WEBVTT - Whine About It: Make Me a Match 0:00:01.960 --> 0:00:05.399 Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio podcast. 0:00:06.200 --> 0:00:08.880 Okay, Today's Whine About It Thursday Therapy. We've got Devin 0:00:08.920 --> 0:00:12.240 Simone and Laura Jacobs match Me and Miami now streaming 0:00:12.280 --> 0:00:15.280 on Rocus. So they're both matchmakers. Laura is actually pregnant 0:00:15.280 --> 0:00:18.200 with her second set of twins and Devin Simone just 0:00:18.200 --> 0:00:21.560 got married. But they are matchmakers and their new show 0:00:21.720 --> 0:00:25.360 MATCHMDE in Miami is basically the modern matchmaking in one 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:28.760 of the most exciting cities for singles, The Miami Matchmaker 0:00:28.800 --> 0:00:32.159 Agencies finds their clients a real love and it is 0:00:32.200 --> 0:00:35.520 streaming now on Rocus. Let's get them on and talk 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:39.559 all about matchmaking. Hey, Hey, how are you? 0:00:39.760 --> 0:00:39.960 Hi? 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:41.559 Good? How are ye? 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:43.880 I'm good? You doing good? 0:00:44.280 --> 0:00:47.559 Yeah, I'm pregnant like you. How many weeks? Say, I'm 0:00:47.600 --> 0:00:49.080 twenty one, you're twenty one? 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:53.640 Okay, I'm Sam twenty three weeks? Yeah, And I just 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:57.840 like I was talking to a friend the other day, 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:01.960 I'm at the point where I'm like, I'm already so 0:01:02.400 --> 0:01:05.600 they done? Like over is that? I'm just like, horo, 0:01:05.959 --> 0:01:10.080 Am I gonna go another? However many weeks? 0:01:10.200 --> 0:01:10.360 You know? 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:12.240 And it's just and I don't know. I don't know 0:01:12.280 --> 0:01:14.480 if you've I feel like I can't complain because I 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:16.280 heard that you're pregnant with twins. So that's just a 0:01:16.400 --> 0:01:17.760 whole other level of like in. 0:01:17.800 --> 0:01:18.560 The second time. 0:01:19.040 --> 0:01:21.600 That's what I'm like, I is that does that run 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:23.440 in the family? Was that a did you do IVF? 0:01:23.520 --> 0:01:25.520 Or is that just like A no, it's it's all 0:01:25.720 --> 0:01:28.959 natural and I don't have a history but in my family, 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:32.680 but clearly the doctors are now like you hyperovulate, like 0:01:32.920 --> 0:01:35.560 you need to be careful after this because like as 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:37.720 you get old I'm already thirty six, and as you 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:38.319 get older, and. 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:40.759 They're like, we don't want you to get pregnant again 0:01:40.800 --> 0:01:42.440 and for it to be triplets and kill you. I'm 0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:44.160 like totally like I'm done after this. 0:01:44.360 --> 0:01:47.440 But it's all four boys, So everyone's like, oh, did 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:49.480 you if? I'm like, I would never do IVF to 0:01:49.520 --> 0:01:51.120 get four of the same gender. 0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:51.560 But love y'all. 0:01:52.240 --> 0:01:55.080 Oh, So then so then you're hey, Devin, how are 0:01:55.160 --> 0:01:59.800 you hi? Nice to see too, honey? Wait, so then 0:01:59.840 --> 0:02:04.120 you you you're done then after this, because it's like 0:02:04.200 --> 0:02:06.840 if there's a chance that like you would do triplets, 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:09.280 like you're just going in strong with the boy. 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:12.720 I can't do another multiple pregnancy, but it's your third one, right, 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:15.400 so I feel like it's it's hard. I think like 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:17.280 it's hard for you too when you're when you've done 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:18.160 pregnancy before. 0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:20.400 I'm over it too. I'm like, how am I gonna 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:21.720 make it till November? Like? 0:02:21.840 --> 0:02:22.080 How? 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:22.919 Yeah? 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:25.239 I mean I don't like. I think it's one of 0:02:25.240 --> 0:02:27.919 those things where I was struggling. I was talking to 0:02:28.000 --> 0:02:30.840 my fan say yesterday about it. I'm like, I didn't 0:02:30.880 --> 0:02:34.440 really experience this in my first two, but I'm like, 0:02:34.639 --> 0:02:37.440 weirdly having this like depression, and I'm like, I've never 0:02:37.639 --> 0:02:40.480 I never experienced that in my previous pregnancy, so i'd 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:40.880 me too. 