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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Wrath, an iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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Speaker 3: Scrub dub dumb.

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Speaker 1: Oh.

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Speaker 4: I thought you were about to go to dune in California.

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Speaker 3: Loveeee. No, I wasn't gonna do that.

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Speaker 2: It's August first, you guys.

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Speaker 5: Wow, summer's flying by.

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Speaker 1: Are we gonna have a brat summer? When we was

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Speaker 1: still what are we gonna have a brat summer summer?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we should have started that back in June.

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Speaker 1: We saw a whole nother month basically, two months of

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Speaker 1: summer summer?

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Speaker 3: Is that until September twenty something?

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Speaker 5: Second? But still you know school's back soon.

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Speaker 2: No, oh, my God associated summer with school.

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Speaker 3: But it's not.

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Speaker 1: Summer is a calendar. It's a biblical to my set.

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Speaker 5: Summer not biblical.

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Speaker 3: It's been the Bible.

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Speaker 2: It's in the Yes, Brat summer is not in the

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Speaker 2: Bible mindset.

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Speaker 1: No, no, No, what I'm saying is summer is still summer.

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Speaker 3: For another.

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Speaker 1: We saw the two months basically of summer, and we

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Speaker 1: can make it brat because that's what's cool.

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Speaker 2: Now, tell me what a brad summer is, Tonya it's

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Speaker 2: like von Dutch.

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Speaker 1: It's like lime green slime, smell like sweat and cigarettes.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. It so nothing more opposite of you than that.

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 1: I mean I'm really having like a white color palette. Uh,

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Speaker 1: situation happening.

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Speaker 2: For now, Like cling girl Summer, You're not really Broad Summer.

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Speaker 3: I hope I want to be Broad Summer.

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Speaker 2: You don't.

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Speaker 3: Everybody is so cool.

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Speaker 5: Brad Summer is about accepting your imperfections while embracing the chaos.

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Speaker 5: That's what Charlie XCX says.

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Speaker 3: Oh really, that's not my thought.

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Speaker 2: That Ginger chan I swear I read that.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, uh, some website Glamour, can you look up

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Speaker 1: what is brad Summer?

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Speaker 5: I just did.

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Speaker 4: It's literally coined it. So that's who you. That's who

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Speaker 4: we're going to our info from.

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Speaker 2: On the breath.

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Speaker 5: Just like that girl who's a little messy and likes

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Speaker 5: to party and maybe says dumb things, sometimes feels herself

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Speaker 5: but maybe also has a breakdown, but kind of like

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Speaker 5: parties through it. It's very honest, very blunt, a little

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Speaker 5: volatile like those dumb things. But it's brat. You're brat.

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Speaker 5: That's brat.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's right. That's bratt.

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Speaker 4: All right.

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Speaker 2: Well, whatever you want to be. It can be your

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Speaker 2: whatever type of summer you want.

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Speaker 4: Tonya, thank you, braver. I think could be more as

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Speaker 4: bridal cling girl summer, but.

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Speaker 3: I really can't. Yeah, I just did the dance. I know.

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Speaker 3: It's like, I really can't help it.

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Speaker 1: It was leaving the house today and Robbie was like,

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Speaker 1: you're really into the white right now.

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Speaker 3: I've worn white on white.

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Speaker 5: By the way, why are you in a puffer vest?

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Speaker 5: It's ninety five degrees to.

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Speaker 3: Not inside this these are wearing.

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Speaker 5: It inside these four walls.

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Speaker 4: It's on your chair.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for reminding me because I met earlier.

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Speaker 2: It's actually insane.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, now I feel nice brat summer.

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Speaker 4: It's also visually not like I know exactly like I know,

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Speaker 4: it's not cool or clean.

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Speaker 2: It's like, it's not brown.

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Speaker 3: It's not clean girl. It's not barbiecore giving Melton.

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Speaker 5: It's giving an eight burbank right now. And you have

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Speaker 5: a puffery vest.

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Speaker 3: That's right, what's inside inside the studio?

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Speaker 5: You weren't wearing it until five seconds.

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Speaker 2: You're not that cold.

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty chilly, not cold enough that you did that

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Speaker 1: on your own accord though, right brat summer.

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Speaker 3: I do what I want, all right, you guys cigarettes.

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Speaker 1: I can't even feel like slimey with green slime. I

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Speaker 1: do feel like my voice has changed ever since my sickness.

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Speaker 1: I like cannot get my voice back.

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Speaker 2: You just your voice has sounded fine until this moment

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Speaker 2: right now.

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Speaker 1: Yes, no, I feel like it's been like horse for

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Speaker 1: two weeks.

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Speaker 3: Now, screaming brat summer. And you know my voice has

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Speaker 3: been different. I did notice on earlier in the week.

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Speaker 3: I noticed that earlier. This week sounds better, Yeah, sounds

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Speaker 3: better today.

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Speaker 4: You know those girls that like, like I'm and they're like,

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Speaker 4: I don't want to use my voice, but they love

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Speaker 4: how it sounds.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's you. I don't mind it.

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Speaker 1: If this is the new me, then here, but totally normal.

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Speaker 3: It's just a little deeper. It's a little horser.

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Speaker 2: Think you just clear your throat and get some back.

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Speaker 3: Just sound nice for our guest.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we do have a guest. Yeah, and I'm very

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Speaker 4: excited to talk to her. We have Beckamore joining us.

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Speaker 4: She is a TikTok creator. She has like a bunch

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Speaker 4: of ratings on TikTok. This is kind of how she

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Speaker 4: got popular rating her creepy d MS thing. She is

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Speaker 4: known on TikTok for all these like funny ratings she does.

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Speaker 4: So it's like rating my creepy dms that time of

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Speaker 4: baseball player flew me out to meet him, Like all

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Speaker 4: these dating stories. She would like contact. If girls were like,

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Speaker 4: I think my boyfriend's cheating on me, she would DM

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Speaker 4: them the boy to try and catfish and she'd just

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Speaker 4: be like high hi, and they'd respond and then she'd

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Speaker 4: be like, oh, like you go to this college and

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Speaker 4: then if you cheated, she'd expose him on TikTok.

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Speaker 5: Wow.

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Speaker 3: Yeah savage. So she also has her own podcast.

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Speaker 4: She has her own podcast and it's called for the

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Speaker 4: Girls with Becca Moore, and that is because she is

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Speaker 4: for the girls. She's always been for the girls. But

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Speaker 4: she's really for the girls because she is dating a

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Speaker 4: friend of our show and a beverage whom we love.

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Speaker 5: We had her on with Seacrest. I did not realize

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Speaker 5: that until this moment.

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Speaker 3: Oh this is the girl. Yes, oh wow, Yeah, we

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Speaker 3: had her on the morning show, oh.

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Speaker 5: Doing the thing where people think her boyfriends so she

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Speaker 5: would each out to them. Yes, we had her on

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Speaker 5: for this very reason.

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Speaker 3: Did you look up the name?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh wow, it's like Ryan's Roses.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Oh my gosh, that's so funny.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: And then we went to a the Era's tour with

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Speaker 4: her in a group with Mermaid Hair, and she was

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Speaker 4: there with her friend and so we had that bonding

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Speaker 4: experience as well.

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Speaker 2: And she's so cute.

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Speaker 4: And now she's back for more, and she's she's back

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Speaker 4: for more with beccam Moore.

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Speaker 3: Back for more with Beca more. Let's we can't say

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Speaker 3: anything else. Let's bring her.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, let's bring her in. Welcome Beckham.

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Speaker 3: We are so excited to have you. I'm so excited

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Speaker 3: to be here. I love you. Guys. We went to

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Speaker 3: the eras towards we were just talking about this. But

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Speaker 3: back then I stay, yeah, I mean, let's jump right

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Speaker 3: into it, because I feel like that.

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Speaker 4: I remember being on the bus together and you were

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Speaker 4: talking about someone like up in San Francisco, and I

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Speaker 4: can't remember what the thing was. He wanted you to

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Speaker 4: come up there, but you didn't know if you were

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Speaker 4: into him. I can't remember what the story was.

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Speaker 3: Well, we were kind of dating. We had gone on

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Speaker 3: a date. We met on a dating app and I

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Speaker 3: was really into him, and he was visiting La for work,

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Speaker 3: and he like we had like a crazy strong connection.

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Speaker 3: But then he like that was it. We went on

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Speaker 3: a good date and then I was like, am I

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Speaker 2: Like what do I do?

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Speaker 3: And then you guys were helping me, like craft a

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Speaker 3: text to be like I miss you or something, and

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Speaker 3: then we did date for a couple of months, but

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Speaker 3: then the distance was too hard.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so that was what last year in August?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that was August. And then a year ago,

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Speaker 3: literally a year ago, Oh my god, that's crazy. And

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Speaker 3: then I met Shannon in I think, Well we kept talking.

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Speaker 3: Me and that man dated until I think like he

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Speaker 3: wasn't like a backup, but we broke up. Broke up

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Speaker 3: in like November, and then I met Shannon, and I

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Speaker 3: remember being like I'm never gonna date a guy again.

