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Speaker 3: My friends think I'm attracted to them just because I

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Speaker 3: gave a compliment.

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Speaker 4: I just really like your face. So I'm male twenty three.

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Speaker 3: Hate when guys think that I'm attracted to them when

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Speaker 3: I'm actually not.

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Speaker 4: I instantly hate you for that. And if it's a friend.

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Speaker 3: Who does that, I immediately terminate the friendship. End of story.

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Speaker 4: Clear cut and dry.

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Speaker 4: I'm Sophia, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Carly, I'm Keon, and we're here to.

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Speaker 4: Give you good advice.

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Speaker 3: Goofy, but we don't have all the answers. We only

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Speaker 3: know what we'd do. Let's know what you would do

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Speaker 3: in the comments. And oh, he says out of my

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Speaker 3: former friend group of six, one male twenty five, we'll

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Speaker 3: just call him Tyrone live with me along with one

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Speaker 3: of his kids is baby Mama.

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Speaker 5: I don't know why baby.

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Speaker 3: Is saying in italics room out of her apartment, and

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Speaker 3: he didn't have anywhere else to go, which was fine.

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Speaker 4: Everything was cool, no issues so far.

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Speaker 3: I guess throughout the two years of friendship I had

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Speaker 3: with these guys, they mistook me giving them compliments as

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Speaker 3: me hinting at some sort of romantic or spicy attraction

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Speaker 3: to them that I someday wanted them to fulfill, which

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Speaker 3: couldn't be further from the truth and delusion on their part.

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Speaker 4: Crap.

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Speaker 3: I just thought I was being a good friend by

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Speaker 3: giving normal compliments, but apparently to them, I was being

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Speaker 3: some sort of creep. This all came to a head

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Speaker 3: when we were at a small get together at a

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Speaker 3: girls place. I was talking to Davion Mail twenty three

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Speaker 3: with who he wanted to date, and I told him

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Speaker 3: she isn't the right girl for you, bro, you probably

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Speaker 3: aren't going to be satisfied if y'all actually did date.

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Speaker 3: And from there everything took a turn for the worst

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Speaker 3: because Davion started going off on me for being a weirdo,

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Speaker 3: saying I had some fantasy in my head that him

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Speaker 3: dog piling me and agreeing with Daveian, saying that I've

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Speaker 3: always been weird and always thought that I was gonna

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Speaker 3: get to do something with them. They even called me

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Speaker 3: weird because of the compliments that I give, So at.

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Speaker 4: That point all bets were off.

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Speaker 3: I aired every last one of them out in front

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Speaker 3: their business. And then I told them that I would

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Speaker 3: never in my life ever stoop that low and waste

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Speaker 3: my time on them like all of their baby mamas did,

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Speaker 3: and that they don't even take care of their babies.

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Speaker 3: Why are we friends with these people to begin with?

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Speaker 3: Why are we friends with men who don't take care

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Speaker 3: Because I think that's a huge red flag. By the

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Speaker 3: next day, they had cooled down and were trying to

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Speaker 3: talk it out in the group chat. They basically said

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Speaker 4: Like that, Well maybe you shouldn't have accused o Pe

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Speaker 3: And they said that what I did was still wrong too,

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Speaker 3: because I shouldn't have aired their business out. I just

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Speaker 3: replied to the group chats f all of y'all. Then

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Speaker 3: I left the group chat and blocked all of their

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Speaker 3: numbers except for Tyrone. When Tyrone went to work, I

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Speaker 4: To fool with you. Okay, so yeah, unless so he

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Speaker 6: I don't know if he's just yeah saying that to

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Speaker 4: He probably is yeah yeah.

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Speaker 3: And then I blocked his number and blocked all of

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Speaker 3: them on Instagram. When I talked to some of my

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Speaker 3: at least given him some time to find somewhere else

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Speaker 4: Who I don't care.

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Speaker 6: I would only agree with that because you did. He

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Speaker 6: did mention that he put his and his kids things

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Speaker 6: out on the port. Sure, and I think that you

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Speaker 6: could have taken if the kid is actually staying there.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, the account of like.

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Speaker 6: Leaving kids stuff out like where you gets into the

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they understood my side, but they think that what

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Speaker 3: I did was really fed up given the fact that

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I didn't realize his son was living in there.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, then you should really take that into account.

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Speaker 4: The sun didn't ye do this to you?

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: When I talked to my parents about it, they told

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Speaker 3: me that I should have let him and stay, even

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Speaker 3: if I wanted him out, because he had a kid

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Speaker 4: What do you guys think.

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Speaker 3: I like kind of agree with that, at least just

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Speaker 3: giving him time, yeah, to find a place.

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Speaker 4: I wouldn't want to put him and his kid on the.

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Speaker 6: Store of a heads up then just like, hey, your

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Speaker 6: stuff is on the porch. I think, listen, you did

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Speaker 6: it however you did it. But I do think that like, yeah,

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Speaker 6: giving that Hey, I'm going to give you like a

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Speaker 6: week or so, but you really can't stay here anymore.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Yeah, I.

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Speaker 4: Think that's how I would do it.

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Speaker 3: Comment one, You've just discovered why women rarely if ever

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Speaker 3: compliment men, they are far too likely to assume a

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Speaker 3: compliment is a come on that makes it dangerous, and

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Speaker 3: apparently a lot of them apply the same logic to

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Speaker 3: compliments from other men. They were the ones overreacting. You

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Speaker 3: just responded in kind, not overreacting. Comment two says, I

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Speaker 3: just have a question or two about this whole thing.

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Speaker 3: I don't mean this maliciously, just out of curiosity. Does

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Speaker 3: this happen often where your friends accuse you of trying

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Speaker 4: Because that's odd?

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Speaker 3: If so, I've seen a lot of straight guys say

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Speaker 3: Even my boyfriend and his friend do that and laugh

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Speaker 3: it off because they're both straight. Why are your friends

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Speaker 3: so serious about it? And I ask what compliments.

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Speaker 4: You're giving them?

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Speaker 3: Part of this might be the toxic masculinity perspective that

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Speaker 3: complimenting your guy friends is too feminine or too emotional

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Speaker 3: for them, and they're projecting their beliefs on you. If

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Speaker 3: this has happened in the past, have you tried to

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Speaker 3: talk to your friends seriously about not on them and

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Speaker 3: asking why they believe that's what you're doing, even just

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Speaker 3: issue that they all believe and that's strange. Again, I'm

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Speaker 3: not asking any of this to point fingers. I think

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Speaker 3: the way they went about things. I'm just curious as

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Speaker 3: to why this is happening, Opie says. In my experience,

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Speaker 3: I only have this problem when I start tagging along

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Speaker 3: in male friend groups, typically ones that were established before

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Speaker 3: I came along. If I meet someone and they introduced

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Speaker 3: me to their friend group that consists of both males

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Speaker 3: assume they take the compliments the wrong way because I

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Speaker 3: would give them compliments that were appearance based, like you

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Speaker 3: look really good if they were rocking a new fit,

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Speaker 3: or my boy looking handsome with the fresh cut, if

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Speaker 4: Nothing that would even remotely suggest spicy or romantic attraction,

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Speaker 4: at least in my mind.

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Speaker 5: Normal.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, there is an update.

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Speaker 3: I don't think that op is doing anything wrong, No,

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Speaker 3: none at all. I think these are clearly insecure men. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: regardless of whether OP is or not, these men are

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Speaker 3: so uncomfortable with any measure of emotional you know, or

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Speaker 3: like I don't know, just like that type of connection

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Speaker 6: Worried that OP is going to trick you into actually dating?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, what what do you think is going to happen here? Genuinely?

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Speaker 4: Like what is you worried gender do?

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Speaker 6: Because if you're not, that isn't a thing to happen.

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Speaker 3: And I don't like to say the thing of like

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Speaker 3: like that's I think that's kind of like not the

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Speaker 3: best thing. No, no, no, I agree, No, I mean

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Speaker 3: not saying what you're that's what you were saying. But

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Speaker 3: I think that usually it's not that it's that these

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Speaker 6: Is that it's someone hitting on you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think there is like a fear kind

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Speaker 6: And that's why you should all make sure that your

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Speaker 6: boyfriends have boyfriends.

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Speaker 4: Yep, yeah, so true updates.

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Speaker 3: Let's get something out of the way to the people

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Speaker 3: saying I was putting myself in these situations and that

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Speaker 3: I'm attracted them, that crap can literally happen without me

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Speaker 3: complimenting anyone back when I came out.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so op is confirmed.

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Speaker 7: Is confirmed?

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Speaker 3: Which does make sense that all of these very insecure

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Speaker 6: It would have been an extra weird if yes straight.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, it would be extra weird. But it does.

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Speaker 4: I mean like I kind of saw that.

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Speaker 3: We both kind of saw that, because that happens a

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: There was a guy at the covenience store a couple

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Speaker 4: Bs. It doesn't take a.

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Speaker 3: Compliment for someone to get the wrong idea. Anyway, The

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Speaker 6: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

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Speaker 8: My friend was betrayed by her boyfriend and she thinks

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Speaker 4: I swear I'm not.

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Speaker 8: I twenty eight female have been best friends with twenty

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Speaker 5: I'm Keon, and we're here to give you good advice.

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Speaker 8: Goofly, But we don't have all the answers. We just

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Speaker 8: We've never fought, but had many disagreements solved over a

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Speaker 8: something I've always treasured about Kate as neither of us

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Speaker 8: Kate has recently gotten into her first ever relationship with

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Speaker 5: Out of respect for Kate. A little backstory.

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Speaker 8: We had an early goals miss with a quite a

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Speaker 5: Two weeks ago.

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Speaker 8: I noticed Cynthia commenting on Kate's hair, saying things like,

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Speaker 3: On gals on gallous maker day of Gowlso are you.

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Speaker 5: Kidding me, Tis Fisk, that's insane? Yeah, And she even

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Speaker 8: Katea has struggled with her weight since going on birth control,

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Speaker 8: Cynthia had recently had surgery on her eyes what and

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Speaker 8: Later that night, Kate seemed down. We had a chap

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Speaker 8: I reassured her that she looked gorgeous like you said,

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Speaker 5: Yeah, commentary, this is what.

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Speaker 3: We were talking about like sometimes when you're trying you're

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Speaker 4: Listen and be like, oh, yeah, that does suck and

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Speaker 3: And then they're like, yeah, this person did this, and

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Speaker 5: And you're like, what do you want? Sorry, I'm just

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Speaker 5: Sorry. I guess Cynthia is a shake for calling you, yeah,

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Speaker 8: But I've spoken to Kate in the past because Cynthia's

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Speaker 5: I copped it on the gin and left it at that.

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Speaker 8: I said if she wanted to go home, I could

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Speaker 4: I said, thank you, take care of her.

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Speaker 8: But but what we're gonna find out soon, he said,

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Speaker 4: No, she's a little thief.

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Speaker 5: She's a little thief.

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Speaker 8: Kate sometimes works away from home, leaving Chase alone. I

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Speaker 4: And she said come to mine.

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Speaker 4: Let me tell you, I was confused.

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Speaker 8: Thinking back, I had assumed Cynthia stayed the night and

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Speaker 5: I didn't see a big deal.

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Speaker 8: Kate started going off about finding girls bras and underwear

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Speaker 4: WHOA, she was fresh? She was fresh?

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Speaker 5: Are you joking? She was gonna get ahead of myself,

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Speaker 8: so she couldn't check in with him, but she was

448
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Speaker 8: quick to assume that it was meat.

