1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:05,040 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio. 2 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:07,640 Speaker 2: And two time People's Choice Award winning podcast. 3 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:14,040 Speaker 3: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. 4 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:18,520 Speaker 4: What's going on, Tanya? What's with the question in your voice? 5 00:00:18,600 --> 00:00:18,800 Speaker 1: Well? 6 00:00:18,840 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 5: I thought we were going to use the jingle off? Yeah, 7 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:23,480 Speaker 5: we still scrub in. 8 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:26,920 Speaker 1: No, so he has two options and you guys have 9 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: a choice to make which one you like better. 10 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 4: Are you ready for this? 11 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 3: Yeah? 12 00:00:30,480 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 5: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no no yet? 13 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 4: Well yeah, okay, that's shitty chat. 14 00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:37,600 Speaker 2: Come no, no, I think we want to start the 15 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:39,720 Speaker 2: episodes of Dear Bunny with a jingle. 16 00:00:39,760 --> 00:00:41,440 Speaker 5: So I feel like we Oh, I want to start 17 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 5: that right before we go into the emails. 18 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:45,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, like no, oh, I see what you're seeing. 19 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:47,479 Speaker 5: What I mean, like that'll be our transition into like 20 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:48,839 Speaker 5: the email starting. 21 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, we're just gonna chit chat right now. 22 00:00:50,880 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, like i'd love to hang out with you. 23 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:01,440 Speaker 3: I do. Yeah. 24 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:06,120 Speaker 5: I haven't done much hanging since like early December. 25 00:01:07,480 --> 00:01:10,040 Speaker 3: And really, yeah, what do you mean? 26 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:13,080 Speaker 5: Like I haven't really been social, Like I just started 27 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:15,600 Speaker 5: being every weekend in the last two weeks. I've been 28 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:20,920 Speaker 5: like more social, but like before that, I wasn't social 29 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:24,720 Speaker 5: for a month and a half. Yeah, that takes a 30 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:25,800 Speaker 5: toll on your friendships. 31 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:29,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, on your friendships. 32 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:32,120 Speaker 5: Me and you you feel distant? 33 00:01:32,319 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 3: You do? Wow, thank you for sharing. How do we 34 00:01:41,080 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 3: How do we read? 35 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:44,959 Speaker 1: You're a very high maintenance friend. That's all I'm saying. 36 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 4: You are. 37 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:50,360 Speaker 1: Friends can go a couple of months. It doesn't mean anything. 38 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:52,840 Speaker 1: It doesn't create distance. It just happens. It's life. 39 00:01:52,960 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 6: Well. 40 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:55,919 Speaker 2: I also think it's hard because we do the podcast 41 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 2: weekly and so it takes it like if we weren't 42 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:01,400 Speaker 2: doing the podcast knowing we'd see each other, we would 43 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 2: be like we would have to make time to like 44 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:05,640 Speaker 2: get together and hang out. 45 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:07,960 Speaker 3: But there's it kind of takes the. 46 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 5: Pressure off because we're going to see each other. 47 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:11,320 Speaker 2: Because we know we're going to see each other, so 48 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:13,800 Speaker 2: it's like, oh, if we Because last weekend I was 49 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 2: planning on hanging out with you because we had talked 50 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:17,080 Speaker 2: about that, and then I had to go to New 51 00:02:17,160 --> 00:02:19,639 Speaker 2: York class minute, you know what I'm saying. So it's 52 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:21,160 Speaker 2: like but then I knew I was going to see 53 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:24,959 Speaker 2: you Monday, so I had that sense of like, oh. 54 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 5: I want to see her today, I see I see. 55 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:28,640 Speaker 2: But I think if you if we didn't do the 56 00:02:28,639 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 2: podcast together weekly, it'd be like, oh my gosh, what 57 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 2: are we going to do? 58 00:02:31,520 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 3: How are we going to catch up? 59 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:32,800 Speaker 2: You know? 60 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 5: Yeah? But what would you like for us to do 61 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 5: to to maintenance friend? He says, just. 62 00:02:40,720 --> 00:02:44,800 Speaker 1: As an outsider's perspective, it seems to me. I'm not 63 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 1: saying you're not, but it just seems I'm maintenance a 64 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:49,440 Speaker 1: lot of the times that you require a certain amount 65 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: of social time per month. 66 00:02:52,320 --> 00:02:55,200 Speaker 2: I I don't think you're a high maintenance friend. 67 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:57,840 Speaker 4: Well she would know better than I. Perhaps I'm wrong. 68 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 2: I actually because I myself am quite low maintenance. 69 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:06,800 Speaker 3: I attract some highmaidens. 70 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 2: I like a little high maintenance energy keeps me on 71 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:11,760 Speaker 2: my toes, you know. Otherwise, Like what am I doing 72 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:12,639 Speaker 2: just sitting in my bed. 73 00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:14,520 Speaker 3: All day laying? 74 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: You know? 75 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:16,120 Speaker 5: Yeah? 76 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:19,519 Speaker 2: When you have someone who needs you can't just lay. No, 77 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:21,040 Speaker 2: you got to be up and at him. 78 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:22,320 Speaker 5: You got to be up and at him. 79 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:24,279 Speaker 3: So what would you like to do to reconnect? 80 00:03:24,560 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 5: I don't know, Maybe dinner at like our cute little place, 81 00:03:27,320 --> 00:03:34,080 Speaker 5: which one our little seafood shack, what my ova. 82 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:36,600 Speaker 4: Just name it. It's not gonna be overrun with you. No, 83 00:03:36,680 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 4: I'm not talking. 84 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:38,960 Speaker 5: About that, but do you want to know that this 85 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 5: is seafood shock Beverly Hills, like upscale restaurant. 86 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 3: I was like, where do we wait? 87 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 5: Can I tell you the sweetest little story pictures of 88 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 5: this place? 89 00:03:51,640 --> 00:03:51,800 Speaker 2: Wait? 90 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:53,520 Speaker 4: Can I tell you this seafood shack. 91 00:03:55,400 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 5: Not a shock, It's not a shack at all. Can 92 00:03:57,640 --> 00:03:58,760 Speaker 5: I tell you the sweetest story? 93 00:03:58,800 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 2: Though? 