1 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:06,120 Speaker 1: I feel like my boyfriend he'd be okay, and I've 2 00:00:06,120 --> 00:00:08,080 Speaker 1: talked to him about surrogacy and he's like, yeah, I 3 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:09,920 Speaker 1: mean yeah, I'd like to touch your belly and all 4 00:00:09,920 --> 00:00:11,800 Speaker 1: that stuff. But if that's the way it has to be, 5 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:13,000 Speaker 1: then I'm totally fine with that. 6 00:00:13,600 --> 00:00:16,280 Speaker 2: We had been trying all these ways. I was literally 7 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:19,159 Speaker 2: doing everything possible, and the doctor finally told me, you 8 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:23,680 Speaker 2: have one healthy embryo left. Would you ever consider surrogacy? 9 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:26,480 Speaker 2: I think you can have it all, maybe not having 10 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:29,120 Speaker 2: it all at the same time, but there is something 11 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 2: precious about dedicating and prioritizing different things during different seasons 12 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 2: of your life. 13 00:00:38,880 --> 00:00:42,200 Speaker 1: Hello everyone, and welcome back to Cheeky's in Chill. I'm 14 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:44,879 Speaker 1: so happy you're here. Today's episode is going to focus 15 00:00:44,920 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 1: on motherhood. Everyone's journey is so unique and so different, 16 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:51,400 Speaker 1: and that couldn't be truer for our next guest. She's 17 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 1: been through it all and has a really unbelievable story 18 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:56,640 Speaker 1: of strength that's rooted in faith. My kind of girl. 19 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: I already know this episode is going to be a 20 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:08,040 Speaker 1: good one, so stay tuned his Cheeky's and Chill. Today's 21 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:11,520 Speaker 1: guest needs no introduction. She's none other than the beautiful 22 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 1: Adrian Bylan Houghton. You might know her from the all 23 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:18,400 Speaker 1: women's R and B group three LW or Disney's The 24 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:20,920 Speaker 1: Cheetah Girls, or maybe you've watched her for years on 25 00:01:20,959 --> 00:01:24,080 Speaker 1: the syndicated TV show The Real. These days you can 26 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:26,200 Speaker 1: catch her on E News. And on top of all 27 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 1: of that, she's an entrepreneur, a wife, and a new 28 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 1: mother to a beautiful baby boy. So let's go ahead 29 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:35,120 Speaker 1: and bring Adrian into the conversation. Hello, Adrianne, what's up girl? 30 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 2: How are you? I'm so excited to be. 31 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:39,840 Speaker 1: Chatting with you, me too. Thank you so much, you guys. 32 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:42,320 Speaker 1: I wish you guys could see her. She looks absolutely stunning. 33 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:43,960 Speaker 1: I think you're so beautiful for so let me just 34 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:46,920 Speaker 1: get that out of the way. And first and foremost, congratulations. 35 00:01:46,959 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 1: I'm becoming a mother and to thank you, thank you 36 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:52,600 Speaker 1: for being so open and vulnerable about this topic. And 37 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:56,760 Speaker 1: I'm going through a situation where I'm like, should I 38 00:01:56,840 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 1: do IVF? Should I not? Do? I want kids? So 39 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 1: I was like, I think Adrian's a perfect person to 40 00:02:01,160 --> 00:02:03,680 Speaker 1: talk to about this, and I know that you've already 41 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: kind of talked about it, but now not here on 42 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: Chegez and chills. So I do appreciate you doing this 43 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:10,040 Speaker 1: because it's something that I feel like we're around the 44 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:13,200 Speaker 1: same age, and I don't know, I want to kind 45 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:15,519 Speaker 1: of hear your story. I mean, yeah, start wherever you 46 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: want to start, you take it. 47 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:21,800 Speaker 2: I always knew I wanted to be a mom, but 48 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 2: I knew that there were certain things I wanted. Obviously, 49 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:28,360 Speaker 2: I'm a career woman, and I think so many women 50 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:30,920 Speaker 2: in our generation are thinking that way now. They're like, 51 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:32,680 Speaker 2: I want to be a business woman. I want to, 52 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 2: you know, really put my career first. And then I 53 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:37,440 Speaker 2: knew I wanted to be married when I had children, 54 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:39,639 Speaker 2: so that I could have, you know, the family structure 55 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:42,440 Speaker 2: that I dreamed of, Yeah and so, And for everybody 56 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 2: that's an individual plan of whatever you envision as your 57 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:48,560 Speaker 2: dream family structure. But for me, I knew that I 58 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 2: wanted to be married at least a year before even trying. 59 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:56,520 Speaker 2: So I waited that year and around when I was 60 00:02:56,840 --> 00:03:00,640 Speaker 2: married at thirty three, and so at thirty four, I 61 00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 2: was like, Okay, my husband already has had children before 62 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 2: in his previous marriage. And I was like, okay, he's 63 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 2: had daughters, he's had sons, but he's never had twins 64 00:03:12,080 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 2: and this is so random. But I really was like, 65 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 2: we have a whole family of all girls. My mom 66 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:23,520 Speaker 2: has her sister, My sister had two girls. My aunt 67 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:27,160 Speaker 2: had two girls, Desri and Diane. Desri had two girls, 68 00:03:27,200 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 2: Deborah and Deanna. My sister past two girls. My mom 69 00:03:30,480 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 2: had two girls, Adrian and claud Dat and then Clad 70 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 2: that had two girls, Jet and Bob. 71 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 1: Ooh, estrogen is strong in your family. 72 00:03:36,680 --> 00:03:41,000 Speaker 2: Mumming yuming so old. I was like, my dream is 73 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 2: to have two girls. Like, let's go for twins. I 74 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 2: feel like we've seen so many celebrities have twins, and 75 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:49,040 Speaker 2: it just seems like a very cool and glamorous thing. 76 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 2: You knock it out one time. Sounds like a fabulous plan. 77 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 2: And I was wildly ignorant when making all these plans. 78 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:01,360 Speaker 2: I went into the the cheekyas and he's like, okay, 79 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:03,400 Speaker 2: so how old are you blah blah blah blah. He said, 80 00:04:03,400 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 2: we're going to do what's called a reserve test. So 81 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:07,200 Speaker 2: they go in and they see how many eggs you 82 00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 2: have on a reserve. Oh yeah, fun fact, ladies, you 83 00:04:10,760 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 2: are born with all the eggs you will ever have. 84 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:18,560 Speaker 2: Which crazy enough, cheeky. So you know that that means 85 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:21,040 Speaker 2: that your eggs that are in your body right now, 86 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 2: that you've had in your body, were also in your 87 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 2: mother's body. Oh what, yes, so this sounds wild. My son, Ever, 88 00:04:30,240 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 2: my son is literally in the other room with my 89 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 2: mom right now. Oh my egg that created Ever was 90 00:04:37,440 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 2: in my mother's womb at some point because it was 91 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:43,200 Speaker 2: in my body. That's crazy, I know. When you speak 92 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:44,400 Speaker 2: about it that way, it's wild. 93 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:46,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, it is, absolutely So. 94 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 2: You're born with all the eggs you're ever gonna have. Obviously, 95 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:53,080 Speaker 2: how your psycho works, you pass one. But here's the thing. 