WEBVTT - Is this rush advice total BS? 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:04.280 Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sororiti Life with 0:00:04.320 --> 0:00:07.280 your hosts me Gia Judice. 0:00:06.760 --> 0:00:08.480 Daisy Kent, and Jennifer Kessler. 0:00:12.280 --> 0:00:15.720 Welcome back to another episode of Dirty Rush. I'm Daisy 0:00:15.800 --> 0:00:20.200 Kent and today I'm here and joined by Trista Setter 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:21.320 and Megan King. 0:00:21.520 --> 0:00:23.239 Thank you guys for joining me today. 0:00:24.160 --> 0:00:25.480 Thanks for having us. 0:00:25.960 --> 0:00:26.720 Yeah. 0:00:26.800 --> 0:00:29.000 So today we're going to be breaking down all of 0:00:29.000 --> 0:00:33.320 the abundant and sometimes controversial advice about rush circulating on 0:00:33.320 --> 0:00:36.599 the Internet, and we're really going to debunk the advice 0:00:37.200 --> 0:00:40.560 that is BS versus Bible and tell you what you 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:43.959 really need to know to have a successful rush. So 0:00:44.640 --> 0:00:46.960 to start off, where did you both go to school? 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:49.880 I was Ole Miss Hattie Toddy. 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:53.800 Oh my gosh. Fun. One of my best friends from Vegas. 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:55.400 She went to Old Miss. 0:00:56.160 --> 0:00:59.360 It's It's a It was the cultural shock for me, 0:00:59.520 --> 0:01:02.560 but it was every bit of college I could have 0:01:02.640 --> 0:01:03.080 ever wanted. 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:07.360 And then some yeah, and then where did you go? Trista? 0:01:08.400 --> 0:01:12.080 I went to Indiana go Hoosiers. Oh I did know that, 0:01:12.680 --> 0:01:16.600 yes with not with Ben, but Ben also went their 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:19.520 way after me. And I was in Alpha Kai. 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:22.280 Oh my gosh cool. And what you know you were 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:24.319 in Alphakai and Megan, did you say what you were in? 0:01:24.840 --> 0:01:26.360 No, I was a Kappa Kappa gamma. 0:01:26.959 --> 0:01:27.919 Okay, cool. 0:01:28.240 --> 0:01:30.560 What's the phrase that goes? Was it in a movie 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:34.240 or something like Kappa gappa gamma? Can I or is it? 0:01:34.520 --> 0:01:37.720 Yeah, there's like there's a several There's like I'm so 0:01:37.760 --> 0:01:40.479 happy that I am a Kappa kapa kapa gamma. 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:43.360 And there was some bad ones. 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:48.480 That we don't need to say, but that was the 0:01:48.720 --> 0:01:50.800 I think that's is that one you're talking about. 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:53.640 Something like that, like kapacamba gammack? Can I help you? 0:01:53.720 --> 0:01:54.400 Help you help y'all? 0:01:54.480 --> 0:01:58.160 Or I can't remember what it was, but every time 0:01:58.200 --> 0:02:01.800 I hear someone say cappa gamma, it's like on the 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:05.360 tip of my tongue, like remembering something for some day 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:06.320 but I can't place it. 0:02:06.440 --> 0:02:10.079 Yeah, it is so funny, all like the different sayings 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:15.080 that like different sororities have. Yes, totally, it's so funny. 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:19.160 And then Trista, your daughter Blakesley, is she planning on 0:02:19.600 --> 0:02:20.560 going through recruitment? 0:02:21.000 --> 0:02:25.920 I don't actually know. It will depend on where she goes, 0:02:26.040 --> 0:02:30.120 but at this point she's thinking of California and SDSU 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:34.400 is right up there, which I would love for her 0:02:34.440 --> 0:02:36.000 to follow in your footstep. 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:39.040 I loved Stsu I mean. 0:02:38.960 --> 0:02:43.040 Right, and then USD is probably her top and I 0:02:43.240 --> 0:02:46.240 just I think it'll just depend on the school. 0:02:46.320 --> 0:02:52.760 Yeah, Thor's sister also went to USD. So if Thor 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:53.760 my fiance. 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:54.840 Is, oh yeah, and. 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:57.200 She's only a year older than us Or, then she's 0:02:57.240 --> 0:03:00.359 only a year older than me and Thor so if 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:02.800 she wants to talk to her too, she's so nice. 0:03:02.800 --> 0:03:04.720 Someone totally talked to her. Also, thank you. 