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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network Talk.

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Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

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Speaker 2: who talks.

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Speaker 3: What's up y'all?

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Speaker 1: Thank you for tending in for a new episode that

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Speaker 1: we talked back at your girl AJ holiday.

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Speaker 4: What's up?

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Speaker 2: Ten Damn y'all is big tan band. I love y'all

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Speaker 2: so so so very much and I missed y'all. Thank

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Speaker 2: you all for coming back. How was your weekend? AJ?

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Speaker 2: What weekend? Okay?

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Speaker 1: Because I literally had a day and a half to

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Speaker 1: myself yesterday. I'm last week Okay, that's all I had.

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Speaker 1: Excuse me, A half a day, not a day and

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Speaker 1: a half because we were working. What do you mean

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Speaker 1: you wasn't working this past weekend because I was.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that was one day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but the weekend is only consisted of two days, right,

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Speaker 1: So I worked Saturday and half a Sunday.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, I had half a day off last week.

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Speaker 2: I guess I work every weekend, so it don't feel

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Speaker 2: no different for me.

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Speaker 1: Shit, bitch, I been needing a day to decompress, a

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Speaker 1: full day to decompressed. I didn't get it, So yeah,

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Speaker 1: I did get rolled by a hag Sunday night and

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Speaker 1: my fucking air condition went out.

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Speaker 2: That was very weird.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I said some mean shit about somebody before

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Speaker 1: I went to sleep, So I'm like, damn they Mama

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Speaker 1: probably can't even fucked with me.

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Speaker 2: I had an interesting dream last night as well. I

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Speaker 2: think I'm really healing. Like I had a dream that

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Speaker 2: my current self was going back to my childhood self,

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Speaker 2: and like during moments that I remember of like some

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Speaker 2: type of trauma, I was telling my childhood self that

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Speaker 2: I was never going to leave her and that she

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Speaker 2: is okay. And I remember literally picking my childhood self

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Speaker 2: up and hugging her hmm. In different situations like I

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Speaker 2: was in the window looking like waiting on my daddy,

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Speaker 2: and I came and got myself out of the window

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Speaker 2: and I was like, come here, I got you. I'm

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Speaker 2: never Ain't that crazy? Yes?

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Speaker 1: And that makes me want to cry a little bit

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Speaker 1: because that is the one thing I can remember about

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Speaker 1: my fucking daddy is leaving me yep, and waiting for

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Speaker 1: him at the window, looking at him.

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Speaker 2: Leave, wait, waiting for him to come.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm watching my daddy pull off when he said

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Speaker 1: I can go with him.

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Speaker 2: So I think that was. I was like, am I

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Speaker 2: healing myself subconsciously? Am I sleep?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I mean that's when we do our most work for real,

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like, really, that's when you're awake.

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Speaker 1: This life right here. It's like a little simulation sometimes

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Speaker 1: when I'm driving out of highway and like the sky

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Speaker 1: feeling like I'm in a droom show. I'm just riding

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Speaker 1: and and somebody's like somewhere controlling the button manipulating me.

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Speaker 1: For real, I'm just like present but not present, you

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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: So, yeah, you ever driven home and then got home

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Speaker 2: and like I don't remember none of.

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Speaker 1: The ride all the time, bitch driving a fucking Charlotte

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Speaker 1: on Saturday.

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Speaker 3: I don't know how I got there, but I just appeared.

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Speaker 1: It had me down on the phone all type of

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Speaker 1: shit mixed up and just I don't know, Thank you God.

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Speaker 2: Thank you God. That's what i'd be like, because I

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Speaker 2: don't know how I made it here. I don't remember

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Speaker 2: playing attention to a lick of that ride. Thank you God.

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Speaker 2: That's all you can say.

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Speaker 1: Man, you gets you where you're going as safely even

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Speaker 1: when your ass ain't paying no attention.

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Speaker 3: Chib me and my weekend was a bunch of Oh.

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Speaker 3: I did go out Sunday.

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Speaker 2: I did go out to eat and stuff with my

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Speaker 2: my nieces in town.

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Speaker 3: That's always nice, Aaron. I love Lendy so much.

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Speaker 1: He's very She's a She's a scorpio though, so she

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Speaker 1: not always No bit will strike your eyes, okay, but

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Speaker 1: for the most part, my nieces and nephew are some

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Speaker 1: good people.

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Speaker 2: Amen to that. Let's get in the sins.

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Speaker 3: You got going on a child.

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Speaker 2: The fertility rate in the US dropped to an all

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Speaker 2: time low in twenty twenty four, were less than one

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Speaker 2: point six kids per woman, new federal data shows. It

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Speaker 2: says the decline might be driven by women delaying or

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Speaker 2: foregoing childbirth due to economic concerns, later marriages, and inadequate

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Speaker 2: support like parental leave and affordable childcare. Historically, the rate

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Speaker 2: was around three point five. In the nineteen sixties, they

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Speaker 2: was busting the wide open and having and then peaked

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Speaker 2: at replacement level two point one in two thousand and

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Speaker 2: seven and now aligns with Western europe countries. European countries,

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Speaker 2: so despite an increasing one percent increase in total births

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Speaker 2: I used to client for most age groups with adjustments.

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Speaker 2: Attribute it to updated since his population estimates estimates incorporating immigration.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, bites is not having babies like they used to.

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Speaker 2: Not in America anyway, Why you skip that last part?

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Speaker 2: Oh you wanted me to go into that. Yeah, go

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Speaker 2: into that. It's very important and Troup administration has promoted

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Speaker 2: measures like expanded ivfxs and baby bonuses to boost rates,

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Speaker 2: but experts like Leslie Root and Karen Does all argue

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Speaker 2: there's no cause for alarms you and it is a

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Speaker 2: fertility delay amid ongoing population growth and criticize the policies

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Speaker 2: that's symbolic rather than addressing core needs.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So as somebody who will probably have to do

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Speaker 1: in vuture, like no doctor has said I can't conceive naturally,

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Speaker 1: but I have one tube, right, so the safest way

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Speaker 1: probably for me to conceive would be via en vitro.

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Speaker 3: My old job. The deductible least be one hundred dollars.

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Speaker 2: That's it.

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Speaker 1: There are more women having fertility issues than waiting to

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Speaker 1: have a baby, I believe, and I think there's a

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Speaker 1: lot of changes that happened in the last decade in America.

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Speaker 1: That's probably causing more women not to be able to conceive,

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Speaker 1: because how many women do you know having problems getting pregnant?

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Speaker 2: Uh, honestly, not that many. I don't know. I don't

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Speaker 2: know know many that many people that are trying to

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Speaker 2: get pregnant right now. My peers have had their motherfucking kids.

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Speaker 3: I still had a couple homegirls and no kids, you

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Speaker 3: know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: Most of the ones that don't have kids either lying

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Speaker 2: about not wanting them or don't want them. You know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, a couple a couple of my friends like don't

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Speaker 1: want kids, but for the most part, like they might

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Speaker 1: be delaying, you know, because of course you want to

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Speaker 1: get your husband first.

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Speaker 3: But I mean you started some years start passing by,

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Speaker 3: like what we're doing.

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Speaker 1: So I do have a couple of friends who froz

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Speaker 1: their eggs, so they that's really not fertility issues. Actually,

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Speaker 1: one she had she was like peri menopausal, so she

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Speaker 1: froze her eggs, but she ended up conceiving, Okay, naturally,

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Speaker 1: no problem. So I think there's a lot of there's

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Speaker 1: a lot more things that's contributing to the decline in

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Speaker 1: the birth rate. So now they want to pay people,

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Speaker 1: like in China and shit like that. They be trying

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Speaker 1: to pay people now to have babies, when all before

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Speaker 1: they were like putting a like a caught off many

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Speaker 1: how many how many kids a family could have. So

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Speaker 1: maybe they're about to start doing that in America. If

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Speaker 1: y'all ever traveled through Middle America, like just driven like

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Speaker 1: from the east to the west coast.

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Speaker 4: It's a lot.

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Speaker 1: Like most people only live on the outside of the country.

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Speaker 3: We are not overpopulated.

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Speaker 1: It's like concentrated areas, right, the major cities that are

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Speaker 1: overcrowded with a bunch of people.

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Speaker 3: Like we're all living in one area, right.

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Speaker 1: But if you want to get some land and build

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Speaker 1: some shit in Montana somewhere, you can have a.

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Speaker 2: Whole and you can count to yourself. Yeah, a whole lot. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So some black families like on ig like Brian laying

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Speaker 2: out there and putting big gas homes on it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to do that, you know, because I

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Speaker 1: do not aspire to you know how people be like,

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Speaker 1: oh my kids, my kids go to a white school.

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Speaker 1: We live in an all white neighborhood. I don't have black neighbors.

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Speaker 1: That is not what I aspired to have. Okay, yes,

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Speaker 1: I would love to live in a neighborhood with a

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Speaker 1: bunch of black people, affluent flant families with money and.

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Speaker 2: Me being someone who went to school and was in

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Speaker 2: classes with only white students. It is not good. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's not a flex no shape to white people like

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Speaker 2: they're cool or whatever. But we don't have nobody that

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Speaker 2: look like you in class. You get alienated. So yeah,

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Speaker 2: y'all know, I believe in social engineering. Okay.

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Speaker 1: I feel like everything is always like trying to like

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Speaker 1: everything is always Everything in life is marketing, right, this

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Speaker 1: was marketing. We got ads running through it. TV is marketing.

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Speaker 1: You get like what fifteen minutes of TV and how

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Speaker 1: many minutes of commercials? So when everybody starts doing something,

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Speaker 1: I'm going right when everybody else is going left.

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Speaker 2: That fucking t app that just.

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Speaker 1: Came out that when viral that all the podcasts are

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Speaker 1: talking about is just all on social media, just all

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Speaker 1: of a sudden, Like, who don't.

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Speaker 3: Y'all to talk about this?

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Speaker 1: See, people got to be conscious of like are you

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Speaker 1: doing this because you want to? So now we're talking

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Speaker 1: about on the back end. Now this is the bad

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Speaker 1: part of this app. So apparently the t app was

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Speaker 1: recently hacked after going viral exposing seventy two thousand, seventy

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Speaker 1: two thousand user photos. So the t app designed to

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Speaker 1: help women spot red flag men and catch cheaters hasn't hacked.

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Speaker 1: After going viral this week, the app announced it had

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Speaker 1: discovered unauthorized access to archive data system, and a statement

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Speaker 1: on social media Friday, the data system held an estimated

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Speaker 1: seventy two thousand.

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Speaker 2: Why am I.

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Speaker 1: Adding the number with user Seventy two thousand users submitted images,

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Speaker 1: including thirteen thousand image images of selfie, some of which

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Speaker 1: included photo IDs submitted during account verification. In addition, fifty

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Speaker 1: nine thousand images publicly viewable in the app from posts, comments,

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Speaker 1: and direct messages from other two years excuse me, from

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Speaker 1: over two years we're also accessed.

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Speaker 3: So this app ain't even that old. But anyway, major marketing, I.

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Speaker 2: Know my selfie of them you signed up for this app. Well,

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Speaker 2: I didn't make it that far. I just did this

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Speaker 2: selfie portion, uh huh, And that was as far as

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Speaker 2: I got. So here's the thing. I saw this ugly

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Speaker 2: They was like, nobody will see this selfie. That's what

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Speaker 2: they said in that shit like looking like this, This

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Speaker 2: is not a cute selfie.

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Speaker 3: Now you're selfie about to be on an ai acount.

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Speaker 1: Right, Okay, so yeah, the app got hacked, so now

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Speaker 1: it's a whole hot mess.

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Speaker 4: Right.

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Speaker 1: But then I also saw this other Instagram user. She

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Speaker 1: put a post up and she was saying, y'all bitches, y'all.

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Speaker 2: Women better be glad that men.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 3: I don't believe that men aren't chatty patties.

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Speaker 1: I actually believe men probably talk shit about women even

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Speaker 1: more like you know, amongst themselves, amongst their peers. But

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Speaker 1: imagine if men were to have an app talking about

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Speaker 1: who all they don't smash? What red flags you got,

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Speaker 5: No, y'all would kill y'allselves. If people really know.

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Speaker 2: That's why I've never go on that park to balloon shit.

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Speaker 1: it's just I got some other things about that. Have

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Speaker 1: We're not used to getting rejected at least a man

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Speaker 1: Bitch is definitely be hopping them in's inboxes because some

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Speaker 2: Be sneaking to meek coffee. Are you married? Do you

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Speaker 1: Women be doing that same shit.

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Speaker 2: Right and if they don't say nothing back, I'll be like, Okay,

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Speaker 2: well he's gay.

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Speaker 1: So next obviously, so y'all better stop partaking in that bullshit.

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Speaker 1: If y'all don't want these men to come up with

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Speaker 2: What could they really I think about that, And I'm like,

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Speaker 2: what could they really say.

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Speaker 1: If one hundred two hundred three hundred men posts they

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Speaker 2: Okay. The niggas that come on like if they could

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Speaker 1: Never got right, like who who? Yeah, So I don't know, y'all,

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Speaker 1: Bett be careful, be careful. We all exposing these guys

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but sometimes these niggas be need exposing. Sometimes I'm like,

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Speaker 2: But then you know, I said this one thing I

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Speaker 2: was going on a date with a girl. She picked

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Speaker 2: we run by McDonald's and get my mom and brothers

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Speaker 2: So she paid for it right. He took her back

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Speaker 2: McDonald's and used her they was broke. Damn. Niggas be predators.

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Speaker 1: Women do that too. Women be predators. Women are apex predators. Okay,

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Speaker 1: let's be clear, and we want to get your ass

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Speaker 1: up out of here.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna do whatever we gotta do too. Yeah, so

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Speaker 2: we not gonna act.

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Speaker 1: Like women don't be using men for food, Like women

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Speaker 1: literally have niggas name programmed in their phone as a

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Speaker 1: restaurant Applebee's whatever, Apple, that's nasty Bees. Yeah, so we're

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Speaker 1: not gonna act like women don't do that type of

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Speaker 2: They just move on.

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Speaker 1: They might not ever say your name, they may talk

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Speaker 3: I just don't think it's cool.

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Speaker 1: And then the predatorial thing, like I understand that, right,

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Speaker 1: But then I also don't believe every woman that's involved

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Speaker 1: are not always on honest, no, no, because she's still

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Speaker 1: we don't have lion deceitful ass female friends. Like we

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Speaker 1: Why try not associate myself if somebody super like Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Yeah? So all right, so it says here Lakers DeAndre eighton,

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Speaker 2: I think that's how you said. Accused of stranded ig

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Speaker 2: k Co's, uh, and when she wouldn't give them nine,

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Speaker 2: she got left and she was stranded there.

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Speaker 3: How are you stranded? Did you not have any money?

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Speaker 2: Did you not listen to flute out one oh one? Girlfriend?

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Speaker 2: You need to go back to season one. Baby girl,

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Speaker 2: we taught you what to do when getting flewed out,

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Speaker 2: because you're never stranded. If you got money and exactly

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Speaker 2: got no money, you should not go nowhere. Your mama

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Speaker 2: should have taught you that. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: because you know, sometimes they just be putting people. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I don't be I don't always be like going with

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Speaker 2: Well, I don't seen a couple of different illustrations that

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, I mean you ain't never stranded or maybe

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Speaker 1: but yeah, you ain't never stranded. If you got money,

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Speaker 1: like I would enjoy my vacation, I'll go get me

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Speaker 1: a resort and be chilling. Yeah, and you fuck running

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Speaker 3: I really don't feel.

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Speaker 1: Like women fly out with no intention intention on having sex.

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Speaker 1: Something happens and it turns the pussy off, right, and

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Speaker 1: now you're not getting nothing because I'm not back.

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Speaker 2: To But that don't mean you're gonna get it just

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Speaker 2: because you bought a plane ticket, right, it's the vibe envibent.

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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna have sex with you, period exactly, and

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't give Yeah, yeah, don't be going flying out nowhere.

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Speaker 1: First of all, if you don't want to smash, I

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Speaker 2: If you know that you come in and you leaving

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Speaker 2: your pussy at home, you should stay home too, Yes,

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Speaker 2: because what are you doing? Because you you gotta know

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Speaker 2: that that's childish flying you out because he wants y'all probably.

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Speaker 3: Don't talk about smashing everything else.