96 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 2: You want to find out what your reserve number is 97 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:58,760 Speaker 2: as soon as possible, because that actually helps you make proper, 98 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 2: you know, in formed decisions on what you're about to 99 00:05:01,800 --> 00:05:04,719 Speaker 2: do next. In that moment, chikiz, I ended up finding 100 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 2: out your girl had barely any eggs left. Like I 101 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:14,039 Speaker 2: was actually born at a deficit already because I was 102 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 2: born with less chromosomes than like normal people. But that's 103 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 2: a whole other crazy conversation that I ended up finding 104 00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:23,040 Speaker 2: out years into trying. And so I found out I 105 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:24,279 Speaker 2: didn't have a lot of eggs and they're like, we 106 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:29,480 Speaker 2: highly recommend IDF for you, because that's that's just what's 107 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 2: going to be the best way to harvest as many 108 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 2: eggs as we can. Because Sweeten, after the age of 109 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:36,760 Speaker 2: twenty four, your fertility is on a decline. I said, 110 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 2: twenty four. I know, I said, Oh, you got me 111 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 2: out here feeling like a straight yeah ha, Like what 112 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 2: are you talking about. I was not having no kids 113 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:49,600 Speaker 2: at twenty I wasn't even thinking absolutely about kids at 114 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:53,040 Speaker 2: twenty four. So I just remember being in that office 115 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:55,320 Speaker 2: and hearing this and going, oh my gosh. This went 116 00:05:55,360 --> 00:05:58,240 Speaker 2: from something I thought I was choosing to be like 117 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 2: fool and glamorous and just my own little cool plan 118 00:06:01,960 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 2: to pretty much God laughing at those plans, and it 119 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:07,120 Speaker 2: was a journey from there. From there, I ended up 120 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 2: doing my first round of IVF, and which is not cheap. 121 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:15,280 Speaker 2: That's another thing. All of the other things are very expensive. 122 00:06:15,279 --> 00:06:19,480 Speaker 2: And I'm so grateful that I'm privileged enough to even 123 00:06:19,560 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 2: have had so many chances at having a son, but 124 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 2: I can only imagine for families that don't have the 125 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 2: funds to do this. It's heartbreaking. So I remember going 126 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 2: in for my first IVF cycle pretty much you get 127 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:35,960 Speaker 2: your period, they tell you come in two days later. 128 00:06:36,760 --> 00:06:40,080 Speaker 2: They do an ultrasound, a vaginal ultrasound, and they go 129 00:06:40,120 --> 00:06:42,160 Speaker 2: in and they look and they see how many follicles 130 00:06:42,200 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 2: you have. Your follicles in your ovaries will then create eggs. 131 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:49,840 Speaker 2: They go in and they look and they're like, girl, know, 132 00:06:49,920 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 2: we're not seeing much up in here. They're like, there 133 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:54,680 Speaker 2: isn't much, but we're gonna do what we can. A 134 00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 2: lot of people only start the injections and do them 135 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:03,560 Speaker 2: for maybe eleven days. Every time I've done an IVF cycle, 136 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:06,520 Speaker 2: I've had to shoot up for like fourteen days because 137 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:09,600 Speaker 2: my eggs just don't grow as rapidly or as large 138 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:12,520 Speaker 2: as they would expect. So I ended up going through 139 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:14,000 Speaker 2: this whole cycle. The first time I do it, they 140 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 2: pretty much call me and tell me. Funny enough, I 141 00:07:16,640 --> 00:07:18,520 Speaker 2: was in the hair salon under a dryer getting some 142 00:07:18,560 --> 00:07:22,280 Speaker 2: prolos done. The doctor calls me and he's like, we're 143 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:24,600 Speaker 2: so sorry, like your first cycle, like you got nothing? 144 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 1: What? 145 00:07:26,880 --> 00:07:30,080 Speaker 2: And I was like god what, like like wait, I'm like, 146 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 2: I was like thrown off. I was so excited for 147 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 2: this call because I thought they were gonna tell me like, 148 00:07:34,080 --> 00:07:35,520 Speaker 2: you have two girls, you have a boy. 149 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 1: You have? 150 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:38,760 Speaker 2: Like, what what did I get? Another fun fact? You 151 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 2: can't choose the sex of your babies, which is something 152 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:43,080 Speaker 2: else I thought you could do. I thought I could 153 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:47,480 Speaker 2: pick the sex of my children. You cannot choose the 154 00:07:47,480 --> 00:07:49,400 Speaker 2: sex of your babies, but you can choose what you 155 00:07:49,520 --> 00:07:52,080 Speaker 2: end up implanting. But you can't pull from what you 156 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 2: don't have. So let's say I ended up fertilizing four 157 00:07:56,120 --> 00:07:59,239 Speaker 2: eggs and they all got fertilized with my husband's ferm. 158 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:04,120 Speaker 2: Say all four of them ended up being boys. I 159 00:08:04,160 --> 00:08:05,440 Speaker 2: can't make it. 160 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 1: You can't make the right Okay. Yeah, it's like what 161 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:09,960 Speaker 1: comes out is what comes out? Right? 162 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:13,280 Speaker 2: What you get two girls and two boys? You can say, oh, 163 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:15,840 Speaker 2: the ones I want to implant into my body are 164 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:16,560 Speaker 2: the two girls? 165 00:08:16,640 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 1: Right? Okay? 166 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:20,840 Speaker 2: And so I ended up trying this six more times. 167 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 2: I've done IVF a total of eight times, and all together, 168 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 2: from eight rounds of IVF, I got two girls and 169 00:08:28,160 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 2: one boy. I got the first two girls, the first 170 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 2: one I implanted and ended up miscarrying at almost four months, 171 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 2: which was super heartbreaking. And then the second little girl 172 00:08:39,280 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 2: I implanted didn't take. And so here I am with 173 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:50,679 Speaker 2: this one embryo boy, who was actually made in twenty 174 00:08:50,840 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 2: seventeen it was at the time, now it was twenty 175 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:56,079 Speaker 2: twenty two. Five years later. He was in a freezer 176 00:08:56,120 --> 00:08:59,680 Speaker 2: for five years and I had been trying all these ways. 177 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 2: I was literally doing everything possible, and the doctor finally 178 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:06,720 Speaker 2: told me, you have one healthy embryo left, like would 179 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:13,560 Speaker 2: you ever consider surrogacy? And I was like what, Like 180 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:20,000 Speaker 2: it's just the idea seemed foreign to me, and honestly, 181 00:09:20,080 --> 00:09:21,559 Speaker 2: especially as a Latina, like. 182 00:09:21,720 --> 00:09:25,079 Speaker 1: As what I was gonna ask you, I have huge hips. 183 00:09:25,679 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 2: I've thought since the day I was like got my 184 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:31,520 Speaker 2: period that like, girl, don't let somebody look at you, 185 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 2: you'll get pregnant, like I, uh huh, for sure. My 186 00:09:34,960 --> 00:09:37,880 Speaker 2: mother had both my sister and I naturally, like I 187 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:40,839 Speaker 2: thought like, oh, I'm gonna lift up my leg and 188 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:44,000 