449
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Speaker 4: This literally alive to me inside.

450
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Speaker 5: I knew the accusation that I slept with Chase.

451
00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:47,720
Speaker 8: I've always honored myself as a loyal friend, and this

452
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Speaker 8: assumption made me furious.

453
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Speaker 5: I saw read it's.

454
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Speaker 4: Like your Christmas hat. Oh.

455
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Speaker 8: She was screaming and crying. I stood up and said,

456
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Speaker 8: are you ever kidding me? When she went quiet, I yelled,

457
00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:05,920
Speaker 8: asking why I was her first assumption when when in

458
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Speaker 8: fourteen years of friendship.

459
00:21:07,359 --> 00:21:09,200
Speaker 4: Had I ever shown disloyalty?

460
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Speaker 8: I slammed the door after saying, maybe you should check

461
00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:15,240
Speaker 8: with your friend Cynthia. I left you with my sunglasses

462
00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:17,960
Speaker 8: at the Christmas party because her eyes are bluntshot and sore.

463
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Speaker 4: Oh you know her? Oh whoa too hot?

464
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Speaker 8: Untouched? That's all I said. I slammed the door and left.

465
00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:39,719
Speaker 8: I admit an accusation like this hurt me more than

466
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Speaker 8: it should have. I'm currently single, my last two partners

467
00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:46,680
Speaker 8: cheat on me, and my most recent partner cheated on

468
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Speaker 8: me with our.

469
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Speaker 4: Good friend wow Opie.

470
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Speaker 8: Disloyalty is a big no no in my books, and

471
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Speaker 8: I thought, after all this time, she would know that.

472
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Speaker 5: Anyway.

473
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Speaker 8: Three days later, my phone was blowing up from Kate.

474
00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:01,399
Speaker 8: The first day she called me all sorts of names,

475
00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:06,919
Speaker 8: salute which you name it? The second day nothing. Today

476
00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:10,119
Speaker 8: I got a very apologetic message from Kate after not

477
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Speaker 8: responding at all.

478
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Speaker 4: Kate, I don't freaking care.

479
00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:14,720
Speaker 5: I don't even care, Kate, I can care go sing

480
00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:17,240
Speaker 5: songs with Cynthia. Literally, I don't even care.

481
00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:21,080
Speaker 8: Chase admitted that it wasn't the first time. What yet

482
00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:24,800
Speaker 8: they're choosing to stay together. I've read cheat Hey let

483
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Speaker 8: me say that again.

484
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:27,160
Speaker 4: It's not the first time he cheated.

485
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Speaker 8: Hey, got a very apologetic message from Kate after not

486
00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:32,040
Speaker 8: responding at all. Sentence I missed, was it?

487
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Speaker 4: Turns out it was Cynthia.

488
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Speaker 5: Oh, we're all shocked.

489
00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 8: Yeah, gom on, Chase admitted it wasn't the first time.

490
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Speaker 8: Yet they're choosing to stay together, honestly, not my circus,

491
00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:46,640
Speaker 8: not my monkeys. Kate said she'd do anything to take

492
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Speaker 8: back what she said and the accusations. I responded about

493
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Speaker 8: how hurt I was, and that if she doesn't trust

494
00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:54,600
Speaker 8: me so much and is quick to blame me, maybe

495
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:57,040
Speaker 8: we should cut it here and take what we've gotten.

496
00:22:56,760 --> 00:23:01,000
Speaker 5: From this friendship. She was very upset. Yeah, consequences.

497
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:04,120
Speaker 4: You're mean, dude, What did you think was gonna happen?

498
00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:06,720
Speaker 8: Her two older sisters and our friends have been messaging

499
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:11,240
Speaker 8: me saying how cruel. Chase even said she needs you

500
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:16,920
Speaker 8: right now and if I'm sorry the cheater, I replied,

501
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:20,360
Speaker 8: f off, I still love her and wouldn't speak down

502
00:23:20,359 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 8: to her yet from what people are saying, I don't

503
00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 8: think she feels the same.

504
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Speaker 5: Am I the a hole for dumping this friendship? Quote

505
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:28,000
Speaker 5: like a sack of crap.

506
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Speaker 8: Like everyone is saying, I just can't be bothered with

507
00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:32,600
Speaker 8: this drama and there are some comments.

508
00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:33,480
Speaker 5: But what's our answer.

509
00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:35,200
Speaker 4: You've dropped a sack of crap.

510
00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:38,440
Speaker 5: Indeed, Yeah, you definitely see there is no there is

511
00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:39,680
Speaker 5: no simile here.

512
00:23:40,280 --> 00:23:42,359
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean you are dropping a sack of crap.

513
00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:42,680
Speaker 9: Yeah.

514
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:45,159
Speaker 5: It can always just be like a yo, I was

515
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Speaker 5: hurt by that.

516
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Speaker 8: I mean like, yeah, I'm gonna need to see changes

517
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Speaker 8: before like I don't know, I'm gonna need time.

518
00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:54,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, something like that at the vision and.

519
00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:56,560
Speaker 4: A better apology than like, whoops, we do have some

520
00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:57,400
Speaker 4: comments coming.

521
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Speaker 5: Everyone says, not the a hole.

522
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Speaker 8: She needs some help, probably therapy. Oh yeah, you're not

523
00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:06,560
Speaker 8: her emotional bag. This sounds super messy, so distance yourself

524
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:08,880
Speaker 8: now before they show you how bad it can get.

525
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:12,000
Speaker 8: Opie says about three years ago she spoke about therapy

526
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:15,040
Speaker 8: and being unable to afford it. I ended up paying

527
00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 8: for the first three sessions and she continued going up

528
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Speaker 8: until she started dating her partner.

529
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Speaker 5: Hopefully she does go back.

530
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Speaker 4: I'm sorry you paid for the.

531
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Speaker 3: First three sessions of her therapy, and this is how

532
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Speaker 3: she treats a friend who does stuff like that.

533
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Speaker 8: Yeah, I don't like the I don't like this relationship

534
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:35,400
Speaker 8: that she's gotten herself into.

535
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Speaker 5: I don't either.

536
00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:38,479
Speaker 4: I don't like it the relationship with her partner who

537
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Speaker 4: cheats on her, who she's shaying with her first relationship.

538
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Speaker 6: I know.

539
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Speaker 8: I think that's difficult too, because it's like, well, are

540
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Speaker 8: the behavioral changes happening because she's on birth control?

541
00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:51,720
Speaker 5: Are they happening because she's in this relationship?

542
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Speaker 4: Yeah? Two news both update. Thank you all for your advice.

543
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Speaker 8: I was worried I was being too harsh by ending

544
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:01,920
Speaker 8: this relationship, but after reading the comments and trusting my gut,

545
00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:03,960
Speaker 8: I've decided the friendship is not something I need in

546
00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:06,560
Speaker 8: my life right now. Unfortunately, a lot of people Kate

547
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:09,960
Speaker 8: is surrounding herself with lately are older, but definitely don't

548
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 8: act like it.

549
00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:11,040
Speaker 4: Mm hmm.

550
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Speaker 5: I didn't go into full.

551
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Speaker 8: Detail, as the story was long enough, but I have

552
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:16,400
Speaker 8: spoken to her in the past about how I thought

553
00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:19,240
Speaker 8: Chase was influencing her life, which ended in a little

554
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Speaker 8: argument with her claiming that I didn't want her to

555
00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:23,880
Speaker 8: be happy, which wasn't true at all. A few years ago,

556
00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:26,840
Speaker 8: I helped Kate with therapy payments to assist with past traumas.

557
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:30,119
Speaker 8: I didn't keep tabs on her as it wasn't my business,

558
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 8: but she updated me when she wanted to. I truly

559
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 8: wish her the best with her future endeavors. I let

560
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Speaker 8: her know this over text and left it at that,

561
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Speaker 8: And that's the end of that story.

562
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Speaker 4: And dasty end of dak story.

563
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Speaker 3: Then, Yeah, Kate's gonna hopefully eventually figure out that this

564
00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:47,639
Speaker 3: is not the only man in the world. Yeah, and

565
00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:50,399
Speaker 3: Cynthia is not the only friend in the world.

566
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Speaker 5: Hopefully there's some sort of like breaking point.

567
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but that you don't have to be there for that.

568
00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:58,159
Speaker 4: You don't have to beat her pumping bag until she

569
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Speaker 4: can figure it out.

570
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Speaker 5: Yeah. And I mean first you'll make some mistakes. Yeah,

571
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 5: you'll learn a lot from that and a lot of it. Yeah.

572
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 3: A lot of times you're in these like really terrible

573
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:09,879
Speaker 3: first relationships. Like I know friends who've been through this

574
00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 3: and then they had, like you have kind of messy

575
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:15,440
Speaker 3: friendship breakups because of that, and then once you're out

576
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,719
Speaker 3: of it, you're like, oh, I've realized I've treated those

577
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 3: people in my life pretty badly and you can't always

578
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:22,520
Speaker 3: get them back, but you can do better in your

579
00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:23,800
Speaker 3: next friendships totally.

580
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Speaker 5: And that's the end of this story. We're going on

581
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Speaker 5: to the next one. Sam.

582
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Speaker 2: Here, we're gonna get back to the stories. But here's

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Speaker 4: I think my upstairs neighbors are secretly running a daycare

585
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Speaker 4: and I'm losing my mind.

586
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Speaker 2: Oh baby.

587
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Speaker 4: My husband and I moved to a new apartment in

588
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Speaker 4: New York City this March. It's a three story home,

589
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Speaker 4: one apartment on each floor. We rented the middle apartment

590
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Speaker 4: and the third floor was rented at the same time

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Speaker 4: to another couple with a small child. This should have

592
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Speaker 4: gave us pause, but we've never been below anyone before,

593
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Speaker 4: so didn't think twice. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 4: ring me on my landline, And if you want to

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Speaker 4: submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay

596
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Speaker 4: story time subreddit.

597
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Speaker 8: I am Savannah and I'm Vincent Carly, and we are

598
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Speaker 8: here to give you good advice.

599
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Speaker 4: Goofly, but we do not have all the answers. We're

600
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:21,719
Speaker 4: just gonna tell you what we would do. You let

601
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 4: us know what you would do in the comments. As

602
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:28,040
Speaker 4: Op says, we moved right before the VID hit New

603
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:31,240
Speaker 4: York City and we're quickly forced to stay inside. That's

604
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Speaker 4: when the three year old living above us became a nightmare.

605
00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 4: They let him run circles for hours without any intervention,

606
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 4: but we understood everyone was forced to stay inside. It

607
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 4: was a scary time, and we just tried to give

608
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Speaker 4: them the benefit of the doubt. However, during the worst

609
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Speaker 4: of it, they were having people over late at night,

610
00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:51,960
Speaker 4: playing loud music, letting the kid run around, slash jump,

611
00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:55,800
Speaker 4: slash scream all hours twelve to two am on random

612
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Speaker 4: week nights.

613
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Speaker 5: Sounds like this stream.

614
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:01,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, we really didn't roof of strangers hanging out and

615
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Speaker 4: partying during a time where people were supposed to socially distance,

616
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:07,520
Speaker 4: but who were we to say anything?

617
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:09,680
Speaker 5: But then it became too much.

