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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, my brother once forgiveness, but I'm not sure

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Speaker 2: if I'm ready to forgive, then he ain't getting any

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Speaker 2: My forty female childhood was rough. I am the youngest

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Speaker 2: of three. I have two older brothers, George forty five

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Speaker 2: mail and Mike forty three mail. By the way, this

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Speaker 2: And I'm Angie, I'm Sophia, and we're here to give

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Speaker 2: good advice Googly, but we don't have all the answers.

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Speaker 2: We just know we would do in this situation. So

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Speaker 2: let us know what you would do in the comments.

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Speaker 2: And ohp says Mike and I are close, but George

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Speaker 2: and I had a very strange relationship. George is the

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Speaker 2: golden child. He could never do anything wrong. Oh George.

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Speaker 2: Mike suffered a bit because of it, but it wasn't

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Speaker 2: like how it was for me. I know people will

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Speaker 2: say that he probably should have protected me, but I

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Speaker 2: understand I'm not doing so he needed to protect himself

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Speaker 2: as well. I did not blame him at all for this.

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Speaker 2: I would have probably done the same. George would essentially

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Speaker 2: terrorize me all day long, making my life hellish just

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Speaker 2: because I was born. I was a very sick child,

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Speaker 2: so the attention wasn't always on him, which he hated.

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Speaker 2: Our mother didn't want me. She made that very clear.

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Speaker 2: She only had me to try to keep my dad,

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Speaker 2: as she knew he had desperately wanted a daughter. I

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Speaker 2: moved out on my eighteenth birthday. First of all, crazy,

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Speaker 2: that's just so early to move back. So yeah, oh

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Speaker 2: my gosh, but all of that is that just sucks.

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Speaker 2: I actually sneaked out in the middle of the night

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Speaker 2: boyfriend now forty one male as we got married the

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Speaker 2: day after I turned eighteen.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, y'all still married.

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Speaker 2: We are still married to this day.

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Speaker 1: Wow, thirty four, I'm pretty sure she's another four. Well, oh,

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Speaker 1: maybe she's thirty. Wait, no, I think about forty Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 2: Wow. Props to you guys. Good job. That's wow. Though

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Speaker 2: I do not recommend getting married so young. It was difficult.

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Speaker 2: My mother didn't realize I was gone for four days

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Speaker 2: brought home, as I would often leave the house and

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Speaker 2: of days before mine would call the police and have

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Speaker 2: me brought home. I'm sorry, Uh, what, you're eighteen? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: What's you gonna do?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? He can't do anything.

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Speaker 1: Now, you do anything. As long as she knows that

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. And also crazy that even if you did

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Speaker 2: to call you first? Yeah, just go straight to the police. Police,

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Speaker 2: Come on. I wish I had been there to see

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Speaker 2: My dad was a very weak man. Well, I know

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Speaker 2: he did love me and did care for me. He

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Speaker 2: The only contact I had with my family was with Mike.

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Speaker 2: Over the years, I have opened up contact with my dad,

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Speaker 2: he was very much kept at arm's length. I only

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Speaker 2: forgiveness to help in his recovery to become a better

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Speaker 2: He did also say that the first time I walked

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Speaker 2: I always was. Okay, so so all of that is

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Speaker 1: I mean if he literally said that to your husband,

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Speaker 1: then he's the same guy and we need to stay

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Speaker 1: far away from him.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was to Mike, but still it's like if

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Speaker 2: Mike was the husband, who's Mike, Mike is the other brother.

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Speaker 2: And that was just after one time. Like even the

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Speaker 2: It's like already with that. I'm like, okay, there's absolutely

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Speaker 2: no change of heart.

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Speaker 1: No, you already have one good brother. We don't need

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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. It's been almost twenty three years since I

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Speaker 2: is it best to just keep to no contact? And

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Speaker 2: there are some comments and a bit more to the story,

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Speaker 2: But what would you say.

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Speaker 1: I mean, before we learn about the oh, this is

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Speaker 1: have suggested sending an email saying, hey, I'm not ready

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Speaker 2: Sure, thanks for reaching out.

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Speaker 2: he would understand how cluelessly selfish he is to ask

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Speaker 2: you to make him feel better about himself. He has

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Speaker 2: not changed. Don't respond to discard any communication that comes

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Speaker 2: is an update, Yeah, Yeah, I think that's very well said.

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Speaker 2: He really did kind of just say like, oh, I'm sorry,

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Speaker 2: like this has been what's happening. This has been what's happening.

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Speaker 2: And while like an explanation doesn't always hurt, it's like

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Speaker 2: there's definitely more explaining than there was, like apologizing, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I mean, which makes it seem like an excuse.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it feels like he wants Ope to comment and

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Speaker 1: fix him for his family. Mm hmmm, because he doesn't

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Speaker 2: Now everything's fine. When it's like, well, I mean, he

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Speaker 1: And I have no idea where he got it. What

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Speaker 2: He already have two of his own legs. It's just

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Speaker 1: I am reasonably certain that it's something I would rather

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Speaker 1: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 1: Oh. He's like, fine, if you come, I'm going to

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Speaker 2: And he's like, I leave it as I find it.

