1 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:22,120 Speaker 1: Hey I do Part two. It's your Celebrity Mentor, your 2 00:00:22,160 --> 00:00:24,759 Speaker 1: favorite celebrity mentor Kelly ben Simon. And today I'm so 3 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:27,960 Speaker 1: excited to chat with a woman who, like all of 4 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:30,760 Speaker 1: us on this podcast, has gone through her own broken 5 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:35,280 Speaker 1: relationships and is a complete open book, which we love. 6 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:38,560 Speaker 1: She's an incredible single mom. She's stunning and you can 7 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:41,520 Speaker 1: see her sharing her life on the new Bravo show 8 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: The Valley Persian Style. It's Golanessa aka Gigi because you're 9 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:54,880 Speaker 1: so unfiltered, which I love about you on The Valley 10 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:56,800 Speaker 1: Persian Style. You're doing such a great job and you 11 00:00:56,880 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 1: are so gorgeous and so real, and I have so 12 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:04,320 Speaker 1: much fun watching you. All my friends are obsessed. Let's 13 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 1: talk about marriage today. 14 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:11,160 Speaker 2: Oh your thought lay it on me. 15 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:13,839 Speaker 1: Just let's go right into it. What are your thoughts 16 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:16,600 Speaker 1: about marriage? Would you get married again? 17 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:17,759 Speaker 2: Okay? 18 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:20,960 Speaker 3: So I think the reason it's so easy for me 19 00:01:21,080 --> 00:01:22,399 Speaker 3: to get married is because I. 20 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 2: Don't believe in marriage. 21 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 3: To me, it's not like a sanctity, it's not anything special. 22 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:31,959 Speaker 2: It's to me, it's ridiculous. 23 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 3: It's the worst business contract I've ever read in my life. 24 00:01:35,760 --> 00:01:39,440 Speaker 3: Is someone who loves to be in business. It doesn't 25 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 3: make sense the contract of marriage. So I'm against it. 26 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 3: So for me, it's fun to play around with it 27 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 3: a little bit. I'm sorry. These dogs are just ridiculous. 28 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 3: This is what I'm married to. 29 00:01:50,480 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 2: This is marriage. 30 00:01:51,600 --> 00:01:53,840 Speaker 1: Yes, you are married to love. I see that. But 31 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 1: give me a little recap on your relationship history so 32 00:01:57,560 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: that the listeners like kind of you know, get a 33 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:03,200 Speaker 1: sense of what we're talking about. Oh my gosh, they're 34 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:03,600 Speaker 1: so cute. 35 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:07,080 Speaker 3: Well, I just I think that for me, it's very 36 00:02:07,120 --> 00:02:09,880 Speaker 3: hard to date. I'm a very independent woman. I use 37 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:12,200 Speaker 3: this ferm donor to have a child, you know. So 38 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:15,239 Speaker 3: for me, it's a clear indicator that I'm not looking 39 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:16,800 Speaker 3: for attachment from a man. 40 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:19,400 Speaker 2: I'm looking to fulfill my own needs. 41 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:22,760 Speaker 3: And I'm not saying a man doesn't fulfill that need. 42 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:26,800 Speaker 3: It's just I need it in doses, if that makes sense. 43 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 3: So I really would appreciate a man who's busy, a 44 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 3: businessman who's constantly on the go, and maybe a long 45 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 3: distance kind of a relationship, you know, something that's not 46 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:39,080 Speaker 3: in your face the way Bob is always in my 47 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:41,680 Speaker 3: face like this, you see this, this is this. 48 00:02:41,840 --> 00:02:45,200 Speaker 2: I just can't I just can't love. I thank you 49 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 2: one minute. This is what I deal with. 50 00:02:47,639 --> 00:02:49,520 Speaker 1: But look at which they love you. Look at much 51 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 1: love you bring to these a beautiful animals. Look at that. 52 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 1: That is amazing. You know it's interesting because you know, 53 00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:59,079 Speaker 1: I mean, you have had a longer time on television, 54 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 1: and so have I. But I also am looking for 55 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 1: someone who's independent because I have a very big life, 56 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:08,959 Speaker 1: and you know, I wear a lot of hats and 57 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:10,519 Speaker 1: I do a lot of things. I travel a lot. 58 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:13,720 Speaker 1: So for me, being in someone who's independent is really 59 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:18,240 Speaker 1: really important. But it's also difficult because there's a push 60 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:22,640 Speaker 1: and pull that I want them to be independent and 61 00:03:22,760 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 1: I also have my independence, but I also need I'm 62 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 1: also a very loving person and look, I mean you 63 00:03:28,200 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 1: are too obviously look at you how you are with 64 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:33,120 Speaker 1: these beautiful, beautiful dogs. So I think that's one thing 65 00:03:33,160 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 1: that we have in common, is that we do want 66 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:42,200 Speaker 1: that kindness and attention and love, but we also need 67 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:44,840 Speaker 1: to know what we need to do. So how long, 68 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:47,160 Speaker 1: just for the listeners, how long have you been on television? 69 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 1: How many years? 70 00:03:48,480 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 2: Since twenty eleven? So fifteen years? 71 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:56,400 Speaker 1: Okay, so literally like almost like you know, half of 72 00:03:56,440 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 1: your life. 73 00:03:56,840 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 3: I would love for you to say half my life. 74 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:00,400 Speaker 3: I'm forty four, so I would love all for. 75 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 2: You to say half my life. 76 00:04:01,880 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 1: I mean, you're gorgeous and young andrge I mean I 77 00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 1: just think like I'll take you girl. Yes, okay, you 78 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 1: don't look forty four. You're blessed with beauty. But doctor, 79 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:13,160 Speaker 1: let's just say and good doctor. But let's just let's 80 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:15,600 Speaker 1: just for the listeners to say, so half of your 81 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:19,320 Speaker 1: life because obviously when you were younger, you were young, 82 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:21,520 Speaker 1: but like your from your twenties to your thirties to 83 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 1: your forties, you've been on TV. So how does that 84 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:27,200 Speaker 1: How do you feel? Has that been good for you? 85 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:31,159 Speaker 1: Has that been hard for you? Like? Lay that out? 86 00:04:31,200 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 2: It's arollably above. I think you know as you know. 87 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 3: It's it's it opens the door to a lot of opportunities, 88 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:42,039 Speaker 3: both positive opportunities and difficult opportunities. You are supposed to 89 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:45,840 Speaker 3: be as vulnerable as you can be and transparent as 90 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:49,240 Speaker 3: you can be, knowing that the whole world is going 91 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:52,080 Speaker 3: to attack every single one of those vulnerabilities. 92 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:54,279 Speaker 2: So it's kind of like a damned if you do, 93 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:55,279 Speaker 2: damned if you don't. 94 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:58,359 Speaker 3: It's it's I like to call it a mind because 95 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 3: to me, that's the best way I see it. Yeah, 96 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:04,040 Speaker 3: but when you live in your truth, you know that 97 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:07,600 Speaker 3: judgment is going to happen, regardless of there being a 98 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 3: camera and an audience or not. I've always lived my 99 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:13,839 Speaker 3: life a little bit differently than most people, which I 100 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:14,640 Speaker 3: guess makes me. 101 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:17,440 Speaker 2: Great for TV, you know, but it is exhausting. It's 102 00:05:17,440 --> 00:05:17,800 Speaker 2: a lot. 103 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:20,880 Speaker 3: Now that I have a five year old son, it's 104 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 3: a different tier of thought process and anxiety and worry. 