618
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Speaker 4: We tried to go up one Tuesday at one am

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Speaker 4: to explain that the floors are thin, we can hear everything,

620
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Speaker 4: and that my husband, a healthcare worker, has to get

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Speaker 4: up in a few hours. And the noise shakes the

622
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Speaker 4: entire apartment. Ceiling fan, chandelier's shake and make noise. The

623
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:27,359
Speaker 4: thumps that you can feel even with headphones in sounds

624
00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 4: like a nightmare. The response was appalling. The three year

625
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:34,240
Speaker 4: old answered the door and then the mother literally screamed

626
00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 4: at us in Portuguese, shrugging, saying they don't speak English yet,

627
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 4: asking us what they expected during quarantine.

628
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Speaker 5: She slammed the door in our faces.

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Speaker 4: We think the house used to be a one family

630
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Speaker 4: and they must have converted it without proper insulation between

631
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Speaker 4: the second our apartment and the third floor. We brought

632
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Speaker 4: this up with the landlord, who is the owner of

633
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Speaker 4: the house, a relatively nice guy. He is looking to

634
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Speaker 4: installing carpet and even admitted to us that he caught

635
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:03,600
Speaker 4: them playing soccer and told them they can't run around

636
00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:06,240
Speaker 4: like that. Also to mention that I have been forced

637
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 4: to work from home during the VID and it's truly

638
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 4: affecting my work. I can't take zoom calls without worrying

639
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 4: about the noise, and when it inevitably happens, it's completely distracting.

640
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 4: They wake us up at night and in the morning

641
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 4: with all the running, jumping and screaming blah blah. It's

642
00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:23,400
Speaker 4: one of those things that build up slowly over time,

643
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:25,720
Speaker 4: and it's gone to the point that I record videos

644
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 4: daily of the amount of noise, screaming, jumping, non stop.

645
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:33,640
Speaker 4: It's been building up for the last seven months. Yikes,

646
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:36,400
Speaker 4: I mean she really took her time to say something.

647
00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, seven months. Also this was during Yeah. Wow. I'm

648
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:44,160
Speaker 2: also imagining just like a kid in cleats and like

649
00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 2: a soccer ball and a soccer goal, and it's just

650
00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:50,240
Speaker 2: like it's the cleats on the floor, but also their

651
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:53,920
Speaker 2: next door neighbor's wall. They're just like hammering soccer balls and.

652
00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:55,920
Speaker 5: The wall actually hammering.

653
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I don't know what to do. Do

654
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Speaker 2: you get them back? I'm thinking, I'm thinking, you're counter warfare.

655
00:30:05,320 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 4: How do you you get a four year old and

656
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 4: let them go at it?

657
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:12,240
Speaker 2: You get brooms and you start hitting the ceilings.

658
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Speaker 5: Get rooms.

659
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:17,000
Speaker 4: Well, this last is seven months and now I'm reaching

660
00:30:17,040 --> 00:30:21,200
Speaker 4: my breaking point. It's insane. So a couple of weeks ago,

661
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Speaker 4: I was woken up by someone ringing my doorbell early

662
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Speaker 4: in the morning. I got a mask and went down.

663
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Speaker 4: It was meant for the third floor, but they don't

664
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Speaker 4: have a doorbell. Weird, Okay. Then I noticed my doorbell

665
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Speaker 4: being wrung again for the third floor. I've since hung

666
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Speaker 4: a note indicating it's my floor. My husband and I

667
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Speaker 4: have noticed kids being dropped off in the uptick in

668
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Speaker 4: running around and screaming. It goes on for thirty to

669
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Speaker 4: forty minutes at a time. We've seen parents pick up

670
00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 4: their kid and pay cash to our neighbor. Our doorbell

671
00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:53,560
Speaker 4: was again rung today. Even with the notes, seven am

672
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:55,920
Speaker 4: isn't too early, but still sucks to be woken up

673
00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:57,240
Speaker 4: by it. That is too early.

674
00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 6: I don't know.

675
00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:00,479
Speaker 5: That is way too early for anything.

676
00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 2: Business hours are nine am to ten am at the

677
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:07,960
Speaker 2: very earliest, right at least West Coast. Ten am is

678
00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:11,400
Speaker 2: business hours. Anything before that people are sleeping. Oh yeah,

679
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:14,479
Speaker 2: no for me, that's like I got a chuckle from eleven.

680
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:19,240
Speaker 4: I've worked a couple jobs out here way earlier than that.

681
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 2: No, No, I get up at four for my job.

682
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 2: But if you're like talking to other people or other people, yeah,

683
00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:26,800
Speaker 2: four am.

684
00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:29,960
Speaker 5: That's why it's funny. They're all like so late West

685
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:30,600
Speaker 5: Coast start.

686
00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, if you're like a normal person, you're not gonna

687
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:34,960
Speaker 4: wake up till eleven.

688
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:35,880
Speaker 5: Sorry.

689
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:40,440
Speaker 4: Oh okay, Look, there are people trying to survive during

690
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 4: the BID. I get it, but they are unapologetically noisy,

691
00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:46,800
Speaker 4: and now they're having more kids, adding to the noise,

692
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:49,960
Speaker 4: and it's becoming unsustainable for us. Do we tell the landlord.

693
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 4: I would happily go up and talk to them, but

694
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 4: they were so aggressive and rude the first time. I

695
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 4: don't think it could be any different. I don't want

696
00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:01,880
Speaker 4: to be a nark or anything, but we also feel

697
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:06,320
Speaker 4: like they're being insensitive already knowing the circumstances, I get

698
00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 4: it that they're forced to be at home, but so

699
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 4: am I has anyone dealt with this? How should we proceed?

700
00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 4: It's such an awesome apartment otherwise, but this will certainly

701
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:17,240
Speaker 4: be a deal breaker once our leases up. The landlord

702
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:20,360
Speaker 4: said he wanted quiet tenants, and so I personally think

703
00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 4: he'd be upset as well. His elderly, eighty plus year

704
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 4: old aunt lives in the first floor apartment, so I'm

705
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 4: sure he wouldn't like the comings and goings of all

706
00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:32,440
Speaker 4: these people daily given the pandemic too. Do I just

707
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:33,280
Speaker 4: need to suck it up?

708
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 5: Oh and we got sa comments.

709
00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:39,040
Speaker 2: Well, it seems like this was a pandemic problem and

710
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:42,240
Speaker 2: it might not be an issue anymore. But if it

711
00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:45,560
Speaker 2: still is, of course, take it up with your landlord.

712
00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:49,920
Speaker 2: But I like the idea of like fighting back, Like

713
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:54,719
Speaker 2: there's like why I don't know, Like, oh, you're going

714
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 2: to be loud if you can figure out their nap

715
00:32:56,920 --> 00:33:00,960
Speaker 2: time and then blast like yo, gabba gabba baby shark

716
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 2: or shark. Oh god, yeah, I'm just like, oh these

717
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:07,120
Speaker 2: I would hate that, just like counter warfare.

718
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 4: I hate conflict. In this circumstance, I would definitely take

719
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:13,040
Speaker 4: it up with like the landlord and be like, listen,

720
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:15,600
Speaker 4: I don't mean to be that girl, but I'm about

721
00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 4: to be that girl real quick, and then you know,

722
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:19,920
Speaker 4: explain a situation whenever and then be like, they're also

723
00:33:20,360 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 4: I think holding kids hostage.

724
00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 5: I'm not exactly sure. Something may be happy up there.

725
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:27,960
Speaker 2: We're really worried. There's only one kid that's supposed to

726
00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:30,600
Speaker 2: be living there, but there's a lot of feet, there's.

727
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:32,640
Speaker 4: A lot of feat Well, we do have some comments,

728
00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 4: so comment number one. Some leases may stipulate that the

729
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:38,920
Speaker 4: tenant may not run a business out of their home,

730
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 4: example a daycare. Check the lease for that as well.

731
00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:43,880
Speaker 4: The landlord may be able to break the lease with

732
00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:46,240
Speaker 4: them if they have violated that part of the lease.

733
00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 4: At least he can give them a warning that if

734
00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:52,000
Speaker 4: it continues then they will be evicted. Good luck, are

735
00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 4: we of comment number two? You're not a narc I

736
00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:58,720
Speaker 4: have credentials lash certification to run a daycare. These rules

737
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 4: are very strict. To go to school, you have to

738
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:04,880
Speaker 4: pay fees, apply and get approved for a license. They

739
00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:07,120
Speaker 4: are created for the health and safety of all. I

740
00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:09,840
Speaker 4: definitely bring it up. Heck, I'd call the local licensing

741
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:13,759
Speaker 4: agency myself and leave an anonymous tip. My concern is

742
00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:18,360
Speaker 4: a child getting injured from insufficient not op to code daycare.

743
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:21,840
Speaker 4: There have been national stories of children getting hurt or

744
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:25,320
Speaker 4: worse in these situations. The landlord may be nice, but

745
00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 4: not your best friend. He just wants that chat. Ask yourself,

746
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:31,640
Speaker 4: do you want things to get better or worse? What

747
00:34:31,840 --> 00:34:34,080
Speaker 4: action do I need to take? Oh, there's another comment

748
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:36,480
Speaker 4: common number three. What if you ask them to give

749
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:38,919
Speaker 4: you a certain percentage of the revenue or you will

750
00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:42,279
Speaker 4: report them for running an illegal business. I'm assuming running

751
00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:44,880
Speaker 4: a daycare out of an apartment wouldn't be okay with

752
00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:47,480
Speaker 4: the landlord, right. Or you can just tell them to

753
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 4: shut the f up, or you will report them for

754
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:54,160
Speaker 4: running an illegal business. Now that they are doing something

755
00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:56,800
Speaker 4: they aren't supposed to do, you have leverage, use it.

756
00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:58,560
Speaker 4: You don't need to put up with their crap.

757
00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:04,000
Speaker 2: That commenter is an mafia. Hey you don't you don't

758
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:07,160
Speaker 2: want me to tell nobody about Shilo operation.

759
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:09,399
Speaker 5: Hey, well you don't say nothing.

760
00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:11,759
Speaker 2: I don't say make it worth my while? Hey you

761
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 2: want some protection?

762
00:35:13,080 --> 00:35:15,279
Speaker 4: You come to me while you're picking up my daughter

763
00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:16,320
Speaker 4: from a wedding.

764
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:18,840
Speaker 2: A few hundred bucks a week. I go, death, Like,

765
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 2: that's really what it is. That's what it is.

766
00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 4: You were a little too good at that.

767
00:35:23,800 --> 00:35:25,359
Speaker 5: That was really good I got.

768
00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:27,960
Speaker 2: I got really good at doing prank calls growing up.

769
00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 4: I watched a lot of al Pacino Update. Carpets are

770
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 4: going in this weekend. Yay, it took two months, but

771
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 4: hoping it helps curb the noise. I saw four kids

772
00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 4: up there today and they were running around for hours.

773
00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:46,239
Speaker 4: I having to work and take zoom calls, couldn't handle

774
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:48,279
Speaker 4: it anymore and decided to go knock on the door.

775
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:51,719
Speaker 4: Uh oh, Remember the woman who lives there claims she

776
00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 4: doesn't speak English. Another woman answered the door and spoke English,

777
00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:58,840
Speaker 4: probably in her thirties. I tried saying very concisely that

778
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 4: it was way too with all the kids running around.

779
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:03,920
Speaker 4: I have to work from home, and I'm finding it difficult.

780
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:07,600
Speaker 4: Immediate yelling and shrugging told me it wasn't their problem

781
00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:11,279
Speaker 4: and we should talk to the landlord, very aggressive and dismissive.

782
00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:13,719
Speaker 4: I asked who she was, and she claimed she was

783
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:16,520
Speaker 4: the sister of the husband. She said, the wife doesn't

784
00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 4: speak English and she's heard her complain about us, me

785
00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:19,880
Speaker 4: and my husband.

