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Speaker 1: If you are one of the lucky ones who got

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Speaker 1: loved your relationship marriage right the first time, then this

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Speaker 1: show ain't for you. Welcome to I Do Part two,

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Speaker 1: where your hosts today have said I do eight times

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Speaker 1: between the three of us.

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Speaker 2: Eight.

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Speaker 1: How was that for an intro? Janna Kramer, Listen, j I.

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Speaker 3: Feel very targeted and you're not.

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Speaker 4: You should just feel seen, Jenny, thank.

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Speaker 1: You because on this end down here with TJ Holmes, hello,

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Speaker 1: and Amy Robot four I dos down here as well,

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Speaker 1: and a fifth in the making. We should argue on

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Speaker 1: this end possibly, So yes, I'm not targeting Rush right,

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Speaker 1: I'm not targeting, but welcome everybody. So Jana, we have

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Speaker 1: to say, is so good to have you in studio.

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Speaker 1: Jena is here with us in New York.

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Speaker 3: I love New York, you guys. This is such a

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Speaker 3: fun city. It's so great. And here with the beautiful Kelly.

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Speaker 3: I mean, this is this is awesome.

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Speaker 5: Yes, we have what we should mention. We have the

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Speaker 5: amazing Kelly ben Simone. Right, did I say your name correctly?

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Speaker 1: All right?

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Speaker 5: Kelly ben Simone is in the house here and she

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Speaker 5: is going to be We mentioned this in the first

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Speaker 5: episode one of our celebrity mentors.

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Speaker 4: Are you prepared to mentor us, Kelly?

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Speaker 2: I hope so. I'm working on it one day at

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Speaker 2: a time.

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Speaker 1: But Kelly, people coming to you for relationship advice more

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Speaker 1: so now than they used to.

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Speaker 2: I mean, in the past month and a half, I've

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Speaker 2: which has been really, really sweet. But it's also like

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Speaker 2: bittersweet because I'm just like I hope I say the

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Speaker 2: right thing.

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Speaker 5: Well, well, you always say the right thing in the

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Speaker 5: right moment because it's authentic. And I think at some

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Speaker 5: point we were talking about that authenticity is a big

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Speaker 5: part of reality TV and sometimes it's not. But You've

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Speaker 5: always been the one who speaks her mind always, And

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Speaker 5: for those who need an introduction, I don't think many

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Speaker 5: Real Housewives of New York and Ultimate Girls Trip and

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Speaker 5: recently making headlines for ending a wedding to be four

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Speaker 5: days before the nuptials were set to actually take place,

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Speaker 5: all because your fiance wouldn't sign a prenum. Is that

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Speaker 5: the only reason why the wedding was.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I mean we were together for over a

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Speaker 2: year and a half and I you know, everyone's like,

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Speaker 2: It was a very crowded, messy environment on his part

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Speaker 2: I just couldn't handle all of that. You know, I'm

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Speaker 2: There is a total difference.

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Speaker 5: Your divorced, your your first divorce, your only divorce. Correct

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Speaker 2: Yes, you have been like a mediator.

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Speaker 2: But it was also different. I was young and you

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Speaker 3: Just get through it because I don't want to sound

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Speaker 3: And he didn't want to sign it because he what

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Speaker 2: Yeah. He was like, we're not doing this. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: Okay, well I know, O Kelly, a lot of the

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Speaker 1: or marriage off because of a pre nup, But clearly

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Speaker 1: That might have been the straw that broke the camel's back. Yes,

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Speaker 2: No, And I touched on that. I just was say,

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Speaker 2: with the messiness and the being crowded, it was just

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Speaker 2: and like some people have the bandwidth for that. But like,

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Speaker 2: What can I do now? Like where before I was

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Speaker 4: Yep, you know, I hear you.

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Speaker 3: What are y'all thoughts on prenups?

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Speaker 5: You know, I think before it's it's nice to be

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Speaker 5: too got married young the first time, at twenty three,

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Speaker 2: So I'm not a lawyer. I'm not trying to, you know,

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Speaker 2: it's for love. Yes it is. But when you're sharing finances,

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Speaker 2: whether it's one dollar or ten dollars, that's your money

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Speaker 5: Way, I was just gonna say, that's about I think

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Speaker 5: to know that we can support ourselves. And if that's

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Speaker 3: Well, and yeah, I will say this too. A lot

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Speaker 3: but at least five girls that I've spoken to about prenups,

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Speaker 3: It was always the guy having an issue with it, like,

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Speaker 3: why do you want me to sign that? And you

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Speaker 4: To go after it all a lot of scot chills.

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Speaker 3: You know that you're getting divorced for a reason. You

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Speaker 5: And when everyone starts lawyering up, it just it goes

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Speaker 2: you're bye, good bye, You're done. So like they've always

436
00:19:31,440 --> 00:19:35,160
Speaker 2: been my priority, and they just weren't feeling good too.

437
00:19:35,359 --> 00:19:36,240
Speaker 2: They just weren't feeling it.

