1 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:06,080 Speaker 1: I feel like my boyfriend he'd be okay, and I've 2 00:00:06,080 --> 00:00:08,039 Speaker 1: talked to him about surrogacy and he's like, yeah, I 3 00:00:08,080 --> 00:00:09,879 Speaker 1: mean yeah, I'd like to touch your belly and all 4 00:00:09,880 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 1: that stuff. But if that's the way it has to be, 5 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:14,400 Speaker 1: then I'm totally fine with that. We had been trying 6 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:17,599 Speaker 1: all these ways. I was literally doing everything possible, and 7 00:00:17,640 --> 00:00:21,240 Speaker 1: the doctor finally told me, you have one healthy embryo left. 8 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:25,079 Speaker 1: Would you ever consider surrogacy? I think you can have 9 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:27,840 Speaker 1: it all. Maybe not having it all at the same time, 10 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: but there is something precious about dedicating and prioritizing different 11 00:00:32,440 --> 00:00:39,879 Speaker 1: things during different seasons of your life. Hello everyone, and 12 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 1: welcome back to cheek He's in Chill. I'm so happy 13 00:00:42,720 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 1: you're here. Today's episode is going to focus on motherhood. 14 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:48,960 Speaker 1: Everyone's journey is so unique and so different, and that 15 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: couldn't be truer For our next guest, she's been through 16 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 1: it all and he's a really unbelievable story of strength 17 00:00:54,320 --> 00:00:57,320 Speaker 1: that's rooted in faith. My kind of girl. I already 18 00:00:57,360 --> 00:00:59,240 Speaker 1: know this episode is going to be a good one, 19 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:08,640 Speaker 1: so stay tuned his Cheekies and Chill. Today's guest needs 20 00:01:08,680 --> 00:01:12,200 Speaker 1: no introduction. She's none other than the beautiful Adrian by 21 00:01:12,240 --> 00:01:15,280 Speaker 1: Lone Hotan. You might know her from the all women's 22 00:01:15,400 --> 00:01:19,119 Speaker 1: R and B group three LW or Disney's The Cheetah Girls, 23 00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:21,640 Speaker 1: or maybe you've watched her for years on the syndicated 24 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:24,479 Speaker 1: TV show The Real. These days you can catch her 25 00:01:24,480 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 1: on E News. And on top of all of that, 26 00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 1: she's an entrepreneur, a wife, and a new mother to 27 00:01:29,319 --> 00:01:31,960 Speaker 1: a beautiful baby boy. So let's go ahead and bring 28 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 1: Adrian into the conversation. Hello, Adrian, what's the girl? How 29 00:01:35,680 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 1: are you? I'm so excited to be chatting with you, 30 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:40,120 Speaker 1: me too. Thank you so much, you guys. I wish 31 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:42,399 Speaker 1: you guys could see her. She looks absolutely stunning. I 32 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:44,119 Speaker 1: think you're so beautiful for sta. Let me just get 33 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:46,880 Speaker 1: that out of the way. And first and foremost, congratulations, 34 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:49,600 Speaker 1: I'm becoming a mother and thank you. Thank you for 35 00:01:49,640 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 1: being so open and vulnerable about this topic. And I'm 36 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 1: going through a situation where I'm like, should I do IVF? 37 00:01:57,520 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 1: Should I not? Do? I want kids? So I was like, 38 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:01,440 Speaker 1: I think Adrian is a perfect person to talk to 39 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 1: about this, and I know that you've already kind of 40 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: talked about it, but not not here on cheeks and chills. 41 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:08,960 Speaker 1: So I do appreciate you doing this because it's something 42 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:10,679 Speaker 1: that I feel like we're around the same age, and 43 00:02:11,560 --> 00:02:13,919 Speaker 1: I don't know, I want to kind of hear your story. 44 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:16,519 Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, start wherever you want to start, you 45 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:21,560 Speaker 1: take it. I always knew I wanted to be a mom, 46 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 1: but I knew that there were certain things I wanted. Obviously, 47 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:28,320 Speaker 1: I'm a career woman, and I think so many women 48 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 1: in our generation are thinking that way now. They're like, 49 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:33,440 Speaker 1: I want to be a businesswoman. I want to, you know, 50 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:35,800 Speaker 1: really put my career first. And then I knew I 51 00:02:35,840 --> 00:02:37,640 Speaker 1: wanted to be married when I had children, so that 52 00:02:37,680 --> 00:02:39,799 Speaker 1: I could have, you know, the family structure that I 53 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:42,800 Speaker 1: dreamed of, Yeah and so, And for everybody that's an 54 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: individual plan of whatever you envision as your dream family structure. 55 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 1: But for me, I knew that I wanted to be 56 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: married at the least a year before even trying. So 57 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 1: I waited that year and around when I was married 58 00:02:57,080 --> 00:03:01,600 Speaker 1: at thirty three, and so at thirty four, I was like, Okay, 59 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:05,600 Speaker 1: my husband already has had children before in his previous marriage. 60 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:09,840 Speaker 1: And I was like, okay, he's had daughters, he's had sons, 61 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:13,280 Speaker 1: but he's never had twins, and this is so random. 62 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 1: But I really was like, we have a whole family 63 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 1: of all girls. My mom has her sister. My sister 64 00:03:21,080 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: had two girls. My alt had two girls, desire and Diane. 65 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:29,240 Speaker 1: Desiree had two girls, Deborah and Dianna. My sister has 66 00:03:29,280 --> 00:03:31,680 Speaker 1: two girls. My mom had two girls, Adrian and Claudet, 67 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:34,399 Speaker 1: and then Claudet had two girls, Jet and buff Oh 68 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 1: estrogen ming so old. I was like, my dream is 69 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 1: to have two girls. Like, let's go for twins. I 70 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 1: feel like we've seen so many celebrities have twins, and 71 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:49,000 Speaker 1: it just seems like a very cool and glamorous thing 72 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 1: you not get out one time. Sounds like a fabulous plan. 73 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 1: And I was wildly ignorant when making all these plans. 74 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:01,280 Speaker 1: I went into the dog the cheekies and he's like, okay, 75 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:03,360 Speaker 1: so how old are you blah blah blah blah. You said, 76 00:04:03,360 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 1: we're gonna do what's called a reserve test. So they 77 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 1: go in and they see how many eggs you have 78 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:11,440 Speaker 1: on a reserve? Yeah. Fun fact, ladies, you are born 79 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:17,479 Speaker 1: with all the eggs you will ever have. Which crazy enough, cheekies, 80 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:19,840 Speaker 1: you know that that means that your eggs that are 81 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:22,080 Speaker 1: in your body right now, that you've had in your 82 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:26,640 Speaker 1: body were also in your mother's body. Oh what yes, 83 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 1: so this sounds wild. My son, Ever, my son is 84 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:32,880 Speaker 1: literally in the other room with my mom right now. 85 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:38,599 Speaker 1: My egg that created Ever was in my mother's womb 86 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 1: at some point because it was in my body. That's crazy, 87 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:45,040 Speaker 1: I know, we can think about it that way. It's wild. Yeah, 88 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:47,960 Speaker 1: it is, absolutely. So you're born with all the eggs 89 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:51,479 Speaker 1: you're ever gonna