786
00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 2: What you complain about you guys saying it's too loud?

787
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:27,240
Speaker 5: I guess so. I don't know what else do they stink?

788
00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:29,960
Speaker 2: They be funny like this whole time, they were just

789
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:33,239
Speaker 2: like hitting the ceiling and we just don't know that

790
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:34,920
Speaker 2: it's just so no.

791
00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:37,680
Speaker 4: I said that it wasn't fair for four kids to

792
00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 4: be running around while I'm trying to work, and that

793
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:43,760
Speaker 4: I didn't sign up for this. More yelling, she said

794
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:46,320
Speaker 4: that their kids and she doesn't have to do anything,

795
00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 4: and to talk to Joe, our landlord. Then the lady

796
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 4: who lives there jumps in and starts yelling in Portuguese.

797
00:36:53,200 --> 00:36:56,279
Speaker 4: Once I mentioned that numerous kids are running around every day.

798
00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:58,880
Speaker 4: At this point, I was shaking, because I guess I

799
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:02,200
Speaker 4: expected it to be more civilized, respectful. I honestly thought

800
00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:04,799
Speaker 4: appealing to them about me having to work from home

801
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:08,279
Speaker 4: would provide some empathy. Nothing all I kept repeating was

802
00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:10,240
Speaker 4: that it was too loud with all the running, screaming

803
00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 4: and jumping. They didn't care the kids were doing it

804
00:37:12,760 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 4: while I was standing there. No supervision, no care. So

805
00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:18,239
Speaker 4: I asked whose kids are these and they said it

806
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:20,959
Speaker 4: was family. I called three to one one and file

807
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:24,320
Speaker 4: an anonymous report of an illegal daycare to the health department.

808
00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 4: They say I could check the status after fourteen days.

809
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:31,000
Speaker 4: Hopefully the carpets help, but the underlying issue of a

810
00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:33,839
Speaker 4: bunch of kids running and screaming, parents and family going

811
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 4: in and out and being extremely inconsiderate won't be solved.

812
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:38,080
Speaker 5: What are we thinking?

813
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 2: I think when they said take it up with the landlord,

814
00:37:42,960 --> 00:37:45,080
Speaker 2: take it up with a landlord. Be a problem if

815
00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:48,359
Speaker 2: you guys are like good, Yeah, be a problem if

816
00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:53,200
Speaker 2: you guys are being good tenants and paying. That comment

817
00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:56,719
Speaker 2: from before was right. Of all landlords care about is

818
00:37:57,520 --> 00:38:00,719
Speaker 2: that they get paid for that space. If you're doing

819
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 2: everything right, they're gonna want to take your side, especially

820
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:07,080
Speaker 2: if someone else is like doing something illegal that could jeopardize.

821
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:10,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, their place that they're own.

822
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, their business. Yeah, their business. You can do a

823
00:38:13,040 --> 00:38:15,279
Speaker 2: business in a business with them, you can't do You

824
00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 2: can't do business in my business without looking me a

825
00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:22,280
Speaker 2: little bit of all.

826
00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:24,440
Speaker 4: Right, update, I'm not sure what to do with my landlord.

827
00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 4: At this point, he's putting carpet in, so that's a step.

828
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:32,160
Speaker 4: But the blatant disrespect, confrontation, and lack of accountability is alarming.

829
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:35,200
Speaker 4: Is it dramatic to say? I don't really feel safe.

830
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:37,960
Speaker 4: The neighbors are so aggressive and shady. I wouldn't put

831
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:41,879
Speaker 4: them retaliating in some way past them. I did look

832
00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:44,959
Speaker 4: up the least no noise clause, but the first line

833
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:48,560
Speaker 4: says the apartment must be used only for private residence,

834
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:50,880
Speaker 4: so even if they had a childcare license, they'd be

835
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:53,840
Speaker 4: in violation. The running and jumping is still going on

836
00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:57,720
Speaker 4: hours later. It's almost like they're encouraging it. At this point,

837
00:38:57,880 --> 00:39:01,640
Speaker 4: Oh am I going crazy? Guys with I would stink. Yeah,

838
00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 4: that would suck. If they're like, we hate these neighbors,

839
00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:07,439
Speaker 4: just like run around, bounce around, do whatever you want,

840
00:39:07,560 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 4: like three year olds have no like yeah, like they

841
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 4: are endless amount of energies.

842
00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:14,840
Speaker 6: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

843
00:39:14,880 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 6: to the next one.

844
00:39:16,840 --> 00:39:19,879
Speaker 2: I'm into my neighbor now. I need to find out

845
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 2: if she feels the same.

846
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:24,279
Speaker 5: Let's get it on.

847
00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 2: I Female twenty four bought my first house Congratulations in

848
00:39:29,840 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 2: September last year. It was an odd time, but everything

849
00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 2: just fell into place. It's quite a small village and

850
00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:39,880
Speaker 2: everyone is really friendly. So I got to know my

851
00:39:39,960 --> 00:39:43,800
Speaker 2: neighbors soon after moving in. Yes, socially distanced. Then I

852
00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:47,800
Speaker 2: met my over the road neighbor let's call her l

853
00:39:48,160 --> 00:39:51,400
Speaker 2: twenty seven female. By the way, this comes from Throw

854
00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:56,280
Speaker 2: Love Thy Neighbor on brand. If you want to submit

855
00:39:56,400 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 2: your own stories, go to our backslash Okay storytime subreddit.

856
00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:05,480
Speaker 5: I'm Vincent and I'm Sabda No, I'm Carly.

857
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:08,719
Speaker 2: And we're here to give good advice goofy. But we

858
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:12,040
Speaker 2: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do,

859
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:14,400
Speaker 2: so let us know what you do in the comments.

860
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:18,239
Speaker 2: As Op says, I can't describe it, but it's the

861
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:22,640
Speaker 2: first time I've ever met someone and been lost for words,

862
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:25,640
Speaker 2: and my heart was racing and I just thought, OMG,

863
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:29,279
Speaker 2: you know. So after I blushed my way through a

864
00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 2: welcome to the village combo, we only saw each other

865
00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:35,800
Speaker 2: for a wave in a hello for a few days

866
00:40:36,200 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 2: to help kind of settle in I had my dog

867
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Speaker 2: Be with me for the fierce few weeks. During this time,

868
00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 2: there was a massive increase in dog thefts in my

869
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:50,840
Speaker 2: nearby town. But these dog thefts were not just from gardens,

870
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:53,799
Speaker 2: but literally wrestling them away from people. If I'd been

871
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:59,040
Speaker 2: working in parentheses furloughed off since March, then I would

872
00:40:59,080 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 2: have taken me back to my mom's, but since I

873
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:05,440
Speaker 2: was home with her all day, she stayed so the

874
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 2: local police advised not to walk dogs alone, but we

875
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:11,800
Speaker 2: go out twice a day. I do a ten k

876
00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:14,680
Speaker 2: run Good for You in the morning and a few

877
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:18,440
Speaker 2: miles walk in the evening. So obviously this scares me,

878
00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 2: But at the same time, she is honestly a pain

879
00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:24,760
Speaker 2: in that took us and gets upset if she doesn't

880
00:41:24,840 --> 00:41:27,680
Speaker 2: go for a run and needs to be tired out,

881
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:31,320
Speaker 2: so I'm kind of stuck at this point. Then along

882
00:41:31,719 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 2: comes Elle. She knocked on the door and offered to

883
00:41:35,320 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 2: come with us, as she's seen Be and me in

884
00:41:38,560 --> 00:41:41,880
Speaker 2: the evenings, and everything kind of spiraled from there. I

885
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 2: told her about my morning runs and but she didn't

886
00:41:45,120 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 2: really bite, so I thought nothing of it. Then a

887
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:50,759
Speaker 2: few days later I bumped into her on a run

888
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:54,680
Speaker 2: so she started to join us on those two. Okay,

889
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:57,640
Speaker 2: so she's joining you on the runs. This is like

890
00:41:58,000 --> 00:42:01,160
Speaker 2: everyone's running, everyone's running. But I'll also like, she knocked

891
00:42:01,200 --> 00:42:02,319
Speaker 2: on your door. This is good.

892
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:05,200
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, if they do it, then it's like huh.

893
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 2: Okay. A few months later and we were spending more

894
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:14,719
Speaker 2: and more time together every day. This has now progressed

895
00:42:14,800 --> 00:42:19,160
Speaker 2: to run early in the morning, afternoon, coffee, dinner most evenings,

896
00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:22,560
Speaker 2: and then even a walk. It just seemed to happen

897
00:42:22,640 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 2: without me really noticing. I didn't read into things that much,

898
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 2: as I don't want to get my hopes up and

899
00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:33,959
Speaker 2: ruin anything, until another neighbor commented about how much time

900
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:37,920
Speaker 2: we spend together and how it's nice to see you

901
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:42,080
Speaker 2: young gals getting on and winked. She actually winked at me.

902
00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:45,120
Speaker 2: I asked her what she meant, but she just laughed

903
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:47,719
Speaker 2: and said, you know what I mean. So now I'm

904
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:50,279
Speaker 2: looking back on things and wondering if she could like

905
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:56,600
Speaker 2: me too. Yeah, you guys are spending all your day together. Yeah.

906
00:42:56,920 --> 00:42:57,120
Speaker 6: Yeah.

907
00:42:57,200 --> 00:42:58,759
Speaker 2: We get up in the morning and we go for

908
00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 2: a long six mile ten k run. Then after that

909
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:05,080
Speaker 2: we go get coffee, and then we have dinner together. Yeah,

910
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:07,719
Speaker 2: you guys definitely like each other. Here's some reasons why

911
00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:10,560
Speaker 2: she might like me. I went running along the same

912
00:43:10,920 --> 00:43:13,480
Speaker 2: route at the same time for nearly two weeks before

913
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:16,839
Speaker 2: I happened to run into her. A few days after

914
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 2: I told her this. I make her coffee every afternoon.

915
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:23,080
Speaker 2: Elle is work from home, and I take it over

916
00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:25,920
Speaker 2: in her favorite mug. She says, I make good coffee,

917
00:43:25,920 --> 00:43:28,760
Speaker 2: and I'm pretty sure I saw a fancy coffee machine

918
00:43:28,840 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 2: the first time I went around. That's not there now. Okay,

919
00:43:33,600 --> 00:43:35,400
Speaker 2: So you're saying she might have gotten rid of her

920
00:43:35,440 --> 00:43:36,560
Speaker 2: coffee machine.

921
00:43:36,239 --> 00:43:36,319
Speaker 6: So.

922
00:43:38,080 --> 00:43:40,560
Speaker 4: I doubt that's the reason, but there was probably something

923
00:43:40,640 --> 00:43:41,080
Speaker 4: wrong with that.

924
00:43:41,719 --> 00:43:44,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, that coffee machine. They're like, yeah, we should get

925
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:44,400
Speaker 5: a new one.

926
00:43:45,360 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 2: Elle carried on running and walking with me even after

927
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 2: b went home. I told her she was going back

928
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:53,960
Speaker 2: to Mom's and she went, well, I have to make

929
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:57,279
Speaker 2: another excuse to join you. Yeah, and then we just

930
00:43:57,360 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 2: carried on every day. She has tried really hard to

931
00:44:01,080 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 2: bond with Bee. Bee is very anxious dog and is

932
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:06,359
Speaker 2: scared of everyone except for me and Mom. Elle brought

933
00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:10,000
Speaker 2: special treats to give her every day and has been

934
00:44:10,120 --> 00:44:13,480
Speaker 2: so amazing with her and never tried to force anything.

