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Speaker 1: There's a toxic new dating trend, and you know I

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Speaker 1: like to keep you up to date on the toxic

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Speaker 1: new dating trends, even though none of you are really dating.

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Speaker 1: I'm the only one who really needs to know about it.

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Speaker 1: But this may apply to some of you. This morning,

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Speaker 1: a toxic dating a toxic dating trend is going viral

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Speaker 1: on TikTok. It's called dat until you Hate Him. So

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Speaker 1: apparently someone's taking credit for this idea. Her name is Meg.

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Speaker 1: She's taking credit for date DATU until you Hate Him,

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Speaker 1: and she says that it's simple. Stay with your partner

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Speaker 1: long enough for the little annoyances to build until affection

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Speaker 1: fades into resentment, making the breakup feel easier.

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Speaker 2: Wow, so you know what, You're going to break up

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Speaker 2: with them, but you just wait it out for however

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Speaker 2: long it takes you to get to that.

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Speaker 1: Point, right, So don't like, don't break up with someone

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Speaker 1: you know, Hey, I don't like I'm not feeling it,

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Speaker 1: but you're not a bad person, you know kind of

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Speaker 1: thing like, no, wait until you absolutely loathe them, according

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Speaker 1: to this person, and then break up with them. Some

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Speaker 1: users are fans of this method, saying that it guarantees

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Speaker 1: guarantees a clean cut and helps him fully move on.

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Speaker 1: But relationship experts warned that it's just emotional neglect, leaving

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Speaker 1: one partner shut out and confused. They say the trend

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Speaker 1: avoids honest communication, drags out the inevitable, causing more harm

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Speaker 1: than good. In short, what feels like a painless exit

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Speaker 1: to some to others just a slow motion breakup with

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Speaker 1: extra damage. So I know I want out, but I

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Speaker 1: gotta wait till I hate you first.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it just seems like a lot of waste of

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Speaker 2: time I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Well, and and like more pain right because now we

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Speaker 3: have like serious emotions involved, like this is that's the

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Speaker 3: phase where people fight and say mean things and and

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Speaker 3: it didn't have to be that way. You know, the

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Speaker 3: other person thinks that they're working towards something, but you're

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Speaker 3: working your way out, which is you know that's not fair.

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Speaker 1: Oh isn't that the worst? When you when you think

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Speaker 1: you think I'm like, I think I'm trying. I think

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Speaker 1: I'm working on this all the while you're just all

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Speaker 1: you're doing is reading the New York Post and trying

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Speaker 1: to break up. Wait till you hate me to break

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Speaker 1: up with me.

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Speaker 4: Sometimes people wait too long to try, you know, like

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Speaker 4: I've given you warnings early in the relationship, and you

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Speaker 4: wait till you feel like it to start actually trying.

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Speaker 4: By that time, I'm planning my exit strategy too late. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But if you're planning, and we've talked about this before, Kiki,

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Speaker 1: but if you're planning an exit strategy, then why not

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Speaker 1: just why not just exit like that? I think that's

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Speaker 1: what Jason's talking about, Like you thinking, you already know

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Speaker 1: you're going to do it, so you're thinking about how

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Speaker 1: you're gonna do it. Just get out.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I got to figure out who I'm taking off

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Speaker 4: the bench to replace. Yeah, I gotta figure out what

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Speaker 4: what direction do I want to go in next?

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Speaker 3: Who's going to show me attention next?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: You know, yeah, all your time to that versus like

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Speaker 2: still like kind of playing house.

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Speaker 4: Because you know, it's like when you're trading in a car,

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Speaker 4: you know, I might as well keep driving this one

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Speaker 4: until I'm sure i'll want the next car.

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Speaker 2: You need a car.

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Speaker 1: A piece after. I don't know if that's the thing,

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Speaker 1: That's what I think is. And people are so afraid

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Speaker 1: of this, like they can't be alone. You know how

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Speaker 1: many people most people, they got to have a place

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Speaker 1: to land before they and the thing that they're not happy,

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Speaker 1: you know, doing, And I don't understand that. It's like

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Speaker 1: maybe maybe the best thing that you could possibly do

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Speaker 1: is be on your own for a minute and and

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Speaker 1: be free and clear and like clear your mind and

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Speaker 1: hit refresh and erase the cash and do whatever you

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Speaker 1: gotta do.

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Speaker 4: Nolan is great.

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Speaker 1: I'm a great time.

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Speaker 4: I had fun, you know, like really, like I don't know.

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Speaker 1: You don't got to fight with anybody, telling anybody good night. No.

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Speaker 1: You do what you want to do, eat what you

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Speaker 1: want to eat, not want to watch, not check anyone nobody.

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Speaker 4: No.

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Speaker 2: I swear if I ever get divorced or like separated,

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Speaker 2: I swear to God like I will never let anyone

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Speaker 2: touch me again, like.

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Speaker 1: I swear I touch you.

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Speaker 4: But like oh I at their house, you will be

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Speaker 4: at my at my like discretions, of course, I hope

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Speaker 4: so I would.

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Speaker 3: Always well depends in the days.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I touch myself, I didn't, I didn't mind. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I told you to ask for permission first, you yes, hand,

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Speaker 1: you know. Sometimes I sneak attack on myself so it

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Speaker 1: feels a little bit more again