WEBVTT - Return to Paradise 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.440 Hell I Suck At Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared 0:00:04.720 --> 0:00:11.160 and I Heart Radio Podcast. Hello, ladies and gentlemen, thank 0:00:11.160 --> 0:00:13.400 you so much for joining us on yet another episode 0:00:13.400 --> 0:00:16.720 of Help I Suck At Dating. We might not be 0:00:16.760 --> 0:00:19.880 a People's Choice nominee, we might not be Banner Ashley I, 0:00:20.079 --> 0:00:22.239 but damn it, we're here every week and we love 0:00:22.320 --> 0:00:26.680 doing it. Joined in studio by my good friend Jared, 0:00:26.680 --> 0:00:30.400 who was back from his honeymoon. We're gonna dive into 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:33.279 the bellows and understand exactly what you guys have been 0:00:33.320 --> 0:00:34.839 doing for the past couple of weeks. It's been so 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:36.760 long as I've seen you. Your tan, You're all of 0:00:36.840 --> 0:00:40.560 the sun kissed skin, the facial here, it's somehow got thicker. 0:00:40.600 --> 0:00:43.879 You are looking fantastic. Vanessa obviously is in her apartment 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:47.599 in Montreal as well. Um, and we're just gonna go 0:00:47.680 --> 0:00:49.360 from there. We're kind of flying from the seat of 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:52.040 our pants today. When was the last I Suck At 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:56.240 Dating podcast with Dean, Vanessa and Jared all on at 0:00:56.280 --> 0:01:00.560 the same time. Quite a while? Yeah, the last time 0:01:00.560 --> 0:01:07.200 we recorded all together was Tahoe. Wow. Quite the extensive 0:01:07.200 --> 0:01:09.800 period of was about a month and a half ago. Right, So, yeah, 0:01:09.840 --> 0:01:12.280 we are so j I gotta say, you look really 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:14.560 good with the ring on your finger. Thank you, Vanessa. 0:01:14.560 --> 0:01:18.400 I appreciate it. I know there it is shining, glimmering. 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:21.280 How does it feel listening? Feels good, it feels normal. 0:01:21.319 --> 0:01:22.720 Do you take it off like I should be wearing 0:01:22.720 --> 0:01:24.760 this ring for a while? You take it off on 0:01:24.800 --> 0:01:27.560 you sleep? Yeah. I already lost it once. Well actually 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:29.720 technically I didn't lose it. I misplaced it because I 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:33.080 found it. I don't know how that one. I don't know. 0:01:33.600 --> 0:01:36.760 Long story short. We were in New York after we 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:38.400 came back from our honeymoon. We had to be in 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:41.840 New York for a few days. Ashley was recording Almost Famous. 0:01:41.880 --> 0:01:44.480 I went to go to Barnes and Noble, walked around, 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:46.720 went to go reach for a book. Noticed that my 0:01:46.840 --> 0:01:49.520 ring was not there. Another thing about my ring, it's 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:53.040 doesn't It's a little loose, and when my hand gets wet, 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:55.920 it becomes very slippery and falls off easily. I was 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:58.000 very aware of this on the honeymoon. I was very 0:01:58.000 --> 0:01:59.880 conscious of this. So I made sure to like, oh, 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:02.480 just have my hand in a fist. But then so 0:02:02.640 --> 0:02:04.640 I reached for a book and Barnes and Noble. My 0:02:04.720 --> 0:02:06.640 ring wasn't there. I had a panic attack because we 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:08.280 were about ten blocks from the hotel, so I was 0:02:08.280 --> 0:02:11.520 thinking I could have lost it within any span of time. 