105 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:30,039 Speaker 1: Do you think it's difficult to date because you have 106 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:33,559 Speaker 1: a son? Do you think it's difficult because you're on TV? 107 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:36,719 Speaker 2: I think being in LA is what makes it difficult. 108 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:39,320 Speaker 3: I think statistically, LA is probably one of the most 109 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:41,680 Speaker 3: difficult places to find. 110 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:44,160 Speaker 2: Any substance in a man here. 111 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:47,840 Speaker 3: I think people sort of migrate to LA with an 112 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:51,600 Speaker 3: ulterior motive of whether it's acting, modeling, TV, whatever it is. 113 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:55,320 Speaker 3: People don't just have a lot of culture in LA. 114 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 3: The culture here is opportunity and everything, and everyone is 115 00:05:58,960 --> 00:06:02,040 Speaker 3: a ladder. My guards are up because I'm on TV. 116 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 3: I get nervous about that. Where does someone go? You know? 117 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 3: I was asking Jeff Lewis because he's like, why are 118 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:10,560 Speaker 3: you saying I'm like, where does someone go in LA 119 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:11,760 Speaker 3: to meet someone? 120 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:13,000 Speaker 2: I would love to know. 121 00:06:13,400 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: I really like what you just said about the latter, 122 00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:18,360 Speaker 1: because that's not just in LA, by the way, that's everywhere. 123 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 1: And when you are when you do put yourself out 124 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:23,680 Speaker 1: in a situation like we do, and you are authentic, 125 00:06:23,760 --> 00:06:25,880 Speaker 1: You're much more authentic than I ever was. But I 126 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:28,560 Speaker 1: was on TV and like the Ice Age, and I just, 127 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:30,599 Speaker 1: you know, as you know, were watching some of the 128 00:06:30,600 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: things you said yesterday and the things you're saying again today, 129 00:06:33,200 --> 00:06:35,200 Speaker 1: like about your truth and knowing who you are and 130 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:38,240 Speaker 1: all those things are really really important. And I feel 131 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:41,480 Speaker 1: like a lot of people because you are so real 132 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 1: that they're like I think, don't think that you actually are. 133 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: You are and you are real. So are you dating? 134 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:51,760 Speaker 2: I'm not, I'm not. But again, I hate to keep writing. 135 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:54,480 Speaker 3: I feel like I've been mentioning Jeff Lewis's name constantly. 136 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:57,240 Speaker 3: He really sort of opened my eyes to it a 137 00:06:57,279 --> 00:07:00,520 Speaker 3: little bit, saying, you know, I haven't been and dating. 138 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:03,719 Speaker 3: You know, my son's almost six years old, and I'm 139 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:07,400 Speaker 3: ready to sort of meet a partner. He's old enough 140 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:09,920 Speaker 3: to where like it's okay if my parents babysit, you know, 141 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 3: if I need to go spend time with someone to 142 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 3: get to. 143 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:14,400 Speaker 2: Know them, and so I don't know how. 144 00:07:14,440 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 3: And I went out and I bought an iPad because 145 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:20,440 Speaker 3: I wanted to join Riah because apparently Riyah is exclusive 146 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 3: to Apple and I have a Samsung phone, so I 147 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:25,200 Speaker 3: want to boyd and I'm on. 148 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:27,800 Speaker 2: The wait list. I could put you on because I 149 00:07:27,840 --> 00:07:28,600 Speaker 2: didn't want them. 150 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 3: Have my contact list. They're like, we need your contact 151 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 3: list to get referrals. I'm like, I don't want to 152 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:35,440 Speaker 3: open my contact list. I didn't know what that meant. 153 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:38,960 Speaker 1: Right well, just so, just like Ria, in order to 154 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:40,920 Speaker 1: be on ride, you have to give them the contact 155 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:42,800 Speaker 1: list so they can see, like who you're friends with. 156 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:46,679 Speaker 1: That's part of their algorithm is connecting you with people 157 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:48,880 Speaker 1: that you know, which is good and bad. 158 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:51,120 Speaker 2: I don't want to date everyone I know. I've already 159 00:07:52,280 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 2: in my phone. 160 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:55,160 Speaker 1: They'll say, like people that you have in common, so 161 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 1: it's not just like random people that you would have 162 00:07:58,520 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 1: no idea who they are, do you know what I mean. 163 00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:04,960 Speaker 1: I'm happy to help you with that, so your DMS 164 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:07,000 Speaker 1: people slide into your DMS. 165 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:11,520 Speaker 3: I'm private on my DM stuff. I don't look at 166 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:12,440 Speaker 3: my dms. 167 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 2: I can't. There's so many come through, and like. 168 00:08:15,080 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 3: You said, that whole authenticity kind of factor that I have, 169 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 3: I get a lot of backlash. So if I were 170 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 3: to go through all the d ms, I would be 171 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:26,440 Speaker 3: setting myself up for a major depression. 172 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: I know. I mean, I still get a lot of 173 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:34,320 Speaker 1: really really wild stuff on Instagram and on TikTok. But 174 00:08:34,360 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 1: I I kept because you know, I'm single. So I'm like, okay, 175 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:40,120 Speaker 1: I have to you know, my applications are open. I 176 00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:43,960 Speaker 1: have to see like who's who's interesting? And you know, 177 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 1: you never know. Like I was on, I was on, 178 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:50,960 Speaker 1: I was on a pod and I was and I 179 00:08:51,040 --> 00:08:53,480 Speaker 1: was like, hey, you know, maybe I'll just slid into 180 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:55,360 Speaker 1: Kevin Cosners. 181 00:08:55,800 --> 00:08:59,120 Speaker 2: Oh okay, So I. 182 00:08:57,320 --> 00:09:01,599 Speaker 1: Did like if like who's person? Like why is he 183 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 1: coming into my ideas? But I was like, you know what, 184 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:07,160 Speaker 1: who cares? Like have I don't have anything to lose? 185 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:21,920 Speaker 1: H Okay, Let's talk about the Bravo universe. Are there 186 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:25,520 Speaker 1: any guys on you know, in the Bravo universe that 187 00:09:25,559 --> 00:09:28,680 Speaker 1: you would be interested in talking to? Like shit or. 188 00:09:30,360 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 3: Been there dead now with Chab like Shepp is like 189 00:09:32,880 --> 00:09:36,440 Speaker 3: a great time to me. I think he's so so intelligent, 190 00:09:37,200 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 3: and he really turns me on to. 191 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:42,680 Speaker 2: Intellect is a big thing for me. I'm very safe. 192 00:09:42,720 --> 00:09:45,479 Speaker 2: You're sexual, so like Shep is a hottie. 193 00:09:45,960 --> 00:09:50,600 Speaker 3: No, there was only one guy I think really, you know, 194 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:53,440 Speaker 3: hook up worthy and smart enough to be like turned 195 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:56,239 Speaker 3: on by it. He's not on Bravo anymore. But Mauricio 196 00:09:56,920 --> 00:09:59,679 Speaker 3: Marisi is a very handsome man. And I mean it's 197 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:02,360 Speaker 3: because we're from l A. We all have the same friends. 198 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 3: My best Jay is his boss. 199 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:10,840 Speaker 2: You know, his bosses's boss, so it's kind of he's 200 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:12,120 Speaker 2: he's a hotty. 201 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:16,000 Speaker 1: He is very attractive. He is very attractive. Okay, well 202 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:19,160 Speaker 1: so Whitney and I back in the day when on 203 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:21,960 Speaker 1: a couple of dead dates before he even started Southern 204 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:27,560 Speaker 1: Charm and during Bravocan, I met Captain Jason and he 205 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:31,080 Speaker 1: like hops into my GM. Damn my GM, my DM 206 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:32,160 Speaker 1: sometimes and I'm like. 207 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:36,600 Speaker 2: Oh, he's thet man in the whole. Oh he's one 208 00:10:36,600 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 2: of my dear friends. I love him dearly. 