WEBVTT - Back for More with Becca Moore 0:00:00.800 --> 0:00:05.039 Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Wrath, an iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:08.760 --> 0:00:11.319 Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:13.720 Scrub dub dumb. 0:00:14.080 --> 0:00:14.240 Oh. 0:00:14.240 --> 0:00:17.280 I thought you were about to go to dune in California. 0:00:17.440 --> 0:00:23.680 Loveeee. No, I wasn't gonna do that. 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:25.400 It's August first, you guys. 0:00:25.600 --> 0:00:28.360 Wow, summer's flying by. 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:30.080 Are we gonna have a brat summer? When we was 0:00:30.200 --> 0:00:33.240 still what are we gonna have a brat summer summer? 0:00:33.320 --> 0:00:36.040 Yeah, we should have started that back in June. 0:00:36.280 --> 0:00:38.640 We saw a whole nother month basically, two months of 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:39.400 summer summer? 0:00:39.479 --> 0:00:40.840 Is that until September twenty something? 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:43.320 Second? But still you know school's back soon. 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:45.960 No, oh, my God associated summer with school. 0:00:46.000 --> 0:00:46.559 But it's not. 0:00:46.760 --> 0:00:49.720 Summer is a calendar. It's a biblical to my set. 0:00:49.560 --> 0:00:51.199 Summer not biblical. 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:53.280 It's been the Bible. 0:00:53.960 --> 0:00:57.680 It's in the Yes, Brat summer is not in the 0:00:57.680 --> 0:00:58.639 Bible mindset. 0:00:58.880 --> 0:01:01.080 No, no, No, what I'm saying is summer is still summer. 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:01.480 For another. 0:01:01.560 --> 0:01:04.160 We saw the two months basically of summer, and we 0:01:04.200 --> 0:01:06.479 can make it brat because that's what's cool. 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:09.200 Now, tell me what a brad summer is, Tonya it's 0:01:09.240 --> 0:01:10.160 like von Dutch. 0:01:10.680 --> 0:01:15.920 It's like lime green slime, smell like sweat and cigarettes. 0:01:17.640 --> 0:01:23.360 Yeah. It so nothing more opposite of you than that. 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:23.800 I know. 0:01:23.959 --> 0:01:26.759 I mean I'm really having like a white color palette. Uh, 0:01:26.959 --> 0:01:28.520 situation happening. 0:01:28.160 --> 0:01:31.560 For now, Like cling girl Summer, You're not really Broad Summer. 0:01:31.880 --> 0:01:33.360 I hope I want to be Broad Summer. 0:01:33.520 --> 0:01:33.880 You don't. 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:35.320 Everybody is so cool. 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:39.160 Brad Summer is about accepting your imperfections while embracing the chaos. 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:40.520 That's what Charlie XCX says. 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:42.240 Oh really, that's not my thought. 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:48.880 That Ginger chan I swear I read that. 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:54.400 I'm like, uh, some website Glamour, can you look up 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:55.240 what is brad Summer? 0:01:55.320 --> 0:01:55.840 I just did. 0:01:57.080 --> 0:01:59.600 It's literally coined it. So that's who you. That's who 0:01:59.600 --> 0:02:00.680 we're going to our info from. 0:02:00.680 --> 0:02:01.040 On the breath. 0:02:01.440 --> 0:02:03.320 Just like that girl who's a little messy and likes 0:02:03.360 --> 0:02:06.560 to party and maybe says dumb things, sometimes feels herself 0:02:06.600 --> 0:02:08.520 but maybe also has a breakdown, but kind of like 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:10.919 parties through it. It's very honest, very blunt, a little 0:02:11.000 --> 0:02:14.040 volatile like those dumb things. But it's brat. You're brat. 0:02:14.040 --> 0:02:14.760 That's brat. 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:18.960 Yeah, that's right. That's bratt. 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:20.600 All right. 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:23.000 Well, whatever you want to be. It can be your 0:02:23.200 --> 0:02:24.359 whatever type of summer you want. 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:29.480 Tonya, thank you, braver. I think could be more as 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:31.120 bridal cling girl summer, but. 0:02:33.440 --> 0:02:35.480 I really can't. Yeah, I just did the dance. I know. 0:02:35.560 --> 0:02:36.720 It's like, I really can't help it. 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:39.840 It was leaving the house today and Robbie was like, 0:02:40.760 --> 0:02:42.520 you're really into the white right now. 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:47.280 I've worn white on white. 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:49.680 By the way, why are you in a puffer vest? 0:02:49.720 --> 0:02:51.520 It's ninety five degrees to. 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:54.480 Not inside this these are wearing. 0:02:54.120 --> 0:02:55.639 It inside these four walls. 0:02:55.639 --> 0:02:56.560 It's on your chair. 0:02:56.880 --> 0:03:00.680 Thank you for reminding me because I met earlier. 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:02.440 It's actually insane. 0:03:02.760 --> 0:03:07.040 Oh my gosh, now I feel nice brat summer. 0:03:10.040 --> 0:03:16.600 It's also visually not like I know exactly like I know, 0:03:16.680 --> 0:03:17.880 it's not cool or clean. 0:03:18.040 --> 0:03:20.040 It's like, it's not brown. 0:03:20.240 --> 0:03:24.320 It's not clean girl. It's not barbiecore giving Melton. 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:27.880 It's giving an eight burbank right now. And you have 0:03:27.919 --> 0:03:28.919 a puffery vest. 0:03:29.040 --> 0:03:31.640 That's right, what's inside inside the studio? 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:33.440 You weren't wearing it until five seconds. 0:03:35.680 --> 0:03:36.520 You're not that cold. 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:39.400 I'm pretty chilly, not cold enough that you did that 0:03:39.480 --> 0:03:42.840 on your own accord though, right brat summer. 0:03:43.920 --> 0:03:48.000 I do what I want, all right, you guys cigarettes. 0:03:48.400 --> 0:03:53.080 I can't even feel like slimey with green slime. I 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:55.600 do feel like my voice has changed ever since my sickness. 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:57.440 I like cannot get my voice back. 0:03:57.840 --> 0:04:00.920 You just your voice has sounded fine until this moment 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:01.360 right now. 0:04:03.200 --> 0:04:05.600 Yes, no, I feel like it's been like horse for 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:06.600 two weeks. 0:04:06.360 --> 0:04:12.400 Now, screaming brat summer. And you know my voice has 0:04:12.440 --> 0:04:15.040 been different. I did notice on earlier in the week. 0:04:15.240 --> 0:04:19.600 I noticed that earlier. This week sounds better, Yeah, sounds 0:04:19.640 --> 0:04:20.159 better today. 0:04:20.480 --> 0:04:24.320 You know those girls that like, like I'm and they're like, 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:26.640 I don't want to use my voice, but they love 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:27.360 how it sounds. 0:04:27.720 --> 0:04:30.479 Yeah, that's you. I don't mind it. 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:34.640 If this is the new me, then here, but totally normal. 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:37.040 It's just a little deeper. It's a little horser. 0:04:37.200 --> 0:04:39.680 Think you just clear your throat and get some back. 0:04:42.560 --> 0:04:43.640 Just sound nice for our guest. 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:47.120 Yeah, we do have a guest. Yeah, and I'm very 0:04:47.160 --> 0:04:50.400 excited to talk to her. We have Beckamore joining us. 0:04:50.440 --> 0:04:54.120 She is a TikTok creator. She has like a bunch 0:04:54.160 --> 0:04:56.960 of ratings on TikTok. This is kind of how she 0:04:57.000 --> 0:05:01.160 got popular rating her creepy d MS thing. She is 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:04.840 known on TikTok for all these like funny ratings she does. 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:08.920 So it's like rating my creepy dms that time of 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:12.040 baseball player flew me out to meet him, Like all 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:16.400 these dating stories. She would like contact. If girls were like, 0:05:16.440 --> 0:05:19.159 I think my boyfriend's cheating on me, she would DM 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:22.159 them the boy to try and catfish and she'd just 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:24.640 be like high hi, and they'd respond and then she'd 0:05:24.640 --> 0:05:26.800 be like, oh, like you go to this college and 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:29.000 then if you cheated, she'd expose him on TikTok. 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:29.680 Wow. 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:34.000 Yeah savage. So she also has her own podcast. 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:37.840 She has her own podcast and it's called for the 0:05:37.880 --> 0:05:41.279 Girls with Becca Moore, and that is because she is 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:43.039 for the girls. She's always been for the girls. But 0:05:43.080 --> 0:05:45.960 she's really for the girls because she is dating a 0:05:46.000 --> 0:05:48.880 friend of our show and a beverage whom we love. 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:51.320 We had her on with Seacrest. I did not realize 0:05:51.320 --> 0:05:52.320 that until this moment. 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:56.080 Oh this is the girl. Yes, oh wow, Yeah, we 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:57.799 had her on the morning show, oh. 0:05:57.720 --> 0:06:00.440 Doing the thing where people think her boyfriends so she 0:06:00.480 --> 0:06:02.080 would each out to them. Yes, we had her on 0:06:02.120 --> 0:06:03.080 for this very reason. 0:06:05.080 --> 0:06:06.039 Did you look up the name? 0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:08.479 Yeah, Oh wow, it's like Ryan's Roses. 0:06:09.040 --> 0:06:11.320 Yeah, Oh my gosh, that's so funny. 0:06:11.480 --> 0:06:12.160 Yeah. 0:06:12.160 --> 0:06:15.040 And then we went to a the Era's tour with 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:17.960 her in a group with Mermaid Hair, and she was 0:06:18.000 --> 0:06:20.240 there with her friend and so we had that bonding 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:21.159 experience as well. 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:23.880 And she's so cute. 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:26.400 And now she's back for more, and she's she's back 0:06:26.440 --> 0:06:27.839 for more with beccam Moore. 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:30.280 Back for more with Beca more. Let's we can't say 0:06:30.320 --> 0:06:31.120 anything else. Let's bring her. 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:32.839 Yeah, let's bring her in. Welcome Beckham. 