WEBVTT - Textual Healing: Fired By Stylist 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:02.440 Hey, welcome to the Second Day Podcast. It's Brick and Jeffrey. 0:00:02.480 --> 0:00:05.440 We've got a new episode. Textual healing is just when 0:00:05.480 --> 0:00:08.200 a listener writes us and has an issue where they 0:00:08.240 --> 0:00:10.799 just don't know how to respond. You know, they're kind 0:00:10.800 --> 0:00:13.280 of at a dead end, and so this person needed 0:00:13.320 --> 0:00:15.560 our help and it is a doozy. We're gonna get 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:18.079 to that in just a second. But comments, yeah, Gil 0:00:18.160 --> 0:00:22.120 Ferguson said in all caps, OMG, I'm out of episode. 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:25.239 I've been binging for eight months and I'm finally caught up. 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:26.239 What am I supposed to do? 0:00:26.280 --> 0:00:26.320 It? 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:31.280 Work? Now? Work? Ew Well, listen. We always have our 0:00:31.280 --> 0:00:32.480 full show podcast too. 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:35.639 If yes, if you're that type of glutton for punishment, 0:00:35.720 --> 0:00:37.919 you can get a full full hour of this, kay, 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:39.839 Or go to our socials at Brick and Jeffrey and 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:41.879 just stalk us there, go way back. 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:44.159 Keep scrolling. We got you, Gil, We got you all right. 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:46.599 Your brand new episode for Gil starts now. 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:49.879 We all know the answer for how to handle a 0:00:49.960 --> 0:00:51.159 really bad breakup? 0:00:51.560 --> 0:01:00.360 Oh girls, nus, how you do it? 0:01:00.560 --> 0:01:04.680 One evening out with strong, poor drinks and weak minded men, 0:01:05.160 --> 0:01:08.920 and you will be forgetting all of your problems. But 0:01:09.080 --> 0:01:11.360 what do you do if the person who's dumping you 0:01:11.560 --> 0:01:15.960 is way more important than any dumb boyfriend ever could be. 0:01:16.080 --> 0:01:19.280 Oh No, one of our listeners says, that's exactly the 0:01:19.319 --> 0:01:22.679 position that she's in after she got one text from 0:01:22.720 --> 0:01:26.560 somebody she thought was a really close friend, and now 0:01:26.640 --> 0:01:29.960 she's wondering, how do I even respond to it? Was 0:01:31.400 --> 0:01:34.800 how you doing Brook? No, Remember, it's not that kind 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:37.200 of breakup, but it may still help. I don't think so. 0:01:37.360 --> 0:01:40.120 You're gonna hear it in a brand new textual healing 0:01:40.160 --> 0:01:54.560 coming up next, Textual Healing Textual Welcome to Textual Healing, 0:01:55.760 --> 0:01:59.360 the segment where we take your so called complicated life 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:03.640 problems and instantly fix them for you with one simple 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:08.160 text message. Yes, it is that easy, because we help 0:02:08.240 --> 0:02:11.200 you craft the perfect message to make all of your 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:15.639 issues and problems melt away like a tasty handful of 0:02:15.639 --> 0:02:19.399 off brand xanax. That's what we do for you. 0:02:19.560 --> 0:02:22.560 It feels too good to be true, Jeff, like you've 0:02:22.560 --> 0:02:24.760 forgotten all the other textual healings that we've done. 0:02:24.919 --> 0:02:27.639 But maybe it's the handful of xanax that I just took. 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:30.360 But we do have a woman on the phone right now. 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:33.760 I don't know anything about her, not even her name. 0:02:33.880 --> 0:02:35.639 I just have a note here saying this is a 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:39.600 last second, emergency, desperate situation that she's in and she 0:02:39.680 --> 0:02:43.200 would really like our help with it. So hello listener, 0:02:43.360 --> 0:02:46.000 welcome to the show. Who are you hi? 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:49.280 This is Janelle and I would really appreciate some help. 0:02:49.600 --> 0:02:53.480 I got a really upsetting text and it sort of 0:02:53.480 --> 0:02:56.440 feels like I've lost my best friends. Not twice, but 0:02:56.560 --> 0:02:57.760 it feels that way to me. 