Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio podcast.
Speaker 2: Okay, Today's Whine About It Thursday Therapy. We've got Devin
Speaker 2: Simone and Laura Jacobs match Me and Miami now streaming
Speaker 2: on Rocus. So they're both matchmakers. Laura is actually pregnant
Speaker 2: with her second set of twins and Devin Simone just
Speaker 2: got married. But they are matchmakers and their new show
Speaker 2: MATCHMDE in Miami is basically the modern matchmaking in one
Speaker 2: of the most exciting cities for singles, The Miami Matchmaker
Speaker 2: Agencies finds their clients a real love and it is
Speaker 2: streaming now on Rocus. Let's get them on and talk
Speaker 2: all about matchmaking. Hey, Hey, how are you?
Speaker 3: Hi?
Speaker 4: Good? How are ye?
Speaker 2: I'm good? You doing good?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm pregnant like you. How many weeks? Say, I'm
Speaker 4: twenty one, you're twenty one?
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm Sam twenty three weeks? Yeah, And I just
Speaker 2: like I was talking to a friend the other day,
Speaker 2: I'm at the point where I'm like, I'm already so
Speaker 2: they done? Like over is that? I'm just like, horo,
Speaker 2: Am I gonna go another? However many weeks?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 2: And it's just and I don't know. I don't know
Speaker 2: if you've I feel like I can't complain because I
Speaker 2: heard that you're pregnant with twins. So that's just a
Speaker 2: whole other level of like in.
Speaker 4: The second time.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm like, I is that does that run
Speaker 2: in the family? Was that a did you do IVF?
Speaker 1: Or is that just like A no, it's it's all
Speaker 1: natural and I don't have a history but in my family,
Speaker 1: but clearly the doctors are now like you hyperovulate, like
Speaker 1: you need to be careful after this because like as
Speaker 1: you get old I'm already thirty six, and as you
Speaker 1: get older, and.
Speaker 4: They're like, we don't want you to get pregnant again
Speaker 4: and for it to be triplets and kill you. I'm
Speaker 4: like totally like I'm done after this.
Speaker 1: But it's all four boys, So everyone's like, oh, did
Speaker 1: you if? I'm like, I would never do IVF to
Speaker 1: get four of the same gender.
Speaker 4: But love y'all.
Speaker 2: Oh, So then so then you're hey, Devin, how are
Speaker 2: you hi? Nice to see too, honey? Wait, so then
Speaker 2: you you you're done then after this, because it's like
Speaker 2: if there's a chance that like you would do triplets,
Speaker 2: like you're just going in strong with the boy.
Speaker 1: I can't do another multiple pregnancy, but it's your third one, right,
Speaker 1: so I feel like it's it's hard. I think like
Speaker 1: it's hard for you too when you're when you've done
Speaker 1: pregnancy before.
Speaker 4: I'm over it too. I'm like, how am I gonna
Speaker 4: make it till November? Like?
Speaker 3: How?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I mean I don't like. I think it's one of
Speaker 2: those things where I was struggling. I was talking to
Speaker 2: my fan say yesterday about it. I'm like, I didn't
Speaker 2: really experience this in my first two, but I'm like,
Speaker 2: weirdly having this like depression, and I'm like, I've never
Speaker 2: I never experienced that in my previous pregnancy, so i'd
Speaker 2: me too.
Speaker 1: So you're having the same, Yeah, I definitely I didn't
Speaker 1: have it in my first at all. And I feel
Speaker 1: I have like low days or I'm like, what's wrong,
Speaker 1: I'm like nothing. And I do think it's it's a
Speaker 1: little bit of like perinatal just like depression, slash over it, slash.
Speaker 1: I think it's hard to be pregnant in summer too.
Speaker 1: I've never been pregnant in summer. I don't know about you,
Speaker 1: and so I just didn't realize this season would be
Speaker 1: like so hot and you can't do anything fun, can't
Speaker 1: have an operall sprints on a boat, like I don't know,
Speaker 1: it's it's just like a boring sense of boring.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I mean I totally hear you on that.