0:06:37.240 --> 0:06:39.600 We are so excited to have you. I'm so excited 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:41.080 to be here. I love you. Guys. We went to 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:44.520 the eras towards we were just talking about this. But 0:06:44.640 --> 0:06:47.960 back then I stay, yeah, I mean, let's jump right 0:06:48.000 --> 0:06:49.880 into it, because I feel like that. 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:53.120 I remember being on the bus together and you were 0:06:53.200 --> 0:06:57.640 talking about someone like up in San Francisco, and I 0:06:57.640 --> 0:06:59.440 can't remember what the thing was. He wanted you to 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:00.800 come up there, but you didn't know if you were 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:02.520 into him. I can't remember what the story was. 0:07:02.760 --> 0:07:04.480 Well, we were kind of dating. We had gone on 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:07.520 a date. We met on a dating app and I 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:12.200 was really into him, and he was visiting La for work, 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:16.679 and he like we had like a crazy strong connection. 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:18.640 But then he like that was it. We went on 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:20.240 a good date and then I was like, am I 0:07:20.320 --> 0:07:21.640 is he going to bring me to San Francisco? 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:22.400 Like what do I do? 0:07:22.440 --> 0:07:23.920 And then you guys were helping me, like craft a 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:27.080 text to be like I miss you or something, and 0:07:27.120 --> 0:07:29.200 then we did date for a couple of months, but 0:07:29.240 --> 0:07:30.840 then the distance was too hard. 0:07:31.000 --> 0:07:36.000 Yeah, so that was what last year in August? 0:07:36.200 --> 0:07:39.040 Yeah, yeah, that was August. And then a year ago, 0:07:39.040 --> 0:07:40.880 literally a year ago, Oh my god, that's crazy. And 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:44.440 then I met Shannon in I think, Well we kept talking. 0:07:44.480 --> 0:07:48.920 Me and that man dated until I think like he 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:51.680 wasn't like a backup, but we broke up. Broke up 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:54.360 in like November, and then I met Shannon, and I 0:07:54.400 --> 0:07:57.720 remember being like I'm never gonna date a guy again. 0:07:57.840 --> 0:08:01.120 Like I was like, I like, wait, really, I don't know. 0:08:01.160 --> 0:08:02.920 I was just kidding, like I was just saying that, 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:04.560 you know, like I don't know. I was like, I 0:08:04.560 --> 0:08:06.520 need a break from dating. And then I met Shannon 0:08:06.640 --> 0:08:08.840 like three weeks later at the music video shoot, and 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:10.680 I was like, maybe I'll just get a girl I 0:08:10.720 --> 0:08:11.040 don't know. 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:13.200 Okay, So here's my question. 0:08:13.320 --> 0:08:15.960 Because I've listened to your podcast, I've heard the story 0:08:16.040 --> 0:08:18.880 of how you met Shannon. But I want you to 0:08:18.960 --> 0:08:22.480 go through that day again and meeting Shannon, and then 0:08:22.520 --> 0:08:26.240 I have some follow up questions. Okay, inspector gadget over here. 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:29.280 So I met her at the music video shoot, and 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:31.920 she like wouldn't give me the time of day. I 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:34.120 had never liked a girl before, like I've never I 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:37.400 mean a music video shoot. It was for Zolita, her 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:40.440 song Oh my God, Queen of It's Queen of Hearts 0:08:40.520 --> 0:08:40.760 or something. 0:08:40.800 --> 0:08:44.240 Okay, Okayla is Shannon's roommate. 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:48.040 Yeah, okay, but I didn't know this. So I show 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:50.439 up and all of a sudden, I was attracted to Shannon. 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:53.120 I was really confused. So I was like, what the 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:56.360 hell is going on? And she like wouldn't make eye 0:08:56.400 --> 0:08:59.080 contact with me, like I couldn't get her attention. I 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:01.160 was like, what do I do? So then she comes 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:02.760 over to us and she was like she was a 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:05.320 creative director and she was like, hi, guys, has anyone 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:08.880 here been in a music video before? And I was like, 0:09:09.440 --> 0:09:11.120 oh my god, I have, and I was trying to 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:12.800 like let her know that, like I was like in 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:15.040 with the lesbians, Like I wanted her to think that 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:19.360 I like knew leslians. So I was like, I, actually 0:09:19.400 --> 0:09:24.719 it was in this LGBT music video with Fletcher. I 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:29.560 don't know if you did you know that? D No, 0:09:29.640 --> 0:09:32.320 I didn't know anything. I don't know. I'm so mad 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:34.720 at myself realized it's so bad. Do you know this story, 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:35.640 Becca or no? 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:37.920 I just saw your TikTok about this. 0:09:38.480 --> 0:09:40.520 I just finally told the story last night because I've 0:09:40.520 --> 0:09:42.800 been like omitting that part of the story because it's embarrassing. 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:45.720 But it's not embarrassing if you didn't know. Yeah, I 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:48.040 literally did not know. What are the odds of me 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:52.640 bringing up Fletcher with Shannon Beverage in our first sentence? 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:55.440 Finally I got her attention to so everything was like 0:09:55.480 --> 0:09:57.880 riding on this one like interaction, and I messed it 0:09:57.920 --> 0:10:00.760 up somehow. I was like, yeah, I was in Fletcher's 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:02.640 music video. She was so cool, she was so awesome. 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:04.400 It was so fun hanging out with her all day. 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:07.120 And then she like let me talk for a while, 0:10:07.160 --> 0:10:09.080 she like let me go on with my story, and 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:11.559 I thought she was like really into it. But then 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:15.720 she was like, so that is my ex girlfriend and 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:18.840 we I don't even know. So then I was like, 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:23.560 I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry. And then she didn't 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:25.160 talk to me for the rest of the day and 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:27.200 I got to get her attention. I kept going up 0:10:27.200 --> 0:10:29.199 to her and being like, I'm so sorry, so sorry, 0:10:29.480 --> 0:10:31.520 and she kept being like, it's fine and I don't 0:10:31.559 --> 0:10:33.640 care that much, like it seems like you really care, 0:10:34.520 --> 0:10:37.440 and she thought, okay, So that made her think I 0:10:37.480 --> 0:10:40.480 was straight because I didn't know their like lore, like 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:41.480 I didn't know, Yeah. 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:44.520 That is pretty straight though not knowing about I. 0:10:44.480 --> 0:10:46.400 Didn't know anything. I so I googled her in the 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:48.439 back because I started telling everyone what I had just done, 0:10:48.600 --> 0:10:50.840 not the shoot, and they were like, that is Shannon Bedbridge. 0:10:50.880 --> 0:10:53.440 I don't know if Shannon Beverage is. And I googled 0:10:53.440 --> 0:10:55.760 her in the bathroom and then I found out and 0:10:55.800 --> 0:10:58.120 I felt terrible and I decided I was in love 0:10:58.160 --> 0:11:00.480 with her from like her social media, like I thought 0:11:00.520 --> 0:11:02.880 she was so hot and it made me want her 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:05.040 even more that like she didn't like me that day 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:06.840 at all, so but she thought she just thought it 0:11:06.880 --> 0:11:09.960 was straight, like she didn't know and then yeah, and 0:11:10.000 --> 0:11:13.920 then I messaged her. I was like, I think got 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:16.360 because she posted this is after then after this ship. Yeah, 0:11:16.600 --> 0:11:19.120 it hadn't talked. I mean she like came up to 0:11:19.120 --> 0:11:21.120 me and like asked me a question, but it was 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:23.520 like pointless, like it was not flirty. 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:28.720 And was she flirty or giving attention to anybody else 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:30.480 on set or was she just very much she was 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:30.800 just like. 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:32.880 In her own zone, except I saw her on Rya, 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:34.800 Like I saw over her shoulder that she was on ride, 0:11:34.800 --> 0:11:36.439 so I knew she was single, so I thought I 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:38.800 would could get in, you know, so I down't well 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:42.760 already had Rya, but I changed my Riya to girls 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:44.839 literally that day, and I started looking for her. And 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:47.600 I would run out of swipes every single day looking 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:50.160 for Shannon. But it turns out her like age limit 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:52.920 was set to twenty seven and I'm twenty six. Oh, 0:11:52.960 --> 0:11:56.760 so I was never gonna find her. Yeah you cross 0:11:56.360 --> 0:11:59.439 that literally ever so but then I she posted a 0:11:59.480 --> 0:12:01.520 Q and A on her Instagram a few days later 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:04.360 and it was like, asked me questions about relationships for 0:12:04.480 --> 0:12:06.920 my podcast, So I asked. I was like, I'm going 0:12:07.000 --> 0:12:08.640 to say, what do I do if I think I'm 0:12:08.640 --> 0:12:11.280 in love with you, which I thought was funny, like 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:13.280 obviously I'm not actually in love with her, but she 0:12:13.400 --> 0:12:14.280 didn't answer it. 