have. Obviously, how your psycho works, you 90 00:04:51,520 --> 00:04:54,120 Speaker 1: pass one. But here's the thing. You want to find 91 00:04:54,120 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 1: out what your reserve number is as soon as possible 92 00:04:56,600 --> 00:05:00,280 Speaker 1: because that actually helps you make proper, you know, formed 93 00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:03,960 Speaker 1: decisions on what you're about to do next. In that moment, Chicks, 94 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 1: I ended up finding out your girl hadn't barely any 95 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:10,159 Speaker 1: eggs left, Like I was actually born at a deficit 96 00:05:10,720 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 1: already because I was born with less chromosomes than like 97 00:05:15,839 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 1: normal people. But that's a whole other crazy conversation that 98 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 1: I ended up finding out years into trying. And so 99 00:05:22,520 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 1: I found out I didn't have a lot of eggs, 100 00:05:23,760 --> 00:05:27,479 Speaker 1: and they're like, we highly recommend IDF for you because 101 00:05:28,240 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 1: that's just what's going to be the best way to 102 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:33,160 Speaker 1: harvest as many eggs as we can, Because sweetie, after 103 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:36,320 Speaker 1: the age of twenty four, your fertility is on a decline. 104 00:05:36,360 --> 00:05:40,360 Speaker 1: I said, twenty four, I know, I said, Oh, you 105 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:42,320 Speaker 1: got me out. You're feeling like a straight bieha, Like, 106 00:05:42,400 --> 00:05:45,840 Speaker 1: what are you talking about. I was not having no 107 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: kids at twine. I wasn't even thinking about about kids 108 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:52,359 Speaker 1: at twenty four. So I just remember being in that 109 00:05:52,440 --> 00:05:55,120 Speaker 1: office and hearing this and going, oh my gosh. This 110 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:58,040 Speaker 1: went from something I thought I was choosing to be 111 00:05:58,080 --> 00:06:01,159 Speaker 1: like full and glamor and just my own little cool 112 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:04,280 Speaker 1: plan to pretty much God laughing at those plans. And 113 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:06,920 Speaker 1: it was a journey from there. From there, I ended 114 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:10,320 Speaker 1: up doing my first round of IVF, and which is 115 00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:14,360 Speaker 1: not cheap. That's another thing. All of another things are 116 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:19,160 Speaker 1: very expensive. And I'm so grateful that I'm privileged enough 117 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:22,360 Speaker 1: to even have had so many chances that having a son, 118 00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:25,000 Speaker 1: But I can only imagine for families that don't have 119 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 1: the funds to do this. It's heartbreaking. So I remember 120 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:33,280 Speaker 1: going in for my first IVF cycle. Pretty much, you 121 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:35,920 Speaker 1: get your period, they tell you come in two days later, 122 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:40,040 Speaker 1: they do an ultrasound, a baginal ultrasound, and they go 123 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:42,160 Speaker 1: in and they look and they see how many follicles 124 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:46,359 Speaker 1: you have. Your follicles in your ovaries will then create angs. 125 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 1: They go in and they look and they're like, girl, 126 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 1: you know, we're not seeing much up in here. They're like, 127 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:54,120 Speaker 1: there isn't much, but we're gonna do what we can. 128 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: A lot of people only start the injections and do 129 00:06:57,960 --> 00:07:02,479 Speaker 1: them for maybe end days eleven days. Every time I've 130 00:07:02,480 --> 00:07:04,719 Speaker 1: done an IVF cycle, I've had to shoot up for 131 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:08,160 Speaker 1: like fourteen days because my eggs just don't grow as 132 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: rapidly or as large as they would expect, so they 133 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:13,560 Speaker 1: end up going through this whole cycle. The first time 134 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:15,280 Speaker 1: I do it, they pretty much call me and tell me. 135 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 1: Funny enough, I was in the hair salon under a 136 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 1: dryer getting some prolos done. The doctor calls me and 137 00:07:21,360 --> 00:07:23,800 Speaker 1: he's like, we're so sorry, like your first cycle, like 138 00:07:23,840 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 1: you got nothing? What? And I was like why, like 139 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:31,320 Speaker 1: like wait, I'm like I was like thrown off. I 140 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 1: was so excited for this call because I thought they 141 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 1: were going to tell me like you have two girls, 142 00:07:34,880 --> 00:07:36,920 Speaker 1: you have a boy, you have like what did I do? 143 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:40,480 Speaker 1: Another fun fact you can't choose the sex of your babies, 144 00:07:40,520 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 1: which is something else I thought you could do. I 145 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 1: thought I could pick the sex of my children. You 146 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 1: cannot choose the sex of your babies, but you can 147 00:07:48,800 --> 00:07:51,280 Speaker 1: choose what you end up implanting. But you can't pull 148 00:07:51,640 --> 00:07:54,120 Speaker 1: from what you don't have. So let's say I ended 149 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:58,320 Speaker 1: up fertilizing four eggs and they all got fertilized with 150 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:01,320 Speaker 1: my husband's sperm. Led say, all four of them ended 151 00:08:01,400 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 1: up being boys. I can't make You can't make them, right, Okay? Yeah, 152 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:10,120 Speaker 1: it's like what comes out is what comes out? Right? Well, 153 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:13,240 Speaker 1: you get two girls and two boys, you can say, oh, 154 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:15,800 Speaker 1: the ones I want to implant into my body are 155 00:08:15,840 --> 00:08:18,560 Speaker 1: the two girls, right? Okay? And so I ended up 156 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:22,119 Speaker 1: trying this six more times. I've done IVF a total 157 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 1: of eight times, and all together, from eight rounds of IVF, 158 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 1: I got two girls and one boy. I got the 159 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 1: first two girls, the first one I implanted and ended 160 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:36,400 Speaker 1: up miscarrying at almost four months, which was super heartbreaking. 161 00:08:37,200 --> 00:08:41,640 Speaker 1: And then the second little girl I implanted didn't take. 162 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:46,760 Speaker 1: And so here I am with this one embryo boy 163 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:52,600 Speaker 1: who was actually made in twenty seventeen, it was at 164 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:55,200 Speaker 1: the time. Now it was twenty twenty two. Five years later. 165 00:08:55,200 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 1: He was in a freezer for five years, and I 166 00:08:58,040 --> 00:09:00,880 Speaker 1: had been trying all these ways. I was literally doing 167 00:09:00,920 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 1: everything possible, and the doctor finally told me, you have 168 00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:08,640 Speaker 1: one healthy embryo left, like would you ever consider surrogacy? 