1 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached 2 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheekys podcast. I'm here 3 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:28,640 Speaker 1: to give you a device on anything and everything you 4 00:00:28,680 --> 00:00:31,160 Speaker 1: need help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or 5 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:33,640 Speaker 1: having issues with your family, or maybe you have a 6 00:00:33,720 --> 00:00:36,360 Speaker 1: question about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I 7 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:39,360 Speaker 1: want to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts 8 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:41,640 Speaker 1: in my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious 9 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:45,560 Speaker 1: issue or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional. 10 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 1: All right, now, go ahead and leave your message. At 11 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:49,239 Speaker 1: the sound of. 12 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 2: The beeB, Hie Cheekys. I wanted to ask what would 13 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:56,040 Speaker 2: you do in my situation? So I've been with my 14 00:00:56,120 --> 00:01:02,400 Speaker 2: boyfriend almost six years. I have always asked him when 15 00:01:02,440 --> 00:01:05,039 Speaker 2: are we moving in together? Last time he told me 16 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 2: in six months. Never happened. And now my sundting used 17 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:11,679 Speaker 2: to sleep in his own room. I have my own 18 00:01:11,720 --> 00:01:15,560 Speaker 2: place now that he does. He is now staying with me, 19 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:19,760 Speaker 2: spending the night over at my house every night. And 20 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 2: when it used to be only when the kids were 21 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 2: not home because they would go with their dad. What 22 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 2: would you do now that he's spending the night. Every night, 23 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 2: he only goes to his house to change to get 24 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:37,200 Speaker 2: ready for work, and when he's off work, he comes 25 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:39,600 Speaker 2: and spends the night at my house, leaves in the 26 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 2: morning to get ready for work. But now in a 27 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 2: situation as to we're basically living together, but not really 28 00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 2: because he's at his house paying his own rent. I'm 29 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:56,360 Speaker 2: at my house paying my own rent, but he sleeps 30 00:01:56,400 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 2: with me. I don't know what to do. And every 31 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 2: time I bring up the situation, it's your baby daddy 32 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:07,320 Speaker 2: is on the way. I don't want to deal with that. 33 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:11,520 Speaker 2: Oh please, oh Maria. 34 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:14,920 Speaker 1: Okay, Well, thank you first of all for trusting me 35 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 1: to give you advice. I promised to give you the 36 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 1: best advice from the bottom of my heart. This doesn't 37 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: sit right with me because he knew when he started 38 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:26,880 Speaker 1: dating you. You have a baby daddy, you have children, 39 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: so it's not a valid excuse. That's one. 40 00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:31,680 Speaker 3: Two. 41 00:02:32,280 --> 00:02:35,519 Speaker 1: He just doesn't want to make it official. You guys 42 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:39,360 Speaker 1: are basically living together. It's almost like he wants to 43 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:41,800 Speaker 1: have his cake and eat it too, and that's not cool. 44 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 1: You want to sleep here and use my water and 45 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 1: my electricity and all that stuff, but you don't want 46 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: to contribute. Is he helping you financially? That's important to know. 47 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:55,839 Speaker 