Speaker 1: Last week, I went to the opening of a private club.
Speaker 1: It's called the Crane Club and there's a restaurant upstairs,
Speaker 1: also called the Crane Club, and it's from Noah and
Speaker 1: Jason of Marquis and Tao, and they had an event
Speaker 1: that they're real nightclub in Impressarios. I've known them for years.
Speaker 1: Melissa Wood Tepperberg came on the show. That's Noah's wife.
Speaker 1: But they've been running like nightlife in New York for years,
Speaker 1: and they also have places in La and Vegas. And
Speaker 1: they're just their machine. They just know everyone. They're amazing
Speaker 1: and it's funny. There are these little worlds, like this guy,
Speaker 1: Dave Grutman, who was there. He's the Miami guy. And
Speaker 1: then they're like this other people, Mark and Eugene, not
Speaker 1: quite as as big a business, but there they have
Speaker 1: a big business and their corner store and catch and
Speaker 1: they're like New York or like another and they might
Speaker 1: be as big. Actually they actually have asked, and they
Speaker 1: could be as big. I just don't know the Noah
Speaker 1: and Jason got I think bought by Madison Square Garden
Speaker 1: or invested in or something, so it's like bigger on
Speaker 1: they like Marquya in Vegas. I don't know anyway, there
Speaker 1: are all these groups that do this hospitality, not like
Speaker 1: a major food group or quality where they do restaurants,
Speaker 1: but meaning like those are restaurant groups. These are kind
Speaker 1: of restaurant groups that they're like restaurant groups that have
Speaker 1: like two guys running them as like that that originated
Speaker 1: as club promoters. They really understand the alchemy of a
Speaker 1: room and had to put people together. So there you go.
Speaker 1: So they invited people that they've known for decades to
Speaker 1: this opening and it was a it was a they
Speaker 1: got a good showing. It was like part camp reunion
Speaker 1: and bar mitzvah and that, like I saw people I
Speaker 1: haven't seen in thirty years, like some of them are expired.
Speaker 1: You're just like, wait, is that person so live? We
Speaker 1: way like it was like we were like the Knight
Speaker 1: of the Walking Dead, but meets celebrities like some celebrities.
Speaker 1: So like Farrell was there. His skin is gorgeous and
Speaker 1: he told me that he has skincare line. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: I review skincare, but I knew that it would sound insane,
Speaker 1: like I have a fucking little puppet show. You know
Speaker 1: that you should come to and instead I have like
Speaker 1: an Academy Award winning movie, not a puppet show, but
Speaker 1: he probably doesn't know about it, and like lo and behold,
Speaker 1: I bet you his team will send me like skincare
Speaker 1: to review because I felt in the moment I just
Speaker 1: said it to him and then got out of it
Speaker 1: because it was like, he doesn't know. Farrell doesn't fucking
Speaker 1: know that I'm the Justin Bieber of skincare. He doesn't.
Speaker 1: I'm the Pharrell of skincare. Ironically, Pharrella is Farrell, and
Speaker 1: he happens to have a skincare line that probably three
Speaker 1: people have bought. But I am the Pharrell of skincare.
Speaker 1: So for I met Farrell, and he did if I
Speaker 1: met Justin Bieber, I like, I'm a Justin Bieber skincare.
Speaker 1: So anyway I met Farrell. He has good skin and yeah,
Speaker 1: like he had like moisture on his lips. I can't
Speaker 1: explain it, Like his lips looked like really moisturized, and
Speaker 1: his skin looked good, and is outfit was great and
Speaker 1: he had a security person that was wearing head to
Speaker 1: toe Louis Retant. Justin Threreau was there. I don't know
Speaker 1: why I have to point this out. But he had
Speaker 1: a big like thing on the back of his belt
Speaker 1: if that held keys, like it was something Schneider. He
Speaker 1: was kind of dressed like Schneider from one day at
Speaker 1: a time, Like he had like a tight black T
Speaker 1: shirt on jeans, and they had this thing that I
Speaker 1: think was holding his keys on the back of his pocket.
