WEBVTT - Sex and the City Ft. Efeti Egun 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:07.080 We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:12.920 talked back back, and we back. What's up y'all thinking 0:00:12.960 --> 0:00:15.080 for tuning in for a new episode that we talked back? 0:00:15.120 --> 0:00:19.319 It's your co host A J. Holiday. What's up, Tam? Hey, y'all. 0:00:19.360 --> 0:00:21.840 This is dedicating to you niggas and these homes and 0:00:22.000 --> 0:00:24.760 everybody in between. A J said that, I said it today. 0:00:26.040 --> 0:00:31.000 Hey girl, Hey y'all, what's up, Jack? How you doing? 0:00:31.720 --> 0:00:36.240 I am in recovery mode, ch'ad my first week of three, 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:40.200 I gotta beat the funk up by some little bug 0:00:40.280 --> 0:00:42.400 I picked up, probably at this house party I went 0:00:42.440 --> 0:00:45.640 to at my home girl house. But I'm recovering. You 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:48.360 might have had COVID. You might have had COVID. No, 0:00:48.840 --> 0:00:51.360 I don't know what COVID feels like, but I didn't 0:00:51.400 --> 0:00:54.000 lose my taste, smell, none of that ship you know. 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:56.320 Reminded me of like when I was really young and 0:00:56.320 --> 0:00:59.440 I used to have bronchitis a lot. That's that's what 0:00:59.520 --> 0:01:02.800 it felt like. That's what COVID be feeling like. Bro. Yeah, 0:01:02.840 --> 0:01:06.280 but these things existed prior to COVID. So why why 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:09.960 you don't like this test? Because I feel like sometimes 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:13.520 the test can be contaminated. The last time I took 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:15.920 a COVID test, I got sick. Now, I could have 0:01:16.040 --> 0:01:18.360 very well had COVID at that time. But I literally 0:01:18.800 --> 0:01:21.200 took a COVID test, and in twenty four hours I 0:01:21.280 --> 0:01:23.600 was sick from having stuck some ship out my nose. 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:27.160 But you was already feeling sick. That's why I was. 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:29.399 I took the COVID test to travel back from Jamaica. 0:01:30.600 --> 0:01:33.800 Oh yeah, I don't know. I don't. I ain't never 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:36.800 heard of nobody getting sick from the test. You don't know, though, 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:41.119 you don't know, You're right? That was my weekend, y'all. 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:43.640 If y'all kid, I was sick, and now I'm back. 0:01:43.760 --> 0:01:46.520 I went to the gym yesterday. I'm here today. That's 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:50.160 what it is. What's up? I think I stayed in 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:54.840 my house? Oh no, I'm lying. I went outside. I 0:01:54.920 --> 0:01:58.800 went to U always outside, bit you'd be lying. I 0:01:58.840 --> 0:02:03.680 went to uh see Carlos um Miller. Carlos Miller at 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:07.200 the Ovens Auditorium here in Charlotte. Y'all. When I tell you, 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:12.320 this nigga was so funny, This nigga was so funny. 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:15.120 Oh my god, he had me like holding on my stomach, 0:02:15.240 --> 0:02:19.960 laughing like like laughing like that. That boy is funny. 0:02:20.280 --> 0:02:22.040 And he also agreed to have me in a j 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:24.919 on eighty five South, so y'all stay too for that 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:27.359 this year. So that's a good time. And that's really 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:30.160 all I did. After I went to the show, we 0:02:30.240 --> 0:02:34.760 all went to um O this place called Tattoos and 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:42.280 Booze in Charlotte to see the fight Davanta Javante. Yeah, 0:02:42.520 --> 0:02:44.520 we watched the fight there. Well, I only watched a 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:46.960 few minutes of it because my bullion started hurting on 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:48.840 my left foot and baby had to go because we 