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Speaker 1: Like girl, if I do that ship, bitch, it's on

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Speaker 1: the fucking pop as soon as I see your ass.

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Speaker 2: Okay, what are we doing?

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Speaker 1: No, I al I need to eat first, But antake

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Speaker 1: a shadow like, bitch, you didn't even get to wash

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Speaker 1: it this nigga, Like what's some niggas like that?

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Speaker 2: But I know I've seen some stories.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, stay your ass at the house or have

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Speaker 1: some fucking money alway, any options.

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Speaker 2: Always even if you bring your coachine, you know you're

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Speaker 2: gonna pop it open and that's your currency. Still have

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Speaker 2: some money, bitch, like you should never go nowhere talking

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Speaker 3: And that's whack of a man.

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Speaker 1: I've went, I've been food out right, and then you

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Speaker 1: know the guy is like, you know, we don't He

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Speaker 1: I mean that's in retrospect at that point. You seeing

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Speaker 1: place in not smashing. I'm just not if I'm not

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Speaker 1: comfortable with you not yes again you could say some

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Speaker 1: shit do some shit in it.

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Speaker 2: And like in my twenties, I went to La to

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Speaker 2: this we went to church together, like we grew up

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Speaker 2: was talking about, you know, our childhood, the church family,

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Speaker 2: who was doing what, and then like we went to

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Speaker 2: was like, no, I'm not with that, like I'm ever

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Speaker 2: and said he ain't want to do it if he

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Speaker 2: had THEO.

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Speaker 1: No, that's that's absolutely happened to me before from a friend,

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Speaker 1: school on up. Absolutely, And he said what I said,

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Speaker 1: let me phrase it properly. He said, I know what,

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Speaker 1: I know what the what the bitches be doing that

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Speaker 1: I fuck with or some shit like that? What you

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Speaker 1: fucking somebody else? What makes you think they're not fucking

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Speaker 1: somebody else? You think you got my control over Debo?

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you think you got my control over these women

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Speaker 1: that I'm supposed to trust that you know what they're

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Speaker 1: doing to stow add my Kucie to the sis, bob Stick.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely fucking not.

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Speaker 3: No men are retarded.

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Speaker 2: That's in my twenties. Why he was awesome, Why you

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Speaker 2: need to use a condom? You got something? Are you retarded? Yes?

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Speaker 2: You are? I use that word every episode. I gotta stop.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: Why that is retardation?

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Speaker 2: Because what that don't make no sense? Like that's your logic.

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Speaker 2: That is scary logic.

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Speaker 1: Because if he's using that logic with you, the other

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Speaker 1: people he's smashing without a condom, he's also then well,

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Speaker 1: if you got to use a condom, that mean you

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Speaker 1: got something. I don't got to use no cordom, I

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Speaker 1: don't got nothing.

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Speaker 2: What what? And probably ain't got tested cheating until you do,

440
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Speaker 2: but it won't be me. So he was and listening.

441
00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:42,480
Speaker 2: He thought like he thought it was a flex to

442
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Speaker 2: like all right, got mad, got up the next morning

443
00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:48,720
Speaker 2: and left and was gone for a long time. I

444
00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:51,800
Speaker 2: know people in LA and I got fuck you money baby.

445
00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:53,919
Speaker 2: I was out of there when he pulled up. It

446
00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:56,040
Speaker 2: was a g wagon, pulled it up with sitting me

447
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Speaker 2: away from there with your scarfrap Ryan next na same.

448
00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:11,040
Speaker 1: That's how you gotta treat her, man, because who you're

449
00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:13,160
Speaker 1: playing with, right, it's getting.

450
00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:13,760
Speaker 2: Rough by him. Man.

451
00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:16,639
Speaker 1: Some of these dudes are lame okay, and they just

452
00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 1: happen to get some money.

453
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:18,640
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

454
00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:21,439
Speaker 1: Right, so they think that, you know, because they have

455
00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:24,320
Speaker 1: this money now, everything else is supposed to just come easy.

456
00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 1: And then when you don't is and then you're the

457
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:29,959
Speaker 1: ig model with the fat ass. I'm sure he ran like, oh,

458
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 1: I know she going right, especially if she gets fluid

459
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:35,879
Speaker 1: out often she still gets to picka choose so she

460
00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:38,480
Speaker 1: want to smash right, but she.

461
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Speaker 2: She definitely can't. First of all, I would have never

462
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:46,160
Speaker 2: I would never told the world this story that anybody

463
00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:47,440
Speaker 2: stranded me anywhere.

464
00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:50,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would not have. But you know they want

465
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:53,399
Speaker 1: the cloud. Yeah, girls be lame to.

466
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:57,040
Speaker 2: I keep saying that you want to notice the story

467
00:23:57,119 --> 00:24:02,720
Speaker 2: is the salvation army, baby, please help me get hold.

468
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell a story, but I ain't telling names,

469
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:08,160
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like I feel like that's

470
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:10,400
Speaker 1: why I'm never just trying to expose people.

471
00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 2: Man, I ain't never tell nobody I'm stranded nowhere. That's

472
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 2: one of the things that's going down with me. Maybe

473
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:20,400
Speaker 2: my best friend in the sound she.

474
00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:22,600
Speaker 1: Just felt stranded because the person she came here to

475
00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 1: be with just left her.

476
00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:26,640
Speaker 2: So that is like maybe it wasn't financially stranded.

477
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:30,080
Speaker 1: Maybe just yeah, yeah, because like say, for instance, somebody

478
00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:31,600
Speaker 1: tell you to get out their car. Of course you

479
00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:34,159
Speaker 1: got the uber app right, That is still leaving you

480
00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 1: stranded though, yea, even though you can get to where

481
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,040
Speaker 1: you're going, Like they left.

482
00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:41,439
Speaker 2: Me for dead, like Mama, yeah, you left me.

483
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:45,920
Speaker 3: So maybe maybe she had a couple of dollars. I

484
00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:48,880
Speaker 3: don't know, but y'all, y'all young girls, do not leave

485
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:50,400
Speaker 3: y'all fucking house with.

486
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:56,640
Speaker 2: No money ever, any draws and money in your pocket.

487
00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:58,120
Speaker 2: You never know what's gonna happen.

488
00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:01,120
Speaker 1: And Mama always told me that even know what's gonna happen,

489
00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:03,520
Speaker 1: make sure I don't wear draws in this age.

490
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:05,440
Speaker 2: So anyway, I.

491
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:09,520
Speaker 3: Gotta work by that. I wear a by no holy draws.

492
00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:13,159
Speaker 1: But make sure you got some motherfucking money in your

493
00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:15,240
Speaker 1: pocket or somebody who got some money who don't mind

494
00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:17,640
Speaker 1: those sending who don't mind sending it to you something.

495
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 2: You gotta have some type of means life.

496
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:26,480
Speaker 1: Right, all right, y'all, So let's get into this week's episode.

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Speaker 1: We have a lovely guest when we talked back this week.

498
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Speaker 1: Her name is Vanity Where, and she is a super

499
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Speaker 1: tech girly and she is going to give us a

500
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Speaker 1: little bit little tidbits on you know, black women in tech,

501
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:46,320
Speaker 1: how do you get in tech? What adore your life?

502
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:51,000
Speaker 1: Is also like a little movement she has going as well,

503
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Speaker 1: So y'all stay tuned.

504
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Speaker 3: All right, y'all. So y'all know everything is tech and with.

505
00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:07,120
Speaker 1: The rise of AI. Right, So today's guest is essential

506
00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 1: if you're in a job market. Why are you smelling

507
00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:15,280
Speaker 1: that crazy? We have Vanity Where on we talked back

508
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Speaker 1: this week, and she's a certified life and business coach

509
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:22,240
Speaker 1: with over thirteen years of experience in tech and she's

510
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 1: helping people all over the country land high paying tech roles,

511
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 1: secure global contracts and shift their mindset to align with

512
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Speaker 1: their purpose. All right, so welcome to adore your life.

513
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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, absolutely, thank you for coming on. I'm excited listen,

514
00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:42,720
Speaker 2: and I'm so proud of you.

515
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Speaker 4: Thank you.

516
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 2: Oh y'all know each other?

517
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Speaker 3: Yeah, oh.

518
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Speaker 2: I'm not since I got to Charlotte.

519
00:26:50,640 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 6: So literally a very long time. Oh hey girl become

520
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Speaker 6: a mother and yeah literally.

521
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Speaker 2: So let didn't know about tech because y'all her Instagram.

522
00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 2: It's all right, So you're so funny on there, like

523
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 2: you make tech funny and I always think of tech

524
00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:10,119
Speaker 2: as some born as nerdy shit low key, right, I

525
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 2: mean it is, but but you make it cool and

526
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 2: you make it funny and you make it interesting. And

527
00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:18,760
Speaker 2: one of my friends reached out to you. All right,

528
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Speaker 2: this is all right, this is kind off topic, but

529
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Speaker 2: a little bit about a scrum master.

530
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Speaker 4: What is that?

531
00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:28,480
Speaker 2: Because yeah, that sounds like something filthy? What dad?

532
00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 6: Because the scrum card I see, I see where your

533
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:33,560
Speaker 6: head is going. There, I see where your head is going.

534
00:27:33,720 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 6: But a scrum master is basically just a person who

535
00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:41,399
Speaker 6: is kind of like a business a project manager. They

536
00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:44,680
Speaker 6: kind of the person who just make sure the company

537
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 6: is agile.

538
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 4: They make sure the company can really.

539
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Speaker 6: Flow together and really like accomplish their goals, whatever the

540
00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 6: business goals are.

541
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Speaker 2: So there's no filter involved. No, I mean, well you

542
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Speaker 2: can tell topic. It's gonna tell abate that.

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Speaker 4: Hell all right, I'm not.

544
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Speaker 2: Part yeah the name, like, how did they come up

545
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Speaker 2: with that? You know? That's what you refer like? Girl.

546
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Speaker 2: But before we get into the conversation, y'all, we gotta

547
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550
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555
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556
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557
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Speaker 3: That's real good?

558
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Speaker 4: Myself drinking that for real.

559
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Speaker 2: We're gonna drink this one. I'm gonna finish it. That's

560
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Speaker 2: a good one, all right, Ray and Leray, y'all check

561
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Speaker 2: them out, all right? So let's talk healing in high places.

562
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:10,560
Speaker 2: All right, So let me see what I got here.

563
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 2: How black women in corporate tech navigate burnout. So let's

564
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:18,800
Speaker 2: talk about burnout and what that looks like, especially for

565
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Speaker 2: black women.

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Speaker 6: Well for me because I can really only talk for me,

567
00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 6: you know, but for me, burnout is just like when

568
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 6: I'm feeling like overstimulated and I really want to crash out,

569
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 6: you know, like I just don't. I don't want to

570
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 6: get to a point where it's like I'm feeling depressed,

571
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:37,239
Speaker 6: but I kind of just feel like, you know, I

572
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:38,240
Speaker 6: just want to go in my room.

573
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:39,440
Speaker 4: I don't want to be bothered.

574
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Speaker 6: And with having a kid or a daughter, that's just

575
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 6: you can't really burn out exactly.

576
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 1: It's like they know when you need a break and

577
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:48,640
Speaker 1: they come talking right right.

578
00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 4: Yeah. So I'm like, we can't allow ourself to do that.

579
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:57,120
Speaker 2: So in the tech world, how would you encourage like

580
00:29:57,640 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 2: tech girlies to navigate that environment? Like what some ways

581
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 2: that they can navigate burnout?

582
00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 6: So some ways that they can navigate burnout is for me,

583
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 6: it's doing like affirmations first.

584
00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 4: I know people be like information is so cliche, but no.

585
00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:12,800
Speaker 6: It really works because like for me, I'm the only

586
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 6: black person, a black woman, and almost we just hired

587
00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 6: a new black man last week. So like I'm the

588
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 6: only black woman in the room, and you kind of

589
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:24,200
Speaker 6: feel like you have to shrink yourself. And so those

590
00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:27,720
Speaker 6: affirmations like I should be in this room right, it

591
00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:31,040
Speaker 6: needs to be heard. Those are the affirmations that you

592
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:32,840
Speaker 6: kind of want to say to yourself. So you don't

593
00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 6: start that shrinking yourself, Like you don't.

594
00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 3: Start overthinks like imposter syndrome and stuff like that.

595
00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 4: Start overthinking like should I get braids?

596
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 1: Like no, for real, because unfortunately, it is a uniform

597
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:50,320
Speaker 1: in the corporate world, you know what I'm saying. Like

598
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 1: I think it's changing though, because you got the white

599
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 1: boys who come in with sleeves up, whole sleeve tattoos.

600
00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:58,240
Speaker 1: So we're in the corporate setting now like our generation

601
00:30:58,360 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 1: all right, the millennial.

602
00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 2: Linials, not so many boomers exactly.

603
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:03,920
Speaker 3: That's changing.

604
00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's changing.

605
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Speaker 6: So like I would just say, make sure you're seeing

606
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 6: your affirmations and making sure that you build community. So

607
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:14,240
Speaker 6: that's like therapy, gone outside, getting outside. I don't care

608
00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:16,480
Speaker 6: if you got to me and still get outside, you know,

609
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:19,880
Speaker 6: build that community or make that safe place for yourself.

610
00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:23,440
Speaker 6: But it's just being at home, dancing, doing your thing.

611
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:27,480
Speaker 6: Just build community and go to therapy. I really and

612
00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 6: going to therapy.

613
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:30,560
Speaker 4: And let's talk about that.

614
00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, therapy is definitely is important.

615
00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 1: And I just think that I think women Black women

616
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Speaker 1: in particular, we do therapy.

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. If it's just congregating with

618
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Speaker 3: each other and talking through our shit.

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Speaker 1: That's right, We at least talk, right, So, yeah, it's

620
00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:49,080
Speaker 1: absolutely important in every facet, every sect.

621
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Speaker 2: Of your life.

622
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 1: What about cold switching, cold switching and tech and corporate, Like,

623
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Speaker 1: how do you navigate that and then still stay you know,

624
00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 1: authentic to yourself because I've always prided myself on just

625
00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 1: it's just easy to be yourself. Yeah, So in any setting,

626
00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:08,560
Speaker 1: any job I ever had, as soon as I walk.

627
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:12,800
Speaker 3: In the doors, here comes trouble because me and setting.

628
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Speaker 6: Well, I feel like I don't really necessarily believe in

629
00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 6: cold sweets. I believe in literally being yourself because you

630
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 6: can only kind of keep that up for certain exhausting

631
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 6: then eventually you're gonna start like breaking through, Like you're

632
00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 6: gonna start being your real self. That's like when you're

633
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 6: in a relationship with a man, and he code switched

634
00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 6: for the.

635
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Speaker 3: First that representative, that representative was there.

636
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Speaker 4: It is just the same experience in text.

637
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 6: So I really believe that you should just be yourself,

638
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 6: like going there being yourself. I mean, if you want

639
00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 6: to like fancy up the way you talk a little

640
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 6: bit more, you know, sound a little bit more professional,

641
00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 6: you can do that, but like, again, how long are

642
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:52,000
Speaker 6: you gonna do that?

643
00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 3: Cause that gets you gonna come out you get frustrated, right.

644
00:32:57,520 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 4: Like, yeah, I see a lot of women that do that,

645
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:02,080
Speaker 4: you know, they're like.

646
00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:07,120
Speaker 2: I'm like, it almost comes as second nature after some time,

647
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:09,680
Speaker 2: Like being in these environments, I'd be like, I find

648
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:14,120
Speaker 2: myself saying, you bet you. I don't girl in real life, But.

649
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:16,480
Speaker 3: Where did that?

650
00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 2: Where did that come from?

651
00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:21,240
Speaker 4: Your grandmama?

652
00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:24,479
Speaker 2: You bet you?

653
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:25,440
Speaker 4: You bet your grandma?

654
00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 2: We're just trying to stay up. She was half white.

655
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Speaker 4: I'm here, you're not what I'm picking up on? What

656
00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 4: you learn? You bet you got it.

657
00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 2: But it's just like you know, like you code switched on.

658
00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:46,800
Speaker 2: It's not even on purpose. It's just like growing up.

659
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Speaker 2: I just feel like we've had to do it so

660
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:55,280
Speaker 2: much that we just assimilate sometimes but I'm like, because

661
00:33:55,320 --> 00:33:57,720
Speaker 2: I'm from Charleston and we extra geechee, and then people

662
00:33:58,080 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 2: you come to Charleston, you really gonna hear geechee. I

663
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:03,840
Speaker 2: do try to articulate my words more because of the

664
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:06,440
Speaker 2: different settings I'm in, But for the most part, like,

665
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:07,320
Speaker 2: I've never had.

