WEBVTT - HOW-TO MINISODE WITH TORREY DEVITTO: How to prioritize self-care!

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<v Speaker 1>So how do you prioritize self care when you feel

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<v Speaker 1>like you have zero time or how would you tell

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<v Speaker 1>someone who feels like they are just busting it don't

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<v Speaker 1>have any time off? Are like moving a million miles

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<v Speaker 1>a minute? How can someone prioritize self care in their life?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I know you are like that is your like

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<v Speaker 1>self care is. We have to have it. It's so

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<v Speaker 1>essential for our well being, for everyone, for this world

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<v Speaker 1>to thrive, we all need to have self care. So

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<v Speaker 1>how when some feels like they don't know how to

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<v Speaker 1>have self care they really have never prioritized it. How

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<v Speaker 1>do you work that into your life? I would say, um, really,

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<v Speaker 1>really be specific about the things you want to say

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<v Speaker 1>yes to and do your practice exercise yes, be okay

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<v Speaker 1>with saying no, because really, at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>it's never as big of a deal as you think

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<v Speaker 1>it is, do you know what I mean? Like all

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<v Speaker 1>the good decisions we think we have to make every day,

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<v Speaker 1>or if you miss this or you missed that event,

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<v Speaker 1>or it's really not that big of a deal and

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you missing something means that something bigger is right

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<v Speaker 1>around the corner. And I think when you do have

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<v Speaker 1>moments of downtime because I remember, like when I was younger,

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<v Speaker 1>if I had moments of downtime and I could just

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<v Speaker 1>spend the day, you know, being like a sloth, I

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<v Speaker 1>would get so stressed because I'd be like, I should

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<v Speaker 1>be doing something, I should be doing something, I should

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<v Speaker 1>be doing something. And then I when I was busy,

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<v Speaker 1>I regretted not taking advantage of those moments. So I

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<v Speaker 1>would say, even if it feels unnatural to you and

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<v Speaker 1>you need a day where you just lay on the couch,

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<v Speaker 1>do it. Do you know what I mean? Do it?

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<v Speaker 1>Listen to your body. Those moments are really important. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you have practices that you put in place till I

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<v Speaker 1>get you in the zone? Yeah? I mean I meditation

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<v Speaker 1>is really huge. Um. Meditation, I do a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>Like um, when I say prayer, um, it kind of

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<v Speaker 1>comes in all different forms, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>I talked to the universe, to goddesses, to angels like

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<v Speaker 1>whatever I feel called to pray to you in the

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<v Speaker 1>moment um those things kind of and then also weak.

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<v Speaker 1>I know this is gonna sound a little silly, but

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<v Speaker 1>like staying hydrated and eating is so important. You have

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<v Speaker 1>got to nourish your body. If you don't nourish your

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<v Speaker 1>body and you think you're gonna go go, go, go go,

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<v Speaker 1>you are going to crash. Like I feel like some

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<v Speaker 1>people like that. Intuitive eating is so important to me.

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<v Speaker 1>When you're hungry, eat, do you know what I mean? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>screw what you think about the business, screw what you

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<v Speaker 1>think about what you're worried about. Your body is amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>It will tell you when it needs to eat. Eat,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. I've seen so many people

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<v Speaker 1>afraid of honoring that, especially in this industry, like eat,

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<v Speaker 1>eat eat. How do you navigate the pressures of like

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<v Speaker 1>having to feel like you have to like keep your

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<v Speaker 1>body a certain way. Are you finally just done with that?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you? Like I am? I am? I mean, look,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to lie and say that I'm not insecure.

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<v Speaker 1>Every once in awhile, especially after COVID, I gained, like

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<v Speaker 1>I gained more weight than I've ever gained in my life,

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<v Speaker 1>Like a lot of my clothes to fit anymore, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what the fuck I know? And it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>especially you and like I've kind of in the same way.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like you do so much self work and you're

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<v Speaker 1>feeling so good about yourself. But then you actually do

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<v Speaker 1>gain like twenty pounds, You're like, oh my god, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a wreck. I'm back in the spiral. Yes, that's for me. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>And it's funny, you know, especially now, like being single

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<v Speaker 1>and thirty eight years old, I'm like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm not in great shape. Like what if I

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<v Speaker 1>want to meet someone, shouldn't it be in the best ship?

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, no, stop it Like, love yourself how

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<v Speaker 1>you are, and if someone wants to meet you there,

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<v Speaker 1>they will meet you there. And if somebody is not

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<v Speaker 1>going to love you because you're not in the best shape,

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<v Speaker 1>then you don't want to be with them anyways. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you imagine having to maintain your body for the love

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<v Speaker 1>of your partner? Oh my god, Oh my god. Suations

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<v Speaker 1>like that and they're, oh you have yes, you have

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<v Speaker 1>been so I see. I think I have always gravitated

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<v Speaker 1>towards people who are like healthy, but never like perfect physique,

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<v Speaker 1>because that, to me, that pressure that's too much for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I've already had too many eating disorders, cared too much

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<v Speaker 1>about what I've got. I'm like, how do you deal

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<v Speaker 1>with maintaining that? Well? I feel like I don't how

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<v Speaker 1>did you, What was it like? Honestly, I'm really bad

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<v Speaker 1>at consistently working out, So that's always been my struggle.

