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Speaker 1: All right, thank you, MTV Award nominee. Subject. All of

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Speaker 1: my ex's friends are fine, okay. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm

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Speaker 1: a thirty one year old single female and I met

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Speaker 1: a really good man on a dating app. We're from

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Speaker 1: same people. We dated for three months and he revealed

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Speaker 1: to me that he went to college with my ex

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Speaker 1: me that upfront. I was cool with it, but my

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Speaker 1: to tell me his friends were off limits. I dated

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Speaker 1: my ex boyfriend for five years and his friends would

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Speaker 1: he would just laugh it off. I must admit that

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Speaker 1: all of my ex's friends are fine, but I never

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Speaker 1: wanted any of them until I met the guy on

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Speaker 1: the dating site. His sex was amazing, but I ended

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Speaker 1: things with him out of respect for my ex boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: After a while, I was back on the dating scene

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Speaker 1: but not having much luck. Then I ran into a

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Speaker 1: guy that used to work with my ex boyfriend. He

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Speaker 1: night and he cornered me and said he'd always wanted

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Speaker 1: to get to know me better, but he couldn't because

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Speaker 1: of my ex. I could feel his eyes on my

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Speaker 1: body all night as I walked around. He kissed me

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Speaker 1: on my neck before I left, and he asked me

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Speaker 1: if he could see me again, but in a more

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Speaker 1: private setting so we could get to know He could

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Speaker 1: get to know me much better. I know that if

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Speaker 1: I'm ever alone with him, we will definitely have sex.

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Speaker 1: Because the sexual tension is thick. I'm willing to risk

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Speaker 1: my ex boyfriend hating me. That's how bad I want

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Speaker 1: this man. My inner wore is tell what that's what

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Speaker 1: I said, jor my inner wore is telling me to

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Speaker 1: have sex with him and tell my ex to mind

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Speaker 1: his business. Would it be wrong to mess around with

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Speaker 1: this guy? Are there any more guys in town beside

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Speaker 1: your ex's friends? All right? I mean you got to

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Speaker 1: get out of this circle and break out. Okay, Obviously

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Speaker 1: it's a small town, and these guys have been coveting

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Speaker 1: you since you know you were with your ex for

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Speaker 1: those five years. I just think this is too messy

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Speaker 1: of a situation. You still talk to your ex and

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Speaker 1: he's still friends with his friends. These guys are still

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Speaker 1: his friends. It's awkward. Uh, it's got that pass around

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Speaker 1: vibe which you don't want, and you already you know,

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Speaker 1: had two in this group come at you like that.

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Speaker 1: So tell your inner wore as you called it. No, No,

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Speaker 1: you will not have sex with your ex's friends, no

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Speaker 1: matter how fine they are and how thick the sexual

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Speaker 1: plenty of guys. I'm sure that you can date without

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Speaker 1: having to date your ex's friends. Jay, Why would you

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Speaker 1: have to so? Why would you have to work so

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Speaker 1: hard when the sex is right dead? Why why you

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Speaker 1: In fact, when he left, he left his ex friends.

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Speaker 1: He left you, and he left his friends. He left

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Speaker 1: every damn body. He just took his ass to school

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Speaker 1: and just left every damn body. So you on your own.

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Speaker 1: They right there, they're there, they're there for the taking.

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Speaker 1: Hit it. Quitted. See what he's working with? No not,

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Speaker 1: he he left everybody, He left his friends, he left you.

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Speaker 1: So if he left you, that means he left. The

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Speaker 1: word left mean he gone, mean he not there no more.

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Speaker 1: I mean he not around. That would left mean that

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Speaker 1: Go through the whole damn bunch. When he bring his

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Speaker 1: you gotta get brand new friends with your little smart

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Speaker 1: ass self. Wonna go to college and leave me here

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Speaker 1: with all these fine friends. Go ahead, girl, enjoy your

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Speaker 1: You ben won't be hit it with all of them.

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Speaker 1: Knock about the box y'all knock knock. I apologized for

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Speaker 1: Jay's answer, Come on, Junior with you guy. All of

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Speaker 1: my friends are fine. Oh this is against this against

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Speaker 1: the rules. No, no, you need another city is what

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Speaker 1: you need? Because it sounds like the population in this

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Speaker 1: city is folk and three of me is Joe exes

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Speaker 1: friend and you that that's I don't see how you

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Speaker 1: I mean, do you want to just get what everybody called?

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Speaker 1: No that just do you know call okay? Well, then

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Speaker 1: we go get together. That's what it was like. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you went to you went to preschool with Carl. We

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Speaker 1: got to get together then, not gonna do what y'all

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Speaker 1: want to say, little league team. We got to get

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Speaker 1: together then because I didn't know it's all called for?

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Speaker 1: Is just it? Y'all go everywhere? Man, No, you cannot

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Speaker 1: do this. No that is no. No, no, no, man,

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Speaker 1: man don't do that. If we gotta, if we if

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Speaker 1: my boy got a girl he used today and they

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Speaker 1: break up, I don't go over there. Does not does

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Speaker 1: not that work? You would you went to church with

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Speaker 1: car No, just one time. It was just one time. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it ain't Yeah, all of it. We only prayed together

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Speaker 1: one time now that was here. Thank you, Junior. All right,

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Speaker 1: coming up, we'll hear from uh the mt the award nominee.

