1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,280 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:07,440 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please 3 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click 4 00:00:11,320 --> 00:00:14,080 Speaker 1: submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live 5 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 1: on the air, just like we're gonna read this one 6 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:20,360 Speaker 1: right here, right now. Buggle up, hold on tight, We 7 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:24,239 Speaker 1: got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. 8 00:00:24,360 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 1: Subject I need to know who the other woman was. 9 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:31,280 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I am a forty two year old 10 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:33,840 Speaker 1: woman and I have been seeing a man for six 11 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:36,960 Speaker 1: months and we go out several times a week and 12 00:00:37,120 --> 00:00:41,080 Speaker 1: we've started having sex. The intimacy is good, but he 13 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:43,919 Speaker 1: was a bit aggressive at first, so I had to 14 00:00:43,960 --> 00:00:46,640 Speaker 1: get him to settle down a bit. But that's not 15 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:49,559 Speaker 1: the problem I have with him. There are times I 16 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:52,920 Speaker 1: can't reach him, and when he's non responsive, he tells 17 00:00:52,960 --> 00:00:56,360 Speaker 1: me he's out with a friend. It became clear to 18 00:00:56,400 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: me who his friend might be when he invited me 19 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:01,840 Speaker 1: to go shop and I ended up feeling like the 20 00:01:01,960 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 1: third wheel. He picked me up and there was a 21 00:01:04,959 --> 00:01:07,959 Speaker 1: nice looking young woman sitting on the front seat, so 22 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 1: he opened the back door of his car for me. 23 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 1: He introduced me and the woman, but never said who 24 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:16,600 Speaker 1: the woman was to him, and he didn't tell her 25 00:01:16,720 --> 00:01:19,280 Speaker 1: I was his girlfriend. I sat on the back seat 26 00:01:19,319 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 1: while they engaged in conversation all the way to the mall. 27 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:25,320 Speaker 1: As we walked around the mall, he walked in the 28 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:27,760 Speaker 1: middle of us. When it came time to eat lunch, 29 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:30,240 Speaker 1: he pulled her chair out at the table, and he 30 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:33,119 Speaker 1: pulled my chair out. He ordered for her and then 31 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:37,319 Speaker 1: motioned for me to put in my order. I was 32 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:40,600 Speaker 1: really feeling like the third wheel then, but I didn't 33 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 1: say a word. He dropped me off that day and 34 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 1: we have never talked about it. But now I want 35 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:51,040 Speaker 1: to know who this woman was and what she is 36 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 1: to him. I am trying to give him the benefit 37 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: of the doubt, but I feel like I can't ask 38 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 1: him any questions because I'm still having sex with him. 39 00:01:58,920 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: It's too late? Is it too late to question him? Now? 40 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 1: I think I may be the side piece. Surely he's 41 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:07,480 Speaker 1: not crazy enough to take us out at the same time. 42 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:10,360 Speaker 1: What's going on? Well, yes, he is crazy enough to 43 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:12,359 Speaker 1: take you guys out at the same time, because that's 44 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:19,000 Speaker 1: just what he did. He did He put her in 45 00:02:19,040 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 1: the front seat, you in the backseat, ordered for her, 46 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:25,560 Speaker 1: told you to get what you wanted, motion to you 47 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:28,800 Speaker 1: to place your order. Come. He talked to her all 48 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 1: the way, all the way to the mall. You didn't 49 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 1: say anything. Give him the benefit of the doubt. You 50 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:44,480 Speaker 1: feel like you can't ask him anything because you're still 51 00:02:44,600 --> 00:02:49,960 Speaker 1: having sex with him, All the more reason for you 52 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 1: to ask him. What are you giving him the benefit 53 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:56,000 Speaker 1: of the doubt for? Why? I mean, you're giving him 54 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:59,240 Speaker 1: way too much of yourself as it is. I mean, 55 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:01,560 Speaker 1: you sell it. You're afraid of him, and you're you're 56 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:04,920 Speaker 1: scared to ask him anything. You should have well, you 57 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:07,280 Speaker 1: shouldn't even gotten in the car in the back seat. 58 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:16,240 Speaker 1: What is going on? You need to be done with 59 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 1: this man like today. Okay, he's disrespectful, he's am I A. 60 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:23,840 Speaker 1: You know, he's with this other woman, and all you 61 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:26,640 Speaker 1: want to know is who she was. You're feeling like 62 00:03:26,680 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 1: the side piece. Why should you you think you're his girlfriend? 