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:14.320 But then I was thinking rationally and thought, okay, it 0:02:14.400 --> 0:02:15.880 had to have slipped off when I was either in 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:18.359 the shower or washing my hands. So I immediately went 0:02:18.360 --> 0:02:20.799 back to the hotel. Check the shower floor wasn't there, 0:02:20.919 --> 0:02:24.320 checked the sink wasn't there. Had another mini panic attack 0:02:24.400 --> 0:02:26.680 until I noticed to the right of the sink, right 0:02:26.720 --> 0:02:30.079 on the counter was my wedding ring. And so housekeeping 0:02:30.760 --> 0:02:35.760 shout out to nicker Barker. Nicker Barker Housekeeping for keeping 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:36.959 my ring on the counter. They must have saw it 0:02:37.080 --> 0:02:39.560 either on the shower floor on the sink and took 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:41.160 it off and set it there and just forgot. No, 0:02:41.520 --> 0:02:43.720 I would have remembered. So so when you go to 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:44.880 bed at night, you take it off and put on 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:46.280 the nights No, No, I keep it on. I just 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:47.720 keep it on. Yeah, why don't you just get a 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:50.320 size a little bit better? I'm going to Oh, we've 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:53.480 been away. That's a good point. So anyway, I never 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:55.040 take mine off. Just for the record, I don't know 0:02:55.040 --> 0:02:57.120 why anybody takes those off. I never take mynef get 0:02:57.120 --> 0:02:58.720 it dent if you don't take it off. Yeah, I 0:02:58.720 --> 0:03:00.680 want that dent. That dens kind of do too. It's 0:03:00.680 --> 0:03:03.720 like a permanent wedding ring. You know, you're so cute. 0:03:03.800 --> 0:03:05.880 I have friends who are married that take theirs up 0:03:05.919 --> 0:03:08.160 to like rock climb and like the things that required 0:03:09.680 --> 0:03:12.960 rock climbing. You don't want to lose a finger in 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:14.600 case it gets caught. I was gonna take it off 0:03:14.600 --> 0:03:17.560 while working out, or I should say attempting to work out, 0:03:17.880 --> 0:03:20.680 but then gotten used to it. South Beach diet. Baby 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:22.359 always about it. So tell us about your honey when 0:03:22.360 --> 0:03:25.920 you went to Positano to uh Santorini. Yeah, so we 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:30.000 left immediately after the wedding. We got married on a Sunday, 0:03:30.200 --> 0:03:32.880 left on that Monday because that's what actually always wanted. 0:03:33.680 --> 0:03:36.120 Left flew to And I'm sorry, I'm gonna cut you 0:03:36.120 --> 0:03:37.440 off there. I just have a question. So is i've 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:39.800 an answer? Is that typical for married couples to do 0:03:39.920 --> 0:03:42.000 or do you typically stay around in the venue area 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:43.880 for a couple of days and then leave. I think 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:46.680 traditionally you leave pretty immediately. I don't know, this is 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:50.920 what Ashley wanted to do. I think traditionally usually for 0:03:50.920 --> 0:03:53.640 the honeymoon pretty immediately and you know what, it's really 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:57.119 up to the couple, I think. But we left immediately, 0:03:57.880 --> 0:04:02.840 flew into Naples at then went to a Malfi coast, Naples, Florida. Naples, 0:04:02.840 --> 0:04:05.520 Florida was great, drove up to Orlando, went to Disney World. 0:04:05.680 --> 0:04:09.080 That would have been the honeymoon I wanted. No. Italy 0:04:09.160 --> 0:04:11.320 was fantastic. We went to a Malfi coast, went to 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:13.840 past Toano, and then we took a ferry to Capri 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:16.480 and Capri was absolutely gorgeous, which is an island off 0:04:16.520 --> 0:04:19.760 the coast of Italy. Uh. And then we flew to 0:04:20.640 --> 0:04:24.600 uh Santorini in Greece, which was absolutely breathtaking. Spent five 0:04:24.680 --> 0:04:28.479 days there staying Uh. Yeah, you know, we stayed outside 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:31.120 of Eau. We were only about a ten minute drive 0:04:31.160 --> 0:04:33.560 from there. So we went to EA many times. Uh. 0:04:33.640 --> 0:04:36.000 You know. We had this sunset cruise that we did 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:39.680 for a day which was breathtaking. Uh, and it was 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:43.400 just an incredible time. It was really nice. Um actually 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:45.240 was spot on when she said she wanted to do 0:04:45.279 --> 0:04:47.760 that because she wanted to feel like husband and wife, 0:04:47.800 --> 0:04:49.160 like a married couple. Of she