Speaker 1: Hey, it's your celebrity mentor Kelly ben Simone.
Speaker 2: Here on I do part two, the podcast that's a
Speaker 2: unique social experiment in love, dating and relationships with people
Speaker 2: that are open to finding love the second time around.
Speaker 2: Today I'm joined by someone who's one of a kind.
Speaker 2: She's loved and just like the rest of us. My
Speaker 2: former co starred Real Housewives of New York and Ultimate
Speaker 2: Girl Strip. She's on tour with her cabaret my true friend,
Speaker 2: the Countess herself low Adela SEPs.
Speaker 1: Hello, Luenn, I love you, Love New York. How are
Speaker 1: you look? Gorgeous?
Speaker 3: Per usual? Good morning darling. How are you So?
Speaker 2: This podcast is all about people that are just like us,
Speaker 2: people that got married and maybe single parents. But the
Speaker 2: one thing we haven't given up on is finding love.
Speaker 2: So for those who don't know, tell the listeners Leanne
Speaker 2: a little bit about your love journey.
Speaker 3: Well, first husband, you know was the count that you know.
Speaker 3: We met and he asked me to marry him five
Speaker 3: days later, but I made him wait and we got
Speaker 3: married two weeks later, and now it's two kids later.
Speaker 3: So yeah, I mean it was a coupdufoo we say
Speaker 3: in French, which is the first sight as you know, Kelly,
Speaker 3: because you speak a little French, and so you know,
Speaker 3: it was just magic. When the magic happens, it happens.
Speaker 3: And you you know, when that train pulls up to
Speaker 3: the station, don't have fear, right jump on the train
Speaker 3: because you can always go home, right, And so you
Speaker 3: know I did. I jumped from my career in Italian television.
Speaker 3: I was working in Italy at the time. I was
Speaker 3: living in Milan, and I said, you know what, this
Speaker 3: is the love of my life. It's time to go.
Speaker 3: And so I left my career and moved to Switzerland
Speaker 3: with him and had my two kids, who you know,
Speaker 3: Victoria Nowell. I was married for sixteen years and then
Speaker 3: seven years later I would make the second husband. And
Speaker 3: you know I work in seven year cycles. It's interesting
Speaker 3: because it is now. So I married in twenty sixteen,
Speaker 3: then I divorced in twenty seventeen. That was the quickie
Speaker 3: and now where are we We are in twenty twenty four,
Speaker 3: seven years later. I manifested that this is my year
Speaker 3: of love and it's just part of you know, the
Speaker 3: rhythm of life. I think there's a rhythm and a flow,
Speaker 3: and so that is my flow and in twenty twenty four,
Speaker 3: I've actually, you know, met a couple of guys that
Speaker 3: I really like. So so twenty twenty four is my
Speaker 3: year of love. And to prove it, I even got
Speaker 3: cast on a show called The Love Hotel. And I
Speaker 3: can't tell you how that ends because I can't give
Speaker 3: away too much on that show, but it's going to
Speaker 3: er in twenty twenty five, and I do find some
Speaker 3: magic over at the Love which is kind of crazy.
Speaker 2: So how do you feel we're both single? How do
Speaker 2: you how are you feeling about sin being single?
Speaker 1: Right now? I mean, do you like dat fucking dating?
Speaker 3: And I say this, I ran into Scott yesterday on
Speaker 3: the street. No, I didn't really recognize it. I was like,
Speaker 3: I know him, but I don't. I'm not sure, but
Speaker 3: he's like hi, and I game an air kiss and
Speaker 3: said hello and then kept walking. But how funny, right anyway,
Speaker 3: So back to what we're talking about.
Speaker 2: What was the question You're like, anyway, just ran into
Speaker 2: your eggs, No, that we're both single. We bar are
Speaker 2: both the single now, and I was just was wondering, like,
Speaker 2: how are you feeling about sib being single?
Speaker 1: Man?
Speaker 2: You said about the flow in the seven years, But like,
Speaker 2: are you liking being single or are you really are
Speaker 2: you ready to get married again?
Speaker 1: Like how are you feeling?
Speaker 3: You know, at this point, I'm living my best life
Speaker 3: in my fifties. I have to say it's the best decade.
Speaker 3: I mean, I love my twenties and my thirties. Forties
Speaker 3: and fifties has really been the best decade for me.
Speaker 3: I'm just living my best life. I love my career
Speaker 3: in Cabaret. I you know, I loved you know, still
Speaker 3: working for the network for Bravo, and you know, and
Speaker 3: I love dating. I mean, I'm having a great time.
Speaker 3: But I actually, you know, did meet somebody and and
Speaker 3: so you know, we'll see what happens. But for the moment,
Speaker 3: I'm kind of taken. I gotta say.
Speaker 2: So, I was going to ask you how many guys
Speaker 2: you are dating, But now you're saying you're kind of taken.
Speaker 1: That's amazing, you know.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm struggling between a couple couple actually so,
Speaker 3: but but I feel like I finally found what I'm
Speaker 3: looking for.