438
00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:38,080
Speaker 3: There was a lot, So where does that love go then,

439
00:19:38,119 --> 00:19:40,639
Speaker 3: because obviously you love this man, you know, like, is

440
00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:43,200
Speaker 3: there any regrets do you like, where do you place

441
00:19:43,280 --> 00:19:45,679
Speaker 3: this love? Or was it just an immediate turnoff that.

442
00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:48,200
Speaker 2: It was a turn off, But it was also just

443
00:19:48,400 --> 00:19:50,760
Speaker 2: like I just well, I mean, if to remember too,

444
00:19:50,840 --> 00:19:53,760
Speaker 2: it's like I had to move out, and the first

445
00:19:53,920 --> 00:19:57,800
Speaker 2: night I'm in my ex hus my daughter was staying

446
00:19:57,800 --> 00:20:00,159
Speaker 2: in my ex husband's apartment, and so I like no

447
00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:02,480
Speaker 2: place to go. So I'm like, okay, I'm gonna go

448
00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:05,320
Speaker 2: with my daughter into my ex husband's apartment and there

449
00:20:05,320 --> 00:20:07,520
Speaker 2: are all these like Sonny angels and then he's got

450
00:20:07,600 --> 00:20:10,080
Speaker 2: these like symbols, and I wake up and I'm like.

451
00:20:10,440 --> 00:20:12,119
Speaker 1: What is going on with my life?

452
00:20:12,400 --> 00:20:16,199
Speaker 2: Do you know what like very like little crazy figurines

453
00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:20,440
Speaker 2: that kids loved where they're like kind of oddly pornographic,

454
00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:23,600
Speaker 2: but for kids, they're weird. I don't know, they're not mind.

455
00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:26,160
Speaker 2: But anyway, I was just like, this is not my life,

456
00:20:26,359 --> 00:20:29,200
Speaker 2: like the sunny angels and this art, and I'm in

457
00:20:29,440 --> 00:20:31,240
Speaker 2: the bed with her and the dogs and.

458
00:20:31,280 --> 00:20:34,200
Speaker 3: I'm just like your ex husband that's the apartment.

459
00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:36,120
Speaker 2: I'm just like, I'm gonna like lose my mind.

460
00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:38,800
Speaker 5: You got to that place, Kelly, But how like how

461
00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:41,320
Speaker 5: much courage did it take? Or I'm just curious for

462
00:20:41,400 --> 00:20:44,240
Speaker 5: you to actually say I'm calling off the wedding.

463
00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:45,520
Speaker 4: What was that conversation?

464
00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:49,520
Speaker 5: Like obviously you knew this would be everywhere because it's

465
00:20:49,560 --> 00:20:54,479
Speaker 5: been such a public relationship. What went into the decision,

466
00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:56,359
Speaker 5: how much courage did it take, and.

467
00:20:57,760 --> 00:20:58,560
Speaker 4: How did it go down?

468
00:20:59,320 --> 00:21:02,560
Speaker 3: So I was getting a colonic. Those are great. I

469
00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:04,920
Speaker 3: used to have those in Los Angeles, have known a while.

470
00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:07,199
Speaker 3: They're so good. We're feeling in the world, but right

471
00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:08,200
Speaker 3: when we're stout to come out.

472
00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:10,560
Speaker 1: Where this is the time.

473
00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:16,240
Speaker 2: Chronics are amazing, so literally, I don't even know what

474
00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:19,280
Speaker 2: they're just like, they're just amazing. Anyone who has not

475
00:21:19,320 --> 00:21:20,560
Speaker 2: gotten a chlonic, I love them.

476
00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:23,800
Speaker 3: I feel so just like light energy.

477
00:21:23,960 --> 00:21:25,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was feeling very stressed out and so I

478
00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:28,639
Speaker 2: got a colonic and I'm laying down and I was

479
00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:30,760
Speaker 2: on my phone, well I'm just getting a colonic, and

480
00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:36,080
Speaker 2: he said something to me along the lines of, you know,

481
00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:38,200
Speaker 2: you need to if you're going to cancel the wedding,

482
00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:41,240
Speaker 2: you have to do it now because there's a cancelation policy.

483
00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:42,800
Speaker 4: Oh my god.

484
00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:43,800
Speaker 1: He didn't say if.

485
00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:45,520
Speaker 2: You're going to cancel wedding. He's like, there's a cancelation

486
00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:49,760
Speaker 2: policy for things. And I was like, I'm sorry, what what? What?

487
00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:50,280
Speaker 2: I'm sorry?

488
00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:51,480
Speaker 4: What did I hear that?

489
00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:54,240
Speaker 2: Did you just text me? I didn't hear it. I

490
00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:55,879
Speaker 2: was reading it, I'm like, did I just do I

491
00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:59,000
Speaker 2: need my readers on? Did I just see a cancelation policy?

492
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:01,240
Speaker 2: Just was like, we're done.

493
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:05,399
Speaker 4: It happened over text where it was I saw it.

