Speaker 1: So how do you prioritize self care when you feel
Speaker 1: like you have zero time or how would you tell
Speaker 1: someone who feels like they are just busting it don't
Speaker 1: have any time off? Are like moving a million miles
Speaker 1: a minute? How can someone prioritize self care in their life?
Speaker 1: Because I know you are like that is your like
Speaker 1: self care is. We have to have it. It's so
Speaker 1: essential for our well being, for everyone, for this world
Speaker 1: to thrive, we all need to have self care. So
Speaker 1: how when some feels like they don't know how to
Speaker 1: have self care they really have never prioritized it. How
Speaker 1: do you work that into your life? I would say, um, really,
Speaker 1: really be specific about the things you want to say
Speaker 1: yes to and do your practice exercise yes, be okay
Speaker 1: with saying no, because really, at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: it's never as big of a deal as you think
Speaker 1: it is, do you know what I mean? Like all
Speaker 1: the good decisions we think we have to make every day,
Speaker 1: or if you miss this or you missed that event,
Speaker 1: or it's really not that big of a deal and
Speaker 1: maybe you missing something means that something bigger is right
Speaker 1: around the corner. And I think when you do have
Speaker 1: moments of downtime because I remember, like when I was younger,
Speaker 1: if I had moments of downtime and I could just
Speaker 1: spend the day, you know, being like a sloth, I
Speaker 1: would get so stressed because I'd be like, I should
Speaker 1: be doing something, I should be doing something, I should
Speaker 1: be doing something. And then I when I was busy,
Speaker 1: I regretted not taking advantage of those moments. So I
Speaker 1: would say, even if it feels unnatural to you and
Speaker 1: you need a day where you just lay on the couch,
Speaker 1: do it. Do you know what I mean? Do it?
Speaker 1: Listen to your body. Those moments are really important. Do
Speaker 1: you have practices that you put in place till I
Speaker 1: get you in the zone? Yeah? I mean I meditation
Speaker 1: is really huge. Um. Meditation, I do a lot of
Speaker 1: Like um, when I say prayer, um, it kind of
Speaker 1: comes in all different forms, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I talked to the universe, to goddesses, to angels like
Speaker 1: whatever I feel called to pray to you in the
Speaker 1: moment um those things kind of and then also weak.
Speaker 1: I know this is gonna sound a little silly, but
Speaker 1: like staying hydrated and eating is so important. You have
Speaker 1: got to nourish your body. If you don't nourish your
Speaker 1: body and you think you're gonna go go, go, go go,
Speaker 1: you are going to crash. Like I feel like some
Speaker 1: people like that. Intuitive eating is so important to me.
Speaker 1: When you're hungry, eat, do you know what I mean? Like,
Speaker 1: screw what you think about the business, screw what you
Speaker 1: think about what you're worried about. Your body is amazing.
Speaker 1: It will tell you when it needs to eat. Eat,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I've seen so many people
Speaker 1: afraid of honoring that, especially in this industry, like eat,
Speaker 1: eat eat. How do you navigate the pressures of like
Speaker 1: having to feel like you have to like keep your
Speaker 1: body a certain way. Are you finally just done with that?
Speaker 1: Are you? Like I am? I am? I mean, look,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to lie and say that I'm not insecure.
Speaker 1: Every once in awhile, especially after COVID, I gained, like
Speaker 1: I gained more weight than I've ever gained in my life,
Speaker 1: Like a lot of my clothes to fit anymore, and
Speaker 1: I was like, what the fuck I know? And it's like,
Speaker 1: especially you and like I've kind of in the same way.
Speaker 1: It's like you do so much self work and you're
Speaker 1: feeling so good about yourself. But then you actually do
Speaker 1: gain like twenty pounds, You're like, oh my god, I'm
Speaker 1: a wreck. I'm back in the spiral. Yes, that's for me. Yes,
Speaker 1: And it's funny, you know, especially now, like being single
Speaker 1: and thirty eight years old, I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: but I'm not in great shape. Like what if I
Speaker 1: want to meet someone, shouldn't it be in the best ship?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, no, stop it Like, love yourself how
Speaker 1: you are, and if someone wants to meet you there,
Speaker 1: they will meet you there. And if somebody is not
Speaker 1: going to love you because you're not in the best shape,
Speaker 1: then you don't want to be with them anyways. Do
Speaker 1: you imagine having to maintain your body for the love
Speaker 1: of your partner? Oh my god, Oh my god. Suations
Speaker 1: like that and they're, oh you have yes, you have
Speaker 1: been so I see. I think I have always gravitated
Speaker 1: towards people who are like healthy, but never like perfect physique,
Speaker 1: because that, to me, that pressure that's too much for me.
Speaker 1: I've already had too many eating disorders, cared too much
Speaker 1: about what I've got. I'm like, how do you deal
Speaker 1: with maintaining that? Well? I feel like I don't how
Speaker 1: did you, What was it like? Honestly, I'm really bad
Speaker 1: at consistently working out, So that's always been my struggle.
