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Speaker 1: All right, thank your nephews. Subject my husband is obsessed

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Speaker 1: with an ex Dear Stephen Shirley. I hope my husband

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Speaker 1: is listening today because I have a problem with him,

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Speaker 1: and he thinks it's no big deal. My problem is

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Speaker 1: that my husband is obsessed with an ex girlfriend that

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Speaker 1: he dated thirty five years ago. She was very beautiful

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Speaker 1: and popular when she was in high school, and he

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Speaker 1: was the star football player. When he went off to college,

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Speaker 1: she married a wealthy older guy that owned several businesses

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Speaker 1: in town. Then she moved to Texas and my husband

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Speaker 1: lost contact with her. Fast forward to present day. My

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Speaker 1: social media has become mainstream, so my husband has sort

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Speaker 1: of recommended or reconnected, i should say, with his high

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Speaker 1: school sweetheart. By sort of, I mean that he stalks

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Speaker 1: her social media pages and drools over all of her

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Speaker 1: pictures daily. I don't think she even knows he exists.

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Speaker 1: How do I know all of this? He told me

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Speaker 1: all about her, and I see him looking at her

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Speaker 1: pictures all day. She is still very beautiful, and I

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Speaker 1: think she's had surgery on her body, but she looks great.

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Speaker 1: I told my husband that his behavior is very inappropriate,

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Speaker 1: and he said she's like a celebrity and she lives

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Speaker 1: He told me it's like me obsessing over Denzel. The

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Speaker 1: other day, I reached my breaking point. He shared a

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Speaker 1: story their sexual variances and how she turned him out.

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Speaker 1: He said it was the best sex he's ever had,

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Speaker 1: and that really hurt me. He told me, I am

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Speaker 1: being too sensitive. I am ready to hurt this man

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Speaker 1: if he keeps being disrespectful. Maybe, just maybe am I

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Speaker 1: being too sensitive and jealous? Should I let this go

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Speaker 1: or bust his head? Yeah? Girl, go on and bust

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Speaker 1: his head on this one, because he's just being really disrespectful,

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Speaker 1: not to mention stupid. I mean, he's just looking at

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Speaker 1: her pictures every day right in front of you. I mean,

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Speaker 1: who does that. He hasn't even thought of how this

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Speaker 1: would make you, his wife of eighteen years feel. How

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Speaker 1: does that make you feel? I'm sure not good? And

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Speaker 1: please do not try. Don't do this one. Don't try

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Speaker 1: to compare this with our beloved Denzel. Denzel is a

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Speaker 1: bona fide movie star. He is a sex symbol, and

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Speaker 1: no disrespect to your high school sweetheart and all of that.

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Speaker 1: But she's just a regular person. Okay, she's just a

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Speaker 1: regular person. Don't try to compare this with how we

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Speaker 1: feel about our Denzel. Okay, I'm not having that. Yes,

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Speaker 1: thank you. It's not working over here. And I mean, seriously, though,

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Speaker 1: what husband would ever tell his wife to her face

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Speaker 1: that another woman had the best sex ever? I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: but how stupid is he? I'm sorry to say that

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Speaker 1: about your man, but that's why I agree with you

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Speaker 1: to go ahead and bust his head on this one.

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Speaker 1: Whatever that means to you. And no, you are not

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Speaker 1: too sensitive, you're not too jealous, none of that. You're

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Speaker 1: a wife who has a husband that's a little out

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Speaker 1: of line. I don't care if she's a thousand miles away.

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Speaker 1: I don't care about any of that. He needs to stop. Okay,

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Speaker 1: he needs to stop, Thank you very much. Don't ever

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Speaker 1: compare anybody to I beloved Denzel Steve. Wow, just regular people.

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Speaker 1: It's really hard for me to believe this letter. I

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Speaker 1: know the letter is true, but your husband is an idiot.

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Speaker 1: I mean, dude, I don't even understand what you're doing here.

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Speaker 1: thirty five years ago. That's high school. What's eighteen and

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Speaker 1: thirty five? Fifty three? Huh? So he bought fifty three?

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Speaker 1: Now he obsessed with the girl. She was beautiful and popular.

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Speaker 1: She was in high school and he was the star

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Speaker 1: football player. I knew exactly what do happen here? See,

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Speaker 1: Keep that right dead. He went off to college, She

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Speaker 1: he never forgot her. He never forgot her. Now, let

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Speaker 1: me tell you something. She was fine. Then she took

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Speaker 1: with her. So now here we go fast forward. Y'all

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Speaker 1: Here's a man who cannot cannot let go of the past.