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:00.920 Oh my gosh, o Brook. First of all, you need 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:02.639 to calm down a little bit, because she said it's 0:03:02.960 --> 0:03:06.040 like her best friend, not her actual best I have. 0:03:06.120 --> 0:03:09.160 Like twelve best friends. Okay, they are all equally important. 0:03:09.280 --> 0:03:12.120 Okay, there's no time to brag about that stuff. 0:03:12.160 --> 0:03:16.360 What's best friends are integral to a happy life. 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:18.679 But she said, is this an actual friend of yours 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:21.080 or it's just friend adjacent? What is going on? 0:03:21.600 --> 0:03:25.200 It is a friend, but it's a professional relationship as well. 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:28.919 So basically I got fired by my hair stylist. 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:30.160 Is that the text? 0:03:30.200 --> 0:03:30.399 Wait? 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:32.600 Can I ask? Is that the text that you just got? 0:03:33.360 --> 0:03:33.560 Yes? 0:03:33.720 --> 0:03:36.760 I got a last night and she basically told me 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:39.800 she doesn't want me as a client anymore. 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:42.839 No, Oh my god, that's my dream. 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:44.760 Air. 0:03:45.360 --> 0:03:47.280 Yes, she told me I can't come back. 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:48.640 What did you do with Janelle? 0:03:49.440 --> 0:03:52.760 I did nothing, and I don't understand because I always 0:03:52.840 --> 0:03:55.800 kip her really well, I'm sweet to her. 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:58.800 We get along. I've been seeing her for about six years. 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:01.640 Okay, wait wait wait, did you bad mouth or behind 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:05.880 were back somewhere? Because I'm sorrying hairstylists or the queen 0:04:05.920 --> 0:04:08.480 of gossip, they know everything that's happening all time. 0:04:09.160 --> 0:04:11.440 This was out of nowhere. 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:13.960 Well, we didn't even have an appointment. 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:16.920 Scheduled or anything, but said it said. Let me read 0:04:16.920 --> 0:04:21.760 it to you verbatim. Hi, I've really enjoyed our time together, 0:04:22.320 --> 0:04:24.800 but I don't think i'd like to take you on 0:04:25.080 --> 0:04:27.680 as a client any longer period. 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:31.000 Did you put an emoji like a tear eye emoji 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:31.400 at least? 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:36.440 No, not like Smiley and the girl hair flipping. 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:40.160 Hey, this sounds no hair emoji, nothing. 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:42.599 So I have not responded to get because I didn't 0:04:42.640 --> 0:04:45.080 know how to even take this. 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:47.160 I was like, what, Well, it. 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:51.120 Sounds like you're feeling upset and like let down, even 0:04:51.120 --> 0:04:52.919 more like she sounds devastated to me. 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:56.080 I feel like it's really hurt my feelings because again, 0:04:56.160 --> 0:04:58.479 when as I said in the beginning, like I consider 0:04:58.560 --> 0:04:59.280 this woman a. 0:04:59.200 --> 0:05:02.240 Friend, you know, well, I pay my friends too, so 0:05:02.279 --> 0:05:02.920 I get that fee. 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:04.559 No, my hairs. 0:05:04.680 --> 0:05:07.200 I've been with my hairstylist for over a decade and 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:12.200 she is a friend of mine, competition friend. No, if 0:05:12.320 --> 0:05:15.680 I got that text message, I would also, like I 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:18.839 would be beside myself. And it's not just because I 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:21.200 couldn't find someone else to cut my hair, Like, that's 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:21.919 not it. 0:05:21.920 --> 0:05:23.120 It's like it is. 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:26.160 Such an intimate relationship with your hairstyle. 