1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,720 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and I 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 1: Heart Radio podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. We 3 00:00:12,280 --> 00:00:17,000 Speaker 1: are scrubbing in. There's a lot to cover, a lot 4 00:00:17,920 --> 00:00:24,479 Speaker 1: a leg way, no runway. Yeah, I was like, like, 5 00:00:24,640 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 1: I don't know what is modern runway to cover. I 6 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:30,600 Speaker 1: do want to give a shout out to the scrubbers though. 7 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 1: Last week I got a lot of d ms of 8 00:00:33,840 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 1: recipes and people to follow to help me cut my 9 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:40,960 Speaker 1: sugar and shout out to my friend Jenny Smiley who 10 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:44,519 Speaker 1: listens and sent me a ton of pictures and photos 11 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 1: of good healthy alternatives. So she's on the journey. She's on. 12 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 1: You know, it was really good until Easter. Easter was 13 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:57,600 Speaker 1: a little bit of a setback. Um, then you were 14 00:00:57,720 --> 00:01:00,720 Speaker 1: tempted or you gave into the temptation as in as 15 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:03,160 Speaker 1: in I didn't even realize I was doing it, do 16 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:06,839 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like, yeah, I'm like whoppers. 17 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 1: Haven't had Whoppers in a while. And I was like, oh, exactly, 18 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:16,039 Speaker 1: I agree. They are so good. They're so good, and 19 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:17,800 Speaker 1: they only come around around Easter. I'm like, why do 20 00:01:17,920 --> 00:01:19,600 Speaker 1: why don't I ever just buy a whopper? They're not 21 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 1: really accessible they're pretty accessible. I just don't know if 22 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:25,080 Speaker 1: you've noticed, you just don't notice. I noticed, like a 23 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 1: movie theaters, there's not there's no whoppers in a movie theater. 24 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:30,560 Speaker 1: It's like your standard. Yeah, but the movie theater candy 25 00:01:30,600 --> 00:01:34,119 Speaker 1: has changed. I've noticed. It's not what it was. Yeah. Yeah, 26 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:36,240 Speaker 1: no whoppers. Whoppers are not a big hit. They're not 27 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:39,040 Speaker 1: like at the front of CBS. They're just we should 28 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 1: do a poll and see who actually likes whoppers, because 29 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 1: if majority rules, then where are the whoppers? Whoppers back? 30 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:54,280 Speaker 1: Oh my god, dad? Yes, well, um, yeah, there is 31 00:01:54,280 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 1: a lot to talk about. You went to Coachella for 32 00:01:56,000 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: a day. I feel like this weekend was so busy 33 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: between cella, pass over, Easter. Mom is getting tired. Yeah, 34 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 1: you if you say yes to everything, yeah everything, literally 35 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 1: to everything, and that's my problem. No, Actually, we were 36 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:15,519 Speaker 1: talking about Coachella because we were just you know, spilling 37 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: Becca in on the Vibe and I was saying how 38 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:21,239 Speaker 1: I ordered a bunch of new clothes, like a bunch 39 00:02:21,240 --> 00:02:23,520 Speaker 1: of new office for Coachella, and none of them got 40 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 1: here in time, and so I literally was just like, 41 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 1: screw it, why my closet pulled out some stuff that 42 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:32,240 Speaker 1: I had my hat that you made me from Combo. 43 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:36,520 Speaker 1: Really it was clutching that um, but I kind of 44 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 1: was just like d gaff about it, and that was 45 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:40,920 Speaker 1: the vibe. All the celebrities were kind of in that 46 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:43,280 Speaker 1: same vibe this year. You were part of the celebrity 47 00:02:43,320 --> 00:02:46,040 Speaker 1: crew because I was on trend without even trying to 48 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:47,640 Speaker 1: me on trend. Well, I was seeing a lot of 49 00:02:47,639 --> 00:02:51,360 Speaker 1: TikTok's about how you know, Coachella is very much or 50 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 1: it always has been a very like come in your 51 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:57,840 Speaker 1: best or your wildest or your most creative fashion choices, 52 00:02:58,080 --> 00:03:00,640 Speaker 1: And there was like a lot of pressure on it 53 00:03:00,880 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: that specific area from my opinion, like from what I 54 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:06,200 Speaker 1: saw because it was the first time back in a 55 00:03:06,240 --> 00:03:09,600 Speaker 1: couple of years, and there were all all these TikTok's 56 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:12,400 Speaker 1: and people saying, like so many people put like a 57 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:15,280 Speaker 1: lot of the influencers put so much effort into their outfits, 58 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:19,320 Speaker 1: and the celebrities like Hailey Bieber, the car the Genners 59 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:23,400 Speaker 1: and like people came in like tank tops and jeans, 60 00:03:23,440 --> 00:03:26,760 Speaker 1: like literally as if they were just like throwing some 61 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 1: clothes to come to like coffee. Yeah, Like I went 62 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:34,119 Speaker 1: together coffee. The thing I saw was like, I'm sure 63 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 1: next year we'll just see everyone in like super casual 64 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 1: like attire and then the celebrities will probably be like 65 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 1: all decked out again, you know. Yeah, um, but yeah 66 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:47,040 Speaker 1: it was it fun. Yeah, So like that's the thing 67 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 1: I do enjoy the kind of like rumming around with 68 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:52,720 Speaker 1: the you know, live music and the weather is nice 69 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:55,680 Speaker 1: and people are like in a good mood. I get 70 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:59,200 Speaker 1: a little bit like sanzy when the when it gets darker, 71 00:04:00,040 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: you know, because I've seen people like seas in front 72 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:05,840 Speaker 1: of me and that always like yeah, not not this time, 73 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:07,200 Speaker 1: not this time, but I have in the past, and 74 00:04:07,200 --> 00:04:11,200 Speaker 1: I'm going to Coachella, so you know that's fair. Yeah. Yeah. 75 00:04:11,240 --> 00:04:13,040 Speaker 1: I always get a little bit nervous when the sun 76 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:16,640 Speaker 1: goes down, so I enjoy it more during the day 77 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:21,239 Speaker 1: and dusk um than I do the nighttime hours. I 78 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:24,000 Speaker 1: was a little nervous about how I was going to 79 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 1: feel not going because I was supposed to go for work, 80 00:04:26,279 --> 00:04:27,680 Speaker 1: and then I was kind of like I don't really 81 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:31,800 Speaker 1: have any extreme desire to go to Coachella, and so 82 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:34,920 Speaker 1: I ended up not going, and I was like, am 83 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 1: I going to regret that? I feel like I'm gonna 84 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:40,720 Speaker 1: have so much fomo. I had zero fomo. Like I 85 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:43,160 Speaker 1: was at home playing cards and I couldn't have been 86 00:04:43,240 --> 00:04:47,280 Speaker 1: happier like I was, just like I won, I had 87 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:50,040 Speaker 1: like a new thing happened in this card game that 88 00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:52,200 Speaker 1: I was playing that's never happened before where I won, 89 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:55,200 Speaker 1: and it was just a thrill. What card What card 90 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 1: game are you play? There's this game people play it differently. 91 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:03,800 Speaker 1: It's called golf, but like one with the like you lie, no, 92 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:06,120 Speaker 1: no golf is like you have nine cards set up 93 00:05:06,160 --> 00:05:08,720 Speaker 1: and you're trying to get the lowest, like golf, like 94 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:13,080 Speaker 1: the actual sport. You're trying to get the lowest. Yeah golf. Yeah, 95 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:16,760 Speaker 1: I thought you were saying golf, no golf, like you 96 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:24,040 Speaker 1: know how you say both golf. There's an l um Anyways, 97 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:25,760 Speaker 1: you're just trying to get the lowest in each card, 98 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:28,719 Speaker 1: like has it equals a certain amount or whatever. But 99 00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:31,000 Speaker 1: the whole thing is the way we play is if 100 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 1: you get three in a row, you eliminate that row. 101 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 1: And I eliminated all three of my rows. And then 102 00:05:41,600 --> 00:05:45,600 Speaker 1: yesterday on Easter, Um Haley and I went to the 103 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:48,440 Speaker 1: Spa and it was amazing. I did a spin class 104 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:51,039 Speaker 1: yesterday and then went to the SPA. Yeah, I'm like 105 00:05:51,120 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 1: fit chick right now. I've worked out three days a first. 