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Speaker 1: Hey, folks.

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Speaker 2: In this episode, our Love Stories series continues today a

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Speaker 2: couple that's been together eight years, but marriage hasn't been

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Speaker 2: on the table. Well at least it wasn't before they

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Speaker 2: did this interview with us. And with that, welcome to

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Speaker 2: this Cuffing season edition of Amy and TJ. Rose. When

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Speaker 2: you agree that as we've been going through this and

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Speaker 2: it's been a blast, some of the couples like have

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Speaker 2: a little you see a little light bulb go off,

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Speaker 2: or they start to consider or think about things in

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Speaker 2: the interview with us that maybe they hadn't been thinking about.

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Speaker 1: It's been fun to watch.

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Speaker 3: It has been fun to watch. Look, all of the

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Speaker 3: couples who we've been interviewing are happy couples. They're all

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Speaker 3: in different stages of their relationships, but all of them

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Speaker 3: have been tried and tested. I think it's fair to say.

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Speaker 3: And I love that we heard from Kevin and Austin saying, Hey,

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Speaker 3: if it ain't broke, don't fix it. But then I

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Speaker 3: started to see them realize how much they love each

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Speaker 3: other and are committed to each other through answering the

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Speaker 3: questions we've been asking all of the couples, and it

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Speaker 3: was cool to see that that at the end they

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Speaker 3: were happier than they were at the beginning of the conversation,

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Speaker 3: which is a good sign as they were talking about

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Speaker 3: their relationship.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think we were too after this conversation with them,

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Speaker 2: and that I'm not being dramatic. After every single conversation

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Speaker 2: with a couple, it's been encouraging. There's been something that

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Speaker 2: has been comforting about knowing somebody else is going through

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Speaker 2: the exact same thing, even though you know it in

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Speaker 2: your mind that other couples are dealing with it, to

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Speaker 2: hear them openly talk about it, it's just it's been nice.

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Speaker 2: And I think no couple would agree to come on

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Speaker 2: here with us, would they if they weren't solid, Because

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Speaker 2: if a couple wasn't solid and we were asking some

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Speaker 2: of these questions, that they could get asty.

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Speaker 3: It's true, and that's a good point. And you'll notice,

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Speaker 3: and I'm not saying that celebrity couples aren't good, but

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Speaker 3: a lot of celebrity couples won't do interviews together for

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Speaker 3: those reasons. And if you think about it, you don't

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Speaker 3: see married celebrity couples oftentimes sitting down for an interview.

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Speaker 3: And so we feel really honored. Yeah, that we were

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Speaker 3: able to secure this many amazing celebrity couples to actually

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Speaker 3: let us ask them anything. There were no rules, No

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Speaker 3: one said, hey, don't go there, don't ask us about this.

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Speaker 3: They just trusted us with discussing fully their relationship, the ups,

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Speaker 3: the downs, the highs, the lows. And that's not easy

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Speaker 1: No, I didn't think about it.

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Speaker 2: I was thinking that some of our couples that we

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Speaker 2: could cheat because they could go back and listen to

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Speaker 2: the early ones. Actually, no, most of these we got

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Speaker 2: recorded and in the can before they started any of

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Speaker 2: them airing. So none of these couples knew what was

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Speaker 2: And they trusted their own relationship enough to know we

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Speaker 3: That's the bigger point point, right, that they trusted one

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Speaker 3: another to have each other's backs, because you know, you

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Speaker 3: can go even talked about this with Austin and Kevin.

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Speaker 3: You can go and take your relationship even to a

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Speaker 3: party and come back in a fight because someone said

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Speaker 3: something that the other person didn't like or wish they

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Speaker 3: hadn't said, so imagine doing that recorded for a podcast

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Speaker 1: Do I have it right?

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Speaker 3: That's trust?

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Speaker 1: I think I have it right.

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Speaker 2: Not a single edit has been made to any of

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Speaker 2: these We let it ride, and not a single couple

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Speaker 2: has come to us and said, hey, can you pluck

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Speaker 2: that part out or nothing? Not once, So that's been awesome.

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Speaker 2: I mean, we talked about Kevin and Austin. You all

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Speaker 2: know these names. Kevin McHale and Austin McKenzie. Two they

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Speaker 2: met through their careers. It's fair to say both of

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Speaker 3: Yes, they met on the job, which so often happens.

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Speaker 3: You know, we might have had that same experience. But yes,

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Speaker 3: Kevin McHale or my daughters love him. They actually were

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Speaker 3: much they love him. But he, of course is from Glee.

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Speaker 3: Anyone who loved that show, as my daughters did, knows

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Speaker 3: he played Artie Abrams and then Austin McKenzie, who had

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Speaker 3: so it's just it's a cool story. They're both in

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Speaker 3: blow us away with openness. And what we love about

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Speaker 3: the series is we talk to couples, as we mentioned,

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Speaker 3: from all different stages of life. But there are in

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Speaker 3: some our age differences. There is race differences, there are

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Speaker 3: something relatable about all of them to our relationship and

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Speaker 3: I'm hoping to your relationship as well. So please take

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Speaker 3: a listen to the love story of Kevin McHale and

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Speaker 3: Austin McKenzie. Kevin and Austin join us now. Thank you

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Speaker 3: both for being with us. How you doing pretty good?

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Speaker 4: Thank you for having us?

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Speaker 3: Well? You look adorable to together? Uh you do? You

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Speaker 3: just look so sweet? I love it. I love love.

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Speaker 3: So we start off by asking everyone the same first question,

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Speaker 3: each of you, if you would give us three words

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Speaker 3: to describe your relationship right now. Kevin will start with you, Oh, right.

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Speaker 5: Now, Okay, exciting, communicative, Wow, settled in a good way

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Speaker 5: like that, or he settles for me, but like we're content.

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Speaker 5: Maybe I'm living to change the content the truth comes out.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I would say, uh, funny, honest, And.

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Speaker 7: I don't know. I think it's sexual, like yeah, yeah, sexual,

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Speaker 7: you know what?

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Speaker 2: And a ho tell you all and all the conversation

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Speaker 2: we've had with couples, you all hit about three or

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Speaker 2: even four words that we've heard for the first time. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and what you all said, so that is that's kind

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Speaker 2: Next question here though, when you all first met, was

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Speaker 4: No, I would.

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Speaker 8: Actually say yes, but not, but not at all the

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Speaker 8: way we have chemistry now, okay, fair like we both

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Speaker 8: both definitely we both definitely saw something and had a

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Speaker 7: I think the goals were different. The goals were very different.

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Speaker 1: Do explain.

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Speaker 4: We met when we worked together.

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Speaker 5: We filmed this mini series nine eight and a half

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Speaker 5: years ago, almost nine years ago, and all of my

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Speaker 5: being like, who is my scene partner? He's the lead

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Speaker 5: and heard that he didn't come off as the friendliest person.

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Speaker 7: I am. Let me just preface, I am I just.

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Speaker 4: Didn't come yes, okay, that's why I put that in.

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Speaker 7: I didn't come off me either.

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Speaker 4: No, just a little cold, cold, little cold.

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Speaker 1: I get that a lot too often.

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Speaker 5: It's okay, okay, okay, introspective, you know it's not okay.

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Speaker 5: I can get along, like I'll adapt to any situation,

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Speaker 5: and I'm like, I'm not going to be in this

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Speaker 5: have a good report. So my goal going into it

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Speaker 4: And then immediately I saw the.

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Speaker 5: Hesitance, coldness maybe, and I was like, oh, challenge, okay,

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Speaker 5: challenge accepted. I'm going to figure you out, and and

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Speaker 5: I sort of did. I just there wasn't any ulterior

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Speaker 5: wasn't like that. It was simply started from how can

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Speaker 5: we make this working relationship really good? Into maybe we

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Speaker 5: should be friends, maybe we need each other as friends, and.

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Speaker 7: That's how yeah, we had.

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Speaker 8: We had very different goals there because I saw I

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Speaker 8: remember seeing you and thinking, well, because at the time

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Speaker 8: total mess and you know, like like we all were, and.

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Speaker 6: Think for yourself, that's true. Actually you were fine.

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Speaker 8: And I saw him and my first thought was next,

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Speaker 8: there's another one. I found one, and so I just

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Speaker 8: you know, what is it? Hook, hook and sink. Isn't

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Speaker 8: that what it's It's not a hook and sinker, Hook and.

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Speaker 1: Sink, hook line and sinker on.

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Speaker 7: Yes, like easy catch and then we'll be done. It'll

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Speaker 7: be great.

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Speaker 8: That's I saw you saw it as like a you know,

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Speaker 8: a friendship, friendship, and I saw it.

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Speaker 4: As a temporary uh huh.

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Speaker 5: It would be amazing though, if I had a radar

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Speaker 3: Yeah, a little late, eventually it worked out. So you

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Speaker 3: played the long game without even realizing you were. Who

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Speaker 3: said I love you first?