0:05:25.880 --> 0:05:29.720 Is like you share it. I really confide it in her, Okay, 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:32.880 And I'm wondering if I should be taking this personally. 0:05:32.520 --> 0:05:37.400 Oh you should, well, okay, hairstylists don't do anything that's 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:38.000 not personal. 0:05:38.680 --> 0:05:42.400 And to be I've never heard of them losing a client, 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:44.719 Like it takes forever to build a client list and 0:05:44.760 --> 0:05:46.120 to have a consistent amount. 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:48.040 So for her to say I don't want your business, 0:05:48.080 --> 0:05:50.760 it's pretty big. Yeah, there's got to be some sort 0:05:50.760 --> 0:05:53.560 of explanation and she's not providing it. It seems like 0:05:53.920 --> 0:05:56.000 that's what you're going for here, Janelle. You want to 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:59.320 ask her, what's the reason I want to. 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:02.240 Respond in like the right way without seeming like I'm 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:05.520 flying off the handle, like, oh, you really hurt my feelings? 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:06.200 How dare you? 0:06:06.240 --> 0:06:06.720 What did I do? 0:06:07.000 --> 0:06:08.560 That was going to be my exact thing? 0:06:08.880 --> 0:06:11.200 Okay, I want to like craft this in the right 0:06:11.279 --> 0:06:14.280 way my response, which is why I haven't responded yet, 0:06:14.279 --> 0:06:15.640 which is why I'm. 0:06:15.520 --> 0:06:18.880 Asking, Okay, we can tell that you're very clearly emotional 0:06:18.960 --> 0:06:21.920 about this, but we're going to do our job and 0:06:21.960 --> 0:06:25.080 get you some textual healing right now. Help you have 0:06:25.279 --> 0:06:28.600 the right message to her to figure out politely how 0:06:28.600 --> 0:06:31.640 to ask the reason why she's letting you go from 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:34.719 her client list now. I don't have an idea because 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:39.080 I personally don't ever see the same hairstylist I. 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:42.600 Avoid that sad relationship with women in their heir souse 0:06:42.680 --> 0:06:46.760 sometimes is even deeper. I can understand. 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:49.839 I would defer to Brook or possibly Alexis for the 0:06:49.960 --> 0:06:50.760 first thoughts here. 0:06:50.920 --> 0:06:51.719 I think you should. 0:06:52.000 --> 0:06:55.599 I think you should lead with humor honestly, because like, 0:06:55.760 --> 0:06:58.440 what if what if you're reading it wrong for some reason? 0:06:58.800 --> 0:07:00.920 I don't know how you can miscann through her message? 0:07:01.240 --> 0:07:04.599 But what if you just said, my roots weren't that bad? 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:09.440 Last appointment? Were they you know, like, yeah. 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:12.360 Okay, right, I say, like, I promise I didn't use 0:07:12.400 --> 0:07:13.560 box color. 0:07:15.560 --> 0:07:16.040 Exactly. 0:07:16.680 --> 0:07:19.520 Yeah, girl, I swear I didn't cut my own bags 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:21.160 before I saw you. 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:23.720 That's an option. Or you could also play the pity 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:27.240 card and be like, are you sure because I had 0:07:27.320 --> 0:07:31.600 three of my dogs run away this week. Also, my 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:34.200 dad says he wants to redivorce my mom. 0:07:36.560 --> 0:07:37.560 Oh my gosh. 0:07:37.600 --> 0:07:40.200 That's also kind of funny. Work on a hairstyle. 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:43.920 In that chair, that's not bad. 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:46.320 What if you lean into what Alexis is saying with 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:49.119 the gossip and be like, no, you can't yet because 0:07:49.160 --> 0:07:54.040 I haven't told you what happened with X something talking 0:07:54.040 --> 0:07:54.760 about Oh. 0:07:54.640 --> 0:07:57.880 I like that just to intrigue her. I mean, I 0:07:57.960 --> 0:08:00.480 just wonder if there's something personal going on her and 0:08:00.520 --> 0:08:03.000 if that was like a little bit of humor might 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:04.200 warm her up and. 