666
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:09,920
Speaker 3: To just not be me in any setting.

667
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 1: And if you fuck with me, you with me, you don't, right,

668
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 1: So I think, yeah, I would agree that people.

669
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:17,040
Speaker 3: Just should try to stay tue to themselves.

670
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:20,000
Speaker 6: Yeah, because again, you deserve to be in that room,

671
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:20,960
Speaker 6: and you add value.

672
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:24,680
Speaker 4: Whenever you start to, like as simulate too much, then

673
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:26,640
Speaker 4: you kind of lose your voice in the room.

674
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:29,440
Speaker 6: They hired you for a reason, but that woman of

675
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,800
Speaker 6: color to give a different viewpoint on things.

676
00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:34,799
Speaker 2: Absolutely, But do y'all remember that episode of Insecure, the

677
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:38,279
Speaker 2: black girl. She was played by dang I can't think

678
00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:40,879
Speaker 2: of who was played by you. She was like a

679
00:34:40,920 --> 00:34:45,799
Speaker 2: summer intern like for the law firm, and they wanted

680
00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 2: she was in there, like in the break room like

681
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:49,640
Speaker 2: and yeah, you know what I said, And that was

682
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:54,280
Speaker 2: crazy and Isa, no it wasn't. It was Molly. Molly

683
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:59,279
Speaker 2: was like seeing it, you know, Like so then some

684
00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 2: of the partners came to Molly, because Molly is the

685
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:04,279
Speaker 2: black woman, was like, maybe you could, you know, talk

686
00:35:04,320 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 2: to her fellow negro right and tell her to negro

687
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:09,879
Speaker 2: a little bit right. They didn't say that, but that's

688
00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:12,400
Speaker 2: what they were asking her to do. She refused to

689
00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 2: do it. You know.

690
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:16,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, well but I feel like that's a little different

691
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:17,799
Speaker 1: right cause it is. It is a time and place

692
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:19,719
Speaker 1: for everything, like you got and o how to be

693
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:21,440
Speaker 1: your Yeah.

694
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:24,680
Speaker 6: It's like she because they telling you them people looking

695
00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 6: at you like girl like in their way, so like

696
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:28,840
Speaker 6: if you're not reading the room, then you're going to

697
00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:31,120
Speaker 6: continue to be doing too much looking crazy.

698
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:33,160
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, it's just like a slippery slope though, because

699
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:35,440
Speaker 2: you don't know when to be too much yourself and

700
00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:38,000
Speaker 2: when to like you bet you.

701
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:42,239
Speaker 3: You know, I don't never feel like you bet you.

702
00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:46,080
Speaker 6: I could say, like the people you bet you, they

703
00:35:46,200 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 6: really like they kind of like your lingo. Like literally

704
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 6: I said, I was in the office and I said, no,

705
00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:53,840
Speaker 6: did he do. One of my coworkers he was like,

706
00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 6: I'm gonna go say that to my son this weekends.

707
00:35:56,920 --> 00:35:59,320
Speaker 4: Like he's a girl. I'm take it up people, and

708
00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:00,120
Speaker 4: I'm gonna say no.

709
00:36:02,600 --> 00:36:10,600
Speaker 2: You know. All right, so soft life meets hard tech.

710
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 2: Let's talk about how the soft life movement works or

711
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:16,840
Speaker 2: doesn't work for black women in high pressure tech roles.

712
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:20,839
Speaker 4: Okay, I feel like it works. Like you're making more money,

713
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:22,880
Speaker 4: all right, so you're.

714
00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:27,200
Speaker 6: Able to really like just show yourself self care like period.

715
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:29,960
Speaker 6: So you're you have the money, so why not do it?

716
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 4: Get order a cleaner, like get somebody clean outsource like

717
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 4: you know.

718
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 6: And I feel like it's very important because you really

719
00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 6: start to feel like you're doing a lot in the road.

720
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 6: You're really like moving, you're doing your job or whatever,

721
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:47,960
Speaker 6: and it's important that when you come home you know

722
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:50,360
Speaker 6: how to just have that soft life and you allow

723
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:52,120
Speaker 6: yourself to have that soft.

724
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:54,799
Speaker 4: Like Yeah, that's the part for ye.

725
00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 3: Yeah.

726
00:36:57,320 --> 00:36:57,520
Speaker 2: Yeah.

727
00:36:57,600 --> 00:37:00,799
Speaker 1: I just saw this post on Instagram and and it

728
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:03,279
Speaker 1: was a podcast and then we're talking about like how

729
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:08,120
Speaker 1: basically talking about like the average income amongst black people

730
00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:11,479
Speaker 1: in the major black cities, so like Atlanta, Charlotte, DC

731
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:14,960
Speaker 1: or whatever, and it was like Charlotte sneaky, Charlotte will

732
00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 1: sneaky with the money we got all the banks here,

733
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:19,359
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So most black people like

734
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:21,680
Speaker 1: a lot of them are making at least eighty thousand

735
00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:24,960
Speaker 1: dollars above t one hundred thousand dollars plus if you

736
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:26,239
Speaker 1: work at Wells Fargo.

737
00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:29,399
Speaker 2: Regions.

738
00:37:29,440 --> 00:37:31,960
Speaker 1: All of those banks, yeah, are here in the area.

739
00:37:32,120 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 1: So yeah, like the girlies in Charlotte got a lot

740
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:35,440
Speaker 1: of suffre bill Lei's.

741
00:37:35,280 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 2: In Charlotte is high too.

742
00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:42,160
Speaker 1: The bill's high everywhere, man, Charleston higher than Charlotte really,

743
00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 1: absolutely for sure.

744
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:47,200
Speaker 4: Rent I say that though, because it's like a tourist city,

745
00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 4: so they go.

746
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:49,200
Speaker 2: In the beach.

747
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:51,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, yeah, I could see that.

748
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:51,720
Speaker 2: It's stupid.

749
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:54,279
Speaker 1: And then a lot of people they moved down with

750
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 1: their tech jobs working from home. They moved from New

751
00:37:57,280 --> 00:37:59,480
Speaker 1: York where you're paying like five thousand dollars for a

752
00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 1: low ass. Now you can come down here and get

753
00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 1: a baby mansion, you know, in Charleston, which is still

754
00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:07,400
Speaker 1: it's high for us. So they're now boosting up the

755
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:10,240
Speaker 1: cost of living essentially because now they're catering to a different,

756
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 1: different demographic.

757
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:14,560
Speaker 2: Of people that's trumping in town. So it's terrible. Yeah,

758
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 2: So I know you help people get into tech, Like, well,

759
00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 2: how do you go about doing that? Like what's up?

760
00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 6: Well, really, I feel like a lot of people think

761
00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:22,880
Speaker 6: like you have to be a nerd, you have to

762
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:24,799
Speaker 6: be super smart, you have to be super techy, and

763
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 6: that's just really not the case. There's a lot of

764
00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:29,439
Speaker 6: roles that are not You don't even have to really

765
00:38:29,480 --> 00:38:31,680
Speaker 6: know a lot of tech, you know, you just got

766
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:34,759
Speaker 6: to know how to really talk to people. So like,

767
00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 6: for me, I'm a business analyst, Like that's what I do.

768
00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:37,920
Speaker 4: I just talk to.

769
00:38:37,880 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 6: People in game requirements. So I feel like the main

770
00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 6: thing that you need to know is how can you

771
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:46,800
Speaker 6: tailor your skills, whether you come from like customer service,

772
00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:50,000
Speaker 6: whether you come from being on a podcast, Like, how

773
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:52,920
Speaker 6: can you tailor your skills to fit into tech? So

774
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:54,799
Speaker 6: that's kind of what I do. I just kind of

775
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:58,239
Speaker 6: like get your resume and say, let's fix it. That's

776
00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 6: tailor your skills to tech. Oh, you were on the phone,

777
00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:03,839
Speaker 6: you talked to people. Oh, you analyzed and looked at reports.

778
00:39:03,520 --> 00:39:04,680
Speaker 4: So that you're an analyst.

779
00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:08,200
Speaker 6: They're not trying to pay you analyst money, right, and

780
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 6: you know they're trying to say you still customer service,

781
00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:13,160
Speaker 6: but you literally know them systems like the back of

782
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 6: your hand.

783
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:15,799
Speaker 4: You an analyst. Let's fix those things.

784
00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:18,800
Speaker 6: Let's fix those titles and that's really fixed the resume

785
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 6: to taylor what you already be doing. And so once

786
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:24,480
Speaker 6: you do that, they're like, oh snip, I didn't know

787
00:39:24,640 --> 00:39:26,680
Speaker 6: like I could do that. That's really what it's about,

788
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:27,800
Speaker 6: just learning your skills.

789
00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:28,440
Speaker 2: I saw this.

790
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:31,440
Speaker 1: Little sneaky thing on YouTube one where this guy he

791
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:34,200
Speaker 1: basically took the description from the job and y'all can

792
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 1: try this, try.

793
00:39:34,880 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 3: And see if it works.

794
00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:38,560
Speaker 1: He took the description from the job, so now you

795
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:41,960
Speaker 1: know your resume is white sheet, black paper, black letters.

796
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:46,040
Speaker 1: He took the description from the job and he copied

797
00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:48,160
Speaker 1: and paste onto his resume, but made it really small

798
00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 1: and white so it would be blending in with the

799
00:39:50,640 --> 00:39:53,320
Speaker 1: white part of the page. And then that way, because

800
00:39:53,320 --> 00:39:58,239
Speaker 1: now what they're using to select candidates for jobs, they're

801
00:39:58,280 --> 00:40:01,480
Speaker 1: using AI. Yeah, so there's scared. They're not a hiring

802
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:05,040
Speaker 1: managers not looking at every single resume. They're looking for

803
00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:07,680
Speaker 1: the things that the AI is looking for, the things

804
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:10,319
Speaker 1: that match the description of the job. So even if

805
00:40:10,320 --> 00:40:12,120
Speaker 1: you're a resume, like you literally got to tell your

806
00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 1: resume for whatever position you're looking for, right, whatever position

807
00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:18,640
Speaker 1: you're applying for. But he put it like real small,

808
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 1: so in that way.

809
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:23,120
Speaker 4: Like AI exactly exactly.

810
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:27,920
Speaker 1: And if you black, make sure you put white.

811
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 3: Ye, make sure you put white on your resume.

812
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:35,920
Speaker 4: I mean you know an application that person yes, and.

813
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:37,799
Speaker 2: Then show it black. Yep, I'll called that.

814
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 1: Black because they got And so this is why people

815
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 1: be so mad about the Affirmative Action ship right, like

816
00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 1: or them taking out the the DEI stuff.

817
00:40:50,120 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 4: It is.

818
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Speaker 1: It causes some type of like when you have to

819
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 1: meet a quota as a corporation, like we got to

820
00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:57,879
Speaker 1: have a certain amount of black people, a certain amount

821
00:40:57,880 --> 00:40:59,799
Speaker 1: of white people, certain amount of women, a certain amount

822
00:40:59,840 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 1: of you with with uh handicap and all this different things.

823
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:07,359
Speaker 1: What if they already met their quota for a black

824
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:10,239
Speaker 1: woman mm hmm, we already know it's probably the small

825
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:13,440
Speaker 1: in comparison to who's actually being hired. So d I

826
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:16,640
Speaker 1: isn't helping black women really, right? So yeah, if you

827
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:20,840
Speaker 1: a black woman, put waite or don't answer.

828
00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:23,160
Speaker 2: It's not Rachel Dozel on your way to the top.

829
00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:24,399
Speaker 4: I mean you had.

830
00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:36,440
Speaker 2: You have to you play the system, man. So what

831
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 2: is it like dating as a high earning black woman though?

832
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Speaker 6: I mean it's just like any other role, Like no,

833
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 6: whether if you're a nurse or you work at McDonald's.

834
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:51,920
Speaker 4: These men ain't shit. Was that on a spreadsheet? Was

835
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 4: that on Excel?

836
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:56,319
Speaker 2: Did you do a B look up for that? Not?

837
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Speaker 4: This is a I talking right. No, Yeah, the man

838
00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:06,480
Speaker 4: a't ship. But I just feel like when you have

839
00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:08,920
Speaker 4: your own money, like in.

840
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:12,320
Speaker 6: This generation of like Chicken Nigga, get a man, I

841
00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:13,760
Speaker 6: can say that, right, you should.

842
00:42:13,520 --> 00:42:15,640
Speaker 2: Say whatever you want watching you.

843
00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:19,720
Speaker 6: I'm just saying when you're in that whole like mina

844
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,680
Speaker 6: frame like you, and you're dealing with a woman with money,

845
00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:24,320
Speaker 6: you're dealing with a high caliber woman.

846
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:25,840
Speaker 4: So you have to come correct.

847
00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:28,719
Speaker 6: So as a tech person, you just kind of got

848
00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:32,520
Speaker 6: to separate the real men from the fakes.

849
00:42:32,560 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 4: And learn to deal with high caliber men. You can't

850
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:35,839
Speaker 4: go for the.

851
00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:39,839
Speaker 6: Drug dealers because that's what you like you, because they're

852
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:42,240
Speaker 6: not gonna understand you, you know what I'm saying.

853
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:44,320
Speaker 3: So, girl, you ain't telling me shit.

854
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:47,799
Speaker 4: You got her own for the ones that and that's

855
00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 4: what they say.

856
00:42:48,239 --> 00:42:49,840
Speaker 3: I am a drug dealer at heart, thoats.

857
00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:50,880
Speaker 2: You see, that's the problem.

858
00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:54,439
Speaker 4: We be like real life hustler at heart. Girl.

859
00:42:54,520 --> 00:43:01,160
Speaker 5: By people are an aspect of sometimes you know what

860
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:02,359
Speaker 5: I'm saying, until you like.

861
00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:03,279
Speaker 3: Stop selling dope.

862
00:43:05,239 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 4: But you just got to go for a high caliber men.

863
00:43:07,239 --> 00:43:08,279
Speaker 4: Like at the end of the day, he.

864
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:09,399
Speaker 2: Is a high caliber man.

865
00:43:09,520 --> 00:43:09,759
Speaker 4: You know.

866
00:43:10,040 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 3: I think people be confused in high earning with high value.

867
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:16,319
Speaker 6: Well both, you know what I'm saying, because they can

868
00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 6: have I know, men that have money, but they still name.

869
00:43:18,960 --> 00:43:22,280
Speaker 4: So like, you gotta have both.

870
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:24,720
Speaker 6: You have to know how to treat me and really

871
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 6: cater to me and love me with consideration if you

872
00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:30,799
Speaker 6: can't do that, because when you're dealing with a high

873
00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 6: caliber man and you're dealing with like a man that

874
00:43:33,600 --> 00:43:36,920
Speaker 6: has money, like they don't care about the money.

875
00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:38,720
Speaker 4: They consider you for anything.

876
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:42,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree, And doesn't it feel good to be considered?

877
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:47,960
Speaker 2: That's all we want? Man, go ahead, Yes it's toasty. Yes.

878
00:43:48,120 --> 00:43:52,759
Speaker 2: So outside of tech also a life coach. So what's

879
00:43:52,800 --> 00:43:56,840
Speaker 2: the difference between like life coaching and therapy?

880
00:43:57,080 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 4: Yeah? I love that question. That's an amazing question between.

881
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:04,799
Speaker 6: I feel like therapy focuses mainly on like trauma, like

882
00:44:04,840 --> 00:44:07,440
Speaker 6: the things you want gone through in your past, you know,

883
00:44:07,480 --> 00:44:09,480
Speaker 6: trying to work through that so you can get out

884
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:11,640
Speaker 6: of your own way. A life coach is that's what

885
00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:13,560
Speaker 6: they do. They help you get out of your own way.

886
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:16,680
Speaker 6: So they're like you're a goal person. You go to

887
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 6: and you be like, you know what, I want to

888
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:20,799
Speaker 6: go back to school, but I'm over assimilated. I don't

889
00:44:20,840 --> 00:44:23,399
Speaker 6: know the steps. I'm like your cheerleader. I'm like your

890
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:25,200
Speaker 6: person that's gonna be like you're getting.