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:45.680 So you're having the same, Yeah, I definitely I didn't 0:02:45.720 --> 0:02:47.720 have it in my first at all. And I feel 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:50.480 I have like low days or I'm like, what's wrong, 0:02:50.760 --> 0:02:53.519 I'm like nothing. And I do think it's it's a 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:58.120 little bit of like perinatal just like depression, slash over it, slash. 0:02:58.200 --> 0:03:01.160 I think it's hard to be pregnant in summer too. 0:03:01.440 --> 0:03:03.519 I've never been pregnant in summer. I don't know about you, 0:03:03.680 --> 0:03:06.919 and so I just didn't realize this season would be 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:09.839 like so hot and you can't do anything fun, can't 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:12.280 have an operall sprints on a boat, like I don't know, 0:03:12.440 --> 0:03:14.880 it's it's just like a boring sense of boring. 0:03:15.440 --> 0:03:18.480 Yeah, yeah, I mean I totally hear you on that. 0:03:18.560 --> 0:03:20.600 And it's also like like I'm still like I'm just 0:03:20.760 --> 0:03:23.400 nauseous throughout the entire day and it's just like that 0:03:23.639 --> 0:03:25.920 that piece too. I'm just like, I'm sick of feeling nauseous. 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:28.440 I don't know if that's like leading into my depression 0:03:28.560 --> 0:03:31.239 or if it's like you know, the hormones or I 0:03:31.360 --> 0:03:33.560 just I have never experienced. And I'm like, I'm so happy. 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:38.800 I'm so happy. Yeah, I have hyperaemesis like you too. 0:03:38.880 --> 0:03:40.880 I read you had it, and I'm oh, I haven't 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:43.080 had the same have the same thing, and it's yeah, 0:03:43.120 --> 0:03:44.000 it's yours. 0:03:44.160 --> 0:03:45.840 I get sick of it too. You're just like I'm 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:46.800 so done. 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:48.400 Yeah, Devin, Do you have kids? 0:03:49.680 --> 0:03:49.720 No? 0:03:50.000 --> 0:03:50.440 I don't. 0:03:50.760 --> 0:03:54.000 Just a dog and that is enough for us. Are 0:03:54.080 --> 0:03:54.520 you so? 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:55.720 How long have you been? 0:03:56.080 --> 0:03:56.200 Are? 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:56.880 Because you're married? 0:03:56.960 --> 0:03:59.960 Yeah? Yeah, we got married last month actually going out 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:07.920 honeymoon Sunday. Yeah, you're no kid zone where we're going 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:11.320 in Africa. We're going across four countries to follow the 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:11.960 Great Migration. 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:15.240 Oh my gosh, that's amazing. That's gonna be so fun. 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:16.000 Yeah, we're excited. 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:19.280 Yeah, we're excited, are you guys? I know, no kid 0:04:19.400 --> 0:04:22.720 trained for forever or is it right now? 0:04:24.680 --> 0:04:28.360 It's probably eighty percent forever. I feel like Laura has 0:04:28.720 --> 0:04:31.920 a nut is taking that that task on for I 0:04:32.000 --> 0:04:36.720 can live vicariously through Laura. Anything can change, like I'll 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:39.520 probably freeze my eggs when we get back in the honeymoon. 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:41.599 But we both are pretty We live in New York. 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:47.720 We enjoy the freedoms. So yeah, we like being the 0:04:47.800 --> 0:04:50.440 uncle and the auntie. No, I'm I'm scared you not 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:53.680 to do it, Duvin. I mean, but yours actually were 0:04:53.760 --> 0:04:56.880 so well behaved and so cute. If anything, there was 0:04:56.920 --> 0:04:59.760 a moment that you sort of walked it back a little. 0:04:59.520 --> 0:05:01.360 Because yours are really cute. 0:05:02.440 --> 0:05:05.760 And we like kids. I just I our lifestyles are 0:05:05.760 --> 0:05:08.640 such like I'm in La right now for work, and 0:05:09.440 --> 0:05:11.719 we both just travel a lot and do a lot, 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:15.040 and we really love that when we love our careers. 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:18.840 And you know, for your parents, we'd be amazing parents 0:05:18.880 --> 0:05:21.600 and give everything and I have so much respect for 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:24.480 you guys. I just know that I don't multi. 