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Speaker 1: Well, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if

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Speaker 1: you need advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more,

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Speaker 1: com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We've been getting some

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Speaker 1: really good one lady lately, and this one probably will

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Speaker 1: be just as good. We will be reading this letter

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Speaker 1: live on the air right here, right now, All right,

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Speaker 1: let's get to it. Buckle up and hold on tight.

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Speaker 1: We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Thank enough you subject. He came home the next day

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Speaker 1: with a clean shirt on. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a

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Speaker 1: twenty nine year old woman and I've been engaged for

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Speaker 1: two years. I've never questioned my man's loyalty to me,

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Speaker 1: and in the five years total that we've been together,

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Speaker 1: I don't think he's ever cheated on me. We lived together,

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Speaker 1: and I have all of his passwords to his phone,

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Speaker 1: social media accounts, and his checking account. He has all

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Speaker 1: of mine too. Things changed after the COVID locked loosened up,

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Speaker 1: and now he's trying to hang out more than usual. Recently,

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Speaker 1: he went out with his friends and he called me

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Speaker 1: to say and said that he got too intoxicated to

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Speaker 1: drive home. He said he was going to spend the

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Speaker 1: night at his co worker's house. I was glad he

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Speaker 1: was safe and I didn't suspect anything. The next morning,

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Speaker 1: I called to check on him, and his phone went

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Speaker 1: straight to voicemail. When he finally got home around noon,

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Speaker 1: I was hot. He came in and tried to kiss me,

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Speaker 1: and all I could smell was laundry detergent and fabric softener.

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Speaker 1: Wherever he had been, he washed his shirt before he

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Speaker 1: came home. The first thing I asked was if he

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Speaker 1: got sick and threw up on himself. He was all

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Speaker 1: defensive and said no, And why did I ask him that.

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Speaker 1: I told him I could tell his shirt had been

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Speaker 1: washed and ironed. He looked like a fool and tried

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Speaker 1: and he had deleted all of his text messages and

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Speaker 1: he deleted his call log. It's been three days and

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Speaker 1: I'm not speaking to him. I want to squash this situation,

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Speaker 1: but there's no need to nag him over and over

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Speaker 1: for answers. I know he's up to something. How do

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Speaker 1: I handle this maturely without trying to break his neck?

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Speaker 1: Please advise well for starters, the silent treatment is good.

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Speaker 1: The silent treatment is good. I mean, men hate it.

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Speaker 1: That's why I love it. I am a fan of silence,

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Speaker 1: I am. But this guy is all the way wrong.

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Speaker 1: He's lying and everything you said makes your case about

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Speaker 1: a court of law, this case would be dismissed because

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Speaker 1: of lack of evidence. But you know, as a woman,

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Speaker 1: with your intuition and how you investigate and smell and

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Speaker 1: snoop around and all that, you know you're right. I

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Speaker 1: don't think he'll ever admit to cheat or whatever he

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Speaker 1: was doing in this lifetime. Please do not, though, let

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Speaker 1: him flip it and try to make it seem like

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Speaker 1: this is your fault, like you don't have the right

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Speaker 1: to question him. I mean, you guys have been living

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Speaker 1: together for five years. You know you have a right

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Speaker 1: to do whatever you live with this man. It's not

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Speaker 1: nagging and you're not crazy and you're not always complaining.

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Speaker 1: You just want the truth. But you're not gonna get it.

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Speaker 1: He's gonna take it to the grave with his lies

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Speaker 1: and defensiveness. That's what he's been doing. That's all you're

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Speaker 1: get that, Steve. I I don't understand the purpose for

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Speaker 1: I can understand everything you said, but from my stand point,

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Speaker 1: I don't even know. It's some stupidity in this letter

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Speaker 1: man's loyalty in five years they've been together, and she

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Speaker 1: says at the top, I don't think he's ever cheated

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Speaker 1: to his phone, social media accounts. I got his checking account,

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Speaker 1: he's got mine too, And but things changed after COVID lockdown,

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Speaker 1: loosing up, and now he's trying to hang out more

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Speaker 1: than usual. All that is is over celebrate. You know,

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Speaker 1: we've been locked up so long. We just over celebrate.