Speaker 2: And it's also like like I'm still like I'm just
Speaker 2: nauseous throughout the entire day and it's just like that
Speaker 2: that piece too. I'm just like, I'm sick of feeling nauseous.
Speaker 2: I don't know if that's like leading into my depression
Speaker 2: or if it's like you know, the hormones or I
Speaker 2: just I have never experienced. And I'm like, I'm so happy.
Speaker 4: I'm so happy. Yeah, I have hyperaemesis like you too.
Speaker 1: I read you had it, and I'm oh, I haven't
Speaker 1: had the same have the same thing, and it's yeah,
Speaker 1: it's yours.
Speaker 4: I get sick of it too. You're just like I'm
Speaker 4: so done.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Devin, Do you have kids?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: I don't.
Speaker 4: Just a dog and that is enough for us. Are
Speaker 4: you so?
Speaker 2: How long have you been?
Speaker 3: Are?
Speaker 2: Because you're married?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, we got married last month actually going out
Speaker 3: honeymoon Sunday. Yeah, you're no kid zone where we're going
Speaker 3: in Africa. We're going across four countries to follow the
Speaker 3: Great Migration.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, that's amazing. That's gonna be so fun.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're excited.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're excited, are you guys? I know, no kid
Speaker 2: trained for forever or is it right now?
Speaker 3: It's probably eighty percent forever. I feel like Laura has
Speaker 3: a nut is taking that that task on for I
Speaker 3: can live vicariously through Laura. Anything can change, like I'll
Speaker 3: probably freeze my eggs when we get back in the honeymoon.
Speaker 3: But we both are pretty We live in New York.
Speaker 3: We enjoy the freedoms. So yeah, we like being the
Speaker 3: uncle and the auntie. No, I'm I'm scared you not
Speaker 3: to do it, Duvin. I mean, but yours actually were
Speaker 3: so well behaved and so cute. If anything, there was
Speaker 3: a moment that you sort of walked it back a little.
Speaker 4: Because yours are really cute.
Speaker 3: And we like kids. I just I our lifestyles are
Speaker 3: such like I'm in La right now for work, and
Speaker 3: we both just travel a lot and do a lot,
Speaker 3: and we really love that when we love our careers.
Speaker 3: And you know, for your parents, we'd be amazing parents
Speaker 3: and give everything and I have so much respect for
Speaker 3: you guys. I just know that I don't multi.
Speaker 4: Test that well so do I.
Speaker 3: You know, we're good being able to give what we
Speaker 3: have to each other, to our careers, to our dog,
Speaker 3: and you know, but anything's possible. I also said I'd
Speaker 3: never do reality TV once, and well look at where
Speaker 3: that got me. Yeah.
Speaker 2: But I think it's great though, that you're like, you
Speaker 2: don't like, you know that twenty percent or whatever it
Speaker 2: is that you're like maybe the fact that you're like, Okay, well,
Speaker 2: let's be proactive and do the eggs because you don't
Speaker 2: want to get to a place, especially obviously for women
Speaker 2: where we're like, oh it's too late now, and like
Speaker 2: to then to be met with that like that would
Speaker 2: be because you just never no, like yeah, exactly like
Speaker 2: you said you're never going to do this and then
Speaker 2: here you are, you know, doing X. So you know,
Speaker 2: I think that's I think that's very proactive and very
Speaker 2: boss of you.
Speaker 3: So I love that. Thank you.
Speaker 2: Here's my little like admitting this. I was like so
Speaker 2: close to getting a matchmaker, like right before I met
Speaker 2: my fiance, because it's like, you know, you've got the app.