didn't want to get 0:04:49.160 --> 0:04:52.320 married and then go immediately back home because we had 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:54.000 the opportunity to go on a honeymoon, and of course 0:04:54.040 --> 0:04:55.440 we wanted to take advantage of it. And she was 0:04:55.440 --> 0:05:00.320 absolutely right because it did feel different. Like yeah, because 0:05:00.440 --> 0:05:02.240 you know, everybody as soon as they find out that 0:05:02.279 --> 0:05:05.120 you're on your honeymoon immediately treat you differently or give 0:05:05.160 --> 0:05:08.240 you coupons for free drinks, or like, oh my god, congratulations, 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:10.679 you guys, just get married and let me see the rings. 0:05:10.720 --> 0:05:13.480 And uh so it was quite an experience and it 0:05:13.520 --> 0:05:17.200 was truly, um, one of the best two weeks of 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:20.320 my life. Did you fly first class? Well, that's a 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:26.520 personal question. We we did, though, uh luckily knock on Wood. Uh, 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:28.520 not the entire trip, but we were able to the 0:05:28.839 --> 0:05:31.200 long stretches from here over to Naples. We were able 0:05:31.240 --> 0:05:33.560 to get. It's business class. It's different. The reason I 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:35.400 asked is because I just watched the Friends episode where 0:05:35.440 --> 0:05:37.480 Monica and Chandler are on their honeymoon and a couple 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:39.320 ahead of them gets upgraded the first class for free 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:42.320 because they say that they're on their honeymoon. Oh okay, 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:48.919 we didn't get upgraded and we just you know, but um, actually, 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:52.680 ironically though, actually sister Lauren and her boyfriend got upgraded 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:57.920 to first class when they flew back to Los Angeles randomly. Yeah, 0:05:58.040 --> 0:05:59.880 so I kind of worked out for them. But the 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:04.080 honeymoon was was awesome. Uh, pictures looked amazing. Yeah, it 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:07.080 was just it was an incredible time, and honestly, her 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:10.040 and I just really relaxed the entire time. We did 0:06:10.080 --> 0:06:12.240 a little bit of sight seeing, a little bit of traveling, 0:06:12.320 --> 0:06:15.240 but I think we didn't want our honeymoon to be 0:06:15.279 --> 0:06:17.400 bouncing around from place to place and feel like we 0:06:17.440 --> 0:06:19.960 had an itinerary. We really just wanted to relax and 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:22.600 enjoy our time together and eat and and lay out 0:06:22.640 --> 0:06:25.159 by the pool and drink and and you know, be 0:06:25.440 --> 0:06:27.680 romantic and all that we have five days in Santi 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:29.560 is a lot Castor is a small island, it is, 0:06:29.600 --> 0:06:30.960 and so like you get, it's good that you can 0:06:30.960 --> 0:06:34.039 just kind of relax and unlined and yeah, really unlined, 0:06:34.080 --> 0:06:36.880 which was great, Uh, you know, and it was just 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:39.360 an incredible time that I'll never forget. And the wedding 0:06:39.440 --> 0:06:43.120 was just absolutely stunning, and the best weekend of my life. 0:06:43.120 --> 0:06:45.800 This is your first podcast episode post wedding too. Yeah, okay, 0:06:46.040 --> 0:06:47.280 it was the best weekend of my life. So we 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:48.840 should probably have into that a little bit too. What 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:51.839 was the highlight of the honeymoon specifically? Though? Highlight of 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:55.839 the honeymoon? Um, while there's so many of like whether 0:06:55.880 --> 0:06:59.919 it's location or dinner or like our favorite well, honest, 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:04.400 our favorite dinner, Uh, probably was this small restaurant that 0:07:04.440 --> 0:07:07.120 we went to in Capri. So the hotel that we 0:07:07.160 --> 0:07:09.440 stayed at was in the middle of this little village 0:07:09.440 --> 0:07:11.120 where we could go and walk around. There'd be little 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:14.600 shops and coffee and espresso and restaurants and and so 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:17.520 we went to this restaurant one night that was just uh, 0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:20.720 it was a small little nook and the food was incredible. 