63 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 1: Will clearly clearly you're one of a couple or whoever, 64 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 1: who knows how many? Yeah, you're his girlfriend, all right, 65 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: this is not a situation that you miss Forty two 66 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:44,080 Speaker 1: year old woman wants to be in I'm sure at 67 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:48,240 Speaker 1: this stage in your life. Okay, look at the situation 68 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 1: for what it really is. You all are in the 69 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 1: mall walking. He's in the middle of you as if 70 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 1: you know this. This is one of those like uh 71 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 1: Sister Wives TV show. No, No, this is your life. Okay. No, 72 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:06,160 Speaker 1: you can ask him anything, you can tell him anything, 73 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:09,000 Speaker 1: tell him You're done with this foolishness. All right, this 74 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 1: is disrespectful. Move on. You don't want to be a 75 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 1: side piece, do you not? At forty two? Come on? No, No, Steve, 76 00:04:16,480 --> 00:04:23,360 Speaker 1: Lady Angie wanted wrote this damn letter? Where are these people? Like? 77 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:26,799 Speaker 1: When I was out there in the streets making moves, 78 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:31,279 Speaker 1: where was D's people? Hey? I never met nobody like this? 79 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:34,039 Speaker 1: The best way for me. Shirley did an excellent job 80 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 1: on the letter. By the way, I can't even really 81 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:37,840 Speaker 1: add too much. So what I've decided to do is 82 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:40,720 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna read the letter to y'all and make 83 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 1: comments on each line. Ready, we love it when you 84 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:47,480 Speaker 1: do that. Yeah, Stephen Sherley, I'm forty two year old 85 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 1: woman and I have been seeing a man for six 86 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 1: months and we go out several times a week and 87 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:57,640 Speaker 1: we've started having sex. Okay, that's normal, let's go. The 88 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 1: intimacy is good. But it was a bit aggressive at first. Okay, 89 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:04,600 Speaker 1: now that's where the whole letter just took a turn. 90 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:08,800 Speaker 1: It was a bit aggressive at first, just just just aggressive. 91 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 1: I don't know what that means. I don't know if 92 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:13,200 Speaker 1: he was biting, I mean, you growling. I don't know 93 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 1: if he's just just comes snatching. I don't know what 94 00:05:15,720 --> 00:05:18,159 Speaker 1: it was. But but I had to get him to 95 00:05:18,200 --> 00:05:21,240 Speaker 1: settle down a bit. But that's not the problem I 96 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:25,400 Speaker 1: have with him. That are times when I can't reach him, 97 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:30,120 Speaker 1: and when he's non responsive. That's because he's busy. Yeah, 98 00:05:30,440 --> 00:05:34,640 Speaker 1: that's because he's busy. Thank you can't reach him for 99 00:05:35,040 --> 00:05:38,359 Speaker 1: and he's non responsive because he's with somebody. He all 100 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:41,560 Speaker 1: you calling me for now? He tells me that he's 101 00:05:41,600 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 1: out with a friend. Oh, oh, so you ain't got 102 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 1: to wonder why you can't reach him. In response, he 103 00:05:47,400 --> 00:05:51,520 Speaker 1: told you I'm out with a friend. That is not 104 00:05:51,760 --> 00:05:57,880 Speaker 1: how we refer to our buddies. If a girl say 105 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:00,720 Speaker 1: I couldn't catch you last night, what happened to you? 106 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 1: Oh I was out with a friend. That ain't what 107 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:08,119 Speaker 1: we says with her on Neil, we were shooting dice. 108 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 1: We was watching the game. No, but not you. He 109 