Speaker 2: So did you when you were dating, did you have
Speaker 2: like more loca would like dating apps or is it
Speaker 2: just organic? I mean, you're you are a very uh
Speaker 2: sensual woman, and I'm so I'm sure it's like.
Speaker 1: Very easy for you to pick up as I've seen
Speaker 1: in real life.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: I was on the dating apps during COVID, I have
Speaker 3: to say, and that's where I found Garth, Remember Garth on.
Speaker 2: The last Yeah, right.
Speaker 3: So I was on the apps and then I got
Speaker 3: off because just you know, I like to meet people
Speaker 3: in person. I prefer, you know, to have that personal experience.
Speaker 3: And so yeah, so I'm you know, I find guys,
Speaker 3: you know, everywhere. You can find a guy walking down
Speaker 3: the streets, you know, And people always ask me about
Speaker 3: my dating tips, et cetera. But I feel like timing
Speaker 3: is everything. And you know, I was tarting to this
Speaker 3: to make up ours yesterday and she was saying, you
Speaker 3: know that she's always falling into the wrong guys, right,
Speaker 3: that she caught cheating on her, et cetera. I said,
Speaker 3: you know what, why don't you just be alone and
Speaker 3: love on yourself? Because I feel like a lot of
Speaker 3: women aren't loving on themselves. There is certain they're in
Speaker 3: a kind of a desperate search to find a guide
Speaker 3: to complete them you know, And I think the real
Speaker 3: magic is to be complete yourself, be complete and loving yourself,
Speaker 3: being happy with yourself, and that kind of energy is
Speaker 3: what draws around that positive energy because you think more
Speaker 3: with your heart than you do with like, oh, you
Speaker 3: need to find a guy. He needs to be this,
Speaker 3: he needs to be that, he needs to be the
Speaker 3: other thing. So you know I said this all the time,
Speaker 3: you know, you know, put down, put down, the keep down,
Speaker 3: the you know, the energy which is like you're looking
Speaker 3: for the right man. And she said to me, you
Speaker 3: know this makeup board is I you know, I'm looking
Speaker 3: for a guy, and you know this guy a chieved
Speaker 3: on me exactly. I said, you know what, why don't
Speaker 3: you just take care of yourself? Why don't you just
Speaker 3: enjoy and pamper yourself and love yourself? And before you
Speaker 3: know it, you're going to turn around and the guy's
Speaker 3: going to be standing there because you have to put
Speaker 3: yourself in the right place. You know, timing is one thing,
Speaker 3: but you have to be in the right place for
Speaker 3: that timing, and you can only be there if you're
Speaker 3: living in love of your of self first. That's how
Speaker 3: I feel about it.
Speaker 2: Speaking of timing, let's talk you Grant. So let's set
Speaker 2: this up right here in the Hamptons. And you find
Speaker 2: out that Hugh Grant is at Pierre's, which is in Bridgehampton,
Speaker 2: a restaurant in Bridgehampton, which is such a beautiful restaurant,
Speaker 2: and you call Pierra and you say, Pierre, is there
Speaker 2: a table next to you Grant.
Speaker 1: Because I'm going to be sitting there. And you show
Speaker 1: up and you sit next to him.
Speaker 3: I said, behind him, And then you know, I push
Speaker 3: up my chair, I push out my chair and bump
Speaker 3: his chair. I bump his chair, and I turn around
Speaker 3: and go, oh, I'm so sorry. Oh, let me buy
Speaker 3: you a drink. And that's how the conversation starts. And
Speaker 3: he knows who I am, because he's a friend of Andy's, right.
Speaker 3: I don't know if he knows who I am or not.
Speaker 3: I don't really care. He's a man and I'm a woman,
Speaker 3: and I'm going to let him know that I'm interested.
Speaker 3: And so that's how I.
Speaker 1: Started bought him a drink.
Speaker 3: Well, first of all, I asked him if he wanted
Speaker 3: a drink, and he said, I'll take a shot at tequila,
Speaker 3: and he goes, but I'm going to join you your chair.
Speaker 3: So he came to sit with me and my brother
Speaker 3: was there, my sister in law Paul, and my sitting
Speaker 3: there right and before you know it, you know, he's
Speaker 3: like sitting at the table doing shots, talking lah blah,
Speaker 3: and then we start kissing. And was like, I can't
Speaker 3: believe you're making out with you Grant, I said me neither.
Speaker 1: Wait hold on, So now we have t back.
Speaker 2: I mean, I love first of all, I love his
Speaker 2: whole Hugh grand story that and all that, But I
Speaker 2: have to ask you one question about offering a guy
Speaker 2: a drink? So what do you think about it? I've
Speaker 2: never offered a guy a drink, but do you think
Speaker 2: maybe why not? And I should be like why not?
Speaker 3: Why? Why can a man offer a woman a drink
Speaker 3: and a woman can offer a man a drink? Right?
