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Speaker 1: My sister almost made me lose my job for calling

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Speaker 1: me a PDF file, so I banned her from using

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Speaker 1: her phone my band I twenty seven male, am the

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Speaker 1: guardian of my younger sister, thirteen female, and I work

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Speaker 1: for the USPS. They take those charges series. Lately, I've

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Speaker 1: been on a route that delivers mail to the local

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Speaker 1: I was at the middle school walking to the main

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Speaker 1: PETO make it British so I can say it pay

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Speaker 1: the do get it?

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Speaker 2: Why?

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Speaker 1: And I got really startled and looked, and it's my

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Speaker 1: younger sister with her friend. She was laughing, and I

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Speaker 1: told her that wasn't funny, and a nearby teacher came

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Speaker 1: over for me asked asking what was happening. I frantically

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Speaker 1: younger sister who was making fceless joke, and my sister

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Speaker 1: was just standing there enjoying the situation. Fortunately, the teacher

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Speaker 1: and she looked and I sternly said give me your phone,

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Speaker 1: and she stopped for a moment and said what, And

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Speaker 1: I told her to give me her phone. She protested

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Speaker 1: and she really upset and annoyed as she walked away.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from sand Mussy on the

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Speaker 1: best rudder of Dad subvered it. So I got home

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Speaker 1: this afternoon and she was effing pissed at me. Finally

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Speaker 1: I got to have a conversation with her about it,

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Speaker 1: and I told her her behavior was completely inappropriate and

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Speaker 1: my job, which is putting the food in our mouths

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Speaker 1: and clothes on our back are on our backs, and

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Speaker 1: roof above her heads, just because she wanted a quick giggle.

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Speaker 1: She continued to persist and pulled the who do you

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Speaker 1: think you are?

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Speaker 3: My parent?

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Speaker 1: And I said, I think I'm the person who pays

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Speaker 1: for your cell phone bill and can easily cancel the

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Speaker 1: phone plan anytime.

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Speaker 2: They was right, I'm the provider. Put your foot down, op, I'm.

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Speaker 3: A federal employee and I provide her for the government.

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Speaker 1: That's who I think I am. It's like don't let

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Speaker 1: the government control me. Yeah. She just walked away, and

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Speaker 1: I asked if she was going to dinner or should

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Speaker 1: I put it away. She flipped me off as she

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Speaker 1: went upstairs, to which I called out, yeah, okay, I'm

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Speaker 1: keeping your phone another day. My sister is a big

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Speaker 1: ray of hope in my sea of depression address and

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Speaker 1: the most important thing in my life and my reason

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Speaker 1: for trudging through this crap job. But holy crap, she

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Speaker 1: can be such a brat. Sometimes I'm wondering if maybe

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Speaker 1: I overreacted by taking her phone. Maybe this is a

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Speaker 1: completely separate thing, but sometimes it just feels so weird

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Speaker 1: punishing her Like I feel like I'm the one who's

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Speaker 1: supposed to help get her out of parental punishments rather

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Speaker 1: than the one asserting them. And uh op, am I

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Speaker 1: the a hole? And there are some comments and an update,

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Speaker 1: Well what do you say?

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Speaker 2: Hmmm, I wouldn't say that. I mean, I think that

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Speaker 2: I don't think it was a good look to be like,

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Speaker 2: I frantically responded, No, that's my sister.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like just it's like it's a dumb joke.

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Speaker 2: Sister's thirteen, she doesn't probably understand how ruined your life

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Speaker 2: could be if that snowballs out of control exactly. But

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Speaker 2: also I'm thinking taking away the potentially spiteful thirteen year

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Speaker 3: She goes to the board you hate. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think I think it's seems like, oh, he's just

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Speaker 1: trying to figure out parenting, because it seems like he

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Speaker 3: Brother parent, Yeah, brother parent.

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Speaker 1: It's hard because you're sibling doesn't want to listen to

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: It's like, well, I think the age difference is like,

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Speaker 1: Thirteen, She is thirteen, and Op is twenty seven.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's that's kind of the age where you

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Speaker 2: to enforce like you can't just be saying that.

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Speaker 3: You can't just be saying that.

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Speaker 1: Of course, she might react badly, but OPI's not the

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Speaker 3: It, No, absolutely not.

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Speaker 1: But there are some commons h actual clue says not

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Speaker 1: the a whole. Accusations like that are serious. You could

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Speaker 3: I didn't even consider that, especially if.

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Speaker 1: OPI is the only kind of guardian right now. There's

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Speaker 1: a chance that you could get taken Wow, pitch far

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Speaker 1: far far says in the future, this can cause more

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Speaker 1: severe problems and she has to know about that. And

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Speaker 1: there is an update two days later. Oh boy, yeah,

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Speaker 1: so let's get it too. First of all, quick update.

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Speaker 1: I delivered mail at her school yesterday and saw the

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Speaker 1: teacher who was involved in the situation and anxiously asked

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Speaker 1: after and based on what my sister said and what

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: So I've been thinking of the whole situation for the

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Speaker 1: and decided i'd talk to her again now. I worked

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Speaker 3: It's great family. Look at that.

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Speaker 1: Fight with your sibling and then you make up.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes you call your brother who's twice as old as

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Speaker 2: you a PDF file and then you make up. And

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Speaker 2: then it turns out that there there's just only good

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Speaker 3: Of course. But yeah, after a little talking to, after

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Speaker 1: Love, everything's fine. Also, uh is my mic.

