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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. Thank you. Nephew's subject we both got busted

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Speaker 1: and can't be trusted. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm torn to

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Speaker 1: pieces over my breakup. I was dating an old friend

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Speaker 1: for two years. I am fifty two and he's forty five.

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Speaker 1: We talked about marriage and we were in the process

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Speaker 1: of buying a home. We were a picture perfect couple,

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Speaker 1: and then things started changing. I would see him throughout

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Speaker 1: the week and on weekends, but lately he's been busy

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Speaker 1: on weekends. Our love making turned into quick sex and

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Speaker 1: only happened when I initiated it. He started guarding his

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Speaker 1: phone and it was on vibrate all of the time. Now.

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Speaker 1: I checked it to see if he had changed the

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Speaker 1: passcode on his phone, and he did so. I asked

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Speaker 1: his son for the new passcode, and he gave it

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Speaker 1: to me. I went to my boyfriend's text messages and

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Speaker 1: saw a string of texts, naked pictures, and sexy videos

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Speaker 1: he could love two women, and he responded that he

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Speaker 1: could only love one woman at a time, but she

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Speaker 1: shouldn't ask him to choose. According to the text, they

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Speaker 1: hadn't had sex shit, but they were planning to soon.

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Speaker 1: I was fuming mad and he came into the room

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Speaker 1: me for going through his phone. We argued and argued

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Speaker 1: for hours, and he said that I had no right

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Speaker 1: no right to, he had no right to try and

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Speaker 1: cheat on me. When it was all over, he broke

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Speaker 1: up with me because he said he couldn't trust me.

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Speaker 1: I can overlook the fact that he tried to cheat

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Speaker 1: on me, but he can't overlook something as petty as

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Speaker 1: me going through his phone. Who really broke all the

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Speaker 1: trust in our relationship? Me or him? Who should apologize?

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Speaker 1: You could overlook the fact that he cheated on you? Really? Okay,

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Speaker 1: let me ask you this, why would you apologize to him.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure that one out. Why what did

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Speaker 1: you do for? What? What are you apologizing for? His

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Speaker 1: son gave you the code. That was this pretty slick

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Speaker 1: move right there. His son gave you the code. That's

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Speaker 1: how you got in the phone. So far, I don't

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Speaker 1: see anything you have to apologize for anyway. You know,

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Speaker 1: you just with this whole argument and all of this,

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Speaker 1: you just gave him an out, you know, by getting

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Speaker 1: caught with the phone. That's just what he needed and

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Speaker 1: his luck would have it to break up with you.

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Speaker 1: I mean, that's what he wanted. This has nothing to

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Speaker 1: do with trust. I don't see this. I see this

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Speaker 1: like you say, trying to cheat on you. I think

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Speaker 1: he was cheating and he wants to leave, but he

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Speaker 1: didn't want to hurt you because you guys have been together.

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Speaker 1: You said, to tease your old friend. You guys have

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Speaker 1: been together for two years. He just couldn't find a way,

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Speaker 1: you know, to do it. So you gave him an

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Speaker 1: out with being caught by the phone. So don't think

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Speaker 1: with the phone. So don't think that you have to

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Speaker 1: you did. Again, his son gave you the code. It's

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Speaker 1: not like you broke into it on your own. Not

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Speaker 1: that that even means anything as far as I'm concerned.

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Speaker 1: The fact is that he's cheating, he wants out, and

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Speaker 1: this relationship is over. I don't think he's going to

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Speaker 1: to flip it on you, you know, just makes this

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Speaker 1: relationship what it is, is one big nothing. It's not

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Speaker 1: a relationship. Now he's time, he's ready to move on,

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Speaker 1: and I think it's time you did the same thing.

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Speaker 1: Steve Well, oh girl, lord and mercy lady, y'all the

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Speaker 1: friends you fitted two He forty five talking about Madge

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Speaker 1: the subject though we both got busted and can't be trusted.

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Speaker 1: But what I want to tell you about this busting

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Speaker 1: that happened, A two different bust, two different totally complete bust.

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Speaker 1: He didn't made joke, raising ass think they're the same. Well,

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Speaker 1: you had a perfect you're a perfect you're a picture

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Speaker 1: you see him every day on the weekend, But then

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Speaker 1: lately he's been busy on weekends. Love making turned into

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Speaker 1: quick sex and it only happened, not initiated. Then he

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Speaker 1: started his when you know he started guarding that phone. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was on vibrate all the time. Now that's all

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Speaker 1: you got. I checked and see if he had changed

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Speaker 1: his pass code. Happy dog gone. He did so. I

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Speaker 1: asked his son for the new pass code, and he

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Speaker 1: gave it to me. What you asked my son and

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Speaker 1: he gave it to you. My boy from my loins,

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Speaker 1: got my last name, the one that I think gonna

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Speaker 1: carry on the legacy. You went to him and he

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Speaker 1: gave give you my password. Somewhere I have failed as

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Speaker 1: a fall somewhere. We never discussed man cold, none of that.