Speaker 2: the baby's gonna fly out, Like I thought, this is 189 00:09:44,040 --> 00:09:46,719 Speaker 2: what our bodies were made to do. We're Latina. I 190 00:09:46,760 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 2: was like, like we does this? Like this is yes? 191 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 2: And to hear this was heartbreaking and I just remember 192 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:58,280 Speaker 2: bringing it up to my mom initially, who right now 193 00:09:58,360 --> 00:10:00,560 Speaker 2: is in the room with my son Matt in love 194 00:10:00,559 --> 00:10:03,240 Speaker 2: with him. Can't imagine this journey went any other way, 195 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:06,559 Speaker 2: but I remember mentioning it to her and her kind 196 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:09,080 Speaker 2: of being like, why would you want someone else to 197 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:14,920 Speaker 2: carry your baby? And I I was just like, Mom, 198 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:17,520 Speaker 2: I'm not choosing this, Like I know for you it's 199 00:10:17,520 --> 00:10:19,959 Speaker 2: been completely different. But I think it was just hard 200 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:23,439 Speaker 2: for her even to wrap her mind around the idea 201 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:25,920 Speaker 2: that my journey was going to be so different from 202 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:29,559 Speaker 2: hers and my sisters, and I think they were heartbroken 203 00:10:29,600 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 2: for me too, and a little bit heartbroken for themselves, 204 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:34,480 Speaker 2: you know, I think they were doing it. I think 205 00:10:34,520 --> 00:10:37,520 Speaker 2: they had dreams of seeing me with the big belly 206 00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:40,920 Speaker 2: and maternity photo shoots and holding my hand while I 207 00:10:41,000 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 2: was pushing through contractions, Like there's dreams that you not 208 00:10:44,679 --> 00:10:47,320 Speaker 2: only have for yourself, but the reality is your family 209 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 2: has some dreams for you too, and it sucks to 210 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 2: have to not only let yourself down, which I felt 211 00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:55,880 Speaker 2: to some extent like my body had let me down. 212 00:10:56,120 --> 00:10:58,680 Speaker 2: But then I felt like, damn, I let the people 213 00:10:58,720 --> 00:11:00,960 Speaker 2: around me that love me and have been praying for 214 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:05,000 Speaker 2: me and wanting this for me down. All that to say, 215 00:11:05,240 --> 00:11:09,320 Speaker 2: Cheeky's I have a seven month old son that we 216 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:13,080 Speaker 2: are all so in love with that we all were 217 00:11:13,160 --> 00:11:15,640 Speaker 2: there when he was born. I literally pulled my son 218 00:11:15,720 --> 00:11:19,080 Speaker 2: out of someone else's vagina, which sounds wild. 219 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 1: But I was gonna ask you, so you did pull him. 220 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:25,800 Speaker 2: Out full I was full on in there. I was 221 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:26,320 Speaker 2: in there. 222 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:28,920 Speaker 1: I'd be there. I grow me too, I'd probably do 223 00:11:28,960 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 1: the same thing. 224 00:11:29,760 --> 00:11:32,439 Speaker 2: I swear you don't even think about it. I pulled 225 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:35,800 Speaker 2: my baby out, I put him on me, all social 226 00:11:35,880 --> 00:11:40,640 Speaker 2: and everything just and I was so in love and 227 00:11:40,679 --> 00:11:45,760 Speaker 2: I can't imagine it being any other way. And I 228 00:11:45,880 --> 00:11:48,480 Speaker 2: said this before that, like I remember reading a quote 229 00:11:48,520 --> 00:11:51,560 Speaker 2: that said, the thing that hurts us most in life 230 00:11:52,240 --> 00:11:55,640 Speaker 2: is the idea of how it's supposed to be right, 231 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:57,560 Speaker 2: Like there's all these things we could have had in 232 00:11:57,559 --> 00:12:00,600 Speaker 2: our mind that would make it perfect. But then you're like, 233 00:12:01,559 --> 00:12:05,000 Speaker 2: there's something beautiful about the imperfection and your own You 234 00:12:05,040 --> 00:12:10,320 Speaker 2: can find beauty in your own story, whatever that story is. 235 00:12:10,360 --> 00:12:13,319 Speaker 2: And my story is not at all how I'd imagined 236 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 2: it would be, but I find so much beauty in 237 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:19,720 Speaker 2: it now, because like my nieces were there, like everybody 238 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:22,240 Speaker 2: was surrounding. Thank God. My surrogate is so awesome. She 239 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:25,760 Speaker 2: was like all open to like just a family bird 240 00:12:26,559 --> 00:12:29,080 Speaker 2: and I'm just so in love with my son that 241 00:12:29,120 --> 00:12:30,600 Speaker 2: I look at him every day and I'm like, oh, 242 00:12:30,679 --> 00:12:33,120 Speaker 2: you are such a miracle, and I'm just so grateful. 243 00:12:33,600 --> 00:12:35,400 Speaker 1: And that was God's plan for your life. And and 244 00:12:35,600 --> 00:12:38,120 Speaker 1: going back to that, it's it's we have and we 245 00:12:38,160 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 1: make all these plans. And in reality, when you surrender 246 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:43,800 Speaker 1: your plans to God, and it's like, not let it 247 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:46,480 Speaker 1: be your will, Like he was meant to be here. 248 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:49,360 Speaker 1: Ever was the last embryo you had. He was a boy. 249 00:12:49,800 --> 00:12:53,199 Speaker 1: You come from a family of girls, and here he is. 250 00:12:53,280 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 1: He's and that's how God wanted it. One thing that 251 00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:07,960 Speaker 1: you said that I absolutely loved was that when you 252 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:10,080 Speaker 1: were choosing or you guys were choosing your surrogate, you 253 00:13:10,080 --> 00:13:12,480 Speaker 1: were like, I just I want to connect with her smile. 254 00:13:12,640 --> 00:13:15,360 Speaker 1: I need like there was something about the smile. Can 255 00:13:15,360 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 1: you tell me why? 256 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:19,400 Speaker 2: I feel like? And I even see it now. My 257 00:13:19,640 --> 00:13:21,840 Speaker 2: dream for my son was to be a happy baby. 258 00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 2: And I think we hear so many people say like, 259 00:13:24,280 --> 00:13:26,040 Speaker 2: what is it you would want for your children? Like 260 00:13:26,040 --> 00:13:28,680 Speaker 2: if you could think of one thing, and most people 261 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:31,160 Speaker 2: will say, I just want them to be happy. And 262 00:13:32,440 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 2: for me, I had watched so many other people like 263 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:39,320 Speaker 2: I was obsessed with watching pregnant women on Instagram. I 264 00:13:39,360 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 2: was just watching people and like learning, and a lot 265 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:46,400 Speaker 2: of them were like, whatever your vibe is while you're pregnant, 266 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:48,760 Speaker 2: Like they say, like that's kind of the energy that 267 00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:51,840 Speaker 2: the baby receives. And it was so important, Like I 268 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:57,160 Speaker 2: think I'm a pretty happy, silly, smiling, goofy person. And 269 00:13:57,200 --> 00:13:59,400 Speaker 2: I was like, I want, I want whoever is going 270 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:02,600 Speaker 2: to carry my child to be a happy person, Like 271 00:14:02,880 --> 00:14:06,400 Speaker 2: I don't want like a miserable person who surrogates do 272 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:08,480 Speaker 2: get paid a lot of money. It is not a 273 00:14:08,720 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 2: cheap thing, it is they do receive a lot of money. 274 00:14:11,360 --> 00:14:14,320 Speaker 2: They're doing something that is, I believe is God's work. 275 00:14:14,760 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 2: They're like baby angels that you know, create families. And 276 00:14:19,320 --> 00:14:21,920 Speaker 2: so I didn't want somebody that felt like they were 277 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:24,080 Speaker 2: doing it one for the money, but I wanted them 278 00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 2: to feel like it was their calling and that they 279 00:14:26,200 --> 00:14:30,200 Speaker 2: were genuinely a happy person. So their smile to me 280 00:14:30,880 --> 00:14:33,720 Speaker 2: was gonna be like an indication. And the moment I 281 00:14:33,760 --> 00:14:42,560 Speaker 2: met my surgate, She's like, guys, she's like abnormally phenomenal, happy, joyous, funny. 