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:51.200 didn't have the table and I don't do that, so 0:02:51.240 --> 0:02:52.680 I had to get up out of there. But that 0:02:52.800 --> 0:02:56.800 was it. I love Carlos Miller like he one of 0:02:56.840 --> 0:03:01.040 my favorite comedians and that like um, Corey Hokem, Corey 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:05.600 Holkem and Carlins Miller. Then my people, Corey Holcom definitely 0:03:05.600 --> 0:03:08.640 will go there. He's one of the people who are 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:10.480 not afraid to say whatever the funk they want to 0:03:10.520 --> 0:03:14.120 say at all. Yeah, and sometimes that ship might have 0:03:14.240 --> 0:03:16.040 it's like nigger, why you say that? Like how do 0:03:16.040 --> 0:03:19.440 you even fix your mouth? It's so embarrassed, Like I 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:22.280 feel embarrassed. Yeah you said that ship. He yeah, he 0:03:22.360 --> 0:03:29.480 definitely pushed. But Carlos Miller is like he liked that 0:03:29.520 --> 0:03:32.120 funny ass homeboy, that funny ass cousin. This nigked don't. 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:34.320 I don't even think he does he even write some ship. 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:37.000 He just be funny and then he just go out 0:03:37.000 --> 0:03:40.480 there and start talking. Yea half of the comedy came 0:03:40.520 --> 0:03:43.680 from the crowd. Like. It wasn't even like him telling 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:46.280 a joke like you know, yeah, it was like a 0:03:46.320 --> 0:03:49.080 girl in there with a key chain with a blood 0:03:49.080 --> 0:03:51.080 cut on it, and he did a whole set about 0:03:51.120 --> 0:03:52.880 a blood cutter just that quick, you know, And it 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:56.560 wasn't you know, you couldn't have magic. Yes, magic, he's mad. 0:03:56.680 --> 0:03:58.440 But you know the eighty five South show. They're doing 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:00.920 prov for that show. Two they don't really like have 0:04:01.080 --> 0:04:04.600 a ski just go up there. I could got their food. 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:07.840 So it's it. That's that's a real life talent you 0:04:07.840 --> 0:04:12.240 can't get on Instagram. Yeah. Yeah, he asked me. He 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:15.320 asked me, Uh, if my pussy was played by a 0:04:15.360 --> 0:04:18.960 person in a movie, who would my pussy be? And 0:04:19.160 --> 0:04:21.320 I just could not figure who my pussy would be. 0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:25.960 Like I went. I eventually went with in the beginning, 0:04:25.960 --> 0:04:32.000 my pussy would be Earth the Kid, mocking, and then 0:04:32.120 --> 0:04:34.680 my pussy would be played by Cecily Tyson in the end, 0:04:36.000 --> 0:04:38.960 a strong, strong pussy that all my life I had 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:47.080 to fight pussy. Stupid. One girl was like, my pussy 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:49.800 would be played by Ray. He was like, you gotta 0:04:49.880 --> 0:04:55.560 inscutre pussy, Yo, broken pussy. Man. I'm trying to think 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:58.000 who mine would be played by. I don't know. Earth 0:04:58.000 --> 0:05:01.240 the Kid is a good one, man, I don't know 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:04.640 that's a good way. All right, let's get into the 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:08.360 sins of this week stupid internet news. I don't know 0:05:08.400 --> 0:05:10.920 if y'all watch football, I really don't, but I saw 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:15.160 this on social media that the Pittsburgh Steelers defeated the 0:05:15.200 --> 0:05:21.960 Cleveland Brown fourteen and in the celebration they did CPR 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:24.880 motions to one of the players on the field as 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:29.279 a victory dance. And you know, last week tomorrow, Hamlin, 0:05:29.920 --> 0:05:32.480 you know, needed CPR on the field because he went 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:37.159 into cardiac arres and I just thought that was real tacky. Yeah, 0:05:37.200 --> 0:05:39.800 that's kind of disrespectful. That guy could have passed away, 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:44.600 Like would y'all have done it? Then? It's super disrespectful. 