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Speaker 1: And today we have such a special guest Kathy and

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Speaker 1: I love her.

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Speaker 4: It's our friend and our Golden sister. Joan. Hi, Joan,

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Speaker 4: thank you so much for being here.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Joan, I'm.

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Speaker 5: So happy to be here with you. Guys. I haven't

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Speaker 5: seen you in eons.

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Speaker 4: No, it feels like forever I saw you.

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Speaker 3: We saw you at Oh yeah, Family Feud, Family Feud,

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Speaker 3: celebrity family feud.

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Speaker 4: Doesn't it feel like like two months ago?

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Speaker 5: It does? I swear When you said family feud, I

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Speaker 5: was like, oh yeah, oh yeah, its like life is

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Speaker 5: so busy now. I know the same for you guys

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Speaker 5: that like weeks just fly by and like you can

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Speaker 5: it's life is going to pass right now.

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Speaker 4: It's so true. Ways did you think of family feud?

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Speaker 4: Did you have fun?

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Speaker 5: That was so fun? What an experience just to even

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Speaker 5: be on a game show, which is like, is a

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Speaker 5: little bit of a fear of mine that I'm gonna

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Speaker 5: do something stupid or whatever. But once we were dying,

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Speaker 5: like I really could take it all in and so

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Speaker 5: enjoyed it. And like, what like another first thing, you know,

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Speaker 5: one that never thought I would do.

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Speaker 4: How different was it, Joan?

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Speaker 3: How different was it watching it and being on it?

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Speaker 5: Oh gosh. So First of all, Steve Harvey is hilarious.

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Speaker 5: He does a stand up comedy routine every time, like

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Speaker 5: cameras are not rolling, the audience is in for such

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Speaker 5: a treatment. Who knew that there was like this whole

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Speaker 5: other element of comedy going on when you're not when

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Speaker 5: the TV is not rolling, so he's funny on TV.

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Speaker 5: He's hilarious in his person Yeah, okay, I love him.

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Speaker 4: I absolutely love him, and I love his teeth.

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Speaker 5: I got you do. I think I think our questions

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Speaker 5: are really hard, harder than the ones like I practiced

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Speaker 5: a little bit every once in a while, I turn

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Speaker 5: it on try to answer some questions. I thought ours

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Speaker 1: You know, I was under the impression for the celebrity

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Speaker 1: family feud they would give easier qui.

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Speaker 4: And so we don't appear like I think they were

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Speaker 5: Ours were hard. I was like, oh my god. Every

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Speaker 5: time they said a question, I was like, oh, I'm

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Speaker 1: Well, Joan, I can tell you this. I love watching

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Speaker 1: you on TikTok. I mean, you go viral.

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Speaker 4: You are superb out there.

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Speaker 1: How does it feel watching yourself and being so recognized

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Speaker 5: It's so weird. I don't think I haven't done a

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Speaker 4: Those are a lot of you're good at the fashion

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Joan.

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Speaker 3: Let me just say, first of all, I don't cook

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Speaker 3: But I barely can get dressed in the morning watching

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Speaker 5: And well, that's not true. I only put on ones

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Speaker 5: I have her and then two daughter, two girls that

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Speaker 5: of this. Love it all, love the bachelor love like

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Speaker 5: they you know, they're millennials. They love to talk and

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Speaker 5: they love you know, Instagram, so they tell me what's

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Speaker 4: We have, glady, and I have to come to your house.

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Speaker 5: To get You have to come to my house because

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Speaker 5: But I it's exhausting and it takes a long time.

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Speaker 3: And I was, I just want somebody to pick out

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Speaker 2: That's all I need.

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Speaker 5: I know, I know, you have to really be So

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Speaker 5: I did like a Zara hall, and you know, I've

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Speaker 5: all on. And I thought, oh, I'll word all these

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Speaker 5: Well I end up liking them. Yeah, you know, A

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Speaker 5: thousand dollars later, I have all these clothes that I

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Speaker 3: So they were a marketing genius, Joan. They marketed to you, right.

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Speaker 2: I'm so.