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Speaker 2: I won't have a good time there. But he still

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Speaker 1: They still treat him like a little boy instead of

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Speaker 1: I would have the key. He won't do it. This

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Speaker 1: It's not even like like fashionable or just I don't know,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's accurate.

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Speaker 1: It's kind of how how I was absolutely gonna be honest.

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Speaker 1: why do you have it, what do you do with it?

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Speaker 2: Honestly, I think I would do the same. Yeah, I'd

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Speaker 2: be like, why, like unless I'm unless I have an

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Speaker 1: What's going on? Where'd you get the leg bud? Where'd

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Speaker 2: Are you? Like? Are you like Forest Gump? And like

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Speaker 2: don't think it's a prosthetic one is, Lieutenant.

441
00:19:29,359 --> 00:19:33,160
Speaker 1: I don't know a polymus d L says an emotional

442
00:19:33,160 --> 00:19:37,440
Speaker 1: support prosthetic leg. That's a new one. Fantastic warning, says

443
00:19:37,440 --> 00:19:39,880
Speaker 1: her brother won it in a raffle and it came

444
00:19:39,920 --> 00:19:42,680
Speaker 1: all the way from France in a creat mucked, fragile.

445
00:19:42,840 --> 00:19:44,840
Speaker 1: The leg is actually a lamp, but it wears a

446
00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:49,320
Speaker 1: blackfishnet stocking, a black high heeled shoe, and a fringed lampshade.

447
00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:52,920
Speaker 1: Dennerists says, I'm a prostetas and I have to ask

448
00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:56,399
Speaker 1: what does this leg even look like? Blooney above me?

449
00:19:56,760 --> 00:19:59,400
Speaker 1: Does it just have the pylon bear or is there

450
00:19:59,400 --> 00:20:01,880
Speaker 1: a foam so that it sort of looks like a leg?

451
00:20:02,119 --> 00:20:04,000
Speaker 1: Is there a footshell on it or is the foot

452
00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:06,880
Speaker 1: component just sort of hanging out. The reason I'm asking

453
00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:12,840
Speaker 1: is because a prosthetic anything is mind bogglingly expensive, and

454
00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:15,399
Speaker 1: b you can't just have a prosthetic leg if you

455
00:20:15,440 --> 00:20:18,800
Speaker 1: have two perfectly healthy legs, you literally need a stump

456
00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:21,960
Speaker 1: to make one that's specifically yours. Did your brother receive

457
00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:24,679
Speaker 1: it from someone? Did he steal it? And just to

458
00:20:24,720 --> 00:20:28,360
Speaker 1: be sure it's an actual prestisis and not a leg

459
00:20:28,400 --> 00:20:31,280
Speaker 1: brace of some kind. Opie says, it looks like a

460
00:20:31,280 --> 00:20:34,400
Speaker 1: carbon fiber cup with a steel knee and lower leg

461
00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:36,080
Speaker 1: and foot. Oh that's a nice fun.

462
00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:38,440
Speaker 2: So that's one of the ones that would need to

463
00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:40,159
Speaker 2: be see yeah to you.

464
00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:45,000
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Genera says AKA pristisis are not cheap. That's

465
00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:48,560
Speaker 1: an entire car right there. I would actually grill your

466
00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:50,679
Speaker 1: bro on where he got it, because it is one

467
00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:53,840
Speaker 1: hundred percent not his. If he stole it, he's looking

468
00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:57,080
Speaker 1: at felony grand theft charges if he bought it. Check

469
00:20:57,160 --> 00:21:00,320
Speaker 1: his and your parents' financials, because again, these things are

470
00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:03,600
Speaker 1: insanely expensive, and he doesn't sound like the brightest bulb.

471
00:21:03,960 --> 00:21:06,720
Speaker 1: Make sure he does not try to sell the procisses

472
00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:09,359
Speaker 1: or any of its components. I get that they can

473
00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:11,120
Speaker 1: be hard to get for the people who need them

474
00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:14,440
Speaker 1: the most, but if the components are damaged in any way,

475
00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:17,960
Speaker 1: they can lead to gnarly injuries when they inevitably fail.

476
00:21:18,280 --> 00:21:20,200
Speaker 1: If you truly want to get rid of it, there

477
00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:23,560
Speaker 1: are organizations out there that will take old procises and

478
00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:27,000
Speaker 1: refurbish them. Gin and Tonic with dogs is out of interest.