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Speaker 8: Who said I love you first? Austin did, which is

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Speaker 8: funny because yeah, I mean we started. I feel like

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Speaker 8: over the years changed a lot like he used to.

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Speaker 8: I don't know, just like the fact that I came

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Speaker 8: ended up saying I love you.

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Speaker 4: First tricked you?

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Speaker 7: You did?

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Speaker 2: Okay, Kevin, you've playing worked dell us Here we ask

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Speaker 2: everybody this, what is the age difference? You've kind of

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Speaker 2: alluded to it, but what is the age difference? And

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Speaker 2: it has it had an impact at all on your

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Speaker 2: relationship one way or another?

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Speaker 7: Massive?

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Speaker 8: It's a huge age difference. How dare you I had

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Speaker 5: Depends it is almost five years or not a little

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Speaker 5: over five years? Yeah, five years ish.

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Speaker 7: He's my senior.

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Speaker 5: And I would say, like the any sort of differences

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Speaker 5: it has caused this like in social references and like

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Speaker 5: stories like oh yeah, when I was growing up, it

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Speaker 5: really makes me feel elderly. Oh, like like when you

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Speaker 5: don't understand their Robbie Williams, Robbie, that movie Better Man

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Speaker 5: came out this year and he was asking me about

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Speaker 5: Robbie Williams was like I grew up obsessed with Robbi Williams.

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Speaker 4: And he didn't know.

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Speaker 3: Oh you know what, I interviewed him when he came

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Speaker 3: out that I love him. It was the biggest deal.

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Speaker 3: I felt so special getting to know him and hearing

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Speaker 3: his story and what it took for him to come out.

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Speaker 3: That's so cool. He's one of my favorites.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, but I don't think there's ever been known.

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Speaker 8: You also had like just finished your party phase, I

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Speaker 7: I think I had mine recently, Like I feel like

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Speaker 5: It's like the hell you know, when you're younger and

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean we party together. We continued our party

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Speaker 5: We've been together a little over eight years and I

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Speaker 5: So if I wake up to morrow, we should get married.

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Speaker 5: How do you feel about that? Then maybe that's a discussion.

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Speaker 8: One of our strong strongest suits in this relationship is

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Speaker 8: And then I moved in, and it something like we

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Speaker 8: but like we also have no desire to get married, but.

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Speaker 4: Guess in the traditional scene for.

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Speaker 8: Some reason, it's sort of I don't want to say

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Speaker 4: Just it's very going has happened.

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Speaker 5: We're like, we're obsessed with each other and it's been

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Speaker 5: eight year and I'm like, I just want us to

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Speaker 2: You know what.

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Speaker 3: I totally get that. I totally get that.

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Speaker 2: Your answer is really interesting because so many people think, Okay,

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Speaker 1: You'll are taking things.

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Speaker 2: Just as it comes, and it seems to be working

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Speaker 2: It just kind of happened. It almost happens to havece.

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Speaker 2: I'll ask you all in this way, how do you

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Speaker 8: I do worry, And of course I do worry of

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Speaker 7: Easy it was.

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Speaker 8: The way we talk about it, or at least the

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Speaker 8: like living alone but better, like we have our own space.

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Speaker 6: Romantic, you know, but you know what I mean, Like

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Speaker 6: I don't know. I don't know if the answer the

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Speaker 5: I know I have the same concerns, like if it

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Speaker 7: Like we want to do it.

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Speaker 5: Then the overwhelming need, like we moved in together. It

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Speaker 5: It works incredibly well, Like just move over here for

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Speaker 4: You know, I guess it works really well right now.

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Speaker 8: but there is it is a hossibility that marriage equality

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Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I hadn't even thought about that, but that

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Speaker 7: Not exactly.

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Speaker 8: I actually don't know if we've ever really talked about

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Speaker 7: But I mean, I.

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Speaker 5: Know from my perspective, this is only my second relationship ever,

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Speaker 5: Maybe it's the same thing I've never been married.

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Speaker 6: I don't know, but.

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Speaker 5: It's I think the level comment I've talked about, at

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Speaker 5: I don't know how I'm gonna feel about you in

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Speaker 5: if he meets somebody out at a coffee shop all

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Speaker 4: I always figure it out.

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Speaker 3: Wow, I don't think that that would ever come out

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Speaker 4: At a coffee shop. It's in theory you know is good.

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Speaker 7: Think of it this very a very very similar way.

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Speaker 8: Like I I think that if you are truly, deeply,

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Speaker 8: And if Kevin finds someone that he is happier with,

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Speaker 8: I would be devastated. It would change my entire life.

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Speaker 8: I think we're both committed to being fully present with

443
00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:51,880
Speaker 8: each other and being present in the moment. And you know, luckily,

444
00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:54,879
Speaker 8: for the past eight years, every moment has been that

445
00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:55,720
Speaker 8: we are.

446
00:21:55,560 --> 00:21:59,080
Speaker 7: Deeply in love with each other. I always go back

447
00:21:59,080 --> 00:21:59,639
Speaker 7: to too that.

448
00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:02,080
Speaker 8: Uh, you know, after a certain amount of years, it

449
00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:05,560
Speaker 8: became super clear that Kevin is my person more than

450
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:07,879
Speaker 8: I would call my husband or a boyfriend or a partner.

451
00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:08,719
Speaker 7: He's my person.

452
00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:13,440
Speaker 8: And so I guess, in a bit of a marriage way,

453
00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:15,879
Speaker 8: I see that as a as a I take that

454
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Speaker 8: commitment seriously. As you know, when things get really hard,

455
00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:22,959
Speaker 8: when we argue or you know, whatever comes up, I

456
00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:26,000
Speaker 8: am committed to No, this is my person and I'm

457
00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:28,359
Speaker 8: gonna we're gonna work through this and get stronger and

458
00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:32,040
Speaker 8: better after it, and not and not just thinking, oh,

459
00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:34,440
Speaker 8: something came up. This is too serious. Clearly we're not

460
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:40,399
Speaker 8: He's not my person anymore. It's trusting that, trusting the

461
00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:43,160
Speaker 8: best moments, you know, trusting how I feel. Then when

462
00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:44,720
Speaker 8: it's not the best moments.

463
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Speaker 1: That that was one. I'm not kidding you all.

464
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Speaker 2: That might be the most insightful answer we've had to

465
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Speaker 2: that question.

466
00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:52,399
Speaker 4: Hey, I just learned between the no.

467
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Speaker 2: But I'm saying both of you all there because people

468
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:58,240
Speaker 2: view it differently. Talk about that was a great answer

469
00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:01,080
Speaker 2: the other day about you know what, there's something significant

470
00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:03,239
Speaker 2: about standing in front of the people you love and

471
00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:06,480
Speaker 2: declaring to them that this is the person you love.

472
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:07,880
Speaker 1: All that makes sense.

473
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,160
Speaker 2: And then other people have practical reasons for getting married

474
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:12,040
Speaker 2: and what it means legally and all these things.

475
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:14,880
Speaker 1: But you all gave just it was the.

476
00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:18,160
Speaker 2: Most romantic and unromantic answer.

477
00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:21,480
Speaker 7: Yeah, we're great, but yeah, it's cool today, we'll see.

478
00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:26,479
Speaker 3: What It's an honest answer, and I don't know how

479
00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:28,439
Speaker 3: much you all know about us, but we both between us,

480
00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 3: we have four divorces, so we've both been divorced twice, and.

481
00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:32,399
Speaker 1: We shall not lead with that.

482
00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:35,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, but we've been contemplating whether or not we should

483
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Speaker 3: get married or not, you know, and we haven't moved

484
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:40,159
Speaker 3: in together either, but we spend every single night and

485
00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:43,359
Speaker 3: day together, so it's we're at that point now. But

486
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 3: it's cool to hear you say, because we've also struggled

487
00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 3: with what we call each other. I like, he's my person.

488
00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:52,800
Speaker 3: That's a really really cool way to talk about it. Austin,

489
00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:55,359
Speaker 3: you alluded to this, and we've asked everybody this, but

490
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:58,280
Speaker 3: how often do you have sex? And has it changed

491
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Speaker 3: over the years.

492
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 8: Honestly, it only really changes if usually when both of

493
00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:08,160
Speaker 8: us are super busy. If just one person is busy,

494
00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:12,760
Speaker 8: it doesn't really change it. If we're both super busy,

495
00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:19,040
Speaker 8: or if I've been very open about like mental health

496
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:21,199
Speaker 8: that I struggle with, so like, if I'm going through something,

497
00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:24,359
Speaker 8: usually well that'll take a back seat.

498
00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:28,680
Speaker 7: But other than that, honestly, I mean, I feel like.

499
00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:32,360
Speaker 8: It's like every other day, every two days, every year,

500
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:33,880
Speaker 8: every other day, every two days.

501
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:34,520
Speaker 4: It's probably right.

502
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Speaker 8: I mean when I've talked, Yeah, I can. I can

503
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Speaker 8: consider that's one of the words I use.