209 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 3: But he is I think, very similar to me, very 210 00:10:43,200 --> 00:10:46,040 Speaker 3: flirty by nature, so it's really easy to think he's 211 00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:50,839 Speaker 3: being flirtatious. He's just so open and so loving. So 212 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:54,200 Speaker 3: but he's he's the kindest. 213 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:56,800 Speaker 1: He is such and the way he talks about his 214 00:10:56,880 --> 00:10:59,320 Speaker 1: daughter is just so beautiful, and I just think he's 215 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:01,679 Speaker 1: so great. Wait, let's get back to ritio, because I'm 216 00:11:01,720 --> 00:11:06,080 Speaker 1: kind of like feeling the vibe now, dark hair, beautiful 217 00:11:07,040 --> 00:11:09,200 Speaker 1: and I love that you're sacheo sexual because I am 218 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 1: very much like that too. Like I I like fall 219 00:11:13,360 --> 00:11:16,000 Speaker 1: in love. I've only fallen in loved once, but I 220 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 1: fall into heavy attraction. When men are smart, it makes 221 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:24,600 Speaker 1: me like it just ignites me. I'm like a great agree. 222 00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:28,880 Speaker 3: That's why for me, I think that dating apps never 223 00:11:28,880 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 3: appealed to me. 224 00:11:29,559 --> 00:11:32,000 Speaker 2: This is my first time of trying to join rias ever, 225 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 2: because I can't look at a picture and judge. 226 00:11:34,880 --> 00:11:37,120 Speaker 3: For me, as soon as someone's smart, they've become the 227 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:39,520 Speaker 3: hottest guy in the room, So just judging them by 228 00:11:39,559 --> 00:11:42,480 Speaker 3: their face and criteria doesn't do it for me. 229 00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 1: You know, do you feel like the guys that you 230 00:11:45,120 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 1: have been in relationship with in the past were smart? 231 00:11:47,920 --> 00:11:51,200 Speaker 3: Oh gosh, No, No, I don't think I wanted to 232 00:11:51,360 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 3: date my type. 233 00:11:52,840 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 2: Yeah. 234 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 3: No, I didn't want to date my type until recently. 235 00:11:56,679 --> 00:11:59,600 Speaker 3: It's only been you know now that I'm a mom 236 00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:02,800 Speaker 3: and I have my life together. Before I was the 237 00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:05,680 Speaker 3: type of person every four months, I dumped the guy 238 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:07,439 Speaker 3: and I went and found a new one. As soon 239 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:09,760 Speaker 3: as they were getting to the point where I love you, 240 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:12,840 Speaker 3: I'm starting to, you know, have these strong feelings. It was, 241 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 3: you know, I ran, I ran, and I was getting 242 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:20,160 Speaker 3: a high off of that mental stimulation, that rush that 243 00:12:20,200 --> 00:12:22,920 Speaker 3: people get from the beginning of relationships. And I didn't 244 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:25,000 Speaker 3: realize I was chasing that, you know, and I was 245 00:12:25,040 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 3: serving this internal ego of mine to kind of. 246 00:12:28,880 --> 00:12:32,400 Speaker 2: Conquer, and that was very different. 247 00:12:32,440 --> 00:12:34,240 Speaker 3: I think I think I looked a little bit more 248 00:12:34,240 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 3: for vulnerable men at that point because I needed to 249 00:12:37,520 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 3: have that feeling of conquering. 250 00:12:39,280 --> 00:12:40,160 Speaker 2: Note now I. 251 00:12:40,120 --> 00:12:44,880 Speaker 3: Know exactly what I need. I need to be stimulated mentally. 252 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:48,720 Speaker 3: I need to be have someone so humble and generous 253 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:51,760 Speaker 3: to put me in my place in the most beautiful way, 254 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:54,240 Speaker 3: if that makes sense, and it's hard to find. 255 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:56,280 Speaker 1: I just find it interesting that you said, because most 256 00:12:56,360 --> 00:12:58,719 Speaker 1: there's like there, they talk about like chasing and attracting, 257 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:01,640 Speaker 1: and you're talking You're not talking about chasing and attracting men. 258 00:13:01,679 --> 00:13:05,920 Speaker 1: You're talking about chasing and attracting that feeling, which I 259 00:13:05,960 --> 00:13:12,800 Speaker 1: think is really interesting and very honest of you. I mean, 260 00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:14,880 Speaker 1: I can understand that too. I mean I went through 261 00:13:14,920 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 1: moments when I was just kind of I wasn't. I 262 00:13:18,200 --> 00:13:21,679 Speaker 1: was just looking for that feeling I wanted because I 263 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:23,920 Speaker 1: was like working so much and raising my two kids 264 00:13:23,960 --> 00:13:25,640 Speaker 1: on my own that when I was when I was 265 00:13:26,280 --> 00:13:29,320 Speaker 1: around certain, you know, different kinds of men, I was 266 00:13:29,440 --> 00:13:33,160 Speaker 1: always gravitating towards. I wouldn't say the bad guy, but the. 267 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:37,240 Speaker 2: Wrong guy, right, the wrong one, the temporary ones. 268 00:13:37,120 --> 00:13:40,640 Speaker 1: Right, yes, the temporary and I I never I never 269 00:13:40,679 --> 00:13:43,240 Speaker 1: really thought about that until just listening to you right now. 270 00:13:43,480 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 1: It's a drugug, Yes, it's a total drug. It's total drug. 271 00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:49,199 Speaker 1: What about younger men? Do you have any thoughts on that? 272 00:13:49,960 --> 00:13:51,880 Speaker 2: No, it doesn't do it for me. 273 00:13:52,240 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 3: I think I need an older gentleman that has already 274 00:13:55,720 --> 00:13:59,360 Speaker 3: been married, has kids, and is not really longing for 275 00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:02,360 Speaker 3: those goals and has different sets of goals in their 276 00:14:02,400 --> 00:14:07,240 Speaker 3: minds with partnership and growth and their businesses and maybe 277 00:14:07,559 --> 00:14:11,520 Speaker 3: establishing businesses. For me, that is my goal when I 278 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:14,040 Speaker 3: look at a relationship. So I would like for them 279 00:14:14,080 --> 00:14:16,760 Speaker 3: to have experienced those things to know what it feels 280 00:14:16,800 --> 00:14:18,720 Speaker 3: like to be married, to know what it feels like 281 00:14:18,760 --> 00:14:21,520 Speaker 3: to have their own children, and then to be able 282 00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:24,920 Speaker 3: to experience life together and a different perspective. 283 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:27,560 Speaker 1: It's interesting because yesterday I was kind of talking about 284 00:14:27,560 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 1: like the things that I that I was looking for, 285 00:14:29,200 --> 00:14:32,120 Speaker 1: and I used to always say, first, I always wanted 286 00:14:32,160 --> 00:14:34,040 Speaker 1: to have more kids. That was my whole thing. That's 287 00:14:34,040 --> 00:14:35,600 Speaker 1: the reason I got divorced, is because I want to 288 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:37,760 Speaker 1: have more kids for my kids, to have a family. 289 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:39,400 Speaker 1: And then I would say, I want to have this 290 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 1: gorgeous family for my family, like I have the taglines 291 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:45,240 Speaker 1: I have like relationship taglines. And then yesterday I was like, wait, 292 00:14:45,280 --> 00:14:47,240 Speaker 1: what am I doing. I'm setting myself up for these 293 00:14:47,320 --> 00:14:50,760 Speaker 1: huge expectations of like trying to create this big family 294 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:55,280 Speaker 1: narrative of this culture, this gorgeousness. Like it's just too much. 295 00:14:55,360 --> 00:14:57,760 Speaker 1: It's too much of an expectation for me. Why can't 296 00:14:57,800 --> 00:15:02,200 Speaker 1: I just find someone or be with someone who is 297 00:15:02,640 --> 00:15:06,040 Speaker 1: just interested in like being like, you know, a love 298 00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:09,400 Speaker 1: partner in crime. That's really what I'm looking for. So 299 00:15:09,400 --> 00:15:12,240 Speaker 1: it's just kind of like it's just fascinating talking, she said, 300 00:15:12,280 --> 00:15:15,760 Speaker 1: because we're really kind of like on the same path. 301 00:15:15,840 --> 00:15:19,120 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm older than you are, but we are 302 00:15:19,120 --> 00:15:21,160 Speaker 1: in this same kind of like life path, and I 303 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 1: think it's really really interesting love. What about Love Hotel? 304 00:15:25,200 --> 00:15:26,800 Speaker 1: Would you ever go on Bravo's Love Hotel? 305 00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:29,480 Speaker 3: You know, I've never been interested in wanting to do 306 00:15:29,520 --> 00:15:31,760 Speaker 3: all these other types of shows before, but the Love 307 00:15:31,920 --> 00:15:36,880 Speaker 3: Hotel definitely sparked my interest because that is up my alley. 308 00:15:36,920 --> 00:15:39,640 Speaker 3: I'm not into the traders and the competition things. 309 00:15:39,680 --> 00:15:41,840 Speaker 2: I don't have it in me to do that stuff. 310 00:15:42,240 --> 00:15:44,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, but Love Hotel, I have it in me to 311 00:15:44,920 --> 00:15:48,080 Speaker 3: meet a bunch of gorgeous men in a beautiful place. 