479
00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:30,040
Speaker 1: What happens to prosthetics when their owner passes away, do

480
00:21:30,080 --> 00:21:32,760
Speaker 1: they get refitted to someone else, not the ale for

481
00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:36,080
Speaker 1: not wanting it in your house, though Denura says unfortunately,

482
00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:39,439
Speaker 1: the vast majority get tossed. The socket is specific to

483
00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:41,680
Speaker 1: the owner, and you can't really adjust them to someone

484
00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:44,239
Speaker 1: else's limb due to the material and the fact that

485
00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:47,399
Speaker 1: everyone's stump is different. Components such as the knee and

486
00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:50,399
Speaker 1: foot are technically reusable, but a lot of the time

487
00:21:50,480 --> 00:21:52,800
Speaker 1: they've been used enough you can't pass them on with

488
00:21:52,960 --> 00:21:56,760
Speaker 1: good conscious. The only times I've ever seen components reused

489
00:21:56,800 --> 00:21:59,320
Speaker 1: is if the patient tried them on during test fittings

490
00:21:59,320 --> 00:22:02,280
Speaker 1: and didn't like it basically an hour of use, or

491
00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:04,880
Speaker 1: if they passed away before they even got to put

492
00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:07,119
Speaker 1: them on. And there is an update, But do you

493
00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:10,159
Speaker 1: have any thoughts on what Opie should how ope he

494
00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:12,800
Speaker 1: should handle this situation? I mean, I, first of all,

495
00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:16,239
Speaker 1: love how much the comments know about you need to

496
00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:18,600
Speaker 1: look into that because of this, this and this reason,

497
00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:21,240
Speaker 1: because I had so many questions and that you know,

498
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:23,320
Speaker 1: I don't have any really answers, but.

499
00:22:23,320 --> 00:22:26,760
Speaker 2: A lot more like likely reasons of what could happen.

500
00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:30,400
Speaker 1: Yes, it seems like we've got some good theories going

501
00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:32,399
Speaker 1: on right here of where he got it?

502
00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:35,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, but which is what I'm most curious about. Yeah,

503
00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:38,119
Speaker 2: where did he get Why is he so attached to it?

504
00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:40,080
Speaker 2: If he did steal it? Is he just scared of

505
00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:42,000
Speaker 2: being caught and that's why he has to keep it

506
00:22:42,040 --> 00:22:43,040
Speaker 2: on his person all the time.

507
00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:45,199
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's like, I can't, I can't be seen with it.

508
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:50,000
Speaker 1: I must keep it inside. Yeah, keep it safe. I don't.

509
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:52,879
Speaker 2: And then honestly like, yeah, if he is, if it

510
00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:56,119
Speaker 2: is a mental health thing, that's not something that should

511
00:22:56,119 --> 00:22:59,760
Speaker 2: be like ignored and dismissed. Yeah, I feel like it's

512
00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:02,960
Speaker 2: those comments were thinking that bad. Yeah, some comments were

513
00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:05,160
Speaker 2: saying something about like it might be a mental health thing.

514
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:07,520
Speaker 2: I guess, but like if it is, that's something that

515
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:09,880
Speaker 2: needs to be fixed, because what that's crazy?

516
00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:15,560
Speaker 1: Agreed update eleven days later. I didn't realize how much

517
00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:18,680
Speaker 1: attention this was going to get, enough that someone informed

518
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:21,200
Speaker 1: the woman my brother stole it from.

519
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:22,560
Speaker 2: Oh he did.

520
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:25,399
Speaker 1: Seal it, and she was able to figure out what happened.

521
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:27,719
Speaker 1: She called the cops and he got arrested.

522
00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:29,800
Speaker 2: How did the comments figure this out?

523
00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:33,119
Speaker 1: That's crazy if they do that. I guess he was

524
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:35,080
Speaker 1: sort of trying to do the thing where he could

525
00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 1: be the hero the track downer leg. Please don't ask

526
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:40,200
Speaker 1: me what the f was going through his head. The

527
00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:44,240
Speaker 1: leg was expensive enough that he is facing real criminal charges.

528
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:45,240
Speaker 2: That's all.

529
00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:49,639
Speaker 1: Sorry, there's not more to tell. WHOA my god. The

530
00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:53,120
Speaker 1: comments were a spot why, but also like, how would

531
00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 1: they have even done that? How would they have even

532
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:57,679
Speaker 1: found oh P's brother? Yeah, I read it.

533
00:23:57,800 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 2: I'm really thinking that some sort of like a mastermind

534
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:06,440
Speaker 2: hacking is going on. Yeah, I'm thinking that they probably

535
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:08,679
Speaker 2: were like trying to log into her account. Maybe it

536
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:11,000
Speaker 2: shows the phone number, maybe they looked up the phone,

537
00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:15,040
Speaker 2: maybe they found other accounts, maybe they found like other

538
00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:17,640
Speaker 2: posts by this. I'm sure there's a way to do it,

539
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,840
Speaker 2: but just someone had to really care and really get

540
00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:23,040
Speaker 2: hyper focused on this. They need to figure that out.

541
00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 1: Truly, comments gold Magic Harp says. I remember reading this

542
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:29,320
Speaker 1: originally and wondering why the heck he needed to take

543
00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:32,000
Speaker 1: that leg around everywhere with him. I feel like he

544
00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:34,159
Speaker 1: would have returned it way sooner if he wanted to

545
00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 1: play the hero. That's what I'm wondering, Because if you

546
00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:39,399
Speaker 1: wanted to give it back to her and be like

547
00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:42,480
Speaker 1: I've found your leg? Then why was he bringing it everywhere?