94 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:02,080 Speaker 5: We took my parent parents there when they were in town. 95 00:04:02,360 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 5: And they have these towels. Okay, they give you these 96 00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 5: towels that are like this big. You're not looking it's 97 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 5: like small, okay, And then they put on a plate 98 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 5: and they pour hot water on it, and then they 99 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 5: like fill up and they're like towels to wipe your 100 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:18,479 Speaker 5: hands with, right, So they're filling up the things and 101 00:04:18,720 --> 00:04:21,800 Speaker 5: my dad asks the waiter, He's like, what is this 102 00:04:21,880 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 5: And he was like, it's a marshmallow like kind of 103 00:04:24,080 --> 00:04:25,680 Speaker 5: like wink, like a wink in a nudge And my 104 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:31,480 Speaker 5: dad thought it was and he like, I, I guess 105 00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 5: you had to be there because I I have not 106 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:38,520 Speaker 5: laughed that hard I think in like a year, Like 107 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:41,240 Speaker 5: I was belly laughing. I was hurting it was like, 108 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:45,279 Speaker 5: I was laughing so hard, I was crying. I was like, wow, Dad, 109 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:47,599 Speaker 5: I like needed that that laugh. 110 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:50,600 Speaker 2: That just shows the level of this shack that she's 111 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:53,320 Speaker 2: talking about. They bring a moist tale at that they 112 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:55,880 Speaker 2: that grows for you. Right. 113 00:04:56,240 --> 00:04:58,880 Speaker 5: I didn't mean that it was an actual shack. I 114 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:01,760 Speaker 5: just meant like, I like a seafood. 115 00:05:01,320 --> 00:05:04,320 Speaker 3: Shot, I know, but our little Yeah, we should go 116 00:05:04,320 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 3: to Malbou. Have you been a Malbou seafood? 117 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:06,839 Speaker 5: Have not? 118 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:08,839 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, it's like one of our favorite spots. 119 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:09,560 Speaker 3: It's amazing. 120 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:11,880 Speaker 2: It's not a shock, but it is a little like 121 00:05:11,960 --> 00:05:13,200 Speaker 2: beechy vibe. 122 00:05:13,320 --> 00:05:14,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, delicious seafood. 123 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:17,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd love to go get a nice dinner with 124 00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:21,599 Speaker 2: you at Ovra and that that drink that they have 125 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:23,720 Speaker 2: a passion fruit one my favorite. 126 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:25,440 Speaker 5: I'm not drinking right now. 127 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:26,279 Speaker 3: That's all I can. 128 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:28,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, please enjoy for the both of them. 129 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:30,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, but what does that mean? We went through this 130 00:05:30,680 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 1: in the Morning Show. You're not drinking all except when. 131 00:05:33,360 --> 00:05:37,040 Speaker 5: You drink no like zero like literally zero. 132 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:38,920 Speaker 4: But so bottle of a cadglass of wine. 133 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:41,400 Speaker 5: I haven't had a sip of drink since before Thanksgiving. 134 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:44,680 Speaker 1: You've had a sip since before Thanksgiving. Wow, Okay, so 135 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:45,800 Speaker 1: you are not drinking right now. 136 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:47,480 Speaker 5: I'm not drinking right I probably won't drink for a 137 00:05:47,520 --> 00:05:52,240 Speaker 5: while because I'm trying to kind of also get more. 138 00:05:52,279 --> 00:05:55,760 Speaker 5: Like Robbie started juicing for me, and he's like, we're 139 00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 5: trying to do home cooked meals and trying to just 140 00:05:57,440 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 5: get as much nutrition in my body just because I 141 00:05:59,520 --> 00:06:04,000 Speaker 5: feel like I've been depleted of it. So just trying 142 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:09,719 Speaker 5: to like really hone in there. Yeah, yeah, nourish the 143 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:10,480 Speaker 5: bod nurse. 144 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:12,840 Speaker 4: The more studies that come out, the more it's clear 145 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 4: that alcohol is not great. 146 00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 5: Yes, correct, And I'm trying to get my insides as 147 00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 5: tip top in tiptop as they possibly can well at 148 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:23,159 Speaker 5: the current moment. 149 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:24,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, charge it. 150 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:27,080 Speaker 5: Charge it? 151 00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:31,360 Speaker 2: Shall we get into the Disney busy beer Deervonya. 152 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:34,320 Speaker 1: There is option number one for jingles. Now again, Easton 153 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 1: took yours. So but if you've missed last week, you 154 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:40,280 Speaker 1: two came up kind of improvised a jingle for dear Bonya. 155 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 2: Say the three of us involved. 156 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:48,240 Speaker 1: He took your singing Becca an Tanya's I actually and 157 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:49,520 Speaker 1: added music to it. 158 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:51,320 Speaker 4: Okay, here we go. Option number one. 159 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:54,719 Speaker 6: You're gonna call with the question on you. 160 00:06:55,800 --> 00:06:59,359 Speaker 5: I have idea, dear Bonya. 161 00:07:00,520 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 1: It's a little lullaby, by the way, that is eastern 162 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 1: on the glock and spiel. 163 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 5: Oh the little noise, the little keyboard you hear piano. 164 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 4: Looks like a piano, but has a different tone to it. 165 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:12,520 Speaker 5: It sounds like a loolabye a little bit. 166 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 4: Yeah, that was him. That was not you know, AI 167 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 4: or something. All right. Number two, Well, this one's not 168 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 4: as much, but here we go. 169 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 6: You're gonna call with the question on you. 170 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:31,640 Speaker 5: I have idea deer bonya. That's it. 171 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:33,920 Speaker 3: It's the music not quite lighting up with. 172 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:37,600 Speaker 4: I think you're right, but this is what we have. 173 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:38,760 Speaker 4: These are the two options. 174 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 5: One more time. 175 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:42,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, run it back. 176 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:44,680 Speaker 4: Number one, glock and Spiel. 177 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:48,120 Speaker 6: You're gonna call with the question on you. 178 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 5: I have idea deer bonya. It's a little sleepy. 179 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:55,360 Speaker 3: It makes me tired. 180 00:07:55,480 --> 00:07:57,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, and this is the one that may 181 00:07:57,200 --> 00:07:59,720 Speaker 1: or may not have been assisted by chat B two. 182 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:03,280 Speaker 6: You're gonna call with the question on you. 183 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:09,120 Speaker 5: I have idea dear Yeah. The dear bonya comes in 184 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:10,360 Speaker 5: a little quick. 