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Speaker 3: Like I was like, I like, wait, really, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I was just kidding, like I was just saying that,

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Speaker 3: like three weeks later at the music video shoot, and

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Speaker 3: I was like, maybe I'll just get a girl I

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Speaker 2: Okay, So here's my question.

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Speaker 4: Because I've listened to your podcast, I've heard the story

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Speaker 4: of how you met Shannon. But I want you to

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Speaker 4: go through that day again and meeting Shannon, and then

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Speaker 4: I have some follow up questions. Okay, inspector gadget over here.

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Speaker 3: So I met her at the music video shoot, and

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Speaker 3: she like wouldn't give me the time of day. I

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Speaker 3: mean a music video shoot. It was for Zolita, her

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Speaker 3: song Oh my God, Queen of It's Queen of Hearts

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Speaker 4: Okay, Okayla is Shannon's roommate.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, but I didn't know this. So I show

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Speaker 3: up and all of a sudden, I was attracted to Shannon.

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Speaker 3: I was really confused. So I was like, what the

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Speaker 3: hell is going on? And she like wouldn't make eye

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Speaker 3: here been in a music video before? And I was like,

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Speaker 3: oh my god, I have, and I was trying to

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Speaker 3: like let her know that, like I was like in

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Speaker 3: with the lesbians, Like I wanted her to think that

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Speaker 3: I like knew leslians. So I was like, I, actually

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Speaker 3: it was in this LGBT music video with Fletcher. I

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Speaker 3: don't know if you did you know that? D No,

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Speaker 3: I didn't know anything. I don't know. I'm so mad

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Speaker 3: at myself realized it's so bad. Do you know this story,

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Speaker 3: Becca or no?

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Speaker 2: I just saw your TikTok about this.

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Speaker 3: I just finally told the story last night because I've

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Speaker 3: been like omitting that part of the story because it's embarrassing.

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Speaker 3: But it's not embarrassing if you didn't know. Yeah, I

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Speaker 3: literally did not know. What are the odds of me

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Speaker 3: bringing up Fletcher with Shannon Beverage in our first sentence?

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Speaker 3: Finally I got her attention to so everything was like

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Speaker 3: up somehow. I was like, yeah, I was in Fletcher's

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Speaker 3: Do you have any of those? Or was oh, okay,

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I know.

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Speaker 4: funny that you went, like to that video shoot, which

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I like, you only know this girl.

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Speaker 3: I had no idea. Well, I because my tagline on

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Speaker 3: just I don't know. I think there needs me more

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was hard though, being like am I just

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Speaker 3: the news in all my groups with my friends being like, guys,

441
00:20:01,359 --> 00:20:03,440
Speaker 3: I like a girl like that day, and I because

442
00:20:03,440 --> 00:20:05,160
Speaker 3: I was just so embarrassed about the story that had

443
00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:07,800
Speaker 3: just had, like the Fletcher thing, So I obviously texted

444
00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:09,560
Speaker 3: all of them because I needed their like I wanted

445
00:20:09,560 --> 00:20:13,760
Speaker 3: them to make me feel better. And I never like

446
00:20:13,840 --> 00:20:16,359
Speaker 3: came out to like my friends really like I just

447
00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:17,960
Speaker 3: kind of was like, guys, I like this girl and

448
00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:20,160
Speaker 3: she's so hot. And then all my friends were, even

449
00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:22,040
Speaker 3: my O high friends are all like ha ha, Becca,

450
00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:25,239
Speaker 3: you need to like redeem your like no one, they

451
00:20:25,240 --> 00:20:27,480
Speaker 3: weren't taking me seriously in the beginning because it was

452
00:20:27,520 --> 00:20:29,959
Speaker 3: like a joke kind of and then as time went on,

453
00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:32,720
Speaker 3: it was just kind of like a slow. They were like, okay, yeah,

454
00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:36,040
Speaker 3: Becca likes this girl. Once we me and Shannon started dating,

455
00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:39,159
Speaker 3: they were very easy to come out to my family.

456
00:20:39,280 --> 00:20:40,960
Speaker 3: I kind of did have to do like the sit down,

457
00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:43,879
Speaker 3: and I like surprised them. They thought I was like

458
00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:45,959
Speaker 3: pregnant or something because I was crying when I told them.

459
00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:48,040
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, I could tell you something. And

460
00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:51,160
Speaker 3: it was a little bit more dramatic than my friends.

461
00:20:51,640 --> 00:20:53,640
Speaker 3: But yeah, it took me a long time. Even though

462
00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:57,600
Speaker 3: I thought that like coming out would be like so

463
00:20:57,760 --> 00:21:00,359
Speaker 3: lighthearted now like on the internet, I mean, that was

464
00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:02,560
Speaker 3: a different story. But I thought that it would be

465
00:21:02,600 --> 00:21:05,280
Speaker 3: really lighthearted and like everyone would be like who cares,

466
00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:07,680
Speaker 3: it's twenty twenty four. But then I did it, and

467
00:21:07,800 --> 00:21:10,040
Speaker 3: like it's a lot more permanent than I thought, Like

468
00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:12,240
Speaker 3: I think, what is that? What do you mean permanent?

469
00:21:12,400 --> 00:21:16,880
Speaker 3: Like it feels like I'm just scared that everyone will

470
00:21:16,920 --> 00:21:19,639
Speaker 3: think that I went crazy and like I'm wearing a

471
00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:22,280
Speaker 3: scarlet letter. Yeah that's how I feel, But I don't know.

472
00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:24,000
Speaker 3: I had to like, oh that, like it's just been

473
00:21:24,119 --> 00:21:27,120
Speaker 3: like a crazy week or two weeks of people being

474
00:21:27,160 --> 00:21:30,760
Speaker 3: like sometimes I'm just getting like weird dms that are

475
00:21:30,800 --> 00:21:34,560
Speaker 3: like I don't know that are like Bible stuff. Oh yeah,

476
00:21:34,680 --> 00:21:35,080
Speaker 3: I don't know.

477
00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:37,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I get a lot of those two.

478
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:40,120
Speaker 3: Yeah. Wait, what was it like when you came out?

479
00:21:40,560 --> 00:21:40,840
Speaker 3: Was it?

480
00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:45,000
Speaker 4: Well? I think we work together for four years, so

481
00:21:45,080 --> 00:21:47,680
Speaker 4: I had a lot of time to like really prepare

482
00:21:47,720 --> 00:21:48,919
Speaker 4: and process, you know what.

483
00:21:49,160 --> 00:21:51,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what to expect.

484
00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:53,879
Speaker 4: In terms of the response from like public. But all

485
00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:56,840
Speaker 4: my friends knew basically the day after I kissed her.

486
00:21:57,080 --> 00:21:58,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, they all, I told them all.

487
00:21:58,640 --> 00:21:58,880
Speaker 3: Yeah.

488
00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:01,080
Speaker 4: I was just like, my sisters lived with me, which

489
00:22:01,119 --> 00:22:03,200
Speaker 4: that was nice because I had I knew I had

490
00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:05,960
Speaker 4: their support. But I come from a very like Southern

491
00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:07,760
Speaker 4: Christian background, so.

492
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:11,879
Speaker 2: The family part was really hard and challenging.

493
00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:15,399
Speaker 4: And then I was just like not ready to have

494
00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 4: it be public, and I wasn't prepared to deal with

495
00:22:19,320 --> 00:22:21,879
Speaker 4: getting d MS about the Bible and what you know.

496
00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:24,680
Speaker 4: I just like wasn't ready for that. And so when

497
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 4: we came out, I was totally prepared.

498
00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:28,520
Speaker 3: So I was.

499
00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:31,080
Speaker 4: Ready for anything and everything. And I was also I

500
00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:34,159
Speaker 4: knew I had my support system. Everyone knew, and I

501
00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:36,040
Speaker 4: was just kind of ready to not have to because

502
00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 4: we talked, we talked about me being in a relationship

503
00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:40,919
Speaker 4: on the podcast, but we never said pronouns and it

504
00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:41,760
Speaker 4: was so hard.

505
00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:45,680
Speaker 3: So four years were like, and what are you doing

506
00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:50,320
Speaker 3: this weekend? Are you in said person? Going to dinner?

507
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 2: Yeah?

508
00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:52,960
Speaker 3: Why did people kind of know?

509
00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 2: Or was it?

510
00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:59,480
Speaker 4: Yeah? People knew and they were so wonderful because everyone

511
00:22:59,520 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 4: let me do it my own time.

512
00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:00,840
Speaker 6: You know.

513
00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:03,480
Speaker 4: There was and then if we if we Haley and

514
00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:05,240
Speaker 4: I were out and I met someone like who listened

515
00:23:05,280 --> 00:23:06,880
Speaker 4: to the podcast, I would inter I'd be like, this

516
00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,119
Speaker 4: is my girlfriend Haley. I never hit her in that

517
00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:13,160
Speaker 4: way because I never wanted it to be I never

518
00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:15,359
Speaker 4: wanted her to feel hidden. It was just private. I

519
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:19,199
Speaker 4: wasn't ready, so it was I don't I get what

520
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:21,199
Speaker 4: you're saying. But I didn't do it as fast as

521
00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:22,760
Speaker 4: you did, so I had a lot more time to

522
00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:26,359
Speaker 4: kind of prep myself. And I think that I know

523
00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:28,280
Speaker 4: what you're talking about the permanence of it. And then

524
00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:29,879
Speaker 4: people would be like, I didn't know you were a lesbian,

525
00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:32,240
Speaker 4: and I'm like, well, I don't really identify as a lesbian.