Speaker 1: When I was younger, I had really great metabolism, and
Speaker 1: now that I don't have that metabolism driving me anymore,
Speaker 1: I have to try to find ways to work out,
Speaker 1: not because of looks, but more because of aches and
Speaker 1: pains and like, oh my god, I want to be
Speaker 1: healthy when I'm old. So that mindset switch is really important,
Speaker 1: Like making the way I eat. Look, I indulge all
Speaker 1: the time. I love me too bad food, pizza, nachos,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I have a doctor pepper
Speaker 1: every day I'm trying to quit. I can't do it.
Speaker 1: I'm like, but me, it's like that if you switch
Speaker 1: your mindset to be like, I'm doing this because I
Speaker 1: want to be healthy, not because I want to look
Speaker 1: a certain way, that to me is that because when
Speaker 1: I start working out and eating healthier and this and that,
Speaker 1: it's I know, my body doesn't change in two days,
Speaker 1: but I feel better and I feel more confident. And
Speaker 1: so coming from there, I read have you read um
Speaker 1: Women who Run with the Wolves? No, but you're like
Speaker 1: the third person who has mentioned that late, like, Okay,
Speaker 1: you have to read it. There is this one chapter
Speaker 1: that talks basically about bodies, and I will never forget.
Speaker 1: It impacted me so deeply because it basically said in
Speaker 1: a nutshell and you have to read it for yourself.
Speaker 1: Um that when you don't like a part of yourself,
Speaker 1: it's you telling your ancestors and your future generations that
Speaker 1: you don't like parts of them as well. And I
Speaker 1: was like, I would never look at my grandma and
Speaker 1: be like, Grandma, I hate your arms, they're too flat
Speaker 1: me or Mom, I hate your stomach, or you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. All the things I say, I'd never
Speaker 1: said it to my child, or my people, or my sisters.
Speaker 1: So when I say it about me, even if I
Speaker 1: can't have that wherewithal to say, don't say bad things
Speaker 1: about yourself. When I'm saying about me, I'm telling my
Speaker 1: sisters I don't like because we all have similar bodies,
Speaker 1: so I'm telling them I don't like how they look,
Speaker 1: and I think they're beautiful. So that was a really good.
Speaker 1: So now when I get down on myself, I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, do I have cellulated on my arms?
Speaker 1: I'm like, I mean, I have my grandmother's arms, like
Speaker 1: I would. I love my grandmother's body, So thank you, grandma.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. I try to do that shift,
Speaker 1: which actually has been the most helpful thing that is
Speaker 1: profound and beautiful, and I love that because I have
Speaker 1: cellulite all my stomach and I'm like me do I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, this is ridiculous. But then I'm also
Speaker 1: like I'm like, listen, I if I stand naked in
Speaker 1: front of you, there is a lot of stuff you
Speaker 1: can I could pick a part, you know, But it's like,
Speaker 1: so what, I'm a human. This body has served me
Speaker 1: so well, and like so thankful to this body and
Speaker 1: so thankful for all the privilege that I have to
Speaker 1: have mobility with it and you know, and to have
Speaker 1: all the functioning parts. Like what a privilege and blessing.
Speaker 1: I know. Switching your mentality and I totally agree with you.
Speaker 1: Or do you do that? You catch yourself and like
Speaker 1: switch it like self talk. I was like, I don't
Speaker 1: remember what I was. Oh. I had done a little
Speaker 1: tiny workout by myself, and I was on a yoga
Speaker 1: mat in like child's post for a second, and I
Speaker 1: was feeling not so great and I had this like
Speaker 1: weird out of body experience where I saw like my
Speaker 1: soul like up here looking at my body and saying, like, you,
Speaker 1: she is on loan to me, so nurture her and
Speaker 1: take care of her, because she's not yours keep, Like
Speaker 1: this body is not mine to keep. She is literally
Speaker 1: on loan to me. And then I almost saw my
Speaker 1: body as very separate from myself and started going like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm so sorry. That's so mean to you, Like,
Speaker 1: and she has been showing up for your body, just
Speaker 1: showing up for you every day. I show up for you.
Speaker 1: I gave you a vehicle to move around this world,
Speaker 1: to travel to to love, to all these experiences, and
Speaker 1: you're kind of mean to me, Like I was like,
Speaker 1: oh god. And then it's like and then she's like,
Speaker 1: when I'm finally not doing what you are asking me
Speaker 1: to do, it's because you've broken me. You've worn me down,
Speaker 1: like you have beat me to a pole. I can't
Speaker 1: function anymore. Like cut me a break and love me.
Speaker 1: That is so sweet. I love that. That's a really
Speaker 1: good visual to think about and just to remember that
Speaker 1: like this is this body is just housing our soul. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and we got to take care of it. We got
Speaker 1: to take care of it. Yeah,