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:22.880 Of course, we got two pasta dishes, and the pasta 0:07:22.920 --> 0:07:26.800 there is outrageously good. Because did you feel like you 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:29.840 were less bloated after you had pasta? Yeah? Actually actually 0:07:29.920 --> 0:07:33.360 did some redshirts into this because you you don't you know, 0:07:33.400 --> 0:07:35.480 when you eat a huge bowl of pasta over here, 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:38.760 you know your stomachs full, you feel bloated, you feel grossedy, 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:41.560 you just want to lay down over there. You don't 0:07:41.560 --> 0:07:44.120 feel bloated at all, and it it doesn't feel like 0:07:44.160 --> 0:07:47.560 you ate this huge heap of pasta with sauce. Uh. 0:07:47.680 --> 0:07:50.800 And it's apparently because there's no h, you know, pesticides 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:54.240 and yeah, it's not. It's less process it's all organic there. 0:07:54.520 --> 0:07:56.960 So the pasta was so fresh and tasted amazing and 0:07:57.040 --> 0:07:59.280 it was just that was probably one of my favorite 0:07:59.280 --> 0:08:01.120 dinners in one of the high lights. And Capri itself, 0:08:01.160 --> 0:08:03.400 I think it was a highlight for us. Um. Wait, 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:05.600 so the dinner and Capri and Capri, so all in all, 0:08:05.640 --> 0:08:07.840 Capri was just that. I think Capri was our our favorite. 0:08:07.840 --> 0:08:12.160 Santorini was stunning though, all three past Yeah, and the 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:14.480 Multi Coast was incredible as well. But the resort that 0:08:14.520 --> 0:08:16.800 we stayed at we had a room um which was 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:20.280 kind of located down by the water um and obviously 0:08:20.320 --> 0:08:22.320 it was it was on a cliff, and so in 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:25.280 order to get to our room from the hotel every day, 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:27.560 we had to walk about two hundred steps. It's like 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:30.160 a workout. It was a workout and they're not easy steps. 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:33.640 Those you know, each step is about awkwardly sorry, you know, 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:36.840 it's it's about three ft wide, and they're like, it's 0:08:36.840 --> 0:08:38.600 not the same size step every time. It's like it's 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:40.839 probably a different size step. Yeah, you know it's it's 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:44.360 obviously rocky and different levels and uh so we certainly 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:47.000 got our steps in there. Um and I felt really 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:49.199 bad because our last day. Of course, the hotel really 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:50.680 wants to take care of you, and we had two 0:08:50.679 --> 0:08:53.960 suitcases with us, and so they're, yeah, the guy is 0:08:54.000 --> 0:08:57.120 this This guy made like Ivan Drago from Rocky four, 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:00.680 literally throw two over his shoulder and just walking up 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:03.640 the steps. Because if he's Hercules, those guys are crazy. 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:05.080 I mean they do it every day, so like obviously 0:09:05.160 --> 0:09:06.920 get used to it and then like build a tolerance 0:09:07.000 --> 0:09:08.520 or for or whatever. But yeah, you always see them, 0:09:08.559 --> 0:09:11.200 then you're like, god, that's impressive. Yeah. But I think, honestly, 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:14.199 probably the highlight as well as our first dinner in Amalfi, 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:18.760 just because it was our first dinner, uh on our honeymoon. 