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:07.160 I will let her know. Of course she'd be all 0:03:07.200 --> 0:03:12.520 about talking to Daisy, but she loves me so much, so. 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:14.000 Yeah, she's so sweet. 0:03:14.520 --> 0:03:16.720 And then Megan, I saw that is it true that 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:18.960 you dropped out of your sorority? 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:20.800 Yes, and I did not want to. 0:03:21.360 --> 0:03:23.720 I mean, like you were saying, trista kind of depends 0:03:23.760 --> 0:03:26.120 on the school, like whether or not you rushed and 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:30.519 has a huge creek life, and it's a big part 0:03:30.600 --> 0:03:32.639 of I wanted it to be a big part of 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:35.880 my experience at all miss and so that was definitely 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:37.400 a school I wanted to rush if I want to, 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:41.080 and it did. So anyways, I become a Kapa Kapa gamma. 0:03:41.680 --> 0:03:44.520 I'm i go to I went to an all girl 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:47.400 high school. By the way, Trista, you grew up in 0:03:47.440 --> 0:03:49.240 Saint Louis. I grew up in Saint Louis. 0:03:49.440 --> 0:03:51.200 Stop where. 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:55.360 I grew up in Crestwood, and I went to Narings 0:03:55.400 --> 0:03:56.400 Hall for high school. 0:03:56.520 --> 0:04:01.000 Oh my gosh, how I know it's a thing in 0:04:01.040 --> 0:04:04.840 Saint Louis that anytime you like meet someone who is 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:06.520 from Saint Louis, you have to ask where they went 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:07.080 to high school. 0:04:07.160 --> 0:04:10.320 Like it's a thing, really definitely a thing. But it's 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:11.720 also relevant to the story. 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:15.240 And I'll tell you why, because I went Scenarios Hall, 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:17.360 which is an all girl Catholic high school. 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:20.400 Again, like a very normal thing in Saint Louis. 0:04:20.920 --> 0:04:24.400 So for me going in my freshman year, it was 0:04:24.440 --> 0:04:27.080 normal for us to like bring girls to dances like 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:29.280 from other schools or whatever, or like go to other 0:04:29.560 --> 0:04:32.520 girls school dances with them, and so same thing. I 0:04:32.600 --> 0:04:35.400 just like applied that same thing to a sorority and 0:04:35.520 --> 0:04:40.480 I went to a dance with my girlfriend and the 0:04:40.560 --> 0:04:44.159 president was like, you cannot go to this dance you 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:46.720 were a woman, or insurance doesn't cover women. 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:50.760 I'm like, that's literally not how insurance works. I mean. 0:04:51.800 --> 0:04:56.440 And she's like, you can this is private property. You 0:04:56.480 --> 0:04:58.320 need to leave right now unless you tell me you're 0:04:58.360 --> 0:04:59.320 not a lesbian. 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:03.880 And I'm like, oh so, I'm like, that's not your business. 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:06.800 I'm not telling you that. I was so upset. They 0:05:07.600 --> 0:05:09.200 were like this book to call on the police. So 0:05:09.240 --> 0:05:11.839 I left. I went home back to my dorm crying. 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:15.200 A couple of days past, I have to go to 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:18.680 standards at Kapa kat Gamma and that's the basically the 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:21.480 p Boll's office, and they said to me, I need 0:05:21.520 --> 0:05:24.520 to write an apology note to the present president of 0:05:24.560 --> 0:05:27.360 that sorty and I was like, okay, I can say 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:27.839 like I'm. 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:30.240 Sorry for offending her, I guess, but like I'm not 0:05:30.360 --> 0:05:31.440 sorry for what I did. 0:05:32.240 --> 0:05:34.880 And the follow so I did that, and then the 0:05:34.920 --> 0:05:38.720 following chapter meeting we had, KAPA made an announcement that 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:41.840 we were not allowed to bring any girls to dances 0:05:41.960 --> 0:05:46.039 ever under any circumstances. And I'm like, how do I 0:05:46.360 --> 0:05:51.599 stand with an organization that like, I'm morally opposed to 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:52.279 their viewpoint. 