WEBVTT - Getting Honest | Golden Hour 0:00:07.400 --> 0:00:11.399 Welcome back everyone to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks 0:00:11.480 --> 0:00:13.840 so much for joining Kathy and I today. We're so 0:00:14.000 --> 0:00:14.840 thrilled to be here. 0:00:16.079 --> 0:00:17.360 Hey, Susan, how are you doing? 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:17.840 Good? 0:00:18.480 --> 0:00:18.680 Cat? 0:00:19.120 --> 0:00:22.439 I gotta say I'm struggling again. Everyone who knows me 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:25.919 knows I've had two abouts of bronchitis. Now I'm fighting 0:00:25.960 --> 0:00:28.920 what we lovingly refer to an austin as cedar fever. 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:31.960 I cannot cut a brake. I just I think I 0:00:32.040 --> 0:00:33.159 need to move to Tahiti. 0:00:33.200 --> 0:00:33.720 You want to go? 0:00:34.640 --> 0:00:38.560 That's winter, Cat, Okay, but we are going pretty soon. 0:00:38.760 --> 0:00:41.279 In a few weeks, we're gonna go play golf in Carmel. 0:00:42.120 --> 0:00:45.760 I gotta tell you. I was talking with Guy from 0:00:45.840 --> 0:00:49.200 Jones season last night. We've decided I'm his big sister. 0:00:49.479 --> 0:00:52.760 You know, he calls me for advice. He's telling me 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:56.240 he's like a girl, Susan. He's asking me what I'm wearing. 0:00:56.960 --> 0:00:59.360 Oh wait, wait, you know he's been taking lessons. Got 0:00:59.480 --> 0:01:03.280 new that's guy. 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:06.039 Guy said to me, well, you know what are you wearing? 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:06.920 I said, I don't. 0:01:06.920 --> 0:01:08.800 I'm figured out. You know, I've got you know, eighteen 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:12.000 million golf up. He goes, let me tell you and 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:14.880 he went through this whole thing. Guy, if you're listening, 0:01:14.959 --> 0:01:17.360 I warned you I was gonna tell it. He was 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:22.400 talking about how his dad, his favorite player of golf 0:01:22.400 --> 0:01:25.280 player was Gary Player, who is you know, if he's 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:26.800 even alive, you know, way old guy. 0:01:27.040 --> 0:01:30.920 But Gary players signature thing. He always dressed in black. 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:35.679 So in honor of Gary Player, Guy went out and 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:37.679 bought an entire no way, you need to hear this 0:01:38.200 --> 0:01:41.399 entire new black outfit. He's telling me I got new 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:43.960 black shoes and black pants and black shirt. And I'm thinking, 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:46.280 and I said, guy, you're a girl. This is what 0:01:46.360 --> 0:01:49.280 girls talk about. And he goes and I bought new clubs. 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:51.640 So Kathy, let me ask you something. Did you get 0:01:51.640 --> 0:01:56.440 a new outfort for Karmel? No? 0:01:56.440 --> 0:01:58.680 No, that's that's why I was laughing. I said, Guy, 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:01.800 you gotta be kidding me. And then and then we're 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:04.920 talking about golf handicaps, because remember on one of our 0:02:04.920 --> 0:02:08.160 recent episodes, we had Keith and he and he was 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:08.840 saying he's. 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:10.480 Got like a seven or ten. I don't know, I 0:02:10.520 --> 0:02:12.919 think good. I personally cannot count that love. 0:02:13.280 --> 0:02:15.320 But he was talking about his hand and so I 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:17.720 told Guy that, and Guy starts panicking. 0:02:17.800 --> 0:02:20.560 I said, guy, it doesn't matter. Have a couple of drinks. 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:22.640 It'll all be find He goes, I don't drink, I said, 0:02:22.800 --> 0:02:24.000 perfect time to start. 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:26.119 It's all about playing the game. 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:28.480 It doesn't matter what. 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:32.079 Anyway, guy, if you're listening, can't wait to see. 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:34.320 You again't wait to play against you, guys. 0:02:34.440 --> 0:02:36.640 Susan and I will. I told him I was hooking 0:02:36.760 --> 0:02:40.919 up playing with Keith because I needed that low handicapped 0:02:40.919 --> 0:02:41.679 offset vine. 0:02:41.840 --> 0:02:42.680 He was dying. 