1 00:00:02,800 --> 00:00:06,120 Speaker 1: I am Tan, I am back from Miami. I'm in 2 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:08,640 Speaker 1: a good mood. It's a beautiful day, and I am 3 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:12,119 Speaker 1: back here with a new hurdle moment. You guys know 4 00:00:12,160 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 1: the ship by now you are listening to my Wednesday 5 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: Hurdle Moment segment, a love child of Hurdle, a podcast 6 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:22,639 Speaker 1: that talks to everyone from top CEOs and entrepreneurs to 7 00:00:22,720 --> 00:00:25,759 Speaker 1: athletes about how they've gotten through tough times hurdles of 8 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: sorts by leaning into wellness. I am Emily a Body, 9 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:31,400 Speaker 1: and I feel like I have a lot of new 10 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:35,839 Speaker 1: hurdlers listening lately, so I feel as though it's appropriate 11 00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:40,200 Speaker 1: for me to share a few fun facts. Fun facts, Okay, 12 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 1: I live in a one bedroom on the Ever East 13 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:45,400 Speaker 1: Side in Manhattan. I was born and raised and went 14 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:50,280 Speaker 1: to college in Connecticut. Go Huskies. And I probably run 15 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 1: at least five days a week before seven am. If 16 00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:56,279 Speaker 1: you want to keep up with me while I do that, 17 00:00:56,680 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: definitely have on over to my Instagram. It is at 18 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 1: Emily a Body. Before I get into the meet of 19 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:04,160 Speaker 1: this week's episode, I'm taking a quick moment to shout 20 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:07,680 Speaker 1: out my first hurdle moment partner, Wallaco. You know since 21 00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: I went full time into this being my own boss thing. 22 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:13,759 Speaker 1: I've gotten to meet some pretty amazing founders and co founders, 23 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:18,080 Speaker 1: including my friends at WOLLACO, which stands for Way of 24 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: Life Athletic Company. They just launched their Woman's line and 25 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:24,640 Speaker 1: if your local New York they host free Wednesday morning 26 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:27,200 Speaker 1: workouts that you've got to check out. Trust Me, they 27 00:01:27,200 --> 00:01:30,200 Speaker 1: will kick your butt. You'll hear me talk about them 28 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:32,119 Speaker 1: over the next few months, but go check them out 29 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 1: on Instagram. It's at Wallaco Woman spelled out wolacoh Woman. 30 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:41,480 Speaker 1: You might see someone you recognize on their page. For 31 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 1: today's Hurdle Moment, I'm chatting about the really awesome opportunity 32 00:01:45,200 --> 00:01:49,640 Speaker 1: we all have every single day to smile. Okay, not 33 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:53,520 Speaker 1: just smile, but be happy. Today I'm talking about the 34 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:56,760 Speaker 1: root of where that happy feeling comes from and offering 35 00:01:56,840 --> 00:01:58,880 Speaker 1: up a good exercise that can help you get out 36 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 1: of your own way, whether you're in a funk or 37 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 1: just need to do a little bit of that self 38 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:08,800 Speaker 1: work on social Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, at Emily Body at 39 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:12,359 Speaker 1: Hurdle Podcast and always available over email. You can hit 40 00:02:12,360 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 1: me up. It's Emily at Hurdle dot us. With that, 41 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:29,480 Speaker 1: let's get to hurdling. Happiness is how you feel about 42 00:02:29,520 --> 00:02:33,320 Speaker 1: yourself when you're by yourself. Let that sink in for 43 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 1: a moment. Yeah, it's not just something that should hinge 44 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 1: on how someone else shows up for you or likes 45 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: on social media. You have the opportunity every single day 46 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:45,440 Speaker 1: to do things that make you feel like a better you, 47 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 1: a happier you, a person that you are proud to be. 48 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:52,680 Speaker 1: The fact is, if you're not happy with you, then 49 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:55,000 Speaker 1: you're not going to be happy in your relationships, or 50 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:58,880 Speaker 1: at your job or anywhere. Really. And although there are 51 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:01,359 Speaker 1: times that we feel like maybe out of our control, 52 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 1: the fact is that we can change a lot of things. 