0:09:18.800 --> 0:09:22.480 We had a breathtaking view. Um so that was probably 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:24.079 one of the did you guys stop in New York 0:09:24.080 --> 0:09:25.319 on the way there, on the way back or the 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:28.200 way back? Oh and you went to Jonas Brothers concert? Well, yes, 0:09:28.240 --> 0:09:30.160 actually wanted to go to the Jones Brothers concert because 0:09:30.160 --> 0:09:31.720 we had a good New York for a few days anyway, 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:34.520 And then of course she timed it perfectly where the 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:36.800 Jonas Brothers were in town that that day. So we 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:39.240 went to the Staples Center and so the Jonas Brothers 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:41.319 perform and they put on a great show. You know, hey, 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:44.960 they're musically talented. They put it on a good show. 0:09:45.120 --> 0:09:47.599 I enjoyed myself. It was funny though, because I was 0:09:47.640 --> 0:09:51.920 surrounded by girlfriends or wives with their significant others as well, 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:54.000 who probably were in the same boat as me, where 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:57.120 it's like I'm enjoying myself. I'm having fun. They're losing 0:09:57.160 --> 0:09:59.600 their sho but I'm I'm having a good time. I 0:09:59.600 --> 0:10:02.120 will say, do admire your willingness to go along with 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:04.400 um Ashley to those types of things. I mean, she's 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:07.120 been to so many Rob Thomas concerts. Come on, but 0:10:07.320 --> 0:10:09.600 I'm sure she likes Rob Thomas. Yeah she does. It's 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:13.640 a little bit more musical musically, he is more both 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:16.320 of our style brothers more. I mean, I very much 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:19.200 enjoy Sucker. That's a fantastic song. Obviously I couldn't name 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:21.440 a single Jonas Brothers song, but you no, sucker, it's 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:22.679 the one that's on the radio all the time. Now, 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:25.239 I don't listen to the radio. I don't have radio 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:27.040 that doesn't see very insulting to those of us in 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:31.959 the radio industry. My heart studio right now to the radio. 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:33.679 So did you feel like you were you had more 0:10:33.720 --> 0:10:37.200 privacy while you were in Europe on your honeymoon. Yeah, 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:38.640 I mean a couple of you came out to us 0:10:38.640 --> 0:10:42.920 that were also on their honeymoon, which was really sweet. Uh. Yeah, 0:10:42.960 --> 0:10:44.199 a couple of people were saying, we know that you 0:10:44.280 --> 0:10:46.320 just got married. We just got married. So it was 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:49.560 this really nice moment between us. But all and all, no, yeah, 0:10:49.600 --> 0:10:53.040 it was. It was very secluded in private, which was 0:10:53.080 --> 0:10:55.040 really nice. Ashley and I really had some time to 0:10:55.080 --> 0:10:57.720 try to soak in every moment of the honeymoon because 0:10:57.960 --> 0:11:00.360 that's you know, it's never gonna happen again. We only 0:11:00.360 --> 0:11:02.880 have one. Uh, so we really tried to make sure 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:05.760 that we enjoyed every second of it and just uh 0:11:05.920 --> 0:11:08.080 collected as many memories as we possibly could and just 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:10.240 really live in the moment um. And we tried to 0:11:10.280 --> 0:11:12.720 do that honestly, from the entire time. When we flew 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:16.360 into Rhode Island up until you know, when we flew 0:11:16.400 --> 0:11:18.040 back to New York when it was all said and done. 0:11:18.120 --> 0:11:19.880 Since he was we're gone for what to week. We 0:11:19.880 --> 0:11:22.280 were doing in Europe for twelve food days. It's a 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:24.240 long time. It was a long time. We wanted to 0:11:24.240 --> 0:11:27.200 make sure um that we you know, it's a long 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:29.600 flight to you know, it's about ten hours, and so 0:11:29.640 --> 0:11:31.160 we really wanted to try to make sure that we 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:33.120 could extend it as long as possible because with such 0:11:33.120 --> 0:11:34.800 a long flight, we wanted to make sure we get 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:37.599 your time's worth exactly. And also, I mean, this is 0:11:37.679 --> 0:11:39.440 only my second time to Italy. I've only been there 0:11:39.480 --> 0:11:41.440 once before and that was in two thousand and nine. 0:11:41.840 --> 0:11:44.200 Ashley had hadn't been there and I think fifteen years. 