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:45.320 Anyway, today it will be fun. 0:02:45.360 --> 0:02:46.799 It will be It's gonna be great fun. 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:50.560 But today while I'm sniffling, we're going to answer some 0:02:50.600 --> 0:02:52.079 more of your fan questions. 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:54.200 And guys, you know the drill. 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:56.560 But if you don't one more time, make sure you're 0:02:56.600 --> 0:03:02.960 submitting them to Bachelor Nation slash Golden Hour. Just write 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:06.160 us in your comments, your thoughts. Susan and I not 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:09.560 only like to answer the bond air seriously, don't we 0:03:09.600 --> 0:03:10.799 talk about them off here? 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:14.520 And you remember then when someone else asked some kind 0:03:14.520 --> 0:03:17.520 of a question and you refer back it's crazy. But 0:03:17.560 --> 0:03:21.640 please send us everything you're questioned, your updates, even something 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:24.520 that we talked about and you did already and you 0:03:24.600 --> 0:03:27.280 finished it. Whether you used our advice or not, let 0:03:27.360 --> 0:03:30.640 us know and remember you can also dm us on 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:34.680 Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour. Okay, time to get into 0:03:34.720 --> 0:03:37.960 the episode. Let's start Kathy with the question. 0:03:37.640 --> 0:03:42.240 Of all right, Susan, is it here we go? It's 0:03:42.280 --> 0:03:44.640 not moral quandary. I just want an answer. 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:45.400 Thank you lord. 0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:50.200 Is it healthy to be any amount of jealous in 0:03:50.280 --> 0:03:53.360 a relationship? And oh, I'm so glad you're answering this first. 0:03:53.560 --> 0:03:58.760 Oh gosh, so I think I know in my brain 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:03.920 that you shouldn't be list but a little bit. 0:04:04.800 --> 0:04:06.680 Okay, you know where I'm going. Tell me what that 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:08.360 means to find jealous? 0:04:08.400 --> 0:04:10.920 To me, it would mean like you really care, like 0:04:11.000 --> 0:04:14.760 you know you care. I hate the word jealous, like 0:04:14.880 --> 0:04:15.720 non trusting. 0:04:15.800 --> 0:04:18.880 Is that what you mean by jealous I'm just to me, 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:24.919 jealousy means it's symptomatic in my mind of not trust. 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:26.160 Yes, for me, it is. 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:29.240 And it's you know, if a guy is asking me, well, 0:04:29.480 --> 0:04:32.320 who are you on the phone with? Or why can't 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:35.920 I come over tonight? Or you know, what are you doing? 0:04:36.000 --> 0:04:38.960 Why can't you take my phone call? That's jealousy and 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:41.760 that means a lack of trust. So yeah, I don't 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:42.080 like it. 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:45.360 Yeah, but I know to answer the question, though it 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:46.400 is not healthy. 0:04:46.880 --> 0:04:49.960 I agree, it's going to be a great day. We're 0:04:50.000 --> 0:04:53.160 agreen right off the bat. Yeah, we're agreed. 0:04:53.440 --> 0:04:57.160 We agreed, said green. I'm like, what's green? 0:04:57.600 --> 0:05:00.280 Oh, that's just my voice because I can't talk all 0:05:00.320 --> 0:05:03.960 the exceed or fever my thrower. But no, I think 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:07.480 I think that you're right, and I don't. I don't 0:05:07.520 --> 0:05:09.760 like jealousy. I think it's not a good look on 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:10.920 a man or a wife. 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:14.600 I don't even like the word jealous Sometimes you can 0:05:14.680 --> 0:05:18.120 be envious of someone or something, you know what I mean, Like. 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:20.279 But that's you know what, that's fun. You say that. 0:05:20.640 --> 0:05:24.000 People confuse the meaning of the not to be an 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:27.000 English teacher your hair. But jealousy, as you just pointed out, 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:31.440 is not envy. I don't think either one are particularly attractive. 