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Speaker 1: I thank God for my daughter as well. But I

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Speaker 5: Maybe maybe your daughter and my daughter can meet at

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Speaker 2: And then there's my daughter together.

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Speaker 3: My daughter shops online all the time and says, I

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Speaker 3: it's like a nightmare for me to have to shop.

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Speaker 4: Yes, we know, Kathy up for you.

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Speaker 1: I know, we know, but you've always had fabulous Thank.

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Speaker 2: You, okay, Joan, Yes, I'm going to ask you.

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Speaker 5: Oh no, tell me.

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Speaker 2: I want to know about dating.

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Speaker 5: Tell I knew you were going to ask them. I

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Speaker 5: I don't have one because dating is still hard. I

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Speaker 5: haven't figured out the formula yet. I like, I don't

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Speaker 5: love the online dating. Like I've said before, I don't

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Speaker 5: think people are super truthful. I had an online date

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Speaker 5: that I walked into the restaurant and I looked around.

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Speaker 5: I was meeting this man at sit at the bar

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Speaker 5: looking at us and it doesn't look like a picture.

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Speaker 5: He looks completely different. And so I just feel like

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Speaker 5: that is kind of typical of what you get when

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Speaker 5: you do online dating. So then, like, what else do

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Speaker 5: you do? Like, I know, I say yes to social things.

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Speaker 5: I go out a lot. I'm very social, but in

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Speaker 2: Anybody, right, are you on dating apps? Me?

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Speaker 4: Either?

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Speaker 5: And I know, so dating that was like a full

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Speaker 5: time job. And I have a full time job. So

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Speaker 5: to stay on top of the messages and being you know,

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Speaker 5: then I think, you know, you feel like you're being

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Speaker 5: rude to them. But you're at work and.

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Speaker 3: She still has time to shop for clothes for she's smart.

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Speaker 1: Let me ask you this, what's better about dating later

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Speaker 1: in life versus prior to your marriage?

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Speaker 4: Dating when we were really young.

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Speaker 5: What's what's better or is so I guess like I

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Speaker 5: probably I'm probably better at judge you a person, so

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Speaker 5: I can go on probably one date and not like

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Speaker 5: Like those are things that probably would have met mattered

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Speaker 5: way more to me when I was younger, and those

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Speaker 5: but I probably will give I know, I will give

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Speaker 1: And they want a nice car too, I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 4: That's definitely a pro.

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Speaker 2: Y so Joan.

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Speaker 3: You know, it's been a while since we've been on

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Speaker 3: the show, but we've all stayed in contact. I want

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Speaker 3: What are some of your favorite memories from the show.

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Speaker 5: Oh, so many good memories. Will you realize I was

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Speaker 5: only oh we know, we know. I mean every one

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Speaker 5: of the seven days was a great day, I'll tell you.

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Speaker 2: And you're only on seven days.

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Speaker 5: I left after seven days. It was three episodes because

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Speaker 5: It was a real seven days was seven days, but

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Speaker 5: I looked around, I was like, now this is what

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Speaker 5: I needed. Like I went there with a lot of fear,

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Speaker 5: and I I think I became a much braver person

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Speaker 5: because I learned from you guys. I learned that you

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Speaker 5: know that doing this crazy thing, putting yourself out there,

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Speaker 5: helps you grow. And so I got to say that

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Speaker 5: the best day of all was the first day I

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Speaker 4: We feel that way? Did we love you right from

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Speaker 2: I remember sitting on the bus with you Joan talking

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Speaker 2: about our daughters.

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Speaker 5: Man we did on the way to the other mansion

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Speaker 5: for the addressed day. Yeah, I'll remember forever that was.

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Speaker 5: And that was a really good conversation because, like you know,

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Speaker 2: Well, because both of our daughters talk about that what happened.

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Speaker 5: So, both of our daughters had difficult pregnancies and difficult births,

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Speaker 2: Years, and now for me it's been five years. But

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Speaker 2: I like you, Joan.

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Speaker 3: I learned so much from being on the show and

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Speaker 5: I would personally really love to do Bachelor of Paradise.

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Speaker 3: in part by Susan. You've got to agree with me.