504
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:39,720
Speaker 4: Sexual.

505
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Speaker 7: I think that we're both very Yeah, you.

506
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:43,880
Speaker 2: Know, here's what I'll follow up. I don't think we've

507
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:46,440
Speaker 2: asked this follow up before. But is it a matter

508
00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:51,359
Speaker 2: of your because you all said it, ah, yeah once

509
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:54,400
Speaker 2: every couple of days, is this something you make sure

510
00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:58,920
Speaker 2: you schedule or it naturally happens? Because I will speak

511
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:00,920
Speaker 2: for Robes and I a couple of days go about

512
00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 2: you know what, we're not quite right?

513
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:04,439
Speaker 1: What's been going on with us?

514
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 3: Oh?

515
00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:04,920
Speaker 6: Yeah?

516
00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 1: Or you know what I'm saying.

517
00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:08,200
Speaker 2: So is that a matter if it just kind of

518
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:12,120
Speaker 2: naturally occurs organically it happens, or do you all make

519
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,440
Speaker 2: a conscious effort to all right, there's been a couple

520
00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 2: of days.

521
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:16,240
Speaker 3: Here to prioritize it.

522
00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:17,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, prioritize good work.

523
00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:23,159
Speaker 4: I would say a little of both, but mostly of

524
00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:24,119
Speaker 4: the time organically.

525
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,679
Speaker 5: Yeah, because what I've also learned, because I think we

526
00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:29,679
Speaker 5: tried to do that a couple of times, schedule it

527
00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 5: and that just kills it.

528
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:34,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, I can't handle it.

529
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:35,159
Speaker 7: You can handle it?

530
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:38,680
Speaker 4: Now we have to plan this. I'm out. Yeah, it

531
00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 4: took it it's like the biggest deflator.

532
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:44,200
Speaker 5: I don't I've had this discussion with other people too,

533
00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:45,679
Speaker 5: Like I just I don't know what it is. I

534
00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:47,960
Speaker 5: wish we could. It would be a lot easier if

535
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:50,720
Speaker 5: we could. I know, you can just fit it into

536
00:25:50,800 --> 00:25:56,240
Speaker 5: the schedule and then fit it in, But no, I

537
00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:58,119
Speaker 5: I feel like scheduling really doesn't work for me, and

538
00:25:58,119 --> 00:25:59,440
Speaker 5: I do have to say because I think it would

539
00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:01,560
Speaker 5: work for you, And we try to do that a

540
00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:05,119
Speaker 5: little bit. And Austin has been even very good about

541
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 5: adapting in recognizing that it does not work for me,

542
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:13,040
Speaker 5: and so he tries to make it look organic even

543
00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:14,680
Speaker 5: though he may be planning on it in his head.

544
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:16,680
Speaker 7: Well, I get that.

545
00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:21,479
Speaker 8: Not to get too into detail, but for gay men

546
00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 8: there is preparation involved, and so there does have to

547
00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:27,359
Speaker 8: be like a little bit of like planning of like

548
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 8: making sure the feelers are out there and making sure

549
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 8: that like, Okay, I think we're going to get into

550
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:34,480
Speaker 8: this mood now we have.

551
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 7: I think I think I can speak for both of

552
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 7: us that we both have have How do I say this?

553
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 8: We both have have played around in the playing field

554
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:52,879
Speaker 8: of sexual experiences with other men, and we're each other's

555
00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 8: best sex.

556
00:26:55,280 --> 00:26:57,840
Speaker 7: I hope you agree, but yeah, the best sex of

557
00:26:57,840 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 7: my life.

558
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:01,640
Speaker 6: So he's the best sex in my life, and so

559
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 6: I want to have sex with him all the time.

560
00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 2: Truly, I'm glad we didn't add that to our Can

561
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 2: you imagine if we asked all the couples, Hey, has

562
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:11,320
Speaker 2: your spouse been the best sex of your life?

563
00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:12,440
Speaker 1: I know, yeah, that would.

564
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:17,600
Speaker 3: No no, no, no, no no, I don't want what I was.

565
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 5: This recently came up with We were we were around

566
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:25,240
Speaker 5: a couple friend of mine last week and they were

567
00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:28,639
Speaker 5: very open. Were our whole friend group, for the record,

568
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:33,920
Speaker 5: is very open about talking about these intimate sexual details,

569
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:38,640
Speaker 5: especially like no judgment. We asked questions like straight, gay,

570
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:40,639
Speaker 5: whatever it is. I don't know why, but that's sort

571
00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 5: of like the friend group we've curated I've always had

572
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 5: and this they're straight, they're married, and and it was

573
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:50,760
Speaker 5: the first time they were admitting to each other that

574
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:53,040
Speaker 5: it was like the best they were each other's best sex.

575
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:53,400
Speaker 7: They've ever had.

576
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:54,879
Speaker 4: And I was like, are you lying?

577
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:56,919
Speaker 5: Are you trying to make the other person feel And

578
00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:59,359
Speaker 5: they were going above and beyond to like prove that

579
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 5: they meant to and I was like, this is great,

580
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:02,879
Speaker 5: It's like, yeah, so like who's next?

581
00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:03,440
Speaker 4: Who else?

582
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 5: Who was weirdly quiet in the room right now and

583
00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:09,360
Speaker 5: not answering this?

584
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:17,040
Speaker 3: Oh no, no, oh no? So how you also mentioned

585
00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:19,639
Speaker 3: this a little bit. Everybody fights? How often would you

586
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 3: say you fight? And what do you fight? Is there

587
00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:25,360
Speaker 3: something you fight the most about?

588
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:27,959
Speaker 4: I'm not a fighter.

589
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:31,199
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean, yeah, you know you're not a fighter.

590
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 7: I'm not a fighter. I just I'm very passionate.

591
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:36,720
Speaker 4: I will say this.

592
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 5: Because I'm not really a fighter. I think that leads

593
00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 5: to maybe more unintended avoidance of situations where my objective

594
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 5: is to be super overly communicative. But Austin has been

595
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 5: really good, like you mentioned earlier about like protecting or

596
00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 5: like the happiness or the happiness or the relationship at

597
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 5: all times when there have been disagreements where I've been like, ugh,

598
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 5: this is I don't want to talk, this is dumb.

599
00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:10,840
Speaker 5: Do we even need to do this, He'll be like, no,

600
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 5: we need to. We really need to figure this out.

601
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:15,640
Speaker 5: It's one of those things like we're not going to

602
00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:19,840
Speaker 5: bed angry, like, let's talk through it. And before we

603
00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 5: were even technically together, there were a couple of times

604
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:26,200
Speaker 5: where I think you know, I didn't know what we

605
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 5: were and I was frustrated, and I would pick a

606
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 5: fight without realizing it always, you know, not imagining I

607
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:36,080
Speaker 5: was ever someone that would do that. And he's one

608
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:37,600
Speaker 5: of my favorite things about him is that he's so

609
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,960
Speaker 5: smart and the way he could break down. He's like, Okay,

610
00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:43,960
Speaker 5: so I think what you're doing right now as like

611
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 5: you're picking a fight because of X, Y and Z,

612
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:50,000
Speaker 5: and just like sort of read me and I can

613
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 5: be objective about myself and I was like, oh, yeah,

614
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:57,800
Speaker 5: you're you're right, And every single time and it's come

615
00:29:57,880 --> 00:29:59,240
Speaker 5: up and it may be.

616
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 4: I don't think there's one thing that.

617
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:06,880
Speaker 5: We necessarily disagree about or fight about, but regardless of

618
00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:08,760
Speaker 5: what it is, it's always handled in a similar way

619
00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:12,240
Speaker 5: where we sort of have to keep each other in check,

620
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 5: keep each other honest. And he's very good at making

621
00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 5: sure I don't just sweep it under the rug or

622
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 5: shut it down, because I'm pretty good at that. And

623
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:27,239
Speaker 5: it's taught me to also think about how I want

624
00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 5: to approach those situations beforehand, which has been great because

625
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 5: it's great to be able to like learn things about

626
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 5: yourself and have the person you love the most teach

627
00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:41,000
Speaker 5: those things, and it's not a judgmental thing. It's you know,

628
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:44,400
Speaker 5: I'm thirty six and I'm still learning things every time.

629
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 5: We do have an uncomfortable communication, and we respect each

630
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:53,560
Speaker 5: other enough to be able to be honest. Yeah, but

631
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:56,120
Speaker 5: like there's no low blows. You know, we don't like

632
00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:58,760
Speaker 5: I'm not trying to just piss you off to like

633
00:30:58,880 --> 00:30:59,680
Speaker 5: get my job in.

634
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:02,520
Speaker 4: We don't do that. It's like I don't need to

635
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:04,479
Speaker 4: do that. I don't want to make you upset. But

636
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 4: let's be very clear about what we're saying.

637
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:08,480
Speaker 7: Yeah, we're also like.