Speaker 1: But I didn't get to meet him, but he was there.
Speaker 1: Fisher Stevens was there, who years ago dated Michelle Pfeiffer
Speaker 1: and who produced the David Beckham documentary. Justin Threau was
Speaker 1: married to Jennifer Aniston for forty five seconds, like it's
Speaker 1: like the Chris Humphries marriage. I think it was longer,
Speaker 1: but it feels shorter. And Sophia Vergaro was there, and
Speaker 1: I like her. I've met her before and to just
Speaker 1: get a giggle. We just get a laugh out of
Speaker 1: each other. She was there, were chatting. She was sitting
Speaker 1: with Lorraine, this jeweler who I know, and just like fun.
Speaker 1: It was like fun to just be stupid and talk
Speaker 1: to people like that. But then I was sitting at
Speaker 1: my booth and I saw what I thought, because I
Speaker 1: can't believe the mirage that I saw was real. I
Speaker 1: saw what I thought was Matt Dillon across the room
Speaker 1: in the wild. Like, I don't know how to explain
Speaker 1: this to you, because I just we can't just chalk
Speaker 1: it up to like was a crush. Who was your
Speaker 1: crush that you had on the wall, but you like
Speaker 1: cried over you actually cried. So I was near tears
Speaker 1: for Duran Duran, But like I I had like tears
Speaker 1: for the movies of Pretty and Pink and sixteen Candles
Speaker 1: because I just wanted to go out to my real
Speaker 1: dad's house and live there and like move into their
Speaker 1: lives and like be wearing pink and being a mall
Speaker 1: and speak like a valley girl, Like I wanted to
Speaker 1: live that life that would bring me to tears. Also, yes,
Speaker 1: but the person that would bring me to tears with
Speaker 1: Matt Dylan, Like it was like I'm I couldn't breathe,
Speaker 1: I couldn't live. I thought about it. I remember where
Speaker 1: he was discovered. I read every article about him. I
Speaker 1: was obsessed. It was a hyper fixation. And like it's
Speaker 1: always important that I bring up the movies that were
Speaker 1: not just like Outsiders, which is the obvious one, like
Speaker 1: the movie Bodyguard, which was before that, and that's kind
Speaker 1: of I think his first movie he ever did. And
Speaker 1: they say he was cast because they found him in
Speaker 1: an arcade or at a deli somewhere in Westchester, and
Speaker 1: like I just was like, so I thought I saw
Speaker 1: across the room, and now we're in a room with
Speaker 1: like a lot of like major people I mentioned to you,
Speaker 1: like just like famous people. They were like, you know,
Speaker 1: very very wealthy people are you know, people in art,
Speaker 1: in fashion? Billionaires? Like it was a fucking room, right
Speaker 1: and it was great. And now yeah, like major fashion people,
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about major nightclub people, owners of restaurants, but yes,
Speaker 1: multi billion multiple billionaires like real. So now I'm like,
Speaker 1: what the fuck am I gonna do. I'm filming for
Speaker 1: TikTok because I'm a fucking loser, and now I'm gonna
Speaker 1: walk across like in front of all these people and
Speaker 1: just like go approach Matt Dylan as if like I'm
Speaker 1: a fan at Disney with the little like book that
Speaker 1: has Mickey Mouse on the front, and I'm gonna slip
Speaker 1: in the pictures of me and the princess is inside
Speaker 1: on the other side. They're gonna sign the autograph book,
Speaker 1: like are we good? Are you okay? Like I'm somebody now,
Speaker 1: I mean sorry, Matt Dylan, and this is gonna hurt
Speaker 1: and leave a mark. I'm more relevant than Matt Dylan
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four. You're welcome. I'm sorry, don't hate.
