Speaker 1: Welcome back everyone to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks
Speaker 1: so much for joining Kathy and I today. We're so
Speaker 1: thrilled to be here.
Speaker 2: Hey, Susan, how are you doing?
Speaker 1: Good?
Speaker 2: Cat?
Speaker 3: I gotta say I'm struggling again. Everyone who knows me
Speaker 3: knows I've had two abouts of bronchitis. Now I'm fighting
Speaker 3: what we lovingly refer to an austin as cedar fever.
Speaker 3: I cannot cut a brake. I just I think I
Speaker 3: need to move to Tahiti.
Speaker 2: You want to go?
Speaker 3: That's winter, Cat, Okay, but we are going pretty soon.
Speaker 3: In a few weeks, we're gonna go play golf in Carmel.
Speaker 3: I gotta tell you. I was talking with Guy from
Speaker 3: Jones season last night. We've decided I'm his big sister.
Speaker 3: You know, he calls me for advice. He's telling me
Speaker 3: he's like a girl, Susan. He's asking me what I'm wearing.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, wait, you know he's been taking lessons. Got
Speaker 1: new that's guy.
Speaker 2: Guy said to me, well, you know what are you wearing?
Speaker 2: I said, I don't.
Speaker 3: I'm figured out. You know, I've got you know, eighteen
Speaker 3: million golf up. He goes, let me tell you and
Speaker 3: he went through this whole thing. Guy, if you're listening,
Speaker 3: I warned you I was gonna tell it. He was
Speaker 3: talking about how his dad, his favorite player of golf
Speaker 3: player was Gary Player, who is you know, if he's
Speaker 3: even alive, you know, way old guy.
Speaker 2: But Gary players signature thing. He always dressed in black.
Speaker 3: So in honor of Gary Player, Guy went out and
Speaker 3: bought an entire no way, you need to hear this
Speaker 3: entire new black outfit. He's telling me I got new
Speaker 3: black shoes and black pants and black shirt. And I'm thinking,
Speaker 3: and I said, guy, you're a girl. This is what
Speaker 3: girls talk about. And he goes and I bought new clubs.
Speaker 1: So Kathy, let me ask you something. Did you get
Speaker 1: a new outfort for Karmel? No?
Speaker 3: No, that's that's why I was laughing. I said, Guy,
Speaker 3: you gotta be kidding me. And then and then we're
Speaker 3: talking about golf handicaps, because remember on one of our
Speaker 3: recent episodes, we had Keith and he and he was
Speaker 3: saying he's.
Speaker 2: Got like a seven or ten. I don't know, I
Speaker 2: think good. I personally cannot count that love.
Speaker 3: But he was talking about his hand and so I
Speaker 3: told Guy that, and Guy starts panicking.
Speaker 2: I said, guy, it doesn't matter. Have a couple of drinks.
Speaker 3: It'll all be find He goes, I don't drink, I said,
Speaker 3: perfect time to start.
Speaker 1: It's all about playing the game.
Speaker 3: It doesn't matter what.
Speaker 2: Anyway, guy, if you're listening, can't wait to see.
Speaker 1: You again't wait to play against you, guys.
Speaker 3: Susan and I will. I told him I was hooking
Speaker 3: up playing with Keith because I needed that low handicapped
Speaker 3: offset vine.
Speaker 2: He was dying.
Speaker 1: Anyway, today it will be fun.
Speaker 2: It will be It's gonna be great fun.
Speaker 3: But today while I'm sniffling, we're going to answer some
Speaker 3: more of your fan questions.
Speaker 2: And guys, you know the drill.
Speaker 3: But if you don't one more time, make sure you're
Speaker 3: submitting them to Bachelor Nation slash Golden Hour. Just write
Speaker 3: us in your comments, your thoughts. Susan and I not
Speaker 3: only like to answer the bond air seriously, don't we
Speaker 3: talk about them off here?
Speaker 1: And you remember then when someone else asked some kind
Speaker 1: of a question and you refer back it's crazy. But
Speaker 1: please send us everything you're questioned, your updates, even something
Speaker 1: that we talked about and you did already and you
Speaker 1: finished it. Whether you used our advice or not, let
Speaker 1: us know and remember you can also dm us on
Speaker 1: Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour. Okay, time to get into
Speaker 1: the episode. Let's start Kathy with the question.