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:17.200 So I was like, this girlings I'm crazy, like crazy, 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:19.000 I bring up her ex girlfriend and then I told 0:12:19.000 --> 0:12:20.000 her I was in love with her, and then she 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:24.319 didn't answer, and so then I gave up because it 0:12:24.360 --> 0:12:26.480 was like she obviously doesn't like she's creeped out by me, 0:12:26.559 --> 0:12:28.320 like that was weird of me, like everything I did. 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:31.320 And then my manager butt dialed her. My manager knew 0:12:31.320 --> 0:12:33.640 her because my manager had managed her like years before, 0:12:34.800 --> 0:12:36.760 and she told me after because I was telling everyone 0:12:36.800 --> 0:12:38.400 like in my life, I was like, guys, I like 0:12:38.440 --> 0:12:40.360 a girl. Now it's this girl. And then my manager 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:41.880 was like, oh my god, I used to manage Shannon, 0:12:41.960 --> 0:12:43.640 and I was like, oh my god, you're so lucky. 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:45.360 Tell her I'm in love with her. She's like, I'm 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:47.559 never going to see her again. But she butt dialed 0:12:47.600 --> 0:12:50.520 her like a week later, like my manager randomly butt 0:12:50.559 --> 0:12:55.640 dialed Shannon, which is crazy, like I feel like it's 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:57.920 the universe helping me out. But she was like, oh 0:12:57.960 --> 0:13:00.800 my god, I was trying to call my dad can 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:04.280 but do you know Becka more Chan was like, yeah, 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:07.720 I met that girl at the shoe and she was like, well, 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:09.880 Becka is like in love with you, like she keeps 0:13:09.920 --> 0:13:13.040 talking about you. And she was like what like she 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:15.120 swore to god, she did not see my DM like 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:16.960 she swears, So I don't know if I believe her 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:19.440 in the question box thing, Yeah, she see it. So 0:13:19.480 --> 0:13:22.560 then she DMed me, well, was she following you? Yeah? 0:13:22.600 --> 0:13:24.680 Because I followed. She was the only one I followed 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:26.080 from the shoe, so she should have known. 0:13:26.240 --> 0:13:29.600 Because the thing is, when when I like people that 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:32.199 I follow like show up, it shows about the top. 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:33.959 So I don't really know if I believe her. I 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:36.599 feel I know, I feel like she was just like 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:38.800 trying to make me feel better. So but then she 0:13:38.880 --> 0:13:41.440 DMed me and then I got scared. I was like, okay, 0:13:41.600 --> 0:13:44.400 now it feels like too serious. So I didn't answer 0:13:45.080 --> 0:13:46.800 for a week and then I finally answered her. 0:13:46.840 --> 0:13:47.880 What did she DM you? 0:13:48.200 --> 0:13:49.920 She just replied to like one of my stories. It 0:13:49.960 --> 0:13:53.079 was like you have like just like joking about something 0:13:53.120 --> 0:13:56.120 I posted. But I was like I don't know now, 0:13:56.280 --> 0:13:58.760 like I don't know if I want to come talk 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:00.880 to a girl because I felt like I finally got her, 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:01.760 you know, and I was like. 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:04.199 Yeah, well, I was gonna ask if you if that's 0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:06.520 how you dated guys, like if if it was like 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:08.880 if you got there like you liked the chase, and 0:14:08.920 --> 0:14:10.720 then as soon as you got their attention where you 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:12.880 kind of like okay. 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:17.320 Yeah, I think I'm kind of like avoidant, like I 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:20.320 got interesting. Yeah, very avoidant. I love I mean just 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:23.920 getting into my like mental self. I don't know, but 0:14:24.080 --> 0:14:28.040 like I think, yeah, once I have someone, but then 0:14:28.200 --> 0:14:31.240 like she's so sweet that it like won me over, 0:14:31.280 --> 0:14:34.119 and I'm like, now I feel more secure in our relationship. 0:14:34.120 --> 0:14:36.080 But like, definitely in the beginning, I was like kind 0:14:36.120 --> 0:14:38.080 of playing a little bit, like I was like, I 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:39.480 don't know if I really like her, so I'm just 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:41.360 gonna like talk to her for I would like say, 0:14:41.400 --> 0:14:43.320 I'm just gonna like reply to this one, and then 0:14:43.320 --> 0:14:45.120 she would say something funny and then I'd like, fine, 0:14:45.120 --> 0:14:47.800 I'll reply to one more. And then she obviously won 0:14:47.840 --> 0:14:50.320 me over and I love her now. So yeah, I 0:14:50.320 --> 0:14:52.960 think because I don't think I could like fathom the 0:14:52.960 --> 0:14:55.600 fact that I actually had romantic feel like I really 0:14:55.640 --> 0:14:57.960 liked a girl and I wasn't just like being fun, 0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:00.360 Like I don't know what I thought in the beginning. 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:22.160 Did you ever have any Cause when I look back, 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:25.280 I never had romantic feelings like I had. 0:15:25.080 --> 0:15:27.160 For Haley before. 0:15:27.880 --> 0:15:30.160 But I look back on certain things and I'm like, oh, 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:31.960 maybe that was a crush on a girl, or like 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:35.920 maybe that was like a crush, but I just I I. 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:40.640 What's the word I'm looking for? Like excuse it? Almost 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:43.440 as like, oh, I just have like a girl crush, 0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:46.120 but not if that makes sense. 0:15:46.160 --> 0:15:48.400 Do you have any of those? Or was oh, okay, 0:15:48.440 --> 0:15:51.720 you do well? Shannon was definitely the first one that 0:15:51.760 --> 0:15:54.200 I was like, Okay, I want to be like physical too. 0:15:54.640 --> 0:15:55.560 Yes, but I. 0:15:55.440 --> 0:15:59.080 Definitely had like codependent friendship where like we were like 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:01.080 I would get we would get mad at each other 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:03.800 if we had a boyfriend, like we hated each other's 0:16:03.800 --> 0:16:06.800 boyfriends and we had to hang out. Like I remember 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:09.560 like crying one time on Valentine's Day because of my 0:16:09.560 --> 0:16:11.560 best friend Kenzie, like she wanted to hang out with 0:16:11.560 --> 0:16:15.080 her boyfriend and not me, And I'm like, that's not straight. 0:16:15.120 --> 0:16:23.320 I think that's not normal. But but also but also 0:16:23.480 --> 0:16:25.400 like I think it's hard for me to even like 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:27.960 admit that right now, because I'm like, I don't want 0:16:28.000 --> 0:16:32.680 anyone in my life, like previously, to think that I 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:34.840 don't want any of my friends to think that I 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:36.240 was like in love with them, you know, because I 0:16:36.280 --> 0:16:39.680 don't think I was. I wasn't attracted to like really 0:16:39.720 --> 0:16:42.920 feminine girls, but like Shannon is the type of girl 0:16:42.920 --> 0:16:45.160 that I would have gone for if I had met 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:47.560 one like her sooner because I lived in Ohio in 0:16:47.640 --> 0:16:50.640 Nashville my whole life, so I wasn't around a lot 0:16:50.640 --> 0:16:53.440 of lesbians or lesbians that were out. 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:54.760 But yeah, I know. 0:16:54.800 --> 0:17:00.400 And I think Shannon that's why Shannon became so loved 0:17:00.520 --> 0:17:03.320 in the community is because I think girls saw her 0:17:03.440 --> 0:17:05.440 and all of a sudden, like I both my younger 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:08.040 sisters are gay, and they were both like Shannon was 0:17:08.080 --> 0:17:11.840 such a like made me think, oh I could be 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:14.760 gay and I could like someone that isn't you know, 0:17:15.880 --> 0:17:18.760 like if I think they saw themselves in her and 0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:20.040 they were like, oh, that could be me, And I 0:17:20.040 --> 0:17:22.359 think she had that a lot of people had that 0:17:22.440 --> 0:17:25.560 experience because of Shannon. And I think that it's so 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:28.639 funny that you went, like to that video shoot, which 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:30.720 was predominantly. 0:17:32.680 --> 0:17:34.680 Yeah, I like, you only know this girl. 0:17:34.960 --> 0:17:38.119 I had no idea. Well, I because my tagline on 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:40.600 TikTok was like for the girls, not the guys. So 0:17:40.840 --> 0:17:43.080 they asked me to be in it just because just 0:17:43.240 --> 0:17:45.359 like say that tagline and be like for the girls, 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:49.280 not the guys. And I didn't realize that I was 0:17:49.320 --> 0:17:52.440 the only like straight one. Yeah, I thought I was straight. 0:17:52.960 --> 0:17:55.159 So I think all those girls kind of helped me 0:17:55.200 --> 0:17:57.399 too throughout the day because they were like, if you 0:17:57.520 --> 0:17:59.439 like Shannon, because all day I was like, how do 0:17:59.440 --> 0:18:01.639 I get Shannon like me? Guys And they're like, you 0:18:01.720 --> 0:18:04.399 know you're by right, like you're definitely bisexual, and I 0:18:04.400 --> 0:18:06.119 was like, no, no, no, I'm not. You guys are 0:18:06.280 --> 0:18:09.200 I'm not? Because I got like it was just fun 0:18:09.240 --> 0:18:11.120 like I thought I was joking, Yeah, but I wasn't 0:18:11.200 --> 0:18:14.520 joking now looking at but yeah, she but Shannon does 0:18:14.560 --> 0:18:16.520 have that effect on people, like I feel like you 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:18.920 can see yourself in Shannon because she's so girl next 0:18:18.960 --> 0:18:22.399 door and she like she's not what you think of 0:18:22.480 --> 0:18:26.040 when you think of like a stereotypical like I don't know, 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:29.520 like definitely is going on stereotyps, but like they're you 0:18:29.640 --> 0:18:31.119 just I don't know. I think there needs me more 0:18:31.160 --> 0:18:34.840 representation because she looks so like she could be anyone 0:18:34.880 --> 0:18:37.080 like your sister, like your fat I don't know. She 0:18:37.280 --> 0:18:39.480 looks like, I guess a normal girl and not so 0:18:39.600 --> 0:18:41.560 Lesbians aren't normal, you know what I mean. 