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Speaker 1: Today, I affed up by telling a guy I loved

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Speaker 1: him well drunk after he told me he wasn't ready

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Speaker 2: Ooh, I've heard this from the male's perspective, but hearing

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Speaker 2: it from the female's perspective.

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Speaker 3: That hits That's crazy, that hits male, That hits so

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Speaker 3: silent Rose Garden says, I, twenty five female met a

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Speaker 1: We met a couple months back when we were both

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Speaker 1: in different long distance relationships, but instantly we had a

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Speaker 1: connection as friends and would constantly pick fun and mess

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Speaker 1: with each other in a friendly way. At the end

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Speaker 1: of last year, I broke up with my now X

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Speaker 1: and shortly afterwards had reconnected with him. At the beginning

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Speaker 2: The friend, this is walking into rebound territory. Yeah, he

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Speaker 2: values himself.

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Speaker 4: Hmm.

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Speaker 1: Well, but he was also in a relationship, so we

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Speaker 1: don't know what the timeline of him getting out the

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Speaker 1: relationship was. Got We started off by talking about our

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Speaker 1: old relationships and all the drama we went through and

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Speaker 1: how we had been since we hadn't talked in a while.

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Speaker 1: Our connections grew as we kept talking to each other

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Speaker 1: every single day, spending our time playing games together, watching

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Speaker 1: movies and shows, flirting a lot, and falling asleep on

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Speaker 1: the phone together every single night for almost two months.

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Speaker 1: I had noticed him getting a little distance a couple

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Speaker 1: and that's when he told me he wasn't ready for

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Speaker 1: a relationship. Why did you pick this story? Really? Oh

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Speaker 1: why did you do the story? Why did you get

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Speaker 1: this to me? I'm sorry? He told me how his

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Speaker 1: ex had really effed up him wanting to get into

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Speaker 1: another long distance relationship. He told me it wasn't my

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Speaker 1: fault and that he liked me, but he needed space

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Speaker 1: and didn't want to continue what he had been doing.

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Speaker 1: This had made me sad because I had realized I

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Speaker 1: was starting to fall in love with him. We had

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Speaker 1: a relationship, and overall, he was exactly my type. Through

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Speaker 1: all of this, though, we did continue to be friends,

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Speaker 1: texted each other here and there, and played games with

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Speaker 1: our friends almost every single night this week. This, however,

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Speaker 1: continued to make my feelings for him grow, but I

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Speaker 1: decided not to push anything or tell him. Last night,

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Speaker 1: we decided to hang out in a call and play

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Speaker 1: some games and drinks since we hadn't done that in

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Speaker 1: everything that had happened with us. This is when I

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Speaker 1: drunkenly told him that I was falling in love with

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Speaker 1: him and really wanted to be with him, but was

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Speaker 1: scared because he wasn't ready for another relationship. He went

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Speaker 1: quiet for a little bit, told me he didn't expect that,

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Speaker 1: and shortly afterwards decided to head to bed and left

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Speaker 1: the game. Today, I woke up to a text from

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Speaker 1: him saying that everything last night was a lot for

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Speaker 1: him to take in and that he didn't know if

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Speaker 1: we should hang out any more. One on one. I

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Speaker 1: told him what I did was stupid, and then I

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Speaker 1: felt extremely sorry for saying everything. We agreed to not

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Speaker 1: he felt better about everything. And now I feel like

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Speaker 1: I've completely ruined any chance of getting wed with him. No, No,

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Speaker 1: if he wanted to be with you, he would.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and he would he would communicate, He would communicate

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Speaker 2: with you, be like I do want a relationship, just

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Speaker 2: time now let me heal yeah, but he doesn't want to.

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Speaker 1: He wanted to do it, he would, he would, he

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Speaker 1: doesn't want to with you.

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Speaker 2: I had a friend that yeah, he was talking to

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Speaker 2: this girl, and this girl was like, I would be

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Speaker 2: in a relationship with you, but this is and this

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Speaker 2: and blah blah blah blah blah, and basically let him

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Speaker 2: on just to get attention from him, and then got

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Speaker 2: with another guy. And the guy he's taller than my friend,

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Speaker 2: but like my friend is Masoli and mas solely he's

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Speaker 2: good looking. It is not bad looking, but he's tall.

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Speaker 2: But there are some relevant comments I found these are

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Speaker 2: These are insightful, insightful, They're insightful, Okay.

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Speaker 1: Rick Sanchez says, I don't think it's stupid or an

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Speaker 1: f up to be honest about your feelings for someone.