Speaker 2: Of all right, Susan, is it here we go? It's
Speaker 2: not moral quandary. I just want an answer.
Speaker 1: Thank you lord.
Speaker 3: Is it healthy to be any amount of jealous in
Speaker 3: a relationship? And oh, I'm so glad you're answering this first.
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, so I think I know in my brain
Speaker 1: that you shouldn't be list but a little bit.
Speaker 2: Okay, you know where I'm going. Tell me what that
Speaker 2: means to find jealous?
Speaker 1: To me, it would mean like you really care, like
Speaker 1: you know you care. I hate the word jealous, like
Speaker 1: non trusting.
Speaker 3: Is that what you mean by jealous I'm just to me,
Speaker 3: jealousy means it's symptomatic in my mind of not trust.
Speaker 2: Yes, for me, it is.
Speaker 3: And it's you know, if a guy is asking me, well,
Speaker 3: who are you on the phone with? Or why can't
Speaker 3: I come over tonight? Or you know, what are you doing?
Speaker 3: Why can't you take my phone call? That's jealousy and
Speaker 3: that means a lack of trust. So yeah, I don't
Speaker 3: like it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I know to answer the question, though it
Speaker 1: is not healthy.
Speaker 2: I agree, it's going to be a great day. We're
Speaker 2: agreen right off the bat. Yeah, we're agreed.
Speaker 1: We agreed, said green. I'm like, what's green?
Speaker 3: Oh, that's just my voice because I can't talk all
Speaker 3: the exceed or fever my thrower. But no, I think
Speaker 3: I think that you're right, and I don't. I don't
Speaker 3: like jealousy. I think it's not a good look on
Speaker 3: a man or a wife.
Speaker 1: I don't even like the word jealous Sometimes you can
Speaker 1: be envious of someone or something, you know what I mean, Like.
Speaker 2: But that's you know what, that's fun. You say that.
Speaker 3: People confuse the meaning of the not to be an
Speaker 3: English teacher your hair. But jealousy, as you just pointed out,
Speaker 3: is not envy. I don't think either one are particularly attractive.
Speaker 3: But all right, all right, so we're gonna move on.
Speaker 2: We are.
Speaker 3: We've settled that question of the day. We're gonna get
Speaker 3: going with our fan questions. So let's get into them.
Speaker 3: And I'm gonna go ahead and read the first one
Speaker 3: and we'll see it's from anonymous, And just to remind everyone,
Speaker 3: if you're uncomfortable using your name, please write us anyway.
Speaker 3: You can just say an listen, we will still answer
Speaker 3: your question. Okay, here we go. Kathy and Susan help
Speaker 3: me please. I'm freaking out right now. My boyfriend and
Speaker 3: I have been together for six months and we just
Speaker 3: found out our parents went on a first date. They
Speaker 3: sat us down and told us the other night. They're
Speaker 3: saying that after they met, due to us dating quote,
Speaker 3: one thing led to another and they just started connecting.
Speaker 3: I'm starting to think it's more than just one date,
Speaker 3: but according to them, it was just the one.
Speaker 2: Is this totally weird and ancestual? Or should we support them?
Speaker 3: I really really like my boyfriend, but this is just
Speaker 3: so strange. He and I haven't talked about it yet
Speaker 3: because we're taking space to think on things.
Speaker 2: Oh so goodness, I think.
Speaker 1: This is awesome. So do why think you met? You
Speaker 1: let two people meet each other organically, which is everything
Speaker 1: we always do. Exactly what's wrong with it? Stop freaking
Speaker 1: out and let.
Speaker 3: Me I want to say to everyone's it's only ancestual, anonymous.
Speaker 3: If your mother is sleeping with your brother or you,
Speaker 3: that is what incest is.
Speaker 2: If she is dating your boyfriend's father. That's called a date.
Speaker 1: How fun would that be when they're getting together? Though
Speaker 1: you wouldn't have to do two different visits, you can
Speaker 1: all do it at once. I love this.
Speaker 2: It is not incestual.
Speaker 3: You may feel it's weird, but you know what, Anonymous,
Speaker 3: I would encourage you to think about. I don't know
Speaker 3: if it's your mom or your dad, and whether it's
Speaker 3: his mom and dad, or whether the mom's dating the
Speaker 3: mom and the dad dating the dad.