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:46.400 There's a stereotype, there's a stereotyper, and I think there's 0:18:46.720 --> 0:18:50.360 people it's like based on how you present. And sometimes 0:18:50.359 --> 0:18:53.240 if you saw something your whole life that represented what 0:18:53.280 --> 0:18:55.920 a lesbian is, you're like, oh, I'm not necessarily tracked 0:18:55.920 --> 0:18:57.879 to that. And then you see someone like Shannon who's 0:18:58.080 --> 0:19:02.720 kind of rides that line of femuline femalin, feminine and. 0:19:02.640 --> 0:19:11.000 Masculine, kind of good femuline femulin, and it kind of 0:19:11.040 --> 0:19:14.640 makes you go like, Okay, I get I could be there. 0:19:14.840 --> 0:19:16.280 I think I am into girls. 0:19:16.680 --> 0:19:21.399 Yeah, it was hard though, being like am I just 0:19:21.680 --> 0:19:23.960 do I actually like her? Or do I just like 0:19:24.000 --> 0:19:25.920 her as a friend. It's like that thing again where 0:19:25.920 --> 0:19:28.679 I'm like, am I obsessed with Kenzie the girl that 0:19:28.800 --> 0:19:31.440 I was best friends with? Or do I like like her? 0:19:31.480 --> 0:19:34.320 Like I don't know. But then I kind of just 0:19:34.359 --> 0:19:36.000 had to like be like, well, do I want to 0:19:36.080 --> 0:19:38.120 keep do I want to make out with her, Yes, 0:19:38.160 --> 0:19:39.640 obviously I want to make out with her. Then I 0:19:40.119 --> 0:19:41.760 like her, you know. Yeah, it was just hard to 0:19:41.880 --> 0:19:44.160 come to terms with that. When I grew up also 0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:46.199 was just scared of like what people. I kept it 0:19:46.240 --> 0:19:48.560 a secret even from my family for like six months. 0:19:48.720 --> 0:19:52.800 Oh wow, six months? What about your friends who knew 0:19:52.840 --> 0:19:53.359 about it? 0:19:53.560 --> 0:19:56.359 Only my LA friends knew because I obviously was bringing 0:19:56.400 --> 0:19:58.960 her around and like telling them. I mean, I broke 0:19:59.000 --> 0:20:01.320 the news in all my groups with my friends being like, guys, 0:20:01.359 --> 0:20:03.440 I like a girl like that day, and I because 0:20:03.440 --> 0:20:05.160 I was just so embarrassed about the story that had 0:20:05.200 --> 0:20:07.800 just had, like the Fletcher thing, So I obviously texted 0:20:07.800 --> 0:20:09.560 all of them because I needed their like I wanted 0:20:09.560 --> 0:20:13.760 them to make me feel better. And I never like 0:20:13.840 --> 0:20:16.359 came out to like my friends really like I just 0:20:16.440 --> 0:20:17.960 kind of was like, guys, I like this girl and 0:20:18.000 --> 0:20:20.160 she's so hot. And then all my friends were, even 0:20:20.160 --> 0:20:22.040 my O high friends are all like ha ha, Becca, 0:20:22.160 --> 0:20:25.239 you need to like redeem your like no one, they 0:20:25.240 --> 0:20:27.480 weren't taking me seriously in the beginning because it was 0:20:27.520 --> 0:20:29.959 like a joke kind of and then as time went on, 0:20:30.160 --> 0:20:32.720 it was just kind of like a slow. They were like, okay, yeah, 0:20:33.000 --> 0:20:36.040 Becca likes this girl. Once we me and Shannon started dating, 0:20:36.520 --> 0:20:39.159 they were very easy to come out to my family. 0:20:39.280 --> 0:20:40.960 I kind of did have to do like the sit down, 0:20:41.080 --> 0:20:43.879 and I like surprised them. They thought I was like 0:20:44.040 --> 0:20:45.959 pregnant or something because I was crying when I told them. 0:20:46.000 --> 0:20:48.040 I was like, oh, I could tell you something. And 0:20:48.119 --> 0:20:51.160 it was a little bit more dramatic than my friends. 0:20:51.640 --> 0:20:53.640 But yeah, it took me a long time. Even though 0:20:54.520 --> 0:20:57.600 I thought that like coming out would be like so 0:20:57.760 --> 0:21:00.359 lighthearted now like on the internet, I mean, that was 0:21:00.400 --> 0:21:02.560 a different story. But I thought that it would be 0:21:02.600 --> 0:21:05.280 really lighthearted and like everyone would be like who cares, 0:21:05.280 --> 0:21:07.680 it's twenty twenty four. But then I did it, and 0:21:07.800 --> 0:21:10.040 like it's a lot more permanent than I thought, Like 0:21:10.080 --> 0:21:12.240 I think, what is that? What do you mean permanent? 0:21:12.400 --> 0:21:16.880 Like it feels like I'm just scared that everyone will 0:21:16.920 --> 0:21:19.639 think that I went crazy and like I'm wearing a 0:21:19.640 --> 0:21:22.280 scarlet letter. Yeah that's how I feel, But I don't know. 0:21:22.320 --> 0:21:24.000 I had to like, oh that, like it's just been 0:21:24.119 --> 0:21:27.120 like a crazy week or two weeks of people being 0:21:27.160 --> 0:21:30.760 like sometimes I'm just getting like weird dms that are 0:21:30.800 --> 0:21:34.560 like I don't know that are like Bible stuff. Oh yeah, 0:21:34.680 --> 0:21:35.080 I don't know. 0:21:35.160 --> 0:21:37.160 Yeah, yeah, I get a lot of those two. 0:21:37.480 --> 0:21:40.120 Yeah. Wait, what was it like when you came out? 0:21:40.560 --> 0:21:40.840 Was it? 0:21:41.560 --> 0:21:45.000 Well? I think we work together for four years, so 0:21:45.080 --> 0:21:47.680 I had a lot of time to like really prepare 0:21:47.720 --> 0:21:48.919 and process, you know what. 0:21:49.160 --> 0:21:51.239 Yeah, that's what to expect. 0:21:50.800 --> 0:21:53.879 In terms of the response from like public. But all 0:21:53.960 --> 0:21:56.840 my friends knew basically the day after I kissed her. 0:21:57.080 --> 0:21:58.480 Yeah, they all, I told them all. 0:21:58.640 --> 0:21:58.880 Yeah. 0:21:58.920 --> 0:22:01.080 I was just like, my sisters lived with me, which 0:22:01.119 --> 0:22:03.200 that was nice because I had I knew I had 0:22:03.200 --> 0:22:05.960 their support. But I come from a very like Southern 0:22:06.040 --> 0:22:07.760 Christian background, so. 0:22:09.400 --> 0:22:11.879 The family part was really hard and challenging. 0:22:12.080 --> 0:22:15.399 And then I was just like not ready to have 0:22:15.440 --> 0:22:18.560 it be public, and I wasn't prepared to deal with 0:22:19.320 --> 0:22:21.879 getting d MS about the Bible and what you know. 0:22:21.960 --> 0:22:24.680 I just like wasn't ready for that. And so when 0:22:24.720 --> 0:22:27.040 we came out, I was totally prepared. 0:22:27.680 --> 0:22:28.520 So I was. 0:22:28.600 --> 0:22:31.080 Ready for anything and everything. And I was also I 0:22:31.119 --> 0:22:34.159 knew I had my support system. Everyone knew, and I 0:22:34.200 --> 0:22:36.040 was just kind of ready to not have to because 0:22:36.080 --> 0:22:38.840 we talked, we talked about me being in a relationship 0:22:38.880 --> 0:22:40.919 on the podcast, but we never said pronouns and it 0:22:41.000 --> 0:22:41.760 was so hard. 0:22:41.880 --> 0:22:45.680 So four years were like, and what are you doing 0:22:45.720 --> 0:22:50.320 this weekend? Are you in said person? Going to dinner? 0:22:51.119 --> 0:22:51.560 Yeah? 0:22:51.600 --> 0:22:52.960 Why did people kind of know? 0:22:53.359 --> 0:22:53.720 Or was it? 0:22:53.840 --> 0:22:59.480 Yeah? People knew and they were so wonderful because everyone 0:22:59.520 --> 0:23:00.600 let me do it my own time. 0:23:00.640 --> 0:23:00.840 You know. 0:23:00.920 --> 0:23:03.480 There was and then if we if we Haley and 0:23:03.480 --> 0:23:05.240 I were out and I met someone like who listened 0:23:05.280 --> 0:23:06.880 to the podcast, I would inter I'd be like, this 0:23:06.920 --> 0:23:09.119 is my girlfriend Haley. I never hit her in that 0:23:09.200 --> 0:23:13.160 way because I never wanted it to be I never 0:23:13.200 --> 0:23:15.359 wanted her to feel hidden. It was just private. I 0:23:15.400 --> 0:23:19.199 wasn't ready, so it was I don't I get what 0:23:19.240 --> 0:23:21.199 you're saying. But I didn't do it as fast as 0:23:21.240 --> 0:23:22.760 you did, so I had a lot more time to 0:23:22.840 --> 0:23:26.359 kind of prep myself. And I think that I know 0:23:26.400 --> 0:23:28.280 what you're talking about the permanence of it. And then 0:23:28.280 --> 0:23:29.879 people would be like, I didn't know you were a lesbian, 0:23:29.920 --> 0:23:32.240 and I'm like, well, I don't really identify as a lesbian. 0:23:31.960 --> 0:23:33.919 But that's what I meant when I said the permanent thing. 0:23:33.960 --> 0:23:36.520 I'm like, I don't want people to like I still 0:23:36.640 --> 0:23:38.959 had relationships with guys in the past, and I think 0:23:39.359 --> 0:23:41.359 I don't want like people to think that, like I 0:23:41.400 --> 0:23:44.000 never liked any guy that right, right, Like I'm definitely 0:23:44.040 --> 0:23:46.040 by which right? Like do you feel like now? 0:23:46.080 --> 0:23:48.800 Like people say like, oh, you're bisexual, and then but 0:23:48.840 --> 0:23:52.720 you're like, well maybe I'm maybe I'm fully lesbian, maybe 0:23:52.760 --> 0:23:54.040 I'm st like you just don't know. 0:23:54.480 --> 0:23:57.919 I know, I don't even think what when people like 0:23:58.000 --> 0:24:00.119 I don't even think I fit into like bisex, so 0:24:00.160 --> 0:24:01.800 I just feel like I just like a girl, Like 0:24:01.840 --> 0:24:04.359 I feel like, I mean, obviously I am technically bisexual, 0:24:04.400 --> 0:24:06.639 but like that makes it feel like half and half, 0:24:06.760 --> 0:24:09.840 Like I don't know, I feel like going back and forth, 0:24:10.000 --> 0:24:12.240 you know where I'm like, I don't know what my 0:24:12.280 --> 0:24:14.239 sexuality is like and why I do I have to 0:24:14.400 --> 0:24:14.800 have you know. 0:24:15.160 --> 0:24:15.840 You really don't. 0:24:15.880 --> 0:24:18.440 And I think for some people the label so important 0:24:18.520 --> 0:24:20.640 because they live with it for so long that being 0:24:20.720 --> 0:24:22.840 able to say, like I'm a lesbian or I'm bisexual 0:24:22.920 --> 0:24:25.920 feels like freeing. And I think I felt the same 0:24:25.920 --> 0:24:27.480 way as you, as like I don't like being put 0:24:27.480 --> 0:24:29.439 in a box. I don't want to have to label 0:24:29.480 --> 0:24:32.359 myself or give an answer to this. But because what 0:24:32.440 --> 0:24:34.120 I was like in my mind, I'm like, I fell 0:24:34.160 --> 0:24:35.960 in love with Haley, and that's what I know that 0:24:36.119 --> 0:24:38.760 you know, I know, I know that I'm attracted to men, 0:24:38.880 --> 0:24:41.760 But like, will I want to date a man again 0:24:42.160 --> 0:24:43.639 if Haley and I don't work out, I don't know. 0:24:43.720 --> 0:24:47.200 But that's not even in my focus right now because 0:24:47.240 --> 0:24:49.000 I fell in love with Haley and that's who I'm with. 0:24:49.560 --> 0:24:52.480 So I I totally wit this whole. 0:24:52.200 --> 0:24:54.159 Thing that you're going through. And now I kind of 0:24:54.200 --> 0:24:56.960 just I don't care, like say whatever you want. I'm 0:24:57.119 --> 0:24:59.880 in love with this person and that's what it is. Yeah. 0:25:00.080 --> 0:25:02.840 People keep asking me, so when you guys break up, 0:25:02.880 --> 0:25:05.000 they'll say, like, when you guys break up, you're going 0:25:05.040 --> 0:25:07.359 to go back to men, And I'm like what, And 0:25:07.400 --> 0:25:10.520 we're dating and currently we are dating like we love 0:25:10.560 --> 0:25:13.119 each other. Yeah, I'm not thinking about like who I'm 0:25:13.160 --> 0:25:15.600 going to date next, right, I don't know, Like and 0:25:15.640 --> 0:25:17.600 she even asked me that too, She's like, are you 0:25:17.600 --> 0:25:20.280 going to date girls like forever now? And I was like, wait, what, 0:25:20.359 --> 0:25:21.359 we're literally dating? 