312 00:15:48,360 --> 00:15:50,840 Speaker 1: Of course, sign me up, Kelly wait, I need to 313 00:15:50,880 --> 00:15:53,120 Speaker 1: manifest the two of us a love Hotel. The two 314 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:55,360 Speaker 1: of us were like each other's wing woman like, don't 315 00:15:55,360 --> 00:16:01,440 Speaker 1: do this, my god, don't. Yes, then Maritzu, I'm like, there, 316 00:16:01,520 --> 00:16:02,160 Speaker 1: there she is. 317 00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:05,160 Speaker 3: We'll be fighting over the the Einstein in the room. 318 00:16:05,360 --> 00:16:08,440 Speaker 3: We'll get test for the final decision. 319 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:10,880 Speaker 1: I feel like Gigi's not smart enough. He's not smart. 320 00:16:10,880 --> 00:16:12,600 Speaker 2: You're not for you. 321 00:16:16,360 --> 00:16:19,280 Speaker 1: Do you feel that? Okay, So we were talking before 322 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 1: at the top about how your first marriage was seven 323 00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:24,680 Speaker 1: weeks then you got divorced and your second marriage was 324 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:28,440 Speaker 1: ten days and then annulled. So sorry, I'm sorry, sorry 325 00:16:28,480 --> 00:16:31,040 Speaker 1: about both of those. I mean really like that just 326 00:16:31,080 --> 00:16:33,640 Speaker 1: like broke yesterday. When I was watching you talk about it, 327 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:36,560 Speaker 1: I could just see and I could hear the flutter 328 00:16:36,600 --> 00:16:39,040 Speaker 1: in your voice. I'm like, literally, I'm like emotional about 329 00:16:39,040 --> 00:16:41,760 Speaker 1: it right now. I like, I'm like, so, I'm so 330 00:16:41,880 --> 00:16:44,160 Speaker 1: happy where you are today, but I'm so sad that 331 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:46,640 Speaker 1: you had to go through that. Do you feel like 332 00:16:46,760 --> 00:16:50,360 Speaker 1: marriage has been too constricting to you? For you for 333 00:16:50,520 --> 00:16:51,240 Speaker 1: you to you? 334 00:16:51,280 --> 00:16:56,480 Speaker 3: Maybe both times I got married for different reasons, never 335 00:16:56,640 --> 00:16:59,960 Speaker 3: for the fact of getting married to the person, which 336 00:17:00,000 --> 00:17:03,680 Speaker 3: which sex. To say, I don't know if there's a 337 00:17:03,800 --> 00:17:07,320 Speaker 3: world in which marriage would ever be something that's real 338 00:17:07,359 --> 00:17:09,200 Speaker 3: for me, I don't know. I'm not going to say no. 339 00:17:10,240 --> 00:17:13,440 Speaker 3: But with my first ex, I loved him very much. 340 00:17:13,520 --> 00:17:15,879 Speaker 3: I still love him very We still talk all the time. 341 00:17:16,040 --> 00:17:18,040 Speaker 3: You know, he lives in Florida. But we had the 342 00:17:18,080 --> 00:17:21,760 Speaker 3: best relationship he and I. I really did love him, 343 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:25,480 Speaker 3: and I was worried that he was, you know, going 344 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 3: to get deported and whatnot, and I was like willing 345 00:17:28,800 --> 00:17:31,200 Speaker 3: to do what I had to do. At that time, 346 00:17:31,280 --> 00:17:32,960 Speaker 3: I thought you know, I don't want to lose you, 347 00:17:33,440 --> 00:17:37,879 Speaker 3: and so let's, you know, get married. He really wanted 348 00:17:37,920 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 3: a wife the next day and it was not in 349 00:17:41,400 --> 00:17:44,359 Speaker 3: my pingo cards. So it was just very tough and 350 00:17:44,400 --> 00:17:46,919 Speaker 3: it turned into a very long. 351 00:17:46,720 --> 00:17:48,359 Speaker 2: And bitter divorce process. 352 00:17:48,480 --> 00:17:52,720 Speaker 3: But I kept the ring in the end, which he 353 00:17:52,880 --> 00:17:55,960 Speaker 3: was like that was his excuse to fight for. But 354 00:17:56,000 --> 00:17:57,439 Speaker 3: I know I was just he was hurt and I 355 00:17:57,480 --> 00:17:59,920 Speaker 3: did hurt him. It was a little rough the way 356 00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:01,040 Speaker 3: I did things. 357 00:18:01,359 --> 00:18:03,959 Speaker 1: Wait, if you don't mind me asking, because I know 358 00:18:04,000 --> 00:18:06,040 Speaker 1: that you're so honest, how did you do things? You 359 00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:07,639 Speaker 1: just were like, I can't be your wife. 360 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:11,000 Speaker 2: I can't, yeah, very honest every day? 361 00:18:11,119 --> 00:18:13,720 Speaker 1: Or what define wife? I want to know what your 362 00:18:13,760 --> 00:18:16,639 Speaker 1: definition is of a wife in that scenario. 363 00:18:18,119 --> 00:18:19,879 Speaker 3: Well, I don't want to live with the person, and 364 00:18:19,920 --> 00:18:22,520 Speaker 3: if we live together, I do need to have like 365 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:25,480 Speaker 3: my own separate room, my own separate wing like you don't. 366 00:18:25,480 --> 00:18:27,639 Speaker 3: When I travel with a boyfriend, I always want my 367 00:18:27,680 --> 00:18:28,359 Speaker 3: own room. 368 00:18:28,600 --> 00:18:31,320 Speaker 2: Like I can't. I just can't share my space. I'm 369 00:18:31,440 --> 00:18:32,000 Speaker 2: very weird. 370 00:18:32,119 --> 00:18:34,840 Speaker 3: It sucks because I have four animals and if they're 371 00:18:34,840 --> 00:18:37,400 Speaker 3: not all on the bed with me, I can't sleep. 372 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:38,960 Speaker 3: But if a man is next to me. 373 00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:42,280 Speaker 2: I'm like, so I do just want that space. 374 00:18:42,359 --> 00:18:44,679 Speaker 3: And I think I'm just very brutally honest with my 375 00:18:44,760 --> 00:18:48,800 Speaker 3: first ex SL. I remember one time because I was 376 00:18:48,800 --> 00:18:51,760 Speaker 3: traveling a lot at that time, and I was filming 377 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:54,119 Speaker 3: the show and just doing so many things, and I 378 00:18:54,160 --> 00:18:58,760 Speaker 3: said like, if I'm not around, you know, and you're out, 379 00:18:58,760 --> 00:19:00,080 Speaker 3: you're with the boys. 380 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:01,840 Speaker 2: And the like a hot chick or something. I was like, 381 00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:04,199 Speaker 2: I don't mind if you I was like, as long 382 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:06,040 Speaker 2: as no one sees. 383 00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:10,920 Speaker 3: It, yeah, And he got so upset with me. He 384 00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:16,640 Speaker 3: lost his because he assumed that that meant I wanted. 385 00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:18,320 Speaker 2: To go do that in his mind. 386 00:19:18,359 --> 00:19:21,560 Speaker 3: I was like, no, I'm just saying, like, guys have needs. 387 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:24,560 Speaker 3: I don't get jealous by stuff like that, so it's fine. 388 00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:27,240 Speaker 2: He's like, what are you talking about? 389 00:19:28,080 --> 00:19:32,679 Speaker 1: So are you interested in polyamory or I thought I was. 390 00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:35,199 Speaker 3: I thought I was interested in the body relationship for 391 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 3: a while, and I started exploring that route, and I think, 392 00:19:40,119 --> 00:19:42,200 Speaker 3: just because I don't get jealous of things, I thought 393 00:19:42,200 --> 00:19:43,159 Speaker 3: that that's what it was. 394 00:19:43,680 --> 00:19:45,320 Speaker 2: But it's I don't think it's for me. 395 00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:47,720 Speaker 3: I think I just need a man who understands that 396 00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:51,120 Speaker 3: I need space sometimes I need a little bit of 397 00:19:52,240 --> 00:19:55,679 Speaker 3: understanding that I'm I've been in my alpha for so 398 00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:58,239 Speaker 3: long that I do want to bring it down. And 399 00:19:58,280 --> 00:20:02,159 Speaker 3: I need someone who's so secure in his alpha that 400 00:20:02,200 --> 00:20:05,600 Speaker 3: he's able to tap into his femininity to bring. 401 00:20:05,280 --> 00:20:08,520 Speaker 2: That out of me. And I think when I'm not 402 00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:11,960 Speaker 2: fighting anymore than I believe that, right. 403 00:20:12,040 --> 00:20:14,440 Speaker 3: But it's true though, Like it's so hard to find 404 00:20:14,440 --> 00:20:16,840 Speaker 3: a man who's so in his secure in his alpha 405 00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:18,520 Speaker 3: that he can tap into his femininity. 406 00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:22,560 Speaker 1: So are you a dismissive avoidant? Is that your attachment style? 407 00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:28,359 Speaker 3: Or Patti Stanger hates me because she's like that cannot 408 00:20:28,400 --> 00:20:33,200 Speaker 3: be your attachment style. I'm just I love space, I 409 00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:38,720 Speaker 3: love I love I love language is words of affirmation. 410 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:41,240 Speaker 3: I need words of praise and gifts. It's a big 411 00:20:41,280 --> 00:20:43,600 Speaker 3: one for me, and I know all the girls I 412 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:47,159 Speaker 3: love gifts. No, no, no, I need it. Yeah. 413 00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:48,440 Speaker 2: I'm a Sagittarius. 414 00:20:48,520 --> 00:20:51,080 Speaker 1: Oh you're a Sagittarius. I'm a Taurus. That's interesting. My 415 00:20:51,119 --> 00:20:54,520 Speaker 1: son's a Taurus because usually sagittarius As are like more 416 00:20:54,640 --> 00:20:57,480 Speaker 1: like active service and not necessarily gifts. But that's interesting. 417 00:20:58,920 --> 00:21:00,800 Speaker 1: So do you think this? I mean, I'm not a therapist. 418 00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:02,639 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to be I'm just curious because, like, 419 00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:05,720 Speaker 1: your relationship with your dad seems just so seems so 420 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:09,800 Speaker 1: loving and kind, and he obviously was very nurturing towards you. 421 00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:11,960 Speaker 1: Do you think it's because you had such an amazing 422 00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:15,200 Speaker 1: father that you want this independence. 423 00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:18,680 Speaker 2: Oh that's a great question. 