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:35.120 But all right, all right, so we're gonna move on. 0:05:35.320 --> 0:05:35.839 We are. 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:39.039 We've settled that question of the day. We're gonna get 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:43.279 going with our fan questions. So let's get into them. 0:05:43.640 --> 0:05:45.120 And I'm gonna go ahead and read the first one 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:48.400 and we'll see it's from anonymous, And just to remind everyone, 0:05:48.880 --> 0:05:52.400 if you're uncomfortable using your name, please write us anyway. 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:55.479 You can just say an listen, we will still answer 0:05:55.560 --> 0:05:59.920 your question. Okay, here we go. Kathy and Susan help 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:04.000 me please. I'm freaking out right now. My boyfriend and 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:06.440 I have been together for six months and we just 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:10.320 found out our parents went on a first date. They 0:06:10.400 --> 0:06:13.440 sat us down and told us the other night. They're 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:16.640 saying that after they met, due to us dating quote, 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:20.960 one thing led to another and they just started connecting. 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:24.039 I'm starting to think it's more than just one date, 0:06:24.320 --> 0:06:27.200 but according to them, it was just the one. 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:32.080 Is this totally weird and ancestual? Or should we support them? 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:36.120 I really really like my boyfriend, but this is just 0:06:36.440 --> 0:06:39.760 so strange. He and I haven't talked about it yet 0:06:39.960 --> 0:06:42.720 because we're taking space to think on things. 0:06:43.080 --> 0:06:45.279 Oh so goodness, I think. 0:06:45.120 --> 0:06:49.719 This is awesome. So do why think you met? You 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:53.880 let two people meet each other organically, which is everything 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:58.440 we always do. Exactly what's wrong with it? Stop freaking 0:06:58.520 --> 0:06:59.880 out and let. 0:06:59.720 --> 0:07:06.320 Me I want to say to everyone's it's only ancestual, anonymous. 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:10.480 If your mother is sleeping with your brother or you, 0:07:11.080 --> 0:07:12.480 that is what incest is. 0:07:12.840 --> 0:07:17.200 If she is dating your boyfriend's father. That's called a date. 0:07:17.520 --> 0:07:20.120 How fun would that be when they're getting together? Though 0:07:20.160 --> 0:07:22.480 you wouldn't have to do two different visits, you can 0:07:22.560 --> 0:07:24.280 all do it at once. I love this. 0:07:25.040 --> 0:07:26.120 It is not incestual. 0:07:26.640 --> 0:07:29.360 You may feel it's weird, but you know what, Anonymous, 0:07:29.640 --> 0:07:32.680 I would encourage you to think about. I don't know 0:07:32.680 --> 0:07:34.720 if it's your mom or your dad, and whether it's 0:07:34.760 --> 0:07:37.120 his mom and dad, or whether the mom's dating the 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:38.720 mom and the dad dating the dad. 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:39.280 I don't care. 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:45.520 Whatever it is. Try to celebrate love, try to celebrate dating. 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:48.200 Try to celebrate the fact that we're all looking for 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:51.800 someone to care about and love. And if this is, 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:55.360 as Susan said, how they've organically met, try to try 0:07:55.360 --> 0:07:57.560 to accept it. It may feel a little weird at first, 0:07:57.640 --> 0:07:59.480 but you know, focus. 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:02.680 On your boyfriend friend and you never mind about them. 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:06.200 Let them do them, you know. I think it's wonderful. 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:08.520 But thank you so much for let us that's what 0:08:08.520 --> 0:08:08.880 it was. 0:08:09.000 --> 0:08:10.920 I love that. I know we've never had a question 0:08:10.960 --> 0:08:11.800 like that, Anonymous. 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:14.840 Let us know what happens, and as I always plug 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:17.400 for Susan, if they decide to get married. 