Speaker 1: Could you talk to Patty because I work for one
Speaker 1: of her, like Shell Companies, work with them, and they
Speaker 1: told me Erica who works with Patty. She's like, hey,
Speaker 1: by the way, Joanna Kramer is single, if you have
Speaker 1: anybody for her?
Speaker 4: And I was like, yeah, I might. That's amazing, and
Speaker 4: so I was like, gonna help with that if you
Speaker 4: actually signed on. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I I never officially signed out, And I was always
Speaker 2: just like, Patti, if you know anyone like you kind
Speaker 2: of know me, like ish like if there's someone that
Speaker 2: comes out because I for some reason, I didn't pull
Speaker 2: the trigger because I'm like, I don't know, I don't
Speaker 2: know why, and maybe we can talk about like maybe
Speaker 2: the stigma behind like matchmaking. But it made me go like, like,
Speaker 2: what guy really signs up to like be matchmaked and
Speaker 2: or you know, to have a matchmaker and like and
Speaker 2: so it just felt it felt weird and I'm like,
Speaker 2: are they really going to, you know, get the guy
Speaker 2: that I like? I don't know. I just so I
Speaker 2: just I never really like dove head into it because
Speaker 2: it just again I don't I don't know the full
Speaker 2: piece and like why But I'm like are these cool?
Speaker 2: Like like what are they like they're kind of guy.
Speaker 2: Well yeah, so, but I mean, what do you think
Speaker 2: is like the biggest stigma around matchmaking.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think that a lot of people, men
Speaker 1: and women, like whenever I'm talking to a new client,
Speaker 1: unless they've you know, done it before and they enjoyed
Speaker 1: the if they've never worked with a matchmaker, the first
Speaker 1: comment always is like, oh, but I mean, but I
Speaker 1: can get women on my own.
Speaker 4: Especially if it's a guy.
Speaker 1: The egos like comes right up there and they're like,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't have a problem with that, and
Speaker 1: we're like, yeah, none of our clients have a problem
Speaker 1: with getting women. We're trying to find you the one.
Speaker 1: It's a different type of search, you know. And then
Speaker 1: I don't know, women don't seem to have as much
Speaker 1: of a stigma around it from what I've seen, but
Speaker 1: it's it is definitely. I think matching female clients is
Speaker 1: harder because, as you said, like we can match you
Speaker 1: with a male client, another paying male client, which is great,
Speaker 1: but the guys who are in like the free database,
Speaker 1: it's hard to get them motivated. Like I've definitely had
Speaker 1: issues where like, you know, I'll have a beautiful female
Speaker 1: paying client and I'm like, great, like you'll go out
Speaker 1: with her, and then they like, don't put a ton
Speaker 1: of effort into planning the date, and I'm trying to intervene,
Speaker 1: and like then the girls complain.
Speaker 3: It depends on the city about that, because in New
Speaker 3: York we work with a lot of female clients, right so,
Speaker 3: and you know, in currently matching across twelve different cities
Speaker 3: in the country, the vibes are very different for the
Speaker 3: different graphics. Like San Francisco is very different than Chicago.
Speaker 3: It's very different than Miami, which is very different than
Speaker 3: New York. And we have a lot of success in general.
Speaker 3: I've seen a lot of success with guys in the database.
Speaker 3: I actually just moved into a new apartment building that
Speaker 3: we love and it was recommended by a former client
Speaker 3: of mine who just moved in with her match or
Speaker 3: he moved in with her, and he was in the database.
Speaker 3: She was a client, and she's educated and talented and
Speaker 3: beautiful as is he. And they're already talking marriage Like
Speaker 3: they'll probably be engaged, you know, by the end of
Speaker 3: the year. I think as far as like the stigma goes,
Speaker 3: it's the same thing as getting an uber or ordering
Speaker 3: in food ordering in food doesn't automatically mean you can't cook.