424 00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:19,320 Speaker 3: Yeah. 425 00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:21,639 Speaker 2: I have two cats. 426 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:25,040 Speaker 3: I have one African Serbil and one regular cat. I 427 00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:27,120 Speaker 3: don't know where they are. I'm getting a pig too. 428 00:21:27,160 --> 00:21:28,880 Speaker 3: I've appried for a pig, so I'll have. 429 00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:29,480 Speaker 2: A pig soon. 430 00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:34,879 Speaker 3: I think having a really great dad makes it a 431 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:37,560 Speaker 3: little difficult to, you know, want to find a man. 432 00:21:37,640 --> 00:21:42,640 Speaker 2: They always say girls marry their fathers. Right. He's definitely 433 00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 2: set the bar very high for me. 434 00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:47,719 Speaker 3: He's always been very open and understanding of what I 435 00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:50,520 Speaker 3: need and what makes me happy. And there was another 436 00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 3: pressure in my household to get married. When my sister 437 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:55,840 Speaker 3: was in our twenties and wanted to get married, my 438 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:57,480 Speaker 3: parents were trying to talk her out of it. You know, 439 00:21:57,480 --> 00:21:59,280 Speaker 3: They're like, I don't know, Oh wait, you're young, like 440 00:21:59,320 --> 00:22:00,000 Speaker 3: go travel the world. 441 00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:00,359 Speaker 2: World. 442 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:05,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, it does make it a little hard to amount 443 00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:09,119 Speaker 3: to that. But in the same breath, when you have 444 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:11,760 Speaker 3: something so great to look up to. Isn't that what 445 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:14,600 Speaker 3: we're supposed to strive towards, you know, the next best thing. 446 00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:20,000 Speaker 1: What did your parents think about when you conceived Elijah 447 00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:23,440 Speaker 1: from IVF and a sperm donor was your How did that? 448 00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:25,280 Speaker 1: How did that land for your family? 449 00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:29,159 Speaker 3: I knew that when I got to a certain age 450 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,480 Speaker 3: and my health was under control, because I have a 451 00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:35,480 Speaker 3: very aggressive autoimmune disease and I've had it since I 452 00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:40,080 Speaker 3: was twenty seven years old. So the types of medications 453 00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:43,439 Speaker 3: and you know, infusions and injections that I have to 454 00:22:43,440 --> 00:22:45,360 Speaker 3: be on, it's very scary. 455 00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:47,440 Speaker 2: You can't be pregnant, you can't do all that. 456 00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:51,919 Speaker 3: So once my health was really good, and I'm like, 457 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:56,720 Speaker 3: you know, I'm getting older, I'm, you know, thirty something 458 00:22:56,840 --> 00:22:57,280 Speaker 3: years old. 459 00:22:57,359 --> 00:23:00,520 Speaker 2: I need to get this process started. So I did. 460 00:23:00,800 --> 00:23:03,439 Speaker 3: By the time, you know, I was thirty nine, I 461 00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:06,119 Speaker 3: had my son. But that didn't go easily. My first 462 00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:10,159 Speaker 3: round of IVF, I got pregnant and while I was 463 00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:14,119 Speaker 3: filming a scene, I just started getting this extreme pain 464 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:17,840 Speaker 3: and an hour later, I'm in the o R getting 465 00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:22,480 Speaker 3: you know, transferred over, getting my both my flopian tubes removed. 466 00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:27,000 Speaker 3: I had an atopic usure, which doesn't happen during IVF 467 00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:30,879 Speaker 3: because they bypassed the fallopian tubes to do IVF. So 468 00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:34,439 Speaker 3: they think because of my autoimmune my philippion tubes were 469 00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:37,560 Speaker 3: working as sections and probably just sucked the embryo in 470 00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:41,280 Speaker 3: and so I lost both my Filippian tubes. The last 471 00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:43,400 Speaker 3: thing I remember, I was a nurse about my head 472 00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:45,600 Speaker 3: having me sign a form and I was like a 473 00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:46,280 Speaker 3: little sedatea. 474 00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:47,680 Speaker 2: I'm like, what are you talking about. 475 00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:50,800 Speaker 3: She's like, the state requires you to sign that you 476 00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:52,200 Speaker 3: were sterilizing yourself. 477 00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:55,720 Speaker 2: And I just remember signing and then just going out. 478 00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:59,600 Speaker 3: So three months later, I got pregnant with my son, Elijah. 479 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:02,240 Speaker 2: I I knew the goal was to have a child. 480 00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:05,240 Speaker 2: I didn't care what was going to happen, and I 481 00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:05,879 Speaker 2: knew I had to. 482 00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:09,040 Speaker 3: But when I was about five months pregnant, my host 483 00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:13,919 Speaker 3: got really bad and I had to begin medications that 484 00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:16,640 Speaker 3: were safe during pregnancy, but we got to a point 485 00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:20,879 Speaker 3: where I had to just induce early and he was 486 00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,800 Speaker 3: born the first month of the COVID quarantine. So it 487 00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:26,920 Speaker 3: was very weird time. And then you know, they saw my. 488 00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:29,080 Speaker 2: Babies healthy, they kicked us out of the hospital. They're 489 00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:31,480 Speaker 2: like get out of here, Get out of here. It's 490 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:32,080 Speaker 2: been great. 491 00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:34,720 Speaker 3: I think COVID was a blessing to be at home 492 00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:37,880 Speaker 3: and raise a child and just focus only on the kid. 493 00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:40,520 Speaker 2: And I did that. So now here we are. 494 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:44,359 Speaker 3: He'll be six in April, and it's a whole different world. 495 00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:48,800 Speaker 1: I mean, I cannot believe that you've been through. I 496 00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:51,800 Speaker 1: just have to go back for one second. I mean, 497 00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:55,879 Speaker 1: just being out of it and signing a document that 498 00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:59,399 Speaker 1: says for a female to say that you're not able 499 00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:03,800 Speaker 1: to have a child is or that you're not anymore. 500 00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:07,359 Speaker 1: I can't even. I can't even outside of filming, and 501 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:08,040 Speaker 1: I can't even. 502 00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:08,600 Speaker 2: I don't even. 503 00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:10,560 Speaker 1: I don't even know what to say. 504 00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:15,000 Speaker 3: I mean, I think every single woman who has experienced 505 00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:19,000 Speaker 3: trying to have children or having children has experienced something 506 00:25:19,600 --> 00:25:23,920 Speaker 3: traumatic or difficult, whether it's with the pregnancy, after the pregnancy, 507 00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:27,880 Speaker 3: are raising your child. I'm not, you know, unique to anything. 508 00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:32,560 Speaker 3: I That's why I humble myself very quickly and I say, 509 00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:36,440 Speaker 3: I'm okay, I'm able to still get pregnant just through IVF. 510 00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:39,639 Speaker 2: Why not I was already doing IVF to begin with. 511 00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:43,320 Speaker 3: If I can do that, okay, Now I'm pretty much 512 00:25:43,359 --> 00:25:45,240 Speaker 3: I hate to say this, but I'm a dumpster. 513 00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:47,880 Speaker 2: You could just to me and I can't get pregnant anymore. 514 00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:52,119 Speaker 1: Stop. I don't say thanks, you're not that you're not 515 00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:56,680 Speaker 1: that well. But you know, way before I was in Housewives, 516 00:25:57,240 --> 00:26:00,480 Speaker 1: I my children in my early thirties. Like you you 517 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:02,240 Speaker 1: were late theres, but I was in my early thirties 518 00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:05,359 Speaker 1: and my old my youngest daughter, I thought that she 519 00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:09,359 Speaker 1: was going to have some serious issues and I was very, 520 00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:14,119 Speaker 1: very very concerned. And I always treated my body like 521 00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:16,879 Speaker 1: a vessel for the girls, and I just was so 522 00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:20,040 Speaker 1: concerned that my youngest daughter that was going to be 523 00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:23,480 Speaker 1: that there was going to be an issue. And you know, 524 00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:27,240 Speaker 1: like you just said, like you know, there's so many 525 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:31,320 Speaker 1: women that have been through these different experiences by raising, 526 00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:35,200 Speaker 1: you know, having children, trying to have children, trying to 527 00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:39,440 Speaker 1: get you know, get pregnant, raise children, raising children on 528 00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:41,760 Speaker 1: their own. Just so there's you know, just it's the 529 00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:55,119 Speaker 1: it's just there's a lot that's hard. What about I 530 00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:58,600 Speaker 1: know that the IVF was was obviously so difficult, would 531 00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:01,440 Speaker 1: you have her have any children or I mean obviously 532 00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:03,520 Speaker 1: your health is it, you know, as an issue, but 533 00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:04,920 Speaker 1: would you ever have any more children. 