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Speaker 2: No, Mom, then gotta have I'm got no bikinis.

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Speaker 3: You could do a bikini Jon, no bikinis, no bugs,

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Are you ready?

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Speaker 3: Now?

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Speaker 2: Are you ready to find love?

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Speaker 5: I really want love. I want to have somebody in

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Speaker 5: As far as my heart being completely open, I think

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Speaker 5: Confidence? You know, I feel like I've become a lot

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Speaker 5: I'd be there in a heartbeat.

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Speaker 4: Over the dating apps.

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Speaker 1: So have you ever received or what's the best advice

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Speaker 5: Hmmm? Probably give everybody a chance. So don't don't say

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Speaker 5: no because of all little things. So yes, what does

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Speaker 3: Have no use to guys like you say exactly, yeah, wait,

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Speaker 3: What do your kids think about you dating, continuing to

445
00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:43,160
Speaker 3: date and looking for mister Wright?

446
00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:45,520
Speaker 5: So it depends on which kid you ass. I have

447
00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:50,040
Speaker 5: four two boys, So one of my sons and one

448
00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:53,600
Speaker 5: of my daughters love this idea. So my oldest son,

449
00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:57,800
Speaker 5: so number one and number three, Nick and Ally both

450
00:20:57,880 --> 00:20:59,439
Speaker 5: love the idea of me dating. They think it's a

451
00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:03,720
Speaker 5: really good idea. They Ali is married, Nick is engaged.

452
00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:05,520
Speaker 5: Nick has said to me on more than one occasion,

453
00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:07,080
Speaker 5: I want you to have what we have. We have

454
00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:09,560
Speaker 5: all found love in our life for my kids, love

455
00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:13,600
Speaker 5: you are in relationships. They and he said, I want

456
00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:16,120
Speaker 5: you to have what we have. And I've always said,

457
00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:17,400
Speaker 5: I don't want to be a burden on you guys.

458
00:21:17,440 --> 00:21:19,879
Speaker 5: You know I don't want to you know, grow all alone,

459
00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:21,240
Speaker 5: and you guys think of to take care of me.

460
00:21:21,440 --> 00:21:23,480
Speaker 5: He goes, First of all, Mom, You'll never be a

461
00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:25,639
Speaker 5: burden hoist. We love being with you and my kids

462
00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:27,200
Speaker 5: do I think they come over here all the time.

463
00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:29,119
Speaker 5: I love being with them. They're my favorite people in

464
00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:31,359
Speaker 5: the world, and luckily they like being with me still.

465
00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:34,720
Speaker 5: But they do realize that my life would be better,

466
00:21:35,640 --> 00:21:36,960
Speaker 5: you know, if I didn't just have to rely on

467
00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:39,199
Speaker 5: them for my you know, I have lots of friends

468
00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:42,240
Speaker 5: for social interaction, but they want me to have love.

469
00:21:42,359 --> 00:21:44,199
Speaker 5: So two of them want me to. I think they

470
00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:46,040
Speaker 5: all four want me to have love. Two of them

471
00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:48,720
Speaker 5: are okay with me actually like doing something about it.

472
00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:53,240
Speaker 1: Do you think they would be very accepted, like they'll

473
00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:55,840
Speaker 1: accept whoever it is, or do you think any of

474
00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:57,959
Speaker 1: them will be like, mom, he's not the one. Are

475
00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:00,879
Speaker 1: they opinionated like that or so?

476
00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:03,480
Speaker 5: I think it depends on like the degree, Like if

477
00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 5: they if I was with somebody that they really thought

478
00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:09,600
Speaker 5: was not a good person or something like that, they

479
00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:12,080
Speaker 5: would tell me. Absolutely they would tell me. But I think,

480
00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:12,440
Speaker 5: you know.

481
00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:13,960
Speaker 2: Would you like.

482
00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:17,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think I would because I think that they

483
00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:19,119
Speaker 5: have my best interest in mind, so I think I

484
00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:22,080
Speaker 5: would listen. Yeah, But I think in general they would

485
00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:24,480
Speaker 5: never say anything if they knew I liked somebody or

486
00:22:24,520 --> 00:22:27,840
Speaker 5: feelings for somebody, they would never say anything unless it

487
00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:29,240
Speaker 5: was pretty major.