638
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 6: So unfiltered with each other that, Uh, I don't think

639
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 6: we have that many fights because we always dress things

640
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 6: in a moment like dude, you're really pissing me off today,

641
00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 6: can you please stop?

642
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 7: Or like why the hell did you say that at

643
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:22,959
Speaker 7: that party?

644
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:26,160
Speaker 8: Like, well, we'll just like we're super honest and we

645
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:29,240
Speaker 8: know that like we can say anything in front of

646
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 8: each other, there'll be no judgment.

647
00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:41,680
Speaker 2: Kevin, next question here, we asked everybody this. You mentioned

648
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 2: it in your answer there, But it sounds like you

649
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 2: all make a point not to go to bed angry,

650
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 2: do you.

651
00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, as Austin is very good at that. There have

652
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 5: definitely been times where I've wanted to pull the eject

653
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:54,960
Speaker 5: button and I'm like, I'm done with this conversation. Here's

654
00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 5: the dovet good night.

655
00:31:58,000 --> 00:31:58,400
Speaker 7: I don't know.

656
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:02,240
Speaker 5: I try to me, I'm like, I know the answer

657
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 5: to this, Like how you know? It's like one of

658
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:07,040
Speaker 5: those things you get frustrated or annoyed. I'm like, how

659
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 5: are you not getting this? But that's no reason, you know, now,

660
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 5: in this moment of peace, that's no reason too. If

661
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 5: the partner is not getting it, or does not feel

662
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 5: one percent heard or understood, or doesn't feel like we're

663
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 5: one D linked and SYNCD in that moment, then that's

664
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:35,479
Speaker 5: my moment as a partner to step up and be like, Okay,

665
00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 5: how do we how do we get there? How do

666
00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 5: we communicate this? What do we need to what do

667
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 5: you need to hear from me?

668
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:42,200
Speaker 4: What am I not?

669
00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:44,840
Speaker 5: What do you think I'm not getting from you? And

670
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 5: so he's good at reminding because there's been several times

671
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:50,640
Speaker 5: in bed where he's like, we're not going to bed angry.

672
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 8: I just take I take cliches very seriously. I think

673
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:57,960
Speaker 8: there's a reason that cliches are cliche, Like I've heard

674
00:32:58,400 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 8: every wedding ceremony, you know, don't go to bout angry,

675
00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 8: and they must say it for a reason.

676
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 7: It's always stuck with me, So I just take that

677
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 7: very seriously.

678
00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:11,000
Speaker 3: That's very cool. I love I love the Why the

679
00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 3: hell did you say that at that party? That is

680
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 3: such a like classic you come back from something you've

681
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 3: been drinking. Oh my god, that just that was hilarious.

682
00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:22,960
Speaker 5: To the flip side of that is awesome. It'll be like,

683
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:24,840
Speaker 5: why the hell did I say that at that party?

684
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:26,440
Speaker 5: And I'm like, no, no, it's fine, don't worry.

685
00:33:26,440 --> 00:33:28,400
Speaker 4: No, that's cute.

686
00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:32,959
Speaker 3: What do you each love the most about the others?

687
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 4: Really hard? There's a lot.

688
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 7: I want to guess what you're gonna say about me.

689
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:40,320
Speaker 2: Now, Cam you mentioned earlier you love that he was

690
00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:42,880
Speaker 2: so smart? He is and favorite thing.

691
00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 4: I think his intelligence.

692
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 6: I was gonna say, can you clarify that? I think

693
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 6: I like books smart you are. You're an idiot, like

694
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:56,880
Speaker 6: right now that you're stupid, but you're so smart. I

695
00:33:56,920 --> 00:34:03,120
Speaker 6: think the umbrella is probably his intelligence, which includes his talent,

696
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:05,720
Speaker 6: which I think is super hot. He's so good at

697
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:08,839
Speaker 6: so many things, and like the passion for that is

698
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:14,400
Speaker 6: one of my absolutely favorite things about him. But something

699
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:16,759
Speaker 6: I have found and I think we both found that

700
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 6: I never even imagine necessarily looking for in a relationship

701
00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:24,880
Speaker 6: that has really come to the forefront to maybe be

702
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 6: the number one most important thing is our shared sense

703
00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:29,720
Speaker 6: of humor.

704
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:31,279
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's like he can be.

705
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 5: It's so similar and it's punchy, real and like really quick.

706
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:41,839
Speaker 4: He's so quick. It's infuriating, but I love it well

707
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 4: that he's so quick.

708
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:44,319
Speaker 8: We're holding back a lot of a banter right now

709
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 8: because we actually say this a lot where we'll be

710
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:49,360
Speaker 8: out in public around friends and maybe there's people that

711
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 8: know us that well, and we'll be in the car

712
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 8: on the way home being like people might think that

713
00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:56,320
Speaker 8: we're mad at each other or something because our banter

714
00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:57,960
Speaker 8: is so constant.

715
00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 7: Yeah, people might misinterpret it's like we're funny.

716
00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 5: We say, like we're like we're like mentally boxing each other. Yeah,

717
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:12,120
Speaker 5: like we like just like, yeah, we're completely that's that's

718
00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:12,439
Speaker 5: the word.

719
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 7: Sorry.

720
00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:18,520
Speaker 4: And I like to be pushed and like that was

721
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:19,399
Speaker 4: a better joke than I.

722
00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:23,239
Speaker 5: Got in Like, oh that was good, Okay, Like I

723
00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 5: and it's and I love that it's the same, you know,

724
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:30,319
Speaker 5: it's I don't know, constantly think about if we did

725
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:34,279
Speaker 5: not have that, like how would this work, would it

726
00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:38,320
Speaker 5: work at all? And I'm and I honestly think that's

727
00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:43,319
Speaker 5: probably like the secret ingredient to all of this is

728
00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:46,640
Speaker 5: that shared I don't know if it's a sense of

729
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 5: humor or sense of taste and things like that, because

730
00:35:49,520 --> 00:35:51,479
Speaker 5: it also applies to music and all these things.

731
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:55,239
Speaker 8: But I have to say two things. It's really hard

732
00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 8: to me to humor is a huge one. But here

733
00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:59,880
Speaker 8: he said that if I'm being totally honest, and I

734
00:35:59,920 --> 00:36:03,680
Speaker 8: know I keep talking about it, like the sex that we.

735
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:08,600
Speaker 6: Have, you're really making me No, I mean like, no, well, yes,

736
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:10,120
Speaker 6: it can't be that good.

737
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:14,520
Speaker 8: No, But like, if we're just being honest, if we're

738
00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:15,080
Speaker 8: being if.

739
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:17,840
Speaker 7: We're being honest in this relationship.

740
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 8: I like, I have a lot of sexual needs and

741
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:24,759
Speaker 8: desires and it's amazing that I'm with someone that can

742
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:25,960
Speaker 8: completely fulfill those.

743
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:27,720
Speaker 7: So that is a big thing, damn.

744
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 8: But then also just your groundedness, because I'm so I'm

745
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:35,160
Speaker 8: never on the ground, I'm never on the planet, and

746
00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:39,120
Speaker 8: he's he's the one who in a great way balances me.

747
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:41,640
Speaker 7: So that way I'm at least hovering above the ground.

748
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:44,800
Speaker 4: And every time you're trying to run up against it,

749
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:45,919
Speaker 4: I'm like, cut it out.

750
00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:48,919
Speaker 7: This is where we are.

751
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:53,680
Speaker 2: This is now not this is the most difficult transition

752
00:36:53,719 --> 00:36:56,400
Speaker 2: we've had from that question to this next question. Because

753
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:58,680
Speaker 2: you all gave such a fun answer to that one,

754
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 2: we have to talk about finance is now how how

755
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:05,279
Speaker 2: do you all it's a big one for couples. How

756
00:37:05,320 --> 00:37:09,279
Speaker 2: do you handle finances? Do you have separate accounts? Do

757
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:11,880
Speaker 2: you have joint everything together it's half and how do

758
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:12,359
Speaker 2: you all do it?

759
00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 8: I was actually just thinking about this the other day.

760
00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 8: I really like how it's funny, like we've never.

761
00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 6: Even really talked about this logistically. But I think he

762
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:27,360
Speaker 6: knows me so well that he knows to respect my

763
00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:30,319
Speaker 6: independence in the sense that.

764
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:35,920
Speaker 8: We're always going to be making our own money, you know,

765
00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:40,319
Speaker 8: our own money. And at the same time though, as

766
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:43,360
Speaker 8: far as helping each other out, I mean, when I

767
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:46,759
Speaker 8: need help, he'll help vice versa in the sense of

768
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:49,560
Speaker 8: like if you you know, we want to we want

769
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:51,560
Speaker 8: to help each other, so why not do it, you know,

770
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:54,520
Speaker 8: financially speaking. But no, I think that he just really

771
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:59,400
Speaker 8: we respect each other's independence financially and have never felt

772
00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 8: like there's a need to join any of that together. Yeah,

773
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:05,560
Speaker 8: we never even talked about it, and that's the way

774
00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 8: I want it.