Speaker 1: Okay, so that's back to Hugh Grant.
Speaker 2: So your guys are having shots, then you're kissing in
Speaker 2: front of your brother.
Speaker 3: I brought it up to the other day because it
Speaker 3: went it's the news has been spread around recently, and
Speaker 3: you know, and I love Hugh Grant's reply. Didn't you
Speaker 3: love his reply?
Speaker 1: He's so elegant, Well, he.
Speaker 3: Said, you know, he said, apparently my memory is not
Speaker 3: as good as the countesses.
Speaker 1: Which I love. He didn't deny it.
Speaker 3: I thought that was so she No, he did not
Speaker 3: deny it because it's true. So so on.
Speaker 1: A scale to one to ten, how how good of
Speaker 1: a kisser is?
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I'm sure you know how long ago
Speaker 3: this is?
Speaker 1: Is like, come on, let's.
Speaker 3: Yeah, fifteen years ago. So I mean he was really hot. Yeah,
Speaker 3: he's a good kisser. Went to ten, he was at ten.
Speaker 3: I love that.
Speaker 1: I love that you gets a ten.
Speaker 2: You know, it's so funny because remember when a Rod
Speaker 2: was texting me, like literally sent me thousands and thousands
Speaker 2: of texts.
Speaker 1: You know, I love how q Grant is like maybe
Speaker 1: I did.
Speaker 2: Maybe you know her memory is better than mine, which
Speaker 2: is such an elegant response.
Speaker 1: Like a Rod like literally twice he met.
Speaker 2: Me in an art Basle was literally like pulling me
Speaker 2: around art Basle. And then later he knew he like
Speaker 2: knew I was single through a friend of our, a
Speaker 2: mutual friend of ours, and starts texting me, I mean
Speaker 2: thousands and thousands of texts like things like do you
Speaker 2: like me?
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't even know you.
Speaker 3: Well, maybe you should have shared the t sterling so
Speaker 3: you could have I don't like that. I mean, if
Speaker 3: something happens, a guy should take responsibility for that. You know,
Speaker 3: he should have said, you know, yeah it's true and
Speaker 3: Kelly's gorgeous, and who wouldn't want to take Kelly? You know?
Speaker 3: Instead he denied it, which is it says a lot
Speaker 3: about his character and who he is.
Speaker 2: Well, I think he just is like he's like a
Speaker 2: mad texter and all he wants to do is just
Speaker 2: text women, like and just so he's like instead of
Speaker 2: being like you know, I mean, he's he has a
Speaker 2: great business, he's a he's a smart guy. But I
Speaker 2: think like he gets like sidetracked, and it's like that's
Speaker 2: just a gen for me. I've noticed that, like guys
Speaker 2: who are mad textures not just like hey, how's your day?
Speaker 1: Thinking of you?
Speaker 2: I feel like when they're texting a lot of people,
Speaker 2: it's just like they're just super insecure and like you
Speaker 2: don't need that serotonin uptake because all day, you know,
Speaker 2: you can get it from other things.
Speaker 3: Well I know, but guys, do you know, they're just
Speaker 3: you know, especially a guy like a Rod, he's like
Speaker 3: a peacock, right, so he needs to show his feathers,
Speaker 3: you know, and they and you know, and they it
Speaker 3: gives them excite and it makes their heart beat. I mean,
Speaker 3: I'm not mad at that. I'm mad at the fact
Speaker 3: that he didn't admit it. You know me too.
Speaker 2: But he's also not a deal closer. He just likes
Speaker 2: to like have a lot of friends out about.
Speaker 3: It's what they call the player. And guess what isn't
Speaker 3: he He's a baseball player, right, I don't know. I
Speaker 3: can't keep my athletes straight, Darling, can't keep my athletes straight.
Speaker 3: You can keep your actors straight, but not your athletes.
Speaker 3: Actors straight, but the athletes, I have no idea. I mean,
Speaker 3: you took me to my first Knicks game, Gods, Sicker Rangers?
Speaker 3: Finally the way, which one did you like better?
Speaker 1: Did you like the next of the Rangers game?
Speaker 3: You know, they're so different, but it was, I mean
Speaker 3: something else. Being on the floor of the next game
Speaker 3: where the basketballs, you know, it was almost in our face,
Speaker 3: and the sneakers were skicking towards us. I was like, ah,
Speaker 3: we're gonna get hurt.
Speaker 1: Here, and You're like, oh my god, I love his legs.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I was checking out all the guy's legs
Speaker 3: and their bodies and what you know, in the moves
Speaker 3: of the next I mean, they just have a low
Speaker 3: which is unbeatable. Those guys. I mean they work so
Speaker 3: well together as a team. It was so great to
Speaker 3: watch that because you know, I love sports.
Speaker 1: I'm a jock.
Speaker 3: I love sports. You know, I grew up playing sports,
Speaker 3: So you know, I love the boys that likes to
Speaker 3: play sports.
Speaker 1: Did you play basketball too? But play basketball?