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Speaker 3: Quiet trying to fix it right now?

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Speaker 1: Okay, I think I'm talking normal volume, so.

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Speaker 2: Just sat quiet, a little quiet, little quiet today.

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Speaker 1: Hello, how does that sound everyone? This is my normal volume.

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Speaker 1: La la la la la. It's stronger better, wronger is better.

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Speaker 3: Us.

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Speaker 1: Well, let me know what that sounds like and we

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Speaker 1: will continue the story. So I had some stuff I

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Speaker 1: initiated the conversation, so I just threw out what I had,

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Speaker 1: even though it was undercooked. I told her, I appreciate

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Speaker 1: the apology, but she clearly doesn't understand how serious her

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Speaker 1: joke was. I told her that that little joke seriously

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Speaker 2: I would hope there's at least an investigation immediately the

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Speaker 2: wrong person hears that, they're gonna come in the middle

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Speaker 1: You're gonna go back to a series of unfortunate events. Uh,

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Speaker 1: and Count Olof's gonna get you.

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Speaker 3: You're going to Lemony Snaket's house.

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Speaker 1: You don't watch that math um, and she would be

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Speaker 1: and I'd potentially be facing legal action and without a job,

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Speaker 1: all because she wanted a little giggle. Oh pie'ce freaking

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Speaker 3: Yeah, olden noe nothing back.

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Speaker 1: Then I said, I really haven't appreciated her attitude as

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Speaker 1: And I said some of her behavior behavior is completely inappropriate.

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Speaker 1: I use the flipping me off and making that joke

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Speaker 1: and to start, I made the decision I'm going to

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Speaker 3: So I think that's that's super cool.

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Speaker 1: I think that's a really great idea. I think that

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Speaker 2: I think it's even pretty damaging to Yeah, I think

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Speaker 3: And that's it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think especially for younger kids, having like just

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Speaker 2: It's yeah, it's definitely. I can't imagine having social media

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it kind of came in for me. It kind

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Speaker 1: I can't look at that stuff, it's illegal. But I

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Speaker 1: all hell broke loose. Oh my god. She just blankly

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Speaker 1: And she was begging me and profusely apologizing for her

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Speaker 1: a harsh punishment for her stupid joke. She actually started crying,

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Speaker 1: and I felt horrible and wanted to tell her, actually,

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Speaker 1: I'll think about it, and I felt like such an

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Speaker 1: offense mode. She started pinballing between points as to why

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Speaker 1: I can't do this, I'm being controlling, malicious, self centered,

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Speaker 1: and others. And she also made some cheap and unsavory

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Speaker 1: comments relating to the fact that I'm recently received an

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Speaker 1: autism diagnosis and questioning the effect that has on my

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Speaker 2: Wow, that's all that she just line, being like, you're autistic,

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Speaker 2: you don't get to tell me what to do.

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Speaker 1: I need my phone.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that this is actually this is such a good

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Speaker 2: portrait of like social media addiction.

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Speaker 1: She's like so addicted that she stooped to the immediately

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Speaker 2: You don't want to make her more stressed out that

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Speaker 1: It's tricky. But there is an update. So this post

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Speaker 1: would be appreciated. You got it, well, maybe I was

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Speaker 1: I thought there was something called the Ladybug. I could

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Speaker 1: I got it at the flip phone, and she refused

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Speaker 1: Then no for a while, Uh, oh wait, can we talk?

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Speaker 1: And I asked if I could hug her. She said

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Speaker 1: This is so sweet. Just a teenager and she's being

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Speaker 3: She's just figuring things out.

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Speaker 1: Figuring it out. She also didn't really say anything throughout

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Before we finish this story off,

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Speaker 1: is a good move. I think that's fair.

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Speaker 2: I still think it was a missed opportunity to be, like,

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Speaker 1: It was cool enough.

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Speaker 3: I don't think I do.

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Speaker 1: What the heck? What happened? Yeah, she gets a fifteen

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Speaker 1: But Jesus Christ, she can't say slash do stuff like

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Speaker 2: Sorry, you couldn't mimic a viral video and accidentally get

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Speaker 3: You couldn't do it.

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Speaker 2: Couldn't do it, did You just had to come up

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Speaker 1: No creativity these days.

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Speaker 2: These kids, these days, they can't even figure out how

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Ghost Blues Nightmara says she's lucky to be a

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Speaker 3: Damn, that's tribute we offer you. This child is tribute

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Speaker 1: Emma Beart says in high school, I had an older

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Speaker 2: Oh hey, dude, it's like, look at my sick that's

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Speaker 3: I just made a call and now I'm hanging up.

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Speaker 1: But there is another story. I don't need, no, not

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Speaker 3: I am learning, guys, everybody. Everybody clap for key on

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Speaker 3: Donation of the same mustache?

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Speaker 3: Where I think we got it.

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Speaker 1: Should be at the top if you refresh or it's

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Speaker 2: Wait, I think we have Josephine up at the top.

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Speaker 3: Welcome to the night.

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Speaker 1: Welcome. Let's get into this next story.

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Speaker 3: Let's go all right, one second?

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Speaker 1: One seconds?

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Speaker 3: Going on over anybody cheer, handsome version of Riley is here?

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Speaker 3: What is going on here? Making it up as I go?