526
00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:33,919
Speaker 3: But that's what I meant when I said the permanent thing.

527
00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:36,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't want people to like I still

528
00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:38,959
Speaker 3: had relationships with guys in the past, and I think

529
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:41,359
Speaker 3: I don't want like people to think that, like I

530
00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:44,000
Speaker 3: never liked any guy that right, right, Like I'm definitely

531
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:46,040
Speaker 3: by which right? Like do you feel like now?

532
00:23:46,080 --> 00:23:48,800
Speaker 1: Like people say like, oh, you're bisexual, and then but

533
00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:52,720
Speaker 1: you're like, well maybe I'm maybe I'm fully lesbian, maybe

534
00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:54,040
Speaker 1: I'm st like you just don't know.

535
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:57,919
Speaker 3: I know, I don't even think what when people like

536
00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:00,119
Speaker 3: I don't even think I fit into like bisex, so

537
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:01,800
Speaker 3: I just feel like I just like a girl, Like

538
00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:04,359
Speaker 3: I feel like, I mean, obviously I am technically bisexual,

539
00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:06,639
Speaker 3: but like that makes it feel like half and half,

540
00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 3: Like I don't know, I feel like going back and forth,

541
00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 3: you know where I'm like, I don't know what my

542
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:14,239
Speaker 3: sexuality is like and why I do I have to

543
00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 3: have you know.

544
00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 2: You really don't.

545
00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:18,440
Speaker 4: And I think for some people the label so important

546
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:20,640
Speaker 4: because they live with it for so long that being

547
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:22,840
Speaker 4: able to say, like I'm a lesbian or I'm bisexual

548
00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:25,920
Speaker 4: feels like freeing. And I think I felt the same

549
00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:27,480
Speaker 4: way as you, as like I don't like being put

550
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:29,439
Speaker 4: in a box. I don't want to have to label

551
00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:32,359
Speaker 4: myself or give an answer to this. But because what

552
00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:34,120
Speaker 4: I was like in my mind, I'm like, I fell

553
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:35,960
Speaker 4: in love with Haley, and that's what I know that

554
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 4: you know, I know, I know that I'm attracted to men,

555
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:41,760
Speaker 4: But like, will I want to date a man again

556
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:43,639
Speaker 4: if Haley and I don't work out, I don't know.

557
00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:47,200
Speaker 4: But that's not even in my focus right now because

558
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:49,000
Speaker 4: I fell in love with Haley and that's who I'm with.

559
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:52,480
Speaker 2: So I I totally wit this whole.

560
00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:54,159
Speaker 4: Thing that you're going through. And now I kind of

561
00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:56,960
Speaker 4: just I don't care, like say whatever you want. I'm

562
00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:59,880
Speaker 4: in love with this person and that's what it is. Yeah.

563
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:02,840
Speaker 3: People keep asking me, so when you guys break up,

564
00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 3: they'll say, like, when you guys break up, you're going

565
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,359
Speaker 3: to go back to men, And I'm like what, And

566
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 3: we're dating and currently we are dating like we love

567
00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:13,119
Speaker 3: each other. Yeah, I'm not thinking about like who I'm

568
00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 3: going to date next, right, I don't know, Like and

569
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 3: she even asked me that too, She's like, are you

570
00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 3: going to date girls like forever now? And I was like, wait, what,

571
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 3: we're literally dating?

572
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:21,640
Speaker 4: Shit?

573
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:24,119
Speaker 3: Why I hope?

574
00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:25,760
Speaker 5: I know.

575
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:31,239
Speaker 4: It's it's a It's interesting because I think when you like,

576
00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:34,400
Speaker 4: if someone is presumed and you yourself, presume that you're

577
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:37,639
Speaker 4: straight forever, and then you fall in love with someone

578
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:40,000
Speaker 4: and it's different than what people expected from you. They

579
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:42,440
Speaker 4: like need an answer about that, and you don't owe

580
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 4: them that, you know, And I think that you being

581
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 4: able to fall in love with a girl and process it,

582
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:51,840
Speaker 4: and also it's still pretty new for you and like

583
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:53,439
Speaker 4: to be able to process it and you're kind of

584
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:54,720
Speaker 4: doing it in real time.

585
00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:56,760
Speaker 2: With people, it's going to be really helpful for a

586
00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 2: lot of people.

587
00:25:57,359 --> 00:25:59,040
Speaker 4: And I also think that it's hard and to like

588
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:01,200
Speaker 4: give yourself grace because I don't think it's I don't

589
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,479
Speaker 4: think it's a I know, it's easy to be like

590
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,359
Speaker 4: it's twenty twenty four, it's not a big deal anymore.

591
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 4: Everyone's you know, people should be comfortable, and they should.

592
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:12,160
Speaker 4: But I think as a personal thing, it is such

593
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:13,639
Speaker 4: a big deal, and it's such a big deal that

594
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:14,679
Speaker 4: you are public with it.

595
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:16,720
Speaker 2: So I hope you feel really proud of yourself.

596
00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:18,160
Speaker 3: Because it's so see I do.

597
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 4: I think that it's a big deal and you did

598
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 4: it way faster than I did.

599
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:25,040
Speaker 3: But you really were like one of the people that

600
00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 3: paved the way for me. Like I thought, like, oh

601
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:29,800
Speaker 3: my god, I'm not kidding you were. I loved watching

602
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:33,080
Speaker 3: your story. Obviously, I watched both of your seasons as

603
00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:37,160
Speaker 3: the Bachelor. I loved it, and then watching like I

604
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:38,600
Speaker 3: kind of like saw at first of all, you have

605
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:41,040
Speaker 3: the same name, but like I did like see myself

606
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 3: and you, and especially coming from I mean, my family

607
00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:48,399
Speaker 3: isn't conservative, but like I came from Ohio and then

608
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:52,399
Speaker 3: I lived in Nashville, So yeah, I think that like

609
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:56,800
Speaker 3: if I had more representation like you, Like I was

610
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:58,480
Speaker 3: really excited when I saw you come out, and I

611
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:00,560
Speaker 3: don't think I knew why. Maybe I should have known why,

612
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:03,639
Speaker 3: Like maybe I knew deep down like I could be

613
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 3: attracted to girls. But I do think that the more

614
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:10,600
Speaker 3: people that do just like fall in love with the

615
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 3: same sex and like just tell everyone and they didn't

616
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 3: expect it, but it's whatever. I think that will help

617
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:17,960
Speaker 3: a lot more people, because I think the world is

618
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 3: just more fun if you don't like put yourself in

619
00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:22,480
Speaker 3: a box of like, oh I'm straight, I can only

620
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 3: date this gender, you know, Like I feel like what

621
00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:26,680
Speaker 3: if you just like what such?

622
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,119
Speaker 1: Like it's so it's so crazy to me that you

623
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:31,960
Speaker 1: get asked these questions and it's like if somebody dm

624
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:34,160
Speaker 1: me and was like if you and Robbie don't work out,

625
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:37,080
Speaker 1: like who are you gonna date next?

626
00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:40,439
Speaker 3: Normal? Like go kick rocks? Like what are you talking about?

627
00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:43,719
Speaker 2: Like straight people don't have to do that, yea, stuff

628
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:44,160
Speaker 2: like that.

629
00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 3: I don't know, and there's so much pressure on like

630
00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:48,520
Speaker 3: oh my god, Like I'm.

631
00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 1: Like why, Like I like they like asking you like

632
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:52,480
Speaker 1: are you gonna have kids?

633
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:54,479
Speaker 3: Like yeah, like how are you gonna have?

634
00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:55,919
Speaker 2: Yeah?

635
00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:58,040
Speaker 3: I'm like I'm literally twenty six. I don't know. I

636
00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:02,159
Speaker 3: feel like I'm I'm seventeen. I have idea. All I

637
00:28:02,240 --> 00:28:03,679
Speaker 3: know is I love her and who cares?

638
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:04,360
Speaker 2: Why is it?

639
00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 4: Like?

640
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:07,439
Speaker 3: Also, I do feel like a certain like not to

641
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 3: call my family and some of my old old friends out,

642
00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:12,879
Speaker 3: but like I do feel a little bit of coldness

643
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 3: from like certain members of my family, and that is

644
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:20,359
Speaker 3: kind of that has been painful. But then when I

645
00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:23,439
Speaker 3: think about it, like a bird's eye but also okay,

646
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 3: I'm like backshocking, but I do kind of have to

647
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,640
Speaker 3: give them grace because it took me a long time

648
00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:30,679
Speaker 3: to like forgive myself and be like okay, fine, I'm

649
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:34,159
Speaker 3: going to dat a girl. So that's been hard. You

650
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:36,679
Speaker 3: don't have to forget, Like it's not about them forgiving you.

651
00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 3: I feel like it's them.

652
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right, I know, forgive, but it's not even

653
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:43,040
Speaker 1: it's like them, not no, it's like them whatever it is.

