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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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Speaker 2: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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Speaker 2: episode is going to be a longer one part of

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Speaker 2: the series where I interview fascinating people about how they

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Speaker 2: take their days from great to awesome and any advice

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Speaker 2: they have for the rest of us. So today I

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Speaker 2: am delighted to welcome Chris Bailey back to Before Breakfast.

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Speaker 2: Chris is a productivity expert and the author of the

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Speaker 2: brand new book Intentional How to Finish What You Start.

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Speaker 2: So Chris, welcome to the show.

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Speaker 3: Laura, how you doing.

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Speaker 1: I'm good. I'm glad to have you back.

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Speaker 2: Why don't you tell our listeners a little bit about

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Speaker 2: yourself For anyone who's a new listener and wasn't here

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Speaker 2: a year and a half ago.

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Speaker 3: Well, I have a beard, live in Canada, and I

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Speaker 3: like productivity like some people have normal interests. But I

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Speaker 3: think people like us, Laura, were just weird in the

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Speaker 3: way that we try to opt demise the different components

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Speaker 3: of our day. And so that's what I'm obsessed by.

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Speaker 3: And so it's that curiosity that drives me into writing

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Speaker 3: books on the topic, giving talks on the topic. So

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Speaker 3: I guess in a nutshell, I'm an author on productivity.

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Speaker 3: I've written three books now this is number four them.

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Speaker 3: I'm so excited to get out into the world.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, what drew you to the topic of finishing?

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Speaker 3: Oh? Yes, well, it's really the fascination that I have

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Speaker 3: with becoming more intentional. And so we all know this, right,

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Speaker 3: The intention is a beautiful idea, But we don't always

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Speaker 3: finish what we start. But there are the times that

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Speaker 3: we do then, and so what separates the times that

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Speaker 3: we do finish what we begin from the times that

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Speaker 3: we don't. And so this idea of it, like when

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Speaker 3: we finish what we start, there was always an intention

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Speaker 3: behind what we're doing. But just because we set an

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Speaker 3: intention to do something thing doesn't mean that we'll actually

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Speaker 3: follow through with that thing. So is this idea of

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Speaker 3: follow through and that idea of intentionality it really like,

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Speaker 3: for the last ten years or so, I've really fundamentally

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Speaker 3: believed that it's intentionality that lives at the core of productivity.

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Speaker 3: But then again, the idea of that is quite beautiful,

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Speaker 3: But when the rubber meets the road on a daily basis,

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Speaker 3: we have to actually be able to follow through with

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Speaker 3: those things, and so it was almost the disconnect between

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Speaker 3: why do we not always follow through with the intentions

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Speaker 3: that we set observing that that really got me curious

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Speaker 3: about the research and what strings we can pull on

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Speaker 3: We have, the procrastination, we have the fact that some

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Speaker 3: things feel meaningless, all that good stuff that's in the book.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I was to say, I mean, it seems

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Speaker 2: like it's probably a mix between sort of these mental factors,

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Speaker 2: like how motivated we are by our various intentions, and

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Speaker 2: then just the sheer practical matters of time management, the

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Speaker 2: sort of things I talk about that people you know,

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Speaker 2: believe they're going to have five hours a day to

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Speaker 2: and so yeah, whatever they're going to do, they're not

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Speaker 2: going to finish it because they haven't allocated the time

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Speaker 2: in their lives to do so. So I'm curious how

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Speaker 2: they what are the factors that lead to somebody finishing

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Speaker 3: Ooh, I like that you touched on motivation off the

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Speaker 3: always felt nebulous to me, And values are another tangential

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Speaker 3: topic to that that's always felt nebulous to me. When

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Speaker 3: I think of defining our values, I think of those

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Speaker 3: cheesy corporate exercises that I've had to do in the

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Speaker 3: let circle a bunch of words on a page that

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Speaker 3: describe who you are. And there's where it's like humor

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Speaker 3: and grace and things like that. But there's not really

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Speaker 3: kind of stuff, but there is. It turns out on

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Speaker 3: human values and values. They're essentially the motivational core of

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Speaker 3: who we are, and it's this whole, essentially gold mine

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Speaker 3: of scientific research on what motivates us on a deep

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Speaker 3: and fundamental level. So from a broad perspective, there's twelve

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Speaker 3: main values. We all share them, but in different amounts.

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Speaker 3: So some of us value self direction, going our own way,

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Speaker 3: with creativity, productivity. I'd imagine a lot of before Breakfast

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Speaker 3: listeners are in that boat. Others values. Others of us

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Speaker 3: value tradition. Some people value power and face and humility

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Speaker 3: other people there's benevolence. There's stimulation, which is you know,

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Speaker 3: to write some boring thing, some handbook project or something

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Speaker 3: benevolence highly, which is helping and serving other people. And

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Speaker 3: so when I reframed it to mentor new employees through

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Speaker 3: the handbook project, for myself, it was the same task.

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Speaker 3: It was just the way that I approached the thing

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Speaker 3: was far far more motivating. So you're exactly right, that

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Speaker 3: there are those multiple levels of motivation and follow through

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Speaker 3: things that we have to get done look like? And

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Speaker 3: then there's the day to day, which is of course

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Speaker 3: fun to chat about too, But I've gone on for

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Speaker 2: You know, how a value might affect how you Behave

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Speaker 1: So maybe you could well talk about that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well this story bother you, by the way, I

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean not in a particular sense of men,

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Speaker 2: you can live your own life, Chris, But yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I mean I've signed up for plenty of races that

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Speaker 3: Oh, so you're you're kind of like me in this regards.

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Speaker 3: So one of the values, and I didn't mention it,

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Speaker 3: for the value for the readers of my website. One

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Speaker 3: an important thing, just as if you value tradition and

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Speaker 3: Because somebody who values achievement, whose highest value is achievement,

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Speaker 3: But honestly, my highest value is self direction, going my

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Speaker 3: it just fascinating. So values there are motivational core, but

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Speaker 3: they create meaning for us, and there's that deep, deep

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, well, we're going to take a quick ad break

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Speaker 2: and I'll be back with more from Chris Bailey. I

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Speaker 2: am back with Chris Bailey, author of the brand new

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Speaker 2: Mentioned earlier that sheer practicality of how much time you

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well this is a great frustration of mine, how

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Speaker 3: to go for a walk. It's kind of like what

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Speaker 3: but you say something along the lines of like, if

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Speaker 3: other people actually differently as well. So that's what I'm

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Speaker 1: Excellent. Where can people find you?

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Speaker 3: Oh? Here in my office and can Chris Bailey dot.

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Speaker 1: Com can't co visit your office?

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Speaker 3: There? Well, if you're in Autawa, come on by. You

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Speaker 3: got to find the place. I guess yeah, Chris Bailey

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Speaker 3: dot com for my newsletter, and the book is called

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Speaker 3: Intentional How to Finish what You Start?

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Speaker 1: Excellent.

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Speaker 2: Well, everyone, Chris, thank you so much for joining us.

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Speaker 2: me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com.

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