106 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 1: I don't know if you know, Mark, but we pushed 107 00:05:57,520 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 1: it back. Oh Mark, you aren't here. Oh Mark, you 108 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:03,320 Speaker 1: weren't here like a week. We pushed back two weeks, 109 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:06,360 Speaker 1: two weeks, a little over two weeks. That seems very 110 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 1: very nebulous. So we already talked about it, Tony, I 111 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:14,040 Speaker 1: was sick and we have to have it by May 112 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:17,800 Speaker 1: May middle of We can't really say it's middle of 113 00:06:17,839 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 1: May for a wedding, for JoJo's wedding, but I don't 114 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 1: think she's announced the date, so that's why I don't 115 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 1: feel So I was telling Becca that we should do 116 00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 1: it for June four, because it's Wango Tango and we're 117 00:06:29,200 --> 00:06:31,480 Speaker 1: gonna be together, we're gonna take photos together. That cans. 118 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:35,040 Speaker 1: That's like an actual date that we're gonna take real photos. 119 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:37,840 Speaker 1: So why don't we just piggyback, piggybank, piggyback off that 120 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:43,360 Speaker 1: you have till June four? Mentally, I have till photos 121 00:06:43,560 --> 00:06:46,440 Speaker 1: at some point? One can we just say May fifteen? 122 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:48,919 Speaker 1: Can't we just pick a day and say, don't have 123 00:06:48,920 --> 00:06:54,200 Speaker 1: to be that Monday, So let's say the seventeen why 124 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:59,680 Speaker 1: don't we do how's that? Oh that's great. Okay, that's 125 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:05,400 Speaker 1: a good and um so I joined a gym and 126 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:08,680 Speaker 1: I've been there here No, it's called truth Fusion. They 127 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:11,480 Speaker 1: just opened in West Hollywood. Why would you go all 128 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 1: the way there to go? Because, um, it's so nice 129 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:17,360 Speaker 1: and they have a ton of different classes. I did 130 00:07:17,400 --> 00:07:20,320 Speaker 1: a hot pilates class. Okay, listen, I haven't worked out 131 00:07:20,320 --> 00:07:23,800 Speaker 1: in like a year, like done like a proper class workout. 132 00:07:24,600 --> 00:07:27,440 Speaker 1: I've never done a hot, hot class, and I'm horrible 133 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:31,320 Speaker 1: pilates because I have zero flexibility. So Ali invited me 134 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:33,239 Speaker 1: and she was like, come to this hot pilates class 135 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:37,560 Speaker 1: and I was like, okay, why not you guys? I was. 136 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:39,960 Speaker 1: I wish there was a camera on me the whole time. 137 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 1: It was so hard, hard and it was great. The 138 00:07:44,240 --> 00:07:47,680 Speaker 1: next day we did like hot boot camp, which that 139 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:49,480 Speaker 1: was more like I know how to do this. Come 140 00:07:49,640 --> 00:07:52,200 Speaker 1: berries with me. Berries feels a little too intense for 141 00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:55,720 Speaker 1: my liking. Everyone says they are on the verge of 142 00:07:55,720 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: throwing up when they go to berries, and I don't 143 00:07:57,400 --> 00:08:01,200 Speaker 1: have that in me. Almost threw up in plot so, um, Anyways, 144 00:08:01,240 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 1: I've worked out three days in a row. I'm going 145 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:09,640 Speaker 1: in today. Oh my gosh, chick, chick living living. My 146 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 1: Easter was the opposite. I was ingesting whoppers and uh andy, 147 00:08:16,760 --> 00:08:21,200 Speaker 1: Reese's eggs. Those are great. Can we talk about the 148 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 1: ratio of peanut butter chocolate in the Reese's egg It 149 00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 1: is perfection, It is perfection. I actually managed to steer 150 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 1: clear of those. I really only had whoppers and peanut 151 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 1: M and m's about jelly beans, those are my favorite. 152 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:38,280 Speaker 1: Interesting jelly What is the best flavor of jelly bean's 153 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:44,120 Speaker 1: eastern orange, orange, pink? Whatever the pink one? See? I 154 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:46,640 Speaker 1: don't There's no pink in my bag. I'm doing traditional 155 00:08:46,720 --> 00:08:50,959 Speaker 1: Brocs jelly beans probably like two fruit. I like red. 156 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:55,040 Speaker 1: There's no two fruity and correct answer is vanilla. The 157 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:58,479 Speaker 1: white jelly bean is the greatest of the jelly beans. 158 00:08:58,240 --> 00:09:04,599 Speaker 1: That's right, very bold, very bold, but I stand by it. Interesting, 159 00:09:04,679 --> 00:09:07,079 Speaker 1: but it is very funny. How like when I'm on 160 00:09:07,200 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 1: a mission for something I like, I went and I 161 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 1: bought monk fruit sweetener for my coffee because I was like, 162 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:15,079 Speaker 1: screw this whatever stuff I've been putting in there, Like 163 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:17,280 Speaker 1: I'm going to do the natural monk fruit Dada like 164 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:20,839 Speaker 1: I go all in Sunday. I just I'm like, oh 165 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:25,240 Speaker 1: it's Easter. Pop some good back at Square one again? 166 00:09:25,320 --> 00:09:28,000 Speaker 1: You know what it's called to what called living your life? 167 00:09:28,200 --> 00:09:30,400 Speaker 1: You know. We actually had this conversation last week after 168 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:36,319 Speaker 1: the podcast about being content versus complacent, and I'm like, 169 00:09:36,480 --> 00:09:39,559 Speaker 1: it's a fine line because I don't want to be complacent, 170 00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:46,120 Speaker 1: but I am content, content meaning happy. So where does 171 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:49,840 Speaker 1: that distinction come in? Well, when you can know that, Okay, 172 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:51,960 Speaker 1: I don't want to put a ton of fake sugar 173 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:55,040 Speaker 1: in my body. But it's Easter Sunday, So if I 174 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: have a few whoppers and eminem's, it's not setting me back. 175 00:09:58,200 --> 00:10:01,080 Speaker 1: It's just saying like, cool, I enjoy something that I liked, 176 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 1: and tomorrow I'll go back on my no sugar. Yeah 177 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:06,280 Speaker 1: tomorrow she back on it? Will That would be today, 178 00:10:06,520 --> 00:10:10,040 Speaker 1: right am? Okay, But if you wanted to do tomorrow, 179 00:10:10,080 --> 00:10:14,400 Speaker 1: that'd be okay too. It's a fine line content and complacent. 180 00:10:14,520 --> 00:10:17,200 Speaker 1: You know. That's good stuff. Actually that brings me to 181 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:19,200 Speaker 1: my next topic that I wanted to discuss. Oh but 182 00:10:19,240 --> 00:10:20,760 Speaker 1: before we move on, did you have a nice Easter? 183 00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 1: I had a great Easter, just like went to the spa, 184 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:29,800 Speaker 1: ordered Chinese food last night. I have zero complaints. That's nice. Nice. Yeah, 185 00:10:29,960 --> 00:10:34,320 Speaker 1: Easter is a very special holiday obviously, and it's I 186 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 1: woke up, I went listen to worship music, went to 187 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:40,760 Speaker 1: my spin class, got out, went to the spa, looked 188 00:10:40,760 --> 00:10:45,520 Speaker 1: at his beautiful the Lord's beautiful creation. I know, I 189 00:10:45,559 --> 00:10:48,760 Speaker 1: felt like I went from obviously red stars Jewish. So 190 00:10:48,800 --> 00:10:52,520 Speaker 1: we did a Passover Satyr and then we did Easter Sunday. 191 00:10:52,559 --> 00:10:55,200 Speaker 1: And they do this thing where they hide like this. 192 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:57,920 Speaker 1: It's called the what do I always keep forgetting? What 193 00:10:57,960 --> 00:11:02,160 Speaker 1: it's called? After comment, Oh, well, I get why you forget. 194 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:08,200 Speaker 1: They basically like they hide it and then whoever finds it. 195 00:11:08,280 --> 00:11:09,760 Speaker 1: That's like, you know, that's kind of like to me, 196 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:11,240 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, it's kind of like the Easter 197 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:13,199 Speaker 1: egg hunt that we do, you know. So it's like 198 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:16,200 Speaker 1: it's very interesting because there's a lot more that's similar 199 00:11:16,440 --> 00:11:19,240 Speaker 1: than then that makes us different, you know. Yeah, and 200 00:11:19,320 --> 00:11:21,440 Speaker 1: you know what, I feel like I was watching a 201 00:11:21,559 --> 00:11:27,200 Speaker 1: show or something popped up into my uh oh, I 202 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:30,280 Speaker 1: was talking about God? What was I doing? I was 203 00:11:30,280 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 1: listening to a podcast or something, and there was a 204 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:35,800 Speaker 1: couple and they were talking about how they both introduced themselves. Oh. 205 00:11:35,880 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: I was listening to Glennon Doyle's podcast We Can Do 206 00:11:38,320 --> 00:11:40,920 Speaker 1: Hard Things and she and her wife Abby were talking 207 00:11:40,960 --> 00:11:44,040 Speaker 1: to Jin Hatmaker and she was talking her new boyfriend 208 00:11:44,080 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 1: was on the podcast, and um, Glennon comes from like 209 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 1: a very Christian conservative background. She's like a Christian mom blogger. 