WEBVTT - Becoming Our Boyfriends: A Beauty Translated Valentine's Day Extravaganza 0:00:13.800 --> 0:00:16.480 Today is a very special day on the pod. It's 0:00:16.480 --> 0:00:21.120 a Valentine's Day. Well, it's Valentine's Day eve. Currently we're 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:25.200 recording this for the first time ever. The night before, 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:29.000 we've never recorded this before. We've never recorded this before. 0:00:30.240 --> 0:00:34.680 It's all been AI generated up until this point. But 0:00:35.400 --> 0:00:40.120 today we are recording. God, I'm already sucking this up. Cool. 0:00:40.400 --> 0:00:46.160 All right, So we're here with fucking our boyfriend. Yeah, 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:50.000 our boyfriends. Thank you boys for coming on our show. Yes, 0:00:50.159 --> 0:00:52.680 boys and men boys and. 0:00:53.360 --> 0:00:56.280 Two men too. 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:58.840 Men too, men? Okay, yeah, write that down too, men. 0:00:59.560 --> 0:01:04.120 Whatever. And I'm and I'm Sam Jane's boyfriend. 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:05.919 Is that like the movie I Am Sam? 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:07.479 No, it's not. 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:12.200 Well no, yeah, it's a great role. I would say 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:15.400 it is like I am Sam because he's really funny. 0:01:17.319 --> 0:01:20.400 And you're like, Julian Moore. Is Julian Moore in that movie? 0:01:20.520 --> 0:01:22.600 Is it Julianne Moore? I don't know if it is. 0:01:22.640 --> 0:01:25.520 I'll watch it. Well, I didn't want to introduce him yet, 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:28.120 but it's okay. We're just rolling with it. Because I 0:01:28.160 --> 0:01:31.000 wanted to tell you that I finally watched the movie 0:01:31.800 --> 0:01:35.360 that I've been wanting to watch for so long. Notes 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:38.839 on a Scandal A Scandal. We finally, well, I finally 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:41.240 watched Notes on a Scandal. Alan Allen didn't watch Notes 0:01:41.280 --> 0:01:43.680 on This in the last twenty minutes. It was the 0:01:43.760 --> 0:01:47.240 last thirty five, the most important minutes. It was kind 0:01:47.240 --> 0:01:49.440 of like, actually, I mean the last the ending is 0:01:49.440 --> 0:01:52.320 probably like the probably most exciting part. You have to 0:01:52.360 --> 0:01:55.360 hear the line to hear me line, it is really cool. 0:01:55.400 --> 0:01:55.960 I got to hear it. 0:01:56.560 --> 0:01:59.400 Yeah, Sam, Sam, I got Sam to watch it. Want 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:03.200 to roll around the floors like like levers, Barbara. I 0:02:03.280 --> 0:02:05.160 gotta say, I don't know why, but I just think 0:02:05.160 --> 0:02:08.680 it's a really funny. I've been really like obsessed lately 0:02:08.760 --> 0:02:11.080 with like these this kind of movie that like they 0:02:11.120 --> 0:02:14.399 don't make anymore, which like in the mid two thousands 0:02:14.400 --> 0:02:16.720 there was a lot of these just like very like serious, 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:20.680 like kind of like adult drama thrillers, a lot of 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:24.880 which starred Kate blanche She's all over the thrillers. I 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:27.040 feel like Notes on a Scandal's kind of like Michael 0:02:27.040 --> 0:02:31.000 Clayton for girls, and uh, yeah, I don't know. I 0:02:31.080 --> 0:02:33.120 just think it's a very funny thing. It kind of 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:36.639 reminds me about the end of Best in show when 0:02:37.080 --> 0:02:42.839 they're they're making remains of the day lunchboxes, and it's 0:02:42.919 --> 0:02:46.040 like the fact that Notes On a Scandal has become 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:49.120 a like recurring joke of this show Forney to me, 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:52.920 it's waiting for It's it's waiting for. Oh, I said, 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:58.480 best and show totally different. But yeah, you think we've 0:02:58.520 --> 0:03:00.680 predicted that notes On a Scandal is gonna sweep the 0:03:00.680 --> 0:03:02.959 Oscars this year. Yeah, I think it's gonna sleep. I 0:03:03.000 --> 0:03:05.480 think it's either that or the Bitter Tears of petrovon 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:08.640 Kant period. I think those are the only two options. 0:03:08.680 --> 0:03:10.840 Those are the only two movies I saw from last year. 0:03:11.240 --> 0:03:12.959 Is that movie from last year? Or are you telling 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:19.320 me no that it's from that's from like the seventies. 