded to get because I didn't
Speaker 6: know how to even take this.
Speaker 3: I was like, what, Well, it.
Speaker 4: Sounds like you're feeling upset and like let down, even
Speaker 4: more like she sounds devastated to me.
Speaker 6: I feel like it's really hurt my feelings because again,
Speaker 6: when as I said in the beginning, like I consider
Speaker 6: this woman a.
Speaker 4: Friend, you know, well, I pay my friends too, so
Speaker 4: I get that fee.
Speaker 2: No, my hairs.
Speaker 1: I've been with my hairstylist for over a decade and
Speaker 1: she is a friend of mine, competition friend. No, if
Speaker 1: I got that text message, I would also, like I
Speaker 1: would be beside myself. And it's not just because I
Speaker 1: couldn't find someone else to cut my hair, Like, that's
Speaker 1: not it.
Speaker 2: It's like it is.
Speaker 1: Such an intimate relationship with your hairstyle.
Speaker 5: Is like you share it. I really confide it in her, Okay,
Speaker 5: And I'm wondering if I should be taking this personally.
Speaker 2: Oh you should, well, okay, hairstylists don't do anything that's
Speaker 2: not personal.
Speaker 7: And to be I've never heard of them losing a client,
Speaker 7: Like it takes forever to build a client list and
Speaker 7: to have a consistent amount.
Speaker 4: So for her to say I don't want your business,
Speaker 4: it's pretty big. Yeah, there's got to be some sort
Speaker 4: of explanation and she's not providing it. It seems like
Speaker 4: that's what you're going for here, Janelle. You want to
Speaker 4: ask her, what's the reason I want to.
Speaker 5: Respond in like the right way without seeming like I'm
Speaker 5: flying off the handle, like, oh, you really hurt my feelings?
Speaker 5: How dare you?
Speaker 3: What did I do?
Speaker 4: That was going to be my exact thing?
Speaker 5: Okay, I want to like craft this in the right
Speaker 5: way my response, which is why I haven't responded yet,
Speaker 5: which is why I'm.
Speaker 4: Asking, Okay, we can tell that you're very clearly emotional
Speaker 4: about this, but we're going to do our job and
Speaker 4: get you some textual healing right now. Help you have
Speaker 4: the right message to her to figure out politely how
Speaker 4: to ask the reason why she's letting you go from
Speaker 4: her client list now. I don't have an idea because
Speaker 4: I personally don't ever see the same hairstylist I.
Speaker 7: Avoid that sad relationship with women in their heir souse
Speaker 7: sometimes is even deeper. I can understand.
Speaker 4: I would defer to Brook or possibly Alexis for the
Speaker 4: first thoughts here.
Speaker 2: I think you should.
Speaker 1: I think you should lead with humor honestly, because like,
Speaker 1: what if what if you're reading it wrong for some reason?
Speaker 1: I don't know how you can miscann through her message?
Speaker 2: But what if you just said, my roots weren't that bad?
Speaker 2: Last appointment? Were they you know, like, yeah.
Speaker 5: Okay, right, I say, like, I promise I didn't use
Speaker 5: box color.
Speaker 2: Exactly.
Speaker 1: Yeah, girl, I swear I didn't cut my own bags
Speaker 1: before I saw you.
Speaker 4: That's an option. Or you could also play the pity
Speaker 4: card and be like, are you sure because I had
Speaker 4: three of my dogs run away this week. Also, my
Speaker 4: dad says he wants to redivorce my mom.
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: That's also kind of funny. Work on a hairstyle.
Speaker 4: In that chair, that's not bad.
Speaker 1: What if you lean into what Alexis is saying with
Speaker 1: the gossip and be like, no, you can't yet because
Speaker 1: I haven't told you what happened with X something talking
Speaker 1: about Oh.
Speaker 5: I like that just to intrigue her. I mean, I
Speaker 5: just wonder if there's something personal going on her and
Speaker 5: if that was like a little bit of humor might
Speaker 5: warm her up and.