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Speaker 3: Thank you very much.

470
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Speaker 2: If I straightened my daughter's hair without my wife's permission,

471
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Speaker 2: she screamed at me that I destroyed her hair.

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Speaker 1: This really depends I need. I want to read more. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: there is a reason why I'm thinking personal experience. No,

474
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Speaker 1: I'm thinking if she has textured hair.

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Speaker 2: Okay, let's digna. I male thirty two, have a four

476
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Speaker 2: year old daughter. Let's call her Gracie. Gracie is half black,

477
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Speaker 2: her mother female thirty one, being African American.

478
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Speaker 3: Her mother over all handled all.

479
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Speaker 2: Of Gracie's hair care and taught me how to do

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Speaker 2: simple styles. But even those simple styles were difficult.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well you need to learn because it's your daughter.

482
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Speaker 3: You need to learn. It's your daughter.

483
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Speaker 1: You should know not to straighten her hair. I mean,

484
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Speaker 1: at least without talking to your wife, who knows far

485
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Speaker 1: more than you it.

486
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Speaker 3: Maybe get a consultation before you do.

487
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Speaker 2: Sho. And by the way, this comes from user too

488
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Speaker 2: Hot too Heavy on the r slash Okay storytime subreddit.

489
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Speaker 2: So my wife My wife ended up going on a

490
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Speaker 2: vacation with her friends to celebrate her friend's birthday, and

491
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Speaker 2: my mother came over to visit. I hadn't done Gracie's

492
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Speaker 2: in a few days, so it became very nappy and

493
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Speaker 2: unmanageable her hair.

494
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Speaker 3: When I tried to comb her hair, the comb broke.

495
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Speaker 2: My mother said that I should get my daughter a

496
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Speaker 2: perm so her hair would be more manageable, So I

497
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Speaker 2: took her to a salon and got it permed. My

498
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Speaker 2: wife got home and when she saw her daughter, she

499
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Speaker 2: was livid. She screamed at me and then at my

500
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Speaker 2: mother for even suggesting that.

501
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Speaker 3: But I think she's overreacting because it's just hair.

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Speaker 1: Okay, pausing, I was trying to check if we read it,

503
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Speaker 1: but the I think the computer is being controlled.

504
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Speaker 2: So h oh, we've heard this. Somebody's definitely heard this before.

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Speaker 1: Suppose, so we can.

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Speaker 3: Jack really the check?

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Speaker 2: Well, we're going to continue on, Oh, never mind, we're

508
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Speaker 2: not going to continue. We're gonna pause. The worm queen

509
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Speaker 2: has spoken.

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Speaker 3: Do you hear that? Do you hear that? Child? Your

511
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Speaker 3: queen has spoken?

512
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Speaker 1: But what if we don't to pause?

513
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Speaker 3: What we have to pause because the queen has spoken

514
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Speaker 3: queen of the dirt and the worm.

515
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Speaker 2: This is Nimrod. For everybody who doesn't know, this worm

516
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Speaker 2: has a name. His name is Nimrod. The worm on

517
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Speaker 2: on Sophia's microphone stand is wormy. And this is we

518
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Speaker 2: got the whole family over my.

519
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Speaker 3: Shoulder, over here, WORMO.

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Speaker 2: We're mungus, We're mingus, we're dungus, we're dochis.

521
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Speaker 3: Worm and Greg.

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Speaker 4: And then Greg looks like an alien.

523
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Speaker 3: Don't say that about Greg.

524
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Speaker 4: I mean, look at him.

525
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Speaker 3: Keon, you have your own worm. His name is Stephen.

526
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Speaker 1: Guys, I double checked. We have not read this. You

527
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Speaker 1: guys scare me, man, I'll scar Okay, So can we

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Speaker 1: go back a little bit because I have thoughts. One

529
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Speaker 1: the fact that he called his daughter's hair nappy not great?

530
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Speaker 1: Really bad? Okayn, is that bad?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

532
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Speaker 3: As I thought that that's just a term that he.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I think I think that's I think

534
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Speaker 1: if used in I think he's using it improperly.

535
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Speaker 2: It's like, okay, well we'll have to the word is

536
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Speaker 2: out on that.

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Speaker 1: He sounds pretty awful, I think a little bit. Yeah,

538
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Speaker 1: let's let's let's go. Let's running back.

539
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Speaker 3: This never happened my mother.

540
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Speaker 2: Opie's mother said that you should get your daughter a

541
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Speaker 2: perm so her hair would be more manageable. So he

542
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Speaker 2: took her to a salon and got it permed. My

543
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Speaker 2: wife got home and when she saw our daughter, she

544
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Speaker 2: was livid. She screamed at me and then at my

545
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Speaker 2: mother for even suggesting that we get the perm. But

546
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Speaker 2: I think she's overreacting because it's just hair.

547
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Speaker 1: Oh my god.

548
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Speaker 3: Then she brought up our wedding.

549
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Speaker 2: My mother had tried to get my wife to straighten

550
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Speaker 2: her hair for the wedding, but my wife refused because

551
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Speaker 2: she wanted her natural hair on her wedding day so

552
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Speaker 2: that she could be as natural as possible. So really quick,

553
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Speaker 2: I'm thinking that the mom may have some weird vibes.

554
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Speaker 2: I think they're both weird.

555
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Speaker 3: Vibes from the mom.

556
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Speaker 1: Racist.