0:03:19.639 --> 0:03:24.720 I love that beautiful so nineteen twenty one basically. But yeah, 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:27.120 we aren't here today with our lovely boyfriends. We have 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:32.520 Sam and my boyfriend Alan. Introduce yourself, babe, Say hi. 0:03:32.639 --> 0:03:34.120 Hi, my name is Alan. 0:03:34.400 --> 0:03:40.240 Happy Valentine's Day boys. Yeah, Valentine's Day, Valentine Day Day 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:42.960 listeners out there. Because I know that all of our 0:03:43.000 --> 0:03:47.080 listeners are partnered up and not I know that there's 0:03:47.120 --> 0:03:51.320 not one single lonely little bitch out there. I know 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:55.840 there's totally not So what are you, son? What are 0:03:55.880 --> 0:04:02.440 our initial thoughts on Valentine's Day? That's a good question. Yeah, interesting, 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:04.160 I mean, isn't that every holiday? 0:04:04.200 --> 0:04:04.400 Though? 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:06.320 Was like his excuse for now, I don't. 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:09.760 Know, Well, hang on, we already exchange gifts. You can't 0:04:09.840 --> 0:04:11.480 tell me that I didn't get you anything. 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:14.880 You did get me something. I wasn't planning on doing 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:17.120 gifts until he told me that he got me some 0:04:17.200 --> 0:04:20.400 gifts and I was like, well, share, Well I got 0:04:20.400 --> 0:04:21.799 to step up to the plate. I guess. 0:04:22.120 --> 0:04:24.520 Yeah, well, yeah, I tried to give you a price train. 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:27.040 It's not it's not that much, but it was just 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:28.839 a you know, something something sweet. 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:30.960 I think I return the BMW. 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:34.400 No, we can make good use of that. I think 0:04:34.480 --> 0:04:35.960 Valentine's Day is sweet though. 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:37.159 I do so, I do. 0:04:37.240 --> 0:04:37.400 See. 0:04:37.440 --> 0:04:41.080 I mean, I think holidays in general are sweet. I 0:04:41.120 --> 0:04:44.160 feel like, I mean, I don't know, like every holiday, 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:47.680 especially in America, is yeah, functionally exists to like sell 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:50.400 you stuff, but like, yeah, I feel like that doesn't 0:04:50.839 --> 0:04:52.960 like take away from the idea that like you can 0:04:53.000 --> 0:04:57.039 find like charm and I don't know, just like having 0:04:57.080 --> 0:04:58.920 like a day for your like your partner like and 0:04:58.960 --> 0:05:00.839 stuff like that. Like, I think it's sweet. And we've 0:05:00.839 --> 0:05:03.840 been on a lot of great Valentine's Day days we. 0:05:03.800 --> 0:05:05.760 Have we have no What I was trying to say 0:05:05.920 --> 0:05:09.240 is that, Yeah, you're absolutely right, Jenny. Like the charm 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:12.520 of walking into like I don't know, a spa or 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:15.840 a grocery store or anywhere you can be and there's 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:18.240 all these decorations lighting up the place. 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:21.680 It We went to Publics last night, and. 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:24.600 It is the charm of walking into. 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:27.200 Flower sections. 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:30.680 The whole store is decked out right now. The flowers 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:33.600 are cool. It's it got me in the Valentine's mood. 0:05:33.600 --> 0:05:36.560 It made me horny for Valentine's Day. Yeah, no, I 0:05:36.640 --> 0:05:39.359 like it, honestly. The thing that I like most about 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:42.920 it is just like getting dinner, like going out to 0:05:42.960 --> 0:05:45.279 eat something. Absolutely, but I will say the dinner on 0:05:45.360 --> 0:05:49.560 Valentine's Days tend to fucking suck. We had a banger 0:05:49.640 --> 0:05:53.159 won last year. Really, Yeah, we haven't actually gone out 0:05:53.360 --> 0:05:55.520 for Valentine's thatter since we had a shitty one. When 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:59.640 the last time I went to