654
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:45,440
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is for them, but maybe

655
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:48,640
Speaker 1: it's something they've been taught or been told forever forever,

656
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:52,280
Speaker 1: so they're like processing and unlearning. And I think at

657
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:53,680
Speaker 1: the end of the day, it's like you do just

658
00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 1: have to give people like a little bit of time

659
00:28:55,360 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 1: and grace because yeah, if they love you like that

660
00:28:58,720 --> 00:28:59,400
Speaker 1: will come through.

661
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:02,040
Speaker 3: That will we shine through? Do you know what I mean?

662
00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 1: And as long as they're not like hopefully nobody is

663
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 1: being negative or.

664
00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:10,440
Speaker 3: No texting me like yeah, text or anything, but like, yeah,

665
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 3: I do. I just I guess I just want everyone

666
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 3: my message to be like I'm happy, like I want

667
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 3: everything happy for me, And this could happen to you too,

668
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 3: me like threatening.

669
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 1: If you guys look really hot.

670
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 3: Has your family met her? Yeah?

671
00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:32,160
Speaker 4: No?

672
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 3: Wait, why did I say they face timed her? But okay, yeah,

673
00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 3: my mom is like obsessed, like she's like, oh my god,

674
00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 3: am my sisters too. But I met her entire family

675
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:45,400
Speaker 3: and that was so fun. They were so sweet.

676
00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:06,040
Speaker 2: So y'all meet at the video.

677
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:09,200
Speaker 4: Shoot y'all, Damn, whois the first thing out?

678
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 3: She asked me on a date, okay, and that's when

679
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:15,760
Speaker 3: we went to drinks and I freakimmed a little bit

680
00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 3: too her. I like had two glasses of wine before. Yeah,

681
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 3: you have to.

682
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 1: I was so nervous I ever went to a date sober,

683
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 1: I know, but imagine the first one with a girl like.

684
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:27,560
Speaker 3: I'm just terribot. I showed up though, and like she

685
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 3: says that, I was like shaking, like shaking really hard,

686
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 3: and I don't remember that. I'm like, why did that

687
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 3: doesn't sound like no. She didn't tell me until like

688
00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 3: weeks later, thank god. But yeah, we sat down and

689
00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 3: I knew right away. I was like, I need to

690
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 3: make you my girlfriend, Like I need you, Like she

691
00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:49,400
Speaker 3: looked so cute and she was like so she's just

692
00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:52,760
Speaker 3: like charming, like she was so friendly. And then after

693
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:56,640
Speaker 3: that that's pretty much like I think before was the

694
00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 3: harder part, like getting me to work up the courage.

695
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 3: She'd be like, Okay, I'm actually going on this date

696
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:03,960
Speaker 3: and like I'm actually gonna take this seriously as a

697
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,440
Speaker 3: possibility for someone that I'm going to date, because when

698
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 3: she asked me on a date, the avoidant thing came

699
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 3: up again where I was like, I'm just gonna be

700
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:12,800
Speaker 3: kind of like avoid of this girl, Like I'm not

701
00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:15,360
Speaker 3: going to text her ato like six pm every day. Why,

702
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 3: I don't know. I think that was six pm.

703
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 1: I don't like the morning spot that happens after six pm.

704
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, maybe that I don't know. I just like

705
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 3: remember like I would not text her. Yeah, I guess

706
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:35,480
Speaker 3: I thought that I was like.

707
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:45,160
Speaker 1: Eleven, that's dangerous territory, but six pm grabs at her

708
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 1: early brit special at six pm.

709
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:50,320
Speaker 3: I think I thought that story would like land Alge.

710
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 3: I thought you guys be like, wow, so bad. But

711
00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 3: it felt like I felt she was as a girl

712
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:00,040
Speaker 3: like and she would text me at night and and

713
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:02,960
Speaker 3: I wouldn't answer for a while six pm until six

714
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 3: It was crazy. But yeah, but how long did that last?

715
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 4: Though?

716
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 3: That was like because I was in Ohio. It was

717
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:13,959
Speaker 3: like over Christmas? Okay, so because we met December third, okay,

718
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:16,200
Speaker 3: and then we went on our first date January seventh.

719
00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 3: Oh so so we talked a lot before you went out. Well,

720
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 3: I remember like PM, Well, the first, she didn't talk

721
00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:27,880
Speaker 3: to me for like a week after the shoot, and

722
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 3: then I didn't talked to her for like a week,

723
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:31,400
Speaker 3: So it took like a couple of weeks in between

724
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 3: because I stalked her old like YouTube videos.

725
00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:37,239
Speaker 1: But like that's like a long time of like I

726
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 1: feel like, you know, when you're talking to somebody on

727
00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 1: like a dating app, I always wanted to meet them

728
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 1: right away because it's like there's only so much you

729
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:45,479
Speaker 1: can talk to someone before you like go on your

730
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:46,000
Speaker 1: first date.

731
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 3: I know. But we had so much to talk about

732
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 3: because like I was watching all of her YouTube videos.

733
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 3: Most you would ask her questions, did she did you

734
00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:52,719
Speaker 3: tell her?

735
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:53,960
Speaker 4: Well?

736
00:32:54,080 --> 00:32:57,320
Speaker 3: I did. The day I finally replied to her DM,

737
00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 3: I just sent her screenshot of like one of her

738
00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:02,600
Speaker 3: old YouTube videos, and I said, why am I watching

739
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:04,400
Speaker 3: this right now? Haha? But really I was just watching

740
00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:06,240
Speaker 3: those to see if like I should answer her, like

741
00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:08,600
Speaker 3: to see if I was like for real about liking her,

742
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 3: Like I wanted to like do a deep dive. So

743
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:12,440
Speaker 3: I watch like all of her stuff, and then I

744
00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 3: pretended like that was the only one I watched obviously,

745
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:20,960
Speaker 3: but I watch every single one, and yeah, then we

746
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:23,880
Speaker 3: started we kept texting for a couple of weeks, but yeah,

747
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 3: we were texting every day for like two weeks before

748
00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 3: finally we gone on this date. So we had a

749
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 3: lot to talk about on our date, and then after

750
00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:33,840
Speaker 3: that we spent like every day together like forever. Okay.

751
00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:36,400
Speaker 2: So once Chill met, it was pretty much like it was.

752
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 3: Like she was like trying to be like slow down,

753
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 3: like no, not really like it was not like I

754
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:44,400
Speaker 3: was trying to like date or tomorrow, but she kept

755
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:46,480
Speaker 3: being like I can't have a girlfriend right now. I

756
00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 3: she got to have a relationship, and I was like,

757
00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:50,200
Speaker 3: oh my god, it's totally fine. I don't even care.

758
00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 3: And then we did stop talking for twelve hours because

759
00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:58,760
Speaker 3: we kept hating. Okay, we kept out, I'm not kidding.

760
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 3: It was so short. She tried to like okay, so

761
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 3: we were hanging out every day, and then I think

762
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:06,080
Speaker 3: she realized that things are kind of probably going to

763
00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 3: get serious. So on our like third date, she like

764
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 3: was like I just want let you know, like I

765
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:14,440
Speaker 3: can't have a girlfriend, Like I like you a lot,

766
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 3: but like we can't date, and I was like, oh

767
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:19,279
Speaker 3: my god. So then I cried and then I was like,

768
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 3: well then I don't want to talk like I want

769
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:24,359
Speaker 3: to date you. Yeah, and she was like, good for you.

770
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:27,720
Speaker 3: I know I did stand my ground. Yeah, I said

771
00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:29,879
Speaker 3: I want to date like I see a future with you.

772
00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 3: So if you don't see that, then I guess we

773
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:36,480
Speaker 3: can't be together. And then she said, what about in

774
00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:38,080
Speaker 3: like six months, Like what if I go to therapy

775
00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:40,640
Speaker 3: and like figure my life out? What about in six months?

776
00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:42,400
Speaker 3: And I was like, I mean, I can't promise that

777
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 3: I'm going to be single in six months, but yeah,

778
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:46,880
Speaker 3: I'm probably still gonna like you six months from now.

779
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:49,680
Speaker 3: I don't really know. And then she left. She was like, Okay,

780
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:54,160
Speaker 3: I respect you. I understand that you don't want anything casual,

781
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:57,200
Speaker 3: so let's not talk for a while. And I was

782
00:34:57,239 --> 00:34:59,840
Speaker 3: like okay, And then like twelve hours later she texted me.

783
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,160
Speaker 3: She was like I miss you, and then I came

784
00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:04,239
Speaker 3: over to her house and then that's when we like

785
00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:06,960
Speaker 3: for real decided to like start talking talking. You know,

786
00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:08,560
Speaker 3: So when.

787
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:10,920
Speaker 4: Did y'all become a like did you did y'all have

788
00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:12,399
Speaker 4: like a will you be my girlfriend? Moment?

789
00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:12,759
Speaker 1: Yeah?