891
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:28,399
Speaker 4: We had these we had these goals. Here's week two.

892
00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 6: We said we was gonna be here where you at why?

893
00:44:31,320 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 6: And then I'm also the person that's like, basically, I'm

894
00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:37,280
Speaker 6: also the person that's gonna be like, let's go celebrate

895
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:39,120
Speaker 6: no matter how big or little.

896
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 4: The win is. So I kind of feel like that's

897
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:42,800
Speaker 4: the difference the the therapists.

898
00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:44,799
Speaker 6: They focus on your past and they can't help you

899
00:44:44,840 --> 00:44:47,759
Speaker 6: with your future because your future basically you know, you

900
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 6: know your past basically yes the time, all the times.

901
00:44:54,280 --> 00:44:57,040
Speaker 6: But the life coaches and what that helps you in

902
00:44:57,080 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 6: the present moment.

903
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, because I.

904
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:02,719
Speaker 1: Think therapy like therapy is cool, right, but they just

905
00:45:02,719 --> 00:45:05,359
Speaker 1: give you the tools to kind of try to help

906
00:45:05,440 --> 00:45:10,040
Speaker 1: you navigate through the things right. Sometimes good, but they

907
00:45:10,120 --> 00:45:13,560
Speaker 1: just keep they just keep bringing bringing up all the

908
00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:14,080
Speaker 1: bad things.

909
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:15,120
Speaker 2: That's what you do every.

910
00:45:14,920 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 1: Time they go to therapy, Like therapy like that, like

911
00:45:17,280 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 1: you just unpacking on somebody.

912
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 2: Packing old ship and sitting it on the table. That's

913
00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:22,560
Speaker 2: what I feel like. I'm just sitting it on the table.

914
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:25,440
Speaker 2: It was down I had to bury and now we

915
00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 2: brought it on the table, but we ain't really did

916
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:30,120
Speaker 2: nothing with it. That's my issue with therapy. Sometimes I

917
00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 2: feel like we're pulling it all out, but what are

918
00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:33,480
Speaker 2: we doing it?

919
00:45:33,719 --> 00:45:35,399
Speaker 3: Do they really want to heal you though? When that's

920
00:45:35,440 --> 00:45:35,839
Speaker 3: their job?

921
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 1: Because if everybody was healed, which healing supposted like supposedly

922
00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 1: has a destination, right, So if they actually were to

923
00:45:42,320 --> 00:45:45,719
Speaker 1: help you heal whatever the thing is, you wouldn't need them,

924
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:47,920
Speaker 1: just like doctors exactly.

925
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:50,319
Speaker 3: Dermatologists recommend no.

926
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 6: One is God, no one can heal you like they

927
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 6: can help you heal, but you have to do the

928
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:59,000
Speaker 6: work deal exactly. So when you're pulling those emotions out,

929
00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 6: and that's what the therapist is helping you do, instead

930
00:46:01,200 --> 00:46:04,000
Speaker 6: of bearing it and then getting triggered and then wondering

931
00:46:04,040 --> 00:46:06,640
Speaker 6: why I'm this far triggered, it's like, let's go ahead

932
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:09,359
Speaker 6: and help you get used to talking about that. So

933
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:13,160
Speaker 6: therefore you're not staying staying in the trigger you know

934
00:46:13,200 --> 00:46:14,719
Speaker 6: how to kind of like Okay, I'm triggered, but but

935
00:46:14,920 --> 00:46:18,000
Speaker 6: I'm not, you know, instead of like staying there in

936
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:20,360
Speaker 6: spiraling down. I feel like that's why I feel like

937
00:46:20,400 --> 00:46:22,800
Speaker 6: therapy is good. And then like the life coaching is

938
00:46:22,840 --> 00:46:24,080
Speaker 6: where it comes in and it's like.

939
00:46:24,120 --> 00:46:26,240
Speaker 4: All right, how are we healed?

940
00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:29,880
Speaker 6: Let's let's get some goals. Now, let's accomplish some things.

941
00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:32,160
Speaker 6: Now that's gonna make you even feel even more healed.

942
00:46:32,840 --> 00:46:34,319
Speaker 2: So if I come to you and I'm like, hey,

943
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:36,120
Speaker 2: I would like a session, what would be the first

944
00:46:36,120 --> 00:46:39,000
Speaker 2: thing we would do? We just sit down and what Well,

945
00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:39,680
Speaker 2: if you want.

946
00:46:40,080 --> 00:46:41,799
Speaker 4: The session, the first thing I'm gonna do is say

947
00:46:41,800 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 4: why what do you? What do you? What are you

948
00:46:43,600 --> 00:46:44,480
Speaker 4: trying to accomplish?

949
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:46,960
Speaker 6: Like, you know, that's that's the first thing, because you

950
00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:49,880
Speaker 6: I feel like you always got to know your why things?

951
00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 6: So why what is it? What made you feel like

952
00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:54,319
Speaker 6: you needed help? What made you feel like you needed

953
00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:58,080
Speaker 6: an accountability partner? And we get to that, you know,

954
00:46:58,160 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 6: and once we get to that, we start going to goals,

955
00:47:00,960 --> 00:47:02,960
Speaker 6: trying to figure out what makes you happy?

956
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:03,839
Speaker 4: What is it?

957
00:47:04,560 --> 00:47:04,759
Speaker 2: You know?

958
00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:07,560
Speaker 6: And if we don't know what that is, then we

959
00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:09,439
Speaker 6: need to sit down and unpack that a little bit.

960
00:47:10,040 --> 00:47:12,600
Speaker 2: What makes you happy? That's a hard question.

961
00:47:12,680 --> 00:47:14,279
Speaker 1: I ask people that all the time, Like once you

962
00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 1: take away like family and money, like what really makes

963
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:19,080
Speaker 1: you happy? Yeah?

964
00:47:20,080 --> 00:47:22,440
Speaker 2: Dicking food for me.

965
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:31,160
Speaker 5: Yo, now food food Yeah, But for me, it's took

966
00:47:31,200 --> 00:47:32,160
Speaker 5: me a while to get here.

967
00:47:32,840 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 6: So I feel like, for me, like love makes me

968
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 6: happy because God is love, and so like long as

969
00:47:38,600 --> 00:47:41,759
Speaker 6: I have self love, I'm able to no matter how

970
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:44,279
Speaker 6: many times I get my heart broken, continue to love again.

971
00:47:44,400 --> 00:47:48,840
Speaker 2: Yes, So that's the hard part. Yeah, because like you said,

972
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:51,480
Speaker 2: these niggas I don't like. I don't like saying niggas

973
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:52,839
Speaker 2: ain't shit. I don't like saying that.

974
00:47:52,920 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 1: You shouldn't say that for real, because if you ain't

975
00:47:55,160 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 1: never ran into a nigga that is shit, like kids are,

976
00:47:58,239 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 1: you might not be shipped, right.

977
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:02,520
Speaker 2: So that's why the fight saying that. But I just

978
00:48:03,040 --> 00:48:08,080
Speaker 2: I have dated quite a few undesirable people in the lifetime.

979
00:48:08,360 --> 00:48:11,959
Speaker 6: I can't say you're right, you shouldn't say that that's

980
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:15,520
Speaker 6: true because I you know, I'm dating someone that is

981
00:48:15,600 --> 00:48:16,360
Speaker 6: like really.

982
00:48:16,120 --> 00:48:19,720
Speaker 3: A great rights we just hadn't gotten to the person.

983
00:48:19,920 --> 00:48:21,920
Speaker 4: But I feel like you meet y'all.

984
00:48:22,680 --> 00:48:24,840
Speaker 2: I feel like you.

985
00:48:24,880 --> 00:48:25,919
Speaker 4: Give me who you are.

986
00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:28,960
Speaker 6: You mean who you are, so it feel like that

987
00:48:29,040 --> 00:48:30,920
Speaker 6: man ain't shit nine times out of ten.

988
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:32,239
Speaker 4: It's something in you that.

989
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 1: I was just telling my homegirl because like my next relationship,

990
00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 1: I need to be different, right. We talked about this

991
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:43,800
Speaker 1: a little bit, but I am such a fragnizer, okay,

992
00:48:44,600 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 1: like like shut.

993
00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:48,440
Speaker 3: Up, no, you know I do, Like.

994
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:52,439
Speaker 1: I just need to let everybody know, like, hey, I'm

995
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 1: not available. Like I don't be doing that, you know

996
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:57,600
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I don't really like like I be

997
00:48:57,640 --> 00:48:59,200
Speaker 1: allowing niggas to fragnize with me.

998
00:48:59,480 --> 00:49:01,040
Speaker 3: That's a problem because I kind of like it.

999
00:49:01,160 --> 00:49:05,640
Speaker 1: Okay, that's the problem, Like just still chatting up with

1000
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:08,360
Speaker 1: people you know you have no business chatting up with

1001
00:49:08,560 --> 00:49:10,480
Speaker 1: and you don't really even want to fuck with them

1002
00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:10,799
Speaker 1: no more.

1003
00:49:10,800 --> 00:49:14,080
Speaker 2: You just so do you? Just you just like to talk.

1004
00:49:14,680 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 1: That's the problem. How the fuck do I shut up?

1005
00:49:18,560 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 1: I do like to talk, and sometimes you need to talk.

1006
00:49:20,480 --> 00:49:25,200
Speaker 2: To different people so you enjoy a variety when I

1007
00:49:25,239 --> 00:49:27,319
Speaker 2: don't think there's nothing wrong with that as long as

1008
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 2: the conversations aren't.

1009
00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:31,480
Speaker 1: But you know, these men can't be your friend, Okay,

1010
00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:34,560
Speaker 1: they can't be your friend. They waiting on the male friends.

1011
00:49:34,960 --> 00:49:38,640
Speaker 1: I do have male friends, right who will never you

1012
00:49:38,680 --> 00:49:42,440
Speaker 1: know or some we probably you know and now we're friends.

1013
00:49:42,480 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 1: Like that didn't didn't work. But for the most part,

1014
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:48,880
Speaker 1: even those like they will still smash you. If you

1015
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:51,399
Speaker 1: call and say, hey, you want to smash you want

1016
00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:52,960
Speaker 1: to have sex, they gonna fuck you.

1017
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:54,080
Speaker 3: That's not your friend.

1018
00:49:54,400 --> 00:49:55,080
Speaker 2: You see what I'm saying.

1019
00:49:55,080 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 1: That's why men don't want their women with other men.

1020
00:49:57,680 --> 00:50:04,160
Speaker 1: And I understand because these niggas ain't shit. Yeah, oh

1021
00:50:04,200 --> 00:50:06,480
Speaker 1: maybe shit, because why are you even fragnizing?

1022
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:08,560
Speaker 3: Okay, see, that's what I'm working on.

1023
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 4: I say, if we say men ain't shit, we have

1024
00:50:10,960 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 4: to own and say is it a.

1025
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:12,600
Speaker 3: Part of me?

1026
00:50:12,880 --> 00:50:13,759
Speaker 4: It's a little part.

1027
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:15,200
Speaker 3: No, it's a major part.

1028
00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:17,279
Speaker 4: I realize that for sure.

1029
00:50:17,600 --> 00:50:22,640
Speaker 2: But the difference is it's male friends that if they

1030
00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:25,560
Speaker 2: was like, let's have sex, you're gonna say no. But

1031
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:26,879
Speaker 2: men aren't gonna say no.

1032
00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:28,880
Speaker 3: That's what and that's why you're there.

1033
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:33,759
Speaker 1: You Okay, you consider them your friend, right, but they

1034
00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:37,040
Speaker 1: really don't consider you their friend because they will smash you.

1035
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:38,040
Speaker 3: That's why.

1036
00:50:38,200 --> 00:50:41,240
Speaker 2: No. But that's still like because you're still their friend,

1037
00:50:41,719 --> 00:50:42,839
Speaker 2: they just can't fuck you.

1038
00:50:42,960 --> 00:50:49,319
Speaker 3: A boy.

1039
00:50:49,880 --> 00:50:52,440
Speaker 2: All right, So I'm saying, like, you have guy friends

1040
00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:54,520
Speaker 2: that you if they were like, I want to have

1041
00:50:54,560 --> 00:50:57,719
Speaker 2: sex with you, you'd be like, absolutely not, we're friends. But

1042
00:50:57,800 --> 00:51:00,319
Speaker 2: if it was the other way around, they're gonna have

1043
00:51:00,400 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 2: sex with you, which makes them more ain't shit than you.

1044
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:05,520
Speaker 6: I don't have nobody like that. I only have one

1045
00:51:05,560 --> 00:51:08,480
Speaker 6: guy friend and he likes men.

1046
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:10,120
Speaker 4: Like I don't.

1047
00:51:10,640 --> 00:51:11,840
Speaker 2: You don't have no male friends.

1048
00:51:11,800 --> 00:51:14,600
Speaker 6: I have no male friends because, like you said, they're

1049
00:51:14,600 --> 00:51:15,200
Speaker 6: gonna try to.

1050
00:51:15,200 --> 00:51:17,759
Speaker 1: I know the men love you, girl. Nigga hate to

1051
00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:21,160
Speaker 1: have my conversation. I always talk about what a nigga said, Oh.

1052
00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:22,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, my homeboys such and such.

1053
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:25,040
Speaker 6: I don't have no male friends unless you like my cousin,

1054
00:51:25,160 --> 00:51:26,600
Speaker 6: my brother like family.

1055
00:51:26,960 --> 00:51:28,400
Speaker 4: But other than that, like I don't.

1056
00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 3: Have Okay, I have to evaluate that.

1057
00:51:29,760 --> 00:51:31,280
Speaker 2: I got to get rid of all my male friends.

1058
00:51:31,320 --> 00:51:34,720
Speaker 2: This is the PSA. Why is you can have friendship

1059
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:37,640
Speaker 2: with men without it being inappropriate.

1060
00:51:37,719 --> 00:51:39,680
Speaker 6: They start saying I want to fuck them, they cross

1061
00:51:39,719 --> 00:51:41,319
Speaker 6: the line and you gotta cut their ass off.

1062
00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:43,560
Speaker 2: But they might not say that to you every They

1063
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:46,040
Speaker 2: may not say it, but you know, MoMA, you start

1064
00:51:46,120 --> 00:51:48,160
Speaker 2: feeling it, you're crossing the line.

1065
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:50,200
Speaker 6: So if you don't say anything, you just continue to

1066
00:51:50,200 --> 00:51:52,560
Speaker 6: allow them to say you're right now, mean.

1067
00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:55,759
Speaker 2: Enough credit, y'all. Not every man don't want to fuck you,

1068
00:51:56,440 --> 00:52:01,040
Speaker 2: not right now. I don't want to fuck you like

1069
00:52:01,280 --> 00:52:02,840
Speaker 2: some men are your friends.

1070
00:52:02,920 --> 00:52:05,839
Speaker 4: That is true, but I've never Thomas you shaking your head.

1071
00:52:05,960 --> 00:52:08,919
Speaker 2: Niggas always want to fuck every time. Yes, thank you.

1072
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:13,040
Speaker 3: And that's why men don't want their women having men at.

1073
00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:15,400
Speaker 2: Because men in my life that are my friends.

1074
00:52:15,440 --> 00:52:18,920
Speaker 4: That did y'all start off that way?

1075
00:52:20,280 --> 00:52:21,759
Speaker 3: Did I have some friend?

1076
00:52:22,080 --> 00:52:23,360
Speaker 4: Some friends they make you.

1077
00:52:23,360 --> 00:52:25,400
Speaker 6: Feel at some point like I could fuck them if

1078
00:52:25,440 --> 00:52:27,480
Speaker 6: I wanted to, if you was to call them and

1079
00:52:27,520 --> 00:52:29,240
Speaker 6: be like, I want to.

1080
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:30,320
Speaker 3: We gotta test that one day.

1081
00:52:30,480 --> 00:52:33,879
Speaker 2: We gotta call our best male. I want to ruin

1082
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:36,800
Speaker 2: the friendship by doing that. That's what's gonna happen.

1083
00:52:36,840 --> 00:52:39,319
Speaker 4: No happen. The's not gonna put the line down. I'm

1084
00:52:39,320 --> 00:52:42,480
Speaker 4: not gonna be like all right, they're gonna laugh first.

1085
00:52:42,840 --> 00:52:44,759
Speaker 2: But that's because the way men look at sex and

1086
00:52:44,800 --> 00:52:46,480
Speaker 2: the way we look at sex is different. It is

1087
00:52:46,640 --> 00:52:49,840
Speaker 2: more casual for them. I think you don't think so.

