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Speaker 1: Agie Martinez in Real Life podcast.

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Speaker 2: This episode and conversation is powered by I Do Say

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Speaker 2: What's up?

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Speaker 1: Good friends?

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Speaker 2: Hi everyone, Welcome to another episode of Aggie Martinez IRL Takeaways.

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Speaker 2: These are the episodes where we discuss the other episodes.

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Speaker 1: We discussed the interviews.

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Speaker 2: That sounded crazy, yeah, but I swear there was purpose

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Speaker 2: to these episodes because what happens is when I'm sitting

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Speaker 2: in these interviews, really it's about the person, and I'm

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Speaker 2: like locked into what they want to deliver. Then they

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Speaker 2: drop their knowledge or they dropped their experience, so they

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Speaker 2: dropped their insight and then we all after are like, yo, I.

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Speaker 1: Was thinking about what they said. I was thinking about

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Speaker 1: what he said or she said.

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Speaker 2: So this is when we have the opportunity to reflect

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Speaker 2: what we took away, our takeaways from the conversation and

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Speaker 2: that we hope maybe you picked up on anyway. So

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Speaker 2: that's what takeaway episodes are about. And this takeaway episode

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Speaker 2: we are discussing Melissa Ford, which while people resonated with

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Speaker 2: her huh yes. We always love when again comes vulnerable

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Speaker 2: and open and ready to share.

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Speaker 1: She came ready to share. Number one.

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Speaker 2: We could start this whole episode here with what her

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Speaker 2: takeaways are, because we asked her literally on set and

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Speaker 2: I don't know how much insight you know about what

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Speaker 2: some of the noise around her, and we thought about

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Speaker 2: bringing it up, but what she offered us was so

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Speaker 2: much more important that at the end of the interview,

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Speaker 2: it was just like, who cares about the daily headline

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Speaker 2: of the day or whatever it is or whatever the

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Speaker 2: thing is. And so then I sat with her after

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Speaker 2: the episode and I was like, well, what did you think?

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Speaker 1: What was your takeaway?

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Speaker 2: And well, I didn't ask God that Brittany actually asked her,

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Speaker 2: and this is what she said.

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Speaker 3: My takeaway so far is that this was one of

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Speaker 3: the most in depth, profound and thoughtful and caring interviews

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Speaker 3: I've ever experienced where somebody actually delved deeper than I

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Speaker 2: That is the nicest thing anybody could say after an interview,

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Speaker 2: as somebody who sits on this side of the table

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Speaker 2: when you interview people, that is how you want people

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Speaker 2: way made me so happy, and it.

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Speaker 4: Made everyone in the room feel good too, Like you know,

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Speaker 4: we got all the crew people on set and where

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Speaker 4: conversation for the first time, and it was just as

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Speaker 4: impactful in the room as it was for.

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Speaker 1: To watch it back.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, no, it was impactful in the moment. We all

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Speaker 2: If you noticed this episode, there was not much for

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Speaker 2: Obviously we're connecting, but there wasn't much. Sometimes I have

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Speaker 2: But then sometimes being in my seat, it's important to

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Speaker 2: this is what I want to talk to Melissa Ford about.

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Speaker 2: But then I sit in the chair and something else happens.

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Speaker 2: It's my job to let it happen because otherwise I'll

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Speaker 2: or something that is important to somebody else, Like Melissa

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Speaker 2: Ford came there with something that was important to her

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Speaker 2: easily gotten in the way. And I'm so grateful that

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Speaker 2: And yeah, she was so vulnerable, and to me, she

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Speaker 2: Exactly how she feels because after I had done some

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Speaker 2: And to me, that's the most beautiful thing about this

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Speaker 2: It's like an offering of experience perspective, but with that

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Speaker 2: And it was when we post a clip of her

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Speaker 1: But I felt her when she said this, and you know.

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Speaker 2: I have had loss in my life, not a mother,

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Speaker 2: to her in the comments, this moment was really impactful.

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Speaker 3: It's a terrible club to be a part of, but

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Speaker 3: Your entire universe has been ripped to shreds. You are

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Speaker 1: it's so great. It's so great. I was like, please,

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Speaker 4: But that's the effect Melissa had, like I couldn't stand

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Speaker 2: also the guilt that she has. Her and her mom

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Speaker 4: She was saying she goes at the beginning, ten people

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Speaker 4: She said that those that the people are always women.

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Speaker 2: That was interesting. There was a lot from our conversation

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Speaker 2: the world is set up, the way social media is

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Speaker 2: I've never heard anybody admit that or say that out loud.

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Speaker 3: I'm very brave these days, and I give myself a

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that was interesting to me. That was heavy, but

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Speaker 4: And I commend her for being honest in that way,

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Speaker 1: It's like, if.

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Speaker 4: You have a story, it's your duty to share it,

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Speaker 2: The heavy burden, especially if you're somebody like Melissa who's

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Speaker 1: She's tired.

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Speaker 2: Poor baby, she just trying to get through today. You

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Speaker 4: I really when you decided, Hey, Bird, I want to

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it was really.

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Speaker 2: It was I remember YouTube. You were like, really, it

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Speaker 2: wasn't negative. You were just like and I was like,

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Speaker 1: Yeah. It wasn't like you were saying in a negatway.

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Speaker 4: I always I'm always trying to figure out, Okay, what's

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Speaker 2: What?

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Speaker 4: And I just, like many of you maybe didn't know

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was more like that, like I

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Speaker 3: Not?

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Speaker 2: Why her something bad about her? But why I don't

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Speaker 2: know anything about her? And it's true. She is on

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Speaker 1: It's cute too.

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Speaker 2: Shout out to all the Joe Button followers because I

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Speaker 2: could see in the comments they all call her big mail.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I could see how many.

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Speaker 1: They kept calling her big mail. I guess from the pod.

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Speaker 2: But she does have a platform where she does share

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Speaker 2: on that. It's like me on the radio. It's a

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Speaker 2: different conversation. It's just a different platform for a different conversation.

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Speaker 2: So I think she hasn't had a platform like this

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Speaker 2: And I really want to be careful because I don't

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Speaker 1: Never.

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Speaker 2: We just didn't know any of the stuff that she

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Speaker 1: She handles it all so gracefully that.

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Speaker 2: Even if you do cross paths with her, or you

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Speaker 1: She's a nice human and she's a great heel. It's

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Speaker 4: She talked more after this. I was like, so, how

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she definitely needs to. I love that for her too,

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Speaker 2: her from her moving forward more. Yeah, so so good.

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Speaker 1: We love anyway. But the moral of the story is.

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Speaker 1: We love you, Melissa Ford. You are a warrior.

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Speaker 2: You shared your story so beautifully that I was grateful,

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Speaker 2: My audience was grateful. And I think you were going

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Speaker 2: to feel the karma of that coming back to you.

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Speaker 2: I think that energy that you put out, I hope

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Speaker 2: hundredfold and people put their arms around you. And also,

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Speaker 2: you know, you might have saved somebody's life, changed somebody's life.

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Speaker 2: I believe that type of conversation that we had does

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Speaker 2: just lift somebody up. So well done to her, and

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Speaker 2: thank you for choosing my platform. You know. If you

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Speaker 2: By the way, if you guys haven't watched the episode,

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Speaker 2: I don't know why, but you can go to the

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Speaker 2: has the Melissa Ford interview versus the takeaway. So thank

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