the Mercury before it closed, right, 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:07.039 I don't know, I thought of yeah, really it's where 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:10.240 that vegan like restaurant is now inside of City Market. Yeah, 0:06:10.400 --> 0:06:15.800 Subwoy sold me a bad sandwich on Valentine's Day. I 0:06:15.800 --> 0:06:21.640 hate Valentine's now. No, we had a fucking amazing We 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:24.320 went to a steakhouse. Yeah, I guess shout out to 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:29.520 Kevin Rathman's Steakhouse near Crog Street. Friend of the show, Yeah, 0:06:29.560 --> 0:06:34.160 friend of the show Kevin. No. Weirdly, there was two 0:06:34.360 --> 0:06:39.120 like old co workers, Like the host was the girl 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:41.840 that I worked with at the time, and then one 0:06:41.880 --> 0:06:44.880 of the cooks in the kitchen was also another like 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:46.920 cook at the restaurant that I worked in, and her 0:06:47.000 --> 0:06:49.800 husband worked there, so that we got hooked up with 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:52.200 like double like free appetizer. 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:55.599 Worked nearby, and I knew the head of the bar 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:57.960 and so yeah, they could just kept bringing up stuff 0:06:57.960 --> 0:06:59.880 and people were like like wait wait, no, they are 0:07:00.160 --> 0:07:00.480 got it. 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:04.040 And they were like our poor waiter like he brought 0:07:04.080 --> 0:07:07.440 out like one like trait plate of like uh yeah, 0:07:07.520 --> 0:07:10.880 like free like complimentary appetizers because like you know, because 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:14.640 we know them where they're homies. Yeah, and then the 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:17.080 people that like I knew brought out another one and 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:19.840 our waiter was standing there like, no, they already got one, 0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:22.720 they already got it. I was like, bitch, if you 0:07:22.760 --> 0:07:24.880 don't get the fuck out of the way and let 0:07:24.920 --> 0:07:28.160 them drop that plate off, I will fucking kill you. 0:07:29.360 --> 0:07:31.480 Like who cares if we already got one, give me 0:07:31.520 --> 0:07:34.720 another another? Fuck? No, it was delicious. I never had 0:07:34.720 --> 0:07:37.920 a dry age sake before. It's pretty young. Drank a 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:40.840 whole bottle of wine. It was great. I love that. 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:43.960 So is it sure? Second Valentine's Day together? 0:07:44.880 --> 0:07:45.840 This is our second? 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:48.840 This so that was our first Valentine's Well, we. 0:07:48.960 --> 0:07:51.800 Know each other. We had not known each other for very. 0:07:52.040 --> 0:07:54.200 I guess this should This would be an interesting launching 0:07:54.240 --> 0:07:57.080 point to say, to talk about how we met, because 0:07:57.080 --> 0:08:01.160 I believe we started dating. Yeah, I remember, I got you. 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:04.880 I made you a card. Remember that I made you 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:09.880 a card with uh stop vers Halkias and Nick Mullen 0:08:10.000 --> 0:08:11.200 kissing on it. 0:08:11.560 --> 0:08:12.200 I do remember. 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:16.040 That doesn't matter to get into that, there's certain listeners 0:08:16.040 --> 0:08:17.880 that will know who that is and they'll find it 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:23.440 funny and everyone else just can not know. And it's fine. 0:08:23.680 --> 0:08:27.160 But that also ties into like how we met, because 0:08:27.160 --> 0:08:31.000 we met, Like so I like telling people we met 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:35.520 at a comedy show because we like kind of like 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:38.760 found each other like on the internet later but like 0:08:38.960 --> 0:08:42.880 the the end that miss Yeah, yeah, we met on 0:08:42.920 --> 0:08:45.480 the Craigslistness Connections app and. 0:08:46.559 --> 0:08:48.880 Well I had message you saying that I've seen you 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:49.760 at a comedy show. 