282 00:14:43,880 --> 00:14:46,040 Speaker 1: Oh maybe she can cook my baby too. 283 00:14:46,240 --> 00:14:49,240 Speaker 2: Oh, she's like very talkative. So when I first met her, 284 00:14:49,280 --> 00:14:51,480 Speaker 2: it didn't even feel weird, like I thought, oh, this 285 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:54,680 Speaker 2: is gonna be so uncomfortable, like this is and I'm 286 00:14:54,720 --> 00:14:56,800 Speaker 2: a very private person in that way, like when it 287 00:14:56,800 --> 00:14:59,320 Speaker 2: comes to like these kinds of things, like like I'm 288 00:14:59,360 --> 00:15:01,800 Speaker 2: not easy to like cry in front of people about 289 00:15:01,840 --> 00:15:04,000 Speaker 2: like you know, like that's just not my personality. And 290 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:06,000 Speaker 2: I'm like, this woman is going to be in the 291 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:09,200 Speaker 2: most intimate moment of my life, like the moment I 292 00:15:09,320 --> 00:15:13,880 Speaker 2: meet my son, Like I need to be like comfortable 293 00:15:14,080 --> 00:15:16,120 Speaker 2: and not even think about that when she's there. And 294 00:15:16,160 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 2: it was I felt like I could cry in front 295 00:15:18,080 --> 00:15:20,280 Speaker 2: of her. I could keep his skin on skin, so 296 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:22,920 Speaker 2: I had to have like my chest out. And yeah, 297 00:15:23,000 --> 00:15:24,880 Speaker 2: a lot of people I know initially saw the photos. 298 00:15:24,920 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 2: They're like, now, why does this girl have no clothes on? 299 00:15:27,560 --> 00:15:30,360 Speaker 2: And I kept trying to explain to them, even if 300 00:15:30,360 --> 00:15:33,240 Speaker 2: you didn't birth a baby, when the baby comes out, 301 00:15:33,320 --> 00:15:35,680 Speaker 2: the first touch that they experienced, they want you to 302 00:15:35,680 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 2: put the baby on your bare chest so that you 303 00:15:38,480 --> 00:15:42,280 Speaker 2: can have what's called skin to skin bonding and that 304 00:15:42,320 --> 00:15:47,760 Speaker 2: they can feel your heartbeat. Your heartbeat actually stabilizes their heartbeat. 305 00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:50,960 Speaker 2: Your breathing, all of that, like teaches them how they 306 00:15:51,000 --> 00:15:54,600 Speaker 2: should breathe, Like it's actually pretty wild how we were created, 307 00:15:54,640 --> 00:15:58,480 Speaker 2: Like God thought of every single detail. So she was 308 00:15:58,560 --> 00:16:02,080 Speaker 2: awesome and absolutely the smile. The smile was a great 309 00:16:02,080 --> 00:16:05,240 Speaker 2: indication of a joyous woman who has her own she 310 00:16:05,280 --> 00:16:08,680 Speaker 2: has her own children as well. She loves her kids, 311 00:16:09,160 --> 00:16:12,320 Speaker 2: She enjoys being a mom. And I feel like I 312 00:16:12,360 --> 00:16:15,800 Speaker 2: have the giggliest, happiest baby. And I'm grateful for the 313 00:16:15,960 --> 00:16:18,480 Speaker 2: energy that she she gave him for those first nine 314 00:16:18,480 --> 00:16:19,400 Speaker 2: months that he was here. 315 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:21,760 Speaker 1: Wow, are you guys you're still friends? Yes? 316 00:16:21,920 --> 00:16:24,160 Speaker 2: I chat with my surrogate all the time. I'll be like, 317 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 2: I will randomly hit her up and send her pictures 318 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:29,400 Speaker 2: of him, like what he's doing today. And she has 319 00:16:29,440 --> 00:16:31,680 Speaker 2: her two kids that I became really close with as well, 320 00:16:32,040 --> 00:16:35,080 Speaker 2: and she'll send me as of what they've got going on, 321 00:16:35,280 --> 00:16:37,080 Speaker 2: and it just it's been awesome. 322 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:41,280 Speaker 1: That's that's makes my heart so happy. Yeah, and Israel 323 00:16:41,320 --> 00:16:43,400 Speaker 1: your husband, he was What did he tell you about 324 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:46,120 Speaker 1: about everything? Like how did he feel about the whole process? 325 00:16:46,480 --> 00:16:52,160 Speaker 2: He is the coolest person and the greatest support system. 326 00:16:52,440 --> 00:16:55,680 Speaker 2: Because even in moments where I was like, are you 327 00:16:55,760 --> 00:16:59,120 Speaker 2: so sad you're never gonna see me pregnant, Like is 328 00:16:59,120 --> 00:17:02,000 Speaker 2: that so, like don't you want to see me with 329 00:17:02,160 --> 00:17:04,640 Speaker 2: a belly? He was just like, yeah, that would be great, 330 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:07,520 Speaker 2: but if that's not the occasion. He was all about 331 00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:10,520 Speaker 2: the silver lining and if you can have someone in 332 00:17:10,520 --> 00:17:13,159 Speaker 2: your life of him that reminds you of the silver 333 00:17:13,280 --> 00:17:17,040 Speaker 2: linings of like, well, the good news is you're not 334 00:17:17,080 --> 00:17:19,639 Speaker 2: gonna mess up down there. That's a positive be like 335 00:17:19,840 --> 00:17:22,000 Speaker 2: uh huh. He would he literally this joke for me. 336 00:17:22,040 --> 00:17:24,879 Speaker 2: He's like, you know that we could like celebrate his birth, 337 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:28,240 Speaker 2: like we could like make love the day he's worn, Like, 338 00:17:28,800 --> 00:17:31,080 Speaker 2: we don't have to wait six weeks. And I was like, 339 00:17:31,640 --> 00:17:34,360 Speaker 2: great point. He was reminding me of all the good things. 340 00:17:34,440 --> 00:17:36,919 Speaker 2: He's like, take this time to like be in the 341 00:17:36,920 --> 00:17:39,600 Speaker 2: best shape of your life. Why not, Like he was 342 00:17:39,640 --> 00:17:42,320 Speaker 2: just thinking of all the great things that could come 343 00:17:42,400 --> 00:17:45,159 Speaker 2: from maybe not just to make me feel better, And 344 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:47,080 Speaker 2: it did. It didn't make me feel better, and I'm 345 00:17:47,119 --> 00:17:50,560 Speaker 2: grateful for that, but I have I still dream that 346 00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:52,440 Speaker 2: maybe one day I will be able to carry. I 347 00:17:53,400 --> 00:17:57,440 Speaker 2: have not given up hope. And while I think it's 348 00:17:57,440 --> 00:18:00,359 Speaker 2: taken the pressure off, I think they do say that 349 00:18:00,359 --> 00:18:03,040 Speaker 2: when you're going through these fertility treatments, it's so important 350 00:18:03,080 --> 00:18:07,679 Speaker 2: to like, stay calm, don't stress. It's so much easier 351 00:18:07,720 --> 00:18:11,720 Speaker 2: said than done. Baby, you are stressed. You are stressed out. 352 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:14,399 Speaker 2: And so I think there is a part of me 353 00:18:15,359 --> 00:18:21,120 Speaker 2: that feels less pressure because I already have my amazing 354 00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:23,199 Speaker 2: son that I feel like if I try it again, 355 00:18:23,640 --> 00:18:25,920 Speaker 2: maybe it would be easier because I already have a son. 356 00:18:25,960 --> 00:18:27,359 Speaker 2: It's not like I'll never be a mother. 357 00:18:27,600 --> 00:18:30,200 Speaker 1: That makes sense. That makes sense. Well, you know what, 358 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:33,879 Speaker 1: I God is listening and I it's your faith, and 359 00:18:33,920 --> 00:18:36,160 Speaker 1: that's how that's where I'm at because I tried IVF 360 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:39,040 Speaker 1: and I started last October and then I was like 361 00:18:39,400 --> 00:18:41,120 Speaker 1: the second day and I said, no, you know what, 362 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:43,280 Speaker 1: let me. I feel like my body can do this 363 00:18:43,320 --> 00:18:45,240 Speaker 1: by itself, let me try it. And I'm like, okay, 364 00:18:45,280 --> 00:18:47,960 Speaker 1: And if it doesn't within a year and it hasn't 365 00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:50,040 Speaker 1: been a year, it'll be a year in October this year, 366 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:53,720 Speaker 1: then I'm going to go ahead and try IVF because 367 00:18:54,160 --> 00:18:55,879 Speaker 1: I'm not sure, to be honest, if I want to 368 00:18:55,920 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 1: have kids because I raise my siblings and I feel 369 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:03,199 Speaker 1: like I've kind of gone through it. But everyone says no, 370 00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:05,600 Speaker 1: when you have your own children, it's just you can't. 371 00:19:05,640 --> 00:19:09,000 Speaker 1: It's it's unexplainable, like what you feel. And that's a 372 00:19:09,040 --> 00:19:10,240 Speaker 1: I was like, I need to talk to Adrian to 373 00:19:10,240 --> 00:19:12,760 Speaker 1: see and like now I'm inspired, and I feel like 374 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:15,680 Speaker 1: my boyfriend, who is the only guy that's ever made 375 00:19:15,680 --> 00:19:18,720 Speaker 1: me want to even have a child, saying he makes 376 00:19:18,760 --> 00:19:21,520 Speaker 1: me feel safe, right, yeah, So I'm like, I feel 377 00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:23,760 Speaker 1: like he'd be okay, And I've talked to him about 378 00:19:23,800 --> 00:19:25,840 Speaker 1: saragacy and he's like, yeah, I mean, yeah, I'd like 379 00:19:25,880 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 1: to touch your belly and all that stuff. But if 380 00:19:28,280 --> 00:19:29,879 Speaker 1: that's the way it has to be, then I'm totally 381 00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:30,399 Speaker 1: fine with that. 382 00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:35,600 Speaker 2: When I tell you, there is something so dope about 383 00:19:35,680 --> 00:19:39,880 Speaker 2: there being a piece of you and that man you're 384 00:19:39,960 --> 00:19:43,000 Speaker 2: so in love with, and like there's something fun about 385 00:19:43,040 --> 00:19:45,679 Speaker 2: looking at the features and they change every day, and 386 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:49,359 Speaker 2: like there's moments like when he was born, we swore 387 00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:52,359 Speaker 2: like he had my eyes for sure, but then like 388 00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:55,440 Speaker 2: as it's gone along, we're like, is that my nose 389 00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:57,920 Speaker 2: or is that your nice? Is that remoth like this? 390 00:19:59,040 --> 00:20:03,680 Speaker 2: And it's this beautiful little human that's genetically the DNA 391 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:06,440 Speaker 2: of me and the man that I love and there's 392 00:20:06,480 --> 00:20:10,360 Speaker 2: something so beautiful about that. I even think when you're 393 00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:12,240 Speaker 2: like cleaning ga gay at two o'clock in the morning, 394 00:20:12,240 --> 00:20:16,240 Speaker 2: you're like, this is our genetic gaka like me, this 395 00:20:16,400 --> 00:20:19,680 Speaker 2: is this is our poop, this is our people like crazy, 396 00:20:20,080 --> 00:20:22,119 Speaker 2: and I don't know it just I think there's just 397 00:20:22,119 --> 00:20:25,480 Speaker 2: something so beautiful about it that no matter how the 398 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:27,919 Speaker 2: child gets here, I think when they're here, you're gonna 399 00:20:27,920 --> 00:20:30,679 Speaker 2: be it is different, I think than raising your siblings, 400 00:20:30,720 --> 00:20:34,000 Speaker 2: because you're literally gonna see a reflection of your love 401 00:20:34,200 --> 00:20:38,320 Speaker 2: in this child's eyes. And it's it's it's so beautiful. 