Speaker 3: I was on the basketball team at the high school.
Speaker 1: So I have athletic tendencies.
Speaker 2: I mean I like to ride horse and stuff like that,
Speaker 2: but I wouldn't say that I'm necessarily a jock. So
Speaker 2: I think it's very funny that, Like, I mean, I
Speaker 2: love going with you because you definitely you are a
Speaker 2: real jock.
Speaker 1: I am not.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, totally. So you know, I grew up with
Speaker 3: four older brothers, so they told me how to do everything.
Speaker 3: You know, I got hit in the face of baseball's.
Speaker 3: You know, we had our own volleyball games. We were
Speaker 3: seven kids. You know, we had our own team of everything.
Speaker 3: We played flag football, we played you know, I know,
Speaker 3: ride snowmobiles and motorcycles. I mean, they told me how
Speaker 3: to do everything.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 2: Do you think that like that, going to the Knicks
Speaker 2: or to the Rangers where there's a lot of men,
Speaker 2: do you think that's a good place to find guys or.
Speaker 3: Darling, I can't think the better place to find men
Speaker 3: then then a next game or or or the Rangers.
Speaker 1: Everybody loves seeing you.
Speaker 2: Everyone loved They were like literally going crazy seeing you there.
Speaker 3: They're going crazy for you. And we're a good wing man,
Speaker 3: we are.
Speaker 1: But I think it's also when they see us together.
Speaker 2: I think people think that, like you know, most people
Speaker 2: are like, oh, they just are on its show and
Speaker 2: they don't they don't see people together.
Speaker 1: So when they see people together, they get really excited. Okay,
Speaker 1: so your bold flirting move, let's get started. Tell me,
Speaker 1: tell me what to do, teach me, guide me.
Speaker 3: Well, besides backing your chair up to a guy in
Speaker 3: a restaurant, I mean, you could always let your napkin
Speaker 3: on fire, you know. I think when you make eyes
Speaker 3: at someone you know, and you and you luck eyes
Speaker 3: with someone, I think that that's important. I think, for example, okay,
Speaker 3: you're out with your girlfriends for drinks, all right, and
Speaker 3: there's a guy at the bar that's eyeing you, right,
Speaker 3: so you kind of connected that way. But you know
Speaker 3: the guy is not going to walk up to a
Speaker 3: gaggle of girls, right, maybe a little insecure about that.
Speaker 3: And a woman is not going to walk up to
Speaker 3: the bar, right, So what do we do? We use
Speaker 3: our waiters to write a note. So the way, so
Speaker 3: you write a note. Nobody writes notes anymore. Right, write
Speaker 3: a note, give to the waiter saying please join us
Speaker 3: for a drink, and you invite him. So women have
Speaker 3: to invite men. It's really up to women to make
Speaker 3: the first move. So when you asked me about the shot, sure,
Speaker 3: why not by a man of shot? And you know
Speaker 3: in this instance, you know the guy is going to
Speaker 3: be like, oh, now I have an invitation to the table,
Speaker 3: right since over son, he's going to come over and say,
Speaker 3: look if you know, because you can tell by the
Speaker 3: way somebody looks to you if they like you're not right?
Speaker 1: So what do you say in them?
Speaker 2: Am?
Speaker 3: So write a love note?
Speaker 1: I'm saying, what do you say, like I love you?
Speaker 1: Come over? Like? What do you say like?
Speaker 3: Oh, you say, please join us for a drink? Very simple,
Speaker 3: all right? And then the waiter will say over there, and.
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna have both printed out and instead of
Speaker 2: life is cars, I'm just gonna give those.
Speaker 3: Yeah, please join me for a drink with oh and
Speaker 3: put you know not yeah, maybe it's too much, but
Speaker 3: thinking a little lipstick on there, but that you should do.
Speaker 3: You know, when you already have a guy who want
Speaker 3: to keep a man, leave a love note on the
Speaker 3: mirror and red lipstick I love you or whatever it is,
Speaker 3: you know, leave a note to me. In the morning,
Speaker 3: he goes to brush his teeth and he sees his
Speaker 3: lipstick in his mirror. I mean, how great is that?
Speaker 3: I did that once to a guy was dating who
Speaker 3: was actually a Mexican footballer. I don't know if you
Speaker 3: remember him Rom He was so hot for Mexico. Yeah,
Speaker 3: and I left him a love note oh my, because
Speaker 3: I had to go back to New York and he
Speaker 3: took jureby took a video that he loved it so much. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's very sweet.
Speaker 1: What are some of the things that are too bold?
Speaker 2: So we talked about things like love notes you like
Speaker 2: and you know, making them feel special, But what are
Speaker 2: the things you think are too bold?
Speaker 3: Too bold? Oh gosh, Well, you know going up to
Speaker 3: a guy and just you know, staying the wrong thing
Speaker 3: and you know, let's see, uh, that's something I would do,
Speaker 3: you know, doing something that can be not very That's
Speaker 3: where I'm looking. We're not but not pleasant, you know
Speaker 3: what I mean? Those are the wrong moves. You know.