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:45.760 So it's not like we're able to go to Italy 0:11:46.160 --> 0:11:48.400 every other weekend. So it was really kind of one 0:11:48.400 --> 0:11:50.320 of those moments where we want to take advantage of 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:52.080 our time because we have no idea when the next 0:11:52.080 --> 0:11:53.719 time we'll ever be in Italy. And it was the 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:56.160 first time I was ever in Greece granted to Santorini, 0:11:56.240 --> 0:11:58.360 so it's the island, but I had never been in Greece. 0:11:58.400 --> 0:12:00.400 Before we're Did you fly into San three report? Did 0:12:00.400 --> 0:12:02.040 you find Athens and take the boat up? No? No No, no, 0:12:02.160 --> 0:12:04.960 So we flew from Capri actual excuse me, from Naples 0:12:05.040 --> 0:12:07.760 right into Santorini, which a lot of people were flabbergasted by. 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:10.720 How did Santoris airport small? It's the worst airport I've 0:12:10.720 --> 0:12:13.240 ever been to my life. No customs either, No customs 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:16.000 I had, Like I remember what I flew out of Santorini, 0:12:16.400 --> 0:12:18.240 just flew right in and walked right into the country. 0:12:18.360 --> 0:12:21.240 What marks Mark laughing over there? It's so relatable. Oh 0:12:21.280 --> 0:12:27.800 my gosh, Santorini's thet everted to you, uncultured swine. Santorini 0:12:27.880 --> 0:12:31.720 is in Greece. It was just it's small. What you 0:12:31.760 --> 0:12:34.760 hate about it so much? What's your with Santorini? Experience 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:36.560 with it was I had a flight out of Santorini 0:12:36.640 --> 0:12:38.400 airport at three am, and I got there at one am, 0:12:38.440 --> 0:12:40.600 And at one oh five am I get an email 0:12:40.640 --> 0:12:43.240 saying my flight was delayed seven hours and so I 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:44.800 had to stay in the city airport for an extra 0:12:44.840 --> 0:12:47.079 seven hours. I saw you post about that. I'm very upset. 0:12:47.160 --> 0:12:48.760 That's a bad one. That is about how can you 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:51.959 delay a flight seven hours. I was not happy. Um, 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:53.520 but it ended up working at the end of the day. 0:12:53.520 --> 0:12:54.880 But okay, so what did you miss most while you 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:58.680 were traveling? What did I miss most? Because like you're 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:02.600 you know, you're, um, I think I missed two things. Really. 0:13:03.280 --> 0:13:07.840 One I missed our dog Lois. Uh yeah, she's she's 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:10.800 our child, so we really missed her. And then secondly, 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:18.480 I really missed being with my family, our family, um, 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:22.800 after the wedding, because it was such a moment and 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:25.960 a night in a weekend that I really wanted time 0:13:26.000 --> 0:13:28.600 to just spend with everybody that was involved, you know, 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:31.360 her parents, my parents, siblings, friends, family, and just like 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:33.679 be like and just talk about it. You know. It's 0:13:33.720 --> 0:13:36.200 gotta be such an interesting, interesting contrast to go from 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:39.800 the wedding, which is your friends, your family and you're 0:13:39.800 --> 0:13:42.560 like all spending time together consistently for the course of 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:44.760 the weekend, to then just you and actually for four 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:47.280 days in a row. Yeah, it's