1: I think this conversation needs to be had as soon 48 00:02:55,880 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: as possible because you're going to start resenting him and 49 00:03:00,760 --> 00:03:03,480 Speaker 1: tension is going to build up. So you need to 50 00:03:03,480 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: be straight up. If you want to stay with him, cool, 51 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:08,200 Speaker 1: we can stay together, but you live in your home. 52 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:09,920 Speaker 1: I live in my home. But if that's not what 53 00:03:09,960 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 1: you want, Maria, you need to be clear with that 54 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:15,959 Speaker 1: and about that. You need to say, this is how 55 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:18,400 Speaker 1: I want it, this is what I want at this 56 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:21,240 Speaker 1: point of our relationship, you keep avoiding it. Are you 57 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 1: afraid of commitment? Is that too much of a title? Oh, 58 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:27,359 Speaker 1: we live together? That's another thing, because that's a whole 59 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:32,400 Speaker 1: other situation. So you have to decide, do I want 60 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 1: to stay with this person he's not fully committing, or 61 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 1: do I say here, here's the ultimatum, because you have 62 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 1: to respect yourself and your feelings and your family, your 63 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 1: children as well. That's your home, that's your sacred space, 64 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:46,440 Speaker 1: and he just wants to come in whenever it's convenient. 65 00:03:47,040 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 1: I don't agree with that. I understand, and I completely 66 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 1: validate your feelings. So you're not crazy for feeling the 67 00:03:52,480 --> 00:03:54,560 Speaker 1: way that you're feeling, and the only way he's going 68 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:57,600 Speaker 1: to respect you is if you respect yourself first, and 69 00:03:57,800 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 1: you're very clear with what you want and what you're 70 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 1: not going to tolerate. So that's the best advice I 71 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 1: can give you. I'm not telling you what to do. 72 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 1: I can't tell you to leave him. But something's not 73 00:04:08,800 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 1: sitting right, and you feel it too, because that's your intuition. 74 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 1: Your intuition told you let me ask Cheeky's and that's 75 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:19,760 Speaker 1: already an indication of something's not right here. So I'm 76 00:04:19,800 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 1: not saying he's with anyone else. It's just I think 77 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 1: he's afraid of commitment. Let's figure out what that is 78 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:27,520 Speaker 1: and why. But using the baby daddy as an excuse, 79 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:29,440 Speaker 1: it's like, dude, he's going to be in the way 80 00:04:29,480 --> 00:04:32,359 Speaker 1: for the rest of my life and my children's lives. 81 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:34,279 Speaker 1: You knew what you were getting yourself into when you 82 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:36,840 Speaker 1: started dating me, Like, we are not going there, so 83 00:04:36,960 --> 00:04:38,880 Speaker 1: don't let him gaslight you like that. 84 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:39,400 Speaker 3: Please. 85 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 1: That really upsets me because it's like you're not taking accountability. 86 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: You want to point fingers at everything else instead of saying, 87 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 1: you know what, I'm scared of commitment. I don't want 88 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:50,040 Speaker 1: to move in. I don't want to help pay the bills. 89 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 1: Whatever it may be, he's just using excuses. But the 90 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 1: point is figure out what you really want and stick 91 00:04:58,040 --> 00:05:00,720 Speaker 1: to that. Stick to it, or just say, hey, you 92 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:02,040 Speaker 1: can spend the night on the weekends. 