1 00:00:08,240 --> 00:00:10,840 Speaker 1: What's up, guys. Hope you're having a good weekend. Sunday Sampler. 2 00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:12,560 Speaker 1: Some highlights from some of the podcasts that you may 3 00:00:12,560 --> 00:00:15,080 Speaker 1: have missed. The Bobby Cast, Four Things with Amy Brown, 4 00:00:15,160 --> 00:00:18,360 Speaker 1: Sore Losers Movie, Mike's Movie podcast, Get Real with Caroline Hobby. 5 00:00:18,720 --> 00:00:21,240 Speaker 1: On the Sore Losers lunchbox ran into a major celebrity 6 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:23,480 Speaker 1: in the world of sports, and then the guys played 7 00:00:23,520 --> 00:00:25,360 Speaker 1: good dad or bad Dad. You can hear that coming 8 00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:27,640 Speaker 1: up in a second. On Get Real with Caroline Hobby, 9 00:00:27,680 --> 00:00:30,280 Speaker 1: she sat down with singer songwriter Sarah Beth Tate. Sarah 10 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: Beth is awesome. She's also been on the road with 11 00:00:32,440 --> 00:00:35,160 Speaker 1: Eddie and I. And in the Bobby Cast, Riley Green 12 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 1: stopped by the house. It was the longest that Riley 13 00:00:37,640 --> 00:00:39,639 Speaker 1: and I have ever hung out. We're forced to sit 14 00:00:39,640 --> 00:00:41,680 Speaker 1: there for an hour, but it ended up being great. 15 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:44,280 Speaker 1: And the other time it's been very quickly doing shows together. 16 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:46,480 Speaker 1: But man, I like this, dude, I think you will too. 17 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 1: So let's go first with the Bobby Cast. And if 18 00:00:49,080 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 1: you like this, go listen to that episode because maybe 19 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:53,360 Speaker 1: you just missed it, or go subscribe to the Bobby Cast. 20 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:55,480 Speaker 2: Here you go. The Bobby cast with Riley Green. 21 00:00:55,920 --> 00:00:56,160 Speaker 1: Help. 22 00:00:57,760 --> 00:01:00,320 Speaker 2: Do you get any sort of flack for how old 23 00:01:00,320 --> 00:01:03,880 Speaker 2: are you? Know, thirty five or six? Yeah, I got 24 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:04,959 Speaker 2: married a couple years ago, but I. 25 00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:07,319 Speaker 1: Was thirty nine when I got married, and everybody back 26 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:10,360 Speaker 1: home was like, you're broken or gay because you're not married. 27 00:01:10,520 --> 00:01:12,840 Speaker 1: Is everybody where I was from was you got married 28 00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:13,680 Speaker 1: at nineteen twenty? 29 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:14,319 Speaker 2: I mean not you. 30 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:17,119 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, no, everybody my parents and yeah, they were 31 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:22,360 Speaker 1: convinced the thing that I was off, like intellectually or 32 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:24,119 Speaker 1: that I just they were like, it's okay if you're gay. 33 00:01:24,160 --> 00:01:25,680 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm like gay, and if I was, I 34 00:01:25,680 --> 00:01:26,280 Speaker 1: would tell you. 35 00:01:27,040 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 2: But I've been called a lot of things. But it's 36 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 2: like I'm thirty nine and you're thirty five. 37 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:35,959 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that now it's probably at least everybody 38 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 3: that knows me personally has seen what my lifestyle is 39 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 3: like in the sense of how much I'm gone. I mean, 40 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 3: I don't have regular relationships with my friends. 41 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:44,200 Speaker 2: But what about it at home? 42 00:01:44,240 --> 00:01:47,360 Speaker 1: Are they like Riley, well, you know, well you're not 43 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:49,920 Speaker 1: married because at home they don't see probably what your 44 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:50,400 Speaker 1: travel like. 45 00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 2: My mom didn't see my travel life was like yeah, 46 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 2: my mom, My mom has my calendar. Oh yeah, she's. 47 00:01:55,760 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 3: My mom has been really great about that. It's like 48 00:01:58,320 --> 00:02:00,480 Speaker 3: maybe early on, I'm sure she had a little bit 49 00:02:00,520 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 3: of that and was worried about me, you know, finding 50 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 3: somebody whatever. But now I think she just knows that 51 00:02:05,920 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 3: this is such a timely point in my career. I've 52 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:10,400 Speaker 3: obviously been very blessed and I have accomplished things I 53 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:11,239 Speaker 3: never thought I would. 54 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 2: But there's also a lot of opportunity that comes with that. 55 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:15,600 Speaker 3: And I just kind of had in my head when 56 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 3: I was going to sign a record deal to just 57 00:02:17,880 --> 00:02:20,320 Speaker 3: put my nose down and grind it out and do 58 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:22,959 Speaker 3: everything they asked me to do anything I could for 59 00:02:23,240 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 3: a couple of years, which that's stretched into five now. 60 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:29,079 Speaker 3: But uh, I think they get that, and I don't 61 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:31,799 Speaker 3: see a lot of pressure. I think that my lifestyle 62 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:33,320 Speaker 3: is going to have to change where I go from 63 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:35,639 Speaker 3: playing you know, one hundred and twenty shows a year 64 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:36,520 Speaker 3: to sixty. 65 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:39,720 Speaker 2: But what's going to make that happen? Though? Oh, like, 66 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 2: what's what's a fact? 67 00:02:40,880 --> 00:02:43,200 Speaker 3: That's a great question, because I because it's you know, 68 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 3: as you well know, it's up to me. 69 00:02:44,919 --> 00:02:45,119 Speaker 2: Yep. 70 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:49,800 Speaker 3: I mean I could turn down anything I want to, Uh, 71 00:02:50,160 --> 00:02:53,720 Speaker 3: I don't know. I hope it's just something clicks and 72 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:56,359 Speaker 3: we get to a place where I can say, this 73 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:58,120 Speaker 3: is the budget for the year, this is how many 74 00:02:58,160 --> 00:02:59,920 Speaker 3: shows we can go do it. I'm happy with making 75 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:01,799 Speaker 3: this much and this is the career I'm going to 76 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 3: have from this. And maybe that's from you know, a 77 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:08,639 Speaker 3: lot of opportunities not being available that are right now. 78 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:12,120 Speaker 3: I don't know. It's a probably one of the more 79 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:14,800 Speaker 3: scary things about it is knowing that with this type 80 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:17,640 Speaker 3: of travel schedule and lifestyle, I don't really have much 81 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:20,519 Speaker 3: chance of beating somebody, and how much things are gonna 82 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:22,200 Speaker 3: have to slow down for me to get to that place. 83 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:22,520 Speaker 4: You know. 84 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:25,080 Speaker 2: It's also a momentum based industry very much. 85 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 3: It's such a battle to stay relevant right probably now 86 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 3: more than ever because of all the avenues of new 87 00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 3: music and a new artist discovery or whatever that is. 88 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:35,840 Speaker 1: So it feels like if you let up by letting 89 00:03:35,920 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 1: something else in, regardless of what it is, if it's 90 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:40,280 Speaker 1: you want to go away for three months to hunt, 91 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 1: or if you want to have a serious relationship, like 92 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:44,040 Speaker 1: you're like, well, if I have dedicated this is the 93 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 1: struggle that I went through. If I dedicate my time 94 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 1: to this, then this is going to suffer. And so 95 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 1: I was never going to get married. Just I was 96 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 1: just like, you know what, I'm never gonna have time 97 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:55,880 Speaker 1: for it because I also I feel like I am 98 00:03:56,000 --> 00:03:58,480 Speaker 1: I have a huge imposter syndrome, and like, if I 99 00:03:58,520 --> 00:04:00,520 Speaker 1: don't keep going, I'm never going to get back to 100 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 1: this level. And then I met my wife and it 101 00:04:02,640 --> 00:04:04,520 Speaker 1: was like she kind of bost me out of it, 102 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 1: and for the first time ever, I let her because 103 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 1: I was happy that I met a person that as 104 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:13,160 Speaker 1: much as I was annoyed by it, I was more 105 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:16,720 Speaker 1: annoyed by the fact that maybe she wouldn't be there. 