169 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:16,960 Speaker 1: And I was like why, like anxious. The idea seemed 170 00:09:17,559 --> 00:09:21,440 Speaker 1: foreign to me, and honestly, especially as a Latino, like 171 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 1: that's what I was going to ask you. I have 172 00:09:24,120 --> 00:09:28,400 Speaker 1: huge hips. I've thought since the day I was like 173 00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:31,240 Speaker 1: got my period that like, girl, don't let somebody look 174 00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:35,160 Speaker 1: at you, you'll get pregnant, like for sure. My mother 175 00:09:35,240 --> 00:09:39,439 Speaker 1: had both my sister and I naturally, like I thought like, oh, 176 00:09:39,679 --> 00:09:41,440 Speaker 1: I'm gonna lift up my leg and the baby's gonna 177 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:44,920 Speaker 1: fly out, Like I thought, this is what our bodies 178 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 1: were made to do. We're Latin. I was like we, 179 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:50,720 Speaker 1: like we does this? Like this is yes? And to 180 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:54,800 Speaker 1: hear this was heartbreaking, And I just remember bringing it 181 00:09:54,880 --> 00:09:58,640 Speaker 1: up to my mom initially, who right now is in 182 00:09:58,679 --> 00:10:00,800 Speaker 1: the room with my son mat in love with him. 183 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 1: Can't imagine this journey went any other way, But I 184 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:07,079 Speaker 1: remember mentioning it to her and her kind of being like, 185 00:10:07,240 --> 00:10:10,000 Speaker 1: why would you want someone else to carry your baby? 186 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:16,280 Speaker 1: And I was just like, Mom, I'm not choosing this, 187 00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 1: Like I know for you it's been completely different. But 188 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:20,880 Speaker 1: I think it was just hard for her even to 189 00:10:20,880 --> 00:10:24,679 Speaker 1: wrap from mind around the idea that my journey was 190 00:10:24,720 --> 00:10:27,679 Speaker 1: going to be so different from hers and my sisters, 191 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:30,160 Speaker 1: and I think they were heartbroken for me too, and 192 00:10:30,200 --> 00:10:32,800 Speaker 1: a little bit heartbroken for themselves. You know, I think 193 00:10:32,840 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 1: they were straining it. I think they had dreams of 194 00:10:36,080 --> 00:10:39,240 Speaker 1: seeing me with the big belly and raternity photo shoots 195 00:10:39,240 --> 00:10:42,319 Speaker 1: and holding my hand while I was pushing through contractions, 196 00:10:42,320 --> 00:10:45,840 Speaker 1: Like there's dreams that you not only have for yourself, 197 00:10:45,880 --> 00:10:48,120 Speaker 1: but the reality is your family has some dreams for 198 00:10:48,160 --> 00:10:51,720 Speaker 1: you too, and it sucks to have to not only 199 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:54,600 Speaker 1: let yourself down, which I felt to some extent like 200 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:57,679 Speaker 1: my body had let me down. But then I felt like, damn, 201 00:10:57,720 --> 00:11:00,160 Speaker 1: I lit the people around me that loved me have 202 00:11:00,240 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 1: been praying for me and wanting this for me down 203 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:07,720 Speaker 1: on all that to say, cheekies, I have a seven 204 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 1: month old son that we are all so in love 205 00:11:10,920 --> 00:11:14,200 Speaker 1: with that we all were there when he was born. 206 00:11:14,280 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 1: I literally pulled my son out of someone else's vagina, 207 00:11:17,040 --> 00:11:21,000 Speaker 1: which sounds wild, but I was gonna ask you, so 208 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:23,840 Speaker 1: you did pull him out full I was full on 209 00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 1: in there. I was in there. I'd be there. I 210 00:11:27,640 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 1: grew up me too, I'd probably do the same thing. 211 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:32,440 Speaker 1: I swear you don't even think about it. I pulled 212 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:35,800 Speaker 1: my baby out. I put him on me, all social 213 00:11:35,840 --> 00:11:40,600 Speaker 1: and everything just and I was so in love and 214 00:11:40,679 --> 00:11:45,840 Speaker 1: I can't imagine it being any other way. And I've 215 00:11:45,840 --> 00:11:48,520 Speaker 1: said this before that, like I remember reading a quote 216 00:11:48,520 --> 00:11:51,520 Speaker 1: that said, the thing that hurts us most in life 217 00:11:52,240 --> 00:11:55,600 Speaker 1: is the idea of how it's supposed to be right. 218 00:11:55,640 --> 00:11:57,520 Speaker 1: Like there's all these things we could have had in 219 00:11:57,559 --> 00:12:00,600 Speaker 1: our mind that would make it perfect. But then you're like, 220 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:05,000 Speaker 1: there's something beautiful about the imperfection and your own You 221 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 1: can find beauty in your own story, whatever that story is. 222 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:13,280 Speaker 1: And my story is not at all how I'd imagined 223 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:15,960 Speaker 1: it would be, but I find so much beauty in 224 00:12:16,000 --> 00:12:19,679 Speaker 1: it now because like my nieces were there, like everybody 225 00:12:19,760 --> 00:12:22,200 Speaker 1: was surrounding. Thank God. My Surgate is so awesome. She 226 00:12:22,400 --> 00:12:25,720 Speaker 1: was like all open to like just a family bird. 227 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:29,040 Speaker 1: And I'm just so in love with my son that 228 00:12:29,080 --> 00:12:30,640 Speaker 1: I look at him every day and I'm like, oh, 229 00:12:30,640 --> 00:12:33,080 Speaker 1: you are such a miracle and I'm just so grateful 230 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:35,480 Speaker 1: And that was God's plan for your life. And then 231 00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:38,080 Speaker 1: going back to that, it's it's we have and we 232 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:41,480 Speaker 1: make all these plans. And in reality, when you surrender 233 00:12:41,520 --> 00:12:43,800 Speaker 1: your plans to God and it's like, not let it 234 00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 1: be your will? Like he was meant to be here. 235 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:49,320 Speaker 1: Ever was the last embryo you had. He was a boy. 236 00:12:49,760 --> 00:12:53,160 Speaker 1: You come from a family of girls, and here he is. 237 00:12:53,240 --> 00:13:04,720 Speaker 1: He's and that's how God wanted it. One thing that 238 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:07,920 Speaker 1: you said that I absolutely loved was that when you 239 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:10,040 Speaker 1: were choosing or you guys were choosing your surrogate, you 240 00:13:10,080 --> 00:13:12,440 Speaker 1: were like, I just I want to connect with her smile. 241 00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:15,280 Speaker 1: I need like there was something about the smile. Can 242 00:13:15,320 --> 00:13:18,280 Speaker 1: you tell me why? I feel like? And I even 243 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:20,880 Speaker 1: see it now. My dream for my son was to 244 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:22,959 Speaker 1: be a happy baby. And I think we hear so 245 00:13:23,000 --> 00:13:25,199 Speaker 1: many people say, like, what is it you would want 246 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:27,240 Speaker 1: for your children? Like if you could think of one thing, 247 00:13:27,760 --> 00:13:29,800 Speaker 1: and most people will say, I just want them to 248 00:13:29,800 --> 00:13:35,160 Speaker 1: be happy. And for me, I had watched so many 249 00:13:35,200 --> 00:13:38,320 Speaker 1: other people like I was obsessed with watching pregnant women 250 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:41,080 Speaker 1: on Instagram. I was just watching people and like learning, 251 00:13:41,080 --> 00:13:44,679 Speaker 1: and a lot of them were like, whatever your vibe 252 00:13:44,840 --> 00:13:47,920 Speaker 1: is while you're pregnant, like they say, like that's kind 253 00:13:47,920 --> 00:13:50,640 Speaker 1: of the energy that the baby receives. And it was 254 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 1: so important, Like I think I'm a pretty happy, silly, smiling, 255 00:13:55,360 --> 00:13:58,640 Speaker 1: goofy person. And I was like, I want, I want 256 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:01,280 Speaker 1: whoever is going to carry my child to be a 257 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:04,720 Speaker 1: happy person, Like I don't want like a miserable person 258 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:07,800 Speaker 1: who Surrogates do get paid a lot of money. It 259 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:10,760 Speaker 1: is not a cheap thing, it is they do receive 260 00:14:10,800 --> 00:14:13,120 Speaker 1: a lot of money to doing something that is I 261 00:14:13,160 --> 00:14:17,880 Speaker 1: believe is God's work. They're like baby angels that you know, 262 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 1: create families. And so I didn't want somebody that felt 263 00:14:21,520 --> 00:14:23,400 Speaker 1: like they were doing it one for the money, but 264 00:14:23,480 --> 00:14:25,480 Speaker 1: I wanted them to feel like it was their calling 265 00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:29,080 Speaker 1: and that they were genuinely a happy person. So their 266 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:32,280 Speaker 1: smile to me was going to be like an indication. 