790
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:15,640
Speaker 3: She asked me. In May. On May third, she was like,

791
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:19,960
Speaker 3: she took me to Joshua tree and we like had

792
00:35:19,960 --> 00:35:22,520
Speaker 3: an airbnb and we were like walking around. But on

793
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:24,759
Speaker 3: the first night, she like made my favorite dinner for me,

794
00:35:25,120 --> 00:35:28,920
Speaker 3: and then we were playing this card game and she

795
00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 3: played like all of a sudden, the song that we

796
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:33,680
Speaker 3: first like I think made Out Too came on on

797
00:35:33,719 --> 00:35:36,400
Speaker 3: the radio or on the speaker, and I was like,

798
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:38,279
Speaker 3: oh my god, Shannon, this is a song. And then

799
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:39,880
Speaker 3: she was like, I have a present for you. And

800
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:41,839
Speaker 3: then she gave me a necklace and I said S

801
00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 3: and B and she was like, will you be my girlfriend?

802
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,759
Speaker 3: And I said, obviously, we're already dating, like we had

803
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:48,640
Speaker 3: been an exclusive.

804
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:55,720
Speaker 1: H that's a long time. R April month, Yeah, April

805
00:35:55,719 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 1: to August. Where came where there was like my girlfriend.

806
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 3: April to May to June, July four months. Yeah, it's

807
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:05,279
Speaker 3: way too long.

808
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 2: But I didn't know that.

809
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 3: I was.

810
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm new to this.

811
00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:12,000
Speaker 4: If you were waiting for me to ask you to

812
00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:13,879
Speaker 4: be your girlfriend, I've never done that before, So.

813
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:16,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wasn't gonna ask her. But I had heard

814
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:21,320
Speaker 3: that like WLW relationships. I wanted to say Lassie, but

815
00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:22,959
Speaker 3: and then I was like, I don't know if everyone's lasting,

816
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:26,759
Speaker 3: they go move fast. So I know that she's gonna

817
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:28,319
Speaker 3: ask me right away, and I feel like if a

818
00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:30,360
Speaker 3: guy were waiting four months to ask me to be

819
00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 3: his girlfriend, I would have complained. So I did start

820
00:36:33,120 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 3: like being like, isn't like I made tiny jokes about it,

821
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:40,200
Speaker 3: but I wanted to be like chill. But then I

822
00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:42,239
Speaker 3: like was telling my friends like, if she doesn't ask

823
00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:43,759
Speaker 3: me this weekend, I'm going to bring it up, like

824
00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:45,920
Speaker 3: for sure, I'm gonna be like, dude, I thought we

825
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:47,919
Speaker 3: were gonna be together. What are we doing right now?

826
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,759
Speaker 2: But she asked me what was the makeout song?

827
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:55,799
Speaker 3: It was hopeless romantic by Julia. It's like, it's a

828
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:57,920
Speaker 3: really good song. It's like, I don't know if you

829
00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:01,040
Speaker 3: know not Julia prap, don't know. I've listened to it

830
00:37:01,080 --> 00:37:03,440
Speaker 3: this morning. It's really good. You guys would listen to it. Okay,

831
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 3: who kissed you first? She asked if she could kiss

832
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 3: me when the.

833
00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:10,839
Speaker 2: Night you all hung out for the first time.

834
00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, we definitely made out, she said. I made

835
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:17,840
Speaker 3: out though, like a like a girl making out with

836
00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:19,759
Speaker 3: a guy. So we kind of had to fix her

837
00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:20,839
Speaker 3: kissing sounds of.

838
00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 4: What I just had this conversation because of love Island

839
00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:24,839
Speaker 4: because I was like.

840
00:37:24,760 --> 00:37:27,320
Speaker 3: Do you Watu Island? I'm trying to I'm on an episode.

841
00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 3: I'm really behind, but I'm watching kids.

842
00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 2: It's it's a hard watch for me.

843
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:31,320
Speaker 3: It was a hard watch.

844
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:34,360
Speaker 1: No, it's good, but the girl the way the girls

845
00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:37,239
Speaker 1: kissed the guys was so jarring to me because it's

846
00:37:37,280 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 1: so aggressive.

847
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:40,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh okay, I wasn't being agressive, she said I

848
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:44,080
Speaker 3: was being too like like submit, like letting her all

849
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 3: the work. And I was like, oh oops, what am

850
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:47,520
Speaker 3: I supposed to work? Am I supposed to cook?

851
00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 4: In? Like?

852
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:48,600
Speaker 5: What did I do?

853
00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:52,120
Speaker 3: I don't know? But then we figured it out, got

854
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:54,480
Speaker 3: that settled. The first kiss, I was like, yeah, I

855
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:57,200
Speaker 3: was a little bit. I wasn't used to. I've never

856
00:37:57,520 --> 00:38:00,080
Speaker 3: I've only made out with a girl one time in

857
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:03,840
Speaker 3: the bathroom of in a bathroom stall. But it wasn't

858
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 3: like I think we're being performative.

859
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:09,240
Speaker 2: Giving acting.

860
00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:11,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was just it was weird.

861
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:16,239
Speaker 4: Did you feel I'm curious from okay, what was the

862
00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:17,759
Speaker 4: longest relationship you had with a guy?

863
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:21,320
Speaker 3: It was not very long. I was like, the longest

864
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:23,960
Speaker 3: one I dated was less than a year. It was

865
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 3: like nine months. But we were breaking up every other week,

866
00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:29,280
Speaker 3: like terrible, terrible.

867
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 2: So is this your most like consistent oh relationship?

868
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 3: Oh my god. Yeah, And we are like way more

869
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 3: connected than I've ever been with a guy, Like I

870
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 3: can tell her literally anything, like I'm not worried about

871
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 3: like being cute all the time. Like I feel just

872
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:45,839
Speaker 3: so more myself and like comfortable and happy. So it's

873
00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 3: like maybe I'm like I don't know, I don't know

874
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:49,920
Speaker 3: if I could go back to dating men that's like

875
00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:51,920
Speaker 3: the same type of men at least, because I was

876
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:56,719
Speaker 3: going for like athletic guys like just super I don't

877
00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:59,480
Speaker 3: I think I was just trying to like get like

878
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:02,920
Speaker 3: I don't know, the guy that yeah, the guy that

879
00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 3: like everyone wanted and I just wanted to compete the challenge. Yeah,

880
00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 3: I don't know.

881
00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:11,560
Speaker 4: Did you have IX with guys like really easily, Like

882
00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:14,480
Speaker 4: would you get like what were some of the simple

883
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:18,279
Speaker 4: icks that that Okay, So my whole thing was I

884
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:21,319
Speaker 4: realized when I started dating Haley the things that she

885
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:25,040
Speaker 4: that would normally give me the ick, I don't even

886
00:39:25,120 --> 00:39:27,160
Speaker 4: have a thing, Like I know she doesn't it me

887
00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:27,600
Speaker 4: at all.

888
00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:30,319
Speaker 3: There's nothing that Shannon could do that would like gave

889
00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 3: me the ick and not want to talk to her anymore.

890
00:39:32,080 --> 00:39:33,640
Speaker 3: I want to first state with a guy and his

891
00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:36,440
Speaker 3: car alarm went off and I couldn't talk to him anymore.

892
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:40,400
Speaker 3: I'm not kidding because he was just so awkward around

893
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 3: the car alarm thing, like he was like embarrassed. That's

894
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:44,400
Speaker 3: so good.

895
00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:48,280
Speaker 2: So he got embarrassed and that was Yes.

896
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 3: It was like icky because he couldn't like recover from it.

897
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:54,759
Speaker 3: He couldn't be cool about it went up because he

898
00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 3: had to call his dad to figure out.

899
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:01,480
Speaker 2: What something else.

900
00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:05,240
Speaker 3: This one guy like to watch South Park. I feel

901
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:09,600
Speaker 3: so bad, but I hate south Park. I couldn't This

902
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:11,920
Speaker 3: other guy, my boyfriend, the guy that I like kept

903
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 3: breaking up with. He had these like as tech print

904
00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:18,120
Speaker 3: like pillowcases, but like cheap as tech print, like from

905
00:40:18,160 --> 00:40:20,759
Speaker 3: Amazon for like a dollar, And I'm so sorry. I

906
00:40:20,920 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 3: literally posted on my Snapchat story, like on my private one,

907
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:25,480
Speaker 3: and I was like, I don't know how to end

908
00:40:25,480 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 3: things like them. He's my literal boyfriend. It's just so bad.

909
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:32,279
Speaker 4: So if Shannon had like full ass tech decory, I

910
00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:32,880
Speaker 4: love that.

911
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:35,239
Speaker 3: She wouldn't have, yeah, but I would be like, this

912
00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:39,560
Speaker 3: is so hot. Shannon's like a girl though she doesn't

913
00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:42,440
Speaker 3: do anything itchy, you know, I don't know.

914
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:46,480
Speaker 4: I love that before you fell in love with the girl,

915
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:48,600
Speaker 4: you were so for the girls.

916
00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:51,680
Speaker 1: I know it's funny that that was my literal tagline,

917
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:53,480
Speaker 1: and now look at me.

918
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:56,440
Speaker 3: Now, I wonder, well, why was that your tagline? Because

919
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:59,880
Speaker 3: I would like list things that weren't for men, like

920
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 3: silverware and like air. I should have known, though.

921
00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:05,840
Speaker 2: What those were some of my favorite lists.

922
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:08,239
Speaker 4: Could you share with some of our listeners who maybe

923
00:41:08,239 --> 00:41:10,320
Speaker 4: haven't seen the videos some things that are for the girls.