185 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 2: The whole thing feels slightly off the beat, but that's 186 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 2: so us. Yeah, but the sound kind of it's kind 187 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 2: of like Miss Rachel or something. 188 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:26,400 Speaker 3: So maybe we need something a little more mature pop. 189 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:27,320 Speaker 3: Mature pop. 190 00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:33,440 Speaker 4: But we're we're off taking Starton is heading to New York. 191 00:08:33,480 --> 00:08:36,600 Speaker 4: By the way, what maybe I'm not supposed to say. 192 00:08:36,600 --> 00:08:40,640 Speaker 1: I don't know, but he's gonna go see Weeds. 193 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:41,559 Speaker 3: Happy for him. 194 00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:43,360 Speaker 5: I like I like the second one. I say, we 195 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:43,840 Speaker 5: go with it. 196 00:08:43,960 --> 00:08:47,360 Speaker 3: No, I'm not. I think it can be better, and that. 197 00:08:51,120 --> 00:08:52,320 Speaker 5: The charge it to the game. 198 00:08:52,360 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 4: Here we go, and now it's time for. 199 00:08:58,200 --> 00:09:03,720 Speaker 2: I have idea maybe sped up a little bit too. 200 00:09:04,400 --> 00:09:06,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, Bega, Tanya Easton and Mark. 201 00:09:06,559 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 1: This is from anonymous day one scrubber here active member 202 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:11,719 Speaker 1: in the Facebook group immediate listener when episodes drop. Thank 203 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 1: you for being a constant place of joy. I'm thirty three, 204 00:09:14,679 --> 00:09:17,360 Speaker 1: single for years, finally met someone that feels different. We 205 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:19,840 Speaker 1: have so much in common, communicate well, and are extremely 206 00:09:19,880 --> 00:09:22,520 Speaker 1: attracted to each other. It's still early days and I'm 207 00:09:22,559 --> 00:09:24,280 Speaker 1: trying not to get my hopes up too high while 208 00:09:24,280 --> 00:09:27,400 Speaker 1: also not sabotaging it. While texting one night, he let 209 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 1: me know that he has a foot fetish. 210 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:30,360 Speaker 5: Oh yeah, to. 211 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:33,560 Speaker 1: Be honest, I wasn't immediately freaked out, but curious. I 212 00:09:33,600 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 1: asked what that means to him, and to the extent 213 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:38,240 Speaker 1: he said, I just like when they're taken care of 214 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: and they look nice, nice paint job and smooth. Maybe 215 00:09:41,040 --> 00:09:43,320 Speaker 1: suck on the toes a little and kiss them during 216 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:47,600 Speaker 1: certain moments. Since then, he's made comments about sucking on 217 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 1: my toes. Not in an overly weird way, no, of 218 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:54,120 Speaker 1: course not, but I feel like when he said maybe 219 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 1: sucking the toes a little, he may have downplanted a bit. 220 00:09:57,880 --> 00:09:59,600 Speaker 1: I guess my question here is how do I stay 221 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:02,120 Speaker 1: open to the idea as we continue to get to 222 00:10:02,120 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 1: know each other. Feet don't freak me out. I don't 223 00:10:04,280 --> 00:10:06,360 Speaker 1: mind having my feet touched. I actually if this could 224 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 1: benefit me, since he said he'd love to give me 225 00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:11,720 Speaker 1: foot massages often. I guess my hesitation comes from not 226 00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:14,439 Speaker 1: having experience with that and the taboo nature are on 227 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:17,160 Speaker 1: foot fetishes in general. What if he's the guy of 228 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:19,440 Speaker 1: my dreams and I just didn't know until now that 229 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:22,360 Speaker 1: my guy would be so in defeat signed are my 230 00:10:22,520 --> 00:10:24,400 Speaker 1: toes and me ready? 231 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:30,040 Speaker 3: I have a couple thoughts. 232 00:10:30,600 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 2: So my first thought is, I think your reaction is 233 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:40,319 Speaker 2: totally valid, like being feeling new and having a new 234 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:42,000 Speaker 2: experience with someone who's. 235 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:46,200 Speaker 3: Has a fetish that you haven't navigated before. 236 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:51,480 Speaker 2: My other thought is I appreciate his honesty about this 237 00:10:51,679 --> 00:10:54,240 Speaker 2: because I think so many people don't get what they 238 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:58,640 Speaker 2: want in relationships, specifically or sexually because they're not it's 239 00:10:58,679 --> 00:11:02,680 Speaker 2: too vulnerable to admit that they're into. Maybe you'll like 240 00:11:03,280 --> 00:11:06,840 Speaker 2: someone paying such close attention to your feet, you know, like, 241 00:11:06,960 --> 00:11:09,480 Speaker 2: maybe you'll I mean, I agree, take advantage of getting 242 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:11,000 Speaker 2: a foot massage whenever you want. 243 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:12,959 Speaker 5: So I'm with you on this. 244 00:11:13,360 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 3: We had a whole. 245 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:18,320 Speaker 2: Episode about toe sucking because you were questioning toe sucking. 246 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:22,800 Speaker 5: Yes, so I have never the fetisher. Yeah, well that's 247 00:11:22,800 --> 00:11:26,599 Speaker 5: not a fetish being curious about something, is it? I 248 00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:32,000 Speaker 5: don't think so. But so I'm with beck on that 249 00:11:32,080 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 5: I appreciate that he's vocal and that he can be 250 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:39,280 Speaker 5: honest about it. My only concern here is what if 251 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:46,040 Speaker 5: this is just him dipping his toe in? Like, what 252 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:48,640 Speaker 5: if he has other fetishes that aren't. 253 00:11:50,520 --> 00:11:51,080 Speaker 4: Is that a thing? 254 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:55,520 Speaker 1: If if someone has a fetish, they may have multiple fetishes, Well, 255 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:57,280 Speaker 1: that's going to take too much time to tap out. 256 00:11:57,280 --> 00:11:58,560 Speaker 4: I think we should focus on the show. 257 00:11:58,640 --> 00:12:00,440 Speaker 2: I think it could be either way. I could this 258 00:12:00,480 --> 00:12:03,320 Speaker 2: could be one of his fetishes. But that's what I'm saying. 259 00:12:03,360 --> 00:12:05,240 Speaker 2: He's not trying to hide it. He like straight up 260 00:12:05,320 --> 00:12:10,000 Speaker 2: was like I like feet, I want to suck on toes, 261 00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 2: and like. 262 00:12:11,600 --> 00:12:14,199 Speaker 5: Like, what if this is one of like a plethora 263 00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:16,320 Speaker 5: of fetishes he enjoys. 264 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:18,600 Speaker 3: Because then but then she can deal with it. 265 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:22,079 Speaker 5: Because like the foot thing, I could handle. I think 266 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:24,520 Speaker 5: I've never had to navigate that personally, but I think 267 00:12:24,520 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 5: I would be fine with the feet thing. It's like, 268 00:12:26,559 --> 00:12:30,880 Speaker 5: if it were was to flow into other areas, I 269 00:12:30,880 --> 00:12:32,680 Speaker 5: think that would make me nervous. 270 00:12:32,720 --> 00:12:35,000 Speaker 4: What would be a red flag fetish for you, Tanya? 271 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:38,600 Speaker 5: I don't want to say, because I feel like some 272 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:42,040 Speaker 5: people are like into this, sure, no judgment, Like yeah, 273 00:12:42,120 --> 00:12:45,640 Speaker 5: this is like bondage. Yeah, I don't think i'd like that. 274 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:49,760 Speaker 1: Okay, let's say Robbie is exactly Robbie and he said 275 00:12:49,760 --> 00:12:52,560 Speaker 1: to you, Hey, I think it'd be cool if you 276 00:12:52,640 --> 00:12:53,280 Speaker 1: tied me up. 277 00:12:53,760 --> 00:12:55,800 Speaker 5: I think it would. I think I would be scared. 