0:25:21.400 --> 0:25:21.640 Shit? 0:25:22.520 --> 0:25:24.119 Why I hope? 0:25:25.520 --> 0:25:25.760 I know. 0:25:25.840 --> 0:25:31.239 It's it's a It's interesting because I think when you like, 0:25:31.280 --> 0:25:34.400 if someone is presumed and you yourself, presume that you're 0:25:34.400 --> 0:25:37.639 straight forever, and then you fall in love with someone 0:25:37.760 --> 0:25:40.000 and it's different than what people expected from you. They 0:25:40.040 --> 0:25:42.440 like need an answer about that, and you don't owe 0:25:42.440 --> 0:25:45.080 them that, you know, And I think that you being 0:25:45.119 --> 0:25:48.840 able to fall in love with a girl and process it, 0:25:48.920 --> 0:25:51.840 and also it's still pretty new for you and like 0:25:51.920 --> 0:25:53.439 to be able to process it and you're kind of 0:25:53.480 --> 0:25:54.720 doing it in real time. 0:25:54.520 --> 0:25:56.760 With people, it's going to be really helpful for a 0:25:56.800 --> 0:25:57.320 lot of people. 0:25:57.359 --> 0:25:59.040 And I also think that it's hard and to like 0:25:59.080 --> 0:26:01.200 give yourself grace because I don't think it's I don't 0:26:01.240 --> 0:26:03.479 think it's a I know, it's easy to be like 0:26:04.119 --> 0:26:06.359 it's twenty twenty four, it's not a big deal anymore. 0:26:06.480 --> 0:26:10.000 Everyone's you know, people should be comfortable, and they should. 0:26:10.160 --> 0:26:12.160 But I think as a personal thing, it is such 0:26:12.160 --> 0:26:13.639 a big deal, and it's such a big deal that 0:26:13.720 --> 0:26:14.679 you are public with it. 0:26:14.720 --> 0:26:16.720 So I hope you feel really proud of yourself. 0:26:16.359 --> 0:26:18.160 Because it's so see I do. 0:26:18.480 --> 0:26:20.480 I think that it's a big deal and you did 0:26:20.480 --> 0:26:22.280 it way faster than I did. 0:26:22.600 --> 0:26:25.040 But you really were like one of the people that 0:26:25.080 --> 0:26:27.280 paved the way for me. Like I thought, like, oh 0:26:27.359 --> 0:26:29.800 my god, I'm not kidding you were. I loved watching 0:26:29.800 --> 0:26:33.080 your story. Obviously, I watched both of your seasons as 0:26:33.080 --> 0:26:37.160 the Bachelor. I loved it, and then watching like I 0:26:37.240 --> 0:26:38.600 kind of like saw at first of all, you have 0:26:38.680 --> 0:26:41.040 the same name, but like I did like see myself 0:26:41.080 --> 0:26:45.600 and you, and especially coming from I mean, my family 0:26:45.640 --> 0:26:48.399 isn't conservative, but like I came from Ohio and then 0:26:48.440 --> 0:26:52.399 I lived in Nashville, So yeah, I think that like 0:26:53.320 --> 0:26:56.800 if I had more representation like you, Like I was 0:26:56.840 --> 0:26:58.480 really excited when I saw you come out, and I 0:26:58.480 --> 0:27:00.560 don't think I knew why. Maybe I should have known why, 0:27:00.680 --> 0:27:03.639 Like maybe I knew deep down like I could be 0:27:03.680 --> 0:27:06.520 attracted to girls. But I do think that the more 0:27:06.560 --> 0:27:10.600 people that do just like fall in love with the 0:27:10.640 --> 0:27:13.080 same sex and like just tell everyone and they didn't 0:27:13.080 --> 0:27:16.320 expect it, but it's whatever. I think that will help 0:27:16.320 --> 0:27:17.960 a lot more people, because I think the world is 0:27:18.000 --> 0:27:20.240 just more fun if you don't like put yourself in 0:27:20.240 --> 0:27:22.480 a box of like, oh I'm straight, I can only 0:27:22.560 --> 0:27:25.320 date this gender, you know, Like I feel like what 0:27:25.359 --> 0:27:26.680 if you just like what such? 0:27:26.720 --> 0:27:29.119 Like it's so it's so crazy to me that you 0:27:29.160 --> 0:27:31.960 get asked these questions and it's like if somebody dm 0:27:32.040 --> 0:27:34.160 me and was like if you and Robbie don't work out, 0:27:34.280 --> 0:27:37.080 like who are you gonna date next? 0:27:35.560 --> 0:27:40.439 Normal? Like go kick rocks? Like what are you talking about? 0:27:40.640 --> 0:27:43.719 Like straight people don't have to do that, yea, stuff 0:27:43.720 --> 0:27:44.160 like that. 0:27:44.480 --> 0:27:46.480 I don't know, and there's so much pressure on like 0:27:47.359 --> 0:27:48.520 oh my god, Like I'm. 0:27:48.400 --> 0:27:51.240 Like why, Like I like they like asking you like 0:27:51.440 --> 0:27:52.480 are you gonna have kids? 0:27:52.720 --> 0:27:54.479 Like yeah, like how are you gonna have? 0:27:55.320 --> 0:27:55.919 Yeah? 0:27:55.960 --> 0:27:58.040 I'm like I'm literally twenty six. I don't know. I 0:27:58.040 --> 0:28:02.159 feel like I'm I'm seventeen. I have idea. All I 0:28:02.240 --> 0:28:03.679 know is I love her and who cares? 0:28:03.800 --> 0:28:04.360 Why is it? 0:28:04.400 --> 0:28:04.560 Like? 0:28:04.880 --> 0:28:07.439 Also, I do feel like a certain like not to 0:28:07.520 --> 0:28:10.720 call my family and some of my old old friends out, 0:28:10.760 --> 0:28:12.879 but like I do feel a little bit of coldness 0:28:12.880 --> 0:28:16.879 from like certain members of my family, and that is 0:28:16.960 --> 0:28:20.359 kind of that has been painful. But then when I 0:28:20.359 --> 0:28:23.439 think about it, like a bird's eye but also okay, 0:28:23.520 --> 0:28:25.879 I'm like backshocking, but I do kind of have to 0:28:25.880 --> 0:28:28.640 give them grace because it took me a long time 0:28:28.680 --> 0:28:30.679 to like forgive myself and be like okay, fine, I'm 0:28:30.680 --> 0:28:34.159 going to dat a girl. So that's been hard. You 0:28:34.200 --> 0:28:36.679 don't have to forget, Like it's not about them forgiving you. 0:28:36.760 --> 0:28:38.280 I feel like it's them. 0:28:38.400 --> 0:28:40.640 Yeah, you're right, I know, forgive, but it's not even 0:28:40.640 --> 0:28:43.040 it's like them, not no, it's like them whatever it is. 0:28:43.080 --> 0:28:45.440 I don't know what it is for them, but maybe 0:28:45.440 --> 0:28:48.640 it's something they've been taught or been told forever forever, 0:28:48.720 --> 0:28:52.280 so they're like processing and unlearning. And I think at 0:28:52.280 --> 0:28:53.680 the end of the day, it's like you do just 0:28:53.720 --> 0:28:55.320 have to give people like a little bit of time 0:28:55.360 --> 0:28:58.640 and grace because yeah, if they love you like that 0:28:58.720 --> 0:28:59.400 will come through. 0:28:59.480 --> 0:29:02.040 That will we shine through? Do you know what I mean? 0:29:02.560 --> 0:29:05.480 And as long as they're not like hopefully nobody is 0:29:05.520 --> 0:29:06.560 being negative or. 0:29:06.480 --> 0:29:10.440 No texting me like yeah, text or anything, but like, yeah, 0:29:10.560 --> 0:29:12.840 I do. I just I guess I just want everyone 0:29:13.080 --> 0:29:15.000 my message to be like I'm happy, like I want 0:29:15.080 --> 0:29:19.480 everything happy for me, And this could happen to you too, 0:29:21.080 --> 0:29:22.120 me like threatening. 0:29:26.080 --> 0:29:29.560 If you guys look really hot. 0:29:30.280 --> 0:29:31.840 Has your family met her? Yeah? 0:29:32.000 --> 0:29:32.160 No? 0:29:32.280 --> 0:29:36.640 Wait, why did I say they face timed her? But okay, yeah, 0:29:36.840 --> 0:29:39.280 my mom is like obsessed, like she's like, oh my god, 0:29:39.320 --> 0:29:43.200 am my sisters too. But I met her entire family 0:29:43.520 --> 0:29:45.400 and that was so fun. They were so sweet. 0:30:04.640 --> 0:30:06.040 So y'all meet at the video. 0:30:06.040 --> 0:30:09.200 Shoot y'all, Damn, whois the first thing out? 0:30:09.560 --> 0:30:13.080 She asked me on a date, okay, and that's when 0:30:13.080 --> 0:30:15.760 we went to drinks and I freakimmed a little bit 0:30:15.760 --> 0:30:18.040 too her. I like had two glasses of wine before. Yeah, 0:30:18.040 --> 0:30:18.440 you have to. 0:30:18.720 --> 0:30:21.520 I was so nervous I ever went to a date sober, 0:30:21.600 --> 0:30:24.480 I know, but imagine the first one with a girl like. 0:30:24.440 --> 0:30:27.560 I'm just terribot. I showed up though, and like she 0:30:27.680 --> 0:30:30.440 says that, I was like shaking, like shaking really hard, 0:30:30.480 --> 0:30:33.200 and I don't remember that. I'm like, why did that 0:30:33.480 --> 0:30:36.240 doesn't sound like no. She didn't tell me until like 0:30:36.320 --> 0:30:42.000 weeks later, thank god. But yeah, we sat down and 0:30:42.080 --> 0:30:43.960 I knew right away. I was like, I need to 0:30:43.960 --> 0:30:46.720 make you my girlfriend, Like I need you, Like she 0:30:46.760 --> 0:30:49.400 looked so cute and she was like so she's just 0:30:49.440 --> 0:30:52.760 like charming, like she was so friendly. And then after 0:30:52.800 --> 0:30:56.640 that that's pretty much like I think before was the 0:30:56.640 --> 0:30:59.440 harder part, like getting me to work up the courage. 0:30:59.480 --> 0:31:01.680 She'd be like, Okay, I'm actually going on this date 0:31:01.800 --> 0:31:03.960 and like I'm actually gonna take this seriously as a 0:31:04.000 --> 0:31:06.440 possibility for someone that I'm going to date, because when 0:31:06.440 --> 0:31:08.560 she asked me on a date, the avoidant thing came 0:31:08.640 --> 0:31:11.120 up again where I was like, I'm just gonna be 0:31:11.240 --> 0:31:12.800 kind of like avoid of this girl, Like I'm not 0:31:12.800 --> 0:31:15.360 going to text her ato like six pm every day. Why, 0:31:15.480 --> 0:31:18.280 I don't know. I think that was six pm. 0:31:18.560 --> 0:31:25.040 I don't like the morning spot that happens after six pm. 0:31:25.680 --> 0:31:31.240 Okay, Okay, maybe that I don't know. I just like 0:31:31.800 --> 0:31:34.200 remember like I would not text her. Yeah, I guess 0:31:34.240 --> 0:31:35.480 I thought that I was like. 0:31:38.280 --> 0:31:45.160 Eleven, that's dangerous territory, but six pm grabs at her 0:31:45.200 --> 0:31:47.200 early brit special at six pm. 0:31:47.960 --> 0:31:50.320 I think I thought that story would like land Alge. 0:31:50.960 --> 0:31:55.880 I thought you guys be like, wow, so bad. But 0:31:55.960 --> 0:31:58.200 it felt like I felt she was as a girl 0:31:58.320 --> 0:32:00.040 like and she would text me at night and and 0:32:00.080 --> 0:32:02.960 I wouldn't answer for a while six pm until six 0:32:03.280 --> 0:32:07.760 It was crazy. But yeah, but how long did that last? 0:32:07.800 --> 0:32:08.000 Though? 0:32:08.320 --> 0:32:10.120 That was like because I was in Ohio. It was 0:32:10.120 --> 0:32:13.959 like over Christmas? Okay, so because we met December third, okay, 0:32:14.040 --> 0:32:16.200 and then we went on our first date January seventh. 0:32:16.360 --> 0:32:19.440 Oh so so we talked a lot before you went out. Well, 0:32:19.560 --> 0:32:26.080 I remember like PM, Well, the first, she didn't talk 0:32:26.120 --> 0:32:27.880 to me for like a week after the shoot, and 0:32:27.920 --> 0:32:29.840 then I didn't talked to her for like a week, 0:32:29.880 --> 0:32:31.400 So it took like a couple of weeks in between 0:32:31.560 --> 0:32:34.120 because I stalked her old like YouTube videos. 0:32:34.320 --> 0:32:37.239 But like that's like a long time of like I 0:32:37.280 --> 0:32:38.800 feel like, you know, when you're talking to somebody on 0:32:38.800 --> 0:32:40.680 like a dating app, I always wanted to meet them 0:32:40.760 --> 0:32:42.560 right away because it's like there's only so much you 0:32:42.600 --> 0:32:45.479 can talk to someone before you like go on your 0:32:45.520 --> 0:32:46.000 first date. 0:32:46.360 --> 0:32:47.880 I know. But we had so much to talk about 0:32:47.880 --> 0:32:50.000 because like I was watching all of her YouTube videos. 