1 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:18,680 Speaker 1: What Up? I am Dramas and this is the Street 2 00:00:18,760 --> 00:00:22,599 Speaker 1: of Stoic podcast, bringing you your daily dose of timeless 3 00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:26,720 Speaker 1: stoic philosophy remixed for the hip hop generation. Now, with 4 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:30,040 Speaker 1: that said, let's get things started with your daily shot 5 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 1: of inspiration. All right. So the stoic principle that we're 6 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:42,239 Speaker 1: gonna be focusing today's episode on it is kind of 7 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:45,520 Speaker 1: a combination of a couple, right. It is a combination 8 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 1: of practicing resilience when when faced with obstacles or failures 9 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:51,760 Speaker 1: or tragedy. Right. But it's also the idea of a 10 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 1: mental Maria, right, the idea of death and and living 11 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:58,920 Speaker 1: each day with the acknowledgement that tomorrow is not promised. Right. 12 00:00:59,160 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 1: And we're gonna take a bit of a different angle 13 00:01:02,440 --> 00:01:05,120 Speaker 1: on this one than I've done in the past. And 14 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:07,759 Speaker 1: we're gonna get a little bit romantic over here, right, 15 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 1: because I think relationships are obviously such a huge part 16 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:13,679 Speaker 1: of all of our lives, and whether you know you 17 00:01:13,680 --> 00:01:17,040 Speaker 1: want to admit it or not, everybody loves being in 18 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:20,200 Speaker 1: love and and having you know that one person that 19 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 1: you can call and spend that time with, right, you know. 20 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 1: So I want to touch on this concept, this principle 21 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 1: from that angle. The song that I pulled that I 22 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:31,680 Speaker 1: thought really kind of spoke to this a bit was 23 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 1: the song Scared by russ And and he says, take 24 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: my hand and rocket real slow. I want to feel 25 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 1: your love tonight. Let's put the world down pause and 26 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:45,960 Speaker 1: get drunk off these city lights. I'm all about us tonight. Oh, 27 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 1: I'm scared to fall in love again. And I think 28 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: he's touching on a couple of things, right, and again, 29 00:01:51,600 --> 00:01:53,560 Speaker 1: it's a little more romantic than we might usually get, 30 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:57,000 Speaker 1: but I think it's beautiful and it's also telling and 31 00:01:57,040 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: incredibly vulnerable and just man so present. And I think 32 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 1: that's the main concept he's talking about. You know, when 33 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:08,280 Speaker 1: he says that he's all about this person tonight, right, 34 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:11,040 Speaker 1: and let's put the world on pause, he's talking about present, 35 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 1: being in the present moment, nothing else matters except right now. 36 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:17,720 Speaker 1: And that's obviously one of the cornerstones when you talk 37 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:21,160 Speaker 1: about stoicism and many of these ancient philosophies, is the 38 00:02:21,200 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: idea of just enjoying the present moment, just being right. 39 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 1: And then he also goes on to acknowledge his past 40 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:31,799 Speaker 1: her scared to fall in love again? Right, acknowledging that 41 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:34,519 Speaker 1: something happened in the past that makes him fearful of 42 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 1: the idea of falling in love once again. Right, But 43 00:02:37,160 --> 00:02:41,000 Speaker 1: even with that acknowledgement understanding the pain of his past, 44 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:44,880 Speaker 1: he's still not allowing it to sort of make him 45 00:02:44,919 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: too scared to to take a chance in this moment. 46 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:50,080 Speaker 1: I mean, he's even acknowledging that he is scared in 47 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:54,000 Speaker 1: that moment, but still pressing forward and enjoying this intimate 48 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:56,480 Speaker 1: moment with someone else, and and taking a risk of 49 00:02:56,600 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 1: putting himself out there at least for the night. And 50 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:01,560 Speaker 1: this lends itself perfectly to a quote from one of 51 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:04,680 Speaker 1: the Stoics, Seneca, right and and he says life is 52 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:08,520 Speaker 1: very short and anxious for those who forget the past, 53 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:13,520 Speaker 1: neglect the present, and fear the future. Right. And what 54 00:03:13,560 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: he's basically saying is, you know, you have to learn 55 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:18,120 Speaker 1: from the past, You have to enjoy the present moment, 56 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:21,960 Speaker 1: and then just embrace whatever comes your way as life 57 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:26,120 Speaker 1: inevitably happens. But the lack of doing any of those 58 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:29,359 Speaker 1: things is not truly living, right, That is not a 59 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:32,960 Speaker 1: life worth living. And again, I think when you talk 60 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:35,160 Speaker 1: about the way that that lends itself to the idea 61 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 1: with what Russ is talking about and Seneca, it's like 62 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:41,640 Speaker 1: they're they're both talking about the value of the present moment, 63 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 1: and they're not saying that the past doesn't matter, the 64 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 1: future doesn't matter. They're saying that they serve their purpose right, 65 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:50,520 Speaker 1: the past serves as a teachable moment and the future. 