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:25.720 Test that well so do I. 0:05:26.360 --> 0:05:28.960 You know, we're good being able to give what we 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:31.120 have to each other, to our careers, to our dog, 0:05:32.279 --> 0:05:34.920 and you know, but anything's possible. I also said I'd 0:05:34.960 --> 0:05:37.000 never do reality TV once, and well look at where 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:38.880 that got me. Yeah. 0:05:38.920 --> 0:05:40.800 But I think it's great though, that you're like, you 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:43.480 don't like, you know that twenty percent or whatever it 0:05:43.640 --> 0:05:46.800 is that you're like maybe the fact that you're like, Okay, well, 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:50.479 let's be proactive and do the eggs because you don't 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:52.560 want to get to a place, especially obviously for women 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:55.440 where we're like, oh it's too late now, and like 0:05:55.920 --> 0:05:58.040 to then to be met with that like that would 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:01.080 be because you just never no, like yeah, exactly like 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:02.560 you said you're never going to do this and then 0:06:02.720 --> 0:06:05.720 here you are, you know, doing X. So you know, 0:06:05.760 --> 0:06:07.960 I think that's I think that's very proactive and very 0:06:08.000 --> 0:06:08.480 boss of you. 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:10.120 So I love that. Thank you. 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:27.240 Here's my little like admitting this. I was like so 0:06:27.600 --> 0:06:32.880 close to getting a matchmaker, like right before I met 0:06:33.160 --> 0:06:37.479 my fiance, because it's like, you know, you've got the app. 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:40.640 Could you talk to Patty because I work for one 0:06:40.720 --> 0:06:44.760 of her, like Shell Companies, work with them, and they 0:06:44.880 --> 0:06:47.320 told me Erica who works with Patty. She's like, hey, 0:06:47.360 --> 0:06:50.520 by the way, Joanna Kramer is single, if you have 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:51.279 anybody for her? 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:54.840 And I was like, yeah, I might. That's amazing, and 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:57.680 so I was like, gonna help with that if you 0:06:57.960 --> 0:06:59.600 actually signed on. Yeah. 0:06:59.839 --> 0:07:01.640 I I never officially signed out, And I was always 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:04.120 just like, Patti, if you know anyone like you kind 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:06.600 of know me, like ish like if there's someone that 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:09.240 comes out because I for some reason, I didn't pull 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:12.640 the trigger because I'm like, I don't know, I don't 0:07:12.720 --> 0:07:14.800 know why, and maybe we can talk about like maybe 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:19.680 the stigma behind like matchmaking. But it made me go like, like, 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:22.600 what guy really signs up to like be matchmaked and 0:07:22.880 --> 0:07:25.120 or you know, to have a matchmaker and like and 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:27.640 so it just felt it felt weird and I'm like, 0:07:28.040 --> 0:07:29.920 are they really going to, you know, get the guy 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:31.920 that I like? I don't know. I just so I 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:35.040 just I never really like dove head into it because 0:07:35.040 --> 0:07:38.120 it just again I don't I don't know the full 0:07:38.160 --> 0:07:40.640 piece and like why But I'm like are these cool? 0:07:40.720 --> 0:07:43.160 Like like what are they like they're kind of guy. 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:46.840 Well yeah, so, but I mean, what do you think 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:48.880 is like the biggest stigma around matchmaking. 0:07:50.200 --> 0:07:52.600 I mean, I think that a lot of people, men 0:07:52.720 --> 0:07:55.680 and women, like whenever I'm talking to a new client, 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:59.720 unless they've you know, done it before and they enjoyed 0:07:59.760 --> 0:08:03.000 the if they've never worked with a matchmaker, the first 0:08:03.080 --> 0:08:06.040 comment always is like, oh, but I mean, but I 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:07.360 can get women on my own. 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:08.160 Especially if it's a guy. 