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:06.240 You'll be able to tell on her interest level if 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:07.280 she wants to know the tea. 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:09.640 Yeah, you know. So you're worried there's going to be 0:08:09.720 --> 0:08:13.000 something personal about you. What does the room think, Like, 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:16.160 what are the percentage chances that this has something to 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:19.520 do with something Janelle did? Or what's the percentage it's 0:08:19.520 --> 0:08:21.960 something not related to her going on in just the 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:23.600 hairstylist Personal. 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:26.480 Life Janelle Janelle nine percent. 0:08:26.640 --> 0:08:29.160 I mean, honestly, I don't like to hear that, but 0:08:29.240 --> 0:08:30.920 I hate to say it. I think you guys, But 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:33.520 the way she phrased it in her text is I 0:08:33.600 --> 0:08:35.640 don't think I'd like to take you on as a 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:36.920 client any longer. 0:08:37.040 --> 0:08:39.280 Yeah, is anyone else optimistic? 0:08:39.440 --> 0:08:40.840 There's a one percent chance he's. 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:42.960 Intimidated by her, like, oh my god, that coat you 0:08:43.000 --> 0:08:45.360 were last time was so much better dressed than that. 0:08:45.480 --> 0:08:47.800 Do you think a one percent chance is optimism? 0:08:47.960 --> 0:08:52.239 Yeah, I'm optimistic. 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:54.200 It's not your fault and has something to do with 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:54.640 the weather. 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:59.120 There always the prettiest girl. Yeahtimate. They're not intimidating, Okay. 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:02.400 I appreciate your optimism, Jose Yeah, sorry for it. 0:09:03.520 --> 0:09:03.960 All right. 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:06.319 So we're obviously running out of time here. We need 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:08.840 to get one text through. What are you going to 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:10.480 write to your hairstylist, Janelle? 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:14.960 I think I'm gonna go with the little gossip humor thing. 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:17.320 Least, that's an attempt to. 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:20.280 Diffuse the situation a little bit with humor. 0:09:20.240 --> 0:09:22.600 And remind her that you guys are friends. I mean 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:24.840 it's a reminder that you're more connected than just the 0:09:24.880 --> 0:09:25.959 client relationship. 0:09:26.200 --> 0:09:26.560 Perfect. 0:09:26.640 --> 0:09:29.679 So we are officially out of time now, So Janelle, 0:09:29.760 --> 0:09:32.040 you're gonna have to go ahead and text that message 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:35.240 to her on your own about I have gossip for you. 0:09:35.240 --> 0:09:37.040 You have to hear it, and then we'll come back 0:09:37.200 --> 0:09:40.880 and hopefully she's responded to it and you've reeled her 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:44.520 back in when we do more textual healing with the 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:48.120 hairstylist who fired you coming out right after this. Okay, 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:53.199 we're in the middle of textual healing with our listener, Janelle, 0:09:53.600 --> 0:09:57.600 who had a professional and what she thought was a 0:09:57.640 --> 0:10:02.240 close friendship with her hairstylist of the past six years. The 0:10:02.320 --> 0:10:07.040 issue is last night she received a random text that said, 0:10:07.480 --> 0:10:12.360 I'm sorry, but you're fired. You cannot be my client anymore. 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:14.640 Like we're not even her client. 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:16.320 I feel like we all winced when he said this, 0:10:16.800 --> 0:10:17.079 like she. 0:10:17.080 --> 0:10:21.920 Was just canceling an appointment. She is canceling, yes, yes, 0:10:21.960 --> 0:10:23.040 And there was nothing else with it. 0:10:23.120 --> 0:10:28.160 No emoji's attached, no explanation for why. So Janelle turned 0:10:28.160 --> 0:10:31.520 around and urgently sent a message to our producer, and 0:10:31.679 --> 0:10:34.400 here we are trying to help her get an answer 0:10:34.880 --> 0:10:38.439 and maybe even get her hairstylist back. 