66 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:54,000 Speaker 1: Rather than allowing it to be something that makes you anxious, 67 00:03:54,320 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 1: you just welcome it with with open arms, whatever it 68 00:03:57,440 --> 00:03:59,720 Speaker 1: may be, right, And that's how you allow life to 69 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: unfold the way it's supposed to and to bring you 70 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 1: on the journey and the adventures. Um that is a 71 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 1: life worth living. Now, for me, this this really touched 72 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 1: close to home as I was, you know, doing some 73 00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:15,400 Speaker 1: research and just reading the lyrics. I think it really 74 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 1: related to something I had to realize in my own relationship, right, 75 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:24,000 Speaker 1: my own lack of presence and putting things off til I, 76 00:04:24,080 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 1: you know, felt better in my career. You know, that 77 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 1: meant that I was was wasting precious time. Now, you know, 78 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 1: I was feeding myself lies about why I couldn't take 79 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 1: the day off or why I couldn't go book this trip. Right, 80 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:37,799 Speaker 1: I need to have this much money in the bank 81 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:40,520 Speaker 1: or have this big opportunity I need to take advantage of, right, 82 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:43,839 Speaker 1: And the meantime, I'm sacrificing the time that I'm spending 83 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:47,120 Speaker 1: with this incredibly special person. Right. My girlfriend has been 84 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:50,279 Speaker 1: incredibly patient with me as I've been working through this, 85 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:53,800 Speaker 1: and also pointing out something to me that really i 86 00:04:53,839 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 1: think helped move the needle for me. Right. But it 87 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:59,359 Speaker 1: was understanding that eventually, at some point in life, you know, 88 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:02,160 Speaker 1: I'm going to have kids, and at that point life 89 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 1: is inevitably going to get harder. Right, I'm not going 90 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:06,800 Speaker 1: to be able to just pick up and leave the 91 00:05:06,839 --> 00:05:08,600 Speaker 1: way I can right now. I'm not going to have, 92 00:05:09,040 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 1: you know, expendable income in this way that I can 93 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:15,120 Speaker 1: kind of just piste away without thinking twice about it. Right. 94 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 1: And while I'm experiencing that new moment in life, and 95 00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:22,360 Speaker 1: I'm sure I'll be enjoying it and enjoying the fruits 96 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:26,240 Speaker 1: of what comes with parenthood, I'm also going to wish 97 00:05:26,240 --> 00:05:29,080 Speaker 1: that I took advantage of the time that I had 98 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:31,560 Speaker 1: prior to that, Right, that I I took the time 99 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:34,960 Speaker 1: to just spontaneously go and do something with my girlfriend 100 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:37,760 Speaker 1: that that I allow myself to be present and enjoy 101 00:05:37,920 --> 00:05:41,720 Speaker 1: that stage of life, right. And that's what I'm forever 102 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 1: grateful that, you know, I've met my my girlfriend, the 103 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:47,400 Speaker 1: person that that points these things out to me and 104 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:51,240 Speaker 1: has pushed me for this incredible growth, is recognizing how 105 00:05:51,279 --> 00:05:54,840 Speaker 1: important this present moment is. I think it varies throughout 106 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:57,880 Speaker 1: different points in our lives, but you know, we've all 107 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:00,880 Speaker 1: sort of heard this in various with some different ways 108 00:06:00,920 --> 00:06:03,600 Speaker 1: of not allowing a good thing to get away, and 109 00:06:03,640 --> 00:06:06,800 Speaker 1: oftentimes we hear that when it comes to relationships. You know, 110 00:06:06,880 --> 00:06:10,040 Speaker 1: it's because how precious these moments that you have, how 111 00:06:10,200 --> 00:06:13,240 Speaker 1: how precious it is to meet somebody that you consider 112 00:06:13,320 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 1: to be a partner in this life, right, And you 113 00:06:16,720 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 1: don't want to then take it for granted and then 114 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 1: waste the time that you have together, you know, waste 115 