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:20.080 Susan is a wedding officiant. So you give her a 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:23.200 call or you or you honor? 0:08:23.400 --> 0:08:26.440 All right, thanks again for writing any good luck and 0:08:26.600 --> 0:08:36.640 just try to accept. Like Kathy said, all right. Question 0:08:36.760 --> 0:08:40.559 number two is from Erin. Hey, ladies, I need your 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:44.480 help because I'm concerned I'm being harsh. The other day, 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:47.520 my mom told me she wants my kids to call 0:08:47.559 --> 0:08:52.920 her Mama as her grandma name. That's what I want 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:57.760 them to call me as I'm their actual mom. She 0:08:57.960 --> 0:09:00.840 was asking me if it was okay. She told me 0:09:01.480 --> 0:09:04.760 I didn't know how to react. Oh god, so I 0:09:04.960 --> 0:09:09.040 sort of was speechless. She seemed upset when I didn't 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:13.160 immediately say yes with excitement. But she's also been talking 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:16.080 to my kids four years old and one year old 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:20.839 and referring to herself as mama, Mama loves you and 0:09:20.880 --> 0:09:23.920 so on. What do I do about this? Is this weird? 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:25.840 Or am I being too sensitive? 0:09:26.000 --> 0:09:27.640 Can I take the first crack at this show? 0:09:27.679 --> 0:09:28.440 Sure you can? 0:09:30.800 --> 0:09:34.040 She is a synonymously look back, it's weird. It's Aaron. 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:37.720 Let me say to you, Erin, these are your children 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:41.800 When I have two grandchildren and Susan has several. I 0:09:41.800 --> 0:09:44.960 don't know about you, Susan but when I had, when 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:48.920 my oldest son had, my only son who has a child, 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:51.640 asked me what my grandmother name? What I wanted to 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:54.880 be called. I said I wanted to be called Kiki. 0:09:55.360 --> 0:09:57.320 And they looked at me and they said Kiki. That 0:09:57.600 --> 0:10:00.920 was my nickname as a child. And they said, you 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:03.040 don't want to be grandma. I said no, and I 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:05.640 don't want to be granny. And I said, if it's 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:09.040 okay with you, I'd like to be Kiki. And that's 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:12.400 how my kids and actually a guy I dated for 0:10:12.440 --> 0:10:12.960 ten minutes. 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:14.640 So how do you feel about mama? 0:10:15.080 --> 0:10:19.520 I think it is up to Aaron to say, mom, mama, mama. 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:23.079 You know what I would say, mama. This mama isn't 0:10:23.120 --> 0:10:27.280 comfortable with calling you mama. Kids are confused easily. We're 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:30.960 not going there. Literally, Aaron just said, or no, I don't. 0:10:31.080 --> 0:10:31.640 That's a mom. 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:34.760 No, that's a mom's name. I'm their mom. You can 0:10:34.800 --> 0:10:38.040 be grandma, you can be Kiki, you can be me, me, 0:10:38.520 --> 0:10:41.440 you can be Gigi, you can be any other name 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:45.679 you want, but you cannot be mama. Do you agree 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:46.000 or not? 0:10:46.080 --> 0:10:49.160 Say? I certainly do. Mama is a mommy's name, and 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:53.320 I don't know why your mother's thinking this way, But. 0:10:53.440 --> 0:10:55.520 She said, is it weird? I think it is weird. 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:58.520 Very mother wants to be called mama. I did, so 0:10:58.760 --> 0:11:02.960 don't don't allow it, Aaron. She'll get over it. Grandma 0:11:03.120 --> 0:11:05.000 Granny will be just fine. 0:11:05.280 --> 0:11:08.400 When you're four year old and one year old start 0:11:08.480 --> 0:11:10.240 calling her whatever the name is. 0:11:10.280 --> 0:11:14.240 Can I just say, Aaron, it's weird. Yes, it is 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:17.840 very weird. Before it gets too far. 