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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Jackson is on the phone today for our first date

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Speaker 2: follow up, and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Haley.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're going to call her

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Speaker 2: see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and

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Speaker 2: maybe get him another date for first Jackson, how long

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Speaker 2: is the besins yours from Hailey?

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Speaker 3: It's been about a week.

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Speaker 1: Was she a busy person? Maybe?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 4: That's what I'm wondering at this point. It's either busy

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Speaker 4: or disappearing.

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Speaker 1: So did you try to reach out to her?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, sent a couple of attacks. They haven't thought about calling.

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Speaker 3: Well, are the end of the date, though, I mean

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Speaker 3: it was great.

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Speaker 4: The whole date from start to finish was just really

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Speaker 4: comfortable and natural. It wasn't like we were forcing the

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Speaker 4: train into the station at any point.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why I love Okay, Okay, So let's

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Speaker 1: go to the beginning. Give us all the details. How

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Speaker 1: did you meet Haley and how did it all go down?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 4: And that Hallie threw a friend and they introduced us.

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Speaker 4: We we like met out with friends and I asked

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Speaker 4: for her number at the end, and then we met

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Speaker 4: up a few days later, and then we saw each

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Speaker 4: other a couple of times after that, and the most

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Speaker 4: recent time we went out for dinner. It was just

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Speaker 4: such a great dinner. It was. It lasted, like, you know,

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Speaker 4: over two and a half hours. You know, we took

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Speaker 4: a walk after. We even had a you know kiss

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Speaker 4: at the end, which was just nice. And it wasn't

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Speaker 4: you know, it wasn't awkward at all.

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Speaker 1: Leaned in for the kiss first, was it you or

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Speaker 1: was it mutual?

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Speaker 4: It was more me, but it was pretty mutual. I Mean.

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Speaker 4: The only thing I can think of is that maybe

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Speaker 4: I like talk too much throughout, Like maybe I didn't

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Speaker 4: give her, you know, enough of a chance to kind

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Speaker 4: of talk about ourselves. But that's you know, that's really

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Speaker 4: that's really all I can think of, you know. And

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Speaker 4: and we went out to like a really nice spot.

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Speaker 1: So what do you mean, like you just were kind

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Speaker 1: of monologuing the entire time. You didn't ask her questions.

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Speaker 4: You know, I would say I was setting the conversations,

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Speaker 4: you know, talking about like, you know, things I like

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Speaker 4: doing and you know, my family and that kind of stuff,

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Speaker 4: and she was chiming in here and there. I'm just

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Speaker 4: thinking that maybe that's really the only thing I can

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Speaker 4: think of is that maybe I didn't flip it on her,

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Speaker 4: give her enough of the chance to start the conversation

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Speaker 4: topics about what she might have wanted to speak about.

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Speaker 1: Okay, But I just I can't get.

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Speaker 4: Her out of my head, you know, I'm just like

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Speaker 4: thinking about her every couple of hours.

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Speaker 1: And what's the last thing she said to you?

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Speaker 4: The last thing she was like, Well, she was like,

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Speaker 4: we'll talk later.

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Speaker 2: Okay, And obviously that hasn't happened. So we'll play a song,

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Speaker 2: come back, and then call her and steal tell us

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Speaker 2: why she's goho seing you, and maybe get you another date.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm good.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, place don't come back and get your first

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Speaker 2: day follow up next.

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Speaker 1: Y.

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Speaker 2: In the movie firs Day follow up, if you're just

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Speaker 2: joining us, Jackson is on the phone and he's getting

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Speaker 2: ghosted by Haley. So in a few minutes, we're gonna

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Speaker 2: call her and see if to tell us why she's

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Speaker 2: ghosting him and maybe get him another date. But first, Jackson,

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Speaker 2: why don't you get us up to speed on your

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Speaker 2: date with Hailey?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Well, we went h we went out the last day,

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Speaker 4: what was our third date, and we went out for dinner,

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Speaker 4: you know, last at all night. We took a walk

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Speaker 4: after dinner, had a nice kiss at the end.

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Speaker 3: That's since and you.

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Speaker 1: Think the reason why she might be ghosting used because

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Speaker 1: you talked too much. Yeah, okay, all right, are you

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Speaker 1: ready for us to call her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, Ma, I speak

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Speaker 2: to Haley. Please, Haley, Haley, how are you.

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Speaker 1: My name is Jubell. I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 1: It's called the Jebel Show. Hi, Haley, the whole show's here.

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Speaker 1: I'm Nina, Hi, and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 3: Oh hi, Hi, Hi, Oh my goodness.

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Speaker 1: Hello.

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Speaker 2: So you know the show? Yeah, of course, yeah, all right.

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Speaker 2: Well have you heard of a first day follow up?

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Speaker 3: Then i'll frame now what happened?

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Speaker 1: Well, you know we do the first day follow up.

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Speaker 2: That's where if you go out on date with somebody

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Speaker 2: and end up ghosting them, they can email us to

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Speaker 2: ask why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 1: I love those what yay?

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Speaker 2: Well, I'm glad you like them because somebody emailed us

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Speaker 2: about you.

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Speaker 1: You're a star today.

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Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, what are you ghosting someone. I mean

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Speaker 3: I go with everyone.

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Speaker 5: I'm doing like ten dates this week, and I well,

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Speaker 5: I haven't talked to more of most of them.

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Speaker 3: I go to anybody. Yes, I mean you not to

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Speaker 3: be me or youthin because you're you're busy and.

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Speaker 1: You have ten dates and a week.

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Speaker 2: Wow, Well, I guess you have a lot of options

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Speaker 2: then on people you could be ghosting. Maybe Jackson is

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Speaker 2: the guy's name that emailed us.