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:53.720 Yes, yeah, And that was like, you know, because I 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:55.959 mean I get a lot of messages from a lot 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:59.800 of guys, but him saying that he saw me at 0:08:59.800 --> 0:09:04.199 this one, very specific, very niche comedy show was like, oh, 0:09:04.760 --> 0:09:07.720 so now we I know we already are like huge 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:10.960 freaks for being into this, and I would agree your 0:09:11.000 --> 0:09:12.719 both the hugest freaks. 0:09:12.480 --> 0:09:15.440 Whatever we are. Yeah, that's cool, fair enough. 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:19.000 That's why that's why I like him. But yeah, that 0:09:19.160 --> 0:09:23.600 night we went on a date and uh, he bought me, 0:09:24.040 --> 0:09:26.400 he paid for my We went to the Earl Well 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:33.640 and we I drank like four or five Moscow mules. 0:09:34.000 --> 0:09:38.520 You drank Narron Gansetts and we he like words, walking 0:09:38.600 --> 0:09:41.880 to my car and we saw this very like overpriced 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:45.640 like taco or no sorry, hot dog hot dogs. I 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:48.280 think that was when I think this is kind of 0:09:48.280 --> 0:09:50.600 what sealed the deal, when we both realized that we 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:53.800 were hot dog people. Oh, hot dogs are very like 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:58.240 foundational to our relationship. Yeah, I can't share a Glizzy together. Oh, 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:01.480 he bought me like a fifth seen fucking dollar hot dog, 0:10:03.720 --> 0:10:07.880 normal as like quick trip level hot dog. Yeah, it 0:10:08.000 --> 0:10:11.280 was very mid No, it had it had cole slaw 0:10:11.440 --> 0:10:12.400 and chili on. 0:10:12.440 --> 0:10:13.800 It sounds right, and. 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:17.800 It was. It was at least ten I think it 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:20.680 was eleven dollars. Actually, I think it was an eleven 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:24.040 dollars hot dog. I was like, damn Moscow mules and 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:27.840 eleven dollars hot dogs. The sky the sky fucks. Yeah, 0:10:28.400 --> 0:10:30.200 I need to be with it for the rest of 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:34.520 my life. And uh yeah, so that's like our first 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:39.040 date story. Do y'all have a first date story we show? Yeah, yeah, 0:10:39.080 --> 0:10:42.280 well this will be actually how many Valentins have we 0:10:42.320 --> 0:10:43.000 spent together? Now? 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:44.000 Eight? 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:50.920 Wow? We ate flexing on us over here, flexen on them. Oh, 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:54.120 sorry about y'all, but yeah, we're no. Yeah, this will 0:10:54.200 --> 0:10:59.280 be our eighth Valentine stay together. Our first day was 0:10:59.360 --> 0:11:01.679 not on Valentine Times Day, but it was actually the 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:04.920 day before New Year's Eve, and our second. 0:11:04.720 --> 0:11:08.680 Date was two days before no, okay, the day before 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:10.320 the day before, you're right, the thirty. 0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:14.040 And then our second date was on on New York's Eve. 0:11:14.360 --> 0:11:17.199 New Year's Eve is a good day of connections. Oh yeah, 0:11:17.240 --> 0:11:19.280 because you always like, I don't know, it's a day. 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:23.160 I fucking love New Year's Eve. It's very tangential. But 0:11:23.280 --> 0:11:26.760 you speak about like capitalistic holidays and I guess maybe 0:11:26.800 --> 0:11:29.160 a little bit, but like New Year's Eve is like 0:11:29.600 --> 0:11:31.000 the least one because like, what are you going to 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:37.199 sell like champagne? Yeah, half er outfit. Yeah, but it's 0:11:37.320 --> 0:11:39.960 just like a celebration of like all, we all made 0:11:40.000 --> 0:11:42.760 it another year. Yeah, And I don't know, you always 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:45.280 see so many people. You're always out partying, like that's 0:11:45.360 --> 0:11:47.360 that's a good day to meet someone for the first time. 0:11:47.520 --> 0:11:50.640 It is, Yeah, but technically we met for the second time. 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:53.920 But we had such a great date that he invited 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:56.719 me out the next night for for New Year's Eve. 0:11:56.840 --> 0:11:59.080 That's true to be my New Year's Eve, kids, New 0:11:59.160 --> 0:11:59.480 Year's Eve? 