267 00:14:32,360 --> 00:14:36,280 Speaker 1: And the moment I met my surrogate, she's like, guys, 268 00:14:36,360 --> 00:14:44,920 Speaker 1: she's like abnormally phenomenal, happy, joyous, funny. Maybe she can 269 00:14:44,960 --> 00:14:48,560 Speaker 1: cook my baby too. She's like very talkative. So when 270 00:14:48,560 --> 00:14:50,640 Speaker 1: I first met her, it didn't even feel weird, Like 271 00:14:50,680 --> 00:14:53,160 Speaker 1: I thought, oh, this is going to be so uncomfortable, 272 00:14:53,200 --> 00:14:56,040 Speaker 1: like this is and I'm a very private person in 273 00:14:56,040 --> 00:14:57,960 Speaker 1: that way, like when it comes to like these kinds 274 00:14:57,960 --> 00:15:00,520 Speaker 1: of things, like like I'm not easy to like cry 275 00:15:00,600 --> 00:15:02,680 Speaker 1: in front of people about like you know what, That's 276 00:15:02,720 --> 00:15:05,080 Speaker 1: just not my personality. And I'm like, this woman is 277 00:15:05,080 --> 00:15:08,040 Speaker 1: going to be in the most intimate moment of my life, 278 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:11,800 Speaker 1: like the moment I meet my son, Like I need 279 00:15:11,840 --> 00:15:15,320 Speaker 1: to be like comfortable and not even think about that 280 00:15:15,360 --> 00:15:17,160 Speaker 1: when she's there, And it was I felt like I 281 00:15:17,200 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 1: could cry in front of her. I could. He did 282 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:20,960 Speaker 1: skin on skin, so I had to have like my 283 00:15:21,040 --> 00:15:23,800 Speaker 1: chest out and yeah, a lot of people I know 284 00:15:23,840 --> 00:15:26,280 Speaker 1: initially saw the photos. They're like, now, watches this girl 285 00:15:26,320 --> 00:15:28,840 Speaker 1: have no clothes on? And I kept trying to cling 286 00:15:28,920 --> 00:15:32,160 Speaker 1: to them. Even if you didn't birth a baby. When 287 00:15:32,160 --> 00:15:35,080 Speaker 1: the baby comes out, the first touch that they experienced, 288 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 1: they want you to put the baby on your bare 289 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:39,680 Speaker 1: chest so that you can have what's called skin to 290 00:15:39,760 --> 00:15:44,520 Speaker 1: skin bonding and that they can feel your heartbeat. Your 291 00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:49,640 Speaker 1: heartbeat actually stabilizes their heartbeat. You're breathing. All of that 292 00:15:49,680 --> 00:15:52,760 Speaker 1: like teaches them how they should breathe. Like, it's actually 293 00:15:52,760 --> 00:15:55,440 Speaker 1: pretty wild how we were created, Like God thought of 294 00:15:55,600 --> 00:16:00,400 Speaker 1: every single detail. So she was awesome and absolutely the smile. 295 00:16:00,840 --> 00:16:03,920 Speaker 1: The smile was a great indication of a joyous woman 296 00:16:04,200 --> 00:16:06,880 Speaker 1: who has her own she has her own children as well. 297 00:16:07,400 --> 00:16:11,080 Speaker 1: She loves her kids, she enjoys being a mom, and 298 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:14,880 Speaker 1: I feel like I have the giggliest, happiest baby. And 299 00:16:14,920 --> 00:16:17,520 Speaker 1: I'm grateful for the energy that she she gave him 300 00:16:17,560 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 1: for those first nine months that he was here. Wow, 301 00:16:20,280 --> 00:16:22,680 Speaker 1: you guys are still friends. Yes, I chat with my 302 00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 1: surrogate all the time. I'll be like I will randomly 303 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:27,440 Speaker 1: hit her up and send her pictures of him, like 304 00:16:27,520 --> 00:16:30,040 Speaker 1: what he's doing today. And she has her two kids 305 00:16:30,040 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 1: that I became really close with this well, and she'll 306 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 1: send me up the most of what they've got going on. 307 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:39,520 Speaker 1: And it's just it's been awesome. That's that's makes my 308 00:16:39,560 --> 00:16:42,240 Speaker 1: heart so happy. Yeah, and Israel your husband, he was 309 00:16:42,280 --> 00:16:44,440 Speaker 1: What did he tell you about about everything? Like how 310 00:16:44,480 --> 00:16:48,480 Speaker 1: did he feel about the whole process? He is the 311 00:16:48,560 --> 00:16:54,200 Speaker 1: coolest person and the greatest support system. Because even in 312 00:16:54,320 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 1: moments where I was like, aren't you so sad You're 313 00:16:56,560 --> 00:16:59,880 Speaker 1: never gonna see me pregnant? Like like, is that so, like, 314 00:17:00,080 --> 00:17:02,880 Speaker 1: don't you want to see me it's a belly. He 315 00:17:03,080 --> 00:17:04,879 Speaker 1: was just like, yeah, that would be great, but if 316 00:17:04,920 --> 00:17:07,919 Speaker 1: that's not the occasion. He was all about the silver 317 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:11,240 Speaker 1: lining and if you get someone in your life of 318 00:17:11,359 --> 00:17:14,760 Speaker 1: him that reminds you of the silver linings of like, well, 319 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:17,679 Speaker 1: the good news is do you not gonna mess up 320 00:17:17,680 --> 00:17:20,800 Speaker 1: down there? That's a positive be like he would he 321 00:17:20,960 --> 00:17:22,960 Speaker 1: nearly joke from me. He's like, you know that we 322 00:17:22,960 --> 00:17:26,440 Speaker 1: could like celebrate his birth, like we could like make 323 00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:29,320 Speaker 1: love the day he's worn, like, we don't have to 324 00:17:29,320 --> 00:17:32,280 Speaker 1: wait six weeks. And I was like a great point. 325 00:17:32,520 --> 00:17:35,240 Speaker 1: He was shining all the good things. He's like, take 326 00:17:35,320 --> 00:17:37,439 Speaker 1: this time to like be in the best shape of 327 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:40,240 Speaker 1: your life. Why not, Like he was just thinking of 328 00:17:40,280 --> 00:17:43,600 Speaker 1: all the great things that could come from maybe not 329 00:17:43,800 --> 00:17:45,680 Speaker 1: just to make me feel better, And it did. It 330 00:17:45,720 --> 00:17:47,840 Speaker 1: didn't make me feel better, and I'm grateful for that. 331 00:17:48,280 --> 00:17:51,240 Speaker 1: But I have I still dream that maybe one day 332 00:17:51,280 --> 00:17:54,320 Speaker 1: I will be able to carry. I have not given 333 00:17:54,440 --> 00:17:58,679 Speaker 1: up hope. And while I think it's taken the pressure off, 334 00:17:58,720 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 1: I think they do say that when you're going through 335 00:18:01,119 --> 00:18:04,639 Speaker 1: these fertility treatments, it's so important to like, stay calm, 336 00:18:05,240 --> 00:18:09,320 Speaker 1: don't stress. It's so much easier said than done. Baby, 337 00:18:09,680 --> 00:18:12,920 Speaker 1: you are stressed, you are stressed out. And so I 338 00:18:12,960 --> 00:18:17,399 Speaker 1: think there is a part of me that feels less 339 00:18:17,480 --> 00:18:21,679 Speaker 1: pressure because I already have my amazing son that I 340 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:24,280 Speaker 1: feel like if I tried again, maybe it would be 341 00:18:24,320 --> 00:18:26,320 Speaker 1: easier because I already have a son. It's not like 342 00:18:26,359 --> 00:18:29,680 Speaker 1: I'll never be a mother. That makes sense. That makes sense. Well, 343 00:18:29,720 --> 00:18:33,720 Speaker 1: you know what I God is listening and it's your faith, 344 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:35,720 Speaker 1: and that's how that's where I'm at because I tried 345 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 1: IVF and I started last October and then I was 346 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:41,040 Speaker 1: like the second day and I said, no, you know what, 347 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:43,240 Speaker 1: let me. I feel like my body can do this 348 00:18:43,280 --> 00:18:45,240 Speaker 1: by itself. Let me try it. And I'm like, okay, 349 00:18:45,240 --> 00:18:47,920 Speaker 1: And if it doesn't within a year, and it hasn't 350 00:18:47,960 --> 00:18:49,959 Speaker 1: been a year, it'll be a year in October this year, 351 00:18:50,520 --> 00:18:53,720 Speaker 1: then I'm going to go ahead and try IVF because 352 00:18:54,119 --> 00:18:55,879 Speaker 1: I'm not sure, to be honest, if I want to 353 00:18:55,880 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 1: have kids, because I raise my siblings and I feel 354 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:03,159 Speaker 1: like I've kind of gone through it, but everyone says no, 355 00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:05,560 Speaker 1: when you have your own children, it's just you can't. 356 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:09,080 Speaker 1: It's it's unexplainable, like when you feel and that's I 357 00:19:09,119 --> 00:19:10,400 Speaker 1: was like, I need to talk to Adrian to see 358 00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:13,440 Speaker 1: and like now I'm inspired, and I feel like my boyfriend, 359 00:19:13,600 --> 00:19:16,040 Speaker 1: who is the only guy that's ever made me want 360 00:19:16,080 --> 00:19:20,440 Speaker 1: to even have a child, say he makes me feel safe, right, yeah, 361 00:19:20,600 --> 00:19:22,960 Speaker 1: So I'm like, I feel like he'd be okay. And 362 00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:25,000 Speaker 1: I've talked to him about suragasey and he's like, yeah, 363 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:26,760 Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I'd like to touch your belly and 364 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:28,960 Speaker 1: all that stuff. But if that's the way it has 365 00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:31,040 Speaker 1: to be, then I'm totally fine with that. When I 366 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:36,320 Speaker 1: tell you, there is something so dope about their being 367 00:19:37,560 --> 00:19:40,280 Speaker 1: a piece of you and that man you're so in 368 00:19:40,359 --> 00:19:43,480 Speaker 1: love with, and like there's something fun about looking at 369 00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:46,479 Speaker 1: the features and they change every day. Like there's moments 370 00:19:46,760 --> 00:19:49,840 Speaker 1: like when he was born, we swore like he had 371 00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:54,080 Speaker 1: my eyes for sure, but then like as it's gone along, 372 00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:56,240 Speaker 1: we're like, is that my nose? Is that you're a nose? 373 00:19:56,480 --> 00:20:02,600 Speaker 1: Is like and it's this beautiful little human