1088
00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:51,840
Speaker 4: That's so they don't value their friendship.

1089
00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:53,919
Speaker 1: They just like, oh no, I feel like we think

1090
00:52:53,960 --> 00:52:56,920
Speaker 1: could be men value their friendships more than they value

1091
00:52:57,000 --> 00:53:00,920
Speaker 1: like their relationships because usually like when you our guys

1092
00:53:01,000 --> 00:53:03,759
Speaker 1: friend and then y'all start to start dating and then

1093
00:53:03,800 --> 00:53:08,200
Speaker 1: shit start going sour, it's the friend in you he misses. Yeah,

1094
00:53:08,280 --> 00:53:09,800
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like the related once you

1095
00:53:09,920 --> 00:53:12,080
Speaker 1: add the titles and all that shit, it just get weird.

1096
00:53:13,320 --> 00:53:16,560
Speaker 2: So what you're saying, Tomas, You're saying, y'all, I'm talking

1097
00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:19,920
Speaker 2: to our videographer. You're saying that I'm giving men too

1098
00:53:19,960 --> 00:53:21,960
Speaker 2: much credit. Yeah, I mean, I'm.

1099
00:53:21,800 --> 00:53:23,680
Speaker 4: Sure there's an exception, but general.

1100
00:53:24,600 --> 00:53:26,920
Speaker 2: Time, Damn, that's crazy.

1101
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 4: That's all. I'm got no male friends. This is my

1102
00:53:29,280 --> 00:53:30,200
Speaker 4: one male friend.

1103
00:53:31,239 --> 00:53:33,239
Speaker 1: I'm I'm trying to hit that. Oh no, no, no, no, no, no,

1104
00:53:33,520 --> 00:53:36,080
Speaker 1: not there. I just want my guy to be my

1105
00:53:36,200 --> 00:53:38,080
Speaker 1: only Yeah, that's all.

1106
00:53:38,120 --> 00:53:40,120
Speaker 2: You want your guy to be your only male friend.

1107
00:53:40,239 --> 00:53:40,959
Speaker 2: That's not no.

1108
00:53:41,160 --> 00:53:44,319
Speaker 1: I mean, so, okay, I have mal Why the fuck

1109
00:53:44,320 --> 00:53:46,760
Speaker 1: did we get here? But anyway, I have male friends

1110
00:53:46,760 --> 00:53:49,200
Speaker 1: that I know we would never have sex like this

1111
00:53:49,320 --> 00:53:51,640
Speaker 1: is really like a family member essentially, right.

1112
00:53:52,040 --> 00:53:54,480
Speaker 3: But then I do have men that I know that

1113
00:53:54,600 --> 00:53:58,480
Speaker 3: I do consider friends that I know what snash me.

1114
00:53:59,280 --> 00:54:00,520
Speaker 2: Those are not my friends.

1115
00:54:00,560 --> 00:54:03,920
Speaker 1: Really, I consider them my friends, but they wait on

1116
00:54:04,080 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 1: me to let them smash get drunk.

1117
00:54:09,719 --> 00:54:12,120
Speaker 3: I'm drunk. They a'nna never get no drunk.

1118
00:54:13,640 --> 00:54:17,040
Speaker 4: Look if it works out, well that's why we sweat.

1119
00:54:17,040 --> 00:54:21,200
Speaker 4: And first of all, take one more girl. I'm down.

1120
00:54:22,200 --> 00:54:23,879
Speaker 3: When this fucking wig starts, slide back.

1121
00:54:23,920 --> 00:54:27,080
Speaker 2: I know something. Listen, it's okay, it'll be fine. Ask

1122
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:31,919
Speaker 2: me your coach. Ladies. Damn, So my friends not my friends.

1123
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:33,600
Speaker 3: They are not your friends.

1124
00:54:33,600 --> 00:54:35,600
Speaker 2: Okay.

1125
00:54:36,800 --> 00:54:38,520
Speaker 1: The only friend you got we had on we had

1126
00:54:38,560 --> 00:54:43,839
Speaker 1: on our last episode. Terry's the only one boy you got. Yes,

1127
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:46,239
Speaker 1: the only stand up guy you're gonna meet for real,

1128
00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:49,600
Speaker 1: and I don't know, he might still smash your ass.

1129
00:54:53,719 --> 00:54:54,880
Speaker 4: One night. Everybody.

1130
00:54:57,120 --> 00:54:59,360
Speaker 2: I don't think that. I think I think.

1131
00:54:59,640 --> 00:55:02,920
Speaker 1: There's guy me and Terry, but friends his first grade girl.

1132
00:55:04,640 --> 00:55:07,120
Speaker 2: Have integrity and they would be like, no, I don't

1133
00:55:07,160 --> 00:55:08,400
Speaker 2: want to ruin our friendship.

1134
00:55:08,600 --> 00:55:11,279
Speaker 6: Some will and if they do that, I just never

1135
00:55:11,560 --> 00:55:14,040
Speaker 6: ran into a guy that is like that, unless he's

1136
00:55:14,080 --> 00:55:16,640
Speaker 6: married or something and he's very com what about you,

1137
00:55:16,640 --> 00:55:20,280
Speaker 6: you know? But again, like I don't have male friends.

1138
00:55:21,120 --> 00:55:23,319
Speaker 6: You never did like not like that.

1139
00:55:23,440 --> 00:55:30,320
Speaker 2: No, No, talking about Yeah, let's okay, all right, cheers,

1140
00:55:30,880 --> 00:55:38,400
Speaker 2: cheers to not fucking your male friends. Okay.

1141
00:55:38,480 --> 00:55:41,799
Speaker 1: So you know, one of the things that the men

1142
00:55:42,040 --> 00:55:45,360
Speaker 1: the internet men, the men of the Internet complain about

1143
00:55:45,440 --> 00:55:47,759
Speaker 1: is the Internet.

1144
00:55:50,560 --> 00:55:52,360
Speaker 3: You're a fuck rad pill, it's the Internet.

1145
00:55:52,800 --> 00:55:53,960
Speaker 4: Internet, Okay.

1146
00:55:54,920 --> 00:55:58,160
Speaker 1: They complain about like women with the degrees, talking about

1147
00:55:58,200 --> 00:56:01,320
Speaker 1: degrees and how much money they make and all this stuff,

1148
00:56:01,600 --> 00:56:03,360
Speaker 1: and they like, they don't care about it, right, But

1149
00:56:03,400 --> 00:56:07,280
Speaker 1: how do how do you help women like separate themselves

1150
00:56:07,320 --> 00:56:08,360
Speaker 1: from these job titles?

1151
00:56:08,600 --> 00:56:09,319
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying?

1152
00:56:09,480 --> 00:56:12,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, yeah, again that's.

1153
00:56:13,560 --> 00:56:15,239
Speaker 3: Men say that can not really help them. But you

1154
00:56:15,280 --> 00:56:16,680
Speaker 3: know what I mean, just like life.

1155
00:56:16,960 --> 00:56:17,759
Speaker 4: Coach them to it.

1156
00:56:18,239 --> 00:56:21,160
Speaker 6: Men say they don't care, but they very much want

1157
00:56:21,160 --> 00:56:23,800
Speaker 6: to be attached to a bad girl, like a woman

1158
00:56:23,960 --> 00:56:26,879
Speaker 6: they look good, got hurt, e e, you know, independent,

1159
00:56:27,520 --> 00:56:29,279
Speaker 6: They very much want to be attached you know what

1160
00:56:29,320 --> 00:56:32,520
Speaker 6: I'm saying. Like, so you have to recognize that as

1161
00:56:32,520 --> 00:56:35,080
Speaker 6: a woman that makes money, like, they want to.

1162
00:56:35,080 --> 00:56:37,360
Speaker 4: Be attached just like you want to be attached to

1163
00:56:37,400 --> 00:56:39,280
Speaker 4: a high valued man.

1164
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:42,200
Speaker 6: They want to be attached to a high valued woman

1165
00:56:42,200 --> 00:56:43,480
Speaker 6: because it makes them look good.

1166
00:56:43,520 --> 00:56:44,799
Speaker 4: They have ego to just like you.

1167
00:56:45,239 --> 00:56:48,120
Speaker 6: So you have to understand to recognize that and just realize,

1168
00:56:48,120 --> 00:56:51,840
Speaker 6: like are they borderline trying to like attach yourself to

1169
00:56:51,840 --> 00:56:54,600
Speaker 6: you and use you because that's what meles men do.

1170
00:56:55,040 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 3: Now I'm more so talking about like women, not even

1171
00:56:58,680 --> 00:56:59,359
Speaker 3: talking about men.

1172
00:56:59,400 --> 00:57:03,160
Speaker 1: It's like women going out into the world being their

1173
00:57:03,200 --> 00:57:04,200
Speaker 1: titles and degrees.

1174
00:57:04,880 --> 00:57:06,879
Speaker 6: I don't agree with that because I feel like you're

1175
00:57:06,920 --> 00:57:10,919
Speaker 6: so much more than that, And I like even with tech,

1176
00:57:11,080 --> 00:57:13,600
Speaker 6: like I cater to people who don't have a degree.

1177
00:57:13,600 --> 00:57:16,720
Speaker 4: You can still get in text are really yeah, So

1178
00:57:17,800 --> 00:57:18,560
Speaker 4: I cater.

1179
00:57:18,440 --> 00:57:21,200
Speaker 6: To that, Like, don't get so attached to the your

1180
00:57:21,280 --> 00:57:22,720
Speaker 6: I mean agree, that's an accomplishment.

1181
00:57:22,760 --> 00:57:26,240
Speaker 4: You did your thing right, but don't get so attached

1182
00:57:26,240 --> 00:57:29,439
Speaker 4: to that that's all you really have to offer, because

1183
00:57:29,600 --> 00:57:30,160
Speaker 4: you take.

1184
00:57:30,000 --> 00:57:32,920
Speaker 6: That away that you're boring, Like what else do you

1185
00:57:32,920 --> 00:57:35,880
Speaker 6: bring to the table, Like are you funny?

1186
00:57:36,040 --> 00:57:36,840
Speaker 4: Can you make me laugh?

1187
00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:40,120
Speaker 1: Like you know, girls can be lame too. I don't

1188
00:57:40,120 --> 00:57:43,560
Speaker 1: think women realize they can be lean. They can just

1189
00:57:43,560 --> 00:57:47,080
Speaker 1: be lean, Like it's just like all you work and

1190
00:57:47,120 --> 00:57:51,080
Speaker 1: you just you don't spit on it, like you.

1191
00:57:51,240 --> 00:57:54,600
Speaker 6: Just you don't got no you don't got no jazz,

1192
00:57:54,640 --> 00:57:57,760
Speaker 6: You don't get a little drunk and pass out nothing stick.

1193
00:57:57,840 --> 00:58:05,120
Speaker 2: Why so you're thinking that women are becoming successful and

1194
00:58:05,160 --> 00:58:07,160
Speaker 2: that becomes their identity as you're.

1195
00:58:07,040 --> 00:58:09,160
Speaker 1: Saying, yeah, and that's what the men are talking about,

1196
00:58:09,240 --> 00:58:11,280
Speaker 1: which I can understand. You know, I have met some

1197
00:58:11,360 --> 00:58:14,120
Speaker 1: extra snooty bitches and I'm like, really, bitch, your foot

1198
00:58:14,120 --> 00:58:16,320
Speaker 1: look bad, Like you shouldn't even be acting like that.

1199
00:58:19,200 --> 00:58:22,760
Speaker 6: But my dad he's always like, brought that cinero me, Like,

1200
00:58:23,560 --> 00:58:25,520
Speaker 6: regardless of what you are, whether you're a nurse or

1201
00:58:25,520 --> 00:58:30,320
Speaker 6: whether you're a tech, you're just great at that at nursing, right,

1202
00:58:30,400 --> 00:58:32,760
Speaker 6: but there's so much more to life than that. You're

1203
00:58:32,880 --> 00:58:35,880
Speaker 6: just great at tech. But it's so much more like

1204
00:58:36,320 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 6: than that.

1205
00:58:36,880 --> 00:58:40,240
Speaker 2: But sometimes people find their validation through their hard work

1206
00:58:40,280 --> 00:58:41,120
Speaker 2: and their achievements.

1207
00:58:41,160 --> 00:58:44,120
Speaker 6: Okay, so what happens when you go to the bottom

1208
00:58:44,160 --> 00:58:45,840
Speaker 6: and get to the bottom and God ships you of

1209
00:58:45,880 --> 00:58:46,120
Speaker 6: all that?

1210
00:58:46,160 --> 00:58:47,960
Speaker 4: Because that happened to me period.

1211
00:58:48,040 --> 00:58:50,840
Speaker 6: I lost my job for seven months and I couldn't

1212
00:58:50,880 --> 00:58:51,640
Speaker 6: lean on the title.

1213
00:58:51,840 --> 00:58:52,800
Speaker 4: So what you're gonna do then?

1214
00:58:53,360 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 2: Right?

1215
00:58:53,680 --> 00:58:56,080
Speaker 4: You got to know who you are outside of that exactly.

1216
00:58:57,320 --> 00:59:00,880
Speaker 2: But I can understand how if my if I was doctor,

1217
00:59:01,800 --> 00:59:03,680
Speaker 2: where that might be like something I don't want.

1218
00:59:04,600 --> 00:59:08,280
Speaker 1: I hate talking to doctors. I just can't stand it,

1219
00:59:08,560 --> 00:59:10,440
Speaker 1: except for one. One of my best friends is a

1220
00:59:10,600 --> 00:59:15,880
Speaker 1: she's a psychologist. Like that's a little bit different. But like,

1221
00:59:15,960 --> 00:59:18,720
Speaker 1: y'all don't know everything because this book, like first of all,

1222
00:59:18,760 --> 00:59:22,000
Speaker 1: this this this this whole medical system is based off

1223
00:59:22,040 --> 00:59:24,360
Speaker 1: some bullshit, you know what I'm saying. I lean more

1224
00:59:24,400 --> 00:59:26,960
Speaker 1: towards like herbal medicine and things like that, which a

1225
00:59:26,960 --> 00:59:28,720
Speaker 1: lot of the pharmaceutical stuff have in it.

1226
00:59:29,680 --> 00:59:33,040
Speaker 3: But it's like the doctors think.

1227
00:59:32,920 --> 00:59:37,120
Speaker 1: That they know everything and that doesn't necessarily have to

1228
00:59:37,160 --> 00:59:38,160
Speaker 1: be a medical doctor.

1229
00:59:38,560 --> 00:59:42,000
Speaker 2: Just anybody with m D trust a doctor who act

1230
00:59:42,120 --> 00:59:43,160
Speaker 2: like they didn't know ship.

1231
00:59:43,240 --> 00:59:46,440
Speaker 1: Though a lot of them do act like they know

1232
00:59:46,480 --> 00:59:48,760
Speaker 1: stuff and they don't like they literally googling some ship

1233
00:59:48,880 --> 00:59:50,280
Speaker 1: just like they don't tell you.

1234
00:59:50,800 --> 00:59:52,320
Speaker 2: Would you go to a doctor and they was like,

1235
00:59:52,360 --> 00:59:54,360
Speaker 2: and they're not confident, would you want that to be

1236
00:59:54,400 --> 00:59:58,000
Speaker 2: your doctor? Like we go see, I know I was

1237
00:59:58,480 --> 00:59:59,240
Speaker 2: a little bit.

1238
01:00:02,240 --> 01:00:02,760
Speaker 4: Talking like that.

1239
01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:07,320
Speaker 6: That's a difference between being like confident and then just

1240
01:00:07,400 --> 01:00:10,600
Speaker 6: not being humble, like being asshole, being a bitch, thinking

1241
01:00:10,640 --> 01:00:13,880
Speaker 6: you're like arrogant. There's a difference between that and so

1242
01:00:13,960 --> 01:00:16,320
Speaker 6: like you just gotta know how to like, you.

1243
01:00:16,240 --> 01:00:17,360
Speaker 2: Know, be human.