402 00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:41,160 Speaker 2: And every day there's like a new like they see 403 00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:45,040 Speaker 2: new things, like now he recognizes us. So like when 404 00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:51,199 Speaker 2: Israel gets home, he's like he's so excited, his little 405 00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:53,439 Speaker 2: face like he like doesn't know what to do with 406 00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:56,200 Speaker 2: his hands, but he's so happy to see him. And 407 00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:58,320 Speaker 2: I look at him and I'm like, you're like my 408 00:20:58,400 --> 00:21:01,600 Speaker 2: little man, Like there's things about him that absolutely look 409 00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:03,679 Speaker 2: like Israel. My son is my husband's man and me 410 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:07,560 Speaker 2: for sure. But then I think even glimpses of my father, 411 00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:10,920 Speaker 2: Like I see like these little things. He has my 412 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:14,880 Speaker 2: dad's hands, his curly hair is coming in and I'm 413 00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:17,120 Speaker 2: just I'm just so in love. 414 00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:20,879 Speaker 1: And how has your How has it changed your life? 415 00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:23,680 Speaker 1: I mean I bet in every single way. But because 416 00:21:24,160 --> 00:21:26,600 Speaker 1: I'm right there, I'm at the crossroads of like should 417 00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:28,520 Speaker 1: I do this? Should I go down this road? Should 418 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:30,119 Speaker 1: I not? Like a part of me is like I 419 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:32,800 Speaker 1: want to know what it is to raise a human 420 00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:35,040 Speaker 1: just the way I think, you know what I mean, 421 00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:37,399 Speaker 1: Like I don't know, Like, hey, let me mold you. 422 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:40,400 Speaker 1: But then I'm a little scared because I'm like, I'm 423 00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:43,919 Speaker 1: so career oriented and so career driven, and but it's like, 424 00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:45,240 Speaker 1: I don't know. 425 00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:47,960 Speaker 2: Tell me, what do I think you can have it all? 426 00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:50,640 Speaker 2: I am a believer. I think you can have it all. 427 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:54,040 Speaker 2: I think maybe not having it all at the same time, okay, 428 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:58,399 Speaker 2: but there is something precious about dedicating and prioritizing different 429 00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:02,400 Speaker 2: things during different seasons of your life life. So true 430 00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:05,960 Speaker 2: for me, I feel like I've spent the last twenty 431 00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:11,160 Speaker 2: years in this industry kind of establishing my career in cheekies. 432 00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:14,280 Speaker 2: You've done the same people you've You've made a mark 433 00:22:14,800 --> 00:22:18,400 Speaker 2: in this industry. People know who you are, You've done 434 00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:22,359 Speaker 2: a phenomenal job. People love you. You are adored, you know, 435 00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:25,560 Speaker 2: and I think you even though your career is going 436 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:29,600 Speaker 2: to change, people that love you are going to love 437 00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:31,920 Speaker 2: to see that change. Does that make sense? Like there 438 00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:33,639 Speaker 2: are different things that I'm going to be doing and 439 00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:35,679 Speaker 2: those things I'm not going to be doing. But I 440 00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:37,920 Speaker 2: think even my audience that loves me is like, it's 441 00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:40,720 Speaker 2: kind of awesome to see her in this new gear. 442 00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:43,160 Speaker 2: You know, You're just the things you're going to talk 443 00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:44,919 Speaker 2: about on here might be a little bit different, but 444 00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:47,480 Speaker 2: people are going to be so excited and happy for you. 445 00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:50,160 Speaker 2: And I think you have a fan base that literally 446 00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:53,000 Speaker 2: has become like familia to you. So it's I think 447 00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:55,040 Speaker 2: they're going to be so happy. So here's the thing. 448 00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:59,320 Speaker 2: Your life does change, it doesn't change in a negative way. 449 00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:03,080 Speaker 2: You have family like me, Like I have a mom 450 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:06,000 Speaker 2: that is scared to support me, to help me. You 451 00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:09,720 Speaker 2: have sisters, My sisters the same way, they rally around 452 00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:13,960 Speaker 2: you and they help you. You have stayed up all 453 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:18,960 Speaker 2: night long for dumber things. Cheekyes, you're right, you know 454 00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:21,640 Speaker 2: what I mean. Like if you just shift your perspective, 455 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:25,560 Speaker 2: people are like these stay up all night with I'm like, guys, 456 00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:29,920 Speaker 2: we've partied and stayed up later then and lost more 457 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:32,520 Speaker 2: sleep than I have for my kid. So it's just 458 00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:35,800 Speaker 2: shifting your perspective. I think even I think the awesome 459 00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:37,880 Speaker 2: thing is that a lot of your even what you've 460 00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:41,280 Speaker 2: done on a career level, has been with family. You 461 00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:43,159 Speaker 2: can do that with the child. There's people who have 462 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:48,200 Speaker 2: started multi billion, you know, companies based off of things 463 00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:50,840 Speaker 2: that were needed for children, like you listen. 464 00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:55,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right, you'll figure it out. No, you're right. 465 00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:58,639 Speaker 1: And as a fan of yours, I do remember feeling 466 00:23:58,640 --> 00:24:00,679 Speaker 1: that where I'm like, damn, that's so cool because when 467 00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:03,320 Speaker 1: we first met, I think it was at a Latina 468 00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:05,960 Speaker 1: magazine event and it was thirty under thirty, so we 469 00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:09,600 Speaker 1: were both under thirty and I was like I knew 470 00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:11,200 Speaker 1: about you and I was like, oh, the Cheetah girls, 471 00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:12,920 Speaker 1: and then like I saw you and like I saw 472 00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:15,560 Speaker 1: we went to the real. Then when you became a mommy, 473 00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:18,040 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god. As a fan, I 474 00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:19,960 Speaker 1: was like, that's so awesome, Like now I get to 475 00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:23,359 Speaker 1: see her in this whole other season of her life 476 00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:26,760 Speaker 1: and you're still hot as heck. I'm like, she's still beautiful. 