Speaker 1: I don't care.
Speaker 3: Whatever it is. Try to celebrate love, try to celebrate dating.
Speaker 3: Try to celebrate the fact that we're all looking for
Speaker 3: someone to care about and love. And if this is,
Speaker 3: as Susan said, how they've organically met, try to try
Speaker 3: to accept it. It may feel a little weird at first,
Speaker 3: but you know, focus.
Speaker 1: On your boyfriend friend and you never mind about them.
Speaker 1: Let them do them, you know. I think it's wonderful.
Speaker 1: But thank you so much for let us that's what
Speaker 1: it was.
Speaker 2: I love that. I know we've never had a question
Speaker 2: like that, Anonymous.
Speaker 3: Let us know what happens, and as I always plug
Speaker 3: for Susan, if they decide to get married.
Speaker 2: Susan is a wedding officiant. So you give her a
Speaker 2: call or you or you honor?
Speaker 1: All right, thanks again for writing any good luck and
Speaker 1: just try to accept. Like Kathy said, all right. Question
Speaker 1: number two is from Erin. Hey, ladies, I need your
Speaker 1: help because I'm concerned I'm being harsh. The other day,
Speaker 1: my mom told me she wants my kids to call
Speaker 1: her Mama as her grandma name. That's what I want
Speaker 1: them to call me as I'm their actual mom. She
Speaker 1: was asking me if it was okay. She told me
Speaker 1: I didn't know how to react. Oh god, so I
Speaker 1: sort of was speechless. She seemed upset when I didn't
Speaker 1: immediately say yes with excitement. But she's also been talking
Speaker 1: to my kids four years old and one year old
Speaker 1: and referring to herself as mama, Mama loves you and
Speaker 1: so on. What do I do about this? Is this weird?
Speaker 1: Or am I being too sensitive?
Speaker 2: Can I take the first crack at this show?
Speaker 1: Sure you can?
Speaker 2: She is a synonymously look back, it's weird. It's Aaron.
Speaker 3: Let me say to you, Erin, these are your children
Speaker 3: When I have two grandchildren and Susan has several. I
Speaker 3: don't know about you, Susan but when I had, when
Speaker 3: my oldest son had, my only son who has a child,
Speaker 3: asked me what my grandmother name? What I wanted to
Speaker 3: be called. I said I wanted to be called Kiki.
Speaker 3: And they looked at me and they said Kiki. That
Speaker 3: was my nickname as a child. And they said, you
Speaker 3: don't want to be grandma. I said no, and I
Speaker 3: don't want to be granny. And I said, if it's
Speaker 3: okay with you, I'd like to be Kiki. And that's
Speaker 3: how my kids and actually a guy I dated for
Speaker 3: ten minutes.
Speaker 1: So how do you feel about mama?
Speaker 3: I think it is up to Aaron to say, mom, mama, mama.
Speaker 2: You know what I would say, mama. This mama isn't
Speaker 2: comfortable with calling you mama. Kids are confused easily. We're
Speaker 2: not going there. Literally, Aaron just said, or no, I don't.
Speaker 1: That's a mom.
Speaker 2: No, that's a mom's name. I'm their mom. You can
Speaker 2: be grandma, you can be Kiki, you can be me, me,
Speaker 2: you can be Gigi, you can be any other name
Speaker 2: you want, but you cannot be mama. Do you agree
Speaker 2: or not?
Speaker 1: Say? I certainly do. Mama is a mommy's name, and
Speaker 1: I don't know why your mother's thinking this way, But.
Speaker 3: She said, is it weird? I think it is weird.
Speaker 3: Very mother wants to be called mama. I did, so
Speaker 3: don't don't allow it, Aaron. She'll get over it. Grandma
Speaker 3: Granny will be just fine.
Speaker 2: When you're four year old and one year old start
Speaker 2: calling her whatever the name is.
Speaker 1: Can I just say, Aaron, it's weird. Yes, it is
Speaker 1: very weird. Before it gets too far.
Speaker 2: Okay, Aaron. Let us know though, before we move on here, Aaron,
Speaker 2: let us you need.