like you're you're surrounded 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:49.440 by all of these people all the time and then 0:13:49.440 --> 0:13:50.840 all of a sudden, it's just you. And actually, you know, 0:13:50.920 --> 0:13:53.560 that's gotta be weird. I would imagine. Actually, no, it 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:55.600 wasn't really that weird. I think I'm actually and are 0:13:55.600 --> 0:13:57.360 so comfortable with each other and just being around each 0:13:57.360 --> 0:13:59.800 other all the time now that it's really second nature, 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:01.880 like an adjustment I guess maybe, but yeah, I'm not 0:14:01.920 --> 0:14:03.280 saying that it was weird for you, and actually just 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:05.480 like to go from the smothering and like all of 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:07.240 this attention from all the people being at your wedding, 0:14:07.240 --> 0:14:08.640 which I want to let's talk about your wedding too, 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:13.520 because obviously it was beautiful and it's funny. Did you 0:14:13.559 --> 0:14:15.960 have fun I had? Did you? Are you being sarcastic? No? 0:14:16.040 --> 0:14:17.640 I mean I haven't really talked to you about it. 0:14:17.679 --> 0:14:19.520 I mean we we've talked since, but not like I 0:14:19.520 --> 0:14:21.240 hadn't asked you if you had funny. I still can't 0:14:21.240 --> 0:14:23.240 get over how much fun I had. I was like 0:14:23.360 --> 0:14:25.160 kind of like, I gotta go to a wedding. I'm 0:14:25.240 --> 0:14:26.680 never really big fan of weddings, but then I was 0:14:26.720 --> 0:14:27.600 there and I was like, holy cow, this is like 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:29.040 one of the most beautiful things I've ever been to. 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:32.440 And I've talked about it to my friends, who um like, 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:35.840 obviously we're removing vasterlination. One friend in particular, who was 0:14:35.880 --> 0:14:39.600 like a big, big um like Disney fan, and you 0:14:39.680 --> 0:14:42.200 just played a lot of Disney songs at this reception 0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:44.680 and she was like losing her and I was like, yeah, 0:14:44.680 --> 0:14:46.160 you should have seen the setup. It looked just like 0:14:46.200 --> 0:14:48.000 it was straight out of Beauty and the Beast's Castle, 0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:50.240 and then they were playing like the Disney music on 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:52.560 top of that. I mean, I had a blast. My 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:55.280 only complaint if I if you were to come to 0:14:55.320 --> 0:14:57.600 me and have like a team, give me one thing 0:14:57.600 --> 0:14:59.800 that you didn't like about the wedding. I'm not asking that. 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:03.360 I'm gonna tell you, okay, it just ended too early. Well, 0:15:03.480 --> 0:15:08.280 the problem was it ended at uh well, we had 0:15:08.680 --> 0:15:10.480 ended at midnight, so we had everybody leave at love 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:13.040 forty five, which is not early. It's not early, but 0:15:13.080 --> 0:15:14.360 I'm just saying I was having so much fun I 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:16.680 wanted to go longer. No, that was what we wanted. 0:15:16.720 --> 0:15:18.320 You know, we were supposed to end an hour early, 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:21.240 and that night we extended it an hour because the 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:23.680 cocktail party was going long because pictures were taking along, 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:25.720 which I feel like anybody who's ever gotten married can 0:15:25.760 --> 0:15:27.920 relate to that. Of course, pictures are taking longer than 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:31.520 they're supposed to um, but we we extended it and 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:33.400 we really that's awesome that you said that. And probably 0:15:33.400 --> 0:15:35.280 one of the best comments that anybody paid to me 0:15:35.520 --> 0:15:37.480 throughout the entire night was that so many people came 0:15:37.520 --> 0:15:39.720 up and said, this is the most Ashley and Jarard 0:15:39.800 --> 0:15:43.080 wedding we could have possibly imagined, which really felt the 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:45.760 world