775
00:38:06,440 --> 00:38:08,279
Speaker 5: Now that you've brought this up, we'll be back in

776
00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 5: thirty God, if you ask for a joint bank account

777
00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:18,959
Speaker 5: after this.

778
00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:21,840
Speaker 2: You can fight about it tonight, right before you go

779
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 2: to bed under that duvet.

780
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:27,840
Speaker 4: Sound deep and he'll be fuming.

781
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:34,000
Speaker 3: How do you guys handle just household stuff? Because this

782
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:38,759
Speaker 3: also causes fights from the dishes, to the laundry to

783
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:41,480
Speaker 3: all of the thing cooking, clean everything. How do you

784
00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:42,920
Speaker 3: guys handle it? How do you split it up?

785
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:43,520
Speaker 4: Well?

786
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 8: I well, like I said, I'm another word to say

787
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:46,800
Speaker 8: is like spacey.

788
00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:51,560
Speaker 7: I'm a very spacey person. So I'll have parts of

789
00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:52,319
Speaker 7: the house.

790
00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:55,760
Speaker 8: Or moments in a week where like everything's very clean,

791
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 8: but then two days go by and I like neglect

792
00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 8: that I've laundry on the counter, or like I don't know, cups.

793
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 7: In the sink or something like that.

794
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:10,960
Speaker 8: I always get to it eventually, but he doesn't care.

795
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:15,520
Speaker 5: I don't think the advantage of him of us not

796
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:19,880
Speaker 5: living together for six years was the amount of time

797
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:23,920
Speaker 5: we've spent at each other's respective homes and when you

798
00:39:23,960 --> 00:39:26,919
Speaker 5: see I think other people interact with Like we both

799
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:32,359
Speaker 5: had roommates and things like that, where he fully picked

800
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:35,319
Speaker 5: up on the things that bother me and I picked

801
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:38,239
Speaker 5: up the things that bother him just from observation.

802
00:39:38,400 --> 00:39:39,279
Speaker 4: So when it came to.

803
00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 5: Moving in with one another, he would automatically start He's like,

804
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:47,000
Speaker 5: I know there's dishes in the sink because he witnessed that.

805
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 5: I didn't love when dishes get left in the sink,

806
00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:51,799
Speaker 5: and I didn't say anything. And to me, it's like

807
00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:56,120
Speaker 5: the fact that you're even acknowledging that I know you're

808
00:39:56,160 --> 00:39:59,399
Speaker 5: paying attention, and that means a lot, and so I'm

809
00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:00,920
Speaker 5: not worried about it because I know you will get

810
00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:02,960
Speaker 5: to it and you always do. And so there's a

811
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:06,200
Speaker 5: difference between you know, when it's like college days and

812
00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:08,920
Speaker 5: you're leaving a pile of bowls and the sink and

813
00:40:08,920 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 5: the laundries everywhere and gets gross like it's that's It's

814
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:15,439
Speaker 5: never like that with us, And I think it's because

815
00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:18,600
Speaker 5: we've been able to find those things out from one

816
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:19,360
Speaker 5: another beforehand.

817
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 8: We also have like we have two dogs, we have

818
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 8: a cat. I like, we don't have kids. I feel

819
00:40:23,239 --> 00:40:25,759
Speaker 8: like we kind of live in like a in some

820
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 8: ways a bit of like a bachelor house where it's

821
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 8: like it's chill, like if there's you know, a couple

822
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:33,800
Speaker 8: of things on the counter, who cares, Like, we've.

823
00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:34,600
Speaker 7: Never ever thought about it.

824
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 4: We're both pretty clean.

825
00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:38,319
Speaker 2: Like, yeah, we both we don't care about But am

826
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:40,080
Speaker 2: I hearing it right that it sounds like you all

827
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:43,560
Speaker 2: divvy up in terms of you clean your shit, I'll

828
00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:46,600
Speaker 2: clean mine. You wash your clothes and dishes, I'll wash

829
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 2: my clothes and dishes.

830
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 4: Yes, it's fully that.

831
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 5: It's I think it's sort of the same as finances,

832
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:52,719
Speaker 5: like we take care of ourselves. We take care of

833
00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:55,920
Speaker 5: our stuff. Yeah, and there's never an issue. To be honest,

834
00:40:56,400 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 5: I want like I'll have a clean your come every

835
00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:03,120
Speaker 5: two weeks, you know, like that sort of thing. He's like,

836
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:05,320
Speaker 5: we don't need that, we can do that ourselves. I'm like, no, no, no, no,

837
00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:07,160
Speaker 5: I want that. I need that.

838
00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:09,719
Speaker 4: There's a little deeper clean there. Yeah, I get to

839
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:15,439
Speaker 4: that would take us let me just yeah, never, that's

840
00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:16,799
Speaker 4: on me. I want that. So I got that.

841
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:18,319
Speaker 7: We've never got heads on that think.

842
00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:20,360
Speaker 3: But who cooks?

843
00:41:21,880 --> 00:41:23,200
Speaker 7: Uh, he's never cooked a day.

844
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:27,360
Speaker 8: I'm not like a huge cook, Like I used to

845
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 8: be a pastry chef and so like I do quite

846
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 8: a bit of baking. But like, I'm not a huge cook.

847
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 8: But of the two of us, I am. He doesn't

848
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:37,319
Speaker 8: know where anything. Yeah, he's not a cook. He can

849
00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 8: hardly make cereal.

850
00:41:38,960 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 4: I'm good at eggs.

851
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:42,400
Speaker 7: That's true. You make a good French omelet.

852
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:42,920
Speaker 4: Thank you.

853
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:44,319
Speaker 7: That's literally it. That's it.

854
00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 2: I love that.

855
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:49,600
Speaker 4: Have you all?

856
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 3: Oh goo, you mentioned this? How much alone time do

857
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:52,760
Speaker 3: you all need from one another?

858
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:55,719
Speaker 7: It's definitely changed a lot because I feel like.

859
00:41:57,360 --> 00:42:00,320
Speaker 6: My alone time is time with my friends, my best friends,

860
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:01,719
Speaker 6: Like I don't I don't need to.

861
00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:04,040
Speaker 4: I'm not your best friend, your best.

862
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 8: Friend, but I don't have to like be alone alone

863
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:09,799
Speaker 8: from like I just that being hanging out with my

864
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:13,480
Speaker 8: friends is enough, like to keep the balance of like

865
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:15,080
Speaker 8: not spending all my time with him.

866
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:16,120
Speaker 7: But I don't know.

867
00:42:16,600 --> 00:42:20,240
Speaker 5: We were very intentional about when we seriously talked about

868
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:25,399
Speaker 5: moving in with one another, creating a space, because after

869
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:27,520
Speaker 5: a year being together, Austin did say, do you think

870
00:42:27,520 --> 00:42:28,440
Speaker 5: we should move in together?

871
00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:30,080
Speaker 4: And it was a quick no.

872
00:42:31,080 --> 00:42:33,880
Speaker 5: I know how much you need your loan space and

873
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:36,000
Speaker 5: I don't want you to resent me after a couple

874
00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 5: of months of living in here and being around me

875
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 5: all the time. In same for me, like, let's not

876
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 5: force it. So when it did come time to move

877
00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:46,719
Speaker 5: in with one another, there's a guest bedroom, and so

878
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:49,799
Speaker 5: to me, it was sort of like, why don't you

879
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 5: set up.

880
00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:51,799
Speaker 4: Like that's your room.

881
00:42:52,600 --> 00:42:55,839
Speaker 5: We have our shared bedroom and all that, but you

882
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:57,880
Speaker 5: can set up use it as your office, use it

883
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:00,200
Speaker 5: as your recording studio. If you want to seep in

884
00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:02,440
Speaker 5: there some nights just because you're up late, you're working late,

885
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 5: that can be your space. And I'm not going to

886
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 5: take it personally. That is, that is whatever you want

887
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:11,280
Speaker 5: to do in there. He took it a little too seriously.

888
00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:14,080
Speaker 5: He still do not disturb thing from a hotel and

889
00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 5: puts it on the handle and locks the door. So

890
00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 5: that was not pre negotiated.

891
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 8: It's funny, actually, like I really need my space. But

892
00:43:26,120 --> 00:43:30,120
Speaker 8: the way that's manifested some really well know. The way

893
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 8: that's manifested is I will fall I'll sleep on the

894
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 8: couch sometimes, which seems like so dramatic, but it's just

895
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:39,600
Speaker 8: like I feel like sleeping somewhere else tonight, I'm going

896
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:40,680
Speaker 8: to sleep on the cat well.

897
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 5: When I met him, he was sleeping on the couch

898
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:44,400
Speaker 5: in his apartment because he prefers sleeping.

899
00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:46,560
Speaker 4: I love the couch, so really.

900
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:48,640
Speaker 3: You are just you are describing t J. Helps like

901
00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:52,760
Speaker 3: I see a couch, it's his favorite place to sleep.