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Speaker 2: You think that the husband married to the African American

558
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Speaker 2: woman is racist? I, well, yeah, I.

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Speaker 1: Think it's not. Yes, what do you mean? I think

560
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Speaker 1: that you can still have I mean, regardless of whether

561
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Speaker 1: you're dating or married to like a black person. I

562
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Speaker 1: think you can still have a lot of like subconscious racism,

563
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Speaker 1: even if it's not like I would never you know,

564
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Speaker 1: like I hate black people, even if it's not.

565
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Speaker 3: That you heard it your first, volks.

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Speaker 2: No, with that you heard it here first, folks.

567
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Speaker 1: I think that if even if it's not as overt

568
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Speaker 1: as that, there is still a lot of subconscious racism,

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Speaker 1: especially in like that, like as white people, that we

570
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Speaker 1: have to consciously educate ourselves. And he the fact that

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Speaker 1: he is not educated on his daughter's hair with when

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Speaker 1: hair for black women especially is like a huge thing

573
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Speaker 1: to the point where he's calling your hair nappy, which

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Speaker 1: you should never say, like that is don't know about

575
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Speaker 1: that people, That is a thing that you should not say.

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Speaker 1: It's like it's got a lot I mean, I can't

577
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Speaker 1: speak for black people. Think he's a white I think

578
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Speaker 1: there is because he.

579
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Speaker 2: Is a white instead of I think I'm feeling this

580
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Speaker 2: is more of like an ignorance situation instead of.

581
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Speaker 1: But the fact that he but racism is tied to ignorance.

582
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Speaker 1: I think that you can still be racist even if

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Speaker 1: it's from ignorance, and it is on you, especially as

584
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Speaker 1: a parent to a black child and married to a

585
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Speaker 1: black woman, to educate yourself. It should not be on

586
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Speaker 1: his wife or his daughter.

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Speaker 2: When she grows d Yeah, you should know a difference. Yeah,

588
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Speaker 2: you for sure should.

589
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Speaker 4: Know the day and he shouldn't just he should do

590
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Speaker 4: it again with consent and asking and like, hey, how

591
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Speaker 4: does this work? Like coming from a biracial family, my

592
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Speaker 4: dad is so just out of left field when it

593
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Speaker 4: comes to with my mom, who's from the Philippines, just

594
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Speaker 4: doesn't understand anything of like culture and he tries to,

595
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Speaker 4: but he doesn't do it in the best of ways.

596
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Speaker 4: And it's just like for me who was brought up

597
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Speaker 4: in that, it's just like, uh, you've been together and

598
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Speaker 4: just respect and ask and communicate. It's not hard to

599
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Speaker 4: ask how things work. It's not embarrassing, and you're together

600
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Speaker 4: with this person for a reason.

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Speaker 1: Just do it. No, I think, Yeah, part of a

602
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Speaker 1: relationship is being curious, even if it's not like, even

603
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Speaker 1: if there's not a cultural difference, I think there's You

604
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Speaker 1: should always be curious about your partner and your family's

605
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Speaker 1: like upbringing.

606
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you should know if something is going to destroy

607
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Speaker 2: your daughter's.

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Speaker 5: Hair, like he I think it's absolutely different than being

609
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Speaker 5: like I don't know how to hair. That's totally different

610
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Speaker 5: being like I don't know that if I take my

611
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Speaker 5: daughter to the salon, it's gonna ruin her hair and

612
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Speaker 5: then it's gonna have to grow back out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Rader says it's a microaggrussion. It's yeah, pretty idea.

614
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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, just something every day.

615
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Speaker 4: It's just and especially going to that far, like you know,

616
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Speaker 4: like okay, let's try, honey, let's see if this works,

617
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Speaker 4: and just like no, this is not great.

618
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Speaker 3: You should have just stopped.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, or like oh, let me call your mom then,

620
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Speaker 4: rather like let's let's just keep going.

621
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Speaker 3: Let's keep going.

622
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Speaker 2: And I think I think Op's got a kind of

623
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Speaker 2: extra white mother influencing. Okay, let's die, let's deal. Dive

624
00:31:53,240 --> 00:32:01,560
Speaker 2: back in, dive back, So we stopped at Opie's mom

625
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Speaker 2: tried to get her wife to straighten her hair on

626
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Speaker 2: her wedding day, and his wife refused because she wanted

627
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Speaker 2: her natural hair on her wedding day.

628
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Speaker 3: Yeah, which is great.

629
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Speaker 2: H My mother often comments on my wife's and daughter's hair,

630
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Speaker 2: and I agree with my mother, Oh no, why do

631
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:24,720
Speaker 2: you gotta call it like that? But now my wife's

632
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 2: telling me that perms chemically burn and damaged the hair

633
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Speaker 2: to change the texture, and that I damaged our daughter's hair.

634
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 2: Now she's thinking of getting our daughter's hair cut so

635
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Speaker 2: our hair can heal from the damages. But I still

636
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 2: think she's overreacting. Well, and I think, well, before I

637
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 2: jump into that, let's get a little further here. Besides,

638
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Speaker 2: I don't want my daughter's hair to be cut. She

639
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 2: looks so cute now, because I am I the a

640
00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 2: hole for straightening my daughter's hair without my wife's permission,

641
00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 2: even though Gracie is my daughter too. So yeah, one

642
00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:01,520
Speaker 2: thing I think, Yeah, what is a daughter's opinion about her.

