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Speaker 1: Order a fresh show. It's Geeky's cord pull it eight

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Speaker 1: eight Oh my god, no, no, let's talk about it.

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Speaker 2: What happened?

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Speaker 3: First of all, is there like he won and he

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Speaker 3: won six hundred and fifty dollars. He didn't win one

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Speaker 3: hundred and fifty dollars to three and two who texted? So, guys,

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Speaker 3: let's make sure that we know everything before we are outraged. Okay,

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Speaker 3: thank you, That's all I ask. You know, feel free

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Speaker 3: to be outraged, just have all the information.

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Speaker 1: Thirteen Yeah, yeah, the kids was cheating and everything else.

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Speaker 1: What was going out. I'm not I'm not willing to

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Speaker 1: accuse children of cheating yet. I'm just not. I'm not.

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Speaker 3: I'm not with that level. I'm not that level yet,

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Speaker 3: that level of petty. Nonetheless, it starts over tomorrow one

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Speaker 3: hundred bucks and if you don't lose, then you get

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Speaker 3: all the money. Okay, Congress, have no fear, Have no fear. Kiki,

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Speaker 3: Judge Keky is here, the honorable judge Kiki. All rise, judge,

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Speaker 3: if you would.

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Speaker 4: All right, let's step into the courtroom. It says Heiki Key,

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Speaker 4: one of my best friends is getting married soon, but

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Speaker 4: I won't be in attendance. When my friend got engaged,

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Speaker 4: I was so happy for her. We celebrated her engagement

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Speaker 4: and she mentioned something to me about being in her

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Speaker 4: bridal party and we were both so excited. After all,

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Speaker 4: she was the maid of honor in my wedding. But

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Speaker 4: fast forward months later, I see photos from her bachelorette

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Speaker 4: vacation on social media. That is how I learned that

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Speaker 4: I am not in her wedding. The sad part is

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Speaker 4: that I think the only reason she didn't include me

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Speaker 4: on Facebook over politics.

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Speaker 3: Well that might be one reason. Yeah, yeah, I could

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Speaker 3: have something to do with it. I've noticed that people

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Speaker 3: are for sneaky about that these days.

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Speaker 4: I don't see that happens.

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Speaker 3: I said, if somebody would have a differing political opinion

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Speaker 3: and then eliminate you from their lives, that's crazy.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she says, she did send me an invitation to

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Speaker 4: the wedding, and I've decided to decline the invite.

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Speaker 3: What do you think should I still attend? So she's

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Speaker 3: mad because she's not in the wedding party.

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Speaker 1: Yes, but.

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Speaker 4: She was invited to the wedding. She was invited to

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Speaker 4: the wedding. Now, keep in mind, this girl was her

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Speaker 4: maid of honor in her wedding, so you stood beside

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Speaker 4: me as my maid of honor, but you don't even

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Speaker 4: think to include me in your wedding party at all.

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Speaker 3: I feel like the only way that works is if

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Speaker 3: you have a complete and total falling out. I don't

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Speaker 3: think you can demote a former maid of honor. I

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Speaker 3: don't know that. I don't know that they have to

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Speaker 3: be the maid of honor, right, But if someone is

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Speaker 3: significant enough in your life judge Kiki to be your

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Speaker 3: maid of honor, then wouldn't you think that they would

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Speaker 3: include you in their day as well.

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Speaker 4: I mean it's nice to think, you know, we all

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Speaker 4: bride and if you don't make the cut, I think,

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Speaker 4: as my friend, you know, if you're having issues with

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Speaker 4: my fiance, There's a lot that goes into planning a

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Speaker 4: wedding and being a part of the bridal party. There's rehearsals,

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Speaker 4: there's dinners, there's back bridal showers, all these things, and

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Speaker 4: if I've decided, you know what, it's best for my

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Speaker 4: mental health that you are not a part of those

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Speaker 4: things because you can't get along with my fiance. I

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Speaker 4: feel like that's my prerogative right, But as my friend,

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Speaker 4: I don't think you shouldn't go to her wedding. You

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Speaker 4: you know you were my maid of honor. I thought

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Speaker 4: we were tighter than this. I thought we were closer

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Speaker 4: than what you know this shows. But I'm still here

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Speaker 4: on your day to support you because at the end

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Speaker 4: of the day, it's not about me, it's about you.