494
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:07,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I called him and I was like, what

495
00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:09,480
Speaker 2: did you just do? First of all, are you talking

496
00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:11,560
Speaker 2: to people on my behalf? Like? Are you talking to

497
00:22:11,680 --> 00:22:14,919
Speaker 2: people that I know? Because that's not okay because if

498
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:17,320
Speaker 2: anyone's going to break news, I'm going to break my

499
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:21,760
Speaker 2: own news and listen, you know what. I think. He's

500
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:25,719
Speaker 2: a really genuinely, very nice guy. He's just not my lobster.

501
00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:29,080
Speaker 2: He's not my lobster. And you know, I want like

502
00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:31,280
Speaker 2: someone that makes me feel good about myself. I want

503
00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:34,040
Speaker 2: someone that like pushes me to be the best version

504
00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:35,720
Speaker 2: of me. I don't want someone I don't want a

505
00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:39,800
Speaker 2: messy environment. I don't want someone like talking about cancelation policies.

506
00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:41,560
Speaker 2: I want people to be like, you know what, you

507
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:43,640
Speaker 2: may love you so much, let's fight for this. Yeah,

508
00:22:44,119 --> 00:22:45,600
Speaker 2: you know I'm coming to get you.

509
00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:52,520
Speaker 4: It's the wrong that we all want come back and

510
00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:55,119
Speaker 4: they fight for you. It's hard almost.

511
00:22:56,840 --> 00:22:59,240
Speaker 3: We want to be able to write, are we canceling

512
00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:00,840
Speaker 3: this or not, and then have you guys say no,

513
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:02,240
Speaker 3: I love you so much, I want to do this.

514
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:04,960
Speaker 4: Like that will always chool.

515
00:23:05,280 --> 00:23:08,160
Speaker 5: If he had said, you know what, money doesn't matter,

516
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:09,800
Speaker 5: I just want to be with you no matter what,

517
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:12,919
Speaker 5: let's figure this out, you would have policy.

518
00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:15,639
Speaker 3: I was like, I'm sorry, what, Yeah, we want to

519
00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:16,159
Speaker 3: be chased?

520
00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:18,520
Speaker 2: A yes, yes, chase me, chase me.

521
00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:21,600
Speaker 1: Okay, you we're together two years in total?

522
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:21,800
Speaker 4: Right?

523
00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:24,840
Speaker 1: Okay, you just said something. How long in that two years?

524
00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:27,280
Speaker 1: If you look back, when did you actually know he

525
00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:29,800
Speaker 1: was not your crustacean? He was not your lobster?

526
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:33,720
Speaker 2: A couple of months and there was an issue a

527
00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:35,680
Speaker 2: couple of months. Yeah, and I was just like, what

528
00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:37,160
Speaker 2: is going on? Who are these people?

529
00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:37,920
Speaker 5: Like?

530
00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:39,640
Speaker 2: What is happening? See?

531
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:43,600
Speaker 1: Doesn't that happen? Only you knew that long ago, but

532
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:47,280
Speaker 1: it took two years to finally flesh that out. Is

533
00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:49,159
Speaker 1: that always or often the case? I don't want to

534
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 1: say just with women, but with all of us? Isn't

535
00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:54,000
Speaker 1: that a problem? Often time we ignore the signs that

536
00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:56,000
Speaker 1: you clearly saw early on.

537
00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:59,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, we do, I think, yeah, because we want to

538
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 3: push through and go okay, maybe this will change, or

539
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:05,600
Speaker 3: you know, we want the love or he's he's good

540
00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:07,520
Speaker 3: enough maybe, but it's not the best.

541
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:10,840
Speaker 2: And you know what it's that's really interesting that you

542
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:14,399
Speaker 2: said that, you know, he's like not good enough. And

543
00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 2: I feel like people are like after I got you know,

544
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:20,639
Speaker 2: I called it off. I was with I was at

545
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:23,680
Speaker 2: this restaurant in the Hampton's and I sat with some

546
00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:27,600
Speaker 2: people that I really respect, and you know, we said

547
00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:30,960
Speaker 2: to me, you know, well, Kelly, everybody has luggage, and

548
00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, Louis Bauitton, fine, but like a

549
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 2: storage unit, like I know, I just can't. I don't

550
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:41,040
Speaker 2: care how this lands you guys. I don't care if

551
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:41,879
Speaker 2: you guys don't understand.

552
00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:46,119
Speaker 3: Okay, no, but don't you think older in life that

553
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:48,880
Speaker 3: we have more stuff to put into storage like we've

554
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:49,280
Speaker 3: got now.

555
00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:51,240
Speaker 2: It needs to be I have really nice furnitures.

556
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:52,240
Speaker 1: I don't have room.

557
00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:54,159
Speaker 2: But it's how you organize that, right.

558
00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 4: It can't be all and that is a huge touched.

559
00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:01,200
Speaker 2: All these little plast things. You can put them in box.

560
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 3: It has to be labeled and and nicely put away,

561
00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:05,680
Speaker 3: which is healed and worked on store.

562
00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:08,480
Speaker 5: It can't be yes no when you walk in and

563
00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:10,879
Speaker 5: there's just a mess everywhere, No agreed.

