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Speaker 2: Matt is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by somebody named Bria.
Speaker 2: So in a minute, we're gonna call her and see
Speaker 2: if she tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe
Speaker 2: get him another date first Matt, how long has it
Speaker 2: beens as you her from Bria?
Speaker 3: Hey, yeah, you know it's been It's been about a
Speaker 3: week now.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I gotta be honest. It is the first time I've
Speaker 3: ever been ghost since. I'm not really sure if it's
Speaker 3: a long time or not ever.
Speaker 5: Wow, congratulations, than I appreciate that.
Speaker 4: I try to be selective of the idea.
Speaker 2: A week is a long time if you all with somebody,
Speaker 2: Usually if they like you, you know, maybe a couple
Speaker 2: of days go by where they don't text you, but
Speaker 2: they get back to you. Have you tried reaching out?
Speaker 4: I'm headiting about it, just because.
Speaker 3: I wanted to be like a single you know, thoughtful
Speaker 3: thing like not exactly a grand gesture. I don't want
Speaker 3: to be like a doork about it, but I do
Speaker 3: want to make sure that it is memorable, want to
Speaker 3: make it, you know.
Speaker 4: And that's the thing.
Speaker 3: That's why I'm calling it is because I want you
Speaker 3: guys to help me out with this. I really don't
Speaker 3: know what I'm doing. This is totally new territory for me.
Speaker 1: Okay, So you want to get her attention with something
Speaker 1: more of a hey, how you do in text?
Speaker 4: Exactly?
Speaker 3: I want to be much more of a because she
Speaker 3: is dating with intention and I want to make sure
Speaker 3: that I am someone who's you know, intention is worthwhile.
Speaker 5: That's cute a picture.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, how did you meet Bria Matt How did
Speaker 1: you meet her?
Speaker 5: And how is the date?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: We so we met on Hinge and we were talking,
Speaker 3: you know, back and forth for a little bit and
Speaker 3: making sure that you know, we we really you know.
Speaker 4: Had a feel for one another.
Speaker 3: I saw on Hine her photos where she was hiking,
Speaker 3: and that showed me that she's equally active and she
Speaker 3: appreciates nature, and that's that's all me. I love that
Speaker 3: we went to a rooftop for drinks, you know, right sunset,
Speaker 3: so he's going to have very very beautiful views. And
Speaker 3: indeed we got sure that that was great. Uh and
Speaker 3: it was really romantic. There were plants.
Speaker 4: It was.
Speaker 3: It seemed kind of an intimate setting. And then so
Speaker 3: I'm glad we were there because we started just acting
Speaker 3: like we were on vacation, you know, so we made
Speaker 3: up stories for ourselves. We were looking around us at
Speaker 3: the different couples of different people, making up.
Speaker 4: Stories for them.
Speaker 6: You know.
Speaker 3: It was a lot of fun, it was, and and
Speaker 3: she was a lot of fun. One of the things
Speaker 3: that I really appreciate is just how she beams with everything,
Speaker 3: you know, just big smile, laughing, contagious laughter.
Speaker 4: At that point, we started out, you know, what we
Speaker 4: want and goals and.
Speaker 3: What our passions are, what drives us, and.
Speaker 4: It seemed it really really seemed to fit.
Speaker 3: And this is why I'm concerned about the ghost thing,
Speaker 3: because you know, I hope she's all right. I hope
Speaker 3: that I didn't come across too strong.
Speaker 4: You know. We ended the day with a hug, like
Speaker 4: a nice tight hug.
Speaker 6: It was.
Speaker 3: It seemed promising, and so I want to make sure
Speaker 3: that everything is kind of how I thought it.
Speaker 4: Was in my head. And I don't know, maybe I
Speaker 4: messed up. I hope I didn't.
Speaker 5: Well, it sounds like it went really great for the
Speaker 5: most part. Is there anything that happened that could be why.
Speaker 3: I mean, you know, I'm competitive, I'm maybe overally competitive.
Speaker 4: And I asked her if she.
Speaker 3: Was seeing other people, uh, you know, just because she
Speaker 3: said she was dating with intention, but.
Speaker 4: I don't want to know kind of how that went.
Speaker 4: And yeah, she did say that she was kind of dating.
Speaker 3: It didn't sound like there was anything serious going on.
Speaker 3: But maybe I just came across as too intense with how.
Speaker 5: I asked, how did you ask?
Speaker 2: Did you reached across the table and grab her hand
Speaker 2: and stare Deevid Durryan said, are you seeing anybody else?