935
00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:15,960
Speaker 2: When I asked her, she said, it's important to me

936
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:19,319
Speaker 2: that she likes me and is comfortable be actually fell

937
00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 2: asleep between us on the sofa yesterday. What were you

938
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:25,800
Speaker 2: doing on the sofa watching a movie together? That's dating

939
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:30,240
Speaker 2: material and it just makes my heart skip a beat. Guys.

940
00:44:30,520 --> 00:44:33,120
Speaker 2: She invited me to the zoom quiz that she does

941
00:44:33,200 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 2: with her friends, so like a trivia every fortnight or so,

942
00:44:37,160 --> 00:44:39,560
Speaker 2: and they were all like, oh, so this is who

943
00:44:39,640 --> 00:44:43,000
Speaker 2: you've heard we've heard so much about. We realized we

944
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:46,480
Speaker 2: had become each other's support. Bubble Elle asked if I

945
00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:49,719
Speaker 2: was meeting anyone else and I said no. She said

946
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 2: she was glad she had me all to herself.

947
00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 4: Okay, Cola, Marks, if I said that to someone, I'm

948
00:44:57,600 --> 00:44:59,920
Speaker 4: glad I have you all dreams what I can't even s,

949
00:45:00,440 --> 00:45:01,160
Speaker 4: but I'm glad I have.

950
00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:01,960
Speaker 5: You all to myself.

951
00:45:02,400 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 2: Huh are you kidding?

952
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 5: Are you kidding?

953
00:45:04,520 --> 00:45:05,359
Speaker 4: We can make out right now.

954
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:07,759
Speaker 2: Also, this started with I need to find out if

955
00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:09,520
Speaker 2: this person I have a crush on likes me.

956
00:45:10,000 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 4: Excuse you, you know how much jobb he is? Can

957
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:15,279
Speaker 4: it get all?

958
00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:15,520
Speaker 3: Right?

959
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:19,759
Speaker 2: We gave each other quite personal Christmas presents like it

960
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:22,239
Speaker 2: actually made me tear up. It meant so much to me,

961
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:26,759
Speaker 2: and she bots stuff for be the dog reasons why

962
00:45:26,880 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 2: she might not like me. Here we go all the

963
00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 2: reasons above, but that she's just doing them because she's

964
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:36,799
Speaker 2: an effing great person and we're friends. It might sound dumb,

965
00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:39,840
Speaker 2: but I don't know. I need your guys's help. She

966
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:43,960
Speaker 2: is just the most incredible person I have ever met,

967
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:47,400
Speaker 2: and I really really like her. But if she isn't

968
00:45:47,600 --> 00:45:50,879
Speaker 2: attracted to the same gender or doesn't feel the same

969
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:53,960
Speaker 2: I don't want to lose her friendship, as she has

970
00:45:54,120 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 2: become such a huge part of my life. I genuinely

971
00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:59,520
Speaker 2: have no experience with these kinds of things, as I

972
00:45:59,680 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 2: went to quite a strict all girls school, so it's

973
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 2: not as if there were any relationships around me as

974
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:11,320
Speaker 2: a teen, and then I went to a very small university,

975
00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:14,120
Speaker 2: eight of us in your course, I guess another reason

976
00:46:14,239 --> 00:46:16,840
Speaker 2: is that I've struggled with anxiety and depression for the

977
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:20,280
Speaker 2: past ten years, as well as my weight in working

978
00:46:20,320 --> 00:46:24,319
Speaker 2: on my self confidence. But I can say that right

979
00:46:24,440 --> 00:46:27,400
Speaker 2: now I am the happiest and healthiest both mentally and

980
00:46:27,480 --> 00:46:30,919
Speaker 2: physically I have ever been I've only just really become

981
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:34,200
Speaker 2: comfortable with the fact that I'm attracted to the same gender,

982
00:46:34,560 --> 00:46:38,439
Speaker 2: and I have never really told anyone in real life.

983
00:46:38,560 --> 00:46:42,120
Speaker 2: But I don't think people would be able or would

984
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:45,319
Speaker 2: be too surprised. I don't have any close friends, as

985
00:46:45,680 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 2: no one stuck around when I was struggling with my

986
00:46:48,719 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 2: MH mental health a few years ago. Oh, so I

987
00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:55,279
Speaker 2: can't discuss this with anyone in real life, so I

988
00:46:55,480 --> 00:46:57,960
Speaker 2: need your advice. How do I find out if she

989
00:46:58,280 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 2: is attracted to the same gender and no? I don't

990
00:47:02,560 --> 00:47:05,600
Speaker 2: have the confidence to just ask what if she says

991
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:09,480
Speaker 2: no and I ruin everything. She has never mentioned anything

992
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:14,120
Speaker 2: about past relationships, and I'm pretty tactless, so not sure

993
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 2: how I could naturally slip it into combo.

994
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:19,879
Speaker 5: I feel like it's started like this and now.

995
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:23,439
Speaker 2: It's going to it's going well because it's it's getting okay,

996
00:47:23,520 --> 00:47:25,359
Speaker 2: she's opening up and we're learning a little bit more

997
00:47:25,360 --> 00:47:28,359
Speaker 2: about her, like, Hey, tell me, have you ever had

998
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 2: a girlfriend? Do you want one?

999
00:47:30,120 --> 00:47:30,319
Speaker 6: Now?

1000
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:35,520
Speaker 2: Lol? And how can I make a move without really

1001
00:47:36,120 --> 00:47:39,240
Speaker 2: making a move so I don't ruin things?

1002
00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:39,799
Speaker 9: Edit?

1003
00:47:40,040 --> 00:47:42,120
Speaker 2: Okay, guys, Yeah, thank you so much for your support

1004
00:47:42,160 --> 00:47:45,399
Speaker 2: and encouragement. You've all given me a lot to think about,

1005
00:47:45,640 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 2: and I think I'm going to casually slip some attracted

1006
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:53,000
Speaker 2: to the same gender stuff into conversation and see how

1007
00:47:53,120 --> 00:47:57,320
Speaker 2: she reacts, then bring up the neighbors comment like some

1008
00:47:57,560 --> 00:48:01,320
Speaker 2: of you suggested, seeing as though the neighbor was heavily

1009
00:48:01,440 --> 00:48:04,759
Speaker 2: implying that we are attracted to the same gender. I'll

1010
00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:07,920
Speaker 2: do it tonight. Otherwise I'll talk myself out of it again.

1011
00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:11,399
Speaker 2: I will post an update and let you know how

1012
00:48:11,440 --> 00:48:14,760
Speaker 2: it happens. If you never hear from me again, assume

1013
00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 2: it went badly and I am consoling myself with cake

1014
00:48:18,040 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 2: and watching Broke Back Mountain in a flood of tears.

1015
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:25,759
Speaker 2: What's your advice to have her like find out if

1016
00:48:26,200 --> 00:48:29,360
Speaker 2: L is attracted to the same gender.

1017
00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:33,240
Speaker 4: See, the thing is, I've been on the other side

1018
00:48:33,520 --> 00:48:37,279
Speaker 4: where I'm very straight but like other people don't think,

1019
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:42,680
Speaker 4: and then I make friends with like these girls, and

1020
00:48:42,760 --> 00:48:45,320
Speaker 4: then like they think it's more and I'm like, oh my,

1021
00:48:45,960 --> 00:48:48,399
Speaker 4: I'm so sorry. I did not mean like that has

1022
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:53,839
Speaker 4: happened only once, really happened one time.

1023
00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:57,560
Speaker 2: It has happened so much one time, but it's happened

1024
00:48:57,680 --> 00:48:58,120
Speaker 2: so well.

1025
00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:01,800
Speaker 4: But it's happened once, like, and it like ruined me

1026
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:03,879
Speaker 4: because I felt so bad and she was my best friend.

1027
00:49:03,960 --> 00:49:05,920
Speaker 4: We don't talk anymore because of that, because you like

1028
00:49:06,000 --> 00:49:08,800
Speaker 4: can't be friends, like because she's in love with me.

1029
00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:10,920
Speaker 4: And I'm like, oh my god, I wish, I wish,

1030
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:12,800
Speaker 4: like I wish I could give that to you, but

1031
00:49:12,840 --> 00:49:16,399
Speaker 4: I'm just like, yeah, I couldn't. And so it's like, really,

1032
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:18,120
Speaker 4: so I understand.

1033
00:49:17,840 --> 00:49:20,439
Speaker 2: What's at risk? What's at stake? Yeah? Yeah, But there's

1034
00:49:20,480 --> 00:49:25,640
Speaker 2: an update three days later. Hi, I read it. Yes,

1035
00:49:25,800 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 2: it's me, the useless staffic. I had a plan to

1036
00:49:28,600 --> 00:49:31,480
Speaker 2: drop these attracts to the same gender hints into convos

1037
00:49:31,560 --> 00:49:34,359
Speaker 2: like you guys suggested, but honestly, it all went out

1038
00:49:34,400 --> 00:49:37,279
Speaker 2: the window. Elle was kind of stressed Friday after a

1039
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:40,680
Speaker 2: crappy work zoom and just needed to vent, so it

1040
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:44,400
Speaker 2: wasn't the right time to start anything, though. I guess

1041
00:49:44,600 --> 00:49:47,720
Speaker 2: I must have been a bit off thanks to spending

1042
00:49:47,800 --> 00:49:51,560
Speaker 2: all day overthinking things on here as Elle turned up

1043
00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:56,400
Speaker 2: Saturday morning rambling about stressing me out and apologizing for

1044
00:49:56,520 --> 00:50:00,880
Speaker 2: ruining dinner. So she's felt the shoes at ruining stuff. Obviously,

1045
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:03,120
Speaker 2: I said, what are you talking about? You can talk

1046
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 2: to me about anything, and she said anything and I

1047
00:50:06,120 --> 00:50:12,600
Speaker 2: said anything back, and guys, the tension was unreal, staring

1048
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 2: at each other and hoping that the Sapphoic mind reading

1049
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:18,760
Speaker 2: powers would punt in. Then there was some loud noise,

1050
00:50:18,840 --> 00:50:22,960
Speaker 2: like a car backfiring or something, and the moment went

1051
00:50:23,400 --> 00:50:26,840
Speaker 2: So I went to make coffee and then Elle asked

1052
00:50:26,880 --> 00:50:29,640
Speaker 2: me why I was a bit quiet the night before,

1053
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:33,160
Speaker 2: and I said something about overthinking stuff and she said

1054
00:50:33,280 --> 00:50:36,080
Speaker 2: what stuff? And I don't know. You, guys, I wasn't

1055
00:50:36,080 --> 00:50:39,400
Speaker 2: prepared to put on the spot my casual attracted to

1056
00:50:39,480 --> 00:50:43,040
Speaker 2: the same gender. Pop culture references were useless in this moment.

1057
00:50:43,840 --> 00:50:47,080
Speaker 2: My mind just went completely blank and I forgot every

1058
00:50:47,200 --> 00:50:50,400
Speaker 2: single thing you guys suggested. My heart was pounding and

1059
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:53,520
Speaker 2: I just blurred out, you know I like you, right,

1060
00:50:53,920 --> 00:50:57,799
Speaker 2: And then she kissed me, Ah, kiss me straight up,

1061
00:50:58,320 --> 00:51:02,280
Speaker 2: just snogged in the kitchen and it was efing great.