477 00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:30,080 Speaker 1: Is that banapa? And she looks great and mommy you 478 00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:31,960 Speaker 1: look good as a mother. So I'm like, okay, well 479 00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:34,520 Speaker 1: I can probably do that too. You know. 480 00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:37,520 Speaker 2: I think the thing that I also recognized is that 481 00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:41,480 Speaker 2: a lot of what has made me successful is relatability. 482 00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:46,720 Speaker 2: That like, for here, relate, and I think in your case, 483 00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:48,640 Speaker 2: being a mom is going to be no different. People 484 00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:51,560 Speaker 2: are going to be like, girl, I relate to whatever 485 00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:54,560 Speaker 2: it is that you're going to experience. It's relatable. So 486 00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,359 Speaker 2: I think Mother of God is so special. And being 487 00:24:57,400 --> 00:25:00,640 Speaker 2: able to just bond with girlfriends about it as well, 488 00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:03,000 Speaker 2: you're gonna love it. You're gonna find your little mom squad. 489 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:06,040 Speaker 2: You guys have a group chat. You're gonna be like, Okay, 490 00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:09,080 Speaker 2: the kids poop looks like this today, so you're gonna 491 00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:13,120 Speaker 2: start doing wild things. You're gonna be like, my kid 492 00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:16,199 Speaker 2: is supposed to start eating he does not, Like I'm like, 493 00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:17,800 Speaker 2: how do you not? Like I'll walk out there like 494 00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:21,960 Speaker 2: how I'm like, is this my kid? So my friends 495 00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:23,880 Speaker 2: are like, mash it up better. You need to add 496 00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:26,600 Speaker 2: some some salt and pepper to it. I'm like, I'm 497 00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:29,639 Speaker 2: supposed to season my kid's food. So you're gonna have 498 00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:32,720 Speaker 2: your mom squad of people telling you all different things 499 00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:36,560 Speaker 2: you'll have to support and ultimately, if it's meant to be, 500 00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:38,720 Speaker 2: it will be. And I feel like, even though I 501 00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:40,960 Speaker 2: had a child through a surrogate, if God didn't want 502 00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:42,520 Speaker 2: my son to be or he wouldn't be here. 503 00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:45,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. I am so happy for you. Honestly, 504 00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:49,080 Speaker 1: I see you your glow. You're gorgeous, You've always been gorgeous, 505 00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:51,160 Speaker 1: and I'm so grateful that you came on and you're 506 00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:53,720 Speaker 1: so open and vulnerable about this process because it's gonna 507 00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:57,120 Speaker 1: help so many of us. And I'm saying us because I'm, 508 00:25:57,359 --> 00:25:59,440 Speaker 1: like I said, I'm right there, and I think you've 509 00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:02,360 Speaker 1: inspired me to just say, all right, let's try it 510 00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:04,320 Speaker 1: and see. You know, if, like you said, if God 511 00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:06,800 Speaker 1: wanted to happen, it's going to happen no matter what. 512 00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:17,679 Speaker 1: I want to talk about your career because you're a singer, 513 00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:21,440 Speaker 1: and I think, like I mean, I love your voice. 514 00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:23,919 Speaker 1: I've loved your voice since I mean, you were in 515 00:26:24,040 --> 00:26:27,280 Speaker 1: three lw correct and then the Cheetah Girls. So tell 516 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,080 Speaker 1: us a little bit about how you got into the 517 00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:31,639 Speaker 1: music space. Is your family like do they sing? 518 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:35,920 Speaker 2: Okay, So my dad is an amazing singer, but he's 519 00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:38,800 Speaker 2: not like a professional singer. Oh okay, my dad is 520 00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:43,359 Speaker 2: from Ecuadora, my mom's from Puerto Rico, and my dad 521 00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:46,760 Speaker 2: came to the United States to sing at a nightclub 522 00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:50,120 Speaker 2: in Queens, New York, where he met my mom. Shut up, 523 00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,760 Speaker 2: So technically, I guess would be considered like a professional singer. 524 00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:56,120 Speaker 2: He was like, yeah, banfa singer, and he would sing 525 00:26:56,160 --> 00:26:59,000 Speaker 2: at nightclubs. And then he met my mom and they 526 00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,720 Speaker 2: ended up getting married and having us. And my mom 527 00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:05,640 Speaker 2: was raised like super religious and super Christian Oka, so 528 00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:07,560 Speaker 2: like once they got married, she was like, you're not 529 00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:10,480 Speaker 2: gonna be in these nightclubs singing, Like we're gonna raise 530 00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:13,680 Speaker 2: our kids in church. They gonna follow the Lord, They're 531 00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:18,800 Speaker 2: gonna know his supristo. So my mom pretty much was 532 00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:22,240 Speaker 2: like yeah, like that's the end of that. But singing 533 00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:25,080 Speaker 2: in our home was like a thing. Like my dad 534 00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:27,000 Speaker 2: ever since I was a little girl. He taught me 535 00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:30,120 Speaker 2: and my sister how to harmonize, and so then we 536 00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:34,000 Speaker 2: started becoming super active in our church. We grew up Pentecostal, 537 00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:38,000 Speaker 2: so I was super involved in children's choir, mass choir. 538 00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:41,400 Speaker 2: I did every play, Easter play, Christmas play. Your girl 539 00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:44,200 Speaker 2: was trying to be a local celebrity with my little 540 00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:47,480 Speaker 2: songs in church. Okay, love it. And that's where my 541 00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:50,119 Speaker 2: love of music came from. There was always music in 542 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,200 Speaker 2: our home, and I was like, man, I want to 543 00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:55,520 Speaker 2: be a singer so bad. But when you grew up 544 00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:57,320 Speaker 2: in the hood and you don't know anybody or don't 545 00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:00,600 Speaker 2: know even how do you get your start? I kind 546 00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:02,600 Speaker 2: of put that to the back burner and I was like, well, 547 00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:06,320 Speaker 2: I don't even know how I'd ever become a singer, 548 00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:09,200 Speaker 2: but singing in church is gonna work just fine for me. 549 00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:13,000 Speaker 2: And it's kind of crazy my story because I went 550 00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:16,760 Speaker 2: to a specialized junior high school called Clinton School for 551 00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:19,800 Speaker 2: Writers and Artists. The only two other people that I've 552 00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:21,600 Speaker 2: ever gone to that school is like the Wayne's brothers 553 00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:23,520 Speaker 2: were known for going there. It's in New York City 554 00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:27,919 Speaker 2: and Chelsea and Jerry O'Connell random. 555 00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:28,680 Speaker 1: Uh huh yeah. 556 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:31,200 Speaker 2: And so I ended up going to that school and 557 00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:34,520 Speaker 2: it's pretty much a school that prepares you to audition 558 00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:39,120 Speaker 2: for those big art schools like LaGuardia and Juilliard. If 559 00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:41,600 Speaker 2: you know anything about the big music schools, they're like 560 00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:44,600 Speaker 2: Nicki Minaj went to look like this is like where 561 00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:49,920 Speaker 2: people record demos and get their starts. Yeah, So I 562 00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:52,240 Speaker 2: went to this junior high school and then it was 563 00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:55,560 Speaker 2: my senior year and they were like, okay, well it's 564 00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:57,760 Speaker 2: time for you to put your portfolio together so that 565 00:28:57,800 --> 00:29:02,120 Speaker 2: you can audition for the schools. And that's when I 566 00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:05,680 Speaker 2: realized this costs money. Did me getting closer to the 567 00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:09,160 Speaker 2: mic to say that, I'm my base lost money and 568 00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:11,120 Speaker 2: my family does not have the the netto to be 569 00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:15,000 Speaker 2: doing this. So I actually didn't even tell my mom 570 00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:18,040 Speaker 2: that I was expected if you're going to audition for vocal, 571 00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:21,120 Speaker 2: they required you to have a demo. You have to 572 00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:23,800 Speaker 2: record a demo, and you have to have a headshot. 