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Speaker 1: So you did what you felt was right.

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Speaker 4: And I mean cause, yeah, it feels bad to see

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Speaker 4: oh my god, that was my maid of honor.

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Speaker 1: She didn't even include me.

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Speaker 4: You can feel all the things, but at the end

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Speaker 4: of the day, the bride still has the right.

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Speaker 1: To make the decision that she made. In my opinion, yeah.

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Speaker 5: And like unless, I mean, there's people whose weddings that

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Speaker 5: you know, if you want the friendship to end, then

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Speaker 5: to go to the wedding and you need to swallow

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Speaker 3: Yeah, by the way, Kaylen's still looking for this woman

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Speaker 3: with the Venmo request.

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Speaker 1: You guys, she paid me. Oh nice, you finally got

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Speaker 1: your sixty five dollars.

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Speaker 5: I had to go to someone else to ask for help,

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Speaker 5: who then made a group chat who then she didn't

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Speaker 5: answer for days, But we finally got our success.

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Speaker 3: So maybe this woman is being done a favor by

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Speaker 3: not having to go to all this shit.

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Speaker 1: I just I don't know how you.

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Speaker 3: I feel like you got to find a place you're

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Speaker 3: I mean, it feels like quite the demotion. Yeah three five,

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Speaker 3: you guys are the jury. I mean, how would you

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Speaker 3: and then that person turns around and gets married however

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Speaker 3: You don't get to go to the bachelorette party, the

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Speaker 3: bachelor party. This is your group of friends too. You

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Speaker 3: don't even get to be there. Like that's like I

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Speaker 3: got invited to a bachelor party. It's the famous Key

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Speaker 3: West bachelor party. A bunch of great guys in Key West.

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Speaker 3: No idea, no idea why they chose that place. I

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Speaker 3: have no I mean, I was so disappointed. I'm like,

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Speaker 3: finally we have grown up money and we don't have

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Speaker 3: to go to like South Padre Island. Yeah right, we

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Speaker 3: we can go do grown up stuff now.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, we went to Key West.

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Speaker 3: But I wasn't in the wedding, but I was included

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Speaker 3: because I think the guy was like, well, you're our

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Speaker 3: which is basically everybody got invited to the bachelor party

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Speaker 3: but it still would have been fun for me to

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Speaker 3: have been included, right, So he did that for me.

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Speaker 3: So I don't know if different with girls, like would

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Speaker 3: you feel slighted if it was, Hey, look you're not

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Speaker 4: Oh no, see, now that's where I would be upset

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Speaker 4: because don't ask me to pay money to come to

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Speaker 4: And I'm not a part of the writer party. That's

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Speaker 4: an absolute no for me. But when it comes down

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Speaker 4: we didn't like the guy, whatever, But you still stay

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Speaker 4: You know, when they say, does anybody object? I would

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Speaker 4: call real loud, you know, anybody object to this union? Yes,

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Speaker 4: I do, you know, but I would still be there

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Speaker 4: for my friend. I just think we can't just assume

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Speaker 1: I've said this before, Kiki.

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Speaker 3: I at this point in my life, I feel like

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Speaker 3: I would need to just elope if I ever got married,

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Speaker 3: in the wedding party, or I I mean I've stood

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Speaker 3: in multiple I've stood in more than one wedding for

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Speaker 3: the same human being.

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Speaker 1: At this point.

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Speaker 3: Really, I've stood in weddings for I mean, one guy's dead,

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Speaker 3: you know, early mid forties or whatever that I there's

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Speaker 1: I think about things.

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Speaker 3: Like what I'm gonna do at my non wedding, but

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Speaker 3: it's like I feel like I would have to do

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Speaker 1: And I wouldn't want to do that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't picture you either way, Like having a

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Speaker 1: I really don't with like caters.

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Speaker 2: And this and that and the tucks fittings and like

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Speaker 1: I can't picture that. I picture because you're so low

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Speaker 1: we're doing this next Saturday. You guys want to come?