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:53.279 I can't do that. 0:05:54.320 --> 0:05:57.240 I was so upset. I wasn't trying to make a point. 0:05:57.800 --> 0:05:59.960 All I had to do was say I'm not a Lesbigan. 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:03.520 But that's not advocating for anybody or helping anything now. 0:06:04.440 --> 0:06:06.200 So I so I resigned. 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:07.560 Good for you. 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:10.279 That is crazy because I even think about, like when 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:15.160 I went to Stsu, like if like girls didn't want 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:18.279 to bring like a guy from like like a frat 0:06:18.400 --> 0:06:20.719 or something like, and like a couple of times I 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:23.200 brought like my girlfriends. I was in Alphae and like 0:06:23.360 --> 0:06:26.479 two of like my really close friends were in pi FI, 0:06:26.880 --> 0:06:28.480 and so I would like bring one of them to 0:06:28.520 --> 0:06:30.520 like our date dash or something like that. 0:06:31.000 --> 0:06:32.960 It was pie Fi by the way, it's the story. 0:06:34.240 --> 0:06:37.200 Oh oh my gosh, that's Cruze. So it was that 0:06:37.360 --> 0:06:39.520 president that Yeah. 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:42.560 So pi Fi's president was the one who got mad 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:42.839 at you. 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:46.560 Correct, got it okay? So not Kapa ka Pagamma. 0:06:46.720 --> 0:06:50.719 But they still made me write an apology note and 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:52.080 then they changed the rules. 0:06:52.440 --> 0:06:54.760 And this is ole Miss two thousand and three. 0:06:55.240 --> 0:06:56.240 That's what I was going to ask. 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:59.200 What year two thousand and three as a freshman, ole 0:06:59.240 --> 0:07:03.320 Miss was the lud public university to be integrated. In 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:06.120 nineteen sixty four, there was they had to bring in 0:07:06.120 --> 0:07:08.360 the National Guard. Billy joelsings about it in his song 0:07:08.400 --> 0:07:09.320 we Didn't start the fire. 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:14.800 Like ole miss is historically a really conservative school set 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:17.680 in their ways, and so like the fact that it 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:21.160 happened didn't surprise me. I just never anticipated that that 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:23.480 would be a thing. But hopefully things have. 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:24.280 Shown for sure. 0:07:24.920 --> 0:07:29.960 It's also like your friend in Pi Fi invited you exactly. 0:07:30.440 --> 0:07:35.600 Exactly what the heck a high school too in Florida. 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:40.040 I was not expecting that. I actually dropped my senior 0:07:40.120 --> 0:07:45.280 year because they were, well, it was like during COVID. 0:07:45.360 --> 0:07:47.240 So I was like, I'm not going to pay like 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:50.840 right two grand or whatever it is, and we're not 0:07:50.880 --> 0:07:52.640 going to have any events or anything. 0:07:53.200 --> 0:07:55.320 Yeah, that makes sense. 0:07:55.880 --> 0:07:59.400 Yeah, I was like, So I lived in the house 0:07:59.480 --> 0:08:02.360 the beginning of junior year and then I moved out 0:08:02.760 --> 0:08:07.160 the second half of junior year because I went abroad, 0:08:07.640 --> 0:08:10.560 and so I got a girl to fill in my 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:14.240 like lease or whatever, like my spot house. I got 0:08:14.240 --> 0:08:17.480 her to fill it in, and then but the house 0:08:17.600 --> 0:08:20.160 like didn't have enough money and like not all the 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:22.679 spots were being filled up because like COVID had started, 0:08:23.480 --> 0:08:26.440 and so they were trying to make me pay my 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:31.840 like live in fee still oh god, And I was like, no, 0:08:32.000 --> 0:08:34.440 I'm like not paying a living few when I got 0:08:34.440 --> 0:08:36.680 a girl to cover my spot just because like