278 00:12:55,880 --> 00:12:56,640 Speaker 4: You'd be scared of that. 279 00:12:56,679 --> 00:12:57,080 Speaker 5: I think so. 280 00:12:57,200 --> 00:13:01,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, even like like after you decided that you were 281 00:13:01,360 --> 00:13:04,880 Speaker 2: in love with him, and he confessed that it's hard. 282 00:13:04,679 --> 00:13:06,760 Speaker 5: To say, but like, yeah, I think it would. 283 00:13:07,240 --> 00:13:08,719 Speaker 2: Like what about now if he was like, by the 284 00:13:08,760 --> 00:13:10,920 Speaker 2: way I have, like, you're married, So like what if 285 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:12,680 Speaker 2: he finally felt vulnerable enough to. 286 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:14,440 Speaker 5: Well, I think that's what happens with some people and 287 00:13:14,440 --> 00:13:16,680 Speaker 5: why they get divorced because they like morph into like 288 00:13:16,760 --> 00:13:20,319 Speaker 5: different people. So that is like a possible Well I'm 289 00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 5: not even gonna go there for me, but like in general. 290 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:25,600 Speaker 4: Right, that would be cause for concern. 291 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:28,520 Speaker 1: If he brought out some silk scarves and said, tonight's 292 00:13:28,559 --> 00:13:31,719 Speaker 1: the night I would like you to tie me up. 293 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:34,520 Speaker 5: I think I'd be uncomfortable with it. 294 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:36,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, well but that's fine. That's fine. I think that's fine. 295 00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:37,760 Speaker 5: Right. 296 00:13:39,679 --> 00:13:40,800 Speaker 4: I'm not saying I would be fine. 297 00:13:41,160 --> 00:13:41,400 Speaker 2: You are. 298 00:13:41,640 --> 00:13:45,000 Speaker 5: You guys are both saying your partners came to you 299 00:13:45,080 --> 00:13:49,160 Speaker 5: and said, let's have a little silk sash, tie me 300 00:13:49,200 --> 00:13:50,200 Speaker 5: to the bed. You'd be chill. 301 00:13:50,400 --> 00:13:52,880 Speaker 3: You'd be like, yeah, babe, well I guess I would. 302 00:13:53,360 --> 00:13:54,320 Speaker 3: I I don't know. 303 00:13:54,360 --> 00:13:56,319 Speaker 2: I feel like I trust Haley, So like if that's 304 00:13:56,360 --> 00:13:59,719 Speaker 2: what she wanted, and I was like, okay, if that's 305 00:13:59,760 --> 00:14:00,760 Speaker 2: what you need. 306 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:05,360 Speaker 5: Every night, and the next night she's putting a ball 307 00:14:05,360 --> 00:14:05,880 Speaker 5: in your mouth. 308 00:14:07,120 --> 00:14:09,000 Speaker 2: Well, if it was me, if it was like based 309 00:14:09,040 --> 00:14:12,360 Speaker 2: on things that were happening to my body, I would 310 00:14:12,360 --> 00:14:13,439 Speaker 2: have boundaries. 311 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 3: I don't want a ball in my mouth, nor do I. 312 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:21,000 Speaker 2: But I'm just okay, now we're gotten on topic here, 313 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:22,520 Speaker 2: So okay, here's my thing. 314 00:14:22,760 --> 00:14:24,840 Speaker 3: If you immediately feel uncomfortable. 315 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:27,080 Speaker 2: My thing with anything is if it makes you feel 316 00:14:27,160 --> 00:14:30,520 Speaker 2: uncomfortable in a way that's like my spidy senses are 317 00:14:30,520 --> 00:14:33,320 Speaker 2: going off in a way that my my nervous system 318 00:14:33,320 --> 00:14:38,040 Speaker 2: feels unsettled, then I don't think there's even reason to 319 00:14:38,040 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 2: continue the relationship, because that's that's like your body telling 320 00:14:42,400 --> 00:14:44,200 Speaker 2: you something. If you're like, WHOA, this is new and 321 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:47,560 Speaker 2: I've never had this experience. But I like this guy, 322 00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:50,040 Speaker 2: and he's at least being honest and vulnerable with me. 323 00:14:50,120 --> 00:14:52,360 Speaker 2: I'm gonna see what this looks like, and you want 324 00:14:52,360 --> 00:14:54,520 Speaker 2: to give it a shot, go for it. If it 325 00:14:54,560 --> 00:14:56,920 Speaker 2: turns into something more and he has other fetishes that 326 00:14:56,920 --> 00:14:59,600 Speaker 2: you're uncomfortable with, then then you navigate it as they 327 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:01,600 Speaker 2: come by. But I don't know, I don't think this 328 00:15:01,640 --> 00:15:03,800 Speaker 2: is like it. I personally don't think it's a deal breaker. 329 00:15:03,840 --> 00:15:05,920 Speaker 2: I think he's being honest about what he likes, and 330 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:08,440 Speaker 2: I think that a lot of people aren't and that 331 00:15:08,520 --> 00:15:09,720 Speaker 2: leads to other problems. 332 00:15:09,840 --> 00:15:11,840 Speaker 5: Yeah, and I also think it's like public perception of 333 00:15:11,880 --> 00:15:14,640 Speaker 5: these things too, like what's wrong with the little foot fetish? 334 00:15:15,360 --> 00:15:18,280 Speaker 2: I think a lot of people have a foot fetish. 335 00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:21,320 Speaker 2: There's a whole website about how people's feet look. And I, 336 00:15:22,080 --> 00:15:24,960 Speaker 2: you know, like, it's not an uncommon thing. And I 337 00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:29,000 Speaker 2: think that he's just telling you up front, and I 338 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:31,560 Speaker 2: don't know, I'm not bothered by it for you, but 339 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:34,200 Speaker 2: if there's other things that he does that this adds 340 00:15:34,280 --> 00:15:39,360 Speaker 2: to an unsettled feeling, then you listen to that. Yeah, 341 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 2: But what I think is a lot of people write 342 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:46,760 Speaker 2: in and they're like, I don't feel like remember we 343 00:15:46,800 --> 00:15:50,560 Speaker 2: had that sex therapist on and or a couple therapists. 344 00:15:50,680 --> 00:15:51,720 Speaker 3: I don't know if you were there. I may have 345 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:53,360 Speaker 3: done it by myself. No, I think you were there. 346 00:15:54,320 --> 00:15:56,200 Speaker 2: But she was saying basically, a lot of people have 347 00:15:56,280 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 2: needs and they don't talk about what their needs are 348 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:01,200 Speaker 2: because it's too vulnerable or the press of it prevents 349 00:16:01,240 --> 00:16:03,320 Speaker 2: them from it. So then they're never satisfied, and that 350 00:16:03,440 --> 00:16:06,360 Speaker 2: leads to other issues in the relationship. So maybe he 351 00:16:06,480 --> 00:16:08,440 Speaker 2: was in a relationship and it became a problem. So 352 00:16:08,480 --> 00:16:10,240 Speaker 2: he's like, I'm just gonna be upfront about this when 353 00:16:10,280 --> 00:16:12,560 Speaker 2: I meet people so that there's no surprises. 354 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. 355 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:16,920 Speaker 5: This guy like, well, we don't have to go down 356 00:16:16,920 --> 00:16:21,040 Speaker 5: that path. What I didn't know this was a real 357 00:16:21,080 --> 00:16:23,520 Speaker 5: thing I saw in our Facebook group, but that there's 358 00:16:23,560 --> 00:16:27,320 Speaker 5: like sex parties. Oh and people go and you like 359 00:16:27,440 --> 00:16:30,760 Speaker 5: watch people have sex and like you like watch them. 360 00:16:32,040 --> 00:16:34,040 Speaker 4: So the entertainment at the party. 361 00:16:33,880 --> 00:16:37,120 Speaker 5: Is a couple and I don't know if you like 362 00:16:37,240 --> 00:16:38,400 Speaker 5: buy tickets to. 363 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:40,800 Speaker 4: It or it's a public thing. Yeah, oh interesting. 364 00:16:43,040 --> 00:16:46,680 Speaker 5: Yeah, listen, there's a lot of like interests and people 365 00:16:46,760 --> 00:16:49,240 Speaker 5: that go. So it's like again like do you do you? 366 00:16:49,440 --> 00:16:52,240 Speaker 5: But like there's so much there's a sock for every foot. 367 00:16:52,920 --> 00:16:57,239 Speaker 3: Is basically well, you're throwing the puns around. It's professional 368 00:16:57,320 --> 00:17:01,160 Speaker 3: level today. Thank you, good luck, anymous please update us. 369 00:17:01,160 --> 00:17:03,920 Speaker 4: All please you're hilarious. Coming up next. 370 00:17:04,080 --> 00:17:08,040 Speaker 1: If you agree to attend a destination wedding, are you 371 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:10,200 Speaker 1: allowed to change your mind and take back your yes? 372 00:17:12,000 --> 00:17:12,840 Speaker 5: Well it depends. 373 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:15,920 Speaker 4: Well we'll get all the details coming up next. 374 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:32,600 Speaker 3: We're back. 375 00:17:33,520 --> 00:17:36,679 Speaker 1: Here we go dear Banya and Meston, thank you so 376 00:17:36,840 --> 00:17:39,560 Speaker 1: much for always providing such joy and entertainment every week 377 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:41,040 Speaker 1: and my day one Scrubb I look forward to every 378 00:17:41,040 --> 00:17:41,800 Speaker 1: single new episode. 