Speaker 1: You'll be able to tell on her interest level if
Speaker 1: she wants to know the tea.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know. So you're worried there's going to be
Speaker 4: something personal about you. What does the room think, Like,
Speaker 4: what are the percentage chances that this has something to
Speaker 4: do with something Janelle did? Or what's the percentage it's
Speaker 4: something not related to her going on in just the
Speaker 4: hairstylist Personal.
Speaker 1: Life Janelle Janelle nine percent.
Speaker 5: I mean, honestly, I don't like to hear that, but
Speaker 5: I hate to say it. I think you guys, But
Speaker 5: the way she phrased it in her text is I
Speaker 5: don't think I'd like to take you on as a
Speaker 5: client any longer.
Speaker 7: Yeah, is anyone else optimistic?
Speaker 4: There's a one percent chance he's.
Speaker 7: Intimidated by her, like, oh my god, that coat you
Speaker 7: were last time was so much better dressed than that.
Speaker 4: Do you think a one percent chance is optimism?
Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm optimistic.
Speaker 4: It's not your fault and has something to do with
Speaker 4: the weather.
Speaker 2: There always the prettiest girl. Yeahtimate. They're not intimidating, Okay.
Speaker 4: I appreciate your optimism, Jose Yeah, sorry for it.
Speaker 3: All right.
Speaker 4: So we're obviously running out of time here. We need
Speaker 4: to get one text through. What are you going to
Speaker 4: write to your hairstylist, Janelle?
Speaker 5: I think I'm gonna go with the little gossip humor thing.
Speaker 3: Least, that's an attempt to.
Speaker 5: Diffuse the situation a little bit with humor.
Speaker 1: And remind her that you guys are friends. I mean
Speaker 1: it's a reminder that you're more connected than just the
Speaker 1: client relationship.
Speaker 3: Perfect.
Speaker 4: So we are officially out of time now, So Janelle,
Speaker 4: you're gonna have to go ahead and text that message
Speaker 4: to her on your own about I have gossip for you.
Speaker 4: You have to hear it, and then we'll come back
Speaker 4: and hopefully she's responded to it and you've reeled her
Speaker 4: back in when we do more textual healing with the
Speaker 4: hairstylist who fired you coming out right after this. Okay,
Speaker 4: we're in the middle of textual healing with our listener, Janelle,
Speaker 4: who had a professional and what she thought was a
Speaker 4: close friendship with her hairstylist of the past six years. The
Speaker 4: issue is last night she received a random text that said,
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, but you're fired. You cannot be my client anymore.
Speaker 4: Like we're not even her client.
Speaker 7: I feel like we all winced when he said this,
Speaker 7: like she.
Speaker 2: Was just canceling an appointment. She is canceling, yes, yes,
Speaker 2: And there was nothing else with it.
Speaker 4: No emoji's attached, no explanation for why. So Janelle turned
Speaker 4: around and urgently sent a message to our producer, and
Speaker 4: here we are trying to help her get an answer
Speaker 4: and maybe even get her hairstylist back.
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, I'm gonna win. That's what we're gonna do.
Speaker 2: I'm fully confident.
Speaker 4: Nobody we never said that was a possibility in the
Speaker 4: first part. But I think Jose's relentless optimism came through,
Speaker 4: seeped through my clothing down into my heart. It did.
Speaker 4: It made me believe. So can they make her too happy?
Speaker 7: And she's like, I can't focus on anything else other
Speaker 7: than you leave.
Speaker 4: I'm using the optimism. Okay, so we don't even know
Speaker 4: what text message she actually sent. Janelle, what did you
Speaker 4: end up writing to your stylist after she said she's
Speaker 4: letting you go?
Speaker 5: Here's what I ended up sending her and she is
Speaker 5: typing back as we speak.
Speaker 2: Okay, well that means it's going to be a long one.
Speaker 2: What did you say?
Speaker 5: I said, are you sure? Because I have something juicy
Speaker 5: to tell you. It's about my mother in law.
Speaker 2: I know everybody wants to know the tea, don't they.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I can always come up with some tea about
Speaker 3: my mother.