Speaker 1: It's a fact you had your moment. So now I'm like, fuck,
Speaker 1: but he's Matt Dylan. To me, he's still the same
Speaker 1: Matt Dylan. So I'm like, I'm fucking going in. I'll
Speaker 1: never forgive myself if I don't mean Mat Dylan one time,
Speaker 1: just to say it, just get it out of the
Speaker 1: way and be done. I've never seen him in person.
Speaker 1: He's my lifelong crush, the number one of all the time.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to fucking say something. I'm wearing a
Speaker 1: fierce leather Alexander McQueen dress, but it's like leather and
Speaker 1: it's got zippers on it, and everyone's complimenting me and
Speaker 1: I am a fucking supermodel. So I walk across the
Speaker 1: restaurant and I go to him. I go, I just
Speaker 1: and he's standing next to Fisher Stevens. I'm a loser.
Speaker 1: I'm like, listen, i gotta just do it. I gotta
Speaker 1: get this out of the way. I just I you
Speaker 1: were my like life, my whole child, like duh, like whosa,
Speaker 1: but what else was I gonna do? Act like it's
Speaker 1: twenty twenty four. It was like, Hi, I'm Bethany, I've
Speaker 1: taken down Chanelle and I eat chicken salad. I like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm also a supermodel. I walk the runaway in Paris fashion.
Speaker 1: We get sixty eight years old, Like, I don't know
Speaker 1: what to say to this fucking guy. I am someone
Speaker 1: even though I don't look like even though you don't
Speaker 1: believe me because I'm now Like, so I just went
Speaker 1: in with like what anybody would do. I was just like, hy,
Speaker 1: I you just I have to say you were my
Speaker 1: fucking life, so I'd never forgive myself. I didn't say something,
Speaker 1: so he's like, oh my god, thank you whatever, like
Speaker 1: and then and I really kind of like had to
Speaker 1: then exhunt that line of questioning and commenting because I
Speaker 1: just needed to like be twenty twenty four, like, but
Speaker 1: I'm a per So he was like, Hi, how are you?
Speaker 1: And I was like, and I don't know. I think
Speaker 1: I was like saying like I knew, yeah, you were
Speaker 1: from Westchester and the articles and whatever, and he's like, oh, wait,
Speaker 1: are you from Westchester? And I was like no, but
Speaker 1: I and I told him where I was from and
Speaker 1: we connected and then he's like, but where are you
Speaker 1: in the city And I told him my neighborhood I'm in.
Speaker 1: He's like, wait, me too, like two bocks from me.
Speaker 1: I'm like okay, And we then started chatting as like
Speaker 1: modern people in twenty twenty four, and it was nice
Speaker 1: and it was fine. It was great, like you know,
Speaker 1: we're good. I'm great. And I walked away and that
Speaker 1: was the end of it. Like I was fine, I'd
Speaker 1: scratch the itch. We're good. I need to marry sleep.
Speaker 1: But I don't need to marry, fuck or kill Matt Dillon.
Speaker 1: I just needed to say what I had to say
Speaker 1: and meet him in the wild one time. He seemed
Speaker 1: perfectly nice and lovely. And then I went and sat
Speaker 1: down later with Sophia Bergara and Lorraine and her sister,
Speaker 1: and they were like they saw me walk across the
Speaker 1: room as if I was like going in for the kill,
Speaker 1: and I was like no, like they thought I was
Speaker 1: walking in like Hi, I'm gonna be like hi to
Speaker 1: pull my pants do. I was like, no, I was
Speaker 1: walking across the like, Hi, I'm a bit like they
Speaker 1: thought because if also the dress I'm wearing that like
Speaker 1: the way that I walk across or whatever the energy was,
Speaker 1: it looked like I was like taking over. I was like,
Speaker 1: that is so not my personality. Anyway. I seem super tough,
Speaker 1: but I'm not that way. I am extremely traditional when
Speaker 1: it comes to men. I have never propositioned to man.