379 00:17:41,800 --> 00:17:42,440 Speaker 4: You guys are the best. 380 00:17:42,480 --> 00:17:44,560 Speaker 1: A few months ago, I told one of my close 381 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:46,680 Speaker 1: friends that I'd be able to attend her destination wedding 382 00:17:46,760 --> 00:17:49,960 Speaker 1: in Italy. At the time, it felt doable and super exciting. 383 00:17:50,000 --> 00:17:52,240 Speaker 1: But as the date gets closer, I'm realizing how much 384 00:17:52,280 --> 00:17:55,040 Speaker 1: has changed for me since we last talked about it. 385 00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:56,560 Speaker 1: In the past few months, I've had a death in 386 00:17:56,600 --> 00:17:58,919 Speaker 1: the family, along with some ongoing family drama that's been 387 00:17:58,960 --> 00:18:03,359 Speaker 1: emotionally draining. Money's become much tighter than I expected when 388 00:18:03,400 --> 00:18:05,160 Speaker 1: we talked about the wedding four months ago. I thought 389 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:06,679 Speaker 1: I'd be in a different place by now, but the 390 00:18:06,720 --> 00:18:09,200 Speaker 1: reality is planning an international trip, even one that's still 391 00:18:09,240 --> 00:18:11,520 Speaker 1: months away, feels out of reach for me at the moment. 392 00:18:12,000 --> 00:18:13,919 Speaker 1: The RCAP is due in a few weeks and the 393 00:18:13,920 --> 00:18:15,720 Speaker 1: wedding is at the end of July. What makes this 394 00:18:15,840 --> 00:18:17,600 Speaker 1: even harder is that it's a small wedding. Only a 395 00:18:17,600 --> 00:18:19,959 Speaker 1: handful of friends are invited. I feel like saying no 396 00:18:19,960 --> 00:18:21,600 Speaker 1: now I would be letting her down in a big 397 00:18:21,640 --> 00:18:24,959 Speaker 1: way after originally said yes. I don't want to hurt her, 398 00:18:24,960 --> 00:18:26,160 Speaker 1: and I don't want to feel like I don't care, 399 00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:28,280 Speaker 1: because I do. But I'm struggling to balance being a 400 00:18:28,320 --> 00:18:30,520 Speaker 1: good friend with being honest. But where I am emotionally 401 00:18:30,520 --> 00:18:33,160 Speaker 1: and financially right now? How do you know when it's 402 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:35,440 Speaker 1: okay to change your mind even when you've said yes? 403 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:37,520 Speaker 1: And how do you have that conversation without feeling the 404 00:18:37,560 --> 00:18:39,760 Speaker 1: worst friend ever? I feel like anything I say is 405 00:18:39,760 --> 00:18:41,159 Speaker 1: going to sell like an excuse, but it is just 406 00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:41,600 Speaker 1: the truth. 407 00:18:41,640 --> 00:18:42,480 Speaker 4: Love you all so much. 408 00:18:45,800 --> 00:18:49,800 Speaker 3: I mean, you recently got married and dealt with invites 409 00:18:49,840 --> 00:18:51,639 Speaker 3: and stuff. How did you navigate that? 410 00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:56,159 Speaker 5: I think if you give people enough time, I think 411 00:18:56,200 --> 00:18:58,879 Speaker 5: it's okay. And you're saying this wedding is until the 412 00:18:58,960 --> 00:19:01,720 Speaker 5: end of July, so she plenty of time. So I 413 00:19:01,760 --> 00:19:06,360 Speaker 5: think it's totally fine and valid and you can explain 414 00:19:06,440 --> 00:19:08,960 Speaker 5: what's going on like I don't. I don't see any 415 00:19:08,960 --> 00:19:12,200 Speaker 5: issue with you changing your RCP at this point. If 416 00:19:12,240 --> 00:19:14,640 Speaker 5: you were going to do it in June, I would 417 00:19:15,160 --> 00:19:19,600 Speaker 5: I would say she might hate you for a short 418 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:21,840 Speaker 5: period of time, but even June, I feel like I 419 00:19:21,880 --> 00:19:26,760 Speaker 5: had I feel like I had somebody cancel a few 420 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:31,080 Speaker 5: weeks out and it was still fine. I think it's okay, 421 00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:33,080 Speaker 5: especially with what you're going through. 422 00:19:33,800 --> 00:19:34,560 Speaker 6: Yeah, I think. 423 00:19:34,920 --> 00:19:37,920 Speaker 2: I think when you choose a destination wedding, you kind 424 00:19:37,920 --> 00:19:40,840 Speaker 2: of have to be prepared for people to be going 425 00:19:41,240 --> 00:19:43,800 Speaker 2: through things in life and it being a financial burden 426 00:19:43,840 --> 00:19:47,520 Speaker 2: and under be a little more understanding because it's a 427 00:19:47,520 --> 00:19:49,919 Speaker 2: big to do to plan a trip and have to 428 00:19:49,920 --> 00:19:51,879 Speaker 2: pay for hotel, flights, all the things. 429 00:19:51,920 --> 00:19:53,720 Speaker 3: So I think I agree. 430 00:19:53,720 --> 00:19:55,600 Speaker 2: I think you're giving her plenty of time to maybe 431 00:19:55,640 --> 00:19:57,520 Speaker 2: invite another friend that can be there. I think you 432 00:19:58,080 --> 00:20:00,560 Speaker 2: have a conversation, maybe take her to dinner or I 433 00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:02,720 Speaker 2: don't know if she's a friend that lives in the 434 00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:05,600 Speaker 2: same place as you, But I think you have a 435 00:20:06,160 --> 00:20:09,240 Speaker 2: in person or at least on the phone conversation with 436 00:20:09,280 --> 00:20:11,679 Speaker 2: her so she can hear your tone and hear how 437 00:20:12,240 --> 00:20:14,880 Speaker 2: bummed you are and how you know sad you are 438 00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:17,080 Speaker 2: to miss it, but know that you're just in a 439 00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:19,520 Speaker 2: place where it's just too hard to even think about. 440 00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:22,120 Speaker 2: And she might offer either to help if she really 441 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:24,040 Speaker 2: wants you there, and she might or she might just 442 00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:24,760 Speaker 2: be understanding. 443 00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:26,360 Speaker 3: And I think if she's bummed. 444 00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:30,760 Speaker 2: That's totally valid and is also just like her being 445 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:32,679 Speaker 2: bummed is just her wanting you to be there, Like 446 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:34,639 Speaker 2: that's just her love for you and wanting to be 447 00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:35,360 Speaker 2: there to celebrate. 448 00:20:35,520 --> 00:20:38,760 Speaker 5: I think there's like two types of brides out there, 449 00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:41,840 Speaker 5: and like I think some people take this stuff very 450 00:20:41,920 --> 00:20:44,159 Speaker 5: personally and if like you're not there, you're cut and 451 00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 5: you're this and you're that. And then there's some people 452 00:20:47,359 --> 00:20:51,439 Speaker 5: who just understand that, like things happen. Like I had 453 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:53,400 Speaker 5: a friend who couldn't come. I don't want to say 454 00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:56,120 Speaker 5: it was last minute, but he had a work thing 455 00:20:56,160 --> 00:21:00,280 Speaker 5: pop up, and I understand that, like works out in 456 00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:03,439 Speaker 5: this industry is very cutthrow and it's very crazy, and 457 00:21:03,480 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 5: so I totally understood the decision. I was sad and 458 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:08,879 Speaker 5: I was bummed, but like I totally understood. 459 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:09,640 Speaker 3: So it's like I. 460 00:21:09,520 --> 00:21:12,080 Speaker 5: Think that if this is a friend that's so close 461 00:21:12,119 --> 00:21:14,000 Speaker 5: to you, I think she'll understand. I think you're giving 462 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:17,960 Speaker 5: her plenty of time to figure it out, and I 463 00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:19,200 Speaker 5: think it to do it's best for you. 464 00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:21,440 Speaker 3: I also think the thing that. 465 00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:27,199 Speaker 2: You having the conversation and her being able to understand it, 466 00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:29,040 Speaker 2: as opposed to you just being like hey, I can't 467 00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:33,640 Speaker 2: go right. We'll give her understanding and a little more 468 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:36,040 Speaker 2: grace with the situation. But I think you do what 469 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:36,600 Speaker 2: you have to do. 470 00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:42,359 Speaker 1: Another're anonymous, Dear Beca, Tanya Mark and Eastern. I'm such 471 00:21:42,359 --> 00:21:43,960 Speaker 1: a huge fan of the podcast. Thank you for everything 472 00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:45,960 Speaker 1: you're do in writing, so much joy and so many laughs. 