210 00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:52,760 Speaker 1: She fell in love with Abby. Abby came into the 211 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:57,960 Speaker 1: relationship atheist, and she's like, Glennon has really just shown 212 00:11:58,000 --> 00:12:01,079 Speaker 1: me what it's like to believe been something and it's 213 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:03,520 Speaker 1: like change my whole perspective. And I was like, how 214 00:12:03,559 --> 00:12:07,160 Speaker 1: beautiful that people can have different religions and perspectives and 215 00:12:07,320 --> 00:12:10,120 Speaker 1: ways to believe and be able to see the beauty 216 00:12:10,160 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 1: and those things in each other and not just like 217 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 1: immediately shut someone out because of those things. You know, 218 00:12:16,600 --> 00:12:18,319 Speaker 1: And I feel like the way I was raisedst so different. 219 00:12:18,360 --> 00:12:20,320 Speaker 1: But I wanted to commend you because I think it's 220 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:22,720 Speaker 1: when you grow up here in your whole life of 221 00:12:22,760 --> 00:12:27,120 Speaker 1: like having the same beliefs as crucial or important or 222 00:12:27,160 --> 00:12:29,360 Speaker 1: it won't work otherwise. I think it's really cool that 223 00:12:29,440 --> 00:12:31,600 Speaker 1: you'll have the respect that you have for each other 224 00:12:31,640 --> 00:12:33,760 Speaker 1: and that the kids are getting to see that too. 225 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:35,680 Speaker 1: It's really cool. Yeah. And you know, the thing that's 226 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:38,960 Speaker 1: interesting is um because I'm never you know, because he 227 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:40,640 Speaker 1: has kids and he's raising them Jewish. So I never 228 00:12:40,640 --> 00:12:43,160 Speaker 1: want to like push my you know, my faith is 229 00:12:43,200 --> 00:12:47,880 Speaker 1: my choice and and so for UM. So I was 230 00:12:47,960 --> 00:12:49,280 Speaker 1: kind of like, you know, I can just kind of 231 00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:51,000 Speaker 1: do my own thing for Easter. I'll just kind of 232 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 1: do my own thing and then I'll come back and 233 00:12:52,400 --> 00:12:53,800 Speaker 1: be with him. And he was like, no, like it's 234 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:55,440 Speaker 1: important for me, like you come and you're part of 235 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:58,120 Speaker 1: my holidays and traditions. I want to come and I 236 00:12:58,160 --> 00:12:59,880 Speaker 1: want to be a part of yours too, and like 237 00:13:00,080 --> 00:13:03,520 Speaker 1: learn about it. And he was asking me questions and so, um, 238 00:13:03,559 --> 00:13:06,160 Speaker 1: you don't know, it was really beautiful and I do, 239 00:13:06,360 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 1: you know, encourage people not too because I was that way. 240 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:10,439 Speaker 1: Like I was, I had that list of who I 241 00:13:10,480 --> 00:13:13,600 Speaker 1: wanted to end up with and it was like Christian this, that, 242 00:13:13,679 --> 00:13:19,200 Speaker 1: this that, and it's like where did that get me? Up? 243 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:23,079 Speaker 1: Ships creaking around the corner on a little app called 244 00:13:23,160 --> 00:13:27,040 Speaker 1: h Yeah, that's right where I found my little Jewish honey. 245 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:31,559 Speaker 1: But so I did want to you know, I think 246 00:13:31,559 --> 00:13:33,400 Speaker 1: it was really beautiful. And it also made me realize 247 00:13:33,400 --> 00:13:35,120 Speaker 1: remember the first year that I was dating him, and 248 00:13:35,160 --> 00:13:37,240 Speaker 1: it was like it was the pandemic, so everything was 249 00:13:37,280 --> 00:13:40,360 Speaker 1: shut down, and I remember it was passover and I 250 00:13:40,400 --> 00:13:41,920 Speaker 1: wanted to do something for him, and so I made 251 00:13:42,000 --> 00:13:45,480 Speaker 1: him a cedar, like a like a plate or whatever. 252 00:13:46,960 --> 00:13:49,760 Speaker 1: Now looking back at what I made him is so 253 00:13:49,880 --> 00:13:53,080 Speaker 1: embarrassing compared to like what they actually were supposed to be. 254 00:13:53,240 --> 00:13:55,600 Speaker 1: I was when you were looking for the bone or whatever, 255 00:13:56,120 --> 00:14:01,319 Speaker 1: looking for the bone and like the It was a 256 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:04,319 Speaker 1: thought though, and I'm sure that alone meant plenty to him, 257 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:07,560 Speaker 1: even though he was probably like, wow, this is yeah. 258 00:14:07,679 --> 00:14:09,800 Speaker 1: His first year he did that Easter head hunt for 259 00:14:09,840 --> 00:14:11,680 Speaker 1: me that was like a scavenger, and he was like, 260 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:13,800 Speaker 1: that's not totally how it works, but at the thought 261 00:14:13,880 --> 00:14:19,040 Speaker 1: that counts is cute. Oh so good. Um. Speaking of 262 00:14:19,480 --> 00:14:22,320 Speaker 1: kids and like that dynamic, I guess there's been a 263 00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 1: lot of talk about Courtney and Travis and their p 264 00:14:24,960 --> 00:14:27,840 Speaker 1: d A on the New Kardashianna get into like hot topic. 265 00:14:27,840 --> 00:14:30,120 Speaker 1: Should we take a break and get back into those Yeah, 266 00:14:30,200 --> 00:14:32,000 Speaker 1: let's do it. Yeah, because I want to talk about 267 00:14:32,040 --> 00:14:34,600 Speaker 1: the fact that I'm a sheep. Okay, I have no 268 00:14:34,680 --> 00:14:36,760 Speaker 1: idea what that means, but we will be right back 269 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:55,480 Speaker 1: with moral nut. Okay, we're back. So first I saw this. 270 00:14:55,760 --> 00:14:59,800 Speaker 1: I've never even seen or heard Travis Barker talk, and 271 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:02,440 Speaker 1: I saw this. I know, I guess, I just I 272 00:15:02,520 --> 00:15:06,640 Speaker 1: see him like on the Red Car and I saw 273 00:15:06,720 --> 00:15:09,840 Speaker 1: this interview like a clip of him on TikTok, and 274 00:15:10,280 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 1: he had the most like calming, like kindest And someone 275 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:20,280 Speaker 1: commented and they were like, he's like a Rottweiler um 276 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 1: on the exterior, but he's like a Golden Retriever energiary 277 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:28,160 Speaker 1: personality cut I know, And I thought it was really cute. 278 00:15:28,200 --> 00:15:30,400 Speaker 1: But there has been talking about their p d A 279 00:15:30,400 --> 00:15:32,720 Speaker 1: in front of the kids, and I was curious because 280 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:35,600 Speaker 1: I don't have any kids, Like I'm not dating any kids, 281 00:15:35,600 --> 00:15:38,320 Speaker 1: but I was curious if y'all are careful about that 282 00:15:38,480 --> 00:15:40,880 Speaker 1: or what that looks like for you in your relationship. 283 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:44,000 Speaker 1: Um we it's interesting. I mean, I think it's something 284 00:15:44,000 --> 00:15:46,760 Speaker 1: that develops over time. Obviously the very beginning we weren't 285 00:15:47,720 --> 00:15:49,040 Speaker 1: very p d A, you know what I mean, Like 286 00:15:49,080 --> 00:15:51,000 Speaker 1: I would hug him when I came over and things 287 00:15:51,040 --> 00:15:52,960 Speaker 1: like that, like, but we've like eased into it. So 288 00:15:53,000 --> 00:15:55,120 Speaker 1: now we kiss, but I'm not like, we don't make 289 00:15:55,200 --> 00:15:57,600 Speaker 1: out with each other in front of them. Yeah, you 290 00:15:57,640 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 1: don't like grab him like you do when you're around 291 00:16:00,360 --> 00:16:02,720 Speaker 1: the dinner, right, all right, I keep it pretty like PG. 292 00:16:02,880 --> 00:16:04,520 Speaker 1: But we do kiss in front of them, like but 293 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 1: like you know, like a peck, like a peck or 294 00:16:07,040 --> 00:16:09,360 Speaker 1: like a little bit longer than a pack and there 295 00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:13,400 Speaker 1: they never say anything. They're never like once once they 296 00:16:13,400 --> 00:16:15,600 Speaker 1: said to you, but we didn't know they were. They 297 00:16:15,640 --> 00:16:17,560 Speaker 1: like came into the room while we were kissing, you know, 298 00:16:17,560 --> 00:16:19,080 Speaker 1: and it wasn't like we did it in front of them. 299 00:16:19,160 --> 00:16:20,880 Speaker 1: What are your what are your thoughts on p d 300 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:23,440 Speaker 1: A in front of like I guess extreme, I guess 301 00:16:23,480 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 1: this would be their p d A is a little 302 00:16:25,280 --> 00:16:30,160 Speaker 1: more right, Like they're like kissing with their tongues out 303 00:16:30,600 --> 00:16:33,760 Speaker 1: all the time on the red carpet. So even that alone, 304 00:16:33,800 --> 00:16:36,680 Speaker 1: if their kids are seeing that, that is PDM for 305 00:16:36,800 --> 00:16:40,800 Speaker 1: the kids, right, Yeah, what are your thoughts in terms 306 00:16:40,800 --> 00:16:43,320 Speaker 1: of celebrities are in terms of our personal lives? Personal lives, 307 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:46,160 Speaker 1: well life engine anyone? Like Yeah, I like I like 308 00:16:46,280 --> 00:16:48,200 Speaker 1: kissing my wife in front of the kids. I feel 309 00:16:48,240 --> 00:16:51,280 Speaker 1: like it's established as a certain closeness, and even if 310 00:16:51,320 --> 00:16:53,560 Speaker 1: they don't realize that at the time, I think it's 311 00:16:53,560 --> 00:16:56,840 Speaker 1: giving them a sense of stability in their family. Um. 312 00:16:56,880 --> 00:17:01,840 Speaker 1: I think that they often react with that's fine. I'm 313 00:17:01,880 --> 00:17:03,720 Speaker 1: okay with that. I don't mind that. I still think 314 00:17:03,760 --> 00:17:05,600 Speaker 1: they should see it from time to time, just to 315 00:17:05,640 --> 00:17:09,120 Speaker 1: make sure they know everything's fine. I'm like, I mean, 316 00:17:09,160 --> 00:17:12,240 Speaker 1: I do too. I think there's something sweet and endearing 317 00:17:12,280 --> 00:17:17,440 Speaker 1: about kissing. No. Yeah, my wife and I've been together 318 00:17:17,520 --> 00:17:19,480 Speaker 1: twenty five years in a couple of months, and I 319 00:17:19,480 --> 00:17:21,640 Speaker 1: think that that that's the fact that we're still doing 320 00:17:21,680 --> 00:17:26,840 Speaker 1: that is a positive message descent. Yeah, I agree, Eastern 321 00:17:26,920 --> 00:17:32,080 Speaker 1: De'll kiss in front of the dog because we yes, 322 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:36,760 Speaker 1: we don't see nothing holds him back from that. I think. 