924
00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 3: It would be like lowercase letters, shelter, blanket shelter. How

925
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:21,640
Speaker 3: was shelter for the girls? Why do they need that?

926
00:41:21,719 --> 00:41:25,839
Speaker 3: They're fun? And yeah they I think that I had

927
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:28,480
Speaker 3: like a bar like men should be like barbarians if

928
00:41:28,480 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 3: they're going to be in society because I don't know,

929
00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 3: like they don't even need to know how to read.

930
00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:36,200
Speaker 3: We're good, we don't need them. I should have known

931
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 3: them though that because also like I don't actually know

932
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 3: where I was going with that thought.

933
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:46,640
Speaker 4: It was really confident, fascinated that you ended up into

934
00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:50,280
Speaker 4: LGBTQ artists music videos.

935
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 3: The first one was an accident. It was I was

936
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 3: friends with Olivia O'Brien and her and Fletcher did like

937
00:41:56,200 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 3: a collapse on together, and Olivia asked me like the

938
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:02,400
Speaker 3: night before because she just needed Fletcher needed like a

939
00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 3: girl to like sit on a bench with her and

940
00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:08,719
Speaker 3: like predomin to kiss her, which is awkward, but we

941
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:11,319
Speaker 3: didn't actually kiss, Like I didn't. I don't know. That

942
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:12,280
Speaker 3: was my first time meeting.

943
00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:13,640
Speaker 1: No.

944
00:42:13,719 --> 00:42:16,040
Speaker 3: I met Olivia like the day before and it was

945
00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:18,080
Speaker 3: just really last minute, wasn't planned, and I just showed up.

946
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:19,320
Speaker 3: I didn't know what I was going to be doing.

947
00:42:19,719 --> 00:42:21,839
Speaker 3: All I knew was that I was Fletcher's like love

948
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 3: and chirst and I just sat there. Yeah, it was

949
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:26,440
Speaker 3: really quick. It was like a second.

950
00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 4: You and Shandon were together when they did their podcast

951
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:50,880
Speaker 4: together when Fletcher was on.

952
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:53,200
Speaker 2: How was that for you?

953
00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:56,920
Speaker 3: It wasn't. I know, everyone probably wants me to be

954
00:42:56,920 --> 00:42:58,799
Speaker 3: like it was so hard and likes so much, Like

955
00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:01,439
Speaker 3: I don't have that much tea about it because I

956
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:04,120
Speaker 3: felt I just felt so like secure in my relationship

957
00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:06,239
Speaker 3: with Shannon, like I knew we were already exclusive at

958
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 3: that point, and I think that like knowing kind of

959
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:14,839
Speaker 3: the people in real life, like I understand that it

960
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:18,839
Speaker 3: is their relationship is like representation for so many people,

961
00:43:18,840 --> 00:43:21,400
Speaker 3: and it was like iconic. It's like an iconic relationship,

962
00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:25,240
Speaker 3: and so I definitely want to respect that, like it

963
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:27,799
Speaker 3: should be in a museum. Like that's it, though, Like

964
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:30,560
Speaker 3: I think it's over, you know, Like I wasn't. I

965
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:35,400
Speaker 3: was just really secure with her because I I don't know,

966
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:38,160
Speaker 3: she made me feel so comfortable and like we hung

967
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 3: out after, like me and Shannon hung out after that

968
00:43:40,640 --> 00:43:43,520
Speaker 3: was like recorded, so it was fine. I don't know,

969
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:45,520
Speaker 3: I don't know, well, yeah, because.

970
00:43:45,320 --> 00:43:47,319
Speaker 1: That's like so nice because I feel like that's like

971
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 1: I feel like everybody, no matter how confident and secure

972
00:43:51,080 --> 00:43:53,920
Speaker 1: you are, you have insecurities, Like everybody just has them.

973
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:55,759
Speaker 1: And I feel like you're what you're saying is like

974
00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:58,879
Speaker 1: my relationship my girlfriend made has made me feel so

975
00:43:58,920 --> 00:44:01,920
Speaker 1: secure that even for doing an interview with her ex girlfriend,

976
00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:09,080
Speaker 1: that people lore I don't even know what they are,

977
00:44:09,680 --> 00:44:13,239
Speaker 1: and that you can can just be like it was

978
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:15,040
Speaker 1: like she was doing her job, do you know what

979
00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:15,279
Speaker 1: I mean?

980
00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:17,239
Speaker 3: Like she was like working, they were working together, like

981
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:19,040
Speaker 3: both of them, Yeah, they were working.

982
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:21,680
Speaker 1: But just to have that just goes to show like

983
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 1: how strong your relationship is.

984
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:25,839
Speaker 3: Feeling. I feel like she's like my best friend, and

985
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:29,759
Speaker 3: I don't think that she would do anything to like

986
00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:33,319
Speaker 3: ever make me feel unomfortable, like even I mean when

987
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 3: I watched it, I was like, I do feel like

988
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:40,239
Speaker 3: they kind of just watched it. Oh yeah, would you

989
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:42,960
Speaker 3: not watch it? No, I don't think I could. Would

990
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:43,399
Speaker 3: I would?

991
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:45,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure, you think I would.

992
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:48,080
Speaker 4: You'd watch it over and over again and analyze every

993
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 4: single Seaylor, Yes, Okay.

994
00:44:51,080 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 3: Well, I think that like I knew that it was

995
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:55,839
Speaker 3: just like kind of a job that they were doing,

996
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:59,120
Speaker 3: like you said, like I didn't think. I just I

997
00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:02,319
Speaker 3: just know Shannon and life and I know Carrie, So

998
00:45:02,360 --> 00:45:05,200
Speaker 3: it's like I think, I just I just know than

999
00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:08,879
Speaker 3: like one hundred percent, like I know that it's there.

1000
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:11,239
Speaker 3: You know. I don't want to like ruin anyone's day though,

1001
00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:13,480
Speaker 3: because I understand I know that feeling like when you

1002
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:16,640
Speaker 3: want two people to get back together so bad, or

1003
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 3: like you ship people in your head so bad. So

1004
00:45:19,160 --> 00:45:21,759
Speaker 3: I I think I want to respect that and like

1005
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:25,680
Speaker 3: let people have their fun, Like that's very kind.

1006
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:27,480
Speaker 2: Of very generous, very generous giver.

1007
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:30,560
Speaker 3: Becca. Well, I don't know, I feel like it's like no.

1008
00:45:30,640 --> 00:45:34,040
Speaker 1: I'd favor I'd be like she's mine now lore us

1009
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:37,160
Speaker 1: shook us ship us.

1010
00:45:38,280 --> 00:45:41,080
Speaker 3: I just don't care because it's not real. It's like Twitter.

1011
00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:43,799
Speaker 3: So but I mean it was annoying honestly. I will

1012
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:46,279
Speaker 3: say though, the day that it did come out, I

1013
00:45:46,360 --> 00:45:48,839
Speaker 3: was getting like a lot of like hate comments, being

1014
00:45:48,880 --> 00:45:52,920
Speaker 3: like I want her to be with Carrie. That was

1015
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:55,600
Speaker 3: the only annoying part because I was like, oh my god,

1016
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 3: why don't you guys like me? Like why do you

1017
00:45:57,200 --> 00:45:59,880
Speaker 3: like her better? Why does everyone like want? I don't know,

1018
00:46:00,320 --> 00:46:02,239
Speaker 3: it was more just my ego. I was like, when

1019
00:46:02,280 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 3: you guys to like me too, I'm not that bad.

1020
00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:07,799
Speaker 3: But yeah, that part sucked for like two hours, and

1021
00:46:07,840 --> 00:46:14,640
Speaker 3: then I beca more energy Yeah you don't, Yeah I do.

1022
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:17,440
Speaker 3: But I was just with her the entire time, Like

1023
00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:18,320
Speaker 3: it's hard.

1024
00:46:18,080 --> 00:46:20,600
Speaker 1: To be like, I know what you say makes sense, yeah,

1025
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:24,600
Speaker 1: but it's like I just feel in real life it's like, well, you.

1026
00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 3: Know what, I honestly think if it were a man,

1027
00:46:26,760 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 3: there's no way, Like I would not know why.

1028
00:46:29,120 --> 00:46:33,120
Speaker 1: But so that's so interesting. Why what's the difference, Like, because.

1029
00:46:33,200 --> 00:46:35,400
Speaker 3: I feel like we're best friend, We're literally like I

1030
00:46:35,560 --> 00:46:37,319
Speaker 3: just feel so close to her, like she wouldn't do

1031
00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:40,399
Speaker 3: anything to hurt me, you know. Yeah, but you're saying

1032
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 3: if it was a guy doing an interview with I

1033
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 3: would feel different. It's not interesting, Yeah.

1034
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 2: Like scrutinizing body language.

1035
00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:50,720
Speaker 3: What me, No, I'm saying.

1036
00:46:52,280 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 4: Sitting, I'm saying, if there was a guy, you'd be

1037
00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 4: like scrutinizing.

1038
00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:59,440
Speaker 1: Watching it over and over, somo being like why did

1039
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:01,040
Speaker 1: you do that?

