1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:06,720 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:09,119 --> 00:00:15,240 Speaker 1: Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Today's tip is that things will look better in the morning. Well, 4 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:24,960 Speaker 1: it is easy to become frustrated as the day goes 5 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:30,160 Speaker 1: on and to find things untenable toward bedtime. A good 6 00:00:30,280 --> 00:00:36,280 Speaker 1: night's sleep can change everything. If you can remind yourself 7 00:00:36,320 --> 00:00:40,160 Speaker 1: of this, you might be less inclined to do anything rash, 8 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:47,479 Speaker 1: or at least you'll feel better about life. My family 9 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:49,960 Speaker 1: recently took a trip to Upstate New York for my 10 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 1: brother's wedding. The weekend was mostly lovely, but we arrived 11 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 1: late Friday night, after three and a half hours in 12 00:00:57,000 --> 00:01:01,440 Speaker 1: the car with five not entirely happy to ldren. My 13 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:04,320 Speaker 1: baby hadn't slept in the car, so I thought he 14 00:01:04,360 --> 00:01:07,760 Speaker 1: would crash as soon as we got there, but he 15 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 1: did not. He fought sleep for an hour, and since 16 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 1: we were staying in a guesthouse where there were other 17 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:17,880 Speaker 1: people living on the other side, that meant I couldn't 18 00:01:17,920 --> 00:01:22,080 Speaker 1: have him making noise. I wound up rocking him the 19 00:01:22,280 --> 00:01:26,959 Speaker 1: entire time. Now. I know we are supposed to treasure 20 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:31,560 Speaker 1: these moments, but not at ten thirty pm, not when 21 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:35,120 Speaker 1: I'm tired, and not when I have strongly suspecting that 22 00:01:35,160 --> 00:01:38,120 Speaker 1: my husband has not started putting the older children to bed, 23 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:40,399 Speaker 1: and so that is waiting for me. On the other 24 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 1: side of all this rocking, I was pretty miserable. So 25 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 1: I did what I always do in these circumstances. I 26 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:55,160 Speaker 1: pictured myself on the other side. While it was possible 27 00:01:55,200 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 1: I would still be rocking the baby in thirty minutes, 28 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:02,600 Speaker 1: I would not still will be rocking him in eight hours. 29 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 1: Eventually I would go to bed. Eventually it would be morning, 30 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 1: and we would be able to look out at the 31 00:02:10,800 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 1: lovely fall scenery and enjoy some coffee and farm fresh eggs. 32 00:02:17,560 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 1: And sure enough, eventually he did sleep. Eventually I did too, 33 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: and the crisp fall morning was lovely. As we went 34 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:30,239 Speaker 1: hiking around Lake Minnewaska and went to my brother's outdoor wedding, 35 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 1: things look better in the morning. I know the research 36 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:39,359 Speaker 1: on ego depletion is muddled, but in general it makes 37 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:42,080 Speaker 1: sense that as we go through the day, our supply 38 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:47,440 Speaker 1: of willpower gets used up. We focus at work, we 39 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:53,240 Speaker 1: deal with difficult people, we battle traffic, We heard children 40 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 1: to bed. It is hard to be excited about life. 41 00:02:57,360 --> 00:03:01,520 Speaker 1: Late at night, when the day has been long, we 42 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:06,680 Speaker 1: can indulge in all sorts of narratives of unhappiness. But 43 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:12,320 Speaker 1: as the old hymn goes morning by morning, new mercies 44 00:03:12,760 --> 00:03:17,600 Speaker 1: I see. The sun comes up, that first cup of 45 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:23,359 Speaker 1: coffee kicks in, and suddenly what felt terrible the night 46 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 1: before feels doable. With a new day, solutions appear, things 47 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 1: seem less extreme. The trick for a better existence is 48 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:42,200 Speaker 1: to remind yourself of that truth at night. Though things 49 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:46,240 Speaker 1: feel terrible in the moment, they will look different in 50 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 1: the morning, so just hold tight and go to bed. 51 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 1: It will be okay. A good night's sleep can change 52 00:03:57,320 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: just about anything. And yes, I know not everybody as 53 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:07,200 Speaker 1: a morning person, but studies of energy and focus show 54 00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:09,920 Speaker 1: that most people do better on these dimensions in the 55 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:15,560 Speaker 1: early hours. Not everybody, but most people. So let your 56 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 1: night self off the hook. He or she won't be 57 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:24,120 Speaker 1: able to deal with your toughest problems, but everything will 58 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 1: look different in the morning, So just picture yourself then 59 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:35,080 Speaker 1: and you will feel better about just about everything. In 60 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:40,840 Speaker 1: the meantime. This is Laura, Thanks for listening, and here's 61 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:50,680 Speaker 1: to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody. I'd 62 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:53,120 Speaker 1: love to hear from you. You can send me your tips, 63 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:56,880 Speaker 1: your questions, or anything else. Just connect with me on Twitter, 64 00:04:57,240 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 1: Facebook and Instagram at before fist pod that's b E 65 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 1: the number four, then Breakfast p o D. 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