323 00:17:36,800 --> 00:17:39,040 Speaker 1: I think PD is fine. I mean, we're not like, um, 324 00:17:39,040 --> 00:17:42,040 Speaker 1: like humping each other in public, but like, uh, you know, 325 00:17:42,080 --> 00:17:46,960 Speaker 1: as much as sometimes the the feeling is there. But no, 326 00:17:47,080 --> 00:17:51,080 Speaker 1: I think I think kissing is h is fine and 327 00:17:51,200 --> 00:17:52,440 Speaker 1: I'll do it in front of it. I'll do in 328 00:17:52,520 --> 00:17:56,920 Speaker 1: front of God himself everybody. I think he'd appreciate that. 329 00:17:58,480 --> 00:18:00,160 Speaker 1: Give you in a pause. Did you watch the first 330 00:18:00,200 --> 00:18:03,600 Speaker 1: episode of The Kardashians. No, No, I hadn't either. I 331 00:18:03,640 --> 00:18:05,760 Speaker 1: realized my weekend was a little too gem packed. But 332 00:18:06,640 --> 00:18:09,920 Speaker 1: I actually interested in this next season, and I wanted 333 00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:14,000 Speaker 1: to talk about um the show Severance because I had 334 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:16,399 Speaker 1: this realization the other day that I am like a sheep. 335 00:18:16,440 --> 00:18:18,520 Speaker 1: I'm in the sheep mentality. Because we started watching the 336 00:18:18,520 --> 00:18:23,000 Speaker 1: show of Severance and they hated it. I was like, 337 00:18:23,320 --> 00:18:25,560 Speaker 1: this show is not for me. If people don't know, 338 00:18:25,600 --> 00:18:27,840 Speaker 1: that's the show on Apple TV plus where people who 339 00:18:27,840 --> 00:18:30,880 Speaker 1: work for this company have their brains severed, so then 340 00:18:30,920 --> 00:18:32,920 Speaker 1: their work they can't think about their home life. When 341 00:18:32,920 --> 00:18:34,720 Speaker 1: they're at home, they cannot think about their work life. 342 00:18:34,760 --> 00:18:37,800 Speaker 1: It's completely cut off from the other. Yeah. I was like, oh, 343 00:18:37,880 --> 00:18:39,480 Speaker 1: it's a cool concept, let's watch or whatever. So we 344 00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:42,840 Speaker 1: watched it, didn't like it. By then I asked people 345 00:18:42,840 --> 00:18:45,960 Speaker 1: on Instagram what should I watch right, and the two 346 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:50,480 Speaker 1: shows by a long shot were The Ultimatum and Severance. 347 00:18:50,560 --> 00:18:52,520 Speaker 1: So we were like, okay, we'll watch one episode of 348 00:18:52,520 --> 00:18:56,360 Speaker 1: the Ultimatum and then we'll do one more episode of Severance. 349 00:18:56,920 --> 00:18:59,760 Speaker 1: So then everybody were like, looking at all this scuttle 350 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:01,720 Speaker 1: on Twitter is saying that like the Finale is the 351 00:19:01,760 --> 00:19:04,440 Speaker 1: best show on television. It's the best TV they've seen 352 00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:07,199 Speaker 1: in years, Didada. So then we were like, let's just 353 00:19:07,240 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 1: get through it so that we can see all is 354 00:19:09,240 --> 00:19:11,439 Speaker 1: what the scuttle was about. And in the middle of it, 355 00:19:11,520 --> 00:19:13,119 Speaker 1: I was like, this shows weird. I don't want to 356 00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:14,919 Speaker 1: keep watching it, but I wanted to see the finale 357 00:19:15,080 --> 00:19:17,520 Speaker 1: because that's what everybody was talking about how good it was. 358 00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:20,440 Speaker 1: It was just as good as as everybody said that 359 00:19:20,480 --> 00:19:23,199 Speaker 1: it was, so I really enjoyed the finale. But I 360 00:19:23,240 --> 00:19:26,760 Speaker 1: had this moment where I was just like, I am 361 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:30,160 Speaker 1: one of those people. I'm just like following bandwagon fans. Yeah, 362 00:19:30,200 --> 00:19:35,199 Speaker 1: and I don't like that. How do you know what 363 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:37,320 Speaker 1: TV shows that the million TV shows out right now, 364 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:39,160 Speaker 1: they're all great. How do we know what to watch 365 00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:41,640 Speaker 1: if not by judging from friends and other people saying 366 00:19:41,640 --> 00:19:44,119 Speaker 1: they're great. Because I want to watch things that tickle 367 00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:46,280 Speaker 1: my pickle and like, bring you joy. I'm going to 368 00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:52,280 Speaker 1: share something with you that could change your life. You 369 00:19:52,480 --> 00:19:55,800 Speaker 1: don't have to live your life in blacks and whites. 370 00:19:56,240 --> 00:19:59,080 Speaker 1: You can be a leader in a certain area and 371 00:19:59,119 --> 00:20:02,560 Speaker 1: then also be influenced in other areas and not be 372 00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:04,720 Speaker 1: the leader in that space. But I don't want to 373 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:08,639 Speaker 1: be a sheep. You're not a sheep simply, you're not 374 00:20:08,800 --> 00:20:10,959 Speaker 1: a sheep. I am. I am a pawn in that 375 00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:13,760 Speaker 1: little game that they were because if you didn't want 376 00:20:13,800 --> 00:20:16,320 Speaker 1: to do it, you would not care. Think about all 377 00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:18,360 Speaker 1: the things that you will say no to that would 378 00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:20,040 Speaker 1: be like cool for you to go to. But you're like, 379 00:20:20,119 --> 00:20:22,360 Speaker 1: I don't care. Yeah, I don't know a fomo that's 380 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:24,480 Speaker 1: the thing. I don't. I'm not a foamo gal because 381 00:20:24,480 --> 00:20:26,399 Speaker 1: when I make a decision, I'm doing it because I 382 00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:29,960 Speaker 1: want to do it right. So that's not a sheep. Okay, 383 00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:33,080 Speaker 1: thank you. You know it's great winning time the Rise 384 00:20:33,119 --> 00:20:36,320 Speaker 1: of the Lakers Dynasty. That's really good. Definitely not watching that. 385 00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:41,320 Speaker 1: I guess you're not a sheep because it's not okay, alright, alright, 386 00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:43,800 Speaker 1: so I'm not a sheep. This is good I need 387 00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:46,600 Speaker 1: because I'm feeling sheep was part of the show. So 388 00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:50,040 Speaker 1: you're just like in life, you feel like you're yeah. Interesting. 389 00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:52,720 Speaker 1: I had this moment where I was like, I'm not 390 00:20:52,880 --> 00:20:58,280 Speaker 1: that girl? Why was I that girl? But I'm not anymore? 391 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:07,240 Speaker 1: But um, I'm also sleep deprivate. Can tell yes, a 392 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:10,680 Speaker 1: little bit good energy. I like it. Thanks, Yeah, It's 393 00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:13,720 Speaker 1: like it's a I'm cuspy, like I'm not tired, but 394 00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:18,240 Speaker 1: I'm not rested. Yeah, I got you. I'm just like, man, 395 00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:23,480 Speaker 1: oh so wait. I would like to say I have 396 00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:26,720 Speaker 1: not watched Gray's Anatomy since it came back from the 397 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:32,800 Speaker 1: Winter finale. I am having like an identity crisis in 398 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:37,199 Speaker 1: that because you're so much more than Gray's Anatomy. I know, 399 00:21:37,960 --> 00:21:40,439 Speaker 1: and I know, am I the only one to watching 400 00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:45,920 Speaker 1: this show? Marking the more I like because I'll I'll 401 00:21:45,920 --> 00:21:48,480 Speaker 1: get on Twitter and stuff on Thursdays. And I used 402 00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:50,760 Speaker 1: to be like so entranced and like what people were 403 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:52,159 Speaker 1: tweeting about it and be like, oh my gosh, I 404 00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:54,320 Speaker 1: can't wait to watch it. I just haven't felt that 405 00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:58,280 Speaker 1: to even be excited. And you enjoyed the last one. 406 00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:00,440 Speaker 1: The last one I thought was really strong that Thursday. 407 00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:03,159 Speaker 1: No Thursday, they did an old one. They did the 408 00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:06,879 Speaker 1: best of episode last Thursday. Just a season. It's like 409 00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:12,159 Speaker 1: season four. They brought out like a classic classic. I 410 00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:14,720 Speaker 1: think it was the season four finale. It was a 411 00:22:14,800 --> 00:22:16,639 Speaker 1: very easy episode. Yeah, I didn't watch it, but I 412 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:18,320 Speaker 1: read about it, like, well, that's a good idea, they 413 00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:22,200 Speaker 1: should do that. But the last regular episode were, Um, 414 00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:25,000 Speaker 1: I don't remember what happens, but Webber goes through is 415 00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:27,520 Speaker 1: he has an evaluation, and there's other stuff. I thought 416 00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:31,000 Speaker 1: it was a strong episode. Okay, well, I am just 417 00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:36,480 Speaker 1: like it's a panic panics feeling I have because we 418 00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:44,840 Speaker 1: have built this podcast off of our lives and then 419 00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:48,040 Speaker 1: you kidn't started. I did. This was a foundation of 420 00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:50,960 Speaker 1: Gray's Anatomy. Guess what when your foundation of Gray's Anatomy 421 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,639 Speaker 1: went belly up and I joined in, it became not 422 00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:57,440 Speaker 1: a Grays Anatomy podcast. It became a best friends podcast. Boom. 423 00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:00,480 Speaker 1: You don't have to feel the pressure. If you don't 424 00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:01,800 Speaker 1: want to watch it, you don't have to do There's 425 00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:04,199 Speaker 1: plenty of other television on the sea. But I you know, 426 00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:06,600 Speaker 1: I always do this with shows. I always like get 427 00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:09,200 Speaker 1: to like the second or third to last season, and 428 00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:12,920 Speaker 1: I'm like, it's getting kind of repetitive. Come back. I'm 429 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:14,680 Speaker 1: asking you to come back. It's a quick it'll be 430 00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:16,719 Speaker 1: a quick binge and you'll be all caught up again. Right, 431 00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:21,479 Speaker 1: you're right, okay, okay, okay, were doing together today? I 432 00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:24,440 Speaker 1: unfortunately have a busy date. I'm so sorry about that 433 00:23:25,119 --> 00:23:28,840 Speaker 1: because that was genuine excitement, and I really just crushed. 