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:14,279 Speaker 1: flat out told you I was with her friend. It 110 00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:19,720 Speaker 1: became clear to me who his friend might be. Okay, 111 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:25,480 Speaker 1: you're delusional. You're delusional and in denial, and I'll give 112 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 1: you the rest of the letter when we come back 113 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:31,919 Speaker 1: before it's you wrong through the another. You did a 114 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:33,839 Speaker 1: great job on this letter right here. I was actually 115 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:36,800 Speaker 1: proud of your response. Thank you. All right? Coming up 116 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:39,840 Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response at twenty three minutes after 117 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:43,360 Speaker 1: the hour, right after this subject, I need to know 118 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:45,719 Speaker 1: who the other woman was. No, he need to know 119 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:49,359 Speaker 1: a lot more than that, lady. We'll be back right after. 120 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:56,679 Speaker 1: This could auder your food. You're listening to show, all right, Steve, 121 00:06:56,680 --> 00:06:59,680 Speaker 1: come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letters. Subject I need 122 00:06:59,720 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 1: to know who the other woman was. Well, we don't 123 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:06,400 Speaker 1: need to recap this letter. We need to just continue 124 00:07:06,520 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: reading this damn letter to recap. The subject is I 125 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:13,760 Speaker 1: need to know who the other woman was. And all 126 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 1: the way through the letter, all let's trying to figure 127 00:07:16,200 --> 00:07:21,200 Speaker 1: out is who you eat? Who wrote this? Damn that? 128 00:07:21,960 --> 00:07:25,840 Speaker 1: Damn who the other woman? Was who is you? Well, 129 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:29,760 Speaker 1: let's find out who you had sex. It was a 130 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:34,320 Speaker 1: little aggressive, that's not the problem. There are times when 131 00:07:34,360 --> 00:07:37,800 Speaker 1: I can't reach him, and when he's now responsive, he 132 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 1: tells me he's out with a friend. That's not a 133 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:46,000 Speaker 1: man's response when he's with a dude. So you don't 134 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:48,360 Speaker 1: have to wonder about it. He told you I'm out 135 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:51,680 Speaker 1: with a friend. You didn't respond to that. You didn't 136 00:07:51,760 --> 00:07:54,480 Speaker 1: check him. What you mean? You out with a friend? Now? 137 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:56,560 Speaker 1: You you just went along with it. So now guess 138 00:07:56,600 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 1: what happened. It became clear to me who his friend 139 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 1: might be when he invited me to go shopping, and 140 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:09,360 Speaker 1: I ended up feeling like the third wheel. Wait a minute, 141 00:08:10,360 --> 00:08:13,720 Speaker 1: you ended up feeling like the third wheel? Yeah, well, 142 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:16,480 Speaker 1: let's her up and find out why you would feel 143 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 1: that way. Okay, he picked me up, and that was 144 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 1: a nice looking young woman sitting on the front seat. 145 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 1: Who is the fine chick in the front seat? But 146 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 1: hold up, dough. So he opened the back door of 147 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:37,959 Speaker 1: his car for me. He introduced, How did he introduce? 148 00:08:38,120 --> 00:08:42,960 Speaker 1: You got in? You got in the back door and 149 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:45,800 Speaker 1: set in the back seat. How the two people that 150 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:48,400 Speaker 1: was on the date went on the date, and he 151 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:52,480 Speaker 1: set your aunt sending the back. Let me tell you something. 152 00:08:52,640 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 1: He'd been testing you, and you've been flunking all the tests. 153 00:08:56,480 --> 00:08:58,560 Speaker 1: When he told you he was out with a friend, 154 00:08:58,600 --> 00:09:01,439 Speaker 1: and you ain't say nothing, he said, okay, she cool 155 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:03,720 Speaker 1: with it. So then he come to pick you up, 156 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:06,840 Speaker 1: take you shopping. You see a fine chick sitting in 157 00:09:06,880 --> 00:09:09,560 Speaker 1: the front seat. He opened the back door, and your 158 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:15,000 Speaker 1: dumb ass got in. Come on, your stupid ass got 159 00:09:15,080 --> 00:09:20,520 Speaker 1: in the car in the back seat and sat down inquisitive. 160 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:28,439 Speaker 1: What's going on? What is I'm in the back? What 161 00:09:28,679 --> 00:09:35,360 Speaker 1: she says? What is I'm in the fact? Got to sitting. 