564
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:14,280
Speaker 3: So the advice for someone finding love that feels that

565
00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 3: initial I knew within the first two months what was

566
00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:19,720
Speaker 3: that piece that would be the the advice that you

567
00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:21,639
Speaker 3: would give them so that we can stop people in

568
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 3: their tracks to then meet the right person.

569
00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:27,320
Speaker 2: Understanding your bandwidth, I think is like mandatory for your

570
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:29,399
Speaker 2: So for your own self, you have to instead of

571
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:32,440
Speaker 2: people saying like you, this is okay, this is not okay,

572
00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 2: you have to understand your own bandwidth. For some people,

573
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:40,400
Speaker 2: what's messy is not that messy. For other people, what's

574
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:44,760
Speaker 2: you know, what's what's what's a storage unit is? You know,

575
00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:47,639
Speaker 2: just like carry on luggage. So you just have to

576
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:50,840
Speaker 2: understand your own bandwidth and be okay with that, do

577
00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? And like, you know, you

578
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:56,320
Speaker 2: guys have been through a lot together, but you're so connected,

579
00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:59,080
Speaker 2: Like just just been talking with you before we even

580
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:02,560
Speaker 2: started this. You guys so in love and just so

581
00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 2: just connected. Like you know, it's you were like look

582
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:08,400
Speaker 2: at each other when you were talking. You know, it's

583
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:09,679
Speaker 2: not just like oh my god, what are they going

584
00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 2: to say? I mean, you know what she's going to say,

585
00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:13,680
Speaker 2: and you know what he's going to say, and it's

586
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:17,159
Speaker 2: just beautiful and just being able to be open to

587
00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:21,200
Speaker 2: that other person. And so I don't think the person.

588
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:23,679
Speaker 2: You know, it's like everyone's like they they're like, oh,

589
00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:25,200
Speaker 2: I want to you know Jill's Aaron used to say,

590
00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:27,200
Speaker 2: I want a PJ. No, no, no, everyone go for

591
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:31,639
Speaker 2: a TJ. Like that's like that's the real you know,

592
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 2: that's just what life is about, just like sharing memories.

593
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:38,159
Speaker 2: So you have to understand your bandwidth and know like

594
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 2: what you can handle and kind of what you can't.

595
00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:52,639
Speaker 1: We will say first, thank you for the kind words.

596
00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:54,920
Speaker 1: That's true. I was like, oh, I spend a short

597
00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:57,639
Speaker 1: time with you before we came in here, but is

598
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:00,640
Speaker 1: was there ever did you all spend in time trying

599
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:02,400
Speaker 1: to reconcile after you cut off the wedding?

600
00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 3: Was there ever a chance did he say, hey, I

601
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:05,760
Speaker 3: want to go to therapy?

602
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:07,960
Speaker 2: Maybe yeah? Oh we did go to therapy once. And

603
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:09,679
Speaker 2: then I was I was like, this is not therapy.

604
00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:11,440
Speaker 2: I was like, this is babysitting for him. I was like,

605
00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:13,200
Speaker 2: I'm not doing this. This is like I'm like, the

606
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 2: therapist is supposed to be like, here are the tools

607
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:17,479
Speaker 2: in your tool belt, use this one and she was like, Oh,

608
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:19,920
Speaker 2: you're so handsome and cute and fun, and everybody's not

609
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:21,520
Speaker 2: nice to you. I'm like, I'm gonna kill myself.

610
00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:24,440
Speaker 1: He charmed the therapist. He's a charming guy.

611
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:26,800
Speaker 2: He's a very charming guy. He's very he's a great guy.

612
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 1: Just not for me.

613
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 2: It's just not my lobster.

614
00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:32,119
Speaker 3: Well, this show is a dating show. So now we

615
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 3: know that you're out there in the dating world.

616
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 1: Oh wow, oh yes outside No.

617
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 3: Wait, did I hear a rumor that you were dated

618
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 3: with Bethany's. Oh my god, what I talk about?

619
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 2: This is like crazy.

620
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:53,520
Speaker 3: So my last Bethany's as the one that no no, no, no, okay.

621
00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 2: So I'm in the Hamptons with my I'm like, you

622
00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:57,880
Speaker 2: know what, I'm gonna rent this house in the Hamptons.

623
00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 2: I am getting my license in Texas. It's one hundred

624
00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 2: and eighty hours. I'm going to study, do my stuff,

625
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:05,400
Speaker 2: spend time with my kids. Learned to play polo, learn

626
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:07,879
Speaker 2: to do something that's like so difficult. I'm going to

627
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:11,120
Speaker 2: learn that and just really, you know, take myself out

628
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:16,320
Speaker 2: of like all my little you know, drama filled you know, environment,

629
00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:18,359
Speaker 2: and just go do something that's different. And just like

630
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:22,399
Speaker 2: get excited about life again. And so you know, my

631
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:24,960
Speaker 2: daughter's like Mom, you know, she's like, you can just

632
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 2: go on Riot. But you you know, like at the

633
00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:29,359
Speaker 2: beginning when I was on Ryo, I was like, people

634
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 2: are like, they're like, oh, just say hi to people

635
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:33,119
Speaker 2: say like hi Hi. I was like, this is not

636
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:33,639
Speaker 2: working for me.

