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Speaker 1: Last week, I went to the opening of a private club.

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Speaker 1: It's called the Crane Club and there's a restaurant upstairs,

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Speaker 1: also called the Crane Club, and it's from Noah and

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Speaker 1: Jason of Marquis and Tao, and they had an event

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Speaker 1: that they're real nightclub in Impressarios. I've known them for years.

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Speaker 1: Melissa Wood Tepperberg came on the show. That's Noah's wife.

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Speaker 1: But they've been running like nightlife in New York for years,

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Speaker 1: and they also have places in La and Vegas. And

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Speaker 1: they're just their machine. They just know everyone. They're amazing

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Speaker 1: and it's funny. There are these little worlds, like this guy,

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Speaker 1: Dave Grutman, who was there. He's the Miami guy. And

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Speaker 1: then they're like this other people, Mark and Eugene, not

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Speaker 1: quite as as big a business, but there they have

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Speaker 1: a big business and their corner store and catch and

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Speaker 1: they're like New York or like another and they might

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Speaker 1: be as big. Actually they actually have asked, and they

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Speaker 1: could be as big. I just don't know the Noah

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Speaker 1: and Jason got I think bought by Madison Square Garden

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Speaker 1: or invested in or something, so it's like bigger on

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Speaker 1: they like Marquya in Vegas. I don't know anyway, there

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Speaker 1: are all these groups that do this hospitality, not like

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Speaker 1: a major food group or quality where they do restaurants,

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Speaker 1: but meaning like those are restaurant groups. These are kind

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Speaker 1: of restaurant groups that they're like restaurant groups that have

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Speaker 1: like two guys running them as like that that originated

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Speaker 1: as club promoters. They really understand the alchemy of a

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Speaker 1: room and had to put people together. So there you go.

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Speaker 1: So they invited people that they've known for decades to

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Speaker 1: this opening and it was a it was a they

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Speaker 1: got a good showing. It was like part camp reunion

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Speaker 1: and bar mitzvah and that, like I saw people I

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Speaker 1: haven't seen in thirty years, like some of them are expired.

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Speaker 1: You're just like, wait, is that person so live? We

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Speaker 1: way like it was like we were like the Knight

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Speaker 1: of the Walking Dead, but meets celebrities like some celebrities.

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Speaker 1: So like Farrell was there. His skin is gorgeous and

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Speaker 1: he told me that he has skincare line. I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I review skincare, but I knew that it would sound insane,

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Speaker 1: like I have a fucking little puppet show. You know

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Speaker 1: that you should come to and instead I have like

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Speaker 1: an Academy Award winning movie, not a puppet show, but

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Speaker 1: he probably doesn't know about it, and like lo and behold,

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Speaker 1: I bet you his team will send me like skincare

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Speaker 1: to review because I felt in the moment I just

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Speaker 1: said it to him and then got out of it

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Speaker 1: because it was like, he doesn't know. Farrell doesn't fucking

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Speaker 1: know that I'm the Justin Bieber of skincare. He doesn't.

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Speaker 1: I'm the Pharrell of skincare. Ironically, Pharrella is Farrell, and

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Speaker 1: he happens to have a skincare line that probably three

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Speaker 1: people have bought. But I am the Pharrell of skincare.

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Speaker 1: So for I met Farrell, and he did if I

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Speaker 1: met Justin Bieber, I like, I'm a Justin Bieber skincare.

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Speaker 1: So anyway I met Farrell. He has good skin and yeah,

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Speaker 1: like he had like moisture on his lips. I can't

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Speaker 1: explain it, Like his lips looked like really moisturized, and

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Speaker 1: his skin looked good, and is outfit was great and

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Speaker 1: he had a security person that was wearing head to

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Speaker 1: toe Louis Retant. Justin Threreau was there. I don't know

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Speaker 1: why I have to point this out. But he had

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Speaker 1: if that held keys, like it was something Schneider. He

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Speaker 1: was kind of dressed like Schneider from one day at

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Speaker 1: But I didn't get to meet him, but he was there.

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Speaker 1: Fisher Stevens was there, who years ago dated Michelle Pfeiffer

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Speaker 1: and who produced the David Beckham documentary. Justin Threau was

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Speaker 1: married to Jennifer Aniston for forty five seconds, like it's

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Speaker 1: like the Chris Humphries marriage. I think it was longer,

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Speaker 1: but it feels shorter. And Sophia Vergaro was there, and

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Speaker 1: I like her. I've met her before and to just

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Speaker 1: get a giggle. We just get a laugh out of

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Speaker 1: each other. She was there, were chatting. She was sitting

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Speaker 1: with Lorraine, this jeweler who I know, and just like fun.