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:10.400 The egos like comes right up there and they're like, 0:08:10.720 --> 0:08:12.160 you know, I don't have a problem with that, and 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:14.560 we're like, yeah, none of our clients have a problem 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:17.560 with getting women. We're trying to find you the one. 0:08:17.760 --> 0:08:20.960 It's a different type of search, you know. And then 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:23.360 I don't know, women don't seem to have as much 0:08:23.400 --> 0:08:25.840 of a stigma around it from what I've seen, but 0:08:26.560 --> 0:08:29.840 it's it is definitely. I think matching female clients is 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:33.559 harder because, as you said, like we can match you 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:37.080 with a male client, another paying male client, which is great, 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:39.560 but the guys who are in like the free database, 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:44.160 it's hard to get them motivated. Like I've definitely had 0:08:44.480 --> 0:08:47.840 issues where like, you know, I'll have a beautiful female 0:08:47.920 --> 0:08:50.360 paying client and I'm like, great, like you'll go out 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:52.280 with her, and then they like, don't put a ton 0:08:52.360 --> 0:08:55.600 of effort into planning the date, and I'm trying to intervene, 0:08:55.800 --> 0:08:57.439 and like then the girls complain. 0:08:57.520 --> 0:09:00.600 It depends on the city about that, because in New 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:03.719 York we work with a lot of female clients, right so, 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:10.120 and you know, in currently matching across twelve different cities 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:13.199 in the country, the vibes are very different for the 0:09:13.240 --> 0:09:16.280 different graphics. Like San Francisco is very different than Chicago. 0:09:16.320 --> 0:09:18.200 It's very different than Miami, which is very different than 0:09:18.240 --> 0:09:21.240 New York. And we have a lot of success in general. 0:09:21.280 --> 0:09:23.440 I've seen a lot of success with guys in the database. 0:09:23.480 --> 0:09:27.240 I actually just moved into a new apartment building that 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:30.400 we love and it was recommended by a former client 0:09:30.440 --> 0:09:34.079 of mine who just moved in with her match or 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:36.240 he moved in with her, and he was in the database. 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:39.719 She was a client, and she's educated and talented and 0:09:39.760 --> 0:09:42.719 beautiful as is he. And they're already talking marriage Like 0:09:42.760 --> 0:09:45.160 they'll probably be engaged, you know, by the end of 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:49.240 the year. I think as far as like the stigma goes, 0:09:49.400 --> 0:09:53.280 it's the same thing as getting an uber or ordering 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:56.320 in food ordering in food doesn't automatically mean you can't cook. 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:58.679 Now you maybe you can't cook, but that's not the 0:09:58.760 --> 0:10:01.200 assumption made. Or going out to a restaurant doesn't mean 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:04.199 you can't cook. It just means you realize that you'd 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:06.160 rather have an expert do it. Or maybe they make 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:08.160 this dish that's amazing, or maybe you've tried to make 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:10.600 it and it doesn't quite come out exactly the way 0:10:10.800 --> 0:10:13.439 that you know the Michelin star chef would make it, 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:16.960 or maybe you don't feel like driving, So it's sort 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:19.080 of the same thing. And I think matchmaking is really 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:22.280 having a resurgence, which is cool because people are realizing that, 0:10:22.360 --> 0:10:26.200 and especially younger people men and women that like, look, 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:28.200 if you're busy with your career, if you're doing all 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:31.000 the things, then let Laura and I do it, Like 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:33.360 let an expert where this week can sleep and breathe 0:10:33.800 --> 0:10:36.360 this do it. And also what's cool, like a good 0:10:36.440 --> 0:10:40.600 matchmaker is proactive. There are amazing exceptional guys in the database. 