488
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:33,679
Speaker 1: And how long before you would introduce a gentleman to

489
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:34,320
Speaker 1: your family.

490
00:22:34,480 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's a good question. I have introduced one or

491
00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:40,960
Speaker 5: two guys to them.

492
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:42,440
Speaker 2: Like where are they? I want their numbers?

493
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:48,479
Speaker 5: Do I just so as I wasn't really ready. So

494
00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:50,560
Speaker 5: I think my kids knew that these were not long

495
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:53,119
Speaker 5: term people. I just like I invited them over for

496
00:22:53,119 --> 00:22:55,800
Speaker 5: dinner or something. It wasn't like some like here's my family,

497
00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 5: I want you to meet so and so, like we're

498
00:22:58,080 --> 00:22:59,720
Speaker 5: really serious. It was just like always going to come

499
00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:01,480
Speaker 5: over and watch the super Bowl with us or something.

500
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:04,439
Speaker 5: You know, it's pretty meaningful. So I introduced them, but

501
00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:07,160
Speaker 5: it wasn't like this is the guy and I want

502
00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:09,159
Speaker 5: you to meet him and like, you know him be

503
00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:09,960
Speaker 5: a part of your life too.

504
00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:13,879
Speaker 1: Like I know, personally, I got nervous when it was

505
00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:14,959
Speaker 1: time to meet my sons.

506
00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:18,239
Speaker 5: I was like, oh, God, are they hard on?

507
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:23,720
Speaker 1: They No, not not in the moment, but I'll hear

508
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:25,600
Speaker 1: something later. Oh is that right.

509
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:29,640
Speaker 4: No, they didn't like them, No, they liked them.

510
00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 3: They just it was me, Okay, I'm gonna I got

511
00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:35,200
Speaker 3: to ask the question the elephant in the room, given

512
00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:39,720
Speaker 3: what's happened recently, Joan, if you found the guy you love,

513
00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:40,400
Speaker 3: would you move?

514
00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 4: Oh?

515
00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:46,400
Speaker 5: So I have like a vision of how this would work,

516
00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:49,239
Speaker 5: because certainly in our age and especially with what we

517
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:51,439
Speaker 5: just did, we just did a whole show about like,

518
00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:54,159
Speaker 5: you know, how do you meet somebody and end up

519
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:56,840
Speaker 5: being with them? Like that was a subject certainly, and

520
00:23:56,920 --> 00:23:58,800
Speaker 5: that's it was the first thing that Gary asked me, like,

521
00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:01,200
Speaker 5: how do you if I live in you live in Maryland,

522
00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:03,320
Speaker 5: how in the world would we make that work or

523
00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:05,560
Speaker 5: how would you see that working? And my reply was,

524
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:07,639
Speaker 5: and I still believe this is that you have to

525
00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:09,679
Speaker 5: have more than one home because I'm not willing to

526
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:12,800
Speaker 5: leave my kids and my family and really my friends.

527
00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:15,040
Speaker 5: My still mother is ninety two years old, so like

528
00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:17,199
Speaker 5: I have to be here. She relies on me, so

529
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:20,119
Speaker 5: does my mother in law. So I would not leave here.

530
00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:23,560
Speaker 5: I couldn't leave here, honestly, I would be deserting people

531
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:28,880
Speaker 5: that need me. So I could envision, and that being said,

532
00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:31,600
Speaker 5: I wouldn't want a guy to leave his family for me,

533
00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 5: because that tells me something about him. If he would

534
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:36,639
Speaker 5: leave his family for me, then he does not have

535
00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:38,720
Speaker 5: the same kind of relationship with his family that I

536
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:40,879
Speaker 5: have with mine, and we're not going to be compatible.

537
00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:41,920
Speaker 5: That's just not going to work.

538
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:43,360
Speaker 2: So we're gonna have two homes.