473 00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:47,960 Speaker 1: I love listening to my commute to work and laughing 474 00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:48,760 Speaker 1: out loud in the car. 475 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:49,600 Speaker 4: You guys are the best. 476 00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:51,640 Speaker 1: I need help with how to deal with what might 477 00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:53,399 Speaker 1: be the nosiest neighbor. 478 00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:53,720 Speaker 4: Of all time. 479 00:21:58,000 --> 00:21:58,719 Speaker 5: I'm not nosy. 480 00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:02,000 Speaker 4: My gay partner and I are moving out of our home. 481 00:22:04,480 --> 00:22:06,480 Speaker 1: My neighbor texts me at all hours of the day 482 00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:08,800 Speaker 1: and night with constant updates about what's happening in our 483 00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:11,720 Speaker 1: town and our neighborhood. Things he's seen, things he's heard, 484 00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:14,320 Speaker 1: questions like where's the family next door? 485 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:15,760 Speaker 4: Ben? It's NonStop. 486 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:17,960 Speaker 1: What makes it even worse that he doesn't know anyone's name, 487 00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:22,280 Speaker 1: so he describes our neighbors using the most inappropriate physical 488 00:22:22,359 --> 00:22:26,320 Speaker 1: descriptions imaginable and I truly don't think he means any harm, 489 00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:28,560 Speaker 1: but it drives me crazy. I don't want to be 490 00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:30,400 Speaker 1: rude to tell him to mind his own business, because 491 00:22:30,440 --> 00:22:31,840 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, he is my neighbor. 492 00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:34,200 Speaker 1: I have to see him regularly. I also don't want 493 00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:36,840 Speaker 1: to create tension to be at odds since if he's 494 00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:39,280 Speaker 1: this nosy, I guess there's some comfort in knowing he's 495 00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:42,560 Speaker 1: probably watching my house too. But at the same time, 496 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:45,159 Speaker 1: the constant text and commentary are really threatening to bug me, 497 00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:47,560 Speaker 1: and I don't know how to set boundaries without making 498 00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:50,520 Speaker 1: things awkward or hurting his feelings. How do I politely 499 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:52,480 Speaker 1: shut this down or at least ask him to scale 500 00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:55,520 Speaker 1: it back while without causing drama. Is there a way 501 00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:57,679 Speaker 1: to do it that keeps the peace but gives me 502 00:22:57,720 --> 00:22:58,640 Speaker 1: my sanity back? 503 00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:00,000 Speaker 4: Thank you? 504 00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:02,439 Speaker 2: This is so hard I would I would not know 505 00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:05,040 Speaker 2: what to do, But from someone who's not going through it, 506 00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:07,840 Speaker 2: I how I would handle it is. I would just say, Hey, 507 00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:11,240 Speaker 2: there's so much like going on in the world, and 508 00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:13,359 Speaker 2: I'm having a lot of anxiety right now, and I 509 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:17,000 Speaker 2: think you're like getting text updates about things happening in 510 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:21,040 Speaker 2: our neighborhood like kind of is increasing that feeling. 511 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:24,440 Speaker 3: If if there's any way that we can. 512 00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:27,400 Speaker 2: Just well, I would just say, if there's something that's 513 00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:30,200 Speaker 2: like important that I need to know about. I'm really 514 00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:32,480 Speaker 2: grateful to have you like looking out for our neighborhood. 515 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:34,560 Speaker 2: But I think the more updates I get, the more 516 00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:38,600 Speaker 2: like anxious it makes me. And I'm just be like, 517 00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:41,239 Speaker 2: I'm really grateful that you are looking out for the 518 00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:44,280 Speaker 2: neighborhood and you know, keeping an eye on things. 519 00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:45,480 Speaker 5: But Becca's going in. 520 00:23:45,760 --> 00:23:49,680 Speaker 2: I just I don't think it's fair that someone else's 521 00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:54,280 Speaker 2: need to like but that's what you is is becomes 522 00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:57,760 Speaker 2: a burden on Like she's writing in to ask advice 523 00:23:57,800 --> 00:23:58,359 Speaker 2: about it. 524 00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:01,040 Speaker 5: But I think that sometimes people like this, like they 525 00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:03,840 Speaker 5: like the drama, they like the like being in it. 526 00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:06,640 Speaker 5: They want someone to engage. They're looking for that, right, 527 00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:08,760 Speaker 5: So if you stop engaging as much, so maybe and 528 00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:10,920 Speaker 5: it's gonna sound like you're playing a game, but like 529 00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:13,920 Speaker 5: stop engaging as much, like wait a very long time 530 00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:16,000 Speaker 5: to text him back, or maybe just like thumbs up 531 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:18,400 Speaker 5: a text and like don't engage in it. I think 532 00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:19,480 Speaker 5: maybe he'll get the hint. 533 00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:22,760 Speaker 3: We don't know if she's engaging. She might be doing 534 00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:23,360 Speaker 3: that already. 535 00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:27,199 Speaker 5: She might be respond well, I'm rating that under the 536 00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:30,600 Speaker 5: impression that she's like engaging with this person because and 537 00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:32,880 Speaker 5: I have people like that sometimes too, like at work 538 00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:35,800 Speaker 5: that just like want to like engage in these things 539 00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:37,680 Speaker 5: that I have no interest in engaging, and so I'll 540 00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:40,280 Speaker 5: just like respond the next day and being like sorry, 541 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:43,320 Speaker 5: I just saw this, like yeah, you know, because then 542 00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:48,639 Speaker 5: like some of this steam, you know, goes down. So 543 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,239 Speaker 5: I would just like try to engage less or like 544 00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:53,879 Speaker 5: thumbs up instead of like responding with words just like 545 00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:55,320 Speaker 5: a thumbs up or you know. 546 00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:55,600 Speaker 1: Yeah. 547 00:24:55,800 --> 00:25:00,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, I would so limit your like responses to him, 548 00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:03,840 Speaker 2: and then if he says, hey, why aren't you responding, 549 00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:05,119 Speaker 2: you can just say I get. 550 00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:07,560 Speaker 3: A lot of anxiety. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's good advice. 551 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:09,640 Speaker 3: That's good advice. I just assume maybe she wasn't. 552 00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:13,040 Speaker 5: Already was already just limit for the jugular feels. 