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:45.080 They're exceptional guys who utilize a matchmaker. One of our 0:10:45.160 --> 0:10:47.360 clients that you get to see on the show, which 0:10:47.440 --> 0:10:49.040 is just a small sampling of who we work with 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:51.959 because most of the time matchmaking is very confidential. So 0:10:52.800 --> 0:10:54.480 shout out to our team as a whole being able 0:10:54.480 --> 0:10:57.439 to find clients who also were willing to share a 0:10:57.559 --> 0:11:00.760 very personal part of their lives show it was like 0:11:00.920 --> 0:11:03.840 so hard and so shout out to them. But even 0:11:03.920 --> 0:11:06.719 like Don is a really great guy, Like Don was 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:09.720 is a you know, an active dad. He's smart, he's accomplished, 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:12.360 and he didn't have a problem getting women. He just 0:11:12.480 --> 0:11:14.439 kept going for the wrong type. So we had to 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:18.480 like work through that. But makes a really great partner 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:23.040 and you know, so yeah, I think sometimes overthinking things 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:24.800 is how we get in our own way about anything 0:11:24.840 --> 0:11:27.520 in life, and especially the really important thing. Sometimes you 0:11:27.679 --> 0:11:29.800 just have to take the leap, especially when you feel 0:11:29.880 --> 0:11:32.120 like you've continued to do it a certain way and 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:33.520 you're not getting the results that you want. 0:11:34.000 --> 0:11:36.760 Yeah, because I mean those apps, I'm like, you know, 0:11:37.080 --> 0:11:38.959 I was on Riah for like a little bit, and 0:11:39.160 --> 0:11:41.000 you know, just like going through there, I'm just like, 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:46.760 I mean, okay, you know it was like Australia like 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:49.360 all these places, and this is just like I mean, 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:49.840 I ended up. 0:11:49.880 --> 0:11:52.640 I was when I was single. It's it's terrible, Like 0:11:53.120 --> 0:11:55.960 I was on it. I feel like literally seven years. 0:11:56.200 --> 0:11:58.480 But when I was single, I was on RIAH and 0:11:58.960 --> 0:12:00.839 I met a ton of people on there. None of 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:03.439 them turned into our romantic connection, not even what and 0:12:03.520 --> 0:12:04.480 I just couldn't believe it. 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:07.520 I'm like, this app is just like who's cooler than who? 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:10.079 It was just a felt like every guy I met 0:12:10.120 --> 0:12:12.520 on there was just like, so I play in the NFL, 0:12:12.679 --> 0:12:15.280 or like, oh, obviously a celebrary. It's like I get it, 0:12:15.840 --> 0:12:18.240 You're you're awesome, Like can we have a date or 0:12:18.360 --> 0:12:19.120 like I don't know. 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:21.640 Yeah, And like I felt like nobody know because I'm 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:23.559 like I'm not going to be the first one to 0:12:23.600 --> 0:12:26.199 say something, so you know, then then no one just 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:28.559 says so you like like each other, we like and 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:29.960 then it's just sits there. And then I'm like, well 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:32.560 this is okay. I'm I'm on matching with you because 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:34.160 now I'm just annoyed that like you don't even like 0:12:34.240 --> 0:12:34.679 reach out. 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:36.439 I'm like, yeah totally. 0:12:37.040 --> 0:12:39.280 But yeah, so that's where it's like I like the 0:12:39.360 --> 0:12:41.920 matchmaking aspect because yeah, if you're busy, you're working, and 0:12:42.040 --> 0:12:44.360 it's like, you know, especially with like kids. It's like 0:12:44.520 --> 0:12:46.640 I was talking to one of my girlfriends this morning. 0:12:46.720 --> 0:12:46.880 You know. 0:12:46.960 --> 0:12:49.240 She's like, I just don't really know when I'm even 0:12:49.280 --> 0:12:51.120 going to like meet someone. She's like, because I don't. 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:53.560 She's like, I've got my daughter, you know, with work, 0:12:53.640 --> 0:12:55.280 and it's like I'm tired by the end of the day. 0:12:55.280 --> 0:12:57.400 I don't want to go to a bar or you know. 0:12:57.520 --> 0:13:00.640 It's just like I love the cute meet cute, but 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:01.520 like how and where? 0:13:01.800 --> 0:13:04.199 You know, so I think this cure is so annoying 0:13:04.240 --> 0:13:07.160 by the way, and unrealistic, like the meat the relationship. 