539
00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:47,760
Speaker 5: We have two homes and go back and forth and

540
00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:50,480
Speaker 5: then maybe have one more home. So I already have

541
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Speaker 5: a home.

542
00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:59,480
Speaker 3: The way I'm available, I'm available to be a yeah

543
00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:00,360
Speaker 3: where you know.

544
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:04,400
Speaker 5: A vacation home where everybody needs his kids, my kids, grandchildren,

545
00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:07,240
Speaker 5: you know, where everybody would enjoy being and we could

546
00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:08,320
Speaker 5: be a big, happy family.

547
00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 2: It is so nice of you to invite Susan and

548
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:12,600
Speaker 2: me to come. Thank you so much.

549
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 5: When the kids aren't there, your guys are there and

550
00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:16,960
Speaker 5: if you.

551
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:21,280
Speaker 3: Can to right, absolutely, I just got to find the

552
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:22,639
Speaker 3: guy and then the three homes.

553
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:25,160
Speaker 2: But that's just a detail to work.

554
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 1: Okay, we're going to play a little game, and this

555
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:32,920
Speaker 1: is for all three of us. Okay, it's about relationships

556
00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:37,120
Speaker 1: and what would you rather Okay, you're ready? Oh no,

557
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:42,720
Speaker 1: would you rather cook a fancy meal together or order

558
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:43,440
Speaker 1: in takeout?

559
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,440
Speaker 5: Oh gosh, well it probably depends on the day, So weekday,

560
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:50,480
Speaker 5: order in take out whatever, But on a weekend, So

561
00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 5: one of my favorite date activities is cooking with a

562
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:56,480
Speaker 5: guy with like a couple of bottles of wine, and

563
00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 5: some good food and some music on in the background.

564
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 5: Seen in the kitchen, drinking wine, having fun cooking, and

565
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 5: then sitting down and you know, sometimes it's eleven o'clock

566
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 5: at night by the time you get the meal done after,

567
00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 5: you know, goofing off and playing, having a great meal.

568
00:26:10,880 --> 00:26:14,160
Speaker 5: And it's one of my favorite dates, honestly, So I'm

569
00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:15,320
Speaker 5: gonna have to do that one.

570
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 1: I'm feeling like you read my profile when I was

571
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:18,880
Speaker 1: online dating.

572
00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 4: Because that's exactly what I wrote it.

573
00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:24,719
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, Wait, what do you think I would do?

574
00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:25,640
Speaker 5: Oh?

575
00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:29,640
Speaker 1: I know the Oh god, no fancy restaurant?

576
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 5: Take you out?

577
00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:33,920
Speaker 4: What do you think, Susan, you would definitely order out?

578
00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 3: You're both wrong. I am right with Joan. If I

579
00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:39,200
Speaker 3: could find a guy who.

580
00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 4: Would who's gonna cook with?

581
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 5: No?

582
00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:42,160
Speaker 2: Who do you cook with me?

583
00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:45,639
Speaker 3: Exactly what Joan said, music, have a bottle of wine,

584
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:46,680
Speaker 3: could do.

585
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:49,480
Speaker 2: It with it. What I don't like is cooking by myself.

586
00:26:50,400 --> 00:26:53,280
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, I've known you how long and you're

587
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:55,919
Speaker 1: admitting that you do know how to cook, you just

588
00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:57,360
Speaker 1: don't like to do it alone.

589
00:26:57,520 --> 00:27:04,639
Speaker 3: Wow, Joana, First, that's true.

590
00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 2: Though, that's true.

591
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 4: I love it. Okay, here's another one.

592
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:13,000
Speaker 1: Would you prefer to work out with your partner exercise

593
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:15,480
Speaker 1: together or would you like to do that separately.

594
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:19,600
Speaker 5: Oh, I'm an ugly exerciser. I gotta do it separately.

595
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 5: I want Tom in the same house as me. I like,

596
00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:24,720
Speaker 5: I sweat and I go why am I doing this?

597
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:27,520
Speaker 5: I look terrible out any make of mind. I put

598
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:28,679
Speaker 5: my hair back. I look awful.