Speaker 1: Me to call your mother. I could do that, and
Speaker 1: trust me.
Speaker 2: When Susan tells her for the way it's going to be,
Speaker 2: trust me, Aaron, that's the way it's going. All right,
Speaker 2: here's our next question.
Speaker 1: You're getting all the anonymous.
Speaker 3: It's okay. We don't care because you know what the questions.
Speaker 3: And we've said this before. If you want to write
Speaker 3: an anonymously, feel free because the questions you're asking don't
Speaker 3: pertend to your name. Whatever you're thinking, lots of other
Speaker 3: people are thinking too, So just keep writing away, keep sendence.
Speaker 1: And we can help other people without even realizing.
Speaker 2: That's right.
Speaker 3: Okay, anonymous rights, heyst and Kathy, I need your help.
Speaker 3: My oldest is at the age where it's time to
Speaker 3: have the sex talk.
Speaker 2: But we have a big problem. My husband is hell
Speaker 2: bent on going the abstinence route, and I'm incredibly frustrated.
Speaker 2: I never thought he would want to do this, but
Speaker 2: he refuses to have us tell her daughter anything other
Speaker 2: than don't have sex. I wanted to have this conversation
Speaker 2: with just her and me, but he's insisting on being
Speaker 2: in the room. How do I go about talking to
Speaker 2: him about this? Is he right? Any advice would be great? Thanks, ladies.
Speaker 1: What can I just tell you? My husband and I
Speaker 1: had the same issue. Really. Oh he was all about
Speaker 1: abstinence until you are married, and I said, it is
Speaker 1: two thousand and whatever. It was okay, absolutely not. I
Speaker 1: don't know if you're going to love this advice, Kat,
Speaker 1: but obviously he's held bent and it's her daughter. You
Speaker 1: have a private one on one with her between you
Speaker 1: and her, Okay, you see to talk?
Speaker 3: Are you okay? We're really getting into this, everybody. You're
Speaker 3: gonna love this conversation. I let me let me first,
Speaker 3: let me let me finish. Wait, would you supply birth
Speaker 3: control to her?
Speaker 1: It depends on our age. Well, that's that's it, So okay.
Speaker 1: I mean, if she's only just having the talk, you're
Speaker 1: not ready for birth control. Dear God.
Speaker 3: I so that's that is so funny you said that, Susan,
Speaker 3: because the first thing I was going to say is Anonymous,
Speaker 3: I'm guessing you have waited, like many people do, until
Speaker 3: your daughter, in this case, is a teenager. If you
Speaker 3: haven't had the talk about sex and what it means
Speaker 3: to be a mom at a young age, or a
Speaker 3: dad the responsibility of the cause. If you haven't done
Speaker 3: that before they're a teenager, the hormones have taken over.
Speaker 3: And you know, I don't think personally abstinence works. I
Speaker 3: think I love the saying abstinence makes the heart growth
Speaker 3: on her, but it's absence. I know, speaking a joke,
Speaker 3: Come on, work with me here.
Speaker 1: I just think he's like he's hiding behind a rock somewhere.
Speaker 2: Well, I think I would have the conversation Anonymous. I
Speaker 2: would have.
Speaker 3: My husband and I were in agreement, so you know,
Speaker 3: we we got our daughter breath control. And you know,
Speaker 3: some people are going to say, oh, you're just inviting
Speaker 3: your child to have sex. Know what I'm inviting is
Speaker 3: to disinvite, uninvite in unwanted pregnancy. I talked to my
Speaker 3: children about safe sex. You know, Pete on the pill
Speaker 3: is not is not the solutions. There's a lot of
Speaker 3: communical diseases anonymous. There's a whole lot more at stake
Speaker 3: than when unfortunately I was young and STDs. You know,
Speaker 3: we're few and far between, but that's not the case anymore.
Speaker 3: So it's a bigger conversation with your husband than pregnancy.
Speaker 3: It's about STDs, it's about it's about respect, it's about love,
Speaker 3: it's about how do you want to remember your first time?
Speaker 3: Those are the conversations I had with my daughter. Did
Speaker 3: you have those with yours?
Speaker 1: Most absolutely did and my sons. And it was funny
Speaker 1: because the things I'd say to my son they were like, Mom, seriously,
Speaker 1: I go boys, you know you got to learn you
Speaker 1: know what no means? Yes, Mom, we know no means no.