Speaker 3: Now you maybe you can't cook, but that's not the
Speaker 3: assumption made. Or going out to a restaurant doesn't mean
Speaker 3: you can't cook. It just means you realize that you'd
Speaker 3: rather have an expert do it. Or maybe they make
Speaker 3: this dish that's amazing, or maybe you've tried to make
Speaker 3: it and it doesn't quite come out exactly the way
Speaker 3: that you know the Michelin star chef would make it,
Speaker 3: or maybe you don't feel like driving, So it's sort
Speaker 3: of the same thing. And I think matchmaking is really
Speaker 3: having a resurgence, which is cool because people are realizing that,
Speaker 3: and especially younger people men and women that like, look,
Speaker 3: if you're busy with your career, if you're doing all
Speaker 3: the things, then let Laura and I do it, Like
Speaker 3: let an expert where this week can sleep and breathe
Speaker 3: this do it. And also what's cool, like a good
Speaker 3: matchmaker is proactive. There are amazing exceptional guys in the database.
Speaker 3: They're exceptional guys who utilize a matchmaker. One of our
Speaker 3: clients that you get to see on the show, which
Speaker 3: is just a small sampling of who we work with
Speaker 3: because most of the time matchmaking is very confidential. So
Speaker 3: shout out to our team as a whole being able
Speaker 3: to find clients who also were willing to share a
Speaker 3: very personal part of their lives show it was like
Speaker 3: so hard and so shout out to them. But even
Speaker 3: like Don is a really great guy, Like Don was
Speaker 3: is a you know, an active dad. He's smart, he's accomplished,
Speaker 3: and he didn't have a problem getting women. He just
Speaker 3: kept going for the wrong type. So we had to
Speaker 3: like work through that. But makes a really great partner
Speaker 3: and you know, so yeah, I think sometimes overthinking things
Speaker 3: is how we get in our own way about anything
Speaker 3: in life, and especially the really important thing. Sometimes you
Speaker 3: just have to take the leap, especially when you feel
Speaker 3: like you've continued to do it a certain way and
Speaker 3: you're not getting the results that you want.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I mean those apps, I'm like, you know,
Speaker 2: I was on Riah for like a little bit, and
Speaker 2: you know, just like going through there, I'm just like,
Speaker 2: I mean, okay, you know it was like Australia like
Speaker 2: all these places, and this is just like I mean,
Speaker 2: I ended up.
Speaker 1: I was when I was single. It's it's terrible, Like
Speaker 1: I was on it. I feel like literally seven years.
Speaker 1: But when I was single, I was on RIAH and
Speaker 1: I met a ton of people on there. None of
Speaker 1: them turned into our romantic connection, not even what and
Speaker 1: I just couldn't believe it.
Speaker 4: I'm like, this app is just like who's cooler than who?
Speaker 1: It was just a felt like every guy I met
Speaker 1: on there was just like, so I play in the NFL,
Speaker 1: or like, oh, obviously a celebrary. It's like I get it,
Speaker 1: You're you're awesome, Like can we have a date or
Speaker 1: like I don't know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And like I felt like nobody know because I'm
Speaker 2: like I'm not going to be the first one to
Speaker 2: say something, so you know, then then no one just
Speaker 2: says so you like like each other, we like and
Speaker 2: then it's just sits there. And then I'm like, well
Speaker 2: this is okay. I'm I'm on matching with you because
Speaker 2: now I'm just annoyed that like you don't even like
Speaker 2: reach out.
Speaker 4: I'm like, yeah totally.
Speaker 2: But yeah, so that's where it's like I like the
Speaker 2: matchmaking aspect because yeah, if you're busy, you're working, and
Speaker 2: it's like, you know, especially with like kids. It's like
Speaker 2: I was talking to one of my girlfriends this morning.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 2: She's like, I just don't really know when I'm even
Speaker 2: going to like meet someone. She's like, because I don't.
Speaker 2: She's like, I've got my daughter, you know, with work,
Speaker 2: and it's like I'm tired by the end of the day.