643
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Speaker 1: She's obviously she can still have an opinion, but she

644
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Speaker 1: is four.

645
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Speaker 2: If I think, at the end of the day, if

646
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Speaker 2: the daughter is like, I don't know, I don't like it.

647
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Speaker 2: I think, you know, I think four is a little

648
00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 2: too young to have an informed opinion about really.

649
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Speaker 1: I guess, yeah, I think it is a little bit

650
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Speaker 1: too young to have an informed opinion about something like that,

651
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Speaker 1: especially when I think it's as apparent to specifically a

652
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Speaker 1: black child. You should be trying to uplift them and

653
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Speaker 1: support them in like their hair, you know, and their hair,

654
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Speaker 1: and teach them that their features and their hair are

655
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Speaker 1: like beautiful, yeah, because they they I mean, these are

656
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Speaker 1: really important. Historically like mistreated and pushed down features that.

657
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Speaker 2: Yeah, there is a lot in the like racism history

658
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Speaker 2: of against her feet, like white features being pushed upon

659
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Speaker 2: black people because having to straighten their hair or prettier

660
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Speaker 2: or whatever, when it's like no exactly.

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Speaker 1: And so for him to say and to kind of

662
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 1: perpetuate this thing with his daughter of saying, oh, well

663
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:12,440
Speaker 1: she looks prettier. I think she looks cuter when she

664
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:14,839
Speaker 1: has her hair straight. Yes, it's not going to help

665
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 1: her self esteem. Yeah, because, like I mean, obviously black

666
00:34:18,719 --> 00:34:20,960
Speaker 1: women should have and black you know, black people in

667
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 1: general should have If they want to straighten their hair,

668
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:27,440
Speaker 1: that's fine. But I think that you should be making

669
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:29,640
Speaker 1: sure that your daughter also knows that her natural features

670
00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:30,280
Speaker 1: are beautiful.

671
00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:34,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's I think that's perfectly said right there. I

672
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:38,280
Speaker 2: think that's perfectly said. Definitely the a hole opie.

673
00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:40,239
Speaker 1: Definitely the A.

674
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:47,920
Speaker 2: Hole certified stinky sinky. Okay, there's an edit here. Actually,

675
00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 2: let's read it. Let's go ahead and get into that. Uh.

676
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:54,120
Speaker 2: I've read the comments and come to a realization about

677
00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:57,560
Speaker 2: my marriage and my wife, and now I just feel horrible.

678
00:34:58,239 --> 00:35:02,440
Speaker 2: We're learning my wife's mentioned in passing about her childhood

679
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:05,000
Speaker 2: and was always vague about it. But after overhearing a

680
00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:08,000
Speaker 2: conversation between her and my mother in law, I just

681
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 2: realized how much I truly messed up. My wife is

682
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:13,319
Speaker 2: dark skinned and tall, and she got bullied for that

683
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 2: along with her hair. She went through a predominantly white

684
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 2: school in Bogalusa and that made her hate herself and

685
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:25,799
Speaker 2: her looks for a while. My uh my god, my

686
00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:28,920
Speaker 2: wording was horrible too. My wife is beautiful and so

687
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:31,759
Speaker 2: is my daughter, and their hair isn't a problem. I'm

688
00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 2: the problem, and so is my mother.

689
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:39,880
Speaker 1: Okay, good that he's realizing. Mm hmm, I honestly think it.

690
00:35:40,080 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 1: You know, there is a chance that she might it

691
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 1: might be too late for him, Yeah, that she might,

692
00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 1: like the wife might decide that she doesn't want to

693
00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 1: be in this relationship. But good that he's learning.

694
00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 2: I think he's definitely make tickets steps in your direction.

695
00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:55,240
Speaker 3: I think.

696
00:35:57,400 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 2: After hearing my wife's conversations about me and my mother,

697
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,120
Speaker 2: I realized that my mother's a bully and I'm just

698
00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 2: a drone slash follower. Yes, yo shout out to like

699
00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:13,759
Speaker 2: having autonomy. Yeah, you know, finally realizing thinking for ourselves.

700
00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:14,239
Speaker 3: That's great.

701
00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:16,880
Speaker 2: My mother constantly picked on my wife, and I just

702
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:20,000
Speaker 2: stood by and blindly agreed because she's my mom. But

703
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:22,040
Speaker 2: that woman who I married is my wife, and I

704
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 2: should have protected her from my own ignorance and my

705
00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:26,640
Speaker 2: mother's ignorance.

706
00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:29,319
Speaker 1: What Wow, what a.

707
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:32,320
Speaker 3: One eighty one age. This guy came out of a

708
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:36,279
Speaker 3: left field. This guy must have heard everything that you said. I,

709
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:37,160
Speaker 3: guys saw.

710
00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:38,880
Speaker 1: Jesus.

711
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:43,359
Speaker 2: I took something she took pride in and belittled it.

712
00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:46,560
Speaker 2: I was too lazy to learn and took my mother's advice. Well,

713
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:49,280
Speaker 2: my mother said so many cool things that I didn't

714
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 2: think twice until reading these comments. She'd always make sure

715
00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:55,319
Speaker 2: my daughter didn't play outside when she'd go over to

716
00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 2: her house because she didn't want her to be darker.

717
00:36:58,080 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 3: Like her mother.