00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:27,160 Speaker 1: that pressure time or worse, you're taking it for granted 116 00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:31,200 Speaker 1: leads to you losing this person and this beautiful experience 117 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:34,680 Speaker 1: of again having a partner in this life. You have 118 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:38,159 Speaker 1: to once again understand in the present moment what is 119 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:41,719 Speaker 1: truly important and then make it a priority. And listen, 120 00:06:41,960 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 1: I've had many times in my past where I took 121 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:47,360 Speaker 1: my foot off the gas and maybe I struggled financially, 122 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:50,600 Speaker 1: and those were lessons to be learned, But they're not 123 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:53,680 Speaker 1: supposed to create anxiety that you know, holds me back 124 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 1: from truly living life right I can learn something from them, 125 00:06:56,680 --> 00:06:59,200 Speaker 1: I can apply them to my present life where I 126 00:06:59,240 --> 00:07:02,120 Speaker 1: don't allow that situation to happen once again. But I 127 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:04,800 Speaker 1: can't allow it to control me and control how I 128 00:07:04,839 --> 00:07:07,880 Speaker 1: live my life right now. Nor can I allow, you know, 129 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:11,440 Speaker 1: the the anxiousness of something potentially bad happening, or me 130 00:07:11,480 --> 00:07:14,240 Speaker 1: potentially missing out on something once again to take me 131 00:07:14,320 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 1: away from the present moment, which is what matters most 132 00:07:17,000 --> 00:07:21,240 Speaker 1: when you recognize that tomorrow is not promised. Now you've 133 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:23,960 Speaker 1: heard from me, we've heard from Seneca, we have heard 134 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:27,120 Speaker 1: from Russ. Now I want to talk about you specifically, 135 00:07:27,120 --> 00:07:30,680 Speaker 1: how you can make it your mantra for today. Well, 136 00:07:30,680 --> 00:07:33,680 Speaker 1: first let's take a quick break and then we'll be back. 137 00:07:41,680 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 1: All right, So we've heard from Russ, we have heard 138 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:46,200 Speaker 1: from Seneca. I've given you a bit about my own 139 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:49,240 Speaker 1: personal life, my own relationship and the growth that I've 140 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:52,560 Speaker 1: been man experiencing as a result of it. Now let's 141 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:56,720 Speaker 1: talk about you know, this idea of of overcoming your past, 142 00:07:56,840 --> 00:08:00,400 Speaker 1: but also, you know, not taking life for granted. Let's 143 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 1: talk about how you can make it your mantra for today. 144 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 1: First and foremost, it starts with not trying to control 145 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:10,840 Speaker 1: the future, right like, that only leads to worrying, you know, 146 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:14,360 Speaker 1: not to say that you can't plan, but being overly 147 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:18,360 Speaker 1: concerned with how things might turn out only ruins the 148 00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:21,080 Speaker 1: present moment, you know, like when we meet someone, you know, 149 00:08:21,120 --> 00:08:26,280 Speaker 1: so often we're worried about everything except enjoying the time 150 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 1: we're spending with them, right Like, there's nothing like the 151 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:34,760 Speaker 1: first time that you meet someone and those sparks start flying. 152 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:37,280 Speaker 1: Right Yet we are so concerned with you know, where 153 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 1: is it going? And you know, does my hair look okay? 154 00:08:40,080 --> 00:08:41,960 Speaker 1: And do they like this? They're like that, right instead 155 00:08:41,960 --> 00:08:45,120 Speaker 1: of just being present and allowing the moment and the 156 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: journey to unfold, right or even worse, we allow our 157 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:53,040 Speaker 1: past to dictate how we act right now. Right we 158 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:57,120 Speaker 1: allow the fear of heartbreak or failure to to make 159 00:08:57,240 --> 00:08:59,840 Speaker 1: us anxious and to hold us back from putting our 160 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:02,760 Speaker 1: back out there again. Right like, you have to allow 161 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:06,000 Speaker 1: the past to be a lesson, but you cannot allow 162 00:09:06,040 --> 00:09:11,000 Speaker 1: it to control you right now, like life is inevitably 163 00:09:11,440 --> 00:09:13,360 Speaker 1: going to have good and bad moments, right. There's no 164 00:09:13,520 --> 00:09:16,240 Speaker 1: avoiding that we all are going to experience those, right, 165 00:09:16,640 --> 00:09:19,680 Speaker 1: and you just have to learn to ride that wave 166 00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:25,920 Speaker 1: right and accept whatever is happening with the understanding that 167 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:29,800 Speaker 1: it will eventually pass, just like it always us and 168 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:34,040 Speaker 1: that all you can do is embrace this moment and 169 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:38,200 Speaker 1: learn to just be. Now. With that said, thank you 170 00:09:38,240 --> 00:09:41,200 Speaker 1: so much for checking out the Streets Stoward podcast. Do 171 00:09:41,280 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 1: your best to apply these concepts to your everyday life, 172 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 1: and I'll catch you all next time. 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