Speaker 6: Yes?
Speaker 1: I might like it.
Speaker 4: I can't quite remember.
Speaker 3: So maybe I was in a bit of an altered
Speaker 3: state of mind.
Speaker 4: Maybe the drection was going that evening.
Speaker 3: Okay, so yeah, that might have contributed to it, Honor,
Speaker 3: I don't remember.
Speaker 2: All Right, Well, man, Matt, we'll see if we can
Speaker 2: figure it out for you. We'll play a song, come back,
Speaker 2: and then call her and try to get you another
Speaker 2: date and find out where you're gettinghosted.
Speaker 4: Okay, thank you guys, I appreciate that.
Speaker 2: All right, we'll play a song, come back, get your
Speaker 2: first day, follow up next. If you're just joining us
Speaker 2: for today's first Day follow up. Matt is on the
Speaker 2: phone and he's getting ghosted by Bria. So we're about
Speaker 2: to call her and see if show tell us why
Speaker 2: she's ghosting him and maybe get him another date. But first, Matt,
Speaker 2: why don't you catch us up on your situation?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Bri and I went on a date, and you know,
Speaker 3: beforehand and met on Hinge. I was very tried to
Speaker 3: all of her photos. We met up, it seems like
Speaker 3: it was going really great. We had a lot of
Speaker 3: fun just making up stories about ourselves when it came
Speaker 3: to this fun little gamer we're playing. But I feel
Speaker 3: like I really got to know her. I was very
Speaker 3: very attractive to her, and she was basically like just
Speaker 3: just sunshine, and so I want to know.
Speaker 4: What happened it.
Speaker 2: Okay, And you think that the reason she might not
Speaker 2: be calling you back is because you asked if she
Speaker 2: was dating other people?
Speaker 3: Maybe I honestly don't know, and I'm looking for you
Speaker 3: guys to help me out with this.
Speaker 5: Okay, Well here we go. You ready to call her?
Speaker 4: Please? Let's do what's up him?
Speaker 5: I speak Tobria. Please, This is hey Bria. How are you?
Speaker 2: My name is Jubel and I'm calling from a radio show.
Speaker 2: It's called The Jewbil Show. Hi, Bria, I'm Nina also
Speaker 2: on the show.
Speaker 5: Hi, and I'm Victoria. Oh Hi, there's a lot of
Speaker 5: people here there is How are you.
Speaker 6: I I'm okay. How are you?
Speaker 5: I'm good? Thank you for asking. Have you ever listened
Speaker 5: to the show before?
Speaker 6: I have?
Speaker 2: Well, we're calling because we do a segment on the
Speaker 2: show called the First Date follow Up, where if you
Speaker 2: go out on a date with somebody and then you
Speaker 2: ghost them, they can email us to call you and
Speaker 2: ask why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 6: Uh huh.
Speaker 5: So we got an email about you from somebody.
Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, who are you ghost? Well, I'm guessing is
Speaker 6: this Matt?
Speaker 2: Yes, it is so. Matt emailed us and we talked
Speaker 2: to him a little bit about your date. He really liked.
Speaker 5: You, and he is wondering why you're not calling him back.
Speaker 6: I mean, it feels kind of weird to say, but
Speaker 6: I just think he's too pretty.
Speaker 5: You think he's too pretty?
Speaker 6: I think, yeah, I think I think he's too pretty.
Speaker 6: And I think he knows he's he's a he's a
Speaker 6: handsome lad. And that is a little bit of a
Speaker 6: turn off for me?
Speaker 5: Was it confidence or arrogance?
Speaker 6: Well, so, like it started off, he just kind of
Speaker 6: seemed to talk a lot about himself, and he seemed
Speaker 6: to just always be catching his reflection in a mirror
Speaker 6: or a window, just like seems very taken with it.
Speaker 6: And he also was kind of talking about his Internet
Speaker 6: presence and how many followers he has, and just like
Speaker 6: I repeated that a few times, and I just kind
Speaker 6: of felt like I wasn't really being paid attention. You know,
Speaker 6: it's a first date, so I expected some questions about me,
Speaker 6: and he just kind of seemed to be talking about
Speaker 6: how fit he is and like how he's going to
Speaker 6: start off fitness page. You know, like I know that
Speaker 6: he we talked about hiking and like being outdoors and
Speaker 6: being fit, and like I'm definitely about that, but like
Speaker 6: I'm also a person, and I felt that, yeah, we
Speaker 6: got to talk about things bigger than internet presence.