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:00.000 What year. 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:02.840 Twenty fifteen? 0:12:03.000 --> 0:12:10.080 Yeah, we literally started talking right before Trump got elected. Yeah, 0:12:10.280 --> 0:12:10.760 so we've. 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:13.400 Okay, Well it doesn't have to be you know, marked 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:14.560 by that occasion. 0:12:16.040 --> 0:12:18.439 It's an easy way to remember we started talking in November. 0:12:18.559 --> 0:12:18.760 Yeah. 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:21.160 It's one of those things that like everyone like remembers 0:12:21.160 --> 0:12:24.880 where they were when like it happens. Yeah, we started 0:12:24.880 --> 0:12:29.240 a different world it seriously. Yeah, we've been through I 0:12:29.320 --> 0:12:33.080 mean obviously we've seen a lot happen together. So yeah, 0:12:34.000 --> 0:12:37.680 it's been interesting in that sense. Yeah, we started, so. 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:41.520 We started talking to each other online. Okay, cup it, Okay, 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:42.320 we're just going to call. 0:12:42.200 --> 0:12:46.040 It out specifically looking for LEO. Oh my god, so 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:48.920 I filtered my search. Oh and you settled for an Allen. 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:49.720 Yeah. 0:12:50.440 --> 0:12:54.640 So she put out eleven twelfth of the population, and 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:56.959 I just happened to be at the top of all 0:12:57.000 --> 0:12:57.800 of those leos. 0:12:58.080 --> 0:12:59.800 Yeah, it was very convenient. Yeah. 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:01.959 Yeah, I kept looking at us page and you know 0:13:02.040 --> 0:13:05.200 how okay, keep it like sends you like a someone 0:13:05.280 --> 0:13:07.920 keeps I did used to use okay keep it back 0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:10.559 in the day. It's fine, it's kind of fun. Like 0:13:10.600 --> 0:13:12.719 all the questions I ask you, Yeah I do. I 0:13:12.760 --> 0:13:14.880 don't know. My okay keep it account is floating in 0:13:14.960 --> 0:13:16.959 the ether. When I when I was in my first 0:13:17.120 --> 0:13:20.000 like uh this this is not to disparage you or 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:21.959 anyone else to use it, but when I was like 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:25.199 in my like whoreror era, like my first like when 0:13:25.240 --> 0:13:28.199 I was like living outside of my parents' house and 0:13:28.320 --> 0:13:31.280 like court like yeah, well yeah, like and I was 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:34.760 like newly around, newly, like twenty one years old. That 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:37.760 was that was where I got got my kicks, my 0:13:37.800 --> 0:13:38.520 stomping ground. 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:41.200 Wait where was the New Year's Where were you all? 0:13:41.520 --> 0:13:42.520 We were actually. 0:13:43.920 --> 0:13:45.920 Completely different story. Don't need to talk about it. 0:13:46.600 --> 0:13:47.079 Talking about it? 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:50.480 Nope, we were at it wasn't like an actual party. 0:13:50.559 --> 0:13:54.199 We were at a maker's loft in makers Space, makers 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:55.720 space in West Midtown. 0:13:56.160 --> 0:13:59.320 No, No, wasn't most met the West End? 0:13:59.480 --> 0:13:59.880 Yes? West? 0:14:00.040 --> 0:14:03.800 And what is the makers? It's where people all right. 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:04.120 All right? 0:14:04.720 --> 0:14:09.480 No, yes, okay, so you can make ship. It's a 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:13.640 space where you communally share tools. It's like a workshop. 0:14:13.760 --> 0:14:15.679 You bring in whatever you want to work on. It 0:14:15.800 --> 0:14:20.840 could be woodworking, it could be cosplays. Oh yeah, like 0:14:20.880 --> 0:14:24.160 an art like an arts like an art engineering, yeah, 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:27.440 but for communal use. So everyone like chips in for 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:30.640 dues and brings in tools that they don't actively use, 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:33.360 and you know, you can come in and work on 0:14:33.440 --> 0:14:35.520 whatever you want. And I just happened to be friends 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:37.840 with a couple of people who were out of that 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:41.160 maker Space, and I don't know, I just I really 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:45.000 liked charming. I thought that she'd fit in because she's 0:14:45.120 --> 0:14:47.880 weird and like a little crazy. 