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Speaker 1: Just because you have those feelings doesn't mean he has

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Speaker 1: to reciprocate. You can still be friends if you all

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Speaker 1: into the false dichotomy. Silent Rose Garden, who's Opie, says,

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Speaker 1: for sure, I see your view, and we've been pretty

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Speaker 1: mature about it, or at least I believe so. I

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Speaker 1: more so felt like I afft up ever having the

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Speaker 1: knew it was not the right time or place to

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Speaker 1: tell him that when I knew he wasn't ready for

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Speaker 1: relationship and needed time to heal. I hope even if

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Speaker 1: he decides he isn't interested anymore in going that way

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Speaker 1: with me, we're able to stay friends as we do

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Speaker 1: share a friend group and have always had a lot

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Speaker 1: of fun with each other, even way before we started flirting.

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Speaker 1: Only time will tell.

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Speaker 2: I guess, yeah, sharing a friend group, that's hard. That's tough, man,

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Speaker 2: That is tough.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. It depends on if they're still flirting

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Speaker 1: in these like you know scenarios. If he if they

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Speaker 1: were flirting and he's like, you know what, like, sorry, can't,

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Speaker 1: I can't, Like I realized, you know, I've still hurt

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Speaker 1: over this past relationship. I'm not in the right head space.

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Speaker 1: And then he continues to flirt with her. Not cool,

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Speaker 1: not cool at all.

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Speaker 2: He just wants your attention.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but if that's not the case, you know.

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Speaker 2: I'm interested of knowing who brought up what happened to

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Speaker 2: the past?

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Speaker 3: Was it her?

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Speaker 2: Was it him? Let's talk about it.

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Speaker 1: Who brought that up?

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Speaker 2: If he brought it up, changes, Yeah, that's all at the.

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Speaker 1: Party, when she told him that she loved him.

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Speaker 2: No, they were playing a video game together. Yeah, and

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Speaker 2: something came up while we were gaming. We started talking

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Speaker 2: about everything that had happened between us.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, who brought that up? Who brought that up?

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Speaker 2: If it was him, red flag. He just wants attention.

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Speaker 2: You don't need that in your life. Stop leading your

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Speaker 2: would he bring that back out? Be like he's dangling

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Speaker 2: it the.

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Speaker 1: Relationship, dangling that relationship. It was just huge, trying to

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Speaker 1: shoot your show people out, your dangling relationships. Stop.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, commit, commit. There is no other better person.

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Speaker 1: There isn't. You're not gonna find it's not there's not

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Speaker 1: gonna be a better time. You're always gonna be busy.

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Speaker 1: Don't leave the ninety for the ten exactly.

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Speaker 2: All Sofia, you're gonna love this. Yeah, you know how

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Speaker 2: hard it is to find someone that will match your

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Speaker 2: silly goose energy.

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Speaker 3: So true?

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Speaker 1: Holy fuck, Yeah, it's insane. It's hard. It's hard to

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Speaker 1: find someone who will match your silly goose energy. And

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Speaker 1: if you find someone who matches your silly goose energy,

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Speaker 1: you should watch on latch on not let go. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's all we got for you guys today.

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Speaker 2: For you, that's our relationship advice from two single people.

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Speaker 1: Single people, one less single than the other, one more

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Speaker 1: single than most.

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Speaker 2: Guess who's working on it. Guess who's might be less

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Speaker 2: single than the other. Let us know in the comments.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's all we have for you.

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Speaker 4: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives.

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Speaker 5: Time for okop relash.

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Speaker 4: I have cancer, but my professor demands I turn on

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Speaker 4: my zoom camera. Fine, all show or something. She'll never forget.

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Speaker 5: You know, we get these stories every once in a

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Speaker 5: while and it's like you ask, why so hard that

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Speaker 5: your brain just explodes? I know it, make it make sense, Like.

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Speaker 4: Sometimes professors are just assholes, Bro, just asshole. I don't

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Speaker 4: like thank you're so cool because you have your fancy degree.

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Speaker 5: Wow, I could write on chalkboard.

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Speaker 3: Two.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you idiot, idiot? All right, So there are two

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Speaker 4: important background things to know before the story. Yes one,

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Speaker 4: I was diagnosed with a rare ovarian cancer at the

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Speaker 4: beginning of this year. I had surgery and some chemo

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Speaker 4: and mostly and recovered. Now I still have to go

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Speaker 4: in for frequent testing and occasional monitoring. I'm a private

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Speaker 4: person to the extent that I have data people for

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Speaker 4: years without telling my parents, So you best believe my

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Speaker 4: coworkers and bosses are unaware of my medical history. Oh no,

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Speaker 4: but I attend a university that has an ambassador program. Basically,

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Speaker 4: if you have a high enough GPA, you are able

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Speaker 4: they pay you your tuition during the time you're an ambassador.

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Speaker 4: In exchange, you work five hours a week and work

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Speaker 4: graduation slash other events. I am one of the ambassadors

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Speaker 4: and this is my story.

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Speaker 5: Now wait, is it basically free tuition or they get

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Speaker 5: their tuition covered and get paid