0:13:07.240 --> 0:13:09.760 Cute should be the goal, right, like by the way, 0:13:09.920 --> 0:13:12.880 any matching story and however you meet your person becomes 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:16.959 cute when you guys have a healthy relationship, like realistically, 0:13:17.120 --> 0:13:19.480 like when you guys are happy and in love and 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:21.000 they're toasting at your wedding. 0:13:21.520 --> 0:13:22.760 Then however you met. 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:26.280 Whether it's the emergency room, a dating app, a matchmaker, 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:29.280 and suddenly cute. It's only not cute when it doesn't work. 0:13:29.360 --> 0:13:32.920 But if you're limiting yourself because you are hoping about 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:35.920 like caring so much about how it's going to be perceived, 0:13:36.080 --> 0:13:39.079 yes right by like other people or what, then you've 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:41.679 lost the plot and then you're not focusing on the 0:13:41.760 --> 0:13:47.000 things that ultimately matter in terms of what you need 0:13:47.240 --> 0:13:49.800 for your partner to make you a relationship happy and healthy. 0:13:49.960 --> 0:13:51.559 For sure, I have one thousand percent agree with you. 0:13:51.679 --> 0:13:53.480 And my fiance and I were actually just talking. He 0:13:53.600 --> 0:13:56.120 was like I was doing an interview and I'm like, yeah, 0:13:56.160 --> 0:13:57.880 he's slid into my DMS. He's like, oh, He's like 0:13:57.960 --> 0:13:59.719 I don't like it when you say that, and I'm like, 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:03.400 why is because it just sounds so like, you know, like, oh, 0:14:03.440 --> 0:14:05.360 I stood into your DMS. I'm like, it doesn't matter, 0:14:05.679 --> 0:14:07.440 Like this is like the new people do that all 0:14:07.480 --> 0:14:11.000 the time. I was like, DMS, you know what I mean. Yes, 0:14:11.200 --> 0:14:11.480 I'm like. 0:14:11.720 --> 0:14:15.400 It's for the goal, like he's the MVP of the game. 0:14:15.480 --> 0:14:18.720 I know, it's so fun. He thinks it's like sounds 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:20.840 like douchey. I'm like, it's not, like that's just like 0:14:21.240 --> 0:14:23.760 how you know, like that's in one of the ways 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:27.040 of finding people is you know, being like, hey, how 0:14:27.120 --> 0:14:29.800 are you? I think you look cool and like whatever. 0:14:29.880 --> 0:14:33.680 You seemed like a great mom, like awesome in Miami, though, 0:14:33.720 --> 0:14:35.880 I feel like there's like that's got to be fun. 0:14:35.960 --> 0:14:38.080 So I'm excited to watch the show on Roku because 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:41.880 it just seems like there's a lot of beautiful people 0:14:41.960 --> 0:14:45.720 in Miami and there's a lot of you know, singles 0:14:45.760 --> 0:14:48.440 as well, So like, what is what is the advantage 0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:50.760 I guess of doing you know, of living in the 0:14:50.840 --> 0:14:56.320 city like that, Laurel' let you take the lead out. 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:02.400 I mean, I feel like Miami has advantages and it 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:06.360 has disadvantages. Yes, there's a ton of beautiful people, but 0:15:06.480 --> 0:15:09.640 a lot of them are just visiting. That's definitely an obstacle, 0:15:10.040 --> 0:15:13.440 and a lot of them are not super serious. But 0:15:13.640 --> 0:15:16.120 we find obviously that's our job to find the people 0:15:16.160 --> 0:15:20.320 that are serious about a relationship. But I mean, what 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:23.400 you know, I live close to here, like an hour away, 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:26.720 and I always tell my potential clients like, hey, I'm 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:28.840 going to search for you in the outside areas too, 0:15:29.000 --> 0:15:32.040 Like I live in Delray Beach. More serious guys like 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:34.760 where I met my fiance are in West Palm Beach 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:38.200 del Rey. Like, don't ignore the outskirts because a lot 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:40.560 of those guys really want a family and you can 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:42.520 like live an hour from Miami and still have a 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:44.680 great life. A lot of people are like, oh and 0:15:44.760 --> 0:15:46.400 I want to live like in the city. I'm like well, 0:15:46.480 --> 0:15:48.800 then you might meet a party guy like Don but 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:51.280 he's reformed. But like you know, it's hard to find 0:15:51.320 --> 0:15:53.120 the serious people that they do exist. 