548
00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 2: I was also wondering, like, what what gender leg it is? Like,

549
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:50,760
Speaker 2: I know, it's just a leg, it's a woman's. Well yeah,

550
00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:53,240
Speaker 2: so now we know. But I was wondering that before

551
00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 2: because it was like if it was a woman's and

552
00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:57,120
Speaker 2: if he's like attracted to women, and then like that's

553
00:24:57,119 --> 00:25:00,760
Speaker 2: suspicious because people keep you know, dirty old sock for

554
00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 2: you know, gross reasons. So maybe that was a gross thing. Yeah,

555
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:08,560
Speaker 2: I think it's I don't know.

556
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 1: I just don't understand, Like it seems like he stole it,

557
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 1: had this weird thought process of oh, I can give

558
00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 1: it back to her and be the hero, then became

559
00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:22,360
Speaker 1: emotionally attached to it and never got around to it, right.

560
00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:23,240
Speaker 2: I don't know.

561
00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:26,359
Speaker 1: Po Dentiel speech says that's wild. I wonder why he

562
00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:28,640
Speaker 1: wanted to bring it with him though. Is he obsessed

563
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:30,399
Speaker 1: with the woman and has to carry the leg with

564
00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:33,120
Speaker 1: him at all time? I mean, stealing it is one thing,

565
00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:35,439
Speaker 1: but why carried it around all the time. If he

566
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:37,200
Speaker 1: tried to be a hero, he could.

567
00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 2: Have hitten it.

568
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 1: Sounds more like a weird obsession. I don't think he

569
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:42,639
Speaker 1: wanted to give it back to be the hero. I

570
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:45,160
Speaker 1: have so many questions, but I'm glad the woman got

571
00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:47,399
Speaker 1: her leg back. This is something I never thought I

572
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:50,760
Speaker 1: would ever say. And there is an update two years later.

573
00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:53,280
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I'm so excited that there's more of

574
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 2: the story.

575
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:56,240
Speaker 1: Do you think that he's in jail. I mean he

576
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:57,399
Speaker 1: kind of got a work around.

577
00:25:57,480 --> 00:26:01,119
Speaker 2: I think maybe he went to jail, but he's out. Yeah,

578
00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:05,440
Speaker 2: and it's been two years, you know, I would freaking hope. Yeah,

579
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:07,359
Speaker 2: I hope that we hear at least more of the

580
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 2: story about his relation to that woman, how he knows her.

581
00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:12,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, how did he get this leg?

582
00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:13,320
Speaker 2: How did this happen?

583
00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 1: Did he like steal it in the in the the

584
00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:17,000
Speaker 1: middle of the night.

585
00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:18,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.

586
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:23,280
Speaker 1: Update two years later, so it's finally over. My brother

587
00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:26,200
Speaker 1: had to go to court after being charged with several crimes,

588
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:29,920
Speaker 1: the most serious being felony theft. I will just put

589
00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 1: the bullet points of the results. Found guilty because he

590
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 1: was too stupid to take a plea deal. I had

591
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 1: to serve some time incarcerated and now has parole. Managed

592
00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 1: to avoid being charged with a spicy crime. My parents

593
00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 1: paid to have the leg reconditioned or whatever it's called.

594
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:49,840
Speaker 1: A professional prosthetic device's machine got it back in working order.

595
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:52,000
Speaker 1: The woman got her leg back, as well as some

596
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 1: money in restitution. He is not welcome at my home

597
00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:59,199
Speaker 1: with or without any prosthetics or the foreseeable future. The

598
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:02,119
Speaker 1: woman has straining order against him indefinitely.

599
00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would hope.

600
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:06,639
Speaker 1: So I'm not letting this guy who stole my leg

601
00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:09,639
Speaker 1: right just kind of be anywhere near me.

602
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:12,440
Speaker 2: It's my whole leg. I need that.

603
00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:16,000
Speaker 1: That's all there is to tell. Hope this answers everyone's questions.

604
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:19,280
Speaker 1: Thanks for still caring about this weird experience in my life.

605
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:21,680
Speaker 1: But there is a little bit left to this story.

606
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:22,879
Speaker 1: Any final thoughts.

607
00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:27,159
Speaker 2: I just want to hear what happens next. Yeah, that

608
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 2: is just so bizarre. Yeah, all of this was really strange. Yeah,

609
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:33,600
Speaker 2: and I.

610
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 1: Think Goop, he's kind of out of the weeds.

611
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:38,120
Speaker 2: But uh, yeah, I hope it sounds like it.

612
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:40,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, it would be hard to have any contact with

613
00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:44,240
Speaker 1: your brother after this, for sure, little miss savoir faire.

614
00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 1: Congratulations on having the best judgment of anyone in your family.