106 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: And it was the only time and I dated. But 107 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 1: I mean it was you know, I had my move 108 00:04:22,600 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 1: to Nashville. Holy crap, I never got girls, and I 109 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 1: got all the girls at once that it was so 110 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:30,520 Speaker 1: it was wild, and then it was this is weird. 111 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 1: And then I was like, I'm never getting married. 112 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:32,479 Speaker 2: Who cares? 113 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 1: And then I met my wife and I was like, man, 114 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:37,159 Speaker 1: I really don't want to slow down. But worse than that, 115 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: I don't want to like lose her. That's whomever I 116 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:43,720 Speaker 1: don't even know, you're You're you never married, right, never 117 00:04:43,760 --> 00:04:46,280 Speaker 1: married anything. That's what we because you're not going to 118 00:04:46,320 --> 00:04:48,119 Speaker 1: ever go. I only want to make this much money 119 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:48,479 Speaker 1: this year. 120 00:04:49,200 --> 00:04:52,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, I just uh, you know, it's a really funny 121 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:54,560 Speaker 3: thing to say, probably to my buddies back home from 122 00:04:54,600 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 3: now side looking in, because they're like, oh, man, rather 123 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 3: meets but where do you really meet a girl at? 124 00:04:58,040 --> 00:04:59,040 Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Where do you get to 125 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:01,039 Speaker 2: invest time in a human exactly? 126 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:01,839 Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah. 127 00:05:01,920 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 3: And and you know social media is probably whereas some 128 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:08,200 Speaker 3: people would use that to meet people, it's the opposite 129 00:05:08,200 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 3: for me because how do you really use that, you know, 130 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 3: with what I do for a living. 131 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:16,240 Speaker 2: So it's it's an interesting thing. Like I said, I've uh, 132 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:16,840 Speaker 2: I mean I. 133 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:18,440 Speaker 1: Used it, but it wasn't for good Yeah, Like I 134 00:05:18,520 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 1: used it, but it. 135 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:21,640 Speaker 3: Wasn't for meeting somebody to marry, right, It wasn't like 136 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:24,880 Speaker 3: long term investing. The girls I've met on Instagram probably 137 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:28,279 Speaker 3: watched wrestling, and mom probably let them watch wrestling, so 138 00:05:28,680 --> 00:05:30,279 Speaker 3: it would never work, or they were wrestlers. 139 00:05:30,880 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 2: Uh. 140 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:34,720 Speaker 3: But no, I've I've had a couple of years where 141 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 3: we've said, man, let's take off November and and and 142 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:39,800 Speaker 3: let me you know, go hunt just kind of disconnect 143 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 3: and write whatever, and we've never taken one off, so 144 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:45,400 Speaker 3: it'll it'll it'll be that. I think that I've I've 145 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 3: guaranteed myself a career that's more than I've ever thought 146 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 3: I would have. 147 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:50,480 Speaker 2: Uh. 148 00:05:50,880 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 3: But at the same time, there's just so much opportunity, 149 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:55,839 Speaker 3: and I think the only thing that makes me nervous 150 00:05:55,839 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 3: about my career is not making the absolute most of it, 151 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:02,560 Speaker 3: you know, not getting every opportunity that I can. 152 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:05,279 Speaker 1: But you're never gonna get every opportunity can You're never 153 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:07,880 Speaker 1: gonna be able to get to every opportunity I had to. 154 00:06:08,040 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 2: I don't know if you if you go to therapy 155 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:11,880 Speaker 2: at all, but god dango, this was I. 156 00:06:11,839 --> 00:06:15,719 Speaker 1: Know it's probably what this is therapy because I go 157 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:18,200 Speaker 1: to like have we go to a couple's counselor and 158 00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:20,160 Speaker 1: I go to my own and he was like, because 159 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:22,599 Speaker 1: I would say that, and I'm a little older than you, 160 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 1: so I would be like, if I don't take advantage 161 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:27,120 Speaker 1: of everything, and he's like, you'll. 162 00:06:26,960 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 2: Never be able to take advantage of everything. It doesn't matter. 163 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:31,200 Speaker 1: You're you're running on a hamster wheel that you can 164 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: never get to go fast enough to actually matter. 165 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:35,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that it's a little bit of an 166 00:06:35,480 --> 00:06:39,800 Speaker 3: overthinking type thing. I will say, I'm mindful that there's 167 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 3: nothing that I feel like I'm gonna miss if that 168 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:46,560 Speaker 3: makes sense, Like if my career panned out right now 169 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 3: and it is what it is, I can go play 170 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 3: shows for the next fifteen years. I would still be 171 00:06:50,760 --> 00:06:52,840 Speaker 3: very excited about that. So it's not like I'm gonna 172 00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 3: be leaving something on the table. I just know there's 173 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:58,000 Speaker 3: opportunity right now. And it's almost like, I'm sure you 174 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 3: were the same way. When I'm sitting around, I'm thinking, man, 175 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:04,400 Speaker 3: what could I be doing nothing? That's pretty tough to 176 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:06,719 Speaker 3: explain to a girl. Let's say you've gone on a 177 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:09,159 Speaker 3: couple of days with and she wants to know why 178 00:07:09,400 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 3: you have a day off and you want to go 179 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 3: right or you want to go do this or that, 180 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 3: you know, And for me it was hunting. That was 181 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 3: a really hard thing to explain, Like why would you 182 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:19,080 Speaker 3: want to go sit in the woods by yourself after 183 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 3: being on the road for eighty days this year and 184 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:24,120 Speaker 3: I haven't found the answer to that? 185 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 5: Be kind, good, kind. 186 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:43,000 Speaker 6: Cast up man, little food for your So life ain't 187 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:47,160 Speaker 6: Oh it's pretty bad, Hey, it's pretty beautiful man life 188 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:53,200 Speaker 6: a little more exciting because said he can't cut your 189 00:07:53,360 --> 00:07:56,920 Speaker 6: kicking up with Full Thing with Amy Brown. 190 00:07:57,400 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 7: Hey, it's Amy Brown from four Things with Amy Brown, 191 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 7: and here's what we talked about this week on my podcast. 192 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:06,960 Speaker 7: The first thing that we're going to do here is 193 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 7: messing up at work and like how to not let 194 00:08:10,200 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 7: it completely get you down. Because I just messed up 195 00:08:14,200 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 7: big time on the podcast. I thought it was just 196 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 7: going to be between me and Morgan Massingale, who was 197 00:08:19,320 --> 00:08:21,360 Speaker 7: my guest, and it was actually for the fifth Thing 198 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:23,800 Speaker 7: earlier this week. She ended up not being my guest. 