718
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 2: Ah yo oh, and you didn't.

719
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:05,120
Speaker 1: Like you didn't put the dots together.

720
00:37:05,280 --> 00:37:06,319
Speaker 3: We had the blinders on.

721
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 2: Man, How do you not know your mom's just like

722
00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:09,920
Speaker 2: made out of racism?

723
00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:13,160
Speaker 3: Wow? What of what? Just a weir?

724
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:17,040
Speaker 1: Truly, truly, I am so happy that he is realizing.

725
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 1: But I I do think that if the wife decided

726
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:22,760
Speaker 1: to divorce him, she would be in the right.

727
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 2: You know, And I I gotta like I divorce the

728
00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:31,319
Speaker 2: stepmom or divorce the mom. Yeah, you keep the mom

729
00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:32,040
Speaker 2: out of the situation.

730
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:34,919
Speaker 1: Absolutely. I think he has to contact with his mom.

731
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:38,000
Speaker 2: It's the kid, the children, think of the children. And

732
00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:40,279
Speaker 2: maybe I'm toxic. Maybe I'm the toxic guy who's like,

733
00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:44,480
Speaker 2: we're staying together for the kids. No, I I always whenever.

734
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 3: There's a kid involved, that's we're always always where my

735
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:46,719
Speaker 3: head goes.

736
00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think that if he wants, like, he

737
00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 1: can say this, but he needs to actionably. I mean,

738
00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:56,640
Speaker 1: even if they do divorce for his child, needs to

739
00:37:56,719 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 1: actually actually educate, he needs to take some he needs

740
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:01,279
Speaker 1: to go to and cut his mom off because his

741
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:02,760
Speaker 1: mom is super nes.

742
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:04,320
Speaker 3: To be completely uninvolved with the family.

743
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 2: And it is kind of shocking to me that he's

744
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 2: been married and they have a kid of four years.

745
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:12,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, and this is coming and he's just realized.

746
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:16,280
Speaker 2: Hero self awareness or like ridiculous, Yeah, that's ridiculous.

747
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:18,239
Speaker 4: But hey, he was he was grown in up. I

748
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:20,359
Speaker 4: mean grown up. He grew grew up in that. Yeah,

749
00:38:20,400 --> 00:38:22,839
Speaker 4: he didn't know until it like it hit him like

750
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 4: a truck.

751
00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:25,640
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah. Can you imagine he's like.

752
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:32,480
Speaker 1: Oh, the problem.

753
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 2: I grew up in the Midwest and like until I

754
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 2: left my town. There was a I didn't really realize

755
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:43,319
Speaker 2: a lot of things about the real world, and it

756
00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 2: was like, oh wow, which is I mean a lot

757
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 2: of stuff is backwards where I'm from.

758
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:51,320
Speaker 1: Which on learning things that you've been taught is should

759
00:38:51,520 --> 00:38:54,560
Speaker 1: like we should be given that grace. But as long

760
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:57,720
Speaker 1: as you actually do that and educate yourself.

761
00:38:57,760 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 3: And I think that's what he's he's trying to do, yeah,

762
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:02,520
Speaker 3: which I think is great. I didn't I didn't know.

763
00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 3: I didn't. That's not an excuse to not know, but

764
00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 3: he just didn't. You didn't know.

765
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:10,359
Speaker 4: And I don't think divorce because he looks like he's

766
00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:12,480
Speaker 4: trying to reverse it.

767
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:13,640
Speaker 3: I'm trying to learn.

768
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:16,319
Speaker 1: I'm more so meant like I would understand. Oh that

769
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:18,880
Speaker 1: makes sense, but yeah, but I mean he is trying,

770
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 1: so I also understand this should be divorced the mom.

771
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:21,759
Speaker 3: Did we put a poll?

772
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:24,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, divorce or not. I think it could go either way,

773
00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 1: divorce or not. But I'd love to hear more of

774
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:26,480
Speaker 1: the story as that goes.

775
00:39:26,480 --> 00:39:28,720
Speaker 2: Oh yes, yes, and I'll get the pole to die

776
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 2: un momentum.

777
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:34,880
Speaker 3: So yes, Op was completely blind to his mother's racism.

778
00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 3: H I'm cutting my mother off. Good dude, what a pro.

779
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:42,000
Speaker 1: Anyway, speaking of the red steps, and.

780
00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 2: I'm going to apologize to my wife and daughter and

781
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 2: start watching hair tutorials again. I'm also going to sign

782
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:50,080
Speaker 2: up for a hair braiding class when the pandemic has

783
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:53,959
Speaker 2: slowed down once again. God, I'm a horrible husband and father.

784
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 2: When my wife is willing to talk, I won't force her.

785
00:39:57,440 --> 00:39:59,719
Speaker 2: I'll apologize, and if she wants to leave me over this,

786
00:39:59,800 --> 00:40:02,760
Speaker 2: it'll hurt like hell, but I'll understand. I've just pushed

787
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 2: her to the sidelines for so long and couldn't even

788
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 2: see it.

789
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:07,840
Speaker 3: Wow. Yeah, that's a lot of time to really have

790
00:40:07,960 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 3: been doing that.

791
00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:11,959
Speaker 2: I am the a hole, the biggest, stinkiest a hole,

792
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:15,839
Speaker 2: just a flabby, stinky pair of booty cheeks.

793
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 3: And we do have another edit.