0:05:45.279 --> 0:05:48.600 It's just like tasteless. I mean, the a but a 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:51.440 graceful God that man is still here with us, you know, 0:05:52.279 --> 0:05:55.839 God bless him and he and and he'll never play again, 0:05:56.000 --> 0:05:59.000 that's for sure. But I really that they would pay 0:05:59.080 --> 0:06:00.760 him out his Phoe car track, which is a good 0:06:00.800 --> 0:06:07.279 thing they should um do for everybody exactly. I was wondering, 0:06:07.320 --> 0:06:09.440 like what happens in that case, because we know football 0:06:09.440 --> 0:06:15.360 players contracts oftentimes aren't guaranteed, So do they have like 0:06:15.760 --> 0:06:18.799 um health insurance and stuff like that, Like a regular 0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:22.919 person would that. I'm I'm hoping so I would like 0:06:22.920 --> 0:06:25.800 to think so anyway, But that's whack as fun that 0:06:25.839 --> 0:06:29.680 they did that. Yeah, Like that's traumatic experience for everybody 0:06:29.720 --> 0:06:32.719 that was on the field during that time. And y'all 0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:35.920 whack is hell for that. And it was just last week. Yeah, 0:06:36.000 --> 0:06:39.640 y'all don't mean wait, it was just last week. I 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:42.960 hope they get some kind of fine for that ship. Yeah, 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:46.240 Samon's good. He tweeted Saturday, uh and he was like, 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:49.039 who won? The doctor told him that he won the 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:54.880 Game of life? Period. Black people are so funny, man. 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:57.839 We could turn like some really bad ship into a 0:06:57.880 --> 0:07:00.960 good time all the time? Are we taking and run 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:06.080 out like doing CPR That was stupid stupid internet news 0:07:06.480 --> 0:07:11.800 and other stupid Internet news. Young Thug Um trial is 0:07:12.000 --> 0:07:16.120 due to begin, I believe in the next coming weeks anyway, 0:07:16.160 --> 0:07:20.080 but right now they're in jury selection. So while injury selection, 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:26.040 the judge um, he's basically reading out the lyrics of 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:28.679 some of Young Thug songs in court. And I thought 0:07:28.720 --> 0:07:32.880 that the jurors are supposed to be like, um, you know, 0:07:33.000 --> 0:07:37.840 non biased, like they should know all these details about 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:41.480 the case, about the case until they're actually selected to 0:07:41.600 --> 0:07:43.760 be a juror. So to me, it's kind of like 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:49.240 they're almost taming the jury already convicting Young Thug if 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:53.000 this is how they're now handling sh in court. So 0:07:53.320 --> 0:07:57.080 I know in California they threw out using lyrics in court, 0:07:57.360 --> 0:07:59.960 but apparently this still stands in the state of Georgia, 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:04.480 where they will use um rapp lyrics in particular because 0:08:04.520 --> 0:08:07.720 we do have the most violent music, right they are 0:08:07.760 --> 0:08:12.160 now using lyrics against uh these artists in court. And 0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:13.920 I mean we're in a place like Atlanta. They're in 0:08:13.920 --> 0:08:20.280 a place like Atlanta, Georgia. Everybody's a fucking rapper. Okay, 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:22.960 it's like you can't have anything happen, and then you 0:08:23.040 --> 0:08:25.200 wrapped about. Even some ship that don't have anything to 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:29.240 do with anything that you're currently in trouble for, they 0:08:29.280 --> 0:08:32.280 may use those lyrics in the court a lot. What 0:08:32.360 --> 0:08:33.959 you think about that? Do you think that you know, 0:08:33.960 --> 0:08:36.839 because it's art imitating life or vice versa? Which one 0:08:36.920 --> 0:08:39.080 is it? Uh? You know? For me, it's kind of 0:08:39.120 --> 0:08:42.800 slippery