Speaker 1: I have never walked up and like, I just I'm
Speaker 1: not that girl. I don't I'm not like aggressive in
Speaker 1: that way with men at all. I am very I
Speaker 1: believe you call me. I don't have fingers. I'm not
Speaker 1: like I believe in chivalry. I believe in tradition. I
Speaker 1: believe in being pursued. I am not that girl. So
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, no, it may have seemed that way,
Speaker 1: which is a touching story, but it ain't that way.
Speaker 1: So anyway, I met Matt Dylan and I had a
Speaker 1: great night. This is more for dating and people who
Speaker 1: are dating divorced individuals or people who have been with
Speaker 1: life partners or who have children with their ex or
Speaker 1: who have been together for multiple years, or sometimes someone
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship with has an ex that won't
Speaker 1: accept their breakup and is kind of waiting for your breakup.
Speaker 1: And I've experienced this quite a few times, and there
Speaker 1: are many ways to deal with this. And the reason
Speaker 1: I don't know why I'm thinking of this, but years
Speaker 1: ago I remember Julia Roberts getting together with Danny Mohdor,
Speaker 1: her husband. Why I remember this, I don't know, And
Speaker 1: there was a wife that was part of it. I
Speaker 1: remember this with Travis Barker and his ex Shanna that
Speaker 1: was talking publicly. And there's often a wife, an ex wife,
Speaker 1: or an ex girlfriend and sometimes there's some sort of
Speaker 1: drama with them. They kind of don't really want to disappear,
Speaker 1: and there many there are many ways to deal with it.
Speaker 1: So I have dealt with someone where they have an
Speaker 1: X that is extremely mettlesome and tries to do or
Speaker 1: say damaging things about me, and I have very surgically,
Speaker 1: not emotionally, nipped it in the bud. And how I
Speaker 1: have done that in one case was c seeing a
Speaker 1: very powerful lawyer because there was some character assassination that
Speaker 1: had no basis, and also being very serious, like you
Speaker 1: don't want to get emotional, you don't want to start
Speaker 1: attacking someone, you don't want to say anything bad about them.
Speaker 1: You're kind of just saying this is where the weabe
Speaker 1: pad is and this is where it's not. And it's
Speaker 1: cool till it's not. Like it gave you the first
Speaker 1: one for free. You got the first one for free.
Speaker 1: But I will tell you something. You can be willing
Speaker 1: to take this risk if you want to take this risk.
Speaker 1: But when I tell you with great certainty and you're
Speaker 1: not saying these exact words, what you're saying means these
Speaker 1: exact words, I will put you in the ground. Okay,
Speaker 1: so my eye will put you in the ground. Has
Speaker 1: been like, here's a big power lawyer. Now you guys
Speaker 1: may not have that. You'll find your version of this,
Speaker 1: but see seeing them and saying in a very crystal
Speaker 1: crystallized legal lean manner. And this is how you deal
Speaker 1: with horrible xes too. This is how you deal with
Speaker 1: when someone is being abusive. I talked about this on
Speaker 1: my divorce podcast. But you will do the fewest amount
Speaker 1: of characters and words. You will get your point across
Speaker 1: only without any color, without any character, assassination, with any insults,
Speaker 1: do not take any bait, and I brought up the
Speaker 1: Julia Roberts thing because Julia Roberts put on a T
Speaker 1: shirt baiting the X Like, you do not play games
Speaker 1: and you don't bait anybody. You don't poke a bear.
Speaker 1: What I did in this one situation was wrote a
Speaker 1: very clear cut email basically see seeing this lawyer and saying,
Speaker 1: this is what happened. That's what happened. That you said
Speaker 1: that was patently false, and here's why. And here's the
Speaker 1: other thing you did, and here's the third thing you did.
Speaker 1: And here's the list of things that you did so far.