0:14:47.960 --> 0:14:49.040 I want to talk about that. 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:53.280 Okay, okay, not weird and crazy. She's beautiful. She would 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:56.880 outshine all the other people. Yeah, exactly. 0:14:58.440 --> 0:15:01.840 Started dating. That was one thing that I really loved 0:15:01.880 --> 0:15:03.760 about just being with him, as he loved to show 0:15:03.800 --> 0:15:06.600 me off and yeah and just have me on his 0:15:06.840 --> 0:15:08.200 arm and looking hot and all that. 0:15:08.440 --> 0:15:09.960 It was a different time. It's true. 0:15:12.080 --> 0:15:12.920 What does that mean? 0:15:14.960 --> 0:15:21.360 We're free to tease. This is a tease for technically, 0:15:21.480 --> 0:15:24.080 he took us. He took us to show Zakaya and 0:15:24.160 --> 0:15:26.160 they were too busy because he didn't make a reservation. 0:15:26.880 --> 0:15:31.040 Well, you can't make reservations at that restaurant, it's impossible. 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:32.600 And then you've got a reservation. 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:42.040 And then we went to Yahberger after. But they're no longer, 0:15:42.200 --> 0:15:42.520 which is. 0:15:45.800 --> 0:15:47.240 Staying in West midtown. 0:15:48.200 --> 0:15:51.480 Sanda's geography a lot, He's all over the city. I 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:54.160 also haven't lived in the city that long, so wait, 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:57.560 yeah I didn't. I moved into a house in Decatur 0:15:58.360 --> 0:16:03.160 with like four other like drag performers and my girlfriend 0:16:03.200 --> 0:16:06.920 at the time. Are in like twenty and kind of 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:09.200 the tail end of twenty twenty that's when you started. 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:12.480 I started stealing panties and whatnot. 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:15.200 No, no, no, I was. 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:19.320 I was. I was transitioned out, like I started transitioning 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:24.080 in like twenty like late twenty eighteen, like yeah, mid 0:16:24.160 --> 0:16:26.560 twenty eighteen, chau in Gwneesia. 0:16:27.080 --> 0:16:28.920 Yeah, I know. Yeah it was like I. 0:16:29.400 --> 0:16:32.960 I transitioned very publicly too, because I was like managing 0:16:33.000 --> 0:16:36.280 a restaurant and I was like the front of it 0:16:36.600 --> 0:16:38.960 like a lot, and uh, I don't know, it was 0:16:39.800 --> 0:16:41.480 it was weird for me. I didn't really like plan 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:43.440 on talking about this, but I was very like, uh, 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:47.680 I was very like bold, like I didn't I don't know, 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:51.240 it's weird, like looking back, that's good now. I was 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:54.960 very like I really really really cringe at it. Like 0:16:55.000 --> 0:16:57.200 I looked like shit, I didn't do makeup goods. Like 0:16:57.320 --> 0:17:00.480 I looked very like flamboyant and stupid in a way 0:17:00.560 --> 0:17:03.240 that I try not to. Now you remember what I 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:06.000 looked like. You look gorgeous, But what I used to 0:17:06.080 --> 0:17:08.440 look like flamboyant would be a word for it to 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:12.080 describe it too. You have to be a fucking ugly 0:17:12.240 --> 0:17:17.720 freak before you can be a beautiful duckling, you know, beautiful. 0:17:18.320 --> 0:17:21.440 I think I think, just just to wrap this tangent top, 0:17:21.560 --> 0:17:25.359 I think this is why like when we like, you know, 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:29.000 tease like younger trans girls and like kind of girls 0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:30.920 that like haven't found their style yet and stuff like that, 0:17:31.160 --> 0:17:33.600 it really is from a place of love and because 0:17:33.800 --> 0:17:37.200 it yeah, it is like it is like I don't know, 0:17:37.280 --> 0:17:41.000 I just don't feel like you should be like completely coddled, 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:47.120 like no, babe, your crooked lipstick looks good, But there 0:17:47.280 --> 0:17:50.280 is like, uh, I've always kind of wanted to say 0:17:50.320 --> 0:17:53.399 that there is like an understanding there that like all 0:17:53.480 --> 0:17:55.240 of us go through that and like all of us like, 0:17:55.359 --> 0:17:58.080 it's not I don't know if anyone ever in front, 0:17:58.119 --> 0:18:00.199 No one should ever like take anything that we say 0:18:00.280 --> 0:18:02.960 like that personally, because we're all we're we we know 0:18:03.080 --> 0:18:05.200 what it's like to I will post my photos. 