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Speaker 1: It was like fun to just be stupid and talk

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Speaker 1: saw what I thought was Matt Dillon across the room

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Speaker 1: crush that you had on the wall, but you like

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Speaker 1: cried over you actually cried. So I was near tears

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Speaker 1: for Duran Duran, But like I I had like tears

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Speaker 1: for the movies of Pretty and Pink and sixteen Candles

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Speaker 1: live that life that would bring me to tears. Also, yes,

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Speaker 1: but the person that would bring me to tears with

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Speaker 1: Matt Dylan, Like it was like I'm I couldn't breathe,

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Speaker 1: I couldn't live. I thought about it. I remember where

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Speaker 1: he was discovered. I read every article about him. I

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Speaker 1: was obsessed. It was a hyper fixation. And like it's

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Speaker 1: always important that I bring up the movies that were

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Speaker 1: an arcade or at a deli somewhere in Westchester, and

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Speaker 1: like I just was like, so I thought I saw

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Speaker 1: like a lot of like major people I mentioned to you,

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Speaker 1: like just like famous people. They were like, you know,

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Speaker 1: multi billion multiple billionaires like real. So now I'm like,

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Speaker 1: what the fuck am I gonna do. I'm filming for

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Speaker 1: TikTok because I'm a fucking loser, and now I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: just like go approach Matt Dylan as if like I'm

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Speaker 1: a fan at Disney with the little like book that

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Speaker 1: on the other side. They're gonna sign the autograph book,

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Speaker 1: like are we good? Are you okay? Like I'm somebody now,

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Speaker 1: I mean sorry, Matt Dylan, and this is gonna hurt

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Speaker 1: and leave a mark. I'm more relevant than Matt Dylan

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Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four. You're welcome. I'm sorry, don't hate.

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Speaker 1: It's a fact you had your moment. So now I'm like, fuck,

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Speaker 1: but he's Matt Dylan. To me, he's still the same

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Speaker 1: Matt Dylan. So I'm like, I'm fucking going in. I'll

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Speaker 1: way and be done. I've never seen him in person.

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Speaker 1: He's my lifelong crush, the number one of all the time.

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to fucking say something. I'm wearing a

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Speaker 1: fierce leather Alexander McQueen dress, but it's like leather and

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Speaker 1: it's got zippers on it, and everyone's complimenting me and

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Speaker 1: I am a fucking supermodel. So I walk across the

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Speaker 1: and he's standing next to Fisher Stevens. I'm a loser.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, listen, i gotta just do it. I gotta

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Speaker 1: were my like life, my whole child, like duh, like whosa,

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Speaker 1: but what else was I gonna do? Act like it's

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty four. It was like, Hi, I'm Bethany, I've

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Speaker 1: taken down Chanelle and I eat chicken salad. I like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I'm also a supermodel. I walk the runaway in Paris fashion.

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Speaker 1: We get sixty eight years old, Like, I don't know

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Speaker 1: what to say to this fucking guy. I am someone

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Speaker 1: even though I don't look like even though you don't

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Speaker 1: And I was like, and I don't know. I think

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Speaker 1: He's like, wait, me too, like two bocks from me.

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Speaker 1: But I don't need to marry, fuck or kill Matt Dillon.

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Speaker 1: I just needed to say what I had to say

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Speaker 1: that is so not my personality. Anyway. I seem super tough,

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Speaker 1: but I'm not that way. I am extremely traditional when

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Speaker 1: I have never walked up and like, I just I'm

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Speaker 1: believe you call me. I don't have fingers. I'm not

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Speaker 1: like I believe in chivalry. I believe in tradition. I

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Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, no, it may have seemed that way,

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Speaker 1: which is a touching story, but it ain't that way.

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Speaker 1: So anyway, I met Matt Dylan and I had a

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Speaker 1: great night. This is more for dating and people who

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Speaker 1: are dating divorced individuals or people who have been with

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Speaker 1: who have been together for multiple years, or sometimes someone

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Speaker 1: And I've experienced this quite a few times, and there

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Speaker 1: are many ways to deal with this. And the reason

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Speaker 1: I don't know why I'm thinking of this, but years

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Speaker 1: ago I remember Julia Roberts getting together with Danny Mohdor,

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