794
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:21,400
Speaker 1: I am I am impressed that he is learning, how

795
00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:22,960
Speaker 1: much I am happy.

796
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 3: We still have plenty to go here Mingming says.

797
00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:28,480
Speaker 1: I don't believe op, which could be true.

798
00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 3: Well let's go.

799
00:40:29,120 --> 00:40:31,799
Speaker 2: We got a couple more edits's for him to prove

800
00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:37,120
Speaker 2: his prove himself. Edit number dose. Uh, I just got

801
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:40,000
Speaker 2: off the phone with my mother. My wife listened in

802
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 2: on the phone call. I didn't realize she was in

803
00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:43,759
Speaker 2: the living room with me until she put her hand

804
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:45,319
Speaker 2: on my shoulder during the call God.

805
00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:51,880
Speaker 3: That would have been scary. My mother is well livid.

806
00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:54,919
Speaker 2: She freaked out on me and threatened to call CPS

807
00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 2: when I told her I didn't want her coming around

808
00:40:57,120 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 2: my wife and daughter and refused to even try to

809
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:04,000
Speaker 2: understan dan what we did wrong. Then I mentioned the

810
00:41:04,080 --> 00:41:06,920
Speaker 2: damage that the perm could cause to my daughter. I

811
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 2: read a small article by a black owned hair company

812
00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:12,600
Speaker 2: about childhood perm horror stories along with the history behind perms,

813
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:16,160
Speaker 2: and I'm just disgusted with myself and my mother. And

814
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:18,800
Speaker 2: my mother said my wife was being a drama queen.

815
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:20,600
Speaker 1: That's why you're being cut off.

816
00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:25,719
Speaker 2: Yes, sliced and diced. When I told her my daughter

817
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:29,719
Speaker 2: might need a haircut, behind this, behind this, she flipped

818
00:41:29,719 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 2: out and said I won't let my granddaughter.

819
00:41:32,760 --> 00:41:37,960
Speaker 3: Look like a lesbian. And I was mortified.

820
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 1: Oh, well, you know, racism and homophobia.

821
00:41:41,760 --> 00:41:47,360
Speaker 3: They go hand, and yeah they're best friends. Wow, it

822
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:53,800
Speaker 3: goes hand in hand with anything. Wow o sweet. Uh.

823
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:56,239
Speaker 2: She said she's gonna take my daughter for me and

824
00:41:56,280 --> 00:41:58,320
Speaker 2: my wife and raise her the way God intended.

825
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:01,920
Speaker 3: Oh no, what did this? She's giving the vibe of.

826
00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:06,520
Speaker 2: Like when when like the Christian like ministries like would

827
00:42:07,160 --> 00:42:11,000
Speaker 2: literally kidnap like native children, Yeah, and then raise them

828
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 2: like the away crossed intended Well.

829
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then and and take away all kid from

830
00:42:17,560 --> 00:42:18,200
Speaker 1: their families.

831
00:42:19,960 --> 00:42:22,319
Speaker 3: My goodness, well, thank god she's being cut off man.

832
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:24,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, out of there.

833
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 2: Ghost Blue Nightmares says mother needs to be thrown off

834
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:32,520
Speaker 2: of the planet. I agree, yep. So all of this

835
00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 2: caused a screaming match. My wife put her hand on

836
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:37,279
Speaker 2: my shoulder in the midst of all of it, and

837
00:42:37,360 --> 00:42:41,239
Speaker 2: took and took the phone from home and told my

838
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:43,759
Speaker 2: mother if she comes to our house again.

839
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,839
Speaker 3: The police will be called. And then she hung up,

840
00:42:47,520 --> 00:42:48,120
Speaker 3: which would.

841
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:50,360
Speaker 2: Be really satisfying if you had a Motorola razor flippone.

842
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:53,200
Speaker 2: I put our baby to bed, and then we talked.

843
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:56,320
Speaker 2: My daughter and wife are beautiful, and I don't understand

844
00:42:56,360 --> 00:42:59,400
Speaker 2: how for the life of me, I thought those horrible things.

845
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:03,880
Speaker 1: Maybe it really had a come to Jesus moment, except

846
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:06,320
Speaker 1: he left his mom's.

847
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:08,840
Speaker 3: Come to Jesus moment. Who guess what Jesus was also black?

848
00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:11,480
Speaker 1: Yes, well it's brown, but yeah.

849
00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:12,640
Speaker 3: Black and brown.

850
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:17,920
Speaker 2: Maybe it was like that SNL sketch, diet, racism, hearing

851
00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:20,040
Speaker 2: those things from your parent and just blindly listening no

852
00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:23,319
Speaker 2: matter how horrible it sounds. My wife is still mad

853
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 2: at me, rightfully so. But she told me she isn't

854
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:28,480
Speaker 2: leaving me over this. She said I have a lot

855
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:30,719
Speaker 2: to learn and that if I want this relationship to last,

856
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:32,600
Speaker 2: I need to open my eyes and realize that the

857
00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 2: world I live in is different from the one she

858
00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 2: lives in, and different from the world our daughter will

859
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:40,879
Speaker 2: live in. I'm horrified at myself and horrified at my mother.

860
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 2: My father called a few moments ago, but I ignored

861
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:46,239
Speaker 2: the call. I'll talk to him in the morning about this.