Speaker 1: Do you respond to that in a negative way? You're
Speaker 1: being fun and playful, even though that could be a
Speaker 1: really hurtful text message that she.
Speaker 5: Said, okay, okay, something has come through. Okay, waiting to
Speaker 5: hear this what that's exactly the problem. Your mother in
Speaker 5: law is my client.
Speaker 4: Now shut of you?
Speaker 2: The betrayal if she choose her.
Speaker 3: I don't even know how this happened.
Speaker 2: Do you have a backstabbing mother in law? Is this
Speaker 2: the problem? Did she go in there and stir some
Speaker 2: stuff up?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 4: Like the mother in law came in and started gossiping
Speaker 4: about you.
Speaker 5: I told my mother in law that I went to
Speaker 5: this salon, but I didn't even tell her that I
Speaker 5: saw this particular silence.
Speaker 7: Oh my god, I guess I don't understand.
Speaker 4: Clearly there's a tension going on between the three of
Speaker 4: them of some sort. I mean, I think we're done
Speaker 4: with the pleasantries. You need to like go and say,
Speaker 4: like why why would you choose her?
Speaker 2: No, And you need to say what did my mother
Speaker 2: in law tell you?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Can we assume that that was yeah, clearly.
Speaker 2: In law talking.
Speaker 4: I mean, for any life, is you just assumed the
Speaker 4: mom in law is behind it?
Speaker 6: Okay, I'm gonna write why would you choose her over me?
Speaker 3: I'm typing now, okay, why would you.
Speaker 5: Choose her over me?
Speaker 6: I've been your client for six years.
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, angry angry face emoji? No, not angry avery
Speaker 4: face three fists no.
Speaker 1: No, no emojis, no emojis, emojis, yes, I want to
Speaker 1: know what kind of bs that mother in law's.
Speaker 4: Oh wow, okay, no emojis, just curse words.
Speaker 5: Okay, I sent it.
Speaker 4: Okay, wow, I can't imagine what you're feeling right now.
Speaker 5: I've done it, and she's writing back already, so she's
Speaker 5: definitely on it, and we're going to see what she says.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Okay, I am dying. I can't.
Speaker 3: Oh, this is freaking me out.
Speaker 5: Okay, I came through.
Speaker 6: She right, Oh my god, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: This is awkward.
Speaker 6: But he told me some interesting things.
Speaker 5: About you that don't line up with my values. So
Speaker 5: we should just say goodbye.
Speaker 4: What your mother in law gossiped to your stylist and
Speaker 4: said that your values are off.
Speaker 1: You've got to throw the mom in law under the bus.
Speaker 1: That's the only option right now.
Speaker 2: You You need to say this.
Speaker 1: You need to say values. Let's talk about values because
Speaker 1: that woman. Okay, and then whatever you need to say.
Speaker 2: Adiot.
Speaker 4: Yeah, when they go low, you go low. That's right, law,
Speaker 4: let's undercut mom in law.
Speaker 5: I'm just sure what values is she saying don't align
Speaker 5: with yours?
Speaker 3: I would like to and I'm going to add on.
Speaker 6: Whatever she said to you it's a lie.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, and then say it doesn't matter. No,
Speaker 1: you let her know that you literally can't with this woman,
Speaker 1: that this woman is affecting. I mean, come on, a
Speaker 1: mother in law is getting you kicked out of your
Speaker 1: own hairstylist salon.
Speaker 5: I sent it.
Speaker 1: I sent it, and we got to do a whole
Speaker 1: other segment of you texting your mother in law.
Speaker 2: Next book is releasing of her.
Speaker 4: That's so excited for that segment.
Speaker 2: Hate that stuff.
Speaker 3: Weird.
Speaker 5: I did not even know my mother in law went there.
Speaker 5: This is like no good deeds, Like I recommended this
Speaker 5: salon to my mother in law. This is what I get.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you better be careful. You're gonna lose your dentist.
Speaker 2: You're gonna lose your dermatologists.
Speaker 3: I'm definitely not recommending anywhere. I wouldn't recommend a grocery
Speaker 3: store to that woman.