599
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:32,720
Speaker 3: Okay, this one's for me is easy. I work, as

600
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 3: you all know, I work out every day. I go

601
00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 3: to the gym many days a week. And when I'm

602
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:42,000
Speaker 3: working out, I am not chit chatting, I'm not checking

603
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:44,920
Speaker 3: my phone. I am working out hard. So I'm going

604
00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 3: with workout separately.

605
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:49,160
Speaker 1: I think I'd like them to be there in case

606
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:52,360
Speaker 1: I'm doing something wrong, Like you need don't.

607
00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:55,240
Speaker 4: Bend your knees when you do that, don't your back.

608
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:56,200
Speaker 4: You're going to get hurt.

609
00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 5: You.

610
00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 2: No, Susan's going to.

611
00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:00,159
Speaker 3: Say, Babe, lift that weight for me, please, Honey, that

612
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 3: off the black for me.

613
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:01,640
Speaker 5: No.

614
00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:07,240
Speaker 3: I got a different I got a hard one for you.

615
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 3: John Ready, John, you know I'm bringing it. Have a

616
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 3: spontaneous sex life or a scheduled one?

617
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 5: Oh? God, so easy? Spontaneous?

618
00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:19,520
Speaker 4: Absolutely?

619
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:23,680
Speaker 5: I remember years ago, we had this friend, this couple friend,

620
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 5: and we were over at their house for dinner and

621
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:29,879
Speaker 5: there was like maybe six couples and they were talking

622
00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 5: about their Wednesday nights. Oh, it's scheduled every Wednesday. And

623
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 5: I walked out of there. I was like, these are

624
00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 5: the weirdest people, John, We're not ever going out with

625
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 5: them again they scheduled.

626
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,880
Speaker 3: Just wait a second, Joan, Wait a second, Susan. About you,

627
00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:47,160
Speaker 3: wait a second, Susan, you get You'll get a second here.

628
00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:50,280
Speaker 3: But when I had young kids, and I had three,

629
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:53,680
Speaker 3: you know, you couldn't just say, hey, kids, make your

630
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:55,240
Speaker 3: own dinner, dad, and I gonna go up and hop

631
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 3: in the sack. Right, So when you have young families,

632
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 3: sometimes you have to schedule a date night and what

633
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 3: comes after what comes before. So maybe at this stage

634
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 3: of life, what about you, Susan.

635
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:08,120
Speaker 4: Well, I agree with you.

636
00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 1: When we had kids, we had to get Saturday night

637
00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:13,120
Speaker 1: or Friday night whenever the babysitter would come.

638
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:17,240
Speaker 4: But I like spunked in edity. Absolutely.

639
00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 5: I feel like Saturday night was a given. Like you're

640
00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 5: gonna go out, you're and drink a little bit your friends,

641
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 5: and you're probably gonna have sex or come home. But

642
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 5: I feel like, like, you know, like going to bed.

643
00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 5: The kids are in.

644
00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 3: Bed, and I think Joan just said she has drunk sex.

645
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 3: I think that's what I just heard.

646
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 4: I like it when I least expect it and they

647
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 4: get to turn you on. You know, you're not really

648
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 4: in the mood, but they do the right things. Yeah,

649
00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 4: and you're like, Okay.

650
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 3: Okay, I gotta jump off this podcast. I gotta go

651
00:29:46,080 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 3: find a guy who wants.

652
00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 1: Okay, here's a good one. Would you prefer to travel

653
00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 1: the world together or build your dream home together?

654
00:29:58,560 --> 00:29:59,960
Speaker 5: Oh god, that's such a hard one.

655
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 4: I like both.

656
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 5: Obviously I have to pick one of those.

657
00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:09,480
Speaker 2: Wow, Okay, come on, John, that's not that hard.

658
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:11,760
Speaker 4: It's easy. At this stage of the game. We had

659
00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 4: our dream homes, we raise kids.

660
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:17,560
Speaker 2: You didn't have your dream home. Who cares go travel

661
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:18,880
Speaker 2: the world? See the world.