slope because if you're a rapper and you made 0:08:42.840 --> 0:08:48.120 a song and and my cousin got killed and he's like, yeah, slice, spooky, yes, 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:51.440 look with a knife and put his body in the ditch, 0:08:51.720 --> 0:08:54.079 and that's really what happened to my cousin, Pooky, I'm 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:55.719 gonna need that to be used in court to get 0:08:55.720 --> 0:08:58.360 you convicted. Right. So there's a part of me that 0:08:58.400 --> 0:09:01.200 feels that way. But then is an also a part 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:04.000 of me that feels like a lot of times these 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:06.600 rappers just be entertainers and there's a lot of capping 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:11.360 the songs and y'all using it to make them look 0:09:11.400 --> 0:09:14.520 bad when in the actuality it's just music. You know, 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:18.560 it's just for entertainment purposes. So it is a slippery slope. 0:09:18.559 --> 0:09:22.880 For me, you know, right, And he's using lyrics from 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:26.400 a song slime shit. So listen to larrics are and 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:30.440 then what when you read larrics out, It's like what 0:09:30.559 --> 0:09:33.000 the fund a yall nigga is really saying? It's the 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:37.200 beat that'd be nice. These niggas cannot wrap okay, and says, 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:40.840 hey this that slime ship? Hey, why is sell ship? 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:45.000 Hey killing twelve ship? This is fucked up? Okay, Hey, 0:09:45.240 --> 0:09:49.640 fucking jail ship. Hey, cooking white brick. Hey, Hey I'm 0:09:49.679 --> 0:09:52.480 not new to this. Hey, I'm so true to this. Hey, 0:09:52.520 --> 0:09:54.880 I don't put a whole slime on a hunted licks. 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:58.079 You read it better than that judge because he was 0:09:58.160 --> 0:10:03.439 sucking it up. Read it to the beat. God. Like 0:10:03.640 --> 0:10:05.920 I remember when I was living in Atlanta, there used 0:10:05.960 --> 0:10:09.240 to be like billboards that basically they're the police was 0:10:09.320 --> 0:10:14.280 trying to hire people to interpret gang slang. So they 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:20.240 were trying to hire civilians to help them. You know, understand, Yes, yes, 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:26.839 this is a whole another language. So um the judge 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:32.040 proceeding over the trial as a judge, Cleanville's a black man. Um, 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:34.000 I don't know. I don't think that they should be 0:10:34.040 --> 0:10:36.920 able to use lyrics in court. I think that in 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:41.120 this case, young thug does not just need a defense attorney, 0:10:41.360 --> 0:10:45.679 he needs uh civil law attorney. He needs a couple 0:10:45.679 --> 0:10:48.920 of people in there because this this freedom of speech. 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:52.280 I feel like he should be able to um get 0:10:52.320 --> 0:10:55.160 the lyrics thrown out, the use of the lyrics in 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:57.960 the crimes, because a lot of their case is based 0:10:58.000 --> 0:11:02.160 on the lyrics in the songs. Yeah, so I think 0:11:02.160 --> 0:11:04.040 he leaves a civil rights attorney and then just like 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:06.360 somebody to interpret the law because I don't see how 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:08.520 this is legal for them to read it out to 0:11:08.600 --> 0:11:12.920 the jurors right during jury selection. Yeah, it's weird. So 0:11:12.960 --> 0:11:15.439 it's a lot of unprecedented should happening in the state. 