162 00:09:36,240 --> 00:09:38,280 Speaker 1: I was sitting in the front. I thought we was 163 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:41,240 Speaker 1: going shopping. Who is this fine chick sitting up in 164 00:09:41,280 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 1: the front. But oh, let me don't shit, don't let 165 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:47,840 Speaker 1: me don't say nothing, dough because we haven't said right what? 166 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:54,120 Speaker 1: So he invited me to go shopping. I ended up 167 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:57,200 Speaker 1: feeling like third wheel, this young woman sitting in the 168 00:09:57,240 --> 00:09:59,959 Speaker 1: front seat. So he opened the back door his car 169 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:02,800 Speaker 1: of me. He introduced me to the woman, but never 170 00:10:02,920 --> 00:10:07,480 Speaker 1: said who the woman was to him, and he didn't 171 00:10:07,559 --> 00:10:10,640 Speaker 1: tell her I was his girlfriend. Why would he lie 172 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:16,199 Speaker 1: to her? He came out of he's gonna tell the 173 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:19,920 Speaker 1: chicken the frosty that his girlfriend is in the back seat. 174 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:22,920 Speaker 1: He know how that out of sound. He know how 175 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:26,679 Speaker 1: to sound jack Rabbit crazy. So he didn't say it. No, 176 00:10:27,040 --> 00:10:30,920 Speaker 1: guess what, you're sitting your ass back there, farty two 177 00:10:31,000 --> 00:10:34,760 Speaker 1: year old food sitting in the back still tripping. So 178 00:10:34,800 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 1: I sat on the back seat while they engaged in 179 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 1: conversation all the way to the more so now you're 180 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 1: back there. He ain't even talking to it. He'd ask 181 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:47,240 Speaker 1: you what you I was, Joe, David, we're up here talking. 182 00:10:47,559 --> 00:10:50,800 Speaker 1: Set your ass back there in the back seat. Of 183 00:10:50,960 --> 00:10:53,760 Speaker 1: what you're doing when ain't nobody talking to you? You know, 184 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:56,840 Speaker 1: just playing with the ass tray and stuff, you know, 185 00:10:56,920 --> 00:11:00,280 Speaker 1: flipping that little mill down makes you you, you know, 186 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:04,520 Speaker 1: count threads on the back seat, scratching your leg back, 187 00:11:06,320 --> 00:11:09,920 Speaker 1: you know what you back there doing. So then I 188 00:11:10,000 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 1: said the back seat to come So then she's wrong 189 00:11:13,360 --> 00:11:16,200 Speaker 1: for that. All the way to the mall, as we 190 00:11:16,280 --> 00:11:21,200 Speaker 1: walked around the wall, we well he was in the 191 00:11:21,240 --> 00:11:24,000 Speaker 1: middle of the two ladies. Steve, Nah, you didn't got 192 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:30,200 Speaker 1: out to call for some more. As we as we 193 00:11:30,280 --> 00:11:33,679 Speaker 1: walked around the mall. He walked in the middle of us. 194 00:11:33,720 --> 00:11:37,920 Speaker 1: That what pimps do. When it came time to eat lunch, 195 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:41,600 Speaker 1: he pulled out her chair at the table, and then 196 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:44,280 Speaker 1: he pulled out your chair. That's to make you feel equal. 197 00:11:44,960 --> 00:11:48,599 Speaker 1: He ordered for her and the emotion to put it 198 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:51,400 Speaker 1: in mater. So this is how this word she would 199 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:53,880 Speaker 1: like to have there at the mall. So they're in 200 00:11:53,920 --> 00:12:03,560 Speaker 1: the food court right right right like chicken my baby, 201 00:12:03,640 --> 00:12:11,440 Speaker 1: like lemon pepper beat. You gonna get whatever you want. 202 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:15,200 Speaker 1: He didn't say that, He just did it with his hand. 203 00:12:16,840 --> 00:12:19,480 Speaker 1: Put your because I don't really know what you want 204 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:23,239 Speaker 1: because I don't really give it them. Donna give my baby, 205 00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:28,280 Speaker 1: my baby, like orange chicken and lemon pepper beef chicken. 206 00:12:28,360 --> 00:12:31,920 Speaker 1: You get some of the samples over there. I really 207 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:35,240 Speaker 1: feeling like the third wheel then, but I didn't say 208 00:12:35,280 --> 00:12:37,800 Speaker 1: a word. He dropped me off that day and we've 209 00:12:37,840 --> 00:12:40,120 Speaker 1: never talked about it. But now I want to know 210 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:43,160 Speaker 1: who the woman was and what she is to him 211 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:49,320 Speaker 1: obviously everything I'm trying to do. But I feel like 212 00:12:49,360 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 1: I can't ask him questions because I'm still having sex 213 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:54,600 Speaker 1: with him. Well you want to cut that out right, YEA? 214 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:57,120 Speaker 1: Is it too late to ask questions for him. Now 215 00:12:57,240 --> 00:12:59,280 Speaker 1: it's been too late. You ain't got nothing to say, 216 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:02,240 Speaker 1: all right, we gotta go, Steve post comment. 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