Speaker 3: It's like it's like texting. You know, they're drinking and texting.
Speaker 3: Don't ever do it drinking and texting. It's no No.
Speaker 2: I know a lot of women who will like insult
Speaker 2: a guy to get him to say hello, to say
Speaker 2: a load to them.
Speaker 3: Well, I think that's not a good way to go.
Speaker 2: One of our mutual friends, I wanted to I want
Speaker 2: to ask you this our mutual friends.
Speaker 1: She does that.
Speaker 2: She insults the guys to get them to, like, you know,
Speaker 2: be on them on their back foot, which I think
Speaker 2: is actually funny. Have you ever dated anyone that's Bethan
Speaker 2: these data? Because I've been on a lot of dates
Speaker 2: with guys in New York obviously I'm single.
Speaker 1: And if one more.
Speaker 2: Guy says, oh my god, I know your friend, I'm
Speaker 2: like who And I like Bethan, And I'm like.
Speaker 3: We are not. Well, you know, it's funny because I
Speaker 3: don't think Bethany and I have the same taste of
Speaker 3: men for sure, So that hasn't happened to me once.
Speaker 1: I think I need to. I think I need to
Speaker 1: get on Europe.
Speaker 2: I'm like, you're like your your vibe and not for
Speaker 2: some reason, they're all her vibe.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, oh yeah, I mean, well, you know,
Speaker 3: downtown similar.
Speaker 2: I don't know why on earth that they would like
Speaker 2: someone like me and like her like we're totally different.
Speaker 3: Well, totally go back to here and there. I had
Speaker 3: to do it.
Speaker 1: I love you so much.
Speaker 3: You're here on the dating pool and she's over here
Speaker 3: on the dating pool. Right, we're up here. I'm talking
Speaker 3: about dating now.
Speaker 2: All right, now, let's talk all things cabaret. First of all,
Speaker 2: your cabaret is just so fired. You're doing so great
Speaker 2: and it's just so much fun, and you look drop
Speaker 2: dead gorgeous, and you are an unbelievable entertainer, hands down,
Speaker 2: incredibly entertaining.
Speaker 1: You do. I know you're working so hard, and I'm
Speaker 1: just I'm really really proud of you. So Mary, which
Speaker 1: I love. So what what can they?
Speaker 3: What do they? Mary? F kill is is you know
Speaker 3: that came from my fans. So I'm always inspired by
Speaker 3: my fans, because every cap ray show was doing, and
Speaker 3: I talk about this in the show is they asked
Speaker 3: me because I do a Q and A with the
Speaker 3: audience like Mary f Kill, Countess, but every show. And
Speaker 3: it's so funny because we never played Mary f Kill
Speaker 3: in The Housewives, which is crazy to me because it's
Speaker 3: a game that girls play all the time and I
Speaker 3: don't ever playing Mary f Kill on the show. So
Speaker 3: it's really inspired by my fans, you know, that show,
Speaker 3: and that's where the song came from and the tour
Speaker 3: came from. And it's actually f mary Kill, right, but
Speaker 3: it didn't sound good to me, so I changed it
Speaker 3: to Mary f Kill and you know, so that sure
Speaker 3: has been so much fun. You know, I include that
Speaker 3: song on my homecoming tour for the Holidays because really
Speaker 3: I'm doing holiday shows right now. It's it's Christmas with
Speaker 3: the Countess now, and so I'm playing dates in Chicago,
Speaker 3: in Chicago, Cleveland, Cincinnati, and Royal Oak, Michigan. So I
Speaker 3: have Christmas tour, you know, finishing up my Christmas tour now,
Speaker 3: and you know, it's so much fun because I take
Speaker 3: Christmas music, I turn it on its head. You know.
Speaker 3: I wrote a new song called Sonya Got Run over
Speaker 3: by a reindeer. You heard it? And then I go,
Speaker 3: Bethany got run over by a reindeer? Good? And you
Speaker 3: know it's it's just tongue in che what's your website?
Speaker 3: Countain Slanta Confert tickets for the upcoming Chicago, Cleveland and
Speaker 3: Cincinnati shows in Michigan, Michigan, so check it out. And
Speaker 3: then I'm going to Europe for my new UH tour
Speaker 3: that's gonna be in February, and I'm playing you know,
Speaker 3: England and Dublin and Scotland. So you know, I love
Speaker 3: I love creating the show. You know, for me, it's
Speaker 3: all about the creativity. People think they know my cab
Speaker 3: Ratio from TV. They do not because they never show
Speaker 3: the music because of music rights. And so's the drama
Speaker 3: around my cabaret show. You never get to see my show, right,
Speaker 3: So so it's you know, it's it's cabaret. People don't
Speaker 3: know what cabaret. So cav rat is really personal stories
Speaker 3: of your life.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 3: So I start with, you know, a song I love,
Speaker 3: Then I back into it with the story that why
Speaker 3: I want to sing this song? What's the story there?