615
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:50,720
Speaker 1: I guess, considering he refused to plead, I assume he's

616
00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:54,119
Speaker 1: learned nothing from all of this, beautiful sweet says, hold on,

617
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:56,640
Speaker 1: you can't leave us all hanging. How did your brother

618
00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:59,240
Speaker 1: get this woman's leg? How did he know her? Was

619
00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:03,360
Speaker 1: he dating a friend, a metter on a bus? Stole it?

620
00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:06,440
Speaker 1: How long has he had it? You said he wanted

621
00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:08,439
Speaker 1: to be the hero by returning it, So why the

622
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:11,280
Speaker 1: heck was he still holding on to it? And exactly

623
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 1: how long did he have it? And that is the

624
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 1: end of that story. Opie does not answer those questions.

625
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 1: Even us all hanging, Yeah, I mean don't know how

626
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:22,320
Speaker 1: he stole it, or why he stole it, or y

627
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:23,160
Speaker 1: this woman.

628
00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:26,000
Speaker 2: Is She probably doesn't know, yeah, or is too scared

629
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 2: to ask. But yeah, that's yikes.

630
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 1: But that's the end of that story, and we're gonna

631
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:32,359
Speaker 1: get into the next one.

632
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:37,760
Speaker 2: We will. Wow. My sister accused me of making fun

633
00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 2: of her baby.

634
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 1: Well maybe your baby's dumb. Ever thought about that?

635
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:44,440
Speaker 2: I had thirty two females. I am the eldest of

636
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 2: three sisters. We all have different fathers and our mixed

637
00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:50,840
Speaker 2: Afro Latina Me and my youngest sister, Jade twenty three,

638
00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:54,840
Speaker 2: female look alike, tan skin, curly hair, full lips, my

639
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 2: middle sister Ruby twenty five, female, looks white and honestly

640
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 2: identifies more with white culture. Ruby is currently in her

641
00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 2: third trimester with her first child, WHOA. By the way,

642
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:08,280
Speaker 2: this comes from Mojo Zozo ninety three. And if you

643
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 2: want to submit your own stories, go to the hours

644
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:13,360
Speaker 2: slash Okay storytime and separate it. And I'm Angie, I'm Sophia,

645
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 2: and we're here to give you good advice. Goofully. But

646
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 2: we don't have all the answers. We just know what

647
00:29:17,320 --> 00:29:19,200
Speaker 2: we would do in this situation, So let us know

648
00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 2: what you would do in the comments. So Op says.

649
00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 2: When we were kids, I wasn't the nicest oldest sister.

650
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:27,600
Speaker 2: I dealt with a lot of emotional issues and Ruby

651
00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 2: was spoiled and stubborn, so we definitely clashed as adults.

652
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 2: Though things improved, Ruby has been supportive and loving, and

653
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:36,960
Speaker 2: I've genuinely appreciated her efforts, though I still struggle with

654
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,920
Speaker 2: my emotions. Last month, Ruby came into town she lives

655
00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:42,000
Speaker 2: three hours away, to spend the weekend with her book

656
00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 2: club friends. I had no idea that she was visiting.

657
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 2: My mom and Jade knew for a few days, but

658
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:49,440
Speaker 2: I gotten nothing not a text, not a heads up.

659
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:51,600
Speaker 2: I only found out because I happened to be with

660
00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 2: my mom when she casually mentioned Ruby was driving up

661
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 2: that day and suggested that we try to see each other.

662
00:29:56,960 --> 00:29:58,960
Speaker 2: I have a two year old daughter, so of course

663
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:01,680
Speaker 2: I wanted Ruby to see her niece. I wasn't expecting

664
00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 2: a whole family reunion or for Ruby to bend over backwards.

665
00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 2: I'm a mom too, I get it. That day I

666
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:10,360
Speaker 2: only spoke to Ruby briefly because she couldn't reach my mom,

667
00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:13,280
Speaker 2: who was in a store while I waited in the car.

668
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 2: She didn't say, hey, I'm in town, or let's link up.

669
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:19,360
Speaker 2: It was literally just where's mom. The next morning, I

670
00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 2: texted asking if we could see her while she was here.

671
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:25,120
Speaker 2: She immediately replied with, sorry, I can't make it. Not

672
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:27,560
Speaker 2: gonna have time to see y'all. Want to be on

673
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 2: the road by three pm. It was eleven thirty am.

674
00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 1: Yikes, okay, stop by have a sick. I have to

675
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 1: be on the road at three pm.

676
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:40,640
Speaker 2: I have three and a half hours.

677
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 1: I have to be ready at a moment's notice to

678
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:44,360
Speaker 1: be on the road at three pm.

679
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 2: And I I will rape right here.

680
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 1: I'm not moving imagine from this spot, I'm gonna be

681
00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 1: in my car ignition on until three Yeah, yep.

682
00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 2: And I'm gonna have to replace my battery until then.

683
00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 1: But that's fine because I'll be ready and then it

684
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:01,720
Speaker 1: comes to PM.

685
00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 2: She's like, yeah, yeah, exactly.