0:15:53.640 --> 0:15:56.200 I was just I remember one of the things too, 0:15:56.320 --> 0:15:58.720 like before I almost jumped in with the matchmaking stuff. 0:15:58.800 --> 0:16:02.240 It is expensive, So like, what is like the success 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:05.040 rate that you guys find from matchmaking? Because to invest 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:08.600 like that amount of money, it's like, you know, you 0:16:09.080 --> 0:16:12.400 obviously can't like guarantee you're gonna find love, but like, 0:16:12.760 --> 0:16:16.000 is there a better success rate with that as opposed 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:18.720 to like the countless hours of like being on a 0:16:18.840 --> 0:16:19.920 hinge or whatever. 0:16:21.280 --> 0:16:24.440 I understand the desire for like a guarantee and certainty, 0:16:24.560 --> 0:16:26.320 but the thing with love is right that there is 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:29.680 no there's too many variables and moving parts. For us 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:32.680 at the agency, we do guarantee you matches, which is 0:16:32.680 --> 0:16:34.520 why we don't take everyone on as a client. So 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:37.240 we're selective and who we take on as clients based 0:16:37.320 --> 0:16:40.080 on your own criteria. So your must haves you tell 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:42.160 us in the beginning. You know, you outline and in 0:16:42.240 --> 0:16:43.840 the show what's great is you get to see a 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:46.160 part of this process and peak behind the curtains, but 0:16:46.240 --> 0:16:48.560 we find out what your mustabs are what your deal 0:16:48.600 --> 0:16:51.400 breakers are. And if there's anything we feel like is 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:53.720 an absolute nogo or we just feel we'd be limiting 0:16:54.160 --> 0:16:55.920 in the amount of matches we can present to you, 0:16:56.160 --> 0:16:58.520 then we'll be very transparent about that and you can 0:16:58.600 --> 0:17:02.400 be in the free database, so you're guaranteed matches, guaranteed 0:17:02.440 --> 0:17:04.879 matches that fit within that criteria that are local to you. 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:07.960 But then the love part comes down to your own 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:10.720 chemistry and also your own openness, because the reality is, 0:17:11.240 --> 0:17:13.240 and I've seen this in my years of matchmaking, and 0:17:13.320 --> 0:17:16.280 I am sure Laura has to if you aren't doing 0:17:16.359 --> 0:17:18.720 the personal work, we can present you with the most 0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:22.119 amazing person, everything you ask for right in front of you, 0:17:22.200 --> 0:17:23.800 and you're still doing to f it up like you 0:17:24.000 --> 0:17:26.480 just are. If you're focused on the wrong things. And 0:17:26.720 --> 0:17:29.760 so you've got to do your part two and you're grown. 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:32.840 We don't control you, so like you've got to trust 0:17:32.880 --> 0:17:36.440 in the process and we're here to support you. But 0:17:36.800 --> 0:17:38.800 if we take you on as a client, you can 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:40.919 feel good knowing that we have your back. We are 0:17:40.960 --> 0:17:45.520 going to be proactive. You are guaranteed matches and we have. 0:17:45.600 --> 0:17:46.200 A lot of success. 0:17:46.280 --> 0:17:47.320 I mean, Laura and I've been doing this for a 0:17:47.400 --> 0:17:49.680 very long time, and the way we've continued to grow 0:17:49.880 --> 0:17:53.119 largely is just off of word of mouth refer like 0:17:53.359 --> 0:17:55.880 you know, people of people and clients who know clients, 0:17:55.920 --> 0:17:59.520 and so you know that says that that speaks volumes 0:17:59.600 --> 0:18:01.920 into what we do and how will it works for 0:18:01.960 --> 0:18:02.719 other people? Right? 0:18:02.760 --> 0:18:03.240 That makes sense? 0:18:03.280 --> 0:18:06.560 And when our clients are happy, like that's success in itself, 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:10.080 you know, Like everyone defines success a bit differently. I mean, 0:18:10.160 --> 0:18:12.800 I have clients that have been working with me over 0:18:12.920 --> 0:18:16.440 two years that are so happy that love working with me. 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:18.320 Now a lot of people would say, oh, it's cheers 0:18:18.359 --> 0:18:21.160 and they haven't found someone. Well, they're really happy. They're 0:18:21.200 --> 0:18:23.800 they're working through some stuff. Like this particular client I'm 0:18:23.800 --> 0:18:26.520 thinking of we just realized the other day, had like 0:18:26.560 --> 0:18:29.000