Speaker 3: And then I picked the perfect Giovanni dress as you know,
Speaker 3: it's so my show is not culture right meets cabaret
Speaker 3: meets comedy meets a fashion.
Speaker 2: You're so fine, Let's do our own Mary f Kill
Speaker 2: Housewives edition.
Speaker 1: Okay, So Mauricio, Kyle's X, p K.
Speaker 2: Duritz X, Michael Darby, Ashley's X on Potomac.
Speaker 3: I mean, can you imagine with you she was on
Speaker 3: the show with the they're all xes at disappoint I mean,
Speaker 3: it's the Housewives curse anyway. You know that's why they're
Speaker 3: doing a dating show right now, because they they built
Speaker 3: a stable of single housewives, didn't they anyway? So I
Speaker 3: had to say that anyway, So Mary F Killed. Well,
Speaker 3: I'm going to Mary p K, I'm going to f Mauricio,
Speaker 3: and I'm going to kill Ashley Darby's X.
Speaker 2: Speaking of divorce, we've both been there, so have our listeners.
Speaker 2: What's the one piece of advice that got you through
Speaker 2: your last divorce?
Speaker 3: Run run run fast, you know, especially if you know
Speaker 3: this person is not good for you. I mean, you know,
Speaker 3: I think that when you're not happy and someone is
Speaker 3: not making you happy, you need to change it up.
Speaker 3: And you know, divorce is not easy, and you know
Speaker 3: it's like it's like moving, divorce and taxes. You know,
Speaker 3: those are the three stressors in life that could kill you.
Speaker 3: So you know, bad marriage is you know, and a
Speaker 3: divorce and you know, and there's nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 3: You know, it's not a failure. It is it is
Speaker 3: closing one door and opening another. You know, if something
Speaker 3: doesn't work for you, you have to move on, and
Speaker 3: you know, and you just have to know that it's
Speaker 3: not a it's not your fault, right, it's it's just
Speaker 3: how it is. And and it's not easy, like I said,
Speaker 3: but you know, you have to keep staying the driver's
Speaker 3: seat and try to try to know that this is
Speaker 3: one door that's closing and another door is opening. This
Speaker 3: is just the stepping ladder of life.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: What I was just trying to think, Like the best
Speaker 2: advice that I got through when I was getting divorced
Speaker 2: is actually my neighbor. Uh he pulled up because he
Speaker 2: was taking his Our children were the same age, and
Speaker 2: he pulled up in the Hampton's right in front of
Speaker 2: my house and he goes, I'm going to help you
Speaker 2: unravel the situation. You're going to get a mediator, and
Speaker 2: you're going to just handle it. And you're gonna tie
Speaker 2: a bow on it. That's why I learned Tiabo. He said,
Speaker 2: you're going to tie a bow on it, and you're.
Speaker 1: Just going to move forward.
Speaker 2: And then you're gonna do a nice You're gonna do
Speaker 2: a nice piece in the in the press that you
Speaker 2: know just says nice things about both of you, and
Speaker 2: you're just going to move on gently. And it was
Speaker 2: the most elegant way. And most people have asked me
Speaker 2: so many times, like, oh.
Speaker 1: My god, how was it?
Speaker 2: Listen, And it was not easy. I mean, I had
Speaker 2: two young kids. I have a lot of fear of.
Speaker 1: How I was going to provide for them.
Speaker 2: But I also knew that the way that my children
Speaker 2: are being raised in that environment was not good.
Speaker 3: Well I totally get it, you know, because so after
Speaker 3: I divorced the count, I you know, it almost destroyed me. Right,
Speaker 3: So I went to I was going to go to
Speaker 3: Saint Bert's and partty with girlfriends of mine, and I
Speaker 3: had a girlfriend called me and she said, no, you're not.
Speaker 3: You're going to go and take care of yourself. So
Speaker 3: Papper yourself, take care of yourself, be kind to yourself,
Speaker 3: be good to yourself. So I went to Deepak Troper
Speaker 3: and that's that's how I discovered meditation and yoga, so
Speaker 3: and that changed my life, you know, and I realized,
Speaker 3: oh my god, there's a being and you're a human being.
Speaker 3: We're just beings, right, and you have to take care
Speaker 3: of that inner being and that you know your soul
Speaker 3: and you can't let it wreck you because, like I said,
Speaker 3: it's not about you. It's about things not working out,
Speaker 3: and sometimes they don't and you got to take it
Speaker 3: one day at a time and and just take care
Speaker 3: of yourself.
Speaker 1: I love that. Let's go back to dating.
Speaker 2: How did you meet this new man friend that you
Speaker 2: have eyes for?
Speaker 3: Well, listen, I you know, I met somebody. I really
Speaker 3: liked the Love Hotel. I've been dating somebody in the
Speaker 3: hamp since we met at a hotel.