637
00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 3: It's so it always just ends at the high like

638
00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 3: I think people just want a bigger your You're cute, cute,

639
00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:40,280
Speaker 3: you liked her, and then in just the conversation ends right.

640
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:41,760
Speaker 2: When I was yeah before and I Waskeday, I was

641
00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 2: like hi Hi. I was like, what's this not happening?

642
00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:47,800
Speaker 2: And so she's like Mom, She's like she's like say

643
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:51,480
Speaker 2: something like your trouble And I was like, oh, So

644
00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 2: I was like, you know whatever, I usually say aloha.

645
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:56,120
Speaker 2: That's usually my fan like aloha, and they're like are

646
00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:58,320
Speaker 2: you from Hawaii. I'm like I could be like, I'm

647
00:28:58,400 --> 00:28:58,600
Speaker 2: you know.

648
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 4: Just I love trap there exactly, thank you.

649
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 2: And so I was like, okay, I'm just you know,

650
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 2: like and then my other friend is like she's a lawyer.

651
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:09,720
Speaker 2: She's like, it's a numbers game, just like all these guys.

652
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 2: So I'm like okay, like like like like oh okay,

653
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,840
Speaker 2: like oh oh yeah, like like like like whatever. And

654
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 2: then they you know, I'm like a loha aloha, just

655
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 2: trying to be polite, and my my oldest starter is like,

656
00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:20,960
Speaker 2: you're not supposed to do the first one. I was like,

657
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:23,440
Speaker 2: it's a loha. It's not like I'm saying like let's

658
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:26,000
Speaker 2: have sex, like and she's like, eh, you're so grown.

659
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:32,360
Speaker 2: So cut to there's this one guy that's from California,

660
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, this guy looks really nice

661
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:38,040
Speaker 2: and he's like near Malibu, and I have this beautiful

662
00:29:38,040 --> 00:29:39,560
Speaker 2: listening in Malibu, and so I was like I spent

663
00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 2: spent a lot of time there. And so I was like, oh,

664
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 2: just you know in my head, you know how you're

665
00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:46,160
Speaker 2: like you're like, oh, that's kind of nice. And I

666
00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 2: wasn't thinking about it. And then he was like starting

667
00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:49,400
Speaker 2: to chat with me, and I was like oh okay,

668
00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:51,840
Speaker 2: and he's like, we should move over to your cell phone.

669
00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 2: I was like, my what you want my cell phone number?

670
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 2: Like how does this work? So I was like okay.

671
00:29:58,000 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 2: I was like giving my cell phone number and then

672
00:29:59,600 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 2: he's like like texting me at night. I was like

673
00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 2: like I'm not a night person. I'm like a morning person.

674
00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 2: So I was like, why is my phone going on?

675
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 2: What is going on? And he was like, lah, whatever,

676
00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:11,080
Speaker 2: I have kids, I have all this stuff. And so

677
00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 2: this goes on for a while and then I'm at

678
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:16,720
Speaker 2: dinner at Bill Boukay in sag Harbor. I'm hunning very

679
00:30:16,720 --> 00:30:19,440
Speaker 2: bougie you guys. So we're in sag Harbor at Bill Okay,

680
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 2: which is a beautiful restaurant, and we're all dressed up

681
00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:24,240
Speaker 2: because we've gone out with for a work dinner, and

682
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:27,160
Speaker 2: my two girls were there and I walk out. He

683
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 2: goes Kelly, and my oldest daughter is like hell, and

684
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:33,480
Speaker 2: my younger sons like I don't think you know my mom,

685
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 2: Like we have no idea who you are. Basically like

686
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:39,800
Speaker 2: she's totally giving him the cold shoulder, and he's like Kelly,

687
00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:41,960
Speaker 2: He's like, I'm a twan Riah and I'm just like

688
00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 2: and like everyone's just like and I was like, oh

689
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 2: my god. I was like hi again, I to see you.

690
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:50,040
Speaker 2: And then my daughter's like, I'm getting ice cream bye,

691
00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 2: and I'm like I'm I'm just gonna go get ice cream,

692
00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 2: and so like I literally I'm awkwarded, this was the guy. Yeah,

693
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 2: don't look at me like that.

694
00:30:58,040 --> 00:30:58,760
Speaker 1: This was the guy.

695
00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:02,280
Speaker 2: This was the guy I was texting with. So then

696
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:05,080
Speaker 2: whatever I text him. I didn't text him my best friend.

697
00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:07,480
Speaker 2: My friends like she texted him and she's like, yeah,

698
00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:10,240
Speaker 2: so nice to see you. We should connect because she's

699
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,200
Speaker 2: like you gotta like get him to connect.

700
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 3: Right, And how long goes this?

701
00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:15,360
Speaker 2: I need like three weeks ago.