93 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:02,880 Speaker 3: That's it. 94 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:05,040 Speaker 1: When the kids aren't here, you know, we have to 95 00:05:05,080 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 1: wake up early for school, et cetera. Like you have 96 00:05:07,360 --> 00:05:10,159 Speaker 1: to figure that out, but only you know, so I 97 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:12,520 Speaker 1: hope it works out, Maria, Please keep me updated. I 98 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:15,320 Speaker 1: want to know what you decided, and I hope it 99 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:19,280 Speaker 1: works out because I know that must torment you emotionally 100 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:22,080 Speaker 1: and mentally, so hope it gets better. Babe, sending you 101 00:05:22,120 --> 00:05:27,640 Speaker 1: a big, big hug, A big hug. Okay, guys, moving 102 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 1: on to an anonymous listener. 103 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:32,320 Speaker 4: Let's see, Hi, gee Geez, I had a question about 104 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:36,360 Speaker 4: your two latest songs. For the song Bamihente, how did 105 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:40,120 Speaker 4: you come up with the people's name like the lopita 106 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:45,760 Speaker 4: Ricardo Martina? And for the song titled Finnix, what made 107 00:05:45,760 --> 00:05:48,480 Speaker 4: you choose the title? It sounds like Phineas, which I 108 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:52,479 Speaker 4: love eat. Also, the song is so different and powerful. 109 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 4: You're doing your thing, bro, I love it now For 110 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 4: my final question, well not mine's my daughter's little misca 111 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:01,400 Speaker 4: has a final question for you. 112 00:06:01,960 --> 00:06:08,200 Speaker 5: Ah, hi, cheekies, I have a question for you, and 113 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:13,560 Speaker 5: and what's your favorite Disney character? And I love you? 114 00:06:14,040 --> 00:06:20,799 Speaker 1: Oh bye, Oh my gosh, she just melted my heart. 115 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 3: Oh how cute. 116 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: I think Gabby is her name? Gabby on Thank you 117 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:27,160 Speaker 1: for your question, mama. Start with Gabby okay, because she 118 00:06:27,680 --> 00:06:30,880 Speaker 1: asked me about my favorite Disney character. You know what's funny, 119 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 1: My very first favorite princess was Pocahontas, then Ariel and 120 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:39,880 Speaker 1: then Lion King. So if I had to choose one 121 00:06:40,240 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 1: right now, right now, it's Pocahontas, just because I just 122 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:45,919 Speaker 1: recently watched the movie and I just watched it with 123 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:48,920 Speaker 1: different eyes, with like a grown up heart. So I 124 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:53,080 Speaker 1: love Pocahontas and I love everything Disney, Mama. I love Disney. 125 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:56,239 Speaker 1: It makes me so happy. And thank you for your question. 126 00:06:56,760 --> 00:06:59,240 Speaker 1: All your little voice, I'm sending you a little kissy 127 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:03,840 Speaker 1: a lot of kisses. And now for your mommy our 128 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:10,040 Speaker 1: anonymous listener here. Okay, so by me hint them we chose. 129 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 1: I didn't even choose specific names. I wasn't like, oh, 130 00:07:13,680 --> 00:07:15,960 Speaker 1: I wanted to be Lupita. It just also had to 131 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:21,000 Speaker 1: kind of rhyme. Certain syllables are important when you're writing songs. 