1244
01:00:18,160 --> 01:00:20,480
Speaker 1: A lot of doctors I feel are on the spectrum

1245
01:00:20,720 --> 01:00:24,760
Speaker 1: like they really don't have No, they really don't have

1246
01:00:24,880 --> 01:00:27,160
Speaker 1: like the social skills, you know what I'm saying, because

1247
01:00:27,160 --> 01:00:29,360
Speaker 1: the decisions that they have to make, they literally make

1248
01:00:29,440 --> 01:00:32,400
Speaker 1: life and death decisions a lot of times, like they

1249
01:00:32,120 --> 01:00:34,840
Speaker 1: and they're playing God, not really necessarily playing God, but

1250
01:00:34,840 --> 01:00:38,520
Speaker 1: if somebody's time to go, they gotta disconnect themselves from

1251
01:00:38,600 --> 01:00:39,880
Speaker 1: that incident, you know what I'm saying.

1252
01:00:39,920 --> 01:00:40,760
Speaker 2: So a lot of them.

1253
01:00:40,640 --> 01:00:43,400
Speaker 3: Don't have empathy. I feel like they they lose it.

1254
01:00:43,560 --> 01:00:46,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think they're in those positions because they never

1255
01:00:46,680 --> 01:00:47,280
Speaker 1: had it though.

1256
01:00:47,440 --> 01:00:49,520
Speaker 2: No, no, no, al right, So listen, my sister used

1257
01:00:49,560 --> 01:00:51,840
Speaker 2: to work in the medical field, my older sister. When

1258
01:00:51,840 --> 01:00:54,400
Speaker 2: she joined the military, they had her working in the

1259
01:00:54,440 --> 01:00:59,560
Speaker 2: hospital and noting find families. The family was their party,

1260
01:01:00,760 --> 01:01:02,520
Speaker 2: and then she had to talk to them and do something.

1261
01:01:02,520 --> 01:01:03,160
Speaker 2: I couldn't do it.

1262
01:01:03,200 --> 01:01:03,760
Speaker 4: I couldn't do that.

1263
01:01:03,800 --> 01:01:06,480
Speaker 2: And she said, like, for the first year of her

1264
01:01:07,080 --> 01:01:09,520
Speaker 2: military career, she cried every day.

1265
01:01:09,760 --> 01:01:10,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would have.

1266
01:01:10,760 --> 01:01:12,640
Speaker 2: She couldn't handle it. It was a lot, you know,

1267
01:01:12,680 --> 01:01:15,000
Speaker 2: it was emotional every day. And then after the first

1268
01:01:15,080 --> 01:01:18,880
Speaker 2: year was over, it's just like far for the course,

1269
01:01:18,920 --> 01:01:21,160
Speaker 2: it's just like the job. It's the job. So it's

1270
01:01:21,240 --> 01:01:23,720
Speaker 2: like she kind of lost the empathy that she had

1271
01:01:23,800 --> 01:01:28,360
Speaker 2: because it was just so similar to school shootings. Remember

1272
01:01:28,360 --> 01:01:30,440
Speaker 2: the first time we had a school shooting and how

1273
01:01:30,440 --> 01:01:34,960
Speaker 2: we was like, I can't believe this. I can't children.

1274
01:01:35,360 --> 01:01:37,200
Speaker 2: Now we have a school shooting, we'd be like, damn,

1275
01:01:37,240 --> 01:01:41,360
Speaker 2: that's crazy. It's the same shit. We not even we

1276
01:01:41,480 --> 01:01:44,160
Speaker 2: lose it after if it keeps happening. It's you know,

1277
01:01:44,240 --> 01:01:46,200
Speaker 2: it's possible to lose that empathy.

1278
01:01:46,360 --> 01:01:48,960
Speaker 4: You just got. You just can't have a god complex.

1279
01:01:49,080 --> 01:01:50,800
Speaker 6: And a lot of them have a god complex, like

1280
01:01:50,880 --> 01:01:52,600
Speaker 6: cause you kind of feel like you got because you're

1281
01:01:52,600 --> 01:01:54,560
Speaker 6: saving lives, you know what I'm saying.

1282
01:01:54,640 --> 01:01:57,120
Speaker 4: But you're not, and that's what you have to work on.

1283
01:01:57,160 --> 01:01:58,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I had one of my MD friends tell

1284
01:01:58,960 --> 01:02:01,439
Speaker 1: me some people just need to die, that's to be said.

1285
01:02:01,440 --> 01:02:02,320
Speaker 2: Some people just need to.

1286
01:02:02,240 --> 01:02:04,040
Speaker 1: Die, like you know, like the families be wanting to

1287
01:02:04,120 --> 01:02:06,280
Speaker 1: keep them, but really it's time to go.

1288
01:02:06,560 --> 01:02:08,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's true, because.

1289
01:02:07,920 --> 01:02:09,200
Speaker 4: We all die.

1290
01:02:09,680 --> 01:02:11,760
Speaker 6: I can see that because that is true, Like, why

1291
01:02:11,760 --> 01:02:14,760
Speaker 6: would I just be sitting here keeping this person comfortable?

1292
01:02:14,800 --> 01:02:15,480
Speaker 2: Did y'all see that?

1293
01:02:15,520 --> 01:02:18,520
Speaker 1: Story with the in Georgia, them keeping this girl, thirty

1294
01:02:18,520 --> 01:02:22,520
Speaker 1: one year old nurse who something happened during her pregnancy

1295
01:02:22,560 --> 01:02:25,120
Speaker 1: and she ended up brain dead and they kept her

1296
01:02:25,200 --> 01:02:29,800
Speaker 1: pregnant to have this baby. Yes, the family wanted to execute,

1297
01:02:29,800 --> 01:02:31,400
Speaker 1: like they want to take her off of life support

1298
01:02:31,480 --> 01:02:33,000
Speaker 1: and then just let her and the baby go on.

1299
01:02:33,160 --> 01:02:36,800
Speaker 1: But the state of Georgia like, she's just the cane

1300
01:02:36,800 --> 01:02:38,800
Speaker 1: with this baby growing and now I think the baby's

1301
01:02:38,840 --> 01:02:39,480
Speaker 1: like paralyzed.

1302
01:02:39,480 --> 01:02:41,960
Speaker 4: It's not, it's just not even why did y'all do this?

1303
01:02:42,080 --> 01:02:44,000
Speaker 4: So sad? I hate that and they used her as

1304
01:02:44,040 --> 01:02:44,960
Speaker 4: an experiment and.

1305
01:02:44,920 --> 01:02:47,600
Speaker 1: I just yes, yes, and to prove of like a

1306
01:02:47,640 --> 01:02:51,200
Speaker 1: point with the with the abortion stuff, Yo, that's nasty

1307
01:02:51,360 --> 01:02:53,480
Speaker 1: And that's not even an abortion essentially.

1308
01:02:53,280 --> 01:02:56,880
Speaker 2: Because she's not even really alive essentially, right, but the baby.

1309
01:02:56,920 --> 01:02:59,160
Speaker 1: So the whole thing with that is that the life

1310
01:02:59,240 --> 01:03:02,400
Speaker 1: versus choices, that the baby should have a choice. Essentially,

1311
01:03:02,480 --> 01:03:06,040
Speaker 1: the baby is now a person itself without the mother exactly.

1312
01:03:06,520 --> 01:03:09,919
Speaker 6: That's why we et, that's what we're doing exactly.

1313
01:03:09,440 --> 01:03:11,840
Speaker 2: And that's definitely playing God exactly.

1314
01:03:12,320 --> 01:03:16,640
Speaker 4: That's what I mean. God complex sad, nasty core work.

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01:03:17,920 --> 01:03:20,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, well listen, if anything happened to me. Look into

1316
01:03:20,480 --> 01:03:21,920
Speaker 2: the camera, keep.

1317
01:03:21,720 --> 01:03:25,600
Speaker 3: Me here as long as I'm out of here, deuces.

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01:03:25,280 --> 01:03:28,360
Speaker 2: I'm not back up. I'm gonna come back. I'm gonna

1319
01:03:28,360 --> 01:03:29,280
Speaker 2: come back next time.

1320
01:03:29,360 --> 01:03:31,200
Speaker 1: I might come back as me the next time, but

1321
01:03:31,720 --> 01:03:34,720
Speaker 1: I do not want to be alive and suffering, Absolutely not.

1322
01:03:34,920 --> 01:03:36,880
Speaker 1: I'm not afraid to die yet. I'm getting the fun

1323
01:03:36,920 --> 01:03:38,480
Speaker 1: up out of here. I'll see yall niggas next time

1324
01:03:38,480 --> 01:03:43,640
Speaker 1: because this shit is get Oh, I would.

1325
01:03:43,480 --> 01:03:44,200
Speaker 2: Be back outside.

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01:03:44,320 --> 01:03:50,720
Speaker 4: Just give us a guy.

1327
01:03:52,160 --> 01:03:54,520
Speaker 1: So we got social media, we got Instagram, all those

1328
01:03:54,560 --> 01:03:58,200
Speaker 1: things like how do you reprogram your inner algorithm as

1329
01:03:58,240 --> 01:03:59,800
Speaker 1: a black woman in tech?

1330
01:04:00,640 --> 01:04:03,520
Speaker 3: Oh, take a break, get off of social vacation.

1331
01:04:03,680 --> 01:04:05,440
Speaker 1: You know, they say Americans take the least amount of

1332
01:04:05,480 --> 01:04:07,640
Speaker 1: vacation and out of everybody in the world.

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01:04:08,240 --> 01:04:10,640
Speaker 6: Take a break and then also learn how like when

1334
01:04:10,680 --> 01:04:13,600
Speaker 6: you take a break to literally deactivate your social media,

1335
01:04:13,760 --> 01:04:15,600
Speaker 6: like we are so tied to ours.

1336
01:04:15,640 --> 01:04:17,560
Speaker 4: I be trying, like we don't even know how to

1337
01:04:17,560 --> 01:04:18,160
Speaker 4: live in a moment.

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01:04:18,200 --> 01:04:20,360
Speaker 6: We taking a we in the moment, taking a picture

1339
01:04:20,360 --> 01:04:22,160
Speaker 6: of the moment and not even living the moment.

1340
01:04:22,440 --> 01:04:24,120
Speaker 1: I can live in the moment. I don't take pictures

1341
01:04:24,200 --> 01:04:28,040
Speaker 1: like I'm me neither. Like, honestly, me and AJ don't

1342
01:04:28,080 --> 01:04:28,640
Speaker 1: do it enough.

1343
01:04:28,760 --> 01:04:31,720
Speaker 2: Like every meeting we had they were like, can y'all

1344
01:04:31,720 --> 01:04:34,760
Speaker 2: be more active on social media? And we'll be like yeah,

1345
01:04:34,840 --> 01:04:38,760
Speaker 2: and then we be You're gonna do it this time.

1346
01:04:38,840 --> 01:04:41,760
Speaker 2: It's just not my couple of teams. So I'm an

1347
01:04:41,760 --> 01:04:46,600
Speaker 2: older millennial or I'm just not are you? Honestly, I

1348
01:04:46,680 --> 01:04:52,280
Speaker 2: am thirty older millennial, so I'm just not tied to

1349
01:04:52,360 --> 01:04:54,360
Speaker 2: my I am tied to my phone, but not in

1350
01:04:54,360 --> 01:04:56,240
Speaker 2: a way where I just want to share every meal

1351
01:04:56,280 --> 01:04:59,720
Speaker 2: I've had, every moment. If we're out doing something fun,

1352
01:05:00,000 --> 01:05:02,000
Speaker 2: I'm not the girl taking pictures. I'd be like, send

1353
01:05:02,000 --> 01:05:04,240
Speaker 2: me those pictures, yeah, when you're done. Yeah.

1354
01:05:04,400 --> 01:05:07,480
Speaker 1: The younger girlies, I mean they editing at the table,

1355
01:05:07,560 --> 01:05:11,360
Speaker 1: at the dinner table, like they editing like all day long,

1356
01:05:11,480 --> 01:05:16,200
Speaker 1: Like they're actually real time doing this content like real exactly.

1357
01:05:16,440 --> 01:05:22,080
Speaker 2: But are they living because it looks like you are

1358
01:05:22,120 --> 01:05:28,000
Speaker 2: you really living? Are you just a walking Truman show?

1359
01:05:28,280 --> 01:05:30,280
Speaker 4: Well I can't.

1360
01:05:30,080 --> 01:05:32,520
Speaker 6: Speak for any of them, but it's like a combination

1361
01:05:32,600 --> 01:05:34,520
Speaker 6: of both. For me, it's like, all right, I'm living

1362
01:05:34,520 --> 01:05:35,040
Speaker 6: in this moody.

1363
01:05:35,120 --> 01:05:35,880
Speaker 4: Oh, let me.

1364
01:05:35,880 --> 01:05:38,240
Speaker 6: Remember to take a picture of this I mean, you

1365
01:05:38,400 --> 01:05:41,120
Speaker 6: do what I naturally do a little video, a little

1366
01:05:41,120 --> 01:05:43,320
Speaker 6: one too, and then I could put it together and

1367
01:05:43,480 --> 01:05:45,560
Speaker 6: it's gonna appear like I'm living you know what I'm saying.

1368
01:05:45,680 --> 01:05:47,920
Speaker 4: But it is some people today they on the ground

1369
01:05:48,000 --> 01:05:49,640
Speaker 4: with it. They's getting all the.

1370
01:05:50,080 --> 01:05:51,600
Speaker 2: The boyfriends know how to do it?

1371
01:05:51,640 --> 01:05:54,960
Speaker 4: Now, how to do they ain't even dating their boyfriend.

1372
01:05:54,960 --> 01:06:08,880
Speaker 5: The boyfriend literally just a videographer. What's your wife Instagram? Right,

1373
01:06:08,960 --> 01:06:10,240
Speaker 5: your videographer?

1374
01:06:13,960 --> 01:06:15,160
Speaker 4: Those pictures turned out good?

1375
01:06:15,760 --> 01:06:18,240
Speaker 1: That Like, who the hell is living with dj mvy

1376
01:06:18,280 --> 01:06:19,360
Speaker 1: to do that ship all day?

1377
01:06:19,480 --> 01:06:19,720
Speaker 2: No?

1378
01:06:19,800 --> 01:06:22,600
Speaker 4: Literally? Yeah, literally, that's great.

1379
01:06:24,360 --> 01:06:28,160
Speaker 2: Sorry, What advice would you give to anybody that's like

1380
01:06:28,560 --> 01:06:32,400
Speaker 2: either pivoting from another field and wants to get in

1381
01:06:32,440 --> 01:06:35,120
Speaker 2: tech but isn't like tech savvy? Do it?

1382
01:06:35,200 --> 01:06:37,600
Speaker 4: Like I said, anything can be tailored to tech.

1383
01:06:37,840 --> 01:06:41,280
Speaker 6: I know nurses that have hit me like, hey, I'm

1384
01:06:41,280 --> 01:06:42,800
Speaker 6: going to book a session with you because I'm tired

1385
01:06:42,800 --> 01:06:44,760
Speaker 6: of standing on my feet for eight hours. And that's

1386
01:06:44,800 --> 01:06:46,680
Speaker 6: fine because you can get in and be a scrum

1387
01:06:46,760 --> 01:06:49,480
Speaker 6: master for health care. You could be a business analyst

1388
01:06:49,560 --> 01:06:50,080
Speaker 6: for healthcare.

1389
01:06:50,160 --> 01:06:50,560
Speaker 2: Yeah. People.

1390
01:06:50,800 --> 01:06:54,200
Speaker 1: One of my friends she's like a administrative healthcare.

1391
01:06:54,360 --> 01:06:56,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's definitely tech.

1392
01:06:56,400 --> 01:06:58,960
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's definitely tech. So anything everything is tech. If

1393
01:06:59,000 --> 01:07:01,280
Speaker 6: you use a computer, it's some way some.

1394
01:07:01,280 --> 01:07:03,640
Speaker 4: Texts there And that's why you cancel me out right

1395
01:07:04,720 --> 01:07:15,160
Speaker 4: your phone. You don't know what's going on? Hold what setting?

1396
01:07:15,160 --> 01:07:16,800
Speaker 2: And who the fuck are you saying that to?

1397
01:07:17,080 --> 01:07:17,400
Speaker 3: Girl?

1398
01:07:19,080 --> 01:07:22,080
Speaker 4: I ain't never heard no white person say you bet you?

1399
01:07:22,240 --> 01:07:25,080
Speaker 4: They say they say like unless they just be a face.

1400
01:07:25,040 --> 01:07:29,440
Speaker 2: To Rodgers that like, can you get back to me

1401
01:07:29,520 --> 01:07:30,880
Speaker 2: before four? You bet you?