199 00:08:23,840 --> 00:08:26,760 Speaker 7: If you listened to that, you didn't hear her because well, 200 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:28,800 Speaker 7: we recorded it in Bobby's office, which is where we 201 00:08:28,840 --> 00:08:31,240 Speaker 7: are right now, and she shared a lot about her 202 00:08:31,320 --> 00:08:35,360 Speaker 7: dating life. Well, I did not have her microphone up 203 00:08:35,960 --> 00:08:38,720 Speaker 7: and so the audio is just me, so that's not 204 00:08:38,720 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 7: gonna work. So I thought, well, this is just between 205 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 7: me and Houston, my producer, and Morgan. I informed her 206 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:48,240 Speaker 7: and she was like, oh good, because I feel like 207 00:08:48,280 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 7: I overshared, so maybe this is a good thing. So 208 00:08:51,720 --> 00:08:55,000 Speaker 7: Lunchbox found out about it, and then he brought it 209 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:59,199 Speaker 7: to the Bobby Bone Show yesterday. As a bonehead story 210 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:03,200 Speaker 7: of the day, and I thought, okay, well now everybody 211 00:09:03,240 --> 00:09:06,640 Speaker 7: knows and I feel as though I am a professional 212 00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:09,319 Speaker 7: in this field. I've been a radio for almost eighteen years. 213 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:11,480 Speaker 7: I should know what I'm doing. I should check levels 214 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:14,760 Speaker 7: and volumes, and sometimes you make a rookie mistake. But 215 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:17,600 Speaker 7: then when they brought up the bonehead story of the 216 00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:19,959 Speaker 7: day and that I was a bonehead for doing that, 217 00:09:20,480 --> 00:09:23,000 Speaker 7: they brought up a couple of other times where I 218 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 7: have messed up on the podcast. 219 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:27,079 Speaker 8: I'll say, even the best of the best make mistakes. 220 00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:29,440 Speaker 7: Well, so I would love for you to share a time. 221 00:09:29,520 --> 00:09:31,840 Speaker 7: Maybe you've messed up at work, and then if anybody 222 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:34,520 Speaker 7: else has messed up at work, I'm going to go 223 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:38,360 Speaker 7: through a guide to help you move forward after your 224 00:09:38,400 --> 00:09:40,280 Speaker 7: mess up. And maybe you don't mess up at work. 225 00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:43,760 Speaker 7: Maybe you've messed up in a friendship or a relationship 226 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:46,880 Speaker 7: or something else. But it's looping in your head like 227 00:09:46,920 --> 00:09:49,199 Speaker 7: you're a failure. What's wrong with you? You're an idiot. You're 228 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:52,160 Speaker 7: so stupid, that's my narrative. Yeah, how do you even 229 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:54,719 Speaker 7: have this job? So do you have any mess ups 230 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:55,959 Speaker 7: at work? Are you perfect? 231 00:09:56,240 --> 00:09:56,320 Speaker 3: No? 232 00:09:56,440 --> 00:09:58,880 Speaker 8: I mean I feel like, I mess up every day, 233 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:02,200 Speaker 8: and for me, the thing that has always helped and 234 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 8: I'm like, as I get a little more wise each 235 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:08,680 Speaker 8: year that passes is like identifying it and just owning 236 00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:11,040 Speaker 8: it really early, because if I let it fester, then 237 00:10:11,080 --> 00:10:12,640 Speaker 8: I go down that rabbit hole that you were just 238 00:10:12,679 --> 00:10:15,760 Speaker 8: talking about. But I would say my typical mess up 239 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:19,360 Speaker 8: where I'm catching myself is I say what I'm thinking 240 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:23,600 Speaker 8: out a little too abruptly, well just matter of fact, 241 00:10:23,920 --> 00:10:25,920 Speaker 8: when I'm like, I need to like filter that a 242 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:28,640 Speaker 8: little bit in the trust circle because they might receive 243 00:10:28,720 --> 00:10:33,720 Speaker 8: that is criticism when I'm trying to, you know, get feedback. Yeah, 244 00:10:33,800 --> 00:10:36,439 Speaker 8: you bet so. I mean that's a consistent like, oh crap, 245 00:10:36,480 --> 00:10:37,200 Speaker 8: I messed up. 246 00:10:37,080 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 5: In my head. 247 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 7: This is how you move on after you've messed up 248 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:42,560 Speaker 7: at work or maybe just messed up in general. I 249 00:10:42,600 --> 00:10:45,840 Speaker 7: feel like this could even apply to parents. Sometimes we 250 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:49,040 Speaker 7: mess up and you may be reacting away with your 251 00:10:49,080 --> 00:10:51,360 Speaker 7: kids you didn't want to or you're not proud of, 252 00:10:51,640 --> 00:10:54,360 Speaker 7: and so this could I think apply to that as well. 253 00:10:54,880 --> 00:10:58,200 Speaker 9: Step one, allow yourself to feel awful about it, but 254 00:10:58,240 --> 00:11:01,080 Speaker 9: not for too long. Don't just stuff it down. 255 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 7: Be like, okay, I can feel bad about this and 256 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:06,720 Speaker 7: the volume down on the podcast microphone. 257 00:11:06,800 --> 00:11:09,680 Speaker 9: Again, that's not a big deal, is it. 258 00:11:10,120 --> 00:11:13,360 Speaker 7: However, I respect people's time, and Morgan sat here for 259 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:15,840 Speaker 7: thirty minutes and took time out of her day to 260 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:18,199 Speaker 7: do that, and so then I felt bad for her 261 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:21,679 Speaker 7: wasting her time. But then when all of your coworkers, 262 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 7: who all have their own podcasts, and clearly they checked 263 00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:27,280 Speaker 7: to see of the volumes up, just another little like 264 00:11:27,400 --> 00:11:29,240 Speaker 7: it kind of like whack the mole. Like sometimes you 265 00:11:29,320 --> 00:11:31,400 Speaker 7: get up and then it's like you're not feeling that 266 00:11:31,400 --> 00:11:33,960 Speaker 7: great about yourself anyway, and then boom, you get whacked down. 267 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:36,640 Speaker 7: You're like, because sometimes I wonder why am I here? 268 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 7: What am I even doing? And then that sort of solidifies, like, well, 269 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 7: just whack me down and be like I knew I 270 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:44,719 Speaker 7: wasn't supposed to be here. But that's not always the 271 00:11:44,800 --> 00:11:46,040 Speaker 7: narrative in my mind. 272 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:48,440 Speaker 8: But sometimes it can be sharing with. 273 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 9: You that I have those thoughts. 274 00:11:50,280 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 7: Step two, keep things in perspective, which I feel like, 275 00:11:53,640 --> 00:11:55,720 Speaker 7: that's what I just did a little bit, so you 276 00:11:55,760 --> 00:11:59,760 Speaker 7: can walk through that for yourself. Step three, confront your 277 00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:04,040 Speaker 7: war first case scenario and then let it go. Why 278 00:12:04,040 --> 00:12:05,480 Speaker 7: are you giving big eyes to Patrick. 279 00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:09,640 Speaker 8: So we had some conversation yesterday when we were flying 280 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:14,240 Speaker 8: over that leadership in our company. Sometimes it's my job 281 00:12:14,320 --> 00:12:17,199 Speaker 8: specifically to anticipate kind of the worst and maybe think 282 00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:19,360 Speaker 8: about more of the negative, like what could go wrong 283 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,320 Speaker 8: just in case something doesn't work out. We have kind 284 00:12:22,360 --> 00:12:25,520 Speaker 8: of a quick plan of action, but sometimes in our 285 00:12:25,559 --> 00:12:28,679 Speaker 8: conversation it can come across like I'm pretty negative. And 286 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:31,400 Speaker 8: so we were just talking through that this morning. I said, Hey, 287 00:12:31,840 --> 00:12:33,719 Speaker 8: we talked about it, planning through it. I'm going to 288 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:35,440 Speaker 8: put that back on the shelf and now we're just 289 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:37,880 Speaker 8: going to focus on the good and the positive. But 290 00:12:38,240 --> 00:12:40,560 Speaker 8: I mean, that's something we've talked about a lot, because 291 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:43,520 Speaker 8: sometimes you know, as the leaders, you have to anticipate 292 00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:44,520 Speaker 8: what could go wrong. 