girls 0:08:36.679 --> 0:08:40.520 didn't get theirs covered, and like because COVID things happening, 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:43.720 but it was crazy and then sounds like COVID Yeah, 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:47.280 no kidding, but they weren't gonna let me like not 0:08:48.000 --> 0:08:50.040 pay it. And so then like the end of my 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:53.160 junior year, I was like, okay, whatever. And then honestly, 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:56.120 like senior year, no one had like date dashes or 0:08:56.160 --> 0:08:59.520 like we didn't do anything, and because like we couldn't, 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:01.800 we just all hung out with our friends still and whatever. 0:09:01.920 --> 0:09:03.319 So the only thing I didn't get to do is 0:09:03.360 --> 0:09:05.199 wear the like alpay sash. 0:09:05.280 --> 0:09:10.880 But you can borrow one, I'm sure from somebody. 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:11.520 Yeah, I'm sure. 0:09:11.920 --> 0:09:13.880 Just photoshop it into your picture. 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:16.960 Yeah that's what I asked for, isn't it. 0:09:17.120 --> 0:09:17.880 Yeah exactly. 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:23.320 Yeah, But COVID was just like a weird time, very 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:25.200 everyone extremely Yes. 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:28.720 Yeah, the whole like thing about the sororities. It's interesting 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:31.760 that you brought that up because when I think about sororities, 0:09:31.800 --> 0:09:35.079 I think about them and my experience as a social thing. 0:09:35.440 --> 0:09:39.480 Like I just wanted to go to ale miss overpay 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:43.800 to buy some friend group and like go to some fun. 0:09:43.640 --> 0:09:45.120 Parties, like I was. 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:48.160 I hate to admit this, but I'm going to because 0:09:48.160 --> 0:09:51.560 I don't think it's that weird. I had zero interest 0:09:51.720 --> 0:09:54.480 in philanthropy at all, like at all. 0:09:55.480 --> 0:09:56.960 I think that's most people. 0:09:57.120 --> 0:10:01.679 Probably most people do it for like the party is social. 0:10:02.800 --> 0:10:05.040 You meet your friends that way, Like I am still 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:08.520 friends with my with my sorority sisters to this day. 0:10:08.559 --> 0:10:11.320 We were literally texting each other this morning because someone 0:10:11.520 --> 0:10:13.680 one of them has lost their mom and we sent 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:17.000 her a gift, and you know, it's it is. That 0:10:17.120 --> 0:10:19.280 is what it is about. At least it was for 0:10:19.320 --> 0:10:24.480 me too. In Indiana is a massive Greek system to 0:10:24.520 --> 0:10:27.520 the point where almost everyone lives in the house, like 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:32.000 they're huge houses. I'm sure it's same metal miss, but 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:35.560 but yeah, it is. It's that's the reason. I mean, 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:38.280 that's the priority reason I think for most people is 0:10:38.360 --> 0:10:41.679 just a really easy way to meet your people. 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:44.800 Yeah, community, like make the huge experience a little bit 0:10:44.800 --> 0:10:48.600 smaller community with like minded individuals. For sure, that's the hope, 0:10:48.600 --> 0:10:50.559 at least until they tell you can't bring girls to it. 0:10:50.679 --> 0:11:06.600 Oh right, yeah, yeah that's crazy. 0:11:10.480 --> 0:11:13.400 Okay, so we're gonna jump into some question. 0:11:13.600 --> 0:11:17.319 So it's kind of like things that like Instagram pages 0:11:17.440 --> 0:11:20.480 or like rush like coaches have said and we're gonna 0:11:20.720 --> 0:11:22.720 say if it's true or not, and or like our 0:11:22.760 --> 0:11:23.440 opinion on it. 0:11:23.520 --> 0:11:26.040 So Rushworthy says. 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:29.920 In quotes, do you make steady eye contact, don't look 0:11:29.960 --> 0:11:32.679 around the room or over the shoulder constantly? 0:11:33.160 --> 0:11:35.440 Is this BS or Bible? 