that's genetically 374 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:05,520 Speaker 1: the DNA of me and the man that I love, 375 00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:10,000 Speaker 1: And there's something so beautiful about that. I even think 376 00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:11,840 Speaker 1: when you're like cleaning got guy at two o'clock in 377 00:20:11,840 --> 00:20:15,200 Speaker 1: the morning, You're like, this is our genetic gaka like me, 378 00:20:16,640 --> 00:20:20,399 Speaker 1: this is our pope, this is all people. And I 379 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:22,720 Speaker 1: don't know it just I think there's just something so 380 00:20:22,840 --> 00:20:26,320 Speaker 1: beautiful about it that no matter how the child gets here, 381 00:20:26,359 --> 00:20:29,399 Speaker 1: I think when they're here, you're gonna be it is different, 382 00:20:29,440 --> 00:20:31,680 Speaker 1: I think than raising your siblings, because you're literally gonna 383 00:20:31,680 --> 00:20:35,520 Speaker 1: see a reflection of your love in this child's eyes. 384 00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:39,280 Speaker 1: And it's it's it's so beautiful. And every day there's 385 00:20:39,320 --> 00:20:41,880 Speaker 1: like a new like they see new things, like now 386 00:20:41,920 --> 00:20:46,680 Speaker 1: he recognizes us. So like when Israel gets home, he's 387 00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:51,720 Speaker 1: like he gets so excited his little face like he 388 00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:53,960 Speaker 1: like doesn't know what to do with his hands, but 389 00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:56,760 Speaker 1: he's so happy to see him. And I look at 390 00:20:56,840 --> 00:20:58,880 Speaker 1: him and I'm like, you're you're like my little man, 391 00:20:59,080 --> 00:21:02,119 Speaker 1: Like there's things about him that absolutely look like Israel. 392 00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:05,000 Speaker 1: My son is my husband's manning me for sure. But 393 00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:08,920 Speaker 1: then I think even glimpses of my father, Like I 394 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:12,399 Speaker 1: see like these little things he has my dad's hands on, 395 00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:15,399 Speaker 1: his curly hair is coming in and I'm just, uh, 396 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:19,280 Speaker 1: I'm just so in love. And how has your how 397 00:21:19,320 --> 00:21:21,560 Speaker 1: has it changed your life? I mean, I bet in 398 00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:25,000 Speaker 1: every single way. But because I'm right there, I'm at 399 00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:27,480 Speaker 1: the crossroads of like should I do this? Should I 400 00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:29,440 Speaker 1: go down this road? Should I not? Like a part 401 00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:31,240 Speaker 1: of me is like I want to know what it 402 00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:34,399 Speaker 1: is to raise a human just the way I think, 403 00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:36,520 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like I don't know, Like, hey, 404 00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:39,400 Speaker 1: let me mold you. But then I'm a little scared 405 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:42,679 Speaker 1: because I'm like, I'm so career oriented and so career driven, 406 00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:46,080 Speaker 1: and but it's like, I don't know. Tell me what 407 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:48,720 Speaker 1: do I think you can have it all? I am 408 00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:50,800 Speaker 1: a believer. I think you can have it all. I 409 00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:53,840 Speaker 1: think maybe not having it all at the same time, okay, 410 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:58,399 Speaker 1: but there is something precious about dedicating and prioritizing different 411 00:21:58,400 --> 00:22:03,120 Speaker 1: things during different seasons of your life. So true for me, 412 00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:06,359 Speaker 1: I feel like I've spent the last twenty years in 413 00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:11,400 Speaker 1: this industry kind of establishing my career and Cheeks You've 414 00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:14,880 Speaker 1: done the same people you've You've made a mark in 415 00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:18,439 Speaker 1: this industry. People know who you are, You've done at 416 00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:22,359 Speaker 1: a phenomenal job. People love you. You are adored, you know, 417 00:22:22,440 --> 00:22:26,640 Speaker 1: and I think even though your career is going to change, 418 00:22:26,960 --> 00:22:29,960 Speaker 1: people that love you are going to love to see 419 00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:32,520 Speaker 1: that change. Does that make sense? Like, there are different 420 00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:34,080 Speaker 1: things that I'm going to be doing, and there's things 421 00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:36,120 Speaker 1: I'm not going to be doing. But I think even 422 00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:38,240 Speaker 1: my audience that loves me is like, it's kind of 423 00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:41,600 Speaker 1: awesome to see her in this new gear. You know, 424 00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:43,520 Speaker 1: You're just the things you're going to talk about on 425 00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:45,239 Speaker 1: here might be a little bit different, but people are 426 00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:48,240 Speaker 1: going to be so excited and happy for you. And 427 00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:50,360 Speaker 1: I think you have a fan base that literally has 428 00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:53,200 Speaker 1: become like familiar to you, So it's I think they're 429 00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:55,920 Speaker 1: going to be so happy. So here's the thing. Your 430 00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:59,320 Speaker 1: life does change, it doesn't change in a negative way. 431 00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:03,040 Speaker 1: You have family like me, like I have a mom 432 00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:05,960 Speaker 1: that is scared to support me, to help me. You 433 00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:09,680 Speaker 1: have sisters, My sisters the same way, they rally around 434 00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:13,920 Speaker 1: you and they help you. You have stayed up all 435 00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:19,000 Speaker 1: night long for dumber things, cheekies, You're right, you know 436 00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:21,640 Speaker 1: what I mean. Like, if you just shift your perspective, 437 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:25,520 Speaker 1: people are like, you stay up all night. Maybe I'm like, guys, 438 00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:29,880 Speaker 1: we've partied it and stayed up later and lost more 439 00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:32,479 Speaker 1: sleep than I have for my kid. So it's just 440 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:35,800 Speaker 1: shifting your perspective. I think even I think the awesome 441 00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:37,840 Speaker 1: thing is that a lot of your even what you've 442 00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:41,199 Speaker 1: done on a career level, has been with family. You 443 00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:43,119 Speaker 1: can do that with the child. There's people who have 444 00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:48,200 Speaker 1: started multi billion, you know, companies based off of things 445 00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:52,400 Speaker 1: that were needed for children, like you listen. Yeah, you're mastermind. 446 00:23:52,520 --> 00:23:56,320 Speaker 1: We'll figure it out. No, you're right, And as a 447 00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:59,360 Speaker 1: fan of yours, I do remember feeling that where I'm like, damn, 448 00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:01,560 Speaker 1: that's so cool because when we first met, I think 449 00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:04,720 Speaker 1: it was at a Latina magazine event and it was 450 00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:08,040 Speaker 1: thirty under thirty, so we were both under thirty, and 451 00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:10,439 Speaker 1: I was like I knew about you, and I was like, oh, 452 00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:12,399 Speaker 1: the Cheetah girls, and then like I saw you and 453 00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:14,400 Speaker 1: like I saw we went to the reel. Yeah. Then 454 00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:17,480 Speaker 1: when you became a mommy, I was like, oh my god. 455 00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:19,280 Speaker 1: As a fan, I was like, that's so awesome, Like 456 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,120 Speaker 1: now I get to see her in this whole other 457 00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:25,080 Speaker 1: season of her life and you're still hot as heck. 458 00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:29,240 Speaker 1: I'm like, she's still beautiful and she looks great, and 459 00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:31,639 Speaker 1: the mommy, you look good as a mother. So I'm like, Okay, 460 00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:35,240 Speaker 1: well I can probably do that too, you know. I 461 00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:38,080 Speaker 1: think The thing that I also recognize is that a 462 00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:41,919 Speaker 1: lot of what has made me successful is relatability. That 463 00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:46,040 Speaker 1: like for sure to relate, and I think true in 464 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:48,399 Speaker 1: your case, being a mom is going to be no different. 