902
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 7: Yeah. Yeah, I struggle to get off the couch at

903
00:43:57,239 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 7: night to.

904
00:43:58,080 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 5: Every night he's like, why don't you just leap down

905
00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:02,760
Speaker 5: with him? No, I'm not doing this. I'm not playing

906
00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:04,239
Speaker 5: this game because I don't want to fall a seat

907
00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:06,160
Speaker 5: for forty five minutes and wake up more tired and

908
00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:08,759
Speaker 5: then have to go downstairs to the bed. I'm not

909
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:11,440
Speaker 5: playing this game with you. You can stay up here, but

910
00:44:11,520 --> 00:44:12,399
Speaker 5: I'm going down.

911
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:14,200
Speaker 7: I almost pricked them into it last night.

912
00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 3: Oh my god. This is the negotiation we have all

913
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:19,080
Speaker 3: the time too.

914
00:44:19,320 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 2: It's so funny. We look forward to having a double

915
00:44:21,719 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 2: date with you guys. I would love that Robot and

916
00:44:25,600 --> 00:44:26,319
Speaker 2: Kevin are going to.

917
00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:27,000
Speaker 1: Stay at the table.

918
00:44:27,080 --> 00:44:28,920
Speaker 2: Me and you also can go out of having cigarette

919
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:30,479
Speaker 2: and talk about what the hell these two?

920
00:44:30,960 --> 00:44:31,320
Speaker 4: Wow?

921
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:31,759
Speaker 3: Yeah?

922
00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:38,800
Speaker 6: Okay, wait, you had men a cigarette.

923
00:44:42,880 --> 00:44:43,759
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924
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925
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926
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927
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928
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929
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931
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933
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936
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Speaker 1: Couples counseling. Have you all ever done it? In it?

937
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:19,480
Speaker 3: Now?

938
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:20,840
Speaker 1: Keep it up? Interested in it?

939
00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 7: What we haven't we haven't.

940
00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:25,680
Speaker 8: I'm not opposed to it, never opposed to it, never

941
00:45:25,680 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 8: ever opposed to it. I just think that our communication

942
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:31,919
Speaker 8: is so crystal clear and so consistent that not that

943
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:34,080
Speaker 8: that's like what we'll fix everything, but we just have

944
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 8: always squashed issues right as they happen.

945
00:45:37,760 --> 00:45:40,279
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think if there was ever a moment that

946
00:45:40,320 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 4: would arise that we would need.

947
00:45:41,480 --> 00:45:44,400
Speaker 7: It, Yeah, we would. I'd be way more open to

948
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:45,080
Speaker 7: it than he would.

949
00:45:45,520 --> 00:45:48,279
Speaker 8: And one hundred percent we've talked about it in the past,

950
00:45:48,360 --> 00:45:49,799
Speaker 8: like there was one time where I was like, maybe

951
00:45:49,800 --> 00:45:51,719
Speaker 8: we should and you were like, we don't need to

952
00:45:51,760 --> 00:45:52,279
Speaker 8: do that.

953
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:55,560
Speaker 5: I fully turned into the person I don't like. It

954
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:57,160
Speaker 5: was very weird to your parents.

955
00:45:57,160 --> 00:45:58,920
Speaker 4: I don't know if that's ever happened to you, but

956
00:45:59,120 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 4: I thought all the time.

957
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:06,239
Speaker 5: My initial reaction was like, wait a minute, yeah, like,

958
00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:06,759
Speaker 5: who is that?

959
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 10: We don't you going to do for us? That's exactly

960
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 10: how not. I don't even have to an accent. But

961
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:18,240
Speaker 10: I did have my oh no, I think we're fine.

962
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:21,200
Speaker 10: And then I had a moment with myself. I was like, wait,

963
00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:23,799
Speaker 10: why is that my initial reaction too?

964
00:46:23,920 --> 00:46:27,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's cool though, that self reflection is important. I

965
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 3: love that what it oh in the middle when you

966
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:33,040
Speaker 3: do fight, have either one of you ever gotten so

967
00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:36,160
Speaker 3: angry that you've threatened to break up, walk out, leave

968
00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:37,040
Speaker 3: the relationship?

969
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 7: Not vocally.

970
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, you text it?

971
00:46:44,320 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 7: Oh no, just I just I just wow thought it. Yeah,

972
00:46:48,760 --> 00:46:51,320
Speaker 7: I justaborate. Well, I told you I'm very passionate.

973
00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:53,719
Speaker 8: I get very emotional, and so sometimes in my head

974
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 8: I'm just like, well, then I guess I guess I'll

975
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:56,440
Speaker 8: just leave him.

976
00:46:56,440 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 7: Then I'll teach him a lesson.

977
00:46:58,040 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 1: But you never threw it in his face and threaten no.

978
00:47:01,239 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 7: But the but the.

979
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:05,200
Speaker 8: Idea of punishing him by saying we can't be digger anymore,

980
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:09,440
Speaker 8: like is so appealing sometimes, Oh my god, like that

981
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:12,480
Speaker 8: that's what's so annoying about being in like a really

982
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:13,719
Speaker 8: beautiful relationship.

983
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:15,759
Speaker 4: Is that why you have to stay in? It is

984
00:47:15,880 --> 00:47:16,799
Speaker 4: not in my face?

985
00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:17,120
Speaker 7: Yeah?

986
00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:19,200
Speaker 8: Like, sometimes I just want to get back at you, like, fine,

987
00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:21,200
Speaker 8: you're never going to see me again, you know, Like,

988
00:47:21,200 --> 00:47:24,000
Speaker 8: how dare you say that stupid thing at the party?

989
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:27,239
Speaker 5: Okay, So I read some my Twitter thread last week

990
00:47:27,400 --> 00:47:31,160
Speaker 5: about this person was saying I'm a couple's counselor I've

991
00:47:31,200 --> 00:47:32,480
Speaker 5: been doing it for a couple of years. Here like

992
00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:35,439
Speaker 5: the top ten things I've learned that make a successful couple.

993
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:36,440
Speaker 4: And I read it.

994
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:39,160
Speaker 5: I was like, oh, we have all these And the

995
00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:42,400
Speaker 5: one I found really interesting was like the ethical fighting.

996
00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 5: And we alluded to this earlier, but that's the exact

997
00:47:45,160 --> 00:47:47,000
Speaker 5: same thing. There's never been a community, there's never been

998
00:47:47,040 --> 00:47:51,879
Speaker 5: a an intentional conversation about this is how we're going

999
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:53,359
Speaker 5: to argue, and this is how we're going to fight.

1000
00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:57,239
Speaker 5: But we inherently, I think, know that about each other,

1001
00:47:57,280 --> 00:48:00,160
Speaker 5: like We're not going to just throw things in each

1002
00:48:00,160 --> 00:48:03,440
Speaker 5: other's face just so you can get the reaction and satisfaction.

1003
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:05,200
Speaker 7: But I keep it locked and loaded. I have a

1004
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 7: list of things I would love to throw in his face,

1005
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:10,160
Speaker 7: but okay, because we are respectful fighters.

1006
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:12,759
Speaker 2: Okay, next question though, and we're going to get out

1007
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:17,719
Speaker 2: of Austin's head to do this one. What is the

1008
00:48:17,800 --> 00:48:21,920
Speaker 2: closest you all have actually come to breaking up or

1009
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:22,960
Speaker 2: ending the relationship?

1010
00:48:23,600 --> 00:48:25,799
Speaker 7: Oh? Definitely, early on, many.

1011
00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:27,000
Speaker 4: Times, many times.

1012
00:48:27,280 --> 00:48:30,719
Speaker 8: Yeah, we were a mess in the beginning. Yeah I wasn't, no,

1013
00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 8: but I just feel like we like I.

1014
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:36,440
Speaker 5: Was going through it, and okay, we got together. This

1015
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:40,160
Speaker 5: is probably not the healthiest thing. We got together. And

1016
00:48:40,640 --> 00:48:42,600
Speaker 5: I had just gotten out of a long term relationship

1017
00:48:43,000 --> 00:48:47,479
Speaker 5: almost immediately into this. He was going through all kinds

1018
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:49,120
Speaker 5: of things, and I think that adage of like, if

1019
00:48:49,120 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 5: you can't love yourself, how you going to you know,

1020
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:53,280
Speaker 5: ru Paul, how are you going to love somebody else where?

1021
00:48:53,440 --> 00:48:55,960
Speaker 5: He was working on himself and so how can you

1022
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:01,239
Speaker 5: be the partner you should be in a relationship if

1023
00:49:01,280 --> 00:49:05,600
Speaker 5: you're not operating at your fullest capacity? And so at

1024
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:07,480
Speaker 5: the beginning, I was like, well, I'm obsessed with him.

1025
00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:09,920
Speaker 5: I'm crazy about him and in love with him. But

1026
00:49:10,160 --> 00:49:12,080
Speaker 5: I think this is gonna be like six months.