Speaker 1: Even if she's going no, and while you're doing something
Speaker 1: and you're thinking no, she's just saying no. No means no.
Speaker 1: I don't want to go to jail. You don't want
Speaker 1: to read.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. There's so much more explain. The
Speaker 2: sex talk is not just about should my look, you know,
Speaker 2: approve of my daughter having sex or my son.
Speaker 3: It's so much more than that. It's that's where the
Speaker 3: respect comes in. I was trying to sort of put
Speaker 3: it under an umbrella.
Speaker 1: But boys are the worst because they're like, seriously, mom, Mom,
Speaker 1: I go listen. Daddy says, you wait till you get married.
Speaker 1: Mommy says, And then I just said one more question. Guy.
Speaker 1: They go what I said, are you comfortable buying a condom?
Speaker 1: They're like, oh my god, mom, they have them in
Speaker 1: the men's room at the mall. I go, what, you
Speaker 1: already know this, but I'm just so late.
Speaker 2: Susan's boys were eight.
Speaker 3: They went from the Lego They went from the Lego
Speaker 3: store to the boys.
Speaker 2: Room the mall.
Speaker 1: I'm kidding Anonymous conversation. Also, she asked, how do I
Speaker 1: go about talking to him about this? You need to
Speaker 1: go privately with your husband as your baby. It's not
Speaker 1: just about saying it's okay to have sex. It's about
Speaker 1: educating your child.
Speaker 3: I have a better idea, Susan Anonymous. Play uh, play
Speaker 3: this play this podcast for him. Let him hear what
Speaker 3: we say. Because Anonymous's husband, we are two women who
Speaker 3: have raised children. We both have daughters, girls, boys. But
Speaker 3: as I'm saying, we have girls, we have boys. We've
Speaker 3: had the talk, we have grandchildren. We've seen at all.
Speaker 2: And so you're you know you're you're on the new
Speaker 2: frontier hair.
Speaker 1: So and it's daddy's little girl. I understand where he's
Speaker 1: coming from. I do, however, get with the times, be
Speaker 1: upfront with your kids. Don't wait too long.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I love that, all right, kat let us know.
Speaker 3: Wait Anonymous, just let us know how it goes. And
Speaker 3: if she does end up pregnant. Uh, I'd love her
Speaker 3: to be named after Susan.
Speaker 2: Daddy.
Speaker 1: It's game time. It's called Red Flagger Red Rose.
Speaker 3: Oh god, oh wait, hey, you're going to win this
Speaker 3: game because you know I don't get roses.
Speaker 2: Well you don't get many more than I do either,
Speaker 2: so it's a toss up. We'll go. That's all right.
Speaker 1: So today we're going to be playing Red Flag or
Speaker 1: Red Rose. We'll switch off, naming different dating app tactics
Speaker 1: men use and deciding if we give it a red
Speaker 1: flag or a red Rose, and I'll start us off.
Speaker 1: Are you ready? Their profile says not looking for a
Speaker 1: long term partner.
Speaker 2: Well, that depends on what you're looking for. If you're
Speaker 2: looking for a long term partner.
Speaker 1: Is it a red flag or a red rose?
Speaker 2: I just said it depends. I would I'm looking for
Speaker 2: a long term partner, so for me, it would be
Speaker 2: a red flag. What about you?
Speaker 1: So you know, it's funny that that question came up
Speaker 1: because when I was on the dating sites, I struggled
Speaker 1: because your choices you can't write something, but your choices
Speaker 1: were long term, serious relationship. What were the other friends?
Speaker 1: Like friends? It's so it's tough to but you have
Speaker 1: to accept what it says. He's not looking for a
Speaker 1: long term partner, So that's a red rose because he's
Speaker 1: being honest.
Speaker 2: Oh, I'm misunderstanding.
Speaker 3: A red flag to me means I'm sorry, I give
Speaker 3: him kudos for I give him a red flag red
Speaker 3: rose for being honest.
Speaker 2: For me, I wouldn't, I'd scroll on by. So maybe
Speaker 2: I'm not understanding.
Speaker 1: We're talking about dating app tactics and what.