53 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:07,600 Speaker 1: If I'm going to get real candid here, this was 54 00:03:07,639 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: a lesson that I learned the hard way, give or take. 55 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:12,680 Speaker 1: I don't know. Five six years ago, maybe longer even, 56 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 1: I was in a relationship that wasn't really good for me, 57 00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 1: with someone that was arguably a little bit emotionally manipulative. 58 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 1: I made an appointment at a walking clinic one day 59 00:03:23,280 --> 00:03:25,799 Speaker 1: because I was so frustrated that I had let my 60 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:29,160 Speaker 1: emotions take over. I was having trouble sleeping. I couldn't 61 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:31,680 Speaker 1: lay in bed at night without my head spinning, my 62 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:35,440 Speaker 1: mind racing, and I was so frustrated and I just 63 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 1: wanted some help. The doctor offered to write me a 64 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 1: prescription for what would have been anxiety medication, and I 65 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 1: remember I walked out of there holding that piece of paper, 66 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:46,240 Speaker 1: and I called a good friend of mine who told 67 00:03:46,240 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 1: me a not to fill the prescription and b instead 68 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:52,600 Speaker 1: to write down a list of all the things that 69 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,240 Speaker 1: I was in control of. And I thought that was 70 00:03:55,400 --> 00:03:59,880 Speaker 1: an interesting approach, but given my circumstances, I also do 71 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 1: want to fill the prescription. I also wanted to make 72 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 1: a change, and so I gave it a try. What 73 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: I realized was this list was long. Through the exercise, 74 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 1: I came understand that you can't always control your circumstances, 75 00:04:13,280 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 1: but you have the power to influence what happens next. 76 00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:19,120 Speaker 1: By writing down the things that I had to grasp on, 77 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:22,120 Speaker 1: I realized I had the opportunity to make a change 78 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:26,000 Speaker 1: instead of feeling in prisoned to close that story loop. Thankfully, 79 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:28,800 Speaker 1: this little exercise helped me get over the major hurdle 80 00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:32,240 Speaker 1: of insomnia of sorts and eventually move away from a 81 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:36,039 Speaker 1: not so healthy situation. So here's what I want you 82 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:38,440 Speaker 1: to do. Right now, we have established that you are 83 00:04:38,440 --> 00:04:41,359 Speaker 1: in control of your own happiness, but still sometimes it 84 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:43,520 Speaker 1: feels hard, and I get it. You're going to make 85 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:46,920 Speaker 1: two lists. You know I love lists. These lists are 86 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:50,240 Speaker 1: going to be on two different pieces of paper. On 87 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:52,840 Speaker 1: the top of your first piece of paper or maybe 88 00:04:52,880 --> 00:04:55,280 Speaker 1: your first iPhone note, You're going to write down the 89 00:04:55,320 --> 00:04:58,800 Speaker 1: heading things I love about myself. Maybe you like your 90 00:04:58,839 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: sense of determination or your passionate personality. Maybe you are 91 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:06,920 Speaker 1: really good at sending handwritten notes that means you are 92 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:11,360 Speaker 1: compassionate and considerate. And also you really like your collarbones. 93 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 1: Maybe you like that you're family oriented, all the good stuff. 94 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:21,920 Speaker 1: The second list, ready, a little bit harder. Things I 95 00:05:21,960 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: want to change about myself. Now, before you get aggressive, here, 96 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:30,560 Speaker 1: be easy. I'm not talking about like plastic surgery change. 