Speaker 2: I don't want to go to a bar or you know.
Speaker 2: It's just like I love the cute meet cute, but
Speaker 2: like how and where?
Speaker 3: You know, so I think this cure is so annoying
Speaker 3: by the way, and unrealistic, like the meat the relationship.
Speaker 3: Cute should be the goal, right, like by the way,
Speaker 3: any matching story and however you meet your person becomes
Speaker 3: cute when you guys have a healthy relationship, like realistically,
Speaker 3: like when you guys are happy and in love and
Speaker 3: they're toasting at your wedding.
Speaker 4: Then however you met.
Speaker 3: Whether it's the emergency room, a dating app, a matchmaker,
Speaker 3: and suddenly cute. It's only not cute when it doesn't work.
Speaker 3: But if you're limiting yourself because you are hoping about
Speaker 3: like caring so much about how it's going to be perceived,
Speaker 3: yes right by like other people or what, then you've
Speaker 3: lost the plot and then you're not focusing on the
Speaker 3: things that ultimately matter in terms of what you need
Speaker 3: for your partner to make you a relationship happy and healthy.
Speaker 2: For sure, I have one thousand percent agree with you.
Speaker 2: And my fiance and I were actually just talking. He
Speaker 2: was like I was doing an interview and I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 2: he's slid into my DMS. He's like, oh, He's like
Speaker 2: I don't like it when you say that, and I'm like,
Speaker 2: why is because it just sounds so like, you know, like, oh,
Speaker 2: I stood into your DMS. I'm like, it doesn't matter,
Speaker 2: Like this is like the new people do that all
Speaker 2: the time. I was like, DMS, you know what I mean. Yes,
Speaker 2: I'm like.
Speaker 4: It's for the goal, like he's the MVP of the game.
Speaker 2: I know, it's so fun. He thinks it's like sounds
Speaker 2: like douchey. I'm like, it's not, like that's just like
Speaker 2: how you know, like that's in one of the ways
Speaker 2: of finding people is you know, being like, hey, how
Speaker 2: are you? I think you look cool and like whatever.
Speaker 2: You seemed like a great mom, like awesome in Miami, though,
Speaker 2: I feel like there's like that's got to be fun.
Speaker 2: So I'm excited to watch the show on Roku because
Speaker 2: it just seems like there's a lot of beautiful people
Speaker 2: in Miami and there's a lot of you know, singles
Speaker 2: as well, So like, what is what is the advantage
Speaker 2: I guess of doing you know, of living in the
Speaker 2: city like that, Laurel' let you take the lead out.
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like Miami has advantages and it
Speaker 1: has disadvantages. Yes, there's a ton of beautiful people, but
Speaker 1: a lot of them are just visiting. That's definitely an obstacle,
Speaker 1: and a lot of them are not super serious. But
Speaker 1: we find obviously that's our job to find the people
Speaker 1: that are serious about a relationship. But I mean, what
Speaker 1: you know, I live close to here, like an hour away,
Speaker 1: and I always tell my potential clients like, hey, I'm
Speaker 1: going to search for you in the outside areas too,
Speaker 1: Like I live in Delray Beach. More serious guys like
Speaker 1: where I met my fiance are in West Palm Beach
Speaker 1: del Rey. Like, don't ignore the outskirts because a lot
Speaker 1: of those guys really want a family and you can
Speaker 1: like live an hour from Miami and still have a
Speaker 1: great life. A lot of people are like, oh and
Speaker 1: I want to live like in the city. I'm like well,
Speaker 1: then you might meet a party guy like Don but
Speaker 1: he's reformed. But like you know, it's hard to find
Speaker 1: the serious people that they do exist.
Speaker 2: I was just I remember one of the things too,
Speaker 2: like before I almost jumped in with the matchmaking stuff.