1027
00:49:12,280 --> 00:49:14,640
Speaker 4: Like I just I don't know how this is going

1028
00:49:14,640 --> 00:49:15,080
Speaker 4: to work.

1029
00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 7: I still don't. We got to eight half years.

1030
00:49:17,200 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 4: No, it's like it's like we've blinked and we've got

1031
00:49:19,239 --> 00:49:19,839
Speaker 4: we got to eight.

1032
00:49:19,920 --> 00:49:21,439
Speaker 8: But the fact that we made it through that first

1033
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:23,080
Speaker 8: year I think is crazy. And all of her a

1034
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:25,399
Speaker 8: lot of her friends say the same expencers stuff that.

1035
00:49:25,760 --> 00:49:30,840
Speaker 5: I think it was because personality wise were very different,

1036
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 5: but we overlap and this took time to find almost

1037
00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:38,439
Speaker 5: in every other way where our interests are the same.

1038
00:49:38,520 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 5: Clearly esses of humor is the same. And I think, yeah,

1039
00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 5: that first year, I don't know if there's like one point,

1040
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:49,120
Speaker 5: but no, there was a lot of up and down.

1041
00:49:49,400 --> 00:49:51,399
Speaker 5: Awesome was going through well, I think I think.

1042
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 6: I think to Saw, Kevin had been in a relationship

1043
00:49:54,120 --> 00:49:56,719
Speaker 6: for seven years, he knew he at least had a

1044
00:49:56,760 --> 00:49:59,640
Speaker 6: foundation of how relationship worked. I not only had no

1045
00:49:59,719 --> 00:50:02,239
Speaker 6: found of how a relationship worked, but I also didn't

1046
00:50:02,239 --> 00:50:03,759
Speaker 6: want to be in a relationship. I didn't want to

1047
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:07,040
Speaker 6: commit myself to anyone. I was afraid of being in

1048
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:09,359
Speaker 6: love with someone so shouldn't, well, you love me.

1049
00:50:10,120 --> 00:50:12,880
Speaker 8: I think it's more like, it's amazing that, like I

1050
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 8: stayed in it because I just I wasn't ready for

1051
00:50:14,960 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 8: a relationship.

1052
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:17,920
Speaker 7: I just happened to meet my person.

1053
00:50:19,080 --> 00:50:22,000
Speaker 3: Well that's awesome. But it sounds like any of the

1054
00:50:22,040 --> 00:50:25,279
Speaker 3: bigger fights happened early on, and that once you got

1055
00:50:25,320 --> 00:50:28,319
Speaker 3: through that, then you guys figured out the dynamic and

1056
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:30,160
Speaker 3: what worked in how not to upset the other person

1057
00:50:30,160 --> 00:50:32,280
Speaker 3: as much. But I see a lot of respect between

1058
00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:34,799
Speaker 3: the two of you and humor, and those two things

1059
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:37,960
Speaker 3: to me are so so important, and I see both

1060
00:50:38,000 --> 00:50:41,759
Speaker 3: of those alive and well in you. It's very cool. Right,

1061
00:50:41,760 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 3: we're going to wrap this up. You guys have been

1062
00:50:43,160 --> 00:50:46,560
Speaker 3: so much fun. So you've made lots of references to

1063
00:50:46,600 --> 00:50:48,560
Speaker 3: how great your sex life is. How do you keep

1064
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:51,440
Speaker 3: the romance alive? Like for couples who want to know

1065
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:54,319
Speaker 3: it's been eight years, it's been ten years. Maybe it's

1066
00:50:54,360 --> 00:50:56,640
Speaker 3: only been a few years, but you're trying to figure out,

1067
00:50:57,120 --> 00:50:59,359
Speaker 3: what would you say is the secret to keeping your

1068
00:50:59,480 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 3: romance alive.

1069
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:03,279
Speaker 5: I don't know if there's just a secret. I look

1070
00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:05,320
Speaker 5: at him and I'm like, I'm still just as attracted

1071
00:51:05,320 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 5: to you as I was, if not more. Yeah, the

1072
00:51:07,600 --> 00:51:18,080
Speaker 5: first time I like met you, I guess and I.

1073
00:51:15,239 --> 00:51:20,400
Speaker 6: I've always said this, I think the sexiest part of

1074
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:24,560
Speaker 6: sex is everything that happens before sex and the foreplay,

1075
00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:28,800
Speaker 6: but not even in the bedroom foreplay, but like flirting.

1076
00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:32,959
Speaker 8: And syntactually the things that you're saying. So I think

1077
00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:38,000
Speaker 8: that for me, another thing I love about Kevin, Like

1078
00:51:38,239 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 8: that I love most about Kevin is that he always

1079
00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 8: says things that surprise me, and whether it's sexual or not,

1080
00:51:45,920 --> 00:51:51,040
Speaker 8: like the conversation being fresh and him challenging me.

1081
00:51:52,840 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 7: That to me, that for me, that's what keeps the

1082
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:56,239
Speaker 7: romance alive.

1083
00:51:56,920 --> 00:52:01,960
Speaker 5: Damn, you really just big up my ego. I don't

1084
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:05,400
Speaker 5: I have no idea what you're talking about, but you're welcome.

1085
00:52:08,239 --> 00:52:11,520
Speaker 5: I don't know what I say that's surprising, but I

1086
00:52:11,600 --> 00:52:12,520
Speaker 5: got to keep doing it.

1087
00:52:18,480 --> 00:52:20,120
Speaker 8: No, but it's it's not even I mean, it is

1088
00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:23,359
Speaker 8: a compliment, but it's not even saying like you're intentional.

1089
00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:23,680
Speaker 7: About or anything.

1090
00:52:23,719 --> 00:52:26,880
Speaker 6: But just like I don't know, just the honesty in

1091
00:52:26,920 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 6: our conversation. That's what keeps it hot to me, is like.

1092
00:52:32,600 --> 00:52:36,279
Speaker 8: That like confidence in like I'm going to say whatever

1093
00:52:36,320 --> 00:52:38,600
Speaker 8: I want to say to you and if it's stupid

1094
00:52:38,680 --> 00:52:40,800
Speaker 8: or if it's wrong or whatever, if it comes across

1095
00:52:40,800 --> 00:52:44,280
Speaker 8: me or whatever, like that to me is sexy.

1096
00:52:44,480 --> 00:52:46,880
Speaker 5: And I think receiving that too, of someone that you

1097
00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:50,520
Speaker 5: can feel is still so into you and vice versa,

1098
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:53,520
Speaker 5: like the confidence of like I can tell he it's

1099
00:52:53,600 --> 00:52:55,799
Speaker 5: shocking to me that he's still into me sexually after

1100
00:52:55,840 --> 00:53:00,399
Speaker 5: eight years, and that's exciting. And you know, like, oh

1101
00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:02,839
Speaker 5: my god, you feel the same way I do, Like, yeah,

1102
00:53:02,880 --> 00:53:03,719
Speaker 5: that's that's good.

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00:53:04,760 --> 00:53:05,440
Speaker 4: It's nice.

1104
00:53:05,680 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 5: It feels like high school on it, like in a way,

1105
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:11,879
Speaker 5: it feels like it's fresh and new. And obviously there

1106
00:53:11,880 --> 00:53:15,040
Speaker 5: are you know, peaks and valleys, because there's things happen

1107
00:53:15,080 --> 00:53:18,480
Speaker 5: in life and that's not top of mind, but generally

1108
00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:21,759
Speaker 5: and even if there's times when you know it is

1109
00:53:21,800 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 5: more of a valley where you know, life happens. We

1110
00:53:27,200 --> 00:53:29,240
Speaker 5: that's so important to both of us that we definitely

1111
00:53:29,760 --> 00:53:31,719
Speaker 5: know how to like ignite it in one another and

1112
00:53:31,760 --> 00:53:32,200
Speaker 5: make it a.

1113
00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:35,919
Speaker 7: Focus and priority and travel traveling. We're both we're both

1114
00:53:35,920 --> 00:53:36,560
Speaker 7: sluts for true.

1115
00:53:36,600 --> 00:53:38,760
Speaker 4: I mean, what's better than a hotel room?

1116
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:41,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, we agree, we're in one right now.

1117
00:53:41,840 --> 00:53:44,200
Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, you're gonna log off and I know

1118
00:53:44,239 --> 00:53:45,000
Speaker 4: what's gonna happen.

1119
00:53:45,840 --> 00:53:50,279
Speaker 3: We're in Vegas, baby, so yes, oh god, we love it.

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00:53:50,320 --> 00:53:52,799
Speaker 8: Oh we love Vegas. Oh that's that's also a great one.

1121
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:54,080
Speaker 8: Vegas will bring the Roman.

1122
00:53:53,920 --> 00:53:54,719
Speaker 7: Yeads, will it?

1123
00:53:54,800 --> 00:54:00,160
Speaker 5: Actually, I don't know something the sweet oxygen being pumped

1124
00:54:00,160 --> 00:54:04,600
Speaker 5: into a smoke filled so good.