1040
00:47:00,320 --> 00:47:00,520
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1041
00:47:01,400 --> 00:47:04,040
Speaker 3: So interesting. Well, she also like, I've never dated someone

1042
00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 3: in the public eye, so I understand, like their life

1043
00:47:08,120 --> 00:47:10,560
Speaker 3: is like kind of on display for everyone, and they're

1044
00:47:11,360 --> 00:47:13,520
Speaker 3: trying to like be enter, they're trying to entertain, They're

1045
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:16,279
Speaker 3: doing their job to like make you and I mean

1046
00:47:17,320 --> 00:47:20,279
Speaker 3: Carrie had an album to promote. Yeah, yeah, everyone knew

1047
00:47:20,280 --> 00:47:23,040
Speaker 3: what they're doing, right, Yeah, I understand. And a lot

1048
00:47:23,080 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 3: of her songs are about Shannon, like not this album,

1049
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 3: but like they are they have been about Shannon in

1050
00:47:27,520 --> 00:47:31,800
Speaker 3: the past. So yeah, obviously it's entertaining to like imagine

1051
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:34,320
Speaker 3: if Taylor Swift did an interview with like Harry Styles,

1052
00:47:34,320 --> 00:47:36,480
Speaker 3: I would watch that too. But I understand that they're

1053
00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:39,200
Speaker 3: probably never going to get back together. I wish, so

1054
00:47:39,800 --> 00:47:41,560
Speaker 3: I really do wish that they would get back together.

1055
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:43,759
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1056
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:46,720
Speaker 2: We started.

1057
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:51,839
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was with Shannon over the weekend at a

1058
00:47:51,840 --> 00:47:56,080
Speaker 4: party and it was so yeah at that beach party.

1059
00:47:56,320 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, okay, we were spike ball partners.

1060
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 3: I heard about this.

1061
00:48:01,400 --> 00:48:04,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was very sore and she said she needed

1062
00:48:04,040 --> 00:48:09,359
Speaker 4: a wheelchair. But she it was so fun to talk

1063
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:12,880
Speaker 4: to her about you because she just speaks so highly

1064
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 4: of you, and like the happiness radiating.

1065
00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:18,560
Speaker 2: From her was so like, we just had such a

1066
00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:19,000
Speaker 2: great day.

1067
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:21,240
Speaker 4: And I remember thinking we left and I was telling

1068
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:23,879
Speaker 4: my sister and her girlfriend. I was like, Shane, then's

1069
00:48:23,920 --> 00:48:26,000
Speaker 4: so happy, Like it was so fun to be around

1070
00:48:26,040 --> 00:48:27,280
Speaker 4: her and her talking about Becca.

1071
00:48:27,719 --> 00:48:29,400
Speaker 3: I feel like we're just a good fit. Like I

1072
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:32,400
Speaker 3: feel like we understand each other, and like she balances

1073
00:48:32,440 --> 00:48:35,160
Speaker 3: me out. I feel like I'm super adhd and like

1074
00:48:35,239 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 3: chaotic and like I'll be like do we should do that?

1075
00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:40,080
Speaker 3: And that, and then she's really calm and like keeps

1076
00:48:40,120 --> 00:48:43,840
Speaker 3: me together. And also I've never had a relationship like

1077
00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:46,720
Speaker 3: thisuess where i feel like we're like almost like puzzle pieces,

1078
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 3: like fitting together kind of. Yeah, and like she sees

1079
00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:54,040
Speaker 3: she understands everything that like sometimes I'll say something to

1080
00:48:54,080 --> 00:48:55,360
Speaker 3: her and I'll be like, why do I feel this

1081
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:58,440
Speaker 3: way about like something random, like any like issue in

1082
00:48:58,440 --> 00:49:01,120
Speaker 3: my life, and it's almost like dating a therapist because

1083
00:49:01,160 --> 00:49:03,800
Speaker 3: she like connects dots for me. She's like, well, remember

1084
00:49:03,920 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 3: the story you told me, Like I don't know, it

1085
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:07,680
Speaker 3: is like dating a therapist. It's so nice, Like she's

1086
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:10,719
Speaker 3: just so balanced, I feel, and she never gets worked

1087
00:49:10,800 --> 00:49:12,440
Speaker 3: up like I never. I feel like with a lot

1088
00:49:12,440 --> 00:49:15,719
Speaker 3: of men in my past, like I just feel like

1089
00:49:15,760 --> 00:49:18,160
Speaker 3: I wasn't ever understood and it was never like I

1090
00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:21,040
Speaker 3: was kind of there's like a wall between us and

1091
00:49:21,440 --> 00:49:23,240
Speaker 3: we couldn't get on the same page. And I feel

1092
00:49:23,239 --> 00:49:26,359
Speaker 3: like it's because I was trying. It might have been

1093
00:49:26,440 --> 00:49:28,399
Speaker 3: the type of mine. How shosing now, because I really

1094
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:31,680
Speaker 3: was going for like the stereotypical like I don't even know,

1095
00:49:32,239 --> 00:49:35,080
Speaker 3: like popular guy, and I feel like they I was

1096
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:37,440
Speaker 3: just trying to get them to see me as like human,

1097
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:39,920
Speaker 3: like trying to get them to like view me as

1098
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:43,360
Speaker 3: like someone important, like someone important to like make myself

1099
00:49:43,400 --> 00:49:46,960
Speaker 3: important to them. But with Shannon, I'm already like she

1100
00:49:47,320 --> 00:49:50,160
Speaker 3: inherently and like important to her, so like I don't

1101
00:49:50,200 --> 00:49:52,240
Speaker 3: need to do I don't need to prove myself to Shannon,

1102
00:49:52,320 --> 00:49:54,160
Speaker 3: like I don't need to be like, guess what, I'm

1103
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:56,800
Speaker 3: a girl, and also I'm smart, and also I have feelings,

1104
00:49:56,920 --> 00:50:00,160
Speaker 3: Like Shannon already understands all of that, and that makes

1105
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 3: our relationship like way easier because we're on the same page.

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00:50:04,239 --> 00:50:06,520
Speaker 4: Like all the time, she told me how smart you are,

1107
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:09,520
Speaker 4: like she's so smart and she's so good at games,

1108
00:50:10,200 --> 00:50:11,680
Speaker 4: because I was like, y'all should come over for games,

1109
00:50:11,719 --> 00:50:13,000
Speaker 4: and she like, Becca's so good at games.

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Speaker 2: She's so smart.

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00:50:14,040 --> 00:50:16,800
Speaker 3: No, not that good a game. She's not supposed to

1112
00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:18,839
Speaker 3: tell people that because then I can like shock them.

1113
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:24,920
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I was, she forgot I said anything.

1114
00:50:26,239 --> 00:50:28,320
Speaker 4: I know we've talked about a lot about your relationship,

1115
00:50:28,400 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 4: but I'm so curious how your career got started as

1116
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:36,080
Speaker 4: an influencer, because did did you start doing tiktoks with

1117
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:39,440
Speaker 4: the plan of this becoming your career or did it

1118
00:50:39,520 --> 00:50:40,920
Speaker 4: happen accidentally.

1119
00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:44,280
Speaker 3: It was an accident. I've always like had a pretty

1120
00:50:44,360 --> 00:50:47,319
Speaker 3: sarcastic sense of humor, So the first video I've made

1121
00:50:47,560 --> 00:50:51,439
Speaker 3: was me like rating my date party dates sarcastically, like saying,

1122
00:50:51,520 --> 00:50:53,360
Speaker 3: this guy left with another girl when he took me

1123
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:57,359
Speaker 3: ten out of ten. And that video was really meant

1124
00:50:57,400 --> 00:51:00,400
Speaker 3: for my friends or like people that I knew or

1125
00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:03,160
Speaker 3: knew those guys, but it went viral, like the first

1126
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:04,880
Speaker 3: video I ever made. So then I kept going. I

1127
00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:06,400
Speaker 3: was like, oh my god, I have so many men

1128
00:51:06,440 --> 00:51:08,560
Speaker 3: that I can make fun of, and just kept going

1129
00:51:08,760 --> 00:51:12,000
Speaker 3: on and on. Yeah, and that's kind of where the brand,

1130
00:51:12,160 --> 00:51:14,200
Speaker 3: like for the girls, not the guys, because everyone would

1131
00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:17,160
Speaker 3: be like I would never like yeah, I would only

1132
00:51:17,239 --> 00:51:20,360
Speaker 3: like talk shit about men. H That's when I like

1133
00:51:21,400 --> 00:51:23,879
Speaker 3: started to take That's when my brand started. Yeah, back

1134
00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:24,960
Speaker 3: in like twenty twenty one.

1135
00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:29,400
Speaker 4: So, and then you had a series where you would

1136
00:51:29,640 --> 00:51:33,320
Speaker 4: basically reach out to guys who were in relationships.

1137
00:51:33,640 --> 00:51:35,520
Speaker 2: What was it called the loyalty test?

1138
00:51:35,600 --> 00:51:37,000
Speaker 3: I to do test? Yeah?

1139
00:51:37,600 --> 00:51:40,480
Speaker 2: Did that was that hard for you to like deliver

1140
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:41,720
Speaker 2: that news to girls?