0:11:15.480 --> 0:11:17.400 I always say, the jury is going to be members 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:20.320 of your peers. They already know them lyrics if it's 0:11:20.360 --> 0:11:24.440 members of your peers, right, Yeah, but it ain't. There's 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:28.080 some old lady from Marietta. Yeah. This that September last year, 0:11:28.280 --> 0:11:33.520 Governor Newsome signed the decriminalizing artistic expression at Act a 0:11:33.640 --> 0:11:37.720 B nine nine. So it effectively bans the use of 0:11:37.800 --> 0:11:41.160 rapp lyrics evidence in court and making California the first 0:11:41.200 --> 0:11:43.960 state to pass such a law. They need that law 0:11:44.480 --> 0:11:47.000 that should be a federal in Georgia, especially because there's 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:49.920 a lot of rappers in Georgia, and then with the 0:11:50.040 --> 0:11:53.520 gang community in California, like its rampant. It is as 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:55.520 it is, if they really wanted to put niggas in jail, 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:59.200 like they would not have inforced something like this. They 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:01.360 would just let it be and use all those lyrics 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:06.240 against against uh the artists. But also it would be 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:09.240 wise to not incriminate yourself and your music at all. Also, 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:12.000 you know, that's the weird part about it. It's like 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:17.800 our generation we did things discreetly with the drill music. 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:21.679 These young guys are literally committing crimes and putting it 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:25.040 on wax. It's so weird, Like you don't even have 0:12:25.080 --> 0:12:28.440 to snitch on them anymore. They snitching themselves. Get somebody 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:30.360 else to do it. That's my favorite ship, I know. 0:12:30.960 --> 0:12:34.800 Isn't it fun? And you gotta do it? You gotta say, 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:37.559 just like her, ummm, get somebody else to do it? 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:43.760 All right? What else happening? All right? I'm sick of 0:12:43.840 --> 0:12:46.960 these people. Okay, So I know I sent you a 0:12:46.960 --> 0:12:49.720 couple of clips online after we spoke about this earlier, 0:12:50.200 --> 0:12:53.400 but um so the family of Big Scar. He's a 0:12:53.520 --> 0:12:58.120 rapper who you know was murdered recently. He was, Yeah, 0:12:58.160 --> 0:13:02.480 he was on Gucci Man's label. Gucci Man Um apparently 0:13:02.520 --> 0:13:05.920 told the family that he would cover the funeral cost, right, 0:13:06.800 --> 0:13:09.600 so I believe he. Yeah. He passed away December twenty 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:14.800 two at age two, young boy, right. I don't know 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:18.480 how long he was signed the ten seventeen records, but 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:21.840 Gucci Man said he would cover to the funeral expenses. 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:23.360 So some of his friends and family took to the 0:13:23.360 --> 0:13:26.640 internet to say that, you know, once they asked Gucci Man, 0:13:26.720 --> 0:13:31.520 you know, was he going to cover the expensive expenses? 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:34.520 He hung up and blocked them for teaching or Gucci 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:38.080 Maine's wife Okay, so she took to social media to 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:42.600 produce evidence two receipts that she paid that they got 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:47.880 that they collectively paid for flowers and ten thousand dollars 0:13:47.920 --> 0:13:52.640 towards the funeral expenses for this young man Um. I 0:13:52.640 --> 0:13:55.120 don't know what else they could have done. The family 0:13:55.160 --> 0:13:57.199 is still saying they didn't get any money. They paid 0:13:57.200 --> 0:14:00.240 the money directly to the funeral home. Did y'all want 0:14:00.240 --> 0:14:03.000 that money to go to your hands? Right? So y'all 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:07.320 can cremate him and split the uh nine thousand. I 0:14:07.320 --> 0:14:10.280 mean they should have created him in the first place. Yeah, 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:13.800 I just don't. I don't agree with spending thousands and 0:14:13.840 --> 0:14:18.600 