702
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 1: This is sounding like a good story to me.

703
00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 3: Then like I'm related to Bethany or not.

704
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:28,960
Speaker 2: Okay, so I'm gonna go I'm gonna talk past her. Okay.

705
00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:33,120
Speaker 2: So so we are like I'm like, he's like texting

706
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:34,680
Speaker 2: back and forth all this stuff, and then all of

707
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:35,960
Speaker 2: a sudden, like I don't care from him for a

708
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 2: couple of days. But I was like, oh whatever, like

709
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 2: it's you know, I'm doing my stuff. And so then

710
00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:44,200
Speaker 2: it's after Labor Day weekend and I'm in the Hampton's

711
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:46,360
Speaker 2: and on Ria it tells you where people are. I

712
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:48,280
Speaker 2: did not know this, but I found out this that

713
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 2: it says like visiting, visiting in wherever. I was like, wow,

714
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:53,920
Speaker 2: they oh my god, you know where people are.

715
00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:54,480
Speaker 4: So that's fun.

716
00:31:55,280 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 2: So he's like, are you in Montalk and I'm like,

717
00:31:57,200 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 2: I happened to be in Montalk doing a photos and

718
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,000
Speaker 2: he was like, let's meet for a drink. My kids

719
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 2: are leaving and I was like okay. So then he

720
00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, you know, I have to be

721
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 2: back in New York, so I had to be in

722
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:10,560
Speaker 2: New York early. And I was like, well, we can

723
00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 2: meet for a drink, but like I'm driving two mon

724
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 2: talk and it's spotty in the Hampton. So I was

725
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:20,520
Speaker 2: like it's either now or like basically never, so you know,

726
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:22,440
Speaker 2: and we've been like texting a lot, like he was

727
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 2: like always texting me like and so then I was

728
00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 2: like I have to leave, like I can't be in

729
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 2: wait for you in Bridge Hampton.

730
00:32:30,040 --> 00:32:32,680
Speaker 3: So a week later, this is very dispensable.

731
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 4: I'm here, I.

732
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 2: Like my friend goes, wait, is this the guy that

733
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:44,680
Speaker 2: you were dating? And I'm like who what? And it

734
00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:48,720
Speaker 2: just like sends me page six and it's like Brittany

735
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:55,760
Speaker 2: dating this guy and I'm like wait what. I'm like,

736
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:58,360
Speaker 2: so he's dating her and me? So I sent him

737
00:32:58,360 --> 00:33:00,680
Speaker 2: a text and I'm like I'm like, oh. I was

738
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 2: like the Hamptons is such a beautiful place, Like I

739
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,080
Speaker 2: hope you come back. I'm really really sorry you are

740
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:09,000
Speaker 2: a part of the dark side. And then he called me.

741
00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 5: But when he was actively dating or is actively dating

742
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 5: Bethany Franklin, he's texting with.

743
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 2: You, Yeah, he said that like that. She was like,

744
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 2: I don't feel like this is going anywhere, And so

745
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:24,840
Speaker 2: then he started texting me. I'm like, so now I'm like,

746
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 2: you're sloppy seconds no thank you to no one ever

747
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 2: like no thank you. I'm like, oh my god, hidios.

748
00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:32,400
Speaker 3: The dating world is so tough.

749
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:34,720
Speaker 5: I was going to say, so is that small of

750
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:36,640
Speaker 5: a pool to pick from here in New York?

751
00:33:36,760 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 4: By that can happen.

752
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:41,600
Speaker 2: Even worse than I mean, first of all, like like

753
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 2: whatever you think about her, like like her or not

754
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:47,200
Speaker 2: like her every single like almost I would personally.

755
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:49,600
Speaker 3: She's always been so kind and lovely to me with

756
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 3: a podcasts and through dms.

757
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:58,160
Speaker 2: But like, yeah, that's amazing for you. She's been opposite

758
00:33:58,200 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 2: to me.

759
00:33:58,640 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 4: Oh no, awful.

760
00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 3: I'm so sorry.

761
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:03,320
Speaker 4: I just I love that Jane is just now getting

762
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 4: filled in on this. I'm so sorry.

763
00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:07,720
Speaker 2: She's like my quote unquote.

764
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:10,399
Speaker 3: Like like you guys to get along in the show,

765
00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 3: like millionaires show.

766
00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:12,400
Speaker 4: I didn't know.

767
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:17,520
Speaker 2: She takes life to another level. It's whatever she can

768
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:20,440
Speaker 2: to get, like anything. She's very thirsty. So cut to

769
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:24,400
Speaker 2: She's like, so I was like, I'll meet a guy

770
00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:26,359
Speaker 2: and I'll be like going on a date and he's like, oh,

771
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:29,880
Speaker 2: so your best friend. I'm like i dated her. I'm like,

772
00:34:29,920 --> 00:34:30,959
Speaker 2: who's my best friend?

773
00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 4: But really, wow, Brittany, I'm like, wait a.

774
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 2: Minute, I'm sorry, Brittany.