to me because Ashley and I worked so hard 0:15:46.240 --> 0:15:49.160 throughout the past year with our wedding planner, Troy Williams, 0:15:49.200 --> 0:15:52.600 whose company is called Simply Troy, which I find fantastic 0:15:52.680 --> 0:15:54.600 you you met him. He's a bald gay man who's 0:15:54.640 --> 0:15:56.320 just the most fantastic human being you'll ever meet in 0:15:56.320 --> 0:16:00.960 your entire life. And he um, his company is called 0:16:01.000 --> 0:16:04.320 simply Troy because everything simply like He's just simply grateful, 0:16:05.760 --> 0:16:09.720 which I find hysterical. A great job, Oh, he was incredible, 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:13.120 and his entire wedding team was just phenomenal and and 0:16:13.160 --> 0:16:15.200 he did such a good job of letting Ashley and 0:16:15.240 --> 0:16:18.280 I really incorporate our personalities at this wedding. Uh. Like 0:16:18.360 --> 0:16:20.320 even like you talk about the music, every song that 0:16:20.320 --> 0:16:23.360 played was was picked up by Ashley and I and 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:26.720 we just you know, had the band play um. Uh, 0:16:26.760 --> 0:16:28.720 you know, we were just like, can you please play 0:16:28.760 --> 0:16:30.440 these songs? We're like, yeah, sure, this is great. And 0:16:30.440 --> 0:16:34.760 then with DJ Jack, who is laurence boyfriend, we asked 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:36.320 the same thing, like he plays songs. Then he was 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:38.360 able to put the mix together. And then during the 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:43.280 dinner we had the the the string Quartet play musical 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:47.960 movie themes, which was awesome. Sounds a yeah, it was 0:16:48.000 --> 0:16:50.480 just we we we wanted to make sure we put 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:53.200 details in there that meant the world to Ashley and I. 0:16:53.240 --> 0:16:56.119 Even for example, during the ceremony we had two readings, 0:16:57.120 --> 0:17:00.320 but they were your traditional readings. They were movie read things, 0:17:00.760 --> 0:17:02.480 and people can give us crap for that. I don't 0:17:02.480 --> 0:17:05.040 really care because it was what Ashley and I wanted 0:17:05.160 --> 0:17:07.320 and one of them was so we had a one 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:10.359 bridesmaid and one groom's been go up and do a 0:17:10.440 --> 0:17:13.320 reading from a movie and the first one was the 0:17:13.359 --> 0:17:15.880 finale scene from Jerry McGuire where he comes in I'm 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:18.639 looking for my wife, and then that was fantastic, And 0:17:18.680 --> 0:17:20.280 then we had to do another reading from When Harry 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:21.600 met Sally, where of course he goes to the New 0:17:21.680 --> 0:17:24.720 Year's Eve party and confesses his love for from Meg 0:17:24.800 --> 0:17:26.560 Ryan's character and they did a great job with it, 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:29.480 and Nick dominated it. It was awesome. Also, yeah, I 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:31.080 just want to point out this, like it's kind of 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:33.480 awkward that I'm talking about the wedding because of the 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:37.000 history between Vanessa and I. Uh and Vanessa, I hope 0:17:37.000 --> 0:17:39.359 you don't feel awkward about talking about it, and not 0:17:39.400 --> 0:17:43.239 at all. I I was watching you stories and I 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:46.399 found it absolutely amazing, and like I said, it just 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:49.280 ended up happening that that weekend too, was my grandmother's funeral. 0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:53.119 Oh my god, yeah, I texted you. Yeah, So it 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:56.879 was just, Um, I absolutely loved watching his stories and 0:17:56.920 --> 0:18:00.119 hearing you know, like watching every everyone else's reaction is 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:03.600 to your The whole experience from like even when Ashley 0:18:03.680 --> 0:18:06.880 was trying on wedding dresses to seeing her final pick 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:09.160 of her wedding dress was like, oh my god, I'm 0:18:09.160 --> 0:18:11.640 sure all the girls that were following her were so 0:18:11.680 --> 0:18:14.800