1062
00:51:02,880 --> 00:51:05,840
Speaker 2: So you were right. You were all efing right. She's

1063
00:51:06,040 --> 00:51:08,640
Speaker 2: attracted to the same gender, she likes me, and she's

1064
00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:11,120
Speaker 2: been trying to drop hints for nearly five months.

1065
00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:12,280
Speaker 6: Sigh.

1066
00:51:16,280 --> 00:51:19,160
Speaker 2: We were both just too scared to make a move

1067
00:51:19,719 --> 00:51:22,800
Speaker 2: or ruin anything. Turns out she's been burned by straight

1068
00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:25,719
Speaker 2: girls in the past, so she's pretty wary and was

1069
00:51:25,840 --> 00:51:30,880
Speaker 2: hoping I'd straight up say I'm a sapphic so she'd

1070
00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:34,640
Speaker 2: know for sure. Maybe I'm the saphic wall hanging would

1071
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:37,080
Speaker 2: have been a good idea after all, Oh, it's like

1072
00:51:37,239 --> 00:51:38,080
Speaker 2: a fu.

1073
00:51:38,200 --> 00:51:40,680
Speaker 6: So maybe maybe I'm the saphic wall hanging would have

1074
00:51:40,719 --> 00:51:43,080
Speaker 6: been like hanging something on the wall that says I'm afe.

1075
00:51:43,160 --> 00:51:45,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, like clearly, like a Georgia O'Keeffe painting.

1076
00:51:45,719 --> 00:51:46,479
Speaker 5: A big old sign.

1077
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:46,839
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1078
00:51:46,920 --> 00:51:50,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah. Her friends have been helping her drop hints.

1079
00:51:50,560 --> 00:51:53,040
Speaker 2: She showed me the group chat. You had a group chap,

1080
00:51:53,280 --> 00:51:58,560
Speaker 2: and guys, there's suggestions rained from flirting more to just

1081
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:04,080
Speaker 2: turning up in a trench coat with nothing else. Good friend. Also,

1082
00:52:04,960 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 2: the winking neighbor has been making comments to her as well,

1083
00:52:09,400 --> 00:52:11,480
Speaker 2: so shout out to her for trying to make this

1084
00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:12,160
Speaker 2: happen too.

1085
00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:16,280
Speaker 4: You did it, ope, and I'm honestly I'm glad. Sometimes

1086
00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:17,719
Speaker 4: you just have to rip off the band aid after

1087
00:52:17,719 --> 00:52:20,000
Speaker 4: a while, because this girl literally reminds me of Sofia

1088
00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:22,600
Speaker 4: because you just like don't say anything. You just go

1089
00:52:22,760 --> 00:52:25,120
Speaker 4: on and on and on and on for literally as

1090
00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:26,719
Speaker 4: long as you can like do it. Then just one

1091
00:52:26,800 --> 00:52:28,480
Speaker 4: day you're just like, okay, by the way, like I

1092
00:52:28,520 --> 00:52:30,279
Speaker 4: don't know what this is, but like I like you,

1093
00:52:30,280 --> 00:52:32,319
Speaker 4: you know, and then it's like, okay, I've literally been

1094
00:52:32,360 --> 00:52:33,880
Speaker 4: trying to drop hints for like it, you know. Then

1095
00:52:33,920 --> 00:52:36,160
Speaker 4: you it's not that you wasted all that time, because

1096
00:52:36,200 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 4: it actually is like a fun like thing to like play,

1097
00:52:39,239 --> 00:52:43,440
Speaker 4: but only to a specific point. If it was five months,

1098
00:52:43,600 --> 00:52:46,000
Speaker 4: I would hate that. I'd be like after like the

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00:52:46,120 --> 00:52:48,680
Speaker 4: first month, honestly, probably after like the first two weeks,

1100
00:52:48,719 --> 00:52:50,680
Speaker 4: I'd be like okay, like me or like what, like

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00:52:51,200 --> 00:52:51,800
Speaker 4: what's happening?

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00:52:51,960 --> 00:52:56,480
Speaker 2: All right? So no cake and crying watching Broke Back Mountain,

1103
00:52:56,600 --> 00:52:59,399
Speaker 2: just five months of dating to catch up on. As

1104
00:52:59,719 --> 00:53:03,839
Speaker 2: for worrying about how our current schedule could be more

1105
00:53:04,520 --> 00:53:08,000
Speaker 2: date like during the lockdown, you're right, it's kind of

1106
00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:11,640
Speaker 2: irrelevant when you've essentially been dating the whole time. Though

1107
00:53:11,880 --> 00:53:17,239
Speaker 2: we never made it to our morning run yesterday. In fact,

1108
00:53:17,600 --> 00:53:19,719
Speaker 2: we didn't leave the house at all. Thank you, guys

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00:53:19,800 --> 00:53:22,400
Speaker 2: for giving me a hope, even if all your suggestions

1110
00:53:22,440 --> 00:53:26,359
Speaker 2: were completely disappeared in the moment. Maybe I'll show her

1111
00:53:26,560 --> 00:53:30,040
Speaker 2: the post later and ask if any of the suggestions

1112
00:53:30,080 --> 00:53:30,800
Speaker 2: would have worked.

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00:53:31,040 --> 00:53:32,759
Speaker 6: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

1114
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Speaker 6: to the next one.

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00:53:34,440 --> 00:53:36,440
Speaker 1: Hey y'all, it's John Ogi host here. We're gonna get

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00:53:36,440 --> 00:53:37,719
Speaker 1: back to the story. So but here's a quick three

1117
00:53:37,719 --> 00:53:39,080
Speaker 1: minute break from ASP for more sponsors.

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00:53:39,680 --> 00:53:42,440
Speaker 4: My neighbor tore up our garden, so I called the

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00:53:42,560 --> 00:53:43,560
Speaker 4: cops on her.

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00:53:43,719 --> 00:53:46,120
Speaker 2: Oh, pushing daisies. In another way, I.

1121
00:53:46,239 --> 00:53:50,400
Speaker 7: Have a neighbor, let's call her Sally. I have lived

1122
00:53:50,560 --> 00:53:55,080
Speaker 7: beside Sally for nearly fifteen years. She is probably about

1123
00:53:55,160 --> 00:53:57,799
Speaker 7: thirty five, single and lives at home with her two

1124
00:53:57,960 --> 00:54:02,680
Speaker 7: elderly parents. By the way, this comes from shaman one

1125
00:54:02,960 --> 00:54:04,759
Speaker 7: and if you want to submit your own stories, go

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00:54:04,880 --> 00:54:08,480
Speaker 7: to the r slash Okay story time subreddit. I am Savannah,

1127
00:54:08,760 --> 00:54:11,560
Speaker 7: I'm Vincent, I'm Carly, and we're here to give some

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00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:14,200
Speaker 7: good advice Goofily, But we don't have all the answers.

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00:54:14,280 --> 00:54:15,680
Speaker 4: We would just tell you what we would do in

1130
00:54:15,760 --> 00:54:17,920
Speaker 4: this situation, So tell us what you would do in

1131
00:54:18,040 --> 00:54:21,200
Speaker 4: the comments. As Op says, Sally and I had a

1132
00:54:21,320 --> 00:54:24,320
Speaker 4: decent enough relationship over the years where we would often

1133
00:54:24,480 --> 00:54:26,880
Speaker 4: casually chat. If I saw her outside of our houses.

1134
00:54:27,080 --> 00:54:29,760
Speaker 4: Sally would do all of her yard work for her parents,

1135
00:54:29,800 --> 00:54:32,480
Speaker 4: and in the last year, cut our front yard for

1136
00:54:32,719 --> 00:54:35,400
Speaker 4: us multiple times. Nice it seems like a good thing

1137
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:38,360
Speaker 4: going on. Our lawnmower broke for about a week and

1138
00:54:38,480 --> 00:54:40,800
Speaker 4: she offered to cut our grass for us while we

1139
00:54:40,960 --> 00:54:43,759
Speaker 4: waited for it to get fixed. We obviously appreciated this

1140
00:54:43,920 --> 00:54:46,279
Speaker 4: kind gesture, although we never asked her to do this.

1141
00:54:46,520 --> 00:54:49,520
Speaker 4: After our lawnmower was fixed, she continued to cut our grass.

1142
00:54:49,719 --> 00:54:51,920
Speaker 4: My father and I both tried to tell her multiple

1143
00:54:51,960 --> 00:54:55,040
Speaker 4: times that she didn't really have to do this for us,

1144
00:54:55,200 --> 00:54:58,440
Speaker 4: and she had cut down some of our perennials a

1145
00:54:58,560 --> 00:55:01,920
Speaker 4: couple of times, but he knew she meant well and

1146
00:55:02,080 --> 00:55:04,359
Speaker 4: we didn't bring this up with her. A little more

1147
00:55:04,440 --> 00:55:07,600
Speaker 4: backstory on the whole family. Sally's mother is a kind,

1148
00:55:07,719 --> 00:55:10,360
Speaker 4: quiet lady who would bake us cookies and sweets, and

1149
00:55:10,480 --> 00:55:12,359
Speaker 4: my sister would do the same for them. Their dad

1150
00:55:12,480 --> 00:55:14,720
Speaker 4: was a bit nosy and annoying and has a reputation

1151
00:55:14,840 --> 00:55:17,840
Speaker 4: around the neighborhood for visiting people who are doing landscaping

1152
00:55:17,880 --> 00:55:20,759
Speaker 4: work and standing over the landscapers for multiple hours to

1153
00:55:20,880 --> 00:55:24,600
Speaker 4: nitpick everything they do and criticize the homeowners. But we

1154
00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:28,200
Speaker 4: still had a decent enough relationship where I would help

1155
00:55:28,280 --> 00:55:31,319
Speaker 4: him out sometimes with moving stuff around his garage because

1156
00:55:31,360 --> 00:55:34,160
Speaker 4: he's old and retired, and with shoveling the driveway. We

1157
00:55:34,200 --> 00:55:37,440
Speaker 4: would also let them park their old boat over our

1158
00:55:37,520 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 4: property line free of charge. About a year ago, in

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00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:44,120
Speaker 4: November twenty twenty four, Sally was chatting my ear off,

1160
00:55:44,160 --> 00:55:46,920
Speaker 4: as she usually did. I didn't mention this before, but

1161
00:55:47,200 --> 00:55:51,680
Speaker 4: Sally was a bit socially weird. She would often chat

1162
00:55:51,880 --> 00:55:54,479
Speaker 4: with me for nearly an hour about our yard because

1163
00:55:54,520 --> 00:55:56,800
Speaker 4: she usually saw me working out front cutting the grass

1164
00:55:56,880 --> 00:56:00,359
Speaker 4: or guardening, and that was our commonality. I do yard

1165
00:56:00,400 --> 00:56:02,920
Speaker 4: work because I like having some decent curb appeal, but

1166
00:56:03,000 --> 00:56:06,200
Speaker 4: don't really care for gardening and landscaping all that much,

1167
00:56:06,400 --> 00:56:11,200
Speaker 4: making these conversations slightly excruciating. Sally started telling me that

1168
00:56:11,360 --> 00:56:15,280
Speaker 4: I should consider changing our garden bed from mulch to gravel,

1169
00:56:15,400 --> 00:56:18,880
Speaker 4: as she said that the mult was attracting raccoons and squirrels.

1170
00:56:19,400 --> 00:56:22,279
Speaker 4: Not sure how mulch would do this, but that was

1171
00:56:22,360 --> 00:56:24,680
Speaker 4: her reasoning. She insisted on helping me do it, and

1172
00:56:24,920 --> 00:56:28,520
Speaker 4: just to exit the conversation, I casually said something along

1173
00:56:28,560 --> 00:56:30,360
Speaker 4: the lines of yeah, maybe I'll consider it.