434 00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:30,959 Speaker 1: We do need a friend date soon. We're both like 435 00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:33,800 Speaker 1: very like, yeah, I thought it would be so cute. 436 00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:35,640 Speaker 1: What do you have plans? Tell me the plans I have. 437 00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:38,600 Speaker 1: I have to do work stuff at home. I have 438 00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:42,840 Speaker 1: to I signed up for a workout class. That's really it. 439 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:48,000 Speaker 1: There are some there's some works up tomorrow. It's bad influence, 440 00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:54,400 Speaker 1: bad influence, that's true. But well, we'll plan a date soon. 441 00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:56,880 Speaker 1: But yeah, oh yeah, Okay, I just had this thought. 442 00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:58,240 Speaker 1: But I don't know if this is the right moment 443 00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:00,560 Speaker 1: to talk about it. But I just right something for 444 00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:02,440 Speaker 1: the first time this week, and I'm like obsessed. I 445 00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:08,960 Speaker 1: want to do it. No self tanner. That is so wholesome. 446 00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:13,320 Speaker 1: But that's the first time I've gotten spray tans before. 447 00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:15,000 Speaker 1: But I've had people spraying me or I've gone in 448 00:24:15,000 --> 00:24:18,359 Speaker 1: the booth. I've never actually done it myself. So I 449 00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:21,560 Speaker 1: texted Jojo actually because I know she like on Instagram 450 00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:22,960 Speaker 1: she's like always doing it, and I was like, give 451 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:24,480 Speaker 1: me the best one. So she like tells me the 452 00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:26,200 Speaker 1: name of this place. I go to Sapore, I get 453 00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:27,879 Speaker 1: the pad and you know, the mid or whatever, and 454 00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:30,679 Speaker 1: I'm like Okay, I'm all excited about it, and I 455 00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:34,280 Speaker 1: like had Robbie ready to do my back and so 456 00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:36,120 Speaker 1: I do this this sunless tanner, and I'm like all 457 00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:38,320 Speaker 1: nervous about it. I'm like reading the instructions making sure 458 00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:40,800 Speaker 1: I do. It's the easiest thing I've ever done in 459 00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:43,520 Speaker 1: my life. And I was tan in an hour. It 460 00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:47,879 Speaker 1: was twenty nine for this bottle that would probably give me, 461 00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:50,639 Speaker 1: like I don't know, a month's worth of tan, and 462 00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:53,280 Speaker 1: it was I contoured my face so I did like 463 00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:55,879 Speaker 1: a little like how I do my bronzer. I just 464 00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:58,560 Speaker 1: did that with the sunless tanner, and I took a shower, 465 00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:01,720 Speaker 1: washed off, and I was good to go. Wow. Yeah, 466 00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:06,160 Speaker 1: I saw your post and my reaction is like I was, like, 467 00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:11,520 Speaker 1: everybody's been holding out on me. How easy held out influencers. 468 00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:14,439 Speaker 1: We've been talking about it for years and no streaks. 469 00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:17,160 Speaker 1: Like it looked good and my legs are still kind 470 00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:20,720 Speaker 1: of tan and kind of tan. Yeah. I did a 471 00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:22,439 Speaker 1: very light cold like I let it sit for the 472 00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:25,439 Speaker 1: minimum amount of time. Oh yeah, of course, and next 473 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:27,280 Speaker 1: time you can really push the lining. Yeah yeah, I'm 474 00:25:27,320 --> 00:25:30,880 Speaker 1: gonna cut multiple hours. Might do it today, Oh my god. Yeah. 475 00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:35,240 Speaker 1: So my dad is a bodybuilder, and I grew up 476 00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:38,480 Speaker 1: around a lot of sunless tanner just constantly in the 477 00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:40,720 Speaker 1: air at my house. And something I love about people 478 00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:42,760 Speaker 1: do it for the first time is uh and I'm 479 00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:44,400 Speaker 1: sure you didn't do this tiny and I'm sure things 480 00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:46,239 Speaker 1: of the products have changed over the years, but like 481 00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:49,240 Speaker 1: it pulls up around your feet, in between your toes 482 00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:51,840 Speaker 1: and then on your hands against so like a lot 483 00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:53,840 Speaker 1: of people when they do over the first time, their 484 00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:56,280 Speaker 1: hands are like super brown and then the rest of 485 00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:58,680 Speaker 1: their body is much lighter. So you have them now 486 00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:01,399 Speaker 1: they have a commit that yous And the mid is 487 00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:05,080 Speaker 1: kind of like a sponge because it goes on so smooth. 488 00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:08,080 Speaker 1: And I didn't have anything my feet, my hands, Like, 489 00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:10,639 Speaker 1: look how good it looks. Yeah, well, I'm sure you 490 00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:13,679 Speaker 1: were meticulous if I know, Yeah, I had. I had, 491 00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:15,439 Speaker 1: like I took a makeup brush to use to do 492 00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:19,879 Speaker 1: my hands and then um, I just had red started 493 00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:21,639 Speaker 1: the back. I feel like would be a little bit 494 00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:24,400 Speaker 1: tough if I didn't have him, I must say, But 495 00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:27,080 Speaker 1: aside from that, I did a fantastic ten out of 496 00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:30,000 Speaker 1: ten job. I'm so proud of you for discovering self Tanner. 497 00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:32,040 Speaker 1: Thank you tell the world how good it is. Yeah, 498 00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:34,439 Speaker 1: I might do some reviews on my Instagram. Which one 499 00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:38,200 Speaker 1: I like better? What Tan all Tan self? Tanners out there? 500 00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:41,720 Speaker 1: Give Tonya a sponsor? Yeah, right into my damns. I'm 501 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:45,680 Speaker 1: ready to try you out. Um. So Kim Kardashia went 502 00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:48,840 Speaker 1: on a podcast not Skinny, not Fat. Did it make 503 00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:50,840 Speaker 1: you want to up our game? Our guest game? Yeah, 504 00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:53,480 Speaker 1: like that we need to shoot for the stars. Yeah. 505 00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:57,159 Speaker 1: So Christie Tegan, if you're listening, Yeah, what is the 506 00:26:57,520 --> 00:27:01,080 Speaker 1: Christie Tan looks amazing by the way she So she 507 00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:04,560 Speaker 1: is sober now. She she was saying how she was 508 00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:08,159 Speaker 1: like alcohol was just like not doing anything good for 509 00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:10,959 Speaker 1: her life. And so she's sober now and she is 510 00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:15,359 Speaker 1: like glowing. Yeah. She had like a moment where she 511 00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:17,360 Speaker 1: was really down and she was like on her Instagram 512 00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:20,320 Speaker 1: saying how like down she felt and like she didn't 513 00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:22,439 Speaker 1: feel like she had a community or whatever, and a 514 00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,600 Speaker 1: lot of scrubbers were like tagging scrubbing in in her 515 00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:28,159 Speaker 1: comments sections, saying like you should go to these girls, 516 00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:30,280 Speaker 1: you should go on their podcast. Well, bloss I jumped 517 00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:32,359 Speaker 1: right and I was like, yeah, girl, come on or 518 00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:35,680 Speaker 1: we'd love to have you. But it never really went anywhere. 