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Speaker 1: All right, we'll be back with the nephew. All my

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Speaker 1: exes friends are fine. At twenty three minutes after the hour,

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Speaker 1: we'll be back right after this. You're listening, all right, guys.

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter. All of my

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Speaker 1: exes friends are fine. Thirty one year old single female

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Speaker 1: same people. They dated for three months, then he told

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Speaker 1: her that he was a friend of her ex's. She

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Speaker 1: five years, then they broke up. His friends would openly

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Speaker 1: So she broke it off with that guy. Then she

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Speaker 1: met another guy at an art exhibition, and you know,

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Speaker 1: the sexual tension between them was really thick. She wanted

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Speaker 1: would it be wrong to mess with this guy who

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Speaker 1: not said why not? Junior said no? And Tommy, you

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Speaker 1: say what all my exes friends are fine? I say,

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Speaker 1: let yo in a hold Joe out. You've got to

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Speaker 1: let it out. Yo hold Joe. You've got to let

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Speaker 1: it out. You can't keep the hold Joe pent in

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Speaker 1: it trust me, it's it's nothing worse than a pent

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Speaker 1: up hold Joe. It's just it's just bad, all right.

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Speaker 1: You can get sick when you don't let you hold

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Speaker 1: Joe out. You gotta let you hold Joe out. You

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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. You get stick to your stomach.

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Speaker 1: That's how you get stomach offers and stuff like that,

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Speaker 1: because you why what's wrong with you? I ain't let

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Speaker 1: You got to let your hold Joe out. People be

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Speaker 1: getting asthma and stuff, can't breathe. You know why I

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Speaker 1: got that hold Joe pent up in there? Let Joe

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Speaker 1: hold Joe out. Okay, you got answer? Reflect I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I just keep feeling like I don't know what it

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Speaker 1: is and it burned up here? What is that? That's yo?

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Speaker 1: Hold Joe, Let Joe, old Joe out. When you release

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Speaker 1: yourself and let you hold you out, you'll be surprised

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Speaker 1: how free you are. So all of I'm with Jay,

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Speaker 1: all of his friends. Get them out your system and

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Speaker 1: look out how free you gonna be. Ain't nothing wrong

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Speaker 1: with you? Know what? You know what? You know what?

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Speaker 1: It's like a It's like a it's like a clean

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Speaker 1: It's like a hold Joe clean. You know you you

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Speaker 1: release things like that, you know, hold you out like

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Speaker 1: it's called like it's like whoosa, come on Charlotte calling

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Speaker 1: hold Joe, Hold Joe? What did you want to add? Jay?

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Speaker 1: I want to can't yo? I hate both of you,

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Speaker 1: but yes, I don't know. This is not right. You

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Speaker 1: wouldn't want your your boy. Let me let me let's

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Speaker 1: say something. How many people like the ex? Do? Nobody

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Speaker 1: liked the ex? So why don't we worried about his feelings?

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Speaker 1: Why does it matter? Why? Why should I be worried

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Speaker 1: Hold Joe, No it's either him or my hold Joe.

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Speaker 1: What's it gonna be? Let yo hold Joe out? Man?

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Speaker 1: At least his friends. He knows too many people. Tommy,

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Speaker 1: you'll take bath together? What we got to get together?

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Speaker 1: We got? I would go, I would go out with

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Speaker 1: It's just not something that we do, you know, I

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Speaker 1: don't know what? What? What? Then? Why don't we start?

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Speaker 1: Let's start doing something we don't normally do. Let's try

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Speaker 1: He needs to be released in need. Let that hold

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Speaker 1: Joe out? Okay? Why why do I visualize a man

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Speaker 1: with a Jerry clel dripping right now? Yeah? Yeah, wow?

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Speaker 1: Let yo hold Joe out. Girl, we're worried about this

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Speaker 1: gonna be just just losing you can. Everybody know him.

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Speaker 1: They still talk and he's still friends with his friends.

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Speaker 1: So those are the two that's about to change. What, dude,

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Speaker 1: I don't look like the friends give a damn sure

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Speaker 1: they don't. Well they don't, obviously they don't. Okay, he

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Speaker 1: should everybody trying to let they hold Joe out, even

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Speaker 1: the guys. Find some other guys if she wants to

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Speaker 1: let it out, find some other guys that aren't his friends.

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Speaker 1: Know too many damn people, Yeah, too many people. You

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Speaker 1: That's too many people. We can't, we can't. We can't

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Speaker 1: find nobody. What I was gonna play together. We got

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Speaker 1: we got y'all to cut his friends. He's gonna cut

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Speaker 1: his friend list down when he gets back. He't gonna

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Speaker 1: see he don't have that many friends soon get back.

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Speaker 1: Carl is OUs John, you know John, That's that's all

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Speaker 1: who introduction that. It's just yeah, I don't I don't

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Speaker 1: get it. It happens. Don't get me wrong. I know

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Speaker 1: it happens. I know it does happen. But this is

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Speaker 1: just too close I think, personally, not only a AU team.

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Speaker 1: If we have, you got to get to get everybody.

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Speaker 1: She said, they're fine, though, she says there's gotta be

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