Speaker 1: And I will tell you with great certainty that one
Speaker 1: more time, and not only will you be getting a
Speaker 1: cease and desist, but you will be I will be
Speaker 1: taking legal action and try me, you know, like basically
Speaker 1: like try me. And I've been on TV with enough strong,
Speaker 1: insane women to have proven that I know how to
Speaker 1: deal with it, be to have proven to them and
Speaker 1: to any woman that I am definitely not one to
Speaker 1: be fucked with. But you're welcome to try so. I
Speaker 1: have also had a situation where someone is trying to
Speaker 1: trash the person that you're in a relationship with because
Speaker 1: they want that person to go back to them, and
Speaker 1: they also keep needling that person. And often if you're
Speaker 1: in a relationship with someone who wants to be transparent
Speaker 1: with you and honest, they will tell you honestly if
Speaker 1: that person's reaching out. And I have a pretty close
Speaker 1: to zero tolerance policy for any correspondence. In fact, that
Speaker 1: original situation, I had a life coach who was on
Speaker 1: this podcast strongly suggest which I strongly reinforced. And I
Speaker 1: never give an ultimatum. I never tell somebody what to do,
Speaker 1: but strongly reinforce that this person should block their ex
Speaker 1: which was shocking because there were many reasons that they
Speaker 1: felt that they had to correspond. It's shocking how much
Speaker 1: you can correspond with someone on like a planned conference
Speaker 1: call line, like if you're talking about something like kids
Speaker 1: or something specific, or it slows it down to be
Speaker 1: on email. And so for me, I've found it shocking
Speaker 1: how incredibly desperate women in particular can be when they
Speaker 1: lose someone and someone else is with them. And I
Speaker 1: find that until they're stopped in their tracks by the
Speaker 1: you or the me, they'll find little ways to seep in,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It's sort of like they'll
Speaker 1: just find ways and I'll be the person that says
Speaker 1: like it's cool until it's not, and there'll be a
Speaker 1: moment where you're like, yeah, I don't want to deal
Speaker 1: with this anymore, and I'm gonna shut this shit down
Speaker 1: right now cause it's gonna get ugly, and only I
Speaker 1: will know if it could really get ugly. Not with everybody.
Speaker 1: Some people like, yeah, I don't have anything, there's nothing
Speaker 1: to do, you know. But sometimes you just know you're
Speaker 1: gonna get ticked off and then it's gonna get housewives.
Speaker 1: So cooler minds prevail and giving someone enough rope to
Speaker 1: hang themselves is a good idea. But once it's hit
Speaker 1: a threshold, all bets are off and you take the
Speaker 1: matter into your own hands and that's it. Otherwise you're
Speaker 1: in the wrong relationship because you shouldn't be in a
Speaker 1: relationship with more than one person unless that's something you've agreed.
Speaker 1: You've agreed, you know, unless you're doing a three sum
Speaker 1: or something a throuble. But you shouldn't be in a
Speaker 1: relationship where you feel like you are also in a
Speaker 1: relationship with an X in some way, like there's a
Speaker 1: there's an intruder, there's another person in the relationship in
Speaker 1: some way. Now someone can have an ex and have kids,
Speaker 1: and of course they're dealing with them, they could also
Speaker 1: be very close to them. I think that's the healthiest
Speaker 1: of all. I've I've dated people who are very close
Speaker 1: with their ex wives and the ex wives are actually
Speaker 1: supportive of my going out with them, and it's like,
Speaker 1: very pleasant, And it can be like that, and it
Speaker 1: should be like that. Everyone doesn't have to be batshit crazy.
Speaker 1: Everyone doesn't have to do the obvious low hanging fruit
Speaker 1: psychopath X thing. But so yeah, a great X is
Speaker 1: a wonderful thing. And a person that you're with, you
Speaker 1: want them to have a good relationship with their ex
Speaker 1: and you want them to have a good relationship with
Speaker 1: their kids, and you want all of those things. But
Speaker 1: if you are faced with a situation where you feel
Speaker 1: like there's a third party in your relationship and someone
Speaker 1: is meddling, shut that shit down on your own in
Speaker 1: a very subtle, non slanderous, non heated way,