465 00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:51,520 Speaker 1: People are gonna be like, girl, I relate to whatever 466 00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:54,280 Speaker 1: it is that you're going to experience. It's it's relatable. 467 00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:57,600 Speaker 1: So I think Motherwood is so special and being able 468 00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:00,760 Speaker 1: to just bond with girlfriends about it as well, you're 469 00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:02,920 Speaker 1: gonna love it. You're gonna find your little lomb squad. 470 00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:06,040 Speaker 1: You guys have a roof chat. You're gonna be like, Okay, 471 00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:09,880 Speaker 1: the kids poop looks like this today, you're gonna doing 472 00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:13,560 Speaker 1: wild things. You're gonna be like, my kid is supposed 473 00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:16,320 Speaker 1: to start eating he does not, Like I'm like, how 474 00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:18,400 Speaker 1: do you not like a walk out there? Like how 475 00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:21,920 Speaker 1: I'm like this if this my kid? So my friends 476 00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:23,840 Speaker 1: are like, mash it up better. You need to add 477 00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,919 Speaker 1: some salt and pepper to it. I'm like, I'm supposed 478 00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:29,760 Speaker 1: to season my kid's food. So you're gonna have your 479 00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:33,000 Speaker 1: mom squad of people telling you all different things. You'll 480 00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:36,520 Speaker 1: have to support and ultimately, if it's meant to be, 481 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:38,720 Speaker 1: it will be. And I feel like, even though I 482 00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:40,920 Speaker 1: had a child through a surrogate, if God didn't want 483 00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:43,480 Speaker 1: my son to be here, he wouldn't be here. Yeah, 484 00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:46,040 Speaker 1: I agree. I am so happy for you. Honestly, I 485 00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:49,040 Speaker 1: see you, your glow, your gorgeous. You've always been gorgeous, 486 00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:51,120 Speaker 1: and I'm so grateful that you came on and you're 487 00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:53,680 Speaker 1: so open and vulnerable about this process because it's gonna 488 00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:57,080 Speaker 1: help so many of us. And I'm saying us because I'm, 489 00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:59,400 Speaker 1: like I said, I'm right there, and I think you've 490 00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:02,280 Speaker 1: inspired me. Did you say all right, let's try it 491 00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:04,320 Speaker 1: and see. You know, if, like you said, if God 492 00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:06,880 Speaker 1: wanted to happen, it's going to happen no matter what. 493 00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:17,280 Speaker 1: I want to talk about your career because you're a 494 00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:21,400 Speaker 1: singer and I think, like, I mean, I love your voice. 495 00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:23,919 Speaker 1: I've loved your voice since I mean, you were in 496 00:26:24,000 --> 00:26:27,240 Speaker 1: three lw correct and then the Cheetah Girls. So tell 497 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:29,040 Speaker 1: us a little bit about how you got into the 498 00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:32,199 Speaker 1: music space. Is your family like, do they sing? Okay? 499 00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:36,000 Speaker 1: So my dad is an amazing singer, but he's not 500 00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:39,480 Speaker 1: like a professional singer. Okay. My dad is from Ecuador, 501 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:43,679 Speaker 1: my mom from Puerto Rico, and my dad came to 502 00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:47,280 Speaker 1: the United States to sing at a nightclub in Queens, 503 00:26:47,359 --> 00:26:51,920 Speaker 1: New York, where he met my mom. Shut up. So technically, 504 00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:53,840 Speaker 1: I guess would be considered like a professional singer. He 505 00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:57,720 Speaker 1: was like singer and he would sing at nightclubs, and 506 00:26:57,760 --> 00:26:59,600 Speaker 1: then he met my mom and they ended up getting 507 00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:02,520 Speaker 1: married and having us. And my mom was raised like 508 00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:06,760 Speaker 1: super religious and super Christian, so like once they got married, 509 00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:08,120 Speaker 1: she was like, you're not going to be in these 510 00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:12,080 Speaker 1: nightclubs singing. We're going to raise our kids in church. 511 00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:14,920 Speaker 1: They're gonna follow the Lord, They're gonna know his supriesto. 512 00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:19,880 Speaker 1: So my mom pretty much was like, yeah, like that's 513 00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:23,280 Speaker 1: the end of that. But singing in our home was 514 00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:25,639 Speaker 1: like a thing. Like my dad ever since I was 515 00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:27,600 Speaker 1: a little girl. He taught me and my sister how 516 00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:31,720 Speaker 1: to harmonize, and so then we started becoming super active 517 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,719 Speaker 1: in our church. We grew up Pentecostal, so I was 518 00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:39,160 Speaker 1: super involved in children's choir, mass choir. I did every play, 519 00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:42,720 Speaker 1: Easter play, Christmas play, your girl. Was trying to be 520 00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:46,360 Speaker 1: a local celebrity with my little songs in church, Okay, 521 00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 1: and that's where my love of music came from. There 522 00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,640 Speaker 1: was always music in our home, and I was like, man, 523 00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:55,000 Speaker 1: I want to be a singer so bad. But when 524 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:56,399 Speaker 1: you grew up in the hood and you don't know 525 00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:59,560 Speaker 1: anybody or don't know even how do you get your start? 526 00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:01,879 Speaker 1: I kind of put that to the back burner, and 527 00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,720 Speaker 1: I was like, well, I don't even know how I'd 528 00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:08,400 Speaker 1: ever become a singer, but singing in church is gonna 529 00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:10,119 Speaker 1: work just fine for me. And it's kind of crazy 530 00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:14,760 Speaker 1: my story because I went to a specialized junior high 531 00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:18,800 Speaker 1: school called Clinton School for Writers and Artists. The only 532 00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:20,560 Speaker 1: two other people that have ever gone to that school 533 00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:22,520 Speaker 1: is like the Wayne's brothers were known for going there. 