686
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:09,040
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, all right, maybe I shouldn't have left

687
00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:11,960
Speaker 1: the ignition on. Yeah he is John og host were

688
00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:13,480
Speaker 1: gonna get back to the stories, but a quick free

689
00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:15,280
Speaker 1: minute break of ads from our sponsors.

690
00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:18,360
Speaker 2: I felt hurt, not because she didn't have time, but

691
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:20,800
Speaker 2: because she didn't even tell me that she was here.

692
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 2: It felt like intentional avoidance. So I jokingly replied, wow,

693
00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:26,600
Speaker 2: so you drove all the way down here for the

694
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 2: white people who been on us, I feel segregated. People

695
00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 2: who know me know that I joke like this. One

696
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 2: of my best friends is white, and she laughed when

697
00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 2: I read it to her. Ruby did not. Ruby sent

698
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 2: a three paragraph text saying I was disrespecting her friends,

699
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:46,160
Speaker 2: that I am not a priority to drive thirty minutes for,

700
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:49,240
Speaker 2: and that I was mad I didn't get my way.

701
00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:53,880
Speaker 2: What's going on, girl? Okay, Wow, I get it.

702
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:55,959
Speaker 1: I'm your sister and I'm not a priority.

703
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:59,960
Speaker 2: Apparently not there must be something else going on here

704
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 2: ought to be. She also said, if I really wanted

705
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 2: to see her, I should have come last month when

706
00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:07,600
Speaker 2: she was helping Jade move, even though she knew I

707
00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:10,000
Speaker 2: was having a painful flare up from a chronic skin

708
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:13,560
Speaker 2: condition and physically couldn't sit long enough to ride there.

709
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:17,240
Speaker 2: For context, I don't drive for medical reasons and liability concerns.

710
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 2: My husband drives. We could have easily arranged to meet

711
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:24,480
Speaker 2: somewhere neutral. Ruby assumed I'd inconvenience her, but never actually asked.

712
00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 2: I told her it feels like ever since she got

713
00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:30,040
Speaker 2: with her husband, Jim fifty five mail, she's been different

714
00:32:30,080 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 2: towards me. I pointed out how her friends are traded

715
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 2: more like sisters than I am, boat trips, brunches, outings

716
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 2: I was never invited to, and that she once said

717
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:40,920
Speaker 2: that she feels more comfortable with white people than black people.

718
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 1: WHOA, that's that's tough.

719
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 2: WHOA, that's that's tough. That is tough. Yeah, it's just

720
00:32:47,840 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 2: your own sisters. Yeah.

721
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:52,760
Speaker 1: I can't speak on her experience with race, but just

722
00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 1: I think for ope to hear that she's not comfortable,

723
00:32:56,520 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 1: it seemingly your own family because it is not.

724
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:01,000
Speaker 2: A white space.

725
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 1: Is that would be pretty sad to hear?

726
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:08,600
Speaker 2: Yes, especially I never realized that included me until now.

727
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:12,040
Speaker 2: Ruby didn't like that either. She sent an even longer

728
00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 2: message saying that she's not obligated to go out of

729
00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:16,840
Speaker 2: her way for me, and if I didn't like her

730
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 2: white friends, white husband, and white baby, I shouldn't come

731
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:21,480
Speaker 2: to Thanksgiving.

732
00:33:21,680 --> 00:33:22,480
Speaker 1: So I didn't.

733
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 2: We haven't spoken since she said she'd reach out when

734
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:29,720
Speaker 2: she's ready and hasn't. Wow. Fast forward to Thanksgiving. My

735
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:33,560
Speaker 2: message Jim to clarify for rumors spread. I explained that

736
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:35,960
Speaker 2: the issue between Ruby and me is not about race,

737
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 2: and that I was hurt because I wasn't told she

738
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:41,320
Speaker 2: was in town and that assumptions were made about me

739
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:44,480
Speaker 2: expecting something I never asked for. Jim sent a long

740
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 2: response saying my feelings were a me problem and that

741
00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 2: him being white shouldn't matter, that he's tried to bring

742
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:54,400
Speaker 2: the family together. Literally not at all what OPI said. Yeah.

743
00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:57,360
Speaker 2: Opie was literally saying, Yo, this isn't a problem, and

744
00:33:57,400 --> 00:33:59,719
Speaker 2: he's like it shouldn't be a problem. He's like, what's that.

745
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:01,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, He's like hey, yeah, Like there was kind of

746
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 1: a miscommunication, still what it meant? And he's like, well,

747
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:07,160
Speaker 1: that's a you problem, and she said, okay.

748
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, mebing why it has nothing done it?

749
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 1: She said, I never said that made a joke.

750
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:18,360
Speaker 2: Said exactly, that made a joke. Geez. Then he dropped

751
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:20,880
Speaker 2: the big news. The thing that hurt him the most

752
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:26,400
Speaker 2: was me making fun of their unborn daughter's name. What where?

753
00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:27,280
Speaker 1: What?

754
00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 2: Well is your baby's name?

755
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:28,720
Speaker 1: Stupid?

756
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 2: Did we even know that that Ruby was pregnant? Yeah?