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:20.600 Okay, Aaron. Let us know though, before we move on here, Aaron, 0:11:20.720 --> 0:11:21.680 let us you need. 0:11:21.600 --> 0:11:24.080 Me to call your mother. I could do that, and 0:11:24.240 --> 0:11:24.760 trust me. 0:11:26.280 --> 0:11:28.400 When Susan tells her for the way it's going to be, 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:31.040 trust me, Aaron, that's the way it's going. All right, 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:32.160 here's our next question. 0:11:32.440 --> 0:11:34.000 You're getting all the anonymous. 0:11:34.480 --> 0:11:38.559 It's okay. We don't care because you know what the questions. 0:11:38.600 --> 0:11:41.440 And we've said this before. If you want to write 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:45.880 an anonymously, feel free because the questions you're asking don't 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:48.959 pertend to your name. Whatever you're thinking, lots of other 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:52.640 people are thinking too, So just keep writing away, keep sendence. 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:54.640 And we can help other people without even realizing. 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:55.400 That's right. 0:11:55.520 --> 0:11:59.720 Okay, anonymous rights, heyst and Kathy, I need your help. 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:02.920 My oldest is at the age where it's time to 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:03.880 have the sex talk. 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:08.200 But we have a big problem. My husband is hell 0:12:08.280 --> 0:12:12.720 bent on going the abstinence route, and I'm incredibly frustrated. 0:12:13.080 --> 0:12:15.520 I never thought he would want to do this, but 0:12:15.559 --> 0:12:18.640 he refuses to have us tell her daughter anything other 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:22.600 than don't have sex. I wanted to have this conversation 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:27.280 with just her and me, but he's insisting on being 0:12:27.320 --> 0:12:29.880 in the room. How do I go about talking to 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:34.880 him about this? Is he right? Any advice would be great? Thanks, ladies. 0:12:35.640 --> 0:12:39.760 What can I just tell you? My husband and I 0:12:39.760 --> 0:12:44.080 had the same issue. Really. Oh he was all about 0:12:44.160 --> 0:12:47.480 abstinence until you are married, and I said, it is 0:12:47.600 --> 0:12:53.440 two thousand and whatever. It was okay, absolutely not. I 0:12:53.520 --> 0:12:55.600 don't know if you're going to love this advice, Kat, 0:12:56.040 --> 0:12:59.240 but obviously he's held bent and it's her daughter. You 0:12:59.320 --> 0:13:02.160 have a private one on one with her between you 0:13:02.240 --> 0:13:04.880 and her, Okay, you see to talk? 0:13:04.960 --> 0:13:08.400 Are you okay? We're really getting into this, everybody. You're 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:13.720 gonna love this conversation. I let me let me first, 0:13:14.280 --> 0:13:16.640 let me let me finish. Wait, would you supply birth 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:17.760 control to her? 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:24.679 It depends on our age. Well, that's that's it, So okay. 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:28.160 I mean, if she's only just having the talk, you're 0:13:28.200 --> 0:13:30.160 not ready for birth control. Dear God. 0:13:30.200 --> 0:13:32.560 I so that's that is so funny you said that, Susan, 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:35.680 because the first thing I was going to say is Anonymous, 0:13:36.720 --> 0:13:41.680 I'm guessing you have waited, like many people do, until 0:13:41.920 --> 0:13:45.560 your daughter, in this case, is a teenager. If you 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:50.280 haven't had the talk about sex and what it means 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:51.920 to be a mom at a young age, or a 0:13:52.000 --> 0:13:55.320 dad the responsibility of the cause. If you haven't done 0:13:55.400 --> 0:13:59.000 that before they're a teenager, the hormones have taken over. 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:03.080 And you know, I don't think personally abstinence works. I 0:14:03.120 --> 0:14:06.320 think I love the saying abstinence makes the heart growth 0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:09.880 on her, but it's absence. I know, speaking a joke, 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:11.320 Come on, work with me here. 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:15.480 I just think he's like he's hiding behind a rock somewhere. 