573 00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:26,920 Speaker 2: I was like, I can't. I just can't ask my 574 00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:28,880 Speaker 2: mom for that kind of money. I know we're struggling. 575 00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:32,360 Speaker 2: So I just kind of told my art teacher. I 576 00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:34,280 Speaker 2: was like, yeah, I'm going to pass. I'm not not 577 00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:36,000 Speaker 2: going to audition for the schools. I don't have the 578 00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:37,880 Speaker 2: money to put my portfolio together and I'm just going 579 00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:40,560 Speaker 2: to pass. And she was kind of disappointed, but like whatever, 580 00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:43,400 Speaker 2: And I ended up deciding that I was going to 581 00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:45,640 Speaker 2: go to the same school my sister was in, and 582 00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:47,560 Speaker 2: I know you're close to your sisters too. I'm so 583 00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:51,160 Speaker 2: close with my sister close. Yeah, he's three years older 584 00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:54,640 Speaker 2: than me. So check this. When I was getting into 585 00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:56,640 Speaker 2: high school, I was going to be a freshman and 586 00:29:56,680 --> 00:29:58,680 Speaker 2: my sister was going to be a senior. And I 587 00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:01,560 Speaker 2: was like, boom, this is a genius idea. I'm gonna 588 00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:04,120 Speaker 2: be able to like get in, mingle fit in. I'll 589 00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:07,960 Speaker 2: hopefully be popular. And the thing is, my sister wanted 590 00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:10,400 Speaker 2: to be a nurse, which she ended up becoming. And 591 00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:12,240 Speaker 2: I was like, you know what, I'll just follow in 592 00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:14,680 Speaker 2: my sister's footsteps and I'll go to this specialized high 593 00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:17,640 Speaker 2: school for medicine. And it was all health professions and 594 00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:20,120 Speaker 2: human services. I know this sounds like it's going in 595 00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:21,000 Speaker 2: a random direction. 596 00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:23,720 Speaker 1: Hey no, no, tell me, I am so interested in and 597 00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:24,400 Speaker 1: oh tell us. 598 00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:28,480 Speaker 2: I end up going to a medical school and I'm like, 599 00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:32,720 Speaker 2: you know what, I'm just gonna maybe become like crazy enough. 600 00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:35,920 Speaker 2: I wanted to be an obstetrician. I was obsessed with babies, 601 00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:39,240 Speaker 2: and I was like, I will just sing the babies 602 00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:42,200 Speaker 2: out of the womb. Whatever it'll work. I'm going to 603 00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:44,240 Speaker 2: put singing on the back burner. Let me do something 604 00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:47,400 Speaker 2: that seems more realistic, and I'm going to go to 605 00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:51,000 Speaker 2: this specialized medical high school. Well, my second year, when 606 00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:53,720 Speaker 2: you're a sophomore, they require you to do an internship. 607 00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:57,160 Speaker 2: The school is directly across the street from a hospital 608 00:30:57,160 --> 00:31:01,640 Speaker 2: called Beth Israel in New York, and you do internships there. 609 00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:05,040 Speaker 2: My internship was literally like filing paperwork, Like people would 610 00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:07,200 Speaker 2: come in and I had to work at the hospital. 611 00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:09,240 Speaker 2: It was part of my grade and I was just 612 00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:11,640 Speaker 2: filing and this guy walks in one day. I will 613 00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:16,440 Speaker 2: never forget. His name was Reggie. I have literally never 614 00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:20,120 Speaker 2: seen this man again. It's been well over twenty something years. 615 00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:23,000 Speaker 2: He walked in. He had like a broken leg and 616 00:31:23,040 --> 00:31:24,440 Speaker 2: a cane and was like, what up? 617 00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:24,520 Speaker 1: Ma? 618 00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:25,480 Speaker 2: You sing? 619 00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:27,240 Speaker 1: Shut up? 620 00:31:28,480 --> 00:31:32,560 Speaker 2: And I was like wait, like what Like I turned around, 621 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:35,440 Speaker 2: I was firing. He's like you sing? And I was like, 622 00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:37,520 Speaker 2: what do you want to hear? 623 00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:39,760 Speaker 1: Absolutely? I do. 624 00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:42,640 Speaker 2: I was like, I can't hit you with a Sasa jam, 625 00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:44,920 Speaker 2: I can't hit you with a pop song. You want 626 00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:46,600 Speaker 2: to hear a little Lauren Hill? His eye is on 627 00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:47,280 Speaker 2: the sparrow. 628 00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,920 Speaker 1: I got you love it? 629 00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:53,480 Speaker 2: And he was like, I know this manager that's putting 630 00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:56,959 Speaker 2: together a little girl group. He's like, you know, if 631 00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:58,480 Speaker 2: you can get I know a lot of you girls 632 00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:01,600 Speaker 2: intern from the high school here, Can you get me 633 00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:04,000 Speaker 2: a group of girls from your high school to come 634 00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:07,680 Speaker 2: audition for this girl group? And I was like, Reggie, 635 00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:09,920 Speaker 2: I got you, and he gave me his business card 636 00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:12,760 Speaker 2: and I went to gym class and I knew that 637 00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:14,280 Speaker 2: there was one girl I have heard singing in the 638 00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:17,160 Speaker 2: locker room named Jennifer, and another girl's name was Jamie 639 00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:19,880 Speaker 2: who sang in Brooklyn Tabernacle choir. So I just knew 640 00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:24,120 Speaker 2: random girls, and I'm like, guns, there's this guy. He's 641 00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:27,080 Speaker 2: putting together a girl group. Can we try to go 642 00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:32,000 Speaker 2: together to the audition? And sure enough, that guy took 643 00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:34,600 Speaker 2: me into the first audition, which was its Actually gets 644 00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:36,240 Speaker 2: a little weirder. He told us he wanted to hear 645 00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:38,680 Speaker 2: us sing first, and I had to meet him outside 646 00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:41,320 Speaker 2: of Yankee Stadium in the Bronx. I do not recommend 647 00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:47,200 Speaker 2: young girls doing this. Yeah, yeah, decision, But we ended 648 00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:48,760 Speaker 2: up singing for him. He was like, you guys are 649 00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:52,280 Speaker 2: good enough to audition. He gave us the information, he 650 00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:54,600 Speaker 2: cleared us, and I went to that audition and that 651 00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:58,320 Speaker 2: was for three LW I met Heeli at that audition, 652 00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:02,400 Speaker 2: her mom, her on the managers and the production company 653 00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:03,720 Speaker 2: who put three l W together. 