Speaker 2: It is expensive, So like, what is like the success
Speaker 2: rate that you guys find from matchmaking? Because to invest
Speaker 2: like that amount of money, it's like, you know, you
Speaker 2: obviously can't like guarantee you're gonna find love, but like,
Speaker 2: is there a better success rate with that as opposed
Speaker 2: to like the countless hours of like being on a
Speaker 2: hinge or whatever.
Speaker 3: I understand the desire for like a guarantee and certainty,
Speaker 3: but the thing with love is right that there is
Speaker 3: no there's too many variables and moving parts. For us
Speaker 3: at the agency, we do guarantee you matches, which is
Speaker 3: why we don't take everyone on as a client. So
Speaker 3: we're selective and who we take on as clients based
Speaker 3: on your own criteria. So your must haves you tell
Speaker 3: us in the beginning. You know, you outline and in
Speaker 3: the show what's great is you get to see a
Speaker 3: part of this process and peak behind the curtains, but
Speaker 3: we find out what your mustabs are what your deal
Speaker 3: breakers are. And if there's anything we feel like is
Speaker 3: an absolute nogo or we just feel we'd be limiting
Speaker 3: in the amount of matches we can present to you,
Speaker 3: then we'll be very transparent about that and you can
Speaker 3: be in the free database, so you're guaranteed matches, guaranteed
Speaker 3: matches that fit within that criteria that are local to you.
Speaker 3: But then the love part comes down to your own
Speaker 3: chemistry and also your own openness, because the reality is,
Speaker 3: and I've seen this in my years of matchmaking, and
Speaker 3: I am sure Laura has to if you aren't doing
Speaker 3: the personal work, we can present you with the most
Speaker 3: amazing person, everything you ask for right in front of you,
Speaker 3: and you're still doing to f it up like you
Speaker 3: just are. If you're focused on the wrong things. And
Speaker 3: so you've got to do your part two and you're grown.
Speaker 3: We don't control you, so like you've got to trust
Speaker 3: in the process and we're here to support you. But
Speaker 3: if we take you on as a client, you can
Speaker 3: feel good knowing that we have your back. We are
Speaker 3: going to be proactive. You are guaranteed matches and we have.
Speaker 4: A lot of success.
Speaker 3: I mean, Laura and I've been doing this for a
Speaker 3: very long time, and the way we've continued to grow
Speaker 3: largely is just off of word of mouth refer like
Speaker 3: you know, people of people and clients who know clients,
Speaker 3: and so you know that says that that speaks volumes
Speaker 3: into what we do and how will it works for
Speaker 3: other people? Right?
Speaker 2: That makes sense?
Speaker 1: And when our clients are happy, like that's success in itself,
Speaker 1: you know, Like everyone defines success a bit differently. I mean,
Speaker 1: I have clients that have been working with me over
Speaker 1: two years that are so happy that love working with me.
Speaker 1: Now a lot of people would say, oh, it's cheers
Speaker 1: and they haven't found someone. Well, they're really happy. They're
Speaker 1: they're working through some stuff. Like this particular client I'm
Speaker 1: thinking of we just realized the other day, had like
Speaker 1: a breakthrough coaching session with him, and he's also a
Speaker 1: matchmaking client.
Speaker 4: He really tends to go for really avoidant women, Like
Speaker 4: after teers.
Speaker 1: Working with him, I'm like, I see the problem, Like
Speaker 1: you are only attracted to these women that like don't
Speaker 1: want you back, and when a woman really likes you,
Speaker 1: you're not interested. So how are we going to unravel that?
Speaker 1: And he's like, ugh, I know so, but you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. So it's like everyone has their own journey.
Speaker 2: There's therapy in this matchmaking too. I love yeah, absolutely,
Speaker 2: but I mean yeah. And then also, because you're gonna
Speaker 2: if you don't do the work on the other side
Speaker 2: of this, like, you're just going to be repeating. No
Speaker 2: matter if you guys find the better partner, you're still
Speaker 2: going to be repeating patterns that you haven't personally fixed.