293 00:12:44,720 --> 00:12:46,920 Speaker 7: Well, I'm glad you bring that up, because that's actually 294 00:12:46,920 --> 00:12:50,280 Speaker 7: Step four, create a game plan for next time. And 295 00:12:50,360 --> 00:12:52,600 Speaker 7: my game plan this time was before we sat down 296 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:54,680 Speaker 7: to record, I went and got my headphones so I 297 00:12:54,679 --> 00:12:57,440 Speaker 7: can make sure we are all good to go. And 298 00:12:57,679 --> 00:13:00,319 Speaker 7: sounds like that's what y'all do at your company. Step 299 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:03,240 Speaker 7: five apologize if you need to, but don't overdo it. 300 00:13:03,760 --> 00:13:07,080 Speaker 7: I apologize to Morgan. Okay, we're step six, take better 301 00:13:07,120 --> 00:13:10,240 Speaker 7: care of yourself. And I was reading more in the 302 00:13:10,360 --> 00:13:12,560 Speaker 7: article about this, and it was like, if you're taking 303 00:13:12,559 --> 00:13:14,199 Speaker 7: care of yourself, you can be on your A game. 304 00:13:14,520 --> 00:13:17,320 Speaker 7: We should be treating ourselves like professional athletes, like worrying 305 00:13:17,320 --> 00:13:21,560 Speaker 7: about our sleep, our work, our fuel, how we're training, 306 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:25,160 Speaker 7: all the things. And then you notice more clarity and 307 00:13:25,240 --> 00:13:28,920 Speaker 7: fewer errors in your life if you are training like 308 00:13:28,960 --> 00:13:31,040 Speaker 7: an athlete, which does make me think of how Bobby 309 00:13:31,120 --> 00:13:34,199 Speaker 7: always says he's always training like stay ready, never got 310 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:34,720 Speaker 7: to get ready. 311 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:36,199 Speaker 8: You got to have a little pain to have a 312 00:13:36,200 --> 00:13:38,560 Speaker 8: little gain, And I think there's truth in that and 313 00:13:38,720 --> 00:13:41,120 Speaker 8: to what you're saying, I mean, to better yourself. Sometimes 314 00:13:41,160 --> 00:13:44,040 Speaker 8: you got to go through hard things. But in coming 315 00:13:44,080 --> 00:13:47,079 Speaker 8: out of that, you got to identify because I realize 316 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:51,200 Speaker 8: not taking care of myself doesn't allow me to show 317 00:13:51,280 --> 00:13:53,440 Speaker 8: up for the people that rely on me, because I 318 00:13:53,480 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 8: was just going to a point of exhaustion thinking like 319 00:13:55,760 --> 00:13:57,680 Speaker 8: I got to do what I need to do to 320 00:13:57,840 --> 00:14:00,880 Speaker 8: serve everyone and make sure sure and I'll say that 321 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:03,920 Speaker 8: like self righteously, but you know the people that rely 322 00:14:04,000 --> 00:14:05,760 Speaker 8: on me that I do what I need to to 323 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:07,560 Speaker 8: make sure they have what they need and that we're 324 00:14:07,600 --> 00:14:11,120 Speaker 8: having success. But man, it whit me last year. So 325 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:12,680 Speaker 8: I'm learning, Yeah. 326 00:14:12,559 --> 00:14:14,480 Speaker 7: And I have to learn how to make sure I've 327 00:14:14,520 --> 00:14:18,440 Speaker 7: got content for my listeners. They're showing up, I, you know, 328 00:14:18,800 --> 00:14:22,320 Speaker 7: serving them in a way with something which I still learned. 329 00:14:22,560 --> 00:14:24,920 Speaker 7: Later in the afternoon, I had no episode and I 330 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:27,640 Speaker 7: went upstairs when I was at home and I recorded something. 331 00:14:27,880 --> 00:14:31,000 Speaker 7: So something went up and it just wasn't what I 332 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:34,200 Speaker 7: had spent time with Morgan on and so I still 333 00:14:34,440 --> 00:14:36,200 Speaker 7: felt that it was important. But had I been on 334 00:14:36,280 --> 00:14:39,560 Speaker 7: my A game, who knows, maybe I wouldn't have messed 335 00:14:39,640 --> 00:14:40,280 Speaker 7: up with Morgan. 336 00:14:40,400 --> 00:14:41,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, there you go. 337 00:14:41,400 --> 00:14:43,120 Speaker 9: If you've messed up in any way. 338 00:14:42,960 --> 00:14:47,080 Speaker 7: Shape or form, there's your guide to get over it quickly. 339 00:14:47,440 --> 00:14:50,200 Speaker 7: Oh I didn't go back to did I s? Step 340 00:14:50,240 --> 00:14:52,960 Speaker 7: earn back your trust through your actions, not just your words. Boom, No, 341 00:14:53,080 --> 00:14:55,800 Speaker 7: that's step seven. We'll wrap with that one. And I 342 00:14:55,800 --> 00:14:58,600 Speaker 7: feel like I'm already earning back trust. I came in 343 00:14:58,880 --> 00:15:01,920 Speaker 7: with my actions, put my headphones in, check the volume, 344 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 7: and here we are crushing it. 345 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:22,040 Speaker 2: Let's do it live. Oh the two So loser? 346 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:24,600 Speaker 10: What up? 347 00:15:24,600 --> 00:15:25,080 Speaker 2: Everybody? 348 00:15:25,080 --> 00:15:27,360 Speaker 11: I am lunchbox. I know the most about sports so 349 00:15:27,360 --> 00:15:30,920 Speaker 11: I'll give you the sports facts, my sports opinions, because 350 00:15:30,960 --> 00:15:33,320 Speaker 11: I'm pretty much a sports genius. 351 00:15:33,800 --> 00:15:35,720 Speaker 12: What up, y'all at his scison. I'm from the North. 352 00:15:35,760 --> 00:15:37,600 Speaker 12: I'm in Alpha Male. I live on the West side 353 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:40,600 Speaker 12: of Nashville with Baser, my wife. We do have a 354 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:43,720 Speaker 12: white picket fence at the apartment complex. Soon I'm gonna 355 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:46,480 Speaker 12: have two point five kids, and yes, sadly, I will 356 00:15:46,480 --> 00:15:48,960 Speaker 12: die of a heart attack when I'm seventy two years old. 357 00:15:49,680 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 2: Here's a clip from the last podcast. We're gonna play 358 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:54,720 Speaker 2: a game. 359 00:15:55,200 --> 00:15:58,720 Speaker 11: It's called Good Dad or Bad Dad? 360 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:00,440 Speaker 2: About me? 361 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:02,120 Speaker 12: I left my kids in a hot car. 362 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:06,680 Speaker 11: No, it's not about me. It's about a teacher hooking 363 00:16:06,760 --> 00:16:10,840 Speaker 11: up with a student. Okay, she got arrested for hooking 364 00:16:10,920 --> 00:16:14,000 Speaker 11: up with a high school student. She's a high school teacher, right. 365 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:19,640 Speaker 11: The only problem is the dad of the student got 366 00:16:19,720 --> 00:16:23,800 Speaker 11: arrested also because he knew about the relationship. Wow, So 367 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:26,320 Speaker 11: she came over to the house and was like, I 368 00:16:26,400 --> 00:16:27,560 Speaker 11: want to bang your son. 369 00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:28,520 Speaker 2: Where are you gonna tell me? 370 00:16:28,600 --> 00:16:32,320 Speaker 12: This was Crime Podcast of the top one hundred podcasts 371 00:16:32,360 --> 00:16:34,520 Speaker 12: right now in the country, the biggest handle, the biggest 372 00:16:34,520 --> 00:16:36,160 Speaker 12: market share is crime Podcast. 373 00:16:36,560 --> 00:16:37,080 Speaker 2: Over to you. 374 00:16:38,160 --> 00:16:42,520 Speaker 11: So my question is is that a good dad or 375 00:16:42,600 --> 00:16:43,360 Speaker 11: a bad dad? 376 00:16:44,280 --> 00:16:47,840 Speaker 12: Well, originally he knew about it, didn't disclose what he knew, 377 00:16:49,840 --> 00:16:53,880 Speaker 12: then was found out and caught by an unbelievable investigation. 378 00:16:54,000 --> 00:16:56,640 Speaker 11: A Missouri teacher accused us sexually hooking up with a 379 00:16:56,720 --> 00:16:59,720 Speaker 11: teen and the father knew. 380 00:17:00,040 --> 00:17:00,640 Speaker 2: So here's the thing. 381 00:17:00,720 --> 00:17:02,840 Speaker 12: Back in the day, you couldn't tell these timelines. But 382 00:17:02,920 --> 00:17:05,240 Speaker 12: now with text messages, you're able to find when the 383 00:17:05,320 --> 00:17:07,359 Speaker 12: dad found out. Back in the day, you could have said, oh, 384 00:17:07,400 --> 00:17:09,480 Speaker 12: the dad just found out after the fact. Now you 385 00:17:09,600 --> 00:17:11,639 Speaker 12: know the dad knew about it for months, and so 386 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:15,439 Speaker 12: then he gets in trouble too. Because of Apple, text messages, 387 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:18,960 Speaker 12: the ring camera on your doors, crimes are able to 388 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:20,879 Speaker 12: go a more in depth than they've ever been able to. 389 00:17:21,600 --> 00:17:25,280 Speaker 11: Yeah, the reason they got busted is because the sixteen 390 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:27,560 Speaker 11: year old had scratches on his back from one of 391 00:17:27,560 --> 00:17:31,840 Speaker 11: their sexual encounters, and he showed a picture of his 392 00:17:31,920 --> 00:17:34,679 Speaker 11: scratches to one of his friends, said check out what 393 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 11: she did to me why we were hooking. 394 00:17:37,160 --> 00:17:45,560 Speaker 12: Up, And the friend told authorities. Yes, damn that friend man, 395 00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:47,000 Speaker 12: first of all, not a friend anymore. 396 00:17:47,680 --> 00:17:50,480 Speaker 2: That's going to end their friendship. They're now foes. 397 00:17:51,600 --> 00:17:51,879 Speaker 6: Yeah. 398 00:17:51,920 --> 00:17:54,680 Speaker 11: A second witness told investigator that the student's father had 399 00:17:54,680 --> 00:17:57,080 Speaker 11: been told by both the teacher and the team about 400 00:17:57,080 --> 00:18:00,239 Speaker 11: the relationship, and the witness claim to authority is that 401 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:04,520 Speaker 11: the teacher and the alleged victim, you student, lookout why 402 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:06,360 Speaker 11: they had sex during school? 403 00:18:06,760 --> 00:18:07,840 Speaker 2: That's one step deeper. 404 00:18:08,119 --> 00:18:10,720 Speaker 11: I mean they had someone standing guard outside the door. 405 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:13,080 Speaker 11: So when someone was coming bang on the door. 406 00:18:13,760 --> 00:18:15,919 Speaker 2: Dude, what subject did she teach? 407 00:18:16,000 --> 00:18:20,520 Speaker 12: And usually, dude, our teachers always tried to act more mature. 408 00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:23,960 Speaker 2: These teachers our kinky. 