757
00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:34,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah we did, we did, we did.

758
00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:38,680
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, either way, huh when did you? When

759
00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:41,720
Speaker 2: did she? When did she do that? Yeah? No, because

760
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:42,319
Speaker 2: we knew that.

761
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:45,600
Speaker 1: I think I think she's given birth now.

762
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 2: That's what I thought. But it said since it said

763
00:34:47,840 --> 00:34:51,319
Speaker 2: unborn name, I was wondering maybe she hasn't, but maybe

764
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:53,880
Speaker 2: that was just how he said it. But either way,

765
00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:57,399
Speaker 2: she i for for what we know. She didn't say

766
00:34:57,400 --> 00:35:00,120
Speaker 2: anything about the daughter's name. Yeah, not at all. I

767
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 2: was stunned. I have never said anything to Ruby or

768
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:08,000
Speaker 2: Jim about the baby's name, not to them in private. Yes,

769
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 2: I told my mom and Jay that I hated the name. Well, okay,

770
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:13,120
Speaker 2: there it is. I think it got back to it

771
00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:13,880
Speaker 2: apparently it.

772
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's when you go, Hey Mom, did

773
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:20,400
Speaker 1: you tell Ruby? Or Hey, j did you tell Ruby

774
00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:21,799
Speaker 1: that I didn't like the name.

775
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, but they agreed. It's literally the name of a

776
00:35:26,760 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 2: cheap three dollars gas station liquor. Let's just say it

777
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:33,880
Speaker 2: ends with Rose. I said, I hoped the baby wouldn't

778
00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:36,440
Speaker 2: get bullied for it. That was months ago, and we

779
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:38,600
Speaker 2: all agreed that I would not say anything to Ruby

780
00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:41,719
Speaker 2: because she's pregnant and sensitive. What are you looking up?

781
00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:45,279
Speaker 2: What it could be? Okay? I responded to Jim, Hey,

782
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 2: I've never mentioned to either of you that I didn't

783
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 2: like the baby's name, So whatever you're hearing is third party?

784
00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:52,960
Speaker 1: Yes, would they want to name it Tequila Rose?

785
00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:57,040
Speaker 2: Actually are actually naming the daughter Tequila?

786
00:35:57,320 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 1: This is the only thing I can find about Rose.

787
00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:05,200
Speaker 1: There's Binac Rose, liquor Tequila rose. Like there's London Rose,

788
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:11,240
Speaker 1: water Liqueur Rose. What's there's uh panac p I n

789
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:15,719
Speaker 1: a q pin yac? Oh, sorry, Pennac rose? That might

790
00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:16,400
Speaker 1: that might be?

791
00:36:17,480 --> 00:36:18,319
Speaker 2: Are you naming it? Well?

792
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, because tequila Rose is insane. Yeah, so I guess

793
00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 1: you're either naming her Pignac or tequila yeah, is this

794
00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 1: my daughter, Tequila Rose? Oh my gosh, she really loves

795
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:33,280
Speaker 1: We named her after that one song.

796
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:38,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, Tequila right.

797
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:39,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just thought it was such a beautiful name.

798
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:42,359
Speaker 2: I really liked it, and also I love drinking. Oh

799
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 2: my god, Yes I don't like it, The op continues

800
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:48,920
Speaker 2: to hit her response, Yes, I don't like it, but

801
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:51,840
Speaker 2: my opinion doesn't matter. I can understand if I directly

802
00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:53,919
Speaker 2: said something to you guys, which would have been mean,

803
00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 2: which is why I didn't. He never responded. I then

804
00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:59,360
Speaker 2: called Jade and my mother and asked what Jim was

805
00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:02,760
Speaker 2: talking about. My mom admitted that she mentioned it to Ruby.

806
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:06,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, doy, we all called that, Mom, cue.

807
00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 2: Your mouth, shy, come on. Jade hesitated, then admitted that

808
00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 2: she was the one who told Ruby I hated the

809
00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:17,680
Speaker 2: name only to defend the fact that I wasn't judgmental. Well, huh,

810
00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:20,759
Speaker 2: I hated the name only to defend the fact that

811
00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:22,200
Speaker 2: I wasn't judgmental.

812
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 1: And the two I said, I'm reading that or either

813
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,440
Speaker 1: Rose was like oh yeah, oh, PE's never or uh,

814
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,840
Speaker 1: what's her name? Ruby? He's like, oh, he's never judgmental?

815
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:34,040
Speaker 1: Why are you judge judging the name? And then the

816
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:35,880
Speaker 1: other sister was like, well, no, oh P, he hated

817
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 1: the name too. She just didn't want to tell you.

818
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's one read.

819
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:41,840
Speaker 1: The other read is, oh, P didn't tell you to

820
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:46,439
Speaker 1: your face. She's not judgmental, like she could have been mean, like.

821
00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 2: She if she's not judgmental because she was speaking.