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00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:06,720
Speaker 3: Let the memories begin.

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00:54:07,719 --> 00:54:10,480
Speaker 2: But the last one here, guys, is I guess it's

1127
00:54:10,600 --> 00:54:13,960
Speaker 2: obvious and as Austin you might say cliche, but it

1128
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 2: has to be asked. Anytime somebody's around someone who is

1129
00:54:16,560 --> 00:54:19,279
Speaker 2: in a successful and certainly long term relationship, they asked

1130
00:54:19,320 --> 00:54:21,320
Speaker 2: this question, so we'll ask it of you answered, however,

1131
00:54:21,360 --> 00:54:22,800
Speaker 2: you like, what.

1132
00:54:22,880 --> 00:54:25,840
Speaker 1: Is the secret to relationship success?

1133
00:54:26,800 --> 00:54:26,960
Speaker 7: Oh?

1134
00:54:27,000 --> 00:54:28,239
Speaker 4: I hate when people say this.

1135
00:54:28,560 --> 00:54:30,280
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, they always ask.

1136
00:54:31,719 --> 00:54:32,920
Speaker 4: The question. Is good.

1137
00:54:34,200 --> 00:54:40,440
Speaker 5: To me, it's like purely communication, but I mean it's

1138
00:54:40,480 --> 00:54:46,080
Speaker 5: in it's setting a standard of communication. Though I think

1139
00:54:46,480 --> 00:54:48,400
Speaker 5: it's not just like, yeah, we have to speak to

1140
00:54:48,440 --> 00:54:52,920
Speaker 5: one another. It's the type and style of communication, what

1141
00:54:52,960 --> 00:54:57,160
Speaker 5: you expect to hear from the other person and from yourself,

1142
00:54:57,320 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 5: all the things you know that encapsulates everything we've just

1143
00:54:59,520 --> 00:55:06,279
Speaker 5: talked about, where there's no judgment. It's like better out

1144
00:55:06,320 --> 00:55:09,480
Speaker 5: than in like, let's not harbor any resentments towards one another,

1145
00:55:10,560 --> 00:55:13,720
Speaker 5: and it's not necessarily like, oh, it's so much work.

1146
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:17,680
Speaker 5: If you set that precedent for yourselves, then it's a

1147
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:19,680
Speaker 5: habit and it's not something you have to think about.

1148
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:25,160
Speaker 4: And I think pretty early on we establish that.

1149
00:55:25,200 --> 00:55:27,719
Speaker 5: And it's also really rewarding when you realize there's like

1150
00:55:28,200 --> 00:55:31,680
Speaker 5: new levels to communication, Like, oh, I thought we were

1151
00:55:31,680 --> 00:55:33,680
Speaker 5: being really open with each other, but we just unlocked

1152
00:55:33,719 --> 00:55:36,800
Speaker 5: the next level of this somehow. And that only happens

1153
00:55:36,840 --> 00:55:40,359
Speaker 5: through embracing that and like charging right through it when

1154
00:55:40,400 --> 00:55:42,120
Speaker 5: you get into those sticky situations.

1155
00:55:44,080 --> 00:55:46,720
Speaker 4: But yeah, I think just communication.

1156
00:55:46,320 --> 00:55:49,400
Speaker 8: Yeah, I think that goes hand in hand with openness.

1157
00:55:49,640 --> 00:55:53,680
Speaker 8: I feel like I look at all the people I

1158
00:55:53,719 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 8: know that are in relationships or have been in relationships,

1159
00:55:56,280 --> 00:56:00,000
Speaker 8: and when I see relationships that are in really rough

1160
00:56:00,120 --> 00:56:05,680
Speaker 8: spots and are at risk, I think it's because one

1161
00:56:05,760 --> 00:56:09,400
Speaker 8: or both partners aren't open to a new perspective to

1162
00:56:09,440 --> 00:56:11,719
Speaker 8: a different person, right, because we all we only we

1163
00:56:11,760 --> 00:56:15,200
Speaker 8: only perceive people to act the same way that we act.

1164
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:18,200
Speaker 8: You know, like if I if I think, if I

1165
00:56:18,200 --> 00:56:20,400
Speaker 8: have a certain mechanism in my head, I'm going to

1166
00:56:20,440 --> 00:56:24,080
Speaker 8: assume that everyone else thinks that same way too, and

1167
00:56:24,120 --> 00:56:25,400
Speaker 8: that's going to clash unless.

1168
00:56:25,160 --> 00:56:28,040
Speaker 7: You're open to other perspectives. And to me, that is

1169
00:56:28,080 --> 00:56:28,600
Speaker 7: what works.

1170
00:56:28,840 --> 00:56:31,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, because I think not too on what you're saying,

1171
00:56:31,640 --> 00:56:35,759
Speaker 6: but like, I think communication is vital to a relationship,

1172
00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:38,960
Speaker 6: but communication also can lead to honesty as far as

1173
00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:41,640
Speaker 6: maybe that you shouldn't stay together, and I think that's

1174
00:56:41,640 --> 00:56:42,799
Speaker 6: important to communicate about.

1175
00:56:43,480 --> 00:56:46,200
Speaker 7: But I think when we're talking about like keeping.

1176
00:56:46,000 --> 00:56:48,080
Speaker 6: A relationship going, I think you just have to be

1177
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:53,240
Speaker 6: open to changing and being open to someone that's different

1178
00:56:53,600 --> 00:56:57,360
Speaker 6: than you, because there's never going to be a perfect relationship.

1179
00:56:57,520 --> 00:56:58,200
Speaker 7: It doesn't exist.

1180
00:56:58,520 --> 00:57:02,040
Speaker 5: I do think I co signed that because there's been

1181
00:57:02,080 --> 00:57:05,000
Speaker 5: I can't take the amount of times I've learned that

1182
00:57:05,120 --> 00:57:10,399
Speaker 5: over and over again in this relationship where it's like, oh,

1183
00:57:10,480 --> 00:57:13,160
Speaker 5: I don't need an apology, but he needs an apology for.

1184
00:57:13,120 --> 00:57:14,520
Speaker 4: Example, and.

1185
00:57:15,960 --> 00:57:19,000
Speaker 5: Unlearning that everything needs to be from just my strict

1186
00:57:19,000 --> 00:57:23,400
Speaker 5: point of view and being open to the compromise and

1187
00:57:23,480 --> 00:57:25,360
Speaker 5: making sure he's getting what he needs from me.

1188
00:57:27,320 --> 00:57:30,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, you taught me that.

1189
00:57:30,000 --> 00:57:32,040
Speaker 3: That's awesome. And I think so many people are focused

1190
00:57:32,080 --> 00:57:34,160
Speaker 3: on getting what they need. They're not they're not actually

1191
00:57:34,200 --> 00:57:36,880
Speaker 3: doing what relationships will require, which is for you to

1192
00:57:36,880 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 3: figure out what the other person needs.

1193
00:57:38,520 --> 00:57:41,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, because you want the other person to be happy

1194
00:57:41,880 --> 00:57:44,920
Speaker 5: and fulfilled, and that means that you are a part

1195
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:48,920
Speaker 5: of that and accomplishing that for that person, and that

1196
00:57:48,920 --> 00:57:50,280
Speaker 5: should be fulfilling for you.

1197
00:57:50,400 --> 00:57:51,880
Speaker 4: It is for me, I know it is for both

1198
00:57:51,880 --> 00:57:54,479
Speaker 4: of us. So it's yeah, very.

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Speaker 3: Oh, Kevin and Austin, you guys have been amazing. We

1200
00:57:58,080 --> 00:58:01,440
Speaker 3: have learned so much from you. I know our listeners

1201
00:58:01,480 --> 00:58:05,120
Speaker 3: have to. It's so cool to hear your love story

1202
00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:08,200
Speaker 3: and to see your relationship and you have a deep

1203
00:58:08,240 --> 00:58:10,240
Speaker 3: friendship too on top of it. But I love the

1204
00:58:10,240 --> 00:58:13,919
Speaker 3: fun you have, I love the humor you have, and

1205
00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:16,480
Speaker 3: just thank you for sharing it with us. We appreciate you.

1206
00:58:16,960 --> 00:58:21,600
Speaker 4: Thank you so much, lovely, I fully expect a double date.

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00:58:21,680 --> 00:58:27,520
Speaker 8: Yes, it was not kidding, yea honestly, And I feel

1208
00:58:27,560 --> 00:58:30,080
Speaker 8: like significantly more in love than I did when I

1209
00:58:30,080 --> 00:58:30,440
Speaker 8: woke up.

1210
00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:32,439
Speaker 7: So not that I wasn't in love when.

1211
00:58:32,320 --> 00:58:35,400
Speaker 5: I woke up, but we needed. I'll send you a venmo.

1212
00:58:36,160 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 5: Thank you so much for this.

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Speaker 3: Well, Happy Valentine's Day.