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:41.280 Yes, yeah, I'm gonna win. That's what we're gonna do. 0:10:41.400 --> 0:10:42.600 I'm fully confident. 0:10:42.640 --> 0:10:45.200 Nobody we never said that was a possibility in the 0:10:45.200 --> 0:10:49.120 first part. But I think Jose's relentless optimism came through, 0:10:49.760 --> 0:10:54.480 seeped through my clothing down into my heart. It did. 0:10:54.520 --> 0:10:57.360 It made me believe. So can they make her too happy? 0:10:57.800 --> 0:10:59.840 And she's like, I can't focus on anything else other 0:10:59.880 --> 0:11:00.959 than you leave. 0:11:01.600 --> 0:11:04.960 I'm using the optimism. Okay, so we don't even know 0:11:05.000 --> 0:11:08.280 what text message she actually sent. Janelle, what did you 0:11:08.360 --> 0:11:10.720 end up writing to your stylist after she said she's 0:11:10.800 --> 0:11:11.440 letting you go? 0:11:12.280 --> 0:11:15.000 Here's what I ended up sending her and she is 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:16.480 typing back as we speak. 0:11:16.800 --> 0:11:19.240 Okay, well that means it's going to be a long one. 0:11:19.240 --> 0:11:20.239 What did you say? 0:11:20.480 --> 0:11:24.439 I said, are you sure? Because I have something juicy 0:11:24.559 --> 0:11:29.520 to tell you. It's about my mother in law. 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:35.400 I know everybody wants to know the tea, don't they. 0:11:35.640 --> 0:11:38.400 Yeah, I can always come up with some tea about 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:38.760 my mother. 0:11:40.640 --> 0:11:42.960 Do you respond to that in a negative way? You're 0:11:43.000 --> 0:11:45.720 being fun and playful, even though that could be a 0:11:45.720 --> 0:11:47.360 really hurtful text message that she. 0:11:47.400 --> 0:11:51.920 Said, okay, okay, something has come through. Okay, waiting to 0:11:52.000 --> 0:11:57.679 hear this what that's exactly the problem. Your mother in 0:11:57.800 --> 0:11:59.200 law is my client. 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:04.960 Now shut of you? 0:12:05.160 --> 0:12:07.040 The betrayal if she choose her. 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:09.080 I don't even know how this happened. 0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:11.080 Do you have a backstabbing mother in law? Is this 0:12:11.160 --> 0:12:13.600 the problem? Did she go in there and stir some 0:12:13.679 --> 0:12:14.200 stuff up? 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:14.439 Oh? 0:12:14.520 --> 0:12:16.680 Like the mother in law came in and started gossiping 0:12:16.720 --> 0:12:17.240 about you. 0:12:17.520 --> 0:12:19.320 I told my mother in law that I went to 0:12:19.400 --> 0:12:22.000 this salon, but I didn't even tell her that I 0:12:22.080 --> 0:12:23.760 saw this particular silence. 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:25.920 Oh my god, I guess I don't understand. 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:28.760 Clearly there's a tension going on between the three of 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:30.880 them of some sort. I mean, I think we're done 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:32.880 with the pleasantries. You need to like go and say, 0:12:33.120 --> 0:12:35.040 like why why would you choose her? 0:12:35.440 --> 0:12:37.200 No, And you need to say what did my mother 0:12:37.240 --> 0:12:38.040 in law tell you? 0:12:38.160 --> 0:12:38.400 Yeah? 0:12:38.640 --> 0:12:41.599 Can we assume that that was yeah, clearly. 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:43.960 In law talking. 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:46.320 I mean, for any life, is you just assumed the 0:12:46.360 --> 0:12:47.480 mom in law is behind it? 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:50.480 Okay, I'm gonna write why would you choose her over me? 0:12:50.800 --> 0:12:52.520 I'm typing now, okay, why would you. 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:53.600 Choose her over me? 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:55.920 I've been your client for six years. 0:12:56.160 --> 0:13:00.640 Yes, yes, angry angry face emoji? No, not angry avery 0:13:00.679 --> 0:13:02.560 face three fists no. 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:08.880 No, no emojis, no emojis, emojis, yes, I want to 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:12.439 know what kind of bs that mother in law's. 0:13:11.520 --> 0:13:14.160 Oh wow, okay, no emojis, just curse words. 