409 00:18:25,640 --> 00:18:28,280 Speaker 11: The father said he did not stop the relationship because 410 00:18:28,320 --> 00:18:30,480 Speaker 11: he believed they would continue to have the relationship behind 411 00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:34,119 Speaker 11: his back anyway. The father was charged with first degree 412 00:18:34,119 --> 00:18:38,560 Speaker 11: engagement the welfare of a child. So my question, good 413 00:18:38,640 --> 00:18:42,520 Speaker 11: dad or bad dad? Is he being the cool dad? Like, oh, dude, 414 00:18:42,520 --> 00:18:45,520 Speaker 11: you're hooking up with this hoty ass teacher. Like she 415 00:18:45,560 --> 00:18:46,600 Speaker 11: ain't bad looking, dude? 416 00:18:48,440 --> 00:18:50,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's definitely bad dad. 417 00:18:50,080 --> 00:18:53,440 Speaker 12: It was a high school, so maybe she's she's probably 418 00:18:53,520 --> 00:18:54,880 Speaker 12: not that much older than the kid. 419 00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:58,040 Speaker 2: No, she's only twenty six. He's sixteen, but. 420 00:18:58,160 --> 00:18:59,920 Speaker 12: He's less than eighteen, so that makes it bad. 421 00:19:00,040 --> 00:19:00,200 Speaker 1: No. 422 00:19:00,200 --> 00:19:03,760 Speaker 11: No, I understand why it's illegal, but is he good 423 00:19:03,840 --> 00:19:05,080 Speaker 11: dad or bad dad? 424 00:19:05,200 --> 00:19:06,159 Speaker 2: It's bad dad. 425 00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:10,320 Speaker 12: I mean it wasn't just one time where the dad felt, 426 00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:12,040 Speaker 12: oh man, I'm making a bad decision. I mean, it 427 00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:14,359 Speaker 12: must have been a lot of times where he goes, man, 428 00:19:14,400 --> 00:19:16,159 Speaker 12: should I really can let this continue going. 429 00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:18,040 Speaker 11: On because I'm thinking the dad's like, man, this is 430 00:19:18,080 --> 00:19:20,280 Speaker 11: so cool, my teacher. My sixteen year old's hooking up 431 00:19:20,280 --> 00:19:24,080 Speaker 11: with a hottie. And maybe the dad's thinking maybe one 432 00:19:24,119 --> 00:19:24,720 Speaker 11: day I'll get to. 433 00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:28,359 Speaker 12: Hook up with the hotty dude. No, not that or pops. Hey, kids, happy, 434 00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:30,080 Speaker 12: I'm happy he's getting good grades. 435 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:32,080 Speaker 11: Yeah, there's a dad. 436 00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:38,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, he just looks like DGAF. 437 00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:40,679 Speaker 11: Doesn't give a damn right. I mean I thought that 438 00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:42,640 Speaker 11: was a crazy story that he just let her. 439 00:19:42,840 --> 00:19:44,520 Speaker 2: I don't know. I mean I guess you go bad dad, 440 00:19:44,680 --> 00:19:46,240 Speaker 2: bad dad at one time occurrence. 441 00:19:46,280 --> 00:19:48,000 Speaker 12: Hey, man, take this to your grave. Don't ever tell 442 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:51,879 Speaker 12: anybody about it. I'll hold your secret. But if he continues, 443 00:19:52,000 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 12: you're gonna get found out. You can do anything for 444 00:19:54,400 --> 00:19:57,800 Speaker 12: one time. Once you get to like ten times, twenty times, 445 00:19:57,840 --> 00:19:59,320 Speaker 12: thirty times, that's when you get in trouble. 446 00:19:59,480 --> 00:20:01,400 Speaker 11: Yeah. 447 00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:03,880 Speaker 4: Hey, it's Mike d And This week on Movie Mike's 448 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:07,240 Speaker 4: Movie Podcast. I got to talk to the director of Wonka, 449 00:20:07,400 --> 00:20:09,880 Speaker 4: came out last year with Timothy shallow May. I love 450 00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:11,760 Speaker 4: this movie, so it was super excited to get to 451 00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:14,480 Speaker 4: talk to him about the process of making that movie, 452 00:20:14,480 --> 00:20:16,840 Speaker 4: about casting Timothy shallow May, and I also got to 453 00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:19,040 Speaker 4: talk to Kayla Lane, who plays Noodle in the movie. 454 00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:20,840 Speaker 4: So maybe you still haven't seen the new Wonka, But 455 00:20:20,880 --> 00:20:22,960 Speaker 4: if you're like me and are a big fan of 456 00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:25,760 Speaker 4: the original movie, I think you'll enjoy this interview. Be 457 00:20:25,800 --> 00:20:27,600 Speaker 4: sure to check out this week's episode to hear it 458 00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:29,919 Speaker 4: in its entirety. But right now, here's my interview with 459 00:20:29,960 --> 00:20:31,840 Speaker 4: Paul King, the director of Wonka. 460 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:34,800 Speaker 8: How are you, Paul, I'm really good. 461 00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:35,600 Speaker 5: Thank you? How are you? 462 00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:37,479 Speaker 2: I am great, good to get to talk to you. 463 00:20:37,840 --> 00:20:40,080 Speaker 13: The original Willey Wonka is one of my top ten 464 00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:42,680 Speaker 13: favorite movies of all time, so I hold it very 465 00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:46,439 Speaker 13: precious and after seeing Wonka, I completely loved it and 466 00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:48,239 Speaker 13: I'd have to imagine it was such a hard thing 467 00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:49,879 Speaker 13: to do. And the thing I want to start with 468 00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:54,080 Speaker 13: first is I love the way Timothy shallow May portrayed Wonka. 469 00:20:54,160 --> 00:20:58,000 Speaker 13: Did you have that vision first before he was cast. 470 00:20:57,840 --> 00:21:00,560 Speaker 2: Or was he cast and then that vision and it 471 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:01,120 Speaker 2: came to life. 472 00:21:01,359 --> 00:21:04,720 Speaker 5: Well that's a really good question. First of all, thank you. 473 00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:06,600 Speaker 14: That means a huge amount to me, because the original 474 00:21:06,640 --> 00:21:08,880 Speaker 14: Willy Wonker is is right up there for me too, 475 00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:12,000 Speaker 14: and it's a daunting experience to kind of walk in 476 00:21:12,040 --> 00:21:17,199 Speaker 14: those footsteps. I think when I started working on the movie, 477 00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:20,880 Speaker 14: i'd been fortunate enough to meet Timothy in that kind 478 00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:22,560 Speaker 14: of year where he did call me by your name 479 00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:25,480 Speaker 14: and Lady Burden knew what a wonderful actor he was, 480 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:28,639 Speaker 14: and I really wanted to write something for him, and 481 00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:32,119 Speaker 14: so pretty much from the second David Haym has suggested 482 00:21:32,200 --> 00:21:35,520 Speaker 14: a young Willy Wonker film to me, I was like, well, 483 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:38,720 Speaker 14: that could be Timothy shaller Mate. So there's obviously never 484 00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:41,320 Speaker 14: a guarantee that you're going to get the actor that 485 00:21:41,359 --> 00:21:44,840 Speaker 14: you want, but in my head I sort of went, well, 486 00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:47,280 Speaker 14: him or someone like him, I don't know who there 487 00:21:47,359 --> 00:21:49,920 Speaker 14: is like him would be absolutely wonderful in this world 488 00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:53,320 Speaker 14: because he feels so sort of mercurial, but he's also 489 00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:56,520 Speaker 14: emotionally grounded and slightly unknowable, and he has that whole 490 00:21:56,560 --> 00:21:59,439 Speaker 14: sort of range, and I felt that he could feel 491 00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:01,719 Speaker 14: like a young a younger, Willie want Coral, you know 492 00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:04,280 Speaker 14: Gene Marder twenty years before the events of that movie. 493 00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:06,960 Speaker 14: Like it felt like there's a sort of kinshit there somehow, 494 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:11,680 Speaker 14: but without doing an impression. And you know, once we'd 495 00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:13,639 Speaker 14: written the script and sort of sent it to him, 496 00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:16,040 Speaker 14: it's a nerve wracking moment because you sort of go, 497 00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:17,960 Speaker 14: if it's not you, I really don't know who it 498 00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:18,480 Speaker 14: could have been. 499 00:22:18,560 --> 00:22:20,399 Speaker 5: And I thank my lucky stars. 500 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:22,520 Speaker 13: He said, yes, you mentioned Gen Wilder there, And I 501 00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,920 Speaker 13: got to imagine when you're you know, had this vision 502 00:22:24,920 --> 00:22:27,160 Speaker 13: of this movie in your head, there's all these things 503 00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:30,080 Speaker 13: you want to pull from the original. Was there anything 504 00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:32,639 Speaker 13: that you didn't get to put into this movie that 505 00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:35,159 Speaker 13: you wanted you from the original? Either it was too expensive, 506 00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:37,639 Speaker 13: or it just didn't work, or it just didn't make sense. 507 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:39,800 Speaker 14: There was one bit we tried to do the forward 508 00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:42,920 Speaker 14: role and the pop up thing, and it felt it 509 00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:43,560 Speaker 14: just felt a. 510 00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:45,119 Speaker 5: Little shoehorned into the moment. 