Speaker 3: Oh, okay, I would give him. I'm sorry, I would
Speaker 3: give him a red rose because he's being honest.
Speaker 2: Okay, the their pictures are strictly mirror selfies.
Speaker 1: Wait, datty, I want to open a business and show
Speaker 1: him men.
Speaker 2: Guys, we have talked about this. In fact, we're going
Speaker 2: to talk to our producers.
Speaker 3: We want to do an episode about teaching men how
Speaker 3: to write the profiles, what pictures to put up, and
Speaker 3: which one's not. Sir, gentlemen available, men out there, do
Speaker 3: not take pictures the red in a bathroom, and please
Speaker 3: keep your shirt on.
Speaker 1: Contact us if we get enough of youle do a
Speaker 1: whole session towards it. Really, Prump says, all I ask
Speaker 1: is that you don't take yourself too seriously.
Speaker 2: I don't even that's kind of a respect that one.
Speaker 1: The Prump says. The way to win me over is
Speaker 1: if you're able to sit through a football game, even
Speaker 1: if you don't know what's going on.
Speaker 3: I'd be insulted because I understand the game of football.
Speaker 3: So I'd probably give that a red rose. I mean,
Speaker 3: I mean, I think what these questions are is sort
Speaker 3: of honest reactions, right, They're just being honest. But I
Speaker 3: would to that guy, if I were interested in him,
Speaker 3: I would write a text and say, not only will
Speaker 3: I sit through the football game with you, we will
Speaker 3: discuss the plays and what they could have should have
Speaker 3: would have.
Speaker 1: Done if you give him a rose or a flag.
Speaker 1: A rose, okay, go ahead and do the next one.
Speaker 2: All right. Uh, they keep dming you on the platform.
Speaker 2: Oh instead of asking for your number.
Speaker 1: Red flag. Yeah, they call themselves a MoMA boy in
Speaker 1: their bio.
Speaker 3: I'm I'm that guy doesn't get a flag or a rose,
Speaker 3: he's out of there.
Speaker 1: He should just give it up. That's a red flag
Speaker 1: to me.
Speaker 2: Red flag.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, they like you, swipe on you first, but
Speaker 3: they don't send you a d M when you match,
Speaker 3: not including bumble.
Speaker 2: It's it means they're not interested. It's a red rose.
Speaker 1: Well, they swipe because they like the picture, and I
Speaker 1: guess they'll go back later.
Speaker 2: I mean, oh, I think a lot of guys and
Speaker 2: you and I have done the same thing. Oh that
Speaker 2: guy looks interesting you you know you, and then you'll
Speaker 2: get their profile. What the hell does?
Speaker 1: But I wouldn't give that a red flag.
Speaker 2: No, I'd give it a red rose. Oh he thought
Speaker 2: better of it or she thought better of it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, they match with you on every dating app,
Speaker 1: but they never DM you red flag.
Speaker 2: Red flag. Yeah, God, Susan, what did we have our weedies?
Speaker 2: What the hell we're green? On everything. Okay, they have
Speaker 2: a picture. Oh god, I can't even read this. They
Speaker 2: have a picture with an animal or fish they've hunted.
Speaker 1: Red flag, red red, red flash.
Speaker 3: And wait, can I just wait? Can I just say?
Speaker 3: Let me just say. I am from Boston. You know
Speaker 3: I live in Texas. I know I'm going to take
Speaker 3: heat for this. If I never see a guy again
Speaker 3: with a shirt undone with a cracked open beer in
Speaker 3: one and a dead fish from a fishing line ever again,
Speaker 3: it will not be too soon.
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, I didn't even finish. I didn't even
Speaker 1: hear the rest of it. With an animal or fish
Speaker 1: they hunted, I don't think there unless you're into that
Speaker 1: of course.
Speaker 3: Okay, look at me, Look at me, repeat with me,
Speaker 3: red flag.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: As your first messaging, they asked, what you think the
Speaker 1: reason is that you haven't found someone yet? Oh god,
Speaker 1: they asked that all the time.
Speaker 2: They do. You know, I don't think I think you do?
Speaker 1: Oh I do you did? I'll tell you they're curious.
Speaker 3: I think the question the prompt here says, as your
Speaker 3: first messaging, I think that's a conversation you and I
Speaker 3: have talked about.