534 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:08,240 Speaker 3: I don't think I do want to have another child. 535 00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:12,080 Speaker 3: I think I'm good where I'm at right now. My 536 00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:15,719 Speaker 3: health is my main concern. I know, having an autoimmune 537 00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:18,119 Speaker 3: disease is going to be a lifelong battle. 538 00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:19,639 Speaker 2: It doesn't get cured, it doesn't go a wait. I 539 00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:20,600 Speaker 2: actually just got back. 540 00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:23,160 Speaker 3: From Columbia a couple of days ago, doing stuff cell 541 00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:27,879 Speaker 3: treatment over there and some heeaning, you know, ceremonies and whatnot, to. 542 00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:30,679 Speaker 2: Anything I can to make. 543 00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:33,160 Speaker 3: My body better and stronger for my son. I think 544 00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:36,040 Speaker 3: I chose a very unconventional route to have a child 545 00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:39,480 Speaker 3: to begin with, so I want to focus as much 546 00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:42,960 Speaker 3: as I can on making sure I create a really good, 547 00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:47,480 Speaker 3: you know, hospital environment for him. Emotionally, he for the 548 00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:51,320 Speaker 3: first time, you know, said to me, I wish I 549 00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:56,119 Speaker 3: had a daddy, and it, I mean, it was a 550 00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:59,280 Speaker 3: gut punch, and I wanted to immediately walk out of 551 00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:02,080 Speaker 3: his and just walk away and pretend I didn't hear it. 552 00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:05,359 Speaker 3: But I took a deep breath and I just sat 553 00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:07,960 Speaker 3: down and I said, you wish you had a daddy? 554 00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,359 Speaker 3: And he goes, yeah, And I said, well, what would 555 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:13,680 Speaker 3: you do if you had a daddy? What would you 556 00:28:13,680 --> 00:28:16,959 Speaker 3: guys do together. And he started thinking about it, and 557 00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:19,359 Speaker 3: he goes, I don't know, And I said, do you 558 00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:22,000 Speaker 3: think any of those things that you might want to 559 00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:23,800 Speaker 3: do with a daddy that I can do with you, 560 00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:26,000 Speaker 3: or that pop up my dad. 561 00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:26,439 Speaker 2: Can do with you? 562 00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:29,879 Speaker 3: And he started thinking about it and then he just 563 00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:31,880 Speaker 3: started watching TV and he changed the subject. 564 00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:35,840 Speaker 2: But it was like it was one of those things. 565 00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:38,360 Speaker 3: And I know that throughout his life, at different stages 566 00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:41,440 Speaker 3: and ages, it's going to come in a different direction, 567 00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:45,880 Speaker 3: in a different way. So I'm just trying to do 568 00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:48,360 Speaker 3: everything I can to make sure he knows he's so 569 00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:52,640 Speaker 3: loved by whoever he does have in his life, you know. 570 00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:55,320 Speaker 2: But I don't wantays say, listen, some kids have two. 571 00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:58,160 Speaker 3: Dads, some kids have two moms. And you know, one 572 00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:00,920 Speaker 3: of his friends back in preschool a couple of years ago, 573 00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:05,000 Speaker 3: the mother had died unfortunately of cancer, very young, and 574 00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:05,360 Speaker 3: you know. 575 00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:08,000 Speaker 2: So he was friends with the son. I said, you know, 576 00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:09,960 Speaker 2: he doesn't have a mom right now. 577 00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:13,320 Speaker 3: And so I try, but you know, what are you 578 00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:14,680 Speaker 3: going to say to a five and a half year 579 00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:16,800 Speaker 3: old which every movie you watch, every. 580 00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:18,680 Speaker 2: Cartoon is Mommy and Daddy. 581 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:22,080 Speaker 3: You know, how do I explain that I don't know 582 00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:25,160 Speaker 3: how you know, so every age and stage is different. 583 00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:27,760 Speaker 3: But I'm really proud of so many women out there, 584 00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:29,440 Speaker 3: and I see more and more women out there every 585 00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:33,280 Speaker 3: day taking this upon themselves, the wanting a child so 586 00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:36,360 Speaker 3: badly and knowing that they're going to give it. They're 587 00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:39,040 Speaker 3: all and it's the best we can do is give 588 00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:40,440 Speaker 3: it our all. That's all we could do. 589 00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:46,280 Speaker 1: I mean, yes, yes, I'm just like so moved by you. 590 00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:49,120 Speaker 1: I mean, you're just an incredible human. Oh my, I 591 00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:53,520 Speaker 1: love you. So what advice would you give to other 592 00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:55,400 Speaker 1: single moms that are listening right now? 593 00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:56,760 Speaker 2: I don't know. 594 00:29:57,000 --> 00:29:59,760 Speaker 3: I don't have any advice from I would take all 595 00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:02,320 Speaker 3: the advice in the world. I'm humbul enough to know 596 00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:03,400 Speaker 3: that I know. 597 00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:05,800 Speaker 2: Nothing and I'm learning every day. 598 00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:08,560 Speaker 3: And I'm one of those moms that loves the criticism. 599 00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:11,480 Speaker 3: If you think I'm doing something wrong or if you 600 00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:12,760 Speaker 3: like what I'm doing, I want to. 601 00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:14,320 Speaker 2: Know about it. That's how I grow. 602 00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:18,600 Speaker 3: So I think to moms, just be open all to 603 00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:23,640 Speaker 3: hearing and accepting. You know, there are people's opinions, especially 604 00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:24,240 Speaker 3: your children. 605 00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:25,240 Speaker 2: I think it's really. 606 00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:27,920 Speaker 3: Important that we listen to them and not want to 607 00:30:28,040 --> 00:30:30,720 Speaker 3: assume you know what they're thinking and feeling and saying 608 00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:35,000 Speaker 3: because I remember being a child and knowing that my 609 00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 3: parents were my heroes. So whatever they felt and said 610 00:30:38,920 --> 00:30:43,840 Speaker 3: was godly to me. You know, So listen, listen to 611 00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:44,360 Speaker 3: your kids. 612 00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:45,040 Speaker 2: That's all I know. 613 00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:49,000 Speaker 1: I mean, I love that because I feel the same 614 00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,680 Speaker 1: way about my parents. They are they were my heroes, 615 00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:54,520 Speaker 1: they still are my heroes. I think. One thing that's 616 00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:58,320 Speaker 1: interesting is that going through this world being on television, 617 00:30:58,360 --> 00:31:00,160 Speaker 1: like the microscope that you were talking about before, for 618 00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:03,960 Speaker 1: is that there are so many women because we reach 619 00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:06,040 Speaker 1: so many different women who have gone through a lot 620 00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:09,200 Speaker 1: of different situations. And one thing that I've learned from 621 00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:13,680 Speaker 1: just being on TV is that I and I continue 622 00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:16,800 Speaker 1: to say this, like I love their criticism because I 623 00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:18,840 Speaker 1: am like you, I want to be better. I don't 624 00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:20,080 Speaker 1: want to just be like look at me, I'm a 625 00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:24,200 Speaker 1: long grade right to do that, that's awful. I do 626 00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:25,680 Speaker 1: want to grow and I do want to be better, 627 00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:28,160 Speaker 1: and I think you know, you know, one thing I 628 00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:30,520 Speaker 1: wanted to ask you about is that you know, because 629 00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:33,120 Speaker 1: you did downe on this on your own, like who 630 00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:38,240 Speaker 1: are your village? Because like for me, my village, my parents, 631 00:31:38,320 --> 00:31:42,560 Speaker 1: my twin brother, my sister, my close friends, my Bravo community. 