519 00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:38,400 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna Brett start that back up again. Let's 520 00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:40,920 Speaker 1: get in her d M. Let's get her on the pod. Yeah, 521 00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:43,240 Speaker 1: let's do it there anyone else? Is that what you 522 00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:44,439 Speaker 1: were going with that or did you want to talk 523 00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:46,199 Speaker 1: about that. I just thought it was cool that like that. 524 00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:50,240 Speaker 1: She yeah, I agree, I think we can shoot shoot 525 00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:54,160 Speaker 1: for the stars. There's also um, you know the um 526 00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:58,399 Speaker 1: she's a TikToker. Remy Bader also has to have her 527 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,720 Speaker 1: on the podcast as well. She denies. I think Amy 528 00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:05,560 Speaker 1: said no, I'm not sure where it went. Okay, Again, 529 00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:09,120 Speaker 1: I thought it was interesting because she posted it. Um Coachela, 530 00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:13,400 Speaker 1: she posted a TikTok and she was like, UM, I 531 00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:18,520 Speaker 1: can't tell if I'm having a good time here. Like 532 00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:22,879 Speaker 1: I'm sitting by myself in this field, I have a 533 00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:26,240 Speaker 1: drink in my hand, my feet hurt. Everyone's just like 534 00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:29,800 Speaker 1: taking fund you know. I don't remember what she said, 535 00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:32,120 Speaker 1: but she was like, I just don't know if I'm 536 00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:34,240 Speaker 1: having a good time. And I was like, oh, I 537 00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:39,120 Speaker 1: really like that honesty of like I had high expectations 538 00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,800 Speaker 1: and I don't know that they are living up. Here's 539 00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:44,880 Speaker 1: the thing with Coachell and I don't think people realize 540 00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:47,840 Speaker 1: no matter how v I p access, no matter how 541 00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:50,680 Speaker 1: good your wristband is. Actually I've never had an artist 542 00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:53,840 Speaker 1: wrist band, so I can't speak to that. But you're 543 00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:58,120 Speaker 1: still walking so far. No matter how good your parking is, 544 00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:01,920 Speaker 1: getting there is always a disaster. So like you're kind 545 00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:03,560 Speaker 1: of like everyone has to kind of go through like 546 00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:05,680 Speaker 1: a process to get there. So by the time you 547 00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:06,920 Speaker 1: get there, all you want to do is just get 548 00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:09,959 Speaker 1: a drink. Then you're waiting at another line to like 549 00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:12,120 Speaker 1: get drinks and then you know what I mean. So 550 00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:13,960 Speaker 1: it's like it's such a process and your feet really 551 00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:18,320 Speaker 1: do hurt that It's like there is a lot you 552 00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:21,520 Speaker 1: have to really, I don't know. You have to be ready, 553 00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:24,400 Speaker 1: you have to be ready for the night. And I 554 00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:27,240 Speaker 1: found these old photos of us from two thousand seventeen. 555 00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:30,000 Speaker 1: Oh my god, how cute I was doing the jeans 556 00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:35,160 Speaker 1: and crupting tan self Tanner there too. That was a 557 00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:38,360 Speaker 1: spray tan I got sprayed by somebody. You know what's crazy. 558 00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:40,960 Speaker 1: I was looking at these photos and these like videos 559 00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:43,280 Speaker 1: from this time, and I remember being in this outfit 560 00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:46,800 Speaker 1: and being insecure about my body. My body was insane. Yeah, 561 00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:48,840 Speaker 1: I was like thinking about that. When you posted the throwbacks, 562 00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:51,720 Speaker 1: I was like, that look good. Oh my god, I thought. 563 00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:53,959 Speaker 1: I remember being like, oh, I shouldn't wear this, like 564 00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:57,040 Speaker 1: I don't feel like confident in it. So this is 565 00:29:57,080 --> 00:30:00,720 Speaker 1: my message to you about that. Just no that ten 566 00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:03,600 Speaker 1: five to ten years from now, you're going to be 567 00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:05,880 Speaker 1: looking back at the photos of the times where you 568 00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:09,600 Speaker 1: were feeling insecure about your body or wanting to change things, 569 00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:13,400 Speaker 1: and you're going to be like, why did I ever complain? Yeah? 570 00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:16,280 Speaker 1: And you know what's interesting, I have like a mom 571 00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:18,400 Speaker 1: DM me and said like, thank you so much for 572 00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:21,160 Speaker 1: your outfits at Coachella. It's I love you know. My 573 00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:22,920 Speaker 1: daughters follow you, and I love that they can see 574 00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:25,040 Speaker 1: that you can go to Coachella and not like have 575 00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:27,720 Speaker 1: your ass hanging out. And when I was there, I 576 00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:29,160 Speaker 1: was like looking at all the people with their ass 577 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:30,680 Speaker 1: hanging out, being like, god, I wish I was wearing 578 00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:36,560 Speaker 1: that too, But that was nice that she complimented yourvative 579 00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:40,800 Speaker 1: just because my thongs didn't show up in time. Yeah, 580 00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:45,800 Speaker 1: just because my assles chaps didn't right? Yeah? Wait what 581 00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,680 Speaker 1: was this? Oh I know had the tweet? Yeah, okay, 582 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:52,720 Speaker 1: so this guy he's the star of shaoung Chi. His 583 00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:55,880 Speaker 1: name is Semulu, and he sent out this tweet that 584 00:30:55,920 --> 00:30:59,400 Speaker 1: I found very interesting because he was thinking basically his 585 00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:02,360 Speaker 1: boss at Lloyd because ten years ago he got terminated 586 00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:05,120 Speaker 1: from his job. He was an accountant. And there's this 587 00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:07,440 Speaker 1: one line specifically will you pull it up that he 588 00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:09,920 Speaker 1: says at the very end, saying like, thank you so 589 00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:14,080 Speaker 1: much for you for for um crushing my What is it? 590 00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:17,440 Speaker 1: He said, you destroyed a life that I was building 591 00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:20,320 Speaker 1: for someone else so that I could finally begin to 592 00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:23,320 Speaker 1: build a life for me. I found that to be 593 00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:27,520 Speaker 1: so profoundly poetic because I think that a lot of 594 00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:31,920 Speaker 1: people go through their lives and choose professions or choose 595 00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:35,600 Speaker 1: significant others because that's what their parents have told them 596 00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:38,480 Speaker 1: or geared them or steered them to, or society has 597 00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:41,640 Speaker 1: steered them too, and people aren't doing what they in 598 00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:46,080 Speaker 1: their heart really want. It's I mean, that's a very 599 00:31:46,120 --> 00:31:50,680 Speaker 1: powerful statement because he starts that quote that I said, 600 00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:53,520 Speaker 1: He starts it with you did for me what I 601 00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:57,040 Speaker 1: never had the courage to do myself, which that that 602 00:31:57,120 --> 00:32:00,520 Speaker 1: relates to anything like work and relation ship Like think 603 00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:03,200 Speaker 1: of how many people stay in relationships because they're scared 604 00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:07,320 Speaker 1: to move on to something new or start over, and 605 00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:09,720 Speaker 1: then when someone else does it for them, it's like, 606 00:32:09,960 --> 00:32:12,800 Speaker 1: thank God. Like I even think of Ali My, you know, 607 00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:15,640 Speaker 1: Ali one of my best friends, and she was in 608 00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:17,720 Speaker 1: a long term relationship and she thought they were gonna 609 00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:20,360 Speaker 1: get married and he ended up doing something that kind 610 00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:22,880 Speaker 1: of forced her to come to terms of the relationship 611 00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:25,920 Speaker 1: being over. And she met a guy who literally changed 612 00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:29,400 Speaker 1: everything for her. And it's like that may have never 613 00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:34,040 Speaker 1: happened had it not been, you know, something that forced 614 00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:37,719 Speaker 1: that to happen. So totally, it's really cool. Yeah, if 615 00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:39,760 Speaker 1: you're if you're listening and you are interested in it, 616 00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:43,680 Speaker 1: read the whole tweet because it's very, very good and 617 00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:46,360 Speaker 1: it really makes you think. It's hard to see in 618 00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:48,160 Speaker 1: the moment, but every time I've been fired, it's been 619 00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:52,160 Speaker 1: the best possible thing for my life. Same I got fired, 620 00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:55,880 Speaker 1: I'm not fired. I got let go from this very company. 