662
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:20,600
Speaker 5: When I think about my dream home, I think about

663
00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:23,240
Speaker 5: my family, and I think about everybody coming together in

664
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 5: a beautiful, you know, a place where they all want

665
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:29,240
Speaker 5: to be and they can all stay and enough. So

666
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:31,080
Speaker 5: I do think family when I think dream home. I

667
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Speaker 5: don't just think about me. I think about like who

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Speaker 5: I can share it with but I do agree, and

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Speaker 5: that was probably my answer, is that I would rather

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Speaker 5: travel the world because the memories you make are like

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Speaker 5: they will last forever.

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Speaker 2: Jones, sounds like a Hallmark card. I'm just sorry.

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Speaker 4: I just love her all right.

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Speaker 3: Not like your partner's friends or have their friends not

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Speaker 3: like you. Oh God, that's awful, John't you know I'm

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Speaker 3: that asking these tough ones.

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Speaker 5: That's a really hard one. I think I wouldn't rather

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Speaker 5: not like them, because in general I can kind of

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Speaker 5: put up with people, and like you know, you can tolerate,

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Speaker 5: I can tolerate, and I can maybe steer conversations to

681
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Speaker 5: things that maybe don't offend me about them, like or whatever.

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Speaker 5: I feel like I can manipulate an environment enough that

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Speaker 5: I could stand them if my significant other really loved

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Speaker 5: them and they were his really good friends. But I

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Speaker 5: don't think I could change the way I act for them.

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Speaker 5: I don't think I ever would. I wouldn't be willing

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Speaker 5: to do that. So I would rather not like them

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Speaker 5: and figure it out than them not like me.

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Speaker 1: And I agree with you, and i'd say, when he

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Speaker 1: wants to be with his friends, you go ahead, babe,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to go out with girls.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, right, with my friends.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, I agree with all that. I got

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Speaker 3: to say, we're all through the same page on that one.

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Speaker 3: All right, what about this one, John, go to a

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Speaker 3: concert together or go to with sporting event together?

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Speaker 5: Oh gosh, that's a hard one. I love both.

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Speaker 4: So again I'm the both girl.

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Speaker 5: But I know these are hard because so I think

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Speaker 5: I'd rather go to a sporting event. I think that

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Speaker 5: there's more time for like social interaction with a person

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Speaker 5: when you're at a sporting event and you can you know,

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Speaker 5: you're with other people around you, and I don't know,

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Speaker 5: for some reason, a sporting event seems more interactive to

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Speaker 5: me than a concert. You're you're a viewer. At a concert,

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Speaker 5: You're you can talk still, you can eat, you can die,

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Speaker 5: you can walk in and have a drink, you can

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Speaker 5: come back out watch the game. There's more to do

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Speaker 5: at a sporting event with a.

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Speaker 4: Partner, And it depends on what kind of concert it

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Speaker 4: is too.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I'm just going to say the concerts I've

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Speaker 3: been to, I've been at the heavens looking at a

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Speaker 3: screen six miles away. I would have been better staying

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Speaker 3: at home and watching a sporting event you know, you

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Speaker 3: get pretty close to the basketball court or a soccer field.

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Speaker 5: I mean yeah, you know, there's a lot of energy

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Speaker 5: in the stadium with you. It's fun like it's just like, yeah,

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Speaker 5: I love going to sporting events.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, how about this one.

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Speaker 1: Plan a surprise for your partner or be surprised.

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Speaker 5: Oh, I love to plan it. I'm a party planner.

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Speaker 5: I love to do parties. I ave planning. Nom yeah,

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Speaker 5: I'd rather And I'm not particularly good at being surprised.

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Speaker 5: I'm like a daring head white surpime surprise. I've had

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Speaker 5: one surprise party. Well, I had surprise baby shower or

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Speaker 5: bridal shower, and then I had one I think it

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Speaker 5: was my fiftieth birthday when they surprised me and I

729
00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 5: couldn't speak for like five minutes.

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Speaker 4: Not that you're a control or anything.

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Speaker 2: I'm laughing.

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Speaker 3: I am laughing because I graduated college many moons after

733
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Speaker 3: I got married, and my husband told me about my

734
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Speaker 3: surprise graduation party, and then he told me about my

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Speaker 3: surprise baby shower another.