862
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 2: Thank you all for taking some talking, some sense into me,

863
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 2: and I thank my wife for staying with me even

864
00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:55,319
Speaker 2: though she doesn't have to. Tomorrow, we are asking our

865
00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:58,759
Speaker 2: baby girl if she wants a haircut, knowing her she'll

866
00:43:58,800 --> 00:44:00,400
Speaker 2: want to get one like her uncle.

867
00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:05,040
Speaker 1: Ah, this is okay, positives.

868
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:08,719
Speaker 2: Uncle has cool designs shaved into the side of his head,

869
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:11,200
Speaker 2: and she wants that she can have that. She's my

870
00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:13,400
Speaker 2: world and I refuse to ever be this ignorant and

871
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:14,640
Speaker 2: harmful to her again.

872
00:44:14,680 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 3: And we do have one more edit after.

873
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:18,879
Speaker 1: This what a turnaround.

874
00:44:19,040 --> 00:44:21,320
Speaker 2: Yep, it seems like he has really done a complete

875
00:44:21,320 --> 00:44:24,239
Speaker 2: one eighty on the whole diet racism, which, honestly, from

876
00:44:24,280 --> 00:44:26,360
Speaker 2: the sound of it was diet.

877
00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:33,280
Speaker 1: Just sounded like full bodied, full frontal, yeah, full body yeah.

878
00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:34,879
Speaker 3: Okay. Final edit.

879
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:37,719
Speaker 2: My wife and I arranged for our daughter to spend

880
00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:39,920
Speaker 2: the night at my mother in law's house and couple's

881
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Speaker 2: therapy will be in the near future. The comment sections

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Speaker 2: have certainly given me many perspectives on how horrible my

883
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Speaker 2: words and actions are. I won't be doing any more

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Speaker 2: replies or edits because this is my throwaway account. I

885
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:53,439
Speaker 2: think that's the right term for this. My mother has

886
00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 2: called the house multiple times from my sister's phone. My

887
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:59,320
Speaker 2: sister is twenty five and lives for drama. Oh god,

888
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,239
Speaker 2: now the whole family is on my mother's side, is

889
00:45:03,320 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 2: blowing up my phone with many mixed opinions, most of

890
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:08,919
Speaker 2: which are horrible.

891
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Speaker 1: Virtually, I feel like you do also have to cut

892
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Speaker 1: them off if they are backing up your mother's kind.

893
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:16,759
Speaker 3: Of show them the light.

894
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Speaker 1: I think, yeah, I think you can say that what

895
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Speaker 1: she said, and if you agree with this, we can't

896
00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:22,919
Speaker 1: talk to you because I'm not gonna have my daughter.

897
00:45:23,200 --> 00:45:25,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not gonna. Yeah, you can't risk like, yeah,

898
00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:27,600
Speaker 2: you can't risk the well.

899
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Speaker 3: Being of the daughter.

900
00:45:28,440 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 1: For the children.

901
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:35,360
Speaker 3: For the children, now, for the children. Okay, it's funny.

902
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:38,320
Speaker 2: The only family member whose opinion reflects this comment section's

903
00:45:38,320 --> 00:45:41,080
Speaker 2: common consensus is the one who was disowned a few

904
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Speaker 2: months ago. Okay, yeah, get the hell out of this family, dude. Well,

905
00:45:44,520 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 2: actually that's not funny. Just how messed up my family is.

906
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Speaker 2: Thank you all for these replies, no matter how harsh

907
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:51,640
Speaker 2: or mean they might have seemed. I needed this, you

908
00:45:51,760 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 2: really did. And what you need to do is join

909
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 2: us live on YouTube every weekday, three pm Pacific, state

910
00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:03,920
Speaker 2: of your time. Just tap our profile. So and that

911
00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:07,040
Speaker 2: is the end of that's the end. Wow, what a

912
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:09,200
Speaker 2: crazy switch.

913
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Speaker 4: Yeah, first look at the votes. Yes, good job on

914
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Speaker 4: the voting. Guys, appreciate you.

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Speaker 1: So we've got eighty six percent of you say and

916
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Speaker 1: don't divorce, which you know really means something coming from

917
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Speaker 1: you guys.

918
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you guys are usually like all about chance.

919
00:46:26,000 --> 00:46:29,320
Speaker 3: You guys are like divorce, divorce, divorce.

920
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Speaker 1: Which I think means they shouldn't get a divorce. And yeah,

921
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Speaker 1: he's he's working on himself, and that's.

922
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Speaker 3: We're stronger together. Yeah, we're stronger together.

923
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Speaker 1: Honestly, as long as he's not putting the educational burden

924
00:46:43,600 --> 00:46:47,239
Speaker 1: on his wife, that is, like, I think that's how

925
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Speaker 1: you move forward.

926
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Speaker 2: What do you mean like not making his wife be

927
00:46:50,040 --> 00:46:51,600
Speaker 2: the one that teaches him everything exactly.

928
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Speaker 3: Yeah, you gotta do your own independence.

929
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Speaker 1: Of your own work. There's a lot of books out

930
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:59,840
Speaker 1: there for you to read, a lot of books.

931
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Speaker 3: Part of me feels like that might be what Opie's

932
00:47:01,960 --> 00:47:05,879
Speaker 3: mom sounded like. I just wound her to go down

933
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Speaker 3: to the salon, get her hair straight inside.

934
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Speaker 2: She can look pretty improper the way God intendencies.

935
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, all right,