Speaker 2: I'm by the way, I'm so sad didn't get to
Speaker 2: go in the Love Hotel. I liked what I was
Speaker 2: so excited to meet you there and see all these
Speaker 2: guys and like check out, like who was interested in
Speaker 2: my lib?
Speaker 1: I'm like very protective of my love.
Speaker 3: It's like every woman's wet dream come true, darling to
Speaker 3: be present did with a ton of guys. I mean, hello,
Speaker 3: get paid and go on vacation for three weeks. It
Speaker 3: was paradise. I loved it.
Speaker 2: Where do you think of good places to find to
Speaker 2: find guys? Not the Regency place?
Speaker 3: Well, I mean you listen to the Regency bar ain't bad.
Speaker 3: I think I think bars are a great place. I mean,
Speaker 3: I think you could go to the bank, you know,
Speaker 3: drop something on the floor if you like a guy
Speaker 3: who's gonna come and pick it up, and then you
Speaker 3: can lose and say hello. So you know you have
Speaker 3: to like what Bill okay or pierres or I think
Speaker 3: every I think everywhere, restaurants, you know, bars, I'm trying
Speaker 3: to think, or at the Love Hotel. You got to
Speaker 3: go to the Love Hotel. Daring I'm gonna I'm gonna
Speaker 3: put your name in for next.
Speaker 2: I'm very excited about my my new my new love life.
Speaker 1: I am not gonna lie.
Speaker 3: I am yeah. What's going on with you? By the way,
Speaker 3: so I.
Speaker 1: I was dating to guys.
Speaker 2: One of them I had to put on pause and
Speaker 2: the other one is amazing. I'm just kind of waiting
Speaker 2: to see you know, like how more of that is going.
Speaker 1: I'm just like.
Speaker 2: Excited about Uh, it's interesting what you said before at
Speaker 2: the at the at the top about you know, and
Speaker 2: I think Jlo.
Speaker 1: Did a disservice.
Speaker 2: She said to everyone, I have a bad picker, and
Speaker 2: so people started using that as like a way of
Speaker 2: talking about the way that they meet men. And I
Speaker 2: don't think that women have bad pickers. I think that
Speaker 2: women aren't like you said. I think there they put
Speaker 2: there in that kind of tone in their in their
Speaker 2: day or their life where they're putting it out there
Speaker 2: that they're single and they want to meet someone.
Speaker 3: And then they'rey happy on their own that they don't
Speaker 3: need a man. You know, this is all about it.
Speaker 3: It's like putting out there that you're happy, you don't
Speaker 3: need a man, and you know what, then that then
Speaker 3: they can come to you, because you know, otherwise, if
Speaker 3: you're looking to you know, it is if you're looking
Speaker 3: so hard, you're never going to find it. It's the magic.
Speaker 2: I remember after I got you know, I called off
Speaker 2: the wedding and someone from page six called me and
Speaker 2: they said, you know, are you single?
Speaker 1: You dating?
Speaker 3: What are you doing?
Speaker 2: And I said, I was like, I like that word single.
Speaker 2: Single means like to kind of desperate, and I'm definitely
Speaker 2: not desperate. You know, I have a lot of great friends,
Speaker 2: I beautiful family, I love my children, I love what
Speaker 2: I do, so I'm very happy in my life. I
Speaker 2: just want to share that with someone special. So I'm
Speaker 2: not like desperately looking for someone.
Speaker 3: Well, that's that's on them. That's what they're thinking. It's
Speaker 3: it's not your thing, And who cares what people think?
Speaker 3: This is the first thing is like, who cares what
Speaker 3: people think? Single is not desperate. Single is single and
Speaker 3: ready to mingle. Like Kim Petrell on Sex and the City.
Speaker 3: That's single. So wait our seat. That's I'm in charge,
Speaker 3: and I will pick you if you're lucky. That's how
Speaker 3: I feel.
Speaker 2: You're you're a marrying kind of woman, and so am
Speaker 2: I. I'm I definitely want to get married again. And I've
Speaker 2: been very you know, specific about who I think could
Speaker 2: be a good person and for me, and when they're not,
Speaker 2: I do not go through with that. But what do
Speaker 2: you think of getting married again? Do you want to
Speaker 2: get married again?
Speaker 3: You know, listen, I'm spontaneous. I don't you know. I'm
Speaker 3: trying not to predict my future. You know, I'm the
Speaker 3: kind of girl that rolls day by day you know.
Speaker 3: I you know, I get I married quickly. I dive
Speaker 3: in quickly. That's how I live my life. You know,
Speaker 3: I'm passionate. I don't try to predict the future like
Speaker 3: predict the housewives. You know every year, Are you coming
Speaker 3: back to the houses again? I don't know. I don't
Speaker 3: know until I get to that bridge if I'm going
Speaker 3: to cross it or not. So I feel the same
Speaker 3: way about dating and men. I don't. I don't try
Speaker 3: to predict that. Am I gonna get married again?
Speaker 2: Sure?
Speaker 3: I would love to get married again because I'm hopeless romantic.