736
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Speaker 2: Day because he couldn't hold a secret.

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Speaker 3: And the funny thing is, the funny thing is everyone

738
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Speaker 3: thinks that Kathy cannot keep a secret. I'm the best

739
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Speaker 3: secret keeper for my husband. My husband could not keep

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Speaker 3: a secret. And I used to say, Tom, this is

741
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Speaker 3: so not fair. Everyone thinks that you could keep a

742
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Speaker 3: secret and that I give away the secrets. And he

743
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Speaker 3: used to look at me and left, go, I know,

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Speaker 3: isn't it great?

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Speaker 1: So I feel like it's really difficult to surprise me

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Speaker 1: because I miss know it all and I'm very and

747
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Speaker 1: like you, Joan, I like to plan them, but I

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Speaker 1: think I would like to be surprised once.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I have been and I was like, I was,

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Speaker 5: like I said, I was speechless.

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Speaker 4: So that's how about you?

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Speaker 5: Would you rather plan her surprise?

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Speaker 2: Joe? I barely cook? Are you serious?

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Speaker 4: There? She goes. She's admitting, Joan, did you write that record?

755
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Speaker 5: This? She keeps going back and forth on this whole

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Speaker 5: cooking day.

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Speaker 2: It depends on the guy. It depends on the guy.

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Speaker 4: She'll think it if she's in Like, no, and I

759
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Speaker 4: like the guy.

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Speaker 2: I'm cooking for him.

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Speaker 1: Okay, the store and get cook. Okay we have another

762
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Speaker 1: one or two? Oh well this okay? Us bad date

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Speaker 1: someone who doesn't like pets, or date someone with ten pets.

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Speaker 4: I mean that's a no brainer.

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Speaker 2: Wait, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: Before wait a minute, Joan has a dog that she

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Speaker 3: walks once a day, so let's let's go with that.

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Speaker 5: You're supposed to say that.

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Speaker 2: Sorry.

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Speaker 4: But he's good that way.

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Speaker 5: So yeah, if he doesn't love, if he doesn't like pets,

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Speaker 5: I'm okay with it. I'm not getting rid of my dog.

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Speaker 5: But if he doesn't, if he doesn't come over to

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Speaker 5: my house and go make a big deal about my dog,

775
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Speaker 5: it's perfectly fine. I am not living in a house

776
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Speaker 5: or going out with somebody who's ten pets. That's pew.

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Speaker 5: I feel like that person might have maybe a little

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Speaker 5: mental issue.

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Speaker 4: I can smell it and see the hair everywhere.

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Speaker 3: All right, guys, guys, a mad note. We That does

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Speaker 3: it for this episode of Bachelor Happy Hours, Old then Hour.

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Speaker 3: Thank you Jones so much for joining us. It's been grand.

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Speaker 4: It's so fun catching up with you. And we have

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Speaker 4: to set a date for our get together. By the way,

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Speaker 4: as a matter of.

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Speaker 1: Fact, you guys, now, I'm having my out back alreaddone,

787
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Speaker 1: the pool, the deck, everything, So we're trying to plan something.

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Speaker 4: So I'll get you the info.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I'm on the I'll be on the text chain.

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Speaker 2: All right.

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Speaker 5: Well.

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Speaker 3: In the meantime, you guys, be sure to follow us

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Speaker 3: on Bachelor Happy Hour as we as you know, we

794
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:30,520
Speaker 3: always have new episodes coming out every weekend a week

795
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Speaker 3: and you don't want.

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Speaker 1: To miss them, and make sure you submit your questions

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Speaker 1: to us because we do answer them. And you can

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Speaker 1: go to bachelornation dot com, slash Golden Hour and hit

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Speaker 1: us up on social media at Bachelor Happy Hour.

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Speaker 3: Listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio

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00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 3: app or wherever.

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Speaker 2: You listen to podcasts.

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Speaker 3: Until next time time, Take care, Hi Joan, love you guys.

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Speaker 2: Bye.

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Speaker 5: Thanks for having me, Thanks for coming