1402
01:07:31,280 --> 01:07:33,320
Speaker 4: Got you? You know what? I want to use that

1403
01:07:33,360 --> 01:07:33,840
Speaker 4: on Monday?

1404
01:07:34,040 --> 01:07:34,400
Speaker 2: Hold on.

1405
01:07:34,520 --> 01:07:37,640
Speaker 1: When when somebody's sending you something and it says a

1406
01:07:37,680 --> 01:07:40,600
Speaker 1: S A P. What does that mean to you? Like

1407
01:07:40,720 --> 01:07:43,840
Speaker 1: when though possible? Like whin though like right now?

1408
01:07:44,760 --> 01:07:46,960
Speaker 2: It means immediately or whenever you can get it done?

1409
01:07:47,280 --> 01:07:49,680
Speaker 2: I mean I mean actually the send the acronym name.

1410
01:07:49,840 --> 01:07:53,120
Speaker 4: Okay, like for me because I'm a procrastinator I used

1411
01:07:53,160 --> 01:07:54,640
Speaker 4: to be. I'm recovering mm hmm.

1412
01:07:54,920 --> 01:07:57,560
Speaker 6: I gotta do that ship right now because if I don't,

1413
01:07:57,600 --> 01:07:59,760
Speaker 6: then I'm gonna be in a procrastinator. And I'm a

1414
01:07:59,840 --> 01:08:03,040
Speaker 6: the that they a SAP means tomorrow and they really.

1415
01:08:02,960 --> 01:08:04,720
Speaker 2: Meant right now right, so tell me.

1416
01:08:04,960 --> 01:08:06,920
Speaker 1: And I tried to explain this to her, because in

1417
01:08:06,960 --> 01:08:09,720
Speaker 1: the corporate world, if I get an email, if I.

1418
01:08:09,640 --> 01:08:11,400
Speaker 3: Send somebody some ship and I said I need this

1419
01:08:11,480 --> 01:08:13,640
Speaker 3: ace app, I need you to do it right now.

1420
01:08:14,320 --> 01:08:17,679
Speaker 1: So now if I put as soon as possible written out,

1421
01:08:17,840 --> 01:08:18,759
Speaker 1: it's a little different.

1422
01:08:19,520 --> 01:08:22,240
Speaker 2: So okay me and her. I send her a message

1423
01:08:22,320 --> 01:08:27,519
Speaker 2: like I need this ASAPA. I'm busy.

1424
01:08:28,880 --> 01:08:31,920
Speaker 1: All yeah, I just put that was my tone is

1425
01:08:32,000 --> 01:08:34,559
Speaker 1: via text? Baby, why are you putting that tone behind?

1426
01:08:34,640 --> 01:08:35,439
Speaker 2: That's how I heard it.

1427
01:08:35,680 --> 01:08:38,200
Speaker 3: I said I can't do nothing. I said, I can't

1428
01:08:38,200 --> 01:08:40,800
Speaker 3: do it. I can't do nothing else asap right now.

1429
01:08:41,240 --> 01:08:43,439
Speaker 2: No, you said you know I'm working, you know I

1430
01:08:43,479 --> 01:08:45,439
Speaker 2: got a job or something like that. That's how you

1431
01:08:45,439 --> 01:08:46,240
Speaker 2: said it. I'm like, I.

1432
01:08:46,240 --> 01:08:49,160
Speaker 3: Said, you know that, I know you know I'm working.

1433
01:08:49,280 --> 01:08:50,920
Speaker 3: I can't do this as app.

1434
01:08:51,160 --> 01:08:54,200
Speaker 6: Yeah, well it was the it was the all caps

1435
01:08:54,240 --> 01:08:57,160
Speaker 6: for me. That's why you probably felt like she came

1436
01:08:57,200 --> 01:08:59,000
Speaker 6: into like that, because she probably felt like.

1437
01:08:59,720 --> 01:09:01,320
Speaker 4: I'll like you yelling like.

1438
01:09:03,479 --> 01:09:05,559
Speaker 1: So if you send an email in the corporate world

1439
01:09:05,680 --> 01:09:08,960
Speaker 1: with some all at me and I'm about.

1440
01:09:08,680 --> 01:09:12,200
Speaker 2: To capitalized by itself when you put it in there,

1441
01:09:12,240 --> 01:09:14,360
Speaker 2: it just got big and I sent you and then

1442
01:09:14,439 --> 01:09:16,439
Speaker 2: she was like, I know you know that, I know.

1443
01:09:16,680 --> 01:09:19,160
Speaker 3: It wasn't That wasn't the first message, ten B.

1444
01:09:20,120 --> 01:09:22,679
Speaker 1: That wasn't the first message, multiple it was a slew

1445
01:09:22,760 --> 01:09:25,280
Speaker 1: of messages and then that was the last one. So

1446
01:09:25,320 --> 01:09:27,920
Speaker 1: now I got all these tasks to do on top

1447
01:09:27,960 --> 01:09:29,880
Speaker 1: of what I'm currently doing. It has nothing to do

1448
01:09:29,920 --> 01:09:30,360
Speaker 1: with her.

1449
01:09:30,240 --> 01:09:30,960
Speaker 3: On this podcast.

1450
01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:34,519
Speaker 4: How did that make you feel? Absolutely? That's why you

1451
01:09:34,800 --> 01:09:36,559
Speaker 4: said it absolutely.

1452
01:09:35,960 --> 01:09:39,800
Speaker 2: So I'm supposed to know that this hall call that

1453
01:09:39,880 --> 01:09:44,320
Speaker 2: we are called instead been talking about this is stuff

1454
01:09:44,320 --> 01:09:47,320
Speaker 2: that we already had to do instead of texting.

1455
01:09:47,479 --> 01:09:50,439
Speaker 6: Okay, so maybe you could have just or helped me,

1456
01:09:50,640 --> 01:09:52,559
Speaker 6: You could have positioned the text a little bit better.

1457
01:09:53,760 --> 01:09:55,880
Speaker 1: And that's like, hey, do you think you can actually

1458
01:09:56,040 --> 01:09:57,439
Speaker 1: just needed to be said that you think you can

1459
01:09:57,439 --> 01:09:57,640
Speaker 1: do that?

1460
01:09:58,720 --> 01:09:59,320
Speaker 4: We all working?

1461
01:09:59,320 --> 01:09:59,960
Speaker 2: Why do I need to?

1462
01:10:00,760 --> 01:10:03,120
Speaker 4: But maybe you just need to say that because.

1463
01:10:02,880 --> 01:10:05,840
Speaker 3: I wouldn't send you a SAP ever, because I know

1464
01:10:05,880 --> 01:10:06,400
Speaker 3: you're working.

1465
01:10:06,960 --> 01:10:08,920
Speaker 2: But what's the difference. I don't see all. I get

1466
01:10:08,920 --> 01:10:13,280
Speaker 2: what you're saying, but no, like it's just as soon

1467
01:10:13,320 --> 01:10:16,400
Speaker 2: as you're possible. That means as soon as possible, So

1468
01:10:16,439 --> 01:10:18,120
Speaker 2: when it's possible, send it.

1469
01:10:18,720 --> 01:10:19,960
Speaker 1: What I'm trying to get you to see is like

1470
01:10:20,000 --> 01:10:23,200
Speaker 1: the perspective and the difference and why people read things,

1471
01:10:23,320 --> 01:10:24,280
Speaker 1: especially via text.

1472
01:10:24,880 --> 01:10:26,160
Speaker 3: Even when you send an email, I.

1473
01:10:26,080 --> 01:10:28,160
Speaker 4: Don't really like I don't really like that text, and shit,

1474
01:10:28,160 --> 01:10:30,160
Speaker 4: I ain't gonna lie. I'm a caller. Yeah, I want

1475
01:10:30,160 --> 01:10:30,519
Speaker 4: to talk.

1476
01:10:30,680 --> 01:10:31,559
Speaker 3: I want to talk.

1477
01:10:31,600 --> 01:10:37,200
Speaker 6: Because like, as being an overthinker, you can overthink yourself

1478
01:10:37,200 --> 01:10:39,720
Speaker 6: into someone like, oh she got an attitude or and.

1479
01:10:39,680 --> 01:10:40,800
Speaker 4: That might not even be a tone.

1480
01:10:40,800 --> 01:10:43,360
Speaker 6: And I fell out with a person because they thought

1481
01:10:43,360 --> 01:10:45,599
Speaker 6: I had an attitude be a text and I didn't

1482
01:10:45,600 --> 01:10:45,920
Speaker 6: even think.

1483
01:10:48,640 --> 01:10:51,160
Speaker 1: And that's why I be saying don't text, because we

1484
01:10:51,320 --> 01:10:53,040
Speaker 1: be having all like this is a whole nother thing.

1485
01:10:53,040 --> 01:10:55,599
Speaker 1: We have all type of little wearshit going on via text.

1486
01:10:56,400 --> 01:10:57,880
Speaker 1: But if we could just talk.

1487
01:10:58,120 --> 01:11:01,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I understand that. But so I get like,

1488
01:11:01,200 --> 01:11:03,479
Speaker 2: I got a million moving parts. I'm in school, I'm

1489
01:11:03,479 --> 01:11:06,320
Speaker 2: traveling from place to place, I'm doing here, doing the podcast.

1490
01:11:06,600 --> 01:11:08,519
Speaker 2: I don't have time to talk to you all the time.

1491
01:11:08,640 --> 01:11:10,680
Speaker 2: But if I could just send a message, what's the

1492
01:11:10,720 --> 01:11:13,839
Speaker 2: difference between an email and a text? Texting?

1493
01:11:14,280 --> 01:11:16,519
Speaker 1: If you got something, if it's real important, if it's

1494
01:11:16,600 --> 01:11:19,160
Speaker 1: real pertinent, you pick up the phone and said it

1495
01:11:19,160 --> 01:11:21,560
Speaker 1: cannot be that important. You gotta have plenty time to

1496
01:11:21,600 --> 01:11:23,559
Speaker 1: sit and text a paragraph. I an't got time to

1497
01:11:23,560 --> 01:11:23,960
Speaker 1: text a bag.

1498
01:11:24,360 --> 01:11:26,200
Speaker 6: My thing is I just kind of feel like it's

1499
01:11:26,240 --> 01:11:29,679
Speaker 6: about the person. Everyone's different. So she's basically telling you

1500
01:11:29,800 --> 01:11:33,280
Speaker 6: that her her communications staff is to call her.

1501
01:11:33,560 --> 01:11:36,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, after that, I argued about that. After we argued

1502
01:11:36,800 --> 01:11:40,280
Speaker 2: about it, Now she wants to call her texting for

1503
01:11:40,320 --> 01:11:40,800
Speaker 2: five years.

1504
01:11:40,840 --> 01:11:42,800
Speaker 1: She can find a text from five years ago. Whell

1505
01:11:42,840 --> 01:11:45,040
Speaker 1: I told her to stop texting me. I know you

1506
01:11:45,120 --> 01:11:47,879
Speaker 1: can five years ago, I said, Tammy, if it's business,

1507
01:11:47,880 --> 01:11:48,559
Speaker 1: please call me.

1508
01:11:49,400 --> 01:11:51,400
Speaker 2: I bet you find find it.

1509
01:11:51,520 --> 01:11:52,320
Speaker 4: Who girl, you know what?

1510
01:11:52,360 --> 01:11:54,479
Speaker 2: I google Google the other day. I'm gonna tell you.

1511
01:11:54,520 --> 01:11:55,400
Speaker 2: After we finished recording.

1512
01:11:55,520 --> 01:11:57,559
Speaker 1: Anyway, we all wrap it up anyway, So we got

1513
01:11:57,560 --> 01:12:01,599
Speaker 1: a segment and we talked back cause dumbitch stories or

1514
01:12:01,640 --> 01:12:03,960
Speaker 1: for the men, it is DESCEMP series. So you have

1515
01:12:04,040 --> 01:12:06,160
Speaker 1: to give us a time or a moment where you

1516
01:12:06,240 --> 01:12:10,120
Speaker 1: got played by I mean opposite sex. I assume you're heterosexual.

1517
01:12:10,160 --> 01:12:12,320
Speaker 2: I don't know. Yes, you know millennials.

1518
01:12:12,439 --> 01:12:14,880
Speaker 6: I got it's been a time, and it been a

1519
01:12:14,880 --> 01:12:18,519
Speaker 6: time to be alive. But the most one I feel

1520
01:12:18,920 --> 01:12:24,479
Speaker 6: when the man he tried to money manipulate me, meaning

1521
01:12:24,640 --> 01:12:27,759
Speaker 6: like he was trying to use me but like giving

1522
01:12:27,760 --> 01:12:30,679
Speaker 6: me like he was homeless, a little bit like sad

1523
01:12:30,720 --> 01:12:32,479
Speaker 6: story like I need I need a move in with you,

1524
01:12:32,760 --> 01:12:35,120
Speaker 6: I need help with this, and we're dating and at

1525
01:12:35,160 --> 01:12:37,600
Speaker 6: first he came off shown like you know, he was

1526
01:12:37,640 --> 01:12:40,640
Speaker 6: that man, he had it together. But then the representative

1527
01:12:40,640 --> 01:12:43,320
Speaker 6: fell off and he showed his true colors and then

1528
01:12:43,360 --> 01:12:47,200
Speaker 6: he kind of like did like this little sip ass story.

1529
01:12:47,600 --> 01:12:50,679
Speaker 1: And me being the person, I am like, oh okay,

1530
01:12:50,760 --> 01:12:51,759
Speaker 1: this could be my husband.

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Speaker 3: Let me help my husband, Let me help.

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Speaker 6: Girl a good man, Savannah, let me help my husband.

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01:12:58,800 --> 01:13:01,720
Speaker 6: I did that, and then I realized, this is what

1534
01:13:01,760 --> 01:13:02,519
Speaker 6: the fuck you do?

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01:13:03,720 --> 01:13:05,120
Speaker 4: You do this to every bitch.

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01:13:05,840 --> 01:13:12,160
Speaker 1: So he's a hobosexulator money You were giving him a

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01:13:12,200 --> 01:13:12,639
Speaker 1: lot of money.

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01:13:12,640 --> 01:13:14,439
Speaker 6: No, I wasn't like giving him a lot of money,

1539
01:13:14,479 --> 01:13:16,760
Speaker 6: but like when I say a money manipulator, meaning like

1540
01:13:17,360 --> 01:13:18,519
Speaker 6: I don't know if you ever be one date, but

1541
01:13:18,560 --> 01:13:21,360
Speaker 6: have you ever went on a date and the guy

1542
01:13:22,520 --> 01:13:26,080
Speaker 6: orders for you, like and that's fine if you order

1543
01:13:26,120 --> 01:13:28,519
Speaker 6: for me, right, but it's kind of like you order

1544
01:13:28,560 --> 01:13:30,599
Speaker 6: for me because you don't want me to get an

1545
01:13:30,640 --> 01:13:34,519
Speaker 6: expensive drink like you you have a budget and you

1546
01:13:34,560 --> 01:13:36,759
Speaker 6: want me to stay within your budget.

1547
01:13:36,920 --> 01:13:39,360
Speaker 2: That I don't like people to order for me. That

1548
01:13:39,640 --> 01:13:40,719
Speaker 2: piss me off real fast.

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01:13:41,000 --> 01:13:43,439
Speaker 4: And so that's what I mean by money manipulation. Because

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01:13:43,560 --> 01:13:44,400
Speaker 4: then when we leave and.

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01:13:44,400 --> 01:13:45,760
Speaker 6: I was like, oh, I wanted to order the drink,

1552
01:13:45,800 --> 01:13:48,280
Speaker 6: you kind of said, oh yeah, you tell me, Oh

1553
01:13:48,280 --> 01:13:50,840
Speaker 6: why I had a budget? Why the fuck did you

1554
01:13:50,880 --> 01:13:53,040
Speaker 6: take me on a date? And if you if you

1555
01:13:53,120 --> 01:13:55,800
Speaker 6: had a budget, that's fine. Why didn't you say that

1556
01:13:55,840 --> 01:13:58,759
Speaker 6: from the beginning. While we get there and the waitress

1557
01:13:58,840 --> 01:14:00,400
Speaker 6: is right there and she's like, oh, what do you

1558
01:14:00,439 --> 01:14:00,960
Speaker 6: want to order?