Speaker 2: You know, when is it appropriate to talk about this,
Speaker 2: that or the other.
Speaker 3: That's a conversation for later down the road, in my opinion,
Speaker 3: So to me a guy that's a pushy guy, and
Speaker 3: what you know. I don't know if we have time here,
Speaker 3: but I'm just going to quickly tell you I met
Speaker 3: a guy. He actually reached out to me on Facebook
Speaker 3: because we have mutual friends. And he jumped in, Susan
Speaker 3: already knows this, all of this that I'm doing, but
Speaker 3: I just want the audience here, he jumped in very quickly.
Speaker 3: You know, how long has it been so you've had
Speaker 3: a relationship.
Speaker 2: He jumped in.
Speaker 1: Twenty questions.
Speaker 3: You had twenty question and twenty deep questions. And I
Speaker 3: was telling my daughter Caitlyn, and you know, and Caitlyn said, Mom,
Speaker 3: that is a red flat. She literally used that word,
Speaker 3: and I said, tell me why. She said, it's too much,
Speaker 3: too fast. Can I just tell you. After one date
Speaker 3: with the guy and I and had several phone conversations,
Speaker 3: she was absolutely right. This guy was running at warp speed.
Speaker 3: So I think it's a red flag.
Speaker 1: I didn't too much. First one we're going to disagree
Speaker 1: on because I've been asked several times and I've even
Speaker 1: asked men, not many, but I mean when you're looking
Speaker 1: at a picture and reading a few words about somebody
Speaker 1: and now you're chatting not on the phone. Just said,
Speaker 1: what's a good looking guy like you? Why are you
Speaker 1: still alone? And my answer was I'm really picky. You know,
Speaker 1: I know what I want. You asked.
Speaker 3: I just think it's a weird question when you're first messaging.
Speaker 3: But you know we're agreed mostly today, so I'll take
Speaker 3: it all right.
Speaker 2: Their first DM is telling you that they're a personality guy.
Speaker 1: I don't read anything wrong with that. They asked to
Speaker 1: see you immediately upon matching.
Speaker 3: I give that a rose to you, and you, well,
Speaker 3: I'm a little different from you, Susan. We've talked about
Speaker 3: this too. I would rather talk on the phone first
Speaker 3: before meeting someone. I kind of want to get a
Speaker 3: little vibe before I meet them. It can just be
Speaker 3: one phone call. But and for those of you out
Speaker 3: there who don't, and I've told Susan to get this,
Speaker 3: you know, safety first. You don't want to give somebody
Speaker 3: your I don't anyway my phone number. First off, I
Speaker 3: give them my Google phone number. And those of you
Speaker 3: who don't know what it is, look it up.
Speaker 2: You can get a.
Speaker 1: Google phone number.
Speaker 2: Lines.
Speaker 1: Huh you have two lines? You told me? Yeah, you
Speaker 1: shared that with and that.
Speaker 3: But the reason I give the guy the Google number
Speaker 3: is it's not traceable. He cannot find out where I
Speaker 3: live with a cell phone number. You would be amazed
Speaker 3: what you can find it. So those of you are
Speaker 3: on dating my PSA today is get a Google number.
Speaker 2: You can't be traced. Okay, your trunk out?
Speaker 1: How about the only message? They only message you at
Speaker 1: odd hours of the evening eleven PM or later. Last
Speaker 1: red red flat, Hell, dare.
Speaker 2: You well, Susan? Would you answer it?
Speaker 1: Hell? No?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean well, I have.
Speaker 1: Two people that I was really curious or interested in
Speaker 1: and it was a mistake. So yeah, there you go.
Speaker 2: No, I don't even know.
Speaker 3: Well, first I turned my phone on silent when I
Speaker 3: go to bed. The only thing phone time my phone
Speaker 3: is ringing is if my kids call me, because I
Speaker 3: have them on a special thing.
Speaker 2: If they call me in the middle of that, my
Speaker 2: phone rings. I don't know.
Speaker 3: Since then, we have had I don't know what to say.
Speaker 3: We've had so much fun today, answering questions. We're agreeing
Speaker 3: too much? What does this mean? Are we morphine into
Speaker 3: each other.