511 00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:47,520 Speaker 14: It was felt like kind of an Easter egg for 512 00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:50,600 Speaker 14: the sake of an Easter egg. And and we didn't 513 00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:52,040 Speaker 14: do it in the end because it felt like it 514 00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:54,480 Speaker 14: was it was there for fans rather than because it 515 00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:57,359 Speaker 14: didn't serve the story, so I think. But what was 516 00:22:57,359 --> 00:22:59,840 Speaker 14: so funny was how much kind of went in and 517 00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:02,159 Speaker 14: some of it where it went in, and I'd kind 518 00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:04,480 Speaker 14: of forgotten where it had come from. But you know, 519 00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:07,199 Speaker 14: obviously I sort of imbibed the original so much that 520 00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:08,800 Speaker 14: it was sort of like would come out and you 521 00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:11,880 Speaker 14: sort of go just little bits of choreography and little gestures, 522 00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:13,760 Speaker 14: and we always kind of were aware of it on set, 523 00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:15,240 Speaker 14: where you go, oh, you could do the cane thing, 524 00:23:15,280 --> 00:23:17,200 Speaker 14: and you could do the step thing, and and this 525 00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:19,320 Speaker 14: is the coin and the storm draining, and I think 526 00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:20,959 Speaker 14: some of the kind of building blocks. It was kind 527 00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:24,600 Speaker 14: of really looking at that movie and the original book 528 00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:26,639 Speaker 14: and go, here's the kind of this is like the 529 00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:29,439 Speaker 14: playground you're in now, now go play with the toys. 530 00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:32,000 Speaker 13: I think my favorite shot out of the entire movie, 531 00:23:32,160 --> 00:23:34,560 Speaker 13: Like I'm just a stickler for cinematography, and when I 532 00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:36,240 Speaker 13: see a great shot, I just make a note of it. 533 00:23:36,520 --> 00:23:38,560 Speaker 13: The one shot I made a note of it's whenever 534 00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:42,040 Speaker 13: there's that great silhowere to Timothy Shell, May you really 535 00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:43,840 Speaker 13: just see like the shadows on his face and the 536 00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:47,199 Speaker 13: outline of the hair, how much time goes into just 537 00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:47,760 Speaker 13: getting there. 538 00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:51,000 Speaker 5: One shot probably too much for that shot that was. 539 00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:53,479 Speaker 14: I mean, I love that shot so much, but it 540 00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:56,600 Speaker 14: was it was it was actually a find on the 541 00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:01,199 Speaker 14: quite near like on the day, I think that we 542 00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:03,919 Speaker 14: had the shot of him from behind with the behind 543 00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:06,280 Speaker 14: the doors, like when he opens the door and walks out, 544 00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:07,960 Speaker 14: and that was going to be our hero shot, and 545 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:09,840 Speaker 14: we were setting it and went, oh, there's a lovely 546 00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:12,760 Speaker 14: there's a found that there was this lovely profile and 547 00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:15,600 Speaker 14: chunking through my incredible cinematographer. 548 00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:19,600 Speaker 5: We then went, this is a lovely angle. 549 00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:21,119 Speaker 14: But we kind of wanted to get both and we 550 00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:22,800 Speaker 14: were sort of trying to get it, and then we were, Okay, 551 00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:24,760 Speaker 14: we're gonna have to stop everything and get this silhouette 552 00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:26,080 Speaker 14: perfect because it could be the. 553 00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:27,480 Speaker 5: Shots of the movie. 554 00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 14: And I do remember we filmed it and it was 555 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:32,399 Speaker 14: like we sort of didn't one where he goes here 556 00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:34,680 Speaker 14: we go Mama, and I was like, that's definitely how 557 00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:36,159 Speaker 14: the treasure that's going to start. 558 00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:38,440 Speaker 5: And then there it is. 559 00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:41,880 Speaker 13: The thing about this movie is that it feels oddly 560 00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:44,360 Speaker 13: nostalgic for me. And I was born in the nineties, 561 00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:47,159 Speaker 13: so even the original came out was before my time, 562 00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:50,200 Speaker 13: but there are so many different generations of Willie Wanka fan. 563 00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:51,600 Speaker 13: Do you have the people who discovered it maybe in 564 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:54,239 Speaker 13: the two thousands, the people who love the original, and 565 00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:56,800 Speaker 13: then it's a family movie at the same time. How 566 00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:58,960 Speaker 13: do you watch that line of making a movie that's 567 00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:02,280 Speaker 13: appealing to kids but also appealing to the adults who 568 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:03,439 Speaker 13: are just lifelong fans. 569 00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:07,080 Speaker 14: Yeah, it's it's It's funny how that it is interesting 570 00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:11,000 Speaker 14: because it's definitely I think most kind of like known 571 00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:14,520 Speaker 14: characters and known through one iteration, you know, like you 572 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:17,520 Speaker 14: sort of go iron Man, say you go, most people 573 00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:20,760 Speaker 14: will have come to it through the Robert Downey junior 574 00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:22,199 Speaker 14: iron Man, you know, or you sort of go, there 575 00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:24,159 Speaker 14: will be some comic book fans, but you sort of go, 576 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:27,240 Speaker 14: there's one kind of hero iteration. Willi Wanka really isn't 577 00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:29,160 Speaker 14: like that, as you say, because there's the book, which 578 00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:31,000 Speaker 14: has an army of fans around the world, is one 579 00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:32,560 Speaker 14: of the best selling childrens book of all time. 580 00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:35,840 Speaker 5: You got two absolutely beloved movies. 581 00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:39,439 Speaker 14: And it's it's really tricky to kind of to to 582 00:25:39,520 --> 00:25:41,960 Speaker 14: sort of walk that line. And I guess what I 583 00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:45,320 Speaker 14: realized early on was you sort of have to your 584 00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:47,719 Speaker 14: pick your hero references, and for me, it was like 585 00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:50,639 Speaker 14: the book first and foremost because that's the kind of 586 00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:52,560 Speaker 14: the mothership, and I didn't want to do anything that 587 00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:54,680 Speaker 14: wouldn't kind of sit comfortably with that. 588 00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:57,359 Speaker 5: And then the the g Model movies. 589 00:25:57,440 --> 00:25:59,639 Speaker 14: So in my DNA, I mean, I was born in 590 00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:02,159 Speaker 14: the seven, but I really grew up with that movie 591 00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:04,880 Speaker 14: as my Willy Wonka so and there were so many 592 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 14: iconic choices they made that I kind of wanted to 593 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:11,160 Speaker 14: honor in terms of like balancing kids and grown ups. 594 00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:15,200 Speaker 14: I sort of, for me my favorite family movies and 595 00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:19,200 Speaker 14: my favorite movies probably in general, movies that can can 596 00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:21,719 Speaker 14: appeal to everyone. And I never really try and go, 597 00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:23,119 Speaker 14: here's a bit for the kids and here's a bit 598 00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:25,320 Speaker 14: for the grown ups. Just try and make something that's 599 00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:28,120 Speaker 14: as exciting and fun for everyone. 