Speaker 4: I mean, oh my god, this is oh my god.
Speaker 5: She texted back, Okay, all right, I'm scared.
Speaker 3: Oh, waiting to hear this, she says.
Speaker 5: I don't want to go into it, but in terms
Speaker 5: of how you treat people in the service industry, eg, no,
Speaker 5: tipping above fifteen percent.
Speaker 4: Your mother, your mother in law, said that about you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, apparently she told my stylist, who knows that's how
Speaker 5: I champ already.
Speaker 3: I mean, this is not news.
Speaker 4: Wait for you don't believe in tipping above fifteen percent?
Speaker 5: Percent is pretty standard, and twenty percent is like really
Speaker 5: like weird, awfully.
Speaker 4: Over there not defending this, this is weird.
Speaker 2: I'm just processing, really, aren't you?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 2: I okay tips?
Speaker 5: Okay?
Speaker 4: Five percent isn't it? Okay?
Speaker 2: Okay, listen, this is what this is what you're gonna do.
Speaker 2: If this is important to you, just be like, that
Speaker 2: is not true. I swear I will only tip you
Speaker 2: twenty percent from here on out.
Speaker 3: But it is true.
Speaker 6: I never sit more than fifteen percent, but I always tip.
Speaker 4: And she's known that, she's.
Speaker 2: Known that maybe she's been waiting to find an excuse
Speaker 2: to get rid of you. That I don't know that
Speaker 2: this is even the mother in law's fault anymore. Do
Speaker 2: you know?
Speaker 1: What probably happened is that your hairstylist was complaining to
Speaker 1: your mother in law about how.
Speaker 2: You don't tip, and the mother and law said, well,
Speaker 2: that's what she does. She never tips over fifteen percent.
Speaker 5: Do I fire my mother in law?
Speaker 3: You can't.
Speaker 2: You got a tip more? You got a tip more?
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I'm sorry too. We are out of time
Speaker 4: for the segments, So Janelle, if you do want to
Speaker 4: fire your mother in law over text message, you can
Speaker 4: come back again.
Speaker 2: I don't think it was the mother in law's fault.
Speaker 4: Down your pro mom in law.
Speaker 2: I maybe went a little too hard too soon, Brook.
Speaker 4: And Jeffrey in the morning, Brook, what happened there at
Speaker 4: the end to you know, you were one hundred percent
Speaker 4: on our listener's side the whole way, rallying the troops
Speaker 4: to go scorched earth on mother in laws all over
Speaker 4: the world, and then suddenly, whoop total one to eighty
Speaker 4: your pro mom in law.
Speaker 1: I just sometimes I may make choices before I have
Speaker 1: all the information.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's not great.
Speaker 2: You know it's okay to say I was wrong.
Speaker 4: Sure, that's a rare thing for us to hear.
Speaker 2: I say it all the time.
Speaker 1: I mean, you can't be this opinionated and not also
Speaker 1: be okay to say and you're wrong.
Speaker 4: You can't do both, I will say.
Speaker 7: When she says, yeah, I never reaches my ears, she
Speaker 7: says it under a breath at her desk.
Speaker 4: Problem.
Speaker 2: No, I talked to Alexis about it, okay, I will say.
Speaker 4: The weirdest part was after the break, you went and
Speaker 4: bragged to our producer about how much you tipped to
Speaker 4: your stylist. Personally you did. They went in there and
Speaker 4: you said, it's all under the table, so quote the
Speaker 4: government can't get our money. Yeah, I heard it.
Speaker 5: I was in the.
Speaker 4: Room mortgage every month.
Speaker 1: He asked me how much I tip, and I told
Speaker 1: him yourself.
Speaker 4: You did have a smug look on your face though
Speaker 4: when you gave him the answer. But that's okay. You
Speaker 4: could tip as much or as little as you want.
Speaker 4: We're not here to judge your salary. Yeah, salary, but
Speaker 4: we can't always try to help you with the issues
Speaker 4: going on in your life. Reach out to the show,
Speaker 4: find us on email at Brook and Jeffrey in the morning,
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