Speaker 3: You know that about and I know you are too,
Speaker 3: and you're, you know, looking to get married again. But
Speaker 3: I wouldn't say I'm looking to get married again. I'm
Speaker 3: looking for a partner in my life. Yeah, somebody I
Speaker 3: can count, who has my back, who loves me, who
Speaker 3: is protecting me. And you know that's what I'm looking
Speaker 3: for married again. It's yeah, you know, we're we're hopeless romantic.
Speaker 3: Son't white.
Speaker 1: Look, you're a beautiful bride. I was at that wedding.
Speaker 1: You're gorgeous.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, Oh that was a fabulous wedding. Too
Speaker 3: bad the guy wasn't white. But you know, he was amazing.
Speaker 3: What a fabulous party weekend it was. What about for
Speaker 3: our kids, because we both have daughters, So what kind of.
Speaker 2: What kind of advice do you in part to Victoria,
Speaker 2: and what kind of advice should I, you know, tell
Speaker 2: my girls about dating?
Speaker 3: And well, listen, you know it's so funny because Victoria
Speaker 3: met a guy in the Hampton this last summer and
Speaker 3: and it was primarily a lot of older people, very
Speaker 3: wealthy people, in some mansion in East Tampton. And she
Speaker 3: went with a gay friend of mine, right, a gay queen.
Speaker 3: I love my queens. So she went with the queen
Speaker 3: and it's like queens and older people, right, and then
Speaker 3: a boy plops down across from her at the table, right,
Speaker 3: and and she goes, she leans over and she goes,
Speaker 3: are you And he goes, yeah. They've been together ever since.
Speaker 3: So you just never know, you know, And you know, me,
Speaker 3: I want my daughter to be happy. I want her
Speaker 3: to be to have I want to see a man
Speaker 3: loving on her. I mean, I just want to see
Speaker 3: her happy and and you know, and get married one
Speaker 3: day and have her own children.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 3: So you know, that's that's the kind of wisdom in
Speaker 3: part to her, which is like she was dating guy
Speaker 3: for like twelve years, my daughter since she's a teenager,
Speaker 3: and I knew he wasn't right, and I said, you know,
Speaker 3: were you brought out of him? And she would be
Speaker 3: like and because we can see right what they don't
Speaker 3: see as parents, right, right, And so I could tell
Speaker 3: that now this guy, I think he might be right
Speaker 3: for her. I mean, I have to get to know
Speaker 3: him better. I haven't spent a lot a lot of time.
Speaker 3: He's actually gonna be spending the holidays with us, so
Speaker 3: I'm going to get them a lot better.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I do, I do.
Speaker 3: I love him very much. I think he's a great guy.
Speaker 3: He's a European boy, speaks French, grew up in Paris.
Speaker 3: So I love my daughter with a European.
Speaker 1: Yes, I love that.
Speaker 2: Okay, So, Luanne, last question for you, what advice do
Speaker 2: you have for single parents when they get back out
Speaker 2: there and they're starting to date.
Speaker 3: Well, listen, you know I never as a single parent
Speaker 3: when I was dating and single. You know, I didn't
Speaker 3: bring a guy around until I was absolutely sure that
Speaker 3: this is somebody that I want in my life. So
Speaker 3: you know, it's sleepovers with men, and you know, all
Speaker 3: that kind of stuff I don't think is a good
Speaker 3: thing for kids, because you know, I think it just
Speaker 3: shows them that you're unsure, right, because if you're bumping
Speaker 3: around to different guys, you're unsure of your own, you know,
Speaker 3: dating life. And I'm sure of you know who it
Speaker 3: is that you want in your life. I think that
Speaker 3: it's so important for as a parent and you're dating,
Speaker 3: to not bring anywhere. I think so important is parent
Speaker 3: to not bring anyone around your kids until you really
Speaker 3: are positive that they're going to be a part of
Speaker 3: your life.
Speaker 1: I totally agree. I totally agree.
Speaker 2: And on that note, we love you, lou so so
Speaker 2: so much.
Speaker 1: I want to spend that I love you.
Speaker 3: Congratulations on the show.
Speaker 2: I love you, I love you, I love you you
Speaker 2: and more fun.
Speaker 1: We have more fun to come. We have more.
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's go to another Knicks game. I love it.
Speaker 1: I'll thank you on just are you here? Deceummer twenty third?
Speaker 3: Oh I am, let's go. Yeah, I fly on the
Speaker 3: twenty third. Let's go all right? Perfect, Yeah, let's do that.
Speaker 3: I love you, thank you. I Happy holidays. Oh yeah,
Speaker 3: happy holidays, Darling. It's very count is Christmas I Love You,
Speaker 3: I Love You.
Speaker 2: Darling by Beauty Luanne is so great. Be sure to
Speaker 2: see her on tour, and I love all the great
Speaker 2: flirting tips she gave us. I'm going to go out
Speaker 2: and try some of those, especially the love note. We'd
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