0:32:50.120 --> 0:32:52.320 Most you would ask her questions, did she did you 0:32:52.360 --> 0:32:52.719 tell her? 0:32:53.680 --> 0:32:53.960 Well? 0:32:54.080 --> 0:32:57.320 I did. The day I finally replied to her DM, 0:32:57.800 --> 0:33:00.440 I just sent her screenshot of like one of her 0:33:00.480 --> 0:33:02.600 old YouTube videos, and I said, why am I watching 0:33:02.600 --> 0:33:04.400 this right now? Haha? But really I was just watching 0:33:04.440 --> 0:33:06.240 those to see if like I should answer her, like 0:33:06.280 --> 0:33:08.600 to see if I was like for real about liking her, 0:33:08.680 --> 0:33:10.280 Like I wanted to like do a deep dive. So 0:33:10.320 --> 0:33:12.440 I watch like all of her stuff, and then I 0:33:12.480 --> 0:33:14.480 pretended like that was the only one I watched obviously, 0:33:14.560 --> 0:33:20.960 but I watch every single one, and yeah, then we 0:33:21.600 --> 0:33:23.880 started we kept texting for a couple of weeks, but yeah, 0:33:23.960 --> 0:33:26.360 we were texting every day for like two weeks before 0:33:26.480 --> 0:33:28.560 finally we gone on this date. So we had a 0:33:28.560 --> 0:33:30.920 lot to talk about on our date, and then after 0:33:30.920 --> 0:33:33.840 that we spent like every day together like forever. Okay. 0:33:33.840 --> 0:33:36.400 So once Chill met, it was pretty much like it was. 0:33:36.560 --> 0:33:40.560 Like she was like trying to be like slow down, 0:33:40.760 --> 0:33:42.680 like no, not really like it was not like I 0:33:42.720 --> 0:33:44.400 was trying to like date or tomorrow, but she kept 0:33:44.440 --> 0:33:46.480 being like I can't have a girlfriend right now. I 0:33:46.480 --> 0:33:48.200 she got to have a relationship, and I was like, 0:33:48.240 --> 0:33:50.200 oh my god, it's totally fine. I don't even care. 0:33:50.680 --> 0:33:55.760 And then we did stop talking for twelve hours because 0:33:55.760 --> 0:33:58.760 we kept hating. Okay, we kept out, I'm not kidding. 0:33:58.800 --> 0:34:01.640 It was so short. She tried to like okay, so 0:34:01.680 --> 0:34:03.960 we were hanging out every day, and then I think 0:34:04.080 --> 0:34:06.080 she realized that things are kind of probably going to 0:34:06.120 --> 0:34:10.040 get serious. So on our like third date, she like 0:34:10.239 --> 0:34:12.120 was like I just want let you know, like I 0:34:12.160 --> 0:34:14.440 can't have a girlfriend, Like I like you a lot, 0:34:14.520 --> 0:34:17.239 but like we can't date, and I was like, oh 0:34:17.280 --> 0:34:19.279 my god. So then I cried and then I was like, 0:34:19.320 --> 0:34:21.000 well then I don't want to talk like I want 0:34:21.000 --> 0:34:24.359 to date you. Yeah, and she was like, good for you. 0:34:24.560 --> 0:34:27.720 I know I did stand my ground. Yeah, I said 0:34:27.920 --> 0:34:29.879 I want to date like I see a future with you. 0:34:30.360 --> 0:34:33.600 So if you don't see that, then I guess we 0:34:33.600 --> 0:34:36.480 can't be together. And then she said, what about in 0:34:36.480 --> 0:34:38.080 like six months, Like what if I go to therapy 0:34:38.320 --> 0:34:40.640 and like figure my life out? What about in six months? 0:34:40.640 --> 0:34:42.400 And I was like, I mean, I can't promise that 0:34:42.440 --> 0:34:45.040 I'm going to be single in six months, but yeah, 0:34:45.040 --> 0:34:46.880 I'm probably still gonna like you six months from now. 0:34:46.880 --> 0:34:49.680 I don't really know. And then she left. She was like, Okay, 0:34:49.880 --> 0:34:54.160 I respect you. I understand that you don't want anything casual, 0:34:54.239 --> 0:34:57.200 so let's not talk for a while. And I was 0:34:57.239 --> 0:34:59.840 like okay, And then like twelve hours later she texted me. 0:35:00.000 --> 0:35:02.160 She was like I miss you, and then I came 0:35:02.200 --> 0:35:04.239 over to her house and then that's when we like 0:35:04.239 --> 0:35:06.960 for real decided to like start talking talking. You know, 0:35:07.640 --> 0:35:08.560 So when. 0:35:08.360 --> 0:35:10.920 Did y'all become a like did you did y'all have 0:35:10.960 --> 0:35:12.399 like a will you be my girlfriend? Moment? 0:35:12.520 --> 0:35:12.759 Yeah? 0:35:12.880 --> 0:35:15.640 She asked me. In May. On May third, she was like, 0:35:16.760 --> 0:35:19.960 she took me to Joshua tree and we like had 0:35:19.960 --> 0:35:22.520 an airbnb and we were like walking around. But on 0:35:22.600 --> 0:35:24.759 the first night, she like made my favorite dinner for me, 0:35:25.120 --> 0:35:28.920 and then we were playing this card game and she 0:35:29.040 --> 0:35:31.040 played like all of a sudden, the song that we 0:35:31.080 --> 0:35:33.680 first like I think made Out Too came on on 0:35:33.719 --> 0:35:36.400 the radio or on the speaker, and I was like, 0:35:36.400 --> 0:35:38.279 oh my god, Shannon, this is a song. And then 0:35:38.400 --> 0:35:39.880 she was like, I have a present for you. And 0:35:39.880 --> 0:35:41.839 then she gave me a necklace and I said S 0:35:41.880 --> 0:35:44.880 and B and she was like, will you be my girlfriend? 0:35:44.960 --> 0:35:47.759 And I said, obviously, we're already dating, like we had 0:35:47.800 --> 0:35:48.640 been an exclusive. 0:35:49.640 --> 0:35:55.720 H that's a long time. R April month, Yeah, April 0:35:55.719 --> 0:36:01.080 to August. Where came where there was like my girlfriend. 0:36:00.840 --> 0:36:04.600 April to May to June, July four months. Yeah, it's 0:36:04.640 --> 0:36:05.279 way too long. 0:36:05.480 --> 0:36:06.560 But I didn't know that. 0:36:06.680 --> 0:36:07.000 I was. 0:36:07.280 --> 0:36:09.759 I was like, I'm new to this. 0:36:10.239 --> 0:36:12.000 If you were waiting for me to ask you to 0:36:12.040 --> 0:36:13.879 be your girlfriend, I've never done that before, So. 0:36:14.160 --> 0:36:16.320 Yeah, I wasn't gonna ask her. But I had heard 0:36:16.360 --> 0:36:21.320 that like WLW relationships. I wanted to say Lassie, but 0:36:21.320 --> 0:36:22.959 and then I was like, I don't know if everyone's lasting, 0:36:24.080 --> 0:36:26.759 they go move fast. So I know that she's gonna 0:36:26.760 --> 0:36:28.319 ask me right away, and I feel like if a 0:36:28.360 --> 0:36:30.360 guy were waiting four months to ask me to be 0:36:30.400 --> 0:36:32.960 his girlfriend, I would have complained. So I did start 0:36:33.120 --> 0:36:38.040 like being like, isn't like I made tiny jokes about it, 0:36:38.040 --> 0:36:40.200 but I wanted to be like chill. But then I 0:36:40.280 --> 0:36:42.239 like was telling my friends like, if she doesn't ask 0:36:42.239 --> 0:36:43.759 me this weekend, I'm going to bring it up, like 0:36:43.800 --> 0:36:45.920 for sure, I'm gonna be like, dude, I thought we 0:36:45.920 --> 0:36:47.919 were gonna be together. What are we doing right now? 0:36:48.520 --> 0:36:51.759 But she asked me what was the makeout song? 0:36:52.360 --> 0:36:55.799 It was hopeless romantic by Julia. It's like, it's a 0:36:55.840 --> 0:36:57.920 really good song. It's like, I don't know if you 0:36:57.960 --> 0:37:01.040 know not Julia prap, don't know. I've listened to it 0:37:01.080 --> 0:37:03.440 this morning. It's really good. You guys would listen to it. Okay, 0:37:03.520 --> 0:37:07.000 who kissed you first? She asked if she could kiss 0:37:07.040 --> 0:37:09.480 me when the. 0:37:09.560 --> 0:37:10.839 Night you all hung out for the first time. 0:37:11.040 --> 0:37:15.080 Oh yeah, we definitely made out, she said. I made 0:37:15.080 --> 0:37:17.840 out though, like a like a girl making out with 0:37:17.840 --> 0:37:19.759 a guy. So we kind of had to fix her 0:37:19.840 --> 0:37:20.839 kissing sounds of. 0:37:21.280 --> 0:37:24.120 What I just had this conversation because of love Island 0:37:24.239 --> 0:37:24.839 because I was like. 0:37:24.760 --> 0:37:27.320 Do you Watu Island? I'm trying to I'm on an episode. 0:37:27.440 --> 0:37:29.120 I'm really behind, but I'm watching kids. 0:37:29.239 --> 0:37:30.560 It's it's a hard watch for me. 0:37:30.600 --> 0:37:31.320 It was a hard watch. 0:37:32.000 --> 0:37:34.360 No, it's good, but the girl the way the girls 0:37:34.480 --> 0:37:37.239 kissed the guys was so jarring to me because it's 0:37:37.280 --> 0:37:38.279 so aggressive. 0:37:38.560 --> 0:37:40.560 Yeah, oh okay, I wasn't being agressive, she said I 0:37:40.600 --> 0:37:44.080 was being too like like submit, like letting her all 0:37:44.120 --> 0:37:46.000 the work. And I was like, oh oops, what am 0:37:46.040 --> 0:37:47.520 I supposed to work? Am I supposed to cook? 0:37:47.600 --> 0:37:47.920 In? Like? 0:37:48.000 --> 0:37:48.600 What did I do? 0:37:49.719 --> 0:37:52.120 I don't know? But then we figured it out, got 0:37:52.120 --> 0:37:54.480 that settled. The first kiss, I was like, yeah, I 0:37:54.680 --> 0:37:57.200 was a little bit. I wasn't used to. I've never 0:37:57.520 --> 0:38:00.080 I've only made out with a girl one time in 0:38:00.120 --> 0:38:03.840 the bathroom of in a bathroom stall. But it wasn't 0:38:03.920 --> 0:38:06.600 like I think we're being performative. 0:38:08.560 --> 0:38:09.240 Giving acting. 0:38:09.560 --> 0:38:11.520 Yeah, it was just it was weird. 0:38:11.880 --> 0:38:16.239 Did you feel I'm curious from okay, what was the 0:38:16.239 --> 0:38:17.759 longest relationship you had with a guy? 0:38:18.360 --> 0:38:21.320 It was not very long. I was like, the longest 0:38:21.320 --> 0:38:23.960 one I dated was less than a year. It was 0:38:24.000 --> 0:38:28.080 like nine months. But we were breaking up every other week, 0:38:28.160 --> 0:38:29.280 like terrible, terrible. 0:38:29.400 --> 0:38:31.759 So is this your most like consistent oh relationship? 0:38:31.800 --> 0:38:34.080 Oh my god. Yeah, And we are like way more 0:38:34.080 --> 0:38:35.840 connected than I've ever been with a guy, Like I 0:38:35.840 --> 0:38:39.040 can tell her literally anything, like I'm not worried about 0:38:39.040 --> 0:38:41.640 like being cute all the time. Like I feel just 0:38:41.640 --> 0:38:45.839 so more myself and like comfortable and happy. So it's 0:38:45.880 --> 0:38:48.160 like maybe I'm like I don't know, I don't know 0:38:48.160 --> 0:38:49.920 if I could go back to dating men that's like 0:38:50.000 --> 0:38:51.920 the same type of men at least, because I was 0:38:51.960 --> 0:38:56.719 going for like athletic guys like just super I don't 0:38:56.760 --> 0:38:59.480 I think I was just trying to like get like 0:38:59.800 --> 0:39:02.920 I don't know, the guy that yeah, the guy that 0:39:03.000 --> 0:39:07.040 like everyone wanted and I just wanted to compete the challenge. Yeah, 0:39:07.160 --> 0:39:07.560 I don't know. 0:39:08.080 --> 0:39:11.560 Did you have IX with guys like really easily, Like 0:39:11.600 --> 0:39:14.480 would you get like what were some of the simple 0:39:14.560 --> 0:39:18.279 icks that that Okay, So my whole thing was I 0:39:18.320 --> 0:39:21.319 realized when I started dating Haley the things that she 0:39:22.400 --> 0:39:25.040 that would normally give me the ick, I don't even 0:39:25.120 --> 0:39:27.160 have a thing, Like I know she doesn't it me 0:39:27.280 --> 0:39:27.600 at all. 0:39:27.920 --> 0:39:30.319 There's nothing that Shannon could do that would like gave 0:39:30.360 --> 0:39:31.880 me the ick and not want to talk to her anymore. 0:39:32.080 --> 0:39:33.640 I want to first state with a guy and his 0:39:33.719 --> 0:39:36.440 car alarm went off and I couldn't talk to him anymore. 0:39:37.880 --> 0:39:40.400 I'm not kidding because he was just so awkward around 0:39:40.400 --> 0:39:43.680 the car alarm thing, like he was like embarrassed. That's 0:39:43.800 --> 0:39:44.400 so good. 0:39:45.719 --> 0:39:48.280 So he got embarrassed and that was Yes. 0:39:48.680 --> 0:39:51.120 It was like icky because he couldn't like recover from it. 0:39:51.719 --> 0:39:54.759 He couldn't be cool about it went up because he 0:39:54.760 --> 0:39:56.080 had to call his dad to figure out. 0:40:00.360 --> 0:40:01.480 What something else. 0:40:02.719 --> 0:40:05.240 This one guy like to watch South Park. I feel 0:40:05.280 --> 0:40:09.600 so bad, but I hate south Park. I couldn't This 0:40:09.719 --> 0:40:11.920 other guy, my boyfriend, the guy that I like kept 0:40:12.000 --> 0:40:15.239 breaking up with. He had these like as tech print 0:40:15.320 --> 0:40:18.120 like pillowcases, but like cheap as tech print, like from 0:40:18.160 --> 0:40:20.759 Amazon for like a dollar, And I'm so sorry. I 0:40:20.920 --> 0:40:24.000 literally posted on my Snapchat story, like on my private one, 0:40:24.040 --> 0:40:25.480 and I was like, I don't know how to end 0:40:25.480 --> 0:40:29.120 things like them. He's my literal boyfriend. It's just so bad. 0:40:29.200 --> 0:40:32.279 So if Shannon had like full ass tech decory, I 0:40:32.320 --> 0:40:32.880 love that. 0:40:32.920 --> 0:40:35.239 She wouldn't have, yeah, but I would be like, this 0:40:35.320 --> 0:40:39.560 is so hot. Shannon's like a girl though she doesn't 0:40:39.560 --> 0:40:42.440 do anything itchy, you know, I don't know. 0:40:43.080 --> 0:40:46.480 I love that before you fell in love with the girl, 0:40:46.680 --> 0:40:48.600 you were so for the girls. 