132 00:07:21,520 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 1: And also I wanted it to be more of like 133 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 1: a John Smith sort of thing where it kind of 134 00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 1: fits everyone, because we're all Lupita's, we're all Martenas, we're 135 00:07:30,680 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 1: even Rigardo's, you know. So that was the idea, I 136 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:35,800 Speaker 1: guess of like the whole song. I wanted it to 137 00:07:35,840 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 1: be kind of like for all of us in a way, 138 00:07:38,160 --> 00:07:41,240 Speaker 1: even if your name isn't Lupitam. So yeah, I wasn't 139 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:45,000 Speaker 1: like specific to a person or anyone in my life 140 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:47,520 Speaker 1: or anything like that. People have asked me that, but no, 141 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:51,000 Speaker 1: that's I would be lying if I said yes to that. 142 00:07:51,440 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: And then Fenix, well, Phoenix is from Phoenix, the bird Phoenix, 143 00:07:55,560 --> 00:07:57,280 Speaker 1: and we just called it Phoenix, you know, because in 144 00:07:57,280 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 1: Spanish and it looks cool. It was actually called mirame 145 00:08:00,880 --> 00:08:05,960 Speaker 1: first because it's like Mira mehl this, miramec and me 146 00:08:06,120 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 1: well sismas, so that's like the chorus. So it was 147 00:08:09,800 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 1: called Mirameh. But one day I was at the gym 148 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 1: working out, and obviously right working out of the gym, Yes, 149 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:19,920 Speaker 1: I was working out, and I was listening to the 150 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:22,240 Speaker 1: song as I usually do because I'm like, Okay, is 151 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:24,000 Speaker 1: there anything I want to change? Like, I'm kind of 152 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:26,600 Speaker 1: I've become very picky with my music, especially this music. 153 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:30,480 Speaker 1: So I started imagining and visualizing because I'm a very 154 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:34,160 Speaker 1: visual person, Like what do I want the visuals to 155 00:08:34,240 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 1: be or the visualizer or the lyric video the music video. 156 00:08:37,760 --> 00:08:39,680 Speaker 1: And I saw myself as a bird. I was like, 157 00:08:39,760 --> 00:08:43,040 Speaker 1: I'm flying. I feel like I'm flying in this song. 158 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 1: But I also hear a horse and I was like, 159 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:48,840 Speaker 1: you know what, I was like, wait, the lyrics say 160 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:57,880 Speaker 1: that I had to fall and get back up tubek guys, 161 00:08:57,920 --> 00:09:00,880 Speaker 1: So that's what a fenix says, you know. So look 162 00:09:00,920 --> 00:09:05,640 Speaker 1: it up and see what a phoenix symbolizes. It's spelled 163 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:10,000 Speaker 1: like phoenix, you know, you know Arizona phoenix. Yeah, so 164 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:13,000 Speaker 1: so yeah, that's why I named it phoenix. It doesn't 165 00:09:13,040 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: even say phoenix in there at all anywhere. But it's 166 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:19,120 Speaker 1: just that feeling that I got when I heard the song, 167 00:09:19,240 --> 00:09:22,079 Speaker 1: and it's just my rebirth and now I'm flying and 168 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:25,920 Speaker 1: I'm soaring in the best way I possibly can right now, 169 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 1: you know, because I died to my old self to ego. 170 00:09:31,040 --> 00:09:33,079 Speaker 1: So anyway, thank you so much for your question. I 171 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:34,960 Speaker 1: appreciate and thank you for listening to my music. I'm 172 00:09:34,960 --> 00:09:36,839 Speaker 1: so grateful, Thank you, thank you. A kiss to you 173 00:09:36,920 --> 00:09:46,360 Speaker 1: and little Gabby. All right, our last question comes from 174 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:48,560 Speaker 1: am Near Hi Tiki. 175 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:52,719 Speaker 3: My name is am Near A M and E E. R. 176 00:09:52,920 --> 00:09:57,400 Speaker 3: Just in case. So my first question is are you 177 00:09:57,480 --> 00:10:02,720 Speaker 3: ever gonna release vinyls? I'm a huge vinyl collection, and girl, 178 00:10:02,960 --> 00:10:07,880 Speaker 3: I need the Averena vinyl so bad because I know 179 00:10:07,920 --> 00:10:10,520 Speaker 3: that shit would slay. And then let me just say 180 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:14,240 Speaker 3: real quick that I actually went to the ave Carena 181 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:17,280 Speaker 3: tour and that the Amunths tour in Arizona, and I 182 00:10:17,360 --> 00:10:20,240 Speaker 3: met you in the ave Carena tour and you're so sweet. 