0:14:15.920 --> 0:14:19.360 Well, I think I would have the conversation Anonymous. I 0:14:19.400 --> 0:14:19.760 would have. 0:14:19.880 --> 0:14:23.640 My husband and I were in agreement, so you know, 0:14:23.720 --> 0:14:26.800 we we got our daughter breath control. And you know, 0:14:26.840 --> 0:14:29.760 some people are going to say, oh, you're just inviting 0:14:29.760 --> 0:14:33.000 your child to have sex. Know what I'm inviting is 0:14:33.520 --> 0:14:38.360 to disinvite, uninvite in unwanted pregnancy. I talked to my 0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:41.440 children about safe sex. You know, Pete on the pill 0:14:41.520 --> 0:14:45.800 is not is not the solutions. There's a lot of 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:50.560 communical diseases anonymous. There's a whole lot more at stake 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:55.680 than when unfortunately I was young and STDs. You know, 0:14:55.760 --> 0:14:59.600 we're few and far between, but that's not the case anymore. 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:04.320 So it's a bigger conversation with your husband than pregnancy. 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:10.840 It's about STDs, it's about it's about respect, it's about love, 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:14.160 it's about how do you want to remember your first time? 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:16.720 Those are the conversations I had with my daughter. Did 0:15:16.760 --> 0:15:17.720 you have those with yours? 0:15:18.000 --> 0:15:22.040 Most absolutely did and my sons. And it was funny 0:15:22.080 --> 0:15:25.880 because the things I'd say to my son they were like, Mom, seriously, 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:29.800 I go boys, you know you got to learn you 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:32.720 know what no means? Yes, Mom, we know no means no. 0:15:32.840 --> 0:15:36.480 Even if she's going no, and while you're doing something 0:15:36.520 --> 0:15:39.480 and you're thinking no, she's just saying no. No means no. 0:15:39.760 --> 0:15:41.720 I don't want to go to jail. You don't want 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:42.360 to read. 0:15:42.280 --> 0:15:46.000 That's what I'm saying. There's so much more explain. The 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:50.280 sex talk is not just about should my look, you know, 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:52.920 approve of my daughter having sex or my son. 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:56.040 It's so much more than that. It's that's where the 0:15:56.120 --> 0:15:58.040 respect comes in. I was trying to sort of put 0:15:58.040 --> 0:15:58.920 it under an umbrella. 0:15:59.440 --> 0:16:03.000 But boys are the worst because they're like, seriously, mom, Mom, 0:16:03.640 --> 0:16:06.040 I go listen. Daddy says, you wait till you get married. 0:16:06.120 --> 0:16:10.280 Mommy says, And then I just said one more question. Guy. 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:13.760 They go what I said, are you comfortable buying a condom? 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:16.000 They're like, oh my god, mom, they have them in 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:18.320 the men's room at the mall. I go, what, you 0:16:18.360 --> 0:16:20.880 already know this, but I'm just so late. 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:22.560 Susan's boys were eight. 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:25.920 They went from the Lego They went from the Lego 0:16:26.080 --> 0:16:27.640 store to the boys. 0:16:27.360 --> 0:16:28.200 Room the mall. 0:16:28.440 --> 0:16:33.480 I'm kidding Anonymous conversation. Also, she asked, how do I 0:16:33.560 --> 0:16:36.440 go about talking to him about this? You need to 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:38.840 go privately with your husband as your baby. It's not 0:16:39.040 --> 0:16:42.400 just about saying it's okay to have sex. It's about 0:16:42.600 --> 0:16:43.840 educating your child. 0:16:44.160 --> 0:16:49.960 I have a better idea, Susan Anonymous. Play uh, play 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:54.960 this play this podcast for him. Let him hear what 0:16:54.960 --> 0:16:59.200 we say. Because Anonymous's husband, we are two women who 0:16:59.240 --> 0:17:03.240 have raised children. We both have daughters, girls, boys. But 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:06.080 as I'm saying, we have girls, we have boys. We've 0:17:06.280 --> 0:17:10.840 had the talk, we have grandchildren. We've seen at all. 0:17:10.760 --> 0:17:14.120 And so you're you know you're you're on the new 0:17:14.240 --> 0:17:15.000 frontier hair. 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:18.640 So and it's daddy's little girl. I understand where he's 0:17:18.720 --> 0:17:23.240 coming from. I do, however, get with the times, be 0:17:23.359 --> 0:17:25.359 upfront with your kids. Don't wait too long. 