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:16.160 Okay, I sent it. 0:13:16.200 --> 0:13:19.360 Okay, wow, I can't imagine what you're feeling right now. 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:23.040 I've done it, and she's writing back already, so she's 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:25.600 definitely on it, and we're going to see what she says. 0:13:25.960 --> 0:13:30.120 Oh my god, Okay, I am dying. I can't. 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:32.439 Oh, this is freaking me out. 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:33.840 Okay, I came through. 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:38.600 She right, Oh my god, I'm sorry. 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:39.920 This is awkward. 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:45.000 But he told me some interesting things. 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:49.679 About you that don't line up with my values. So 0:13:49.760 --> 0:13:51.280 we should just say goodbye. 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:57.920 What your mother in law gossiped to your stylist and 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:00.040 said that your values are off. 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:03.200 You've got to throw the mom in law under the bus. 0:14:03.240 --> 0:14:04.880 That's the only option right now. 0:14:05.559 --> 0:14:06.880 You You need to say this. 0:14:06.920 --> 0:14:09.400 You need to say values. Let's talk about values because 0:14:09.480 --> 0:14:12.040 that woman. Okay, and then whatever you need to say. 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:13.880 Adiot. 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:18.640 Yeah, when they go low, you go low. That's right, law, 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:20.920 let's undercut mom in law. 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:25.120 I'm just sure what values is she saying don't align 0:14:25.240 --> 0:14:25.960 with yours? 0:14:26.120 --> 0:14:28.520 I would like to and I'm going to add on. 0:14:28.280 --> 0:14:30.960 Whatever she said to you it's a lie. 0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:35.320 Yes, yes, yes, and then say it doesn't matter. No, 0:14:35.720 --> 0:14:38.080 you let her know that you literally can't with this woman, 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:40.760 that this woman is affecting. I mean, come on, a 0:14:40.800 --> 0:14:42.800 mother in law is getting you kicked out of your 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:44.160 own hairstylist salon. 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:45.280 I sent it. 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:49.320 I sent it, and we got to do a whole 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:51.520 other segment of you texting your mother in law. 0:14:51.600 --> 0:14:55.040 Next book is releasing of her. 0:14:55.800 --> 0:14:57.520 That's so excited for that segment. 0:14:58.200 --> 0:14:59.040 Hate that stuff. 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:00.600 Weird. 0:15:00.760 --> 0:15:02.920 I did not even know my mother in law went there. 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:05.800 This is like no good deeds, Like I recommended this 0:15:05.960 --> 0:15:08.320 salon to my mother in law. This is what I get. 0:15:08.440 --> 0:15:10.560 Yeah, you better be careful. You're gonna lose your dentist. 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:12.480 You're gonna lose your dermatologists. 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:17.440 I'm definitely not recommending anywhere. I wouldn't recommend a grocery 0:15:17.480 --> 0:15:18.240 store to that woman. 0:15:20.640 --> 0:15:22.840 I mean, oh my god, this is oh my god. 0:15:22.920 --> 0:15:26.160 She texted back, Okay, all right, I'm scared. 0:15:26.600 --> 0:15:29.200 Oh, waiting to hear this, she says. 0:15:30.240 --> 0:15:32.880 I don't want to go into it, but in terms 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:37.920 of how you treat people in the service industry, eg, no, 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:40.120 tipping above fifteen percent. 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:43.720 Your mother, your mother in law, said that about you. 0:15:44.600 --> 0:15:48.720 Yeah, apparently she told my stylist, who knows that's how 0:15:48.800 --> 0:15:49.760 I champ already. 0:15:50.040 --> 0:15:51.320 I mean, this is not news. 0:15:51.520 --> 0:15:54.400 Wait for you don't believe in tipping above fifteen percent? 