553 00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:13,720 Speaker 6: Yeah. 554 00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:17,040 Speaker 2: I think if you've already just limited yourself to not 555 00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:20,480 Speaker 2: responding and only emphasizing the messages and he's still going 556 00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:22,200 Speaker 2: and it's still giving him anxiety, then I think you 557 00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:25,520 Speaker 2: can he if he says, like, why aren't you responding, 558 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:27,679 Speaker 2: you can just say, hey, I have a lot of 559 00:25:27,680 --> 00:25:31,480 Speaker 2: anxiety and this does not help. That's really really hard, 560 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:33,720 Speaker 2: and if you have the means, you should move. 561 00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:35,199 Speaker 3: I'm just kidding. 562 00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:39,159 Speaker 5: I wish I had, like, not quite that, but I 563 00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:40,120 Speaker 5: wish I had more of. 564 00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:43,280 Speaker 3: Haley says, I am the neighborhood watch. She says, I'm 565 00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:44,040 Speaker 3: so nosy, and. 566 00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:46,240 Speaker 2: I'm like, I am not no I'm not like in 567 00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,680 Speaker 2: people's business, but I do like paying attention to what's 568 00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:51,520 Speaker 2: happening mirror us and around us on my apps. 569 00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:53,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not telling anyone. 570 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:56,320 Speaker 5: I wish I had a little more of that, like neighborhood, 571 00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:58,840 Speaker 5: like camaraderie, prottery. We just don't have. 572 00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:01,439 Speaker 3: Maybe the new name moving in you can get to know. 573 00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:03,240 Speaker 5: Yes, I will make them a basket. 574 00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:06,240 Speaker 1: One thing I really learned, and it's so interesting that 575 00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:09,080 Speaker 1: Party says about the way he describes I'm picturing this 576 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:11,280 Speaker 1: guy older because there was an older generation, which is 577 00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:14,320 Speaker 1: weird because I'm an older generation. But there's an older 578 00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:18,520 Speaker 1: generation that cannot describe people without using physical characteristics. And 579 00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:20,800 Speaker 1: I love that about gen Z, how they've kind of 580 00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:24,840 Speaker 1: been the engine behind this. You cannot describe someone physically 581 00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:29,760 Speaker 1: to them without getting politely corrected. It's their clothes, their 582 00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:32,760 Speaker 1: hair color, or nothing else. There's nothing else you could 583 00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:34,800 Speaker 1: say when you're trying you know that person, you're up 584 00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:37,320 Speaker 1: on stage with that person, you better have their clothes, 585 00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:39,400 Speaker 1: you better have their name, or you better have hair color, 586 00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:41,480 Speaker 1: because that is it. If you describe them in any 587 00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:44,080 Speaker 1: other way, it is wrong and inappropriate. And I respect that, 588 00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:46,320 Speaker 1: and I really think that's kind of a cool trend 589 00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:47,000 Speaker 1: that's been happening. 590 00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:50,200 Speaker 2: But there are some descriptions that aren't. It's it's how 591 00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:53,600 Speaker 2: they're spoken that are that is offensive in my opinion, 592 00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:56,920 Speaker 2: like there, it's like there, or if it's a if 593 00:26:56,920 --> 00:27:00,920 Speaker 2: it's an attribute or physical attribute that's unnecessary. 594 00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:02,320 Speaker 3: That's what the older generation does. 595 00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:04,240 Speaker 5: They give it the big nose. 596 00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:08,480 Speaker 2: They give a detail that you're like that had nothing 597 00:27:08,480 --> 00:27:10,800 Speaker 2: to do with the story. But if it's important in 598 00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,240 Speaker 2: terms of describing what someone looks like, there are physical 599 00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:15,800 Speaker 2: attributes that set someone apart from the next person wearing 600 00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:16,359 Speaker 2: a red shirt. 601 00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:19,480 Speaker 1: I know I have in doing that. Well, I know 602 00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:22,800 Speaker 1: something you might even think is complimentary doesn't matter, but. 603 00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:31,119 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, but like I do think that's like if 604 00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:32,720 Speaker 2: the police are like, what did she look like? And 605 00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:34,600 Speaker 2: I'm like a red shirt and then they're like, well, 606 00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:35,840 Speaker 2: there's three people there. 607 00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:39,520 Speaker 5: You know, if you're getting asked by the police, you 608 00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:43,399 Speaker 5: better give them like every mole and every blemish. 609 00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:47,879 Speaker 2: But I'm just saying, like I understand that that generation 610 00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:51,399 Speaker 2: just pops off on description and attributes that you're like, 611 00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:54,560 Speaker 2: I did not that had nothing to do with the story. 612 00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:57,240 Speaker 3: You're just rude. 613 00:27:58,480 --> 00:27:59,280 Speaker 4: All Right, we come back. 614 00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:02,680 Speaker 1: We have a light one to wrap up with this Thursday. 615 00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:19,400 Speaker 1: Dear Banya, We're back. 616 00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:21,240 Speaker 3: Oh crush to you. 617 00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:23,480 Speaker 4: This from Jenny. 618 00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:26,920 Speaker 1: Hi, guys, I've been seeing people talking about this online, 619 00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:28,960 Speaker 1: and after hearing you discuss people we meet on vacation, 620 00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:31,359 Speaker 1: wanted to get your take. Everyone's pointing out that this 621 00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:34,920 Speaker 1: story is like a horror story. From Alex's girlfriends Sarah's 622 00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:38,719 Speaker 1: point of view, Your boyfriend has a platonic best friend 623 00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:43,040 Speaker 1: that he goes on vacation with alone every year, and 624 00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:46,160 Speaker 1: they text all the time. I read the book years ago, 625 00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:47,960 Speaker 1: so I don't really remember all the backstory, how much 626 00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:50,520 Speaker 1: context the book the book gives her, But still I 627 00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:52,440 Speaker 1: could not wrap my head around it. No matter how much, 628 00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:55,760 Speaker 1: no matter how much trust you have, the dynamic feels 629 00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:57,160 Speaker 1: like a lot. So I have to ask, what would 630 00:28:57,200 --> 00:28:59,479 Speaker 1: you do if Robbie or Helly had a best friend 631 00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:02,480 Speaker 1: like this? Is this a total red flag or is 632 00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:04,800 Speaker 1: this one of those situations where the history really matters 633 00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:06,680 Speaker 1: and you just have to trust it. I could not 634 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:09,000 Speaker 1: fathom it. Can't wait to hear your takes. Love you 635 00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:10,080 Speaker 1: all so much, Jenny. 