thousands of dollars on and this is my preference, right 0:14:18.880 --> 0:14:23.920 I can. I'll say this, Um, living your life a 0:14:23.960 --> 0:14:26.320 certain way and then put in your family and a 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:31.640 hardship when something happens to you, it's very selfish. So 0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:34.840 we know that cremation is much less expensive. And I 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:38.200 don't know if it's a religious religion reason why they 0:14:38.400 --> 0:14:43.320 have to have a burial, an actual burial, but cremate 0:14:43.400 --> 0:14:47.400 that boy and keep it moving. Did you have life insurance? 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:50.280 This is the stuff we need to listen. This, This 0:14:50.320 --> 0:14:53.520 is the hard truths. I'm sorry, it's just a hard truth. 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:56.960 Like you you're leaving. If you need assistance to bury 0:14:57.040 --> 0:15:00.360 your child, y'all don't have it. Y'all don't have the money. 0:15:00.360 --> 0:15:04.800 He didn't leave any money nothing. Obviously, if y'all talking, 0:15:04.800 --> 0:15:09.320 it's crazy about somebody outside your family that did assist. Yeah, 0:15:09.320 --> 0:15:11.320 I don't understand why they were sold. You know, people 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:13.600 more indifferent and I just try not to pass judgment 0:15:13.600 --> 0:15:17.760 on people morning. Uh, but it's unfair for them to 0:15:17.840 --> 0:15:20.480 feel like Gucci didn't do enough. He didn't have to 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:22.600 do Honestly, he didn't have to do nothing. You know, 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:26.080 nobody's entitled to do anything for you, right, did he 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:28.920 die for you? That's the only way I could think of. 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:32.640 Like even then, Oh, you can say your condolences. You 0:15:32.640 --> 0:15:36.600 still don't owe nobody anything financially. What they did was nice. 0:15:36.640 --> 0:15:39.080 You know, they gave money, They gave ten thousand dollars, 0:15:39.120 --> 0:15:42.160 they sit flowers. You know, what else do you want? 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:44.520 What else do you want? Oh, he's asking for his 0:15:44.640 --> 0:15:47.880 chains back to So Gucci Maine is asking for the 0:15:47.960 --> 0:15:53.160 chains that he gave this young man back. Uh. I 0:15:53.160 --> 0:15:58.000 don't know how I feel about that. You know, it's 0:15:58.120 --> 0:16:00.520 his family. Probably could sell those change and get some 0:16:00.520 --> 0:16:03.560 money if they needed. You know, I wouldn't ask for 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:07.400 Once I give somebody something, now, typically ask for it back. 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:10.800 I mean they're already gone, So who do you ask 0:16:10.880 --> 0:16:13.840 for it back? Or was that a down payment on 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:18.360 his career? Why? Why? Why do they give the chains away? Anyway? 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:22.200 Like when the when the record give a chain, is 0:16:22.240 --> 0:16:26.680 it a company car? It's a company car? Right based 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:29.840 to give them to give them the acstatic that you 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:33.800 need to look like legit in the rap industry, you know, 0:16:34.520 --> 0:16:36.680 and we know a lot of people rent jury all 0:16:36.680 --> 0:16:39.280 the time. So just it's just like a rental while 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:41.480 you're with this group. Give that man back the jury to. 0:16:41.600 --> 0:16:43.440 I believe they should give the jury back. I doubt 0:16:44.000 --> 0:16:48.160 Gaucy Man sees this jury. He might as well just 0:16:48.160 --> 0:16:52.400 just chuck it up as a loss. Yeah, let's just 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:55.880 still a still a conversation about drug use in our 0:16:55.960 --> 0:17:01.120 black community. And because he died from prescription overdose, young 0:17:01.160 --> 0:17:07.920 man and too, so it's a sad chain of events. 0:17:08.160 --> 0:17:11.960 Rest in peace to this young man and be grateful 0:17:12.000 --> 0:17:14.400 when somebody helps you. That's all I got to say. 