654 00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:04,920 Speaker 1: How old were you? 655 00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:07,760 Speaker 2: I was fourteen going on fifteen, or maybe I was 656 00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,320 Speaker 2: already I might have already just turned fifteen fifteen. 657 00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:12,200 Speaker 1: Okay, oh my gosh, that's. 658 00:33:12,040 --> 00:33:16,720 Speaker 2: Crazy and I'll never forget. Like I sang at the audition, 659 00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:18,520 Speaker 2: the first song I sang was his Eyes on the 660 00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:20,600 Speaker 2: Sparrow like Lauren Hill from Sister Act too. 661 00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:24,320 Speaker 1: Uh huh, yes, I'm saying that. Love that movie. 662 00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:26,800 Speaker 2: And then they were like, do you know any songs 663 00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:30,520 Speaker 2: in Spanish? Which is what I really loved in that moment. 664 00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:33,680 Speaker 2: And if there's anything I can say to people is 665 00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:37,280 Speaker 2: be so proud of your culture and like rep as 666 00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:39,720 Speaker 2: hard as you can, because, let me tell you, as 667 00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:42,520 Speaker 2: much as we think sometimes that are is going to 668 00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:44,520 Speaker 2: hold us back, I do not believe that at all. 669 00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:47,600 Speaker 2: I think that authenticity is what has absolutely opened the 670 00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:51,040 Speaker 2: doors for me in my career. Because one of the 671 00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:55,240 Speaker 2: girls was Dominican that was auditioning, and I remember them 672 00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:59,040 Speaker 2: being like, there's this huge Latin explosion happening. It literally 673 00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:04,200 Speaker 2: was nineteen nine nine, and Ricky Mark and jam this 674 00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:08,520 Speaker 2: was that time of the huge explosion in music, and 675 00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:11,040 Speaker 2: I know specifically they were looking to put a Latina 676 00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:13,280 Speaker 2: in the girl group and the other girl was Dominican, 677 00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:14,600 Speaker 2: and they asked both of us, They're like, do you 678 00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:18,279 Speaker 2: guys sing in Spanish? And I remember her going beat 679 00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:23,080 Speaker 2: beat bomb bomb, but kind of like being sarcastic, yeah, 680 00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:25,600 Speaker 2: and being like ill, like I don't know Spanish songs, 681 00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:29,040 Speaker 2: And in that moment, I was like, home please while 682 00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:32,759 Speaker 2: I break out all full Preciosa by Mark Anthony, I 683 00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:35,080 Speaker 2: was like, you'll sing look at so little sink like 684 00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:40,040 Speaker 2: I'm full of broke out and playing Preciosa and hands down, 685 00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:42,399 Speaker 2: I know that, I know that, I know that. That's 686 00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:43,560 Speaker 2: the reason I got in the group. 687 00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:47,960 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Adria, we gotta do something together musically 688 00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:49,360 Speaker 1: in Spanish. You and I. 689 00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:50,839 Speaker 2: Cheeks don't die. 690 00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:53,799 Speaker 1: We needed Okay, we're leaving it here on Cheek's and chill. 691 00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:56,719 Speaker 1: It's happening, you guys, she said it. Imagine us doing something, 692 00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:59,719 Speaker 1: Oh girl, I'd be honor. Oh my god, I'm so excited. 693 00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:00,680 Speaker 2: Oh thank you. 694 00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:02,960 Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, for sure we'll talk after, but like, I'm 695 00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:05,839 Speaker 1: so excited. That's awesome. Oh my god, I honestly, I 696 00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:09,000 Speaker 1: had no idea about this, Adrian like, that's crazy. It's 697 00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:10,840 Speaker 1: like when it's meant for you, when God has a 698 00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:14,040 Speaker 1: plan for you. Amen, a guy with a cane and 699 00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:16,320 Speaker 1: a broken leg is gonna walk in and it's gonna 700 00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,440 Speaker 1: be God is speaking through him to you. So if 701 00:35:19,480 --> 00:35:20,760 Speaker 1: it's meant to happen, it'll happen. 702 00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:23,719 Speaker 2: I tried to divert from the plan God had for me, 703 00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:26,040 Speaker 2: and he still made a pass, even though it didn't 704 00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:28,239 Speaker 2: work out the way I thought it would have. Like 705 00:35:28,320 --> 00:35:31,200 Speaker 2: he literally allowed that opportunity to be there for me, 706 00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:34,520 Speaker 2: and I truly believe that that was destiny. No, there's 707 00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:38,319 Speaker 2: just no other way to explain that story. It's absolutely 708 00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:41,000 Speaker 2: random and crazy. But I'm forever grateful. And the one 709 00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:43,800 Speaker 2: thing I learned from that is I remember hearing Oprah 710 00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:46,759 Speaker 2: say there is no such thing as luck. There is 711 00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:51,200 Speaker 2: such thing as opportunity meeting preparation, and the key is 712 00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:54,840 Speaker 2: to always be prepared, be prepared. You may never know 713 00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:57,239 Speaker 2: when God is going to put that opportunity right in 714 00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:59,919 Speaker 2: front of you. The key is that you be hume 715 00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:02,840 Speaker 2: and be prepared to go after go right through that 716 00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:04,000 Speaker 2: door that's been opened for you. 717 00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:07,440 Speaker 1: Amen, I absolutely agree. I love that. I love that. 718 00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:09,320 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. 719 00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:12,000 Speaker 2: And thank you. Wait, we gotta hang. 720 00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:14,120 Speaker 1: We gotta hang. We got a double date, we got 721 00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:15,080 Speaker 1: to record that song. 722 00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:19,879 Speaker 2: We did so many things absolute in person, he needs 723 00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:20,960 Speaker 2: to meet as the Cheeky's. 724 00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:23,680 Speaker 1: Yes, please, the Cheeky's will love him so much and 725 00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:26,720 Speaker 1: spoil him. Yes, thank you so much, and you guys 726 00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:29,319 Speaker 1: before you go. You know that. I always finish the 727 00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:39,840 Speaker 1: episodes with a quote, and the quote is motherhood is amazing, 728 00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:42,920 Speaker 1: and then it's really hard, and then it's incredible and 729 00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:46,120 Speaker 1: then everything in between. So hold on to the good, 730 00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:49,080 Speaker 1: breathe through the bad, and welcome the wildest and most 731 00:36:49,120 --> 00:36:50,680 Speaker 1: wonderful ride of your life. 732 00:36:51,239 --> 00:36:51,879 Speaker 2: Amen. 733 00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:54,080 Speaker 1: Yes or no? Does that? Is that a good way? 734 00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:56,560 Speaker 2: I felt there? I felt that down to my core. 735 00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:59,080 Speaker 1: Oh well, thank you again, and thank you guys for listening. 736 00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:09,800 Speaker 1: Loss the Adrian. Do you need advice on love, relationships, 737 00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:13,239 Speaker 1: health emails? I'm so excited to share with you that 738 00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:16,040 Speaker 1: my Cheeky's and Chill podcast will have an extra episode 739 00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:20,080 Speaker 1: drop each week. I'll be answering all your questions. 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