632 00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:45,040 Speaker 1: That was my village. So who's your village? 633 00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:47,680 Speaker 2: My parents are my village. 634 00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:51,920 Speaker 3: My dad, especially my mom is in the you know, 635 00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:57,680 Speaker 3: beginning middle phases of dimension and Alzheimer's, so it's a 636 00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:01,320 Speaker 3: little trickier now, but I love that my son gets 637 00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:04,440 Speaker 3: to spend time with her. But he and my dad, 638 00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:08,200 Speaker 3: I think my dad internally feels this extra obligation to 639 00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:11,880 Speaker 3: be that male role model in his life. My dad 640 00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:13,760 Speaker 3: said one time he took my son to the park 641 00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:17,960 Speaker 3: and the kid asked, my son, where's your dad? And 642 00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:19,600 Speaker 3: he said, I don't have a dad, but I have 643 00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:21,240 Speaker 3: a grandpa, and he pointed over. 644 00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:23,240 Speaker 2: My dad said his heart just melted. 645 00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:27,240 Speaker 3: And so I love hearing that because my dad's such 646 00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:30,160 Speaker 3: a great male role model to look up to. So 647 00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:32,960 Speaker 3: I'm just so blessed to have those two and I 648 00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:34,840 Speaker 3: have a really good group of friends. 649 00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:35,960 Speaker 2: Now they have their kids. 650 00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:39,480 Speaker 3: Mjay, you know, her son is one year older than 651 00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:43,080 Speaker 3: my son. And on the show you see my friend Natasha, 652 00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:44,560 Speaker 3: she has three kids. 653 00:32:44,280 --> 00:32:45,440 Speaker 2: So we're very close. 654 00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:50,200 Speaker 3: I really like establishing his friendship bonds, you know, with people, 655 00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:55,200 Speaker 3: And that's my village. You know, that's our animals. Our 656 00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:58,480 Speaker 3: animals are very much a big part of our family. 657 00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:03,000 Speaker 3: We treat them better than family sometimes. So you know, 658 00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:05,959 Speaker 3: for Eli, he really when he he will say he 659 00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:09,920 Speaker 3: misses his animals before he says he misses me, that's 660 00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:12,800 Speaker 3: for sure. Anytime he goes to my parents' house, he goes, 661 00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:14,800 Speaker 3: I want to go hug my animals. 662 00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:17,560 Speaker 2: What about me? He's like, Okay. 663 00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:21,400 Speaker 1: One thing that's interesting is that, like you love your 664 00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:24,200 Speaker 1: son so much, and you love your family, and you 665 00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:27,080 Speaker 1: love your animals so much, but the men don't. They 666 00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:30,720 Speaker 1: don't have a space. 667 00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,720 Speaker 3: That's like my whole storyline so far had been the 668 00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:35,600 Speaker 3: fact that I had to downsize my house. And I 669 00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:38,520 Speaker 3: had a six bedroom house when we were filming, and 670 00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:39,880 Speaker 3: it was very big. 671 00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:41,880 Speaker 2: I get it, it's just my son and I. But 672 00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:45,200 Speaker 2: now I downsize to a five bedroom, it's it's still 673 00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:45,920 Speaker 2: rather big. 674 00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:49,360 Speaker 3: We have a Our backyard is much much bigger now, 675 00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:52,000 Speaker 3: which is great, and it's you know, perfect space for 676 00:33:52,040 --> 00:33:53,760 Speaker 3: a piggy And I've been wanting a pig for a 677 00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:57,600 Speaker 3: couple of years. So I applied and I got approved. 678 00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:00,360 Speaker 3: So the next step is bigger that. 679 00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:03,160 Speaker 1: Out, you know, So we're I wanted. I want to 680 00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:07,000 Speaker 1: get into the show because this is the Valley Persian 681 00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:09,600 Speaker 1: Style is such a great show, and I want to 682 00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:13,840 Speaker 1: hear everything that's coming up. But I did love when 683 00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:17,480 Speaker 1: you said, you know, I want you have to buy 684 00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:19,640 Speaker 1: a first class ticket to know what that feels. I'm 685 00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:22,160 Speaker 1: getting chills because I love that when you said that. 686 00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:25,719 Speaker 1: And the reason that I love that is because it's 687 00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:31,759 Speaker 1: so important to believe that you belong in these places. 688 00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:34,719 Speaker 1: There's I mean there's there's I just feel that there's 689 00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:37,680 Speaker 1: a lot of people that say I'm not worthy, I'm 690 00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:40,319 Speaker 1: not this, I'm this, and I'm not giving, like they're 691 00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:44,759 Speaker 1: defining themselves like crazy. But you're saying, if you've been 692 00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:45,799 Speaker 1: there once. 693 00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:49,320 Speaker 2: You long and again once you get a taste. 694 00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:51,440 Speaker 1: And that and I love that. I was just like, 695 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:53,560 Speaker 1: that is so great. That is so great. 696 00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:56,279 Speaker 2: I love when I heard Steve Harvey say it, it makes 697 00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:57,280 Speaker 2: so much sense. 698 00:34:57,400 --> 00:34:59,560 Speaker 3: I was like, well, that's a smart man. I mean, 699 00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:01,000 Speaker 3: it makes sense. There's a lot of people who can't 700 00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:04,120 Speaker 3: afford it, but everyone can save enough money one year. 701 00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:09,000 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, metaphor, it's not about the first class ticket. 702 00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:12,040 Speaker 1: It's about a moment or something that's to you that 703 00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:14,279 Speaker 1: you would like to do that you've always thought about 704 00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:15,120 Speaker 1: doing and whatever? 705 00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:15,719 Speaker 2: That right that? 706 00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:19,120 Speaker 1: So can you give us some tea? What is going 707 00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:21,279 Speaker 1: to happen on the show? You guys are like, oh 708 00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:25,879 Speaker 1: my god, opposite bedrooms, Like what's going on in the marriages? 709 00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:30,080 Speaker 1: Like friends are more more bonded than the husbands of 710 00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:32,080 Speaker 1: the line, Like what is going on? 711 00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:33,640 Speaker 2: It's wild. 712 00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:37,200 Speaker 3: We are in Palm Springs right now in the episodes, 713 00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:42,200 Speaker 3: and oh my gosh, complete havoc broke loose in Palm 714 00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:46,560 Speaker 3: Springs and I'll just tell you this. Somebody ended up 715 00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:50,200 Speaker 3: jumping into an uber from Palm Springs at midnight and 716 00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:52,720 Speaker 3: going back home to La by theirselves. 