534 00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:28,640 Speaker 1: It's in New York City and Chelsea and Jerry O'Connell random, yeah, 535 00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:31,159 Speaker 1: And so I ended up going to that school and 536 00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:34,520 Speaker 1: it's pretty much a school that prepares you to audition 537 00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:39,120 Speaker 1: for those big art schools like LaGuardia and Juilliard. If 538 00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:41,560 Speaker 1: you know anything about the big music schools, they're like 539 00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:44,560 Speaker 1: Nicki Minaj went to look like, this is like where 540 00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:49,840 Speaker 1: people record demos and get their start. Yeah, So I 541 00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:52,239 Speaker 1: went to this junior high school and then it was 542 00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:55,520 Speaker 1: my senior year and they were like, okay, well, it's 543 00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:57,720 Speaker 1: time for you to put your portfolio together so that 544 00:28:57,760 --> 00:29:02,080 Speaker 1: you can audition for the schools. And that's when I 545 00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:05,640 Speaker 1: realized this cost money. Make me getting closer to the 546 00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:09,120 Speaker 1: mic to say that, I'm my big schools money and 547 00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:11,560 Speaker 1: my family does not have the dinetto to be doing this. 548 00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:15,440 Speaker 1: So I actually didn't even tell my mom that I 549 00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:18,640 Speaker 1: was expected. If you're going to audition for vocal, they 550 00:29:18,760 --> 00:29:21,440 Speaker 1: required you to have a demo, you have to report 551 00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:23,480 Speaker 1: a demo, and you have to have a head shot. 552 00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:26,880 Speaker 1: I was like, I can't. I just can't ask my 553 00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:28,880 Speaker 1: mom for that kind of money. I know we're struggling. 554 00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:32,320 Speaker 1: So I just kind of told my art teacher. I 555 00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:34,360 Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I'm going to pass. I'm not going 556 00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,240 Speaker 1: to audition for the schools. I don't have the money 557 00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:38,240 Speaker 1: to put my portfolio together and I'm just going to pass. 558 00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:40,960 Speaker 1: And she was kind of disappointed, but like whatever, And 559 00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:43,440 Speaker 1: I ended up deciding that I was going to go 560 00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:45,720 Speaker 1: to the same school my sister was in. And I 561 00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:47,880 Speaker 1: know you're close to your sisters too. I'm so close 562 00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:51,520 Speaker 1: to my sister. Yeah, he's three years older than me, 563 00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:55,400 Speaker 1: so check this. When I was getting into high school, 564 00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:57,040 Speaker 1: I was going to be a freshman and my sister 565 00:29:57,160 --> 00:29:59,440 Speaker 1: was going to be a senior. And I was like, boom, 566 00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:02,200 Speaker 1: this is a genius idea. I'm gonna be able to 567 00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:05,080 Speaker 1: like get in mingle fit in. I'll hopefully be popular. 568 00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:08,480 Speaker 1: And the thing is, my sister wanted to be a nurse, 569 00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:11,240 Speaker 1: which she ended up becoming. And I was like, you 570 00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:13,320 Speaker 1: know what, I'll just follow in my sister's footsteps and 571 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:16,160 Speaker 1: I'll go to this specialized high school for medicine. And 572 00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:19,000 Speaker 1: it was called Health Professions and Human Services. I know 573 00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,960 Speaker 1: this sounds like it's going in a random direction. No, 574 00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:24,360 Speaker 1: no tell me. I am so interested. No, no tell us. 575 00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:28,480 Speaker 1: I end up going to a medical school and I'm like, 576 00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:32,680 Speaker 1: you know what, I'm just gonna maybe become like crazy enough. 577 00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:35,880 Speaker 1: I wanted to be an obstetrician. I was obsessed with babies, 578 00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:39,200 Speaker 1: and I was like, I will just sing the babies 579 00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:42,400 Speaker 1: out of the womb, whatever it'll work. I'm gonna put 580 00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:44,320 Speaker 1: singing on the back burner. Let me do something that 581 00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:48,080 Speaker 1: seems more realistic, and I'm gonna go to this specialized 582 00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:51,800 Speaker 1: medical high school. Well, my second year, when you're a sophomore, 583 00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:54,760 Speaker 1: they require you to do an internship. The school is 584 00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:57,959 Speaker 1: directly across the street from a hospital called Beth Israel 585 00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:02,719 Speaker 1: in New York, and you do internships there. My internship 586 00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:05,400 Speaker 1: was literally like filing paperwork, like people would come in 587 00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:07,360 Speaker 1: and I had to work at the hospital. It was 588 00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:09,680 Speaker 1: part of my grade and I was just filing and 589 00:31:09,760 --> 00:31:12,360 Speaker 1: this guy walks in one day. I will never forget. 590 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:16,840 Speaker 1: His name was Reggie. I have literally never seen this 591 00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:20,560 Speaker 1: man again. It's been well over twenty something years. He 592 00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:23,080 Speaker 1: walked in. He had like a broken leg and a 593 00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:27,240 Speaker 1: cane and was like, what up? Man? You sing? Shut up? 594 00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:32,520 Speaker 1: And I was like wait, like what Like? I turned around, 595 00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:35,440 Speaker 1: I was filing. He's like, you sing and I was like, 596 00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:40,800 Speaker 1: what do you want to hear I do? I was like, 597 00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:43,040 Speaker 1: I can't hit you with a Sasa jam. I can 598 00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,080 Speaker 1: hit you with a pop song. You want to hear 599 00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:47,520 Speaker 1: a little Lauren Hill? His eyes on the sparrow, I 600 00:31:47,640 --> 00:31:51,520 Speaker 1: got you love it? And he was like, I know 601 00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:56,080 Speaker 1: this manager that's putting together a little girl group. He's like, 602 00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:57,880 Speaker 1: you know, if you can get I know a lot 603 00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:01,000 Speaker 1: of you girls intern from the high school here, can 604 00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:03,200 Speaker 1: you get me a group of girls from your high 605 00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:06,200 Speaker 1: school to come audition for this girl group, and I 606 00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:09,000 Speaker 1: was like, Reggie, I got you, and he gave me 607 00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:12,240 Speaker 1: his business card and I went to Jim class and 608 00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:13,760 Speaker 1: I knew that there was one girl I had bird 609 00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:16,480 Speaker 1: singing in the locker room named Jennifer, and another girl's 610 00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:19,360 Speaker 1: name was Jamie who sang in Brooklyn Tabernacle Choir. So 611 00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:22,920 Speaker 1: I just low random girls and I'm like, guns, there's 612 00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:26,440 Speaker 1: this guy. He's putting together a girl group. Can we 613 00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:29,000 Speaker 1: try to go together to the audition? And sure enough, 614 00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:33,720 Speaker 1: that guy took me into the first audition, which was 615 00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:35,680 Speaker 1: it actually gets a little weirder. He told us he 616 00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:37,960 Speaker 1: wanted to hear us sing first, and I had to 617 00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:40,280 Speaker 1: meet him outside of Yankee Stadium in the Bronx. I 618 00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:46,880 Speaker 1: do not recommend young girls doing this decision, but we 619 00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:48,600 Speaker 1: ended up singing for him. He was like, you guys 620 00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:51,400 Speaker 1: are good enough to audition. He gave us the information, 621 00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,440 Speaker 1: he cleared us, and I went to that audition and 622 00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:58,280 Speaker 1: that was for three LW. I met Healy at that audition, 623 00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:02,320 Speaker 1: her mom, her on the managers and the production company 624 00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:04,920 Speaker 1: who put three ll W together. How old were you? 625 00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:08,000 Speaker 1: I was fourteen going on fifteen, or maybe I was already. 