0:40:48.800 --> 0:40:51.680 I know it's funny that that was my literal tagline, 0:40:51.800 --> 0:40:53.480 and now look at me. 0:40:53.480 --> 0:40:56.440 Now, I wonder, well, why was that your tagline? Because 0:40:56.440 --> 0:40:59.880 I would like list things that weren't for men, like 0:41:00.040 --> 0:41:03.160 silverware and like air. I should have known, though. 0:41:03.680 --> 0:41:05.840 What those were some of my favorite lists. 0:41:06.160 --> 0:41:08.239 Could you share with some of our listeners who maybe 0:41:08.239 --> 0:41:10.320 haven't seen the videos some things that are for the girls. 0:41:10.440 --> 0:41:17.120 It would be like lowercase letters, shelter, blanket shelter. How 0:41:17.200 --> 0:41:21.640 was shelter for the girls? Why do they need that? 0:41:21.719 --> 0:41:25.839 They're fun? And yeah they I think that I had 0:41:25.880 --> 0:41:28.480 like a bar like men should be like barbarians if 0:41:28.480 --> 0:41:31.600 they're going to be in society because I don't know, 0:41:31.680 --> 0:41:33.200 like they don't even need to know how to read. 0:41:33.360 --> 0:41:36.200 We're good, we don't need them. I should have known 0:41:36.239 --> 0:41:41.000 them though that because also like I don't actually know 0:41:41.000 --> 0:41:42.160 where I was going with that thought. 0:41:42.760 --> 0:41:46.640 It was really confident, fascinated that you ended up into 0:41:47.280 --> 0:41:50.280 LGBTQ artists music videos. 0:41:50.400 --> 0:41:52.920 The first one was an accident. It was I was 0:41:52.920 --> 0:41:56.200 friends with Olivia O'Brien and her and Fletcher did like 0:41:56.200 --> 0:41:59.719 a collapse on together, and Olivia asked me like the 0:41:59.800 --> 0:42:02.400 night before because she just needed Fletcher needed like a 0:42:02.400 --> 0:42:04.440 girl to like sit on a bench with her and 0:42:04.520 --> 0:42:08.719 like predomin to kiss her, which is awkward, but we 0:42:08.760 --> 0:42:11.319 didn't actually kiss, Like I didn't. I don't know. That 0:42:11.360 --> 0:42:12.280 was my first time meeting. 0:42:13.560 --> 0:42:13.640 No. 0:42:13.719 --> 0:42:16.040 I met Olivia like the day before and it was 0:42:16.040 --> 0:42:18.080 just really last minute, wasn't planned, and I just showed up. 0:42:18.080 --> 0:42:19.320 I didn't know what I was going to be doing. 0:42:19.719 --> 0:42:21.839 All I knew was that I was Fletcher's like love 0:42:21.880 --> 0:42:24.719 and chirst and I just sat there. Yeah, it was 0:42:24.760 --> 0:42:26.440 really quick. It was like a second. 0:42:46.080 --> 0:42:49.480 You and Shandon were together when they did their podcast 0:42:49.520 --> 0:42:50.880 together when Fletcher was on. 0:42:51.760 --> 0:42:53.200 How was that for you? 0:42:54.000 --> 0:42:56.920 It wasn't. I know, everyone probably wants me to be 0:42:56.920 --> 0:42:58.799 like it was so hard and likes so much, Like 0:42:58.840 --> 0:43:01.439 I don't have that much tea about it because I 0:43:01.480 --> 0:43:04.120 felt I just felt so like secure in my relationship 0:43:04.120 --> 0:43:06.239 with Shannon, like I knew we were already exclusive at 0:43:06.239 --> 0:43:11.160 that point, and I think that like knowing kind of 0:43:12.000 --> 0:43:14.839 the people in real life, like I understand that it 0:43:14.880 --> 0:43:18.839 is their relationship is like representation for so many people, 0:43:18.840 --> 0:43:21.400 and it was like iconic. It's like an iconic relationship, 0:43:21.440 --> 0:43:25.240 and so I definitely want to respect that, like it 0:43:25.280 --> 0:43:27.799 should be in a museum. Like that's it, though, Like 0:43:28.120 --> 0:43:30.560 I think it's over, you know, Like I wasn't. I 0:43:30.600 --> 0:43:35.400 was just really secure with her because I I don't know, 0:43:35.480 --> 0:43:38.160 she made me feel so comfortable and like we hung 0:43:38.160 --> 0:43:40.520 out after, like me and Shannon hung out after that 0:43:40.640 --> 0:43:43.520 was like recorded, so it was fine. I don't know, 0:43:43.719 --> 0:43:45.520 I don't know, well, yeah, because. 0:43:45.320 --> 0:43:47.319 That's like so nice because I feel like that's like 0:43:48.440 --> 0:43:51.040 I feel like everybody, no matter how confident and secure 0:43:51.080 --> 0:43:53.920 you are, you have insecurities, Like everybody just has them. 0:43:53.920 --> 0:43:55.759 And I feel like you're what you're saying is like 0:43:55.840 --> 0:43:58.879 my relationship my girlfriend made has made me feel so 0:43:58.920 --> 0:44:01.920 secure that even for doing an interview with her ex girlfriend, 0:44:02.120 --> 0:44:09.080 that people lore I don't even know what they are, 0:44:09.680 --> 0:44:13.239 and that you can can just be like it was 0:44:13.280 --> 0:44:15.040 like she was doing her job, do you know what 0:44:15.040 --> 0:44:15.279 I mean? 0:44:15.320 --> 0:44:17.239 Like she was like working, they were working together, like 0:44:17.320 --> 0:44:19.040 both of them, Yeah, they were working. 0:44:19.200 --> 0:44:21.680 But just to have that just goes to show like 0:44:21.760 --> 0:44:23.200 how strong your relationship is. 0:44:23.640 --> 0:44:25.839 Feeling. I feel like she's like my best friend, and 0:44:26.200 --> 0:44:29.759 I don't think that she would do anything to like 0:44:30.280 --> 0:44:33.319 ever make me feel unomfortable, like even I mean when 0:44:33.320 --> 0:44:35.480 I watched it, I was like, I do feel like 0:44:35.560 --> 0:44:40.239 they kind of just watched it. Oh yeah, would you 0:44:40.360 --> 0:44:42.960 not watch it? No, I don't think I could. Would 0:44:43.040 --> 0:44:43.399 I would? 0:44:43.719 --> 0:44:45.920 Yeah, for sure, you think I would. 0:44:45.960 --> 0:44:48.080 You'd watch it over and over again and analyze every 0:44:48.080 --> 0:44:50.960 single Seaylor, Yes, Okay. 0:44:51.080 --> 0:44:53.480 Well, I think that like I knew that it was 0:44:53.520 --> 0:44:55.839 just like kind of a job that they were doing, 0:44:55.880 --> 0:44:59.120 like you said, like I didn't think. I just I 0:44:59.200 --> 0:45:02.319 just know Shannon and life and I know Carrie, So 0:45:02.360 --> 0:45:05.200 it's like I think, I just I just know than 0:45:05.560 --> 0:45:08.879 like one hundred percent, like I know that it's there. 0:45:08.920 --> 0:45:11.239 You know. I don't want to like ruin anyone's day though, 0:45:11.239 --> 0:45:13.480 because I understand I know that feeling like when you 0:45:13.520 --> 0:45:16.640 want two people to get back together so bad, or 0:45:16.680 --> 0:45:19.080 like you ship people in your head so bad. So 0:45:19.160 --> 0:45:21.759 I I think I want to respect that and like 0:45:21.840 --> 0:45:25.680 let people have their fun, Like that's very kind. 0:45:25.440 --> 0:45:27.480 Of very generous, very generous giver. 0:45:27.640 --> 0:45:30.560 Becca. Well, I don't know, I feel like it's like no. 0:45:30.640 --> 0:45:34.040 I'd favor I'd be like she's mine now lore us 0:45:35.320 --> 0:45:37.160 shook us ship us. 0:45:38.280 --> 0:45:41.080 I just don't care because it's not real. It's like Twitter. 0:45:41.560 --> 0:45:43.799 So but I mean it was annoying honestly. I will 0:45:43.800 --> 0:45:46.279 say though, the day that it did come out, I 0:45:46.360 --> 0:45:48.839 was getting like a lot of like hate comments, being 0:45:48.880 --> 0:45:52.920 like I want her to be with Carrie. That was 0:45:52.960 --> 0:45:55.600 the only annoying part because I was like, oh my god, 0:45:55.600 --> 0:45:57.120 why don't you guys like me? Like why do you 0:45:57.200 --> 0:45:59.880 like her better? Why does everyone like want? I don't know, 0:46:00.320 --> 0:46:02.239 it was more just my ego. I was like, when 0:46:02.280 --> 0:46:04.600 you guys to like me too, I'm not that bad. 0:46:04.960 --> 0:46:07.799 But yeah, that part sucked for like two hours, and 0:46:07.840 --> 0:46:14.640 then I beca more energy Yeah you don't, Yeah I do. 0:46:15.719 --> 0:46:17.440 But I was just with her the entire time, Like 0:46:17.640 --> 0:46:18.320 it's hard. 0:46:18.080 --> 0:46:20.600 To be like, I know what you say makes sense, yeah, 0:46:20.640 --> 0:46:24.600 but it's like I just feel in real life it's like, well, you. 0:46:24.640 --> 0:46:26.440 Know what, I honestly think if it were a man, 0:46:26.760 --> 0:46:29.040 there's no way, Like I would not know why. 0:46:29.120 --> 0:46:33.120 But so that's so interesting. Why what's the difference, Like, because. 0:46:33.200 --> 0:46:35.400 I feel like we're best friend, We're literally like I 0:46:35.560 --> 0:46:37.319 just feel so close to her, like she wouldn't do 0:46:37.360 --> 0:46:40.399 anything to hurt me, you know. Yeah, but you're saying 0:46:40.440 --> 0:46:42.560 if it was a guy doing an interview with I 0:46:42.560 --> 0:46:45.480 would feel different. It's not interesting, Yeah. 0:46:45.760 --> 0:46:48.759 Like scrutinizing body language. 0:46:49.040 --> 0:46:50.720 What me, No, I'm saying. 0:46:52.280 --> 0:46:54.640 Sitting, I'm saying, if there was a guy, you'd be 0:46:54.680 --> 0:46:56.120 like scrutinizing. 0:46:56.719 --> 0:46:59.440 Watching it over and over, somo being like why did 0:46:59.480 --> 0:47:01.040 you do that? 0:47:00.320 --> 0:47:00.520 Yeah? 0:47:01.400 --> 0:47:04.040 So interesting. Well, she also like, I've never dated someone 0:47:04.040 --> 0:47:08.040 in the public eye, so I understand, like their life 0:47:08.120 --> 0:47:10.560 is like kind of on display for everyone, and they're 0:47:11.360 --> 0:47:13.520 trying to like be enter, they're trying to entertain, They're 0:47:13.520 --> 0:47:16.279 doing their job to like make you and I mean 0:47:17.320 --> 0:47:20.279 Carrie had an album to promote. Yeah, yeah, everyone knew 0:47:20.280 --> 0:47:23.040 what they're doing, right, Yeah, I understand. And a lot 0:47:23.080 --> 0:47:25.520 of her songs are about Shannon, like not this album, 0:47:25.560 --> 0:47:27.480 but like they are they have been about Shannon in 0:47:27.520 --> 0:47:31.800 the past. So yeah, obviously it's entertaining to like imagine 0:47:31.840 --> 0:47:34.320 if Taylor Swift did an interview with like Harry Styles, 0:47:34.320 --> 0:47:36.480 I would watch that too. But I understand that they're 0:47:36.520 --> 0:47:39.200 probably never going to get back together. I wish, so 0:47:39.800 --> 0:47:41.560 I really do wish that they would get back together. 0:47:43.200 --> 0:47:43.759 I don't know. 0:47:46.280 --> 0:47:46.720 We started. 0:47:48.840 --> 0:47:51.839 Yeah, I was with Shannon over the weekend at a 0:47:51.840 --> 0:47:56.080 party and it was so yeah at that beach party. 0:47:56.320 --> 0:47:59.480 Oh yeah, okay, we were spike ball partners. 0:48:00.239 --> 0:48:01.160 I heard about this. 0:48:01.400 --> 0:48:04.000 Yeah, I was very sore and she said she needed 0:48:04.040 --> 0:48:09.359 a wheelchair. But she it was so fun to talk 0:48:09.400 --> 0:48:12.880 to her about you because she just speaks so highly 0:48:12.920 --> 0:48:16.440 of you, and like the happiness radiating. 