600 00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:28,399 Speaker 1: You know. 601 00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:32,280 Speaker 14: It's kind of I think my co writers, Simon and 602 00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:34,080 Speaker 14: I we're trying to make each other laugh and find 603 00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:36,960 Speaker 14: things that we find emotional or funny or silly or 604 00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:42,520 Speaker 14: eccentric or you know, touching, and if it works, pray 605 00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:44,600 Speaker 14: that there are enough people out there with our sense 606 00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:45,960 Speaker 14: of humor and sentiment. 607 00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:11,639 Speaker 15: Carne, she's a queen and talking so. 608 00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:17,119 Speaker 2: She's getting really not afraid to face episode, so just 609 00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:17,879 Speaker 2: let it flow. 610 00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:24,800 Speaker 13: No one can do we quiet car Line is sounding Caroline. 611 00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:28,879 Speaker 16: Hey, y'all, it's Caroline Hobby from Get Real with Caroline Hobby. 612 00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:34,120 Speaker 16: And here is a clip from this week's episode. All right, 613 00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:37,000 Speaker 16: I'm so excited to be back with another bonus episode 614 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:42,040 Speaker 16: of Call Caroline, where you the listener leaves your burning questions. 615 00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:45,720 Speaker 16: I have Sarah Beth Tait joining me. And also, just 616 00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:48,119 Speaker 16: so you know, you can call and leave a message. 617 00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:50,679 Speaker 16: Go to the link of this podcast and then hit 618 00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:52,280 Speaker 16: the show notes and there's a link to leave a 619 00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:54,560 Speaker 16: message because I know you got a burning question. So 620 00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:56,840 Speaker 16: are you ready, Sarah Bath? We had a great interview 621 00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:59,320 Speaker 16: on Monday. I think I'm ready, and so now let's 622 00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:00,520 Speaker 16: see what people got to say. 623 00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:03,560 Speaker 17: Hi, Caroline and Sarah Beeth. I was wondering if the 624 00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:05,840 Speaker 17: two of you could chat a little bit about work 625 00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:08,720 Speaker 17: life balance for moms. I think that there are a 626 00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:12,639 Speaker 17: lot of demands on moms these days to show up 627 00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:16,920 Speaker 17: for their kids and their families, but also be all 628 00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:20,439 Speaker 17: over their career and showing up for that as well. 629 00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:24,840 Speaker 17: How do the two of you overcome some of those obstacles. 630 00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:28,760 Speaker 17: How do you find the balance between your personal life 631 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:29,840 Speaker 17: and your work life. 632 00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:33,320 Speaker 10: That's a good question. You're crushing the game when that's 633 00:28:33,359 --> 00:28:35,960 Speaker 10: how you go. No, you go no, no no. 634 00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:40,960 Speaker 15: I I hear you on the pressure to. 635 00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:44,880 Speaker 18: Like I said, I mean, I fully believe that we 636 00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:48,360 Speaker 18: can do all the things that we're passionate about, and 637 00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,120 Speaker 18: being a mom doesn't mean that we can't do the 638 00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:51,760 Speaker 18: other things. 639 00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:53,400 Speaker 15: But I also do. 640 00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:56,800 Speaker 18: Feel like we put a lot of pressure as moms 641 00:28:56,920 --> 00:29:00,200 Speaker 18: to you know, there's the mom guilt either way. So 642 00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:02,480 Speaker 18: there's the mom guilt if you're staying home, there's the 643 00:29:02,520 --> 00:29:06,840 Speaker 18: mom guilt if you're gone. We're kind of damned if 644 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:08,880 Speaker 18: we do damned if we don't, honestly, and we do 645 00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:10,920 Speaker 18: that to ourselves. 646 00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:14,560 Speaker 15: But I think the balance for me has been in. 647 00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:18,760 Speaker 18: Always doing, always doing what I feel like is right 648 00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:23,000 Speaker 18: for Aila, and making sure that she's fully taken care 649 00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:29,400 Speaker 18: of and fully has me or Colby or some you know, 650 00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:32,200 Speaker 18: always having what she needs and that she's taken care of. 651 00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:35,960 Speaker 18: And then letting myself, you know, not putting that pressure 652 00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:41,680 Speaker 18: on myself, and just you know, being present the days 653 00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:45,000 Speaker 18: that I'm gone, being present in that being extra present 654 00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:49,920 Speaker 18: the days that I'm home, Yeah, and just yeah, trying 655 00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:51,640 Speaker 18: to get by honestly week to week. 656 00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:53,280 Speaker 10: It's a lot. 657 00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:55,800 Speaker 16: Yeah, I know, I do feel you in that because 658 00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:58,360 Speaker 16: it was like I feel like my like my mom's generation. 659 00:29:58,400 --> 00:29:59,760 Speaker 10: I've talked to my mom about this before. 660 00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,000 Speaker 16: Her generation was the first generation where they were like 661 00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:06,080 Speaker 16: coming out of the stay at home, leave it to beaver, 662 00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:08,760 Speaker 16: you know, where like you're you really aren't a career woman. 663 00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:10,720 Speaker 10: Yes, you know, it's hard to have a job. You're 664 00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:12,760 Speaker 10: supposed to raise a family and stay at home and 665 00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:13,120 Speaker 10: all that. 666 00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:15,160 Speaker 16: And then like I feel like my mom's generation kind 667 00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,400 Speaker 16: of like started finding their way a little bit, and 668 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:19,640 Speaker 16: then there was like this next generation, which would be 669 00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:23,600 Speaker 16: kind of like mine, where it's like you. 670 00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:24,280 Speaker 10: Got to be a boss. 671 00:30:24,320 --> 00:30:26,560 Speaker 16: You gotta be a you know, you gotta girl match 672 00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:29,360 Speaker 16: the man, the girl boss, Like you got to prove 673 00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:31,080 Speaker 16: that you can hang in there. And then it's like 674 00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:33,840 Speaker 16: I feel like Taylor Swift is doing a great example 675 00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:34,520 Speaker 16: of showing us this. 676 00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:37,400 Speaker 10: It's like you want to have a relationship and have 677 00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:39,280 Speaker 10: that part of your life and that feminine part of your. 678 00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:42,360 Speaker 16: Life as well as being able to carry this big career. 679 00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:45,200 Speaker 16: And it's like you want to be able to be both, 680 00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:45,680 Speaker 16: you know. 681 00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:46,800 Speaker 10: Like I don't. 682 00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:50,080 Speaker 18: I don't feel like I think the pressure comes when 683 00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:52,560 Speaker 18: we feel like we have to be perfect at all 684 00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:54,320 Speaker 18: of those things and do it all at the same time, 685 00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:56,880 Speaker 18: and that one takes away from the other, because that's 686 00:30:56,880 --> 00:31:00,000 Speaker 18: where like the guilt starts creeping in of like oh, 687 00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:03,280 Speaker 18: oh my gosh, like you know, what if I'm being 688 00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:05,200 Speaker 18: a bad mom today because I'm doing this, or what 689 00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:08,040 Speaker 18: if you know what if today I'm missing out on 690 00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:11,440 Speaker 18: being the girl boss that I should be because I'm 691 00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:14,560 Speaker 18: home with my daughter and it's like let it for me, 692 00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:16,800 Speaker 18: letting go of all the labels of all of that 693 00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:21,280 Speaker 18: and just really since she was born, week to week, 694 00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:26,720 Speaker 18: day by day, it's literally like, Okay, here's the schedule 695 00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:29,720 Speaker 18: for this week. It's always different in this crazy industry, 696 00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:33,560 Speaker 18: and it's like doing the things that matter both at 697 00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:38,200 Speaker 18: home and in work, and you know, figuring that out 698 00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:43,400 Speaker 18: with your partner and trying to just truly. 