717 00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:55,640 Speaker 2: So it was a lot went down. 718 00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:59,560 Speaker 3: It's it's one of those like grab the popcorn, grab 719 00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:03,160 Speaker 3: your seat else, because it's kind of it's one of 720 00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:06,960 Speaker 3: those moments between remember you and Bethany that whole showdown, 721 00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:10,600 Speaker 3: and oh my god, this is that. This is that 722 00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:14,719 Speaker 3: you guys painted the road we're following in your footsteps. 723 00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:16,080 Speaker 2: This is that moment. 724 00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:19,480 Speaker 1: Like you're mean to me. 725 00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:23,359 Speaker 2: I'm up here, you mean, you're right, I'm like. 726 00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:28,120 Speaker 1: What is happening? Who is this person? How about? I mean, 727 00:36:28,160 --> 00:36:30,520 Speaker 1: I'm jumping all over the place, but just from just 728 00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:35,080 Speaker 1: going talking about the show, Reza and his husband, their relationship, 729 00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:39,440 Speaker 1: I mean, talk about an iconic relationship. What can I 730 00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:41,200 Speaker 1: do for you? If a man said what can I 731 00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:44,520 Speaker 1: do for you? I'd be like what No one nobody 732 00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:46,960 Speaker 1: has ever said what what they can do for me? 733 00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:48,560 Speaker 1: They're always like what can you do for me? 734 00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:49,600 Speaker 2: Right? 735 00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:52,920 Speaker 3: No, I think they've really set the tone for a 736 00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:56,640 Speaker 3: lot of couples and this doesn't come easily. Those two 737 00:36:56,640 --> 00:36:59,320 Speaker 3: have put a lot of work into their marriage. 738 00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:02,440 Speaker 2: They have been do you know, therapy together separately. They 739 00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:04,920 Speaker 2: have really really put in the work. 740 00:37:05,239 --> 00:37:08,600 Speaker 3: So it's really beautiful when you get to see those moments, 741 00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:11,360 Speaker 3: the results of putting in the work and what it 742 00:37:11,400 --> 00:37:15,560 Speaker 3: looks like, you know, being receptive to your significant other. 743 00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:16,839 Speaker 2: It's really nice. Listen. 744 00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:18,600 Speaker 3: I'm not saying they don't still get into it like 745 00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:23,440 Speaker 3: regular couples. One hundred percent communication. When you learn how 746 00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:27,480 Speaker 3: to hear your partner, it's a life changer. 747 00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:29,759 Speaker 1: That seems to be a big theme this summer. This 748 00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:34,640 Speaker 1: summer this season too, is about communication, just with with relationships. 749 00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:39,359 Speaker 1: One thing I really liked was like the handholding of like, 750 00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:42,600 Speaker 1: what what can I do and what you the rest 751 00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:45,520 Speaker 1: of prosity. We were talking before about love language. I 752 00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:48,520 Speaker 1: think that people say with their love languages, but then 753 00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:50,400 Speaker 1: they don't this. This is a moment where it's like 754 00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:53,320 Speaker 1: I need physical touch. I need more physical touch. I 755 00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:55,359 Speaker 1: mean it's just so funny, so funny, He's like, touch 756 00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:55,920 Speaker 1: my body. 757 00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:58,720 Speaker 2: Yeah. 758 00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:01,160 Speaker 1: But I just think that that's like the communication is 759 00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:04,480 Speaker 1: something that I saw was like really really really like 760 00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:07,680 Speaker 1: this common theme with everyone, and the good thing that 761 00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:10,320 Speaker 1: I love about you is that you are such a 762 00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:13,319 Speaker 1: great communicator. When people are talking about your home and 763 00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:15,520 Speaker 1: all the situations that are going on with your life, 764 00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:18,840 Speaker 1: you are like, what are you saying? Why are you 765 00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:23,120 Speaker 1: saying it? Not because you're like confronting them, but you're like, 766 00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:25,359 Speaker 1: tell me what's going on, because you're like, I want 767 00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:28,200 Speaker 1: to be better, Like what can I do to be better? 768 00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:28,439 Speaker 3: Yeah? 769 00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:30,560 Speaker 2: I sadly know how I could fix things, Like let 770 00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:33,360 Speaker 2: me know the better part. Yeah, I'm okay exactly. 771 00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:34,520 Speaker 1: I just want to fix things. 772 00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:38,319 Speaker 3: I feel like with most of America having experienced bad 773 00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:40,960 Speaker 3: credit at some point in their lives, it just felt 774 00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:44,239 Speaker 3: like I was being penalized for having bad credit, and 775 00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:46,239 Speaker 3: I thought it was just a very human thing. 776 00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:48,760 Speaker 2: I've messed up here and there, I've got bad credit. 777 00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:51,680 Speaker 1: But the interesting thing when people don't understand a bad 778 00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:54,640 Speaker 1: credit is that you're still working and you're still making money. 779 00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:57,040 Speaker 1: It's not like you're not working. It's not like you're 780 00:38:57,080 --> 00:39:00,000 Speaker 1: not writing and not making money. But just bad credit. 781 00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:03,120 Speaker 1: I mean, yes, it's it happens all the time. 782 00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:06,440 Speaker 2: It does. And that's the interesting thing. 783 00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:09,120 Speaker 3: Like you just said, having money and having bad credit 784 00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:12,960 Speaker 3: are two separate, completely separate things. I missed some payments, 785 00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:15,200 Speaker 3: I you know, messed up on a couple of things, 786 00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:18,239 Speaker 3: and I'm that's okay. I'm not ashamed of that. I 787 00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:21,319 Speaker 3: don't think anyone should be shamed for that. 788 00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:25,160 Speaker 2: So yeah, I wasn't affected by have a bad credit. 789 00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:27,440 Speaker 3: I was just affected on why is everyone talking about 790 00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:29,600 Speaker 3: this at the group dinner with that? 791 00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:31,239 Speaker 2: You know, like, what's the conversation? 792 00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:33,879 Speaker 1: I love that you're talking about it, and I love 793 00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:36,040 Speaker 1: that you're opening up about things that people don't want 794 00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:38,440 Speaker 1: to talk about. That's like super taboo. People don't want 795 00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:41,080 Speaker 1: to talk about finances. I'll talk about their relationships, but 796 00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:43,920 Speaker 1: they do not want to talk about finances. 797 00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:45,359 Speaker 2: And it's such a human thing. 798 00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:49,839 Speaker 1: I mean, it is such a human thing. It's such 799 00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:53,759 Speaker 1: a human shit. Well, you're so beautiful. I'm like love 800 00:39:53,800 --> 00:40:00,919 Speaker 1: hotel yes, yes, yes, right, opening up your bed a man, yes, 801 00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:05,400 Speaker 1: sharing about your worth space with a man, yes, I 802 00:40:05,440 --> 00:40:07,919 Speaker 1: see a lot of Yeah, I'm gonna like yes, yes. 803 00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:11,719 Speaker 1: Oh that's more fun and being you yes. 804 00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:13,839 Speaker 2: Yeah. We have a lot of work to do. 805 00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:17,440 Speaker 1: You and I after this call, Yeah, we've got I know, 806 00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:21,399 Speaker 1: I've got deliverables. Now it's like, okay, yeah, do your work. 807 00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:24,960 Speaker 1: Oh my god. It was so so, so great, great, 808 00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:29,080 Speaker 1: great to have you. Thank you so The Valley Persian 809 00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:33,600 Speaker 1: Style New episodes Thursday, nine pm on Bravo and Fridays 810 00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:37,520 Speaker 1: on Peacock Giji. Thank you so much for the honest 811 00:40:37,560 --> 00:40:41,520 Speaker 1: and truthful conversation. I love how unfiltered you are. Are 812 00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:43,360 Speaker 1: you single and in your chapter two or do you 813 00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:45,719 Speaker 1: have an I Do Part two story that you want 814 00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:48,960 Speaker 1: to share? Call us or email us. 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