WEBVTT - Things will look better in the morning

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that things will look better in the morning. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>it is easy to become frustrated as the day goes

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<v Speaker 1>on and to find things untenable toward bedtime. A good

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<v Speaker 1>night's sleep can change everything. If you can remind yourself

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<v Speaker 1>of this, you might be less inclined to do anything rash,

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<v Speaker 1>or at least you'll feel better about life. My family

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<v Speaker 1>recently took a trip to Upstate New York for my

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<v Speaker 1>brother's wedding. The weekend was mostly lovely, but we arrived

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<v Speaker 1>late Friday night, after three and a half hours in

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<v Speaker 1>the car with five not entirely happy to ldren. My

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<v Speaker 1>baby hadn't slept in the car, so I thought he

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<v Speaker 1>would crash as soon as we got there, but he

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<v Speaker 1>did not. He fought sleep for an hour, and since

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<v Speaker 1>we were staying in a guesthouse where there were other

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<v Speaker 1>people living on the other side, that meant I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>have him making noise. I wound up rocking him the

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<v Speaker 1>entire time. Now. I know we are supposed to treasure

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<v Speaker 1>these moments, but not at ten thirty pm, not when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm tired, and not when I have strongly suspecting that

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<v Speaker 1>my husband has not started putting the older children to bed,

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<v Speaker 1>and so that is waiting for me. On the other

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<v Speaker 1>side of all this rocking, I was pretty miserable. So

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<v Speaker 1>I did what I always do in these circumstances. I

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<v Speaker 1>pictured myself on the other side. While it was possible

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<v Speaker 1>I would still be rocking the baby in thirty minutes,

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<v Speaker 1>I would not still will be rocking him in eight hours.

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<v Speaker 1>Eventually I would go to bed. Eventually it would be morning,

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<v Speaker 1>and we would be able to look out at the

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<v Speaker 1>lovely fall scenery and enjoy some coffee and farm fresh eggs.

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<v Speaker 1>And sure enough, eventually he did sleep. Eventually I did too,

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<v Speaker 1>and the crisp fall morning was lovely. As we went

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<v Speaker 1>hiking around Lake Minnewaska and went to my brother's outdoor wedding,

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<v Speaker 1>things look better in the morning. I know the research

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<v Speaker 1>on ego depletion is muddled, but in general it makes

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<v Speaker 1>sense that as we go through the day, our supply

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<v Speaker 1>of willpower gets used up. We focus at work, we

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<v Speaker 1>deal with difficult people, we battle traffic, We heard children

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<v Speaker 1>to bed. It is hard to be excited about life.

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<v Speaker 1>Late at night, when the day has been long, we

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<v Speaker 1>can indulge in all sorts of narratives of unhappiness. But

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<v Speaker 1>as the old hymn goes morning by morning, new mercies

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<v Speaker 1>I see. The sun comes up, that first cup of

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<v Speaker 1>coffee kicks in, and suddenly what felt terrible the night

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<v Speaker 1>before feels doable. With a new day, solutions appear, things

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<v Speaker 1>seem less extreme. The trick for a better existence is

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<v Speaker 1>to remind yourself of that truth at night. Though things

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<v Speaker 1>feel terrible in the moment, they will look different in

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<v Speaker 1>the morning, so just hold tight and go to bed.

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<v Speaker 1>It will be okay. A good night's sleep can change

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<v Speaker 1>just about anything. And yes, I know not everybody as

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<v Speaker 1>a morning person, but studies of energy and focus show

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<v Speaker 1>that most people do better on these dimensions in the

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<v Speaker 1>early hours. Not everybody, but most people. So let your

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<v Speaker 1>night self off the hook. He or she won't be

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<v Speaker 1>able to deal with your toughest problems, but everything will

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<v Speaker 1>look different in the morning, So just picture yourself then

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<v Speaker 1>and you will feel better about just about everything. In

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<v Speaker 1>the meantime. This is Laura, Thanks for listening, and here's

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<v Speaker 1>to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody. I'd

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