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Speaker 1: But he gave it to you. So you started going

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Speaker 1: through the text message and you saw a string of text,

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Speaker 1: naked pictures, sexy videos between him and another woman. Lord him, mercy,

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Speaker 1: this letter is going to hell and I come back,

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you how deep in hell you actually. All right,

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Speaker 1: thank you, Steve. We'll have part two of your response

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Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour subject

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Speaker 1: today we both got busted and can't be trusted, and

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Speaker 1: we'll be back right after this you're listening to Steve

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Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show. Come on, Steve. Let's recap today's strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: We both got busted and can be trusted. Fifty two

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Speaker 1: year old woman dating a forty five year old man.

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Speaker 1: They've been a perfect couple for years, then suddenly he

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Speaker 1: stopped coming by on the weekends and only had sex

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Speaker 1: when she initiated it was quick. She noticed that his

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Speaker 1: phone was on vibrate all the time. She decided to

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Speaker 1: check and see if he changed the colde. He did.

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Speaker 1: She couldn't figure the colde out. She probably set that

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Speaker 1: put his birthday in so security number. Try to number

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Speaker 1: things that fail so she wouldn't got his dumb ass

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Speaker 1: boy and us his son gave her the cold She

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Speaker 1: go through the phone find these neked pictures, sexy ass videos,

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Speaker 1: and a string of texts. The woman asked him if

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Speaker 1: he could love two women, and his response was that

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Speaker 1: she shouldn't ask him to choose. Then, she said, according

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Speaker 1: to the text, they hadn't had sex yet, but they

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Speaker 1: were planning too soon. I was fuming. He came into

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Speaker 1: the room, caught me with his phone. He started yelling

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Speaker 1: at me for going through his phone. Rule number one.

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Speaker 1: When busted as a man, the best defense is a

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Speaker 1: good office. You have got to go on the attack.

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Speaker 1: You cannot sit there and hold your guards up. Women

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Speaker 1: swing through. God, they're knock your ass out. You won't

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Speaker 1: have a tooth in your head putting up your guard.

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Speaker 1: You have got to get on the offensive. I commend

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Speaker 1: him for trying to go on the offensive. Wrong as hell.

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Speaker 1: Yes he went on the offense, but he went on office. Hell.

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Speaker 1: You in my phone fault? Yeah, yeah, you go up

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Speaker 1: in my phone. You got my phone, my phone, You're

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Speaker 1: gonna through my phone, keep saying it, just keep saying

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Speaker 1: my phone though, Oh my god, I'm so crutched that

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Speaker 1: you would even go through This is my personal stuff.

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Speaker 1: I ain't got no what is you in here talking

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Speaker 1: to this half of phone and she necking in all

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Speaker 1: these videos and you're making these sex ass videos with

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Speaker 1: her in my phone to the phone, different different volumes.

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Speaker 1: But you're sitting up in here and you haven't you

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Speaker 1: told her that y'all was gonna have sex sou and

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Speaker 1: you taking VISU she said, necking pictures to you. All

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Speaker 1: of this is in the phone, in my phone, Jesus

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Speaker 1: in my phone. So now I told him. He said,

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Speaker 1: this is gone for hours. He said I had no

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Speaker 1: right to go through his phone. She tried to flip

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Speaker 1: it back and said, you had no right to cheat

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Speaker 1: on me. When it was all over, he broke up

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Speaker 1: with me because he said he couldn't trust me. I

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Speaker 1: know that's right, Go ahead him, you can't trust him.

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Speaker 1: But he broke up with you and told you you

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Speaker 1: can't trust him. It's the master flip game and you

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Speaker 1: falling for it. Guess what you said. I can overlook

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Speaker 1: the fact that he tried to cheat on me, But

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Speaker 1: why he can't overlook something as petty as me going

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Speaker 1: through his phone? No, it's it's it's not. Don't worry

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Speaker 1: about the fact that it was petty you going through

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Speaker 1: the phone. It what the what you found in the

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Speaker 1: phone wasn't petty? Thank you? Assneked pictures, videos, sex, ass

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Speaker 1: texts playing in the escapade later on on a weekend

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Speaker 1: that you normally had with him. When is that gonna

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Speaker 1: be the real topic of conversation now? Then she asked me,

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Speaker 1: who really broke all the trust in our relationship? Me

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Speaker 1: on him? Lady? What's wrong with you? How are you

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Speaker 1: letting this man do this? Now? Were you right for

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Speaker 1: going through his phone? No, you were wrong for going

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Speaker 1: through his phone, But he was wrong for putting this

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Speaker 1: stuff in the phone. He's stupid that he don't know

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Speaker 1: how to raise this stuff. Shoe dumbass holding on to

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Speaker 1: it phone looking get it out, looking, get it out?

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Speaker 1: And what's here wrong with you? What's wrong with him?

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Speaker 1: And now that he'd have flipped it back on, you

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Speaker 1: went on offense. That's stupid. That don't make no damn

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Speaker 1: soon we got to whoop that boy ass. That's a

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Speaker 1: whole nother thing. Julie Junior, Wake up, dandy, what you're

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Speaker 1: hitting me? Folk? You check your prokass off? All right?

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