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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocatesla dot com.

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Speaker 2: Kellen is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's not getting a call back from

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Speaker 2: a date he went on with a girl named Jen

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Speaker 2: that he really likes. So we're going to see if

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Speaker 2: we can find out why she's goosing him in a second,

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Speaker 2: but first let's hear about the date. Callen, what's up.

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Speaker 2: How long has it been since you heard from Jen.

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Speaker 3: It's been a couple of weeks, almost a month now.

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Speaker 3: But uh, yeah, so I texted her and just now

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Speaker 3: respond back, and I just I don't know, I thought

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Speaker 3: we kind of hit it off.

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Speaker 4: So why don't we go backwards? Why don't you tell

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Speaker 4: us about, you know, how you guys met and what happened.

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Speaker 3: Well, we we kind of met on Christian mingle, and uh,

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Speaker 3: you know, we chat it back and forth and whatnot,

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Speaker 3: and and I kind out what church she went to,

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Speaker 3: and I showed up. I showed up to surprise her,

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Speaker 3: and and uh, I thought she thought it was cute.

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Speaker 3: And we went to coffee afterwards and we talked and

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Speaker 3: and just kind of I think we kind of hit

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Speaker 3: it off. And so we plan another you know, date,

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Speaker 3: because she had her shirt. There was like a dance

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Speaker 3: sort of event type of thing going on for couples,

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Speaker 3: and I made reservations at the sushi place that was

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Speaker 3: next door to the church, and and so we did that.

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Speaker 2: And yeah, I.

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Speaker 3: Thought it was a nice, cool little thing that we did.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's cool. It does seem nice. So were you

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Speaker 4: So you guys were really getting along? Was there any

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Speaker 4: like touchiness or any sparks flying?

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Speaker 3: I just really I really dig her, like she's so

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Speaker 3: dedicated to her church, in her community and her kindness.

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Speaker 3: She is beautiful. I don't know, she just like nobody

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Speaker 3: like I've ever dated before. You know, it's uh uh

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Speaker 3: she makes me want to be better.

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Speaker 2: Why do you think she's ghosting?

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Speaker 3: Well, I guess I get a little jealous. And so

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Speaker 3: we were at the dance and uh it was one

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Speaker 3: of her friends, male friends, that asked her to dance

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Speaker 3: with her, and I agreed. But I just I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I I think I was. I think I was too

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Speaker 3: butt hurt about it. And if she saw that, and

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I don't know why I do that.

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Speaker 3: I mean, we won't bet on to date so it's like,

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Speaker 3: I don't know it, just guess it's just even side

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Speaker 3: because I care about her.

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Speaker 4: I mean, you're also you're on a date with her,

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Speaker 4: so you kind of would hope that your date would

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Speaker 4: dance with you.

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Speaker 2: But but you.

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Speaker 4: Know, friends danced together too. Were you like outwardly angry

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Speaker 4: or was it just.

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Speaker 3: I was? I don't know, I guess I was.

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Speaker 2: I guess I was poudy, you know, I was just Okay,

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Speaker 2: So you didn't try to like fight the guy? All right, well, man,

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Speaker 2: we'll see if we can figure it out. Then we'll

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Speaker 2: play a song come back, and then call her and

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Speaker 2: see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you and

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Speaker 2: hopefully get you another date.

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Speaker 3: Okay, awesome, I appreciate that.

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Speaker 2: All right man, So well pla us on come back,

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Speaker 2: get your first day follow up next. Right in the

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Speaker 2: middle of our first day follow up, if you're just

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Speaker 2: joining us, Kellen is on the phone and he's getting

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Speaker 2: ghosted by a woman named Jen that he really likes.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him. But first, Kellen, why

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Speaker 2: don't you catch everybody up on your situation?

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Speaker 3: Well, we met on Christian Mingle. I went to our church.

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Speaker 3: We we hit it off, and we went to a

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Speaker 3: dance social there at her church and she was dancing

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Speaker 3: with another guy. And it was a little jealous, you know.

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Speaker 3: And then and then so I thought i'd text her

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Speaker 3: again and like see if we can't get a third date,

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Speaker 3: you know, And just no response. Two days later, no response.

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Speaker 3: I try it again again, no response, Like maybe I

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Speaker 2: You weren't angry jealous, right, you're poudy jealous.

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Speaker 5: I was just yeah, yeah, I was.

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Speaker 4: Crying self awareness.

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Speaker 2: That's cool, all right, man, for you ready for us

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Speaker 2: to call her?

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Speaker 3: I am. Let's let's hear this all right.

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Speaker 2: Here we go hello him asking to gen please, Yes,

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Speaker 2: hey Jen, how are you? My name is Jubel and

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Speaker 2: I'm calling from a radio show. It's called the Jebel Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi Jen, the whole show is here.

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Speaker 2: My name is Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 5: Hi.

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Speaker 3: Hi.

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Speaker 6: How are you?

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Speaker 5: I'm good?

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Speaker 2: How are you going great? We do a segment on

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Speaker 2: the show it's called the first Date follow Up. That's

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Speaker 2: where if you go out on a date with somebody

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Speaker 2: and then you end up ghosting them, that person can

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Speaker 2: email us to get you on the phone and find

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Speaker 2: out where you're ghosting them. So is there anybody that

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Speaker 2: you can think of that would want us to call

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Speaker 2: you because you're not calling him back?