0:11:36.000 --> 0:11:40.280 I would say for sure that it's a really good 0:11:40.440 --> 0:11:45.080 piece of advice because when you're rushing, you're trying to 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:49.680 connect with the people in the sorority. And I feel 0:11:49.720 --> 0:11:53.079 like it's just that that piece of advice, like making 0:11:53.120 --> 0:11:55.800 steady eye contact and not looking around the room is 0:11:55.840 --> 0:11:58.320 just a level of respect, Like you're you know, you're 0:11:58.400 --> 0:12:02.079 showing this person that you're having a conversation with them, 0:12:02.480 --> 0:12:04.800 that you respect them and you're not hoping to be 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:07.760 somewhere else. And I feel like whenever I'd in a 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:10.600 conversation with someone and they are not looking in my 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:13.480 eye or not constantly, like you don't have to be like, 0:12:13.640 --> 0:12:18.400 you know, let's have a staring contest. Yeah, first one 0:12:18.440 --> 0:12:22.400 to blink, but not looking around the room, because that 0:12:22.679 --> 0:12:25.880 just signals to someone that you don't feel like they're 0:12:25.880 --> 0:12:27.719 worthy of your time and you want to be somewhere else. 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:30.400 So I feel like one hundred percent Bible, like this 0:12:30.480 --> 0:12:33.480 is great advice. Yeah, just to show a level of respect. 0:12:33.760 --> 0:12:34.800 Yeah, I agree. 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:38.120 I feel like even in like like going forward in 0:12:38.160 --> 0:12:41.840 all life things. I honestly think through recruitment is like 0:12:42.520 --> 0:12:45.680 a really good thing for you to like learn how 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:47.319 to talk to random people. 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:49.560 It's a it's a job interview. 0:12:49.600 --> 0:12:52.439 I mean it's it's like it's yeah, that's life skill 0:12:52.520 --> 0:12:57.880 advice right there. Like make eye contact, be respectful, show interest, 0:12:58.280 --> 0:13:02.800 be curious, be joyful, don't be judgmental, Like I mean 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:05.200 you can do that with your eyeballs. 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:06.160 All of those things. 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:08.880 Yeah, it was so funny. 0:13:09.200 --> 0:13:11.200 I like think about like all my friends when I 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:14.840 got back from the bachelorally like a few years ago, 0:13:15.080 --> 0:13:17.319 they were like, what was it like, And I'm like, honestly, 0:13:17.960 --> 0:13:20.920 it was kind of like I was going through sorority recruitment. 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:23.480 Oh my gosh, I bet. 0:13:23.640 --> 0:13:25.880 That's so funny. I totally see that. 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:29.600 Oh my gosh, gosh. Now I feel so stressed out 0:13:29.640 --> 0:13:30.760 for you. 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:34.480 Yeah, like you have to put your best foot forward. 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:38.520 You have to, you know, feel like you're interested and 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:42.439 involved and show respect and be fun and be yourself yeah, so. 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:45.600 Yeah, okay, we'll go into the next one. So recruitment 0:13:45.679 --> 0:13:50.400 ready says, do not tell other friends, ladies, moms, boyfriends, etc. 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:54.559 What sorority you want before you have even gone through recruitment. 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:58.439 Do not even share your top three favorites. Is this 0:13:58.640 --> 0:13:59.679 BS or Bible? 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:05.719 I think on the surface, it's it's good advice, like 0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:08.920 how you should operate and carry yourself because you want 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:13.120 to remain open minded. Yeah, but like if you're if 0:14:13.160 --> 0:14:16.840 you're politicking for yourself, the smart thing to do is 0:14:16.880 --> 0:14:20.560 like drop little hints, plant little seeds and like see 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:21.200 what may grow. 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:22.320 Yeah. 