1174
00:56:30,840 --> 00:56:35,040
Speaker 2: I thought this gravel is not great for planting stuff.

1175
00:56:35,200 --> 00:56:35,839
Speaker 5: Yeah at all.

1176
00:56:36,120 --> 00:56:38,440
Speaker 2: I grew up on a farm. I know about dirt

1177
00:56:38,880 --> 00:56:43,560
Speaker 2: my mom owns no I know. But beyond that, like corn, soybeans,

1178
00:56:43,840 --> 00:56:45,760
Speaker 2: you don't plant seeds and gravel.

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00:56:46,600 --> 00:56:46,880
Speaker 4: Hmmm.

1180
00:56:47,280 --> 00:56:48,160
Speaker 5: And Vincent would know.

1181
00:56:48,480 --> 00:56:49,120
Speaker 4: He's a fama.

1182
00:56:49,400 --> 00:56:50,200
Speaker 2: I'm a farm boy.

1183
00:56:51,440 --> 00:56:53,360
Speaker 4: I thought this was the end of the story. But

1184
00:56:53,440 --> 00:56:56,279
Speaker 4: the next day I found a letter taped to our door.

1185
00:56:56,600 --> 00:56:59,799
Speaker 4: Although I know she meant well, I found this letter

1186
00:56:59,840 --> 00:57:03,839
Speaker 4: to be quite strange and fully just ignored it. Yes,

1187
00:57:04,000 --> 00:57:06,200
Speaker 4: I know I should have been kind and at least replied,

1188
00:57:06,400 --> 00:57:08,920
Speaker 4: but I didn't. I didn't really talk to Sally for

1189
00:57:08,960 --> 00:57:11,800
Speaker 4: the next year or so. Oh wow, what did that

1190
00:57:11,960 --> 00:57:12,560
Speaker 4: note say?

1191
00:57:13,400 --> 00:57:15,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, wait, I'm so I'm so interested.

1192
00:57:15,680 --> 00:57:21,040
Speaker 6: There's an image I'm looking Yeah, a quick coldr letter.

1193
00:57:21,360 --> 00:57:23,080
Speaker 6: I'm talking to you Sunday about your plants to fix

1194
00:57:23,200 --> 00:57:26,440
Speaker 6: the front yard window to avoid raccoons causing damage. I

1195
00:57:26,560 --> 00:57:28,560
Speaker 6: was able to get more information from the Home Deeper

1196
00:57:28,640 --> 00:57:29,840
Speaker 6: Garden Center following.

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00:57:29,600 --> 00:57:32,520
Speaker 4: Steps for materials you need. But blah blah blah, it's

1198
00:57:32,520 --> 00:57:33,360
Speaker 4: the breakdown stuff.

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00:57:33,400 --> 00:57:37,080
Speaker 6: It's explaining to removement which replaced with soil. Talking about

1200
00:57:37,480 --> 00:57:41,240
Speaker 6: control stuff. It's talking about edging and keeping everything in place,

1201
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:46,360
Speaker 6: decorative landscaping stones, total costs for materials, also the time

1202
00:57:46,400 --> 00:57:48,800
Speaker 6: of the year before snow comes. As best, I would

1203
00:57:48,880 --> 00:57:50,680
Speaker 6: like to help you do the front yard window area

1204
00:57:50,720 --> 00:57:53,600
Speaker 6: if you get the materials this week. I'm available in

1205
00:57:53,720 --> 00:57:57,320
Speaker 6: certain real ability ps. Years ago, when your front yard

1206
00:57:57,400 --> 00:58:00,680
Speaker 6: landscaping was done, the crew forgot their lawn and it's

1207
00:58:00,680 --> 00:58:03,280
Speaker 6: been on the side of your house for years. It's rusted.

1208
00:58:03,920 --> 00:58:05,600
Speaker 6: If you put it at the curb, those who collect

1209
00:58:05,600 --> 00:58:07,640
Speaker 6: scrap metal will take it away within a few days.

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00:58:09,720 --> 00:58:11,000
Speaker 5: I abbreviated a lot of that.

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00:58:11,120 --> 00:58:12,520
Speaker 4: It's a full page.

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00:58:13,080 --> 00:58:17,520
Speaker 2: Okay, so this person might have like they might obsess

1213
00:58:17,840 --> 00:58:18,560
Speaker 2: over things.

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00:58:19,040 --> 00:58:19,280
Speaker 5: Yeah.

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00:58:20,160 --> 00:58:22,240
Speaker 4: So I didn't really talk to Sally for the next

1216
00:58:22,360 --> 00:58:25,120
Speaker 4: year or so other than a casual hello and goodbye.

1217
00:58:25,400 --> 00:58:28,480
Speaker 4: She honestly made me slightly uncomfortable, so it was easier

1218
00:58:28,560 --> 00:58:31,320
Speaker 4: to just avoid her. She had left another letter on

1219
00:58:31,440 --> 00:58:34,520
Speaker 4: our door around Christmas with her favorite cookies recipe after

1220
00:58:34,800 --> 00:58:37,360
Speaker 4: my sister baked them some cookies, which my sister also

1221
00:58:37,480 --> 00:58:40,320
Speaker 4: did not reply to. Again, I know this probably wasn't

1222
00:58:40,320 --> 00:58:42,720
Speaker 4: the nicest move, but we both were a little weirded

1223
00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:45,840
Speaker 4: out by the letters. Fast forward to September. Over the weekend,

1224
00:58:45,920 --> 00:58:48,240
Speaker 4: my dad had just planned some new plants in her

1225
00:58:48,280 --> 00:58:51,680
Speaker 4: front garden that his friend had handgrown for him.

1226
00:58:51,800 --> 00:58:52,080
Speaker 9: Cute.

1227
00:58:52,200 --> 00:58:54,920
Speaker 4: He had been watering them every day and slowly nurturing them.

1228
00:58:55,200 --> 00:58:57,600
Speaker 4: We were shocked to find that the mulch in our

1229
00:58:57,640 --> 00:59:00,320
Speaker 4: garden had been replaced with gravel and my dad new

1230
00:59:00,440 --> 00:59:03,080
Speaker 4: plants had been ripped out. My sister called me about

1231
00:59:03,120 --> 00:59:05,680
Speaker 4: it while I was at work, and I instantly knew

1232
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:11,560
Speaker 4: what happened. My dad was obviously peeoed and was cursing outside.

1233
00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:14,400
Speaker 4: At the same time, my neighbor happened to be on

1234
00:59:14,560 --> 00:59:17,040
Speaker 4: her way to our front door to tape another letter.

1235
00:59:17,640 --> 00:59:21,360
Speaker 5: There's another image, no, in fact, a ton of them.

1236
00:59:21,840 --> 00:59:23,400
Speaker 6: Oh my same thing full page.

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00:59:23,760 --> 00:59:28,760
Speaker 4: What that's crazy. My dad is a kind, relatively calm guy,

1238
00:59:28,920 --> 00:59:32,040
Speaker 4: but he was obviously quite upset with the neighbor. Rather

1239
00:59:32,120 --> 00:59:35,360
Speaker 4: than apologizing about the plants or the truspassing, she proceeded

1240
00:59:35,400 --> 00:59:37,960
Speaker 4: to tell my dad that his plants looked like they

1241
00:59:38,000 --> 00:59:42,160
Speaker 4: were passing away and that she couldn't even tell there

1242
00:59:42,200 --> 00:59:45,840
Speaker 4: were plants there because of our knee highs around it.

1243
00:59:46,200 --> 00:59:49,320
Speaker 4: Now our garden wasn't perfect but it was by no

1244
00:59:49,520 --> 00:59:52,200
Speaker 4: means sloppy or covered in She then proceeded to tell

1245
00:59:52,280 --> 00:59:54,360
Speaker 4: us that we shouldn't be parking the car on the

1246
00:59:54,480 --> 00:59:57,200
Speaker 4: end of our driveway because it interferes with snowplows, and

1247
00:59:57,320 --> 00:59:59,479
Speaker 4: also told him that we need to rake our leaves

1248
00:59:59,520 --> 01:00:01,840
Speaker 4: more so they don't cover the storm drain at the

1249
01:00:01,960 --> 01:00:04,320
Speaker 4: end of our driveway. This was not true, as the

1250
01:00:04,360 --> 01:00:07,520
Speaker 4: storm drain is at the end of our driveway aunt

1251
01:00:07,600 --> 01:00:11,200
Speaker 4: has never once been covered or started pulling up significantly.

1252
01:00:11,440 --> 01:00:13,440
Speaker 4: I verified this with my other neighbor and the neighbor

1253
01:00:13,520 --> 01:00:16,440
Speaker 4: on the other side of Sally. My dad was dumbfounded.

1254
01:00:16,560 --> 01:00:19,200
Speaker 4: He just asked her not to do anything on our

1255
01:00:19,280 --> 01:00:22,000
Speaker 4: lawn without asking his permission and left it at that.

1256
01:00:22,320 --> 01:00:23,240
Speaker 5: That night, she went.

1257
01:00:23,120 --> 01:00:26,200
Speaker 4: Ahead and planted two new plants in our front garden

1258
01:00:26,240 --> 01:00:28,640
Speaker 4: and left us another letter at the door.

1259
01:00:29,240 --> 01:00:34,200
Speaker 2: No okay at this point, yeah, she overstepping her bounds. Yeah,

1260
01:00:34,440 --> 01:00:37,200
Speaker 2: you might need to start getting like, okay, you need

1261
01:00:37,280 --> 01:00:40,440
Speaker 2: to get off our property. Yeah, and if you like

1262
01:00:40,880 --> 01:00:44,120
Speaker 2: get like a doorbell with one of the cameras or something,

1263
01:00:44,920 --> 01:00:47,080
Speaker 2: be like okay, you can't be here, or will I

1264
01:00:47,280 --> 01:00:50,320
Speaker 2: have to take action? Yeah, because that's like it's getting

1265
01:00:50,760 --> 01:00:52,680
Speaker 2: a little over Yeah.

1266
01:00:53,160 --> 01:00:55,920
Speaker 9: Yeah, in a quick tail dealer for this letter, basically

1267
01:00:56,120 --> 01:00:59,760
Speaker 9: just her being really passive aggressive, saying like I was

1268
01:00:59,800 --> 01:01:02,840
Speaker 9: really surprised by your reaction, especially since last summer when

1269
01:01:02,880 --> 01:01:06,080
Speaker 9: your lawnmower was broken, I mowed your lawn eighteen times.

1270
01:01:06,480 --> 01:01:08,320
Speaker 6: No other neighbor would do that, but I did that

1271
01:01:08,400 --> 01:01:10,920
Speaker 6: to help. Also, Blank didn't rake the leaves, and I

1272
01:01:11,080 --> 01:01:12,880
Speaker 6: raked your front lawn several times.

1273
01:01:13,040 --> 01:01:14,240
Speaker 5: It goes on and on and on and on.

1274
01:01:14,680 --> 01:01:18,280
Speaker 6: I spent thirty seven hours cleaning the snow manually. Next

1275
01:01:18,400 --> 01:01:21,080
Speaker 6: year I'll be using a snowblower, and basically goes on

1276
01:01:21,160 --> 01:01:23,600
Speaker 6: and on. Unfortunately, after speaking with you, I wish I'd

1277
01:01:23,640 --> 01:01:26,880
Speaker 6: never spent any time, energy or effort helping you last

1278
01:01:26,880 --> 01:01:29,240
Speaker 6: summer or this summer, and I will not be in

1279
01:01:29,360 --> 01:01:29,920
Speaker 6: the future.