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Speaker 1: Like That's how I see it.

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Speaker 3: And because I'm Pauline, it would be you guys, would

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Speaker 3: be my parents, my sister, my brother in law, probably

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Speaker 3: my nieces. And then you know, I've got a couple

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Speaker 3: I have a lot of friends, a lot of friends,

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Speaker 3: but they're not I don't know, I don't I mean,

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Speaker 3: I'm either gonna have to invite a thousand people or nobody.

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Speaker 3: And I don't mean that as like a humble brag,

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Speaker 3: but it's it if I think you get to a

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Speaker 3: lot of different friends I value. I've got friends in like,

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Speaker 3: you know, to Paulina's point, I've got friends for different categories,

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Speaker 3: good morning, welcome to the show.

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Speaker 1: How are you.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, I'm good.

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Speaker 6: I love you, guys, thank.

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Speaker 1: You, We love you too. So Kiki's court.

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Speaker 3: Basically, it's it's a woman who was is getting married

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Speaker 4: Best He's left out of the bridal party by her

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Speaker 3: Woman was also her maid of honor, So like there's

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Speaker 2: So I'm currently in the process of planning my wedding

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Speaker 1: Of the wedding.

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Speaker 2: And then coming down to the girl, if she should

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Speaker 1: Well there for you at the divorce.

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Speaker 3: Well, right, maybe is it Marisa or Marissa? Did I

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Speaker 2: At the end of the day, like, it really just

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Speaker 6: Tell her that, yeah, fact you didn't.

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Speaker 2: I think there's something that had to have happened because

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Speaker 3: This is friendship ending stuff right here. But thank you, Marissa,

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Speaker 3: have a good day.

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Speaker 2: Thanks you too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree with whoever said that it is.

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Speaker 3: This is the kind of stuff where if you don't

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Speaker 3: But then at the same time, you got to show

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Speaker 1: It's tricky.

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Speaker 6: Hey Raquel, Yeah, sorry, how you doing?

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Speaker 1: Hey Raquel, welcome? What do you think Kikey's cord.

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Speaker 6: She should not attend the wedding. I think the point

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Speaker 6: and she found out via social media conversation of the situation. Yes,

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Speaker 6: that's so, there's no conversation you find out via photo,

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Speaker 6: So then you expect me to go to the wedding. No,

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Speaker 6: I don't think she should have to go to the

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Speaker 1: Business girl.

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, I mean I think there could have been

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Speaker 6: So had you had the conversation and said, hey, you know, Brad,

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Speaker 6: to the wedding. But the lack of conversation for someone

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Speaker 6: who's allegedly a best friend, No, I'm sorry you don't

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you what.

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Speaker 3: Brad and his damn tesla driving around it's always a problem.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, Raquel, have a good time, right, don't don't

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Speaker 1: Hey, Kiki's court, what say you?

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Speaker 7: I definitely think that that has become a one way friendship.

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Speaker 7: That girl is not her front no more. Uh, she

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Speaker 7: And me personally, if it was me, if that person

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that is a wild thing. Is for a fight

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Speaker 3: that's pretty wild to say that a fight that you

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Speaker 7: Most definitely I think that the girl should not go

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Speaker 7: I'd probably mess up her weddings with my comments.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, there was a way to handle it in a

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Speaker 6: Have a great day, guys.

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Speaker 1: You too.

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Speaker 3: And Lee says that she her best friend, did the

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Speaker 3: entertainment report. Hey, Lee, what happened? Good morning?

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Speaker 8: Hey, good morning guys. I'm one of the thirteen.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, love you for that.

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Speaker 8: So yeah, I actually found out that my friend cut

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Speaker 8: Is she thought that I couldn't afford it to be her,

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Speaker 1: That is what it is.

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Speaker 3: Man, I'm saying, you know you you would think that

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Speaker 3: And then you because you know, people go through hard

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry to hear that, but I'm glad things. You

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, absolutely, well good have a good daily.

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Speaker 2: Yeah you guys as well.

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Speaker 1: That's our room. It's available.

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