Speaker 1: It sounds like he was trying to impress you. Oh,
Speaker 1: isn't it Like he showed up with all of his
Speaker 1: toys and was like, look at this is what I have.
Speaker 5: Do you like him?
Speaker 6: I could see that. I could see that, and you know,
Speaker 6: I was trying to ask him about things that he
Speaker 6: was interested in, but I kind of expected him to
Speaker 6: ask me about some stuff. That's you got to make
Speaker 6: a connection on your date, and I feel like you
Speaker 6: actually have to, you know, like ask questions and sort
Speaker 6: of be interested.
Speaker 4: Okay, can I ask your questions? So? Wait? Wait, what
Speaker 4: was that?
Speaker 5: That's Matt. Matt is actually on the other line listening
Speaker 5: and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 6: Yeah, well I thought it was just you guys.
Speaker 5: Matt's here too, Yeah, and I guess he has a question.
Speaker 4: Now.
Speaker 3: I wanted to ask, did you have a fun time
Speaker 3: on our date?
Speaker 5: Otherwise valid, that's a question about you.
Speaker 6: But it was a question about us, So I'm gonna
Speaker 6: say fifty to fifty. We I mean, we did have fun,
Speaker 6: Like it was fun pretending like we were on vacation
Speaker 6: and coming up with all kinds of stories for the
Speaker 6: people around us. But you know, it was a date
Speaker 6: where I was trying to get to know you, and
Speaker 6: I thought you would be trying to get to know me.
Speaker 6: So anytime I felt like I brought up, you know,
Speaker 6: bigger topics, you know, I thought it you just kind
Speaker 6: of always steered it back to you. So I'm looking.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're there are a couple of I hope they
Speaker 3: don't come across as just excuses here. First off, I
Speaker 3: kind of had maybe a couple shots before the date
Speaker 3: to call my nerves because I was definitely really getting.
Speaker 4: Looking forward to to getting to know you.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, of course he did.
Speaker 3: And I feel like I honestly, I do genuinely, I
Speaker 3: feel like I I you know, I feel like I
Speaker 3: did actually get to know you. You know, like you're
Speaker 3: You're a great listener, and I mean the work you
Speaker 3: do the animals is brilliant.
Speaker 6: What I don't work with animals, I'm really sure what
Speaker 6: that is.
Speaker 3: I might have had way too much. I had two
Speaker 3: shots that might have quadruplets. I genuinely though, I, I mean,
Speaker 3: I really appreciated her energy, and I think that she
Speaker 3: was She's just sunshine. She's just sunshine and human form,
Speaker 3: and I understand that. I, yeah, totally totally overly concerned
Speaker 3: about my looks and everything, and that shouldn't be something
Speaker 3: that I'm worrying about.
Speaker 4: On first date.
Speaker 3: With my business, I kind of have to be on
Speaker 3: all times and I should have unblinded. That was one
Speaker 3: of the reasons I had those shots as well, but
Speaker 3: humbly I would love a second date.
Speaker 6: Can you could you just tell me what color my
Speaker 6: eyes are?
Speaker 4: You have beautiful green eyes, Well they're blue.
Speaker 5: Would you like to go on a first date with
Speaker 5: another shot?
Speaker 6: I know? Were we were? We? What this? Did this happen?
Speaker 3: Sounds like we need another first date for sure. I
Speaker 3: need to remember it this time.
Speaker 6: Well, if you can promise that, you know, maybe we
Speaker 6: do an afternoon thing, maybe we have some coffee and
Speaker 6: we if we talk about some things a little bit
Speaker 6: bigger than internet presence, I think maybe I can.
Speaker 4: I can agree to that.
Speaker 3: Though you said a drive a hard bargain, but those
Speaker 3: are agreeable terms.
Speaker 4: You're gonna go, Bria.
Speaker 3: I am so sorry that. Clearly I was in a
Speaker 3: different place.
Speaker 4: In my mind that I was not listening to.
Speaker 3: A single where you said, and I really appreciate. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you know what this this next one, I'm going to
Speaker 3: listen to everything.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna let you do the talking. Let's let's go
Speaker 4: with that.
Speaker 5: Well, I do.
Speaker 6: I do like a person who can own their mistakes.
Speaker 6: And you know we're not always going to be perfect
Speaker 6: every time.
Speaker 2: So yeah, cool, Well, congratulations, Matt, You've got a date
Speaker 2: with Bria.
Speaker 4: Impressed with the real eyes Juble's first date.
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