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:26.080 No, I feel like you can definitely talk to like 0:14:26.280 --> 0:14:34.520 your mom about it. Is she gonna call it savage 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:37.320 sorority at the school. I'm sure there's some like crazy 0:14:37.360 --> 0:14:38.920 moms out there that. 0:14:38.600 --> 0:14:41.080 Though probably true. 0:14:41.400 --> 0:14:45.040 So if your mom's not crazy, then you can. 0:14:44.640 --> 0:14:48.000 Exactly or your best friend who's not even going to 0:14:48.040 --> 0:14:50.920 the school, Like, I mean, the chances that there's going 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:54.760 to be a connection there is pretty slim. Yeah, And 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:58.360 I think if they're trusted people, then then why not 0:14:58.440 --> 0:15:00.480 and just say, you know, I'm just telling you this, 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:01.480 you know, get. 0:15:01.640 --> 0:15:02.840 Yes or whatever. 0:15:03.480 --> 0:15:06.200 But is that really a thing like Obviously I haven't 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:08.920 rushed into a very long time, so I don't know, 0:15:08.960 --> 0:15:11.800 And it's so much has changed with social media and 0:15:11.840 --> 0:15:14.560 all of that. But is that a thing like you're 0:15:14.680 --> 0:15:20.880 not supposed to talk about where you want to to pledge. 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:24.840 I don't think like to like not definitely, not to 0:15:24.880 --> 0:15:27.920 the sororities. But I remember like my roommate because she 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:30.960 her brother went to SCSU, and I had like no 0:15:31.040 --> 0:15:33.960 idea what like sorority was or anything, and like she 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:35.960 just kept telling me. She was like, you want to 0:15:36.000 --> 0:15:41.040 be an Alphie, pi Fi or Akio. Then I was like, oh, okay, 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:44.120 Like I'm sure like dependent on like what school you're at, 0:15:44.120 --> 0:15:47.600 but I also feel like they're all like being open minded. 0:15:47.720 --> 0:15:50.160 Like what you were saying, Megan is like so important 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:52.520 when you're going into it because you never know and 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:53.720 you don't want to be with like a bunch of 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:56.040 girls you don't mesh with well. 0:15:56.040 --> 0:15:58.200 And I think like your experience is going to be 0:15:58.240 --> 0:16:01.240 different based on like your relationship with the school or 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:03.920 like any legacies that may have been in the aurorities. 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:06.040 So like if you're like me and you're coming in 0:16:06.480 --> 0:16:11.040 as like from an outside state, not Mississippi, I don't 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:14.240 have like a big like Greek connections or anything. 0:16:14.440 --> 0:16:16.520 I really had to work work it, and I had 0:16:16.520 --> 0:16:17.560 to really sell myself. 0:16:17.760 --> 0:16:20.080 But yeah, my best friend, on the other hand, she's 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:23.280 like legacy for every single sorority you can ever think of, 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:29.320 and she's Mississippi through and through, and like everybody's recruiting her. 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:33.920 And I think that like what she had to worry 0:16:33.960 --> 0:16:37.840 about a little bit was getting like too like deluding herself, 0:16:37.880 --> 0:16:41.000 over deluding herself, like by acting super interested in all 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:43.720 these sorties that she's actually not interested in. I think 0:16:43.760 --> 0:16:45.480 she had the privilege to be able to like narrow 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:46.760 it down a little bit earlier. 0:16:47.640 --> 0:16:51.800 Yeah, Oh for sure, I feel like it too. It 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:55.320 can like it definitely differs, Like what school you go to? 0:16:55.600 --> 0:16:57.120 Was al mioss in Indiana? 0:16:57.320 --> 0:16:59.880 Was it like did you need like letters or recommendation 0:17:00.120 --> 0:17:00.960 and stuff like that? 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:03.200 Oh yeah, oh yeah. 0:17:03.280 --> 0:17:06.040 I mean it's like I think they're very similar, both 0:17:06.080 --> 0:17:10.160 of the schools and that and the size and the 0:17:10.200 --> 0:17:14.000 size of the Greek life at school. But I feel 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:16.760 like letters of recommendation are a good thing for anybody, 0:17:16.920 --> 0:17:19.240 you know, like whether you're at a small school or 0:17:19.280 --> 0:17:22.320 a large school. I would say like if someone is 0:17:22.359 --> 0:17:26.199 in that was in that sorority and is recommending you 0:17:26.320 --> 0:17:28.800 be in that sorority. I mean, who knows how much 0:17:28.840 --> 0:17:32.080 they pay attention to those things, but it cannot hurt. 