1280
01:01:30,400 --> 01:01:33,560
Speaker 2: The whole letter of that, this is a manipulator. If

1281
01:01:33,600 --> 01:01:36,400
Speaker 2: someone does something nice for you, then keeps track and

1282
01:01:36,480 --> 01:01:40,480
Speaker 2: then tries to use it against you later on, that's

1283
01:01:40,600 --> 01:01:41,880
Speaker 2: not an act of kindness.

1284
01:01:41,960 --> 01:01:44,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, for a bit of context about this one. When

1285
01:01:44,600 --> 01:01:46,760
Speaker 4: she was cutting our lawn and I was trying to

1286
01:01:46,800 --> 01:01:48,920
Speaker 4: tell her she didn't have to do that, I mentioned

1287
01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:52,160
Speaker 4: that I owe her one and would help her shovel

1288
01:01:52,480 --> 01:01:54,840
Speaker 4: her snow with her snowblower. I did end up doing

1289
01:01:54,920 --> 01:01:57,400
Speaker 4: the portion of sidewalk in front of her house and

1290
01:01:57,480 --> 01:01:59,920
Speaker 4: sometimes the tail end of their driveway, but they always

1291
01:02:00,080 --> 01:02:02,920
Speaker 4: had cars parked in the way, and I also didn't

1292
01:02:02,920 --> 01:02:04,600
Speaker 4: really want to knock on the door and get her

1293
01:02:04,640 --> 01:02:07,200
Speaker 4: to move the cars, as this was after she started

1294
01:02:07,200 --> 01:02:09,360
Speaker 4: posting the weird letters at our door. In hindsight, I

1295
01:02:09,400 --> 01:02:12,080
Speaker 4: shouldn't have offered this in the first place, so I'm

1296
01:02:12,080 --> 01:02:14,880
Speaker 4: in the wrong for that. We experienced snowfall early here

1297
01:02:15,000 --> 01:02:17,040
Speaker 4: this year, and as a result, many of the leaves

1298
01:02:17,120 --> 01:02:20,040
Speaker 4: fell in conjunction with the first snowfall. We didn't rake

1299
01:02:20,080 --> 01:02:22,480
Speaker 4: the leaves while there was snow on the ground, and

1300
01:02:22,640 --> 01:02:24,640
Speaker 4: we were just going to wait until the snow melted

1301
01:02:24,680 --> 01:02:27,560
Speaker 4: before we raked. Snow fully melted by Thursday afternoon this

1302
01:02:27,640 --> 01:02:30,200
Speaker 4: past week, on Fridays, I was about to get picked

1303
01:02:30,240 --> 01:02:32,080
Speaker 4: up by a friend of mine. I noticed the neighbor

1304
01:02:32,200 --> 01:02:35,400
Speaker 4: raking our leaves. I came outside to her yelling at

1305
01:02:35,480 --> 01:02:38,400
Speaker 4: my friend about how we are lazy and are clogging

1306
01:02:38,560 --> 01:02:42,280
Speaker 4: up the storm. Dream again, not true, and even if

1307
01:02:42,360 --> 01:02:44,800
Speaker 4: it was, it would affect our family the most as

1308
01:02:44,840 --> 01:02:47,320
Speaker 4: the storm dream is at the end of our driveway.

1309
01:02:47,440 --> 01:02:50,000
Speaker 4: Apparently my friend had run over the pile of leaves

1310
01:02:50,120 --> 01:02:52,360
Speaker 4: she had raked on the road, which is what started

1311
01:02:52,400 --> 01:02:55,680
Speaker 4: the whole verbal altercation. I had previously told my friend

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Speaker 4: about Sally, so he kind of knew what I was

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Speaker 4: dealing with. She proceeded to tell me that all the

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Speaker 4: neighbors are upset with me because I haven't raked the

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Speaker 4: leaves and how they are blowing onto everyone else's property.

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01:03:06,800 --> 01:03:10,480
Speaker 4: Mind you, there were multiple homes within viewing distance at

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Speaker 4: this point which had way more leaves than we do.

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Speaker 4: Raking leaves also, isn't a city by law where I live,

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Speaker 4: as many people choose to leave them on the grass

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Speaker 4: as fertilizer. She started to tell me about how many

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01:03:23,640 --> 01:03:25,760
Speaker 4: times she mowed our grass and how she did us

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Speaker 4: a favor with the garden, and how it is common

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Speaker 4: courtesy to rake the leaves. Now, I have no issue

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01:03:32,200 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 4: with raking the leaves and agreed that you probably should

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01:03:35,120 --> 01:03:37,160
Speaker 4: do it if you have a tree or two on

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01:03:37,240 --> 01:03:39,640
Speaker 4: the lawn, but to expect someone to do it right

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01:03:39,680 --> 01:03:42,960
Speaker 4: away on the first day the snow thaws, that's a

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01:03:43,000 --> 01:03:45,800
Speaker 4: little much. She also didn't seem to find anything wrong

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Speaker 4: with the fact that she tore our entire garden up,

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01:03:48,680 --> 01:03:51,800
Speaker 4: made it look significantly worse, and destroyed my dad's new plants.

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Speaker 4: After a bit of bickering, I was telling her that

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01:03:54,840 --> 01:03:57,320
Speaker 4: nobody was asking for any of this. My friend was

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01:03:57,400 --> 01:03:59,440
Speaker 4: telling her that it was strange for her to be

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01:03:59,520 --> 01:04:02,480
Speaker 4: doing this on the first day where it was possible.

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Speaker 4: She was arguing that she did us a huge favor.

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Speaker 4: She then told us that she didn't want to speak

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Speaker 4: with us. Me and my boy were both like, all right,

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01:04:12,480 --> 01:04:14,080
Speaker 4: and we left her to break the leaves.

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01:04:14,720 --> 01:04:18,439
Speaker 5: This morning, I found yet another letter at our door. Now, ah,

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Speaker 5: I did exactly what.

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01:04:20,200 --> 01:04:22,440
Speaker 2: I this is your neighbor has too much time on

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01:04:22,520 --> 01:04:23,120
Speaker 2: their hands.

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01:04:23,520 --> 01:04:27,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, like I need to start this feud about our lawns.

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Speaker 2: They need a hobby which isn't gardening. Yes, they need

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01:04:31,320 --> 01:04:32,760
Speaker 2: a hobby that keeps them in the house. They need

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01:04:32,800 --> 01:04:36,960
Speaker 2: to get into puzzles or model trains. Model trains keeps

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01:04:36,960 --> 01:04:37,640
Speaker 2: them in the basement.

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Speaker 4: For some reason, this one blew my fuse. It was

1349
01:04:41,680 --> 01:04:45,080
Speaker 4: the lack of any sort of accountability and the self

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01:04:45,240 --> 01:04:48,920
Speaker 4: victimizing that got me. I called our local non emergency

1351
01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:51,400
Speaker 4: line and explained the situation. I asked if this was

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01:04:51,520 --> 01:04:53,880
Speaker 4: even worth pursuing, and the lady on the phone assured

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01:04:53,920 --> 01:04:56,320
Speaker 4: me that it was. A cop came to our door

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01:04:56,440 --> 01:04:58,840
Speaker 4: and asked for me to explain the situation before she

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01:04:59,000 --> 01:05:01,800
Speaker 4: went and spoke to that. I explained this whole story

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01:05:01,880 --> 01:05:04,720
Speaker 4: and showed her all of the letters. She also reiterated

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01:05:04,880 --> 01:05:08,240
Speaker 4: that this was absolutely inappropriate of my neighbor and went

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01:05:08,480 --> 01:05:11,120
Speaker 4: and spoke to her. She ended up leaving right after

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Speaker 4: speaking to Sally, so I didn't get a chance to

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01:05:13,040 --> 01:05:16,080
Speaker 4: hear what Sally was arguing her side of the story. Anyways,

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01:05:16,600 --> 01:05:19,200
Speaker 4: I truly hope that I don't hear from Sally again

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01:05:19,320 --> 01:05:23,040
Speaker 4: and she stops taking liberty over our lawn. There's an update.

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01:05:23,600 --> 01:05:25,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's trespassing, yeah legally. Yeah.

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01:05:26,080 --> 01:05:28,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, Like that's like you can't, you can't do that.

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01:05:28,840 --> 01:05:29,600
Speaker 5: That's just how it is.

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01:05:29,960 --> 01:05:33,920
Speaker 2: And the letters might even constitute as harassment. It sounds

1367
01:05:33,960 --> 01:05:34,440
Speaker 2: like stalking.

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01:05:34,960 --> 01:05:38,720
Speaker 4: She's yeah, she's not respecting boundaries and very much is

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01:05:38,760 --> 01:05:40,400
Speaker 4: trying to like take over their yard, which is just

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Speaker 4: weird in general. I don't really understand the read that's

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01:05:42,800 --> 01:05:45,440
Speaker 4: just more work for you. Yeah, anyway, here's the update.

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Speaker 4: Realizing that I probably should have included some details about

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01:05:48,480 --> 01:05:50,960
Speaker 4: our lawn, as the letters might lead you to believe

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Speaker 4: that it is terrible. I'd like to think that our

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01:05:53,040 --> 01:05:55,920
Speaker 4: lawn is actually quite well maintained. In the summer, I

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01:05:56,000 --> 01:05:58,400
Speaker 4: try to mow it every week or two weeks at most.

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01:05:58,880 --> 01:06:01,880
Speaker 4: I water it, pull out weeds every so often, fertilize it,

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01:06:02,040 --> 01:06:05,560
Speaker 4: and edge it up annually. You know, I mean, I

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01:06:05,600 --> 01:06:07,000
Speaker 4: think we've said it everything.

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Speaker 5: Let's go do it.

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01:06:09,240 --> 01:06:11,120
Speaker 4: If you were to see my lawn, you would probably

1382
01:06:11,160 --> 01:06:14,040
Speaker 4: think it's quite decent. I won't say award winning, but

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01:06:14,240 --> 01:06:20,120
Speaker 4: definitely nice, with green grass and some perennials. Shoveling we

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01:06:20,240 --> 01:06:23,120
Speaker 4: do within twenty four hours of snowfall every time. Raking

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01:06:23,240 --> 01:06:25,800
Speaker 4: we don't typically do more than once or twice a year.

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01:06:26,040 --> 01:06:28,600
Speaker 4: We try to mult the leaves by mowing over them

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01:06:28,720 --> 01:06:30,720
Speaker 4: a few times through the fall, as it is good

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01:06:30,760 --> 01:06:33,280
Speaker 4: for the grass. There are no bylaws in my city

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01:06:33,360 --> 01:06:36,040
Speaker 4: that state that you must pick up leaves up to

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01:06:36,160 --> 01:06:38,400
Speaker 4: two Here's the picture of the garden, Oh, the day

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Speaker 4: she redid it.

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Speaker 8: Oh.

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01:06:40,120 --> 01:06:43,240
Speaker 4: Unfortunately I don't have any pictures of what it looked

1394
01:06:43,360 --> 01:06:46,400
Speaker 4: like before, but there was red mulch where the gravel

1395
01:06:46,520 --> 01:06:49,600
Speaker 4: is and that dirt patch definitely wasn't there. My dad's

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01:06:49,640 --> 01:06:52,520
Speaker 4: two plants were on either side of the perennial. Well,

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01:06:53,200 --> 01:06:54,280
Speaker 4: that's it for this story.