775
00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:40,360
Speaker 4: It's just it's just a moniker. It's a moniker that

776
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:42,400
Speaker 4: was just created. Okay, got it.

777
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:43,840
Speaker 5: So I was just like.

778
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:48,839
Speaker 3: I used to want to hear but her real name,

779
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 3: Brittany Britney Frank.

780
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:51,880
Speaker 4: It's it's yes, it is.

781
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 5: It's just you know what, when you don't have good

782
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 5: feelings about someone, I understand this, you just don't want

783
00:34:58,560 --> 00:34:59,440
Speaker 5: to even give their name.

784
00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:01,279
Speaker 4: Powers, come up with a different names.

785
00:35:01,440 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 3: I've made up names in my book to not give

786
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:05,839
Speaker 3: people power. There you go, and legal reasons. But that's

787
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:06,319
Speaker 3: that's going.

788
00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:10,320
Speaker 1: But were you interested in the guy genuinely?

789
00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:13,200
Speaker 2: He was. He's a really like nice guy, like he

790
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:14,320
Speaker 2: has kids my age.

791
00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 3: Disappointed.

792
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:17,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I was like, oh my god, like we

793
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:21,560
Speaker 2: have like similar like you know, we're interests and I

794
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 2: was like, Oh, that would have been fun, but I

795
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:25,680
Speaker 2: was like, you still pursue you Well, he gave me

796
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 2: this weird phone call which is kind of like basically

797
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 2: like if it doesn't.

798
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:31,799
Speaker 3: Work out, I'll let you know, trying to go back

799
00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 3: to Britain.

800
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 2: I don't know what he was doing, but I was

801
00:35:33,640 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 2: just like, I'm not interested in anything.

802
00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:37,120
Speaker 3: The only thing that I will say about Ryah, which

803
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:38,520
Speaker 3: is the piece I don't like, Like I know that

804
00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 3: I was some of my friends on the time that

805
00:35:41,760 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 3: I was on Riot up he was matching. Certain people

806
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 3: would match with some of my girlfriends and they're like, oh,

807
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:50,600
Speaker 3: like my girlfriend Caitlin, she's lovely, and she'll be like, oh,

808
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:52,160
Speaker 3: you match with him too. I matched with him, and

809
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, you can totally have him if you want. Like,

810
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:56,920
Speaker 3: I don't think there's but everyone is kind of talking

811
00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:59,759
Speaker 3: to everyone until it becomes, you know, a thing. So

812
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 3: I'm not giving him grace whatsoever. Like if he was

813
00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:04,080
Speaker 3: actually in a relationship, that's messed up. But I will

814
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:05,719
Speaker 3: give grace to the guy. Where I feel like a

815
00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:08,480
Speaker 3: lot of guys are called out for talking to different

816
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,440
Speaker 3: people if you're just dating. That's the dating world. You're

817
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:12,320
Speaker 3: talking to different people until I don't know. It's just

818
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:14,959
Speaker 3: my personal opinion. For I'm not totally bashing the dude.

819
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:19,920
Speaker 2: Like listen, Like, do I think that he's a bad person, No?

820
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:22,799
Speaker 2: But do I think that he loves housewives? Yes?

821
00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:26,919
Speaker 1: He knew what he was doing. You can't.

822
00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:30,480
Speaker 2: All he has to do is google and being you

823
00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 2: know what I mean, he knew exactly what the situation is,

824
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:37,400
Speaker 2: and people are googling people like I don't necessarily like

825
00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:38,719
Speaker 2: to do that because.

826
00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 3: I didn't google you for I didn't know the drama,

827
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:45,160
Speaker 3: so I apolish. I just figured, like, you know, that

828
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:46,319
Speaker 3: was like kind of show made.

829
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:48,759
Speaker 2: I didn't know it was, well it was supposed to be,

830
00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:50,759
Speaker 2: but then it was like life made, and I was like,

831
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:52,359
Speaker 2: this is so weird. I was like, I don't even

832
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 2: know what's going on here.

833
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:55,200
Speaker 3: What do you think makes a person thirsty?

834
00:36:58,200 --> 00:37:03,920
Speaker 2: Just constantly going after you for things or just commenting

835
00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:09,239
Speaker 2: just you know, just genuinely inherently just mean things, or

836
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:11,600
Speaker 2: going after people that are like I think one of

837
00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 2: the things that at the very beginning, which we're not

838
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:16,239
Speaker 2: talking about it, but just like what I don't like

839
00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:19,120
Speaker 2: in general is that going after people that are like

840
00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:23,840
Speaker 2: doing good things, Like I don't go after you to

841
00:37:23,960 --> 00:37:26,720
Speaker 2: say like, oh my god, like you've had three marriages,

842
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:29,239
Speaker 2: I've only had one marriage. I'm better than you. Like

843
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:30,680
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my god, I have empathy. I'm like,

844
00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:32,719
Speaker 2: oh my, there must have been something happening. So a

845
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:35,319
Speaker 2: thirsty person to someone like like goes after someone who's

846
00:37:35,320 --> 00:37:38,239
Speaker 2: successful so that they can hop on that success, but

847
00:37:38,360 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 2: then drag that person's success down so that they can

848
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:45,000
Speaker 2: kind of prop themselves up. So that's kind of how

849
00:37:45,080 --> 00:37:45,399
Speaker 2: I see.