1141
00:51:42,160 --> 00:51:44,759
Speaker 3: Yes? Obviously it was terrible. I would send them screenshots.

1142
00:51:45,560 --> 00:51:48,440
Speaker 3: I started that because this girl wanted me to DM her,

1143
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:51,120
Speaker 3: like a girl organically asked me for that, like one day,

1144
00:51:51,239 --> 00:51:53,680
Speaker 3: like she was like, Hi, this is so random, but

1145
00:51:53,840 --> 00:51:56,480
Speaker 3: like my boyfriend loves blonde girls. Will you DM him?

1146
00:51:56,840 --> 00:51:59,560
Speaker 3: And I was like what the heck? Yeah, obviously, and

1147
00:51:59,800 --> 00:52:03,080
Speaker 3: I sent her screenshots and he failed the loyalty test.

1148
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:05,040
Speaker 3: So then I was telling a story to my friends,

1149
00:52:05,600 --> 00:52:07,480
Speaker 3: which means like he failed, which means like he like

1150
00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:09,480
Speaker 3: was flirting idea and was kind of being flirty and

1151
00:52:09,520 --> 00:52:11,800
Speaker 3: I showed her and I was really sad and emotional

1152
00:52:11,840 --> 00:52:14,480
Speaker 3: and it was hard for her. But I was telling

1153
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:15,960
Speaker 3: my friends the story and they were like, you should

1154
00:52:16,000 --> 00:52:18,880
Speaker 3: make that into a TikTok, and I was like, I guess,

1155
00:52:19,080 --> 00:52:20,839
Speaker 3: and then I started doing, but then it got way

1156
00:52:20,880 --> 00:52:23,400
Speaker 3: too overwhelming, you guys, like I was doing like inundated.

1157
00:52:23,840 --> 00:52:26,560
Speaker 3: What does that word mean, like like flooded with girls

1158
00:52:26,600 --> 00:52:28,600
Speaker 3: wanting you to act still every day still, and I

1159
00:52:28,640 --> 00:52:31,400
Speaker 3: haven't done one in probably two years. Yeah, I have

1160
00:52:31,560 --> 00:52:33,000
Speaker 3: not done a single one of these and two years

1161
00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:36,120
Speaker 3: and every I get asked about it every single day

1162
00:52:36,239 --> 00:52:38,440
Speaker 3: in my DMS. So maybe I should just starting it.

1163
00:52:38,560 --> 00:52:39,799
Speaker 3: But everyone knows I'm dating a girl.

1164
00:52:39,880 --> 00:52:39,960
Speaker 5: Now.

1165
00:52:40,000 --> 00:52:41,320
Speaker 3: I feel like you can just go into my profile

1166
00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:43,840
Speaker 3: and see that I'm not single, So why would I

1167
00:52:43,880 --> 00:52:45,440
Speaker 3: be sligning in anywaybe.

1168
00:52:45,360 --> 00:52:46,720
Speaker 2: Then like a secret.

1169
00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:48,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, I can make a fence to maybe with like

1170
00:52:48,640 --> 00:52:53,759
Speaker 3: random pictures, but yeah, I just these boyfriends, and a

1171
00:52:53,800 --> 00:52:55,960
Speaker 3: lot of them, it wasn't like one hundred percent of

1172
00:52:56,080 --> 00:52:58,960
Speaker 3: them were failing it was like, like you say the

1173
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:02,440
Speaker 3: percentage like forty percent, I would say failed. Oh so

1174
00:53:02,600 --> 00:53:06,200
Speaker 3: the higher percentage just didn't fail. M oh nice.

1175
00:53:06,719 --> 00:53:08,680
Speaker 2: So it's just not crazy, not seene.

1176
00:53:09,400 --> 00:53:11,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I don't know if they this.

1177
00:53:11,840 --> 00:53:16,000
Speaker 2: Is great, great they're not checking. That means they're not checking. Yeah, yeah,

1178
00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:17,239
Speaker 2: that's good news.

1179
00:53:18,480 --> 00:53:21,160
Speaker 3: I'm happy about that percentage. Yeah, would that be crazy

1180
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:23,239
Speaker 3: if like I mean, I don't know. I might be

1181
00:53:23,760 --> 00:53:26,080
Speaker 3: under exaggerating, but that would be crazy if like eighty

1182
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:28,680
Speaker 3: I would literally like never want a date again if

1183
00:53:28,719 --> 00:53:31,520
Speaker 3: it was like eighty percent. It honestly did make me

1184
00:53:31,520 --> 00:53:34,239
Speaker 3: a little bit jaded towards dating for a while doing that.

1185
00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:35,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can imagine.

1186
00:53:35,920 --> 00:53:39,319
Speaker 3: How are any of you feeling this? Like, yeah, so sad? Yeah,

1187
00:53:39,840 --> 00:53:40,160
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1188
00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:42,080
Speaker 2: I know that's really I was thinking.

1189
00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:46,040
Speaker 4: Because sometimes we'll get advice things on our emails and

1190
00:53:46,200 --> 00:53:48,880
Speaker 4: it'll be like, oh, I know so and so's cheating,

1191
00:53:49,080 --> 00:53:52,080
Speaker 4: Like do I do I say something? And Tanya and

1192
00:53:52,160 --> 00:53:54,040
Speaker 4: Mark are always like, stay out of it, it's not

1193
00:53:54,160 --> 00:53:54,960
Speaker 4: your relationship.

1194
00:53:55,040 --> 00:53:58,080
Speaker 3: But I'm like you, guys, no, I don't say stay

1195
00:53:58,080 --> 00:53:59,839
Speaker 3: out of it. I'm like, get in it. Yeah, get

1196
00:54:00,360 --> 00:54:02,880
Speaker 3: let them know. Yeah, because it would suck, Like, how

1197
00:54:02,920 --> 00:54:04,600
Speaker 3: else are you gonna what if they never find out

1198
00:54:04,640 --> 00:54:07,400
Speaker 3: and then they get married or something. Yeah, I just

1199
00:54:07,480 --> 00:54:11,080
Speaker 3: feel like they find out, I find out. I don't,

1200
00:54:11,200 --> 00:54:13,600
Speaker 3: or I guess sometimes in some cases, people kind of

1201
00:54:13,640 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 3: don't want to know if their partner is shooting. Like

1202
00:54:15,520 --> 00:54:16,040
Speaker 3: that's the thing.

1203
00:54:16,200 --> 00:54:17,920
Speaker 1: It's like it's like, let's say you meddle and then

1204
00:54:17,960 --> 00:54:19,560
Speaker 1: you tell them and then they do nothing about it,

1205
00:54:19,600 --> 00:54:19,879
Speaker 1: and then.

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00:54:21,560 --> 00:54:24,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, but still a bad guy for letting them know

1207
00:54:24,080 --> 00:54:26,960
Speaker 6: they're being cheated on, because you're like being judgmental, like

1208
00:54:27,040 --> 00:54:31,160
Speaker 6: you're not interjecting yourself into these people's relationship, and then

1209
00:54:31,239 --> 00:54:33,000
Speaker 6: you're like you're not gonna do anything about it.

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00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:35,680
Speaker 3: Well, imagine that's where you just got to look at you.

1211
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:39,759
Speaker 1: It's all but imagine like knowing that other people knew

1212
00:54:39,840 --> 00:54:41,560
Speaker 1: and then you if you genuinely didn't know.

1213
00:54:41,719 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 3: I would be mad at my friend, so.

1214
00:54:43,560 --> 00:54:47,160
Speaker 4: Mad if someone knew and didn't tell me. If anyone

1215
00:54:47,280 --> 00:54:50,040
Speaker 4: knows that Haley's doing anything, you have permission to meddle.

1216
00:54:50,360 --> 00:54:51,720
Speaker 3: Get in noted.

1217
00:54:52,440 --> 00:54:57,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, especially you, especially you beca Thank you so much

1218
00:54:57,560 --> 00:54:58,200
Speaker 4: for scrubbing in.

1219
00:54:58,400 --> 00:54:59,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you so much.

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00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:01,360
Speaker 3: I love Where can people follow you?

1221
00:55:01,360 --> 00:55:03,680
Speaker 4: Where can people listen to your podcast, watch your podcast,

1222
00:55:03,760 --> 00:55:05,239
Speaker 4: all the things it is called.

1223
00:55:05,480 --> 00:55:07,520
Speaker 3: My podcast is called for the Girls with Becca more

1224
00:55:07,800 --> 00:55:11,200
Speaker 3: I'm five episodes in, so don't expect to love. I'm honest.

1225
00:55:11,320 --> 00:55:14,520
Speaker 3: It's like pretty chaotic. It's on YouTube and Spotify and

1226
00:55:14,600 --> 00:55:17,600
Speaker 3: then my TikTok and Instagram is just Becca more Perfect.

1227
00:55:17,800 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 5: We love so much.

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00:55:19,600 --> 00:55:20,719
Speaker 2: It's so happy for you.

1229
00:55:21,120 --> 00:55:23,879
Speaker 3: This is like therapy. This is awesome talking to you guys.

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00:55:25,480 --> 00:55:25,920
Speaker 3: I love that.

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Speaker 2: Actually