621 00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:57,400 Speaker 1: When they were doing it was like the Great It 622 00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:00,280 Speaker 1: was like when it was um that year that everything 623 00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:03,480 Speaker 1: was just going Were you about to say the Great Depression? Yeah, 624 00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:05,520 Speaker 1: but it wasn't a great depression. It was, but it 625 00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:08,600 Speaker 1: was when we're going into a recession and um, they 626 00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:12,120 Speaker 1: were laying off all their part time employees, and and 627 00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:13,959 Speaker 1: this is so crazy to think about this, but had 628 00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:17,080 Speaker 1: I not been laid off in Tucson, Arizona, I would 629 00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:20,040 Speaker 1: have stayed in Tucson, Arizona after I graduated because I 630 00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:22,120 Speaker 1: had a job and all my friends couldn't find jobs, 631 00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:24,080 Speaker 1: so I was just going to stay in Tucson. Had 632 00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:26,080 Speaker 1: that not forced me out of Tucson, I would have 633 00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:29,320 Speaker 1: probably still been in Tucson right now. Yeah, how many 634 00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:33,280 Speaker 1: times canna say tu song Maybe maybe very happy and successful. 635 00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:36,360 Speaker 1: You never know, right right, But it's crazy. God had 636 00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:38,280 Speaker 1: bigger plans. He had me in a bigger city, do 637 00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:40,480 Speaker 1: like on a bigger show like I just can't. It's 638 00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:44,239 Speaker 1: very very crazy. And it's like I took it so 639 00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:46,240 Speaker 1: personal at the time, because obviously, when you're that young, 640 00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:48,320 Speaker 1: like and you get let go, you obviously think it 641 00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:51,080 Speaker 1: has to do with you. Clearly it wasn't, because the 642 00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:53,400 Speaker 1: company hired me right back when they could. Speaking of 643 00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:57,880 Speaker 1: taking things personal, I sent like a really nice encouraging message. 644 00:33:58,000 --> 00:33:59,800 Speaker 1: I'm not going to say who it is because they 645 00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:01,880 Speaker 1: don't owe me anything, but I sent a really nice 646 00:34:01,920 --> 00:34:05,120 Speaker 1: encouraging message to someone who I like really respect on 647 00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:08,960 Speaker 1: Instagram and like we've had messages like exchanges and they 648 00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:11,440 Speaker 1: follow me, and I just sent like a really like 649 00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:13,799 Speaker 1: thank you for what you do, like it's really important, 650 00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:16,879 Speaker 1: and and then you know, on Instagram it will say 651 00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:20,719 Speaker 1: like say something about that is like a dagger and 652 00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:23,600 Speaker 1: they didn't even like like it or like respond and 653 00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:25,960 Speaker 1: didn't even heard it. And then I got to thinking, 654 00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:30,000 Speaker 1: I was like, did I say something in the hopes 655 00:34:30,040 --> 00:34:32,280 Speaker 1: that I would get a response? Like was that my motive? 656 00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:34,920 Speaker 1: Because why did it affect me so much that they 657 00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:37,200 Speaker 1: didn't responded that you wanted like, oh my god, that 658 00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:39,680 Speaker 1: message is so nice. So it made me kind of 659 00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:42,600 Speaker 1: question myself of like why did I send that message 660 00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:45,080 Speaker 1: or But then the other the Scorpio side of me, 661 00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:50,480 Speaker 1: is like, all right, I guarantee you. I don't know, 662 00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:53,600 Speaker 1: I am like the worst responder ever, so I don't 663 00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:55,480 Speaker 1: know who you're talking about, but I guarantee you have 664 00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:57,520 Speaker 1: you not have like people in your d m s 665 00:34:57,560 --> 00:34:59,000 Speaker 1: that you just like you read it and then you 666 00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:01,279 Speaker 1: like you're in the middle of something, so then you 667 00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:02,759 Speaker 1: just go about your day and then like you just 668 00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:06,239 Speaker 1: forget of course that's what's happening. And I'm like, who 669 00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:09,279 Speaker 1: is it. I'm not gonna say, because they don't know. 670 00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:12,320 Speaker 1: It's not even that. It's literally not even important, not 671 00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:16,879 Speaker 1: even someone that's like I'm like, it's Jennifer and she's 672 00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:22,240 Speaker 1: never responded or say that's probably her social media person. 673 00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:25,279 Speaker 1: It could have been someone social media person. Anyways, it 674 00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:27,839 Speaker 1: was a good like I reset my thought. But then 675 00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:30,800 Speaker 1: the other part of me that's not as emotionally or 676 00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:38,120 Speaker 1: aware is like, I'll remember that she's revengeful, not other 677 00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:43,640 Speaker 1: side scorpio the tail. Um. Okay, we're gonna take a 678 00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:46,080 Speaker 1: break and then we'll be back with an email, so 679 00:35:46,280 --> 00:36:03,080 Speaker 1: stay tuned for that. All right, we're back, and we 680 00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:06,319 Speaker 1: have an email. Mark take it away, alright, Becca, thank 681 00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:09,360 Speaker 1: you very much. It's anonymous, and it says I'm getting 682 00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:11,400 Speaker 1: married in July and it's time to start sending out 683 00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:14,440 Speaker 1: invites soon. My bride'smaid and good friend of ten years 684 00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:16,799 Speaker 1: just broke up with her boyfriend of tennish months. It 685 00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:20,239 Speaker 1: was a very toxic relationship. When I say toxic, i'm 686 00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:23,719 Speaker 1: an emotional manipulation, putting her down daily, critiquing her every move, 687 00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:26,080 Speaker 1: et cetera. I checked in on my friend a few 688 00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:28,680 Speaker 1: days after the breakup, and she told me she's giving 689 00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:31,200 Speaker 1: it another try. I'm trying my best to support her, 690 00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:32,960 Speaker 1: but at this point it's exhausting and I know I'm 691 00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:35,960 Speaker 1: wasting my breath. My question is, am I obligated to 692 00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:38,800 Speaker 1: invite this guy to my wedding? I do not support 693 00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:41,360 Speaker 1: the relationship at all, and she knows where I stand 694 00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:45,480 Speaker 1: on this. What would you, guys do? I have a 695 00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:47,919 Speaker 1: very strong opinion about that. I did too, and I'm 696 00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:52,319 Speaker 1: probably wrong, but I say you are not obligated to 697 00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:56,000 Speaker 1: invite anyone that you don't want at your wedding. It's 698 00:36:56,080 --> 00:36:58,600 Speaker 1: your special day. If this is someone that you know 699 00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:02,319 Speaker 1: is not good to your friend, and it's someone that 700 00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:06,160 Speaker 1: you would not want in your life outside of your 701 00:37:06,200 --> 00:37:10,000 Speaker 1: friend dating him, I don't think there's any obligation to 702 00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:14,800 Speaker 1: invite him because your friend is choosing, because it sounds 703 00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:16,640 Speaker 1: to me like she's stuck in a cycle she can't 704 00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:18,480 Speaker 1: get out of. But this is the best friend? Am 705 00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:23,520 Speaker 1: I correct? Bridesmaid? Bridesmaid, Okay, you have to you have 706 00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:27,200 Speaker 1: to invite him. Yeah, no, she doesn't. It's not his wedding, 707 00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:30,000 Speaker 1: it's not her best friend's wedding. This is her wedding. 