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:34.520 I think that they kind of do, depending on who 0:17:34.560 --> 0:17:37.840 wrote it. And then I think I have a tip 0:17:37.880 --> 0:17:40.040 I want to share for letters of recommendation, and I 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:43.080 think this is kind of in life. That's a big 0:17:43.160 --> 0:17:45.920 ask to ask someone to write a letter of recommendation 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:49.879 for you. And so if you're like just gathering these 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:53.000 like from all over the place, I suggest maybe like 0:17:53.119 --> 0:17:56.520 creating a template and then allowing the person to edit 0:17:56.560 --> 0:17:59.359 it if they would like, or just sign on it. 0:17:59.440 --> 0:18:02.160 I mean, that's definitely skip. 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:03.959 Skips a lot of steps in the process, but it 0:18:03.960 --> 0:18:06.600 makes it a lot easier on the person you're asking 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:07.919 a huge favor from. 0:18:08.400 --> 0:18:12.800 Yeah, So for for Alpha Kai, they have actually changed 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:15.160 it so that you don't have to write like an 0:18:15.240 --> 0:18:18.199 actual letter. You wouldn't need a template. You have to 0:18:18.280 --> 0:18:21.800 log into your account on their website, on the Alpha 0:18:21.840 --> 0:18:25.760 Kai site, and then you enter like all of this stuff, 0:18:25.840 --> 0:18:28.560 so you can I think you might be able to 0:18:28.680 --> 0:18:30.800 upload their resume, but I don't even think you can 0:18:30.880 --> 0:18:34.280 do that I think you just enter like you know 0:18:34.400 --> 0:18:37.000 all of the questions that they ask, and I've written 0:18:37.000 --> 0:18:40.800 a bunch in the past few years. Actually have three 0:18:40.880 --> 0:18:43.800 or four that I need to get done as well, 0:18:44.320 --> 0:18:46.480 one of them being from Oh Wow or ole Miss. 0:18:46.720 --> 0:18:51.679 But but I I there are some questions that aren't 0:18:51.840 --> 0:18:58.400 on the resume, like, yeah, they ask what should someone 0:18:58.600 --> 0:19:02.359 in the sorority that they're paired with ask them? Like 0:19:02.480 --> 0:19:06.200 what would be some topics of conversation that you can recommend, 0:19:06.320 --> 0:19:09.800 like things that they're interested in, or where they're from 0:19:10.240 --> 0:19:14.159 or whatever. So I always ask the people that I 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:17.479 have to write a rec for to let me know 0:19:17.520 --> 0:19:22.080 that these questions because oftentimes, more often than not, actually 0:19:22.960 --> 0:19:27.320 I don't know the girl that well the recruit. I 0:19:27.480 --> 0:19:30.880 just know their parents. So I need to know this 0:19:31.000 --> 0:19:34.560 stuff from either the parent or the girl herself as 0:19:34.600 --> 0:19:38.320 to how I should answer. So thankfully, at least for 0:19:38.359 --> 0:19:41.480 Alpha KI, you don't have to write like a letter 0:19:41.520 --> 0:19:44.199 from scratch. My gosh, my gosh, if I had to 0:19:44.200 --> 0:19:46.280 do that, I don't know if I would say yes 0:19:46.320 --> 0:19:48.040 to as many as I do. 0:19:48.760 --> 0:19:51.040 That's a lot. Like you said, you have four that 0:19:51.119 --> 0:19:51.879 you need to do. 0:19:52.680 --> 0:19:57.440 At least four, I just got asked for one last week, 0:19:57.560 --> 0:20:00.600 so who knows if more of them will be coming. Yeah, 0:20:00.680 --> 0:20:02.919 I mean I'm happy to do it, more than happy 0:20:02.920 --> 0:20:05.520 to do it because I feel like, you know, just 0:20:05.560 --> 0:20:07.679 the golden rule, treat others how you want to be treated, 0:20:07.680 --> 0:20:10.320 and when it's Placey's time, when her time comes around, 0:20:10.440 --> 0:20:12.399 and if she wants to rush, then I want to 0:20:12.440 --> 0:20:14.280 be able to reach out to those people as well. 0:20:14.760 --> 0:20:18.760 Oh yeah, I've gotten ask to write a lot of 0:20:18.800 --> 0:20:21.560 recks from people like random strangers on Instagram? 0:20:21.960 --> 0:20:25.120 No Realay? Yeah, did you do it? 0:20:25.560 --> 0:20:25.600 No? 0:20:29.160 --> 0:20:30.240 Oh I don't know them? 0:20:30.720 --> 0:20:33.040 Yeah right, I'm like, wait a second, I mean I 0:20:33.160 --> 0:20:36.600 have to have at least a connection to someone in there. Yeah. 0:20:38.119 --> 0:20:41.840 Yeah, I haven't written a few, but I'm like, do 0:20:41.920 --> 0:20:45.439 you really want the girl who like kind of caused 0:20:45.440 --> 0:20:47.280 a ruckus to write you a wreck? 0:20:47.440 --> 0:20:47.560