850
00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:48,360
Speaker 3: It makes sense. You don't know the full picture of things, right, And.

851
00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:51,040
Speaker 2: I'm always like tell me, like, yeah, you know, but

852
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:53,640
Speaker 2: then you know, I guess from being on television, people

853
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:57,200
Speaker 2: just genuinely think that you know, we know everything. I'm

854
00:37:57,200 --> 00:37:59,720
Speaker 2: always like, listen, if you want me to know your story,

855
00:37:59,760 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 2: you can send your bio to me beforehand and I'll

856
00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 2: read it. Like That's how they were. They were like,

857
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 2: you don't know everything about me. I'm like, no, I've

858
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:10,080
Speaker 2: never even met you before. I'm trying to learn. You

859
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:11,640
Speaker 2: can give me a chance to learn.

860
00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:14,000
Speaker 4: Kelly, what is the dating world? Like?

861
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 5: You are fifty six, yes, stunning, gorgeous you there's a

862
00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:22,800
Speaker 5: trend and I'm living it actually right now, where women

863
00:38:23,040 --> 00:38:27,479
Speaker 5: are dating and it's perfectly acceptable dating younger men. What's

864
00:38:27,600 --> 00:38:29,920
Speaker 5: your thought on that and what do you like when

865
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 5: you're looking at who you might date. What do you

866
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Speaker 5: give as an age range that you'd be willing to date?

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Speaker 5: How low would you go?

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Speaker 4: How high would you go?

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Speaker 2: You know this is numberwise? Well, because like you know,

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Speaker 2: I always like defer to my kids about everything because

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Speaker 2: it's like there are my like, you know, life arbiters

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Speaker 2: and I'm like, okay, so what is it? And they're like, mom,

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Speaker 2: so like my oldest is twenty six. She's like, mom,

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Speaker 2: I'm twenty six, so you can't go to thirty. I'm like,

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Speaker 2: I didn't say I was going to thirty. She's like, well,

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Speaker 2: some guys at thirty might like you. I'm like, well, okay,

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Speaker 2: but I didn't say that. You said that, So I

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Speaker 2: think like mid sixty and like, you know, mid forties

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Speaker 2: is you know good, like you know, ten years younger,

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Speaker 2: ten years older. I think it's like a good thing.

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Speaker 2: I mean I did date one time, one guy that

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Speaker 2: was fifteen years younger than me, the nicest human, I mean,

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Speaker 2: he was such a smoke show God, he was so long.

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Speaker 3: What happened so much? The reason was the age difference

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Speaker 3: in issue and the nicest person.

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Speaker 2: On the planet, it was, it was just he was

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Speaker 2: just too young.

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Speaker 4: He was too young. He was too young.

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Speaker 3: And what made it too young?

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Speaker 2: Because he was fifteen years younger than me, And that

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Speaker 2: was just.

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Speaker 3: The number that was bothering here was there an actual reason.

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Speaker 2: For it was the number. I just felt like he

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Speaker 2: was just too young. I was just like and like

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Speaker 2: I went out to dinner with one time with his

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Speaker 2: friends and they were all young, and I was like,

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Speaker 2: this is too young.

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Speaker 3: But that's like that I don't know, but I'm like,

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Speaker 3: I mean, I get that the same time. Like that

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Speaker 3: Ann Hathaway movie, I'm like, I just I think there's

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Speaker 3: I don't want people just to focus on the number.

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Speaker 4: I don't.

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Speaker 3: I love that movie.

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Speaker 4: I thought was sod. I read the book I loved

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Speaker 4: I loved that.

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Speaker 2: I loved it. I ran to.

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Speaker 3: I love that movie.

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Speaker 2: I did.

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Speaker 5: Well.

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Speaker 2: It was a lot.

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Speaker 4: He was in his twenties.

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Speaker 3: I mean, but love is love, okay, right, I love it?

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Speaker 5: Well.

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Speaker 2: You know what the thing is too is it's like

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Speaker 2: twenty years I when I was dating this guy, who

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Speaker 2: was fifteen, who is just so attractive. I'll tell his

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Speaker 2: name is Alejandro when he's just so attractive and what

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Speaker 2: you know, he's hot with a name like so well

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Speaker 2: mannered and nice and kind of attractive. He you know,

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Speaker 2: he was so nice to my kids, but my kids

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Speaker 2: were younger, and I just was like, I knew that

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Speaker 2: he wanted more kids, and I was like, I don't

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Speaker 2: know if that was going to be something that we

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Speaker 2: could do, and you know, he was also you know,

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Speaker 2: it was just like in his early he was thirty

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Speaker 2: and so he was like, you know, just trying to

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Speaker 2: like get his life started, and I just didn't think

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Speaker 2: that that was like appropriate.

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