822
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:51,840
Speaker 1: Behind your back, Which so the first one makes a

823
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 1: little bit more sense to me. Right if maybe the

824
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:56,560
Speaker 1: sister was like, yeah, like I tried to talk to

825
00:37:56,560 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 1: her about the name and say like, hey, yeah, Tequila Roe,

826
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:03,080
Speaker 1: this is not the best name for baby.

827
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:07,279
Speaker 2: But honestly, like with the like, I could see that

828
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:12,239
Speaker 2: second explanation being it if OP thought like if OP

829
00:38:12,480 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 2: was saying like, well, it wasn't mean because I didn't

830
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 2: say it to your face, then it's like, okay, well

831
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:20,880
Speaker 2: I guess if they yeah like that. I thought it

832
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:21,400
Speaker 2: was weird.

833
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,839
Speaker 1: That was weird. But she messaged she was like, no, no, no,

834
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:26,080
Speaker 1: I don't understand why you're mad. I never said it

835
00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:26,640
Speaker 1: to your face.

836
00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:29,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, it wasn't mean because I wasn't being mean

837
00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 2: directly to you.

838
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 1: I said it behind your pack cut. That was that

839
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 1: was weird. It was very weird. Yeah, I think that

840
00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:37,239
Speaker 1: was a weird move on your part.

841
00:38:37,280 --> 00:38:39,279
Speaker 2: Op. I think your your.

842
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:43,400
Speaker 1: Parent, your mom, and your sister are accidentally conspiring against you.

843
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:47,200
Speaker 1: I guess so think Ruma's rumas I think when Ruby's

844
00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:53,600
Speaker 1: being all drama. Yeah, yeah, good luck. Hey it's Sam.

845
00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:55,359
Speaker 1: We're going to get back to these stories. But here's

846
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847
00:38:57,600 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 2: There is a little bit more. Ruby assumed. I said

848
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:03,840
Speaker 2: it directly told Jim, and now I am being accused

849
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 2: of being anti white and disrespecting an unborn child, causing drama,

850
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:11,360
Speaker 2: and being ungrateful for their support all over a joke

851
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:16,359
Speaker 2: and feelings. I communicated honestly. Meanwhile, all I said was

852
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:18,680
Speaker 2: it hurt my feelings not to know you were here.

853
00:39:18,960 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 2: Jade apologized privately, but I'm the one publicly punished. Ruby

854
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:26,600
Speaker 2: and Jim are still not speaking to me. I'm exhausted,

855
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,400
Speaker 2: I'm the oldest, and somehow I'm always painted as the

856
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 2: problem because I don't roll over when I'm hurt. My

857
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:34,600
Speaker 2: husband says to cut contact until Ruby acknowledges the truth.

858
00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 2: Part of me agrees. I also hate that my family

859
00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:40,120
Speaker 2: dynamic now casts me as the evil villain in his story.

860
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 2: I didn't create I'm super annoyed with my mom and Jade.

861
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:45,759
Speaker 2: I don't think i'm the a whole. I didn't do

862
00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 2: anything intentionally cruel. I know I'm not perfect at expressing myself,

863
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 2: but I refuse to be the bigger person just because

864
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 2: she's pregnant, especially when they joked about my daughter's name

865
00:39:55,160 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 2: my entire pregnancy, and I never held it against them.

866
00:39:57,880 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 2: So am I the able.

867
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 1: U that lasts? That's important? Yeah, is what I would

868
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:05,919
Speaker 1: like to know more about. Yeah, they joked about your

869
00:40:06,040 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 1: daughter's name. Yeah, and then we said something by and

870
00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:10,200
Speaker 1: their bad.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah they said about your kid.

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Speaker 1: Me too, me too? Because uh, I think that's pretty relevant.

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Speaker 2: I would agree.

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Speaker 1: It feels like they it feels like your sister's husband

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Speaker 1: is being very sensitive about his race, and then your

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Speaker 1: sister doesn't feel comfortable or I don't know, maybe included

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Speaker 1: in uh, like in what are they afro Cordeman after Latina,

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Speaker 1: like in the after Latina side of her, so she

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Speaker 1: just sticks to the white side and now has that

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Speaker 1: whole group. Uh. And maybe I guess it's just sensitive

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Speaker 1: about any race things.

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Speaker 2: I do think you could probably apologize for the name thing, though,

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Speaker 2: I feel like you just saying like, hey, well I

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Speaker 2: didn't say that to you, so that's unfair. Yeah, I

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Speaker 2: feel like that's not a good way to go. No,

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Speaker 2: I think we just.

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Speaker 1: Apologize it and be distance, let them pool down about that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know, even though I do think it's relevant,

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Speaker 2: maybe not maybe apologize and then separately you could mention

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Speaker 2: that they made fun of your daughter's.

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Speaker 1: Name and you're like, bone, remember yeah my daughter.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. You definitely don't want to be like, you know, I,

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Speaker 2: well it's okay because you did that to me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, No, maybe o Pylon.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, apologize and then maybe separately be like, well, I

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Speaker 2: mean while we're on the door, we're on the subject. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But that's the end of that story and the end

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