1559
01:14:01,280 --> 01:14:03,000
Speaker 4: Oh, she'll have a Bahama Mama.

1560
01:14:03,400 --> 01:14:04,160
Speaker 2: She's gonna have that.

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01:14:04,479 --> 01:14:10,000
Speaker 4: That's a lift, nigga. I want to patrol.

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01:14:10,160 --> 01:14:19,599
Speaker 6: I want some can order me a Bahama Mama five dollars.

1563
01:14:19,320 --> 01:14:22,240
Speaker 3: On a special special So you ain't dat niggas to

1564
01:14:22,360 --> 01:14:23,000
Speaker 3: use groupons.

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01:14:23,000 --> 01:14:24,479
Speaker 2: I presume, okay, got it.

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01:14:24,720 --> 01:14:26,400
Speaker 4: That's the money manipulation part.

1567
01:14:26,880 --> 01:14:28,880
Speaker 2: Hmm. I don't know.

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01:14:29,400 --> 01:14:31,599
Speaker 1: I just feel like he stole wants today and he

1569
01:14:31,640 --> 01:14:33,840
Speaker 1: doesn't really have the money to do so. But you

1570
01:14:33,960 --> 01:14:36,519
Speaker 1: do need money to be outside, Like outside, it is

1571
01:14:36,560 --> 01:14:38,160
Speaker 1: expensive soon as you step your foot out there.

1572
01:14:38,160 --> 01:14:40,240
Speaker 2: One hundred dollars a couple more inches.

1573
01:14:40,040 --> 01:14:43,280
Speaker 1: Two hundred dollars, Like it's expensive to be outside and today,

1574
01:14:43,320 --> 01:14:44,240
Speaker 1: either if.

1575
01:14:44,120 --> 01:14:47,080
Speaker 2: You can't be, if you can't spend money, be creative.

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01:14:47,080 --> 01:14:49,320
Speaker 6: That's what I say, exactly, Like you could have just

1577
01:14:49,360 --> 01:14:50,880
Speaker 6: been like you could have got you a bottle of

1578
01:14:50,880 --> 01:14:52,840
Speaker 6: wine and said, hey, let's go to a park, let's

1579
01:14:52,880 --> 01:14:53,400
Speaker 6: have a picnic.

1580
01:14:53,920 --> 01:14:56,839
Speaker 4: But you decided to take me to this this lounge.

1581
01:14:57,320 --> 01:14:57,760
Speaker 4: We ain't here.

1582
01:14:58,080 --> 01:14:59,719
Speaker 2: You can't spend no money.

1583
01:15:00,040 --> 01:15:02,040
Speaker 4: Don't you go ask me if I want.

1584
01:15:01,920 --> 01:15:04,120
Speaker 6: To assume you won't know I want a hookah. I

1585
01:15:04,160 --> 01:15:09,880
Speaker 6: don't even don't know hookah, but I'll say you I'm glad,

1586
01:15:09,880 --> 01:15:12,160
Speaker 6: I'm not a man, but just don't even smoke cooker.

1587
01:15:12,280 --> 01:15:14,000
Speaker 2: Just get hookah because the nigga paid for it.

1588
01:15:14,880 --> 01:15:20,439
Speaker 5: I like cooker, I like, I don't like hookah, but like.

1589
01:15:20,360 --> 01:15:22,360
Speaker 4: Most men won't hookah themselves, So.

1590
01:15:22,400 --> 01:15:23,840
Speaker 2: Like you're nothing hookah?

1591
01:15:23,880 --> 01:15:26,280
Speaker 4: Daddy?

1592
01:15:26,720 --> 01:15:27,200
Speaker 2: Is this guy?

1593
01:15:28,000 --> 01:15:31,240
Speaker 6: I just basically told him he doesn't like he doesn't

1594
01:15:31,240 --> 01:15:33,800
Speaker 6: have enough money to date me right now and you

1595
01:15:33,960 --> 01:15:36,240
Speaker 6: have to get your priority straight. And he was like

1596
01:15:36,360 --> 01:15:38,559
Speaker 6: hell when I gave him the example of us going out,

1597
01:15:38,600 --> 01:15:40,160
Speaker 6: and I was just like, I kind of feel.

1598
01:15:39,880 --> 01:15:42,679
Speaker 4: Like you were, you're too afraid.

1599
01:15:42,800 --> 01:15:44,479
Speaker 6: I'd rather you be standing up with me and be

1600
01:15:44,880 --> 01:15:47,280
Speaker 6: real and say, look, I'm wanna budget right now, whatever

1601
01:15:47,320 --> 01:15:50,920
Speaker 6: the case may be, and be more creative. And I

1602
01:15:51,000 --> 01:15:52,639
Speaker 6: was just like, you don't have that for me right now.

1603
01:15:52,680 --> 01:15:54,880
Speaker 6: And I'm dating high value men because I'm a high

1604
01:15:54,960 --> 01:15:57,679
Speaker 6: value woman, and I blocked his ass up today.

1605
01:15:57,680 --> 01:15:58,880
Speaker 4: It's nothing else for us to talk about.

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01:15:59,680 --> 01:16:02,000
Speaker 2: What else, nig it's gonna be mad about that statement

1607
01:16:02,040 --> 01:16:05,400
Speaker 2: though all they Yeah, they're gonna be like because I

1608
01:16:05,400 --> 01:16:07,559
Speaker 2: feel like guys are always they feel like they're only

1609
01:16:07,640 --> 01:16:08,800
Speaker 2: validated through their pocket.

1610
01:16:08,960 --> 01:16:09,720
Speaker 3: Well they're not.

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01:16:09,840 --> 01:16:13,960
Speaker 6: Just say though, you could have communicated. That's the part

1612
01:16:14,040 --> 01:16:16,760
Speaker 6: for me. You did not communicate what You didn't have

1613
01:16:16,840 --> 01:16:18,519
Speaker 6: to give me your whole life.

1614
01:16:18,280 --> 01:16:20,120
Speaker 4: Story, what's going on, But you could have.

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01:16:20,160 --> 01:16:22,439
Speaker 6: Literally, I respect a man that says, hey, this is

1616
01:16:22,439 --> 01:16:24,920
Speaker 6: our budget for the day, like this is where I'm

1617
01:16:24,920 --> 01:16:25,400
Speaker 6: at with it?

1618
01:16:25,479 --> 01:16:27,200
Speaker 4: Okay, great?

1619
01:16:27,439 --> 01:16:29,920
Speaker 2: And if he said we got sixty five dollars, you're

1620
01:16:29,920 --> 01:16:30,439
Speaker 2: gonna be like.

1621
01:16:30,520 --> 01:16:35,040
Speaker 6: She It's just you can be creative with sixty five

1622
01:16:35,080 --> 01:16:36,519
Speaker 6: dollars if it's a creative date.

1623
01:16:36,680 --> 01:16:38,639
Speaker 2: No, I agree, But I think a lot of men

1624
01:16:38,800 --> 01:16:41,599
Speaker 2: are laved by ego and they don't want to admit

1625
01:16:41,680 --> 01:16:43,000
Speaker 2: that they ain't got it, and then then.

1626
01:16:43,080 --> 01:16:44,920
Speaker 1: They have to get over the ego because that's where

1627
01:16:45,040 --> 01:16:47,960
Speaker 1: repair comes in. That's where change comes in. Right, put

1628
01:16:47,960 --> 01:16:50,519
Speaker 1: your ego to the side and fix your fucking life.

1629
01:16:50,560 --> 01:16:52,439
Speaker 2: It's not like having to look at your woman in

1630
01:16:52,439 --> 01:16:53,200
Speaker 2: the face and be.

1631
01:16:53,200 --> 01:16:55,040
Speaker 4: Like look, but then you get the girl.

1632
01:16:55,160 --> 01:16:57,920
Speaker 2: They will never hold on baby looking me. You gotta

1633
01:16:57,960 --> 01:17:00,639
Speaker 2: get these bahama mamas. I'm gonna get you too, okay,

1634
01:17:00,880 --> 01:17:01,559
Speaker 2: two for five.

1635
01:17:02,360 --> 01:17:06,480
Speaker 4: If you would have set the tone, been like okay.

1636
01:17:06,680 --> 01:17:08,960
Speaker 4: But if you ain't set this tone, you.

1637
01:17:08,920 --> 01:17:09,760
Speaker 2: Know you lead.

1638
01:17:10,439 --> 01:17:10,599
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1639
01:17:10,600 --> 01:17:12,439
Speaker 1: I didn't been out with a guy before, and I

1640
01:17:12,520 --> 01:17:15,400
Speaker 1: just saw how he looked at the receipt and I

1641
01:17:15,479 --> 01:17:17,479
Speaker 1: just put money on the table and then just don't.

1642
01:17:17,280 --> 01:17:17,639
Speaker 3: Talk to them.

1643
01:17:17,960 --> 01:17:19,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, because that's just yeah, Like.

1644
01:17:19,880 --> 01:17:21,760
Speaker 1: Nigga, you just pay for this whole thing and get

1645
01:17:21,840 --> 01:17:23,799
Speaker 1: up out of here because I don't need.

1646
01:17:23,680 --> 01:17:24,920
Speaker 2: No man fretting over the bill.

1647
01:17:26,200 --> 01:17:29,679
Speaker 1: I do too, but don't you gotta get listen. Women

1648
01:17:29,720 --> 01:17:31,920
Speaker 1: come with the money. They come with the money.

1649
01:17:31,920 --> 01:17:32,639
Speaker 3: It's just true.

1650
01:17:33,000 --> 01:17:35,120
Speaker 1: And then you you'll then have access to the woman

1651
01:17:35,200 --> 01:17:37,320
Speaker 1: you actually want because a lot of times these guys

1652
01:17:37,360 --> 01:17:39,680
Speaker 1: be settling for who they got because that's where their

1653
01:17:39,680 --> 01:17:42,920
Speaker 1: pocket's at. Right, then she don't expect much exactly right,

1654
01:17:42,960 --> 01:17:46,080
Speaker 1: But then they want women who have who have expectations

1655
01:17:46,080 --> 01:17:48,599
Speaker 1: to come down here so they can still have access

1656
01:17:48,600 --> 01:17:52,400
Speaker 1: to that puss. No, because you don't want that for

1657
01:17:52,439 --> 01:17:54,439
Speaker 1: your daughter, so quit playing in our faces. I am

1658
01:17:54,520 --> 01:17:57,320
Speaker 1: Jerome's daughter, okay, and he don't want that for me,

1659
01:17:57,920 --> 01:17:59,640
Speaker 1: so quit playing on me. So, yeah, you got this

1660
01:17:59,720 --> 01:18:01,720
Speaker 1: star dating until you get your shit together. It's for

1661
01:18:01,800 --> 01:18:03,679
Speaker 1: women too, and the sane for women.

1662
01:18:03,680 --> 01:18:05,920
Speaker 4: You women, like literally.

1663
01:18:05,640 --> 01:18:07,519
Speaker 2: When you say that, get your shit together, you mean

1664
01:18:07,560 --> 01:18:09,280
Speaker 2: like financially but all the things.

1665
01:18:09,360 --> 01:18:12,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, fun, Like how do you you're not a broke man?

1666
01:18:12,280 --> 01:18:13,080
Speaker 3: Is not a happy man.

1667
01:18:13,520 --> 01:18:15,519
Speaker 1: These niggas on the internet don't have a couple of

1668
01:18:15,560 --> 01:18:17,000
Speaker 1: dollars and they fucking mad.

1669
01:18:17,400 --> 01:18:19,240
Speaker 2: I don't know nobody who's heavy broke.

1670
01:18:19,240 --> 01:18:22,559
Speaker 6: Nobody, nobody, And like, I really feel like it's supporting

1671
01:18:22,640 --> 01:18:25,360
Speaker 6: for women too, because like when I was like not

1672
01:18:25,439 --> 01:18:28,000
Speaker 6: working at one point and whatever, I'm not going on

1673
01:18:28,000 --> 01:18:30,320
Speaker 6: no dates, I'm not having self, I'm not having I'm

1674
01:18:30,320 --> 01:18:33,320
Speaker 6: not I'm not doing none of that because I can't.

1675
01:18:33,360 --> 01:18:36,040
Speaker 6: I literally the guy I'm dating now we started talking

1676
01:18:36,040 --> 01:18:38,160
Speaker 6: in that moment. I was like getting back on my feet,

1677
01:18:38,160 --> 01:18:40,320
Speaker 6: had got like a lower paying job, and he was

1678
01:18:40,360 --> 01:18:42,120
Speaker 6: like wanting to He was like, I want us to

1679
01:18:42,120 --> 01:18:43,639
Speaker 6: be together, and I was like, I do not feel

1680
01:18:43,640 --> 01:18:45,600
Speaker 6: comfortable being with you. I'm not where I want to be.

1681
01:18:45,840 --> 01:18:47,400
Speaker 6: And he just could not understand it. He was like,

1682
01:18:47,439 --> 01:18:49,240
Speaker 6: why don't you want to be with me? And I

1683
01:18:49,320 --> 01:18:51,599
Speaker 6: was like, because I'm not making the money I want

1684
01:18:51,600 --> 01:18:55,040
Speaker 6: to make. Yeah, I can't focus on you right now.

1685
01:18:56,520 --> 01:18:58,720
Speaker 1: And that's the attitude that men should have too, like

1686
01:18:58,800 --> 01:19:00,920
Speaker 1: get your get your shit, yeah the man, so you

1687
01:19:00,960 --> 01:19:01,599
Speaker 1: could be happy.

1688
01:19:02,400 --> 01:19:04,760
Speaker 3: I want a happy man. I got a happy man.

1689
01:19:04,960 --> 01:19:09,440
Speaker 4: Order. I mean obhama, mamas.

1690
01:19:08,880 --> 01:19:11,360
Speaker 2: Everybody where they can find you, plug all your things.

1691
01:19:11,439 --> 01:19:13,439
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Speaker 2: Oh we love gives. We got what we got.

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01:19:31,520 --> 01:19:34,920
Speaker 6: So I got you guys a journal.

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Speaker 4: Okay, because I feel it's important to right.

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Speaker 6: Oh, I look your things out okay, and it's really

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Speaker 6: it's a lot of room in here to write.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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01:19:42,040 --> 01:19:45,240
Speaker 1: I love a journal. I'm gonna turn it to a

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01:19:45,320 --> 01:19:51,639
Speaker 1: frog if this is thank you so much. I really

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Speaker 1: will use this.

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Speaker 2: It's all nice.

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Speaker 4: This is good life coaching. Uh.

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Speaker 3: Yes, adore your life.

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01:19:57,960 --> 01:19:59,640
Speaker 4: Adoor your life, because I feel like you have to

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01:19:59,720 --> 01:20:01,599
Speaker 4: endore your life to just live.

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01:20:01,439 --> 01:20:03,639
Speaker 2: Like I needed. I needed a new one, So thank

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01:20:03,680 --> 01:20:04,400
Speaker 2: you min. It's full.

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Speaker 4: I year that whatever you went in there, Aja, it

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01:20:07,640 --> 01:20:08,160
Speaker 4: don't matter.

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Speaker 2: She gonna write spells in there, that's no.

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Speaker 1: I have a spell books I write in there. Okay, No,

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01:20:12,840 --> 01:20:15,640
Speaker 1: it's the same thing. I just haven't written. And she

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Speaker 1: gave me.

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Speaker 2: Like a car. I gave her a couple of journals

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Speaker 2: that she using like the keep up chair balance.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so she might pull them out and write them.

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01:20:24,160 --> 01:20:25,719
Speaker 4: I just want you to write how you're gonna adore

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01:20:25,720 --> 01:20:29,880
Speaker 4: your life in that one? Got it going forward? We

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01:20:30,000 --> 01:20:31,600
Speaker 4: appreciate it, y'all for having me.

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01:20:32,520 --> 01:20:34,280
Speaker 2: This is great. I love you so much.

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01:20:34,360 --> 01:20:35,960
Speaker 3: Give me I want to hug too.

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01:20:36,479 --> 01:20:43,479
Speaker 4: Yes, now, this was amazing. And Thomas, thank you as well.

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01:20:43,360 --> 01:20:46,080
Speaker 2: Because all right, closest with out girlfriend.

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Speaker 3: All right, y'all, you enjoyed this episode.

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Speaker 2: no no, you got to say never, hold your take.

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Speaker 2: Know some.

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