636 00:29:10,840 --> 00:29:13,320 Speaker 2: I thought the I could be wrong because I didn't 637 00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:15,040 Speaker 2: read the book, but I thought the movie kind of 638 00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:18,320 Speaker 2: alluded to the fact that they went on vacation together 639 00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:21,440 Speaker 2: when they were not together, and then the vacation where 640 00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:23,160 Speaker 2: they were all together they were on. 641 00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:24,960 Speaker 3: So I kind of got that impression. 642 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:27,480 Speaker 5: I think what she's saying is like, forget the like 643 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:30,160 Speaker 5: specifics of the movie, and like, would you be comfortable 644 00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:35,360 Speaker 5: if your partner had somebody of I get like it 645 00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:38,080 Speaker 5: would be like if Haley had a best her best 646 00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:41,920 Speaker 5: girlfriend that she's going on trips without you all on 647 00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:44,320 Speaker 5: all the time. Like if rob that's. 648 00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:44,720 Speaker 3: Kind of hard. 649 00:29:44,760 --> 00:29:45,120 Speaker 6: I mean. 650 00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:49,560 Speaker 5: It's like if Robbie had a girl friend that he 651 00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:51,480 Speaker 5: was like going on vacation with, I'd be like, hell 652 00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:52,640 Speaker 5: to the freaking no. 653 00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:54,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. 654 00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:57,480 Speaker 2: But if if you and Robbie had a relationship that 655 00:29:57,560 --> 00:29:59,360 Speaker 2: was very on and off and it was just like 656 00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:01,600 Speaker 2: there were moments y'all together and not together and you 657 00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:02,960 Speaker 2: had a best room from child and he had a 658 00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:05,280 Speaker 2: best room from childhood, or you had a best room 659 00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:07,680 Speaker 2: from childhood that was of the opposite sex, and y'all 660 00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:10,600 Speaker 2: were not together, would it be a problem for you 661 00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:12,080 Speaker 2: to go on vacation alone with him if you and 662 00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:13,000 Speaker 2: Robbie aren't together. 663 00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:16,120 Speaker 5: I would be weirded out if this guy that I'm 664 00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:18,360 Speaker 5: on and off with is always going on vacation with 665 00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:20,920 Speaker 5: another woman. Yeah, I think I'd be like, yeah, I'm weird. 666 00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:21,720 Speaker 3: I would too. 667 00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:24,000 Speaker 2: I'm just saying like, there, it's kind of that we 668 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:26,320 Speaker 2: were on a break conversation, and it's like. 669 00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:28,440 Speaker 5: If we were together, if we were on a break, 670 00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:32,080 Speaker 5: if I met him on I don't know. 671 00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:34,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that the Sarah girl on the story, 672 00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:36,600 Speaker 2: in my opinion, put up with Wait. I would have 673 00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:38,880 Speaker 2: been like, hey, I don't. 674 00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:39,960 Speaker 3: Think I compete with this girl. 675 00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:44,720 Speaker 2: She's very important to you, obviously, and I feel less 676 00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:47,680 Speaker 2: than But I think that about the wedding planner. The 677 00:30:47,680 --> 00:30:50,640 Speaker 2: wedding Planner is like literally a horror film. You're getting 678 00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:53,680 Speaker 2: married to the love of your life and your fiance 679 00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:56,800 Speaker 2: falls in love with the woman planning the wedding. 680 00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:01,320 Speaker 3: And goes to the Oh yeah, my gosh, what a 681 00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:02,240 Speaker 3: great movie. 682 00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:05,880 Speaker 2: That was. It's amazing, But when you think about the storyline, 683 00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:07,640 Speaker 2: you're like, oh my gosh, this is a nightmare. 684 00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:09,600 Speaker 3: Worst worst case scenario. 685 00:31:09,760 --> 00:31:10,840 Speaker 5: Worst case scenario. 686 00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:15,520 Speaker 2: They're eating peanuts together at the drive the park movie. 687 00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:16,040 Speaker 4: Or whatever it is. 688 00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:20,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a lot of movies like that. But that's 689 00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:26,160 Speaker 2: the thing about movies. They romanticize horrible things. 690 00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,160 Speaker 5: I wouldn't like it. My answer to this is I 691 00:31:29,200 --> 00:31:30,360 Speaker 5: would not like it. 692 00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:31,280 Speaker 3: I wouldn't like it either. 693 00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:34,560 Speaker 2: And you know, what if if the person that I 694 00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:39,960 Speaker 2: loved had obviously deep feelings for someone of the opposite sex. 695 00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:42,320 Speaker 2: I mean, I guess if I felt like Hayley had 696 00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:45,880 Speaker 2: flirtatious interactions with even another woman like that and they 697 00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:48,760 Speaker 2: were going on vacations, I'd be like, I'm uncozy. 698 00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:52,160 Speaker 5: Charge it, Charge it to the game. 699 00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:55,600 Speaker 3: I don't know if charge it works, but end it 700 00:31:55,640 --> 00:32:03,000 Speaker 3: would be more my Yeah, yeah, wipe it. Okay, that's 701 00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:05,480 Speaker 3: all for now. We love you so much. 702 00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:09,400 Speaker 2: Please send any options for your Bania jingles. 703 00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:10,440 Speaker 3: Dear Bonnia jingles. 704 00:32:10,480 --> 00:32:12,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, we were all to a start, and we know 705 00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:14,239 Speaker 2: what we like and what we don't like. 706 00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:19,920 Speaker 1: Easton said when he made these, Hopefully this inspires scrubbing yes, yes, yes, yes. 707 00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:23,880 Speaker 3: What Eastern is is he is a vessel. Yes, he 708 00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:24,959 Speaker 3: is a fire starter. 709 00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:28,480 Speaker 2: So it's not necessarily the flame that's going to keep 710 00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:30,600 Speaker 2: the fire going, but it's the flame that gets the 711 00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:31,360 Speaker 2: fire started. 712 00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:35,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, so that's what those were. And it's only up 713 00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:36,440 Speaker 3: from here. 714 00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:41,240 Speaker 5: It only go up from here, up up, up where 715 00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:44,960 Speaker 5: the cloud's gone, like that, up up, It only go 716 00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:51,760 Speaker 5: up from here. Even my skin is acting weird. I 717 00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:55,760 Speaker 5: wish that I could grow a beard like No, then 718 00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:58,880 Speaker 5: he wants to go. Nobody knows the song. Yeah, I 719 00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:00,000 Speaker 5: don't want to jump in. 720 00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:05,160 Speaker 2: I was giving solo performance. Dang, all right, that's all 721 00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:05,440 Speaker 2: for now. 722 00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:07,400 Speaker 3: We love you so much A three weekend. 723 00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:08,080 Speaker 2: Bye,