183 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:22,280 Speaker 3: I love you so much. You know when they say 184 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:24,400 Speaker 3: you should never meet your idols, I am so happy 185 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 3: that I met you. You're the sweetest person, so genuine, 186 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:31,680 Speaker 3: so humble. I love you. You're amazing. Okay, so now what 187 00:10:31,760 --> 00:10:34,520 Speaker 3: I want to tell you is, so let me preface 188 00:10:34,559 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 3: by saying that I am a gay man. And you 189 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:40,720 Speaker 3: know I have this quote unquote homegirl. You know what 190 00:10:40,760 --> 00:10:43,720 Speaker 3: I mean, and I am noticed these past couple of months, 191 00:10:44,280 --> 00:10:46,559 Speaker 3: I feel like she's in like some sort of competition 192 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:48,559 Speaker 3: with me, Like when it comes to guys, like if 193 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 3: I talk to a guy or I get a guy's number, 194 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:52,720 Speaker 3: she'll be like, oh, how'd you pull that? Like why 195 00:10:52,760 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 3: didn't you look at me? And I'm like, girl, shit, 196 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:57,280 Speaker 3: I don't know. Or if I post, like on my 197 00:10:57,320 --> 00:11:00,360 Speaker 3: social media, like a specific dream or a specific item 198 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 3: brand whatever, she comes out that I say with the 199 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:05,520 Speaker 3: same product I just had, and it's a little weird 200 00:11:05,600 --> 00:11:07,760 Speaker 3: to me. How would you navigate the situation? 201 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:11,440 Speaker 1: Oh, I'm near. Thank you so much for your question. 202 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:12,920 Speaker 1: I love your name, by the way, thank you for 203 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 1: spelling it out for us. I appreciate that. And I'm 204 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:18,080 Speaker 1: so glad that you met me, and thank you for 205 00:11:18,120 --> 00:11:22,480 Speaker 1: those beautiful words. That makes me feel good because I've 206 00:11:22,480 --> 00:11:26,560 Speaker 1: met some of my idols and I was very disappointed. Actually, 207 00:11:26,600 --> 00:11:30,160 Speaker 1: it made me really really sad. So I used to 208 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:32,280 Speaker 1: think that I'm like, yeah, don't ever meet your idols 209 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:35,280 Speaker 1: as a fan and even as an artist. But hearing 210 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:36,959 Speaker 1: you say that, I'm just like, you know what, there 211 00:11:36,960 --> 00:11:39,239 Speaker 1: are nice people out there. So thank you for that confirmation. 212 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:42,360 Speaker 1: It makes me really happy. I appreciate it. And yes, 213 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:45,760 Speaker 1: as far as vinyls. We were just talking about that 214 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 1: with my siblings because we're going to come out with 215 00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 1: a vinyl for my mom one of her new albums 216 00:11:50,400 --> 00:11:53,559 Speaker 1: that we're going to be dropping soon, and I thought 217 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:55,640 Speaker 1: about it. I was like, I need another vinyl, like 218 00:11:55,679 --> 00:11:58,000 Speaker 1: I just came out with one. But you're right, Abhrena 219 00:11:58,080 --> 00:12:01,080 Speaker 1: is such like a classic. I feel it's like going 220 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:04,160 Speaker 1: to be one of the songs that just represents me 221 00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:06,480 Speaker 1: for the rest of my life. So I think there's 222 00:12:06,520 --> 00:12:09,559 Speaker 1: something there. I might surprise you. It takes six months 223 00:12:09,600 --> 00:12:12,680 Speaker 1: to create and finalize a process of six months for 224 00:12:12,720 --> 00:12:15,960 Speaker 1: a vinyl, so maybe for next Christmas, but thank you. 225 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:18,680 Speaker 1: I definitely will keep that in mind and make it 226 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:22,720 Speaker 1: happen for you, guys. And as far as your homegirl look, babe, 227 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:25,520 Speaker 1: it looks like she admires you. She may be a 228 00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:28,640 Speaker 1: little bit jealous, but it's probably