97 00:05:30,800 --> 00:05:32,960 Speaker 1: The point of this exercise is not for you to 98 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:35,200 Speaker 1: sit there for an hour and dwell about the things 99 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:38,960 Speaker 1: or nitpick about your appearance. Instead, it's to be honest 100 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:43,400 Speaker 1: with yourself. Sometimes that's the hardest part rate being upfront 101 00:05:43,400 --> 00:05:45,840 Speaker 1: with the things that are making us frustrated or self 102 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:49,239 Speaker 1: conscious or angry or whatever. Plain and simple, you cannot 103 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:52,799 Speaker 1: change these things if you're too busy trying to overcompensate 104 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:55,960 Speaker 1: for them, and you definitely can't make a shift if 105 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 1: you're not willing to show up for you. You may 106 00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:01,600 Speaker 1: notice that one list easier right than the other, and 107 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:04,720 Speaker 1: that's okay. I also know this sounds weird, but it's 108 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:08,440 Speaker 1: also okay if you have some overlap. For instance, I 109 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:12,279 Speaker 1: feel hard. It's just in my nature, and that means 110 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:15,640 Speaker 1: that when I'm excited about something or someone, I'm one 111 00:06:15,640 --> 00:06:17,920 Speaker 1: of those give it all you've got sort of people. 112 00:06:18,279 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 1: I am all in. I don't jive necessarily well with 113 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: people who don't really understand that. So while it's a 114 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:27,599 Speaker 1: quality that is definitely on the things I Like about 115 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:30,880 Speaker 1: my self list, sometimes it feels like it's also on 116 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 1: the things I don't like about my self list. It 117 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:36,160 Speaker 1: means that I'm willing to put myself out there. It 118 00:06:36,200 --> 00:06:39,880 Speaker 1: means that, maybe a little too soon, I'm willing to 119 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:42,880 Speaker 1: go to distance. But you know what, I've taken a 120 00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:46,719 Speaker 1: step back, I've evaluated, and I've come to understand that 121 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:49,799 Speaker 1: I would rather be an f yes kind of girl 122 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:54,880 Speaker 1: than hold back. Sometimes. Anyway, you've got your two lists, 123 00:06:55,279 --> 00:06:59,039 Speaker 1: your next action item, my friends, is putting them somewhere 124 00:06:59,120 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 1: where you will see them regularly. Now I don't necessarily 125 00:07:03,120 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 1: mean like on your fridge where all of your guests 126 00:07:06,120 --> 00:07:09,040 Speaker 1: can see them as well, but maybe inside the cupboard 127 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 1: where you keep your coffee cup, or inside your closet 128 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:15,200 Speaker 1: where you grab T shirts every day. Just like having 129 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:18,440 Speaker 1: a powerful mantra, looking at these lists over and over 130 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 1: will inspire you to make a change and also embrace 131 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 1: who it is you are. They're a reminder for you that, again, 132 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:29,760 Speaker 1: your happiness is in your control. You have the opportunity, 133 00:07:30,200 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 1: and I know I use this word a lot to 134 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:37,440 Speaker 1: make positive changes for yourself, to influence your own smile, 135 00:07:38,200 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 1: and that's pretty special. That's all for now. I know 136 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:44,000 Speaker 1: I'm always getting vulnerable with you, guys. I'm going out 137 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 1: of my way to open this dialogue because it's something 138 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 1: that I am passionate about. So that means that I 139 00:07:49,400 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 1: want you to share with me as well, whether it 140 00:07:51,600 --> 00:07:54,360 Speaker 1: is on Instagram by tagging me over at Emily a 141 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:57,560 Speaker 1: Body or at Hurdle podcast, or if it's via email 142 00:07:57,680 --> 00:08:00,840 Speaker 1: Emily at Hurdle dot us. I want to hear about 143 00:08:00,880 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 1: the work that you're putting in because it's really really 144 00:08:03,840 --> 00:08:06,560 Speaker 1: special that we get to do this together. Have a 145 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:08,960 Speaker 1: great week everyone, I can't wait to see your lists 146 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:13,000 Speaker 1: and another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.