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Speaker 5: I mean probably, I guess is it?

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's Kellen. Yeah, he wants to know why you're

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Speaker 2: ghosting him.

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Speaker 1: Like listen, he was a great guy, and he was

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Speaker 1: you know, it was a nice like couple of dates

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Speaker 5: But like I found out that.

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Speaker 1: He was on Tinder, and like, I just don't really

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Speaker 1: think like our values and stuff like matchup after like

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Speaker 1: hearing about that, So I just don't think we're going

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 4: Did he tell you that he was on Tinder?

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Speaker 2: Are you on tender?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 5: No, no, no, no no, I'm not on Tinder.

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Speaker 1: Like I'm like, you know, everybody lived your life. I'm

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Speaker 1: just I'm not about that like whip up culture type thing.

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Speaker 5: You know, Like I very specifically, like this is my

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Speaker 5: first online stuff going through Christian Mingle. You know, it's

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Speaker 1: I'm looking for something different, and like you know, again

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Speaker 1: the dates, they were great, and I was showing my

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Speaker 1: I've seen him on Tinder and we like you know,

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Speaker 5: Oh, that's that's him. Cool.

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Speaker 1: So I guess, like you know, he just what is

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Speaker 5: Like, I just he's different than I guess how.

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Speaker 2: He presented because yeah, you met on Christian Mingle, so yeah,

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Speaker 2: Tender and Christian Mingle I think are very different places.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so I just mean, just to be clear, Jen,

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Speaker 4: is it because he was on a dating app? Or

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Speaker 4: is it because it was specifically tender?

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Speaker 5: Specifically Tender, like you know, like.

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm I'm a big big part of like

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Speaker 5: It's just it's different than I know, like how a

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Speaker 5: lot of people live.

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Speaker 1: And again like that's totally fine, like live your life,

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Speaker 1: but like it just doesn't match up with.

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Speaker 5: Like the life I'm leading. So like okay, yeah, you know,

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Speaker 1: Just I'm sure there are a lot of things that

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, thank you for being honest with us. I

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Speaker 2: don't know if Kellen's a freak like you think he is,

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Speaker 2: but we can find out. Callen, are you a freak? No,

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Speaker 2: I'm not that kind.

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Speaker 3: Of guy anymore. I should have deleted the app, the

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Speaker 2: Jen, If you couldn't tell, Kellen's on the phone and

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Speaker 2: he's been listening and wants to talk to you, and

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Speaker 2: he's not a freak anymore.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: But yes, I should have deleted Kender. I don't know

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Speaker 3: why I still have it up. I have many apps

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Speaker 3: I left that to Christian Mingle because I want somebody

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Speaker 3: with the values and Christian. I'm sorry. I will try

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Speaker 2: You're not really on tender. You just didn't close your account, correct?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like I I left the tender a long time ago,

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Speaker 5: Are you even Christian?

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Speaker 1: Like you know, I've heard about people like some guys

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I am a Christian. I just you know, I'm

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Speaker 5: They're like you're.

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Speaker 1: Tired of because you probably went out with a lot

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Speaker 5: Don't know, Like again, we had a good time. I

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Speaker 3: You know, I get it, I understand, but I'm not

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Speaker 3: I'm still going to try it. I'm still going to

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Speaker 3: prove myself to you. I truly believe that. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I like you. How I deleted the app today, That's

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Speaker 2: And then how are you going to prove to her

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Speaker 2: that you're there for the Christian and not the mingling.

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Speaker 2: I'm Christian mingle, not just the mingling.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I will go to her church every Sunday.

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Speaker 3: I will prove myself. I swear you're the one.

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Speaker 2: Whoa the one that's kind of a lot.

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Speaker 3: Jen.

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Speaker 2: What do you think would you like to go out

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Speaker 2: with Kellen on another date? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 5: I just don't know. I just again, I don't know

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Speaker 6: Sharing the same Christian values. And M sorry, maybe it's

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Speaker 6: not a no. You know, I get it, I get

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Speaker 6: while you're you know, I'm just I'm just bumped again.

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Speaker 3: I uh. But I will be there for you when

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Speaker 3: when you're ready to go on a on a second

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Speaker 3: or another date. I really enjoyed your church. It's one

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Speaker 3: I still went there. I don't want to make it

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Speaker 5: The doors are open for everyone.

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Speaker 2: So okay, weird, just like talking about who gets the

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Speaker 2: Lord and the breakup. I'm sorry, sorry, calm, but it

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Speaker 2: sounds like you're not giving up hope and Jim, you

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Speaker 2: know you said maybe so maybe you guys are running

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Speaker 2: to each other at church and you know.

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Speaker 4: See how it goes. But just pursue respectfully. Okay, I'm

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I'll be praying for you.

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Speaker 5: Well, I will be praying for you too, and I

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Speaker 5: hope you have a blessed day.

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Speaker 2: All right. They're off the phone. She like patted him

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Speaker 2: on the head big time as he was leaving. Now

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Speaker 2: you would just have a blessed stay there. I'll be

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Speaker 2: praying for you too.

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Speaker 4: That's like the nicest like you ever.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Jubile's first fall up