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Speaker 2: Ryan is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up. He's getting ghosted by Chelsea. So in a

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Speaker 2: few minutes we're going to call her and see sha

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him, and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: another date if he still wants one. But before we

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Speaker 2: do that, Ryan was up, how long has it been

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Speaker 2: since you heard from Chelsea?

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Speaker 3: Uh, it's been i'd said, probably about a week or so.

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Speaker 4: Have you how many times have you tried to reach

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Speaker 3: Probably about three or four times.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 3: I didn't want to seem like I was a stocking,

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Speaker 3: what I did wrong. I thought it was a great

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Speaker 3: first date. I thought we hit it off, and I've

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Speaker 4: Why don't you start by telling us about the date?

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Speaker 3: Okay, So we went out, in our drinks conversation, everything

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Speaker 3: was was pretty good, and this came about after you know,

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Speaker 3: us connecting on Hinge. Had some friends tell me some

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Speaker 3: good things about HIMS, so I figured I'd try it out. So,

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Speaker 3: you know, we went on our date and then we

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Speaker 3: went to a nearby park after that.

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Speaker 4: How to go at the park.

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Speaker 3: The park went good, but I guess there was something

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Speaker 3: And so you know, she comes back inside and she's

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Speaker 3: I just said, okay. I said, well, do you want

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Speaker 3: me to order you something else? You know, I can

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Speaker 3: she didn't want to eat at that point. She said, no,

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Speaker 3: I'm fine. We can just wrap up, you know, if

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Speaker 4: That's that pretty big hiccup.

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Speaker 1: She whows you to the park, which is a good

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I don't understand. We went to the park.

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Speaker 3: You know, we had you know, break conbo and I

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Speaker 3: And I just don't know what else happened. It's really weird.

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Speaker 4: All right, Well we'll see we can figure it out

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Speaker 2: Then we'll play a song come Back, and then call

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Speaker 2: her and see if Shell tell us why she's ghosting you,

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Speaker 3: All right, thanks, sounds good, let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Plays on Comeback, get your first Day follow up next.

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's first date follow up,

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Speaker 2: Ryan is on the phone. He's getting ghosted by Chelsea

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Speaker 2: and doesn't know why. So in just a second, we're

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Speaker 2: gonna call her Steefsha, tell us why she's ghosting him,

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Speaker 2: and maybe get him another date. But before we do that, Ryan,

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So kind to Really, what I thought was a

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Speaker 3: great date with Chelsea. The only hiccup that happened during

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Speaker 3: of the night. After that, just ghost nothing gone cricket.

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Speaker 4: All right, you ready for us to call her?

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Speaker 3: I'm ready.

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Speaker 2: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, Mas speak to Chelsea.

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Speaker 2: Please guys che Chelsea. Hi, how are you?

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Speaker 4: My name is Jubel and this is a radio show.

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Speaker 4: It's called The Jubil Show. Hi, Chelsea, I'm Nina also

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Speaker 4: on the show. Hi, and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 5: Hi. Hello.

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Speaker 4: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 5: Actually?

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Speaker 1: Have?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Cool?

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Speaker 4: Really cool? You know why we recalling you?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 5: Did I win something?

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Speaker 3: I hope I did.

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Speaker 2: It's possible. It depends how much you like Ryan. You

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Speaker 2: remember going on a date with Ryan.

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Speaker 5: Oh, oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: So this is a first date follow up the segment

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Speaker 2: where we if you've been ghosted, you can email us.

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Speaker 2: So we get that person on the phone and ask

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Speaker 2: why you're being ghosted. And Ryan emailed us about you, So.

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Speaker 4: Can you tell us why you're ghosting him?

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Speaker 5: The reason why I'm ghosting him is because I'm trying

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Speaker 5: was from the date with Ryan, and he texted, I

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Speaker 5: And so I went to call him to kind of

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, wow.

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Speaker 6: And so I honestly I took the call and after

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Speaker 5: And I honestly feel bad for Ryan, like I just

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Speaker 4: You liked him though, Yeah, I like trying a lot. Actually,

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Speaker 4: it's actually kind of respectful.

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Speaker 1: Like, think about how many people have like X drama

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Speaker 1: like collateral damage. I think that that's really cool of you.

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Speaker 1: But I also think that's something you could probably tell him.

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Speaker 5: I guess I could have told him. I honestly feel

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Speaker 5: like I just it's not fair. It's not fair to

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Speaker 5: and I just don't want to put him in any

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Speaker 4: Oh wow, you think he's like dangerous.

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Speaker 6: Well, I mean I don't know about how he.

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Speaker 5: Will be confrontational, Okay, if he sees me with another guy. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Well, if you think about it this way, though, your

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Speaker 5: To date pretty much. Yeah, that's true. I didn't even

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Speaker 4: Yeah, my opinion, that's pretty unacceptable. But like, how do

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Speaker 5: I don't know. I am really trying hard to just

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Speaker 4: Well, I have a couple ideas for you, but I'll

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Speaker 2: First, I'm want to let you know that Ryan is

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Speaker 3: Yes, Hi, Ryan, Hey, Chelsea, how are you.

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Speaker 4: I'm good to you.

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Speaker 5: I'm so sorry. I honestly did not mean to go

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Speaker 3: I'm so happy to hear your voice. I'm sorry to

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Speaker 5: No, you didn't do anything wrong. You were so sweet.

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Speaker 5: I felt like we really had a connection, and it's

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Speaker 3: There are a couple of questions. Are you completely Are you

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Speaker 5: No? I don't have feelings for him and it's been

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Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely not, Chelsea.

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Speaker 2: I have a question for you, why do you still

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Speaker 5: I don't know. I'm just do you feel bad something

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Speaker 4: Care about yourself. You're done with a relationship with him.

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Speaker 4: You don't need to talk to him unless you have,

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Speaker 2: Feel bad for him, feel bad for yourself. You're not

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Speaker 2: and you're letting your extra control how that issue goes

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Speaker 2: because you're worried about your ex. Worry about yourself. Get it, girl,

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Speaker 2: Well you should get it girl.

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Speaker 1: You should also make sure that your man like has

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Speaker 4: Yeah, if it's super bad, you should do that for real.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I haven't really stopped fully the communication

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Speaker 5: that I could definitely block him. I just feel so

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Speaker 2: Believe me, it's hard. It's hard to not talk to

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Speaker 2: somebody who's persistent. But you ghosted Ryan, you can ghost again.

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Speaker 2: Like this life coaching right now is just you know, accurate.

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Speaker 5: That's true. You know, sorry, Ryan.

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Speaker 1: You can tell she's so empathetic too, which is a

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Speaker 4: Chelsea, But Doubles, would you like to go on another

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Speaker 4: day with Ryan. We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 5: I will love to.

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Speaker 4: I am really like right, what else you got?

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Speaker 5: Like?

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Speaker 4: Just get it girl, That's all I'm science.

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Speaker 3: Thank you. I really want to say thank you. Guys.

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Speaker 3: I'm so much for getting us back together here and

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Speaker 3: so that we can continue on. And Chelsea, don't worry.

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Speaker 3: You know, I'm a big boy. I can hold my own,

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Speaker 3: I can hold you down and you know, protect you

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Speaker 3: and myself. So no worries about the crazy X and

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Speaker 3: come get it girls.

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Speaker 4: Jubile's first Date follow up