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:06.520 I won't. 0:18:06.560 --> 0:18:07.840 I want to so embarrassed about it. 0:18:07.920 --> 0:18:11.920 Actually, I'm curious, Sam, have you seen pictures of of 0:18:12.080 --> 0:18:15.480 Janie like before Oh yeah, okay, oh yeah. 0:18:15.680 --> 0:18:17.560 Yeah I was hot before. 0:18:17.600 --> 0:18:21.920 I'm not gonna lie before. Yeah, I'm I'm not kidding, 0:18:22.000 --> 0:18:24.760 Like I would fuck guy me, and guy me would 0:18:24.760 --> 0:18:26.919 have like no idea what to do with me now, 0:18:27.280 --> 0:18:32.400 like like yeah, straight up, yeah, yeah, yeah, I had 0:18:32.480 --> 0:18:35.000 like one like sexual experience with a trans person like 0:18:35.119 --> 0:18:41.120 before I transitioned, and it was embarrassing. And I think 0:18:41.200 --> 0:18:43.240 that's all the all I want to say about that story. 0:18:43.760 --> 0:18:48.080 But uh yeah, it wasn't me. It was not it 0:18:48.240 --> 0:18:52.240 was not Carmen, it was not Carman, it was no 0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:55.639 one we've ever mentioned on this show before and uh 0:18:55.880 --> 0:18:58.080 never will. But I was I was hot. 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:01.280 Is the summation of that story. 0:19:01.480 --> 0:19:03.960 No, it's kind of funny like mentioning it because I 0:19:04.240 --> 0:19:09.080 legitimately am a lot less embarrassed of like pre transition 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:12.640 photos than I am of early transition photos. Like when 0:19:12.680 --> 0:19:15.879 I see like early transition photos, I'm like, no, bury 0:19:16.000 --> 0:19:18.800 that kill it. I don't want anyone to ever see this. 0:19:19.119 --> 0:19:20.760 I don't want anyone to ever look at any of 0:19:20.840 --> 0:19:23.920 my transition photos until honestly, until I about the time 0:19:23.960 --> 0:19:26.440 I started dating Sam. Like that was kind of when 0:19:26.520 --> 0:19:30.159 I was like fully like confident in who I am, 0:19:30.280 --> 0:19:34.359 how to style looked hot, Like yeah, like twenty twenty 0:19:34.840 --> 0:19:37.359 was kind of when I like started getting hot. Twenty 0:19:37.440 --> 0:19:39.960 nineteen I looked like shit, twenty twenty is the year 0:19:40.040 --> 0:19:44.320 I went down hell really a witch sucked my beauty, 0:19:44.520 --> 0:19:44.920 That's true. 0:19:45.640 --> 0:19:46.240 Let it all out. 0:19:47.119 --> 0:19:50.000 You didn't defend her from the witch. Why I didn't 0:19:50.000 --> 0:19:53.640 even defend has defended me from many witches and warlocks. 0:19:54.920 --> 0:19:58.400 It's not easy, no, But I seriously was like a hot, 0:19:58.600 --> 0:20:02.000 like made up teacher every like full face of makeup 0:20:02.119 --> 0:20:05.600 every day pre twenty twenty, and then twenty twenty came 0:20:05.640 --> 0:20:06.280 and I was just like. 0:20:06.400 --> 0:20:08.680 Well, I don't know, this is my comfy face. 0:20:09.000 --> 0:20:11.600 Yeah, that was Honestly that was the thing for me too. 0:20:11.680 --> 0:20:14.600 It is like I like, even though I wasn't that 0:20:14.720 --> 0:20:16.399 good at makeup, I would go out with like a 0:20:16.680 --> 0:20:21.400 full face like every fucking day. And now like I've 0:20:21.480 --> 0:20:23.399 got it down to where I can just do like, 0:20:23.600 --> 0:20:24.960 you know, if I want to do like a full 0:20:25.040 --> 0:20:27.120 face and like look really like pretty, which I usually 0:20:27.160 --> 0:20:29.840 do for like shows and stuff, yeah, or like you know, 0:20:30.320 --> 0:20:34.119 a fan Valentine's Day dinner or yeah, or or photo 0:20:34.160 --> 0:20:37.359 shoot with my beautiful co host period, I can do it. 0:20:37.640 --> 0:20:40.760 But yeah, I've learned to kind of like less is more. 0:20:50.480 --> 0:20:55.160 Let's talk more about Valentine's Day, so I just want 0:20:55.200 --> 0:20:59.080 to know. So we talked about how we met. Right, 0:21:00.440 --> 0:21:02.760 we did right, kind of What was there more to 0:21:02.800 --> 0:21:03.240 talk about? 0:21:03.560 --> 0:21:07.280 I mean, there was like a whole story behind our 0:21:07.359 --> 0:21:08.000 first dates. 0:21:08.280 --> 0:21:09.000 What was the story? 0:21:09.359 --> 0:21:09.760 Do tell? 0:21:10.080 --> 0:21:10.440 To tell? 0:21:10.760 --> 0:21:11.040 Okay? 0:21:11.240 --> 0:21:16.440 So yeah, we had been talking since like Thanksgiving, messaging 0:21:16.520 --> 0:21:19.399