Speaker 3: So I call that repeating third grade. It means you
Speaker 3: haven't learned the lesson yet. You're repeating third grade, and
Speaker 3: you're going to look up and your life will have
Speaker 3: moved forward in other aspects your career, your friends will
Speaker 3: have graduated, and you will be sitting at the desk
Speaker 3: in the third grade classroom with missus Schneider. I don't
Speaker 3: know where I got that name from, because you haven't
Speaker 3: learned the lesson and you just keep repeating it, right.
Speaker 2: Is there something when you're meeting with a client and
Speaker 2: they're like, you're surprised by maybe this the know that
Speaker 2: people like if they're like, I don't want them to X, Y,
Speaker 2: and Z, Like can you be so specific like that?
Speaker 2: In like your quest to find someone and then like,
Speaker 2: are you ever shocked by like what some people might
Speaker 2: say that they want or don't want.
Speaker 4: I've had weird, very weird tell me, I need a
Speaker 4: girl that's into cosplay.
Speaker 1: I need to find a girl that, oh yeah, like
Speaker 1: she has to be into cosplayer, she has to be
Speaker 1: a gamer. We have to have like men get very
Speaker 1: focused on these common interests, which I'm like, I personally
Speaker 1: don't think that's that important, but you know, she has
Speaker 1: to golf and she has to play ten and if
Speaker 1: she doesn't, you know, we're gonna have nothing in common.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, you know, we try to coach them through,
Speaker 1: Like maybe that's holding you back, Like, but yeah, definitely
Speaker 1: weird requests all the time.
Speaker 3: I've had a lot of women that, yeah, that I've
Speaker 3: asked for you know, one, well, not a lot, but
Speaker 3: I've had some who've asked for multiple graduate degrees, someone
Speaker 3: who wanted to who went to a top forty school,
Speaker 3: but she didn't go to a top forty school herself.
Speaker 3: Like I'm all about like asking for certain things. Someone
Speaker 3: who's five to one but only within six or five
Speaker 3: and above? Can you even see up that high? Like
Speaker 3: no matter what she's like, why we're heels cool, but
Speaker 3: you're wearing Lady Gaga level stage performance heels. He's still
Speaker 3: gonna be taller for you, like you know, he doesn't
Speaker 3: need to be above six five, just all sorts of things.
Speaker 3: And when they hold on to that, usually there's a
Speaker 3: reason that they're overcorrecting for something oftentimes and particularly with women,
Speaker 3: but men too. And if they're still holding on to
Speaker 3: that even after we realize kind of what they are
Speaker 3: trying to protect themselves from, then to me, it's an
Speaker 3: indicator that maybe they're not ready for our level of
Speaker 3: like investment and work, because you're focused on the wrong things.
Speaker 3: Because at the end of the day, no one's getting divorced,
Speaker 3: you know, when the world ends, or when you're sick,
Speaker 3: or when you know you lovely ladies are pregnant. I'm
Speaker 3: sure there are days that don't feel so great. And
Speaker 3: when you want to support a partner a person there
Speaker 3: that extra inch of height isn't the thing that determines
Speaker 3: that he's a good partner. The third degree. I understand
Speaker 3: wanting a college education, but the third degree.
Speaker 4: Isn't the thing that's gonna determine like.
Speaker 3: If he's a good partner for you, it's his growth mindset,
Speaker 3: it's how committed he is, it's you know, his ability
Speaker 3: to communicate and listen, and those should be moved up
Speaker 3: on the priority list because those are you can do
Speaker 3: a lot with that.
Speaker 2: So true. So what can people expect when they watch
Speaker 2: the show on Roku? Like what is something that like?
Speaker 2: Because we want, you know, obviously the listeners to all
Speaker 2: go and watch like it's obviously entertaining, but like, what's
Speaker 2: something else that they're going to be able to get
Speaker 2: from it?