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Speaker 1: Just you know, it's just you know, you know, as

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Speaker 1: so far, we're working it. The next morning I called

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Speaker 1: This is where he's stupid. See here, in his twenties,

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Speaker 1: he's stupid. It went straight to voicemail. When he finally

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Speaker 1: got home around noon, Why is your ass out to noon? Boy?

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Speaker 1: You had to overnight stay you was in She was glad,

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Speaker 1: happy for you that you were safe. You'dn't stretched it

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Speaker 1: out to noon. Take your ass home early in the morning.

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Speaker 1: You too much, You'd have took it too damn fall.

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Speaker 1: Noon should have been home at seven. What is you

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Speaker 1: laying up that fall? Anyway, As we lay he forgot

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Speaker 1: about surprise. We had to pay, take your ass home.

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Speaker 1: You should have never been in there past seven am

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Speaker 1: and answer your damn phone. But I'm gonna tell you

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Speaker 1: what happened, and I got the rest every when we

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Speaker 1: come back. This didn't even have to happen. This is

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Speaker 1: a damn shame. You're mad at him because it's okay

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Speaker 1: that he stayed out. Okay, Oh, I'm even more mad

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Speaker 1: at him. What are you for waiting? I'll tell you

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Speaker 1: be our subject of today's Strawberry letter, he came home

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Speaker 1: the next day with a clean shirt on. We'll get

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Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: He came home then today with a clean shirt on

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Speaker 1: what this food? Been engaged in? This woman? She twenty

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Speaker 1: nine dating five years she ain't never thought he would

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Speaker 1: and phone, social media account, all the check in count information.

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Speaker 1: After COVID was over, he loosened up. He started hanging

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Speaker 1: You're gonna spend the night. That's all you needed to do.

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Speaker 1: And when he finally got home around noon, I be

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Speaker 1: you doesn't took it too far. Whis you all up

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Speaker 1: having breakfast and going to brunch with a foal fool

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Speaker 1: spent that night. He came home around noon. I was hot.

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Speaker 1: I could smell was laundry detergent and fabric softed that

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Speaker 1: this is a good part of the letter, y'all. The

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Speaker 1: first thing I asked was if he got sick and

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Speaker 1: know why I asked him, now, are you crazy? She

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Speaker 1: gave you the out? What that's better? It in the

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Speaker 1: your shirt? Wow? How did you know that? Because I

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Speaker 1: smell that laundry detergent. Damn baby, I didn't want to

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Speaker 1: come home with all that vomit on this shirt. Wow. Man,

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Speaker 1: you so perceptive. Thank you for Carrie. You was out.

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Speaker 1: How boy, she that wrote the lie for you? Your

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Speaker 1: dumb ass stared the gift horse in the mouth, and

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Speaker 1: your dumbass got defensive and said, no, why would I

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Speaker 1: You couldn't come home with that shirt smelling like that.

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Speaker 1: You don't know none of the tricks. I've thrown a

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Speaker 1: even more evidence. He been up all night just performing. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I came home doing yard working everything. Stupid ass boy.

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Speaker 1: All you had to do was take the I threw

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Speaker 1: up you right. I watched it in you right now,

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Speaker 1: she ain't speaking to him. I want to squash this situation,

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Speaker 1: but there's no need to nag him over and over

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Speaker 1: for answers. I know he's up to something. Well, you

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Speaker 1: What are you gonna break his neck? For? All the

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Speaker 1: evidence has been washed away, is somewhere down somebody laundry man. Okay,

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Speaker 1: do is put this in your memory, break and be

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Speaker 1: watchful because if he's that's stupid. He fenn to make

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Speaker 1: a damned dope, knot. He needs mentoring, Steve, stupid as

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Speaker 1: was fitting to say. He's not a player that he

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Speaker 1: thinks he is my partner. God, cutting was bleeding on

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