because she's a little 229 00:12:28,679 --> 00:12:33,480 Speaker 1: insecure about herself. She hasn't grown into her most confident self. 230 00:12:33,480 --> 00:12:37,200 Speaker 1: And that's okay. It takes time. If she's not deliberately 231 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:40,800 Speaker 1: trying to hurt you, I wouldn't, you know, let it 232 00:12:40,840 --> 00:12:44,080 Speaker 1: bother you too much. It just looks like she's a 233 00:12:44,080 --> 00:12:47,840 Speaker 1: little insecure and she admires you. I would see it 234 00:12:47,920 --> 00:12:50,120 Speaker 1: that way, like she admires me. She thinks I'm cool, 235 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 1: but she won't say it. I personally wouldn't want that 236 00:12:55,280 --> 00:12:57,600 Speaker 1: type of friend around me. I don't know. She could 237 00:12:57,600 --> 00:13:00,400 Speaker 1: be a really good person, but at this point in 238 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 1: my life. Mind you, I'm forty. You sound younger for me. 239 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:06,480 Speaker 1: I would just want people that are going to uplift me, 240 00:13:06,880 --> 00:13:10,880 Speaker 1: and I want to uplift my friends, So I wouldn't 241 00:13:10,880 --> 00:13:12,480 Speaker 1: deal with it. I'd be or I would talk to 242 00:13:12,520 --> 00:13:14,200 Speaker 1: her about it, be like, hey, what's going on, Like 243 00:13:14,960 --> 00:13:17,600 Speaker 1: you're making me feel uncomfortable and I don't like how 244 00:13:17,640 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 1: it's making me feel, and I think you need to 245 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:21,360 Speaker 1: bring it up. If this relationship, in this friendship is 246 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:23,880 Speaker 1: important to you, definitely bring it up and address it 247 00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:26,800 Speaker 1: and how it's making you feel. And hopefully she changes, 248 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:28,720 Speaker 1: and if she doesn't and she gets upset, then that's 249 00:13:28,800 --> 00:13:31,439 Speaker 1: your answer. We're not meant to be friends. But yeah, 250 00:13:31,480 --> 00:13:34,600 Speaker 1: I would have the conversation before letting them go or 251 00:13:34,800 --> 00:13:37,719 Speaker 1: just make space. It all just depends. But if she's 252 00:13:37,760 --> 00:13:39,960 Speaker 1: not hurting you, and she's not being mean and doing 253 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:44,120 Speaker 1: things behind your back and talking behind your back bad things. 254 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 1: I wouldn't let it bother me so much, but if 255 00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:50,160 Speaker 1: it's getting out of hand, it's definitely always better to 256 00:13:50,160 --> 00:13:54,240 Speaker 1: talk a hinte, So just say your peace, say how 257 00:13:54,240 --> 00:13:57,680 Speaker 1: she's making you feel, and go from there. But a 258 00:13:57,720 --> 00:14:01,640 Speaker 1: friend should always be celebrating you and hyping you up. 259 00:14:01,679 --> 00:14:04,120 Speaker 1: You need a hype woman, a hype girl, you know, 260 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:06,679 Speaker 1: not someone that's like, oh, why did they look at 261 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:09,360 Speaker 1: you and not me? Like that's that's kind of I 262 00:14:09,360 --> 00:14:12,520 Speaker 1: don't know. There's for sure jealousy. I think it's admiration 263 00:14:13,120 --> 00:14:15,440 Speaker 1: disguised as jealousy. That's what I think. 264 00:14:15,720 --> 00:14:16,160 Speaker 3: I don't know. 265 00:14:16,240 --> 00:14:19,920 Speaker 1: I could be wrong, but that is my advice. So 266 00:14:19,960 --> 00:14:22,240 Speaker 1: thank you, Papa, thank you all for your questions. I'm 267 00:14:22,280 --> 00:14:24,720 Speaker 1: so excited to hear from you guys. I'm so excited 268 00:14:24,720 --> 00:14:27,200 Speaker 1: that you guys are loving my music. I love thinking 269 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:30,400 Speaker 1: about Disney characters. So thank you little Gabby. You made 270 00:14:30,440 --> 00:14:33,400 Speaker 1: me so happy. And if you have a question, remember 271 00:14:33,520 --> 00:14:36,400 Speaker 1: I am here like a big sister, like a bestie 272 00:14:36,760 --> 00:14:39,920 Speaker 1: to answer any question you may have on your heart, 273 00:14:40,280 --> 00:14:41,920 Speaker 1: and I promise to give you the best advice I 274 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:44,280 Speaker 1: possibly can because I want the best for you. So 275 00:14:44,480 --> 00:14:47,040 Speaker 1: leave your question at speakpipe dot Com, slash Cheeky's and 276 00:14:47,120 --> 00:14:49,680 Speaker 1: Chill podcast. I'll see you on the next episode, Okay, 277 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:57,320 Speaker 1: Bessy Fellas. 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