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:18.119 On man. Yeah, this is real. It's real nasty what 0:17:18.200 --> 0:17:23.000 they're doing online. It's embarrassing. Yeah, I'm embarrassed, and it's 0:17:23.320 --> 0:17:26.920 it's not even me. I'm embarrassed. Yeah. So we're gonna 0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:29.359 take a break and we're gonna talk dating in Los 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:36.560 Angeles as a black woman. And we're back. Okay, we 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:39.160 have a special guest on we talked back this weekend. 0:17:39.200 --> 0:17:44.000 We want to talk about dating. Okay, uh, sex in 0:17:44.119 --> 0:17:47.800 the city nine oh two one oh style. Okay, we 0:17:47.880 --> 0:17:51.600 have sat whom on we talked back this week. Girl, 0:17:51.680 --> 0:17:58.920 Hey girl, Hi, hey hi. Oh my god, but I'm 0:17:58.920 --> 0:18:03.399 excited me to Okay, So y'all a little backstory. I 0:18:03.480 --> 0:18:07.160 went to l A to uh Bi, Samone and Megan 0:18:07.240 --> 0:18:11.560 Brooks live show for No for Sure, and I met 0:18:11.600 --> 0:18:14.359 Effie there. Effie was fabulous. She was looking good, she 0:18:14.440 --> 0:18:16.880 was glowing, she was standing out, and we just got 0:18:16.920 --> 0:18:20.919 to talking about being beautiful black women and dating. And 0:18:20.960 --> 0:18:22.480 I was like, girl, I had to get you on 0:18:22.480 --> 0:18:25.880 the show and talk about dating in l A. So 0:18:26.040 --> 0:18:28.280 thank you for coming. Girl, Let's get into this for 0:18:28.400 --> 0:18:31.360 having me. I'm like, I'm super excited, Like I am 0:18:31.480 --> 0:18:35.120 very very excited. Good good Listen. We've been going back 0:18:35.160 --> 0:18:38.160 and forth since what was that November about a date, 0:18:38.240 --> 0:18:41.280 so finally we got you here. So I'm gonna jump 0:18:41.320 --> 0:18:43.880 into it real quickly. Do only day black man, Yes, 0:18:44.600 --> 0:18:48.960 exclusively only dateway. And it's not because like I'm racist 0:18:49.040 --> 0:18:53.320 or anything. It's you know, um, in college, I had 0:18:53.359 --> 0:18:55.439 my degree was in kinesiology and my minor was an 0:18:55.400 --> 0:19:00.439 Africana studies um and I there's so many things that 0:19:00.480 --> 0:19:03.600 I learned within the Africana Studies course that maybe just 0:19:03.640 --> 0:19:06.280 want black. I don't want mixed race kids personally, I 0:19:06.880 --> 0:19:11.159 just want black. Let's talk about it. And um, I 0:19:11.240 --> 0:19:14.639 always felt like nobody can raise my child to be 0:19:14.720 --> 0:19:19.479 black in America than a black man. So again, everybody 0:19:19.520 --> 0:19:21.560 is beautiful though, you know every but for me, my 0:19:21.640 --> 0:19:23.680 taste is like, you know, I like black man. Let's 0:19:23.680 --> 0:19:26.600 talk about those studies. So what does that all entail? 0:19:26.680 --> 0:19:31.720 Africa Africana studies? What is that exactly? So going into it, 0:19:31.720 --> 0:19:34.200 I thought it was just gonna be like African American history, 0:19:34.240 --> 0:19:37.320 but it's deeper than that. It's like the psychology, sociology. 0:19:37.560 --> 0:19:40.480 It taught me like it broadened my view on how 0:19:40.640 --> 0:19:46.400 I I interact with Africans within the diaspora. And when 0:19:46.400 --> 0:19:48.560 I say that, I mean because I am Nigerian American, 0:19:49.080 --> 0:19:51.520 my views on things are somewhat different from someone who 0:19:51.560 --> 0:19:53.879 may be born and raised in America as African American 0:19:54.000 --> 0:19:56.919 or somebody that's Caribbean. So um, it just gave me 0:19:56.960 --> 0:20:01.320 a more a broad a broader understanding, and more sympathy too, 0:20:01.400 --> 0:20:03.840 Like when I see certain things like I don't react 0:20:03.880 --> 0:20:05.800 like oh my god, that's just like who does that 0:20:05.920 --> 0:20:08.360 to me? It's like where, how did they grow up, 0:20:08.359 --> 0:20:10.880 like what happened? Where did they come from? So it's 0:20:10.880 --> 0:20:13.080 more like a broad up like a psychological thing as 0:20:13.080 --> 0:20:18.159 well that goes into it. That's interesting. I'm on Clubhouse 0:20:18.200 --> 0:20:22.600 a lot, and that's usually. Have you been on Clubhouse ever? Yes? 0:20:23.520 --> 0:20:28.119 And you so you've seen the diaspor Awards on Clubhouse 0:20:28.200 --> 0:20:32.560 essentially