0:15:55.560 --> 0:15:59.600 Percent is pretty standard, and twenty percent is like really 0:15:59.760 --> 0:16:01.680 like weird, awfully. 0:16:01.760 --> 0:16:04.640 Over there not defending this, this is weird. 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:08.160 I'm just processing, really, aren't you? 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:08.320 No? 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:10.560 I okay tips? 0:16:10.840 --> 0:16:11.280 Okay? 0:16:11.680 --> 0:16:14.200 Five percent isn't it? Okay? 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:18.040 Okay, listen, this is what this is what you're gonna do. 0:16:18.120 --> 0:16:20.480 If this is important to you, just be like, that 0:16:20.640 --> 0:16:23.200 is not true. I swear I will only tip you 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:24.560 twenty percent from here on out. 0:16:24.880 --> 0:16:25.800 But it is true. 0:16:26.760 --> 0:16:29.800 I never sit more than fifteen percent, but I always tip. 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:31.800 And she's known that, she's. 0:16:31.680 --> 0:16:33.560 Known that maybe she's been waiting to find an excuse 0:16:33.600 --> 0:16:36.440 to get rid of you. That I don't know that 0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:38.800 this is even the mother in law's fault anymore. Do 0:16:38.840 --> 0:16:39.000 you know? 0:16:39.040 --> 0:16:43.080 What probably happened is that your hairstylist was complaining to 0:16:43.120 --> 0:16:44.760 your mother in law about how. 0:16:44.600 --> 0:16:48.640 You don't tip, and the mother and law said, well, 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:51.400 that's what she does. She never tips over fifteen percent. 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:54.440 Do I fire my mother in law? 0:16:55.400 --> 0:16:56.120 You can't. 0:16:56.200 --> 0:16:58.800 You got a tip more? You got a tip more? 0:16:58.920 --> 0:17:04.240 Yeah, and I'm sorry too. We are out of time 0:17:04.280 --> 0:17:06.960 for the segments, So Janelle, if you do want to 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:09.160 fire your mother in law over text message, you can 0:17:09.200 --> 0:17:09.879 come back again. 0:17:10.240 --> 0:17:11.800 I don't think it was the mother in law's fault. 0:17:12.200 --> 0:17:13.320 Down your pro mom in law. 0:17:15.359 --> 0:17:20.880 I maybe went a little too hard too soon, Brook. 0:17:20.600 --> 0:17:24.239 And Jeffrey in the morning, Brook, what happened there at 0:17:24.240 --> 0:17:26.800 the end to you know, you were one hundred percent 0:17:26.920 --> 0:17:30.040 on our listener's side the whole way, rallying the troops 0:17:30.040 --> 0:17:32.600 to go scorched earth on mother in laws all over 0:17:32.640 --> 0:17:35.680 the world, and then suddenly, whoop total one to eighty 0:17:35.760 --> 0:17:36.800 your pro mom in law. 0:17:37.640 --> 0:17:41.439 I just sometimes I may make choices before I have 0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:42.640 all the information. 0:17:42.920 --> 0:17:43.840 Yeah, that's not great. 0:17:44.119 --> 0:17:45.840 You know it's okay to say I was wrong. 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:48.320 Sure, that's a rare thing for us to hear. 0:17:48.600 --> 0:17:49.760 I say it all the time. 0:17:49.880 --> 0:17:52.399 I mean, you can't be this opinionated and not also 0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:53.720 be okay to say and you're wrong. 0:17:54.000 --> 0:17:55.320 You can't do both, I will say. 0:17:55.800 --> 0:17:58.320 When she says, yeah, I never reaches my ears, she 0:17:58.320 --> 0:17:59.600 says it under a breath at her desk. 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:00.000 Problem. 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:04.000 No, I talked to Alexis about it, okay, I will say. 0:18:04.040 --> 0:18:06.800 The weirdest part was after the break, you went and 0:18:06.840 --> 0:18:10.080 bragged to our producer about how much you tipped to 0:18:10.160 --> 0:18:13.959 your stylist. Personally you did. They went in there and 0:18:14.000 --> 0:18:16.280 you said, it's all under the table, so quote the 0:18:16.359 --> 0:18:19.200 government can't get our money. Yeah, I heard it. 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:19.840 I was in the. 0:18:19.880 --> 0:18:22.120 Room mortgage every month. 0:18:22.240 --> 0:18:25.000 He asked me how much I tip, and I told 0:18:25.119 --> 0:18:25.840 him yourself. 0:18:27.800 --> 0:18:29.960 You did have a smug look on your face though 0:18:29.960 --> 0:18:32.560 when you gave him the answer. But that's okay. You 0:18:32.560 --> 0:18:34.440