699 00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:44,480 Speaker 15: Do what feels right for that week. 700 00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:47,320 Speaker 18: Yeah, and then not worrying about like the next week 701 00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:48,080 Speaker 18: and the week after that. 702 00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:48,800 Speaker 10: Yeah. 703 00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:50,840 Speaker 16: And like we said earlier, I don't know if we 704 00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,000 Speaker 16: said this on the podcast or just talked about it. 705 00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:56,080 Speaker 16: But you're bandwidth, like you when you do become a mom, 706 00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:59,680 Speaker 16: like you only have bandwidth for stuff that truly matters. 707 00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:02,080 Speaker 16: Because it's like I could just be home doing nothing, 708 00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:05,200 Speaker 16: but if I'm with Sunny, that is very important work, 709 00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:08,600 Speaker 16: you know, because you're with your child and being present, yes, 710 00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:09,800 Speaker 16: and not being distracted. 711 00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:10,120 Speaker 10: Yes. 712 00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:12,520 Speaker 15: And I think you know that too. 713 00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:16,440 Speaker 18: Is like, Okay, So if I spend the day playing 714 00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:20,280 Speaker 18: with Jembo size legos and singing Almo songs all day, 715 00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:22,880 Speaker 18: that is important work to me. 716 00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:25,080 Speaker 15: Yes, that is worth my time. 717 00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:26,320 Speaker 10: It's worth all your time. 718 00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:29,000 Speaker 18: And I'm not going to spend that night scrolling on 719 00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:32,320 Speaker 18: Instagram feeling like I missed out on something because I didn't. 720 00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:35,960 Speaker 16: You're present with your daughter, yes, showing her that you 721 00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:37,800 Speaker 16: show up for her and that she's the only thing 722 00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,080 Speaker 16: that matters and that she has your full focus. 723 00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:42,479 Speaker 10: Yeah. And it's just picking. 724 00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:44,920 Speaker 16: It's like making choices, like you don't do everything that 725 00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:46,000 Speaker 16: you did before for your career. 726 00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:47,600 Speaker 10: Probably it's a lot more selective. 727 00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:50,680 Speaker 18: And then and then other days, I'm leaving her with 728 00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:53,000 Speaker 18: someone that I know and trust and love, and that 729 00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:55,320 Speaker 18: person is present with her and taking care of her, 730 00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:59,120 Speaker 18: and she knows that MoMA's coming home, and she knows 731 00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:00,680 Speaker 18: that she's going to have a fun and I am 732 00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:04,120 Speaker 18: doing something that matters. It is important to me that day, 733 00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:07,680 Speaker 18: and I'm not going to feel guilty right doing that, right. 734 00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:10,360 Speaker 10: I love that. Just being super intentional. 735 00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:13,479 Speaker 16: I feel like that's really the best way to balance it, 736 00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:17,520 Speaker 16: being super intentional, intentional prioritizing what really matters, how much 737 00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:20,240 Speaker 16: time you need, Like I know how much time I 738 00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:22,120 Speaker 16: need to be with Sunny to make sure to fill 739 00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:24,160 Speaker 16: my personal cup and her cup. 740 00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:25,680 Speaker 10: Like if we don't have enough time. 741 00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:28,840 Speaker 16: Like she acts different, She's more emotional, Like she even 742 00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:30,960 Speaker 16: like developed stomach aches when like I was sending her 743 00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:33,320 Speaker 16: to school a little longer, she started developing stomach aches 744 00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:36,200 Speaker 16: of like anxiety. And I'm like, you know, you can 745 00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:38,560 Speaker 16: just tell when they just need to be with you more. 746 00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:39,840 Speaker 16: And I want to be with her all the time. 747 00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:43,120 Speaker 16: But it's like you also have to prioritize the gift 748 00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:44,600 Speaker 16: and your passion, of your talent and your job. 749 00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:47,120 Speaker 10: So I think, yeah, thanks super intentional. 750 00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:48,680 Speaker 18: Well, and like you just said, I think you I 751 00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:51,320 Speaker 18: think you can feel if your balance is off too, 752 00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:54,240 Speaker 18: and and feeling we have definitely had I mean there 753 00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:57,000 Speaker 18: are phases. I think it's just an ebb and a flow. 754 00:33:57,040 --> 00:33:59,040 Speaker 18: You know, you go through phases where you're like, this, 755 00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:01,960 Speaker 18: you got to figure something out here because this balance 756 00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:04,920 Speaker 18: is off and this is not how we want this 757 00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:06,920 Speaker 18: to feel. And I think in those moments you just 758 00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:11,520 Speaker 18: have to recalibrate and figure out what works and what doesn't. 759 00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:15,120 Speaker 18: But there is no script for this, let me tell you. 760 00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:18,920 Speaker 10: Like you, oh my gosh, constant pivoting all the time. Literally, 761 00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:20,239 Speaker 10: it's like juggling bananas. 762 00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:23,320 Speaker 15: I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing. 763 00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:25,800 Speaker 10: Half the time ever, never any idea. 764 00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:27,640 Speaker 15: I'm like, how did we get through this week? I 765 00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:31,000 Speaker 15: don't know, we just did. Yeah, it's just like a hey, 766 00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:31,840 Speaker 15: it's a blur. 767 00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:32,319 Speaker 10: Yeah. 768 00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:34,279 Speaker 16: But I do feel like working Mama is like it 769 00:34:34,360 --> 00:34:37,520 Speaker 16: is definitely it's a constant, Like like you said, it's 770 00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:39,040 Speaker 16: a day to day, constant thing, and you just have 771 00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:41,759 Speaker 16: to be intentional and you're not always gonna get it right. 772 00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:42,520 Speaker 12: You know. 773 00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:44,720 Speaker 16: Sometimes you're going to give more time to work. Sometimes 774 00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:46,879 Speaker 16: you're going to you know, give more time, and you're 775 00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:49,080 Speaker 16: gonna not give your work what you need, you know. 776 00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:51,759 Speaker 16: And it's just like you said, recalibrating being able to 777 00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:53,160 Speaker 16: just like change it all the time. 778 00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:57,920 Speaker 2: That was a Sunday sampler. 779 00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:00,560 Speaker 1: Go check out a new podcast, or maybe you missed 780 00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:02,640 Speaker 1: an episode of one of the Little Samples here. New 781 00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:06,080 Speaker 1: episodes are out weekly if you don't mind subscribe, And 782 00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:08,279 Speaker 1: I know you probably don't rate and review, but if 783 00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:10,040 Speaker 1: you did on these podcasts, it would really help us. 784 00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:11,560 Speaker 2: Thank you, See you next week.