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<v Speaker 1>When I was younger, I had really great metabolism, and

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<v Speaker 1>now that I don't have that metabolism driving me anymore,

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<v Speaker 1>I have to try to find ways to work out,

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<v Speaker 1>not because of looks, but more because of aches and

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<v Speaker 1>pains and like, oh my god, I want to be

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<v Speaker 1>healthy when I'm old. So that mindset switch is really important,

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<v Speaker 1>Like making the way I eat. Look, I indulge all

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<v Speaker 1>the time. I love me too bad food, pizza, nachos,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. I have a doctor pepper

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<v Speaker 1>every day I'm trying to quit. I can't do it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, but me, it's like that if you switch

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<v Speaker 1>your mindset to be like, I'm doing this because I

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<v Speaker 1>want to be healthy, not because I want to look

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<v Speaker 1>a certain way, that to me is that because when

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<v Speaker 1>I start working out and eating healthier and this and that,

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<v Speaker 1>it's I know, my body doesn't change in two days,

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<v Speaker 1>but I feel better and I feel more confident. And

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<v Speaker 1>so coming from there, I read have you read um

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<v Speaker 1>Women who Run with the Wolves? No, but you're like

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<v Speaker 1>the third person who has mentioned that late, like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to read it. There is this one chapter

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<v Speaker 1>that talks basically about bodies, and I will never forget.

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<v Speaker 1>It impacted me so deeply because it basically said in

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<v Speaker 1>a nutshell and you have to read it for yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Um that when you don't like a part of yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>it's you telling your ancestors and your future generations that

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<v Speaker 1>you don't like parts of them as well. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I would never look at my grandma and

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<v Speaker 1>be like, Grandma, I hate your arms, they're too flat

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<v Speaker 1>me or Mom, I hate your stomach, or you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean. All the things I say, I'd never

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<v Speaker 1>said it to my child, or my people, or my sisters.

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<v Speaker 1>So when I say it about me, even if I

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<v Speaker 1>can't have that wherewithal to say, don't say bad things

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<v Speaker 1>about yourself. When I'm saying about me, I'm telling my

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<v Speaker 1>sisters I don't like because we all have similar bodies,

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm telling them I don't like how they look,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think they're beautiful. So that was a really good.

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<v Speaker 1>So now when I get down on myself, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, do I have cellulated on my arms?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I mean, I have my grandmother's arms, like

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<v Speaker 1>I would. I love my grandmother's body, So thank you, grandma.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean. I try to do that shift,

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<v Speaker 1>which actually has been the most helpful thing that is

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<v Speaker 1>profound and beautiful, and I love that because I have

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<v Speaker 1>cellulite all my stomach and I'm like me do I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, this is ridiculous. But then I'm also

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm like, listen, I if I stand naked in

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<v Speaker 1>front of you, there is a lot of stuff you

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<v Speaker 1>can I could pick a part, you know, But it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>so what, I'm a human. This body has served me

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<v Speaker 1>so well, and like so thankful to this body and

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<v Speaker 1>so thankful for all the privilege that I have to

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<v Speaker 1>have mobility with it and you know, and to have

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<v Speaker 1>all the functioning parts. Like what a privilege and blessing.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. Switching your mentality and I totally agree with you.

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<v Speaker 1>Or do you do that? You catch yourself and like

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<v Speaker 1>switch it like self talk. I was like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>remember what I was. Oh. I had done a little

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<v Speaker 1>tiny workout by myself, and I was on a yoga

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<v Speaker 1>mat in like child's post for a second, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was feeling not so great and I had this like

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<v Speaker 1>weird out of body experience where I saw like my

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<v Speaker 1>soul like up here looking at my body and saying, like, you,

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<v Speaker 1>she is on loan to me, so nurture her and

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<v Speaker 1>take care of her, because she's not yours keep, Like

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<v Speaker 1>this body is not mine to keep. She is literally

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<v Speaker 1>on loan to me. And then I almost saw my

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<v Speaker 1>body as very separate from myself and started going like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, I'm so sorry. That's so mean to you, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>and she has been showing up for your body, just

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<v Speaker 1>showing up for you every day. I show up for you.

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<v Speaker 1>I gave you a vehicle to move around this world,

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<v Speaker 1>to travel to to love, to all these experiences, and

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<v Speaker 1>you're kind of mean to me, Like I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh god. And then it's like and then she's like,

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<v Speaker 1>when I'm finally not doing what you are asking me

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<v Speaker 1>to do, it's because you've broken me. You've worn me down,

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<v Speaker 1>like you have beat me to a pole. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>function anymore. Like cut me a break and love me.

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<v Speaker 1>That is so sweet. I love that. That's a really

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<v Speaker 1>good visual to think about and just to remember that

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<v Speaker 1>like this is this body is just housing our soul. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and we got to take care of it. We got

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<v Speaker 1>to take care of it. Yeah,