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Speaker 3: Oh fancy dinner boy. I have a puppy Elodie in

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Speaker 3: my phone. He's so cute.

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Speaker 1: What he's adorable?

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Speaker 3: But well, I mean he's adorable.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 3: We had a good time, but he doesn't really meet

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Speaker 3: the criteria. That sounds nice, right, I don't.

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Speaker 5: I don't mean it to be ugly, but you know, like, yes,

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Speaker 5: you know, I like to go out to eat, and

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Speaker 5: you know.

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Speaker 3: I like, what's there?

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Speaker 4: Oh, hey, jack I didn't know it was fancy dinner boy?

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Speaker 4: What does that mean?

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Speaker 5: I mean, you know, I like to go out to eat,

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Speaker 5: and it was it was nice. I mean, you spent

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Speaker 5: all that money on such a fancy restaurant, you know,

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Speaker 5: but you didn't bring a gift or anything, so I

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Speaker 5: don't know it yeah.

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Speaker 4: Was the dinner not for a gift?

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Speaker 3: And know, I mean nice, but like that was a

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Speaker 5: I kind of would have you know, Joey would have

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Speaker 5: been nice too, or instead of.

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Speaker 1: Jewelry, girl, you can jewelry from everything you go out with.

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Speaker 5: You know, people can be very nice and generous and

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Speaker 5: and I like, yeah, is that you know, Sigar Daddy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I just wanted to alarif. Okay, cool.

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Speaker 3: I mean I meet some very nice people on there.

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Speaker 5: We have lovely meals and yes, I get you know,

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Speaker 5: I get my car paid for and I get jewelry

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Speaker 5: and you know, yeah, yeah it works really well.

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Speaker 1: Not for Jackson.

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Speaker 3: Oh, Jackson was very sweet but young.

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Speaker 5: I mean I really, you know, at this play my life,

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Speaker 5: I'm still young and I and I'm you know, like

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Speaker 5: a little help with car payments and things like that,

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Speaker 5: and give this just I enjoy it.

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Speaker 4: I wish you would have just said what you were

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Speaker 4: looking for. Then we wouldn't have wasted either of our times.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I didn't think it was a waste of time.

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Speaker 4: I had such a nice time with you that we

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Speaker 4: need to waste the time for you because you've got

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Speaker 4: a free dinner.

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Speaker 3: I did.

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Speaker 5: But you had a good company, I mean for a

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Speaker 5: long time. But my company was I mean we were

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Speaker 5: there for such a long time. My company wasn't enough

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Speaker 5: like payment for dinner. Somebody brought jewelry.

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Speaker 4: So this is what you do. You just have people

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Speaker 4: take you out for dinner and give you gifts and

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Speaker 4: give you a jewelry.

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Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, you know.

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Speaker 5: I mean, like, you know, if you would have brought

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Speaker 1: Wait, what do you mean instead of spending money on dinner?

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Speaker 1: Did you not want to eat? You know?

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Speaker 5: I mean, like, dinner was great. Don't get me wrong,

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Speaker 5: it was fantastic. The mail was fabulous, the company was great,

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Speaker 5: but there was a lot of money on dinner, and

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Speaker 5: you know, I just felt like like the money could

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Speaker 5: have been better spent on something, you know, more, you know,

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Speaker 3: Something you know, like I could wear or something.

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Speaker 4: Well, helly, I didn't know you were a gold digger.

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Speaker 3: I'm not a gold digger.

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Speaker 5: I mean, you know, I pay for myself and I

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Speaker 3: But if I want to be with somebody who's also

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Speaker 1: I don't think you may.

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Speaker 4: You know, you don't want to be with anyone. You

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Speaker 1: She's a sugar seat.

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Speaker 3: I'm not a cash register.

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Speaker 5: Like someone who's good company, but someone also you know,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I.

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Speaker 4: Could have just told me that's what you wanted, and

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Speaker 4: you could have just said that instead of acting like

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Speaker 5: I mean, I do like you had a great time,

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Speaker 5: Like you're staying a puppy dog in my phone.

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Speaker 3: You're so cute. I mean, I had a wonderful time

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Speaker 5: But you know, I mean I have to tell you

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Speaker 5: buy me gifts if it's not coming from you because

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Speaker 5: you want to. I don't want to force anybody, I mean,

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Speaker 5: not really to make anybody buy me thing if you don't.

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Speaker 3: Want to buy me a person, don't buy me a purse.

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Speaker 3: That's you know.

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Speaker 1: Well. Also if he doesn't buy you a person, won't

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Speaker 1: go out with him again?

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Speaker 3: Right, I mean he doesn't have to be a purse,

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Speaker 3: give me a jewelry.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I let do you know there's a thing, Well, Hayley,

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Speaker 2: would you like to w out with Jackson again? We'll

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Speaker 2: pay for it within reason?

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Speaker 3: Sure you will, absolutely, Jefuely is a great company. He

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Speaker 3: was lovely.

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Speaker 5: I look the time with him, just you know, bring

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Speaker 5: a gift next time? Is that you're paying so he

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Speaker 5: can bring a gift?

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 3: I mean is that too much?

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Speaker 1: Jackson? Are you going to go shopping?

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Speaker 5: Come on, you don't even have to pay for dinner

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Speaker 5: this time? A little something maybe if they're something together?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess I will. I would like to see

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Speaker 4: you again, Haley, Like.

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Speaker 3: What, I'm small? I'm a small.

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Speaker 1: You're really gonna go out with he? I think again? Jackson?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I wanted to see her again.

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Speaker 1: At least he knows what's on the table now, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I guess.

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Speaker 3: And now we'll get a free dinner.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. Jubiles first day follow up