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:29.600 Yeah, I love that, all right, kat let us know. 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:32.919 Wait Anonymous, just let us know how it goes. And 0:17:33.040 --> 0:17:35.919 if she does end up pregnant. Uh, I'd love her 0:17:35.920 --> 0:17:37.440 to be named after Susan. 0:17:45.920 --> 0:17:46.240 Daddy. 0:17:46.320 --> 0:17:49.720 It's game time. It's called Red Flagger Red Rose. 0:17:50.119 --> 0:17:53.199 Oh god, oh wait, hey, you're going to win this 0:17:53.280 --> 0:17:56.560 game because you know I don't get roses. 0:17:56.720 --> 0:17:58.520 Well you don't get many more than I do either, 0:17:58.640 --> 0:18:02.560 so it's a toss up. We'll go. That's all right. 0:18:02.640 --> 0:18:04.960 So today we're going to be playing Red Flag or 0:18:05.000 --> 0:18:10.639 Red Rose. We'll switch off, naming different dating app tactics 0:18:10.680 --> 0:18:13.720 men use and deciding if we give it a red 0:18:13.720 --> 0:18:16.000 flag or a red Rose, and I'll start us off. 0:18:16.080 --> 0:18:21.919 Are you ready? Their profile says not looking for a 0:18:22.080 --> 0:18:23.440 long term partner. 0:18:25.040 --> 0:18:27.960 Well, that depends on what you're looking for. If you're 0:18:27.960 --> 0:18:29.520 looking for a long term partner. 0:18:29.320 --> 0:18:31.199 Is it a red flag or a red rose? 0:18:32.560 --> 0:18:35.280 I just said it depends. I would I'm looking for 0:18:35.320 --> 0:18:37.320 a long term partner, so for me, it would be 0:18:37.320 --> 0:18:38.880 a red flag. What about you? 0:18:40.480 --> 0:18:43.080 So you know, it's funny that that question came up 0:18:43.119 --> 0:18:46.520 because when I was on the dating sites, I struggled 0:18:47.480 --> 0:18:51.160 because your choices you can't write something, but your choices 0:18:51.240 --> 0:18:56.600 were long term, serious relationship. What were the other friends? 0:18:56.720 --> 0:19:06.080 Like friends? It's so it's tough to but you have 0:19:06.160 --> 0:19:08.560 to accept what it says. He's not looking for a 0:19:08.560 --> 0:19:11.400 long term partner, So that's a red rose because he's 0:19:11.440 --> 0:19:12.080 being honest. 0:19:13.560 --> 0:19:14.880 Oh, I'm misunderstanding. 0:19:15.040 --> 0:19:18.200 A red flag to me means I'm sorry, I give 0:19:18.280 --> 0:19:21.240 him kudos for I give him a red flag red 0:19:21.320 --> 0:19:22.360 rose for being honest. 0:19:22.760 --> 0:19:26.600 For me, I wouldn't, I'd scroll on by. So maybe 0:19:26.600 --> 0:19:27.760 I'm not understanding. 0:19:29.359 --> 0:19:33.320 We're talking about dating app tactics and what. 0:19:33.480 --> 0:19:36.480 Oh, okay, I would give him. I'm sorry, I would 0:19:36.480 --> 0:19:38.159 give him a red rose because he's being honest. 0:19:38.240 --> 0:19:43.160 Okay, the their pictures are strictly mirror selfies. 0:19:43.280 --> 0:19:45.480 Wait, datty, I want to open a business and show 0:19:45.520 --> 0:19:45.920 him men. 0:19:47.040 --> 0:19:49.280 Guys, we have talked about this. In fact, we're going 0:19:49.320 --> 0:19:50.359 to talk to our producers. 0:19:50.680 --> 0:19:55.040 We want to do an episode about teaching men how 0:19:55.080 --> 0:19:57.919 to write the profiles, what pictures to put up, and 0:19:57.960 --> 0:20:03.080 which one's not. Sir, gentlemen available, men out there, do 0:20:03.200 --> 0:20:08.840 not take pictures the red in a bathroom, and please 0:20:08.920 --> 0:20:09.639 keep your shirt on. 0:20:09.920 --> 0:20:12.159 Contact us if we get enough of youle do a 0:20:12.200 --> 0:20:15.840 whole session towards it. Really, Prump says, all I ask 0:20:16.080 --> 0:20:18.920 is that you don't take yourself too seriously. 0:20:20.960 --> 0:20:23.800 I don't even that's kind of a respect that one. 0:20:24.080 --> 0:20:27.000 The Prump says. The way to win me over is 0:20:27.280 --> 0:20:30.879 if you're able to sit through a football game, even 0:20:30.920 --> 0:20:32.800 if you don't know what's going on. 0:20:34.600 --> 0:20:37.600 I'd be insulted because I understand the game of football. 0:20:37.720 --> 0:20:40.000 So I'd probably give that a red rose. I mean, 0:20:40.359 --> 0:20:44.560 I mean, I think what these questions are is sort 0:20:44.600 --> 0:20:47.560 of honest reactions, right, They're just being honest. But I 0:20:47.560 --> 0:20:50.040 would to that guy, if I were interested in him, 0:20:50.119 --> 0:20:53.320 I would write a text and say, not only will 0:20:53.359 --> 0:20:55.880 I sit through the football game with you, we will 0:20:55.920 --> 0:20:58.439 discuss the plays and what they could have should have 0:20:58.440 --> 0:20:58.880 would have. 0:20:58.840 --> 0:21:01.000 Done if you give him a rose or a flag. 0:21:01.760 --> 0:21:04.800 A rose, okay, go ahead and do the next one. 0:21:04.680 --> 0:21:10.960