626 00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:11,640 Speaker 1: I might have already just turned fifteen. Okay, oh my gosh, 627 00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:16,200 Speaker 1: that's crazy and I'll never forget. Like I sang at 628 00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:18,280 Speaker 1: the audition, The first song I sang was his Eyes 629 00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:20,520 Speaker 1: on the Sparrow, like Lauren Hill from Sister Act two. 630 00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:25,280 Speaker 1: H Yes, I say that. And then they were like, 631 00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:27,840 Speaker 1: do you know any songs in Spanish? Which is what 632 00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:31,840 Speaker 1: I really loved in that moment. And if there's anything 633 00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:34,920 Speaker 1: I can say to people is be so proud of 634 00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:38,480 Speaker 1: your culture and like rep as hard as you can, because, 635 00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:40,920 Speaker 1: let me tell you, as much as we think sometimes 636 00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:43,720 Speaker 1: that is going to hold us back, I do not 637 00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:46,400 Speaker 1: believe that all. I think that authenticity is what has 638 00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:50,160 Speaker 1: absolutely opened the doors for me and my career. Because 639 00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:54,360 Speaker 1: one of the girls was Dominican that was auditioning, and 640 00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:58,440 Speaker 1: I remember them being like, there's this huge Latin explosion happening. 641 00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:03,520 Speaker 1: It literally was nineteen ninety nine and Ricky Martin s J. 642 00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:07,800 Speaker 1: This was that time of the huge explosion in music, 643 00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:10,560 Speaker 1: and I know specifically they were looking to put a 644 00:34:10,640 --> 00:34:13,240 Speaker 1: Latina in the girl group and the other girl was Dominican, 645 00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:14,640 Speaker 1: and they asked both of us, They're like, do you 646 00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:18,400 Speaker 1: guys sing in Spanish? And I remember her going beati 647 00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:23,040 Speaker 1: beatie bomb bomb but kind of like being sarcastic, yeah, 648 00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:25,520 Speaker 1: and being like ill, like I don't know Spanish songs, 649 00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:29,000 Speaker 1: And in that moment I was like, oh please, while 650 00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:32,759 Speaker 1: I break out all full Brasciosa by Mark Anthony, I 651 00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:35,520 Speaker 1: was like, yo, Sin, look at SOT like I'm full 652 00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:40,759 Speaker 1: on broke out and ye and hands down. I know that, 653 00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:42,920 Speaker 1: I know that, I know that. That's the reason I 654 00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:46,120 Speaker 1: got in the group. Oh my gosh, as you we 655 00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:50,160 Speaker 1: gotta do something together musically in Spanish. You and I 656 00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:53,480 Speaker 1: die we needed Okay, we're leaving it here on cheekis 657 00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:55,960 Speaker 1: and show it's happening, you guys, she said it. Imagine 658 00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:58,879 Speaker 1: us doing Oh girl, i'd be honor. Oh my god, 659 00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:01,719 Speaker 1: I'm so excited. Well, thank you, Okay, Okay, for sure 660 00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:04,680 Speaker 1: we'll talk after, but like, I'm so excited. That's awesome. 661 00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:07,560 Speaker 1: Oh my god. I honestly I had no idea about this, Adrian, Like, 662 00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,279 Speaker 1: that's crazy. It's like when it's meant for you, when 663 00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:13,000 Speaker 1: God has a plan for you, a man, a guy 664 00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:14,879 Speaker 1: and with a cane and a broken leg is gonna 665 00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:17,759 Speaker 1: walk in and it's gonna be God is speaking through 666 00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:20,680 Speaker 1: him to you. So if it's meant to happen, it'll happen. 667 00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:23,719 Speaker 1: I tried to divert from the plan God had for me, 668 00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:26,000 Speaker 1: and He's still made a path, even though it didn't 669 00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:28,200 Speaker 1: work out the way I thought it would have. Like 670 00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:31,239 Speaker 1: he literally allowed that opportunity to be there for me, 671 00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:34,120 Speaker 1: and I truly believe that that was destiny. There's no 672 00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:37,600 Speaker 1: there's just no other way to explain that story. It's 673 00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:40,839 Speaker 1: absolutely random and crazy, but I'm forever grateful. And the 674 00:35:40,840 --> 00:35:43,280 Speaker 1: one thing I learned from that is I remember hearing 675 00:35:43,280 --> 00:35:46,759 Speaker 1: Oprah say there's no such thing as luck. There is 676 00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:51,160 Speaker 1: such thing as opportunity meeting preparation, and the key is 677 00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:54,919 Speaker 1: to always be prepared, be prepared. You may never know 678 00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:57,160 Speaker 1: when God is going to put that opportunity right in 679 00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:59,879 Speaker 1: front of you. The key is that you be hum 680 00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:02,840 Speaker 1: and be prepared to go after go right through that 681 00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:06,320 Speaker 1: door that's been open for you. Amen, I absolutely agree. 682 00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:09,200 Speaker 1: I love that. I love that. Thank you so much 683 00:36:09,600 --> 00:36:12,799 Speaker 1: and I can't wait. We gotta hang, we gotta hang, 684 00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:16,600 Speaker 1: we gotta double date, we gotta record that song. So 685 00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:22,799 Speaker 1: many things still absolutely ever in person. Yes, please will 686 00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:25,680 Speaker 1: love him so much and spoil him. Yes, thank you 687 00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:27,520 Speaker 1: so much, and you, guys, before you go, you know 688 00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:36,080 Speaker 1: that I always finish um the episodes with a quote, 689 00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:40,439 Speaker 1: and the quote is motherhood is amazing, and then it's 690 00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:44,320 Speaker 1: really hard, and then it's incredible and then everything in between. 691 00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:47,399 Speaker 1: So hold on to the good, breathe through the bad, 692 00:36:47,520 --> 00:36:51,839 Speaker 1: and welcome the wildest and most wonderful ride of your life. Amen? 693 00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:53,880 Speaker 1: Yes or no? Does that? Is that a good one? 694 00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:57,520 Speaker 1: I felt that down to my core. Oh well, thank 695 00:36:57,560 --> 00:37:07,400 Speaker 1: you again, and thank you guys for listenings. Adrian, do 696 00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:11,960 Speaker 1: you need advice on love, relationships, health emas. I'm so 697 00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:14,239 Speaker 1: excited to share with you that my Cheekies and Chill 698 00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:17,799 Speaker 1: podcast will have an extra episode drop each week. I'll 699 00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:24,760 Speaker 1: be answering all your questions. Just leave me a voice message. 700 00:37:25,080 --> 00:37:27,040 Speaker 1: All you have to do is go to speak pipe 701 00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:30,520 Speaker 1: dot com, slash Cheeks and Chill podcast and record your questions. 702 00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:36,520 Speaker 1: I can't wait to hear from you. This is a 703 00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:41,080 Speaker 1: production of iHeartRadio and the Michael Dura podcast Network. Follow 704 00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:43,799 Speaker 1: us on Instagram at Michael Dura Podcasts and follow me 705 00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:48,600 Speaker 1: Cheekies That's c hi Quis. 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