Speaker 3: Clothes, drama, fashion, fun, laughs, a bunch of side eyes
Speaker 3: of me and Laura looking at each other being like
Speaker 3: did that just happen? Yeah? Relatable dating stories, people being
Speaker 3: really vulnerable and sharing their stories, not only from the
Speaker 3: team but also from I mean we really had shout
Speaker 3: out to our not only our matchmaking team, but also
Speaker 3: because it is a show, even the casting team, and
Speaker 3: being able to find and really great people who were
Speaker 3: so generous with sharing their vulnerabilities and what they're going through.
Speaker 3: It's just really relatable and real, which is what Laura
Speaker 3: and I really wanted to be able to share.
Speaker 2: That's awesome. And then how do you how would you
Speaker 2: get on like a free database? Because someone's like I
Speaker 2: don't really know if I want to like jump in
Speaker 2: to the matchmaking piece of it, but like I'd like
Speaker 2: to be in the database to be considered.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we just made a guide for this specifically for people. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so it's in my link in Insta bio. But yeah,
Speaker 1: all you do, you click on the link, you sign up.
Speaker 1: It's confidential. Only the matchmakers see it. The biggest thing
Speaker 1: is like filling out a fully filled out profile. A
Speaker 1: lot of people they put one picture and like two
Speaker 1: things about them, and I'm like, oh, oh my god,
Speaker 1: you know, and sometimes if they look really great from that,
Speaker 1: I will text or call them and be like, hey,
Speaker 1: I think I have a match for you. Can you
Speaker 1: fill out your profile more? But honestly, a lot of
Speaker 1: the time we're busy, I'm I'm going to pass on it.
Speaker 1: So the best thing to do is like put five pictures,
Speaker 1: fully fill out your profile and bio, you know, because
Speaker 1: like it's more of a chance that we're going to
Speaker 1: call you and we're gonna want to match you with
Speaker 1: a premium member.
Speaker 2: Love that all right? Awesome, Well, girls, thank you so
Speaker 2: much for coming on the show. I cannot wait to
Speaker 2: see y'all show and yeah, have an amazing time in
Speaker 2: your honeymoon, and girl, I'll be cheering you on from
Speaker 2: over here as well.
Speaker 3: Just we got this.
Speaker 4: All right, last time for you two.
Speaker 2: I will have her take out any organ possible, to never.
Speaker 4: Take any possible, Like do you want me to tie
Speaker 4: your tubes upon delivery? I'm like, what do you think?
Speaker 4: He's like, Okay, yeah, I'm like yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like take it all. I don't even like
Speaker 2: just just have it all. Just here you go, I'm done.
Speaker 2: I didn't even think I could get pregnant again, so
Speaker 2: it was kind of like a oh my gosh, you know.
Speaker 2: And I'm a lot older too than than you, Laura,
Speaker 2: so I was just like a shot.
Speaker 4: No, you're not, You're like years older.
Speaker 2: But I mean, like I thought I would be, you know,
Speaker 2: on my fortieth birthday, you know, like on a private
Speaker 2: island with my girlfriend's fireworks, round table dance, and like
Speaker 2: I've been planning this since I was like thirty pretty
Speaker 2: much years old, and I'm like, okay, God, like my
Speaker 2: my due date is like on my birthday. So I
Speaker 2: was like, cute, It's super cute. Wow, even though I'm
Speaker 2: gonna have a sea section, so it'll be the week before.
Speaker 2: So I'm like, all right, but I'll still be fortieth
Speaker 2: birthday like in my like granny panties. But yes, such
Speaker 2: a gift. It's amazing.
Speaker 3: But I bottle service, Jannet.
Speaker 2: So I was like, all right, fifty fifty is going
Speaker 2: to be a blowout.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's going to be your year.
Speaker 2: Yes, I know, but all right, girls, you're awesome. Thank
Speaker 2: you so much, Thank you Bye girls, see you