between Africans and Black American people. And I think 0:20:32.600 --> 0:20:34.680 it's sad because, like it's funny enough, like my best 0:20:34.680 --> 0:20:37.159 friends for over ten years African Americans. I go to 0:20:37.200 --> 0:20:40.359 their family reunions, they come to my Nigerian events, like 0:20:40.440 --> 0:20:42.600 we don't even care. So when I see stuff like 0:20:42.640 --> 0:20:45.240 that kind of breaks my heart because we're stronger together 0:20:45.280 --> 0:20:49.159 than divide. And just because we I guess, you know, 0:20:49.640 --> 0:20:52.200 different areas. I guess we come from different areas, doesn't 0:20:52.200 --> 0:20:56.800 necessarily necessarily mean we're different culturally, yes, maybe, but like 0:20:56.840 --> 0:20:58.720 if we just come together, look at black women are 0:20:58.800 --> 0:21:04.320 killing it out here across the disk, you know what 0:21:04.359 --> 0:21:07.320 I mean? So what better way to like not keep 0:21:07.359 --> 0:21:09.720 us powerful than to just break us up instead of 0:21:09.800 --> 0:21:11.879 us coming together? So I don't I don't really be 0:21:11.880 --> 0:21:14.320 paying attention to stuff like that because I feel like 0:21:14.320 --> 0:21:17.800 it's a lot of ignorance, that and a lot of 0:21:17.800 --> 0:21:22.399 self hate from both parties. So yeah, so all right, 0:21:22.720 --> 0:21:24.680 you say you only date black men, and I think 0:21:24.720 --> 0:21:27.239 that's a lot for a lot of black women, Like 0:21:27.280 --> 0:21:29.520 I only date black men. Do you date outside of that? 0:21:29.720 --> 0:21:32.760 Have earlier on before I became a black panther, but 0:21:32.880 --> 0:21:36.520 nowadays you know, I'm just saying no, Yeah, my preference 0:21:36.600 --> 0:21:40.879 number one preference white. I mean, look, black men are 0:21:41.000 --> 0:21:45.920 my number one preference. Yes, So do you feel like 0:21:46.240 --> 0:21:50.600 with that it limits us from options? Especially you in 0:21:50.840 --> 0:21:54.879 l A? Because what l A population is eight percent black? 0:21:55.840 --> 0:21:59.480 I mean, like, how do I explain it? Like? I 0:21:59.520 --> 0:22:03.560 don't think so, because they're gonna find me. Okay, Like 0:22:03.840 --> 0:22:07.240 they're gonna find me. The only problem with it with 0:22:07.280 --> 0:22:10.280 me is the way I talk. I noticed, Um, I 0:22:10.280 --> 0:22:11.760 don't know if you guys can hear it, hear me? 0:22:11.880 --> 0:22:15.800 I sound very valley, I've been told. So that's what 0:22:15.920 --> 0:22:17.879 stumps me a lot from talking to black men in 0:22:18.040 --> 0:22:20.880 l A because they automatically assume I only date white men. 0:22:21.280 --> 0:22:24.680 Really interesting, so when you meet a black guy, they 0:22:24.760 --> 0:22:27.400 assume that you only like black men verse I mean 0:22:27.400 --> 0:22:30.880 white men versus black and and that's a thing that 0:22:30.960 --> 0:22:34.480 makes you unattractive. No, I mean they just they don't. 0:22:34.840 --> 0:22:37.080 They wouldn't pursue me. Like I remember I went to 0:22:37.080 --> 0:22:39.119 Target one time and just one dude just came up 0:22:39.119 --> 0:22:41.280 to me like they're beautiful or whatever, and then I 0:22:41.280 --> 0:22:42.879 started speaking. He was like, you like the type the 0:22:42.880 --> 0:22:45.000 only date white men. You sound like the type the 0:22:45.000 --> 0:22:49.399 only dates white men. That's ignorant. So it was just 0:22:49.440 --> 0:22:55.879 like I was like, mm hmm, that's yeah. That's so 0:22:56.240 --> 0:22:59.879 that's definitely ignorant with ignorance within our own thing because 0:23:00.160 --> 0:23:04.159 because of how someone's someone talks, so you automatically associate 0:23:04.240 --> 0:23:07.520 that with smart. So is that a me problem, sir? 0:23:07.760 --> 0:23:11.439 Or are you problem? If I sound white? Is what 0:23:11.480 --> 0:23:13.280 he was trying to tell you, Right, that's the thing 0:23:13.320 --> 0:23:17.040 we use in the black community. You sound white? Yeah, 0:23:17.119 --> 0:23:18.960 I mean I got thought like, like I said, all 0:23:19.000 --> 0:23:21.720 my life growing up, you really don't sound white to me, though, 0:23:21.760 --> 0:23:24.359 Like you sound like you're from l A and a 0:23:24.400 --> 0:23:28.800 black woman like black women have like this tone, you 0:23:28.840 --> 0:23:31.639 know what I'm saying, Like, it's just like, you know, 0:23:31.720 --> 0:23:33.960 what's a black woman? Okay, So I don't know what 0:23:34.000 --> 0:23:45.719