Speaker 1: This doesn't mean anything. Kath's way. Did we get to
Speaker 1: a different game? You'ls thing?
Speaker 2: But it was fun. I like that game. I'm really serious,
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 3: Don't you think we should do something about helping guys please?
Speaker 1: So I don't know if enough men are actually listening.
Speaker 1: But women out there, I know you have friends and
Speaker 1: your friends have friends. Tell the guys about us. I'm serious,
Speaker 1: and we could help them. We could tell them to
Speaker 1: tune in or reach out.
Speaker 3: And I was asking me about dating last night, and
Speaker 3: you know, it's like, he goes, oh, you know you
Speaker 3: have some good thoughts. I'm like, yeah, because I'm a
Speaker 3: woman and I've been there. But you know, here's the
Speaker 3: thing that I'm you know, i've been single. It's coming
Speaker 3: up on I can't believe it almost six years since
Speaker 3: my husband passed away. I'm realizing that things don't really
Speaker 3: change that much in the dating world. You set it
Speaker 3: yourself on another episode, We're all looking for someone to
Speaker 3: love and to be loved.
Speaker 2: That's kind of universal at this point, you know, it
Speaker 2: just it looks a little different at our age.
Speaker 1: But it's about the dating apps that we were talking
Speaker 1: about today. I mean, at one point I was opposed
Speaker 1: to ever going on them again. And then you sit
Speaker 1: and you're by yourself for a while, and you'll go,
Speaker 1: let's check it out, and then only to find the
Speaker 1: same people on there. Why haven't they found anybody? You
Speaker 1: get discouraged. But then again, it is the way of
Speaker 1: the world.
Speaker 2: Well, but I really is it? Well it isn't it isn't.
Speaker 3: I mean I read something recently that said people they're
Speaker 3: going back to more organic ways, you know, meeting and
Speaker 3: clubs or or somebody introduces, Yeah, who is saying that
Speaker 3: to when when we interviewed, was that Keith, I want
Speaker 3: to say?
Speaker 2: And he said he what was he?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, but he said most of his dates come from friends.
Speaker 3: But you know what the problem for women is, it's
Speaker 3: there's more single women than men.
Speaker 1: There's more women in the world than men when you
Speaker 1: think about it, so as we're growing older, and I
Speaker 1: truly believe men kind of go first. So that makes it.
Speaker 3: Even the odds or even And what's the other what
Speaker 3: is the other fact that you know? It's always been
Speaker 3: a hot button for me, but I've had to accept it.
Speaker 3: Men usually are looking for younger women.
Speaker 1: I don't think we should put our ages down, not
Speaker 1: until you after you get to know somebody so they
Speaker 1: know how.
Speaker 2: Old are the dating apposus.
Speaker 1: You have to putury now.
Speaker 3: In fact, a friend said to me, I should lie,
Speaker 3: but I'm not going to.
Speaker 1: I know. Oh boy, you know, like I said, this
Speaker 1: goes so fast, but I know it does. Anybody that's listening,
Speaker 1: tell the men to reach out. We are not opposed
Speaker 1: to helping them out and in the better profile better.
Speaker 3: In the meantime, susan friends pick friends up. So I'm
Speaker 3: going to be out the lookout for you. Okay, folks,
Speaker 3: that doesn't For this episode of Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour,
Speaker 3: we've had a blast. We hope we've helped you with
Speaker 3: our questions. Thanks so much for tuning in.
Speaker 1: Yes, and those guys that did anonymous this, we're really
Speaker 1: thinking about those questions. We really are. So let us
Speaker 1: know and be sure to follow us on Bachelor Happy
Speaker 1: Hour as we have new episodes coming out every week
Speaker 1: and you guys do not want to miss these.
Speaker 3: You don't think the want who wants to miss this?
Speaker 3: But listen, we just said anonymous questions. We don't care
Speaker 3: you don't do a sign a name to it. We're
Speaker 3: going to answer the question regardless, so feel free to
Speaker 3: reach out to us. Very simple, go to bachelornation dot com,
Speaker 3: slash Golden Hour, or dm us on Instagram at Bachelor
Speaker 3: Happy Hour
Speaker 1: And listen to you your Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour
Speaker 1: on the iHeartRadio app four wherever you listen to your
Speaker 1: podcasts out for now, have a great week.