708 00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:31,920 Speaker 1: And this is one of her bridesmaids, so this is 709 00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:34,560 Speaker 1: one of her best friends. You have to let this 710 00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:37,080 Speaker 1: is not your battle to fight. You would give yours, 711 00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:39,120 Speaker 1: I know, but you would give your best friend a 712 00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:40,640 Speaker 1: plus one. I would give you a plus one if 713 00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:44,200 Speaker 1: you were dating like Bob the Builder, you know. Yeah, 714 00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:46,560 Speaker 1: But if I was dating someone who was toxic and 715 00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:50,239 Speaker 1: manipulative and someone that you don't want to special don you. 716 00:37:50,400 --> 00:37:52,120 Speaker 1: That's on you. You're my best friend, and I'm going 717 00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:54,480 Speaker 1: to be here to support you, even though I know 718 00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:56,560 Speaker 1: that that's toxic and it's bad. I'm just here to 719 00:37:56,560 --> 00:37:58,279 Speaker 1: support you and love you, and I want you to 720 00:37:58,320 --> 00:37:59,880 Speaker 1: be happy. So if you want to bring your significant 721 00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:02,240 Speaker 1: or to my wedding, you are one of my best friends. 722 00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:05,279 Speaker 1: I want you to have that that door open for 723 00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:07,279 Speaker 1: you to decide if you want to bring them or not. 724 00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:12,240 Speaker 1: I disagree. I don't. I think I'm siding with Tanya 725 00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:17,919 Speaker 1: on this one. I think you have to invite her 726 00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:20,880 Speaker 1: plus one to her. You don't have to invite him specifically, 727 00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:24,320 Speaker 1: not to put like ted Lasso on the card, but 728 00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:28,000 Speaker 1: you know you can say your best friend beck at 729 00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:31,520 Speaker 1: Tilly and guests, So you have the option to invite 730 00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:35,839 Speaker 1: your person, however horrible they may be, if you want 731 00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:38,719 Speaker 1: to not because you're one of my best friends, if 732 00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:41,400 Speaker 1: it was a good friend, or just much pressure on 733 00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:44,920 Speaker 1: the bride and groom and bride bride bride groom groom 734 00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:48,920 Speaker 1: of who they have to invite based on other people's relationships. 735 00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:52,080 Speaker 1: And I think if this is someone who is toxic, 736 00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:56,160 Speaker 1: we're not talking like she just doesn't like him, Emotional manipulation, 737 00:38:56,280 --> 00:38:59,959 Speaker 1: putting her down daily, critiquing her every move. I don't 738 00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:02,400 Speaker 1: want that energy at my wedding. But then talk to 739 00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:04,440 Speaker 1: your best friend and maybe hopefully get her to the 740 00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:06,480 Speaker 1: point to realize this guy is not for her before 741 00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:12,879 Speaker 1: your wedding. Take your wedding out of the equation. Well 742 00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:16,239 Speaker 1: A graded this through Eastern I'm with you, Beck here, 743 00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:18,840 Speaker 1: I don't want this dude there. Uh you know, we 744 00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:22,839 Speaker 1: invited some people that we weren't crazy about to our 745 00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:25,920 Speaker 1: wedding and there are an old pictures Yeah Mark, Now 746 00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:27,920 Speaker 1: I got all these pictures of Mark and my wedding. 747 00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:29,680 Speaker 1: A look at him every day and it just fills 748 00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:34,640 Speaker 1: me the rage and for real, there there's um, yeah, 749 00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:37,960 Speaker 1: there's some people that uh we you know, we didn't 750 00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:41,600 Speaker 1: want there and they were there, and uh, it wasn't 751 00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:43,960 Speaker 1: great and they caused problems. And I'm not saying this 752 00:39:44,040 --> 00:39:46,160 Speaker 1: dude's gonna cause a scene at the wedding, but maybe 753 00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:49,759 Speaker 1: it does. I don't know. Um, maybe you invoke that 754 00:39:50,280 --> 00:39:53,359 Speaker 1: this couple wasn't married right there, just dating that. Maybe 755 00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:57,919 Speaker 1: you invoke the no ring, no bring rule and only 756 00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:00,440 Speaker 1: for her. No, I'm just gonna he I mean we 757 00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:03,600 Speaker 1: we definitely had a selective no kids kind of policy 758 00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:07,440 Speaker 1: for certain people. Uh yeah, don't. It's your wedding. Do 759 00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:09,360 Speaker 1: you do what you want to have your day be 760 00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:13,759 Speaker 1: the best because you get Could you imagine Colton said 761 00:40:13,800 --> 00:40:17,360 Speaker 1: he was doing that? I know, yeah, I mean I 762 00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:22,000 Speaker 1: think it's I do agree you're not able to control 763 00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:23,800 Speaker 1: who she dates, but it is your wedding and you 764 00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,760 Speaker 1: do get to control who's there. And that's just the facts. 765 00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:30,360 Speaker 1: And I thought, what Taylor Swift song should she listen to? 766 00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:32,640 Speaker 1: That's the real question. Probably look what you made me do? 767 00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:40,520 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I don't like your little games the 768 00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:45,560 Speaker 1: rules me play. I would say out of the woods. 769 00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:50,600 Speaker 1: Please do not prescribe the best top three, best Taylor 770 00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:53,960 Speaker 1: Swift song to this situation. It's definitely not top three 771 00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:57,880 Speaker 1: Taylor song. Yes, let's just started there. Definitely definitely not 772 00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:03,200 Speaker 1: not even top ten in my in It's not your 773 00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:06,680 Speaker 1: nails look really pretty? Thank you so much. Thursday, we're 774 00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:09,000 Speaker 1: gonna try scrubbing in Jeopardy. We're gonna see how it goes. 775 00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:10,880 Speaker 1: May it would be great, maybe it'll be terrible, but 776 00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:13,480 Speaker 1: we're gonna try. What are the questions? Because I'm horrible 777 00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:15,800 Speaker 1: with like history and things. No no, no, no no 778 00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:17,400 Speaker 1: no no no no. I would not do scrubbing in 779 00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:21,239 Speaker 1: Jeopardy and then make the categories sixteenth century literature. I mean, 780 00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:26,880 Speaker 1: this is gonna be scrubbing in categories history. Like maybe 781 00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:33,440 Speaker 1: maybe the geography questions I could get, ah not that 782 00:41:33,520 --> 00:41:36,080 Speaker 1: would not go out for me. That I would probably 783 00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:39,040 Speaker 1: be better than you. But even if I did do geography, 784 00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:42,000 Speaker 1: be like Justin Bieber come from this land in the north, 785 00:41:42,080 --> 00:41:44,160 Speaker 1: you know, I make it pretty. What we're doing and 786 00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:47,880 Speaker 1: scrubby Toronto, Well, you're both wrong. The answer is what 787 00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:53,760 Speaker 1: is Canada? Shoot? All right, So we're gonna go for today. 788 00:41:53,880 --> 00:41:55,919 Speaker 1: We're not going to hang out because Becca has work 789 00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:59,960 Speaker 1: and a workout, which I respect. Thank you so much, 790 00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:03,120 Speaker 1: because you would respect my work and work out. As well. 791 00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:05,640 Speaker 1: I certainly would respect your skill and that's not my 792 00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:08,040 Speaker 1: fault that I don't have those things today. It's not 793 00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:11,440 Speaker 1: and it's not my fault, but that you do. Um. 794 00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:16,840 Speaker 1: What a therapeutic conversation. UM. Okay, we'll be back Thursday 795 00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:19,440 Speaker 1: with Jeopardy and I hope you all have a wonderful 796 00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:24,160 Speaker 1: week and we love you. One thing I would like 797 00:42:24,239 --> 00:42:26,480 Speaker 1: to say is be nice to each other. Because before 798 00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:28,680 Speaker 1: I came here, I was getting gas and this guy 799 00:42:28,920 --> 00:42:30,960 Speaker 1: these people were like fighting over spot and the girl 800 00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:33,040 Speaker 1: got out because they were all like disgruntled with each other, 801 00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:35,319 Speaker 1: and she was like, I'm really sorry. I know we're 802 00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:38,200 Speaker 1: all going through hard times, and I'm sorry that I 803 00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:40,520 Speaker 1: acted like that, and he just kind of like brushed 804 00:42:40,520 --> 00:42:41,759 Speaker 1: her off and was still mad. And I was like, 805 00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:46,160 Speaker 1: what a beautiful, like humble moment this woman had where 806 00:42:46,200 --> 00:42:48,799 Speaker 1: she got mad, like a normal reaction that was able 807 00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:51,520 Speaker 1: to be like, I know we're all going through things 808 00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:54,560 Speaker 1: right now, so I apologize to be nice to each other. 809 00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:58,160 Speaker 1: What an observer. That was a lot to observe. I'm 810 00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:12,960 Speaker 1: always on the look room alright, Bye, Love you byem