0:48:16.000 --> 0:48:18.560 From her was so like, we just had such a 0:48:18.560 --> 0:48:19.000 great day. 0:48:19.000 --> 0:48:21.240 And I remember thinking we left and I was telling 0:48:21.360 --> 0:48:23.879 my sister and her girlfriend. I was like, Shane, then's 0:48:23.920 --> 0:48:26.000 so happy, Like it was so fun to be around 0:48:26.040 --> 0:48:27.280 her and her talking about Becca. 0:48:27.719 --> 0:48:29.400 I feel like we're just a good fit. Like I 0:48:29.400 --> 0:48:32.400 feel like we understand each other, and like she balances 0:48:32.440 --> 0:48:35.160 me out. I feel like I'm super adhd and like 0:48:35.239 --> 0:48:37.400 chaotic and like I'll be like do we should do that? 0:48:37.440 --> 0:48:40.080 And that, and then she's really calm and like keeps 0:48:40.120 --> 0:48:43.840 me together. And also I've never had a relationship like 0:48:43.880 --> 0:48:46.720 thisuess where i feel like we're like almost like puzzle pieces, 0:48:46.719 --> 0:48:50.120 like fitting together kind of. Yeah, and like she sees 0:48:50.560 --> 0:48:54.040 she understands everything that like sometimes I'll say something to 0:48:54.080 --> 0:48:55.360 her and I'll be like, why do I feel this 0:48:55.400 --> 0:48:58.440 way about like something random, like any like issue in 0:48:58.440 --> 0:49:01.120 my life, and it's almost like dating a therapist because 0:49:01.160 --> 0:49:03.800 she like connects dots for me. She's like, well, remember 0:49:03.920 --> 0:49:05.560 the story you told me, Like I don't know, it 0:49:05.640 --> 0:49:07.680 is like dating a therapist. It's so nice, Like she's 0:49:07.760 --> 0:49:10.719 just so balanced, I feel, and she never gets worked 0:49:10.800 --> 0:49:12.440 up like I never. I feel like with a lot 0:49:12.440 --> 0:49:15.719 of men in my past, like I just feel like 0:49:15.760 --> 0:49:18.160 I wasn't ever understood and it was never like I 0:49:18.200 --> 0:49:21.040 was kind of there's like a wall between us and 0:49:21.440 --> 0:49:23.240 we couldn't get on the same page. And I feel 0:49:23.239 --> 0:49:26.359 like it's because I was trying. It might have been 0:49:26.440 --> 0:49:28.399 the type of mine. How shosing now, because I really 0:49:28.560 --> 0:49:31.680 was going for like the stereotypical like I don't even know, 0:49:32.239 --> 0:49:35.080 like popular guy, and I feel like they I was 0:49:35.160 --> 0:49:37.440 just trying to get them to see me as like human, 0:49:37.800 --> 0:49:39.920 like trying to get them to like view me as 0:49:40.040 --> 0:49:43.360 like someone important, like someone important to like make myself 0:49:43.400 --> 0:49:46.960 important to them. But with Shannon, I'm already like she 0:49:47.320 --> 0:49:50.160 inherently and like important to her, so like I don't 0:49:50.200 --> 0:49:52.240 need to do I don't need to prove myself to Shannon, 0:49:52.320 --> 0:49:54.160 like I don't need to be like, guess what, I'm 0:49:54.200 --> 0:49:56.800 a girl, and also I'm smart, and also I have feelings, 0:49:56.920 --> 0:50:00.160 Like Shannon already understands all of that, and that makes 0:50:00.160 --> 0:50:04.200 our relationship like way easier because we're on the same page. 0:50:04.239 --> 0:50:06.520 Like all the time, she told me how smart you are, 0:50:06.920 --> 0:50:09.520 like she's so smart and she's so good at games, 0:50:10.200 --> 0:50:11.680 because I was like, y'all should come over for games, 0:50:11.719 --> 0:50:13.000 and she like, Becca's so good at games. 0:50:13.040 --> 0:50:13.720 She's so smart. 0:50:14.040 --> 0:50:16.800 No, not that good a game. She's not supposed to 0:50:16.840 --> 0:50:18.839 tell people that because then I can like shock them. 0:50:21.640 --> 0:50:24.920 Oh yeah, I was, she forgot I said anything. 0:50:26.239 --> 0:50:28.320 I know we've talked about a lot about your relationship, 0:50:28.400 --> 0:50:31.680 but I'm so curious how your career got started as 0:50:31.680 --> 0:50:36.080 an influencer, because did did you start doing tiktoks with 0:50:36.239 --> 0:50:39.440 the plan of this becoming your career or did it 0:50:39.520 --> 0:50:40.920 happen accidentally. 0:50:40.800 --> 0:50:44.280 It was an accident. I've always like had a pretty 0:50:44.360 --> 0:50:47.319 sarcastic sense of humor, So the first video I've made 0:50:47.560 --> 0:50:51.439 was me like rating my date party dates sarcastically, like saying, 0:50:51.520 --> 0:50:53.360 this guy left with another girl when he took me 0:50:53.600 --> 0:50:57.359 ten out of ten. And that video was really meant 0:50:57.400 --> 0:51:00.400 for my friends or like people that I knew or 0:51:00.520 --> 0:51:03.160 knew those guys, but it went viral, like the first 0:51:03.239 --> 0:51:04.880 video I ever made. So then I kept going. I 0:51:05.000 --> 0:51:06.400 was like, oh my god, I have so many men 0:51:06.440 --> 0:51:08.560 that I can make fun of, and just kept going 0:51:08.760 --> 0:51:12.000 on and on. Yeah, and that's kind of where the brand, 0:51:12.160 --> 0:51:14.200 like for the girls, not the guys, because everyone would 0:51:14.200 --> 0:51:17.160 be like I would never like yeah, I would only 0:51:17.239 --> 0:51:20.360 like talk shit about men. H That's when I like 0:51:21.400 --> 0:51:23.879 started to take That's when my brand started. Yeah, back 0:51:23.920 --> 0:51:24.960 in like twenty twenty one. 0:51:25.760 --> 0:51:29.400 So, and then you had a series where you would 0:51:29.640 --> 0:51:33.320 basically reach out to guys who were in relationships. 0:51:33.640 --> 0:51:35.520 What was it called the loyalty test? 0:51:35.600 --> 0:51:37.000 I to do test? Yeah? 0:51:37.600 --> 0:51:40.480 Did that was that hard for you to like deliver 0:51:40.600 --> 0:51:41.720 that news to girls? 0:51:42.160 --> 0:51:44.759 Yes? Obviously it was terrible. I would send them screenshots. 0:51:45.560 --> 0:51:48.440 I started that because this girl wanted me to DM her, 0:51:48.640 --> 0:51:51.120 like a girl organically asked me for that, like one day, 0:51:51.239 --> 0:51:53.680 like she was like, Hi, this is so random, but 0:51:53.840 --> 0:51:56.480 like my boyfriend loves blonde girls. Will you DM him? 0:51:56.840 --> 0:51:59.560 And I was like what the heck? Yeah, obviously, and 0:51:59.800 --> 0:52:03.080 I sent her screenshots and he failed the loyalty test. 0:52:03.600 --> 0:52:05.040 So then I was telling a story to my friends, 0:52:05.600 --> 0:52:07.480 which means like he failed, which means like he like 0:52:07.680 --> 0:52:09.480 was flirting idea and was kind of being flirty and 0:52:09.520 --> 0:52:11.800 I showed her and I was really sad and emotional 0:52:11.840 --> 0:52:14.480 and it was hard for her. But I was telling 0:52:14.520 --> 0:52:15.960 my friends the story and they were like, you should 0:52:16.000 --> 0:52:18.880 make that into a TikTok, and I was like, I guess, 0:52:19.080 --> 0:52:20.839 and then I started doing, but then it got way 0:52:20.880 --> 0:52:23.400 too overwhelming, you guys, like I was doing like inundated. 0:52:23.840 --> 0:52:26.560 What does that word mean, like like flooded with girls 0:52:26.600 --> 0:52:28.600 wanting you to act still every day still, and I 0:52:28.640 --> 0:52:31.400 haven't done one in probably two years. Yeah, I have 0:52:31.560 --> 0:52:33.000 not done a single one of these and two years 0:52:33.040 --> 0:52:36.120 and every I get asked about it every single day 0:52:36.239 --> 0:52:38.440 in my DMS. So maybe I should just starting it. 0:52:38.560 --> 0:52:39.799 But everyone knows I'm dating a girl. 0:52:39.880 --> 0:52:39.960 Now. 0:52:40.000 --> 0:52:41.320 I feel like you can just go into my profile 0:52:41.360 --> 0:52:43.840 and see that I'm not single, So why would I 0:52:43.880 --> 0:52:45.440 be sligning in anywaybe. 0:52:45.360 --> 0:52:46.720 Then like a secret. 0:52:46.920 --> 0:52:48.480 Yeah, I can make a fence to maybe with like 0:52:48.640 --> 0:52:53.759 random pictures, but yeah, I just these boyfriends, and a 0:52:53.800 --> 0:52:55.960 lot of them, it wasn't like one hundred percent of 0:52:56.080 --> 0:52:58.960 them were failing it was like, like you say the 0:52:59.000 --> 0:53:02.440 percentage like forty percent, I would say failed. Oh so 0:53:02.600 --> 0:53:06.200 the higher percentage just didn't fail. M oh nice. 0:53:06.719 --> 0:53:08.680 So it's just not crazy, not seene. 0:53:09.400 --> 0:53:11.719 Yeah, so I don't know if they this. 0:53:11.840 --> 0:53:16.000 Is great, great they're not checking. That means they're not checking. Yeah, yeah, 0:53:16.560 --> 0:53:17.239 that's good news. 0:53:18.480 --> 0:53:21.160 I'm happy about that percentage. Yeah, would that be crazy 0:53:21.239 --> 0:53:23.239 if like I mean, I don't know. I might be 0:53:23.760 --> 0:53:26.080 under exaggerating, but that would be crazy if like eighty 0:53:26.200 --> 0:53:28.680 I would literally like never want a date again if 0:53:28.719 --> 0:53:31.520 it was like eighty percent. It honestly did make me 0:53:31.520 --> 0:53:34.239 a little bit jaded towards dating for a while doing that. 0:53:34.600 --> 0:53:35.880 Yeah, I can imagine. 0:53:35.920 --> 0:53:39.319 How are any of you feeling this? Like, yeah, so sad? Yeah, 0:53:39.840 --> 0:53:40.160 I don't know. 0:53:40.520 --> 0:53:42.080 I know that's really I was thinking. 0:53:42.120 --> 0:53:46.040 Because sometimes we'll get advice things on our emails and 0:53:46.200 --> 0:53:48.880 it'll be like, oh, I know so and so's cheating, 0:53:49.080 --> 0:53:52.080 Like do I do I say something? And Tanya and 0:53:52.160 --> 0:53:54.040 Mark are always like, stay out of it, it's not 0:53:54.160 --> 0:53:54.960 your relationship. 0:53:55.040 --> 0:53:58.080 But I'm like you, guys, no, I don't say stay 0:53:58.080 --> 0:53:59.839 out of it. I'm like, get in it. Yeah, get 0:54:00.360 --> 0:54:02.880 let them know. Yeah, because it would suck, Like, how 0:54:02.920 --> 0:54:04.600 else are you gonna what if they never find out 0:54:04.640 --> 0:54:07.400 and then they get married or something. Yeah, I just 0:54:07.480 --> 0:54:11.080 feel like they find out, I find out. I don't, 0:54:11.200 --> 0:54:13.600 or I guess sometimes in some cases, people kind of 0:54:13.640 --> 0:54:15.480 don't want to know if their partner is shooting. Like 0:54:15.520 --> 0:54:16.040 that's the thing. 0:54:16.200 --> 0:54:17.920 It's like it's like, let's say you meddle and then 0:54:17.960 --> 0:54:19.560 you tell them and then they do nothing about it, 0:54:19.600 --> 0:54:19.879 and then. 0:54:21.560 --> 0:54:24.040 Yeah, but still a bad guy for letting them know 0:54:24.080 --> 0:54:26.960 they're being cheated on, because you're like being judgmental, like 0:54:27.040 --> 0:54:31.160 you're not interjecting yourself into these people's relationship, and then 0:54:31.239 --> 0:54:33.000 you're like you're not gonna do anything about it. 0:54:33.200 --> 0:54:35.680 Well, imagine that's where you just got to look at you. 0:54:36.160 --> 0:54:39.759 It's all but imagine like knowing that other people knew 0:54:39.840 --> 0:54:41.560 and then you if you genuinely didn't know. 0:54:41.719 --> 0:54:43.239 I would be mad at my friend, so. 0:54:43.560 --> 0:54:47.160 Mad if someone knew and didn't tell me. If anyone 0:54:47.280 --> 0:54:50.040 knows that Haley's doing anything, you have permission to meddle. 0:54:50.360 --> 0:54:51.720 Get in noted. 0:54:52.440 --> 0:54:57.480 Yeah, especially you, especially you beca Thank you so much 0:54:57.560 --> 0:54:58.200 for scrubbing in. 0:54:58.400 --> 0:54:59.799 Yeah, thank you so much. 0:55:00.000 --> 0:55:01.360 I love Where can people follow you? 0:55:01.360 --> 0:55:03.680 Where can people listen to your podcast, watch your podcast, 0:55:03.760 --> 0:55:05.239 all the things it is called. 0:55:05.480 --> 0:55:07.520 My podcast is called for the Girls with Becca more 0:55:07.800 --> 0:55:11.200 I'm five episodes in, so don't expect to love. I'm honest. 0:55:11.320 --> 0:55:14.520 It's like pretty chaotic. 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