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Speaker 1: And because he was an ex football star, that's probably

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Speaker 1: the last time your man was something. Okay, that's probably

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Speaker 1: the last time he was something to anybody. And he

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Speaker 1: All the glory days is gone. Now, Yeah, you ain't

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Speaker 1: You're trying to relive who you was? Yeah, instead of existed,

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Speaker 1: ask who you ain't. Hang on, we'll have part two

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Speaker 1: the hour, subject my husband is obsessed with an ex.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening,

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Speaker 1: all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's my husband

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Speaker 1: is obsessed with an X been married eighteen years to

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Speaker 1: football player. His ass is fifty three fifty three. Man,

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Speaker 1: for on social media. Now he went off to college,

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Speaker 1: probably to play football. Obviously that ain't work. Or ain't

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Speaker 1: none else ever heard of him? I know everybody ever

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Speaker 1: played professional football since seventy one. I know him all,

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Speaker 1: didn't find this girl on social media, and he reliving

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Speaker 1: he was a football player. He ain't been that hot

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Speaker 1: Now he's stalking her social media page and drews over

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Speaker 1: her pictures. Baily, he can't let go of the pass.

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Speaker 1: And then you say, I don't even think she even

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Speaker 1: knows he exists. Oh he didn't went on faithbook? Oh

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Speaker 1: or remember me? What do you say? Or remember me?

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Speaker 1: You don't think he'd said that she might not know

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Speaker 1: he exists because he see she's still find You say,

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Speaker 1: still beautiful? You say, but you think she's still very beautiful.

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Speaker 1: I think she had surgery on her body. Thought, yeah, no,

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Speaker 1: see some women. Hold on, now, we ain't got about

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Speaker 1: how you looking at all that, because I'm pretty sure

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Speaker 1: you beautiful system, So let's just stay with horse. Wrong

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Speaker 1: with your man? You think she'd had some work on

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Speaker 1: her body. Probably ain't she just fined. She just fined,

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Speaker 1: and your husband is obsessed because there's something wrong with her.

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Speaker 1: He drooled over her pictures daily. You don't think it is.

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Speaker 1: And how do I know this? Because this food set

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Speaker 1: him looking at her pictures all day. She's still beautiful.

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Speaker 1: I think she had searched you on her body, but

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Speaker 1: she looked great. Why would a man tell her his

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Speaker 1: washed she where he was back then. This is called

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Speaker 1: self realism. That means you can't look at yourself and

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Speaker 1: and you make that your new reality. Which is the

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Speaker 1: new term that I created. I'm gonna call doctor Field

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Speaker 1: and give it to him. It's called self realism. Not okay,

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Speaker 1: not realization, but hell no self realization. I won't go

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Speaker 1: one day and found out to self realize self a

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Speaker 1: thing about myself. It's self realism. Realism. Okay, this is different. Yeah. Now,

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Speaker 1: I told my husband that his behavior is very inappropriate,

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Speaker 1: and he said, she like a celebrity. Don'tbody know her dog,

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Speaker 1: don't nobody know her. But this is the set up, lady.

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Speaker 1: He set it up. He said she's like a celeb, celebrity,

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Speaker 1: that's a set up for, because he told me it's

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Speaker 1: like you obsessing over Denzel. No, because den Zel is

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Speaker 1: a celebrity and probably live a thousand mile away from you. See,

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Speaker 1: he set it up to justify what he doing. But

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Speaker 1: this is how dumb his ass. The other day, I

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Speaker 1: reached my breaking point because he shared a story about

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Speaker 1: their sexual experiences and how she turned him out. So

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Speaker 1: he gonna just openly admit that he wouldn't nothing. This

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Speaker 1: if it's the best sex you ever had, why don't

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Speaker 1: you go see if she recognized your fat pole ass.

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Speaker 1: So ride down to Texas and see if she recognized

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Speaker 1: your at it broke ass, and she if she wants

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Speaker 1: to leave her wealthy business man your fat, chunking broke ass.

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Speaker 1: And now that's why you'd have told your wife she

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Speaker 1: him to ride to Texas and get that sex back.

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Speaker 1: Since it was all that damn good, go down there

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Speaker 1: and see if she wants your fat, non famous broke ass.

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Speaker 1: Do you really feel about this man? And that really

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Speaker 1: hurt me. He told me, I'm being too sensitive. I'm

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Speaker 1: ready to hurt this man if he keep being disrespectful.

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Speaker 1: Maybe I should be too sensitive and jealous? Should I

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Speaker 1: just let it go and bust his head. I normally

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Speaker 1: don't agree with Sheldon on these methods, but bust him

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Speaker 1: in his dadad. The next time he put that computer

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Speaker 1: up and show you her picture, take that computer and

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Speaker 1: slap him with it, all right, Thank you, Sir Foster

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